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Speaker 1: Are you a giant walking red flaggle show? You might

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Speaker 1: be and not even know it. I say that because

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Speaker 1: a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle

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Speaker 1: warning signs that might mean you're a red flag, and

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Speaker 1: it's all based on the things that you say. So

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Speaker 1: give us three minutes and we'll tell you if the

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Speaker 1: things that come out of your naughty little mouth on

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Speaker 1: a daily basis are proof that you're a big old

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Speaker 1: red flag.

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Speaker 2: Next, so double show.

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Speaker 1: Nobody just walks into a room and shouts, Hey, everybody,

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Speaker 1: my name's Ben and I'm a huge red flag. Nice

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Speaker 1: to meet you. That's why life can be tough. We

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Speaker 1: have all kinds of relationships that we have to navigate

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Speaker 1: every day with other people, and you have to be

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Speaker 1: aware of the things that are warning signs that the

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Speaker 1: person you're dealing with might not have the best intentions.

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Speaker 1: What if the red flag is you whoa no and

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Speaker 1: you don't even realize it, Well, now you can, because

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Speaker 1: a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle

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Speaker 1: warning signs that you might be a red flag, and

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Speaker 1: it's all all based on the things that you say.

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Speaker 1: So we'll go over it right now and you can

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Speaker 1: tell if you're a red flag, or you can pay

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Speaker 1: attention to it with other people, and as soon as

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Speaker 1: they say one of these things, don't give a second chance,

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Speaker 1: just walk away right there.

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Speaker 2: Self awareness is key, though.

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Speaker 1: Here are some of the top things that can be

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Speaker 1: a warning sign that somebody is a red flag. If

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Speaker 1: you say I don't like to read with pride, they

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Speaker 1: say that that is a warning sign that you could

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Speaker 1: be a red flag. But what if it's a fact? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean I yeah, yeah, what if what if you're

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Speaker 1: not saying with pride you're just like fine with it though,

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Speaker 1: you know, like it's not like you're like, yeah, screw books,

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Speaker 1: they're stupid. I don't like to read it. I don't

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Speaker 1: ever read. Literacy is overrated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, that's a little weird, I guess.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I guess if you're judging people that are

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Speaker 1: reading and you're very, very proud that you don't read,

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Speaker 1: that could be a weird warning sign.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you just a matter of fact like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't read. So if you're like a book hater, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's what it would mean.

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Speaker 1: It also says is that people who on ironically say

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Speaker 1: let me play the devil's advocate. It could be a

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Speaker 1: warning sign that you're a red flag.

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Speaker 4: Well because that I they just wanted to disagree with you,

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Speaker 4: just to disagree with you.

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Speaker 2: Hold on.

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Speaker 3: I think sometimes you need to see both sides. Sometimes

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Speaker 3: you need somebody to help you understand that your vision

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Speaker 3: isn't the only way.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean, that's.

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Speaker 4: Fine, but sometimes I also just need you to be

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Speaker 4: on my side, whether I'm right or wrong.

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Speaker 2: I know, but I think it's just assumed that people

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Speaker 2: are always on your side.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you need somebody that loves you just as much

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Speaker 3: to give you the other side.

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Speaker 1: And I think that people say that phrase. Let me

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Speaker 1: play Devil's advocate to throw a softball on it, you know, like,

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Speaker 1: I really want to tell you that you're wrong, and

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Speaker 1: I think you're wrong, but I don't want to just

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Speaker 1: say that because I can tell your head's probably gonna

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Speaker 1: explode up it do so let me play Devil's ADVOCATEE yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it's a.

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Speaker 2: Soft way to present the others. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: Can you tell that I say this that's the nice

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Speaker 3: way of saying you're wrong?

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Speaker 2: How do I tell you?

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Speaker 1: There's another subtle warning sign that somebody could be a

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Speaker 1: red flag. Anybody who calls himself a nice guy unprompted, Yeah, unprompted,

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Speaker 1: anybody who calls himself a nice anything, unprompted, Like, why

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Speaker 2: Why are you trying to convince me? I just would

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Speaker 2: like to know the context. Hi, my name is Bill.

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Speaker 1: I'm a nice guy, by the way, super nice guy

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Speaker 1: right here, super nice, Go in and sign the deal, prove.

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Speaker 2: Give me all your money.

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Speaker 1: Also says that people who say drama just finds me

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Speaker 1: well are red flags.

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Speaker 2: There's a reason.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: What's funny is I used to believe that.

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Speaker 3: What I don't believe that anymore because drama no longer

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Speaker 3: finds me because I am not the same person. However,

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Speaker 3: once upon a time it did find me, and I

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Speaker 4: But do you think definitely it actually found you or

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Speaker 4: do you think you were like going out and finding it.

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Speaker 3: I learned that a lot of drama comes from how

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Speaker 3: you react to things, and so I just don't react

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Speaker 3: the same way that I used to, Like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to break into your house this time, you know,

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Speaker 3: because I'm tired.

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Speaker 2: It is really why went away?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you break into somebody's house, I think you

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Speaker 1: may have found the drama.

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Speaker 2: There you went looking for it.

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Speaker 3: Incially, the reason I did that game is because I

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Speaker 3: knew there was somebody in the bed that wasn't supposed

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Speaker 3: to be there. Therefore, I didn't start the drama.

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Speaker 2: This was a long time ago.

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Speaker 1: It also says that adults that refer to themselves as

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Speaker 1: an impath within five minutes of meeting you could be

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Speaker 1: a walking red flag.

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Speaker 2: You guys. This sucks because, according to this article. According

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Speaker 2: to this article, I am a red flag.

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Speaker 4: I think one of the first things Nina did tell

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Speaker 4: me when I first met her was I'm impath. Like

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Speaker 4: I'm very but you are. You do feel other people's

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Speaker 4: feelings really well.

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Speaker 3: I do, And the reason why I need to say

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Speaker 3: that is because get your stuff together.

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Speaker 2: I can feel it.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes It's not a bad thing, though, I will say.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes I'll be in a bad mood and only Nina.

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Speaker 2: Someimes we'll clock it. Mind you, I don't want to

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Speaker 2: talk about it, but she will like it's nicest for

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Speaker 2: someone else to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I can tell when you're about but I just

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Speaker 1: don't care.

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Speaker 2: Not my problem. She's in a bad move for some reason.

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Speaker 2: I thank you for having my back, right, Victoria, I

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Speaker 2: thank you for saying I'm not a red flag.

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Speaker 1: Here's another thing that people who are walking red flags say.

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Speaker 1: According to this relationship expert, people who say their ex

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Speaker 1: was crazy but have zero follow up details.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, nobody has time to give you all the details

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Speaker 2: what I said.

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Speaker 4: Wait pause, No, if someone is saying that all of

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Speaker 4: their exes are crazy, though, there's.

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Speaker 2: A common denominator. True, Yes, that.

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Speaker 4: Is the one thing I'll say because I've seen like

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Speaker 4: a friend of mine who her ex had said all

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Speaker 4: of his exes were crazy, and I'm like, okay, let's

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Speaker 4: just look at the common denominator real quick.

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Speaker 1: It is definitely definitely a warning sign of someone who

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Speaker 1: puts everything else on somebody else, and they.

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Speaker 2: Like, they can't all be crazy. Yeah, that's legit crazy.

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Speaker 1: But also if they are so first some from someone

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Speaker 1: who has had a lot of experience.

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Speaker 2: I was about to ask you, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I actually I have never said that somebody was crazy,

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Speaker 1: but I have found myself in situations where I've been

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Speaker 1: insecuring conversations. I'm like, they're gonna think I'm a nut, right,

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Speaker 1: because like I've been in all these really ridiculous and

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Speaker 1: extreme relationship situations, right, And so I was like, there's

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Speaker 1: no way this person's gonna believe me, Like I've had

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Speaker 1: this relationship history. They're gonna think it's got to be me.

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Speaker 1: I get concerned about that because I would if I

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Speaker 1: went on a date with me, I'd be like, what

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Speaker 1: is this dude's deal?

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Speaker 4: Because you are a common denominator, because I.

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Speaker 3: Am the common denominator, but doesn't mean you're the same

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Speaker 3: person today. A lot of the time you learn from

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Speaker 3: those experiences. Yeah, but his exes are crazy, Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: you were the common denominator because you just let it

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Speaker 1: I was an enabler, but I would never say that

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Speaker 1: they were crazy. And I think that's where you pay

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Speaker 1: attention to language, because I would always say that they're

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Speaker 1: just very broken, you know, before I learned like, really

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Speaker 1: what my enabling part of me does in relationship hips,

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Speaker 1: side just will be like they're they're very they're very

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Speaker 1: just very very broken and people. Yeah, but that's how

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Speaker 1: you can tell someone has probably better intentions than just

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Speaker 1: being like, yeah, they're all stupid and crazy, none's my fault.

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Speaker 2: Ever, you know, you're more emotionally intelligent.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And they say the number one thing that can

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Speaker 1: tell you if somebody is a red flag. People who

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Speaker 1: say I'm just brutally honest, it's because they want to

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Speaker 1: be rude and blame it on the truth.

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Speaker 2: They say, I'm just saying because this is absolutely crazy.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy this article. Are you brutally honest