WEBVTT - Julie Holland Prescribes Human Connection

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<v Speaker 1>This is Alec Baldwin and you're listening to Here's the

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<v Speaker 1>Thing from My Heart Radio. My guest today is psychiatrist

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<v Speaker 1>Julie Holland. She has a private practice in New York

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<v Speaker 1>City and is the author of several books, including the

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<v Speaker 1>New York Times bestseller Moody Bitches at a Memoir Weekends

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<v Speaker 1>at Bellevue. For decades, she's been researching the use of

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<v Speaker 1>psychedelics to treat mental health issues, with a particular focus

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<v Speaker 1>on using M D m A and cannabis to treat

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<v Speaker 1>post traumatic stress disorder. Many people are struggling with their

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<v Speaker 1>mental health in this long period of social distancing, but

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<v Speaker 1>Holland says, even before the trauma this pandemic has caused,

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<v Speaker 1>we were not doing that well mentally. I've been doing

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<v Speaker 1>phone sessions from up here in Duchess County, UM, and

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<v Speaker 1>some of my patients are still in the city, but

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of my patients have sort of flown the

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<v Speaker 1>coup to places where there's a lower density of people,

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<v Speaker 1>but importantly places where there's more nature and they're getting outside. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>they're getting more sun, more nature, and that I think

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<v Speaker 1>for me, it's been a real bomb and one of

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<v Speaker 1>the things that's helped me feel balanced or saying, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a good antidote sort of to how toxic the news

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<v Speaker 1>is and everything that's happening is if I go out

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<v Speaker 1>into the woods or the swamp or the lake, and

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<v Speaker 1>I really feel much much calmer. You know, we can

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<v Speaker 1>discuss what the snapshot is and what the health of

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<v Speaker 1>the country is and beyond during the COVID, but to

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<v Speaker 1>whatever extent you're willing to venture an opinion, what was

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<v Speaker 1>the mental health of the country like prior to the

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<v Speaker 1>Cobb Oh? Yes, well, you know, we actually had a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of big epidemics before this pandemic, right. We had

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<v Speaker 1>the overdose epidemic. We had more and more people, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>not only dying of opiate overdoses or accidental overdoses, but

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<v Speaker 1>also more people drinking themselves to death. And we also

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<v Speaker 1>had what was called the epidemic of loneliness, where we

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<v Speaker 1>had more and more people living alone. Everybody had gotten

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<v Speaker 1>into their own little pod even prior to this pandemic,

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<v Speaker 1>but we were not happier because of it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>all the isolation. People felt very lonely, which makes people

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<v Speaker 1>feel both depressed and anxious. I would love to talk

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<v Speaker 1>more about why social isolation makes us so anxious. You

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<v Speaker 1>point out that there are strains in our society beyond

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<v Speaker 1>the COVID, the predate the COVID, and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>get to later on when people are isolated COVID or no,

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<v Speaker 1>and when people are feeling an abundance of distress, are

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<v Speaker 1>the cures, healthcare, guaranteed income ways to address I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it seems that people are lonely, they can't afford healthcare,

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<v Speaker 1>they can't afford food, and they don't have a job.

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<v Speaker 1>The constant fear of the future. Right, So it's impossible

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<v Speaker 1>for me to talk about depression anxiety without talking about

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<v Speaker 1>politics and health policy and social policy. They're so intertwined.

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<v Speaker 1>And you were asking, you know, before the pandemic, how

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<v Speaker 1>were we doing, and I was saying, we really weren't

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<v Speaker 1>doing very well. You know, whenever there's sort of gross inequality,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people aren't going to do well. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's not just that they have more physical problems, but

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<v Speaker 1>they have more mental health problems. And addiction is a

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<v Speaker 1>sign of unrest and on wellness. It's not really a

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<v Speaker 1>thing in and of itself, it's a symptom of something bigger.

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<v Speaker 1>So the fact that we had more and more people

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<v Speaker 1>addicted to opiates and and overdosing. I mean, there was

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<v Speaker 1>a glut and there, you know, there was a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money being made and making the drug and distributing

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<v Speaker 1>the drug. But you know, gobormates is this great thing

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<v Speaker 1>which is don't ask why the addiction, asked why the pain.

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<v Speaker 1>We were in pain. People were in pain before the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, nine eleven was very tough on the inhabitants

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<v Speaker 1>of New York City, and people got very anxious and

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<v Speaker 1>started paying more attention to political issues. And then, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, after Donald got elected, you know, everybody in

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<v Speaker 1>the town who knew him and knew who he was

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<v Speaker 1>and what he was made of, there was a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of despair and and anxiety. And you know, the type

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<v Speaker 1>of people who come to see a private psychiatrist I

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<v Speaker 1>think tend to lean left, honestly, so I definitely have

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<v Speaker 1>a bias sample. But my patients were really not only

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<v Speaker 1>afraid for the country and for our democracy, but also

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<v Speaker 1>for the planet. You know, there's this sort of background

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<v Speaker 1>app that's always running, whether we know it or not,

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<v Speaker 1>which is that we are in sort of mourning for

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening to the planet, and there's a deep level

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<v Speaker 1>of despair. And the more disconnected we are from ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>from our friends, from each other, from the planet, the

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<v Speaker 1>worse we feel. The more depressed we are, the more

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<v Speaker 1>anxious we are. So it's been going on, and I

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<v Speaker 1>would add to that, we're moving further and further and

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<v Speaker 1>further away from a connection between the will of the

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<v Speaker 1>people and what the government's going to do. The government

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<v Speaker 1>operates completely independent of the will of the people, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and they do whatever they want to do. They just

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<v Speaker 1>ignore what mainstream thought is about. But the end result

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<v Speaker 1>for we the people is that we get despairing and

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<v Speaker 1>depressed because we're powerless. Right, It doesn't matter what they want, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, the popular vote doesn't matter. This

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<v Speaker 1>sense of powerlessness is a setup for depression. Right. This

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<v Speaker 1>is your fifth book with a book like this comes

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<v Speaker 1>along once that process, Like how did this book start

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<v Speaker 1>to germinate with you? This book started to germinate while

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<v Speaker 1>I was stand up paddling on a lake and there

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<v Speaker 1>was mist. There was all this mist coming out of

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<v Speaker 1>the lake, and I wanted to be in the midst.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be enveloped in the mist, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was paddling out to where the mist was, but wherever

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<v Speaker 1>I went, it seemed like the mist wasn't there anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was somewhere else. And I would paddle somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>else where it looked like the mist was thick, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it wasn't there. And the thing I finally realized

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<v Speaker 1>is you're in the mist. The mist is all around you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just that because of the light, you can't see it,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's there. And it was, you know, the sort

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<v Speaker 1>of epiphany to me that you know, we're always chase

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<v Speaker 1>sing for things, and really the things that we want

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<v Speaker 1>were the really right in our backyard. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>while that ended up not being the main message of

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<v Speaker 1>good chemistry, it is definitely a message for me now

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<v Speaker 1>and for my patients now that you know, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people were spinning their wheels and running around and

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<v Speaker 1>now that they're sort of stuck in place, it turns

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<v Speaker 1>out that they do have a lot of things that

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<v Speaker 1>they need and that it's been good to sort of

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<v Speaker 1>hunker down and go inward or be with family. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a cocooning period. One. Yeah, in the beginning, everybody

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<v Speaker 1>was like if I just knew when this would end,

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<v Speaker 1>I would be okay, you know, if I knew it

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<v Speaker 1>was just for the summer or you know, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>when it started, it was like when if I know

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<v Speaker 1>it was just April, right, But that was a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>For the first few months with my patients, was just

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<v Speaker 1>this idea that they needed to be able to encapsulate it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, if it could be compartmentalized, then they could

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<v Speaker 1>deal with it. But this idea that you don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how long it's going to go on. The thing, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Turn is about my children. I mean my children.

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<v Speaker 1>I want their social skill ills to mature, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want them and they're growing so quickly. My daughter who's

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<v Speaker 1>seven now, I mean she's like Lillian Hellman, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the stuff that comes out of her mouth now, which

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<v Speaker 1>is kind of amazing. She's so sharp and so clever

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<v Speaker 1>and so and I want, I don't want their development,

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<v Speaker 1>which prior to this we were kind of thrilled by.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm just really just chattered and I'm in a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of pain that I'm suffering about how although there's

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<v Speaker 1>some beautiful unintended consequences where they found each other and

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<v Speaker 1>they only have each other. So the bonding and the

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<v Speaker 1>relationships between them have become so profound. But my kids,

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<v Speaker 1>like when you have a five year old boy turned

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<v Speaker 1>to you the other and he goes, I missed New York.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, he said, I missed New York, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not thought to myself. You know, it sounds like Steve

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<v Speaker 1>Rupel in prison. You know what I mean. I missed

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<v Speaker 1>New York. I missed Studio fifty four. You know, my

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<v Speaker 1>son's five, and he's like, I missed you. I'm going,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, tore me apart apart. You know. In

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<v Speaker 1>my dealing my patients, sometimes I'm talking to a parent

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<v Speaker 1>who's very worried about their kid and whether their kids

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<v Speaker 1>going to go in or or go virtually. Um. I

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<v Speaker 1>also have some patients who are teachers who are really

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<v Speaker 1>worried about the kids. And and you know, everybody has

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<v Speaker 1>a different opinion about what should happen. Everybody has the

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<v Speaker 1>same fears. Everybody wants what's best for the kids. But

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<v Speaker 1>it really is a no win situation. You know. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just like everybody gets the misery spread sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody really gets exactly what they want, you know, certainly

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<v Speaker 1>with hybrid it's for my teachers. It's like the worst

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<v Speaker 1>of both worlds. But the thing about our kids is,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we know what they're missing. You know, my

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<v Speaker 1>son didn't get to be a c I T at camp,

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<v Speaker 1>or uh, you know, didn't get to play drums in

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<v Speaker 1>the in the high school musical, or somebody didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>to go to the prom. Like, we know what those

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<v Speaker 1>things are and we know what they're missing. But the

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<v Speaker 1>kids themselves who haven't they don't know what they're missing,

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<v Speaker 1>they haven't gone through it. I think it's actually easier

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<v Speaker 1>on them. I mean, I'm not saying it's easy on

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<v Speaker 1>the kids. I know, and more kids are being diagnosed

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<v Speaker 1>with anxiety and being treated with the antiangs I d

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<v Speaker 1>meads right now than ever before. So no, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>easy on them. But sometimes I think that, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what we wish for them, it's this extra layer of

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<v Speaker 1>mourning or anxiety that maybe they don't even really have.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, they are more resilient, certainly. I've told this

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<v Speaker 1>story before, I think on this podcast, so I'll do

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<v Speaker 1>the distilled version of my friend who lived in Italy.

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<v Speaker 1>He was British originally and he was there for several years.

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<v Speaker 1>And he came back and I said, when you came

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<v Speaker 1>back after nine years in Italy, what's the changes you noticed?

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<v Speaker 1>He said. One thing I don't like of these applications

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<v Speaker 1>that these people have for dating and meeting. He said.

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<v Speaker 1>The other thing I hate is ways, because sometimes getting

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<v Speaker 1>lost it's the greatest thing that could happen to You

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<v Speaker 1>might get lost and go somebody to get directions, and

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<v Speaker 1>when you go to the gas station you meet your

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<v Speaker 1>wife of the cash register, right, And he said, we've

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<v Speaker 1>taken all the serendipity out of out of the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Now do you find that people are leading on apps, devices,

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<v Speaker 1>all this kind of stuff social media more than ever now? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You know when when I wrote Good Chemistry, it was

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<v Speaker 1>before COVID, but I was already saying, you know, put

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<v Speaker 1>down your phone. You have to go out and see

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<v Speaker 1>people in real space. First of all, you know, anybody's

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<v Speaker 1>profile picture, like maybe it's them, maybe it's them on

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<v Speaker 1>their best day, or maybe it's some photoshopic not even

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<v Speaker 1>be them. I mean you just you just don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>And also it's not you know how tall somebody is

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<v Speaker 1>or how they look three dimentially, it's really is also

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<v Speaker 1>how people smell. And this is something I explained in

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<v Speaker 1>Moody Bitches that we actually mate to some degree. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>Pheromone detection is a real thing, and it helps us

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<v Speaker 1>figure out not only whether we like the way someone smells,

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<v Speaker 1>but whether they would be a good physiological match for

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<v Speaker 1>us on a genetic level. You know, if you're immune

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<v Speaker 1>to five things and somebody else is immune to five things,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have a kid, it's possible that kid will

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<v Speaker 1>be immune to all ten things. So you want somebody

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<v Speaker 1>who's a little bit genetically dissimilar to you. And one

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<v Speaker 1>of the ways that the body figures that out for

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<v Speaker 1>mating is through smell, So you know, until there's like

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<v Speaker 1>a scratch and sniff app I think that people are

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<v Speaker 1>going to have to really you know, it's good to

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<v Speaker 1>get together before you know, I just tell people to

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<v Speaker 1>I mean before COVID, I was like just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>meet for a coffee or whatever. But you can get

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<v Speaker 1>so delusional about who you're texting or you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>they happen to spell the way that you think, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you care about spelling or uh, you know it's political,

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<v Speaker 1>but like you know, they you really it's not just

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<v Speaker 1>about how they spell and it is. You know, there

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<v Speaker 1>are such things as like auras and energies and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>souls and spiritual things like that. And you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>know psychiatrists aren't supposed to say any of those words,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think they're real, and I think that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>intuition is a real thing. You know, your gut reaction

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<v Speaker 1>to somebody, you're not gonna get. You just gonna project

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<v Speaker 1>all of your own things onto something because you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have enough information. Back to the book, which is that

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<v Speaker 1>so the mist is everywhere and you're pandling yourself towards

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<v Speaker 1>the mist that it's there. But what did you want

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<v Speaker 1>to cover in this book? What did you want? What experience?

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<v Speaker 1>What people have when they read the book. Well, the

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<v Speaker 1>book is really about how important it is for us

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<v Speaker 1>to connect and sort of the physical aspects of connection,

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<v Speaker 1>the physiology why our bodies are designed so that if

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<v Speaker 1>we feel connected, we are soothed, and if we feel disconnected,

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<v Speaker 1>we get kind of agitated and anxious or depressed. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's about these very basic ideas of connecting with the self,

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<v Speaker 1>being in your body, being present in the moment. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So the way good chemistry is set up. The first

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<v Speaker 1>chapter is about connection with the self. The second chapter

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<v Speaker 1>is about connecting with another person and all about pheromones

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<v Speaker 1>and sex and orgasm and all that fun stuff. The

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<v Speaker 1>third chapters about family and how those connections work from

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<v Speaker 1>a physiological point of view. Right, So I start talking

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<v Speaker 1>a lot about oxytocin, which is a hormone that's involved

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<v Speaker 1>in pregnancy, nursing, delivery, and again, and it's very high

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<v Speaker 1>oxytose and state for orgasm. Then after self coupled Family,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a chapter in society where I talk about how

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<v Speaker 1>communities connect and what the physiology is of that, and

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<v Speaker 1>how oxytocin plays a role in us versus them. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>if you think, oh, you're on my you know you're

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<v Speaker 1>in my tribe, you're my people. But that guy over there,

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<v Speaker 1>you know he's them, that's an oxytocin effect. Also, then

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<v Speaker 1>there's a chapter on connecting with nature and about sort

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<v Speaker 1>of ecological activism versus this. You know, feeling despair, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that action will help you feel better, Plus it's

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<v Speaker 1>better for the planet. Then the last chapter is about

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<v Speaker 1>connecting with the cosmos, or perhaps if you're fortunate enough

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<v Speaker 1>to have had a psychedelic experience and you've had a

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<v Speaker 1>peak experience. You have this sense of everything is connected.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it all makes sense, it's all connected, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm part of that, and that is a peak mystical experience.

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<v Speaker 1>It is also a high oxytocin experience. So the book

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<v Speaker 1>is about oxytocin as sort of the the hormone or

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<v Speaker 1>the neuro transmitter that underlies all these feelings of connection.

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<v Speaker 1>They make us feel safe, like we belong. And oxytocin

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<v Speaker 1>is an antidepressant. It can be used to treat drug addiction,

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<v Speaker 1>and it coincidentally, there's some drugs that make you feel

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<v Speaker 1>safe and like you belong, and that's one of the

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<v Speaker 1>reasons why we use them. Psychiatrist Julie Holland. If it's

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<v Speaker 1>author Michael Pollen, I started looking at that really interesting

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<v Speaker 1>question is why is the species? Do we want to

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<v Speaker 1>change our consciousness? I mean, it's not adaptive, right, It

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<v Speaker 1>puts you at all sorts of risk. But we have

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<v Speaker 1>this desire and in fact, many animals have it too,

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<v Speaker 1>which is kind of a mystery, which which animals have

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<v Speaker 1>a desire to. Elephants love to get drunk, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can imagine how much it takes. You can hear the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of my conversation with Michael Pollen at Here's the

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<v Speaker 1>Thing dot Org after the Break. Psychiatrist Julie Holland explains

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<v Speaker 1>why she's dedicated her life to understanding how our brains

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<v Speaker 1>are wired. I'm Alec Baldwin and you're listening to Here's

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<v Speaker 1>the Thing. Dr Julie Holland says she's hearing from a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people who are self medicating their way through

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<v Speaker 1>the pandemic. I'm thirty five years sober in a twelve

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<v Speaker 1>step program, and I'm always mindful of, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>substitutive nature. You know what else did I put in

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<v Speaker 1>their food? Sex, money, power, workaholism, love, addiction, whatever. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>wondering if you have seen that with your patients as well.

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<v Speaker 1>We're during lockdown. I don't want to use the word abuse,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, medicating themselves with food pornography. Yeah, definitely,

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<v Speaker 1>all of it. Yeah, at the same time, well, you

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<v Speaker 1>can multitask with you know, two computers, I guess in theory, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's there's a lot there to unpack, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>We there are all sorts of ways that people soothed themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>I think one thing to keep in mind is that

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<v Speaker 1>the way most of us were taught. The earliest ways

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<v Speaker 1>we were soothed were orally right, somebody stuck a past

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<v Speaker 1>fire in your mouth, or a bottle, or if you're lucky,

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<v Speaker 1>you got a nipple and abreast and a person holding you.

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<v Speaker 1>But still there were times when that wasn't available. You

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<v Speaker 1>learn to suck your thumb or bite your nails. You

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<v Speaker 1>start eating, maybe if you're a woman growing up in

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<v Speaker 1>the United States America, whenever you eat, you feel guilty,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you end up soothing that agitated guilty state

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<v Speaker 1>with more food. So the COVID nineteen like people gaining

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen pounds during the quarantine, is a real phenomenon for

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<v Speaker 1>my patients. The quarantine e has taken on a life

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<v Speaker 1>of its own. I definitely patients who are smoking more

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<v Speaker 1>pot um, you know, I thought it was fascinating that

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<v Speaker 1>cannabis went from being you know, Schedule one illegal drug

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<v Speaker 1>to like essential during the pandemic. That was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty interesting. Moon. And you know, the other thing

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say about the sort of embarrassment of

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<v Speaker 1>riches or a lot of abundance besides there being a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of options of cannabis based medicines, is there's something

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<v Speaker 1>really exciting happening in psychiatry now. You know, we've had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of the same tools for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>and some things are hard to treat, especially post traumatic

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<v Speaker 1>stress disorder. And what we're seeing now with m d

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<v Speaker 1>M A assisted therapy, which is better known as ecstasy

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<v Speaker 1>or molly or psilocybin assisted psychotherapy, as that psychiatry all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden has some new tools at our disposal.

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<v Speaker 1>Ketamine is another very sort of separate and controversial issue,

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<v Speaker 1>but at least people are getting used to this idea

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<v Speaker 1>that they can have some sort of inexperience where they

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<v Speaker 1>can examine themselves more, maybe look at their childhood trauma process.

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<v Speaker 1>Some things come out of this altered state a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit better, a little bit less depressed, a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>less anxious. That's a new paradigm that's a completely different

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<v Speaker 1>way of thinking about these drugs. Uh. This idea of

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<v Speaker 1>psychedelic psychiatry brand new, pretty exciting, but something you've been

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<v Speaker 1>in love for a while, not new to me, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about that. Be your beginnings in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of that and your beginnings in terms of psychiatry,

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<v Speaker 1>because as a psychiatrist, you're obviously a medical doctor, correct,

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<v Speaker 1>I am, Where did you go to medical school? I

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<v Speaker 1>went to University of Pennsylvania. Undergrad, I went to Temple

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<v Speaker 1>for med school, so I stayed in Philadelphia, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I went to New York City and I did my

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<v Speaker 1>psychiatric residency at Mount Sinai Hospital, and then I spent

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<v Speaker 1>nine years running the psychiatric emergency room every Saturday night

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<v Speaker 1>and Sunday night, which was kind of a rock and

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<v Speaker 1>roll psychiatry job. It was the e R at Bellevue Hospital,

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<v Speaker 1>the psyche r. So after those nine years, I a

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<v Speaker 1>book call weekends at Bellevue about my time there. But

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<v Speaker 1>because I had grown up in the seventies and a

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<v Speaker 1>suburb full of interesting drugs to try. And then when

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<v Speaker 1>I was an undergrad, I started learning about this m

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<v Speaker 1>d M a assisted psychotherapy, which I was very interested

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<v Speaker 1>in because when I was at Penn, all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>I was reading about and hearing about a new drug,

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<v Speaker 1>and like you know, when you're studying psychopharmacology at at

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<v Speaker 1>undergrad and there's a new drug that's a that's a

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<v Speaker 1>big summer for you. So I got very interested in

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<v Speaker 1>m d m A and I wrote a big paper

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<v Speaker 1>about it because I was at a summer school class

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<v Speaker 1>I was taking um. That turned into the Ecstasy Book,

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<v Speaker 1>and that was my first book. I assigned chapters to

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<v Speaker 1>every expert um on every different facet of M d

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<v Speaker 1>m A. And then a few years later I ended

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<v Speaker 1>up doing that with the Pop Book also, So those

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<v Speaker 1>are actually two books that I edited. I wrote some

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<v Speaker 1>of it, but not all of it. I knew I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be a psychiatrist from a pretty young

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I knew I wanted to do something with

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<v Speaker 1>the brain, well, knowing that psychiatry involves a far greater

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<v Speaker 1>commitment academically because of the medical degree than of being

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<v Speaker 1>a psychologist or a social something related. What's the impulse

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<v Speaker 1>to psychiatry in the young woman from your background? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>when did you know you wanted to do this? And

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<v Speaker 1>put in all that time I wanted to be a

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<v Speaker 1>doctor from a pretty young age. I mean, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I was definitely the kind of person who played doctor,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, wrapped people up in bandages. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>I am. I was a smart kid, was very interested

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<v Speaker 1>in drugs, very interested in the brain. Um pretty sure

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to be either like a neurologist or

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<v Speaker 1>nursergon or psychiatrist before I even went to undergrad Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I chose pen because they had a major called the

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<v Speaker 1>Biological Basis of Behavior. It was all about the brain

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<v Speaker 1>and psycho farm. I had a subscription of psychology today.

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<v Speaker 1>When I was in high school, Like, I was one

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<v Speaker 1>of those kids who just kind of I like this,

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<v Speaker 1>and what did your parents do? My mom was a

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<v Speaker 1>science teacher, and my dad is a structural engineer, very analytical.

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<v Speaker 1>I was interested in science, and I was very analytical.

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<v Speaker 1>And and I grew up in the seventies where just

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<v Speaker 1>drugs were all around me, and I was fascinated that

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<v Speaker 1>a little piece of paper could make you, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>see the world in a completely different way. And how

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<v Speaker 1>would you distinguish for people who don't have that much

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<v Speaker 1>of an intimacy with certain kinds of pharmaceuticals? And a

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<v Speaker 1>certain kind of drugs. Like for me when I was

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<v Speaker 1>growing up and I was in my you know, riding

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<v Speaker 1>the range out there in my drug and alcohol phase. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, cocaine was the king. But for people who

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about ecstasy and psilocybin, you feel there are

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<v Speaker 1>benefits to either or both, Why what did they achieve

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of therapy? So here's what I would say

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<v Speaker 1>about m DMA and psilocybin in terms of psychiatry. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, the thing to keep in mind is,

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<v Speaker 1>right now, these are still research chemicals. They're not legal.

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<v Speaker 1>People can't prescribe them, but they are both going through

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<v Speaker 1>an FDA approval process so that they will be prescribable

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<v Speaker 1>in the context of their rapy. Right. So this is

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<v Speaker 1>not you know, buying a tablet of ecstasy or some

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<v Speaker 1>white powder that somebody tells you as molly and being

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<v Speaker 1>on a dance floor and getting overheated or overhydrated, and

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<v Speaker 1>those things are seriously dangerous. Also you just don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what you're getting. This is in the context of that

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<v Speaker 1>you're lying on a couch with a hundred and twenty

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<v Speaker 1>milligrams or maybe even only eighty milligrams, which is pretty

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<v Speaker 1>low dose of pure m d m A. You're not

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<v Speaker 1>dancing for hours, you're not overhydrating, so the medical risks

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<v Speaker 1>in that situation are pretty minimal, which is why the

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<v Speaker 1>FDA is allowed these studies to go ahead. Right now,

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<v Speaker 1>there are multi center trials going on with m d

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<v Speaker 1>m A assisted psychotherapy sessions all over America and a

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<v Speaker 1>few other countries, and psilocybin assisted psychotherapy research is happening

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<v Speaker 1>in America and all over Europe and given to who

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<v Speaker 1>for what, so for Some of the psilocybin studies are

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<v Speaker 1>for treatment resistant depression and some of them are just

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<v Speaker 1>for regular major depression. The m d m A studies

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<v Speaker 1>are looking at pos traumatic stress disorder. There's also one

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<v Speaker 1>m d m A study where they looked at social

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<v Speaker 1>anxiety in adults on the autistic spectrum. For people who

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anything about ecstasy or molly or what, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>this is methylene dioxy meth emphetamine m d m A.

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<v Speaker 1>So the methymphetamine part may sound familiar to you. It's

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<v Speaker 1>sort of a cousin of speed, but it has a

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<v Speaker 1>more of a psychedelic component to it, So what you

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<v Speaker 1>end up with is something that increases your serotonin massively,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're very relaxed and you feel sort of satiated,

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<v Speaker 1>like you don't need anything. It also increases your dopamine

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<v Speaker 1>because of the methymphetamine base, so you are awake, alert,

0:23:41.040 --> 0:23:43.440
<v Speaker 1>you have very good recall for the event. You want

0:23:43.480 --> 0:23:45.360
<v Speaker 1>to talk, you want to dig, you want to conn.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's one more very important part of m d

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<v Speaker 1>m A as it increases oxytocin, so you have that

0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:56.320
<v Speaker 1>sense of safety and connection, like you belong, and so

0:23:56.400 --> 0:23:59.040
<v Speaker 1>you end up with this sort of you're calm, but

0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:04.000
<v Speaker 1>you're open, right, So the openness like open to bonding,

0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:07.320
<v Speaker 1>open to trusting, open to looking at your ship. You know,

0:24:07.640 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 1>it's almost like anesthesia with or without surgery. Like when

0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:12.960
<v Speaker 1>you go to therapy. You get to a certain point

0:24:13.000 --> 0:24:15.639
<v Speaker 1>where you're like, oh no, that hurts that bad stuff

0:24:15.680 --> 0:24:17.640
<v Speaker 1>happened there. That's too tender. I don't want to talk

0:24:17.680 --> 0:24:20.440
<v Speaker 1>about it. And the therapist says, okay, maybe next week

0:24:20.480 --> 0:24:22.800
<v Speaker 1>we will. But then maybe you cancel and you don't

0:24:22.800 --> 0:24:25.080
<v Speaker 1>see her. You know, it fits and starts. It takes

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<v Speaker 1>a long time for therapy. This is one or two

0:24:27.920 --> 0:24:32.480
<v Speaker 1>sessions where you feel comfortable enough and trusting enough, but

0:24:32.600 --> 0:24:35.560
<v Speaker 1>awake and alert enough that you can really do some digging.

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<v Speaker 1>So it is like a catalyst for therapy. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>M D M A and psilocybin is different. It's something

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<v Speaker 1>really different. Well, right, so it's you you have a

0:24:44.760 --> 0:24:48.879
<v Speaker 1>mystical psychedelic experience. Maybe you're in a void which is scary.

0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:50.760
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you are in that place where I said, like

0:24:50.800 --> 0:24:53.639
<v Speaker 1>where you feel like everything is connected in your bathe

0:24:53.680 --> 0:24:57.760
<v Speaker 1>with love. But what happens reliably and people when you

0:24:57.800 --> 0:25:01.600
<v Speaker 1>give them psilocybin is you can do some mystical experience.

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:05.040
<v Speaker 1>And when you have that sense of everything is connected

0:25:05.080 --> 0:25:07.159
<v Speaker 1>and love is the answer that when you have that

0:25:07.200 --> 0:25:10.159
<v Speaker 1>sort of big experience, it can lead to a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of behavioral changes. And also there's something called neuroplasticity, which

0:25:15.600 --> 0:25:19.520
<v Speaker 1>is the brain rewiring itself. I'm up for that. I

0:25:19.560 --> 0:25:24.000
<v Speaker 1>need that, right. So there's some psychedelics that cause neurons

0:25:24.040 --> 0:25:27.359
<v Speaker 1>to grow or synapsis to grow. You get neurogenesis or

0:25:27.440 --> 0:25:31.080
<v Speaker 1>synapter genesis. This means you're getting new brain cells, new connections.

0:25:31.080 --> 0:25:34.240
<v Speaker 1>So not the frying pan and the egg that we

0:25:34.280 --> 0:25:36.040
<v Speaker 1>are exposed to in the eighties, Like this is you know,

0:25:36.200 --> 0:25:38.280
<v Speaker 1>this is drugs. This is your brain on drugs. It

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<v Speaker 1>really for these particular drugs, it is quite the opposite

0:25:41.720 --> 0:25:45.240
<v Speaker 1>where you've got new brain cells, it's not killing brain cells,

0:25:45.400 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 1>and you've got new connections, a little bit of rewiring.

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<v Speaker 1>But do you do some predictive kind of work, like

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:54.080
<v Speaker 1>for example, you say to me hallucinogenics like psilocybin, and

0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:57.040
<v Speaker 1>I think to myself, I'm sitting on my couch and

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<v Speaker 1>I take this pill and all of a sudden, I

0:25:59.240 --> 0:26:01.680
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm paddle boarding into the mist on a

0:26:01.760 --> 0:26:03.760
<v Speaker 1>lake and upstatement, you are going to have left my couch,

0:26:04.240 --> 0:26:06.800
<v Speaker 1>right do you do? You do you do predictive things

0:26:06.880 --> 0:26:09.680
<v Speaker 1>with them before you give them the drug before because

0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:11.440
<v Speaker 1>because some people might have a negative reaction to it.

0:26:11.600 --> 0:26:14.399
<v Speaker 1>Not okay, so quite so. The most important thing I

0:26:14.400 --> 0:26:16.879
<v Speaker 1>can tell you is it because this is just research. Now,

0:26:16.960 --> 0:26:20.600
<v Speaker 1>people are screened like you and believe, very heavily screamed. Right,

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:22.639
<v Speaker 1>So if you have a history of psychosis, if you

0:26:22.680 --> 0:26:25.240
<v Speaker 1>have a family history of psychosis, you're not going to

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:28.120
<v Speaker 1>be on that couch. But you know, I actually don't

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<v Speaker 1>say hallucinogen because it's it's not like you see pink

0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:34.160
<v Speaker 1>elephants that aren't there. I mean, you know with with SILSA,

0:26:34.280 --> 0:26:36.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean you may have visions, but you kind of

0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 1>know their visions. You know, you don't start interacting with

0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:42.680
<v Speaker 1>things that aren't there. But their mind manifesting medicines, their

0:26:42.720 --> 0:26:46.320
<v Speaker 1>consciousness medicines. And I would say, Alec that these are

0:26:46.359 --> 0:26:50.919
<v Speaker 1>disruptive medicines and psychiatry. This is a disruptive paradigm making

0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:54.960
<v Speaker 1>therapy go deeper and faster and getting people to turn

0:26:55.000 --> 0:26:57.800
<v Speaker 1>away from instead of taking a daily dose of antidepressants

0:26:57.880 --> 0:27:01.800
<v Speaker 1>or anti anxiety meds, they're having single sessions or maybe

0:27:01.840 --> 0:27:04.480
<v Speaker 1>two or three sessions over half a year or a year,

0:27:04.760 --> 0:27:07.520
<v Speaker 1>but they don't need the daily dose afterwards. And in

0:27:07.560 --> 0:27:10.480
<v Speaker 1>the m d M A PTSD studies, they're not meeting

0:27:10.520 --> 0:27:13.320
<v Speaker 1>criteria for PTSD at the end of the study. When

0:27:13.320 --> 0:27:16.480
<v Speaker 1>did you ascertain that you had developed the ability to

0:27:16.560 --> 0:27:19.480
<v Speaker 1>know when you were taking drugs and you were self

0:27:19.560 --> 0:27:22.080
<v Speaker 1>medicating in a recreational way, and when you were taking

0:27:22.160 --> 0:27:25.240
<v Speaker 1>drugs and it was part of your scientific research, Meaning

0:27:25.400 --> 0:27:29.359
<v Speaker 1>when did you sidestep the Dr Checkl and Mr Hyde

0:27:29.480 --> 0:27:32.480
<v Speaker 1>steven sony and a chapter of your life there? Well,

0:27:32.520 --> 0:27:35.399
<v Speaker 1>I would say for many people who use drugs. It

0:27:35.520 --> 0:27:39.920
<v Speaker 1>is a daily calibration and a daily question and an

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:45.360
<v Speaker 1>important question to be conscious of. What is your relationship

0:27:45.440 --> 0:27:48.119
<v Speaker 1>with this drug? When are you using it, How are

0:27:48.119 --> 0:27:50.360
<v Speaker 1>you using it, Why are you using it? Is it

0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:54.359
<v Speaker 1>interfering with other things that need to happen? But you know,

0:27:54.480 --> 0:27:57.159
<v Speaker 1>I think these are hard questions. Did you come to

0:27:57.200 --> 0:27:59.320
<v Speaker 1>that point yourself when you were younger where you said

0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:01.120
<v Speaker 1>there are things you were doing that that you thought

0:28:01.119 --> 0:28:03.800
<v Speaker 1>you thought as if this isn't helping me, right? Sure?

0:28:03.840 --> 0:28:06.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean I I smoked cigarettes for years and years

0:28:06.359 --> 0:28:09.199
<v Speaker 1>and years before stopping, and that was something I'm a singer,

0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:12.560
<v Speaker 1>so I knew that that was just stupid to do. Um,

0:28:12.600 --> 0:28:14.919
<v Speaker 1>but it was really hard. And I quit cigarettes twice

0:28:14.960 --> 0:28:17.080
<v Speaker 1>for two years and started up again twice, and I

0:28:17.119 --> 0:28:19.639
<v Speaker 1>was amazed. Um, I knew I could quit, so I

0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:21.240
<v Speaker 1>knew I could start up again. And the kind of

0:28:21.320 --> 0:28:24.520
<v Speaker 1>rationalizations you make when you started up again. I know

0:28:24.640 --> 0:28:26.399
<v Speaker 1>you grew up with brothers. I grew up with sisters,

0:28:26.400 --> 0:28:29.479
<v Speaker 1>but I'm I'm the youngest of three, and you know

0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:31.320
<v Speaker 1>I was I wanted to do what their friends were doing.

0:28:31.359 --> 0:28:33.480
<v Speaker 1>So when I was eight, I had my first beer.

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:35.239
<v Speaker 1>When I was ten, I had my first cigarette. When

0:28:35.240 --> 0:28:37.199
<v Speaker 1>I was twelve, I have my first cannabis, and when

0:28:37.200 --> 0:28:42.800
<v Speaker 1>I was fourteen, I have my first psychedelic. So very young, yes, precocious,

0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:47.720
<v Speaker 1>but always taking notes, learn learning, going to the library.

0:28:47.720 --> 0:28:49.160
<v Speaker 1>You know, we didn't have the internet back then. You

0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:51.400
<v Speaker 1>want to learn something, you had an encyclopedia, or you

0:28:51.440 --> 0:28:53.400
<v Speaker 1>asked your mom to drive you the library. But I

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:55.960
<v Speaker 1>would do like any time I had to do a report,

0:28:56.040 --> 0:28:58.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, I would be doing it on the brain

0:28:58.080 --> 0:29:00.560
<v Speaker 1>or on the Smoking thing was the thing you did

0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:03.160
<v Speaker 1>when you were very young. It wasn't like five years

0:29:03.160 --> 0:29:05.720
<v Speaker 1>ago your husband catches you in the bat in the

0:29:05.760 --> 0:29:07.760
<v Speaker 1>in the garage smoking out there in the country. So

0:29:07.800 --> 0:29:10.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, thank goodness. I quit smoking right before I

0:29:10.120 --> 0:29:12.200
<v Speaker 1>met Jeremy. And it's a good thing I did, because

0:29:12.200 --> 0:29:13.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you would have spoken to me if

0:29:13.720 --> 0:29:15.640
<v Speaker 1>I had a cigarette in my hand. So I quit

0:29:15.680 --> 0:29:18.320
<v Speaker 1>when I was twenty nine. But I smoked, you know,

0:29:18.600 --> 0:29:21.600
<v Speaker 1>steady from like fifteen to twenty nine, and not so

0:29:21.680 --> 0:29:24.280
<v Speaker 1>much steady from ten to fifteen. But still I would

0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:27.160
<v Speaker 1>like bumb cigarettes from people. And it was like, look

0:29:27.200 --> 0:29:30.320
<v Speaker 1>at this cute little kid bone a cigarette. That's so cute. Yeah,

0:29:30.840 --> 0:29:34.640
<v Speaker 1>and I've got a handful of friends who are formally

0:29:34.680 --> 0:29:38.440
<v Speaker 1>getting divorced now. Of course, the groundwork was laid prior

0:29:38.520 --> 0:29:42.080
<v Speaker 1>to the COVID, but the COVID has certainly pushed everybody

0:29:42.120 --> 0:29:44.920
<v Speaker 1>over the edge. They filed for divorce, They're getting divorced.

0:29:44.920 --> 0:29:48.400
<v Speaker 1>Not a discussion anymore, They've moved on. I was gonna

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:51.040
<v Speaker 1>mention before when I said that people are falling back

0:29:51.080 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 1>on and relying on different things to medicate themselves, like

0:29:54.240 --> 0:29:59.280
<v Speaker 1>food and media and social media and TV watching and pornography.

0:29:59.320 --> 0:30:02.640
<v Speaker 1>I thought, you win a house, and you're just as likely,

0:30:02.720 --> 0:30:04.840
<v Speaker 1>maybe not more likely, but just as likely to go

0:30:04.880 --> 0:30:07.640
<v Speaker 1>in the bathroom with a computer and have online sex,

0:30:07.720 --> 0:30:10.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, and watch porn than you actually have sex

0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:12.720
<v Speaker 1>with your partner in your house because the two of

0:30:12.760 --> 0:30:15.480
<v Speaker 1>you are so sick of each other, like like normally

0:30:15.520 --> 0:30:17.080
<v Speaker 1>there is there is there like a spike in the

0:30:17.160 --> 0:30:20.360
<v Speaker 1>birthrate after a lockdown, And are we not going to

0:30:20.480 --> 0:30:23.200
<v Speaker 1>see the spike in the birthrate from this because everyone's

0:30:23.200 --> 0:30:26.040
<v Speaker 1>in the bathroom doing their own thing. Now, Yeah, well,

0:30:26.120 --> 0:30:28.720
<v Speaker 1>then connecting with that person a couple of things there,

0:30:28.760 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, I actually I wrote about masturbating

0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:34.960
<v Speaker 1>to porn quite a bit in moody bitches, because you know,

0:30:35.000 --> 0:30:36.880
<v Speaker 1>when you have an orgasm, you have an increase in

0:30:36.920 --> 0:30:40.400
<v Speaker 1>oxytocin that makes you bond or trust or be open

0:30:41.000 --> 0:30:43.640
<v Speaker 1>to the person who enabled that orgasm. But if you're

0:30:43.680 --> 0:30:45.800
<v Speaker 1>doing that with your laptop, are you bonding with your

0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:49.960
<v Speaker 1>laptop every time? So maybe? But the other thing I

0:30:49.960 --> 0:30:52.400
<v Speaker 1>will say is that I definitely have patients who have

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 1>left their husbands or left their partners during these past

0:30:56.160 --> 0:30:58.360
<v Speaker 1>six months. There's no question this has been like a

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:00.800
<v Speaker 1>crucible where you're like, oh my gosh, we're in the

0:31:00.840 --> 0:31:04.240
<v Speaker 1>best place we've ever been in or yeah, no, that's over.

0:31:04.600 --> 0:31:08.320
<v Speaker 1>So um. There's not much middle ground here. And when

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:10.640
<v Speaker 1>this ends, if it ends how it ends, there is

0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:12.960
<v Speaker 1>going to be post traumatic stress disorder. I think that's

0:31:13.000 --> 0:31:16.560
<v Speaker 1>pretty clear. You know, we are currently being chronically stressed,

0:31:16.600 --> 0:31:18.960
<v Speaker 1>and so in theory, once the chronic stress is over,

0:31:19.320 --> 0:31:21.720
<v Speaker 1>then you have the post traumatic stress disorder. You know,

0:31:21.720 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>people who have PTSD. From nine eleven, It was a

0:31:24.120 --> 0:31:26.240
<v Speaker 1>terrible day in New York City, but it was one

0:31:26.360 --> 0:31:34.200
<v Speaker 1>day and then it was over. Psychiatrist Julie Holland. When

0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:38.040
<v Speaker 1>we return Julie Holland talks about why the pandemic is

0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:52.440
<v Speaker 1>particularly challenging for already anxious kids. I'm Alec Baldwin, and

0:31:52.520 --> 0:31:55.560
<v Speaker 1>this is here's the thing. I wanted to understand why

0:31:55.680 --> 0:32:00.800
<v Speaker 1>someone starts seeing a psychiatrist. So usually if somebody comes

0:32:00.800 --> 0:32:03.120
<v Speaker 1>to me, it's because they're already in therapy and their

0:32:03.160 --> 0:32:05.640
<v Speaker 1>therapist is saying, I think you need to talk about medicines.

0:32:05.680 --> 0:32:09.240
<v Speaker 1>I think medicines would help you. So they've already sort

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 1>of gone past the threshold. It's not just like people

0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:13.680
<v Speaker 1>are coming to me and saying, you know, I feel

0:32:13.720 --> 0:32:16.240
<v Speaker 1>lousy and I don't know why, although I mean back

0:32:16.240 --> 0:32:18.360
<v Speaker 1>in the nineties that was the case. The people were

0:32:18.400 --> 0:32:19.880
<v Speaker 1>just I don't know what's the matter with me, and

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:21.440
<v Speaker 1>I would have to sort of hold their hand and

0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:23.680
<v Speaker 1>convince them that, you know, maybe they ainty medicine. I

0:32:23.680 --> 0:32:26.520
<v Speaker 1>don't have to do any kind of destigmatizing with medicine.

0:32:26.520 --> 0:32:30.920
<v Speaker 1>Now everybody knows somebody who's taking antidepressants, anti anxiety meds,

0:32:30.920 --> 0:32:34.520
<v Speaker 1>sleeping pills, they're everywhere, right, they're advertised. We you know,

0:32:34.560 --> 0:32:36.719
<v Speaker 1>we're all sort of soaking in it. So I do

0:32:36.800 --> 0:32:38.600
<v Speaker 1>think ever since nine eleven, I think a lot of

0:32:38.600 --> 0:32:41.840
<v Speaker 1>people got permission to medicate themselves, so when they come

0:32:41.880 --> 0:32:44.840
<v Speaker 1>to you, it's beyond talk. So yeah, they're coming because

0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:48.120
<v Speaker 1>they're wondering if they need medicines. They hit a wall,

0:32:48.240 --> 0:32:50.400
<v Speaker 1>they need the medicine to get through that wall. They've

0:32:50.440 --> 0:32:52.640
<v Speaker 1>definitely hit a wall. Or I have people coming to

0:32:52.640 --> 0:32:54.600
<v Speaker 1>me who've been on medicines for years who want to

0:32:54.600 --> 0:32:56.680
<v Speaker 1>get off, and that's something that I help people do.

0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:59.960
<v Speaker 1>And it's really complicated to get off antidepressants when you

0:33:00.080 --> 0:33:03.520
<v Speaker 1>been on them for decades, which unfortunately happens a lot.

0:33:03.600 --> 0:33:05.600
<v Speaker 1>You know, these meds were really only studied to be

0:33:05.720 --> 0:33:08.320
<v Speaker 1>used for six months or maybe twelve months, and in

0:33:08.440 --> 0:33:11.040
<v Speaker 1>some people you have to take them long term. But

0:33:11.120 --> 0:33:13.520
<v Speaker 1>almost everybody, they get on them and they stay on

0:33:13.560 --> 0:33:16.640
<v Speaker 1>them because they do make it easier. You know, what

0:33:17.000 --> 0:33:19.760
<v Speaker 1>I talk about in good chemistry is they don't necessarily

0:33:19.800 --> 0:33:22.040
<v Speaker 1>give you more connections in your life. They just make

0:33:22.080 --> 0:33:25.160
<v Speaker 1>you not mine that you're disconnected. That's my friend. My

0:33:25.320 --> 0:33:28.160
<v Speaker 1>friend said that once. He said, I took drugs because

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:31.640
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to care less about my problems, he said,

0:33:31.680 --> 0:33:34.160
<v Speaker 1>And I stopped dating taking drugs because I wanted to

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:38.000
<v Speaker 1>care again. I wanted to care again. And he said,

0:33:38.000 --> 0:33:39.640
<v Speaker 1>and that that was the mechanism in which I can

0:33:39.680 --> 0:33:42.240
<v Speaker 1>then move forward and start to care about what's happening

0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:45.000
<v Speaker 1>to me, my loved once, my children, right and then

0:33:45.160 --> 0:33:47.880
<v Speaker 1>and if you care, you can make changes. And you know,

0:33:48.000 --> 0:33:50.320
<v Speaker 1>I definitely want to say for the twelve step programs

0:33:50.320 --> 0:33:52.440
<v Speaker 1>that there is a lot of love in those rooms,

0:33:52.440 --> 0:33:54.360
<v Speaker 1>and there's a lot of connection in those rooms. And

0:33:54.400 --> 0:33:56.800
<v Speaker 1>you walk in fit's your home meeting, and you're going

0:33:56.840 --> 0:33:59.680
<v Speaker 1>again and again. There is that sense of belonging and

0:34:00.000 --> 0:34:03.360
<v Speaker 1>safety and all of those things feeling connected, feeling safe,

0:34:03.360 --> 0:34:05.880
<v Speaker 1>feeling like you belong to something bigger than you. Those

0:34:05.880 --> 0:34:09.000
<v Speaker 1>are high oxytocin states that get you out of fight

0:34:09.080 --> 0:34:13.080
<v Speaker 1>or flight and into this whole other paradigm for your body,

0:34:13.080 --> 0:34:16.480
<v Speaker 1>which is called the parasympathetic nervous system. Right, So it's

0:34:16.520 --> 0:34:19.520
<v Speaker 1>the opposite of the sympathetic nervous system. And good chemistry

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:22.000
<v Speaker 1>talks a lot about how to get yourself out of

0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:25.160
<v Speaker 1>fight or flight and over into what you could call

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:29.560
<v Speaker 1>rest and digest or connect and protect, or tend and befriend.

0:34:29.560 --> 0:34:32.319
<v Speaker 1>But it's it's the things that aren't fighting and running away.

0:34:32.320 --> 0:34:37.760
<v Speaker 1>It's things like staying and negotiating and cooperating and collaborating.

0:34:37.800 --> 0:34:40.120
<v Speaker 1>You know, all those things can't happen when we're in

0:34:40.160 --> 0:34:42.960
<v Speaker 1>fight or flight. And if we're being traumatized, and if

0:34:42.960 --> 0:34:45.959
<v Speaker 1>we're afraid of contagion, and if we have a sense

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<v Speaker 1>of powerlessness, we're all going to be in fight or

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<v Speaker 1>flight way too much of the time. Are you concerned?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, our research such as it is, you know

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<v Speaker 1>my show, are producers that anti anxiety prescriptions for kids

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<v Speaker 1>have on up significantly during the COVID. Does that concern you? Oh? Absolutely? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, you know, over pathologizing women and children

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<v Speaker 1>is really a reflection of the sort of patriarchal structure

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<v Speaker 1>in medicine. But we you know, some people get sort

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<v Speaker 1>of narcissistic about their kids, and their kids are like

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<v Speaker 1>extensions of themselves, you know. And there is a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a sort of a niche population in New

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<v Speaker 1>York City where it's almost like you take pride if

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<v Speaker 1>your kid is going to a psychiatrist, or your kids

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<v Speaker 1>in therapy, or your kid has like special classes or something.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's the thing. Are culture is pretty toxic right

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<v Speaker 1>now and very anxiety producing right now, and it is

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<v Speaker 1>normal to be anxious fear of contagion is a real thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is normal to be afraid that you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get sick, or that your parents are gonna get sick,

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 1>or that your grandparents are gonna die. That's all normal anxiety.

0:35:51.239 --> 0:35:53.759
<v Speaker 1>And then it's normal to be anxious if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what's going to happen next month or next year,

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<v Speaker 1>or whether you're going to be in class or at home,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, or whether you're gonna be allowed to touch

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<v Speaker 1>your friends or hug your friends or play sports. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many reasons we have right now for kids

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<v Speaker 1>being anxious. All the rules have changed, right that everything

0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:10.920
<v Speaker 1>they used to be able to do, they can't do anymore.

0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 1>And also wearing masks. And I'm not saying that we

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't wear masks. We should all wear masks, but you know,

0:36:16.520 --> 0:36:18.360
<v Speaker 1>it would be great as if we had clear masks

0:36:18.680 --> 0:36:22.879
<v Speaker 1>because interpreting social cues, if we could interpret social shoes.

0:36:22.960 --> 0:36:24.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, now with a mask, you can't tell if

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<v Speaker 1>someone's smirking at you or smiling or yawning, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>so and our brains because back when we were cave people,

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<v Speaker 1>if you got kicked out of the group, you were

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get picked off the herd. You were gonna die,

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<v Speaker 1>or no one was going to share their food with you,

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<v Speaker 1>or no one's going to help you build a structure.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, if you weren't in the club and in

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<v Speaker 1>the tribe and you got separated or ostracized, you were

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<v Speaker 1>gonna die. And so we still, on a very deep level,

0:36:50.719 --> 0:36:52.840
<v Speaker 1>have that kind of reaction. Am I safe? Am I

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<v Speaker 1>in the group? Am I okay? So when you're on

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<v Speaker 1>a zoom meeting and there's like eight people, your brain

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<v Speaker 1>is scanning, scanning all the time to make sure everybody's

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<v Speaker 1>okay with you. And if it's a herky jerky connection

0:37:03.320 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 1>or you can't see their face or their cameras off,

0:37:06.200 --> 0:37:08.839
<v Speaker 1>that's missing data that your brain is trying to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>fill in. So that will make us anxious. So these

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:13.840
<v Speaker 1>kids that are on zoom calls or the kids that

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<v Speaker 1>can play with their friends but they can't really play

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<v Speaker 1>the way they used to play. And don't don't go

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<v Speaker 1>run to Johnny. You know, Johnny's dad works in the

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<v Speaker 1>emergency room. Don't stand back like the rules keep changing,

0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:27.320
<v Speaker 1>the social rules are changing, and they and they can't

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<v Speaker 1>be held and comforted by so many people Now it's

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<v Speaker 1>just maybe your parents and that's it. I have always

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<v Speaker 1>viewed myself that I've typically been for most of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>A person that functions under my trust is yours to lose.

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<v Speaker 1>When I met people, I was very open, regardless of

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<v Speaker 1>what I did for a living. And now with this

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on in the world, as much as anything

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<v Speaker 1>in combination with the COVID, it's made me think, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my trust is yours to gain. I'm going to go

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<v Speaker 1>out in the world now filled with suspicions. I'm wondering,

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<v Speaker 1>do you find that this suspicion, this neurosis about going

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<v Speaker 1>back out into the world. Are we going to go

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<v Speaker 1>back into the world and everyone's going to be different. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>so there's a few things that are making us suspicious.

0:38:12.360 --> 0:38:15.480
<v Speaker 1>We're worried about somebody getting us sick, and we're worried

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<v Speaker 1>about our democracy crumbling and that people around us don't

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<v Speaker 1>get it or they're so misinformed that they're never going

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<v Speaker 1>to get it. Yeah, it's all completely terrifying. So look,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the the idea with oxytocin is if somebody

0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:33.319
<v Speaker 1>makes you trust them, then you are more open. You

0:38:33.400 --> 0:38:37.279
<v Speaker 1>have more oxytocin you become more trusting. They feel that

0:38:37.320 --> 0:38:40.080
<v Speaker 1>you're becoming more trusting, they start to have more oxytocin

0:38:40.320 --> 0:38:43.200
<v Speaker 1>and its cycles upward from that, you know, more eye

0:38:43.280 --> 0:38:45.919
<v Speaker 1>contact if you could hold them or like a really

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<v Speaker 1>great but but is everybody get to turn the oxytocin

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<v Speaker 1>spick it off when they go out? It has been

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<v Speaker 1>turned off? First of all, you only have oxytocin if

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<v Speaker 1>you're in that parasympathetic state. We're calm, right, so it

0:38:59.200 --> 0:39:01.520
<v Speaker 1>has been turned if you know, here's the analogy I

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<v Speaker 1>give of. You know, when you're in fight or flight,

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<v Speaker 1>which we all are now, right, if your kitchens on fire,

0:39:06.600 --> 0:39:08.520
<v Speaker 1>you don't pick up the phone if it's ringing, or

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<v Speaker 1>make a call, or you know you're that a fire

0:39:10.960 --> 0:39:13.279
<v Speaker 1>and like where's the fire extinguisher? Or have to run

0:39:13.280 --> 0:39:15.680
<v Speaker 1>out of the house. You don't have any social skills.

0:39:15.719 --> 0:39:18.359
<v Speaker 1>You're not. There's no niceness there. So the more we're

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<v Speaker 1>in fight or flight and the more we're in the

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<v Speaker 1>sympathetic mode, the lousier are social skills are, the less

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<v Speaker 1>we trust, the less oxytocin we have. You know, you

0:39:27.280 --> 0:39:29.480
<v Speaker 1>don't really have oxytocin when you're in fight or flight.

0:39:29.560 --> 0:39:32.839
<v Speaker 1>You have adrenaline and cortisol. And this is why we

0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:35.680
<v Speaker 1>can't sleep. You know, we're biting our nails, we're trying

0:39:35.719 --> 0:39:39.200
<v Speaker 1>to soothe ourselves orally, you've got this fat around your stomach.

0:39:39.400 --> 0:39:42.400
<v Speaker 1>It's because we're in fight or flight. It deranges your metabolism.

0:39:42.719 --> 0:39:45.080
<v Speaker 1>It makes it very hard to sleep, you don't digest

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<v Speaker 1>your food. Well, all the things that happen in parasympathetic

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<v Speaker 1>where you can rest and digest and you can have

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<v Speaker 1>sex and you can be social, none of those things

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<v Speaker 1>happen when we're in fight or flight. Like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>my fear this is so antathetical to my nature. But

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<v Speaker 1>my fear is I'm gonna go out into the world

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<v Speaker 1>with with this idea of like the less people in

0:40:06.760 --> 0:40:09.279
<v Speaker 1>my life now the better people are the problem. And

0:40:09.640 --> 0:40:12.760
<v Speaker 1>I need people in my life on an as needed basis.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone who's in my life, why are you in my life?

0:40:16.600 --> 0:40:18.839
<v Speaker 1>And if I don't have a really good reason, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's literally like we're all gonna on an emotional level,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna go in and we're all going to clean

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<v Speaker 1>out the closet now right, Well, it's like does this

0:40:26.000 --> 0:40:29.319
<v Speaker 1>person spark joy or not? No, they have to go.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, but that's good. I want to say one

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<v Speaker 1>thing about your on WE at five o'clock in the evening,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is, if you ever have a morning that

0:40:37.719 --> 0:40:39.920
<v Speaker 1>you can get out and go see a sunrise. It

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<v Speaker 1>is the antidote to that on WE that if you

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<v Speaker 1>happen to be around for dawn and sunrise, you will

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<v Speaker 1>have a little more hope. Um, and you know, don't

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<v Speaker 1>bring your phone, don't don't like no news, have like

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<v Speaker 1>an hour of nature, you know. No, I turned my

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<v Speaker 1>phone off a lot. I've been doing much better with

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<v Speaker 1>my phone. Well, listen, I think, I think if you

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<v Speaker 1>read me correctly, I'm not quite sure, but you are

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<v Speaker 1>a professional listener. What I want is I want to

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<v Speaker 1>take some pharmaceuticals with you, and we're going to paddle

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<v Speaker 1>out into the mist together. We're gonna just open ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>up to whatever the universe is telling us. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm being silly, but it's like, well, it's soothing though.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like hydrotherapy, you know, just listening. You know, first

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<v Speaker 1>of all, even just the salt air, even just smelling

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<v Speaker 1>the salt there is good for your brain. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much for doing this with us. Thank you so much,

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely my pleasure. Anytime you know you need to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to a shrink, you come call me. I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>in touch with you, okay it' Psychiatrist Julie Holland has

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<v Speaker 1>a private practice in New York City. I'm out like Baldwin.

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