Speaker 1: Right girl.
Speaker 2: Shit, Yeah, I'm in my bag, but I mean he
Speaker 2: is too, and that's why your time you're seeing me.
Speaker 1: I got some new shoes. Look, bitch, I'm a start.
Speaker 2: I got these niggas wishing. He say, hungry is pussy
Speaker 2: the kitchen. Yeah, that's my doubt. He's gonna sit down
Speaker 2: and listen. Call him a trick and he don't get
Speaker 2: a huller.
Speaker 1: Bitch, I'm a start. I got these niggas wishing.
Speaker 3: He say hungry's pussy the kitchen. Yeah, that's my doubt.
Speaker 2: He's gonna sit down and listen. Call him a Trickiny,
Speaker 2: don't get offended. You know he giving his money to Megan.
Speaker 2: He know it's very expensive to daily. Tell him go
Speaker 2: put my name one to come because when I need money,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to holler. You know, he giving his money
Speaker 2: to making You know it's very expensive to day.
Speaker 3: Tell him gonna put my name.
Speaker 2: One that count because when I need money, I ain't
Speaker 2: trying to.
Speaker 3: Be Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica
Speaker 3: and named Mila.
Speaker 1: Happy wedsday.
Speaker 3: Hey some dad today. It feels like we haven't been
Speaker 3: here in so long.
Speaker 1: I know we haven't I know.
Speaker 3: I'm so happy to be in our chairs, in our setup.
Speaker 4: I'm so happy to be in chairs and are setup
Speaker 4: and not have an event planned.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I'm so happy. I'm so happy, so happy.
Speaker 5: I'm looking at our chalkboard across the way. There's nothing
Speaker 5: on it. It's fucking great.
Speaker 1: It's a whiteboard.
Speaker 3: Whatever, a white board. There's nothing on it.
Speaker 1: It looks so beautiful, so happy. A see there's nothing
Speaker 1: on it.
Speaker 5: I'm like ready to put some things on it, but like,
Speaker 5: I'm happy with this right now. Let's take our time
Speaker 5: because that ship was the source of a lot of stress.
Speaker 1: Ooor. I was like, this is gonna be this is
Speaker 1: gonna be our make or break. Are we gonna make it?
Speaker 1: Are we gonna make it fastest?
Speaker 5: So we didn't put We didn't have an episode last
Speaker 5: week because we couldn't get our shit together. We were
Speaker 5: both in different coasts. Jamila was still in Atlanta. I
Speaker 5: was like in fucking Florida, New York. So sorry about that.
Speaker 5: Someone messaged us, someone mentioned that we're gonna fall off
Speaker 5: because we haven't posted, and where are we? A bitch
Speaker 5: needed a fucking minute, Okay, Like.
Speaker 1: I goog the person you told me, yeah, I needed
Speaker 1: a second.
Speaker 5: Okay, Like I could not post think talk nothing about motherhood,
Speaker 5: mommy hood, good mom hood, nada. I couldn't do it
Speaker 5: like good mom overload, good mom fucking over loa. I
Speaker 5: don't know if we're gonna kill each other, kill ourselves.
Speaker 5: Like I was like ten seconds away from fucking cursing
Speaker 5: Jamila ou. I was like trying to keep it together.
Speaker 5: She was ten seconds from like cursing me.
Speaker 1: Out, Like I need to calm the fuck damn. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Like I realized like a lot of things about my
Speaker 5: stress levels and how I handle things, like the anxiety
Speaker 5: lossome friends.
Speaker 3: Like yo, shit was just it wasn't the tensions were high.
Speaker 4: It was literally like tensions were high up I mean,
Speaker 4: I want to say up until we got on stage,
Speaker 4: but like even after that, the next day, it was
Speaker 4: a lot like Okay, let's just let's just recap this
Speaker 4: whole thing.
Speaker 1: Because it's it's it's it's intent.
Speaker 5: So if you don't know, we're talking about our we
Speaker 5: just had a live show in Atlanta last Sunday.
Speaker 1: Last Sunday. Yeah, I know those Sunday before last.
Speaker 5: Sunday before last, our first out of state show.
Speaker 4: Right, and we decided this at like last minute, maybe
Speaker 4: like two months, two months before, because we found out
Speaker 4: there was an all women's podcast convention that weekend and
Speaker 4: our friend Danielle from Marriage and Martinez, who was going
Speaker 4: to be there, She's like, you guys should come, and
Speaker 4: I was like, this is a good time to have
Speaker 4: our show Erica. So we're like, let's do it.
Speaker 3: Fuck itt fuck it. We can do it.
Speaker 4: Two people show perfect, we could do everything. We realized
Speaker 4: that was fucking insane.
Speaker 3: We did it.
Speaker 1: We did it, We did it. It was absolutely insane.
Speaker 4: Okay, so let me just let's start from the beginning.
Speaker 4: So we had to do all this shit, email people
Speaker 4: and get these fucking bags, ship everything from La to
Speaker 4: Atlanta that we needed, ship various things from different people
Speaker 4: to different people in Atlanta, Like hey, my friend, I'm
Speaker 4: shipping twenty boxes to your house.
Speaker 1: I hope that's cool.
Speaker 4: I get to Atlanta, my dumb ass, I left this
Speaker 4: guy who I've literally known ten years ago and he
Speaker 4: was crazy ten years.
Speaker 1: Ago, picked me up. He's like he can cook, That's
Speaker 1: what it was. So I was like, okay, you can
Speaker 1: pick it up in the airport. This bitch and her stomach.
Speaker 1: I get it from the airport. He picks me up.
Speaker 4: We immediately run out of gas. He's like he mentions
Speaker 4: in these gas, but I didn't think, like literally we left,
Speaker 4: we left the airport, we got to like, uh, what's
Speaker 4: the exit where the varsity is. It's like right ten
Speaker 4: minutes from the airport. We stop and I'm like, he's like,
Speaker 4: oh no, I'm like, you ran out of gas. We
Speaker 4: call Hero because in Atlanta, if you stop on the freeway,
Speaker 4: they'll get they'll give you gas.
Speaker 1: But I don't know how long it's going to take.
Speaker 5: So like I think there's a gas station off the exit.
Speaker 5: We walk up the ramp off the exit, get a
Speaker 5: gas can, get gas, fill it up. Okay, fine, that's fine.
Speaker 5: I wasn't even tripping. I'm like, this is this is
Speaker 5: going to be a fun trip. You're to his apartment
Speaker 5: and immediately he starts talking about like how much he's
Speaker 5: missed me, you know how he's never forgotten.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what is he talking about?
Speaker 4: Like I vaguely remember the hangout, and the one hangout
Speaker 4: I do remember is because this crazy na get pulled
Speaker 4: a gun on my twenty first birthday party. What he
Speaker 4: met me like one week and then he's like he's
Speaker 4: he's parties.
Speaker 1: He's like, you could have a party in my apartment.
Speaker 4: I was like twenty one. I'm like, are you sure
Speaker 4: he's okay. I'll bring all the food up and cradlags.
Speaker 4: I'm like, bet. I invited like probably like sixty people.
Speaker 4: Then other people started coming there. We didn't know they
Speaker 4: were up to his apartment, his condo. He was gonna
Speaker 4: throw ones at me and this like dirty bitch stole
Speaker 4: the one.
Speaker 3: Wait, he was.
Speaker 1: Gonna throw ones at year. I don't know for what.
Speaker 3: This on your birthday.
Speaker 5: I was also I was also just wearing a bikini
Speaker 5: in high heels the entire birthday.
Speaker 1: The entire birthday.
Speaker 4: That's all I remember is like I was wearing this
Speaker 4: bikini and high heels. I never took them off because
Speaker 4: I was twenty one. That's what why I would do that.
Speaker 1: Now, so wou stairs, this bitch steals the hundred dollars
Speaker 1: I was on the counter. He flips out.
Speaker 4: First of all, the apartment is not the condo's not
Speaker 4: that big because first one was in the pool. But
Speaker 4: I had the fucking bathing sit on, goes up to
Speaker 4: the thing the girl steals the money, he.
Speaker 1: Pulls out a gap on the whole party.
Speaker 4: I had like coworkers there from the Marriot. I had
Speaker 4: like all these people. Even then, I was like, what
Speaker 4: the fuck? Everybody leaves? That ends the party.
Speaker 3: Quickly get that money back.
Speaker 5: Never got the money back. I found out who stole it,
Speaker 5: those dirty bitches. So this is why I probably shouldn't
Speaker 5: have went to hang out with this guy because that.
Speaker 5: But I was like, whoa, that's a long time ago.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 5: Oh So she starts telling me how much he's missed
Speaker 5: me and he's been waiting for this opportunity to come,
Speaker 5: like come back. And then he's like he like touches me,
Speaker 5: and I like pushed him off a little. He's like,
Speaker 5: oh man, that's why I like girls from LA. He's like,
Speaker 5: because y'all, don't you tough. You don't you know, like girls.
Speaker 4: Out here be tripping. I'd be like, so, I was like, well,
Speaker 4: what do you mean they be tripping? He's like, you know,
Speaker 4: I touched them. They'd be like, you know, trying to
Speaker 4: tell my friends I'm aggressive. Oh god, you know, they'd
Speaker 4: been trying to like, you know, make it a big deal.
Speaker 4: I was like well, I'm not afraid of you because
Speaker 4: I'll fuck you up. And I was like, but you know,
Speaker 4: there's this thing called consent.
Speaker 5: So in my head as soon as he said this,
Speaker 5: I'm like, well, how many friends have they told? You know? What?
Speaker 4: If you're talking to my boys saying I'm this and
Speaker 4: I'm that some I had, I'm like, fuck my life,
Speaker 4: what have I signed up for? Then he continues to
Speaker 4: talk about how he likes young girls, but not too young.
Speaker 1: How old is he?
Speaker 4: It's probably forty something. Oh lord, Okay, keep in mind
Speaker 4: he met me when I was twenty. He showed me
Speaker 4: he's okay because my other girl, I know, she was nineteen.
Speaker 4: This other girl I know since she was eighteen, and
Speaker 4: that they're like your age now. And I was like,
Speaker 4: so you like young girls. He's like, well, I like
Speaker 4: girls that age young, like look good in age.
Speaker 1: Well like, okay, I like young girls.
Speaker 3: I was like, but.
Speaker 1: The difference between me and R. Kelly is oh god,
Speaker 1: no he didn't, Yes he did, No he didn't, Yes
Speaker 1: he didn't. Oh no, I don't. I won't go below eighteen.
Speaker 1: I was like, you think that's the difference between insane
Speaker 1: and insane?
Speaker 4: So I was already like okay, panicking a little bit
Speaker 4: between like the rape.
Speaker 1: Comment and the like underage comment.
Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, always just being honest, okay, whatever continues
Speaker 4: a drink, he makes me crab legs or chilling till
Speaker 4: the night comes and he's like, gets real close to
Speaker 4: my face and he's like, we're gonna make you know
Speaker 4: if we have sex tonight, you're gonna remember. I was like, uh,
Speaker 4: what makes you think we're having sex tonight. He's like, well,
Speaker 4: at least you gonn kiss me right. I was like,
Speaker 4: I don't know about all that.
Speaker 1: He's like just he's like, breathe.
Speaker 3: Out your nose.
Speaker 1: I was like what He's like, just just breathe out
Speaker 1: your nose. He gets real close to my face, to
Speaker 1: my nose. He's like, I remember that.
Speaker 4: I remember that.
Speaker 1: Sense.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh god, no, So he's into your pheromones,
Speaker 5: Like what the fuck is happening? Yes?
Speaker 4: And then this is another thing that really irritated me,
Speaker 4: and this is something that men should listen to because
Speaker 4: niggas do this all the time. When he offered to
Speaker 4: let me stay pick me up from the airport, he's like,
Speaker 4: you can stay in my son's bedroom. And I was
Speaker 4: like cool. I was like, you know, he's like he
Speaker 4: said he'll sleep in a sun's bedroom. I can stay
Speaker 4: in his. And I was like whatever, cool, Like you
Speaker 4: don't have to put me out. I'm smaller, I could
Speaker 4: stay in your son's bedroom. So I get there and
Speaker 4: I'm like, so, what happened to your son's bedroom. He's like,
Speaker 4: there's no sheets on it. I was like, you don't
Speaker 4: have any sheets. I mean I do, but like they're
Speaker 4: from my bed. I'm like, so you don't have any
Speaker 4: sheets in here. So basically, you put something on the
Speaker 4: table and presented something a certain way, and in fact,
Speaker 4: you had no intention for it to happen that way,
Speaker 4: and basically you fucking.
Speaker 3: Lied, right.
Speaker 1: I hate this type of shit. Don't do this adults.
Speaker 1: This is dumb.
Speaker 4: I'm not a child, but anyway, I'm like, I'm still
Speaker 4: not like super scared because I'll throw bleach in your eyes.
Speaker 1: So I'm like we can lay down or whatever. He's
Speaker 1: like cuddling the shit out of me.
Speaker 5: I'm like, at first I was like making out with him,
Speaker 5: and then I was like I got really uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: I was just like I needed to get off of me.
Speaker 4: He's like Pharreal. I was like, yep, you need to
Speaker 4: get off of me. He's like phar Real. I was
Speaker 4: like absolutely, I'm asking you to get off of me.
Speaker 4: He like waited like thirty seconds to see if I
Speaker 4: was phar Real, and I was like looking at him,
Speaker 4: and then he's like all right.
Speaker 5: Then he starts to snore. Oh God, when I say
Speaker 5: I wanted to stab him.
Speaker 4: I was so tired, like we've been like relentlessly working
Speaker 4: for this show, and then like even when we were sleeping,
Speaker 4: we're not sleeping because we're stressing about it.
Speaker 1: So I hadn't really slept. I was. I woke up
Speaker 1: so early. I text everybody in my phone, Hey what's up?
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you close to this place?
Speaker 5: Hey?
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 6: Bar?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 1: Are you close to this place?
Speaker 4: But before I got to get picked up, he rolled
Speaker 4: over on top of me, put his nose in my armpit,
Speaker 4: took a big whiff, and I was like oh. I
Speaker 4: was like in my head, I was like, this is
Speaker 4: not happening. I can't wait to tell someone. Then he
Speaker 4: proceeds to tell me I remember that smell.
Speaker 1: I remember your.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he said, I remember ten years ten years ago.
Speaker 5: I was like Oh my god, I'm so I'm so embarrassed.
Speaker 5: I was inside you and I sniffed your armpit. You
Speaker 5: didn't notice, but I got harder. I could never packed
Speaker 5: my shit up so fast in my life. He was
Speaker 5: He made me breakfast on the balcony.
Speaker 1: He made me a drink.
Speaker 4: I was literally looking he took a picture of me.
Speaker 4: I didn't notice until later. I was looking over the
Speaker 4: balcony waiting for my friend, and he took a picture, like, oh,
Speaker 4: this is my friend. I made her breakfast. I hope
Speaker 4: she has a good show. And I'm literally like my back.
Speaker 5: So when I say I, he was like, my friends
Speaker 5: told me not to tell you this.
Speaker 4: I've been thinking about you since. Then in my head,
Speaker 4: I was like, you sink. You should have listened to
Speaker 4: your fucking friends. So I leave right. So I took
Speaker 4: all my shit out. He's like, oh, you're not coming back.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, you know, I'll be around. I'm
Speaker 4: just gonna I got a lot of shit in here.
Speaker 4: I just you know I'll be I'll be in touch.
Speaker 4: I ran out of there right.
Speaker 1: He calls me ten minutes.
Speaker 5: Later, Hey, I just really cleared my schedule because I
Speaker 5: knew you were coming in town.
Speaker 4: I just thought you were staying with me, Like, are
Speaker 4: you coming back? I was like, did I scare you off?
Speaker 4: I was like, listen, I have a lot of commitments
Speaker 4: on here. I have a lot of people to see
Speaker 4: and I have a lot of things to do for
Speaker 4: this show, so I'm not going to make any promises.
Speaker 1: I'm cool, but I'll call you. Don't call me. I
Speaker 1: was scared.
Speaker 3: I know you text me like what are you here yet?
Speaker 3: What's going on?
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm freaking out. I saw that Danielle text you.
Speaker 1: You were like, hey, I'm.
Speaker 3: Coming over coming your hotel.
Speaker 1: Anybody.
Speaker 4: I was literally like anybody. So that was like the
Speaker 4: first lesson, Like, bitch, you're not twenty anymore. Don't be
Speaker 4: doing dumb shit. This is not twenty one year old Atlanta,
Speaker 4: and you are not twenty year old Jamilla. And I
Speaker 4: learned quickly like, but you're too smart for this, Oka,
Speaker 4: I'm not drunk enough. Nearly, and then he was supposed
Speaker 4: to come to the show and didn't, thank god.
Speaker 1: Thank god.
Speaker 4: And then I hope he doesn't listen to this, which
Speaker 4: I'm sure he will, but this is you need to
Speaker 4: know that. This is does he listen he has this
Speaker 4: is these are things you don't do to women because
Speaker 4: this freaks them out. But he he then, oh, he
Speaker 4: didn't come to show, and he said something about his
Speaker 4: mom's lungs and he said, believe it or not, that's
Speaker 4: what I wanted to talk to you about.
Speaker 1: That's another thing.
Speaker 5: If you ain't if we haven't connected in ten years,
Speaker 5: I'm not your close friend, and I don't want to
Speaker 5: talk to you about your mom's health.
Speaker 1: And that sounds bitchy. It does, No, it's not.
Speaker 3: It is what it is.
Speaker 4: I would not reach out to someone I haven't spoken
Speaker 4: to in a year and say I want to talk
Speaker 4: to about when.
Speaker 5: I was probably his attempted some having some sort of
Speaker 5: emotional attachment to you and wanting to connect in any
Speaker 5: way possible.
Speaker 1: And I get it.
Speaker 4: And you know, it was the first lesson of the
Speaker 4: trip for me because I had a lot of similar
Speaker 4: experiences with people I've had people.
Speaker 1: Were actually closer to me than this person.
Speaker 4: Though this guy's a little crazy, like ex girlfriends and
Speaker 4: stuff that I like hung out with and like just
Speaker 4: people and people were just really invested in our relationships.
Speaker 1: And I realized, like I'm that type of person.
Speaker 4: People really get connected to me, and sometimes it's not mutual,
Speaker 4: you know, and I think that's a special quality of mine.
Speaker 1: But I also have to be like conscious of that cancer. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have to be really.
Speaker 4: Conscious because this nigga thought we were getting married for sure,
Speaker 4: and I was just like, this is crazy, Like you're
Speaker 4: fucking nuts.
Speaker 1: And he was a nice guy. He tried really hard to.
Speaker 4: Like accommodate me and be nice and I appreciate that,
Speaker 4: but like it was just a little it was just
Speaker 4: a little left too heavy. Anyway, my wonderful friend Sydney
Speaker 4: picked me up, thank god, and she went with me
Speaker 4: to the venue and Erica wasn't there yet, and I
Speaker 4: was like, look, said like what can we do to
Speaker 4: make this like space nice? You know, like I need
Speaker 4: how first she was going to drop me off, I
Speaker 4: was like, can you come and side with me?
Speaker 5: I need I need help. My partner's not here, Like please, bitch.
Speaker 5: She's like, okay, I like stuff like this.
Speaker 1: So she comes in. Then we go back to her apartment.
Speaker 5: We're sitting getting high and she's like, oh, you know what,
Speaker 5: my barstools look really good at the show.
Speaker 4: This area rug will look really good at the show. Oh,
Speaker 4: you should take all my plants. I was like, so
Speaker 4: I could take your.
Speaker 1: Whole living room.
Speaker 4: And we surely did, and we surely did. I was like, Sydney,
Speaker 4: I said, I can arrange it. I can arrange for
Speaker 4: someone to pick up this entire living room and I.
Speaker 5: Did, okay, which was amazing and it really made the
Speaker 5: difference for our decor.
Speaker 1: She, like Sydney, pulled the stops out.
Speaker 5: So even though I had a really strange, rapey kind
Speaker 5: of stalker related situation that led me to Sydney, that
Speaker 5: led her to come with me to look at the venue,
Speaker 5: that led me to have her whole living room at
Speaker 5: the venue, it just shows how divine things are, truly.
Speaker 5: And then and then Erica got there. Yeah, me just
Speaker 5: you know, raging anxiety.
Speaker 7: Raging well, I had just come from Home Shopping Network Florida,
Speaker 7: from Florida on a show, stressed the fuck out there,
Speaker 7: then came to Atlanta, got there, and then what happened was.
Speaker 1: I was like, go to oh, go to the venue.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Jamila sends me to the venue, a venue
Speaker 5: I've never been to with owners that are her people,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I get there and she's like, it's fine,
Speaker 5: just tell them like, oh, I get there because our
Speaker 5: stage risers are getting delivered. But there's also it's also
Speaker 5: a restaurant, so there's brunch, there's things that happen between
Speaker 5: Saturday and Sunday.
Speaker 1: They're telling. So they're telling she's first, so they don't
Speaker 1: know what she's talking about.
Speaker 5: No one knows what I'm talking about, and I'm like,
Speaker 5: I was like, I knew I was gonna get here,
Speaker 5: and no one's gonna know.
Speaker 3: I was talking about everything.
Speaker 5: I knew that was gonna happen happen, probably because I
Speaker 5: manifested it because I was in like a very like
Speaker 5: negative place. So I get there and I'm like, hey,
Speaker 5: so I'm here for the podcast. They're like who. I'm like,
Speaker 5: we're having a podcast outside. They're like what where? And
Speaker 5: I'm like is there an outside? They're like yeah, I
Speaker 5: just go out there, go around the side. I'm like where.
Speaker 5: So someone finally directs me. I get there and it's
Speaker 5: set up for like it's set up for brunch, and
Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, So the event planning company is coming
Speaker 5: in like ten minutes and I'm talking to the person
Speaker 5: like we have to set up a riser here Jamila's like,
Speaker 5: no worry, We're gonna set it.
Speaker 3: Up and then we're gonna move it in the basement.
Speaker 5: But I'm like, well, the event planning company can't know
Speaker 5: that because they're crazy, and they asked me all these
Speaker 5: motherfucking questions before we booked them because they're crazy.
Speaker 1: And they're gonna charge it.
Speaker 4: It's like if you, if you, if you, if you
Speaker 4: touch it, if you do assemble it, if you, if you,
Speaker 4: if there's stairs, if it's outside.
Speaker 1: So I'm there and.
Speaker 5: It's like all of the no one knows what the
Speaker 5: fuck of this riser is, where it's going.
Speaker 3: And so I called Jamila.
Speaker 4: And keep in mind I had not slept, I'd like
Speaker 4: partied all night and I was just like wait what.
Speaker 5: I'm like, Oh my god, this bitch is gonna kill me.
Speaker 5: This restaurant is gonna make me kill them. So I'm like, where, Jamila,
Speaker 5: what do you Where am I suppos put this rider?
Speaker 5: She's like, it's fine, just put it there. I'm like, no,
Speaker 5: they're telling me I can't. Then the owner is the
Speaker 5: wife of the owner. I don't know who she is,
Speaker 5: big mama, Okay. She calls me on ten like damn
Speaker 5: you're cursing me like low. Like was just like, hey,
Speaker 5: so the riser's not going up. We're not putting the
Speaker 5: riser up. And I was like, okay, well Jamila told
Speaker 5: me that. I don't care what Jamila said. It's not happening.
Speaker 5: And I said, okay, So like, Hi, I'm Erica. She's like,
Speaker 5: it doesn't matter who you are, it's not going I
Speaker 5: was like okay. She's like and when I get there,
Speaker 5: it better not be up. I was like, god damn, bitch.
Speaker 5: So I hang up and I called Jamila and I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 5: this is why you need it.
Speaker 3: To be here.
Speaker 5: We're people are your fucking people. I don't know what
Speaker 5: the fuck is going on here.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, let me call you back. So so
Speaker 1: I'm calling Jamel, the bar manager that never answers the phone.
Speaker 4: Jamel, ever, like the whole time we've been in contact,
Speaker 4: does not text back, does not answer. That's the sweetest
Speaker 4: man in the world, but does not text back. He's like,
Speaker 4: oh yeah, let me let me figure it out. Then
Speaker 4: I call Ma, who just cussed her out, and I'm
Speaker 4: like and she is scary, like she's an old terrifying
Speaker 4: She's like it doesn't get better.
Speaker 3: The story of Ma doesn't get better with time.
Speaker 1: She's just like she's a good person. She's just direct.
Speaker 1: So she's like, no, I didn't tell you that they
Speaker 1: need to put it somewhere. I don't care.
Speaker 4: I don't figure out unless you don't get me direct
Speaker 4: me at track for thirty five hundred dollars for my brunch.
Speaker 1: I'm not then, and I'm.
Speaker 4: Like, okay, So I'm like, what the fuck are we
Speaker 4: about to do.
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, they're gonna charge us. We have wasted money.
Speaker 3: But da da da da.
Speaker 4: It's just like I don't care. Okay, So we hang out.
Speaker 4: Five minutes later, Erica text me it's fine. The guys
Speaker 4: just put it downstairs in the basement.
Speaker 5: Well, thank god it wasn't the guy who I talked
Speaker 5: to on the phone. It was like some just some
Speaker 5: random dudes that he had to come bring the ship
Speaker 5: and then.
Speaker 1: The delivery guys don't give a fuck.
Speaker 3: The delivery guards has been parted out down there.
Speaker 5: I was, and I was like, please, like, I know
Speaker 5: it's farther than twenty five feet, because it was like,
Speaker 5: if it's more than twenty five feet from the car
Speaker 5: to the venue, it's extra, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 5: a single mom.
Speaker 1: I was like, please, don't even give I Literally it
Speaker 1: was like, I'm a single mom. I didn't even have
Speaker 1: to say anything.
Speaker 3: And it was like, baby, it's fine.
Speaker 4: That's one thing about Atlanta, the hospitality levels and the
Speaker 4: chillness was so up, like so high that that that
Speaker 4: kind of eased everything.
Speaker 5: Oh that's yeah. So then that worked out and that
Speaker 5: was fine. I went back to Actually, I don't even like,
Speaker 5: it's kind of a blow.
Speaker 3: I don't even know what I did.
Speaker 1: He was to Jennifer and then went to Jennifer and
Speaker 1: then I met you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then it got worse. So let me tell
Speaker 3: you how.
Speaker 1: Let me how a divine shit is. So I was.
Speaker 4: I was at a hotel room because the night before
Speaker 4: I stayed out online with my friend Mira. Did not
Speaker 4: answer the door, so we got a room by Mira's house.
Speaker 4: So I was like, let me get the fuck up.
Speaker 4: This bitch is about to have a conniption. So something
Speaker 4: tells me to text this other guy that I used
Speaker 4: to like hook up with in my building because he's like,
Speaker 4: I'm running errands today.
Speaker 1: Call me. He lives nowhere.
Speaker 4: He lives like where I was staying is in Marietta
Speaker 4: in the north side. He lives in the West side.
Speaker 4: Something just like, where are your errands you're running? He's like, Oh,
Speaker 4: I'm leaving Cumberland Mall. I'm across the street from Cumberland Mall.
Speaker 4: I'm like, can you come get me please. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm outside.
Speaker 5: I'm like trying to get my shit together, collecting my stuff.
Speaker 5: I'm like, I gotta go. I tell my friends she's sleep.
Speaker 5: I'm like gonna have to go.
Speaker 4: This guy who just happens to be across the street
Speaker 4: while I text him, Hey, where are those errands you're
Speaker 4: running at Cumberland Mall? Oh, I'm here, picks me up.
Speaker 4: I go to Erica. As this girl comes down to
Speaker 4: get me to take us up. We pick up one
Speaker 4: more box. But the box is like these two boxes
Speaker 4: we sent. First of all, we spent like six hundred
Speaker 4: dollars sending him because we're done moving to the last minute.
Speaker 5: And second of all, they're essential for the show, essential crucial,
Speaker 5: like our merch mom's signed. Everything that was important and
Speaker 5: everything that was gonna make us some money was in
Speaker 5: that fucking box.
Speaker 3: So we sent them together with the same address.
Speaker 5: So we get downstairs to the mailing office. There's one box,
Speaker 5: the small box, not the one we fucking really need.
Speaker 5: So I'm looking through this thing. I'm like, I don't
Speaker 5: see our other box. I'm sorry to flip.
Speaker 4: Out, and I my flipout is different than Erica's slip out.
Speaker 4: I like internalized my flip I'm like, okay, so let's
Speaker 4: just take a calm, let's just take it one step
Speaker 4: at a time, because if I freak out, nothing's gonna happen.
Speaker 5: So I get upstairs and I told Jim, I just heard.
Speaker 5: I just told our other this other girl, like Erica
Speaker 5: stressed the funk out. She stressed me out. And then
Speaker 5: we've realized the box is not there. I'm like, she's
Speaker 5: about to flip.
Speaker 1: The fuck out.
Speaker 5: So we get upstairs and I'm like, Erica, there was
Speaker 5: only one box downstairs, and she's like what.
Speaker 1: So there's like it's like just a silence comes over them,
Speaker 1: like we don't were just looking at each other, just
Speaker 1: looking at each other.
Speaker 5: Like okay, let's so we start like looking at the
Speaker 5: ups track tracking and it says.
Speaker 1: It is twelve fifty two pm.
Speaker 5: It says your box will now be delivered at one
Speaker 5: pm on Monday. Our show is on Sunday. So I'm like, wait,
Speaker 5: where is the box? So we finally track the box
Speaker 5: at like twelve fifty six.
Speaker 4: It's by the airport, by the airpor which is twenty
Speaker 4: minutes from where we are, and.
Speaker 1: It's closing at one pm and it's twelve fifty three, and.
Speaker 3: I'm like, there's no way we're making it. There's no way.
Speaker 4: And I was just like, we gotta try. We have
Speaker 4: to go up there, and we have to try. We
Speaker 4: have to see if someone lags them around. There's like
Speaker 4: if we don't try.
Speaker 3: We'll never know.
Speaker 1: We'll never know.
Speaker 5: So we get in the uber. We get in immediately.
Speaker 5: I tell the uber driver, I'm like, look, you need
Speaker 5: to get us there. We need to drive fast as
Speaker 5: fast as you can while being all being safe. And
Speaker 5: so he gets us there. He's he did, He fucking.
Speaker 3: Hauled us there.
Speaker 1: He did, but it was one fifteen. So we got
Speaker 1: there at one fifteen.
Speaker 4: And now I'm thinking, is like Atlanta has a lot
Speaker 4: of black people. Black people will be clocking out five
Speaker 4: minutes before the time shift.
Speaker 1: I'm out, I'm out.
Speaker 5: So we pull and it's this huge ups like hanger
Speaker 5: like facility, parking lot, like fucking community.
Speaker 1: It's huge. So he drops me off at one end
Speaker 1: and drops Erica off another. We're like jo So she goes.
Speaker 5: To like the hangar where like you would go pick
Speaker 5: up the package. And I go to where I said,
Speaker 5: I see people.
Speaker 1: There's like an office.
Speaker 5: So I go in there, Well, did you mean the college.
Speaker 5: She's like, there's nobody here. They won't let me in.
Speaker 5: The security guard sell.
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm like, but I'm like jogging.
Speaker 5: So I'm walking in and I just see so many
Speaker 5: people and I'm like, what is going on here? It's
Speaker 5: a fucking job fair for the holidays, so there's so
Speaker 5: many people in there, just trying to apply for jobs.
Speaker 5: I am like walking around frantically, like panicking and like hyperventilating. Finally,
Speaker 5: like they're literally there. They're sitting at school desks, remember
Speaker 5: the school.
Speaker 1: They were taking a test.
Speaker 5: They were like sitting at school desk like the ones
Speaker 5: you had in like middle school, like personals, like you
Speaker 5: have the little personal desks.
Speaker 3: I opened, I see this like really handsome. He was fine.
Speaker 5: He was fine, a handsome like man in the in
Speaker 5: an office inner viewing someone and I just like knock
Speaker 5: him like, Hi, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: I don't mean to interrupt, but.
Speaker 5: I'm like freaking out because my box is missing and
Speaker 5: I need my box because I'm getting married tomorrow and
Speaker 5: my wedding dress is in the fucking box. And he
Speaker 5: was like what and I was like, yes, I'm getting married,
Speaker 5: my dress is in the box. Please can somebody help me?
Speaker 5: And he's like whoa.
Speaker 4: Just meanwhile, the overdriver has come back to get me
Speaker 4: from the other side of this strange place Upslafe and
Speaker 4: I'm in the car and I go in and then
Speaker 4: Eric's like, I think they're gonna help us. I think
Speaker 4: they're gonna help us. And this guy's like everything's gonna
Speaker 4: be fine, and then she discreetly says, oh, yeah. By
Speaker 4: the way, I told her my wedding dress is in
Speaker 4: the box and my weddings tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I'm like what to mean.
Speaker 5: I was like, you don't think the show was important enough.
Speaker 5: I was like, no, it needs to be emotional emotional attachments.
Speaker 5: So he knocks on this girl's this lady's office who
Speaker 5: I had actually been knocking on her office and she
Speaker 5: was ignoring me, and he went and knocks on her
Speaker 5: office he's like, hey, Jean, So I have this young
Speaker 5: lady here she's getting married and her fair.
Speaker 3: Name really was je is Jean.
Speaker 1: I'll never forget her fucking name Jean.
Speaker 5: And she's getting married and her boxes and she's like,
Speaker 5: oh no, oh wait, we got it.
Speaker 3: We're gonna figure this out. Just give me one second.
Speaker 3: She like locks up her office and ship hurt me.
Speaker 5: She starts making phone calls where she's like calling things
Speaker 5: the cell phone trucks.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna set out to set an announcement for
Speaker 4: all the truck drivers right now, all the.
Speaker 3: Truck drivers all over Lena.
Speaker 5: So we've she walks us through the first of all,
Speaker 5: we have to like take we have to go through security.
Speaker 5: Security shows that there's like super certain protocol we have
Speaker 5: to follow, like walk on certain lines.
Speaker 1: Hey, stay in line, saying line it's very dangerous. It's
Speaker 1: very dangerous. Do you have any no photos? She's like,
Speaker 1: no cell phones.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, what the fuck kind of fucking secret
Speaker 4: area fifty one?
Speaker 1: Ups? Shit have we walked into? I wanted to laugh.
Speaker 1: I'm like I was just gonna have a pant I
Speaker 1: was panicing, I was having a panic attack, and.
Speaker 3: Like I was had.
Speaker 1: I was like on the verge of crying.
Speaker 5: And so we get there and then there's like thousands
Speaker 5: of boxes and then she's like, we're gonna find the box.
Speaker 1: Somehow, and I was like, no one, So I was
Speaker 1: gonna call us back, girl.
Speaker 5: I we just were walking through a huge way, huge boxes.
Speaker 3: Bitch.
Speaker 5: I must have saw that box my laser fucking eyes.
Speaker 1: I think I think that's walks right there.
Speaker 3: I'm like, because Jamila's scribbled scrabble writing on it, I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, it is our box.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I like hugged me, hug I like literally,
Speaker 5: I'm like, I'm gonna cry right now thinking about it.
Speaker 3: My eyes were getting watery. I literally was in tears.
Speaker 5: Literally like every all this, you would have really thought
Speaker 5: it was our fucking wedding dress.
Speaker 1: Witch.
Speaker 3: I literally like fell on the.
Speaker 5: Floor like kissed Jean's feet. I was like, Jeane, I'm
Speaker 5: gonna write review whatever you need. There was another black
Speaker 5: woman in there who was like these pitches are crazy,
Speaker 5: right she was.
Speaker 1: Then they got the box, like that's a pretty heavy
Speaker 1: wedding dress. We're like, oh, there's a couple other things in.
Speaker 3: There, and the box was lowkey falling apart.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh my god, if they pick up
Speaker 5: this box and falls apart and all the ship falls
Speaker 5: out and there's no wedding dress.
Speaker 3: Because Jean kept saying, you know, like if there was.
Speaker 4: Any other, any other situation, I wouldn't I wouldn't just
Speaker 4: let you guys wait till.
Speaker 1: Monday, like if it were some shoes or anything like that.
Speaker 3: I'm like, Jeane, thank you so much.
Speaker 5: So shout out to Jean from ups and at Land
Speaker 5: because bit saved a mother. Shout out to everyone in
Speaker 5: Atlanta that literally saved us on a lot of occasions.
Speaker 1: Okay, because there's more.
Speaker 4: Wait, I haven't done I know this sounds crazy, right,
Speaker 4: So we get the box, we somehow get all the
Speaker 4: furniture to the show.
Speaker 3: Oh no.
Speaker 5: Then we get the box and we get back to
Speaker 5: the house. I want to get another alert that one
Speaker 5: of our other boxes didn't.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, another box that make it.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, our sign, this the fucking print fuck Vista Press,
Speaker 4: buck Vista print. We got a sign delivered, it was,
Speaker 4: but they sent it back to Canada because they're dumb.
Speaker 1: So we're like, we don't have a sign the end
Speaker 1: of the world.
Speaker 5: Our sign that we got for this event isn't coming
Speaker 5: like one win, one loss at least, like the big
Speaker 5: box came and now all honestly, we didn't really fucking
Speaker 5: need that sign, but.
Speaker 1: At the time it seemed very high, like very very important,
Speaker 1: very important. Everything was very important. And then at this point,
Speaker 1: I feel like we still hadn't really run the show.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's we haven't run the show one time ever.
Speaker 1: So I don't even know.
Speaker 3: We were literally.
Speaker 5: Running the show while Jamala was taking a shower and
Speaker 5: I was doing my makeup.
Speaker 1: I I was in my hair.
Speaker 4: I was like dying my hair, and I was like,
Speaker 4: I gotta do this, so just come in the bath.
Speaker 5: So like we knew generally what we wanted to do
Speaker 5: with the guests, but like we just didn't.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Thank god we do this.
Speaker 5: Every week, I know, because then we can kind of
Speaker 5: like play off of each other. But it was fine,
Speaker 5: but it was just And then when we got in
Speaker 5: the room, I mean honestly, in La I was so nervous, and.
Speaker 4: Then when I got the room in Atlanta, I wasn't
Speaker 4: that nervous. I was like, my people, Thank God, my
Speaker 4: people are.
Speaker 3: I didn't know anybody, but I almost made it better.
Speaker 1: No, but it wasn't my people.
Speaker 4: It was some faces that I knew, but it was
Speaker 4: mostly faces I did not know, but I still felt comfortable.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the audio guy was sucking up a
Speaker 1: few times with the microphone.
Speaker 5: Our DJ didn't get our memo o our we didn't
Speaker 5: get a rehearsal, so.
Speaker 4: It was Yeah, but everything was really good. Everybody was
Speaker 4: really nice to us. And then to make matters even
Speaker 4: better because people have asked us, like can we smoke
Speaker 4: at this venue? And we didn't want to be the
Speaker 4: culpers saying yes, we got to smoke in the tent
Speaker 4: like everybody had. Everybody lit their blunts together, well their
Speaker 4: blunts together, passed their blunts together, took shots together.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: It was And it was just like there was just
Speaker 5: so much participation too, because you never know, like if
Speaker 5: people are just gonna be staring at you in silence,
Speaker 5: like as afraid to ask things. And like I just
Speaker 5: appreciated like the energy in the room. A lot of
Speaker 5: women that don't even know us, that like felt comfortable
Speaker 5: comfortable enough to like share things, ask us things.
Speaker 3: Do what are you looking at?
Speaker 1: Did you get a new piercing Yeah?
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm like, am I chrippin' or is that a
Speaker 1: new piercit?
Speaker 3: I got it in and it's infected?
Speaker 1: This one this well?
Speaker 5: This, I got this one I had and he re
Speaker 5: pierced it well, and I went to I went to
Speaker 5: a shop to get this done. Then I went to
Speaker 5: I was being cheap, so I went down the street
Speaker 5: to another like shady shop, and he bucked my shit up.
Speaker 1: Was it a gun?
Speaker 5: No, it was already pierced, but it was kind of closed,
Speaker 5: and so he like was jamming it through.
Speaker 1: Did it with a gun though?
Speaker 3: No, he just then he pulled.
Speaker 5: Out some strange needle, which I don't even know if
Speaker 5: it was clean. And that's why I think I'm infected. Oh,
Speaker 5: both yours.
Speaker 1: But you're sorry. That was random looking at her like
Speaker 1: this is what you have?
Speaker 5: More? I don't know, okay, but anyway, I just was
Speaker 5: so I was just like and honestly to like our
Speaker 5: guests that kind of came together last minute, like Shanisha that.
Speaker 1: We've been calling a year and a half.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Shanisha, who who's from Black Mom's blog.
Speaker 5: We didn't we did an episode with her. She's the
Speaker 5: only phone interview we've ever done. On the podcast. So
Speaker 5: we've actually never met her, and we asked her to come.
Speaker 5: She flew in from like a convention straight to the
Speaker 5: podcast to come beyond our shit. We've never met in person.
Speaker 5: We'd had no idea what our dynamic was going to be, Like,
Speaker 5: I mean, we had a phone conversation before.
Speaker 1: But even that was us like really standard.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like Lauren never met her, Lauren from Real.
Speaker 5: Housewives of Atlanta, Like that was a hookup through one
Speaker 5: of our homeboys, Carlton, who lives out here, who knows her,
Speaker 5: was so cool, came on, shared some like really funny
Speaker 5: personal shit, like.
Speaker 1: It was just like perfect.
Speaker 5: Couldn't have asked for like her guests to like also
Speaker 5: kind of like our show is fun, but also like
Speaker 5: to bring it down and like.
Speaker 3: Have a real conversation right right right.
Speaker 5: And then Danielle of course too, like our married wife
Speaker 5: are We had a segment on the show called Ask
Speaker 5: a Wife where we Askedanielle a bunch of like inappropriate
Speaker 5: shit that like things I want to know as a
Speaker 5: married person, like are you still sucking dick in cars?
Speaker 3: Like are you still giving road head? Like you does
Speaker 3: he finger you?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 1: Like how do you have sex with three adult kids
Speaker 1: in the house.
Speaker 5: So I just like really appreciated the energy and everything
Speaker 5: and the honesty.
Speaker 3: The honesty. So it all worked out. And then the
Speaker 3: next day.
Speaker 4: So we're all hype it's finally over, and our dear
Speaker 4: wonderful bar manager is like, leave everything here.
Speaker 1: We got it. I'm like, okay, so we leave.
Speaker 5: No, Actually, Sydney went and told him. He was like, look,
Speaker 5: they are single moms. We have worked our ass off.
Speaker 5: We need this night. Sidney said, yeah, she told me that.
Speaker 1: She was like, we need this night.
Speaker 3: You guys need to figure this shit out because we're leaving.
Speaker 3: We're leaving.
Speaker 1: You gotta figure this out. And he was like And
Speaker 1: then I went up to him because I was like,
Speaker 1: are you guys.
Speaker 3: He's like, go go enjoy your night. You guys deserve it.
Speaker 3: I was like, she sure did tell him that.
Speaker 1: Wait. First of all, we have such like such like
Speaker 1: down ass friends. Sidney.
Speaker 4: I don't know what she was over there doing with
Speaker 4: the bar manager. I'm glad you did it because I
Speaker 4: didn't have any energy to do it. But we set
Speaker 4: up like literally literally right before the show came started
Speaker 4: to the point where people were showing up and we
Speaker 4: were still like wearing sweats.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're here for the shows, give us five minutes.
Speaker 4: Tell me that she was holding shit down with the
Speaker 4: bar manager, Ashley fucking hell shit.
Speaker 5: Two of our friends flew in from LA to come
Speaker 5: enjoy the show, and they fucking worked the show. If
Speaker 5: without them, there would have been no motherfucking show for real.
Speaker 5: Like literally, we've learned so much about what needs to
Speaker 5: happen if we're gonna do more out of town shows,
Speaker 5: which we want to do, but god damn, we're.
Speaker 1: Gonna need friends in every city.
Speaker 4: Okay, we wanna sign up for a roll call us Okay,
Speaker 4: because we had to, we have someone working the door mirror.
Speaker 4: My best friend Marra was like security slash door girl.
Speaker 4: She's like to She told me. All my boyfriends who came,
Speaker 4: like all the people I went on dates with that week,
Speaker 4: were like looking at her like, bitch, I don't need.
Speaker 1: No ticket, Donna.
Speaker 5: It was just bumb But the next day we had
Speaker 5: to come back and get our shit right.
Speaker 1: So we went out.
Speaker 4: We partied because that's what we do, and then somehow,
Speaker 4: like nine o'clock, we like ten eleven, we rolled over.
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, we gotta go back.
Speaker 5: We gotta get this goddamn riser. We got to get
Speaker 5: this fucking riser for this event company.
Speaker 1: They're gonna get it picked up.
Speaker 3: So we get there.
Speaker 4: No again, I just happened to call a friend and
Speaker 4: she's close by and she has my jacket. I'm like,
Speaker 4: I was supposed to be picking up my jacket, and
Speaker 4: me and Erica come down with bubble wrap and we're like,
Speaker 4: can you drop us off?
Speaker 5: And we get to First of all, side note, when
Speaker 5: I was trying to get the riser into the venue,
Speaker 5: Jamila kept telling me about a homeless man named Johnny
Speaker 5: who was gonna be my point.
Speaker 3: Of contact for the event.
Speaker 5: And I was like, Jamila, I cannot tell an event
Speaker 5: planning company that the point of contact is Johnny the
Speaker 5: homeless man outside low key. Even Devin was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 5: I think I know Johnny. Who's Devin, Johnny's baby Taddy.
Speaker 5: Oh who owns the bar down the street? The neighborhood
Speaker 5: is neighborhood, Jay, I don't care. Johnny can't be the
Speaker 5: point of contact. So we get there and like we
Speaker 5: can't get in the bar, but Johnny's there, knocked out,
Speaker 5: knocked the fuck out.
Speaker 1: In the tent. He's like the resident tent guy.
Speaker 4: The back, like he just holds down like the parking
Speaker 4: and the tent and the local bars, you know. But
Speaker 4: in Atlanta that's just like generally like there's some like
Speaker 4: there's some like I.
Speaker 1: Don't know how to say, resident thumbs.
Speaker 4: That help out the gas stations help at certain places,
Speaker 4: parking lots.
Speaker 5: Johnny's asked, So we pull up, my friend leaves us.
Speaker 5: My phone's about to die.
Speaker 4: The bar manager who promised us our stuff is inside
Speaker 4: is not answering.
Speaker 1: I'm going straight to voicemail.
Speaker 4: And the truck pulls up to pick up the riser
Speaker 4: and we're like, listen, uh, it's not open yet.
Speaker 1: Can you come back in the thirty minutes?
Speaker 4: Thirty minutes He's like, oh man, she shot it because
Speaker 4: U I don't get some breakfast.
Speaker 1: Gonta get some breakfast. We a little early anyway, come on,
Speaker 1: come on. So thank god they leave. We go across
Speaker 1: the street.
Speaker 5: We go, so I sneak into the tent. Johnny's knocked
Speaker 5: the fuck out in the tent. He's not doing shit.
Speaker 4: So we're like, so, so first of we're dehydrated and
Speaker 4: dying at first because we got drunk to night before.
Speaker 1: My phone's dead.
Speaker 4: Bar managers not answering. We have no idea in the
Speaker 4: restaurant's closed on Monday, we have no idea how we're
Speaker 4: about to get in, and some strangely enough fucking freak out.
Speaker 4: Ass Erica is not freaking out. She's like, I don't know, girl,
Speaker 4: everything's God's just worked it out thus far. He'll work
Speaker 4: it out again.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I guess you're right.
Speaker 5: So we go across the street to like there's like
Speaker 5: a marketplace that's at indoor, like marketplace with all these
Speaker 5: different like vendors.
Speaker 3: Like it's really big and.
Speaker 4: It's really beautiful on Edgewood. And I've lived in Atlanta,
Speaker 4: I've lived in the lane in for seven years. I've
Speaker 4: never I didn't even know the shit was there. And
Speaker 4: I've been there, like on the street a lot of times.
Speaker 1: So we go in.
Speaker 4: I'm like, damn, I didn't know this was here. We
Speaker 4: go to we find a coffee shop. We're just sitting
Speaker 4: at the coffee shop like do do do do you?
Speaker 5: Like? I wonder what's gonna happen when they come back
Speaker 5: and we can't get in. And as we're sitting there
Speaker 5: Erica looks past me and she goes, oh my god.
Speaker 5: I was like what she's like, isn't that him? So
Speaker 5: I turn around like who She's like, that isn't Jamel
Speaker 5: the bar manager. I turn around and I'm like, oh
Speaker 5: my fucking god.
Speaker 4: I run out into the hallway and his two kids
Speaker 4: just embraced me, and Erica was so tight.
Speaker 3: They hug us like they know us. They gave us
Speaker 3: so much love.
Speaker 5: I was like, that's exactly how I feel. And we're like, Jamel,
Speaker 5: what are you doing here? We've been calling you.
Speaker 1: He's like, I lost my phone.
Speaker 4: Ohone stole my phone last night. So if anyone stole
Speaker 4: Jammel's phone, that is not nice. You didn't take it back.
Speaker 5: But anyway, Jammel got an extra phone and was She's like,
Speaker 5: I just came over here because I don't know how
Speaker 5: I was gonna like find you guys, and so I'm here.
Speaker 1: We hugged that Jamel so fucking hard that day.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, Erica, you're right, like
Speaker 4: God really is looking out for us.
Speaker 5: So we get back to the spot, Jamel's like, I
Speaker 5: don't have the key.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the manager is supposed to meet me here. With
Speaker 1: the key.
Speaker 4: He meets me usually on Mondays. I'm like, usually on
Speaker 4: Mondays he meets you. He's like, I don't have his number,
Speaker 4: like you have number. I'm like, I don't have nobody's number.
Speaker 4: So now it's me Erica, Jamel and his two sons
Speaker 4: and Johnny and Johnny who's still sleep.
Speaker 3: Who still passed out?
Speaker 1: Johnny still we're all the time, Johnny's passed out.
Speaker 4: And my homegirl who dropped us off, who knew my
Speaker 4: phone was about to die, had delivered some waters and
Speaker 4: juice to a bench and she texts she DM does
Speaker 4: like I love some juices on that bench where I
Speaker 4: left you guys.
Speaker 1: You guys were gone when I got back.
Speaker 5: So we were like in the so we're telling We're
Speaker 5: like looking at each other, like what are we gonna
Speaker 5: do about this fucking riser.
Speaker 1: We're going during Chargers an extra day.
Speaker 5: The risers literally trapped in the basement and there's a
Speaker 5: huge lock on it.
Speaker 1: There's like a gate in four locks.
Speaker 3: So Jamel, I don't know where.
Speaker 1: This nigga from where bloodshammer.
Speaker 5: He starts banging the fuck out of the lock here
Speaker 5: literally for an hour, for an hour straight, This poor
Speaker 5: man is. First of all, he went to he went
Speaker 5: to the fire station to try to find a cutter.
Speaker 5: He went next door to some technology school where he
Speaker 5: thought he was gonna find some shit.
Speaker 1: He got tools somehow.
Speaker 4: He like went around the neighborhood and found these tools
Speaker 4: and was banging these locks. I'm like, are you gonna
Speaker 4: get in trouble for breaking the locks?
Speaker 1: He's like, no, it's fine. You need to get your
Speaker 1: shit up.
Speaker 4: And now the truck pulls back up to pick up
Speaker 4: this fucking riser and the fucking lock is not open yet.
Speaker 1: So these two guys come back and look, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we heard that banging. Is that whatever you're doing? So
Speaker 1: you go there look at the lock. He's like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: he almost won't get that thing open. Like, can you
Speaker 1: please come back in fifteen minutes, it's almost open.
Speaker 4: Please, He's like, well showed it. I'm taking and we
Speaker 4: can be you number. I'm like, listen, just come back
Speaker 4: and fit. As soon as they pull off, jamel Bow
Speaker 4: pops this the third lock off to the basement.
Speaker 1: I was like, it was It was a joyous moment,
Speaker 1: it really was.
Speaker 4: I was just like, God, wow, you're just trying to
Speaker 4: stress us out. And bring us through every time, trying
Speaker 4: to make a Churstian out of me.
Speaker 1: I believe, for real, for real, Like, okay, god, I
Speaker 1: get it.
Speaker 5: So we got everything out. Everything worked out. I literally
Speaker 5: went back to the house, packed up and got on
Speaker 5: a flight straight to Florida to do to go back
Speaker 5: to work. But it all worked out. And in our
Speaker 5: Atlanta trap, there are some other things outside of the
Speaker 5: show that happened.
Speaker 1: So there's this Did you write it down in your book?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, I'm just I'm not doing this right now.
Speaker 5: I was thinking about this. This there's this podcast in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Oh, oh my god, I forgot about this part.
Speaker 5: So there's this podcast in Atlanta that I had reached
Speaker 5: out to because I thought maybe we while we were there,
Speaker 5: we could record and like do like you knows a
Speaker 5: cross podcast situation.
Speaker 1: There had been no way to do it anyway, there
Speaker 1: was absolutely no time, but we had like reached out
Speaker 1: to them and text Ericahead.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we had texted. Actually did I talk to her
Speaker 5: on the phone. I think I talked to her on
Speaker 5: the phone.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Whatever.
Speaker 5: We talked on the phone and she had asked, they're
Speaker 5: like a large they're like semi larger podcast than us.
Speaker 5: They do something they've been they've been doing like more
Speaker 5: like out of state shows than us. They've had a
Speaker 5: show longer, show longer.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So when they asked us about like where we're having
Speaker 5: our podcast, they told them that we're having a BQI Lounge,
Speaker 5: which is a bar, a bar restaurant, and they're like, oh,
Speaker 5: that's cool, and like I thought we had really cool rapport.
Speaker 4: She asked her them a couple of questions, like advice questions,
Speaker 4: like we're doing this, this is the first time thing
Speaker 4: out of town, Like what did you guys do for
Speaker 4: this or that?
Speaker 1: Maybe three questions?
Speaker 5: Right, So I happened to listen to their episode, like
Speaker 5: the week after the week after our conversation, just so
Speaker 5: happened to tune in. Yeah, and she is talking about
Speaker 5: her next show and that people need to buy tickets
Speaker 5: and she's like, you know, we're having a show. If
Speaker 5: you haven't bought tickets, make sure you buy those tickets
Speaker 5: because this isn't like those other podcasts that do pop
Speaker 5: that do bar podcasts, like where you have a podcast
Speaker 5: in a bar and if anyone can, anyone can just
Speaker 5: come and walk in. This ain't that so make sure
Speaker 5: you buy your podcast because this ain't that, honey.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, So immediately Erica calls me
Speaker 4: like I think this bitch is trying to throw shade.
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, what do you mean. She's like, she's
Speaker 1: talking about you know, this ain't that.
Speaker 5: She's like I had told her we were having our
Speaker 5: podcast in a bar literally like a few days before,
Speaker 5: and then this is the new episode, so I knew
Speaker 5: that it was connected. And I just felt like, Wow,
Speaker 5: that's so whack because I thought we had a good rapport.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think she's continually thought we did because.
Speaker 5: She didn't know you listen and she But I just
Speaker 5: feel like it's so lame when women feel like they
Speaker 5: have to throw someone under the bus to make themselves
Speaker 5: feel more elevated. And I actually did a little post
Speaker 5: about this on my stories around that week because I
Speaker 5: was pissed because I was just so disgusted by the
Speaker 5: fact that like, we're not even in the same genre
Speaker 5: of a podcast, like we are we don't even Yeah,
Speaker 5: we talk about similar things, but we're our podcast is
Speaker 5: rooted in the parenthood, So like, I don't even know
Speaker 5: why there's even a competition there's enough space for everyone.
Speaker 1: And that's what where I really get sad for us
Speaker 1: as women. And there's not that many black women in
Speaker 1: the podcast. Is that where we feel like we have
Speaker 1: to be little.
Speaker 5: One another because we feel like we're crabs in a
Speaker 5: barrel and we have to like fight one another or
Speaker 5: take the jabs at one another.
Speaker 4: Even if you weren't even like and that's another thing
Speaker 4: you got to jab at someone. Bitch, you better come
Speaker 4: at me all the way, you better say.
Speaker 1: The name, you better like. And I don't like the
Speaker 1: subliminal subliminals. Yeah, I'm not into that.
Speaker 5: So I saw that shit and I was like, all right, bitch, well,
Speaker 5: I'm definitely not hitting you up when I come.
Speaker 1: So she had messaged me like.
Speaker 3: Oh, hey, I heard you.
Speaker 1: I saw you're in town, like I want to come
Speaker 1: to the show. And I was like cool.
Speaker 3: She's like, she said, are you selling tickets or is
Speaker 3: it free? And I said tickets?
Speaker 1: Lol? You said that?
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, bitch, fuck you.
Speaker 5: So I was like tickets all and she's like oh okay,
Speaker 5: and then she kind of like didn't say anything. She's like, Okay,
Speaker 5: I guess I'm gonna go get my ticket, and I
Speaker 5: didn't respond. I'm like, yeah, bitch, you better buy that.
Speaker 5: God says, you ain't gonna get no free pass over here.
Speaker 5: You might have you might have gotten like because I
Speaker 5: wanted them to come, but then I was like, you
Speaker 5: know what, let me not. I'm glad they didn't because
Speaker 5: they probably would have like tried to like I don't know.
Speaker 4: I mean, they would talk shit, probably would have talked
Speaker 4: talk shit because my idea, I said, oh, yeah, I'll
Speaker 4: tell a bitch to come.
Speaker 1: I would have gladly had liked her to come because
Speaker 1: I wanted to be on stage and be like, did
Speaker 1: you check her ticket at the door?
Speaker 4: Specifically this one, I'm sorting yeah, because it's not that
Speaker 4: type of show I would like I prefer and I've
Speaker 4: realized this in all of the confrontations I've had or
Speaker 4: didn't have this week. I would prefer people to talk
Speaker 4: directly to me if you have some bullshit to side,
Speaker 4: which just seems not the case with women.
Speaker 5: It's unfortunate, and so I just whatever. So anyway, fast
Speaker 5: forward to the night of our show. We go out
Speaker 5: and we like to bone who was like, who's our DJ?
Speaker 5: Which also so divine as well because I actually met
Speaker 5: to Bone maybe like eight years ago in Atlanta. I
Speaker 5: was shooting a movie and like I was out there
Speaker 5: by myself and would I happened to go to this
Speaker 5: bar alone because I literally didn't know anyone. And I'm
Speaker 5: sitting there like eating alone and he comes up to
Speaker 5: me and he was like, hey, what's up. I'm to
Speaker 5: Bone and I'll never forget because I'm like, you don't
Speaker 5: forget that name. And also his hair was like very
Speaker 5: distinct at the time, and we exchanged information and we
Speaker 5: always like message music to each other for a while,
Speaker 5: and then I lost track of him. And then Jamila
Speaker 5: was like Tabone's gonna DJ. This guy DJ to Bone
Speaker 5: is djaying our shit, and I was like, shut the
Speaker 5: fuck up.
Speaker 3: That can't be the same person.
Speaker 1: She's like, what does he look like? And I described
Speaker 1: him and she's like, oh my god, I've met him.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So anyway, he invites us out to this little party
Speaker 1: that he's was he DJing.
Speaker 3: I don't remember some shit he was doing.
Speaker 5: And I see this girl from the podcast walking down
Speaker 5: walking towards us down out of the out of the club,
Speaker 5: and she saw me.
Speaker 1: I saw her. Hi.
Speaker 3: I didn't say a guy I didn't say shit to her.
Speaker 5: No, no, but like I just thought it was so funny, like, bitch, yeah,
Speaker 5: you didn't buy that ticket because you're not really a supporter,
Speaker 5: you don't really give a fuck, and you're actually a hater.
Speaker 1: You're actually a hater.
Speaker 4: That's really it's the first thing, the most important thing
Speaker 4: overall is that you're a hater.
Speaker 1: And she didn't speak because she also probably knew she
Speaker 1: was a hater.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it just it was just whack overall, and I'm
Speaker 5: just so disappointed. She just thinks, did you see her,
Speaker 5: like even hesitate to maybe speak. No, I don't know,
Speaker 5: I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's just whack. I know she saw me.
Speaker 5: She she quickly went downstairs with her whack guss. So
Speaker 5: I just feel like it's really unfortunate, and unfortunately we've
Speaker 5: encountered this a few times in the process of you know,
Speaker 5: building this our shit, where women appear to want to
Speaker 5: help you or they have these empowering platforms and they're
Speaker 5: actually the meanest ones. They're actually the most hating ass ones,
Speaker 5: and it's unfortunate. But I you know, everything happens for
Speaker 5: a reason. You know, maybe like she wasn't supposed to
Speaker 5: be there because she was gonna try and steal aspects
Speaker 5: of our sham and uh, I send her love, I
Speaker 5: send her peace because I don't ever wish poorly on anyone.
Speaker 3: But you know, it's really a reflection of you and
Speaker 3: has nothing to do with me. So that happened in Atlanta.
Speaker 4: There's been a lot of things I think that I've
Speaker 4: had to like not personalize and then recognize, like some things,
Speaker 4: a lot of things, most things are a reflection of
Speaker 4: other people, not you.
Speaker 1: People will project shit on you and be mean and
Speaker 1: be this, but it's because it's their life. They're ugly insides.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what. I don't know what it
Speaker 3: is about us that she feels threatened by.
Speaker 5: I mean that we have a ball mask community, that
Speaker 5: we're multidimensional and not just one type of podcast that
Speaker 5: we can talk about all different types of things. I
Speaker 5: don't know, but that's a personal problem. And I will
Speaker 5: never ever ever go on her podcast and she will
Speaker 5: never be online.
Speaker 1: So that's cool. Anyway.
Speaker 3: What else happened Atlanta? I just want I went on
Speaker 3: I went on a date.
Speaker 5: With a someone who listens to the podcast that found
Speaker 5: me through the podcast that I have not I had
Speaker 5: never met in person.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that was your first time meeting.
Speaker 3: Him, and uh that was interesting.
Speaker 1: I popped up on her date.
Speaker 4: Not only did I pop up, our other two friends
Speaker 4: were already there and I just happened to be at
Speaker 4: dinner next door. I was joking that I was gonna
Speaker 4: pop up, but I'm like, ohait right next door, I'm
Speaker 4: definitely popping up.
Speaker 1: And I was also on a date.
Speaker 5: I'm done a lot of dates, and I did a
Speaker 5: lot of twenty year old Jamila things.
Speaker 1: Just I went to Starbar on Tuesday.
Speaker 4: If you're in Atlanta, I've never been a Starbar on Tuesday,
Speaker 4: I'm little five points, It's bomb it Cisco music MJQ.
Speaker 4: On Wednesday, I did that too, all the classic Atlanta things.
Speaker 4: I got some head in the car on Peachtree.
Speaker 1: Great.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like one of these I've ever known one of these,
Speaker 4: like if you're driving, wait with you? Yeah, like he
Speaker 4: was driving, and then I was in the passenger seat
Speaker 4: and then wait, he.
Speaker 3: Was driving the car? Yes, what was he like checking
Speaker 3: in back and floors?
Speaker 1: Like if it like, what the fuck was happening here?
Speaker 1: If there was if the light turned red. I like
Speaker 1: leaned my body up against Oh my god, I wish.
Speaker 5: Okay, well, if you drawn our Patreon, you can definitely
Speaker 5: see what's happening because Jamila's showing me.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: So he's driving and he's like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good one.
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, And then we pulled over. Wait was this
Speaker 1: after my dan?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Okay, because you told me that because I sent Jamila home.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they weren't allowing me to go out. They were
Speaker 1: going out. They're like, you have to I had to
Speaker 1: bring the furniture. You hadn't slept. Oh, I hadn't slept.
Speaker 5: You told me you haven't slept in twenty four hours,
Speaker 5: and you were trying to go out with us. And
Speaker 5: our show was the next day, and I was like, bitch,
Speaker 5: go home.
Speaker 1: So I had to go home.
Speaker 4: And I told that guy like, well, mama had to
Speaker 4: come to your house because Erica told me no. But
Speaker 4: if you want to figure something out in the way,
Speaker 4: And so we did.
Speaker 1: Pulled over, got a little, got not little, got some
Speaker 1: D in the car. I like exciting sex, so that
Speaker 1: was fun. And then he dropped me off.
Speaker 5: And the next day, Yeah, I went to get an outfit,
Speaker 5: pick up that furniture, drop it off, meet up with
Speaker 5: you to go to the show.
Speaker 1: What else happened?
Speaker 5: I met up with an ex girlfriend, one of my
Speaker 5: first girlfriends I've ever had, who is so sweet and
Speaker 5: I hadn't seen her a long time, but same, she
Speaker 5: was just like, I can never forget you ever since
Speaker 5: this relationship.
Speaker 4: I was just like, very deep and I had not
Speaker 4: thought about it in ten years. But it also reminded
Speaker 4: me like, I'm such I am kind of a lesbian.
Speaker 4: Because we had some lesbian sex.
Speaker 1: I was kind of bomb. It was good.
Speaker 5: I wasn't mad at I was like, oh, yeah, this
Speaker 5: is fine city in lesbian you when they used to be.
Speaker 1: Anything else?
Speaker 5: No, oh well then we had so then we had
Speaker 5: one of the guys. So one of the when we
Speaker 5: have this male listener, I don't even know if he's listener.
Speaker 3: Actually I think he. I don't think he listens. I
Speaker 3: think he just like looks at our Instagram. Oh really,
Speaker 3: I don't think he listened.
Speaker 1: Okay, oh yeah, she could.
Speaker 3: Sugarho and we call him sugar. We call him sugar
Speaker 3: because he.
Speaker 5: Sends us nuds, he sends us nuts and his dick
Speaker 5: is huge, and he lives in Atlanta, and he's been
Speaker 5: like waiting to like come to one to come to
Speaker 5: our show. And he showed up to our show and
Speaker 5: I appairly got to talk to him. He was like
Speaker 5: kind of lurking around, like trying to like connect with us,
Speaker 5: but there.
Speaker 1: Was like a lot happening, so much happening, so kind
Speaker 1: of cute. He's really cute. I messaged him a few
Speaker 1: times after. I was like, what are you doing? What
Speaker 1: I told him?
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, it's getting over. I'm
Speaker 4: let me call you that because we can't pronounce your
Speaker 4: Instagram name. He's like, my name is whatever his name.
Speaker 1: Is, And I was like, look Erica.
Speaker 4: Still continued to call him that, and he he's by
Speaker 4: before his birthday, like he was having a birthday something
Speaker 4: people were.
Speaker 3: He told me like he was. He went to a
Speaker 3: birthday party.
Speaker 1: It was it was for him. Shut up, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 5: And then and then my the guy that I went
Speaker 5: on the date with didn't even make it to the
Speaker 5: show because they got in a fucking car accident on
Speaker 5: the way there.
Speaker 3: Shout out to him, Hi, what's up.
Speaker 5: I mean.
Speaker 1: I had a couple of good dates, I had a
Speaker 1: good time.
Speaker 3: What else I don't know.
Speaker 5: I just I just like also like just going back
Speaker 5: to the show, like I couldn't believe that women drove
Speaker 5: from like far places to.
Speaker 1: Come to Tennessee to like like Nashville.
Speaker 3: So I couldn't believe that.
Speaker 5: Like this one woman even came up to me and
Speaker 5: like got emotional because she was talking about our episode
Speaker 5: with uh the Black Midwife. Oh my god, I came
Speaker 5: Why am I drawing a blank on her name right now?
Speaker 1: Rasha Hani.
Speaker 4: That's a lot of people's favorite episode. Yeah, my friend Sidney,
Speaker 4: who's not even black, loves that episode.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 3: She was just saying she was talking about her birthing
Speaker 3: story and it was just so cool.
Speaker 1: But aside from all those things in.
Speaker 3: Atlanta, after Atlanta, which I was so depressed, like I think.
Speaker 6: Like everything, all the anxieties, all of like settled adrenaline,
Speaker 6: all the things that kind of had been neglecting over
Speaker 6: the last two months because I've been putting so much
Speaker 6: energy into.
Speaker 3: This kind of all hit me at once.
Speaker 5: Because after I left Atlanta, I went to Florida and
Speaker 5: I was alone, and I just felt so heavy and
Speaker 5: overwhelmed and like sad, and I just had to, like
Speaker 5: I feel better now, but like there's just been a
Speaker 5: few a few things like that have been unsettling for me,
Speaker 5: with like my Dirie's dad and like thinking that I'm
Speaker 5: over it when I'm really not.
Speaker 3: Like I thought.
Speaker 5: I really thought like I was really moving I am
Speaker 5: moving forward and I have been moving forward, but there's
Speaker 5: things about our relationship that I'm still holding on to.
Speaker 5: And it wasn't It was only brought to my attention
Speaker 5: after I finally like got so much of the stress
Speaker 5: that I've been dealing with out of the way, and
Speaker 5: then I had to get back to like.
Speaker 1: Reality, and.
Speaker 3: I just like all just kind of hit me. And
Speaker 3: also like thinking about like.
Speaker 5: Just there was there was this thing that came out yesterday,
Speaker 5: this other podcast that had him on that like really
Speaker 5: triggered me. And I wasn't doing it, no, but just
Speaker 5: the title of it just triggered me. And the fact
Speaker 5: that I knew he was going to be on there
Speaker 5: talking about all of his sex just made me. Escapades
Speaker 5: just made me feel really weird, even though like I
Speaker 5: talked about my IX escapades, So like I can't really
Speaker 5: be I can't be upset.
Speaker 3: About any of it. Together, right, but it's still triggering.
Speaker 1: It's just triggering.
Speaker 5: And he had mentioned something about our podcast, like me
Speaker 5: saying something that he's offended by, which I don't know
Speaker 5: which one of you motherfucker's listening is reporting my shit
Speaker 5: to my baby daddy, but if so, fuck you and
Speaker 5: stop listening.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 1: It's just like it was just like all a lot.
Speaker 5: And I called my mom yesterday because I was like
Speaker 5: just upset and like crying, and she's like, well, she's like,
Speaker 5: you know it's She's like, it took me ten years
Speaker 5: to get over your dad.
Speaker 1: I was like ten years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like ten.
Speaker 5: I was like, you only were with him for like
Speaker 5: two and a half. I was like I was with
Speaker 5: mine for like seven years. And she's like, it's not
Speaker 5: about the time, it's about how deep it was, how
Speaker 5: deep your love is for that person. I was like, well, fuck,
Speaker 5: my shit was deep as fuck, So what does that
Speaker 5: mean for me? Like, and it's not even that I
Speaker 5: really want it. It's not that I I don't know
Speaker 5: there's I think it's like the mourning of like I'm
Speaker 5: still mourning though, what it could what it' sh what
Speaker 5: I felt like it should have been, and what I
Speaker 5: deserve and what I want and she was like, you know,
Speaker 5: and I told her, I was like, I don't want
Speaker 5: to have to ha start a relationship with someone to
Speaker 5: get over it.
Speaker 3: I want to be strong enough to be alone on
Speaker 3: my own to move past it.
Speaker 1: And she's like, a y.
Speaker 5: She's like yeah, and that's important, but like also you
Speaker 5: might meet someone along the way that helps, and that's okay.
Speaker 1: What are you watching oursha Yeah?
Speaker 5: Ok yeah, And so she was like, you know what
Speaker 5: you need to do, Erica, You need to just and
Speaker 5: she's like, I know you talk a lot about manifesting,
Speaker 5: like you need to like really think about what you want.
Speaker 3: Out of a man, like every little detail.
Speaker 5: And she said specifically, and this really stuck with me,
Speaker 5: was like, don't be modest, don't be afraid to ask
Speaker 5: for the big things. Don't be afraid, I know what
Speaker 5: she was saying, don't be afraid to say like R
Speaker 5: needs to be rich.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's okay.
Speaker 5: And I was like, you're so right, because I spent
Speaker 5: so much time I'm talking about all the things I
Speaker 5: don't want, all things I won't put up with that
Speaker 5: I never really talk about the things that I really
Speaker 5: really truly.
Speaker 1: Do want And I told Jamila last night.
Speaker 5: I was like, Okay, tomorrow's episode, we're going to talk
Speaker 5: about Atlanta, but I also want to talk I want
Speaker 5: to like set in Stone and say the things out loud,
Speaker 5: the things that I want to manifest for my man.
Speaker 5: And I was like, I want to be like Sierra,
Speaker 5: because Sierra talked about this. She did, she talked about
Speaker 5: the asked God. She asked God and she got be
Speaker 5: coming through. Someone asked her like, how the fuck did
Speaker 5: you get in Whistle and She's like, I literally asked
Speaker 5: specifically for things and I really thought about it, yes,
Speaker 5: or like what are those things? Like?
Speaker 3: There are like the oh, I want you to be funny.
Speaker 1: I want you to like support my dreams to be honest.
Speaker 5: And in ways I feel like I've I've encountered men
Speaker 5: that encompass certain things that I didn't get out of
Speaker 5: my last relationship. But there's a lot of things that
Speaker 5: I feel like I haven't found that. I even told Jamala, like,
Speaker 5: when what is the work that we're doing to get
Speaker 5: those men?
Speaker 8: You know?
Speaker 5: Because like we we ask all these things and we
Speaker 5: want all those things, and they might be right there,
Speaker 5: but we're not appealing, appealing to them because we haven't
Speaker 5: worked on this and this and that, and like, so
Speaker 5: I was just thinking about like I asked Remal, I
Speaker 5: was like, so we should think about like what it is,
Speaker 5: like what is it that we want? And for me,
Speaker 5: like again, like I want this healing to come and
Speaker 5: I've been healing on my own for a while now,
Speaker 5: and I don't want it to be in this in
Speaker 5: the in the form of a man that comes in
Speaker 5: and saves me from whatever the residual sadness I still
Speaker 5: have for for him.
Speaker 3: But I also don't want to.
Speaker 5: Not think about what I want, like you know, and
Speaker 5: not and not and not be like true to myself
Speaker 5: and saying, yeah, it's someone I do want a relationship.
Speaker 4: Well, I realized in this trip that first of when
Speaker 4: I got back on the plane, I felt really drained,
Speaker 4: and it reminded me of how I felt a lot
Speaker 4: of times I live there because there were so many
Speaker 4: people that I gave energy to and that's a part
Speaker 4: of it is me because I kind of take from
Speaker 4: that too.
Speaker 1: But even being reaffirmed by.
Speaker 4: People who were significant in my life but not as
Speaker 4: significant as I think as I were in their lives,
Speaker 4: but them validating me, even friends, like this is what
Speaker 4: you're supposed to be doing.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to see you in this space. This
Speaker 1: seems really aligned with who you are.
Speaker 4: I knew that you had bigger things, you know, like
Speaker 4: I knew that this was something like I knew that
Speaker 4: you had this or that, or you were this person,
Speaker 4: that you were special, and people who love me validating
Speaker 4: me reminded me like it's okay not to be modest,
Speaker 4: Like I'm a good person, I'm a people are like
Speaker 4: people seek me because I'm a giver and I have
Speaker 4: things to provide and to give, and so say, speaking
Speaker 4: about not being modest about the things you want, I
Speaker 4: have no reason, like you have no reason to be
Speaker 4: modest about the things we want.
Speaker 1: And granted we're not exactly where we want to be,
Speaker 1: we both realize.
Speaker 4: That there's girl friend things to happen, and there's things
Speaker 4: that need to be attained to get to those places.
Speaker 1: But I also don't feel like I don't because I
Speaker 1: thought about this. I don't feel like I need a
Speaker 1: man to like bring me out of anything. And I
Speaker 1: for sure have.
Speaker 4: Attachments like you know you already know to my baby
Speaker 4: daddy into that situation, and as I think a lot
Speaker 4: of baby moms do, despite the fact that it was
Speaker 4: a very abusive relationship, I still love him, and that
Speaker 4: has a lot to say about me.
Speaker 1: But I do kind of feel like if I could.
Speaker 4: If I could bring the right person, find the right
Speaker 4: person in align with the right person with all the
Speaker 4: things that I really want, I don't think there's anything
Speaker 4: wrong with that helping you heal. I don't think there's
Speaker 4: anything wrong with that helping you realize, Oh, this is
Speaker 4: what I deserve and this is not. And sometimes when
Speaker 4: we're used to certain things, we gravitate towards that because
Speaker 4: we're comfortable with it, and it just it was just
Speaker 4: like the whole trip overall, like was affirmative but also
Speaker 4: draining in a good way because it made me realize, like.
Speaker 1: I have energy, positive good energy to give.
Speaker 4: It needs to be focused and deliberated towards the people
Speaker 4: that deserve it, and I deserve that exchange, and it deserves.
Speaker 1: To be an even exchange.
Speaker 4: And if that is what needs to happen to help
Speaker 4: me move away from the toxic relationship that I'm somewhat
Speaker 4: still attached to, that's cool.
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that.
Speaker 4: And I'm not saying I need it to grow or
Speaker 4: to get to the next level, because obviously I'm still
Speaker 4: going to continue to do that.
Speaker 1: But I'm, like you said, like your mom said, I'm
Speaker 1: not going.
Speaker 4: To be modest about the things that I want because
Speaker 4: I realized, like people overall are just like you can't
Speaker 4: be like, oh, I'm the shit. You can't be like, oh,
Speaker 4: that's because that's a really great quality of mine. Like people,
Speaker 4: I haven't been really taught to be that way, and
Speaker 4: most people aren't. I would most some people are, but
Speaker 4: it's okay. I think the more we hone in on
Speaker 4: what we deserve, well, I.
Speaker 5: Think a lot of times when people are single, when
Speaker 5: people are asking like what do you want in a relationship,
Speaker 5: people are like, oh, you're never going to find the
Speaker 5: perfect person, so you can't ask for that. You can't
Speaker 5: ask for this and that, Like if you didn't get this,
Speaker 5: would you accept that? So I think that's where it's like,
Speaker 5: well we start, we start talking about relationships in a
Speaker 5: place of like already a deficit like okay, I can't ask.
Speaker 1: For that, right, Well, you know, he doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be so rich. That's not like, oh, you're a gold digger.
Speaker 5: Okay, you want a six pack and a big dick, relax,
Speaker 5: calm down, you can't have and a big wallaway and
Speaker 5: a big wallet. Oh and he's got to make you laugh.
Speaker 5: Oh and he's got to love your child as well.
Speaker 5: Calm down, like, oh and he's got to love his family. Oh.
Speaker 3: Like he's got to be thoughtful and romantic.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I want all those things absolutely.
Speaker 5: Like you know, all those things that doesn't they don't
Speaker 5: have to show up immediately and within. But I want
Speaker 5: someone that wants.
Speaker 3: To grow with me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and has the ability to do so.
Speaker 5: And I always say this, I kind of need and
Speaker 5: want someone who maybe is a little older than me,
Speaker 5: maybe is a little bit more established than me, because bitch,
Speaker 5: I need a mentor.
Speaker 3: Okay, but even that not maybe you have to be
Speaker 3: specific like I do.
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 4: There are things that I areas I need help in
Speaker 4: and I would benefit from a partner that are motivated
Speaker 4: in the areas that I'm not motivated.
Speaker 1: I would benefit like I feel like in my.
Speaker 4: Past relationships, I'm constantly like not just giving an energy,
Speaker 4: but tea opening minds and even like my ex girlfriend,
Speaker 4: she's like, you opened up my mind in so many ways.
Speaker 4: She's super country, she's from Georgia or whatever. But she's like,
Speaker 4: there's so many things you showed me that I had
Speaker 4: no idea about. And I was just like I had
Speaker 4: no idea that I shifted you in this many ways,
Speaker 4: you know, just like by being myself. But there are
Speaker 4: things that I need from, Like you know, I want
Speaker 4: to be learning from the next person. I don't want
Speaker 4: to be teaching all the time too.
Speaker 1: I don't have enough. I don't I need, I need.
Speaker 4: I don't have enough to teach and to grow and
Speaker 4: to open up your mind, Like I need someone to
Speaker 4: be able to like do that for me as well.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to feel guilty by about saying that.
Speaker 5: No, I don't either, and like you would have asked me,
Speaker 5: like I think, well, I think also age changes things
Speaker 5: and responsibility. But like I used to always tell my mom,
Speaker 5: like I used to think my mom was super shallow
Speaker 5: because she would always judge my boyfriends when I was
Speaker 5: so young, like I was a tea like late early twenties,
Speaker 5: Like they didn't have their shit together, you know, But
Speaker 5: now I get it. It's like it's not even about
Speaker 5: having your shit together in your twenties. It's like, okay,
Speaker 5: but you can when you're that young though, you see
Speaker 5: the motivation in someone like what like do they have drive?
Speaker 5: You know? And for me now as a thirty one
Speaker 5: year old almost thirty two my birthdays in four days, yeah,
Speaker 5: almost thirty two year old woman, Like, there's things that
Speaker 5: I definitely require and there's things that I want, Like
Speaker 5: I want my partner to be wealthy, not just like
Speaker 5: light wealthy, have money, Like I want you to be
Speaker 5: wealthy because I don't want money to ever play a
Speaker 5: factor in the thing in our access and why we
Speaker 5: can't do things.
Speaker 3: And the reason I asked that is because I plan
Speaker 3: on being wealthy.
Speaker 1: And people really get people turn their nose up at
Speaker 1: these type of comments. And I've had these conversations before.
Speaker 4: Let me explain why this is important, because if I
Speaker 4: want to have a family with you, we need to
Speaker 4: be on the same page and what type of a
Speaker 4: lifestyle we want to live. If your ideal settle down
Speaker 4: and this is fine, and this is what your ideal is,
Speaker 4: having a home in suburbia. Maybe it's for bytime, two
Speaker 4: cars to car garage, and that's what it is.
Speaker 1: That's cool.
Speaker 3: I want like.
Speaker 1: I want a place in like each coast. I want
Speaker 1: to go on a yacht excursion for the.
Speaker 4: Summer, for real, like with my friends, Like let's get
Speaker 4: the families together and let's get on this yacht as
Speaker 4: this in the south of.
Speaker 1: France, and you know, and in the south of Italy,
Speaker 1: and like let's go for a month and take Vananny.
Speaker 1: These are the things I think of.
Speaker 4: And if you think that's too crazy, we don't need
Speaker 4: to be together because I'm gonna be constantly frustrated by
Speaker 4: your limits.
Speaker 5: By your limits and your limited And when I say wealthy,
Speaker 5: yes I absolutely mean financially, but I also mean in spirit.
Speaker 5: I also mean in so many other ways. But I
Speaker 5: do definitely mean in your pockets, because yes, I want
Speaker 5: to I want to travel. I want to show my
Speaker 5: daughter and maybe our future children that there's nothing that
Speaker 5: you can't do. And unfortunately, we live in a society
Speaker 5: where monetary acts, we're monitory money is determined your access
Speaker 5: in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1: Not always influence does as well, but your freedom.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I want to be like fuck it, Like I
Speaker 5: don't want to be here this weekend anymore. Like I
Speaker 5: wanna like, let's let's fly up to so and so like,
Speaker 5: let's just fly up.
Speaker 1: For the weekend. That's the type of shit I want
Speaker 1: to be able to do, because that's the type of
Speaker 1: person I am. That's how I thrive. I like new experiences.
Speaker 1: I like new food, I like new places.
Speaker 4: I like to travel, and I don't like to be
Speaker 4: I mean, anybody who has ever stressed over money, which
Speaker 4: is everybody, nobody, that's not anything I want to do
Speaker 4: for forever.
Speaker 1: It's not something I plan on doing. So I don't
Speaker 1: feel any shame.
Speaker 4: And you know what, I notice all my gold diggery friends,
Speaker 4: every single one who's always been that way, always has been.
Speaker 4: And even when I was like, oh she's a little
Speaker 4: bit much, every single one of those bitch got a
Speaker 4: man with a coin. Well absolutely, I mean, whether there's
Speaker 4: love in it or not, it's a different story, and
Speaker 4: I'm not willing to compromise that. But security is really
Speaker 4: important to me, and I like to do older guys.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I hope that you're in a better position
Speaker 4: than me.
Speaker 5: So that's that's I wouldn't say. I don't know if
Speaker 5: that's number one, but it's definitely up there. I don't
Speaker 5: even know if there's I think there's probably like a
Speaker 5: numerical order. Possibly I haven't figured that out, but I
Speaker 5: know that that's definitely one that I'm asking for and
Speaker 5: I'm manifesting and it's important to me. And if you can't,
Speaker 5: like you said, like, if you're limited in your mind
Speaker 5: thinking you think that I'm too much asking for that,
Speaker 5: then we're not going to We're not We're gonna bump
Speaker 5: heads and I'm gonna end up feeling like I have
Speaker 5: to dim myself because you're not on the same page
Speaker 5: of like where I'm trying to be and where I
Speaker 5: want you to be.
Speaker 1: And you have to be generous. You can't be just
Speaker 1: rich and stingy like I think.
Speaker 5: And I went out with the guy when I was
Speaker 5: there and he he got my plane ticket and he
Speaker 5: was like, well, if I'm trying to date you, I like,
Speaker 5: I help, I help, I want to help if I'm
Speaker 5: trying to date you.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I think so too.
Speaker 4: But that's like even in dating young Bay who was
Speaker 4: like so young, I didn't constantly like train him on
Speaker 4: like listen, like you see me struggling offer, you haven't
Speaker 4: yes offer.
Speaker 3: That's yeah.
Speaker 1: That's another thing too, is like I don't want to
Speaker 1: have to ask, and if I ask, don't make me.
Speaker 5: Ask twice, right, Like that's I don't have that because
Speaker 5: that's what I even encountered in the past. And it's
Speaker 5: just like, don't ask me again if I still need it,
Speaker 5: And you know what young they used to do, Yes,
Speaker 5: I still need it because you haven't given it to me.
Speaker 4: Younger used to say something like bring when I would
Speaker 4: bring these type of things up, like he would bring
Speaker 4: up like, oh, but you want to be all equal
Speaker 4: with like feminism and and that's that's not that they
Speaker 4: don't go hand in hand and because you're at the
Speaker 4: end of the day like yeah, like men have historically
Speaker 4: been providers.
Speaker 5: And I'm not saying that if I was first of all,
Speaker 5: if I was rich and I want to day a
Speaker 5: nigga who wasn't on the same page as me, I wouldn't.
Speaker 5: I would not have an issue given that's that's the
Speaker 5: and that's why and that's why I don't have an
Speaker 5: issue saying it, because I know if I had, I
Speaker 5: will give it.
Speaker 4: And and if I believe in you, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: this nigga has drive and he is he is, he
Speaker 4: has ideas and he has places to grow and I
Speaker 4: believe in that I have without a shadow of a doubt,
Speaker 4: I would do that. And so yeah, that's why I
Speaker 4: don't think it's like whoever makes it first, let's make
Speaker 4: it work.
Speaker 1: But and this, you know, like if you have it,
Speaker 1: let's yeah, don't make me have to ask you twice.
Speaker 1: I hate that. Yeah.
Speaker 5: And another one, another thing that I realized is also
Speaker 5: important to me is humor and being and like if
Speaker 5: you can make me laugh and if our humor.
Speaker 1: Is aligned, and if you can roll with the punches.
Speaker 5: Like but specifically, can you make me laugh? Because that's
Speaker 5: what I've realized is so important to me. I went
Speaker 5: on a date in New York with someone and it
Speaker 5: was cool, but I felt like and it was a
Speaker 5: first date, so who knows, but like, and then I
Speaker 5: went on a date with my art bay out there,
Speaker 5: who is like so funny and like, girl, I was
Speaker 5: telling you, Oh my god, I didn't tell you the story.
Speaker 3: Wait side note.
Speaker 5: Okay, So I went on this hinge date like three
Speaker 5: months ago with this guy who I met in New
Speaker 5: York and we had a great time. And I've been
Speaker 5: trying to get back to New York for work and
Speaker 5: I wanted to like hang out with him and see
Speaker 5: him again and go on a date. We've been talking
Speaker 5: on it, like we talked pretty consistently over the phone
Speaker 5: in text. And so when I went to New York
Speaker 5: after I think it was like after Atlanta.
Speaker 1: I went.
Speaker 5: I met him in Brooklyn and I was like, what
Speaker 5: should I wear? Like should I wear my hair down?
Speaker 1: What's do?
Speaker 3: And so like I actually called Reese and she was like,
Speaker 3: wear her down and you can put some red lipstick on.
Speaker 3: I was like, yes, that you're right.
Speaker 1: Oh, I think you did tell it. I saw it.
Speaker 5: Oh wait, No, yeah, I don't think I told her
Speaker 5: the story. So there's just like I think I read
Speaker 5: it in our GMS. Okay, So okay, I told Melanie.
Speaker 5: So there's this brand that like I always support because
Speaker 5: it's black owned, and like, I put this lipstick on
Speaker 5: and it's bomb. Right.
Speaker 3: I've worn it a bunch of times. Never made out
Speaker 3: in it though.
Speaker 5: So we go out, we're having a great time, we're dancing,
Speaker 5: we go back to his house, we're like smoking the bong.
Speaker 5: We start making out. Bitch, We're like making up for
Speaker 5: like fifteen minutes. I pulled back and he's.
Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck? And I'm like what He's like,
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And I was like, what he's like,
Speaker 1: go look in the mirror.
Speaker 5: Bitch, my whole face not like smeared across my lips,
Speaker 5: like from here to here, all red. Even on my
Speaker 5: forehead was red. I and on top of the eyes
Speaker 5: and smoked a bong. I looked fucking like a crackhead.
Speaker 5: My eyes were all like low and like red, bloodshot.
Speaker 5: I was like semi drunk. Like I look at the room,
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh my god. So I go in there
Speaker 5: and I start like wiping my face. Bitch, my face
Speaker 5: was stained red. I couldn't get it off. I just
Speaker 5: had red everywhere.
Speaker 1: Put like oil. Bitch, I'm at his house is it's
Speaker 1: like an oils.
Speaker 5: I just I was just stained red. Then he comes
Speaker 5: in he has read all over his face. His beard
Speaker 5: is red, like everything is red.
Speaker 1: And reminded Sadong.
Speaker 5: Anyway, I was so embarrassing, so I left because bitch,
Speaker 5: it was crazy. But but anyway, what I was getting
Speaker 5: to is that like making me laugh is so important.
Speaker 5: It's important to like my attraction to you, my la,
Speaker 5: my long lasting attraction to you, right, like if you
Speaker 5: can't make me laugh, because I'm fucking funny too, right,
Speaker 5: Like it's not one sided laugh you know, like I
Speaker 5: need to make make me laugh, and that you're not
Speaker 5: taking things too seriously.
Speaker 1: I could get stressed out, so you can't be like
Speaker 1: very stressed out person.
Speaker 3: I also need someone.
Speaker 5: That's like forgiving of my Like I feel like I'm
Speaker 5: a communicator, but sometimes my communication can be like poor
Speaker 5: even though I am communicating, Like I realize that sometimes
Speaker 5: like I'm emotional when I'm communicating. I'm trying to work
Speaker 5: on that. But to someone that's like gonna be not
Speaker 5: take my my moodiness to personally. I want someone that
Speaker 5: is six feet and over. I can't do anything below that.
Speaker 1: It's a big dick. I just can't do anything I
Speaker 1: could gus give a good head, have a big dick,
Speaker 1: and you also have.
Speaker 4: To be.
Speaker 3: More actually or else I'm going to cheat on you.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get bored. It has to be like fun,
Speaker 1: funcomfortable sex that we can explore together.
Speaker 5: I need someone that values family, like goes and sees
Speaker 5: their family. If their family doesn't live here, I need
Speaker 5: to know that you make an effort to go see them,
Speaker 5: because I've learned in the past like through multiple relationships,
Speaker 5: the men that I've dated, they have family out of
Speaker 5: state and they don't go see them, and it's it
Speaker 5: always shows me. It always shows up somehow in our life,
Speaker 5: like how you deal with me, how you deal with
Speaker 5: my family.
Speaker 1: That's very true.
Speaker 5: It's like it's like a lot of times you feel
Speaker 5: like it's not important because it's like, well, well I'm here, Like, no,
Speaker 5: you need to make that effort.
Speaker 1: I need to know that family is a priority in
Speaker 1: the family dynamic. Because I've dated someone who's close with
Speaker 1: their family, it appeared but like they weren't and like they.
Speaker 4: I don't know, like there was some distance, and so
Speaker 4: I feel like I was always trying to like could
Speaker 4: be the connect between them and the family, and it
Speaker 4: was just a strange. But I also, on that same note,
Speaker 4: side note, I went, I hung out with this the
Speaker 4: same guy who I said, you know, I was like,
Speaker 4: I'm trying to date you, so and I went to
Speaker 4: his house and like pictures of his daughter and him everywhere,
Speaker 4: and I was like, this is so great. He's like, oh,
Speaker 4: I just frame like framed photos everywhere, and he was like,
Speaker 4: you know, tell me how him and his baby mam
Speaker 4: Mark he's good.
Speaker 8: It is wet.
Speaker 1: I don't know, this is from the party, really good.
Speaker 4: They hang out all the time and you know, they
Speaker 4: have a really good relationship. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 4: that's and then he goes home to New Orleans all
Speaker 4: the time to visit his mom and dad, and I
Speaker 4: was just like, okay, that's that is important to me too.
Speaker 5: And and how your relationship is with your family is
Speaker 5: shows how your relationship if we're in a startup family
Speaker 5: and how that will that will play out too.
Speaker 1: Also, you need to be okay with public displays of
Speaker 1: affection period. You I guess someone who's likely obsessed.
Speaker 5: With so like art, they were we like I started
Speaker 5: kissing him outside of the bar, and he was uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: I'm that irritating. Young baby did that to me a
Speaker 1: few times and it's irritated.
Speaker 5: I'm like, look, I'm not trying to feel like your
Speaker 5: dick in public, but like I need to grab my ass,
Speaker 5: show me some affections to me, like that's what makes
Speaker 5: me feel like, that's the passion that I like. I
Speaker 5: let like when I'm old and gray and I'm still horny,
Speaker 5: like and make out with me in the backseat of
Speaker 5: the car while our kids drive us to the movie.
Speaker 1: Yes, like I want passion like that long term.
Speaker 3: I don't like anyone being inhibited.
Speaker 5: Inhibited as far as like public displays of affections I
Speaker 5: don't like. And I know that's not for everyone, and
Speaker 5: that's cool, but that's what I want me too.
Speaker 4: I want you to love me boldly and loudly, no
Speaker 4: matter who's watching, no matter where we're at.
Speaker 1: That's important to me.
Speaker 4: And I need to feel like lusted after, Like I
Speaker 4: need to know you're super attracted to me sexually and
Speaker 4: you respect me. And I think also me being how
Speaker 4: I am, I'm a flirt. I dance with everyone at
Speaker 4: a party. I want somebody who's gonna almost encourage it,
Speaker 4: like yes, yes both she doing.
Speaker 1: That, break it down baby and see for me.
Speaker 3: I want someone that's gonna be like your mine, get.
Speaker 1: Over here and then occasionally pull me over. I want that.
Speaker 3: I want a little bit of it. I think you
Speaker 3: need more of that than I do.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I need more of like the security of like
Speaker 5: this is our ship and it's unbreakable and no one
Speaker 5: is infiltrating that.
Speaker 1: And I know that's what you want to I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that's you don't but like I I'm not. I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm moody as fucks.
Speaker 5: You know. Sometimes I can be that free spirit that's
Speaker 5: gonna go dance around the party, but sometimes I don't
Speaker 5: try to talk to anybody and I just want to
Speaker 5: be in the corner making out with my man.
Speaker 1: But I just think more than more than anything, it's
Speaker 1: just whatever vibe I'm on.
Speaker 4: I don't want to be shamed for being a people person, enjoying,
Speaker 4: like you know, being around people, because that's so much
Speaker 4: of who I am. I just don't like sometimes we
Speaker 4: can't be in the corner making out, but I don't
Speaker 4: want you to make me feel bad for being who
Speaker 4: I am.
Speaker 1: I'm doing what I'm gonna do. When she'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's Jamilla. I want someone who is invested in my career, yes,
Speaker 1: and I.
Speaker 5: Was like, let's think about it, Like, let's see. I
Speaker 5: think Alice is a good idea for you, Like, oh,
Speaker 5: I know someone you should meet, right, and really, do
Speaker 5: that really connect those dots for me? Right? It's like
Speaker 5: excited about what I'm doing, because I'm gonna be excited
Speaker 5: about what you're doing.
Speaker 3: I'm always like whenever I meet someone that.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I want to pump people up, Like, wow,
Speaker 4: that's an amazing idea. And if I have an idea,
Speaker 4: like I'm the type of person too, like I want
Speaker 4: to be your cheerleader.
Speaker 3: I don't and not.
Speaker 5: Feel intimidated and feel like it's somehow diminishing like the other.
Speaker 5: When I was in New York, I went to nicole
Speaker 5: her Precious Streams Foundation gala and Miguel was one of
Speaker 5: the keynote speakers. And afterwards, Miguel and Nicole are really
Speaker 5: good friends, and so we all went out with him
Speaker 5: and his wife, nas who's they're both like so cool,
Speaker 5: like real down to earth people, like for real, for real,
Speaker 5: and he was so excited to like because she has
Speaker 5: a podcast too. She's like her podcast is doing really well,
Speaker 5: and he was just pumping her up and just talking
Speaker 5: about her to everyone and how proud he is, and
Speaker 5: it was like, I was like, Wow, that's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: Yes, I like that, like that, it's so beautiful.
Speaker 5: Yes, Like it's not about you, because it probably is
Speaker 5: mostly always about him. And the fact that like he
Speaker 5: was pumping her, I need that, I'm natural and he
Speaker 5: wanted to do it was so proud of you because
Speaker 5: this is what you're doing big things. Yes, I know,
Speaker 5: And I just keep saying young be because he's the
Speaker 5: only person I dated.
Speaker 1: Last this year.
Speaker 4: I told you, I've said this before, Like I think
Speaker 4: we did a beach meetup or we did some type
Speaker 4: of meetup and he was just like, I don't really
Speaker 4: get the point.
Speaker 1: And I was just like, you don't get the point
Speaker 1: of shit.
Speaker 5: You don't get me, then you're not understanding what I'm
Speaker 5: the work I'm doing, you don't value it, and I
Speaker 5: mean you're not a mom, But like, yes, this type
Speaker 5: of shit is important because I'm like, he has a
Speaker 5: very like nine to five job and I'm like, so
Speaker 5: what else makes you happy?
Speaker 1: What are you passionate about? You could do whatever. This
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be the end of what you do.
Speaker 4: You can do stuff. Take time to you like you
Speaker 4: want to do this. I'm the pumper upper of people.
Speaker 4: If you can't pump me up mutually, it's pointless. It's
Speaker 4: actually draining.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Another thing too, is.
Speaker 5: Obviously loving my child, like and you know, and for
Speaker 5: some time, like I don't really because I've never really
Speaker 5: had a relationship serie enough to have iri around someone
Speaker 5: like that. But like I've heard other people be like,
Speaker 5: you don't have to love my child, but you just
Speaker 5: have to, Like no, you have to, Like you know,
Speaker 5: she don't have to, She's not yours, you know what
Speaker 5: I mean.
Speaker 3: Fuck that, like the fact that I don't irie has
Speaker 3: a father, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: But like I want someone that is loves my child
Speaker 5: wants to if you're gonna be with me all the
Speaker 5: time that you're like participating in the things I'm participating,
Speaker 5: which is enriching her life, teaching her things, and like
Speaker 5: I don't know, like encouraging her. And that's also like
Speaker 5: I want to have more kids. That's gonna let me
Speaker 5: know that like when we do, Like what kind of
Speaker 5: father you're going to be if you're not a father already?
Speaker 5: Like who knows if this person I'm manifesting has children.
Speaker 5: It's that for me is not a requirement. But I'm
Speaker 5: definitely not like opposed to it. I feel like maybe men,
Speaker 5: Maybe I'm assuming because I've never really dated one, but
Speaker 5: like I'm assuming maybe men with kids, some who are
Speaker 5: good fathers.
Speaker 3: You know, they understand the important they understand.
Speaker 5: The value of time, responsibility, just a little bit have
Speaker 5: this deeper sense of like how fragile and important life is,
Speaker 5: because I know that's what parent who's about My.
Speaker 1: Role is much bigger.
Speaker 4: I have a lot of purpose, but like my number
Speaker 4: one role is this child. And if you're a part
Speaker 4: of my life and my partner, you absolutely have to
Speaker 4: be on the same.
Speaker 5: Page, right, And also making my life easier knowing that
Speaker 5: I have a child, Like, if you know I have
Speaker 5: a kid, don't expect me to come out to you
Speaker 5: every all the time anymore, Like make my life easier.
Speaker 3: How can I help you today?
Speaker 1: Like if you see something needs to be done, just
Speaker 1: do it right. Like so I think also someone who's
Speaker 1: really like culturally aware, like, oh.
Speaker 3: That's so true. That's that too.
Speaker 5: That's another thing, Like I mean, think about this list
Speaker 5: that we're creating, Like this is a lot of things,
Speaker 5: and people like I think even me in the past
Speaker 5: have been like that's too much. I can't ask for
Speaker 5: all these things. Now you absolutely can't, and you need to.
Speaker 5: You have to, yeah, or she won't get what you want.
Speaker 5: And that's why a lot of us are out here
Speaker 5: just like oh he's nice guy.
Speaker 1: Nice guy is not enough. He doesn't have this, but
Speaker 1: he does that yeah, and I've done that all the time.
Speaker 1: I've done that.
Speaker 4: That's again, And it doesn't mean that all over people
Speaker 4: aren't good people and aren't worthy of love, but they're
Speaker 4: just not your people.
Speaker 5: And that doesn't mean that this person that you manifest
Speaker 5: won't fall short. Sometimes this person is not perfect, even
Speaker 5: I don't want perfect. No, I'm not perfect.
Speaker 1: But I need sprinkles of things.
Speaker 5: I need big portions and sprinkles of things, and I
Speaker 5: need to ask for all of them or none of
Speaker 5: them are going to be in the RX.
Speaker 1: Specifically, you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, culturally is so important, like pro like, yeah, just
Speaker 4: cultural awareness and understanding.
Speaker 3: Like my, I need adventure. I need an adventure continuity.
Speaker 3: I want an adventure life adventurer like I want to.
Speaker 5: There's so many things I haven't done, and I think
Speaker 5: sometimes what I what I realized exatement, is that I'm
Speaker 5: waiting to share experiences with someone when that's I shouldn't
Speaker 5: do that, you know, Like there's things I like I
Speaker 5: could go try. I do travel a lot, but there's
Speaker 5: things I haven't seen, maybe way like with someone you know,
Speaker 5: and it's like I want someone that's just like already
Speaker 5: doing that, and it's to do it. It's gonna maybe
Speaker 5: even encourage that more in.
Speaker 1: Me, right, inspire it more.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 1: So I want someone spiritual, Yeah, me too. I need
Speaker 1: you to have some sense of the spirituality, spiritual growth,
Speaker 1: like purpose, what you like.
Speaker 4: You know, I think those things are really important and
Speaker 4: not necessarily like religious, actually probably not religious, but just
Speaker 4: have some spiritual accountability, like.
Speaker 1: Some sort of ethics, morality.
Speaker 5: Anyway, the point is, and like I just feel like
Speaker 5: we as women, if we want to, I don't know,
Speaker 5: manifest this partner, like we have to really ask for
Speaker 5: those things and not be just internalizing it all the
Speaker 5: time and say it out loud. Like I think that's
Speaker 5: all the things that I've said out loud that I
Speaker 5: really really meant have happened. You know. I said to you,
Speaker 5: let's do this podcast, let's do it, and we did it,
Speaker 5: and then we just kept talking and it's just continued,
Speaker 5: you know, let's do an event, let's do it.
Speaker 1: All right, right, Okay, fine, let's do it.
Speaker 5: I didn't just internalize it in my head and say
Speaker 5: it in my head or write it down even I
Speaker 5: said it out loud.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's important to write things down
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 1: But like that.
Speaker 3: I think that that idea works in so many different ways,
Speaker 3: and it can. I have hope. I'm hoping, I'm hoping
Speaker 3: that is.
Speaker 4: I think that's just how the world. I just think
Speaker 4: how that that's how shit works. I think that's how
Speaker 4: life works. I think you put it out there, you
Speaker 4: believe it, and then you I'm a firm believer in
Speaker 4: the what is it the secret, the like the law
Speaker 4: of attraction. If you if you believe it's yours, you
Speaker 4: deserve it, you talk about it like it's yours. And
Speaker 4: we've proven that so many times, even in the slightest ways,
Speaker 4: talking about fucking Coachella, talking about this song. Oh that
Speaker 4: sh it was weird, that shit was crazy. But it's
Speaker 4: like the universe, God Spirit telling you, this is how
Speaker 4: the ship works. Stop playing, you can have it.
Speaker 1: That's it. So I believe it.
Speaker 4: And that's why I don't be tripping, like I be
Speaker 4: fucking up, you know, chilling with baby Daddy doing this,
Speaker 4: doing that.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, no, this is not it, this is
Speaker 1: not You're not it, this is not it.
Speaker 4: But because I know there's something like this, and I
Speaker 4: think even with this, we both know, like there's this
Speaker 4: bigger there's this bigger picture.
Speaker 1: There's this bigger thing. People like, what's the angle? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, just wait and see. So I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: are we gonna?
Speaker 3: Should we do? It's time for horror stories. Guys whose
Speaker 3: stories highly horrific tales brought to you by good Moms.
Speaker 1: Okay, Hory.
Speaker 4: I was dating this guy for a couple of months
Speaker 4: when I went to a party with him and at
Speaker 4: his friend's house, who I had never met before.
Speaker 1: I get really.
Speaker 4: Feisty and horny when I joined and there was this dude.
Speaker 4: They're making fun of special ed people. So I told
Speaker 4: the guy to shut the fuck up or I was
Speaker 4: going to knock his ass out.
Speaker 1: Tight. I was like, oh my god, is this about me?
Speaker 1: He continued to.
Speaker 4: Make dumb jokes and pissing me off. More so the
Speaker 4: guy I was with told him, Man, she's not kidding around.
Speaker 4: She's kind of crazy, so you might want to shut
Speaker 4: up something about him. Saying that to the to the
Speaker 4: douchebag dude turned me on.
Speaker 1: No, turned me on.
Speaker 4: Five minutes later, me and my guy were chilling on
Speaker 4: the couch and next thing I know, he had his
Speaker 4: hand up my skirt trying to secretly finger me in
Speaker 4: front of everyone, and I did not give a fuck.
Speaker 4: I even said hold on, I'll be right back, went
Speaker 4: and took off my panties and came back for more.
Speaker 1: I was right.
Speaker 5: I was like, ah, I was rubbing on his dick
Speaker 5: through his pants, trying to be nonchalant, but people were
Speaker 5: definitely catching on. Then my drunk ass got on his lap,
Speaker 5: told him to whip it out, and I sat on
Speaker 5: his dick trying to discreetly ride him while we were
Speaker 5: having a full blown conversation with people.
Speaker 1: Like what were you drinking that night? Amazing.
Speaker 4: Eventually we snuck away to their their spare bedroom and
Speaker 4: had some nasty, nasty sex. Well everyone else listened. We
Speaker 4: probably should have gone in there from the beginning, but whatever.
Speaker 4: I was so horny I didn't care. We now have
Speaker 4: two kids and just got married. Oh and those friends
Speaker 4: don't talk to us anymore.
Speaker 3: Manifestation right, that was perfect?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, just like we said, if you want the
Speaker 4: freaky fun family, you can do that.
Speaker 1: You can do that. That's so cool. Goals, I'm really
Speaker 1: horny now. Made that was a really hot one. Choos too,
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, amazing. I was like, you're my type. Of girl,
Speaker 1: I said the only thing I wish I wish you
Speaker 1: would have punched that guy in the face.
Speaker 3: Right, that would have been while you write whe.
Speaker 1: Wow, Well we've been talking a long time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been a while, so we got to go.
Speaker 3: The kids start coming when I must leave and.
Speaker 1: Got a doctor's appointment. Yeah, okay, dokie, See you.
Speaker 3: Guys next week.
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Speaker 8: How they visits of me? Wow, Because baby, don't give
Speaker 8: a fuck what you're doing.
Speaker 1: I'll be fixing the wee.
Speaker 8: Why she sucking my deck? Put it out then, not
Speaker 8: titty for I fuck up from the back of see
Speaker 8: now it's killing them. No, I give it up. I'll
Speaker 8: be cool on the bitch. Ain't no pressure until I
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Speaker 8: Look at you out, look at you, she says, I
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