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Speaker 1: Hey, what's going on? This is rad with SOFTWAREP Radio.

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Speaker 1: I have the great privilege today to bring you a

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Speaker 1: snooze and I'm hoping that my guest, Alden Mills, former

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Speaker 1: Seal Team member Seal Team two, been around the teams,

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Speaker 1: you know, he's got some background in discipline and leadership

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Speaker 1: and he's written a couple of books. Unstoppable Teams is

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Speaker 1: out and Beyond Unstoppable? Is that right? Am I close

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Speaker 1: to that? Alden?

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Speaker 3: Welcome the Unstoppable rad But we're right there. That's what

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Speaker 1: That's right, and so welcome to the show. Welcome to

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Speaker 1: the soft Rep family. I'm happy to have you here. Now, Alden,

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Speaker 1: let's talk about a little bit of the beginnings of

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Speaker 1: your crawl walk run face to the military. How old

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Speaker 1: were you when you enlisted into the it's the Navy, right,

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Speaker 1: it was the Navy.

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Speaker 3: But you know, first I want to just tell you

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Speaker 3: it's such a privilege to beyond Soft Rep. And I

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Speaker 3: think of it as talking about with my brothers and

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Speaker 3: all my sisters out there. I so missed the camaraderie

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Speaker 3: in the brotherhood. So thank you for having me on.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you for reaching out and wanting to share

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Speaker 1: your message. I always do like a guest Alden that

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Speaker 1: wants to be on Soft Rep. You know, it's something

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Speaker 1: that is there's something in the listeners there. They're here,

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Speaker 1: you're here, I'm here, and we all want to be here.

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Speaker 1: And so this conversation today is going to talk about

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Speaker 1: what you've had to deal with your ups and downs

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Speaker 1: getting to where you're at today. And thanks again for

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Speaker 1: sure to send my friend Brandon Webb, who runs the podcast,

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Speaker 1: What's up for you? Okay, just do that. I will.

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Speaker 1: How old were you though when you joined?

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, my path was going to the Naval Academy,

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Speaker 3: the game of chess, and that was a pivotal moment

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Speaker 3: And she said, you know, she had these long, sharp

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Speaker 3: and she said, you listen to me. Nobody defines what

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Speaker 3: started with being told I didn't do something at twelve.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tell somebody they can't do something, period, right, let

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Speaker 3: You know, four different sports.

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Speaker 3: You know, but you know, I finally found one that fit,

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Speaker 3: And he had this big, unregulated mustache. And he's like, hey, mos,

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Speaker 3: Seal Team and it was a perfect extension for rowing.

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Speaker 3: Eight people in a boat, eight paddlers and a zodiac

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Speaker 3: concept was the same. The concept is there's no Rambo

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Speaker 3: I happen to know Seal Team, but the Green Beret

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Speaker 3: they're all exceptional groups, and they're all about the team

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Speaker 3: it is trying to be the superhero. And you know,

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Speaker 3: And I use that as an analogy for what Sealed

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Speaker 3: But the idea that you are never going through anything

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Speaker 3: but the biggest loads are the emotional loads. And we're imperfect.

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Speaker 3: We can't do it all ourselves. We're not built to

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Speaker 3: And that piece of it has really kind of led

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Speaker 3: me down the path of helping people be unstoppable, in

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Speaker 3: The best way to achieve things is by building out

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Speaker 1: You know, that makes a good point. Now, when you

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Speaker 1: make that that cohesion?

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Speaker 3: Well, first of all, you're talking about probably the single

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Speaker 3: most important leadership bridge you must cross, and they are

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Speaker 3: watching you like a hawk when you first show up

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Speaker 3: You're still just a Seal candidate at that point, and

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Speaker 3: what they're watching for is for you to realize that

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Speaker 3: this because I don't know anything. Yeah, okay, so I

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Speaker 3: went through four years of a boat school in Annapolis,

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Speaker 3: but that didn't teach me how to lead a platoon

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Speaker 3: that has three, four or five seven deployments of experience

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Speaker 3: learn to listen or do you won't succeed there. And

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Speaker 3: so your example is I would say that's a that's

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Speaker 3: a kind example of a petty officer with three years.

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Speaker 3: We're talking about cheap petty officers with seventeen years seven

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Speaker 3: deployments under their belt, Lots of petty officers with three, five,

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Speaker 3: seven years of experience in multiple deployments. Here I am.

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Speaker 3: I outrank them all as good old ns and mills,

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Speaker 3: but I don't know anything. And being able to listen

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Speaker 3: and take their input is a critical component to your

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Speaker 1: Critical listening is super important, right and so hearing what

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Speaker 4: Yeah, to see it right, right, got to believe it,

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Speaker 1: That's right. I completely love that. It's purpose, passion and

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Speaker 1: You go do that, chase it go after, just keep pursuing,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm not. I'm not going down to fix

430
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Speaker 1: the nuclear reactor, Spock Man, let me fix. I'm the

431
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,360
Speaker 1: doctor Spock But I mean.

432
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 3: But you love it. You hit on something very port

433
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:04,119
Speaker 3: and red. And it's why I like being associated with

434
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 3: the word unstoppable. You see, to be unstoppable means you

435
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 3: have to have been stopped. You have to have gotten stuck.

436
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 3: It's not like you wake up every day you go,

437
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 3: I'm not just unstoppable, and I'm not gonna have any problems.

438
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 3: I'm gonna see your life like no, no, no, You

439
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 3: need the problem. You need to get stuck because the

440
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:30,919
Speaker 3: getting stuck gives you the strength and the skill to

441
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 3: build forward progress for yourself. We need the friction of

442
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 3: being stuck. We need the friction of the struggle. Otherwise

443
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 3: we have no friction. It's like cars spinning on ice

444
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 3: with the wheel right. A car goes forward because there's

445
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 3: friction between the tire and the asphalt. You struggling against

446
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 3: the wind and the waves and the water's currents pushing

447
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: you back on our metaphorical leaving the harbor of mediocrity.

448
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 3: Need it. It can't be calm, smooth seas then your

449
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:06,640
Speaker 3: goal is not big enough. It's not challenging enough. The

450
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 3: goal challenge is the gift that makes us better and

451
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 3: propels us to that new location.

452
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: That's right. And it just kind of goes back to

453
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,159
Speaker 1: our analogy of boats and you and the surf with

454
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 1: a zodiac coming from rowing aspect, and I think that

455
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: they're teaching you to in combat, you're going to be

456
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 1: getting shot at while you have to get out of

457
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: that surf. You have so much more at risk other

458
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 1: than just training to get out of that surf, out

459
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 1: of those breaks, because you know, you're supposed to be sea,

460
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 1: air and land. You're supposed to be able to, you know,

461
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: drop in, swim under the water, or bust out in

462
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: a boat like you know, like Navy Seals, the movie

463
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 1: with Charlie Sheen, Like we watch it on the movies. Okay,

464
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 1: get to the boat, Just get me to the I

465
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: can smell it. It's a mile away north, you know,

466
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,160
Speaker 1: and so you know, but they're being chased in the movie.

467
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: You know, they're being rocket launched at in the movie.

468
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,640
Speaker 1: They have to kill Grammar, take the car to get

469
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: to the objective. In the movie. They have to do

470
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: all these things in the movie. And that's kind of

471
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 1: what you know, we see. But that training that you're

472
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: doing in that surf zone, it's there to get you

473
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 1: through that breakpoint, that pain point of like you can

474
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: do this.

475
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 3: It's to push you across that prison that you have

476
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 3: already limited in your head.

477
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: We all have it.

478
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:29,479
Speaker 3: We have these limiting beliefs and they come to us

479
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 3: all the time. And our job is to lead ourselves first,

480
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 3: that's the single most important leadership responsibility we have. And

481
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: then how we lead ourselves well, then that influences how

482
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 3: we lead others and how we build a team. So

483
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 3: you want to become a better team leader, become a

484
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 3: better leader of yourself.

485
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: It's true. Now there's a difference between being a teammate

486
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 1: and a bro on the team. I would imagine, like

487
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: you know, you could be. Let's put myself in position

488
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 1: where you're the commander of a team. You're in your office,

489
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: you're working and you know you have to take something

490
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: out of the typewriter and crumble let up and throw

491
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 1: it away in the trash can and it falls out

492
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: because there's other trash in your trash can. Because you're

493
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,360
Speaker 1: so busy, you're trying to coordinate, you know, the operation.

494
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 1: You're trying to make sure there's food for the operation.

495
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: The rides are there, you're talking to commanders who are

496
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 1: like whatever, and you're doing all that work okay, and

497
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 1: then you have to type up the orders and you

498
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 1: got to like throw one away and it's like trash

499
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: can's puls You're like, hey, bro, Hey, come over here, Jones.

500
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: Bro Jones, come here, Bud, and we take my trash out.

501
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, no problem, bro, Sir. You're like thanks bro, right,

502
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: and you're like, okay, Bro. So he goes down the

503
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 1: chain of command. You know, bro, other guy, bro, Bro,

504
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: take his trash out. Man, take the boss's trash out. Bro.

505
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 1: So you got these bros on the team that finally

506
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 1: the trash gets taken out, but you had to say

507
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 1: something about that, right, And then there's this guy. Let's

508
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: say you. You come out and you're like, oh, you know,

509
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: you see me working, I'm typing and I throw it

510
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 1: away and you're like, oh, it didn't fall over. You

511
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: just took the trash without being asked. Came in, I

512
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: saw that my trash can was full, and I didn't have.

513
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Speaker 5: To say anything to you. And did you want to

514
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 5: take point on the mission Bill is that what you want?

515
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 5: You want point, don't you want to see it coming first?

516
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 5: You can drop huh, that's what you want. I'm going

517
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 5: to give that to you. But he don't know that.

518
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 3: And what you in your example, Yes, the gentleman that

519
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 3: decides to take the initiative and look at the situation

520
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 3: and go LT's trash cans overflying, I'm going to help

521
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 3: him out. So he's you know, what's that emotion that

522
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 3: drives him to do that?

523
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 1: I would say, well, I'm I want to say it's love.

524
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 1: It's love for you know, boom. I just want to

525
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: say that, it's what is in my heart on that

526
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: and so.

527
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 3: Stop right there, you're good, right, and love the basis

528
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 3: of love is care. Care squared is what I call love.

529
00:29:56,640 --> 00:30:00,120
Speaker 3: But you're right. At the end of the day, the

530
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 3: guy cares so much about making sure LT can stay

531
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 3: focused on writing the order. He's like, dude, I got

532
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 3: your back, don't even think about it, right, And that

533
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 3: idea that someone else has your back is what makes

534
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: a seal team, a Green Beret Delta Force so unstoppable

535
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 3: because they care about each other so much that they

536
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 3: love each other the right way. That doesn't have to

537
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 3: be unique in the military. It can be done when

538
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: you pilled out your goal teams and what you're going after.

539
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 3: And when you asked me about how did I transition

540
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 3: from the military to civilian, I just gave you thirty

541
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 3: years of transitional work. Right now, that's hard. Okay, maybe

542
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 3: it's not thirty years because I got out a twenty

543
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 3: years old here at the right old age of fifty four,

544
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 3: but you know, to that and finding people that will

545
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 3: reciprocate and in the beginning as a leader, and remember

546
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 3: we're all leaders, every single one of us. Everybody that's listening.

547
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: You're a leader.

548
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: You're a leader because you have to lead yourself. You

549
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 3: lead yourself to turn this podcast in and tune in

550
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: your rad and all that. But you're a leader. Now

551
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: how many people will follow you, that's a different conversation.

552
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 3: But when you're leading in that regard, you have to

553
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:35,479
Speaker 3: take the first step of loving others, of caring for others.

554
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 3: Right the love I'm talking about, it's not some sexual love.

555
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 3: It's about caring enough for somebody else and like, hey,

556
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 3: I got you back, I want you to succeed. I'm

557
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 3: going to be here to help you. And that is

558
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 3: a boomerang effect, and it can take a while. I

559
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 3: call it the care boomerang. And in the beginning, because

560
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 3: people get burned, right, they'll immediately go, dude, that guy

561
00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: is just a brown noser. He was taking out LT's

562
00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 3: like he's just trying to get the better job or

563
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 3: something like that. Right, They're immediately thinking of some negative reason.

564
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 3: But then after a while they're like, no, he just

565
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 3: cares about the team and he wants to make everything

566
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 3: as good as possible. And that jaded perspective over time

567
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 3: because you're being very consistent about caring for every aspect.

568
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: Because he didn't just take the trash out for LT.

569
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 3: He took the trash out for them because they were

570
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 3: cleaning the weapons and he already cleaned his weapons. He's like, dude,

571
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 3: I got it, don't worry about it. I'm here for

572
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,479
Speaker 3: each of you. And when they start to see that,

573
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 3: then they start to realize, like, well, I want to

574
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 3: give back. I'm going to care too. It's like the

575
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 3: simplest version I can say is like you walk into

576
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: a grocery store and you hold the door open for

577
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 3: somebody behind you and they turn around and go, oh, well,

578
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 3: thank you, and then they hold the door open for

579
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 3: somebody else.

580
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: Contagious.

581
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 3: It's contagious in the challenge for the leader is you

582
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: have to take the first step. So you've got to

583
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 3: be grageous enough to care enough. And when that process

584
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 3: happens over and over and over again, the caring and

585
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 3: this sounds a little trite, it leads to daring. People

586
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 3: will start to dare because they're not worried about looking

587
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 3: in the rearview mirror for themselves. They're not being selfish

588
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 3: for themselves, They're being self less.

589
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: That's right, that's right. I love it. I bring a

590
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: lot of what we're talking about to my company. My

591
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: organization has a lot like what I just talked about.

592
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,479
Speaker 1: That analogy of the trash has been talked to with

593
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 1: my staff. You know, we just I just say, hey,

594
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: you know I heard this analogy one time. Let me

595
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: bring it up to you and they're like, oh, and

596
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: I tell them the story. I'm like, are you the

597
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: bro on the team or are you the teammate on

598
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,880
Speaker 1: the team. And it just sets the tone, you know,

599
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: of how we expect everybody to work in what we

600
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 1: do here and to make success. And same with our wargames.

601
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: It has the same conversation is what goes into my team.

602
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: My personal friends that we have been friends for fourteen

603
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 1: fifteen years on this team, and we still rally up

604
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 1: and go out and fight every other Saturday. It's the

605
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 1: best thing ever. And everybody puts their own gas in

606
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: their vehicle, everybody takes their own ammunition out to the

607
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: play the airsoft games. Nobody's really paying anything except their

608
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 1: own passionate commitment to being on the team. Yeah, no

609
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 1: one forces them to be there. Nobody's paying them to

610
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 1: be there, but there they are. Why because we're like, hey,

611
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 1: we're gonna run dynamics today. Who's down. Well, I know

612
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: Rad's going to be there, So I got to show

613
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: up and Rad's going to always be there. Because everybody

614
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: was wondering how did you keep attendance of everybody rat

615
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,479
Speaker 1: over fifteen years of running your team, I've been asked

616
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: that as like it is all mental. They're like, how

617
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: I said, I showed up. I took a group photo

618
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 1: every single game of the entire team. It was just

619
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 1: a thing I did. And if you're not in the photo,

620
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 1: then you're not in the photo. It's simple. So for

621
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 1: fifteen years we ran with saying, and I learned things

622
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 1: as I grew running the games. It would range anywhere

623
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: from like thirty two guys on the daily, men and

624
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: women on my team specifically bringing out like maybe another

625
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: one hundred to fight with, and so we would just

626
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: separate into two different factions, Alpha versus Bravo. I would

627
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: set up my teams as radio telephone operator individuals on

628
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: those teams, so we're always talking to each other on

629
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 1: both sides. But they're running the teams and fighting and

630
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:25,520
Speaker 1: everybody doesn't realize the puppets are happening, right, So it's

631
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: just how it goes. It's just camaraderie, teamwork, rubbing shoulders

632
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 1: next to somebody, knowing that you're there for them, having

633
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 1: their back. Even in airsoft war games, having my back

634
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:36,879
Speaker 1: means a lot. Man, we got guys were sneaking around

635
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 1: like rubber knives, trying to take my life. Okay, I've

636
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 1: had my tent, I've had my tent opened up. Z

637
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 1: thought was my security going out take a whiz. It

638
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 1: was an enemy coming in and he's like, hey yo,

639
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: Cat and rad I'm on what He's like, You're dead?

640
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, man, so getting killed at three

641
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: am four am when you should be not being killed

642
00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: at four am and your eyes are closed. That even

643
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Speaker 1: in at wargame bro, I just I sat on the

644
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 1: edge of my cot for like probably fifteen minutes on

645
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 1: the radio saying I thought we were indexed to my

646
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 1: counterparts on the other teams, like, nah, man, it was

647
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: four am index not three am rad. I was like, man,

648
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: I got killed. I was like, I'm dead in my tent.

649
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 1: In my tent. So you know, teamwork goes a long way, right,

650
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 1: and it goes to and then everybody has a good

651
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: time and everybody's all high fiving. So to my listener

652
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: out there, you know, I think that if you stay

653
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: positive with what you believe in, and you stay focused

654
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 1: and stay the course on your passion again, it will

655
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 1: bring purpose right, and then you see the progress of

656
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 1: your passionate purpose. You're gonna keep going after that. It's

657
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: like finding little gold flakes when I'm gold panning, man, boy,

658
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: don't let me find goldflakes. Come digging holes. Can't even

659
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 1: fix my fence, but I can dig some holes in

660
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: the river for some gold. You know, you can catch

661
00:36:57,640 --> 00:36:59,800
Speaker 1: me in the river up in Utah mountains panning for gold.

662
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 3: That's awesome. R.

663
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, Bro, my wife, my kids, we all sit in

664
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: the water and just go to town on a camping trips. Bro,

665
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 1: it's just a there's a river. Make it profitable, productive.

666
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: My kids were entrepreneurs.

667
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 6: And by the way, that's another important piece. That's called hope. Yeah,

668
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 6: and faith. A lot of curse words too. You're like,

669
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,320
Speaker 6: is this pyright PI write? What's pyrite?

670
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: Dad? Fools goats, fools gold son, It's fool's gold. Go

671
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,919
Speaker 1: up to northern California, it's everywhere fools gold. My wife

672
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 1: just wants to move there because it's so shiny and

673
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,279
Speaker 1: gold in the dirt. I'm like, that's just fools gold.

674
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 3: I've done that with my boys.

675
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. It's true. As much as I want

676
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: it to be real gold, I gotta stay on it,

677
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 1: and I got to be you know, I got to

678
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: make progress on real gold. I can't just sit back

679
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 1: with fake gold. It is not going to do nothing

680
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 1: for me. So, you know, just to bring that back

681
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,760
Speaker 1: into our metaphors here, it's like, you know, I'm looking

682
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: for the vein man. I'll take it chip away out, I.

683
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 3: Will tell you, kind of bringing it circle as I've

684
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 3: done this transition, and I talk to you about how

685
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 3: important goals are. You know, It's why I created that

686
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 3: software app called goal Bud is to help people make

687
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 3: a goal, build a goal team, and create and report

688
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 3: goal commitments. Those are the three big things. And if

689
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 3: you can do that on a daily basis, you are

690
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 3: going to find your goal. You WI will continue. But

691
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 3: the challenge is creating the discipline in the first half.

692
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 3: And you know, it's that free app, goal Bud that

693
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 3: allows people to put in your goal and put it

694
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 3: out there to your own goal team, invite them to

695
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,759
Speaker 3: become your buds, and then tell them, hey, this is

696
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 3: what I'm gonna do. I'm going to report to you

697
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 3: five times a week on panning for my goal, and

698
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 3: I'm going to do this every single day. And when

699
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,479
Speaker 3: people do that, they start to see the progress because

700
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 3: they'll start to see, hey, I I did three weeks

701
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 3: of this already, like we're making progress, and that gets

702
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 3: them fired up to go across your metaphorical horizon.

703
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 1: One hundred percent. And Goldbud will have that put into

704
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Speaker 1: the comments, you know, and our description on softwap dot com.

705
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: So if any of you happen to not you know,

706
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: catch it while we're talking. You can always click on

707
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 1: it when it's going to be posted. It's called goal

708
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: Bud and that's g O A L right bud. Yeah,

709
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 1: just like yeah, just like that. And so you know

710
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: it's gonna help set a goal for you and and

711
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 1: make it an attainable goal. Right if you set yourself up,

712
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: I mean, you can have an attainable goal for today,

713
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna make my bed and brush my teeth

714
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 1: and those are goals. I don't want to be a

715
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: slob anymore and put my clothes away. Okay, start with

716
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,919
Speaker 1: yourself and then you can make some what you think

717
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: is unattainable as a goal, in my opinion, is not right.

718
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 1: Like I'm always chasing the actoring, auditioning vibe. You know,

719
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: I look at TV as a job market. Some people

720
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 1: look at it as just an entertainment platform. It's like,

721
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: what do you chase it? After it's available? You know

722
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: you can make your way. You want to go to concerts,

723
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: Why don't you work behind the scenes at a concert?

724
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: You know you could be a stage hand and learn

725
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 1: the ins and outs of being a concert promoter from

726
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 1: the inside and still see the show and get paid

727
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 1: to do it while you're learning these experiences. A lot

728
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 1: of my friends that do go to the military. Once

729
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 1: they go, I say, hey, when you come back and

730
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 1: you come back to the airsoft war games, you're going

731
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: to bring war college with you. You know, you'll have

732
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: an understanding of why we have a rank on our

733
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: team or why we do things in the way we

734
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: do a little bit like you know that is in

735
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: the military. You know, it just seems to work. You know,

736
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: running a twelve man team, you know, it just seems

737
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 1: to work. Whether it's baseball or football or hockey. You

738
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: know that camaraderie that there's a captain of the team.

739
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: They go out and flip the coin for you know,

740
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Speaker 1: receiving or kickoff, or they're flipping it for home or away.

741
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: In baseball, you know, there's always somebody that's taking the

742
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: captain's position, and then there's the team, and everybody respects

743
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:58,240
Speaker 1: the captain and lets them go out to the mound

744
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: and they might bring one another the catcher with them. Hey,

745
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 1: you know, just two into danger. Okay, Hey, come with

746
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: me out to the mountd you we're gonna flip the coin.

747
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: I want a number with me, just not myself so

748
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 1: that's why when you see people going out into the

749
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 1: center to flip the coin, there's multiple you know, football

750
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: players from both sides standing around their team captains while

751
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 1: the flipped the coin. Yep, yep, right, I mean it's

752
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: the same way I'm going. And when you went through

753
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: the Seals, did your career take you over to any

754
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: deployments into you know, the War on Terror that we

755
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: were dealing with for the last twenty five years.

756
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I was in ninety one to ninety eight

757
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 3: and then I did a break in service. Was two

758
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Speaker 3: thousand and two thousand and five the time period that

759
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 3: I was in, we went to Bosnia and then I

760
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 3: spent a lot of time in classified combat mini submersibles

761
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 3: doing stuff underwater.

762
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 1: Wow. With pulmonary at twelve to living in the underwater

763
00:41:56,800 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 1: classified submersible of some sort, it was awesome. Holy cow,

764
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 1: how cool sy gold.

765
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 7: You don't see much, especially in the middle of night,

766
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 7: happy harbors, and I mean literally crappy harbors.

767
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 1: Oh bro, Like yeah, and so if visibility sucks, it sucks.

768
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 3: You can't even see this, right, no, yeah.

769
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 1: But like whatever device is telling you to go whatever direction,

770
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: doesn't tell you that there's something in front of you,

771
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: per se, you don't know if it does.

772
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 3: Does there's some sonar that you get to use, so.

773
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:35,720
Speaker 1: Like you don't crash into the piers post.

774
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it looks like old Channel ninety nine. You know

775
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: today ninety nine is probably like CNBC, right something, But

776
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 3: you know, in the old days just kind of staticky

777
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,720
Speaker 3: static and you'd have to figure out right angles and things.

778
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: It's gotten ter and air bubbles i'd imagine are happening

779
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: right at the same time.

780
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 3: You have a very special pack. It looks like a

781
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 3: Ghostbuster pack. Interesting, big huge backpack that allows you to

782
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 3: have no bubbles.

783
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: Oh wow, okay, so deep.

784
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 3: It's it's it's a very we used to call it.

785
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: We're strapping on a Mercedes S Class onto each of us.

786
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 1: It sounds very very cool to have that for the

787
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: job that you were dealing with. It was awesome, I

788
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 1: mean yeah, and it probably gives you like a you

789
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 1: can you can tell me yes or no. It gives

790
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 1: you a lot of breathing capability right for a long

791
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: period of time. Does Okay, that's cool, That's way cool. Yeah,

792
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 1: I'm intrigued, and I've got to get off this question

793
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: because I'm gonna start going down that road all wait

794
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: for the video game.

795
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 3: You people can look at that system up or the

796
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:46,720
Speaker 3: whole system. It's called the sealed delivery vehicle.

797
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: And delivery vehicle.

798
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 3: Those are classified combat mini subersibles. You won't find anything

799
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 3: on the inside, but you can see the outside of

800
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 3: them mm hmm.

801
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 1: And uh it's where it's sometimes it's open right like

802
00:43:58,719 --> 00:43:59,879
Speaker 1: you might just be in the water.

803
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, what are these are flooding subs? Yeah?

804
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:07,480
Speaker 1: And is that sense of cluster of I mean, you're

805
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 1: you're trained to have this scuba gear on. I guess

806
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 1: you're just good to go, right.

807
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 3: You know, that's actually very intuitive you've come up with

808
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 3: that because I didn't even think about that. And first

809
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 3: when I started the training, You're you get claustrophobic in

810
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: the beginning because you're you know, the face plate of

811
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 3: the sonars right here, and you're you're in a tight space.

812
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 3: And I'm a big guy, and you know, six foot

813
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 3: three two and fifty pounds and you're wedged in that thing.

814
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 3: Once you slide those doors shut, it's a small little space.

815
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 3: I'm going to be in there for a long time.

816
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, And so I would imagine and almost like,

817
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,439
Speaker 1: you know, have you ever seen Abyss the movie A bits? Yeah,

818
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 1: of course, like how they have to endul.

819
00:44:57,120 --> 00:44:58,919
Speaker 3: They put the fluid fluid in the lung.

820
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 1: You're not doing no, I don't think not yet.

821
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, though that was actually a real scenario that

822
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 3: they were trying to play with.

823
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I know, right, And it's that's why

824
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying not yet. There's somebody out there like, hey,

825
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 1: send me to Mars for five years. I'll go, I'll

826
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:20,239
Speaker 1: do it. I'll test let me test it. Yeah, someone

827
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 1: wants to be Captain America, Go ahead and inject you

828
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 1: exactly exactly. Now. We talked about Goldbud. We talked about

829
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 1: your books, which we'll also have noted down in our description.

830
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: You know, after I think it's Chris, Chris, my guy, Chris,

831
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: thanks for writing all these remark I know they listen

832
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 1: to the podcast and then they bring it all together

833
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: and it's like I wrote it, and so I just

834
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: got to give them a shout out. Yeah, dude, great team.

835
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 3: You know, the biggest shout out I can offer it

836
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 3: everybody is Goldbud. You know, it's an old map, it's

837
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Speaker 3: free and we want people. I'm on this kind of

838
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 3: Don Quixote mission to help one of the world achieve

839
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 3: a goal. And you know, you start achieving goals, you

840
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 3: get this cascading series of confidences to dream up bigger goals.

841
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 3: You just have to understand you're way more powerful than

842
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 3: you realize. And as I often tell people, unstoppable is

843
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 3: a choice, and you get to make it every morning

844
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:25,959
Speaker 3: when you get up and multiple times throughout the day.

845
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 3: You just need that compass of what you're going to

846
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 3: go be unstoppable for. And that's what goalbud can be

847
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 3: for you.

848
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. I have it actually up on my phone right now,

849
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 1: right here. It's telling me where to download it, you know,

850
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: Apple Droid wherever it's at. Goalbud the three steps one

851
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: set of goal put in writing. You aren't serious about

852
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 1: achieving your goal without taking this first step. I like that.

853
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,239
Speaker 1: This is straight up fresh. I'm just reading it to

854
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 1: you right. Number two, Yeah, build your goals team. Create

855
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 1: a private social network for each goal. Who will you

856
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:58,440
Speaker 1: invite to your team one trust, a confident, or an

857
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 1: entire community. Bring them all, That's what it says. Make commitments,

858
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: tell your team what you will do. You are twice

859
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 1: as likely to succeed with a goal bud team. Your

860
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: buds have got your back, you know. And it's true,

861
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: Commander Mills. Okay, as if I may that, you know

862
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: you're doing a good thing. It's what I want to say,

863
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:18,319
Speaker 1: is true. I want to say that you're putting out

864
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 1: a positive boomerang of karma, all right, And just to

865
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: piggyback on Taylor Swift there with karma, I just want

866
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 1: to let you know that. Okay, thank you. So I

867
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: like the same boomerang analogy. I'm going to have the

868
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:32,720
Speaker 1: app on my phone. I'm going to try to implement

869
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 1: it and try something new because I don't use it.

870
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: I'll try to use it and implement it and try

871
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:38,839
Speaker 1: to make a goal and see if I can get

872
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: active with it. I'd rather have someone tell me. I'd

873
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:45,399
Speaker 1: rather have a sounding board that I can possibly hit

874
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: my ideas off of. If I don't have one, what

875
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: if I'm all by myself. I live in a room

876
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 1: and you know, it's downstairs and the upstairs neighbor I

877
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 1: don't even know them. I don't know who to talk to. Well,

878
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: that looks like that's a sounding board of people who

879
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:58,919
Speaker 1: can give you, you know, advice or whatnot? Right?

880
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 3: Yes, and by the way, your Airsoft teams teams get

881
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 3: them using it, saying hey together, just the mere fact

882
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 3: those are your best buds. They've already been practicing having

883
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 3: your back and say you guys, you know I want

884
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 3: to lose thirty pounds, i want to go climb a mountain.

885
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 3: I'm thinking of writing a book. You know, I want

886
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 3: to make a career change. And I'm thinking I want

887
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 3: to do what Rad's doing. Rad, would you be my bud?

888
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:34,359
Speaker 3: And yeah, okay, let's start, like there's no time, don't

889
00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 3: push it off. You know, I was having lunch with

890
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:40,399
Speaker 3: somebody the other day and he's like, well, I want

891
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 3: to write a book, and I'm like, well, fantastic. What

892
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 3: do you put the table contents together? Well, no, but

893
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 3: I'm almost ninety percent there. I'm like ninety percent to

894
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 3: what ninety putting the table contents together? I'm like, just

895
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 3: sit down and think about what the introduction is going

896
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 3: to be. Then let's go through the chapter one, chapter two.

897
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 3: In chapter two, just write the but do a little

898
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 3: every day whatever that thing is. The challenge becomes. People

899
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:11,879
Speaker 3: will have these little obstacles called livinging beliefs. In their

900
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 3: head that they you know, and I had it. My

901
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 3: first book took me ten years to write because I

902
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,919
Speaker 3: had this thought in my head, this narrative that kept

903
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,879
Speaker 3: coming back from an English teacher I had in ninth

904
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:27,919
Speaker 3: grade said, Mills, you suck at English. Don't ever try

905
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 3: and think you can go to ap English. I never

906
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:31,840
Speaker 3: want to ap English right and mean, it was like

907
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:36,279
Speaker 3: the doctor telling me that I played chess. I'll have that.

908
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,720
Speaker 3: But guess what, that guy actually gave me the greatest

909
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 3: gift because eventually you work hard enough, you become a

910
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,359
Speaker 3: lot better at English. And by the way, he never

911
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 3: wrote a book in his life, and he's telling me

912
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 3: what I can or can't do.

913
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: Right, he spent someone else's money.

914
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you find those buds and you get your airsoft

915
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 3: teams and put them together and be like, hey, it's great,

916
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 3: we're coming every other week together. Let's come together every

917
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 3: single day through our own goal teams. Get on gold.

918
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,759
Speaker 3: Let's go do things better together because we'll be even

919
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:10,960
Speaker 3: better battlefield.

920
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: It's true, I get hit up in all sorts of

921
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 1: different angles on you know, it'd be cool to have

922
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 1: it centrally located like here it is. You know, we

923
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 1: can all just reach each other right there, that kind

924
00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: of attitude and so and it's it's Goldbud dot org

925
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 1: for my listener out there. There's an org behind it

926
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:27,800
Speaker 1: if you want.

927
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 3: To check it out, or the website, but.

928
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,800
Speaker 1: Right for the website, but it has on there also

929
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:35,279
Speaker 1: the app. You can get your there too, Yeah, right right,

930
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: Just to let you know, the dot org means a lot,

931
00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I just want to put

932
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 1: that out there.

933
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 3: No, it's just about and you hit the nail on

934
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 3: the head. You know. This is about going out and

935
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 3: making an indent in the universe. It's about making something

936
00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 3: that is going to get a lot of people to

937
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 3: help other people achieve things. And when we can infect

938
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 3: people to do things to help other people, but then

939
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: we stand a chance of making a difference together.

940
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 1: It's true. I completely agree. I am. I'm so happy

941
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 1: that you were on my show today. This has been

942
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:12,880
Speaker 1: a lightning And I say this is you should be

943
00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:15,879
Speaker 1: on the show periodically as well, not just this one time.

944
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 1: We should have you on and bring out other you know,

945
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 1: excerpts or talk about other instances and just help motivate

946
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 1: and give us that affirmations that we do need it was.

947
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 1: It's very positive to hear from you. And I know

948
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: there's so many stories that we could get wrapped up

949
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 1: in and us becoming meeting today and becoming acquaintances and

950
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 1: becoming friendly and you know there's more of this, and

951
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 1: I just want to say you're always welcome to be

952
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: on the show.

953
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:42,440
Speaker 3: Well, rad well then let's do it. We'll sortally and

954
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:44,320
Speaker 3: we'll talk about how to succeed together.

955
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:47,439
Speaker 1: Then let's do that and we'll make that happen. That's

956
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: no problem. Good okay, yeah, one hundred percent. And to

957
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 1: my listener out there, if you're considering chasing your dreams,

958
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: keep considering and doing it. Okay, just go after it.

959
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 1: I'm doing it. I do this every time I do

960
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 1: these podcasts each and every time I have to upload them,

961
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 1: I have to work on them, I have to put

962
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: them together. This is a love of the game. I

963
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 1: promise you that and talking to my guests are the

964
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 1: gold that I pan out of the situation, okay, because

965
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: I get to learn and grow and glean off of you.

966
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 1: So thank you for being my golden nugget today. I

967
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 1: appreciate that both heys.

968
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 3: Thank you for going after your dream because if you hadn't,

969
00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 3: we wouldn't have been mating together today.

970
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 1: It's true. And thanks to Brandon and Soft Rep for

971
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: believing in my dreams and saying, rad we want you

972
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't know you want me? Sure

973
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: here we are years later. Okay. And with that said,

974
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:42,120
Speaker 1: I have a merch store. It's actually soft Reps. It

975
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:44,440
Speaker 1: supports the show, it really does. If you like what

976
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 1: you hear and you like my guests and you like

977
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:48,479
Speaker 1: what we're doing, go buy a shirt, buy a mug,

978
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:51,720
Speaker 1: do it help support it. And you never know, Brandon

979
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 1: Webb might sign a book and send it in one

980
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: of your packages. He does it all the time. So

981
00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 1: there you go, and give Brandy half of that too, Rob.

982
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: I will give Brandon your I'll text him this afternoon

983
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: and say it was a great show. And with that

984
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: on behalf of my guest who I've had for a

985
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 1: solid hour on this. I want to say thanks to

986
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 1: Alden Mills, commander, entrepreneur, human being on this earth that

987
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: walks with a positive spirit. Thank you for being on

988
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 1: soft Reap today.

989
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 3: Thank you brother. I send you my love.

990
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 1: And I appreciate you. Okay, and we'll talk soon and

991
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: we'll do this on a quarterly basis. To my listener,

992
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 1: you can count on it all right With that, this

993
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 1: is RAD saying thanks for watching and joining us on

994
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: softwarep peace.

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Speaker 2: You've been listening to Self rep Radio