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Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janna Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: We're having a jam party in here right now. Um,

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Speaker 1: I'm playing the Forum September one in l A. And

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Speaker 1: I just broke the news to Easton that I'm not

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Speaker 1: singing his favorite song, so because I was like, I

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Speaker 1: just don't think my guys even know the song. It's

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Speaker 1: called Goodbye California, and Easton and I just like totally

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Speaker 1: jammed out to it and sang it. The professional musicians

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Speaker 1: they have a weekend a half. You can tell them

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Speaker 1: to learn it. This is their job. We just sang

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Speaker 1: it together though. I me, Mason, I like totally just

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Speaker 1: sang it together. I want to see the front row

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Speaker 1: singing along to that. I like, you tell the Chattoos

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Speaker 1: driving in the country where the daffads like him A

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Speaker 1: sang it sanks to hat playing country five Chicken is

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Speaker 1: a beautiful thing? Is hug and hold you? Hello Heve

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Speaker 1: and so good bye California. Yeah, September one, ladies, you

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Speaker 1: can see that happen is a better husband you than me?

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Speaker 1: All the words? Yeah, I don't even think you would

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Speaker 1: know one lyric to that. I don't know, probably not

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Speaker 1: not that one, not that one. I don't even think

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Speaker 1: I've heard you performed that one. I don't think I've

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Speaker 1: ever performed that one yet. But we've got a studio full.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited. Um coming back for her grand return.

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Speaker 1: Does she have the ring or not? Formerly known as

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Speaker 1: Sarah gret Sky. We've obviously got market Easton and Jen

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Speaker 1: and then my husband is back as well. Um, so Jen.

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Speaker 1: We dropped Jolie off at preschool, who cried. Michael would

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Speaker 1: not let go of her. I was like, let's go.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, Julie, you're let me take you

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Speaker 1: into the class. Let me see you down. Let's play

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Speaker 1: Plato and the teachers. No other parents are in there.

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Speaker 1: All the parents have already left. It's just me like

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Speaker 1: sitting at table. Kids are playing Plato. Teachers are like, dude,

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Speaker 1: like get out of here, get out. Did you have

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Speaker 1: any idea that you were going to react that way?

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Speaker 1: A little yes, a little bit because when my brother,

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Speaker 1: because there's fortune your difference between me and my brother,

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Speaker 1: and so I remember dropping him off at preschool, and

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Speaker 1: I remember giving my mom crap back in the day

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Speaker 1: because she'd be like crying when she left. Mom, I

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Speaker 1: was not a big deal, and then the first time

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Speaker 1: me me when I was a kid. He said, He's like,

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Speaker 1: arms me me. I was like, oh my god, I was.

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Speaker 1: I just started like bawling. I was like, I have

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Speaker 1: to leave. I felt like the worst person in the

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Speaker 1: world leaving him crying. Yeah, And I thought I was

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Speaker 1: going to be the one crying. And this time Mike

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Speaker 1: literally would not like. I was like, Michael, we have

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Speaker 1: like clinging onto her, and I was like, let go

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Speaker 1: of her, like we have your making her upset. She's

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Speaker 1: such a daddy's girl now. So that's why I was

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Speaker 1: easier for Jenna to leave, because she just loves her

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Speaker 1: some daddy. Um okay, but that's late. Yeah, when Mama's boy,

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Speaker 1: my little baby bull came over, came over, it's going

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Speaker 1: to be cuddle movie. I just wanted. All they want

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Speaker 1: to do is cuddle with you. Even the flight attendants

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Speaker 1: on the plane last night when I'm coming back from

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Speaker 1: out of town, they were Jane was in the bat

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Speaker 1: We're talking about kids, and they recognized Janna and they

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Speaker 1: both had boys, and Jane's in bathroom, like it was

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Speaker 1: your daughter Daddy's girls, Like she's become one recently, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, just wait till you have that boy.

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Speaker 1: He's going to be all over her. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I know, I keep hearing that, So your time will come.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry, honey. I mean she's still a mom, like

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Speaker 1: when she's sick, when she like you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Like that's when she's like mama. But she's definitely like

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Speaker 1: switched gears to Michael, which is great because we're gonna

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Speaker 1: need that when the baby comes toosolutely. It's a good transition. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: for sure, I know what else would you guys? But

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Speaker 1: up too, Well, we went out of town for a

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Speaker 1: of a few things. Um so yeah, we did that

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Speaker 1: and then we got back late last We're literally there

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Speaker 1: for twenty four hours. Yeah, it was a crazy whirlwind

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Speaker 1: twenty four hours. So it was it was nuts, but

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Speaker 1: it was great. Like I'm excited to like talk about that.

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Speaker 1: We can't right now, but we're very excited to share

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Speaker 1: in the future. But I know, but it was funny.

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Speaker 1: Michael made fun of me so bad yesterday in the airport.

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Speaker 1: Will we just say this? So, so we're going home

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Speaker 1: this weekend to um his dad's retirement. It's a surprise party.

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Speaker 1: So we're flying to Virginia on Thursday, like having this

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Speaker 1: whole thing. So his mom texted us in a group

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Speaker 1: chat and was like, what do you guys want Thursday

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Speaker 1: night for dinner? Fohitos or tacos. I hate fahitas, which

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Speaker 1: is news to me, not news. Never order him never

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Speaker 1: or you never verbally said I hate I have, but

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Speaker 1: he doesn't. He has selective hearing. So I was like, taca,

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Speaker 1: he goes fahitas and I'm like what you know? She

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Speaker 1: said tacos. I was like no, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: how could he say that? You know? So I'm thinking,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking she's gonna side with me, and you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm a mom's boy. I'm like, it's my mama asking

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Speaker 1: and she's like, sorrygnant pregnant lady wins. And he said

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Speaker 1: he sends a gift of like, um, something fair, it

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Speaker 1: said someone crying. I think it's not fair. And then

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Speaker 1: I set a gift back of like this pregnant lady

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Speaker 1: waddling saying this isn't fair either. So I win, but

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Speaker 1: then you can. Yeah. So we're walking through. Jane is

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Speaker 1: trying to convince me that she's told me that she

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Speaker 1: doesn't like Bahitas, and I'm like, no, you've never told

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Speaker 1: me that. So we're walking through uh Is. When we

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Speaker 1: National Airport, we're walking to her flight and Jan Jane

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Speaker 1: was that we didn't get much sleep the previous like

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Speaker 1: and Eastern gets your blue button ready. Jane is sitting

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Speaker 1: there times like he doesn't hate you. I never liked him.

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Speaker 1: And as she's saying that, how much I hate Theahita

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Speaker 1: like you know me, like I never I've never acting

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Speaker 1: off almost like I'm yelling at like we're having an argument. Almost. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: But it was all fun and playful, and this lady

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Speaker 1: comes up and was like Pahita and she comes up

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Speaker 1: like Jane. She's like, oh hi, oh my gosh, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. Are you're such a sweetheart? Thinker I

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Speaker 1: really okay, And then she walks away and then she's like,

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Speaker 1: how dare you I have a question about the feta.

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Speaker 1: What don't you like about grilled vegetables or grilled chicken?

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Speaker 1: I'm just gross. I think it's disgusting. And then the

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Speaker 1: and then the I like, I like one of those

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Speaker 1: things called to like flower tortias, but it has to

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Speaker 1: Then the heart, so I would like justice. Okay, so,

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Speaker 1: but I've never liked grilled vegetables with the just steak

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Speaker 1: and chicken, like, that's just the grossest. I don't understand

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Speaker 1: people that gross. Give me a sizzling plotter of like

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Speaker 1: sizzling grilled vegetables. No, I could not be hungry at

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Speaker 1: and I smell for he is walking past me and

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Speaker 1: I'm hungry. That's so I think they're so gross. Either way,

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Speaker 1: I won, and we're getting tacos on Thursday, so it's

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Speaker 1: Taco Thursday. I win. Pregnant Lady wins. Sorry, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: but this is also fun. So now you know we're

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Speaker 1: going home to like the mom territory. You know, it's

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Speaker 1: like Mama's boys going to be back home. Sorry you

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Speaker 1: last year Pregnant Pregnant your wife, tacos. It's all going

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Speaker 1: to be about jolly anyway. They haven't seen him, Sarah,

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Speaker 1: do you have the ring? Bab? No, no, not yet.

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Speaker 1: But you did do the ultimatum that we've been in

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Speaker 1: intense ten days. When was the last time I was

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Speaker 1: with you? Yeah? And serious? How did he react? Um?

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Speaker 1: This is the thing. He is the nicest guy ever.

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Speaker 1: He literally was like so excited for just the He

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Speaker 1: was like that was so awesome, Like good for your voice. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like yeah, but we like shoot on you

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Speaker 1: like no, I mean he doesn't care. He's heard worse

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Speaker 1: things to his face, you know, like I've said worse

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Speaker 1: than her thing. No, he but he got the message.

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Speaker 1: So before, like Janna said, before I came out, I

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Speaker 1: couldn't wait. I was like yeah, right, And so I

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Speaker 1: And if you don't want to marry me, that's totally fine,

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Speaker 1: but tell me. And if if you do want to

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Speaker 1: marry me, I need a ring. Okay, So are you

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Speaker 1: managing your expectations so that you don't Yeah, because, like

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Speaker 1: Janna said, it's been six years, I mean almost, you know,

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Speaker 1: well Michael and asked he he's aware that it's Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just Janna was telling me, you know that she he

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Speaker 1: it a year from now? Oh? No, the end of

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Speaker 1: And I agreed when Jane said that to me, I

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Speaker 1: you are an authroity. I was which one alpha kay Omega, Michael,

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Speaker 1: mean it is in college athletics. Your team is your

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Speaker 1: like the Bunnies. No, actually actually Alpha Omega was domestic

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Speaker 1: violence and we worked. We worked a lot with the

422
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Speaker 1: Phoenix sojourn or Center. But there's things that you can do.

423
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: You could have been president, you know what I mean,

424
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Speaker 1: Like there's things that you can do without having to

425
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Speaker 1: be a black you. But if I wasn't president, I'd

426
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Speaker 1: be mad. That's the thing. If I'm not the top,

427
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 1: then I'm not going to want to do. That's why

428
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 1: you would have been good, because you would have wanted

429
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Speaker 1: to win. Like I was the vice president of recruitment.

430
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,359
Speaker 1: It was fun, but like so you did all the hazing,

431
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Speaker 1: got it okay, cool, I also okay, well this is

432
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 1: like boring me. Let's wait, did you only date frat

433
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Speaker 1: boys of course? Well, well I had a frat boy boyfriend,

434
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Speaker 1: but Ty was not in a frat, so I had

435
00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: a you were cheating on time. I had a boyfriend

436
00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: like sophomore in junior year when he was in a prop. Okay,

437
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: and then I lied too because I stated athletes. Okay,

438
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: so certainly all you shorty girls are liars. Let's talk

439
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 1: to Robin. So she's on mine twelve right now. I

440
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 1: want to hear about her experience. Hey, Robin, hi there,

441
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 1: how are you? Oh good? I just got a room

442
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 1: full of sorority listeners right now. We just we just

443
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:22,239
Speaker 1: want to hear the drama and the love, and I

444
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 1: want to know the good, bad, the ugly and everything else.

445
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:29,920
Speaker 1: Oh wow, uh oh boy? How long do you have

446
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 1: tell me that? Tell me the high? Tell me your

447
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 1: tell me your number one high and your number one low. Okay,

448
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 1: My high definitely my experience going to small California school,

449
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 1: and that was amazing, very easy. I didn't realize I

450
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: was supposed to be stressed about it. Everyone got a house,

451
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 1: everyone was happy where they were super easy. My bad

452
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: experience is I have a daughter who is currently in

453
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Speaker 1: college and a southern university. I don't want, I don't

454
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: want to name any names. But the rust is attended

455
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 1: by mom. The rush is attended by mom's. Yeah, it's

456
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 1: a thing. Just generations of sisters terrifying their witches. You

457
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 1: have rust coaches for at least a year prior to

458
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Speaker 1: rush coached. Stop. So this is where I'm like, ridiculous.

459
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 1: There's a sorority packet you have to prepare. You can

460
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 1: go online and order it monogram to different colors with

461
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,440
Speaker 1: the professional photo photos. Why would you let her do this?

462
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 1: I didn't know it was going to be this bad,

463
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: and everyone else was quote unquote doing it and spreight

464
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: panning hair and makeup. I mean, stop it. This is

465
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: like a insane Okay, then the worst worst parting that

466
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: stuff wasn't the worst part. The worst worst part is

467
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,640
Speaker 1: they go through the whole rust of experience and then

468
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Speaker 1: they have the last days, you know, bid day where

469
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Speaker 1: they get to decide between one or two houses, assuming

470
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: they have that many left, and they bring all the

471
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 1: girls who are left at this point, a hundred and

472
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Speaker 1: seventy six girls who quit and thirteen and so far

473
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 1: been cut completely. And as they say, you are going

474
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Speaker 1: to sit on an envelope for an hour while we

475
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 1: left you about how great story life is. And then

476
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 1: a crack of five pm, you open your envelope, find

477
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: out which story you got. Some of you might not

478
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 1: have any that you thought you were gonna have, and

479
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: some of you might have none at all. But either way,

480
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 1: as soon as you open this, you get to run

481
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: through the middle of campus for thousands of people and

482
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Speaker 1: I'm not joking. TV crews, alumni for Turnity's lying the

483
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 1: streets come out and watch you run. Even if you

484
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 1: didn't get a house. The girls are crying they've got nothing.

485
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 1: They didn't get a house they wanted, or they're beyond thrills.

486
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: They got exactly what they wanted. And those girls are

487
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Speaker 1: you know, the girls that didn't get anything. Off the run,

488
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: the left, the run day Cruel Alabama in the house.

489
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 1: And then you have to watch your daughter cry and

490
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 1: run across the field. Oh it's awful. Yeah, my dad

491
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 1: got with you probably should have gotten but she didn't

492
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: get what she wanted at her top choice, and so

493
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,679
Speaker 1: she was, you know, a complete mass. And so I

494
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,239
Speaker 1: was a complete mass. I'm calling my husband crying, like

495
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,919
Speaker 1: we just can't do This's like this wasn't you resting?

496
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 1: Remember that? Whatever? How much did it cost? How much

497
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: was the investment to actually get her to that point? Well,

498
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 1: you mean the flight there, the hotel room, the hair

499
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: and makeup, the clothing, um, a lot. I didn't tell

500
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Speaker 1: my husband how much, but I'm guessing probably like a

501
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: thousand bucks at Leaf, maybe two thousand, and then you

502
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: have paid for the authority. It was this far more

503
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 1: sense than it was in my day. I just don't

504
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Speaker 1: understand all that. I'm especially like, what if she didn't run,

505
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 1: would they, like, you know, shoot her in the back

506
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: with an arrow, like you know, like Indians and cowboys days,

507
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: Like if you just run away, you don't, there's no

508
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 1: way not to run. Everyone's circles you like, you can't,

509
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: you have to run. That's bully, that's that's I think

510
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: those are bullies. Those girls are bullies. Why would you

511
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 1: want to be like them? Yeah, the other moms are

512
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,199
Speaker 1: like I literally found myself on the last night alone

513
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 1: in the bar with my head on the barbing rock

514
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 1: meat bottom, like the vodka, Oh I just nice night.

515
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: Pull southern woman comes over? Is that you, Robin O, Hey,

516
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: how are you don't look well, I'm not really you

517
00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: want to know how well, I'm not. You's a crazy

518
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 1: And but here's the thing. Those moms are sorority girls.

519
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 1: Those were sisters. So it's like, that's my point. Those

520
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: girls are witches, like they're not good. Is not anything

521
00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 1: I can relate to for the experience I had in California,

522
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:05,959
Speaker 1: And I'll just say it, I went to Berkeley. I mean,

523
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: it's like the most mellow, different plan so but when

524
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: you go to the more like extreme southern Alabama kind

525
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: of stuff, not saying you're at Alabama, but yeah, I

526
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 1: mean that's like But again, I guess maybe that's what

527
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 1: I don't like. That's that's the sorority type. I don't like. Well,

528
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: that's like the stereo. I mean, I say, I did

529
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: not have anything like that, but that's what I thought of.

530
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: You know, when you think of sorority, that's what that's like. Yeah, Robert,

531
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Speaker 1: did you find that any other moms had a lot

532
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 1: of issues with this or is it something where these

533
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: sorority moms, because they went through that process, they don't

534
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: look at it as negative as it clearly is well.

535
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 1: For sure, the people who are the southern women whose

536
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: grandma and great grandma or how they seemed a lot

537
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: more comfortable, definitely devastated when their kids didn't make necessarily

538
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: what they wanted. But the way men who are from

539
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: say California or I met some from Idaho in various

540
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: places like that were blown away and super sick about it,

541
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 1: even if their kids got what they wanted. This experience

542
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: is just it does not feel good. And they actually

543
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: at the school, there's a joke. The day after mid

544
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: day is called you Holliday for all the girls who

545
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: quit school wish when school calm on. It is literally

546
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: a running joke. They had to change the tuition at

547
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,719
Speaker 1: the university to the day before mid day so that

548
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: you pay your tuition leaving. Oh, this is ridiculous. I'm saying.

549
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: I'm just playing the opposite because I was a legacy.

550
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 1: My mom was in the exact same house I was

551
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,479
Speaker 1: in at the exact same school. We slept in the

552
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: same bedroom, like I mean he did years later my

553
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 1: Karen elope from the sorority, like they eloped from the Yeah,

554
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 1: my like was your dad in the front, Yeah, but

555
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: time he was already in law school, and so my

556
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: mom was young and he came and got her from

557
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: the story and people threw Rice out the sothroity windows.

558
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 1: Stop it. But my experience is nothing like Robin's daughter.

559
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 1: But unfortunately there are experiences like this that that is.

560
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: What is that? I think to me more typical, yeah,

561
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: than more the norm where it's like, I think maybe

562
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 1: you had the not typical norm. I think it just

563
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: depends where you go to schools. But but asked Sarah, like,

564
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: did you love it? No, that's what I was saying.

565
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: I don't know if you. I totally loved it, but

566
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: I I went into it knowing I'm obviously out of

567
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 1: way less intense school, so it's not gonna. I didn't

568
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: take it that seriously. Did your sister in Alabama like it? Oh? Yeah,

569
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: she loved it, But I mean again, she so she

570
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: was a legacy obviously because I was in a sorority.

571
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: She didn't. She got dropped from them because her grades

572
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: weren't good enough. And she's like whatever, Like, you can

573
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 1: look at it two ways. She's like, yeah, I wasn't smart,

574
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 1: my grades physically weren't high enough. Sorry, Docca, But she's

575
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: sorry sorry, your sisters, but because everywhere they're different, and

576
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: she's like, whatever, I got dropped? So what she got

577
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: the ring? Yeah she did. And I think that's way

578
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: more intense at at a southern school. I mean all

579
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: of her, all of her sorority sisters are married to

580
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: their little front boy. Like that's like a real thing. Well, Robin,

581
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 1: how is how is your daughter now? She she loves

582
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,479
Speaker 1: where she is. As far as the stority goes, I mean,

583
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 1: I think it's a lot to keep up with being

584
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: a California kid. There's just a lot of things have

585
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: to think about and how they threst and what they

586
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: were so critical and my experience in California where I

587
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: think I got up to like two cities wearing shoulder

588
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: paths and like big sweaters and totally different, probably different.

589
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: These girls are all of like supermodels. It's I think

590
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: it it would kill me. I just think it's giving

591
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: out the wrong image of what you have to look

592
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: like and be, especially in this day and age too,

593
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 1: where it's like I don't want Jolie to have to

594
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 1: see like, oh I have to look this way, addressed

595
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: this way, post these kind of pictures on social media

596
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 1: to try to like fit in and be like one

597
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: of those girls. I don't want to. It's not the

598
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 1: most diverse environment. And that's coming from California, where we

599
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: have complete diversity, where we live. With a bit of

600
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: a shock for my daughter and yeah, well, Robin, I

601
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 1: appreciate you sharing your story. Tell your daughter. We said

602
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: good luck and uh go Sororities, thanks for having um.

603
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638
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Speaker 1: daughter guys is going through rush today sweat Julie, are

639
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: you on the line, babe? I am. Your daughter is

640
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: going through the process today. She is, she's rushing today. Well,

641
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: there's orientation tonight, so she has to learn about what

642
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 1: will be happening over the next week. Are you nervous.

643
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 1: I'm kind of nervous for her, only because I did

644
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: it a long long time ago, So I am nervous

645
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 1: for her. What region is she and you don't have

646
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: to say the school? She's in Northern California. Did you

647
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:52,320
Speaker 1: have to do crazy things for rush? Uh? Nothing crazy?

648
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 1: Just um. You just hit you know, five or six

649
00:34:56,200 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: houses a day. It was just exhausting and the end

650
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 1: of the day, Yeah, you kind of had a better

651
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 1: feel for which house she were leaning towards. In which

652
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: is she leaning towards? Um, I'd say she's leaning towards

653
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 1: two or three different houses. I'd say, yeah, I don't

654
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: know if you want to know the actual one. Okay,

655
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 1: one would be Kappa and the other would be probably

656
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: Pi PI. And you were like totally on board when

657
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 1: she came to and was like, hey, mom, so I

658
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:29,959
Speaker 1: want to be in a sorority. Oh yeah, definitely, because

659
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 1: I did it and it was the best time of

660
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,320
Speaker 1: my life. I told her, Yeah, what were the benefits?

661
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 1: The benefits you mean, Frinch, I'd say, when you're going

662
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: to a new school and you don't really know anyone, uh,

663
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: the first day, you basically are introduced to you know,

664
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: thirty or so girls, at least at the school I

665
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,919
Speaker 1: went to. Those were the girls that you were kind

666
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 1: of going around with for a week. And I will

667
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 1: tell you in those for a few days, those girls

668
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 1: that I met are still my best friends today. Some

669
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: of them went we all went into the same house,

670
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: but um, some of us didn't. But we're all still

671
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: like that, like that's chill. The story that we just

672
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: heard was like frightening, frightening Yeah, oh really yeah, I

673
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: mean just like what they have to do for the

674
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: rush and they're bawling their eyes out and it's like,

675
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 1: come on, you know. It just seems like I heard

676
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 1: that we didn't have that though at the school I

677
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: went to. So yeah, but I have heard that. I've

678
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: got friends right now whose daughter did not get into out.

679
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:38,439
Speaker 1: Let me throw something out. Sorry, sorry to cut you off, Julie. Yeah,

680
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 1: there is some element to it that is like real life.

681
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: You don't get every job you apply for not everybody

682
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: is going to be your best friend. So I'm just yeah,

683
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: but I don't have But I don't have to play

684
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 1: stupid games to get a job, do you know what

685
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,520
Speaker 1: I mean? That's like I don't have to like, I

686
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: don't have to do these silly things to get a job.

687
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 1: But once you're in, like it kind of hold you accountable,

688
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 1: like you have to have you have to maintain your grades.

689
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: I mean I got put on academic probation because no

690
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 1: I did. I couldn't go to any of the parties

691
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: because I know, we look, I was there for one

692
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 1: reason and one reason only. Okay, I was trying to

693
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: have fun and find a husband, and I did of it.

694
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 1: And that why the girls go to college, literally it

695
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:23,320
Speaker 1: is to get their mrs de grade. So I think

696
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 1: that it goes like it did hold me accountable. You know,

697
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: there are like pluses for it, and there are like

698
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: real world issues like you know, if you don't get

699
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: your house or there were girls that had to co

700
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 1: exist with it. I mean, oh my god, stories, the stories,

701
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: but it teaches you there are some there are some

702
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 1: life lessons, but then there is symbols out and I'll

703
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:48,280
Speaker 1: tell you I got one point nine my first semester,

704
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:53,399
Speaker 1: and I had the best time in my life. However, yeah,

705
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 1: I didn't get initiated. I would me and one other

706
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 1: girl at a thirty girl didn't not get initiated and

707
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 1: had to wait and humiliate did and had to wait

708
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: a whole other months. So the other girls got into

709
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 1: shape and I didn't. Yeah, they helped me. I think

710
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: I got a point nine one semester. You did not. Yeah,

711
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 1: it's like two fs and incomplete and like a c

712
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: Yeah was that before after you got kicked out? That

713
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: was going on my way and he got kicked out

714
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 1: of college for first semester. Thanks for bringing that up.

715
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:29,240
Speaker 1: That will be another Come on, it's a real talk,

716
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: right now, get real talk. Excumely, what will you tell

717
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: your daughter she calls you and she's having a bad

718
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:40,919
Speaker 1: experience and like gets dropped by houses? Uh, let's see,

719
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: I'll probably tell her just to suck it up? Was

720
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:50,080
Speaker 1: it meant to be? And there? Yeah? Seriously, I mean,

721
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 1: we're not a real I don't know, we don't We're

722
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 1: not that emotional of a family. So I would I

723
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 1: basically say, well, a girlfriend, they were probably just a

724
00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 1: bunch of bitches. Anyways. Yeah, I like your mama and

725
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 1: where you'll be will be and make the best of it.

726
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: Yeah A men, Sistor, Well, I appreciate your authenticity and

727
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,479
Speaker 1: I wish her luck and we wish her luck today.

728
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: Tell her that the Wine Down Crew wishes her luck.

729
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: All right, thanks, Julie Fight. My question to you guys

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Speaker 1: some emails and Marcus here email reader. Thank you a

756
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,280
Speaker 1: lot of sorority emails. I picked out some favorite topic,

757
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: isn't it? And some cons? What would you like first

758
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: to pro or con? I'm a glass half empty, so

759
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 1: let's go at the con, especially when it comes to sorit.

760
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,919
Speaker 1: Nicole says, my friend was hazed doing terrible things such

761
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: as sitting Indian style, which I believe we now refer

762
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: to as Cris cross apple sauce. Yes, what it's not appropriate.

763
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 1: Indian style is not appropriated because offensive to Native Americans,

764
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: and Julie will start coming home, and she will because

765
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 1: they teach it in preschool. Chris cross apple sauce, not

766
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: Indian style. No, absolutely, and you were no longer an

767
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: Indian giver. Although I think Indian summer might be okay,

768
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:26,760
Speaker 1: I'm a double check that anyway, but no, but I'm sorry,

769
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:33,959
Speaker 1: just real fast. It's something so politically correct that, you know, Chris,

770
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: and what's wrong with saying like an Indian I think

771
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:39,720
Speaker 1: they're beautiful sitting Indian style. I think it's beautiful. Who cares?

772
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: But if they gets a stereotype that all the Native

773
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 1: Americans sit a certain way, you know, like around a campfire, right, correct? Sorry,

774
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to get us off out of tangent. Well,

775
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: I'm sitting Indian style right now, and I'm very happy

776
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 1: with it. So this was part of the next week.

777
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 1: Seven hours she squatted holding bricks, She got screamed at,

778
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 1: being treated like crap. And then you make it into

779
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 1: the sorority and now you're best friends with these girls. Um, yeah,

780
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: no thanks. I can make friends without having to do

781
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: these terrible things and not talking crap behind each other's backs. Yeah, right,

782
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: A big group of girls and no one talks crap.

783
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 1: That's bull. These girls talk so much assets unreal. Eventually

784
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 1: you go to college with no friends and you buy

785
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: your friendships. Not for me. Now, if there was really

786
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,279
Speaker 1: a sorority, there was candy in presence, then signed me up.

787
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 1: You guys are awesome. Love the show and Jeanne, I

788
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: love how down to earth you are and although you

789
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 1: are a celebrity, you seem so real. All right, I

790
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: love her, I love her. She's great. But by the way,

791
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: like that sounds awful. Never can you imagine? I haven't either,

792
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: I experience. I've seen it in the movies to the

793
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,959
Speaker 1: meanest thing that happened to me was one girl asked

794
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 1: if I could spell her last name, which I can

795
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 1: can to these two ways to else. Can you sell

796
00:42:56,360 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 1: my listening? I'm just kidding, Yeah I can. Well, that's insane.

797
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 1: Let's let's cleanse our palates with Jessica. Jessica says I

798
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 1: was in a sorority in college Alpha Kay Omega anyone Lights.

799
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 1: She says, yes, there was drama, but I met four

800
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 1: best friends. We all graduated in two thousand nine and

801
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: went are separate ways. There have been five of us

802
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,920
Speaker 1: living in four states, and we've gone months without talking.

803
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: Two thousand and sixteen, we had a girl's reunion weekend

804
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 1: in Chicago and there were two kids. All five of

805
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 1: us had babies. It's been the most amazing experience of

806
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 1: my life. This mama tribe is so important to me,

807
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: and I would never have met these friends without the sorority.

808
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: Sarah's goose, I'm so embarrassing. We are all always there

809
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:50,360
Speaker 1: for each other, from the beginning, through miscarriages, struggles to

810
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: get pregnant, now horror stories of teething and toddler is

811
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 1: going crazy. Yeah, there was some drama and girls I

812
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: didn't get along with in college, but I love them

813
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 1: all and I love watching them grow on their lives

814
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: even though we were not ends. Then there's a bond

815
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: that will never be broken. Well that's sweet, Jessica. They're

816
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: like double tapping on every install photo that they post.

817
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 1: And what's even funnier is like the girls that like you,

818
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 1: weren't friends with. Yeah, I see them like right on

819
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: Janice pictures stop, So they're still there even though they're

820
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 1: still talking you. Oh they're talking you but like you,

821
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 1: And they're like are they happy? Maybe no, they're jealous. Friend,

822
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 1: Let's swing back the other way. This is another jest

823
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 1: with her nightmare experience. I was in a chapter for

824
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: about six months before I started dating a guy in

825
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 1: a fraternity at my same school. He was in a

826
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 1: leadership position in his frat. I was running for VP

827
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: and mine six months later, I was VP and in

828
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,320
Speaker 1: charge of our recruitment, but also second hand to our president.

829
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:52,799
Speaker 1: I even with that guy for a while now, and

830
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,400
Speaker 1: I loved him. So one day I'm on his computer

831
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: doing some homework and saw a text come from one

832
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 1: of his friends that read, did you do her? I

833
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 1: clicked on it and read the text beoot him his friend,

834
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 1: and I found that he had slept with the current

835
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 1: president of my sorority, who blatantly knew of my relationship

836
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 1: and took pictures of her naked and sent them to

837
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 1: his friends in his fraternity. I left his place with

838
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 1: no explanation, and I waited till my sorority's next chapter meeting,

839
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: where I called out the president for her character and

840
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 1: tried to have her removed as president. My plan was

841
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: to drop the sorority, because why would I want to

842
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 1: be a part of something where the women don't respect

843
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,879
Speaker 1: their sisterhood. The whole soroity thing is bs and click

844
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: oriented and not worth the time and money. But y'all

845
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:38,319
Speaker 1: her sisters. No, that's actually that that's screwed up. That's

846
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:41,280
Speaker 1: a rough one. And finally Aaron and then a positive

847
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 1: shout out to Amy for defending sorority girls. Mine was big.

848
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: There were girls that didn't like my pled class with

849
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: sixty five plus girls, not everyone got along, but I

850
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 1: held a special place in my heart for each and

851
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: every Kappa Alpha Theta. The experiences and life lessons gave

852
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 1: me something I would never take back for a second.

853
00:45:57,800 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: And by the way, you don't have to drink or

854
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: get drunk to in a sorority. I did plenty of

855
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: sober activities with my sisters. My sorority was being known

856
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 1: as the smart girls on campus with the highest gp

857
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 1: A for fifteen years in a row. To each their own,

858
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: but don't knock it. I won't knock it. And one

859
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: last thing, you know, now that we're I had friends,

860
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: Like one of my best girlfriends was in a different sorority,

861
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 1: and so, I mean, I don't know if that happens everywhere,

862
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 1: but that's what I liked. You know, I didn't just

863
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: have to be with you know, Rachel was a d G. Okay,

864
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 1: other Rachel was a data so still friends with Rachel's.

865
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 1: I just actually was in San Francisco had coffee with her.

866
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 1: But again, I don't know if that's everywhere, you know,

867
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 1: but because you might not be able to go out,

868
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: you might. Yeah, but I love that that, you know,

869
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 1: we could kind of vent about our tribes to other tribes.

870
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm glad people have had great experiences. I'm

871
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 1: sorry for the ones that have had have had bad.

872
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 1: But I think that's that's the part that I just

873
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 1: I can't get on board, you know. Sometimes I you know,

874
00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: it would it be fun to go do like an

875
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 1: speriment and go spend like a week with Mirity. Yeah,

876
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,439
Speaker 1: and that'd be I actually would like I've always wanted

877
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: to do that, like to go back to like either

878
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: high school or college and like t like that. Um,

879
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:19,760
Speaker 1: I haven't even for Sarah, this is not frat related,

880
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: sorority related by sisters. Yeah, Jamie says, I'm in a

881
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 1: similar situation is Sarah. But I'm thirty four. We've been

882
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 1: together only two years. My boyfriend is forty two divorced.

883
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 1: We've lived together over a year. When we first got together,

884
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: he said, twelve months. Then when a year came and

885
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 1: went I had no ring. I brought it up again.

886
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: He said eighteen months. Again, six more months, no ring.

887
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: When or two year anniversary rolled around, I set him

888
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 1: down and I said to him, I gave up having

889
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: a second child for you. I will not give up marriage.

890
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:49,799
Speaker 1: It is not too late for me. So if you

891
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:51,359
Speaker 1: don't plan on putting a ring on in the next

892
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 1: twelve months, you tell me right now. He was scared.

893
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 1: He said he would absolutely propose to me in the

894
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 1: next six months. So now I'm enjoying the as a patient.

895
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,319
Speaker 1: I'm keeping my hair, skin and nails looking good looking

896
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 1: every holiday, birthday and the event we have coming up.

897
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 1: Her man is not stupid. He chose her and he

898
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: will not let her go. I hope she gets everything

899
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 1: she deserves it more YouTube Jana whatever, Wait, what do

900
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:21,399
Speaker 1: we call your fans? Like the downs? Like oh my god,

901
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:24,280
Speaker 1: the love? Yeah, you got a lot, I got a lot.

902
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 1: I mean that was no joke. And I don't know.

903
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: I feel like I got so many messages that were

904
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: like that that We're like, I've been with him for

905
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:34,960
Speaker 1: nine and I've been with him for seven. I've been

906
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 1: with him for eight, and I think that just kind

907
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 1: of made me realize. Okay, I don't. I don't want

908
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 1: that to be me. Just make sure you keep your

909
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: nails looking nice. This is a great engagement color. Do

910
00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: you know why I was thinking that? Is that like

911
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 1: bubble gum? Something is? And I actually told Tigo just

912
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: for the record, if they're hot pink, you better you

913
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 1: better call someone. Someone better take me to get my

914
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 1: He's like, what's wrong? I go, I didn't wait this

915
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 1: long to have hot pink nails. Who's gonna be here for?

916
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: Is called when you get engaged? I don't know, because

917
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm hoping that like, and are you going to post

918
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,240
Speaker 1: a picture before you tell people? You have to? Please

919
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: just tell me first before you put out. No, I'm

920
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 1: not gonna put it for like a moment, because this

921
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 1: I feel like this is something that like I want

922
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,600
Speaker 1: us to be like get our moment. Have you thought

923
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 1: about the kind of picture that you wanted to post?

924
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,839
Speaker 1: Because it should be I mean, it should she lives

925
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 1: her life like a Kardashian or you want to that's

926
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 1: like it's like you know what I mean. I think

927
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,239
Speaker 1: it should be like like holding a hockey puck, but

928
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: that's hilarious, But no, like a glass of champagne or

929
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: just drinking cop on the Sunday morning. Oh, you're not

930
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: really telling people, but people are like like where they

931
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: just like oh, I think so, it's not like I

932
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: hate the single ring or like him like right, oh

933
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: please no no no no no no no no. I

934
00:49:56,200 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 1: have a question for you though, because I was wondering

935
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:01,879
Speaker 1: about this, because we are obsessed with the Kardashians so much.

936
00:50:02,080 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 1: Do you want the extravagant proposal? Like what what would

937
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 1: it be your dream propose? I know when I heard so,

938
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 1: I think now, to be honest, I'm just happy. I'm

939
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 1: just gonna be happy to get it. I don't want

940
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: it to be in public, and I don't know if

941
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: I want like a big extravagant thing, because that's not

942
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: him and it's not really I mean when I helped

943
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 1: plan my sisters, he did it in her house and

944
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:26,359
Speaker 1: then we were all like the people there. I think

945
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: I've always said, like, I just it's a celebrate. I

946
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: want to celebrate, like I want to party, especially for

947
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 1: waiting this long, Like I want us to be surrounded

948
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,319
Speaker 1: and have fun. After My friends are like, that's so weird,

949
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,479
Speaker 1: why would you want us involved? I'm like because we've

950
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: all been in this together, you know, like this is

951
00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 1: something I want everyone. I don't know, but I mean,

952
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:45,840
Speaker 1: like honestly, like if we were in bed and he

953
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 1: just like, I'd be happy, Well I have something in

954
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: my pillow case, you would be so. But I don't

955
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 1: want it to be like in public, like I do

956
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 1: not want to be like you don't want to hear

957
00:50:56,480 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 1: online right here? No, not dinner or not public. I

958
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: don't know what am I saying. I don't even know.

959
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:06,760
Speaker 1: You don't want Janna to pull you guys up on stage?

960
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: She would die. I mean, it only feels right that

961
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 1: Jenna was there because I mean, I feel like she's

962
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 1: really got the ball rolling I do, you've really put

963
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 1: this emotion. I'm the one that grabbing his balls. No,

964
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: you are what are you doing? No? I actually kind

965
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 1: of felt I felt, I mean, I've never done this.

966
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 1: So when the podcast came out, I was like a

967
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: little nervous, and then I was like, you know what,

968
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: what's what's there? If this is meant to be, it's

969
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 1: meant to be and I'm having a voice and I'm

970
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:33,800
Speaker 1: using it. And then when all those people started texting

971
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: me and jamming me, I was like, it's all, it

972
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 1: all makes sense, like there's nothing to be ashamed of.

973
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 1: I was like, really, I'm like, I'm having everyone come

974
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: out here to listen to me say I can't get

975
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:46,799
Speaker 1: my boyfriend to marry me. But yeah, I'm like, it's nothing. Hey,

976
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 1: switching gears a second. Um, do you guys? Maybe this

977
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: is because I'm I want to I want to talk

978
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: about this, but I like don't want to talk about

979
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 1: because I'm scared if maybe the person is listening. But

980
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 1: do you guys have a friend that you had? It's like,

981
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: I don't know preschool, it could be like a childhood friend,

982
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 1: but you've grown apart, but you kind of but you

983
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 1: were still like it was your best friend in high

984
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: school as your best friend. But it's like, but do

985
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: you have to be best friends now? I just talked

986
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 1: to her last night. Really, I've known her since I

987
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 1: was four. She was my first friend. She's my best friend.

988
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 1: We've gone through some years where we didn't talk at all,

989
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 1: but our friendship as soon as we reconnect, you always

990
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:34,399
Speaker 1: picked up exactly. It's like no time has passed. I

991
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: know her better than her sisters know her, and she

992
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: knows me better than my sisters will ever know me.

993
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,360
Speaker 1: I mean, we've met in it. We lived together in college.

994
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 1: We did she put an effort though she has two kids,

995
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 1: and she lives in Matro Detroit, and we lived very

996
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: very different lives, very different lives. Um, we both put in.

997
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: I'm going to say we talked to each other on

998
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: the phone maybe two or three times a year. Um.

999
00:53:07,000 --> 00:53:10,799
Speaker 1: But we we are active on social media, so we

1000
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:14,400
Speaker 1: know whatever what we're doing. And and I love her

1001
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 1: more than anything. And to get a call from her

1002
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: last night, it was awesome. And I was thinking about

1003
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:24,919
Speaker 1: her thirty minutes before she called. When you have an

1004
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 1: old friend that you're not friends with anymore, well, it's

1005
00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: not that we're not friends anymore. It's because I have

1006
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 1: I have plenty of friends where you know, I have

1007
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: I have a one of my skating girlfriend's Missy, Like

1008
00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:37,319
Speaker 1: we've always been friends. We pick up where we leave

1009
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: off every time I've seen her. I mean, there's I

1010
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: have plenty of friends like that. I mean, just like

1011
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: my friend jen Wayne, she's you know, she was a

1012
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 1: bridesmaid in my wedding. I don't talk to her much

1013
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:49,960
Speaker 1: because she's she's in runaway. June she's always on the road. Um,

1014
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:52,320
Speaker 1: but I know what she's doing obviously, like from social media,

1015
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 1: and we always pick up where we leave off. But

1016
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: I have this one girlfriend where when we've been friends

1017
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 1: since middle school, but god, I'm like, I'm like, oh

1018
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 1: my god, I'm I stepping into like a dog pile

1019
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:08,840
Speaker 1: right now of like stuff. But everyone can ye everyone,

1020
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:17,919
Speaker 1: it's just setting it up. She didn't. She didn't call

1021
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 1: me or text me when I had my two miscarriages

1022
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 1: last year. She didn't, you know, text me when she

1023
00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 1: found out that I was because it said, here's the thing, Like,

1024
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: I mean, did I call people like I? Yess? I

1025
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 1: told some of my Nashville girls that I had a miscarriage.

1026
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 1: I told you Sarah that had miscarriage, you know, and

1027
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 1: then I posted online. I know she's on social media,

1028
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:40,839
Speaker 1: but you would think that someone that you have been

1029
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:44,280
Speaker 1: best friends with since since middle school would have reached

1030
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:46,319
Speaker 1: out and been like, I don't care how busy you

1031
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:50,799
Speaker 1: are with your two kids and your job. It hurt

1032
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: my feelings that you didn't reach out. Also, I've always

1033
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 1: felt like she reached out for something like and it's

1034
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:00,400
Speaker 1: like and maybe because I'm not, I go I go,

1035
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,880
Speaker 1: I bet you the second I am on something again,

1036
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,840
Speaker 1: she will reach out. And the second that you know

1037
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: I did, family feuders like, oh my god, I'm like,

1038
00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 1: of course, why are you just attracted now to my

1039
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 1: personality as opposed to now like me and I think

1040
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 1: like we had a little bit of like a you know,

1041
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 1: I don't think she understood why I took Mike back.

1042
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,160
Speaker 1: I don't think her husband like that I took Mike back,

1043
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: but it was and maybe that was the strain there,

1044
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 1: but there was never like I have such deeper relationships

1045
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 1: now with other people that I'm like, but why do

1046
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 1: I keep calling her my best friend? And I don't

1047
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: think that's my best friend anymore. She's not being a

1048
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 1: bust friend to you, so she's not your best friend.

1049
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 1: Let's come out from another perspective, because that's always the

1050
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,160
Speaker 1: best way to do it. So now you have to

1051
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:49,319
Speaker 1: really look deep in yourself. Do you reach out to

1052
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 1: her with whatever? I've tried? But she doesn't go deep.

1053
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:54,560
Speaker 1: That's the thing, Like I'd be like, how are you

1054
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:58,239
Speaker 1: and you know your husband and she doesn't ever go

1055
00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 1: It's like, oh it's great. It's like I want relationships now.

1056
00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:04,240
Speaker 1: I don't want just the like, well, some people are

1057
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:08,239
Speaker 1: ar cakes and rainbows, and it's so that might have

1058
00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: you're dealing with, which is why it's hard for her

1059
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: to come to you. But she's never been that like

1060
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 1: kind of like. But I mean, all I really know

1061
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: is from high school because after high school I moved

1062
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:21,239
Speaker 1: to New York in the l A. So. And then

1063
00:56:21,239 --> 00:56:23,479
Speaker 1: from then it was just whenever she came out to visit.

1064
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 1: She's still in the Midwest. She's still in the Midwest.

1065
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:29,839
Speaker 1: You know, I've heard she's quitting your job. Jealous. You know,

1066
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: I don't think she's jealous, but no, but I mean

1067
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 1: the second that I was on you know, one of

1068
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:36,720
Speaker 1: her favorite shows, was she here like gung ho Blazing,

1069
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 1: Like of course, But when you guys were in high school,

1070
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 1: did you what was the relationship? I mean, we're best

1071
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 1: is but what kind of I mean, like again, like

1072
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:47,439
Speaker 1: you grow so much from like high school to where

1073
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 1: we are now, so it's like yeah, and it's like

1074
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 1: now I'm you know, I'm calling you know, I'm calling

1075
00:56:53,239 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 1: you guys, I'm calling my my friends in Nashville. And

1076
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 1: it's like, because I don't feel like I can go

1077
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 1: that deeper. Did a relationship with her because she's not

1078
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 1: like you're going there with me. I was going to

1079
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: say one time, that makes me sad, It's okay, you

1080
00:57:07,800 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 1: have to go. People grow. You've grown, she hasn't. It

1081
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 1: happens a lot when I've had it with a lot

1082
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:17,400
Speaker 1: of my friends that have had a long time that

1083
00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: stayed in the Midwest, because when you have your whole

1084
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: perspective changes and the way you live your life is

1085
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 1: so different. It happens because you've gone through so much

1086
00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: that you've changed to because you've gone through a lot

1087
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 1: of stuff, and so you've changed, and she hasn't or

1088
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 1: can't relate or can't catch up, or just is a

1089
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:44,040
Speaker 1: different type of person. But I mean, even my friends

1090
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 1: that can't relate to they're still They're like, they're still

1091
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 1: like emotionally available. They're still. And again, I get a

1092
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:53,920
Speaker 1: busy schedule, but nothing nobody can tell me that their

1093
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 1: schedule is anything I'm doing, and that I still have

1094
00:57:57,080 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: a good relationship with my girlfriends, that I there's no

1095
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 1: reason why I can't text you back or say like, hey,

1096
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 1: I saw this post and I'm so sorry it's something

1097
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I was because it

1098
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:08,240
Speaker 1: just made me think of it because I was going

1099
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:11,040
Speaker 1: through something on Facebook popped up yesterday and it said

1100
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:15,280
Speaker 1: eleven years ago, and I was like, wow, like it's

1101
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: just it's changed. It's like and now it's like but

1102
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: it's sad because it's like it's almost like a loss

1103
00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: of like it's really hard. I have it with a

1104
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 1: couple of friends and and it's hard. I mean I

1105
00:58:26,080 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 1: think about it sometimes and I'm like, oh, I almost

1106
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:30,120
Speaker 1: kind of have to block it. And it's almost like

1107
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: am I putting on something. It's like every time I

1108
00:58:31,920 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: go home, I'm always texting her, But the last time

1109
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 1: I went home, I didn't really see a lot of effort.

1110
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,000
Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm not putting in this effort

1111
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 1: if you're not even going to put effort in like

1112
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 1: the one time that I'm home a year to actually

1113
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 1: like come see me, you know, or like to to whatever.

1114
00:58:45,400 --> 00:58:47,919
Speaker 1: So I'm like, why don't do that? But and that's

1115
00:58:47,920 --> 00:58:49,480
Speaker 1: like where I'm now like grieving it, where it's like

1116
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 1: the last time I came, I didn't text her, and

1117
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 1: I was like that was hard because I've always texted her.

1118
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 1: But I'm like, wait, I'm not in high school anymore.

1119
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 1: I'm not. We're not. We've outgrown. I guess that relationship

1120
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 1: said something to me one time and they were like,

1121
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:03,960
Speaker 1: you know, we treat like relationship like you know with

1122
00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 1: your partner, but friendships have um now, I can't think

1123
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:11,640
Speaker 1: of what I was going to. Friendships have expiration dates too,

1124
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 1: and sometimes there's nothing you can do. And I have

1125
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:15,040
Speaker 1: that with a friend. It's very uncomfortable, it's very awkward

1126
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 1: because it's currently happening. But that's when she said that

1127
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,959
Speaker 1: to me. I was like, wait, it clicked. I'm like, yeah,

1128
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:23,960
Speaker 1: some things just expire and no one did anything and

1129
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 1: nothing happens. But like you're growing, You've gone through so

1130
00:59:27,160 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 1: much and she probably can't relate, and again I can't.

1131
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't have kids, I don't have a husband,

1132
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,920
Speaker 1: I don't have but like we are just connecting on

1133
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 1: a different level and maybe it's just hard for something.

1134
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:38,320
Speaker 1: You do have the option, even though it would be

1135
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:42,240
Speaker 1: hard to tell her what you told us and really

1136
00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 1: call her and say, hey, I really want to talk

1137
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,960
Speaker 1: to you. We've I feel like we're growing apart or

1138
00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 1: I feel like we we're not, you know, whatever it is.

1139
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: That's sort of an option if if it makes you

1140
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 1: feel so bad. You can try that. Yeah, you can

1141
00:59:57,320 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 1: also say whatever you can to grieve it and move on. Yeah,

1142
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 1: I kind of. You know, it's funny. It's a girlfriend

1143
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:06,280
Speaker 1: from that kind of group had reached out to me

1144
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 1: and we had more of a connected conversation through text

1145
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 1: within five minutes than what I'd have had with her

1146
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 1: in years, where I was like, man, I was like, yeah,

1147
01:00:19,680 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: please text me again. I'd love to chat with you

1148
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: again because we were friends and we did a girl

1149
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: And that's the thing, Like I'm all about picking up

1150
01:00:24,960 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 1: where we leave off, Like even if if I don't

1151
01:00:26,880 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 1: talk to you for a couple of months, like whatever,

1152
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:31,960
Speaker 1: like we always picked back and live off. That's fine,

1153
01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:36,240
Speaker 1: But it's always that like it's a connected relationship where

1154
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: you're just you're you, you share, both both parties share.

1155
01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:41,360
Speaker 1: And but I guess it's just hard for me because

1156
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:43,040
Speaker 1: when I saw that phote on Facebook and like, damn

1157
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 1: Facebook for always being the thing to remind me of

1158
01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 1: my relationships. And I'm like, thanks for the memory, Facebook,

1159
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 1: the wormhole devil. Yeah, but thanks for letting me get

1160
01:00:57,360 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 1: that off my chest. I just and I guess you

1161
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:00,720
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I don't think I want to

1162
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:03,920
Speaker 1: have that because I think I'm just and I have that.

1163
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 1: I just I think I've just passed it. It's not

1164
01:01:08,200 --> 01:01:10,440
Speaker 1: if I don't see her any effort, and then I

1165
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:13,480
Speaker 1: just I have to do from it. I have a

1166
01:01:13,480 --> 01:01:17,280
Speaker 1: couple of friends where it's like, like, you know, whatever,

1167
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 1: if she does end up texting me, sure, but I'm

1168
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 1: I bet you it'll be when something comes out, either

1169
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 1: on TV or whatever. So I always say that your

1170
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:29,480
Speaker 1: life is a beautiful garden, and if you allow weeds

1171
01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: to continue to grow, it's going to really up your

1172
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,680
Speaker 1: garden and it's not going to be a beautiful place.

1173
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 1: So when stuff like this happens, you just have to

1174
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:42,919
Speaker 1: pull the weeds out. But I think it's like can flourish. Yeah.

1175
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:44,960
Speaker 1: I think it's hard though, just because like in in

1176
01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:48,360
Speaker 1: this age, it's like we think that we have to

1177
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 1: continue on with the friendships that we've had since high school.

1178
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:54,520
Speaker 1: But it's like, no, I'm a thirty four year old woman.

1179
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 1: I don't have I don't have to be friends with

1180
01:01:56,240 --> 01:02:00,680
Speaker 1: you anymore. Give yourself permission to move on. I know

1181
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:04,880
Speaker 1: it's a weird feeling. I have two friends that were

1182
01:02:04,920 --> 01:02:07,720
Speaker 1: like best friends and I have a great group of friends,

1183
01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:12,000
Speaker 1: but two of them have like really dropped off left

1184
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 1: the tribe. And it's like one is fully left and

1185
01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:18,520
Speaker 1: the other one it's like, you know, some people go

1186
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 1: through things. It's like the Four Agreements. Likely it's not

1187
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 1: about you as much as it feels like it's about you.

1188
01:02:27,760 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 1: Something could be going on with her where she just

1189
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 1: I just want real if you can't be vulnerable and

1190
01:02:36,440 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you gotta tell me every like skeleton

1191
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,480
Speaker 1: in your closet, but if we can't have an honest

1192
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:46,520
Speaker 1: just a just an authentic conversation, not just like oh yeah, things,

1193
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 1: kids are good, I'm like, that's I don't. I don't.

1194
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 1: I don't like when I asked someone how are you

1195
01:02:50,440 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 1: and they say good, because I think it's a bunch

1196
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: of baloney. Everything nobody are a is good? Right? No,

1197
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:02,640
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I know yesterday and I was traveling, the

1198
01:03:02,640 --> 01:03:05,800
Speaker 1: guys like the even the flight guy, he was like,

1199
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 1: how are you. I go honestly, I don't want to

1200
01:03:08,360 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 1: be flying right now. I was like, oh my tired.

1201
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 1: I was somewhere and I'm like, how are you? And

1202
01:03:13,680 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 1: the person was like, whoa. I mean sometimes you don't

1203
01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 1: want to hear a sob story. But again, like if

1204
01:03:18,440 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 1: it's you know, a relationship, but it's like you want

1205
01:03:20,600 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: to have that other partner. So thanks for letting me

1206
01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:25,960
Speaker 1: get that because I was just every single person listening.

1207
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 1: If you want to, yeah, if it's been a minute

1208
01:03:32,480 --> 01:03:35,120
Speaker 1: and you do care about that relationship, give the personal call.

1209
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:39,800
Speaker 1: Do it. Yeah. If that ship has sailed, it's okay,

1210
01:03:40,120 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 1: let it sail that's me sail away. And you know what,

1211
01:03:47,800 --> 01:03:50,120
Speaker 1: It's interesting though, in ten years that person can come

1212
01:03:50,120 --> 01:03:54,360
Speaker 1: back and it's like people change, so you never know.

1213
01:03:54,640 --> 01:03:58,760
Speaker 1: You just don't know. She needs maybe some time and growth. Yeah,

1214
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: speaking of growth? What? Oh no, I was I was

1215
01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 1: going to tell you earlier. I was in New York

1216
01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:10,680
Speaker 1: for a week for work and Rocco had to stay

1217
01:04:10,880 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 1: with his dad. And when I got home, I got

1218
01:04:15,120 --> 01:04:17,880
Speaker 1: a text that I needed to call him because he

1219
01:04:17,960 --> 01:04:22,640
Speaker 1: needed to talk to me. And I was like about

1220
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 1: what it was, Oh, well, um, after work, I'll talk

1221
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:32,240
Speaker 1: with you. I was like, oh, all right, whatever. So

1222
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:36,439
Speaker 1: last night and like waiting around, waiting around, are you nervous? Yeah,

1223
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 1: it was kind of nervous because I was like, what, like,

1224
01:04:38,560 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 1: just just tell me it's like, yeah, so annoying. Um.

1225
01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:45,560
Speaker 1: So he got on the phone and he said, uh

1226
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:51,160
Speaker 1: so while you were while you were gone, um, you know,

1227
01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:55,600
Speaker 1: at least four or five times, and I rocko asked, um, so,

1228
01:04:55,800 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 1: I wonder what so and so is doing the boyfriend

1229
01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:09,080
Speaker 1: yours around the dad, right, And it happened like every

1230
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 1: day times and I said, well, I'm really sorry, but

1231
01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:20,080
Speaker 1: he's curious. We spend a lot of time with him

1232
01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: and his daughter or he and his daughter, and um

1233
01:05:23,400 --> 01:05:28,880
Speaker 1: and when the kids you're going to be around that

1234
01:05:28,920 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 1: your mom's we live in the same neighborhood, you know. Um.

1235
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:38,320
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, but this is what it is. And

1236
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:42,440
Speaker 1: he ended up being okay with it, but I was

1237
01:05:42,600 --> 01:05:45,080
Speaker 1: just you know, and then he said, well then he

1238
01:05:45,160 --> 01:05:47,720
Speaker 1: was asking why aren't we living in the same house

1239
01:05:47,800 --> 01:05:50,800
Speaker 1: and why aren't we together anymore? And I said, well,

1240
01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:55,160
Speaker 1: he often asked that, and it's really normal. And I

1241
01:05:55,280 --> 01:05:58,880
Speaker 1: have a talk with him about how his one friend

1242
01:05:59,000 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 1: only as a dad and his other friend only has

1243
01:06:01,920 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 1: a mom, and his other friend is you know, because

1244
01:06:06,080 --> 01:06:08,720
Speaker 1: the same situation as you know he does, where his

1245
01:06:08,800 --> 01:06:12,680
Speaker 1: mom and his dad lives separately, and every family is

1246
01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:16,520
Speaker 1: different and there's nothing wrong with that, And it's actually

1247
01:06:16,560 --> 01:06:20,480
Speaker 1: really you're you know, are really lucky that you have

1248
01:06:20,520 --> 01:06:23,480
Speaker 1: a mom and dad who love you so much, and um,

1249
01:06:23,720 --> 01:06:25,840
Speaker 1: you get to spend one on one time with us

1250
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:28,600
Speaker 1: and get to do all kinds of things. He said, Oh, well,

1251
01:06:28,600 --> 01:06:31,240
Speaker 1: I never thought to, you know, talk about it that way.

1252
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 1: How old is he? Who? He's six? You're like my cousin.

1253
01:06:38,560 --> 01:06:40,320
Speaker 1: I mean, that's going to be a tough situation. No,

1254
01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:43,280
Speaker 1: it's really difficult, you know, and it's kind of getting

1255
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Speaker 1: muddy with lives moving on. Um, but it's just I

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01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:52,160
Speaker 1: think he's jealous to probably he's the other man in

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01:06:52,240 --> 01:06:54,680
Speaker 1: his life, probably because I would know if that was

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01:06:54,760 --> 01:07:00,080
Speaker 1: my husband, he would be like, why is jolly talking about? Right? No,

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01:07:00,240 --> 01:07:03,960
Speaker 1: And I'm you know, trying to be really compassionate about that.

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01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 1: And um, do you get why people stay married until

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01:07:07,680 --> 01:07:10,880
Speaker 1: the kids go to college? And then they masses them

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Speaker 1: up so bad? But but here's the thing that I

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01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:16,440
Speaker 1: just had a light bulb on. It's not about the

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Speaker 1: kids why they stay till the kids go to college.

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01:07:19,040 --> 01:07:21,920
Speaker 1: It's about them. They can't handle it. But then when

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Speaker 1: your kids are adults, you don't really care. You're like,

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01:07:23,960 --> 01:07:28,640
Speaker 1: who cares right, No, I just realize, really say, their staying,

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Speaker 1: you know, for the kids, but they're staying because they

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01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:36,840
Speaker 1: can't handle the kids being with someone. And I get that.

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Speaker 1: That's why I don't know that most divorces happen when

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Speaker 1: the kids go to college. I don't know. I mean,

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01:07:43,520 --> 01:07:46,200
Speaker 1: I know one of my girlfriend's parents divorced right when

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Speaker 1: they when she went to college. But I will say,

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Speaker 1: I mean, to your to your point, Amy, the leading

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Speaker 1: force of why I have not left Mike is I

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01:07:54,440 --> 01:07:59,080
Speaker 1: do not want another lady around my child. And I

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01:07:59,680 --> 01:08:03,000
Speaker 1: but having said that, when I'm done, if I was

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01:08:03,040 --> 01:08:05,160
Speaker 1: ever to be done done with Mike, I wouldn't care.

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Speaker 1: But I still care because I still love him. Of

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01:08:07,840 --> 01:08:09,680
Speaker 1: course I still don't want her to get the better

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01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 1: version of him, but I also don't want my child

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01:08:13,240 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 1: and I don't want him hanging around some whatever kind

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01:08:17,520 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 1: of chick that he picked up around my child. And

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01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:23,040
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want Jolie talking about her. So that was

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01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:24,840
Speaker 1: in the very beginning. I mean, when my girlfriends were like,

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01:08:24,840 --> 01:08:26,760
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, you're still her mom, I was like,

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01:08:26,960 --> 01:08:30,360
Speaker 1: I don't care, Yes, I'll be because I know, like

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01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,720
Speaker 1: she's I know every single part of that child, like

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01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:34,840
Speaker 1: she's she came from me, Like she will never call

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01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:38,320
Speaker 1: anyone else a mom or you know. But again, but

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01:08:38,479 --> 01:08:40,479
Speaker 1: I think if I was like so done, I wouldn't

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01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:45,679
Speaker 1: care in my five second google I just did. It's

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01:08:45,720 --> 01:08:49,599
Speaker 1: totally torn. Like like two psychologists are like, kid, shouldn't

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01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:51,240
Speaker 1: live in an unhappy home, You shouldn't live in an

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01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:53,679
Speaker 1: unhappy home, You shouldn't be in a bad marriage. But

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Speaker 1: you know, it's like, yeah, it's a crap shoot. I

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01:08:57,320 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 1: will say though, like if we were to get divorced,

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01:08:59,600 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 1: the major already of the time spent would be with me, right,

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01:09:02,600 --> 01:09:04,840
Speaker 1: so it would be me and my significant other, so

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01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:08,679
Speaker 1: she wouldn't really be around the other the other battle

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01:09:08,680 --> 01:09:11,560
Speaker 1: and then he tries to bring it on baby that

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01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:15,760
Speaker 1: I can't even but I will say, like with in

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01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 1: my situation with my parents, I know my mom did try.

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01:09:19,200 --> 01:09:21,280
Speaker 1: I wish she would have left my dad years ago.

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01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:25,000
Speaker 1: It was not a good upbringing. In certain situation, you

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01:09:25,080 --> 01:09:28,880
Speaker 1: don't want, you know. One of my main reasons for

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01:09:29,160 --> 01:09:33,000
Speaker 1: making this huge life change was I didn't want Rocko

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01:09:33,080 --> 01:09:36,240
Speaker 1: to grow up seeing those things, thinking that that's the

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01:09:36,280 --> 01:09:41,920
Speaker 1: way a relationship is. No communication that you know, it's

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01:09:41,960 --> 01:09:46,840
Speaker 1: completely silent, you know, through dinner it's that's not that's

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01:09:46,840 --> 01:09:49,439
Speaker 1: not what I want for him in the future, agreed

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01:09:49,960 --> 01:09:52,160
Speaker 1: at all. So you know, you have to make those

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01:09:52,200 --> 01:09:55,840
Speaker 1: hard choices. But then after the hard choice is made,

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01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:58,200
Speaker 1: now you have to deal with all the mud. But

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01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:00,880
Speaker 1: I mean there could be good stuff. I mean, like

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01:10:00,920 --> 01:10:03,439
Speaker 1: who knows, like you know, maybe like I will say this,

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01:10:03,560 --> 01:10:05,360
Speaker 1: like if my dad would have married the girl that

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Speaker 1: he's now married to, I would have had a way

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01:10:07,760 --> 01:10:11,040
Speaker 1: better relationship with my dad afterwards, because I love the

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01:10:11,120 --> 01:10:13,840
Speaker 1: lady he's married to now, like she's lovely. But the

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01:10:13,920 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 1: lady he married after my mom, which was like his

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01:10:15,920 --> 01:10:19,960
Speaker 1: a fair girl, I hated her so like that you

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01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:22,240
Speaker 1: know that that doesn't make it happy either, But again

1324
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:24,240
Speaker 1: that kind of shapes like how your relationship with your

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01:10:24,240 --> 01:10:25,680
Speaker 1: parents are going to be after the divorce. And I

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01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:28,920
Speaker 1: don't know any unhappily divorced people though, Like do you

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01:10:28,920 --> 01:10:31,400
Speaker 1: know anyone that's divorced? Like if I could only just

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01:10:31,479 --> 01:10:35,120
Speaker 1: get you know, and so bad, I will say my

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01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:40,240
Speaker 1: mom was unhappy for a very like time, but she yes,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, my dad had an affair end up marrying

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01:10:43,720 --> 01:10:47,679
Speaker 1: his a fair girl. But he but she said I wish.

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01:10:47,840 --> 01:10:49,479
Speaker 1: She did say at one point, I wish I would

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Speaker 1: have And I think she said that in a time

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01:10:50,880 --> 01:10:53,680
Speaker 1: of just despair and loneliness because she's like, I'm never

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01:10:53,720 --> 01:10:55,639
Speaker 1: going to find anybody. I'm like, yes you are a mom,

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01:10:55,680 --> 01:10:57,680
Speaker 1: like yes you are, like you will, you will, you will.

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01:10:57,720 --> 01:10:59,920
Speaker 1: It just might not be tomorrow. But you know, once

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01:11:00,000 --> 01:11:02,120
Speaker 1: it was fifteen years and it was twenty years, and

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01:11:02,120 --> 01:11:04,720
Speaker 1: so it was like, you know, of course, like she's like,

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01:11:04,720 --> 01:11:10,479
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna find but she did. But she did say,

1341
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:13,479
Speaker 1: she did say she wishes that she would have tried,

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01:11:13,520 --> 01:11:15,160
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit harder, And I was like, no, Mom,

1343
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:17,680
Speaker 1: it wouldn't have changed. He would not. It would not have.

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01:11:18,080 --> 01:11:20,360
Speaker 1: You two did not work together. You were meant to

1345
01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:21,760
Speaker 1: have my brother and I and that was it. And

1346
01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:26,120
Speaker 1: now she's married. To get this, she's married to my

1347
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:34,200
Speaker 1: brother's ex wife's dad. So his so okay, So my

1348
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:36,800
Speaker 1: brother was married to a lady named Jackie who which

1349
01:11:37,479 --> 01:11:43,120
Speaker 1: we're not going there but um so um yes, and

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01:11:43,200 --> 01:11:48,760
Speaker 1: so married married Jackie. So his father in law was Dan. Okay,

1351
01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 1: Now they had kids and so Ava and Dylan have

1352
01:11:53,280 --> 01:11:56,720
Speaker 1: you know their grandpa is you know, grandpa, you know,

1353
01:11:56,760 --> 01:12:01,120
Speaker 1: Papa Papa Dan and then Papa Nora from the other side. Um,

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01:12:01,200 --> 01:12:07,639
Speaker 1: so then when their grandparents were married. Now my dad

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01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:11,040
Speaker 1: now my brother's stepdad or you know, obviously not really

1356
01:12:11,080 --> 01:12:12,920
Speaker 1: like you know, he's not gonna call like stepdad, but

1357
01:12:12,960 --> 01:12:16,559
Speaker 1: like his stepdad is his ex father in law. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, next week we're talking about this because I'm

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Speaker 1: so curious now like at Christmas. Oh, save it for

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Speaker 1: next week. We're out of time from this week, but

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Speaker 1: oh my god. Oh I can't wait to hear more

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Speaker 1: about the guys. Yeah, okay, Oh, I just want to

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Speaker 1: were out of time. We talked about a lot today. Um,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sorry. I'm not gonna let I don't think

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna let Julie set up for Shorty. But it's

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Speaker 1: all good. I've got I've got sixteen more years. You're

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Speaker 1: good for that. So good. Yeah, let me talk about

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Speaker 1: it later. I love you, ladies, Love you too. Can't

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Speaker 1: wait for next week with the family affair. Oh thank god,

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