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Speaker 1: rocket and rolling. These are the shows we have coming up.

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Speaker 1: April sixteenth is Albuquerque. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona. April

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Speaker 1: twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth is

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Speaker 1: May first, Charlotte, North Carolina. May second is Durham, North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: May sixth in Los Angeles at the Sabae Theater for

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Speaker 1: Netflix as a joke. April fifteenth, I will be in Saratoga.

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Speaker 1: April sixteenth Monterey, April seventeenth Modesto. I will be in

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Speaker 1: port Chester on June fourth. June fifth, I will be

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Speaker 1: in Boston, Massachusetts. June twelfth, I will be in Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 1: And June thirteenth, I will be in Seattle, Washington. June

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Speaker 1: twenty seventh is going to be Hyanna's, Massachusetts. August sixth

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Speaker 1: is red Bank, New Jersey. August seventh, I'm coming home

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Speaker 1: to Montclair, New Jersey. August fifteenth is Calgary, Alberta, Canada.

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Speaker 1: September eighteenth Santa Barbra September nineteenth, San Diego September twenty fifth.

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Speaker 1: I will be at the Beacon in New York City

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Speaker 1: September twenty sixth. I will be in Philadelphia September twenty seventh,

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Speaker 1: New Haven, Connecticut. October second, Atlanta, Georgia, October third, Baltimore, Maryland,

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Speaker 1: October fourth, Saginaw, Michigan, October ninth, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, October tenth, Toronto, Canada,

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Speaker 1: October sixteenth. I'm coming to Boise, Idaho, October seventeenth, Spokane, Washington,

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Speaker 1: November seventh. I will be in San Francisco and November thirteenth,

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Speaker 1: Salt Lake City November twentieth, Austin November twenty first, Houston, Texas,

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Speaker 1: November twenty second, Irving, Texas.

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Speaker 1: I am adding a second show in Denver for those

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Speaker 1: of you who can't get tickets to the first one.

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Speaker 1: And on December sixth, I will be coming to Vancouver, Canada. Okay,

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Speaker 1: those are all my dates for the High Mighty Door.

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Speaker 1: Go to Chelseahandler dot com for tickets. Hi Catherine, Hi, Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 1: I was just reading on my phone that there is

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Speaker 1: a new island in Finland that is designated for women only,

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Speaker 1: women only because they don't want to be looked at

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Speaker 1: or glocked up by men, and that men are I

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Speaker 1: just was in Finland and I have to say that

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Speaker 1: it was very you could feel the equality.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what that means, but more like everyone

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Speaker 1: But on the other side of that, there's always this

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Speaker 1: backlash that men think, oh, you're discriminating against us. It's like, hello,

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Speaker 1: there have been men's clubs and golf club sure since

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Speaker 1: women are allowed to do that. Men are allowed to

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Speaker 1: Okay, our guests today, you know from Netflix's Man on

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Speaker 1: the Inside and as the waitress from It's Always Sunny

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Speaker 1: in Philadelphia, please welcome Mary Elizabeth Ellis. Okay, we're here

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Speaker 1: with Mary Elizabeth Ellis. And I know that I can

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Speaker 1: only call you Mary Elizabeth. You go by Mary Elizabeth.

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Speaker 3: I go by no Mary, go by Emmy, Emmy. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because people get concerned about how long the day is

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Speaker 2: Did you grow up going by Mary Elizabeth?

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Speaker 3: I got called Mary E. I grew up in Mississippi,

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Speaker 2: What was Mississippi? What was going on in Mississippi when you.

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Speaker 3: Were growing I was well, I wasn't aware of it

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Speaker 3: Yeah? My family still? So there's a we were just

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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, you're Mary Elizabeth and this is Catherine.

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Speaker 3: I am Catherine Elizabeth. Hey, Catherine Elizabeth. But you don't

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Speaker 1: I like the fact that everyone and it's Always Sonny

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Speaker 3: Well, Charlie and I were together before the show. We

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Speaker 2: Ted together I think are one of the cutest couples.

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Speaker 3: Charlie I have a kid together and married. I would

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Speaker 2: So, okay, back to you and your husband.

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Speaker 1: You've been married for twenty years and I heard I've

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Speaker 3: Oh so good. Did you play Jaws too? Do you

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Speaker 2: But I didn't know Jaws was a game.

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Speaker 2: It would be hard to maneuver as a shark, though,

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Speaker 3: No, you're killing the sharks. Oh you're killing You're the

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Speaker 2: Yeah. What do you think about sharks? Are you scared

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Speaker 1: Excuse that people say, like they don't really like humans,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, that doesn't have any impact on what the

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Speaker 1: Yes, we're still dying because they're attacking us, Like they

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Speaker 1: I get into like I could shake or like shock

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Speaker 3: I'm a huge snake fan. I love like like if

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Speaker 3: Not afraid. Yeah you're not afraid. I'm afraid of spiders though,

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Speaker 3: Well, my mom is crazy afraid of snakes, so maybe

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Speaker 2: Know, and you can handle them and pick them up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Love. They feel so amazing, Like you think they're

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Speaker 1: The motion within which they move and slither is like

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Speaker 3: Would you go there on tour?

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Speaker 1: I just really hate what that state represents. It's another

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is hard. I grew up going to Florida.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like I've been to dustin Florida. But

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Speaker 3: It's on the Gulf of America.

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Speaker 6: It's on the maps now, we were flying I hear

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Speaker 4: I just wanted to cry. It's on the map.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's on the golf we'll call it side.

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Speaker 2: Well, you can enjoy that and you can enjoy your

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it might be coming for you.

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Speaker 2: Do you ever do that? Do you ever make like

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Speaker 2: What surprises you about you as a mother.

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's a really good question. I think it has

441
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Speaker 3: to do more maybe with my relationship, like with Charlie

442
00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,919
Speaker 3: as a parent as well. And he sort of is

443
00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:16,960
Speaker 3: like the one where like our son recently got everyone

444
00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,320
Speaker 3: has big, like crazy curly hair right now, but our

445
00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,520
Speaker 3: son is really into jiu jitsu. So our son got

446
00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:23,520
Speaker 3: his head shaved and it can like it was getting

447
00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:27,160
Speaker 3: pinned when he was trying to spar whatever they do,

448
00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:31,240
Speaker 3: and he got it buzzed, and he got it buzzed

449
00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:34,560
Speaker 3: way too short, and he was like, I'm like bald,

450
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Speaker 3: Like this isn't a buzz this is like I'm bald.

451
00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,320
Speaker 3: And he was like, please don't make me, Please don't

452
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Speaker 3: make me go to school tomorrow. And my take is like, and.

453
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Speaker 2: Boys haircuts are so important right now. Like they have

454
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Speaker 2: that thing where they all were like when was it

455
00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:53,920
Speaker 2: they're getting like perms? Yeah, yeah, and then.

456
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Speaker 1: They all have this thing where they throw their hair

457
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Speaker 1: up like like shake it. No, it just looks crazy,

458
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,720
Speaker 1: but they all have to have that haircut. And then yeah,

459
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,400
Speaker 1: all my friends who have teenage boys, it's a serious situation.

460
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but really the first time I've heard a story

461
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Speaker 2: like this.

462
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,639
Speaker 3: Yeah. So Russell was like, I'm going to do something

463
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Speaker 3: different because I want it for like myself, which is great.

464
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:17,480
Speaker 3: I'm like I love that autonomy doing what works for you.

465
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Speaker 3: And then it got just like like skin head shaved,

466
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Speaker 3: you know, and he was like, I cannot go to

467
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Speaker 3: school today like this, and I was like, I don't know,

468
00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,119
Speaker 3: like suck it up. Like if it's fucking hard to

469
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Speaker 3: be a person, sometimes you know, and Charlie was like,

470
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Speaker 3: please don't make him go to school, and then I

471
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:36,480
Speaker 3: was like, oh, I need to soften, Like I am

472
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:39,919
Speaker 3: a little bit more of the like no buck up, like,

473
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Speaker 3: but that's how I am with myself, you know, and

474
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Speaker 3: Charlie's better. I think it sometimes just being like it's okay,

475
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Speaker 3: okay to miss a day of school.

476
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Speaker 2: And so did you end up letting him stay home? Yeah, yeah,

477
00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 2: which is fine.

478
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 3: Yeah.

479
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Speaker 1: I think it's interesting the way that every like people parent.

480
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Speaker 1: And now I don't mean just people who have kids,

481
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Speaker 1: because obviously there's plenty of people out there who are

482
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Speaker 1: a parenting role in other people's lives. But like, the

483
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 1: things you would do for yourself are different than the

484
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 1: things that the Sanders you set for others, you know,

485
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Speaker 1: just like you would tolerate certain behaviors and say relationships

486
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Speaker 1: romantic relationships that you would never tolerate for like your

487
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Speaker 1: sister or your cousin or your best friend.

488
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Speaker 2: You know, Like sometimes we treat ourselves so harshly. It's

489
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 2: not equal to the way that we want other people

490
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Speaker 2: to go through the world.

491
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Speaker 3: Yes, I mean I do let him speak to me

492
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Speaker 3: in ways that like if anyone else spoke to me

493
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Speaker 3: in that way. And sometimes he will say something to

494
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Speaker 3: me and I will look at Charlie like and he's like,

495
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Speaker 3: let it go, let it go.

496
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Speaker 6: And I'm like, especially growing up in the South, it's like,

497
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Speaker 6: you respect your elders, you don't talk to adults in

498
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Speaker 6: a certain way.

499
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Speaker 3: Smacked, you know. And I'm like, I don't smack him,

500
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,720
Speaker 3: So like, I don't know how to parent this right now.

501
00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 3: And Charlie's just really good at being like it's just

502
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 3: like fucking raging hormones. Just let it go. He'll move

503
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:55,920
Speaker 3: through it. And I'm like, but well, I because guess

504
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,639
Speaker 3: who else has raging hormones right now?

505
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Speaker 2: So being a woman right now, it's in of itself

506
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 2: a raging hormone.

507
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:05,119
Speaker 3: It is.

508
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter what age you are.

509
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Speaker 1: It is a raging hormone to be a woman in

510
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,479
Speaker 1: this world watching everything go by. It just like it

511
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,919
Speaker 1: feels like we should be doing something, but nobody receives

512
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:15,520
Speaker 1: to know exactly what we should be doing.

513
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Speaker 3: I know, but I do like how I feel like

514
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 3: I came up in a time, Like I moved out

515
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Speaker 3: to la in two thousand and.

516
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Speaker 2: One from New York, so.

517
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Speaker 3: I went to Mississippi to school in Texas because my

518
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 3: parents told me I how to stay below the Mason

519
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 3: Dixon loon and I'll let you stat of Texas if

520
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 3: I wanted help with college. So I wanted to study acting.

521
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 3: So I went to Southern Methodist University, which had like

522
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,439
Speaker 3: a good acting program, and then I got cast in

523
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Speaker 3: a play right out of college. So I moved to

524
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Speaker 3: Santa Maria, California and did plays there and insolving.

525
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Speaker 2: Oh you know the Swedish town Yeah.

526
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Speaker 3: So I was doing yeah, or Danish because they had

527
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Speaker 3: Danishes or whatever clogs.

528
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Oh okay, I thought it was Swedish.

529
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Speaker 3: Good to know. I mean, I don't know who knows.

530
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Speaker 2: They could have huge rivalry, the Suite's and the.

531
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Speaker 3: Danes of their like teeny tiny towns in California and

532
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 3: like central California. Yeah, And I was talking about coming

533
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 3: up as a woman though, like in that time and

534
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: the way that like we loved watching like Paris Hilton

535
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 3: and Nicole Richie like burn their lives to the ground

536
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:22,440
Speaker 3: on reality television and Anna Nicole Smith and like this

537
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,119
Speaker 3: is what we were watching, and we just like loved

538
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Speaker 3: watching these women like destroy themselves for us. You know,

539
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 3: and it was very not like we're pulling each other

540
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 3: up and we're supporting each other, like there's only one

541
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Speaker 3: place at the table, bitch, so get the fuck out

542
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 3: of my way. Yes, and I do feel that there's

543
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Speaker 3: been a shift in that. And I don't think it's

544
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Speaker 3: just because we're getting older and we realize that there's

545
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Speaker 3: more space. I think women now, young women too, and

546
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 3: girls are like, there's as much space for us as

547
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Speaker 3: anyone else, and if there's not, we'll build our own table.

548
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Speaker 1: As they say, it's been like this for so long,

549
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Speaker 1: But why are we all finding out about it at

550
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Speaker 1: the It feels like it's there's like a cascade of

551
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: not like you know what I mean that we're all

552
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: finding out about it at the same time. But this

553
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:10,120
Speaker 1: has been happening for eons and hundreds of years, yet

554
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 1: this feels like a turning point. It's like a dump

555
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 1: of information where women can't look away, and women have

556
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: finally looked at each other and been like, we're safe together.

557
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 2: We're safer together than we are apart.

558
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 1: And this whole divisiveness what you're talking about, there's only

559
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Speaker 1: room for one person at the table.

560
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Speaker 2: I could totally relate to that as a.

561
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Speaker 1: Stand up comedian coming up like twenty five years ago

562
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 1: in comedy, it was like, there was never two girls.

563
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:34,919
Speaker 1: There's always one girl, you know, And I was just

564
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:36,480
Speaker 1: like what you know, and women were out to get

565
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 1: other women. And there's definitely has been a shift because

566
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: there's been an understanding now that like men are not trustworthy.

567
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Speaker 1: Obviously not all men. I have to say this all

568
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Speaker 1: the time because they're so sensitive, but you know, women

569
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 1: are now understanding that the tide rises together, like it's

570
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 1: better for us to stick together. So I wonder what

571
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: that timing is, you know, like, what was the event

572
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 1: that kind of like broke the damn of this knowledge?

573
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: Or is this every generation? And is it you get

574
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 1: to a certain age and you realize, oh god, we've

575
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 1: been fed all this garbage.

576
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Speaker 2: You know. Is it an age thing or is it

577
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 2: something that's actually happening right now?

578
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 3: Right? Yeah? I mean the Me Too movement was such

579
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 3: a big like cultural.

580
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then the repercussion of that was overturning Roe v.

581
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: Wade, Right, that was their answer to that, Like you

582
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 1: want to bitch and moan about being sexually assaulted, then

583
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 1: we're going to take away your rights yep, so I

584
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 1: guess we're seeing it in real time.

585
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 2: I feel like our generator, how old are you.

586
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 3: I'm forty six, if you don't mind my ask, Now.

587
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 2: I'm fifty one. So I just feel like in our generation,

588
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 2: we've been through so much and it's not like, you know,

589
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Speaker 2: I don't have a wonderful life and you have a

590
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 2: wonderful life, and you have a wonderful life. But it's

591
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 2: just been so much of like, oh, it was very

592
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 2: idyllic being young and unknowledgeable. It was kind of nice

593
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Speaker 2: to not know about all of this.

594
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Speaker 1: And then with the technology age, you know, we went

595
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Speaker 1: from like you know, we were there when there was

596
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Speaker 1: no compute and they're a no cell phone, right, I

597
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 1: have my cell phone number from when I was nineteen

598
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Speaker 1: years old.

599
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 2: I have the same number. That's why I'm cell phone. Yeah, happened.

600
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 2: And then now we're dealing with we're at the outset

601
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 2: of AI and you're like, we have to deal with

602
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 2: another whole major shift. So it's a lot for us.

603
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Speaker 1: And I wonder if every generation feels this way, because

604
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Speaker 1: certainly women in the fifties and sixties, if they were

605
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 1: as frustrated, well, the fifties, more forties and fifties. If

606
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: they were as frustrated as we are, they surely didn't

607
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 1: tell anybody about it or get organized yeah about it?

608
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, I guess there's a question of

609
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 3: like safety and also like how it like the patriarchal

610
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 3: ideas like infuse themselves into your own brains, so you

611
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 3: can't even see what's going on when you're so inside

612
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 3: of the system, you know. But my grandmother is ninety

613
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 3: nine years old. She lives in Louisianah. And when I

614
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 3: do get overwhelmed with like no one's ever had it

615
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 3: as bad as me, I'm like, oh, right, the depression

616
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 3: that was bad. That was bad, you know, going to

617
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,959
Speaker 3: war and when people were like actually having to go

618
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 3: to war. And it's ue to like pull back and

619
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 3: get a little bit of perspective and be like, there

620
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 3: have always been issues, but maybe we just know about

621
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 3: them more now because everyone has their own little news

622
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 3: broadcasting system in their pocket telling you the worst things

623
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 3: that are happening at every moment all the time.

624
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 2: Although so there's also so much more history and knowledge

625
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 2: available to right because of the technology, and we have

626
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 2: the context, and it's not like.

627
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Speaker 1: No, I don't want to imply that there weren't women

628
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 1: doing things. Of course there were. I mean there was

629
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Speaker 1: Glorious cynom and before her, obviously the list can go

630
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: on and on. So I'm there was obviously activists. But

631
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 1: I guess now we're just we have so much information

632
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 1: about all the things that weren't told being told, and

633
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 1: people are communicating, and I think that's actually going to

634
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 1: end up, in the long run being such a great thing,

635
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,360
Speaker 1: being able to have that kind of level of communication,

636
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Because it's even though there's

637
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: so much false information, it's it's hard to be lied

638
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: to when you have access to the truth.

639
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 2: I know how to get to the truth.

640
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 6: And media literacy to like not to check for the

641
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 6: truth when you see.

642
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: Something, to know that when a whale is jumping onto

643
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 1: a sailboat that that's not real.

644
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 3: Like is it not real? Whales are eating people and

645
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 3: then spitting them out, Like I don't know what whales

646
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 3: are doing. They're like sam whales.

647
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 2: Did you ever read Moby Dick.

648
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 3: I don't think I actually ever read.

649
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 2: Okay, when I read Moby Dick, I was very young.

650
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,239
Speaker 2: When I read it. My dad forced me to read it,

651
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 2: and I the whole time, I was like, if whales

652
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 2: are so smart, why aren't they fucking getting pissed off?

653
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 2: And all these people a harpooning them. These guys are

654
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 2: in this little bar.

655
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: Yes, well I was going to get to them in

656
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: these little narrow boats, okay, And like the turn of

657
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Speaker 1: the century or the late eighteen hundreds, they're in these

658
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: little narrow boats and they're going out with harpoons literally

659
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 1: to get the oil from the whales, harpooning them.

660
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 2: And I'm like, all.

661
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: The whales have to do is pop up, you know

662
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 1: what I mean and tip them all over, and then

663
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 1: they're fucked and they don't do that.

664
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: They don't do that.

665
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 1: They do, but now one hundred years later, now they're

666
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 1: getting pissed off and now they're like acting, So what's

667
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: that do you think?

668
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 6: I mean, there is a lot of evidence that animals

669
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 6: can communicate with their young and even like tell them.

670
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 3: Stories, Like crows will do this.

671
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 6: I believe that, yeah, someone will, like there's this documentary work.

672
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 6: I puts on like a weird mask and he's like

673
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 6: mean to the crows and then goes back several generations

674
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 6: later and like the baby crows that were you know,

675
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 6: born after this knew that this person in this mask

676
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 6: was a bad person, like they communicate, like they described

677
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 6: this person to their young and like they knew that

678
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 6: this was a bad person.

679
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 3: They'll hold a grudge. Yeah, myles are even smarter. My

680
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 3: dog barks that crows in our backyard and I'm like,

681
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 3: you don't want to do that, buddy. You don't want

682
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 3: to piss off a crow.

683
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 6: You could be training them to bring you money or

684
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 6: so I'm screaming at them.

685
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're in therapy because we're therapists. Yeah, people

686
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: call in and there's real people.

687
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 6: Okay, you're ready for advice, advice We need our headphones yet,

688
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 6: not quite yet, because we're going to do a quick

689
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 6: a first. So Marcia says, my best friend is.

690
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 4: Overly cautious with her new baby.

691
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 6: The baby's eight months old, and they held her constantly

692
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 6: for the first seven months of her life, afraid if

693
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 6: they didn't, she'd need a helmet. Like other than naps,

694
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 6: they hold her. Once she called me, this is the friend.

695
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 6: She once called me to hold the baby for fifteen

696
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 6: minutes while she took a work call, so she didn't

697
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 6: put the baby down. They're also not taking her out

698
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 6: of the house and have made plans with us multiple

699
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 6: times and canceled at the last minute because they're afraid

700
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 6: of her getting a cold.

701
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 3: Can I tell them they're being too extra? Marcia Marcia,

702
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 3: mar Marcia, you just have to every time, right, I mean,

703
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 3: I'm happy to Yeah.

704
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 2: I think as a parent, you should go first.

705
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 3: I so I had like pretty gnarly postpartum depression, and

706
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,239
Speaker 3: I didn't realize that that's what it was while it

707
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 3: was happening. Actually, I guess as far as postpartum goes,

708
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 3: mine wasn't that narly. But I I didn't want to

709
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 3: leave the I didn't want anyone to look at my baby.

710
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 3: I didn't want anyone to touch my baby. I didn't

711
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 3: want to leave the house. I felt like every time

712
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 3: I stood up, I was going to like slip in

713
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 3: breast milk and drop them and his head was going

714
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 3: to explode like a watermelon. Like these were the things.

715
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: So I understand how the friend is feeling, and also

716
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 3: having a fourteen year old. Now there comes a certain

717
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 3: point where like you have to realize that you've got

718
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 3: to just let go a little and let this person

719
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: become their own person, right, that, like, you can't be

720
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 3: in control of whether they're going to get a cold

721
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 3: or not for the rest of their lives, and and

722
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 3: you won't be able to make their decisions for them forever.

723
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: So I mean, I think I think it's maybe a

724
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 3: little extra.

725
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 1: But do you what's your Like, Yes, it's definitely extra,

726
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: but what's your opinion on telling another parent about that?

727
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 6: I feel like, especially now, it's like so taboo to

728
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 6: say anything to anyone about.

729
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 2: Well is it taboo?

730
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 3: Though?

731
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 4: I mean, it's just frowned upon I should say, is it?

732
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 5: Yeah?

733
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: I mean, because it's kind of individual, like if you're

734
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 1: willing to give somebody advice or if you think you're

735
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 1: just gonna give out unsolicited advice, it's kind of like

736
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: what's your vibe in the friendship? Like, yeah, it's definitely extra,

737
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 1: it sounds ridiculous, but is it your place?

738
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 3: Right?

739
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: And also with all the post part of stuff, Like

740
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: I was gonna say postpartum shit, I'm like, don't say that.

741
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: With all the postpartum me like everyone, I mean, it's

742
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 1: so much more common than anybody ever knew about, because

743
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 1: once again, it's a woman's issue that nobody was discussing

744
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: freely because there was shame around it and people felt

745
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: like they were failing at doing something, which is being

746
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: a mother, and nobody wants to talk about that because

747
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with failing. It has to

748
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: do with a hormonal imbalance and all the other things

749
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 1: that come with that. So like, what's the point. You

750
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: know they're gonna figure it out at some point that

751
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: that that's too much, yeah, or not necessary, or they

752
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 1: won't figure it out, and you're just gonna have to tolerate it.

753
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: But I think also, I think being a really good

754
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: friend is kind of tolerating people when they're at their lowest.

755
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 3: But maybe also just being like, hey, I couldn't help,

756
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 3: but notice that, like you seem it seems scary to

757
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: you to leave the house with the baby if I

758
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 3: went with you somewhere, Like can I go with you

759
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 3: to like a place? Because that's what I had a

760
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 3: doula who came after to help and a post part

761
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 3: of doula, and she was like, we're going to a

762
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 3: restaurant today and I was like, but what if somebody

763
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 3: wants to look at my baby? She's like, they can

764
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 3: look at your baby. I'm like, but then what if

765
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 3: they want to touch him. She's like, you're allowed to

766
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 3: say no, you can't. You can't touch my baby. It's

767
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 3: your he's your baby, you know. So maybe the friend

768
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 3: could offer, like if I just am noticing that it's

769
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 3: hard for you to get out, if I went with you,

770
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 3: is that something that you would be interested in. I

771
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 3: like that. I'm noticing language like that.

772
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 2: Feels like very like that. I think it feels very gentle.

773
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 2: By the way, look how nice your legs look in

774
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 2: the camera saying this is a little off topic, but

775
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 2: you went from postpart I'm fourteen years later. Look at

776
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: you now?

777
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 3: She can't stop.

778
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 6: Well, because you're kickboxing right at doing that all the time?

779
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, are you really? Are you into kickboxing? It really?

780
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, with a lot of coordination. Who were like, actually

781
00:33:58,280 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: gonna hit me in the face?

782
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

783
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 3: No, thank you?

784
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: Do you get a lot? I know, I don't want

785
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: to get in in the face.

786
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 1: I didn't even want I was just in Istanbul and

787
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: they were there, was they want The guy I was

788
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 1: with wanted to go to her mom, and I was like,

789
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 1: once I found out they splashed water on you. He

790
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 1: came back from the first one. He goes I don't

791
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: think you're gonna like it. And I was like why,

792
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: and he said, because they splash water on your face.

793
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,399
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I don't like. No, No, I want

794
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 2: to splash my water on my face.

795
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:20,919
Speaker 3: Yeah.

796
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 4: And I even want to splash my own water touch

797
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 4: my face.

798
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,359
Speaker 2: I don't want to be splashed at all.

799
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: So I've been noticing that's a good that's a good advice.

800
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,720
Speaker 1: That's a good segue into advice all the time.

801
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, and to be like, here's the suggestion, and if

802
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 3: you don't want to take it, be like okay, yeah

803
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 3: I tried. Yeah, especially now it's getting warmer.

804
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 6: Maybe guys the hangout outdoors together and like you know,

805
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 6: in the backyard so it's open air, all that good stuff. Well,

806
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 6: we have some women who are just making some big

807
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 6: life decisions.

808
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 2: Oh great, I love life decisions.

809
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 6: This is this is really good. So our first caller

810
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 6: is Kevin, and Kevin is she her? She says, Dear Chelsea,

811
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 6: I'm a thirty two year old single woman from the

812
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 6: Pacific Northwest. I've been boy crazy since I was five,

813
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 6: and I was always in.

814
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 4: A relationship five I hear you.

815
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 6: I was always in a relationship throughout high school, college,

816
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 6: and my twenties. I ended my last serious relationship, a

817
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 6: five year partnership.

818
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 3: In twenty twenty two. I moved back into my.

819
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 6: Hometown and spent a long, messy period grieving, with a

820
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 6: few half hearted flings along the way. Almost a year later,

821
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 6: I'm finally feeling more like myself. I'm motivated to date

822
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 6: with intention, but I also know I get infatuated easily,

823
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 6: so I'm easing back in by getting on hinge and

824
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 6: going out more. I'm in a very unfulfilling phase of

825
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 6: my life right now.

826
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:33,800
Speaker 3: I'm living at home.

827
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 6: With my parents, working part time as a barista, and

828
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 6: trying to figure out where I belong career wise as

829
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,399
Speaker 6: an ADHD millennial. I know I'm still young, but I'm

830
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 6: scared of ending up in a job I hate, and

831
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,839
Speaker 6: I'm equally scared of getting stuck in my hometown where

832
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 6: I have zero desire to settle. So right now, I

833
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 6: just feel stuck. I want to get back into dating

834
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 6: and being social, but it feels hard to do that

835
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,719
Speaker 6: authentically from where I'm currently at. So my question for

836
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 6: Chelsea is, how do you tell the difference between fear

837
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 6: and intuition when you're crazy being a big life change,

838
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 6: and more specifically, am I avoiding dating in my hometown

839
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 6: because I'm afraid it will root me here? Or is

840
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 6: my intuition telling me that this isn't the right environment

841
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 6: or the right version of myself to build a relationship

842
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:12,800
Speaker 6: from Kevin?

843
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 7: Hi?

844
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 2: Hi, Kevin, Hi?

845
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 7: How's it going good?

846
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 2: How are you? This is our special guest, Mary Elizabeth

847
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 2: Ellis is here today.

848
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:20,280
Speaker 3: Hi Kevin.

849
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 7: Hi, Nice to meet any Nice.

850
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:22,279
Speaker 3: To meet you.

851
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: Fear, that's an interesting fear and intuition. Like I those

852
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 1: two words don't correlate for me. But I get what

853
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: you're saying, but it's.

854
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 7: Hard for me to figure out the word.

855
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:35,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, So well, I mean it sounds like

856
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 1: you're in a transitional phase in your life.

857
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 7: Yes. Absolutely.

858
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 8: I feel like I'm always in a transitional phase of

859
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 8: my life, and so I'm just trying to figure out,

860
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 8: like how do I get out of this cycle? And

861
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:48,240
Speaker 8: I've just I've already done so many different things before.

862
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 8: So I's just like, do I want to go back

863
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 8: to do what I know, go with what I know,

864
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 8: or do I need to really like put myself out

865
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 8: there and do something drastically different.

866
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 7: I don't know.

867
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, first things first, Ay, I'm glad you're how

868
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 1: be in safe and you live with your parents because

869
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 1: everything's fine. Like now you have that's a great sound,

870
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,879
Speaker 1: like jumping off board. You know, like that's good, that's

871
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 1: a good thing exactly. Yeah, from what you said about

872
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 1: being infatuated with boys since you were five years old,

873
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 1: I understand what you mean by infatuation, and I think

874
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 1: if you recognize that about yourself, this is a perfect

875
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 1: moment for you to take a break from boys when

876
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: you are in a transitional phase. It's like kind of

877
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 1: like putting like a gasoline on a fire, even though

878
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 1: you're not in a fire. It's like you're adding something

879
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: to the mix that doesn't need to be in the

880
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 1: mix right now.

881
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

882
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: You should take this time, reclaim this time, use it

883
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 1: to focus on yourself. Use this time where you're not

884
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 1: paying rent and you're figuring out what you're gonna do

885
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 1: career wise and professionally, and just take that all in

886
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: and like you're so lucky you get to live with

887
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: your parents during this time. That can help you financially.

888
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: You don't have to pay rent. You can say, you know,

889
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,959
Speaker 1: you're in, You're safe again. Like these are all good

890
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 1: things to like form a foundation for the next step

891
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 1: that you do take. So I think you should figure

892
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 1: out what makes you feel excited about the future, Like

893
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: what are the job options for you?

894
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 2: What have you done that you've loved, not just like

895
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 2: to get by, what actually like inspires you.

896
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's so hard.

897
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 8: I feel like there's so many different things that inspire me,

898
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 8: and I love to do I like to do different things.

899
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:20,320
Speaker 7: I like to keep it interesting. I get very sick.

900
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 8: And tired of doing the same thing all over and

901
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 8: over again. So like right now, I'm a part time barista,

902
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 8: and I love doing that.

903
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:27,399
Speaker 7: But only part time.

904
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 8: If after like yesterday was my Friday and I was

905
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 8: already like at my wits ends with everyone, My social battery.

906
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 7: Is so low, and so I'm like, this is great.

907
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,880
Speaker 8: I love that it's a job that I can enjoy,

908
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 8: but I like being able to do something else to

909
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 8: kind of refuel my I guess my desires and inspirations,

910
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 8: and so that's what that was. Always event planning, and

911
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 8: so I've jumped around different event planning jobs with like catering,

912
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 8: but that's also kind of an industry I kind of

913
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 8: want to get away from, but there's still so many

914
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 8: aspects from it that I want to still do, creating

915
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 8: and planning. I'm up for a position at the dealership

916
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 8: that I work at. Work inside a dealership where there's

917
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 8: a cafe. It's a weird set up, like a car dealership.

918
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 8: What kind of dealership, Yeah, like a toy dealership. Yeah, okay, yeah.

919
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 7: So it's like it's right off the freeway.

920
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 8: We have like tons of people coming in, and there's

921
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:19,879
Speaker 8: no breakfast places in our town either, so a lot

922
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 8: of regulars.

923
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:22,959
Speaker 7: Come in and so that's always really fun.

924
00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 8: And then there's a position available where I could be

925
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 8: kind of like an executive admin and be also like

926
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 8: their like employee relations manager and plan like their holiday parties,

927
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 8: or plan like other like social and like employee engagements,

928
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 8: and also get involved with like marketing and other like

929
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 8: community events. So I've always been interested in like event

930
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 8: planning in some sort of or like production managing in

931
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 8: some way or form to like bring people together. So

932
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 8: that's always what's inspired me is I've always kind of

933
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 8: considered myself like I want to be like the soccer

934
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 8: mom of a company, but I feel like that's a

935
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 8: very very specific, very hard position to find. It's kind

936
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,919
Speaker 8: of like I feel like those type of positions are

937
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 8: created for someone that is already like in you know,

938
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 8: the place that they work at, or they like have

939
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 8: someone that they know they can fill that role, so

940
00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:11,880
Speaker 8: that one is kind of up in the air. But

941
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 8: also I'm also scared of if I take that position,

942
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 8: am I going to get stuck at my hometown?

943
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 3: Now?

944
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 6: Is there a position that is available to you that

945
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 6: already has those things or that doesn't exist yet in

946
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:22,240
Speaker 6: your hometown.

947
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 8: Not really, That's like this is like the only position

948
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 8: that's closest to what I'm kind of what I'm interested

949
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 8: in doing.

950
00:40:29,239 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 6: I mean to me, that sounds like a position that's

951
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 6: something that you create for yourself, like starting the word

952
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 6: I'm starting an event planning company sort of thing, and

953
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 6: then also focus on the parts of it you like

954
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 6: that are creative, that are moving the project forward, that

955
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 6: are organizational. And then when you run into things that

956
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 6: are not in your wheelhouse or you find very draining,

957
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 6: that's when you bring in somebody else, even on a

958
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 6: really part time basis, to help.

959
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 3: You with those projects. And it can be like a

960
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 3: project to project basis as well.

961
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:57,880
Speaker 6: And this is a good place for you to like

962
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 6: feel out if you really love it, because you are

963
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 6: living at home and you do have some flexibility.

964
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 3: And then if you do want.

965
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:05,960
Speaker 6: To continue doing that, you can, you know, take that

966
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 6: to the town that you actually want to be living in.

967
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,359
Speaker 6: And you've already established a company, a rapport, that sort

968
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 6: of thing, your systems all that.

969
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 8: Yeah, I have a couple of friends I have said

970
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 8: I should start my own business, and so that's kind

971
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,280
Speaker 8: of like I've always thought I'm doing that. I always

972
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 8: thought i'd do that way later in life after I

973
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 8: have family and kids. But I don't have a boyfriend,

974
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 8: I don't have kids yet, so it's like, wellhy not

975
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 8: just do it right now? I do have this opportunity

976
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 8: of living at home for free, But I guess that's

977
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 8: kind of like, am I holding myself back? Am I

978
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 8: kind of scared to do it because I want to

979
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 8: fall out of love with it? Or is it something

980
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,280
Speaker 8: that I should just go for and what's the worst.

981
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 7: That could happen?

982
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:41,280
Speaker 3: Yeah?

983
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 1: I think if you have the ability to take a

984
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 1: big leap in like what you're passionate about, and you

985
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 1: don't have any financial constraints in the moment.

986
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 2: Because you have the situation, you should take it.

987
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 1: Like I can see your ADHD at work, Like you

988
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 1: need a lot of things to keep you occupied, and

989
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: that's a good thing. That's not a negative. That means

990
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,360
Speaker 1: you can pay it to a lot of different things

991
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 1: at the same time. That's why you have a lot

992
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 1: of different interests, and that's why you can go work

993
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 1: as a barista like that and also want to event coordinate,

994
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,839
Speaker 1: but you could also there's also options like if you

995
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 1: like event coordinating or like you say, you want to

996
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 1: be like you know, the soccer mom of a company,

997
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 1: Like if you're a wedding planner, you're dealing with different

998
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: clients all the time, so like that's kind of even

999
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 1: more fun for somebody with a brain like yours, you

1000
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: know what I mean, because you're not dealing with the

1001
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: same people over and over again. Or if you're planning

1002
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: events like I don't know whatever about Mitzvah, Sweet sixteens whatever,

1003
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 1: kind of like you know, event planning company that you

1004
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: get in bed with, you can then you kind of

1005
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: keep the ball rolling, you know what I mean. Being

1006
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,360
Speaker 1: at one company and planning events for one company, I

1007
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 1: feel like might get boring for you.

1008
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 8: And that's what I thought I wanted, But now that

1009
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 8: you're the way you're describing as like, maybe I will

1010
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 8: get bored of it.

1011
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 7: So I don't know.

1012
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 8: And like I have done weddings, have helped with weddings

1013
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 8: for years, and I have a very love hate relationship

1014
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,359
Speaker 8: with weddings. But something like of that nature, like maybe

1015
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 8: working for like multiple different companies and doing like different

1016
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 8: projects for them.

1017
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 7: I guess yeah, So I mean, yeah, I want.

1018
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 6: To circle back to to the dating question, like does

1019
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 6: it feel like dating something that you should put.

1020
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 2: I think you should focus on your career.

1021
00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 1: I really think the most important thing for young women

1022
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 1: to do is to stop worrying about who you're gonna

1023
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:17,319
Speaker 1: end up with.

1024
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 2: You're going to find that person.

1025
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 1: There's a million people in this world you're I mean,

1026
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,399
Speaker 1: there's there's nine billion people actually in this world. You're

1027
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 1: going to find somebody, and there's plenty of them to

1028
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 1: go around. You're gonna have several different loves in your

1029
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: life that will happen.

1030
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:32,959
Speaker 3: You'll probably have several different careers in your life. Yeah,

1031
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 3: I just want to name the since you're talking about

1032
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 3: naming things that the idea of being stuck. Life is

1033
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:43,720
Speaker 3: nothing but change, So you probably won't get stuck somewhere.

1034
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 3: If you're the type of person who doesn't want to

1035
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 3: get stuck somewhere, you'll you'll be able to get yourself

1036
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:51,919
Speaker 3: into a new thing that makes you excited no matter

1037
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 3: where you land. And most people change jobs and a

1038
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 3: lot of people change relationships throughout their life.

1039
00:43:58,200 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's good advice.

1040
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: So you don't have to land there now and like

1041
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 3: feel like you're in cement, you know.

1042
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,360
Speaker 2: But you know, like take steps in like one direction.

1043
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 1: Use like the energy and like the motivation that you

1044
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: have right now, harness that and move in the direction

1045
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: of either starting your own company or you know, reaching

1046
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: doing some outreach to the people that you do know,

1047
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 1: saying hey, I'm starting this thing where I'm going to

1048
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 1: put events together. It could be for company, it could

1049
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 1: be for a bridle shower, it could be for whatever.

1050
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: You know, like create, start taking steps to create that

1051
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: for yourself and see if that's something that fulfills you

1052
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: and that you can get off on its feet while

1053
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 1: you live with your parents, and in the meantime, keep

1054
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:39,760
Speaker 1: your barrista job so you have some sort of income.

1055
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: You know and then like you're going to learn so

1056
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 1: much so quickly with whatever choice you make about what

1057
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 1: you like and what you don't like. So just have

1058
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 1: faith in yourself, you know, like that that you're capable

1059
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,879
Speaker 1: and that you can do this, and what your interests are.

1060
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: The most important thing is to know what you're interested in.

1061
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 1: And you have a lot of interests. You just said

1062
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: them all.

1063
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, de yeah. I think that's that's a great

1064
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 8: way to put it.

1065
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 7: Thank you so much.

1066
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 1: So don't look at everything as like a negative, like

1067
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: just flip the switch on it and literally like flip

1068
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: the script. Like you're like, oh, I could do anything

1069
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: I want. Yeah, the world is my oyster. I'm living

1070
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: with my parents. I don't this is my opportunity of

1071
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:17,439
Speaker 1: a lifetime to go after what you want.

1072
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 7: Thank you so much, Chelsea, appreciate.

1073
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: It all right, Okay, it definitely makes.

1074
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 7: Me feel a lot better about my position. Thank you guys.

1075
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:27,280
Speaker 7: Nice to meet too, Nice to meet you too. Bye bye.

1076
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 1: I remember growing up and like when I moved to

1077
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,000
Speaker 1: la and thinking, I was like, oh, I just wanted

1078
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 1: to live with my parents again, and I didn't want

1079
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,439
Speaker 1: to live with them the entire eighteen years that I did.

1080
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: I didn't want anything to do with my parents, and

1081
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: as soon as I got to LA, I'm like.

1082
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 2: It would really be nice to live with my parents.

1083
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:44,479
Speaker 2: It's so funny how that happens, you know.

1084
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 3: It's greener.

1085
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 6: I also think that like twenty seven to thirty five,

1086
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 6: even like early thirties, it's such a you can put

1087
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 6: so much pressure on yourself to like get to the thing,

1088
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 6: and it's like okay to.

1089
00:45:57,880 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 3: Just be like it is a transitional.

1090
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,240
Speaker 6: You always say this, like things never stay the same,

1091
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 6: they never say the way they don't.

1092
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: And so yeah, even the good things and the bad things,

1093
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 1: they don't stay the same. And once you realize that,

1094
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 1: you're like you just said that has to be like

1095
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,359
Speaker 1: a mantra. I think that people tell themselves because people

1096
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 1: get so worried about being stuck or like what if

1097
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 1: I'm I remember when I was waiting tables, before like

1098
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: I became successful, I would just think, what if I'm

1099
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: a waitress forever? What if I'm a waitress forever? What

1100
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:25,880
Speaker 1: if I'm a waitress when I'm forty? What if I'm

1101
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:27,360
Speaker 1: a waitress when I'm you know, like I was like,

1102
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:28,839
Speaker 1: what do I do then? What's going to happen then,

1103
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 1: and it's like that narrative it becomes kind of like

1104
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:36,320
Speaker 1: like pathological, and then you're telling yourself this like negative

1105
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 1: story for no reason. There's no proof that you're going

1106
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: to be doing this forever, just like there's no proof

1107
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: that you're not going to be doing this forever.

1108
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 2: It could go anyway.

1109
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,879
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like, yeah, well, our next color is dominique.

1110
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 6: And she says, Dear Chelsea, I'm twenty nine and I'm

1111
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 6: writing from a big moment of transition, and this next

1112
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 6: line is just like sort of weird coincidence. But she says,

1113
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:58,800
Speaker 6: I've spent the last nine years building a career in events.

1114
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 6: I'm good at it, I've worked hard, and on paper

1115
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 6: it all makes sense. But lately I feel stalled, like

1116
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 6: I've reached the edge of what this version of my

1117
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 6: life can offer unless I either expand it radically or

1118
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 6: walk away. At the same time, I'm newly married and

1119
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 6: staring down a parallel question that feels just as existential.

1120
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:18,280
Speaker 6: Do I double down on an ambition or do I step

1121
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 6: into motherhood knowing that either choice reshapes everything. How do

1122
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 6: you know when it's time to outgrow a life you

1123
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 6: built with care instead of clinging to it because it's familiar.

1124
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 6: And how do you make big life decisions when there's

1125
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 6: no obvious right order to do things?

1126
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: Dominique, OOHI complex, Hi Dominique. Can you expand a little

1127
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,879
Speaker 1: bit on your career? Like what do you do and

1128
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: what we where are you were that?

1129
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 3: So?

1130
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 5: I work in event marketing and I started, you know,

1131
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 5: doing tours for like bands in like the Christian music world,

1132
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 5: and then do like philanthropic stuff and now I'm in

1133
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:56,719
Speaker 5: like the corporate kind of event marketing space where I

1134
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 5: do you know, events for people who use certain products

1135
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 5: or digital products. I get to travel a lot and

1136
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 5: built something really cool from like I don't have a

1137
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 5: college degree, which is awesome, and so that's where I matter.

1138
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 5: I'm just trying to figure out whether like I'm like, okay,

1139
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 5: I'm in the constitute of like grow or die like

1140
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 5: if I'm not, you know, keep if I'm not like

1141
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 5: you know, growing constantly and like okay, something next, something

1142
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:19,759
Speaker 5: new is up.

1143
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 7: So that's kind of where I'm at.

1144
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 2: And do you feel maybe we should put her in

1145
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 2: contact with our last collar because she could just take

1146
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 2: over your business if you're not interested in our last.

1147
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 6: Color was like trying to start an event's planning business,

1148
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 6: and we were like, yeah, go for it.

1149
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 4: So it might be to chat with her.

1150
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: It's all, yeah, we might want to Mcatherine may want

1151
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 1: to connect you afterwards, just in case you need some help.

1152
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,239
Speaker 1: But I mean, first of all, like that, I like

1153
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 1: your growth mindset, but like, not every period is a

1154
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 1: period of growth. Sometimes you are just kind of like

1155
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: hunkering down with what you have, Like there's a planting

1156
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:54,960
Speaker 1: and there's a harvest, and sometimes you're planting and then

1157
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 1: sometimes you're harvesting. And that's like you don't always have

1158
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:00,319
Speaker 1: to feel like we live in the society that makes

1159
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 1: us feel like we have to run around in circles

1160
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: to get shit done or to be productive. But there

1161
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: is a lot of strength in just enjoying what you've built.

1162
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: It sounds like you've built a pretty great business for yourself.

1163
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,919
Speaker 1: So and I guess my next question is why would

1164
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 1: becoming a mother? Why is there a choice between the two?

1165
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:19,840
Speaker 1: Do you think that you can't do both?

1166
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,239
Speaker 5: I think it's definitely harder, and I definitely you know,

1167
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 5: when I choose to become a mother, it's like I

1168
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 5: want to be all into that. So I feel like

1169
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:30,480
Speaker 5: what I'm building in my career will definitely take the

1170
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 5: back seat to like, you know, you know, growing a

1171
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 5: person and being involved in their lives and every aspect

1172
00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 5: of that. So maybe not it's one of the other,

1173
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 5: but one will definitely take a back seat, you know

1174
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 5: what I'm saying.

1175
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 2: So, well, then we should definitely introduce her to the

1176
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:44,919
Speaker 2: woman we were just talking to, because she can run

1177
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:47,439
Speaker 2: your she can help run your business. I don't want you,

1178
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:50,359
Speaker 2: as a woman, and as a black woman, to build

1179
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,400
Speaker 2: a business and then just give up on it.

1180
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: I just don't want that for you. I want you

1181
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 1: to be able to do all of this, and you can.

1182
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:58,359
Speaker 1: You can do all of this, and you can start

1183
00:49:58,360 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: a family and do that too.

1184
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're right, like one thing takes a back

1185
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 3: seat for a little while. Like when you're pregnant, you

1186
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 3: can do both things pretty easily, but then when the

1187
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:10,960
Speaker 3: baby comes out, you normally want like some time to

1188
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 3: like nest and be home. But then also when I

1189
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 3: had a newborn, I was like, oh my god, is

1190
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,359
Speaker 3: this who I am? A mother? I don't only want

1191
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 3: to be a mother. I still want to be an actor.

1192
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 3: I still want to be a professional, you know, and

1193
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 3: then I got a chance to do that again. So yeah,

1194
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:28,839
Speaker 3: I think it's true. There's seasons to things, but there's

1195
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:29,800
Speaker 3: space for everything.

1196
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:31,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, there is space for everything.

1197
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:33,359
Speaker 1: And I think I would hate for you to have

1198
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,960
Speaker 1: a child go one hundred percent into that and then go,

1199
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: I can't believe I don't have.

1200
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 2: My business anymore, you know.

1201
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 1: But when you do need some time to yourself, when

1202
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 1: you do need some different identity other than just mom

1203
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:47,880
Speaker 1: or wife, you're going to look back and be like, what,

1204
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:51,280
Speaker 1: my god, you had a robust business, Like, please don't

1205
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: give up on that aspect, Like I think that is

1206
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 1: really like the paramount issue here. You build something that

1207
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: you're proud of, and we are going to put you

1208
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: in touch with this other woman we just spoke to.

1209
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 1: Whether it's a match or not, you're going to find

1210
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,120
Speaker 1: somebody to help you run your business so that you

1211
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: can get ready for the next phase of your life,

1212
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:09,720
Speaker 1: which is motherhood whenever you feel that's ready.

1213
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 2: But you have to find like kind of a business partner,

1214
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:12,399
Speaker 2: and they.

1215
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: Don't have to be like fifty to fifty partner, because

1216
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: you did build this business so it's yours. But somebody

1217
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 1: that you can hire that can help manage things is

1218
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: not an unreasonable thing to do, So I I, yeah,

1219
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: I really just want to get you away from that

1220
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 1: thinking it's not one or the other, it's how do

1221
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:28,759
Speaker 1: I do it all? Because we can do more than

1222
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 1: one thing at the same time.

1223
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 3: And remembering that you don't have to make the decision

1224
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 3: for the endpoint, Like as you go down the path,

1225
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 3: you'll get new information. And as new information comes in,

1226
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 3: then you get to make a different decision based on

1227
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 3: Oh I didn't even see that part. Now here's this

1228
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 3: new part, you know.

1229
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:47,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, And how long have you been married, Dominique.

1230
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 5: I've been married a year in May is May.

1231
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 6: So okay, So you've got the time. You've got time

1232
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 6: to just enjoy being married.

1233
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 1: But enjoy your success, like that's really important, like independent

1234
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: women and business like creators, like people who are business owners,

1235
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: like that is very viable and valuable. So I just like,

1236
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 1: don't just be ready to toss that aside, you know

1237
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:14,319
Speaker 1: what I mean, It's important what you've done, and so

1238
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:16,439
Speaker 1: take your time, enjoy it, and then just like look

1239
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 1: for options. I get you want to grow your business.

1240
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 1: That doesn't have to happen every six months. It has

1241
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 1: happens over a long period of time, so it sounds

1242
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 1: like you already know what you're doing and that your

1243
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 1: life is pretty good. So just figure out ways to

1244
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 1: make it even better and do all the things that

1245
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 1: you want do.

1246
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 5: All the things.

1247
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 7: I got it.

1248
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 5: That's all. That's great advice, actually, and it's good to

1249
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 5: just maybe sit back or to hang hang tiy be like, Okay,

1250
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,319
Speaker 5: I've done this, just maybe chill for a minute, just

1251
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 5: you know, rubble in for a second. So thank you.

1252
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 7: I appreciate that.

1253
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 1: The best periods of my professional and personal life are

1254
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:55,919
Speaker 1: when I've come back from breaks, when I've come back

1255
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 1: from running on a hamster wheel, when I've said this

1256
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 1: is enough, I'm going out of here, I have to

1257
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 1: stop it, I have to take a time out. When

1258
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 1: I come back from that are the best, biggest growth

1259
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 1: spurts and like successes. So keep that in mind. You know,

1260
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: you don't always have to be running like this. Totally okay,

1261
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:18,240
Speaker 1: great advice, right, Great glad you called Dan Dominic.

1262
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 5: Yes, thank you guys so much.

1263
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:22,520
Speaker 3: I was saying this even just yesterday to Charlie, like

1264
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 3: or if we'd been this morning, like it's so nice

1265
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 3: to get like a little bit older and not feel

1266
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 3: like I have to have that hustle that I had

1267
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:33,880
Speaker 3: when I was in my twenties and my thirties, you know.

1268
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:36,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I like what you said about you're always

1269
00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:39,839
Speaker 1: getting new information and not setting an endpoint, because I

1270
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 1: think as a young person, we're so attached to the

1271
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:46,399
Speaker 1: outcome of things. That's why defeats or failures or what

1272
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:50,399
Speaker 1: we categorize as such feel so much bigger than they

1273
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:51,359
Speaker 1: actually are.

1274
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 2: Is because we are we are so tied to the

1275
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 2: outcome of success, Like that's the definition like this, if

1276
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 2: I get this, this will then that will mean that,

1277
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 2: or if I'm with this guy, you know, like or

1278
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:06,400
Speaker 2: even like a breakup can feel like such a big failure.

1279
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 1: And it's like as you get older, you realize like

1280
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:12,320
Speaker 1: it's really all depends on how you handle those failures.

1281
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 1: It really has nothing to do with the failure itself.

1282
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: It's like what do you do after the failure?

1283
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:19,359
Speaker 3: And it's not like pullback too right of like you

1284
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 3: think you're like in a low point, but actually you've

1285
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 3: climbed this high on the mountain and you're just in

1286
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:26,319
Speaker 3: a little dip before you keep going up, right, Yeah,

1287
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 3: you go back a little.

1288
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:33,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, do we have a closing?

1289
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 6: It is a little whipsie, it's it's a little bit

1290
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 6: of a heavier one, a little bit of a heavier one.

1291
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 6: But because you're on this show where which tackles so

1292
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 6: much of the Sandwich generation stuff with like moms and

1293
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 6: you know, dads, to parents who have their kids, their kids' lives,

1294
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 6: their own lives, work, and then also taking care of

1295
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:59,400
Speaker 6: an aging parent, I thought this would be a good question,

1296
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 6: So Jody says, Dear Chelsea, my husband is one of

1297
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:05,840
Speaker 6: three sons, all of whom are married and live somewhat

1298
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 6: far from their parents. We're the closest, two hours away.

1299
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 6: We see each other fairly frequently, but with kids and

1300
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 6: activities and lives, it's tough. It became clear years ago

1301
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 6: that my mother in law's health was declining. Specifically, we

1302
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 6: were noticing signs of what we were concerned could be

1303
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 6: a dementia forgetting things, using the wrong names, for people,

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Speaker 6: walking into the wrong house. She began having issues driving,

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Speaker 6: hitting mailboxes and curbs, and then about two years ago,

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Speaker 6: she totalled her car by hitting a guardrail. Luckily, no

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Speaker 6: one was hurt, while we all knew something was happening.

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Speaker 6: My father in law has been in denial. He constantly

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Speaker 6: downplays her symptoms and even refused to stop her from

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Speaker 6: driving for almost a year following the accident. Thankfully she's

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Speaker 6: now stopped. Things have gotten much worse this past year,

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Speaker 6: to the point where he can't deny something is wrong.

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Speaker 6: She falls regularly, she can't really walk on her own

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Speaker 6: without help. Every time we see her, she's got a

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Speaker 6: bruiser a scrape from a fall, and she can never

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Speaker 6: tell us how it happened, and he only sometimes can.

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Speaker 6: We've all come to terms the fact that she has

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Speaker 6: somewhat some advanced neurologic diagnosis, but we don't know what

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Speaker 6: because he hasn't taken her to the doctor. This has

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Speaker 6: been sad to acknowledged, but our biggest concern is both

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Speaker 6: their safety. Any advice on how to push for acceptance

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Speaker 6: and help with a boomer who's very unwilling to acknowledge

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Speaker 6: or accept help.

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Speaker 2: Jody, Yeah, you have to take her to the doctor yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you got to get in there and take her

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Speaker 1: to the doctor and intervene. He's not going to do it.

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Speaker 1: He's in denial, and man are useless. So you have

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Speaker 1: to go in and do that. You have to get

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Speaker 1: your brothers together in solidarity or do it yourself. But

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Speaker 1: take her to the doctor for a diagnosis.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 1: And like, sorry, Dad, you're not acting responsibly right now

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Speaker 1: and you're in denial and this is dangerous now where

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Speaker 1: I'm concerned about my mother's safety and I'm concerned about

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Speaker 1: your safety.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, And I would also potentially reach out to either

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Speaker 6: an elder law attorney or someone who works in like

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Speaker 6: health care for the aging, because they would be able

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Speaker 6: to give you some tools and stuff. In your state,

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Speaker 6: it may be time for like a guardianship or conservatorship

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Speaker 6: something like that.

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Speaker 3: Maybe time for them to move to like.

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Speaker 6: An assisted living where you know he can have some

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Speaker 6: help with activities of daily living, can have a lot

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Speaker 6: more help whatever they need. But definitely start reaching out

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Speaker 6: to someone in your community who is able to give

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Speaker 6: you some answers about laws and regulations and things in

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Speaker 6: your state.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but get the ball rolling on getting a diagnosis also,

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Speaker 1: Like that's first and foremost.

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Speaker 2: Find out what the diagnosis is.

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Speaker 1: And then you have proof of a reason why they

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Speaker 1: need to move into an assisted living facility or a

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Speaker 1: retirement community. But yeah, that's very common that people are

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Speaker 1: in denial about their spouses.

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Speaker 3: Like decline, Yes, agreed, And if it's you, it's your

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Speaker 3: husband's mother and their three sons. I agree. Make the

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Speaker 3: sons get together and tell them it's it's what they're

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Speaker 3: meant to do. They have to do it. It's their job.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, okay, Well, on that upbeat note, we

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Speaker 2: are wrapping it up. Thank you so much for being here.

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Speaker 2: It was wonderful to meet you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so fun.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so what a pleasure, and thanks for showing off

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Speaker 2: your sporty spice legs.

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Speaker 3: Than that makes me what I hear short, I feel

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Speaker 3: like people are like, oh, you look good, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I'm strong, Yeah, I could kick you.

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Speaker 2: Well, you're a kickboxer, so you are strong.

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Speaker 1: You can catch Mary Elizabeth Ellis on her show Man

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Speaker 1: on the Inside. You can catch her in It's always

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Speaker 1: Sonny in Philadelphia. And of course New Girl if you're

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Speaker 1: watching that show has.

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Speaker 3: Been Yeah that's an old that's you could be watching.

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Speaker 2: Reruns of the Maybe she's watching reruns across the street.

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Speaker 2: Who knows. Okay, thank you, thank.

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Speaker 3: You, thank you, thank you.

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