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Speaker 2: My mother in law demands a family honeymoon.

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Speaker 2: I late twenties, am getting married to my fiance, also

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Speaker 2: late twenties. In a few weeks, I've noticed some weird,

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Speaker 2: subtle behavior for my soon to be mother in law.

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Speaker 2: She cried for a month when her son moved out

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Speaker 2: to live with me. That's not subtle. And she calls

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Speaker 2: him twice daily, once on her way to work and

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Speaker 2: again coming back to rant about her day. By the way,

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime severed it So. I've dated plenty of people

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Speaker 2: before and never encountered this level of attachments. I'm my

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Speaker 2: partner's first girlfriend. Though I've brought up several times that

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Speaker 2: the constant multi hour calls make me uncomfortable since I

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Speaker 2: want to spend some afternoons with my partner after work.

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Speaker 2: Valid Thankfully, he understood and admitted he felt guilty, which

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Speaker 2: his mom is very very good at making him feel.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't enjoy the constant calls either, so he started

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Speaker 2: creating distance. She still calls daily, but now it's under

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Speaker 2: an hour. Wow, it used to be twice over an hour.

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Speaker 2: That's okay. Okay, honestly, it's still weird, but since it

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Speaker 2: doesn't directly affect me anymore, I've gotten used to it.

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Speaker 2: There have been instances where I got the vibe that

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Speaker 2: she sees me it's as someone who took her husband

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Speaker 2: who's actually her son.

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Speaker 1: Ikey, weird. Okay, I've kept.

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Speaker 2: My distance because I know we'll never have a close relationship.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, she thinks you stole her son, her

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Speaker 1: It's weird.

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Speaker 2: My partner wanted me to be like a daughter to

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Speaker 2: her since he has no sisters. Okay, what, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I'm gonna read that again. My partner wanted

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Speaker 2: me to be like a daughter to her since he

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Speaker 2: has no sisters. What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: I don't really think it's that bad of a thing.

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Speaker 2: Is he saying like he wants his mom to have

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Speaker 2: a daughter. That doesn't mean me, Well, my mom.

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Speaker 1: Would like you know view Angie as a daughter, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I've never had a daughter before.

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Speaker 2: But I feel like he should have been like, ah,

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Speaker 2: I've you know, she's never had a daughter. She always

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Speaker 2: him that's not happening, especially given her odd behavior when

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Speaker 2: he's not around. Despite this, I've always treated her respectfully

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Speaker 2: as his mother. I'm from an Asian country, so respecting

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Speaker 2: elders is ingrained in me, even when they're not necessarily right.

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Speaker 2: Things were fine until wedding planning started. We're getting married

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Speaker 2: in my home country, something my partner wanted, which I

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Speaker 2: agreed was fair since I'm permanently moving to his country.

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Speaker 2: Everything went well until his parents asked for help planning

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Speaker 2: their trip. I was happy to assist, but help actually

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Speaker 2: I told her it was overwhelming because I'm not going

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Speaker 2: mother in law wasn't happy. I explained that, since I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh my goodness. I don't think the mother in

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Speaker 2: She's going to be so upset that it's not happening

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Speaker 2: be like, oh, I want to stay in this. I'm

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Speaker 2: of those days for personal matters. Despite this, she keeps

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Speaker 2: expressing how uncomfortable she is because she doesn't speak the

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Speaker 1: Only if there was like a way to learn a

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Speaker 2: There's a way to do that, or like just to

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Speaker 1: Jo or be excited about going to a place you've

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Speaker 2: Shock. My partner reassured her that the infrastructure is great.

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Speaker 2: Many people speak English and most signs are bilingual.

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Speaker 2: Then she found out that the day after the wedding,

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Speaker 2: my partner and I won't be spending time with them. Oh,

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Speaker 2: that's normal, that's what happens.

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Speaker 1: I really would love to understand the mind workings of

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Speaker 2: To spend the honeymoon with her son.

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Speaker 1: It also was like, you stole my baby boy from me?

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Speaker 2: What is this e bits Hotel, bets Hotel? That is it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Weirdo. Instead, we planned a stress free day for ourselves,

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Speaker 2: followed by a small evening gathering with friends I haven't

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Speaker 2: seen seven years. She was furious, claiming that in her culture,

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Speaker 2: the day after the wedding is traditionally spent with family.

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Speaker 2: The only time I've heard of this is in Bridgerton,

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Speaker 1: What is her tradition? What is her like? You know? Culture?

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Speaker 1: What is it?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Well, I guess it's just Bridgerton that's her culture.

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Speaker 2: Just like New Bridgidon's my culture.

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Speaker 1: Because I said, so what, why do you need to

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Speaker 2: She's obsessed with him?

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Speaker 1: What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Neither my local friends nor my partner knew of this

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Speaker 1: Exist in the little land of Bridgerton.

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Speaker 2: She called us extremely disrespectful for not spending time with

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Speaker 2: her when she's making the effort to come all this

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Speaker 2: way for your wedding. For a wedding what. I tried

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Speaker 2: staying civil, but finally told her that if I were European,

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Speaker 2: I doubt she'd be acting this way. I also pointed

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Speaker 2: I mean, she's making the wedding all about herself. She's

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Speaker 1: Did you know what may have happened in the relationship?

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Speaker 1: What it's whenever Opie's husband soon to be husband had

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Speaker 1: She was probably having a hard time about it.

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Speaker 2: That was that's crazy, that's a crazy sentence. Is probably true?

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Speaker 2: You know, that was odd sentence.

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Speaker 1: Love to know at what age does your husband stop drinking?

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Speaker 1: From it? Four five?

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Speaker 2: Does your husband stop? What does husband specifically?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, at what age does he stop breastfeeding? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Okay, a good question. Meanwhile, I'm stretched thin preparing for

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Speaker 2: manipulating the situation. Thankfully, my soon to be husband finally

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Speaker 1: You know, I just got drenking the miligane. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: I know you're right. He's disappointed and his mom though

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Speaker 2: he thinks I might be overreacting about the micro racism part.

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Speaker 2: Of course, you do you don't get to say if

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Speaker 2: if oh, P's reacting overreacting, because ope's the one experiencing it,

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Speaker 2: you don't gonna be like, no, you're not experienced microaggression.

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Speaker 2: I know as a white person you are not feeling

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Speaker 1: Huh. In Bridgerton they felt that way. So yeah, he's

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It's like if all the people in Bridistmen are

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Speaker 2: like no, no, no, you're not experiencing that.

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Speaker 2: Believing she'd act the same way even if I were

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Speaker 2: just European. Interestingly, she travels to Europe regularly despite not

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Speaker 2: speaking the languages beside English, and manages just fine planning

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Speaker 2: everything yourself. So here I'm asking for advice. How could

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Speaker 2: you can see, but uh, yikes. I just think you

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Speaker 2: can't insert yourself into it. We're not going on the

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Speaker 2: You're coming here to see our wedding. That's it. And also, uh,

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Speaker 1: Yep, I agree. Really weird, really weird. Honestly, I know,

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Speaker 1: as a couple, you guys don't want to do. But

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I think once you guys have kids, you

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Speaker 1: Actually, I think my mom said that her breast milk

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Speaker 1: is better than yours, baby, so we should probably do that.

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Speaker 2: Oh ew what ow?

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Speaker 1: Sorry?

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Speaker 2: Update it's not a complete win, but there is an update.

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Speaker 2: I sent a long message to my mother in law

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Speaker 2: explaining how stretched I am, how I can't meet her

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Speaker 2: expectations and shared personal matters, including that I delayed seeing

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Speaker 2: my great grandmother, who's in intensive care and can't attend

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Speaker 2: my wedding to cater to her. This will likely be

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Speaker 2: definitely prioritizing her now. She left me on red and

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Speaker 2: went to see her to set boundaries.

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Speaker 1: Dude, just him, just him. You sent your strongest soldier

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Speaker 1: in air quotes well to the mother in law.

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Speaker 2: Ohpe, he shouldn't have to be involved. He needs to

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Speaker 2: go set her mother in law, his mom straight.

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Speaker 1: He's not. What's gonna happen is the mom's gonna be like, actually,

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Speaker 1: you're not seeing this right, and then he's gonna come back. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: don't make it the middle man. Go with him. This

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Speaker 2: He's the type who'd rather sacrifice himself to make everyone happy,

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Speaker 1: Dude, this guy is gonna have one heck of a

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Speaker 1: His mom. I can only imagine the type of person

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, on existence apparently.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, he's there. He's a bubblehead. I feel like

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like he's just kind of shaking his head.

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Speaker 2: Wallace from Wallace and Grommitt. He just lets Gramma do

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Speaker 2: all the work and he's like, yeah, whatever you say, well, grummetra.

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Speaker 1: It's Wallace and Grommitt from whenever, Mike, they were in

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Speaker 2: Vietnam War. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's me.

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Speaker 2: That's a crazy meme. He'd made a comment about giving

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Speaker 2: might be hyper fixated, unclosed to make sure our relationship

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Speaker 2: He keeps making excuses for his mom, so he hasn't

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Speaker 1: He hasn't and he's still listening to her bs excuses.

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Speaker 2: And huh, you know, I told him, will see, But

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Speaker 2: I'd like to start building distance and we'll decide after

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Speaker 2: fix this. Fix it now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If you can't set those boundaries, then he's never gonna

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Speaker 2: my mom. He's not believing anything you say. He's not

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Speaker 1: Keeps looking at the paintings she's drawing out for him

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Speaker 1: I have to realize that. And do you want to

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Speaker 2: I agreed, but there's a little bit left to the story.

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Speaker 2: We agreed to focus on the wedding for now since

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Speaker 2: we're only weeks away, then have a proper discussion about

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Speaker 2: another example of her manipulating me. We know what it is.

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Speaker 2: I know this isn't the update everyone expected, but I

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Speaker 2: he's like, he is not fully on board. This man

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Speaker 2: is on board the way that like Jack was on

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Speaker 2: We even discussed encouraging her to see a psychologist once

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Speaker 2: we're all back. I've left out some details, but overall

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Speaker 2: this feels like a positive step forward. Don't worry. I'm

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Speaker 2: trial period, which my fiance knows to see how things goes.

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Speaker 2: Your first year of marriage shouldn't be a trial period.

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Speaker 2: Thank you all for the advice. I'll update again if

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Speaker 2: there's news after the wedding. Ps will have a peaceful

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Speaker 2: honeymoon since they forgot to get a SIM card for Europe,

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Speaker 2: where they're heading after visiting my country for the wedding, but.

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Speaker 1: They don't know how to do it electronically.

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Speaker 2: Also, my fiance decided to uninstall what'sapp and to look

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Speaker 2: all right, at he did something.

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Speaker 1: I do have a hot take?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what's your hot take?

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Speaker 1: Some people have thrown around the idea that marriage should

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Speaker 1: you know, four years, for x amount of money. You

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Speaker 4: You can kind of like, are we gonna stay Mary, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And then I honestly don't hate that you can kind

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Speaker 2: Honestly don't hate that idea because it does feel like

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Speaker 2: just like val renewals, yeah, which a lot of people do. Anyways, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't hate that. Alreally, Yeah, that's the first idea

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Speaker 1: First. Yeah, wow, I saw someone else had this idea,

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Speaker 1: but I was thinking about it during this like, dude,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, well, folks, you got another story we do.

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Speaker 1: My sister in laws stole my pregnancy announcement, stealer baby

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Speaker 1: tuggar warning, verbal and emotional abuse. I thirty six female

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Speaker 1: found out that I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 2: Congrats.

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Speaker 1: I'm overjoyed, as I have always wanted a child of

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Speaker 1: whatever happened, I was excited to tell my family the

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Speaker 1: wife have made it very clear that they will always

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Speaker 1: Hope sixty three and if you want to smit your

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Speaker 1: So last night we had a family dinner and I

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Speaker 1: Since this will be my only child, I want to

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Speaker 1: I got a shirt they're read this is what an

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I can't win Sam as a kid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, my brother probably have a kid in like

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Speaker 1: two or three years due probably i'd be a nephew.

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Speaker 1: To be a nephew Riley, I'd be an uncle, dude.

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Speaker 1: Uncle Riley had be a good influence.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't wait until Sam as a kid and

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Speaker 2: I can be an aunt.

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Speaker 1: Just have your own kid.

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Speaker 2: No, not yet.

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Speaker 1: My nephew was very excited and put on the shirt.

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Speaker 1: He put his sweater on over it, and I told

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Speaker 1: They all then immediately assumed it was my sister in law.

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Speaker 2: Wait, did you guys not read the shirt?

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Speaker 1: Y'all not read the shirt? Sister in law? Sister? You know.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't hurt by their assumption of this, and I

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Speaker 1: hurt because my sister in law didn't try to correct them.

436
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,439
Speaker 1: She just went along with it and began to rub

437
00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:01,280
Speaker 1: her flat belly while laughing. What I must have looked

438
00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:03,800
Speaker 1: completely hurt because my mother yelled at me to stop

439
00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,359
Speaker 1: being rude and congratulate them. Try to explain that I

440
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:08,159
Speaker 1: was the one who gave my nephew the shirt. They

441
00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:10,480
Speaker 1: all didn't even hear me and just continue to fond

442
00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,520
Speaker 1: o for my sister in law. My brother just stood

443
00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:16,280
Speaker 1: frozen in shock and just asking his wife if she

444
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:17,960
Speaker 1: was serious.

445
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 2: Wait, I'm sorry, is the is the baby? The boy?

446
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,120
Speaker 2: The little boy? Is this her son?

447
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:24,280
Speaker 1: The little boy?

448
00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:25,440
Speaker 2: Whose little girl?

449
00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 1: So there are three kids? Yeah, Opie sister who has

450
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,680
Speaker 1: a little boy, and his brother who has a brother.

451
00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,000
Speaker 2: Okay, I thought this was hers. Okay, I'm still confused.

452
00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,040
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Sopie goes, Wait a minute, I'm the one pregnant.

453
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,760
Speaker 1: Everyone goes, shut up, op sister in law. She said

454
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,360
Speaker 1: she was never gonna have a kid. Shut because her

455
00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 1: I have an uncle that was married to someone, and uh,

456
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:50,000
Speaker 1: they're not you know, Met and Kim, we're gonna have

457
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,719
Speaker 1: kids there never are, So, like, you know, if that

458
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,080
Speaker 1: was the case and everyone's like, oh my gosh, you

459
00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:55,960
Speaker 1: guys need to have kids, I would be this way.

460
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 2: Dude, that's crazy.

461
00:20:57,359 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: You guys gonna have a kid.

462
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:00,679
Speaker 2: It's crazy that the brother is like, oh, and then

463
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,159
Speaker 2: she's gonna have to be like, no, I lied, I

464
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:06,399
Speaker 2: stole a p's moment. That's crazy. Oh that's crazy.

465
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 1: Well I don't think anyone knows that it's Opie's moment

466
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:11,439
Speaker 1: at the moment, sister in.

467
00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,880
Speaker 2: Law knows that it's not hers unless this is how yeah,

468
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 2: unless she was like how did how did that kid

469
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 2: figure out?

470
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:18,639
Speaker 1: Right?

471
00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 3: Because I mean even if she was actually pregnant and

472
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 3: she was just like yeah, like she knows, she didn't

473
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,879
Speaker 3: give that shrip.

474
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 2: And then on Opie goes, wait a minute, I'd be like, oh, yeah.

475
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,480
Speaker 1: Sorry, well she's single. I don't know. I wouldn't assume

476
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 1: it was her in this context. Honestly, you wouldn't assume.

477
00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 2: If you were sister in law, you wouldn't assume that

478
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 2: it was the only other person.

479
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 1: Was she single?

480
00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 2: No, not if you were the sister in law Riley,

481
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:42,880
Speaker 2: if you were the sister in law who everyone's fawning over,

482
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 2: you wouldn't assume that op the only other person who

483
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,639
Speaker 2: could be you know, I mean, this kid could be

484
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 2: a cousin. Like that doesn't make anything.

485
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 1: I would probably going along with it, like sister in laws,

486
00:21:56,160 --> 00:22:02,199
Speaker 1: why but why do you like, yep, I'm pregnant. Everyone

487
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 1: just I don't know, have something to talk about. On

488
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: the way back home.

489
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 2: Crazy probably was starting. Problems are starting problems.

490
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,239
Speaker 1: I would. I'd be having a hoop. But then as

491
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 1: soon as I realized that it's my sister in law

492
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: that is single and she's pregnant, I would apologize.

493
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 2: You're crazy, and I would.

494
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 1: You're crazy.

495
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:22,800
Speaker 2: Someone get this man out of here.

496
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 1: Anything for a laugh, dude?

497
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 2: Clearly, Yeah, sacrificed, Angie sacrificed anyone.

498
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 1: Okay, I got up in my home. I received multiple

499
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,199
Speaker 1: texts at this point from them telling me what an

500
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 1: a hole I am for making this all about me.

501
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 1: They said things like it wasn't my sister in law's fault,

502
00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 1: that I was jealous. I didn't reply to anything, just

503
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,920
Speaker 1: cried myself to sleep. This morning. My sister in law

504
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: must have finally let it slip that she's not pregnant. See,

505
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 1: I would have go this far. The second I see

506
00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 1: that she's upset, I'd be like, actually, wait, she's pregnant.

507
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I was making I would be the ale,

508
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 1: but I would, I would apologize. They have now all

509
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 1: called me to apologize, saying that they were all caught

510
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: up in the moment.

511
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 2: I don't freaking care. I'd be like, shut up, I

512
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 2: try to tell you I was pregnant. You guys suck.

513
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: They said I shouldn't have left the dinner and that

514
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: it was my fault. I wasn't clear enough that I

515
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 1: was the one who was pregnant. My mom said I

516
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,959
Speaker 1: could have a redo dinner so I can get it

517
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 1: right and they will all actually.

518
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 2: Be like y'all didn't even let me say hey, like

519
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 2: mat Cat said, as Karence is, why would you leave

520
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,199
Speaker 2: without clanning stuff? Oh? Pee, try it? And then she

521
00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:25,560
Speaker 2: got really sad. She was like, hey, guys, it's not no,

522
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 2: it's not by my baby, and they were like shut up,

523
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 2: you suck and hear her.

524
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 3: And then when she was like acting all upset, they

525
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 3: were like, why aren't you congratulating her?

526
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she was like, dude, it's my baby. I'm

527
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 2: the one pregnant, and they're like shut up. Oh p Yeah.

528
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 1: So soon Lost sent me a message that said that

529
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,399
Speaker 1: the way I chose to announce was how she wanted

530
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: to do it if she ever got pregnant. She said

531
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 1: that since she's not ever having a child, that she

532
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: just wanted to experience what the moment would be like.

533
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: Oh shut up.

534
00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 1: She also said I can have my chance at the redoo.

535
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 2: You took our chance away forever. Oh my god, you

536
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 2: took our chance away forever.

537
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,199
Speaker 1: We're all doing a pity redo dinner.

538
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 2: I don't like you.

539
00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 1: There is one way, one way, this moment, this whole

540
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 1: family can make this up to her. Oh a surprise

541
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 1: baby show.

542
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good. That's good. The only way,

543
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 2: that's the only way. Yeah.

544
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: I told them no that I will not be doing

545
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: what we redo. Every single person has now told me

546
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: I'm being selfish and an ahole because I won't let

547
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 1: them make it right.

548
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 2: You're selfish because we messed up, and now you won't

549
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 2: accept our terrible apology where we still blame you.

550
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 1: You a pity makeup redood lord Lord to me, there's

551
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: no fixing this. I will eventually forgive them, but I

552
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 1: don't want to do a second announcement so they feel better.

553
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 2: Literally, that's it. They just want you to make them

554
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 2: feel better.

555
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,480
Speaker 1: And we got an update to this story. I don't

556
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 1: even know what to expect.

557
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: No, I feel like they're just gonna keep blaming you,

558
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 2: and then you're gonna have to like go low contact

559
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 2: with them.

560
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they're gonna get weird about your kid

561
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,640
Speaker 1: because you're the only other person that as a kid

562
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 1: in the family.

563
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 2: Uh huh, and your poor little nephew is gonna be

564
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 2: like it were the shirt and I know what went

565
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 2: listening to me that you bought me this shirt and

566
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 2: your poor little baby nephew is gonna be all sad

567
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 2: and they did that.

568
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, that probably might be it. Update. This is an

569
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: update to my previous post. It's been four months since

570
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,960
Speaker 1: my last post, and it's been a wild ride. I'm

571
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: now almost seven months pregnant and expecting a baby girl.

572
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 2: Very exciting.

573
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: After everything that happened, I tried going low contact with

574
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: my family, called it. I didn't want to deal with

575
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: their drama and chose to instead focus on my pregnancy.

576
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: That didn't last long because my brother showed up at

577
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: my door a few days after the dinner with the suitcase.

578
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 1: He needed some time to work things out, and I

579
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: was happy to give him a place to stay while

580
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 1: ye did.

581
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 2: This is the brother that is married to that sister

582
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: in law, so which makes so much sense because if

583
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 2: she freaking lied to him and did that in front

584
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 2: of his entire family, I'd be like, you're crazy, You're crazy. Bye.

585
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: I would lie only for like thirty seconds.

586
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 2: But imagine the heartbreak that brother in law must have felt,

587
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 2: or so that brother must have felt in that moment

588
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 2: of your wife, who you've known to be infertile, Yeah,

589
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 2: tells their whole family I'm pregnant, and that like shock

590
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: and then momentary like joy elation, and then to find

591
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,920
Speaker 2: out the next day. So you spend that whole night

592
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,159
Speaker 2: so happy that you think you're gonna have a kid

593
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 2: and you thought it was impossible, and then finding out

594
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 2: she's lied, and also your sister was hurt in that

595
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:42,359
Speaker 2: process too. Yeah, I would not be able to look

596
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 2: at my partner, you know the same.

597
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: Did he want a kid?

598
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 2: Yeah?

599
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 1: I don't know that.

600
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, they wanted a kid, that was the thing. They

601
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 2: just can't have kids.

602
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 3: It says at the beginning that they made it clear

603
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 3: that they will always be child free.

604
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 2: Oh I don't know where are they if they they.

605
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 2: I thought you had said that. He sorry, I must

606
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 2: have mis heard. I thought you said that they were

607
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: like couldn't have kids.

608
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: No, they just were always chilling.

609
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that's different. Sorry Yeah, yeah, well I mean yeah,

610
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 2: it's still it's still pretty shocking to have or lie

611
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 2: and just shocking in a different way. Misshabor, Yeah I did.

612
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 2: I misheard it. I thought they said they couldn't have kids.

613
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: But I would do this only for thirty seconds, and

614
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 1: they'd be like, Okay, I don't know where the show

615
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 1: came from. Only for thirty.

616
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 2: Seconds, All right, fine, Riley, forgive you whatever.

617
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: Thank you. My sister in law and other family members

618
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: began calling both of us non stop during this time.

619
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 1: They were begging my brother to talk to his wife. Eventually,

620
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 1: she convinced him that it was all a joke and

621
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: just went horribly wrong. I knew that that was total

622
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: bs and that she was lying. My brother seemed so

623
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 1: lost and broken without her, though. He went back home

624
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: after staying with me for only a short time. Before

625
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: he left, I talked to him about everything and told

626
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: him all my concerns. He said that he loves his

627
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: wife and this is all just a misunderstanding.

628
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,200
Speaker 2: Not a misunderstanding if she purposely lied.

629
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: He told me I was cruel for holding a joke

630
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: gone wrong against her and that we both need to

631
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: get over it. After he left, I went back to

632
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: low contact with most of my family, and I've been

633
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 1: pretty much happier since I realized how exactly toxic my

634
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 1: family is. I decided to focus on the people in

635
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: my life that were truly there to support me and

636
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: my baby. My parents kept trying to contact me, but

637
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 1: it has become less frequent recently. Yesterday I received the

638
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:26,359
Speaker 1: news that many had predicted my sister in law is

639
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: now pregnant.

640
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 2: Oh.

641
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: I found out when I received an invitation to her

642
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: upcoming gender Revell Zoom party in my email.

643
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: Which is another kind of thing of like, so, now

644
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 2: that we've confirmed I was mistaken, they are just child

645
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 2: free by choice. Yeah, did Opie's brother make that choice?

646
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 2: Did he change his mind or did she change her mind?

647
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: She might have liked the attention, yeah, I don't.

648
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 2: Know if he was completely on board with that.

649
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: Then got a little baby high. Mm hmmm, baby fea

650
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: high yeah, oh oh, just check my temperature. The baby

651
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 1: fever is at over one hundred and ten degrees.

652
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 2: I think o Pie's brother was really trying to convince

653
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 2: himself when he was having that whole talk with op

654
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 2: I like, you just have to get over the have

655
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 2: to get over the joke. It was just a joke.

656
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 2: I think he was trying to convince himself because I

657
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 2: think he was really hurt by it. Jice dang man.

658
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: Oh, just checked it again. It's a boiling two in morning.

659
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: Go ahead and put some ice in that pot.

660
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 2: Got down a little fever.

661
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: What maybe I got baby fever? Huh? What are you

662
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 1: gonna do?

663
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 2: Bet, I'm gonna put some ice in that pot? Whoa well,

664
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do whoa ice? You up? Yeah, Casey Roberts says,

665
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 2: So she did get her dream announcement and stole oh piece,

666
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 2: that's the thing she said. Oh, I just said, because

667
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 2: I'll never get that announcement, and then got it anyway.

668
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 2: She got too, She got her.

669
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Speaker 1: You know who did get a dinner sister in law. Yeah,

670
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: she's dressed up little cousin again.

671
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, she dressed up cousin in the same shirt. She's like, hey,

672
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 2: can you put that shirt on again? Please?

673
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, you still got that shirt from the last dinner. Okay,

674
00:29:58,320 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: bring that bag tomorrow.

675
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. And I think it's not a joke. Guys, I'm

676
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 2: pregnant for real this time.

677
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: I haven't responded yet, and I haven't heard any news

678
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 1: from any other family member than the invitation. And I'm

679
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: torn between laughing hysterically. We're crying for my brother. I

680
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 1: truly don't know what to think. What you should do

681
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: is send this zoom meeting to some trolls online and

682
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: they video it and they ambush it.

683
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, okay, sure that's an option we got.

684
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: Update two. I made a mistake and went to sister

685
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: in laws gender reveals.

686
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 2: Yes, you just had to How why'd you call girl

687
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 2: about you go? Why did you go to that? All right, girl,

688
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 2: you're a little contact for a reason.

689
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: Update twouldn't keep her complete closed. Hey it's John here,

690
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 1: og host of the show. We're gonna get back to

691
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 1: these juicy stories. But here's a quick three minutes of

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Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors. So my brother and sistern laws

693
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: gender reveal zoom party took place today. For the last

694
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 1: few weeks, I had been debating on if I should

695
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: attend or not. I had been doing well with being

696
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: no contact with most of my family, but I couldn't

697
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: seem to let go of the feeling that I was

698
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: being selfish and not supporting of my brother. I reached

699
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: out to them online. My brother and his wife are

700
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: definitely pregnant. They started to try shortly after he returned

701
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 1: home from staying with me. My sister in law told

702
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: me that my brother changed his mind about having children

703
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: after a long talk they had about the future. I

704
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 1: personally think there is more to this story, but I

705
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 1: don't have all the details yet on this. They did

706
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: tell me that they were sorry about what happened with

707
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 1: my pregnancy announcement. My brother asked me if we would

708
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: all just move forward and if we would all come

709
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: together for their gender reveal party. I agreed and decided

710
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: to go MMMM. I also started to speak with my

711
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 1: parents again. My parents did not apologize for their part

712
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: in what happened.

713
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: I said, of course, they didn't for.

714
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 1: What happened at my pregnancy announcement. They didn't really acknowledge

715
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: that anything had happened at all between us. They didn't

716
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 1: ask me much about my pregnancy or my baby. They

717
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: have been interested enough to ask two questions. They asked

718
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: what my child's last name will be since I am

719
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: a single mother, and what gender child will be. I

720
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: told them I will not be sharing the gender of

721
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 1: my baby until the birth.

722
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 2: I see you.

723
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 1: I feel like they're hell.

724
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 2: I feel like they're gonna reveal Opee's gender.

725
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: How, I don't know.

726
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: I feel like they've somehow figured it out, and they're

727
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 2: gonna be like, yeah, we're not having a baby, but

728
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 2: opia is and it's a girl, and they're gonna take

729
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 2: it again. I don't know. They're just gonna steal something.

730
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: I don't know how they're gonna do it.

731
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 1: They are, You're a humiliator.

732
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 2: We're gonna take the name. They're gonna do something. Something's up. Yeah,

733
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 2: I don't trust them.

734
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 1: Today it was a gender revealed zoom party. We were

735
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 1: instructed to wear blue or pink, depending on what we

736
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 1: thought the gender would be. I chose to wear pink

737
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,479
Speaker 1: since the only dress I don't own that fistme right

738
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: now happens to be pink. My sister in law had

739
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: chosen to pop a very large balloon filled with comfetti

740
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: that will reveal the ginger. She popped the balloon and

741
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 1: came out a cloud of blue confetti. My parents began

742
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: to cry and cheer at the announcement. My brother and

743
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: everyone else was smiling and clapping. Sister in law, on

744
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: the other hand, was not uh uh. The next few

745
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 1: moments were filled with all of the guests saying their congratulations.

746
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: My sister in law stayed perfectly silent throughout all of it.

747
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: She seemed somewhat emotionless until I piped up to say

748
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: my congratulations. I had said to them both, congratulations on

749
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 1: your little boy. Is cousin Kate wait to meet them.

750
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 1: My sister in law went insane. She began screaming that

751
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 1: I was trying to steal the spotlight away from her

752
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: by mentioning my baby. She said that I was being

753
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: jealous and petty over my birth announcement disaster that She

754
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 1: then asked me, what are you effing having? Anyway, She

755
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: demanded to know the gender of my baby and began

756
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: asking if it was a girl. Then she said, I

757
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 1: must be having your girl since I'm wearing a pink dress.

758
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 2: And at that point you just leave the call. You

759
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 2: go click close the computer, and then we go, I

760
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 2: don't know, get like a ice cream.

761
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: Ice cream sandwich, yeah, yi, or whatever your craven at the.

762
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 2: Moment, whatever your craven girl, because you're probably having cravens.

763
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: Or you don't take whatever you're craving because you won't

764
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: be able to eat it after your pregnancy. Really some cases.

765
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 2: Deputting out what you're craving, I guess you know what

766
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:09,839
Speaker 2: you can't have sushi while you're pregnant, and that's tough

767
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 2: because you can't raw fish.

768
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: Yep, yep. According I am the pregnant lady doctor.

769
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 4: He's the pregnant lady doctor. Everyone knows that it's right.

770
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 4: I chose not to fight with her or try to

771
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 4: reason with her. I just exited the call and let

772
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 4: it go.

773
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: I don't know what system Law's problem is or why

774
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 1: she's behaving this way. I don't care. I'm not going

775
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,320
Speaker 1: to let things like this bother me anymore. It was

776
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 1: a bad idea to break no contact. Guys, we got

777
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 1: another update.

778
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 2: Oh man, oh man, Yeah, it was a bad idea.

779
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: I keep no contact, stop contacting them. I feel like

780
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 2: all these updates are like, oh, you know, they apologized

781
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 2: and I realized, you know, I gotta have a relationship

782
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 2: with them. No, stop it, stop it.

783
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: This is so crazy. Yeah and weird and six Yeah

784
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: you so. I think sister in law hates you because

785
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 1: you're doing all of her dream scenari that she wanted to.

786
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,760
Speaker 2: Do exactly like she probably wanted a girl. She wanted

787
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,240
Speaker 2: to get pregnant when you did. How can adults start

788
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 2: screaming at each other in front of other people? There.

789
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 2: Nicole h says, Oh, she's gonna be so upset when

790
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 2: she finds out who's having a girl. Yeah. I think

791
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 2: she jealous, which is icky too.

792
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is weird. This is all very very very weird.

793
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 1: I don't know what the problem is. I think sister

794
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: in law also started doing this because OPI was out

795
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: to kids. She's like, I can have a tear.

796
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:30,439
Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh my goodness, I just realized why so many

797
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 2: people have sushi after their pregnancies, like the woman that

798
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 2: had like, yeah, dude, I'm gonna do that.

799
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: Thing now what sushi now? Hmmm, so she's so expensive? Okay, anyways,

800
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:44,760
Speaker 1: Update three. Unfortunately, my sister in law's drama just seems

801
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 1: to progressively get worse. My sister in law found out

802
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 1: that I'm expecting a girl about two weeks ago. She

803
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 1: found a gender by logging into my Amazon account without

804
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 1: my permission and looked through my private Oh. I had

805
00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 1: given my brother the login information from my primate out

806
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 1: so he could watch the show. He wanted to say.

807
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 2: Oh, she's crazy, she's crazy. That is behave crazy. She's

808
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 2: big time crazy.

809
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 1: Rosie says she needs help to long Man.

810
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 2: Oh Man an intense reaction.

811
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: This has gone way too probably go complete no contact

812
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: with everyone.

813
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. To this point, it's like, Okay, everyone knows about

814
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 2: the gender of the baby anyway.

815
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 1: I bye, Yeah, this is weird, really really really weird. Okay.

816
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: I had not expected her to log into the main

817
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 1: account and view my private list wish. I was extremely

818
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: hurt and devastated that she went this far. She took

819
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: another special moment from me because she went ahead and

820
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: told the rest of my family the gender stopped yeawinging

821
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: back there.

822
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:51,359
Speaker 2: They didn't hear a single thing.

823
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 1: She seems proud of herself for doing this, and thanks.

824
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 1: She's justified because I was keeping secrets.

825
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 2: About the gender of your baby. Yeah, that's like a

826
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 2: she had a gender reveal party. What is she talking about?

827
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 2: You keeping secrets?

828
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: Finally snapped and told her what she did was appalling

829
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: and deeply troubling. I told her that she has ruined

830
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: every major moment in my pregnancy, and I cannot believe

831
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 1: that she is proud of it. I told her she

832
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 1: should be ashamed of herself and that I'm embarrassed for her.

833
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: I told her at this point, I won't be allowing

834
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 1: my daughter to call her aunt because she doesn't deserve it.

835
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,359
Speaker 1: She had a meltdown after this and accused me of

836
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: trying to get her to miscarar.

837
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, Oh my gosh, oh my god.

838
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 1: Anything you say, she's going to accuse you.

839
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 2: You turn everyone against me. Yeah.

840
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 1: Like during the things, she's like, hey, congratulations on.

841
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: Your news, and then she was like a yeah, calm down, girl.

842
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 3: She didn't even do anything during that congratulations. And then

843
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 3: the sister in law wasn't even happy that she was

844
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:52,720
Speaker 3: having a boy.

845
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, come on, girl, this was weird.

846
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: My brother and other family members try to jump in

847
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: to defend her, but I made it clear that I

848
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: will remove them from my life as well if they

849
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 1: continue to defend her. They have since shut their mouths

850
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: and began to agree with me. Sister in law gave

851
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: me a half hearted apology and said that we need

852
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,799
Speaker 1: to make up for the sake of the kids. I

853
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: do want to be a part of my new baby

854
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 1: nephew's life, so I feel a bit stuck in this situation.

855
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 1: I agreed to just let it go and try to

856
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: move on. Stop letting it go, Yeah, I mean, you

857
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 1: just gotta.

858
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 2: Well, the thing is that I feel like sister in

859
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 2: law was only acting like this because everyone was not

860
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 2: on her side this time.

861
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's weird. I made it clear to her

862
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: and everyone else that they are on very thin ice.

863
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: Since everyone knows that I'm gonna have a girl, I

864
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 1: refuse to tell anyone the name that I intend to

865
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: give to my daughter. Oh oh, good luck on that one.

866
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 1: I want to at least keep that part for me

867
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:50,399
Speaker 1: to announce when I have my kid. I haven't even

868
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 1: really written it down because I fear someone will find out.

869
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 1: My sister in law has asked me many times, but

870
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: I just tell her I haven't decided yet.

871
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 2: She'd name her son that just to get it back

872
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 2: at you.

873
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 1: Her name is Jesebel.

874
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 2: It's a strong, strong name, strong name.

875
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: This last week she started sending me girl names that

876
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 1: she's calling DIBs on.

877
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 2: She's like this one, this month, this one, this month.

878
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 2: There's a hundred of them. You can't do any of them.

879
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 1: I remind her she's having a boy. She just seems

880
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: to be in denial about the fact. She likes to

881
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: say that we won't really know the genders for certain.

882
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 2: So the babies are born, girl, girl, you're not doctor

883
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 2: pregnant woman radiologists.

884
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: Then you're wrong, ye that anything?

885
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:37,959
Speaker 2: No, that's not a boy. No, no, it's not a boy.

886
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 4: Yeah.

887
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: I remember finding out my brothers were going to be brothers.

888
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 2: That one nice.

889
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like you see that there.

890
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:44,800
Speaker 2: I've never had that moment.

891
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: It's a boy. Peeps out, peeps out. They definitely have

892
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 1: their peep's out. Yesterday she sent me the name that

893
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: I will be naming my daughter. What huh? Name is

894
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: my name's grandmother's name, and I have wanted to use

895
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: that name since I will as a teenager.

896
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 2: No, don't don't tell her anything. Don't you can't. No reaction, Yeah,

897
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 2: no reaction.

898
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 1: I will be changing my mind about naming my daughter

899
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 1: this name. I'll be announcing it once she was born.

900
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: I don't care if this starts of war. This will

901
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 1: be the hill that I'm willing to die on.

902
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 2: Update four Yeah, I mean, who cares? She says, Oh

903
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:20,760
Speaker 2: my god, she's still my name, and be like, Nope,

904
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 2: had this name chosen since I was ten. You just

905
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 2: happen to say like fifty different names that I couldn't use.

906
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 2: You're having a boy, So.

907
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 1: You know what I love is if the Great grandmother's

908
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 1: name is Sue. Yeah, she names the boy Sue. Boy

909
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: names su.

910
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 2: I like that song.

911
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: It's a great song, great song. Yep, it's about how

912
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: masculine men are. Sure, Yeah, Johnny cash Long, you're gonna

913
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 1: like fight me on or something. Well, I mean it's

914
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: more about like here she goes again.

915
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it's just a little simplified hmm.

916
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: Okay. Update four. My little girl is finally here and

917
00:40:55,760 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: it's doing very well. We love baby babies. I don't

918
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 1: want to Maybe you got a cool down baby fever?

919
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 2: Cool that might be fever. Put a simmer on it.

920
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 1: She's so beautiful and more amazing than anything that I

921
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: could have ever imagined. She's a handful already and I'm

922
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: loving every second of it. I'm so happy for her.

923
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: You'll be happy to know that I did not allow

924
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,439
Speaker 1: my sister in law to bully me to picking another name.

925
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: My daughter is named after my great grandmother and it

926
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 1: fits her perfectly. I announced my daughter's birth and her

927
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,800
Speaker 1: name in a message to my family while I was

928
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: in the hospital. My sister in law wasn't happy about

929
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: my name choice. She was even angrier when she heard

930
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: the nickname I chose for my daughter. It was a

931
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: shortened version of her name that was also listed on

932
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: sister in law's digital lord. She posted on social media

933
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:54,160
Speaker 1: about my daughter's birth. In the announcement, she was referring

934
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 1: to my baby by a different name, and.

935
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 2: Then I'd say, hey, you're not seeing my baby ever. Bye.

936
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 1: She says that it's her own special nickname for my daughter.

937
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 1: Think something like if Verna was Grace and she decided

938
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,320
Speaker 1: it's a nickname, or something like Gilly.

939
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 2: No, you actually don't get to have a special nickname

940
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 2: for my daughter because you're not going to see her.

941
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,359
Speaker 1: It's very weird and doesn't even resemble my child's name

942
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: at all. I told her immediately to stop and to

943
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 1: call my daughter by her proper name or the nickname

944
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 1: that I chose. I knew she was only doing it

945
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: to bother me, and that getting upset would only just

946
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 1: encourage her more. She stopped for a short time, but

947
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 1: never removed her social media post. I had my family

948
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: over to meet the baby a week after I came

949
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,720
Speaker 1: home from the hospital. That's when sister in law started

950
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: up again with her games. She purchased a bear from

951
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: my daughter with Gilly in thro after opening that stupid bear,

952
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: my family members laughed and told me to stop being

953
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 1: so controlling. They told me to get over it, and

954
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 1: that sister in law's nickname is cute. Now they two

955
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: started using the gilly name.

956
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 2: Oh man, I'd be piased, because you can't get rid

957
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: of a nickname.

958
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: Once it, I felt like I couldn't even control my

959
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 1: own baby, and they thought I should just be okay

960
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 1: with it. I realized then that none of them were

961
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 1: ever going to change how they treat me. I saw

962
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: that what I was allowing to happen was just as

963
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: bad as what they were doing. I was allowing myself

964
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: to be belittled, hurt, and used at time and time again.

965
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 1: The family members who did nothing are just as bad

966
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 1: in my opinion, because they never even tried to defend me.

967
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: I put up with a lot from family in the past.

968
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 1: I have had to get over so many past issues

969
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: and pain I pushed past it in the name of

970
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,879
Speaker 1: my family. Now this was all happening again. This time

971
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 1: it was in front of my daughter. What if they

972
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 1: started treating my daughter the same way when she's older.

973
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 1: I threw the bear in the garbage in front of

974
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,319
Speaker 1: them and told them to all leave my house. They

975
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: are all just as bad as sister in law in

976
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: my opinion. I couldn't bring myself to yeller scream, but

977
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: stood firm. I removed my daughter from my mother's arm

978
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:57,839
Speaker 1: and showed them all the door. There was a lot

979
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 1: of name calling, but I stood my ground. I haven't

980
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 1: spoke to them, since they haven't even tried to contact me.

981
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,479
Speaker 1: I intend to write a letter or something to tell

982
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 1: them to say everything I feel, or something to them

983
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:11,919
Speaker 1: to say everything I feel. I feel like I need

984
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: that closure. I intend to go no contact with all

985
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: of them from now on. I've spoken to my boss

986
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 1: and there is an opportunity for me to work how East,

987
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 1: to work in a new branch of the company. I

988
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:24,880
Speaker 1: intend to accept the new role and move during my

989
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: maternity leave. My plans are not yet final, but I

990
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: believe that a fresh start in a new place could

991
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: be just the thing I need. I need to do

992
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,360
Speaker 1: what is best for myself and for my daughter, regardless

993
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 1: of family or anything. I'm extremely happy right now. My

994
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 1: daughter is the greatest little baby imaginable, and I'm so

995
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: overjoyed to be her mother. And we got another.

996
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 2: Oh I've read that title girl. Come on, so she's

997
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 2: kind of gone no contact.

998
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 1: She's gone no contact, she's leaving, she's getting out of

999
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 1: the state. Yeah, how is his sister in law having

1000
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: so much influence over oh pe?

1001
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 2: Truly? Like how does she get he getting away with this?

1002
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 2: And honestly like, yeah, I agree after the won't call

1003
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 2: your baby by your baby's name because there are so

1004
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 2: many nicknames that you know, like my parents call me

1005
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 2: Fia and stuff. But if like one of my family

1006
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 2: members just was like hein't Mary and my parents were like,

1007
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 2: that's not her name, and they were like, oh, but

1008
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: it's a cute nickname Mary, I'd be like, Okay, you

1009
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 2: can't be fround my kid if you're not going to

1010
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 2: call her. And then I walloped him and I and

1011
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:29,760
Speaker 2: I gave him the old one too. Wow.

1012
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 1: I love that. Like in three episodes ago, you said

1013
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:33,839
Speaker 1: violence is not the answer, and you're doing this.

1014
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: I meant that metaphorically.

1015
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:43,839
Speaker 1: See how fast she was on that I could block that.

1016
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 1: I I feel like this is an unsafe environment for

1017
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 1: me to work here.

1018
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 2: N they're gone, no one will save you name. Oh man,

1019
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 2: looks we got an update.

1020
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey it's Sam. We're gonna get back to the stories.

1021
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 2: But here's even it's bad for our sponsors.

1022
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 1: Up day five. I was hoping the last time I

1023
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: posted it would be my final time, but sadly I'm

1024
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 1: back and looking for advice again.

1025
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 2: Oh girl, what's.

1026
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: Recently? My brother was able to get into contact with

1027
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 1: me by calling from a different phone. Oh oh, he said,

1028
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 1: my sister in law had experienced some complications and was

1029
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 1: forced to deliver early than expected. My nephew is experiencing

1030
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: some health issues due to being a PREMI and some

1031
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: other concerns. He's currently in the ICU at the hospital.

1032
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 2: Oh that's yeah, that's not good.

1033
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: So I hate that this has happened, and it feels

1034
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: like a little bit of calm up for the system

1035
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: law that is being sadly unjustified on this little baby.

1036
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 2: Well, the thing is like, it's awful, and I don't

1037
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 2: wish that on anyone. But she's got to use this

1038
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 2: to pull Op back into all their nonsense, that's the thing.

1039
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:50,920
Speaker 3: Somehow she's gonna blame Opp.

1040
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like your fo.

1041
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 1: The family's gonna believe it somehow. How does she have

1042
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:57,320
Speaker 1: so much mind control over it? Everyone?

1043
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: No, man, she gets away with everything, Sophia, what I

1044
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 2: just said, she gets away with everything? What are you doing?

1045
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 1: Okay, anyway, I can't help it, Okay, been sitting at

1046
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: the chair for a while, Okay, okay. My sister in

1047
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: law left my brother shortly after the birth of my nephew.

1048
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:18,880
Speaker 1: She never returned home after being released from the hospital.

1049
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: My brother tells me my sister in law said she

1050
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 1: didn't want to be my nephew's mother and this was

1051
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:26,799
Speaker 1: all too much for her, and he has not heard

1052
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: from her since.

1053
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 2: Girl's got big, like, uh, you know, problems. No, what's

1054
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 2: the word. I'm thinking postpartum? Yeah, postpartum.

1055
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 1: She's had something this whole time.

1056
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 2: I think that she's well, I think she's a little

1057
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 2: bit crazy, but I also think that she has postpartum maybe.

1058
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 1: But I think there's been something this whole time that

1059
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: is making her do this.

1060
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:48,919
Speaker 2: I think she got that PbD because I mean, well,

1061
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 2: let's think back. Originally they didn't want kids, and then

1062
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 2: opia the kid, and she probably thought, oh, well, a

1063
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: peace having it, so I want to do what a

1064
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 2: piece having and then she didn't think about it.

1065
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:01,319
Speaker 3: I think she just likes the attention she got from

1066
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 3: the original thing.

1067
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 2: And she's gone out of control.

1068
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 3: She was like, Okay, maybe it's gonna be okay, like

1069
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 3: if it's a girl, and then it's not.

1070
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 2: And then she had the boy. Yeah, I mean she

1071
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 2: had a pretty insane reaction to having a boy, which

1072
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 2: is super.

1073
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 3: Concerned and then maybe I mean it also was probably

1074
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 3: you know, stress of what's happening too with him being premiuto.

1075
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: But yeah, a lot of stuff going on.

1076
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, my brother is now calling me and begging for help.

1077
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 1: My other family members are supporting but not actually helping

1078
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: him in any way that matters. They all seem to

1079
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: think it's a wonderful idea that I just take the

1080
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:31,520
Speaker 1: baby to some already almonds turn.

1081
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 2: They just want you to take his baby too. Wow.

1082
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,359
Speaker 1: I really do not know how to even process this all,

1083
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 1: or how they can even ask me of this. After

1084
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: everything that's happened, I'm torn between unimaginable anger, also concerned

1085
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: for my nephew. Sorry to break down on her, but

1086
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: I'm scared and don't know what to do.

1087
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 2: What the heck did I just read That's a crazy turn?

1088
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 2: What a crazy turn?

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Speaker 1: This is literally soap opera.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Opie, I think my advice for you is one. Obviously,

1091
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 2: don't take the kid. No, keep your distance with your

1092
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 2: entire family.

1093
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe maybe you.

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Speaker 2: Could have a conversation with your brother and say like, hey,

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Speaker 2: if you if you need advice, YadA, YadA, here's what

1096
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 2: I went through. This is what you could do. Maybe that,

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00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 2: But like, keep your distance because this family's gonna keep

1098
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 2: roping you in, and like you need to think about

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Speaker 2: you and your daughter, right because it's it's like she's

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Speaker 2: so mom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's a single mom too, So it's like, well, bro,

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry that you might have to be a single dad,

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Speaker 3: but like.

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Speaker 2: But I'm doing the reason to give up a kids

1105
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 2: and like I'm not the one to take the kid in. Yeah,

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00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: like I'm having to you guys made me do all

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00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:43,360
Speaker 2: of this alone. None of you have ever supported me.

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00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:48,759
Speaker 1: It's so weird, honestly. Yeah, OPI you have to get

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00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: cameras at your house. Yeah, you're gonna have to make time,

1110
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Speaker 1: you know, call someone because I feel like the system

1111
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: law is gonna show up at your house one rainy

1112
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Speaker 1: night with something in her hand, just staring at you

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Speaker 1: crazily through the screen door.

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Speaker 2: Work take my baby. Yeah, Lisa Maurice's weight I'm confused.

1115
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Speaker 2: Her brother wants her to take his kid and raise him. Yeah, well,

1116
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Speaker 2: I think does no, I think the brother. I think

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Speaker 2: the way that it sounded is that the brother wants help,

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Speaker 2: and the rest of the family wants o P to

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Speaker 2: just take his kid.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what the brother also wants to I

1121
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Speaker 1: don't know.

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Speaker 2: It sounded like the brother was like, I need help.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do, Like I need help.

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Speaker 1: I can't take care of you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe he also wants that.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, hikes, dude, op, your family's wild and I

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Speaker 1: feel bad for you, your baby nephew, yeah, and your

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Speaker 1: other little nephew, all your little nephews nephews. Oh man.

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