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Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: reading your letter live on the air, just like we're

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Buck up

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Speaker 1: a hole on time. We got it for you. Here.

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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. She loves me, She loves me

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Speaker 1: not is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley, I have a

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Speaker 1: real big problem. I'm a thirty two year old single

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Speaker 1: father of two kids, and I fell in love with

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Speaker 1: my doctor, who six years older than me. We had

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Speaker 1: a loving and caring friendship that grew into a romance.

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Speaker 1: It lasted more than a year and a half. When

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Speaker 1: I found out she was married, it crushed me, but

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Speaker 1: she told me she was leaving her husband. It didn't happen. Eventually,

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Speaker 1: I decided to try to move on from her. Every

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Speaker 1: time I stopped talking to her to try to move

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Speaker 1: past our relationship, she sent me a text saying she

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Speaker 1: loved me and still wanted a future together. In January,

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Speaker 1: I was celebrating New Year's with someone else, and she

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Speaker 1: sent me a note saying she was going to fight

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Speaker 1: for me and never give up. I explained to her

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Speaker 1: that she needed to get a divorce first, then maybe

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Speaker 1: we could establish something again. But I couldn't stop thinking

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Speaker 1: about her and the promise that she would leave her husband. Eventually,

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Speaker 1: we got into a major fight because I found out

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Speaker 1: she was planning a family vacation with her husband. Hurtful

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Speaker 1: words were spoken. She said that I was really being pushy,

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Speaker 1: a bully, and verbally abusive, and she feels that she

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Speaker 1: did nothing wrong to me. I tried to explain to

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Speaker 1: her not being honest her husband and using me for

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Speaker 1: an emotional and physical affair is just wrong. I still

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Speaker 1: care for her, but now I just want to move

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Speaker 1: forward with my life and forget about her. It's hard

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Speaker 1: because we used to text and talk every day. I

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Speaker 1: know it's best not to contact her. How do I

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Speaker 1: move forward without feeling hurt or used? Please advise? Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know I can tell you this. The

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Speaker 1: time will heal all wounds, because it's going to take

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Speaker 1: a while. Because you had some deep feelings for this woman.

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Speaker 1: Not to feel hurt or not to feel used, and

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you the same thing that I

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Speaker 1: would tell a woman if the situation were reversed. You

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Speaker 1: gotta let the situation go. You already try to do

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Speaker 1: it once and then she pulled you back in. She's

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Speaker 1: like stringing you along and all that. This woman is

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Speaker 1: married with no intentions of leaving her husband. No, she's

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Speaker 1: planning family vacations. Don't you get it? That means she's

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Speaker 1: a wife when she's not with you. Okay, that's what

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Speaker 1: that means. And you gotta understand that, and you gotta

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Speaker 1: deal with that. And yes, you have to move on

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Speaker 1: with your life. She should and change doctors too, Please

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Speaker 1: do that, Please change doctors. Yeah, your friendship grew into

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Speaker 1: a romance and now she's stringing you along. Don't let

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Speaker 1: her continue to do that. You gotta be strong. You

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Speaker 1: gotta get out of this. You gotta move on. There

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Speaker 1: are plenty of single women out here, okay, and you

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Speaker 1: have two kids to be an example for it as well.

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Speaker 1: So move on. Let her go, all right to me,

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Speaker 1: that's simple, Steve, Yeah, it's you know, I agree with

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Speaker 1: what sherre was saying. But and you know, dog, I

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Speaker 1: gotta talk to you, man, and man, now you know, partner.

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Speaker 1: You know I could in this letter I have Shirley's

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Speaker 1: giving you the same advice she would give to a

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Speaker 1: now I gotta give you some but from male perspective.

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Speaker 1: Let's look at this the real way. You thirty two,

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Speaker 1: single father, two kids, fell in love with your doctor.

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Speaker 1: Now you don't just fall in love with me. Something

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's how you fall in love. And I

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Speaker 1: don't know what all the particulars or who called who,

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Speaker 1: but you you wanted or you hit out of them.

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Speaker 1: Then you say you had a loving and caring friendship

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Speaker 1: a half. Now a year and a half. Hold up, dog,

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Speaker 1: You've been with this woman a year and a half

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Speaker 1: when you found out a year and a half dog

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Speaker 1: Ain't ain't this role reversal at it best? She said

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Speaker 1: Let's let's quit playing this game. It ain't no she

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Speaker 1: texts and say she loved you. Dog. You know what's happening.

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Speaker 1: You will what you will? You whipped whipped? You whipped dog,

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Speaker 1: That's what this is. She's six years old and you

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Speaker 1: she did some things to you you hadn't had happened

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Speaker 1: she probably know all types of pressure points. She got

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Speaker 1: you in the climbing up a wall, she did, reaching

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Speaker 1: She's doing things you've been bit in areas you don't

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Speaker 1: even know you had. You know you and you you

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Speaker 1: and that holloing, that breathless hollow. Yeah, you getting that

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Speaker 1: happened to you, breathless hollow, you know, and she texted

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Speaker 1: me saying she loved me and Steve want in January,

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Speaker 1: I was celebrating New Year's with somebody else jazz like them. Well,

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Speaker 1: I finish up right after this, all right, coming up

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Speaker 1: in twenty three minutes after the hour, we will have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response. Title subject of today's strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter is she loves me? She loves me not. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back with Steve's part two response right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, come on, let's get into

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Speaker 1: part two and recapped today's strawberry letters. She loves me,

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Speaker 1: she loves me not? Thirty two year old single father

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Speaker 1: too fell in love with his doctor who he's six

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Speaker 1: years old, and the dog dog your doctor or these

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Speaker 1: the kids doctor. See, your doctor is a woman. So

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Speaker 1: what what just got to be your kids doctor? Because

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Speaker 1: you got a female doctor? What's she checking on? I

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Speaker 1: mean they exist. I've had a female acts. Yeah, urologists

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Speaker 1: a little bit too. It wasn't a good relationship, but

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Speaker 1: you know, a romance. But y'allogists. It lasted more than

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Speaker 1: was mad. What she told you it because men don't

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Speaker 1: do research, because we don't need, we don't care. She

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Speaker 1: like when she told you on Friday, you wanted her

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Speaker 1: a tech saying she loved me and still wanting the future. Guys,

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Speaker 1: she probably do in January, I'll celebrate New Year's Eve

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Speaker 1: with somebody. El Nah, you act like a man? Now, Nah?

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Speaker 1: You new Year's Eve with somebody else. She sent you

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Speaker 1: a note saying she was going to fight for me

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Speaker 1: and never give up. Okay, with just a damn note,

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Speaker 1: you're tripping for man. I explained to her that she

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Speaker 1: it and the promise that she would leave her husband again.

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Speaker 1: He worried. Here is quill? You is quill? See a note?

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Speaker 1: A text and a note, and you back again. I

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Speaker 1: couldn't stop thinking about her, the promise she would leave

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Speaker 1: I found out she was playing in a family vacation

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Speaker 1: with her husband. Dog, what is you fighting with her about? This? Fault?

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Speaker 1: She married? She told you she was married. She planned

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Speaker 1: people do. What is you act like a little girl? Fault?

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Speaker 1: She told you? What is you acting like a little girl? Fault?

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Speaker 1: She told you she was married. She ain't left her husband?

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Speaker 1: You will? Now? She planning in the family vacation, y'all

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Speaker 1: her husband. Hurtful words were spoken. She said that I

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Speaker 1: And she feels that she did nothing wrong to me.

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Speaker 1: She did, But dog, ain't we all hurt? A woman

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Speaker 1: the other way around? It really sounds strange because all

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Speaker 1: of us is what you're tripping for? Dog, plenty of women.

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Speaker 1: But dog, you got a free lick? What is you

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Speaker 1: tripping for? She told you she married, and she's still

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Speaker 1: willing to see you. What's wrong with you? Tell him?

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Speaker 1: Do you know I like to see my doctor and

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Speaker 1: she your doctor? Dog? I don't know if you got

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Speaker 1: a doctor. Eurologists, Now, how you can't go that? That's funny?

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Speaker 1: And what y'all nothing to do? Ladies? Or the morning

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Speaker 1: show is killed? This damn show because this joke stayed.

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Speaker 1: When she told you I was married? What she said?

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Speaker 1: I'm married? I got some bad news. Tell me now.

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Speaker 1: I tried to explain to her that not being honest

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Speaker 1: it's just wrong. Doc, What did you say? You think

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Speaker 1: that she supposed to go in there to her husband

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Speaker 1: and tell her husband about you. That's just like telling

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Speaker 1: his wife about the other woman. Ain't nobody fit to

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Speaker 1: do that? Man? Grow up? See you got into a grown,

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Speaker 1: school rules. This woman can't go in here and tell

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Speaker 1: her hubs. She having a fair with you and using you.

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Speaker 1: Bill Withers had a song about my friends feeling is

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Speaker 1: they're appointed duty that keep trying to tell me that

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Speaker 1: I ought to not let you just walk on me.

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Speaker 1: But they don't know that you could keep on using

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Speaker 1: me because the show feels good the way you using

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Speaker 1: me until you use me up. I still care for her,

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Speaker 1: but now I just would move forward to please ask

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Speaker 1: the question again, Steve, I'd like to hear it, please,

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Speaker 1: And she told you she was all right. No, Thank you, sir.

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