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Speaker 1: I got some new shoes. Look, bitch, I'm a start.

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Speaker 2: I got these niggas wishing. He say, hungry is pussy

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Speaker 1: Bitch, I'm a start. I got these niggas wishing.

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Speaker 3: He say hungry's pussy the kitchen. Yeah, that's my doubt.

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Speaker 2: He's gonna sit down and listen. Call him a Trickiny,

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Speaker 2: don't get offended. You know he giving his money to Megan.

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Speaker 2: He know it's very expensive to daily. Tell him go

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Speaker 2: put my name one to come because when I need money,

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to holler. You know, he giving his money

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Speaker 3: Tell him gonna put my name.

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Speaker 2: One that count because when I need money, I ain't

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Speaker 3: Be Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica

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Speaker 3: and named Mila.

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Speaker 1: Happy wedsday.

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Speaker 3: Hey some dad today. It feels like we haven't been

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Speaker 1: I know we haven't I know.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to be in our chairs, in our setup.

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Speaker 4: I'm so happy to be in chairs and are setup

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, I'm so happy. I'm so happy, so happy.

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Speaker 5: I'm looking at our chalkboard across the way. There's nothing

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Speaker 1: It's a whiteboard.

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Speaker 3: Whatever, a white board. There's nothing on it.

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Speaker 1: It looks so beautiful, so happy. A see there's nothing

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Speaker 5: I'm like ready to put some things on it, but like,

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Speaker 5: I'm happy with this right now. Let's take our time

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Speaker 5: because that ship was the source of a lot of stress.

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Speaker 1: Ooor. I was like, this is gonna be this is

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Speaker 5: So we didn't put We didn't have an episode last

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Speaker 5: week because we couldn't get our shit together. We were

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Speaker 5: both in different coasts. Jamila was still in Atlanta. I

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Speaker 5: was like in fucking Florida, New York. So sorry about that.

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Speaker 5: Someone messaged us, someone mentioned that we're gonna fall off

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Speaker 5: because we haven't posted, and where are we? A bitch

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Speaker 1: I goog the person you told me, yeah, I needed

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Speaker 5: Okay, Like I could not post think talk nothing about motherhood,

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Speaker 5: like good mom overload, good mom fucking over loa. I

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Speaker 5: Like I was like ten seconds away from fucking cursing

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Speaker 5: She was ten seconds from like cursing me.

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Speaker 1: Out, Like I need to calm the fuck damn. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Like yo, shit was just it wasn't the tensions were high.

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Speaker 4: It was literally like tensions were high up I mean,

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Speaker 1: Because it's it's it's it's intent.

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Speaker 1: Last Sunday. Yeah, I know those Sunday before last.

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Speaker 5: Sunday before last, our first out of state show.

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Speaker 4: Right, and we decided this at like last minute, maybe

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Speaker 3: Fuck itt fuck it. We can do it.

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Speaker 4: Two people show perfect, we could do everything. We realized

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Speaker 1: We did it, We did it. It was absolutely insane.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so let me just let's start from the beginning.

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Speaker 4: So we had to do all this shit, email people

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Speaker 4: I get to Atlanta, my dumb ass, I left this

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Speaker 1: But I don't know how long it's going to take.

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Speaker 5: So like I think there's a gas station off the exit.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't even tripping. I'm like, this is this is

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Speaker 4: Like I vaguely remember the hangout, and the one hangout

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Speaker 1: He's like, you could have a party in my apartment.

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Speaker 4: I was like twenty one. I'm like, are you sure

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Speaker 4: he's okay. I'll bring all the food up and cradlags.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, bet. I invited like probably like sixty people.

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Speaker 4: Then other people started coming there. We didn't know they

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Speaker 3: Wait, he was.

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Speaker 1: Gonna throw ones at year. I don't know for what.

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Speaker 3: This on your birthday.

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Speaker 5: I was also I was also just wearing a bikini

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Speaker 4: That's all I remember is like I was wearing this

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Speaker 4: First of all, the apartment is not the condo's not

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Speaker 3: Quickly get that money back.

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Speaker 5: Never got the money back. I found out who stole it,

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Speaker 4: Out here be tripping. I'd be like, so, I was like, well,

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Speaker 4: It's probably forty something. Oh lord, Okay, keep in mind

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Speaker 4: he met me when I was twenty. He showed me

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Speaker 1: he didn't. Oh no, I don't. I won't go below eighteen.

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Speaker 3: Out your nose.

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Speaker 1: I was like what He's like, just just breathe out

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Speaker 4: I remember that.

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Speaker 5: I was like, oh god, no, So he's into your pheromones,

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Speaker 5: Like what the fuck is happening? Yes?

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Speaker 4: And then this is another thing that really irritated me,

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Speaker 5: Later, Hey, I just really cleared my schedule because I

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm freaking out. I saw that Danielle text you.

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Speaker 4: I was literally like anybody. So that was like the

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Speaker 4: I'm not drunk enough. Nearly, and then he was supposed

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Speaker 4: And then I hope he doesn't listen to this, which

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Speaker 5: If you ain't if we haven't connected in ten years,

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Speaker 1: And that sounds bitchy. It does, No, it's not.

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Speaker 5: She's like, okay, I like stuff like this.

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Speaker 5: So even though I had a really strange, rapey kind

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Jamila sends me to the venue, a venue

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Speaker 4: And keep in mind I had not slept, I'd like

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Speaker 5: I'm like, Oh my god, this bitch is gonna kill me.

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Speaker 5: She's like, it's fine, just put it there. I'm like, no,

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Speaker 5: And I said, okay, So like, Hi, I'm Erica. She's like,

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Speaker 5: it better not be up. I was like, god damn, bitch.

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00:18:12,119 --> 00:18:15,040
Speaker 5: So I hang up and I called Jamila and I'm like, bitch,

438
00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:16,240
Speaker 5: this is why you need it.

439
00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:16,640
Speaker 3: To be here.

440
00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:19,359
Speaker 5: We're people are your fucking people. I don't know what

441
00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:20,639
Speaker 5: the fuck is going on here.

442
00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:23,240
Speaker 1: So I'm like, let me call you back. So so

443
00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:26,240
Speaker 1: I'm calling Jamel, the bar manager that never answers the phone.

444
00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,639
Speaker 4: Jamel, ever, like the whole time we've been in contact,

445
00:18:28,680 --> 00:18:31,320
Speaker 4: does not text back, does not answer. That's the sweetest

446
00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:33,840
Speaker 4: man in the world, but does not text back. He's like,

447
00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:35,159
Speaker 4: oh yeah, let me let me figure it out. Then

448
00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:37,200
Speaker 4: I call Ma, who just cussed her out, and I'm

449
00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:39,560
Speaker 4: like and she is scary, like she's an old terrifying

450
00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:41,120
Speaker 4: She's like it doesn't get better.

451
00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:42,880
Speaker 3: The story of Ma doesn't get better with time.

452
00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,520
Speaker 1: She's just like she's a good person. She's just direct.

453
00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:47,280
Speaker 1: So she's like, no, I didn't tell you that they

454
00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:48,280
Speaker 1: need to put it somewhere. I don't care.

455
00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:49,920
Speaker 4: I don't figure out unless you don't get me direct

456
00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:52,199
Speaker 4: me at track for thirty five hundred dollars for my brunch.

457
00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:53,920
Speaker 1: I'm not then, and I'm.

458
00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:56,480
Speaker 4: Like, okay, So I'm like, what the fuck are we

459
00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:56,959
Speaker 4: about to do.

460
00:18:57,040 --> 00:19:00,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, they're gonna charge us. We have wasted money.

461
00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:01,280
Speaker 3: But da da da da.

462
00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,760
Speaker 4: It's just like I don't care. Okay, So we hang out.

463
00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,800
Speaker 4: Five minutes later, Erica text me it's fine. The guys

464
00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:09,399
Speaker 4: just put it downstairs in the basement.

465
00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,400
Speaker 5: Well, thank god it wasn't the guy who I talked

466
00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:12,719
Speaker 5: to on the phone. It was like some just some

467
00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:14,720
Speaker 5: random dudes that he had to come bring the ship

468
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:15,400
Speaker 5: and then.

469
00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:16,640
Speaker 1: The delivery guys don't give a fuck.

470
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,800
Speaker 3: The delivery guards has been parted out down there.

471
00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:20,480
Speaker 5: I was, and I was like, please, like, I know

472
00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,439
Speaker 5: it's farther than twenty five feet, because it was like,

473
00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,000
Speaker 5: if it's more than twenty five feet from the car

474
00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,440
Speaker 5: to the venue, it's extra, and I was like, I'm

475
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:27,119
Speaker 5: a single mom.

476
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,159
Speaker 1: I was like, please, don't even give I Literally it

477
00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:31,879
Speaker 1: was like, I'm a single mom. I didn't even have

478
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:32,400
Speaker 1: to say anything.

479
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:33,959
Speaker 3: And it was like, baby, it's fine.

480
00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:37,680
Speaker 4: That's one thing about Atlanta, the hospitality levels and the

481
00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:42,320
Speaker 4: chillness was so up, like so high that that that

482
00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:43,680
Speaker 4: kind of eased everything.

483
00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:46,960
Speaker 5: Oh that's yeah. So then that worked out and that

484
00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,920
Speaker 5: was fine. I went back to Actually, I don't even like,

485
00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:50,560
Speaker 5: it's kind of a blow.

486
00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:51,199
Speaker 3: I don't even know what I did.

487
00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:52,720
Speaker 1: He was to Jennifer and then went to Jennifer and

488
00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:53,159
Speaker 1: then I met you.

489
00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:55,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then it got worse. So let me tell

490
00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:55,399
Speaker 3: you how.

491
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,040
Speaker 1: Let me how a divine shit is. So I was.

492
00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 4: I was at a hotel room because the night before

493
00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,480
Speaker 4: I stayed out online with my friend Mira. Did not

494
00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:03,560
Speaker 4: answer the door, so we got a room by Mira's house.

495
00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:05,760
Speaker 4: So I was like, let me get the fuck up.

496
00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:08,960
Speaker 4: This bitch is about to have a conniption. So something

497
00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,560
Speaker 4: tells me to text this other guy that I used

498
00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:14,000
Speaker 4: to like hook up with in my building because he's like,

499
00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:15,320
Speaker 4: I'm running errands today.

500
00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:16,480
Speaker 1: Call me. He lives nowhere.

501
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 4: He lives like where I was staying is in Marietta

502
00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 4: in the north side. He lives in the West side.

503
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,560
Speaker 4: Something just like, where are your errands you're running? He's like, Oh,

504
00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:26,800
Speaker 4: I'm leaving Cumberland Mall. I'm across the street from Cumberland Mall.

505
00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 4: I'm like, can you come get me please. He's like, yeah,

506
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:29,680
Speaker 4: I'm outside.

507
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 5: I'm like trying to get my shit together, collecting my stuff.

508
00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:35,480
Speaker 5: I'm like, I gotta go. I tell my friends she's sleep.

509
00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:36,119
Speaker 5: I'm like gonna have to go.

510
00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,160
Speaker 4: This guy who just happens to be across the street

511
00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 4: while I text him, Hey, where are those errands you're

512
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,840
Speaker 4: running at Cumberland Mall? Oh, I'm here, picks me up.

513
00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:49,800
Speaker 4: I go to Erica. As this girl comes down to

514
00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 4: get me to take us up. We pick up one

515
00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,399
Speaker 4: more box. But the box is like these two boxes

516
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 4: we sent. First of all, we spent like six hundred

517
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,120
Speaker 4: dollars sending him because we're done moving to the last minute.

518
00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:02,400
Speaker 5: And second of all, they're essential for the show, essential crucial,

519
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 5: like our merch mom's signed. Everything that was important and

520
00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:09,040
Speaker 5: everything that was gonna make us some money was in

521
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:09,879
Speaker 5: that fucking box.

522
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:13,120
Speaker 3: So we sent them together with the same address.

523
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 5: So we get downstairs to the mailing office. There's one box,

524
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:18,640
Speaker 5: the small box, not the one we fucking really need.

525
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:20,240
Speaker 5: So I'm looking through this thing. I'm like, I don't

526
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 5: see our other box. I'm sorry to flip.

527
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 4: Out, and I my flipout is different than Erica's slip out.

528
00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 4: I like internalized my flip I'm like, okay, so let's

529
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 4: just take a calm, let's just take it one step

530
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 4: at a time, because if I freak out, nothing's gonna happen.

531
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 5: So I get upstairs and I told Jim, I just heard.

532
00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 5: I just told our other this other girl, like Erica

533
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 5: stressed the funk out. She stressed me out. And then

534
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 5: we've realized the box is not there. I'm like, she's

535
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 5: about to flip.

536
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:48,200
Speaker 1: The fuck out.

537
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 5: So we get upstairs and I'm like, Erica, there was

538
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 5: only one box downstairs, and she's like what.

539
00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 1: So there's like it's like just a silence comes over them,

540
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,600
Speaker 1: like we don't were just looking at each other, just

541
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 1: looking at each other.

542
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 5: Like okay, let's so we start like looking at the

543
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 5: ups track tracking and it says.

544
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: It is twelve fifty two pm.

545
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 5: It says your box will now be delivered at one

546
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 5: pm on Monday. Our show is on Sunday. So I'm like, wait,

547
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,679
Speaker 5: where is the box? So we finally track the box

548
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 5: at like twelve fifty six.

549
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 4: It's by the airport, by the airpor which is twenty

550
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 4: minutes from where we are, and.

551
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 1: It's closing at one pm and it's twelve fifty three, and.

552
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, there's no way we're making it. There's no way.

553
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,959
Speaker 4: And I was just like, we gotta try. We have

554
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 4: to go up there, and we have to try. We

555
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 4: have to see if someone lags them around. There's like

556
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:35,679
Speaker 4: if we don't try.

557
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 3: We'll never know.

558
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 1: We'll never know.

559
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 5: So we get in the uber. We get in immediately.

560
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 5: I tell the uber driver, I'm like, look, you need

561
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 5: to get us there. We need to drive fast as

562
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 5: fast as you can while being all being safe. And

563
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 5: so he gets us there. He's he did, He fucking.

564
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:50,679
Speaker 3: Hauled us there.

565
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,360
Speaker 1: He did, but it was one fifteen. So we got

566
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 1: there at one fifteen.

567
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 4: And now I'm thinking, is like Atlanta has a lot

568
00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:56,720
Speaker 4: of black people. Black people will be clocking out five

569
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 4: minutes before the time shift.

570
00:22:59,200 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 1: I'm out, I'm out.

571
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 5: So we pull and it's this huge ups like hanger

572
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 5: like facility, parking lot, like fucking community.

573
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,640
Speaker 1: It's huge. So he drops me off at one end

574
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 1: and drops Erica off another. We're like jo So she goes.

575
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 5: To like the hangar where like you would go pick

576
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 5: up the package. And I go to where I said,

577
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:19,439
Speaker 5: I see people.

578
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 1: There's like an office.

579
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 5: So I go in there, Well, did you mean the college.

580
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 5: She's like, there's nobody here. They won't let me in.

581
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 5: The security guard sell.

582
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,120
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm like, but I'm like jogging.

583
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 5: So I'm walking in and I just see so many

584
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 5: people and I'm like, what is going on here? It's

585
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 5: a fucking job fair for the holidays, so there's so

586
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 5: many people in there, just trying to apply for jobs.

587
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:43,120
Speaker 5: I am like walking around frantically, like panicking and like hyperventilating. Finally,

588
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 5: like they're literally there. They're sitting at school desks, remember

589
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 5: the school.

590
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: They were taking a test.

591
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 5: They were like sitting at school desk like the ones

592
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 5: you had in like middle school, like personals, like you

593
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 5: have the little personal desks.

594
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 3: I opened, I see this like really handsome. He was fine.

595
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 5: He was fine, a handsome like man in the in

596
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 5: an office inner viewing someone and I just like knock

597
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 5: him like, Hi, I'm sorry.

598
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 3: I don't mean to interrupt, but.

599
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 5: I'm like freaking out because my box is missing and

600
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 5: I need my box because I'm getting married tomorrow and

601
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 5: my wedding dress is in the fucking box. And he

602
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,439
Speaker 5: was like what and I was like, yes, I'm getting married,

603
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 5: my dress is in the box. Please can somebody help me?

604
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:19,919
Speaker 5: And he's like whoa.

605
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 4: Just meanwhile, the overdriver has come back to get me

606
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 4: from the other side of this strange place Upslafe and

607
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:27,360
Speaker 4: I'm in the car and I go in and then

608
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 4: Eric's like, I think they're gonna help us. I think

609
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 4: they're gonna help us. And this guy's like everything's gonna

610
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 4: be fine, and then she discreetly says, oh, yeah. By

611
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 4: the way, I told her my wedding dress is in

612
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 4: the box and my weddings tomorrow.

613
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 1: I'm like what to mean.

614
00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 5: I was like, you don't think the show was important enough.

615
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,400
Speaker 5: I was like, no, it needs to be emotional emotional attachments.

616
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 5: So he knocks on this girl's this lady's office who

617
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 5: I had actually been knocking on her office and she

618
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,199
Speaker 5: was ignoring me, and he went and knocks on her

619
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 5: office he's like, hey, Jean, So I have this young

620
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 5: lady here she's getting married and her fair.

621
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 3: Name really was je is Jean.

622
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: I'll never forget her fucking name Jean.

623
00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,919
Speaker 5: And she's getting married and her boxes and she's like,

624
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 5: oh no, oh wait, we got it.

625
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 3: We're gonna figure this out. Just give me one second.

626
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 3: She like locks up her office and ship hurt me.

627
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 5: She starts making phone calls where she's like calling things

628
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,400
Speaker 5: the cell phone trucks.

629
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:16,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna set out to set an announcement for

630
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 4: all the truck drivers right now, all the.

631
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 3: Truck drivers all over Lena.

632
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 5: So we've she walks us through the first of all,

633
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 5: we have to like take we have to go through security.

634
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 5: Security shows that there's like super certain protocol we have

635
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 5: to follow, like walk on certain lines.

636
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: Hey, stay in line, saying line it's very dangerous. It's

637
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 1: very dangerous. Do you have any no photos? She's like,

638
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 1: no cell phones.

639
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 4: So I'm like, what the fuck kind of fucking secret

640
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 4: area fifty one?

641
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: Ups? Shit have we walked into? I wanted to laugh.

642
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 1: I'm like I was just gonna have a pant I

643
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: was panicing, I was having a panic attack, and.

644
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 3: Like I was had.

645
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: I was like on the verge of crying.

646
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 5: And so we get there and then there's like thousands

647
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 5: of boxes and then she's like, we're gonna find the box.

648
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 1: Somehow, and I was like, no one, So I was

649
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 1: gonna call us back, girl.

650
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 5: I we just were walking through a huge way, huge boxes.

651
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 3: Bitch.

652
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 5: I must have saw that box my laser fucking eyes.

653
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 1: I think I think that's walks right there.

654
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, because Jamila's scribbled scrabble writing on it, I'm.

655
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 1: Like, it is our box.

656
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I like hugged me, hug I like literally,

657
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:17,800
Speaker 5: I'm like, I'm gonna cry right now thinking about it.

658
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 3: My eyes were getting watery. I literally was in tears.

659
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 5: Literally like every all this, you would have really thought

660
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 5: it was our fucking wedding dress.

661
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: Witch.

662
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 3: I literally like fell on the.

663
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 5: Floor like kissed Jean's feet. I was like, Jeane, I'm

664
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 5: gonna write review whatever you need. There was another black

665
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 5: woman in there who was like these pitches are crazy,

666
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:37,439
Speaker 5: right she was.

667
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: Then they got the box, like that's a pretty heavy

668
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: wedding dress. We're like, oh, there's a couple other things in.

669
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 3: There, and the box was lowkey falling apart.

670
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 5: I was like, oh my god, if they pick up

671
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 5: this box and falls apart and all the ship falls

672
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 5: out and there's no wedding dress.

673
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 3: Because Jean kept saying, you know, like if there was.

674
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 4: Any other, any other situation, I wouldn't I wouldn't just

675
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:53,359
Speaker 4: let you guys wait till.

676
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: Monday, like if it were some shoes or anything like that.

677
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, Jeane, thank you so much.

678
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 5: So shout out to Jean from ups and at Land

679
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 5: because bit saved a mother. Shout out to everyone in

680
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 5: Atlanta that literally saved us on a lot of occasions.

681
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: Okay, because there's more.

682
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 4: Wait, I haven't done I know this sounds crazy, right,

683
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,919
Speaker 4: So we get the box, we somehow get all the

684
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 4: furniture to the show.

685
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 3: Oh no.

686
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 5: Then we get the box and we get back to

687
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 5: the house. I want to get another alert that one

688
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 5: of our other boxes didn't.

689
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:23,439
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, another box that make it.

690
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, our sign, this the fucking print fuck Vista Press,

691
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 4: buck Vista print. We got a sign delivered, it was,

692
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 4: but they sent it back to Canada because they're dumb.

693
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: So we're like, we don't have a sign the end

694
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: of the world.

695
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,679
Speaker 5: Our sign that we got for this event isn't coming

696
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 5: like one win, one loss at least, like the big

697
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 5: box came and now all honestly, we didn't really fucking

698
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 5: need that sign, but.

699
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: At the time it seemed very high, like very very important,

700
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 1: very important. Everything was very important. And then at this point,

701
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 1: I feel like we still hadn't really run the show.

702
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's we haven't run the show one time ever.

703
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: So I don't even know.

704
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 3: We were literally.

705
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 5: Running the show while Jamala was taking a shower and

706
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 5: I was doing my makeup.

707
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 1: I I was in my hair.

708
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 4: I was like dying my hair, and I was like,

709
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 4: I gotta do this, so just come in the bath.

710
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 5: So like we knew generally what we wanted to do

711
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 5: with the guests, but like we just didn't.

712
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 1: I don't know.

713
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 3: Thank god we do this.

714
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,919
Speaker 5: Every week, I know, because then we can kind of

715
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 5: like play off of each other. But it was fine,

716
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 5: but it was just And then when we got in

717
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 5: the room, I mean honestly, in La I was so nervous, and.

718
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 4: Then when I got the room in Atlanta, I wasn't

719
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 4: that nervous. I was like, my people, Thank God, my

720
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 4: people are.

721
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 3: I didn't know anybody, but I almost made it better.

722
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 1: No, but it wasn't my people.

723
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 4: It was some faces that I knew, but it was

724
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 4: mostly faces I did not know, but I still felt comfortable.

725
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the audio guy was sucking up a

726
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: few times with the microphone.

727
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 5: Our DJ didn't get our memo o our we didn't

728
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 5: get a rehearsal, so.

729
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 4: It was Yeah, but everything was really good. Everybody was

730
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 4: really nice to us. And then to make matters even

731
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 4: better because people have asked us, like can we smoke

732
00:28:58,400 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 4: at this venue? And we didn't want to be the

733
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 4: culpers saying yes, we got to smoke in the tent

734
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 4: like everybody had. Everybody lit their blunts together, well their

735
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 4: blunts together, passed their blunts together, took shots together.

736
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

737
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 5: It was And it was just like there was just

738
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 5: so much participation too, because you never know, like if

739
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 5: people are just gonna be staring at you in silence,

740
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 5: like as afraid to ask things. And like I just

741
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 5: appreciated like the energy in the room. A lot of

742
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 5: women that don't even know us, that like felt comfortable

743
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 5: comfortable enough to like share things, ask us things.

744
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 3: Do what are you looking at?

745
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: Did you get a new piercing Yeah?

746
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 3: I did.

747
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm like, am I chrippin' or is that a

748
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: new piercit?

749
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: I got it in and it's infected?

750
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: This one this well?

751
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 5: This, I got this one I had and he re

752
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 5: pierced it well, and I went to I went to

753
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 5: a shop to get this done. Then I went to

754
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 5: I was being cheap, so I went down the street

755
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 5: to another like shady shop, and he bucked my shit up.

756
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 1: Was it a gun?

757
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 5: No, it was already pierced, but it was kind of closed,

758
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 5: and so he like was jamming it through.

759
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: Did it with a gun though?

760
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:56,640
Speaker 3: No, he just then he pulled.

761
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 5: Out some strange needle, which I don't even know if

762
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 5: it was clean. And that's why I think I'm infected. Oh,

763
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 5: both yours.

764
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: But you're sorry. That was random looking at her like

765
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: this is what you have?

766
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 5: More? I don't know, okay, but anyway, I just was

767
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 5: so I was just like and honestly to like our

768
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 5: guests that kind of came together last minute, like Shanisha that.

769
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 1: We've been calling a year and a half.

770
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, Shanisha, who who's from Black Mom's blog.

771
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 5: We didn't we did an episode with her. She's the

772
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 5: only phone interview we've ever done. On the podcast. So

773
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 5: we've actually never met her, and we asked her to come.

774
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 5: She flew in from like a convention straight to the

775
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 5: podcast to come beyond our shit. We've never met in person.

776
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 5: We'd had no idea what our dynamic was going to be, Like,

777
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 5: I mean, we had a phone conversation before.

778
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: But even that was us like really standard.

779
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like Lauren never met her, Lauren from Real.

780
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 5: Housewives of Atlanta, Like that was a hookup through one

781
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 5: of our homeboys, Carlton, who lives out here, who knows her,

782
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 5: was so cool, came on, shared some like really funny

783
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 5: personal shit, like.

784
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: It was just like perfect.

785
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 5: Couldn't have asked for like her guests to like also

786
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,239
Speaker 5: kind of like our show is fun, but also like

787
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 5: to bring it down and like.

788
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 3: Have a real conversation right right right.

789
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 5: And then Danielle of course too, like our married wife

790
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 5: are We had a segment on the show called Ask

791
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 5: a Wife where we Askedanielle a bunch of like inappropriate

792
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 5: shit that like things I want to know as a

793
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 5: married person, like are you still sucking dick in cars?

794
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 3: Like are you still giving road head? Like you does

795
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 3: he finger you?

796
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 5: Right?

797
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: Like how do you have sex with three adult kids

798
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: in the house.

799
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 5: So I just like really appreciated the energy and everything

800
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 5: and the honesty.

801
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 3: The honesty. So it all worked out. And then the

802
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 3: next day.

803
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 4: So we're all hype it's finally over, and our dear

804
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 4: wonderful bar manager is like, leave everything here.

805
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: We got it. I'm like, okay, so we leave.

806
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 5: No, Actually, Sydney went and told him. He was like, look,

807
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 5: they are single moms. We have worked our ass off.

808
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 5: We need this night. Sidney said, yeah, she told me that.

809
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 1: She was like, we need this night.

810
00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 3: You guys need to figure this shit out because we're leaving.

811
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 3: We're leaving.

812
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: You gotta figure this out. And he was like And

813
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: then I went up to him because I was like,

814
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: are you guys.

815
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 3: He's like, go go enjoy your night. You guys deserve it.

816
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 3: I was like, she sure did tell him that.

817
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: Wait. First of all, we have such like such like

818
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: down ass friends. Sidney.

819
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 4: I don't know what she was over there doing with

820
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 4: the bar manager. I'm glad you did it because I

821
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 4: didn't have any energy to do it. But we set

822
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 4: up like literally literally right before the show came started

823
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 4: to the point where people were showing up and we

824
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 4: were still like wearing sweats.

825
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're here for the shows, give us five minutes.

826
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 4: Tell me that she was holding shit down with the

827
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 4: bar manager, Ashley fucking hell shit.

828
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 5: Two of our friends flew in from LA to come

829
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 5: enjoy the show, and they fucking worked the show. If

830
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,479
Speaker 5: without them, there would have been no motherfucking show for real.

831
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 5: Like literally, we've learned so much about what needs to

832
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 5: happen if we're gonna do more out of town shows,

833
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 5: which we want to do, but god damn, we're.

834
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 1: Gonna need friends in every city.

835
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 4: Okay, we wanna sign up for a roll call us Okay,

836
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 4: because we had to, we have someone working the door mirror.

837
00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 4: My best friend Marra was like security slash door girl.

838
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 4: She's like to She told me. All my boyfriends who came,

839
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 4: like all the people I went on dates with that week,

840
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 4: were like looking at her like, bitch, I don't need.

841
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: No ticket, Donna.

842
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 5: It was just bumb But the next day we had

843
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 5: to come back and get our shit right.

844
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 1: So we went out.

845
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 4: We partied because that's what we do, and then somehow,

846
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 4: like nine o'clock, we like ten eleven, we rolled over.

847
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, we gotta go back.

848
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 5: We gotta get this goddamn riser. We got to get

849
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 5: this fucking riser for this event company.

850
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 1: They're gonna get it picked up.

851
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 3: So we get there.

852
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 4: No again, I just happened to call a friend and

853
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 4: she's close by and she has my jacket. I'm like,

854
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 4: I was supposed to be picking up my jacket, and

855
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 4: me and Erica come down with bubble wrap and we're like,

856
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 4: can you drop us off?

857
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 5: And we get to First of all, side note, when

858
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 5: I was trying to get the riser into the venue,

859
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 5: Jamila kept telling me about a homeless man named Johnny

860
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 5: who was gonna be my point.

861
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 3: Of contact for the event.

862
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 5: And I was like, Jamila, I cannot tell an event

863
00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 5: planning company that the point of contact is Johnny the

864
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 5: homeless man outside low key. Even Devin was like, oh, yeah,

865
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 5: I think I know Johnny. Who's Devin, Johnny's baby Taddy.

866
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 5: Oh who owns the bar down the street? The neighborhood

867
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 5: is neighborhood, Jay, I don't care. Johnny can't be the

868
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 5: point of contact. So we get there and like we

869
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 5: can't get in the bar, but Johnny's there, knocked out,

870
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 5: knocked the fuck out.

871
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 1: In the tent. He's like the resident tent guy.

872
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 4: The back, like he just holds down like the parking

873
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 4: and the tent and the local bars, you know. But

874
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 4: in Atlanta that's just like generally like there's some like

875
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 4: there's some like I.

876
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: Don't know how to say, resident thumbs.

877
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 4: That help out the gas stations help at certain places,

878
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 4: parking lots.

879
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 5: Johnny's asked, So we pull up, my friend leaves us.

880
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 5: My phone's about to die.

881
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,240
Speaker 4: The bar manager who promised us our stuff is inside

882
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 4: is not answering.

883
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: I'm going straight to voicemail.

884
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 4: And the truck pulls up to pick up the riser

885
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 4: and we're like, listen, uh, it's not open yet.

886
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 1: Can you come back in the thirty minutes?

887
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 4: Thirty minutes He's like, oh man, she shot it because

888
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:00,760
Speaker 4: U I don't get some breakfast.

889
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 1: Gonta get some breakfast. We a little early anyway, come on,

890
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: come on. So thank god they leave. We go across

891
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:06,400
Speaker 1: the street.

892
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 5: We go, so I sneak into the tent. Johnny's knocked

893
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 5: the fuck out in the tent. He's not doing shit.

894
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 4: So we're like, so, so first of we're dehydrated and

895
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,879
Speaker 4: dying at first because we got drunk to night before.

896
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 1: My phone's dead.

897
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 4: Bar managers not answering. We have no idea in the

898
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 4: restaurant's closed on Monday, we have no idea how we're

899
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 4: about to get in, and some strangely enough fucking freak out.

900
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:29,319
Speaker 4: Ass Erica is not freaking out. She's like, I don't know, girl,

901
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 4: everything's God's just worked it out thus far. He'll work

902
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:33,360
Speaker 4: it out again.

903
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I guess you're right.

904
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 5: So we go across the street to like there's like

905
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:43,399
Speaker 5: a marketplace that's at indoor, like marketplace with all these

906
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 5: different like vendors.

907
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 3: Like it's really big and.

908
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 4: It's really beautiful on Edgewood. And I've lived in Atlanta,

909
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 4: I've lived in the lane in for seven years. I've

910
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 4: never I didn't even know the shit was there. And

911
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 4: I've been there, like on the street a lot of times.

912
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: So we go in.

913
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 4: I'm like, damn, I didn't know this was here. We

914
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 4: go to we find a coffee shop. We're just sitting

915
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 4: at the coffee shop like do do do do you?

916
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 5: Like? I wonder what's gonna happen when they come back

917
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 5: and we can't get in. And as we're sitting there

918
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 5: Erica looks past me and she goes, oh my god.

919
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 5: I was like what she's like, isn't that him? So

920
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 5: I turn around like who She's like, that isn't Jamel

921
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 5: the bar manager. I turn around and I'm like, oh

922
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 5: my fucking god.

923
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 4: I run out into the hallway and his two kids

924
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 4: just embraced me, and Erica was so tight.

925
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 3: They hug us like they know us. They gave us

926
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:29,240
Speaker 3: so much love.

927
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:34,280
Speaker 5: I was like, that's exactly how I feel. And we're like, Jamel,

928
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 5: what are you doing here? We've been calling you.

929
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: He's like, I lost my phone.

930
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 4: Ohone stole my phone last night. So if anyone stole

931
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 4: Jammel's phone, that is not nice. You didn't take it back.

932
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 5: But anyway, Jammel got an extra phone and was She's like,

933
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 5: I just came over here because I don't know how

934
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 5: I was gonna like find you guys, and so I'm here.

935
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 1: We hugged that Jamel so fucking hard that day.

936
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, Erica, you're right, like

937
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 4: God really is looking out for us.

938
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 5: So we get back to the spot, Jamel's like, I

939
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:01,280
Speaker 5: don't have the key.

940
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, the manager is supposed to meet me here. With

941
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 1: the key.

942
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 4: He meets me usually on Mondays. I'm like, usually on

943
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 4: Mondays he meets you. He's like, I don't have his number,

944
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 4: like you have number. I'm like, I don't have nobody's number.

945
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 4: So now it's me Erica, Jamel and his two sons

946
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 4: and Johnny and Johnny who's still sleep.

947
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 3: Who still passed out?

948
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 1: Johnny still we're all the time, Johnny's passed out.

949
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 4: And my homegirl who dropped us off, who knew my

950
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 4: phone was about to die, had delivered some waters and

951
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 4: juice to a bench and she texts she DM does

952
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 4: like I love some juices on that bench where I

953
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 4: left you guys.

954
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 1: You guys were gone when I got back.

955
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 5: So we were like in the so we're telling We're

956
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:39,439
Speaker 5: like looking at each other, like what are we gonna

957
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 5: do about this fucking riser.

958
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: We're going during Chargers an extra day.

959
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 5: The risers literally trapped in the basement and there's a

960
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 5: huge lock on it.

961
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 1: There's like a gate in four locks.

962
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 3: So Jamel, I don't know where.

963
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: This nigga from where bloodshammer.

964
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 5: He starts banging the fuck out of the lock here

965
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 5: literally for an hour, for an hour straight, This poor

966
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 5: man is. First of all, he went to he went

967
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 5: to the fire station to try to find a cutter.

968
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 5: He went next door to some technology school where he

969
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 5: thought he was gonna find some shit.

970
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: He got tools somehow.

971
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 4: He like went around the neighborhood and found these tools

972
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,439
Speaker 4: and was banging these locks. I'm like, are you gonna

973
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 4: get in trouble for breaking the locks?

974
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 1: He's like, no, it's fine. You need to get your

975
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: shit up.

976
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 4: And now the truck pulls back up to pick up

977
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 4: this fucking riser and the fucking lock is not open yet.

978
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: So these two guys come back and look, oh yeah,

979
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 1: we heard that banging. Is that whatever you're doing? So

980
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 1: you go there look at the lock. He's like, oh yeah,

981
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 1: he almost won't get that thing open. Like, can you

982
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,800
Speaker 1: please come back in fifteen minutes, it's almost open.

983
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 4: Please, He's like, well showed it. I'm taking and we

984
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 4: can be you number. I'm like, listen, just come back

985
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:47,439
Speaker 4: and fit. As soon as they pull off, jamel Bow

986
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 4: pops this the third lock off to the basement.

987
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 1: I was like, it was It was a joyous moment,

988
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: it really was.

989
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 4: I was just like, God, wow, you're just trying to

990
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:00,839
Speaker 4: stress us out. And bring us through every time, trying

991
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 4: to make a Churstian out of me.

992
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: I believe, for real, for real, Like, okay, god, I

993
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: get it.

994
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 5: So we got everything out. Everything worked out. I literally

995
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 5: went back to the house, packed up and got on

996
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 5: a flight straight to Florida to do to go back

997
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 5: to work. But it all worked out. And in our

998
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 5: Atlanta trap, there are some other things outside of the

999
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 5: show that happened.

1000
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: So there's this Did you write it down in your book?

1001
00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 5: No, no, no, I'm just I'm not doing this right now.

1002
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 5: I was thinking about this. This there's this podcast in Atlanta.

1003
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: Oh, oh my god, I forgot about this part.

1004
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 5: So there's this podcast in Atlanta that I had reached

1005
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 5: out to because I thought maybe we while we were there,

1006
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 5: we could record and like do like you knows a

1007
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 5: cross podcast situation.

1008
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: There had been no way to do it anyway, there

1009
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 1: was absolutely no time, but we had like reached out

1010
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: to them and text Ericahead.

1011
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, we had texted. Actually did I talk to her

1012
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 5: on the phone. I think I talked to her on

1013
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 5: the phone.

1014
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:04,759
Speaker 1: I don't know. Whatever.

1015
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 5: We talked on the phone and she had asked, they're

1016
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 5: like a large they're like semi larger podcast than us.

1017
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 5: They do something they've been they've been doing like more

1018
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 5: like out of state shows than us. They've had a

1019
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 5: show longer, show longer.

1020
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1021
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 5: So when they asked us about like where we're having

1022
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,240
Speaker 5: our podcast, they told them that we're having a BQI Lounge,

1023
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 5: which is a bar, a bar restaurant, and they're like, oh,

1024
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 5: that's cool, and like I thought we had really cool rapport.

1025
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 4: She asked her them a couple of questions, like advice questions,

1026
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 4: like we're doing this, this is the first time thing

1027
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 4: out of town, Like what did you guys do for

1028
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 4: this or that?

1029
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 1: Maybe three questions?

1030
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 5: Right, So I happened to listen to their episode, like

1031
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 5: the week after the week after our conversation, just so

1032
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:46,720
Speaker 5: happened to tune in. Yeah, and she is talking about

1033
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 5: her next show and that people need to buy tickets

1034
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 5: and she's like, you know, we're having a show. If

1035
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 5: you haven't bought tickets, make sure you buy those tickets

1036
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 5: because this isn't like those other podcasts that do pop

1037
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 5: that do bar podcasts, like where you have a podcast

1038
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 5: in a bar and if anyone can, anyone can just

1039
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 5: come and walk in. This ain't that so make sure

1040
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 5: you buy your podcast because this ain't that, honey.

1041
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, So immediately Erica calls me

1042
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:11,479
Speaker 4: like I think this bitch is trying to throw shade.

1043
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:12,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, what do you mean. She's like, she's

1044
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: talking about you know, this ain't that.

1045
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 5: She's like I had told her we were having our

1046
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 5: podcast in a bar literally like a few days before,

1047
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 5: and then this is the new episode, so I knew

1048
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,839
Speaker 5: that it was connected. And I just felt like, Wow,

1049
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 5: that's so whack because I thought we had a good rapport.

1050
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 3: I mean, I think she's continually thought we did because.

1051
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 5: She didn't know you listen and she But I just

1052
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 5: feel like it's so lame when women feel like they

1053
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 5: have to throw someone under the bus to make themselves

1054
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,439
Speaker 5: feel more elevated. And I actually did a little post

1055
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 5: about this on my stories around that week because I

1056
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 5: was pissed because I was just so disgusted by the

1057
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 5: fact that like, we're not even in the same genre

1058
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 5: of a podcast, like we are we don't even Yeah,

1059
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 5: we talk about similar things, but we're our podcast is

1060
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 5: rooted in the parenthood, So like, I don't even know

1061
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 5: why there's even a competition there's enough space for everyone.

1062
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 1: And that's what where I really get sad for us

1063
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: as women. And there's not that many black women in

1064
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 1: the podcast. Is that where we feel like we have

1065
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: to be little.

1066
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 5: One another because we feel like we're crabs in a

1067
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 5: barrel and we have to like fight one another or

1068
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 5: take the jabs at one another.

1069
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 4: Even if you weren't even like and that's another thing

1070
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 4: you got to jab at someone. Bitch, you better come

1071
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 4: at me all the way, you better say.

1072
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 1: The name, you better like. And I don't like the

1073
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 1: subliminal subliminals. Yeah, I'm not into that.

1074
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 5: So I saw that shit and I was like, all right, bitch, well,

1075
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 5: I'm definitely not hitting you up when I come.

1076
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: So she had messaged me like.

1077
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 3: Oh, hey, I heard you.

1078
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 1: I saw you're in town, like I want to come

1079
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 1: to the show. And I was like cool.

1080
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 3: She's like, she said, are you selling tickets or is

1081
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 3: it free? And I said tickets?

1082
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: Lol? You said that?

1083
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1084
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, bitch, fuck you.

1085
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 5: So I was like tickets all and she's like oh okay,

1086
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:45,960
Speaker 5: and then she kind of like didn't say anything. She's like, Okay,

1087
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 5: I guess I'm gonna go get my ticket, and I

1088
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,840
Speaker 5: didn't respond. I'm like, yeah, bitch, you better buy that.

1089
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,399
Speaker 5: God says, you ain't gonna get no free pass over here.

1090
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 5: You might have you might have gotten like because I

1091
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 5: wanted them to come, but then I was like, you

1092
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 5: know what, let me not. I'm glad they didn't because

1093
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 5: they probably would have like tried to like I don't know.

1094
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:03,879
Speaker 4: I mean, they would talk shit, probably would have talked

1095
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 4: talk shit because my idea, I said, oh, yeah, I'll

1096
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 4: tell a bitch to come.

1097
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: I would have gladly had liked her to come because

1098
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: I wanted to be on stage and be like, did

1099
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:12,799
Speaker 1: you check her ticket at the door?

1100
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:16,800
Speaker 4: Specifically this one, I'm sorting yeah, because it's not that

1101
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 4: type of show I would like I prefer and I've

1102
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 4: realized this in all of the confrontations I've had or

1103
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 4: didn't have this week. I would prefer people to talk

1104
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 4: directly to me if you have some bullshit to side,

1105
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,880
Speaker 4: which just seems not the case with women.

1106
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:34,879
Speaker 5: It's unfortunate, and so I just whatever. So anyway, fast

1107
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 5: forward to the night of our show. We go out

1108
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:41,279
Speaker 5: and we like to bone who was like, who's our DJ?

1109
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 5: Which also so divine as well because I actually met

1110
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,360
Speaker 5: to Bone maybe like eight years ago in Atlanta. I

1111
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 5: was shooting a movie and like I was out there

1112
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 5: by myself and would I happened to go to this

1113
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 5: bar alone because I literally didn't know anyone. And I'm

1114
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 5: sitting there like eating alone and he comes up to

1115
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 5: me and he was like, hey, what's up. I'm to

1116
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 5: Bone and I'll never forget because I'm like, you don't

1117
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 5: forget that name. And also his hair was like very

1118
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 5: distinct at the time, and we exchanged information and we

1119
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 5: always like message music to each other for a while,

1120
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 5: and then I lost track of him. And then Jamila

1121
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 5: was like Tabone's gonna DJ. This guy DJ to Bone

1122
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 5: is djaying our shit, and I was like, shut the

1123
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 5: fuck up.

1124
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 3: That can't be the same person.

1125
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 1: She's like, what does he look like? And I described

1126
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 1: him and she's like, oh my god, I've met him.

1127
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:22,839
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1128
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,720
Speaker 1: So anyway, he invites us out to this little party

1129
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,400
Speaker 1: that he's was he DJing.

1130
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 3: I don't remember some shit he was doing.

1131
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 5: And I see this girl from the podcast walking down

1132
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 5: walking towards us down out of the out of the club,

1133
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 5: and she saw me.

1134
00:44:42,360 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 1: I saw her. Hi.

1135
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 3: I didn't say a guy I didn't say shit to her.

1136
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 5: No, no, but like I just thought it was so funny, like, bitch, yeah,

1137
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 5: you didn't buy that ticket because you're not really a supporter,

1138
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 5: you don't really give a fuck, and you're actually a hater.

1139
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: You're actually a hater.

1140
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 4: That's really it's the first thing, the most important thing

1141
00:44:59,000 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 4: overall is that you're a hater.

1142
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 1: And she didn't speak because she also probably knew she

1143
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:03,359
Speaker 1: was a hater.

1144
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, it just it was just whack overall, and I'm

1145
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 5: just so disappointed. She just thinks, did you see her,

1146
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 5: like even hesitate to maybe speak. No, I don't know,

1147
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 5: I don't know, I don't know.

1148
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 3: It's just whack. I know she saw me.

1149
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 5: She she quickly went downstairs with her whack guss. So

1150
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 5: I just feel like it's really unfortunate, and unfortunately we've

1151
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 5: encountered this a few times in the process of you know,

1152
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 5: building this our shit, where women appear to want to

1153
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:37,439
Speaker 5: help you or they have these empowering platforms and they're

1154
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 5: actually the meanest ones. They're actually the most hating ass ones,

1155
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 5: and it's unfortunate. But I you know, everything happens for

1156
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 5: a reason. You know, maybe like she wasn't supposed to

1157
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 5: be there because she was gonna try and steal aspects

1158
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 5: of our sham and uh, I send her love, I

1159
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 5: send her peace because I don't ever wish poorly on anyone.

1160
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 3: But you know, it's really a reflection of you and

1161
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 3: has nothing to do with me. So that happened in Atlanta.

1162
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 4: There's been a lot of things I think that I've

1163
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 4: had to like not personalize and then recognize, like some things,

1164
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 4: a lot of things, most things are a reflection of

1165
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 4: other people, not you.

1166
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 1: People will project shit on you and be mean and

1167
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 1: be this, but it's because it's their life. They're ugly insides.

1168
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1169
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what. I don't know what it

1170
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,279
Speaker 3: is about us that she feels threatened by.

1171
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 5: I mean that we have a ball mask community, that

1172
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 5: we're multidimensional and not just one type of podcast that

1173
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 5: we can talk about all different types of things. I

1174
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 5: don't know, but that's a personal problem. And I will

1175
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:45,839
Speaker 5: never ever ever go on her podcast and she will

1176
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 5: never be online.

1177
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:52,720
Speaker 1: So that's cool. Anyway.

1178
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 3: What else happened Atlanta? I just want I went on

1179
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:57,280
Speaker 3: I went on a date.

1180
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 5: With a someone who listens to the podcast that found

1181
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 5: me through the podcast that I have not I had

1182
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 5: never met in person.

1183
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that was your first time meeting.

1184
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 3: Him, and uh that was interesting.

1185
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 1: I popped up on her date.

1186
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 4: Not only did I pop up, our other two friends

1187
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 4: were already there and I just happened to be at

1188
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 4: dinner next door. I was joking that I was gonna

1189
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 4: pop up, but I'm like, ohait right next door, I'm

1190
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 4: definitely popping up.

1191
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 1: And I was also on a date.

1192
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 5: I'm done a lot of dates, and I did a

1193
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 5: lot of twenty year old Jamila things.

1194
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: Just I went to Starbar on Tuesday.

1195
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 4: If you're in Atlanta, I've never been a Starbar on Tuesday,

1196
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 4: I'm little five points, It's bomb it Cisco music MJQ.

1197
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 4: On Wednesday, I did that too, all the classic Atlanta things.

1198
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 4: I got some head in the car on Peachtree.

1199
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 1: Great.

1200
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, like one of these I've ever known one of these,

1201
00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 4: like if you're driving, wait with you? Yeah, like he

1202
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:02,919
Speaker 4: was driving, and then I was in the passenger seat

1203
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 4: and then wait, he.

1204
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,840
Speaker 3: Was driving the car? Yes, what was he like checking

1205
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 3: in back and floors?

1206
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 1: Like if it like, what the fuck was happening here?

1207
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 1: If there was if the light turned red. I like

1208
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:17,399
Speaker 1: leaned my body up against Oh my god, I wish.

1209
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,240
Speaker 5: Okay, well, if you drawn our Patreon, you can definitely

1210
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 5: see what's happening because Jamila's showing me.

1211
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 1: Okay.

1212
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 3: So he's driving and he's like.

1213
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

1214
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:27,480
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good one.

1215
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, And then we pulled over. Wait was this

1216
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 1: after my dan?

1217
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1218
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 3: Okay, because you told me that because I sent Jamila home.

1219
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, they weren't allowing me to go out. They were

1220
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 1: going out. They're like, you have to I had to

1221
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,320
Speaker 1: bring the furniture. You hadn't slept. Oh, I hadn't slept.

1222
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:41,239
Speaker 5: You told me you haven't slept in twenty four hours,

1223
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:42,360
Speaker 5: and you were trying to go out with us. And

1224
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:43,879
Speaker 5: our show was the next day, and I was like, bitch,

1225
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:44,399
Speaker 5: go home.

1226
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 1: So I had to go home.

1227
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 4: And I told that guy like, well, mama had to

1228
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 4: come to your house because Erica told me no. But

1229
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 4: if you want to figure something out in the way,

1230
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 4: And so we did.

1231
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: Pulled over, got a little, got not little, got some

1232
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: D in the car. I like exciting sex, so that

1233
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: was fun. And then he dropped me off.

1234
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:11,720
Speaker 5: And the next day, Yeah, I went to get an outfit,

1235
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 5: pick up that furniture, drop it off, meet up with

1236
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 5: you to go to the show.

1237
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 1: What else happened?

1238
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,080
Speaker 5: I met up with an ex girlfriend, one of my

1239
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 5: first girlfriends I've ever had, who is so sweet and

1240
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 5: I hadn't seen her a long time, but same, she

1241
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 5: was just like, I can never forget you ever since

1242
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 5: this relationship.

1243
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 4: I was just like, very deep and I had not

1244
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 4: thought about it in ten years. But it also reminded

1245
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:35,240
Speaker 4: me like, I'm such I am kind of a lesbian.

1246
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 4: Because we had some lesbian sex.

1247
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 1: I was kind of bomb. It was good.

1248
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 5: I wasn't mad at I was like, oh, yeah, this

1249
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 5: is fine city in lesbian you when they used to be.

1250
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 1: Anything else?

1251
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 5: No, oh well then we had so then we had

1252
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,320
Speaker 5: one of the guys. So one of the when we

1253
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 5: have this male listener, I don't even know if he's listener.

1254
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 3: Actually I think he. I don't think he listens. I

1255
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 3: think he just like looks at our Instagram. Oh really,

1256
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 3: I don't think he listened.

1257
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 1: Okay, oh yeah, she could.

1258
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:13,760
Speaker 3: Sugarho and we call him sugar. We call him sugar

1259
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 3: because he.

1260
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:18,439
Speaker 5: Sends us nuds, he sends us nuts and his dick

1261
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 5: is huge, and he lives in Atlanta, and he's been

1262
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 5: like waiting to like come to one to come to

1263
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 5: our show. And he showed up to our show and

1264
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 5: I appairly got to talk to him. He was like

1265
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 5: kind of lurking around, like trying to like connect with us,

1266
00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:33,359
Speaker 5: but there.

1267
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 1: Was like a lot happening, so much happening, so kind

1268
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 1: of cute. He's really cute. I messaged him a few

1269
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 1: times after. I was like, what are you doing? What

1270
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 1: I told him?

1271
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, it's getting over. I'm

1272
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 4: let me call you that because we can't pronounce your

1273
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 4: Instagram name. He's like, my name is whatever his name.

1274
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 1: Is, And I was like, look Erica.

1275
00:50:56,440 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 4: Still continued to call him that, and he he's by

1276
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 4: before his birthday, like he was having a birthday something

1277
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 4: people were.

1278
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:04,800
Speaker 3: He told me like he was. He went to a

1279
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:05,479
Speaker 3: birthday party.

1280
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 1: It was it was for him. Shut up, Oh my god,

1281
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: I know.

1282
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 5: And then and then my the guy that I went

1283
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:16,360
Speaker 5: on the date with didn't even make it to the

1284
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 5: show because they got in a fucking car accident on

1285
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 5: the way there.

1286
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 3: Shout out to him, Hi, what's up.

1287
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 5: I mean.

1288
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:27,279
Speaker 1: I had a couple of good dates, I had a

1289
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: good time.

1290
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,120
Speaker 3: What else I don't know.

1291
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 5: I just I just like also like just going back

1292
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 5: to the show, like I couldn't believe that women drove

1293
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 5: from like far places to.

1294
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 1: Come to Tennessee to like like Nashville.

1295
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 3: So I couldn't believe that.

1296
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 5: Like this one woman even came up to me and

1297
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,240
Speaker 5: like got emotional because she was talking about our episode

1298
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 5: with uh the Black Midwife. Oh my god, I came

1299
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 5: Why am I drawing a blank on her name right now?

1300
00:51:58,040 --> 00:51:59,959
Speaker 1: Rasha Hani.

1301
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 4: That's a lot of people's favorite episode. Yeah, my friend Sidney,

1302
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:04,800
Speaker 4: who's not even black, loves that episode.

1303
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 8: Yeah.

1304
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 3: She was just saying she was talking about her birthing

1305
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:09,919
Speaker 3: story and it was just so cool.

1306
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,360
Speaker 1: But aside from all those things in.

1307
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 3: Atlanta, after Atlanta, which I was so depressed, like I think.

1308
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 6: Like everything, all the anxieties, all of like settled adrenaline,

1309
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 6: all the things that kind of had been neglecting over

1310
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 6: the last two months because I've been putting so much

1311
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 6: energy into.

1312
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 3: This kind of all hit me at once.

1313
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 5: Because after I left Atlanta, I went to Florida and

1314
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 5: I was alone, and I just felt so heavy and

1315
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 5: overwhelmed and like sad, and I just had to, like

1316
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 5: I feel better now, but like there's just been a

1317
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 5: few a few things like that have been unsettling for me,

1318
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 5: with like my Dirie's dad and like thinking that I'm

1319
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:57,320
Speaker 5: over it when I'm really not.

1320
00:52:57,880 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 3: Like I thought.

1321
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 5: I really thought like I was really moving I am

1322
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,520
Speaker 5: moving forward and I have been moving forward, but there's

1323
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 5: things about our relationship that I'm still holding on to.

1324
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 5: And it wasn't It was only brought to my attention

1325
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 5: after I finally like got so much of the stress

1326
00:53:11,200 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 5: that I've been dealing with out of the way, and

1327
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:13,880
Speaker 5: then I had to get back to like.

1328
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 1: Reality, and.

1329
00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:21,719
Speaker 3: I just like all just kind of hit me. And

1330
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 3: also like thinking about like.

1331
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 5: Just there was there was this thing that came out yesterday,

1332
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 5: this other podcast that had him on that like really

1333
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 5: triggered me. And I wasn't doing it, no, but just

1334
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 5: the title of it just triggered me. And the fact

1335
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 5: that I knew he was going to be on there

1336
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 5: talking about all of his sex just made me. Escapades

1337
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,239
Speaker 5: just made me feel really weird, even though like I

1338
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 5: talked about my IX escapades, So like I can't really

1339
00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:58,360
Speaker 5: be I can't be upset.

1340
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 3: About any of it. Together, right, but it's still triggering.

1341
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 1: It's just triggering.

1342
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:06,759
Speaker 5: And he had mentioned something about our podcast, like me

1343
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 5: saying something that he's offended by, which I don't know

1344
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:15,399
Speaker 5: which one of you motherfucker's listening is reporting my shit

1345
00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 5: to my baby daddy, but if so, fuck you and

1346
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 5: stop listening.

1347
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:19,800
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1348
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 1: It's just like it was just like all a lot.

1349
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 5: And I called my mom yesterday because I was like

1350
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 5: just upset and like crying, and she's like, well, she's like,

1351
00:54:33,719 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 5: you know it's She's like, it took me ten years

1352
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 5: to get over your dad.

1353
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: I was like ten years.

1354
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:40,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like ten.

1355
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 5: I was like, you only were with him for like

1356
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:43,800
Speaker 5: two and a half. I was like I was with

1357
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:46,800
Speaker 5: mine for like seven years. And she's like, it's not

1358
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 5: about the time, it's about how deep it was, how

1359
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 5: deep your love is for that person. I was like, well, fuck,

1360
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 5: my shit was deep as fuck, So what does that

1361
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 5: mean for me? Like, and it's not even that I

1362
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 5: really want it. It's not that I I don't know

1363
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 5: there's I think it's like the mourning of like I'm

1364
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 5: still mourning though, what it could what it' sh what

1365
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 5: I felt like it should have been, and what I

1366
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 5: deserve and what I want and she was like, you know,

1367
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 5: and I told her, I was like, I don't want

1368
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 5: to have to ha start a relationship with someone to

1369
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:15,640
Speaker 5: get over it.

1370
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: I want to be strong enough to be alone on

1371
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 3: my own to move past it.

1372
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 1: And she's like, a y.

1373
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 5: She's like yeah, and that's important, but like also you

1374
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 5: might meet someone along the way that helps, and that's okay.

1375
00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: What are you watching oursha Yeah?

1376
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 5: Ok yeah, And so she was like, you know what

1377
00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 5: you need to do, Erica, You need to just and

1378
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 5: she's like, I know you talk a lot about manifesting,

1379
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:40,840
Speaker 5: like you need to like really think about what you want.

1380
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 3: Out of a man, like every little detail.

1381
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 5: And she said specifically, and this really stuck with me,

1382
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 5: was like, don't be modest, don't be afraid to ask

1383
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 5: for the big things. Don't be afraid, I know what

1384
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 5: she was saying, don't be afraid to say like R

1385
00:55:53,680 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 5: needs to be rich.

1386
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's okay.

1387
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 5: And I was like, you're so right, because I spent

1388
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 5: so much time I'm talking about all the things I

1389
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 5: don't want, all things I won't put up with that

1390
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 5: I never really talk about the things that I really

1391
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 5: really truly.

1392
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 1: Do want And I told Jamila last night.

1393
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 5: I was like, Okay, tomorrow's episode, we're going to talk

1394
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 5: about Atlanta, but I also want to talk I want

1395
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 5: to like set in Stone and say the things out loud,

1396
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 5: the things that I want to manifest for my man.

1397
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:20,720
Speaker 5: And I was like, I want to be like Sierra,

1398
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:23,439
Speaker 5: because Sierra talked about this. She did, she talked about

1399
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:26,320
Speaker 5: the asked God. She asked God and she got be

1400
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 5: coming through. Someone asked her like, how the fuck did

1401
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 5: you get in Whistle and She's like, I literally asked

1402
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 5: specifically for things and I really thought about it, yes,

1403
00:56:36,280 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 5: or like what are those things? Like?

1404
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 3: There are like the oh, I want you to be funny.

1405
00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:43,440
Speaker 1: I want you to like support my dreams to be honest.

1406
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 5: And in ways I feel like I've I've encountered men

1407
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:51,279
Speaker 5: that encompass certain things that I didn't get out of

1408
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 5: my last relationship. But there's a lot of things that

1409
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 5: I feel like I haven't found that. I even told Jamala, like,

1410
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 5: when what is the work that we're doing to get

1411
00:56:59,520 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 5: those men?

1412
00:57:00,640 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 8: You know?

1413
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 5: Because like we we ask all these things and we

1414
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 5: want all those things, and they might be right there,

1415
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 5: but we're not appealing, appealing to them because we haven't

1416
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,880
Speaker 5: worked on this and this and that, and like, so

1417
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 5: I was just thinking about like I asked Remal, I

1418
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:17,600
Speaker 5: was like, so we should think about like what it is,

1419
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 5: like what is it that we want? And for me,

1420
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 5: like again, like I want this healing to come and

1421
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 5: I've been healing on my own for a while now,

1422
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 5: and I don't want it to be in this in

1423
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 5: the in the form of a man that comes in

1424
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:32,959
Speaker 5: and saves me from whatever the residual sadness I still

1425
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 5: have for for him.

1426
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 3: But I also don't want to.

1427
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 5: Not think about what I want, like you know, and

1428
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 5: not and not and not be like true to myself

1429
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 5: and saying, yeah, it's someone I do want a relationship.

1430
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:54,960
Speaker 4: Well, I realized in this trip that first of when

1431
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 4: I got back on the plane, I felt really drained,

1432
00:57:57,760 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 4: and it reminded me of how I felt a lot

1433
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 4: of times I live there because there were so many

1434
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 4: people that I gave energy to and that's a part

1435
00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 4: of it is me because I kind of take from

1436
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 4: that too.

1437
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 1: But even being reaffirmed by.

1438
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 4: People who were significant in my life but not as

1439
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 4: significant as I think as I were in their lives,

1440
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:19,560
Speaker 4: but them validating me, even friends, like this is what

1441
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 4: you're supposed to be doing.

1442
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to see you in this space. This

1443
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 1: seems really aligned with who you are.

1444
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 4: I knew that you had bigger things, you know, like

1445
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 4: I knew that this was something like I knew that

1446
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 4: you had this or that, or you were this person,

1447
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 4: that you were special, and people who love me validating

1448
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 4: me reminded me like it's okay not to be modest,

1449
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 4: Like I'm a good person, I'm a people are like

1450
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 4: people seek me because I'm a giver and I have

1451
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 4: things to provide and to give, and so say, speaking

1452
00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 4: about not being modest about the things you want, I

1453
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:53,600
Speaker 4: have no reason, like you have no reason to be

1454
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 4: modest about the things we want.

1455
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: And granted we're not exactly where we want to be,

1456
00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 1: we both realize.

1457
00:58:58,440 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 4: That there's girl friend things to happen, and there's things

1458
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 4: that need to be attained to get to those places.

1459
00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 1: But I also don't feel like I don't because I

1460
00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 1: thought about this. I don't feel like I need a

1461
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 1: man to like bring me out of anything. And I

1462
00:59:11,600 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 1: for sure have.

1463
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 4: Attachments like you know you already know to my baby

1464
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:17,320
Speaker 4: daddy into that situation, and as I think a lot

1465
00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:21,800
Speaker 4: of baby moms do, despite the fact that it was

1466
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 4: a very abusive relationship, I still love him, and that

1467
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 4: has a lot to say about me.

1468
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: But I do kind of feel like if I could.

1469
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:31,560
Speaker 4: If I could bring the right person, find the right

1470
00:59:31,600 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 4: person in align with the right person with all the

1471
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 4: things that I really want, I don't think there's anything

1472
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 4: wrong with that helping you heal. I don't think there's

1473
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 4: anything wrong with that helping you realize, Oh, this is

1474
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:43,280
Speaker 4: what I deserve and this is not. And sometimes when

1475
00:59:43,280 --> 00:59:45,959
Speaker 4: we're used to certain things, we gravitate towards that because

1476
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 4: we're comfortable with it, and it just it was just

1477
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 4: like the whole trip overall, like was affirmative but also

1478
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:56,240
Speaker 4: draining in a good way because it made me realize, like.

1479
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: I have energy, positive good energy to give.

1480
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 4: It needs to be focused and deliberated towards the people

1481
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 4: that deserve it, and I deserve that exchange, and it deserves.

1482
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 1: To be an even exchange.

1483
01:00:08,840 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 4: And if that is what needs to happen to help

1484
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 4: me move away from the toxic relationship that I'm somewhat

1485
01:00:14,640 --> 01:00:16,360
Speaker 4: still attached to, that's cool.

1486
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that.

1487
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 4: And I'm not saying I need it to grow or

1488
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 4: to get to the next level, because obviously I'm still

1489
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 4: going to continue to do that.

1490
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 1: But I'm, like you said, like your mom said, I'm

1491
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:24,680
Speaker 1: not going.

1492
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 4: To be modest about the things that I want because

1493
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 4: I realized, like people overall are just like you can't

1494
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 4: be like, oh, I'm the shit. You can't be like, oh,

1495
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:35,360
Speaker 4: that's because that's a really great quality of mine. Like people,

1496
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 4: I haven't been really taught to be that way, and

1497
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 4: most people aren't. I would most some people are, but

1498
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:43,280
Speaker 4: it's okay. I think the more we hone in on

1499
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 4: what we deserve, well, I.

1500
01:00:45,320 --> 01:00:47,080
Speaker 5: Think a lot of times when people are single, when

1501
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 5: people are asking like what do you want in a relationship,

1502
01:00:49,720 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 5: people are like, oh, you're never going to find the

1503
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 5: perfect person, so you can't ask for that. You can't

1504
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:55,880
Speaker 5: ask for this and that, Like if you didn't get this,

1505
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 5: would you accept that? So I think that's where it's like,

1506
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:00,920
Speaker 5: well we start, we start talking about relationships in a

1507
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,800
Speaker 5: place of like already a deficit like okay, I can't ask.

1508
01:01:03,640 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 1: For that, right, Well, you know, he doesn't have to

1509
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 1: be so rich. That's not like, oh, you're a gold digger.

1510
01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 5: Okay, you want a six pack and a big dick, relax,

1511
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 5: calm down, you can't have and a big wallaway and

1512
01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:13,280
Speaker 5: a big wallet. Oh and he's got to make you laugh.

1513
01:01:13,400 --> 01:01:14,920
Speaker 5: Oh and he's got to love your child as well.

1514
01:01:15,120 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 5: Calm down, like, oh and he's got to love his family. Oh.

1515
01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:20,080
Speaker 3: Like he's got to be thoughtful and romantic.

1516
01:01:20,640 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1517
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:23,960
Speaker 3: I want all those things absolutely.

1518
01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 5: Like you know, all those things that doesn't they don't

1519
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 5: have to show up immediately and within. But I want

1520
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:30,400
Speaker 5: someone that wants.

1521
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:31,280
Speaker 3: To grow with me.

1522
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:33,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, and has the ability to do so.

1523
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 5: And I always say this, I kind of need and

1524
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 5: want someone who maybe is a little older than me,

1525
01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 5: maybe is a little bit more established than me, because bitch,

1526
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 5: I need a mentor.

1527
01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 3: Okay, but even that not maybe you have to be

1528
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:46,680
Speaker 3: specific like I do.

1529
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:47,240
Speaker 1: I do.

1530
01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 4: There are things that I areas I need help in

1531
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:52,800
Speaker 4: and I would benefit from a partner that are motivated

1532
01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:54,440
Speaker 4: in the areas that I'm not motivated.

1533
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 1: I would benefit like I feel like in my.

1534
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 4: Past relationships, I'm constantly like not just giving an energy,

1535
01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 4: but tea opening minds and even like my ex girlfriend,

1536
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:04,480
Speaker 4: she's like, you opened up my mind in so many ways.

1537
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 4: She's super country, she's from Georgia or whatever. But she's like,

1538
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 4: there's so many things you showed me that I had

1539
01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 4: no idea about. And I was just like I had

1540
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:13,680
Speaker 4: no idea that I shifted you in this many ways,

1541
01:02:13,760 --> 01:02:18,280
Speaker 4: you know, just like by being myself. But there are

1542
01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 4: things that I need from, Like you know, I want

1543
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:23,440
Speaker 4: to be learning from the next person. I don't want

1544
01:02:23,480 --> 01:02:24,960
Speaker 4: to be teaching all the time too.

1545
01:02:25,080 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 1: I don't have enough. I don't I need, I need.

1546
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 4: I don't have enough to teach and to grow and

1547
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 4: to open up your mind, Like I need someone to

1548
01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 4: be able to like do that for me as well.

1549
01:02:35,840 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 1: And I don't want to feel guilty by about saying that.

1550
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 5: No, I don't either, and like you would have asked me,

1551
01:02:41,320 --> 01:02:43,560
Speaker 5: like I think, well, I think also age changes things

1552
01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:46,120
Speaker 5: and responsibility. But like I used to always tell my mom,

1553
01:02:46,280 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 5: like I used to think my mom was super shallow

1554
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:51,960
Speaker 5: because she would always judge my boyfriends when I was

1555
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:54,840
Speaker 5: so young, like I was a tea like late early twenties,

1556
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:57,760
Speaker 5: Like they didn't have their shit together, you know, But

1557
01:02:57,920 --> 01:02:59,479
Speaker 5: now I get it. It's like it's not even about

1558
01:02:59,480 --> 01:03:01,200
Speaker 5: having your shit together in your twenties. It's like, okay,

1559
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:03,840
Speaker 5: but you can when you're that young though, you see

1560
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:07,440
Speaker 5: the motivation in someone like what like do they have drive?

1561
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:10,960
Speaker 5: You know? And for me now as a thirty one

1562
01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:15,080
Speaker 5: year old almost thirty two my birthdays in four days, yeah,

1563
01:03:15,080 --> 01:03:18,760
Speaker 5: almost thirty two year old woman, Like, there's things that

1564
01:03:18,840 --> 01:03:22,680
Speaker 5: I definitely require and there's things that I want, Like

1565
01:03:22,800 --> 01:03:28,520
Speaker 5: I want my partner to be wealthy, not just like

1566
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 5: light wealthy, have money, Like I want you to be

1567
01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 5: wealthy because I don't want money to ever play a

1568
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 5: factor in the thing in our access and why we

1569
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:37,439
Speaker 5: can't do things.

1570
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,960
Speaker 3: And the reason I asked that is because I plan

1571
01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 3: on being wealthy.

1572
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:43,960
Speaker 1: And people really get people turn their nose up at

1573
01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 1: these type of comments. And I've had these conversations before.

1574
01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 4: Let me explain why this is important, because if I

1575
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 4: want to have a family with you, we need to

1576
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:51,840
Speaker 4: be on the same page and what type of a

1577
01:03:51,920 --> 01:03:55,360
Speaker 4: lifestyle we want to live. If your ideal settle down

1578
01:03:55,360 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 4: and this is fine, and this is what your ideal is,

1579
01:03:57,880 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 4: having a home in suburbia. Maybe it's for bytime, two

1580
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:01,880
Speaker 4: cars to car garage, and that's what it is.

1581
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:02,439
Speaker 1: That's cool.

1582
01:04:03,360 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 3: I want like.

1583
01:04:05,560 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 1: I want a place in like each coast. I want

1584
01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 1: to go on a yacht excursion for the.

1585
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 4: Summer, for real, like with my friends, Like let's get

1586
01:04:15,160 --> 01:04:17,360
Speaker 4: the families together and let's get on this yacht as

1587
01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:18,160
Speaker 4: this in the south of.

1588
01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 1: France, and you know, and in the south of Italy,

1589
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: and like let's go for a month and take Vananny.

1590
01:04:24,560 --> 01:04:25,720
Speaker 1: These are the things I think of.

1591
01:04:25,880 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 4: And if you think that's too crazy, we don't need

1592
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 4: to be together because I'm gonna be constantly frustrated by

1593
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 4: your limits.

1594
01:04:32,240 --> 01:04:34,960
Speaker 5: By your limits and your limited And when I say wealthy,

1595
01:04:35,040 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 5: yes I absolutely mean financially, but I also mean in spirit.

1596
01:04:39,560 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 5: I also mean in so many other ways. But I

1597
01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:45,880
Speaker 5: do definitely mean in your pockets, because yes, I want

1598
01:04:45,920 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 5: to I want to travel. I want to show my

1599
01:04:48,520 --> 01:04:52,000
Speaker 5: daughter and maybe our future children that there's nothing that

1600
01:04:52,080 --> 01:04:55,440
Speaker 5: you can't do. And unfortunately, we live in a society

1601
01:04:55,680 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 5: where monetary acts, we're monitory money is determined your access

1602
01:05:00,680 --> 01:05:01,479
Speaker 5: in a lot of ways.

1603
01:05:01,600 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 1: Not always influence does as well, but your freedom.

1604
01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:07,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, I want to be like fuck it, Like I

1605
01:05:07,440 --> 01:05:09,120
Speaker 5: don't want to be here this weekend anymore. Like I

1606
01:05:09,200 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 5: wanna like, let's let's fly up to so and so like,

1607
01:05:11,200 --> 01:05:11,960
Speaker 5: let's just fly up.

1608
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 1: For the weekend. That's the type of shit I want

1609
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 1: to be able to do, because that's the type of

1610
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 1: person I am. That's how I thrive. I like new experiences.

1611
01:05:18,240 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 1: I like new food, I like new places.

1612
01:05:19,760 --> 01:05:21,960
Speaker 4: I like to travel, and I don't like to be

1613
01:05:22,040 --> 01:05:25,000
Speaker 4: I mean, anybody who has ever stressed over money, which

1614
01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:27,880
Speaker 4: is everybody, nobody, that's not anything I want to do

1615
01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:29,240
Speaker 4: for forever.

1616
01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 1: It's not something I plan on doing. So I don't

1617
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:33,439
Speaker 1: feel any shame.

1618
01:05:33,640 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 4: And you know what, I notice all my gold diggery friends,

1619
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:39,560
Speaker 4: every single one who's always been that way, always has been.

1620
01:05:39,640 --> 01:05:41,360
Speaker 4: And even when I was like, oh she's a little

1621
01:05:41,400 --> 01:05:44,400
Speaker 4: bit much, every single one of those bitch got a

1622
01:05:44,560 --> 01:05:47,800
Speaker 4: man with a coin. Well absolutely, I mean, whether there's

1623
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 4: love in it or not, it's a different story, and

1624
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:53,440
Speaker 4: I'm not willing to compromise that. But security is really

1625
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 4: important to me, and I like to do older guys.

1626
01:05:55,080 --> 01:05:56,640
Speaker 4: So yeah, I hope that you're in a better position

1627
01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:56,880
Speaker 4: than me.

1628
01:05:57,640 --> 01:05:59,360
Speaker 5: So that's that's I wouldn't say. I don't know if

1629
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 5: that's number one, but it's definitely up there. I don't

1630
01:06:01,560 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 5: even know if there's I think there's probably like a

1631
01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:06,640
Speaker 5: numerical order. Possibly I haven't figured that out, but I

1632
01:06:06,720 --> 01:06:08,800
Speaker 5: know that that's definitely one that I'm asking for and

1633
01:06:08,880 --> 01:06:11,560
Speaker 5: I'm manifesting and it's important to me. And if you can't,

1634
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:13,320
Speaker 5: like you said, like, if you're limited in your mind

1635
01:06:13,360 --> 01:06:15,480
Speaker 5: thinking you think that I'm too much asking for that,

1636
01:06:15,880 --> 01:06:18,640
Speaker 5: then we're not going to We're not We're gonna bump

1637
01:06:18,720 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 5: heads and I'm gonna end up feeling like I have

1638
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 5: to dim myself because you're not on the same page

1639
01:06:25,440 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 5: of like where I'm trying to be and where I

1640
01:06:27,560 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 5: want you to be.

1641
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 1: And you have to be generous. You can't be just

1642
01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:32,280
Speaker 1: rich and stingy like I think.

1643
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:35,320
Speaker 5: And I went out with the guy when I was

1644
01:06:35,400 --> 01:06:37,760
Speaker 5: there and he he got my plane ticket and he

1645
01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:39,320
Speaker 5: was like, well, if I'm trying to date you, I like,

1646
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:41,520
Speaker 5: I help, I help, I want to help if I'm

1647
01:06:41,720 --> 01:06:42,240
Speaker 5: trying to date you.

1648
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:44,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I think so too.

1649
01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:49,040
Speaker 4: But that's like even in dating young Bay who was

1650
01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:53,200
Speaker 4: like so young, I didn't constantly like train him on

1651
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 4: like listen, like you see me struggling offer, you haven't

1652
01:06:57,280 --> 01:06:58,000
Speaker 4: yes offer.

1653
01:06:58,200 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 3: That's yeah.

1654
01:06:59,040 --> 01:07:00,760
Speaker 1: That's another thing too, is like I don't want to

1655
01:07:00,880 --> 01:07:03,160
Speaker 1: have to ask, and if I ask, don't make me.

1656
01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 5: Ask twice, right, Like that's I don't have that because

1657
01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:08,960
Speaker 5: that's what I even encountered in the past. And it's

1658
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:13,000
Speaker 5: just like, don't ask me again if I still need it,

1659
01:07:13,280 --> 01:07:14,640
Speaker 5: And you know what young they used to do, Yes,

1660
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:16,600
Speaker 5: I still need it because you haven't given it to me.

1661
01:07:17,520 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 4: Younger used to say something like bring when I would

1662
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:21,720
Speaker 4: bring these type of things up, like he would bring

1663
01:07:21,840 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 4: up like, oh, but you want to be all equal

1664
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:27,680
Speaker 4: with like feminism and and that's that's not that they

1665
01:07:27,720 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 4: don't go hand in hand and because you're at the

1666
01:07:30,200 --> 01:07:35,560
Speaker 4: end of the day like yeah, like men have historically

1667
01:07:35,640 --> 01:07:36,400
Speaker 4: been providers.

1668
01:07:36,640 --> 01:07:39,800
Speaker 5: And I'm not saying that if I was first of all,

1669
01:07:39,840 --> 01:07:41,120
Speaker 5: if I was rich and I want to day a

1670
01:07:41,200 --> 01:07:43,320
Speaker 5: nigga who wasn't on the same page as me, I wouldn't.

1671
01:07:43,920 --> 01:07:46,440
Speaker 5: I would not have an issue given that's that's the

1672
01:07:46,600 --> 01:07:48,600
Speaker 5: and that's why and that's why I don't have an

1673
01:07:48,640 --> 01:07:51,720
Speaker 5: issue saying it, because I know if I had, I

1674
01:07:51,840 --> 01:07:52,320
Speaker 5: will give it.

1675
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:54,120
Speaker 4: And and if I believe in you, and I'm like, oh,

1676
01:07:54,120 --> 01:07:55,840
Speaker 4: this nigga has drive and he is he is, he

1677
01:07:55,920 --> 01:07:58,680
Speaker 4: has ideas and he has places to grow and I

1678
01:07:58,800 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 4: believe in that I have without a shadow of a doubt,

1679
01:08:01,880 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 4: I would do that. And so yeah, that's why I

1680
01:08:04,160 --> 01:08:06,680
Speaker 4: don't think it's like whoever makes it first, let's make

1681
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:07,040
Speaker 4: it work.

1682
01:08:07,200 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 1: But and this, you know, like if you have it,

1683
01:08:10,200 --> 01:08:12,200
Speaker 1: let's yeah, don't make me have to ask you twice.

1684
01:08:12,480 --> 01:08:13,840
Speaker 1: I hate that. Yeah.

1685
01:08:14,040 --> 01:08:16,679
Speaker 5: And another one, another thing that I realized is also

1686
01:08:16,720 --> 01:08:20,559
Speaker 5: important to me is humor and being and like if

1687
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 5: you can make me laugh and if our humor.

1688
01:08:22,320 --> 01:08:25,000
Speaker 1: Is aligned, and if you can roll with the punches.

1689
01:08:24,800 --> 01:08:27,479
Speaker 5: Like but specifically, can you make me laugh? Because that's

1690
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:30,200
Speaker 5: what I've realized is so important to me. I went

1691
01:08:30,240 --> 01:08:34,120
Speaker 5: on a date in New York with someone and it

1692
01:08:34,240 --> 01:08:37,200
Speaker 5: was cool, but I felt like and it was a

1693
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:40,240
Speaker 5: first date, so who knows, but like, and then I

1694
01:08:40,280 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 5: went on a date with my art bay out there,

1695
01:08:42,360 --> 01:08:44,960
Speaker 5: who is like so funny and like, girl, I was

1696
01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:46,479
Speaker 5: telling you, Oh my god, I didn't tell you the story.

1697
01:08:48,320 --> 01:08:49,200
Speaker 3: Wait side note.

1698
01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:51,880
Speaker 5: Okay, So I went on this hinge date like three

1699
01:08:51,960 --> 01:08:53,559
Speaker 5: months ago with this guy who I met in New

1700
01:08:53,640 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 5: York and we had a great time. And I've been

1701
01:08:56,320 --> 01:08:58,200
Speaker 5: trying to get back to New York for work and

1702
01:08:58,520 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 5: I wanted to like hang out with him and see

1703
01:09:00,360 --> 01:09:01,800
Speaker 5: him again and go on a date. We've been talking

1704
01:09:01,920 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 5: on it, like we talked pretty consistently over the phone

1705
01:09:04,760 --> 01:09:07,439
Speaker 5: in text. And so when I went to New York

1706
01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:10,200
Speaker 5: after I think it was like after Atlanta.

1707
01:09:12,200 --> 01:09:13,840
Speaker 1: I went.

1708
01:09:14,640 --> 01:09:16,320
Speaker 5: I met him in Brooklyn and I was like, what

1709
01:09:16,360 --> 01:09:18,280
Speaker 5: should I wear? Like should I wear my hair down?

1710
01:09:18,400 --> 01:09:18,800
Speaker 1: What's do?

1711
01:09:19,640 --> 01:09:21,800
Speaker 3: And so like I actually called Reese and she was like,

1712
01:09:21,840 --> 01:09:23,640
Speaker 3: wear her down and you can put some red lipstick on.

1713
01:09:23,720 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 3: I was like, yes, that you're right.

1714
01:09:24,960 --> 01:09:26,600
Speaker 1: Oh, I think you did tell it. I saw it.

1715
01:09:26,760 --> 01:09:28,439
Speaker 5: Oh wait, No, yeah, I don't think I told her

1716
01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:30,559
Speaker 5: the story. So there's just like I think I read

1717
01:09:30,560 --> 01:09:34,599
Speaker 5: it in our GMS. Okay, So okay, I told Melanie.

1718
01:09:35,240 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 5: So there's this brand that like I always support because

1719
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:41,000
Speaker 5: it's black owned, and like, I put this lipstick on

1720
01:09:41,040 --> 01:09:41,840
Speaker 5: and it's bomb. Right.

1721
01:09:41,880 --> 01:09:44,320
Speaker 3: I've worn it a bunch of times. Never made out

1722
01:09:44,360 --> 01:09:44,800
Speaker 3: in it though.

1723
01:09:45,400 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 5: So we go out, we're having a great time, we're dancing,

1724
01:09:47,600 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 5: we go back to his house, we're like smoking the bong.

1725
01:09:50,240 --> 01:09:52,439
Speaker 5: We start making out. Bitch, We're like making up for

1726
01:09:52,479 --> 01:09:54,799
Speaker 5: like fifteen minutes. I pulled back and he's.

1727
01:09:54,680 --> 01:09:57,400
Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck? And I'm like what He's like,

1728
01:09:57,560 --> 01:10:00,640
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And I was like, what he's like,

1729
01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:01,920
Speaker 1: go look in the mirror.

1730
01:10:01,800 --> 01:10:05,960
Speaker 5: Bitch, my whole face not like smeared across my lips,

1731
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:10,640
Speaker 5: like from here to here, all red. Even on my

1732
01:10:10,800 --> 01:10:13,639
Speaker 5: forehead was red. I and on top of the eyes

1733
01:10:13,640 --> 01:10:15,960
Speaker 5: and smoked a bong. I looked fucking like a crackhead.

1734
01:10:16,640 --> 01:10:19,880
Speaker 5: My eyes were all like low and like red, bloodshot.

1735
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:23,000
Speaker 5: I was like semi drunk. Like I look at the room,

1736
01:10:23,000 --> 01:10:24,360
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh my god. So I go in there

1737
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:27,160
Speaker 5: and I start like wiping my face. Bitch, my face

1738
01:10:27,320 --> 01:10:30,680
Speaker 5: was stained red. I couldn't get it off. I just

1739
01:10:30,760 --> 01:10:32,200
Speaker 5: had red everywhere.

1740
01:10:31,920 --> 01:10:34,479
Speaker 1: Put like oil. Bitch, I'm at his house is it's

1741
01:10:34,479 --> 01:10:35,080
Speaker 1: like an oils.

1742
01:10:35,600 --> 01:10:37,880
Speaker 5: I just I was just stained red. Then he comes

1743
01:10:37,960 --> 01:10:41,160
Speaker 5: in he has read all over his face. His beard

1744
01:10:41,280 --> 01:10:43,160
Speaker 5: is red, like everything is red.

1745
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:45,479
Speaker 1: And reminded Sadong.

1746
01:10:52,000 --> 01:10:57,320
Speaker 5: Anyway, I was so embarrassing, so I left because bitch,

1747
01:10:57,400 --> 01:11:01,040
Speaker 5: it was crazy. But but anyway, what I was getting

1748
01:11:01,080 --> 01:11:04,439
Speaker 5: to is that like making me laugh is so important.

1749
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:07,800
Speaker 5: It's important to like my attraction to you, my la,

1750
01:11:08,040 --> 01:11:11,240
Speaker 5: my long lasting attraction to you, right, like if you

1751
01:11:11,280 --> 01:11:14,800
Speaker 5: can't make me laugh, because I'm fucking funny too, right,

1752
01:11:15,040 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 5: Like it's not one sided laugh you know, like I

1753
01:11:19,640 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 5: need to make make me laugh, and that you're not

1754
01:11:21,439 --> 01:11:22,639
Speaker 5: taking things too seriously.

1755
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:25,479
Speaker 1: I could get stressed out, so you can't be like

1756
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:27,479
Speaker 1: very stressed out person.

1757
01:11:27,600 --> 01:11:28,559
Speaker 3: I also need someone.

1758
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:31,599
Speaker 5: That's like forgiving of my Like I feel like I'm

1759
01:11:31,600 --> 01:11:35,280
Speaker 5: a communicator, but sometimes my communication can be like poor

1760
01:11:35,439 --> 01:11:38,360
Speaker 5: even though I am communicating, Like I realize that sometimes

1761
01:11:38,439 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 5: like I'm emotional when I'm communicating. I'm trying to work

1762
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:43,680
Speaker 5: on that. But to someone that's like gonna be not

1763
01:11:43,880 --> 01:11:49,640
Speaker 5: take my my moodiness to personally. I want someone that

1764
01:11:50,080 --> 01:11:54,360
Speaker 5: is six feet and over. I can't do anything below that.

1765
01:11:54,600 --> 01:11:56,800
Speaker 1: It's a big dick. I just can't do anything I

1766
01:11:56,840 --> 01:11:59,040
Speaker 1: could gus give a good head, have a big dick,

1767
01:11:59,080 --> 01:11:59,680
Speaker 1: and you also have.

1768
01:11:59,720 --> 01:11:59,880
Speaker 4: To be.

1769
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:04,560
Speaker 3: More actually or else I'm going to cheat on you.

1770
01:12:04,680 --> 01:12:07,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get bored. It has to be like fun,

1771
01:12:08,520 --> 01:12:10,439
Speaker 1: funcomfortable sex that we can explore together.

1772
01:12:10,479 --> 01:12:15,880
Speaker 5: I need someone that values family, like goes and sees

1773
01:12:15,960 --> 01:12:19,160
Speaker 5: their family. If their family doesn't live here, I need

1774
01:12:19,240 --> 01:12:21,160
Speaker 5: to know that you make an effort to go see them,

1775
01:12:21,479 --> 01:12:25,680
Speaker 5: because I've learned in the past like through multiple relationships,

1776
01:12:25,800 --> 01:12:28,479
Speaker 5: the men that I've dated, they have family out of

1777
01:12:28,560 --> 01:12:31,600
Speaker 5: state and they don't go see them, and it's it

1778
01:12:31,720 --> 01:12:34,479
Speaker 5: always shows me. It always shows up somehow in our life,

1779
01:12:35,040 --> 01:12:36,920
Speaker 5: like how you deal with me, how you deal with

1780
01:12:37,080 --> 01:12:37,719
Speaker 5: my family.

1781
01:12:38,160 --> 01:12:38,960
Speaker 1: That's very true.

1782
01:12:39,240 --> 01:12:41,800
Speaker 5: It's like it's like a lot of times you feel

1783
01:12:41,800 --> 01:12:45,400
Speaker 5: like it's not important because it's like, well, well I'm here, Like, no,

1784
01:12:45,720 --> 01:12:46,719
Speaker 5: you need to make that effort.

1785
01:12:46,720 --> 01:12:48,600
Speaker 1: I need to know that family is a priority in

1786
01:12:48,640 --> 01:12:52,760
Speaker 1: the family dynamic. Because I've dated someone who's close with

1787
01:12:52,880 --> 01:12:56,599
Speaker 1: their family, it appeared but like they weren't and like they.

1788
01:12:58,040 --> 01:12:59,560
Speaker 4: I don't know, like there was some distance, and so

1789
01:12:59,600 --> 01:13:01,840
Speaker 4: I feel like I was always trying to like could

1790
01:13:01,960 --> 01:13:03,800
Speaker 4: be the connect between them and the family, and it

1791
01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 4: was just a strange. But I also, on that same note,

1792
01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:08,560
Speaker 4: side note, I went, I hung out with this the

1793
01:13:08,640 --> 01:13:10,760
Speaker 4: same guy who I said, you know, I was like,

1794
01:13:10,840 --> 01:13:12,800
Speaker 4: I'm trying to date you, so and I went to

1795
01:13:12,880 --> 01:13:16,759
Speaker 4: his house and like pictures of his daughter and him everywhere,

1796
01:13:17,320 --> 01:13:18,960
Speaker 4: and I was like, this is so great. He's like, oh,

1797
01:13:19,000 --> 01:13:21,880
Speaker 4: I just frame like framed photos everywhere, and he was like,

1798
01:13:21,960 --> 01:13:24,320
Speaker 4: you know, tell me how him and his baby mam

1799
01:13:24,400 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 4: Mark he's good.

1800
01:13:25,600 --> 01:13:26,320
Speaker 8: It is wet.

1801
01:13:26,400 --> 01:13:28,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, this is from the party, really good.

1802
01:13:28,600 --> 01:13:31,840
Speaker 4: They hang out all the time and you know, they

1803
01:13:31,880 --> 01:13:33,679
Speaker 4: have a really good relationship. And I was like, yeah,

1804
01:13:33,760 --> 01:13:35,920
Speaker 4: that's and then he goes home to New Orleans all

1805
01:13:35,960 --> 01:13:37,760
Speaker 4: the time to visit his mom and dad, and I

1806
01:13:37,920 --> 01:13:39,800
Speaker 4: was just like, okay, that's that is important to me too.

1807
01:13:39,920 --> 01:13:42,479
Speaker 5: And and how your relationship is with your family is

1808
01:13:42,640 --> 01:13:44,920
Speaker 5: shows how your relationship if we're in a startup family

1809
01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:46,599
Speaker 5: and how that will that will play out too.

1810
01:13:48,640 --> 01:13:51,280
Speaker 1: Also, you need to be okay with public displays of

1811
01:13:51,280 --> 01:13:55,200
Speaker 1: affection period. You I guess someone who's likely obsessed.

1812
01:13:54,880 --> 01:13:57,519
Speaker 5: With so like art, they were we like I started

1813
01:13:57,600 --> 01:13:59,960
Speaker 5: kissing him outside of the bar, and he was uncomfortable.

1814
01:14:00,120 --> 01:14:01,880
Speaker 1: I'm that irritating. Young baby did that to me a

1815
01:14:01,960 --> 01:14:03,560
Speaker 1: few times and it's irritated.

1816
01:14:03,560 --> 01:14:05,160
Speaker 5: I'm like, look, I'm not trying to feel like your

1817
01:14:05,200 --> 01:14:08,040
Speaker 5: dick in public, but like I need to grab my ass,

1818
01:14:08,479 --> 01:14:10,639
Speaker 5: show me some affections to me, like that's what makes

1819
01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:12,560
Speaker 5: me feel like, that's the passion that I like. I

1820
01:14:12,760 --> 01:14:15,960
Speaker 5: let like when I'm old and gray and I'm still horny,

1821
01:14:16,040 --> 01:14:18,920
Speaker 5: like and make out with me in the backseat of

1822
01:14:18,960 --> 01:14:20,840
Speaker 5: the car while our kids drive us to the movie.

1823
01:14:21,000 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 1: Yes, like I want passion like that long term.

1824
01:14:24,200 --> 01:14:25,879
Speaker 3: I don't like anyone being inhibited.

1825
01:14:25,960 --> 01:14:28,360
Speaker 5: Inhibited as far as like public displays of affections I

1826
01:14:28,400 --> 01:14:29,920
Speaker 5: don't like. And I know that's not for everyone, and

1827
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:31,680
Speaker 5: that's cool, but that's what I want me too.

1828
01:14:31,720 --> 01:14:33,720
Speaker 4: I want you to love me boldly and loudly, no

1829
01:14:33,800 --> 01:14:35,599
Speaker 4: matter who's watching, no matter where we're at.

1830
01:14:36,120 --> 01:14:36,960
Speaker 1: That's important to me.

1831
01:14:37,360 --> 01:14:40,519
Speaker 4: And I need to feel like lusted after, Like I

1832
01:14:40,640 --> 01:14:43,240
Speaker 4: need to know you're super attracted to me sexually and

1833
01:14:43,760 --> 01:14:47,040
Speaker 4: you respect me. And I think also me being how

1834
01:14:47,080 --> 01:14:49,479
Speaker 4: I am, I'm a flirt. I dance with everyone at

1835
01:14:49,520 --> 01:14:51,800
Speaker 4: a party. I want somebody who's gonna almost encourage it,

1836
01:14:52,439 --> 01:14:54,839
Speaker 4: like yes, yes both she doing.

1837
01:14:54,680 --> 01:14:57,360
Speaker 1: That, break it down baby and see for me.

1838
01:14:57,479 --> 01:14:59,200
Speaker 3: I want someone that's gonna be like your mine, get.

1839
01:14:59,120 --> 01:15:02,040
Speaker 1: Over here and then occasionally pull me over. I want that.

1840
01:15:02,160 --> 01:15:03,360
Speaker 3: I want a little bit of it. I think you

1841
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:04,360
Speaker 3: need more of that than I do.

1842
01:15:04,520 --> 01:15:07,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I need more of like the security of like

1843
01:15:07,360 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 5: this is our ship and it's unbreakable and no one

1844
01:15:10,000 --> 01:15:10,800
Speaker 5: is infiltrating that.

1845
01:15:10,840 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 1: And I know that's what you want to I'm not

1846
01:15:12,080 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 1: saying that's you don't but like I I'm not. I'm not.

1847
01:15:15,000 --> 01:15:15,800
Speaker 1: I'm moody as fucks.

1848
01:15:15,840 --> 01:15:17,519
Speaker 5: You know. Sometimes I can be that free spirit that's

1849
01:15:17,520 --> 01:15:19,280
Speaker 5: gonna go dance around the party, but sometimes I don't

1850
01:15:19,479 --> 01:15:20,960
Speaker 5: try to talk to anybody and I just want to

1851
01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:22,280
Speaker 5: be in the corner making out with my man.

1852
01:15:22,360 --> 01:15:24,519
Speaker 1: But I just think more than more than anything, it's

1853
01:15:24,560 --> 01:15:26,479
Speaker 1: just whatever vibe I'm on.

1854
01:15:27,240 --> 01:15:30,960
Speaker 4: I don't want to be shamed for being a people person, enjoying,

1855
01:15:31,120 --> 01:15:32,840
Speaker 4: like you know, being around people, because that's so much

1856
01:15:32,880 --> 01:15:34,840
Speaker 4: of who I am. I just don't like sometimes we

1857
01:15:34,880 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 4: can't be in the corner making out, but I don't

1858
01:15:36,320 --> 01:15:38,920
Speaker 4: want you to make me feel bad for being who

1859
01:15:39,000 --> 01:15:39,200
Speaker 4: I am.

1860
01:15:39,200 --> 01:15:40,600
Speaker 1: I'm doing what I'm gonna do. When she'd be like, oh,

1861
01:15:40,600 --> 01:15:46,400
Speaker 1: that's Jamilla. I want someone who is invested in my career, yes,

1862
01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:46,760
Speaker 1: and I.

1863
01:15:46,880 --> 01:15:48,320
Speaker 5: Was like, let's think about it, Like, let's see. I

1864
01:15:48,360 --> 01:15:49,920
Speaker 5: think Alice is a good idea for you, Like, oh,

1865
01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:51,960
Speaker 5: I know someone you should meet, right, and really, do

1866
01:15:52,120 --> 01:15:55,920
Speaker 5: that really connect those dots for me? Right? It's like

1867
01:15:56,479 --> 01:15:58,920
Speaker 5: excited about what I'm doing, because I'm gonna be excited

1868
01:15:58,920 --> 01:15:59,639
Speaker 5: about what you're doing.

1869
01:15:59,760 --> 01:16:01,600
Speaker 3: I'm always like whenever I meet someone that.

1870
01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:04,679
Speaker 4: I'm like, I want to pump people up, Like, wow,

1871
01:16:04,720 --> 01:16:07,040
Speaker 4: that's an amazing idea. And if I have an idea,

1872
01:16:07,320 --> 01:16:09,120
Speaker 4: like I'm the type of person too, like I want

1873
01:16:09,200 --> 01:16:10,160
Speaker 4: to be your cheerleader.

1874
01:16:10,200 --> 01:16:11,400
Speaker 3: I don't and not.

1875
01:16:11,439 --> 01:16:15,400
Speaker 5: Feel intimidated and feel like it's somehow diminishing like the other.

1876
01:16:15,520 --> 01:16:17,799
Speaker 5: When I was in New York, I went to nicole

1877
01:16:18,240 --> 01:16:21,040
Speaker 5: her Precious Streams Foundation gala and Miguel was one of

1878
01:16:21,160 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 5: the keynote speakers. And afterwards, Miguel and Nicole are really

1879
01:16:25,920 --> 01:16:27,960
Speaker 5: good friends, and so we all went out with him

1880
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:31,280
Speaker 5: and his wife, nas who's they're both like so cool,

1881
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:35,160
Speaker 5: like real down to earth people, like for real, for real,

1882
01:16:35,520 --> 01:16:38,439
Speaker 5: and he was so excited to like because she has

1883
01:16:38,439 --> 01:16:41,400
Speaker 5: a podcast too. She's like her podcast is doing really well,

1884
01:16:41,439 --> 01:16:43,679
Speaker 5: and he was just pumping her up and just talking

1885
01:16:43,720 --> 01:16:45,920
Speaker 5: about her to everyone and how proud he is, and

1886
01:16:46,000 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 5: it was like, I was like, Wow, that's so beautiful.

1887
01:16:49,680 --> 01:16:51,559
Speaker 1: Yes, I like that, like that, it's so beautiful.

1888
01:16:51,760 --> 01:16:54,960
Speaker 5: Yes, Like it's not about you, because it probably is

1889
01:16:55,080 --> 01:16:58,800
Speaker 5: mostly always about him. And the fact that like he

1890
01:16:58,960 --> 01:17:01,960
Speaker 5: was pumping her, I need that, I'm natural and he

1891
01:17:02,080 --> 01:17:04,599
Speaker 5: wanted to do it was so proud of you because

1892
01:17:04,640 --> 01:17:07,200
Speaker 5: this is what you're doing big things. Yes, I know,

1893
01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:09,280
Speaker 5: And I just keep saying young be because he's the

1894
01:17:09,320 --> 01:17:10,000
Speaker 5: only person I dated.

1895
01:17:10,000 --> 01:17:10,720
Speaker 1: Last this year.

1896
01:17:11,840 --> 01:17:13,680
Speaker 4: I told you, I've said this before, Like I think

1897
01:17:13,720 --> 01:17:15,639
Speaker 4: we did a beach meetup or we did some type

1898
01:17:15,680 --> 01:17:17,400
Speaker 4: of meetup and he was just like, I don't really

1899
01:17:17,439 --> 01:17:17,920
Speaker 4: get the point.

1900
01:17:18,600 --> 01:17:21,439
Speaker 1: And I was just like, you don't get the point

1901
01:17:21,479 --> 01:17:21,760
Speaker 1: of shit.

1902
01:17:22,600 --> 01:17:25,760
Speaker 5: You don't get me, then you're not understanding what I'm

1903
01:17:25,840 --> 01:17:27,880
Speaker 5: the work I'm doing, you don't value it, and I

1904
01:17:27,960 --> 01:17:30,519
Speaker 5: mean you're not a mom, But like, yes, this type

1905
01:17:30,560 --> 01:17:32,920
Speaker 5: of shit is important because I'm like, he has a

1906
01:17:33,080 --> 01:17:34,960
Speaker 5: very like nine to five job and I'm like, so

1907
01:17:35,080 --> 01:17:36,040
Speaker 5: what else makes you happy?

1908
01:17:36,439 --> 01:17:38,200
Speaker 1: What are you passionate about? You could do whatever. This

1909
01:17:38,360 --> 01:17:39,640
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be the end of what you do.

1910
01:17:40,120 --> 01:17:41,960
Speaker 4: You can do stuff. Take time to you like you

1911
01:17:42,040 --> 01:17:44,519
Speaker 4: want to do this. I'm the pumper upper of people.

1912
01:17:44,560 --> 01:17:48,559
Speaker 4: If you can't pump me up mutually, it's pointless. It's

1913
01:17:48,560 --> 01:17:49,280
Speaker 4: actually draining.

1914
01:17:49,479 --> 01:17:49,679
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1915
01:17:50,880 --> 01:17:52,360
Speaker 3: Another thing too, is.

1916
01:17:54,160 --> 01:17:58,320
Speaker 5: Obviously loving my child, like and you know, and for

1917
01:17:59,280 --> 01:18:01,439
Speaker 5: some time, like I don't really because I've never really

1918
01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:05,719
Speaker 5: had a relationship serie enough to have iri around someone

1919
01:18:05,840 --> 01:18:07,600
Speaker 5: like that. But like I've heard other people be like,

1920
01:18:07,640 --> 01:18:09,120
Speaker 5: you don't have to love my child, but you just

1921
01:18:09,240 --> 01:18:12,320
Speaker 5: have to, Like no, you have to, Like you know,

1922
01:18:13,520 --> 01:18:15,160
Speaker 5: she don't have to, She's not yours, you know what

1923
01:18:15,240 --> 01:18:15,479
Speaker 5: I mean.

1924
01:18:15,920 --> 01:18:18,439
Speaker 3: Fuck that, like the fact that I don't irie has

1925
01:18:18,560 --> 01:18:19,639
Speaker 3: a father, you know what I mean?

1926
01:18:19,720 --> 01:18:22,439
Speaker 5: But like I want someone that is loves my child

1927
01:18:22,840 --> 01:18:24,880
Speaker 5: wants to if you're gonna be with me all the

1928
01:18:25,000 --> 01:18:28,120
Speaker 5: time that you're like participating in the things I'm participating,

1929
01:18:28,280 --> 01:18:31,400
Speaker 5: which is enriching her life, teaching her things, and like

1930
01:18:32,000 --> 01:18:35,640
Speaker 5: I don't know, like encouraging her. And that's also like

1931
01:18:35,840 --> 01:18:38,000
Speaker 5: I want to have more kids. That's gonna let me

1932
01:18:38,120 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 5: know that like when we do, Like what kind of

1933
01:18:39,880 --> 01:18:41,679
Speaker 5: father you're going to be if you're not a father already?

1934
01:18:41,800 --> 01:18:44,240
Speaker 5: Like who knows if this person I'm manifesting has children.

1935
01:18:44,280 --> 01:18:46,680
Speaker 5: It's that for me is not a requirement. But I'm

1936
01:18:46,720 --> 01:18:50,160
Speaker 5: definitely not like opposed to it. I feel like maybe men,

1937
01:18:50,360 --> 01:18:52,840
Speaker 5: Maybe I'm assuming because I've never really dated one, but

1938
01:18:52,920 --> 01:18:55,680
Speaker 5: like I'm assuming maybe men with kids, some who are

1939
01:18:55,720 --> 01:18:56,280
Speaker 5: good fathers.

1940
01:18:56,880 --> 01:18:59,760
Speaker 3: You know, they understand the important they understand.

1941
01:19:01,240 --> 01:19:06,360
Speaker 5: The value of time, responsibility, just a little bit have

1942
01:19:06,479 --> 01:19:10,840
Speaker 5: this deeper sense of like how fragile and important life is,

1943
01:19:11,520 --> 01:19:13,320
Speaker 5: because I know that's what parent who's about My.

1944
01:19:13,479 --> 01:19:14,479
Speaker 1: Role is much bigger.

1945
01:19:14,560 --> 01:19:17,559
Speaker 4: I have a lot of purpose, but like my number

1946
01:19:17,640 --> 01:19:20,439
Speaker 4: one role is this child. And if you're a part

1947
01:19:20,439 --> 01:19:22,200
Speaker 4: of my life and my partner, you absolutely have to

1948
01:19:22,200 --> 01:19:22,840
Speaker 4: be on the same.

1949
01:19:22,720 --> 01:19:25,320
Speaker 5: Page, right, And also making my life easier knowing that

1950
01:19:25,600 --> 01:19:28,320
Speaker 5: I have a child, Like, if you know I have

1951
01:19:28,400 --> 01:19:31,040
Speaker 5: a kid, don't expect me to come out to you

1952
01:19:31,240 --> 01:19:33,719
Speaker 5: every all the time anymore, Like make my life easier.

1953
01:19:34,160 --> 01:19:35,320
Speaker 3: How can I help you today?

1954
01:19:35,479 --> 01:19:37,000
Speaker 1: Like if you see something needs to be done, just

1955
01:19:37,080 --> 01:19:41,599
Speaker 1: do it right. Like so I think also someone who's

1956
01:19:41,640 --> 01:19:44,479
Speaker 1: really like culturally aware, like, oh.

1957
01:19:44,439 --> 01:19:45,680
Speaker 3: That's so true. That's that too.

1958
01:19:45,800 --> 01:19:47,599
Speaker 5: That's another thing, Like I mean, think about this list

1959
01:19:47,640 --> 01:19:49,479
Speaker 5: that we're creating, Like this is a lot of things,

1960
01:19:49,640 --> 01:19:52,160
Speaker 5: and people like I think even me in the past

1961
01:19:52,240 --> 01:19:53,680
Speaker 5: have been like that's too much. I can't ask for

1962
01:19:53,720 --> 01:19:55,760
Speaker 5: all these things. Now you absolutely can't, and you need to.

1963
01:19:55,760 --> 01:19:57,840
Speaker 5: You have to, yeah, or she won't get what you want.

1964
01:19:57,920 --> 01:19:59,360
Speaker 5: And that's why a lot of us are out here

1965
01:19:59,479 --> 01:20:00,559
Speaker 5: just like oh he's nice guy.

1966
01:20:01,080 --> 01:20:03,080
Speaker 1: Nice guy is not enough. He doesn't have this, but

1967
01:20:03,840 --> 01:20:06,400
Speaker 1: he does that yeah, and I've done that all the time.

1968
01:20:06,400 --> 01:20:06,840
Speaker 1: I've done that.

1969
01:20:06,960 --> 01:20:09,599
Speaker 4: That's again, And it doesn't mean that all over people

1970
01:20:09,680 --> 01:20:12,519
Speaker 4: aren't good people and aren't worthy of love, but they're

1971
01:20:12,560 --> 01:20:13,519
Speaker 4: just not your people.

1972
01:20:13,560 --> 01:20:15,719
Speaker 5: And that doesn't mean that this person that you manifest

1973
01:20:15,840 --> 01:20:18,960
Speaker 5: won't fall short. Sometimes this person is not perfect, even

1974
01:20:19,080 --> 01:20:21,360
Speaker 5: I don't want perfect. No, I'm not perfect.

1975
01:20:21,400 --> 01:20:22,880
Speaker 1: But I need sprinkles of things.

1976
01:20:23,040 --> 01:20:25,360
Speaker 5: I need big portions and sprinkles of things, and I

1977
01:20:25,479 --> 01:20:26,800
Speaker 5: need to ask for all of them or none of

1978
01:20:26,840 --> 01:20:27,960
Speaker 5: them are going to be in the RX.

1979
01:20:28,080 --> 01:20:29,120
Speaker 1: Specifically, you know.

1980
01:20:29,360 --> 01:20:33,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, culturally is so important, like pro like, yeah, just

1981
01:20:33,760 --> 01:20:36,240
Speaker 4: cultural awareness and understanding.

1982
01:20:36,400 --> 01:20:40,280
Speaker 3: Like my, I need adventure. I need an adventure continuity.

1983
01:20:40,439 --> 01:20:43,960
Speaker 3: I want an adventure life adventurer like I want to.

1984
01:20:44,120 --> 01:20:46,160
Speaker 5: There's so many things I haven't done, and I think

1985
01:20:46,840 --> 01:20:49,920
Speaker 5: sometimes what I what I realized exatement, is that I'm

1986
01:20:50,000 --> 01:20:54,559
Speaker 5: waiting to share experiences with someone when that's I shouldn't

1987
01:20:54,600 --> 01:20:56,200
Speaker 5: do that, you know, Like there's things I like I

1988
01:20:56,240 --> 01:20:58,120
Speaker 5: could go try. I do travel a lot, but there's

1989
01:20:58,160 --> 01:21:02,640
Speaker 5: things I haven't seen, maybe way like with someone you know,

1990
01:21:02,840 --> 01:21:05,479
Speaker 5: and it's like I want someone that's just like already

1991
01:21:05,520 --> 01:21:07,599
Speaker 5: doing that, and it's to do it. It's gonna maybe

1992
01:21:07,640 --> 01:21:08,760
Speaker 5: even encourage that more in.

1993
01:21:08,840 --> 01:21:09,960
Speaker 1: Me, right, inspire it more.

1994
01:21:10,160 --> 01:21:10,360
Speaker 5: You know.

1995
01:21:11,560 --> 01:21:16,280
Speaker 1: So I want someone spiritual, Yeah, me too. I need

1996
01:21:16,360 --> 01:21:20,240
Speaker 1: you to have some sense of the spirituality, spiritual growth,

1997
01:21:21,080 --> 01:21:22,680
Speaker 1: like purpose, what you like.

1998
01:21:22,720 --> 01:21:24,640
Speaker 4: You know, I think those things are really important and

1999
01:21:24,760 --> 01:21:29,400
Speaker 4: not necessarily like religious, actually probably not religious, but just

2000
01:21:29,520 --> 01:21:31,600
Speaker 4: have some spiritual accountability, like.

2001
01:21:33,160 --> 01:21:35,080
Speaker 1: Some sort of ethics, morality.

2002
01:21:36,320 --> 01:21:38,880
Speaker 5: Anyway, the point is, and like I just feel like

2003
01:21:39,120 --> 01:21:43,080
Speaker 5: we as women, if we want to, I don't know,

2004
01:21:43,240 --> 01:21:46,479
Speaker 5: manifest this partner, like we have to really ask for

2005
01:21:46,560 --> 01:21:48,760
Speaker 5: those things and not be just internalizing it all the

2006
01:21:48,800 --> 01:21:52,800
Speaker 5: time and say it out loud. Like I think that's

2007
01:21:52,960 --> 01:21:54,479
Speaker 5: all the things that I've said out loud that I

2008
01:21:54,600 --> 01:21:57,439
Speaker 5: really really meant have happened. You know. I said to you,

2009
01:21:57,760 --> 01:22:00,760
Speaker 5: let's do this podcast, let's do it, and we did it,

2010
01:22:01,240 --> 01:22:03,480
Speaker 5: and then we just kept talking and it's just continued,

2011
01:22:03,680 --> 01:22:05,200
Speaker 5: you know, let's do an event, let's do it.

2012
01:22:05,439 --> 01:22:06,760
Speaker 1: All right, right, Okay, fine, let's do it.

2013
01:22:06,800 --> 01:22:08,639
Speaker 5: I didn't just internalize it in my head and say

2014
01:22:08,640 --> 01:22:10,720
Speaker 5: it in my head or write it down even I

2015
01:22:10,840 --> 01:22:11,519
Speaker 5: said it out loud.

2016
01:22:11,560 --> 01:22:13,040
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's important to write things down

2017
01:22:13,040 --> 01:22:13,400
Speaker 3: as well.

2018
01:22:13,479 --> 01:22:14,600
Speaker 1: But like that.

2019
01:22:14,800 --> 01:22:18,040
Speaker 3: I think that that idea works in so many different ways,

2020
01:22:18,120 --> 01:22:22,800
Speaker 3: and it can. I have hope. I'm hoping, I'm hoping

2021
01:22:22,880 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 3: that is.

2022
01:22:23,400 --> 01:22:24,880
Speaker 4: I think that's just how the world. I just think

2023
01:22:24,920 --> 01:22:26,880
Speaker 4: how that that's how shit works. I think that's how

2024
01:22:26,920 --> 01:22:28,800
Speaker 4: life works. I think you put it out there, you

2025
01:22:28,920 --> 01:22:32,040
Speaker 4: believe it, and then you I'm a firm believer in

2026
01:22:32,520 --> 01:22:36,160
Speaker 4: the what is it the secret, the like the law

2027
01:22:36,160 --> 01:22:38,760
Speaker 4: of attraction. If you if you believe it's yours, you

2028
01:22:38,880 --> 01:22:41,560
Speaker 4: deserve it, you talk about it like it's yours. And

2029
01:22:41,720 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 4: we've proven that so many times, even in the slightest ways,

2030
01:22:46,320 --> 01:22:49,360
Speaker 4: talking about fucking Coachella, talking about this song. Oh that

2031
01:22:49,479 --> 01:22:51,920
Speaker 4: sh it was weird, that shit was crazy. But it's

2032
01:22:52,040 --> 01:22:55,200
Speaker 4: like the universe, God Spirit telling you, this is how

2033
01:22:55,280 --> 01:22:58,439
Speaker 4: the ship works. Stop playing, you can have it.

2034
01:22:59,400 --> 01:23:01,920
Speaker 1: That's it. So I believe it.

2035
01:23:02,040 --> 01:23:03,840
Speaker 4: And that's why I don't be tripping, like I be

2036
01:23:03,920 --> 01:23:07,560
Speaker 4: fucking up, you know, chilling with baby Daddy doing this,

2037
01:23:07,880 --> 01:23:08,160
Speaker 4: doing that.

2038
01:23:08,320 --> 01:23:12,920
Speaker 1: But I'm like, no, this is not it, this is

2039
01:23:13,000 --> 01:23:14,400
Speaker 1: not You're not it, this is not it.

2040
01:23:15,240 --> 01:23:18,479
Speaker 4: But because I know there's something like this, and I

2041
01:23:18,520 --> 01:23:20,280
Speaker 4: think even with this, we both know, like there's this

2042
01:23:20,400 --> 01:23:22,200
Speaker 4: bigger there's this bigger picture.

2043
01:23:22,240 --> 01:23:23,880
Speaker 1: There's this bigger thing. People like, what's the angle? And

2044
01:23:23,960 --> 01:23:29,599
Speaker 1: I'm like, just wait and see. So I don't know. Yeah,

2045
01:23:31,280 --> 01:23:31,840
Speaker 1: are we gonna?

2046
01:23:32,479 --> 01:23:40,200
Speaker 3: Should we do? It's time for horror stories. Guys whose

2047
01:23:40,640 --> 01:23:46,400
Speaker 3: stories highly horrific tales brought to you by good Moms.

2048
01:23:47,840 --> 01:23:49,679
Speaker 1: Okay, Hory.

2049
01:23:51,439 --> 01:23:53,240
Speaker 4: I was dating this guy for a couple of months

2050
01:23:53,280 --> 01:23:55,000
Speaker 4: when I went to a party with him and at

2051
01:23:55,080 --> 01:23:56,960
Speaker 4: his friend's house, who I had never met before.

2052
01:23:58,000 --> 01:23:58,879
Speaker 1: I get really.

2053
01:23:58,680 --> 01:24:01,120
Speaker 4: Feisty and horny when I joined and there was this dude.

2054
01:24:01,160 --> 01:24:03,559
Speaker 4: They're making fun of special ed people. So I told

2055
01:24:03,640 --> 01:24:05,200
Speaker 4: the guy to shut the fuck up or I was

2056
01:24:05,200 --> 01:24:06,439
Speaker 4: going to knock his ass out.

2057
01:24:08,960 --> 01:24:11,360
Speaker 1: Tight. I was like, oh my god, is this about me?

2058
01:24:12,840 --> 01:24:13,559
Speaker 1: He continued to.

2059
01:24:13,640 --> 01:24:16,040
Speaker 4: Make dumb jokes and pissing me off. More so the

2060
01:24:16,080 --> 01:24:18,960
Speaker 4: guy I was with told him, Man, she's not kidding around.

2061
01:24:19,000 --> 01:24:20,920
Speaker 4: She's kind of crazy, so you might want to shut

2062
01:24:21,000 --> 01:24:23,280
Speaker 4: up something about him. Saying that to the to the

2063
01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:25,040
Speaker 4: douchebag dude turned me on.

2064
01:24:25,800 --> 01:24:27,280
Speaker 1: No, turned me on.

2065
01:24:28,160 --> 01:24:30,280
Speaker 4: Five minutes later, me and my guy were chilling on

2066
01:24:30,360 --> 01:24:32,040
Speaker 4: the couch and next thing I know, he had his

2067
01:24:32,200 --> 01:24:34,760
Speaker 4: hand up my skirt trying to secretly finger me in

2068
01:24:34,840 --> 01:24:37,320
Speaker 4: front of everyone, and I did not give a fuck.

2069
01:24:37,880 --> 01:24:41,000
Speaker 4: I even said hold on, I'll be right back, went

2070
01:24:41,080 --> 01:24:43,200
Speaker 4: and took off my panties and came back for more.

2071
01:24:43,840 --> 01:24:45,200
Speaker 1: I was right.

2072
01:24:45,360 --> 01:24:48,160
Speaker 5: I was like, ah, I was rubbing on his dick

2073
01:24:48,240 --> 01:24:50,840
Speaker 5: through his pants, trying to be nonchalant, but people were

2074
01:24:50,880 --> 01:24:54,439
Speaker 5: definitely catching on. Then my drunk ass got on his lap,

2075
01:24:56,000 --> 01:24:57,519
Speaker 5: told him to whip it out, and I sat on

2076
01:24:57,600 --> 01:24:59,800
Speaker 5: his dick trying to discreetly ride him while we were

2077
01:24:59,800 --> 01:25:02,360
Speaker 5: having a full blown conversation with people.

2078
01:25:05,280 --> 01:25:07,759
Speaker 1: Like what were you drinking that night? Amazing.

2079
01:25:08,120 --> 01:25:11,120
Speaker 4: Eventually we snuck away to their their spare bedroom and

2080
01:25:11,200 --> 01:25:14,680
Speaker 4: had some nasty, nasty sex. Well everyone else listened. We

2081
01:25:14,720 --> 01:25:17,040
Speaker 4: probably should have gone in there from the beginning, but whatever.

2082
01:25:17,560 --> 01:25:20,280
Speaker 4: I was so horny I didn't care. We now have

2083
01:25:20,400 --> 01:25:23,400
Speaker 4: two kids and just got married. Oh and those friends

2084
01:25:23,600 --> 01:25:24,639
Speaker 4: don't talk to us anymore.

2085
01:25:26,400 --> 01:25:29,639
Speaker 3: Manifestation right, that was perfect?

2086
01:25:30,720 --> 01:25:33,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, just like we said, if you want the

2087
01:25:33,280 --> 01:25:37,960
Speaker 4: freaky fun family, you can do that.

2088
01:25:38,200 --> 01:25:41,519
Speaker 1: You can do that. That's so cool. Goals, I'm really

2089
01:25:41,600 --> 01:25:47,000
Speaker 1: horny now. Made that was a really hot one. Choos too,

2090
01:25:48,520 --> 01:25:52,479
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, amazing. I was like, you're my type. Of girl,

2091
01:25:52,840 --> 01:25:54,320
Speaker 1: I said the only thing I wish I wish you

2092
01:25:54,320 --> 01:25:56,200
Speaker 1: would have punched that guy in the face.

2093
01:25:56,200 --> 01:25:59,600
Speaker 3: Right, that would have been while you write whe.

2094
01:26:02,080 --> 01:26:06,639
Speaker 1: Wow, Well we've been talking a long time.

2095
01:26:06,760 --> 01:26:08,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been a while, so we got to go.

2096
01:26:08,680 --> 01:26:11,720
Speaker 3: The kids start coming when I must leave and.

2097
01:26:13,000 --> 01:26:16,960
Speaker 1: Got a doctor's appointment. Yeah, okay, dokie, See you.

2098
01:26:17,000 --> 01:26:17,760
Speaker 3: Guys next week.

2099
01:26:18,479 --> 01:26:22,080
Speaker 5: Make sure to watch this episode on our Patreon search

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Speaker 5: Good Mom's Bad Choices.

2101
01:26:23,320 --> 01:26:25,280
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to see that car head situation.

2102
01:26:25,320 --> 01:26:28,920
Speaker 5: You really well, i'm't like I'm gonna I need to

2103
01:26:29,000 --> 01:26:30,800
Speaker 5: try that. I didn't even think about bad as.

2104
01:26:31,360 --> 01:26:31,720
Speaker 1: I think it was.

2105
01:26:31,920 --> 01:26:32,160
Speaker 3: I'm not.

2106
01:26:32,200 --> 01:26:34,640
Speaker 5: I think the dashboard in the seat is right, that's

2107
01:26:34,680 --> 01:26:36,519
Speaker 5: the perfect level. Yeah, and I propped my and I.

2108
01:26:36,600 --> 01:26:43,240
Speaker 1: Like, bring it up. That's amazing. Patreon. There are sex

2109
01:26:43,320 --> 01:26:45,479
Speaker 1: moves on their car sex moves. You know what's music

2110
01:26:45,520 --> 01:26:48,080
Speaker 1: you were listening to at the time. Try to paint

2111
01:26:48,120 --> 01:26:48,719
Speaker 1: the scene.

2112
01:26:50,040 --> 01:26:55,080
Speaker 5: Up tempo Atlanta up so Debaby, I think it was

2113
01:26:55,200 --> 01:26:57,360
Speaker 5: the baby. I've been like a lot of de baby

2114
01:26:57,520 --> 01:27:01,120
Speaker 5: all week long. Literally, if you text mer time about

2115
01:27:01,280 --> 01:27:02,120
Speaker 5: the baby bitch.

2116
01:27:02,680 --> 01:27:04,840
Speaker 1: Anytime I asked her about a song for anything, She's

2117
01:27:04,840 --> 01:27:05,759
Speaker 1: like well the baby.

2118
01:27:05,840 --> 01:27:08,960
Speaker 5: I'm like, bitch, Mira only listens to the baby, so

2119
01:27:09,160 --> 01:27:12,160
Speaker 5: I'm like, do the baby baby it's called baby side

2120
01:27:12,200 --> 01:27:15,439
Speaker 5: the baby, but it was like, yeah, he has what's

2121
01:27:15,439 --> 01:27:15,880
Speaker 5: another one?

2122
01:27:17,200 --> 01:27:19,599
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe was the album is something the baby?

2123
01:27:19,760 --> 01:27:19,960
Speaker 5: Yeah?

2124
01:27:21,000 --> 01:27:23,200
Speaker 1: Anyway, and there's another baby, little baby.

2125
01:27:23,520 --> 01:27:24,559
Speaker 3: There was another little baby.

2126
01:27:24,680 --> 01:27:26,320
Speaker 1: I can't keep up which one was a cute one?

2127
01:27:26,680 --> 01:27:29,960
Speaker 1: The baby? No? I think, well, I don't know. Okay, whatever?

2128
01:27:32,720 --> 01:27:39,519
Speaker 1: Uh too high. Also, make sure to go on our website,

2129
01:27:39,600 --> 01:27:41,040
Speaker 1: follow our newsletter and.

2130
01:27:41,880 --> 01:27:44,120
Speaker 5: Should we post all the pictures from our live show

2131
01:27:44,320 --> 01:27:46,960
Speaker 5: on like on our website. Is everybody to like click

2132
01:27:47,000 --> 01:27:48,320
Speaker 5: the down like click to look at them?

2133
01:27:48,520 --> 01:27:49,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna do that.

2134
01:27:49,320 --> 01:27:51,080
Speaker 1: Yeah there is. Okay, so look at our live show

2135
01:27:51,160 --> 01:27:52,040
Speaker 1: pictures on her website.

2136
01:27:52,240 --> 01:27:53,559
Speaker 3: Mom's bad and now you've.

2137
01:27:53,439 --> 01:27:55,120
Speaker 1: Made me have to do something before we air this.

2138
01:27:55,400 --> 01:27:57,200
Speaker 3: But okay, I mean, I mean, I know I need

2139
01:27:57,280 --> 01:27:57,439
Speaker 3: to do it.

2140
01:27:57,560 --> 01:27:58,000
Speaker 1: I could do it.

2141
01:27:58,080 --> 01:27:58,479
Speaker 3: It's fine.

2142
01:27:58,560 --> 01:28:00,360
Speaker 5: You need to do it anyway, it's fine. Can add

2143
01:28:00,439 --> 01:28:05,360
Speaker 5: thenk you responsible? We are now Good Mom's Bad Choices

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Speaker 4: Follow us on Instagram. Good Mom's underscored bad choices. I'm

2147
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Speaker 4: about to.

2148
01:28:20,120 --> 01:28:23,120
Speaker 1: Post, uh the real from our show. We should go

2149
01:28:23,200 --> 01:28:26,320
Speaker 1: check it out. Lots of beautiful women, lots of can't

2150
01:28:26,360 --> 01:28:27,200
Speaker 1: wear it all.

2151
01:28:27,160 --> 01:28:28,759
Speaker 3: Right, y'all see.

2152
01:28:31,640 --> 01:28:35,200
Speaker 1: Pump ship. Put you on samp ship. She said, you

2153
01:28:35,320 --> 01:28:38,640
Speaker 1: all about money. Yeah, I'm gonna cash you know.

2154
01:28:38,680 --> 01:28:41,000
Speaker 8: How they visits of me? Wow, Because baby, don't give

2155
01:28:41,040 --> 01:28:41,920
Speaker 8: a fuck what you're doing.

2156
01:28:41,960 --> 01:28:42,760
Speaker 1: I'll be fixing the wee.

2157
01:28:42,840 --> 01:28:44,439
Speaker 8: Why she sucking my deck? Put it out then, not

2158
01:28:44,520 --> 01:28:46,880
Speaker 8: titty for I fuck up from the back of see

2159
01:28:46,960 --> 01:28:49,479
Speaker 8: now it's killing them. No, I give it up. I'll

2160
01:28:49,520 --> 01:28:51,400
Speaker 8: be cool on the bitch. Ain't no pressure until I

2161
01:28:51,479 --> 01:28:54,040
Speaker 8: met this le freaking named Meg. Then the thing that's died.

2162
01:28:54,200 --> 01:28:56,840
Speaker 8: Look at you out, look at you, she says, I

2163
01:28:57,040 --> 01:28:59,559
Speaker 8: like when they pretty in ghetto the business. Don't even

2164
01:28:59,560 --> 01:29:02,000
Speaker 8: say hello. And whenever we're supposed to be sucking me

2165
01:29:02,080 --> 01:29:04,240
Speaker 8: back with her in the headlight with my elbow, I

2166
01:29:04,320 --> 01:29:06,400
Speaker 8: see them reverse, got a bone of dick and ride

2167
01:29:06,439 --> 01:29:07,400
Speaker 8: the ship like a camaro.

2168
01:29:08,040 --> 01:29:10,679
Speaker 1: I can't be fucked with. Nope, Oh you can't touch

2169
01:29:10,880 --> 01:29:11,439
Speaker 1: this height.

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Speaker 2: Don re ship my money