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<v Speaker 1>Hey there, folks, is there even a such thing as

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<v Speaker 1>a mister right? Well? Our guest in studio today says yes,

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<v Speaker 1>but my co host says, she's still looking for him,

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<v Speaker 1>and with that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ. Rose.

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<v Speaker 1>You're still looking for him?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh? I mean I think I'm looking right at him.

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<v Speaker 1>You're looking at him or looking for him?

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<v Speaker 2>This at him, not for him, at him? And I

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<v Speaker 2>was never looking for him. He just was there all along.

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<v Speaker 1>No one, come on now, wait, in all of your

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<v Speaker 1>was there site at some point in your mind? At

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<v Speaker 1>some point your dating life? I know you kind of

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<v Speaker 1>had a couple of long marriages, but did you have

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<v Speaker 1>a mindset growing up that there is a mister right

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<v Speaker 1>for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? My god, Yes, you know how much I love

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<v Speaker 2>my rom coms and all of my you know, Disney

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<v Speaker 2>movies and Broadway musicals where in the end and Jane Austen,

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<v Speaker 2>where everything works out and you find your man. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>of course I wanted that. Of course I thought that

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<v Speaker 2>was out there.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, now tell me what is your definition? And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not saying like put me into that category, but what

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<v Speaker 1>generally would you think women are talking about when they

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<v Speaker 1>say there is a mister right or is that different

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<v Speaker 1>for everybody?

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<v Speaker 2>No? I actually don't think it is. I think I

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<v Speaker 2>think for women, we want somebody who supports us, somebody

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<v Speaker 2>who is attracted to us. We want somebody who loves

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<v Speaker 2>us even when we're at our worst and can like

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<v Speaker 2>us when we're at our best. Yeah. I think that

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<v Speaker 2>sums it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that everybody's missus right as well? I mean, is

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<v Speaker 1>that that sounds like something that's in human nature versus

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<v Speaker 1>this is not a mad woman thing?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not? But only you could tell me that.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you say?

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<v Speaker 2>I was?

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even read my own handwriting? The first thing

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<v Speaker 1>supports us, yes, attracted to us yep, loves us at

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<v Speaker 1>our words, at our worst ours, and likes us at

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<v Speaker 1>our best, at our best. Okay, Yeah, I think everybody

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<v Speaker 1>is looking for that thing. Then why is it so difficult?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it difficult to find that person you're looking for?

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<v Speaker 1>Or you might get exactly what you're looking for, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you air in how you go about the relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>because getting the right person does that mean you're in

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<v Speaker 1>the right relationship? Getting the right person does that mean

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<v Speaker 1>now you're in a forever relationship?

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<v Speaker 2>I think if you're with the other person who's in

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<v Speaker 2>it and committed to going through the moments when you

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<v Speaker 2>don't necessarily like the person you love. That's where the

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<v Speaker 2>trouble ensues. When I said love us when we're at

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<v Speaker 2>our worst, I think that's the ding ding ding ding ding.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the tough part. I think that's when

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<v Speaker 2>it gets hard. I think that's when people say the

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<v Speaker 2>rest of it isn't good enough to support that, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it is. But I think for me that is the

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<v Speaker 2>telltale sign.

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<v Speaker 1>You think I love you at your worst?

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<v Speaker 2>That's TBD.

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<v Speaker 1>So I haven't seen your worst.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think you've see my worst. I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 2>if you love me when I'm at my worst?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what is Tell me what it is?

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<v Speaker 2>I've experienced your expression of your reaction to it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, what is you? What is it? You at

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<v Speaker 1>your worst? It's what I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't know, Probably me saying something not so nice and

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<v Speaker 2>walking away. I don't That hasn't happened yet.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened once.

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<v Speaker 2>It did happen once.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a dramatic exit.

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<v Speaker 2>Happened once though, And did you still love me? No?

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<v Speaker 1>No, the love is never a question. The love is

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<v Speaker 1>never questioned, it's only about the like so all we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about. I'm holding in my hand a book and

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<v Speaker 1>the title of that book is how to attract the

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<v Speaker 1>right guy, avoid situationships, step into wifey energy, and get

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<v Speaker 1>him to commit.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's what a lot of women want.

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<v Speaker 1>How many years ago could you have used.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Maybe from the beginning. This started very early for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I was engaged at twenty one. Wow, yes, maybe I

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<v Speaker 2>just from twenty two, Yeah, i'd engaged, same with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Yes, I was married by the age of twenty

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<v Speaker 1>three first the.

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<v Speaker 2>Same twenty three first marriage. Wow. Notice we both said

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<v Speaker 2>first marriage. So yes, I think, yes, I could have

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<v Speaker 2>used this book for.

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<v Speaker 1>Our Gunsden studio. Now we are obviously we have some

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<v Speaker 1>relationship experience and a lot of people out there no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what, whatever relationship you're in, I think we could

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<v Speaker 1>all use some council. And if you're looking for relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>we could all use some kind of counsel in some way,

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<v Speaker 1>form or fashion. So it's cool to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to someone who is now in the business of

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<v Speaker 1>getting people together. And Talia we Met is the name. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>Talia we Met. Her last name is we Met, and

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<v Speaker 1>she's now a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Experts, w e me et like you might think, No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's so much cooler than that. It's so French. It's

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<v Speaker 2>oh you I et we met like we we we?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So she's a matchmaker author as well and in

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<v Speaker 1>the studio with us. Can can we start with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Is there a mister right? Should every woman that you

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<v Speaker 1>do coach?

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<v Speaker 3>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you tell them there is a mister right for you?

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<v Speaker 1>And what is that?

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, there's a mister right. And every time you give

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<v Speaker 3>your energy to mister wrong, you're missing out on mister right.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think we have to get really good at

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<v Speaker 3>cutting these bad guys out that are breadcrumbing you so

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<v Speaker 3>that you can continue to attract mister right.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct.

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<v Speaker 1>Because Okay, I was gonna say, does everybody in the

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<v Speaker 1>room understand where that is? What is the break?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? Red crumbing? Okay, so it's trending right now. Breadcrumbing

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<v Speaker 3>is when someone's giving you a lot of attention and

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<v Speaker 3>they kind of pull away because they're seeing other people.

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<v Speaker 3>But then they feel you pulling away, so they throw

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<v Speaker 3>you a little bit of attention to real you back in.

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<v Speaker 3>But they're still seeing so many other people, so they're

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<v Speaker 3>kind of playing like hot cold, hot cold. It's very toxic.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't like break crumbing.

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<v Speaker 2>But as soon as you say it, every woman who's

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<v Speaker 2>gone through that understands exactly what you meant. I have

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<v Speaker 2>a question. Is there just one mister right or could

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<v Speaker 2>there be a mister right now? I mean, as a matchmaker,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Step out here, tell ya apparently this is not my podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>God geez, you are here. My T shirt that says

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<v Speaker 2>right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I can explain that story. But tellia you good with

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<v Speaker 1>your answer?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, as imagine me as a dating coach, I

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<v Speaker 3>am all for mister right, not mister right now. I

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<v Speaker 3>do think that people come and come into your life

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<v Speaker 3>first season, you know, for a reason as well, But

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<v Speaker 3>overall you're looking for a mister right and you're looking

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<v Speaker 3>for the one.

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<v Speaker 1>So does the problem though? I know you get people together,

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<v Speaker 1>but how much of the success of the relationship. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess a they two different things. Can you be a

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<v Speaker 1>good match but then end up being mates? Is that

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<v Speaker 1>possible that on paper and everything you look good like

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<v Speaker 1>they should work and then something changes after a marriage

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<v Speaker 1>takes place.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, okay, so now those are kind of two different things.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I have seen two matches. We're on paper, it

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<v Speaker 3>looks perfect. You know, both devoted Christians, both love golden retrievers,

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<v Speaker 3>both blah blah blah, come from the same family type whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>But then energetically, I just know that their sense of

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<v Speaker 3>humor won't be in alignment. And so I do think

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<v Speaker 3>energy comes into a huge play. You know, is she

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<v Speaker 3>and her feminine? Is he in his masculine? Like if

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<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of different things. So on paper, it

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<v Speaker 3>could be a great match, but then the chemistry's off.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you said a lot more to it. You said energy,

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<v Speaker 2>and this was something I was reading your book and

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<v Speaker 2>I was looking at your Instagram page and you talk

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<v Speaker 2>to women. Correct me if I'm wrong, if I say

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<v Speaker 2>this incorrectly, but that they should be channeling their feminine

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<v Speaker 2>energy versus their boss lady energy. Explain why, Oh, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Love that question, because every man loves a feminine woman.

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<v Speaker 3>The feminine The feminine woman will win every time. And

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<v Speaker 3>it's so easy, you know, especially being an entrepreneur. I

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<v Speaker 3>share my books, some personal stories, and it's so easy

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<v Speaker 3>to stay in your masculine because you're working hard and

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<v Speaker 3>you're constantly meetings and blah blah, blah. But you have

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<v Speaker 3>to learn how to turn it off. And I give

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<v Speaker 3>all my tips and tricks in the book on how

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<v Speaker 3>to tap back into that feminine because it can go

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<v Speaker 3>back and forth throughout the day. You just have to

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<v Speaker 3>know when to turn it off. Because men aren't looking

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<v Speaker 3>to come home from their workday and go on a

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<v Speaker 3>date with a woman who only wants to talk about

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<v Speaker 3>worker who's very in her masculine in that moment, he

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<v Speaker 3>wants a feminine girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you got to help me with this one here, fly,

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<v Speaker 1>because I assume some people might take issue with telling

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<v Speaker 1>a woman to turn it off turn it on to

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<v Speaker 1>almost appease whatever we men might have in our minds

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<v Speaker 1>about what the feminine or delicate or weaker sex how

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<v Speaker 1>they should behave. So help us work through that part

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<v Speaker 1>where a woman hearing I got to turn something off

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<v Speaker 1>or or be more feminine to cater to this dude,

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<v Speaker 1>or no, or just being.

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<v Speaker 3>Your feminine all the time. But that's hard, Like how

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<v Speaker 3>are you going to work a boardroom and being your

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<v Speaker 3>feminine the entire time? That's tough. So that's why I'm

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<v Speaker 3>saying it's it's truly a balance. No, when to tap

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<v Speaker 3>into it's so important as a business woman, as an entrepreneur.

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<v Speaker 3>I know one I have to turn on my mask

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<v Speaker 3>and to be taken seriously in a room, and I

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<v Speaker 3>also know when it turned on my feminine, dainty side.

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<v Speaker 1>So tell you I went to almost apologize. Well, I apologize,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm saying, you're saying it from this it works.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you're saying for like every.

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<v Speaker 3>Woman I've ever worked with who's a CEO of a

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<v Speaker 3>fortune five hundred company is not thriving on these DIDs.

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<v Speaker 3>And I empathize with her because I was her. I

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<v Speaker 3>lost my feminine energy and I talk about it in

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<v Speaker 3>my book, and I'm like, listen, if you once had it,

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<v Speaker 3>it can come back. You just have to be self aware.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of women get that. So I'm sitting from

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<v Speaker 1>a different position to where I again, I can only

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<v Speaker 1>compare it to an African American who knows how to

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<v Speaker 1>almost code switch is what we call it. You behave

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<v Speaker 1>this way in front of this audience in the boardroom,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you go back to being yourself. You're speaking

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<v Speaker 1>from it to where it might to some on the

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<v Speaker 1>outside even or might to say it out loud, seems

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<v Speaker 1>like offensive. But this is what you all deal with

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<v Speaker 1>and talk about all the time. This is reality for

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<v Speaker 1>women that from my seat I don't get.

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<v Speaker 3>And look, I've done both, so I can speak to

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't thriving. I'm talking about when I was single

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<v Speaker 3>in New York, and I talk about in my book

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<v Speaker 3>and make sure all my dating stories how the second

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<v Speaker 3>that I hit the jackpot of I had lost that

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<v Speaker 3>feminine energy and I was coming into these dates with

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<v Speaker 3>the masculine energy. That's when things weren't thriving. And the

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<v Speaker 3>second I switched my energy back to feminine when I

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<v Speaker 3>was on the dates. So you know, the proof is

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<v Speaker 3>in the pudding. That's all I can tell you. And

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<v Speaker 3>I give all my tricks because there are little things

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<v Speaker 3>you can do on you know, when you get home

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<v Speaker 3>to just kind of get back in that feminine flow.

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<v Speaker 2>Tal you, does it feel manipulent? It all? Like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just I'm thinking about because I'm I'm interested to come

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<v Speaker 2>into it because obviously I've always had that that probably

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<v Speaker 2>that boss lady energy. You were my friend when I

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<v Speaker 2>had boss lady energy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, oh you're a sweetye pie.

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<v Speaker 2>Your obviously do it. You know that's not true.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to save you all the time, but

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<v Speaker 1>you still.

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<v Speaker 2>You still This is interesting though, Like I'm curious. I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't even think to Obviously, I've been married a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>so I wasn't dating that much while I was in

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<v Speaker 2>my business world. But I'm curious actually listening to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand what you're saying, but I'm asking you, TJ

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<v Speaker 2>as a man, where you turned off at all, because

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<v Speaker 2>you would definitely say I had more of the boss

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<v Speaker 2>lady energy and less of the feminine energy around you.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the thing I say to you all the time?

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<v Speaker 1>You are such a sweetheart. I wish other people knew that.

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<v Speaker 1>And really she's a She's this tender, she's sweet and

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<v Speaker 1>that feminine energy maybe you speak of, but as a

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<v Speaker 1>colleague and saying her around the studio for so long,

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<v Speaker 1>nobody has any clue about the person I know. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's what your.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you're saying. You're saying that sometimes women we

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<v Speaker 2>have to be That's I've never thought about it like that,

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<v Speaker 2>And you have.

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<v Speaker 3>Come to who you really are. That's the truth. And

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<v Speaker 3>you know what else I've noticed because I also host

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<v Speaker 3>women workshops, and what I've also noticed is that even

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<v Speaker 3>when you're in a marriage and you're in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes you lose that femininity because sometimes like your husband's

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<v Speaker 3>gone for the entire waks, so you're the one taking

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<v Speaker 3>out of try. You're doing all these masculine things because femininity,

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<v Speaker 3>down to one word, is receiving. That's one word. It's receiving.

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<v Speaker 3>It's about receiving. And so when you're in your masculine

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<v Speaker 3>for so long in a marriage or in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes you lose that. So you have to constantly check

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<v Speaker 3>in with yourself. And also, by the way, for the

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<v Speaker 3>man's side too. You know, the man needs to stain

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<v Speaker 3>his masculine because we as femine, most of us are

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<v Speaker 3>not looking for a feminine man, you know, we want

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<v Speaker 3>we want to protect and provide her. So it goes

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<v Speaker 3>both ways.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell you, I'm kind of blown away because I understand

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<v Speaker 2>everything you're saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I love, but you're a blown away that she's

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<v Speaker 1>saying it.

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<v Speaker 2>I am. So that's where I'm That's where I'm going next.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm blown away that you're saying it. Do you get

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of pushback? A lot of people who take

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<v Speaker 2>offense to what you're saying about these stereotypical gender roles.

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<v Speaker 3>No, because people are starting to finally say, wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 3>like Bob switch, this is why my relationship is not

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<v Speaker 3>working out, or this is why I'm not thriving and dating.

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<v Speaker 3>And the second they do that little sweage, they're sending

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<v Speaker 3>me dms. I don't even know these people, and they're like, Talia,

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<v Speaker 3>what you just said in that real change my entire

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<v Speaker 3>dating life. What you wrote in that book, change my

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<v Speaker 3>entire dating life. So I've had no pushback so far. Really,

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<v Speaker 3>really you?

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<v Speaker 2>So that's fascinating to me, And that's interesting. And you're

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<v Speaker 2>saying the proof is in the pudding, The proof is

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<v Speaker 2>in the pudding.

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<v Speaker 1>I am no, there is nothing, because conversations happen like

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<v Speaker 1>this all the time at dinner tables and in living

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<v Speaker 1>rooms and whatnot. But how dare you say? Sometimes is

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, even obvious to a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am surprised again you've been doing it. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was surprised that you haven't gotten pushback with somebody

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<v Speaker 1>taking offense, because anytime, it seems these days, anyone gets

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<v Speaker 1>a little offended about gender roles or where this person

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<v Speaker 1>should be in the home and this person should be

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<v Speaker 1>a protector what'd you say, the feminine is receiving is receiving.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never heard that before either.

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<v Speaker 3>Am I. I cover the entire chapter in the book

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<v Speaker 3>about femine energy.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's stick with feminine energy here for a second.

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<v Speaker 1>Does feminine energy how does it translate in the workplace?

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<v Speaker 1>Or can it translate in a positive way in the workplace?

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<v Speaker 3>Of course? I mean it depends on your job, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>If I for what I do, I have to be

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<v Speaker 3>my maskline for sure. Now, a nurse who's nurturing and

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<v Speaker 3>loving and helping assisting elderlies, she needs to be in

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<v Speaker 3>her feminine. I think she's thriving in her feminine doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>have to be, but I'm sure that that's helpful to her.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think it just depends on your job. But

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<v Speaker 3>I definitely think if you're a CEO of Fortune five

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<v Speaker 3>hundred company running in there with all the feminine you've got,

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<v Speaker 3>I would say probably not the best approach.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>But when it comes to dating, remember, guys, I'm a matchmaker,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a dating coach. So when it comes to love,

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<v Speaker 3>it's so simple. Men love feminine energy and women love

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<v Speaker 3>a masculine man. And let's not forget. It's also give

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<v Speaker 3>and take when you're in a relationship. There are moments

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<v Speaker 3>when a man needs to be emotional and say how

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<v Speaker 3>he really feels, and he can be in his feminine

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<v Speaker 3>energy in that moment, and she can be in her

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<v Speaker 3>mask and say I understand and just you know, hold space.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's also a dance to have a good harmonious relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there?

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<v Speaker 1>Ever? What do you say about a man who can't

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<v Speaker 1>handle a woman in her her mass, galiant energy who

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<v Speaker 1>is in charge. Some would say that says more about

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<v Speaker 1>the man than it does about the woman who can't deal.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're asking, what if the man can't handle the.

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<v Speaker 1>Mask energy of the woman. I mean that shouldn't that

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<v Speaker 1>be on him? She shouldn't have to change or alter

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<v Speaker 1>anything what Some would argue that, hey, that's that's on him.

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<v Speaker 1>Why can't he deal with a strong woman?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>I personal preference is personal preference. I can't you know?

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<v Speaker 2>You like what you like?

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<v Speaker 3>So, I mean I deal with preferences all day long

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<v Speaker 3>with matchmaking. People give me their exact preferences of what

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<v Speaker 3>they like, what they don't like. I've had clients say

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<v Speaker 3>I want the buss, babe, I have a clients say

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<v Speaker 3>I want super feminine energy on the extreme. So it

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<v Speaker 3>just depends on your preferences. And it's also about knowing

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<v Speaker 3>that a boy yourself and being self aware.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm sorry, let me make sure go back a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit here. The book here is directed at women

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<v Speaker 1>how to attract the right guy. But your expertise, your

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<v Speaker 1>background and your history and your work is in helping

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<v Speaker 1>men come to you and they then say, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm looking for, and you may matches, So explain

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<v Speaker 1>that a little bit. We didn't do that at the

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<v Speaker 1>very top.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, okay, So with matchmaking, I actually just launched on Monday.

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<v Speaker 3>I now accept female clients. Oh okay, yes, yes, Well

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<v Speaker 3>the world's changing now for the first time, men are

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<v Speaker 3>okay with women hiring a matchmaker. She already has a chef,

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<v Speaker 3>she already has a driver. Why not a matchmaker? Men

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<v Speaker 3>have it too, So for the first time, times are changing.

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<v Speaker 3>We love that and now men are having matchmakers sore women.

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<v Speaker 3>So I now work with both.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So how does the process work? They come to

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<v Speaker 2>you and do you have a rolodex that's old school,

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<v Speaker 2>a rolodex of men, a rolodex of women. How do

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<v Speaker 2>you match make?

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<v Speaker 3>I just have a huge network, so I have a

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<v Speaker 3>CRM system with singles, and how it works is the

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<v Speaker 3>first step is I decide if I want to take

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<v Speaker 3>on the client. The first step is get to know

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<v Speaker 3>your client, see if it's a good fit to work together,

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<v Speaker 3>and then if it is a good fit, get to

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<v Speaker 3>know their preferences and then set them up with some incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>Do You always have to meet certainly the client, but

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<v Speaker 1>the potential match you have to meet them ahead of time.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, this is a very expensive service. This is an investment,

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<v Speaker 3>So it would be a disservice to my line if

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't take the time to meet them, background check everything.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know what, people always ask me, what is

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<v Speaker 3>this secret sauce to matchmaking? And I always say, it's intuition.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a gut feeling. It's like a knowing. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>I just know.

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<v Speaker 2>These two people are going to hit it all well,

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean, is it about what they both like,

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<v Speaker 2>how they both operate? Like what is the what is

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<v Speaker 2>the thing where you say they're going to be good.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a gut feeling, an intuition.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just an expensive process. I'm paying for your expensiveness.

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<v Speaker 2>It would be allergic to dogs. And it's not hard Republican.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not studying up with a democrat. Okay, but I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>That there is intuition that plays a huge role in matchmaking.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you meet a woman, how do you like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how many people you're meeting men women

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<v Speaker 2>when you immediately go they'd be great together. How does

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<v Speaker 2>that work?

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<v Speaker 3>I can't explain how my brain works, but it is

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<v Speaker 3>such a knack. I mean I help people get jobs

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<v Speaker 3>all the time. I'm just a connector. Like I'll meet

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<v Speaker 3>someone and I'm like, oh, you know what you need

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<v Speaker 3>to meet Bob. Bob is also looking to high bubh

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<v Speaker 3>blah blah blah or he whatever. That's just how my

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<v Speaker 3>brain works. So it's really intuition. Do you have a

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<v Speaker 3>success rate to back up? Okay, yeah, I choose my clients.

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<v Speaker 2>One hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, success rate. Yes, I do not take clients. I

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<v Speaker 3>know I can't help sus So are we not talking

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<v Speaker 3>about the book today? I'm like, got so much for you.

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<v Speaker 2>We're talking about it at all? I mean, your success

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<v Speaker 2>rate as a matchmaker certainly affects the book, for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't not at all, because the book is

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<v Speaker 3>for women that don't want to do matchmaking and they

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<v Speaker 3>want to learn how to track the right guy on

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<v Speaker 3>their own. So different. So in the book, I cover

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<v Speaker 3>in chapter three how to drop the modern day handkerchief,

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<v Speaker 3>which means you were out in public and you are

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<v Speaker 3>choosing sing who you want to speak to, like which

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<v Speaker 3>guy in the bar? Or which guy you want to

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<v Speaker 3>talk to?

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<v Speaker 2>You? All right, what's the modern day handkerchief? Oh? You

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<v Speaker 2>like this? This is good?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay? So you know back in Victorian era women chose men.

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<v Speaker 3>We would drop our handkerchief and the guy would pick

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<v Speaker 3>it up and say you drop this and say, oh

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<v Speaker 3>did I you know? And so and times haven't changed.

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<v Speaker 3>I always in the book I talk about the G

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<v Speaker 3>E s E. The grin. The eye is a seductive

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<v Speaker 3>energy and it works every time. Basically, what you're doing

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<v Speaker 3>is if you see a guy and you're attracted to

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<v Speaker 3>him and energetically you want to speak with him, you

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<v Speaker 3>give him the G E s C. You drop the handkerchief,

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<v Speaker 3>and it works every time.

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<v Speaker 1>Go go through them.

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<v Speaker 3>The g is what the G E s the grin.

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<v Speaker 1>Grin Okay, so the grin, it's just a matter of

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<v Speaker 1>a little smile. You just make eye contacting you grin now.

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<v Speaker 3>Overly aggress of a grin.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, just a little grin. All right? Then how

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<v Speaker 1>long is the eye contact on that on you feel.

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<v Speaker 3>It, you feel if you'll feel it. Could be three seconds,

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<v Speaker 3>could be five. And then the E so grin eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>The eyes are there?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so the s seductive?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, now my needs to help all this one. She

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<v Speaker 1>immediately started laughing. She was doing well with the eye contacts.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we go into goofy town. Oh I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do Okay, what's the seductive?

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<v Speaker 3>Seductive?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>You just energy transfers, right, you can tell when someone's

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<v Speaker 3>warm or when like seductive energy. It's magnetic and you

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<v Speaker 3>just send that like three air energy over there and

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<v Speaker 3>then get it. Men get it every time.

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<v Speaker 1>And the the last E was what so grin.

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<v Speaker 3>Eyes seductive energy?

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<v Speaker 1>Energy?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so can you could you read my energy?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wait, and here's the best part. What there's a

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<v Speaker 3>study that says men take up to five times to

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<v Speaker 3>realize that it was for them.

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<v Speaker 2>So he's the guy behind him.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they'll think it's the guy behind them. And I

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<v Speaker 3>share one of the stories in the book about how

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<v Speaker 3>the guy was giving it to you, Like the gees

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<v Speaker 3>literally pointed to guy and I was like him and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, no you and he was like oh

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<v Speaker 3>and then he like walked over to me. He was like, hi, am,

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<v Speaker 3>I introduced himself. So it takes me up to five times. So, ladies,

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<v Speaker 3>if you didn't catch it the first g s, do

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<v Speaker 3>it four more times.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that's not you. Are we just talking about this?

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<v Speaker 1>That is not going to be you tell me there are?

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<v Speaker 1>There are? You have ten commandments? Do the Ten Commandments

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<v Speaker 1>of Dating?

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<v Speaker 2>How?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if we can go through all ten?

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<v Speaker 1>But can you give give me a couple of keys

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<v Speaker 1>in there? The ten Commandments of dating? And for anyone

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<v Speaker 1>single looking today who's on apps and all that? Right now,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think a couple of the key ones

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<v Speaker 1>you would want everybody to have?

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<v Speaker 3>I think the biggest one, the two biggest one that

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<v Speaker 3>come to mind is over sharing and over drinking.

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<v Speaker 1>Over sharing and over drinking.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, and I'll tell you why. So in New York,

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<v Speaker 3>as we all know as New Yorkers, the drinking culture

0:22:56.920 --> 0:22:59.639
<v Speaker 3>is huge here. The problem with that is there's a

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<v Speaker 3>such thing as drunk chemistry versus real chemistry. So if

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<v Speaker 3>you want to really figure out on a first date,

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<v Speaker 3>is it the alcohol speaking or do we actually have

0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:12.080
<v Speaker 3>really good chemistry? I say keep it to one drink

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<v Speaker 3>max two maybe forgut, like I don't know, two if

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<v Speaker 3>you really just can hold your liquor. But I say, like,

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<v Speaker 3>really figure out. Do you guys get along? You know?

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<v Speaker 3>And also, no one likes a drunk date.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I was always told they're a ten at two

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<v Speaker 2>and a two at ten. That's a problem. Or you know,

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<v Speaker 2>bear goggles. We've all heard those curls. Yeah, beer goggles. Whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I mention how much I love her?

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<v Speaker 2>In college I learned like, don't worry, you gotta watch out.

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<v Speaker 2>They're a ten at two and a two to ten.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, is that wrong?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's just it proves the point though. You don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to over consume on a d.

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<v Speaker 2>No, absolutely not. No, I totally hear you. Any other

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<v Speaker 2>ten commandments?

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<v Speaker 3>The other one was the overshare over share. I gues, yes,

0:24:00.680 --> 0:24:04.040
<v Speaker 3>men and women do this. They get when the nerves

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<v Speaker 3>kick in. Sometimes you get word vomit and you just overshare. Overshare,

0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:12.600
<v Speaker 3>just sharing too much sensitive information with a stranger that

0:24:12.720 --> 0:24:14.720
<v Speaker 3>you know, maybe you met him on hinge, maybe you

0:24:14.760 --> 0:24:17.760
<v Speaker 3>met him through a friend. It's so important to just

0:24:17.800 --> 0:24:20.359
<v Speaker 3>reel it in. Remember high level first dates. It's like

0:24:20.440 --> 0:24:22.480
<v Speaker 3>high level just see if there's banters, see if you

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<v Speaker 3>guys connect on a couple of things, but not oversharing

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<v Speaker 3>about your you know, your last divorce, oversharing about how

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<v Speaker 3>you need about us, yes, or about oversharing about you

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<v Speaker 3>know what your mom did to you last Sunday. Like

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<v Speaker 3>we this person is brand new. We just have to

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<v Speaker 3>remember that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's definitely good advice for women. I understand. I

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<v Speaker 2>am a I am a chronic oversharer, so I will

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<v Speaker 2>fully cop to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Unfortunately, I would almost break up with you just so

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<v Speaker 1>I could see your next first date with Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>that is how much you share. It would be a

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<v Speaker 1>great social experiment.

0:25:00.320 --> 0:25:03.960
<v Speaker 2>And then he said, no, all right, I loved you

0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:07.760
<v Speaker 2>have a visceral reaction to love languages because people put

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<v Speaker 2>so much stock, play so much stock in love languages.

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<v Speaker 2>You have strong feelings about this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, So here's the funny thing. According to studies, you're

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<v Speaker 3>most likely not going to end up with someone who

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<v Speaker 3>has the exact same love love language as you. However,

0:25:26.920 --> 0:25:29.520
<v Speaker 3>it doesn't mean that you can't learn them and then

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<v Speaker 3>shift where you put your energy. So, for example, if

0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:38.120
<v Speaker 3>your husband is words of affirmation and for you it's

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<v Speaker 3>access service. As long as you guys have communicated like hey,

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<v Speaker 3>every time you do this and this, it doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 3>that much to me because that's not how I receive love.

0:25:47.920 --> 0:25:49.639
<v Speaker 3>I need to hear it from you first, or I

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<v Speaker 3>need you know, access service. That's how I receive love.

0:25:52.720 --> 0:25:56.080
<v Speaker 3>And by the way, fun fact, it's all childhood. However,

0:25:56.160 --> 0:25:59.440
<v Speaker 3>your parents showed an expressed love is how you interpret

0:25:59.440 --> 0:26:02.000
<v Speaker 3>love with your part So if you had a parent

0:26:02.000 --> 0:26:03.560
<v Speaker 3>that never said I love you, but they bought you

0:26:03.640 --> 0:26:07.200
<v Speaker 3>gifts all the time, that's all you know to receive love.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just.

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<v Speaker 3>Something to have a conversation with your partner so that

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<v Speaker 3>you're not constantly trying to do all these things. And

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<v Speaker 3>it's not even taking into account.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you mentioned earlier what men want. They want

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<v Speaker 1>feminine energy, but in the clients you've dealt with, it

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<v Speaker 1>was again you're starting to say female clients now, but

0:26:26.720 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 1>your initial matchmaking was all men. So in what you've

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<v Speaker 1>learned from men about what men want from women, and

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<v Speaker 1>in a mate. You said feminine energy, But what are

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<v Speaker 1>those things?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>That's too hard to speak too because every guy is

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<v Speaker 3>so different and everyone is so complex, everyone's preferences are different,

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<v Speaker 3>So it's it just depends on the person. I've never

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<v Speaker 3>had the same type of type. I've actually never had

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<v Speaker 3>the same type of client twice.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that you wouldn't say there are any things universally

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<v Speaker 1>that men want in this Universally?

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<v Speaker 3>I would say being in your feminine when you're at home.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure that could be universal.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, wow, And I don't think a lot of women

0:27:09.000 --> 0:27:11.360
<v Speaker 2>think of that, all right. They're trying to be all

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:14.680
<v Speaker 2>kinds of things. Yeah, to so many people. So it's interesting.

0:27:14.720 --> 0:27:17.520
<v Speaker 2>And it's not about being something you're not right, it's

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<v Speaker 2>about tapping into a part of you that's truly there.

0:27:20.760 --> 0:27:23.960
<v Speaker 2>And I think that's the distinguishment between like pretending or

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<v Speaker 2>posturing or manipulating, but you're actually being honest and authentic

0:27:27.840 --> 0:27:29.600
<v Speaker 2>with the side of yourself that maybe you've been afraid

0:27:29.640 --> 0:27:32.440
<v Speaker 2>to express or told it would be weak to express.

0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:33.960
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think women are dealing with a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of different narratives and operatives about what they should be

0:27:37.560 --> 0:27:39.400
<v Speaker 2>or how they can be the best version of themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's confusing, especially when we think that maybe going

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<v Speaker 2>back to gender norms or stereotypical norms is something to

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<v Speaker 2>be frowned upon. And I do think that that is

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<v Speaker 2>part of where we are today in society.

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<v Speaker 3>But I also think, like coming back to who you are,

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<v Speaker 3>like before you got that big, you know, c sweet

0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.000
<v Speaker 3>executive job. How about coming back to that person you

0:27:59.040 --> 0:28:01.280
<v Speaker 3>were before you became a founder of a company? Like

0:28:01.359 --> 0:28:04.000
<v Speaker 3>who was that in her child? Was she a feminine woman?

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<v Speaker 3>Well she deserves to be that today and in the relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that is no. I love it because so many

0:28:13.240 --> 0:28:15.960
<v Speaker 1>of the conversations we have it because I was about

0:28:15.960 --> 0:28:19.199
<v Speaker 1>to ask you that the idea that tapping in you

0:28:19.240 --> 0:28:23.720
<v Speaker 1>said feminine, and it always in some way gets translated

0:28:23.760 --> 0:28:26.760
<v Speaker 1>into weaker, and it shouldn't be. There's it's okay for

0:28:26.800 --> 0:28:29.160
<v Speaker 1>there to be a masculine and a feminine. Would you say,

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<v Speaker 1>without one being stronger or weaker?

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<v Speaker 3>That's right. Actually, all the power is in the feminine energy.

0:28:34.640 --> 0:28:38.320
<v Speaker 3>It's so magnetic. When a woman is truly in your

0:28:38.360 --> 0:28:42.400
<v Speaker 3>feminine energy, it is magnetic, and so many things will

0:28:42.400 --> 0:28:45.520
<v Speaker 3>happen for you because you're you're in that like abundance receiving.

0:28:45.560 --> 0:28:48.240
<v Speaker 3>You're just in that receiving mode of like letting it

0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:52.240
<v Speaker 3>happen instead of forcing everything and doing doing doing.

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<v Speaker 2>That's and I'm laughing because I'm hearing you and I'm

0:28:56.520 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 2>understanding that a little bit more now than I ever

0:28:58.600 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 2>have before in my life. But I was always on

0:29:01.560 --> 0:29:04.000
<v Speaker 2>the other side of things always.

0:29:03.720 --> 0:29:04.840
<v Speaker 3>Just so you know, I'm right there with you.

0:29:04.880 --> 0:29:07.920
<v Speaker 2>So I'm listening to it. I'm like laughing because for

0:29:08.000 --> 0:29:10.720
<v Speaker 2>the first time, I'm open to that part of me

0:29:11.240 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 2>that I haven't been before, like I've always been like, No,

0:29:13.840 --> 0:29:16.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm the doer, I'm the getter, I'm the maker, I'm

0:29:16.600 --> 0:29:19.000
<v Speaker 2>the creator, I'm the breadwinner, I'm the and so it's

0:29:19.080 --> 0:29:23.400
<v Speaker 2>interesting about accepting and not just accepting, but embracing the

0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:26.200
<v Speaker 2>other side of yourself in the right relationship, in the

0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:27.200
<v Speaker 2>right relationship of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, a part of the title of your book is

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<v Speaker 1>avoid situationships, step into wifey energy and get him to commit.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, can we talk about avoiding situationships?

0:29:47.000 --> 0:29:47.240
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:49.400
<v Speaker 3>If I hear that word one more time on my

0:29:49.440 --> 0:29:51.760
<v Speaker 3>coaching clients, because remember, I have a coaching business, but

0:29:51.800 --> 0:29:54.640
<v Speaker 3>I also have a matchmaking business. And my coaching clients,

0:29:54.760 --> 0:29:57.400
<v Speaker 3>they date all on their own. But I keep hearing

0:29:57.440 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 3>that word to find it, I'm like, hold on here.

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<v Speaker 3>Why situationship is when one of the two people as

0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:07.040
<v Speaker 3>are dating one persons ready to commit and the other

0:30:07.080 --> 0:30:09.959
<v Speaker 3>one's not, and it just gets dragged out and it

0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:15.120
<v Speaker 3>never turns into something that is a situationship. And I

0:30:15.160 --> 0:30:16.760
<v Speaker 3>am here to say, and you'll read in the book,

0:30:17.720 --> 0:30:21.320
<v Speaker 3>do not do wifey duties or girlfriend duties if you

0:30:21.360 --> 0:30:23.920
<v Speaker 3>do not have the title. For all the women out

0:30:23.920 --> 0:30:26.080
<v Speaker 3>there listening to this podcast, if you are cooking for

0:30:26.120 --> 0:30:28.920
<v Speaker 3>this man, or you're taking out his dog, or you're

0:30:28.920 --> 0:30:31.640
<v Speaker 3>doing his laundry and you do not have the girlfriend title,

0:30:31.880 --> 0:30:33.600
<v Speaker 3>you are doing yourself a disservice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, why are you laughing?

0:30:36.600 --> 0:30:39.960
<v Speaker 1>Charge? Because I take care of your dog, I.

0:30:39.960 --> 0:30:42.960
<v Speaker 2>Do your laundry now, and I cook for you, not

0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:45.720
<v Speaker 2>take care of my dog. The other two maybe fine,

0:30:45.760 --> 0:30:48.080
<v Speaker 2>the laundry and the cooking, yes, but you do not

0:30:48.280 --> 0:30:49.640
<v Speaker 2>take care of my dog.

0:30:50.480 --> 0:30:52.000
<v Speaker 1>If I walk in the house right now, who's the

0:30:52.000 --> 0:30:52.760
<v Speaker 1>dog going to come through?

0:30:53.000 --> 0:30:55.440
<v Speaker 2>He loves you because you feed him food off the

0:30:55.520 --> 0:30:58.960
<v Speaker 2>side and anyway, that's why.

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<v Speaker 1>But a situationship, how you avoided by what.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, though, that's when, like, the situationship is

0:31:07.440 --> 0:31:10.000
<v Speaker 3>when the people one of the two people is seeing

0:31:10.000 --> 0:31:13.840
<v Speaker 3>other people like there's not a commitment. That's what I'm saying.

0:31:13.920 --> 0:31:17.160
<v Speaker 3>It's a situationship, not a relationship because there's no commitment.

0:31:17.320 --> 0:31:19.080
<v Speaker 2>It's called We used to call it, like, you know,

0:31:19.200 --> 0:31:21.840
<v Speaker 2>booty calls. Yes, that's basically what it is.

0:31:21.880 --> 0:31:23.200
<v Speaker 3>It's basically booty calls.

0:31:23.320 --> 0:31:24.880
<v Speaker 1>Why do we get away from that language?

0:31:24.880 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 2>It was working just fine and it was what it is. Okay,

0:31:28.480 --> 0:31:31.760
<v Speaker 2>that's it tries to somehow elevate a booty call.

0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:34.520
<v Speaker 3>Yes, okay, I was more sophisticated way to say booty call.

0:31:34.880 --> 0:31:35.720
<v Speaker 3>What happened to booty call?

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:40.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what it is. Wait, wait, we've got we've

0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:41.640
<v Speaker 2>got here.

0:31:42.880 --> 0:31:46.680
<v Speaker 1>Who had know more than what's a sneaky link?

0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:51.760
<v Speaker 2>Moder sneaky link? That's one step below a situationship. I

0:31:51.760 --> 0:31:54.840
<v Speaker 2>guess I don't know in the hierarchy of I don't

0:31:54.880 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 2>know ships.

0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:59.040
<v Speaker 1>I thought we were talking about your dating and one

0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:02.000
<v Speaker 1>wants to getting you've get married and doesn't. No, no,

0:32:02.040 --> 0:32:04.360
<v Speaker 1>it's not even that okay.

0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:05.240
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, we're not even there.

0:32:05.240 --> 0:32:07.480
<v Speaker 2>It's not that deep. You said it perfectly. That's exactly

0:32:07.480 --> 0:32:09.320
<v Speaker 2>what my twenty one year old would say. It's not

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 2>that deep, mom, that's not that deep.

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:13.320
<v Speaker 1>Tell you, how do you get the other part of

0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:16.440
<v Speaker 1>the title, get him to commit? That's heavy? How do

0:32:16.520 --> 0:32:16.960
<v Speaker 1>you do this?

0:32:17.080 --> 0:32:19.680
<v Speaker 3>That is it's a lot. It's not just one thing.

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:21.200
<v Speaker 3>You kind of have to read the book.

0:32:21.320 --> 0:32:23.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's okay, but give us some give us some

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:26.200
<v Speaker 1>cliff notes here. How do you get him to commit?

0:32:26.440 --> 0:32:27.640
<v Speaker 1>Is that even possible?

0:32:27.800 --> 0:32:31.200
<v Speaker 3>Of course if by getting him to commitment, first off,

0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:34.480
<v Speaker 3>you're showing up in your wife the energy. That's the

0:32:34.520 --> 0:32:37.640
<v Speaker 3>first thing. Showing up in wifey energy. That's how I

0:32:37.760 --> 0:32:41.479
<v Speaker 3>have seen guys who I never thought would commit, but

0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:43.640
<v Speaker 3>they met the right girl at the right time, and

0:32:43.680 --> 0:32:44.800
<v Speaker 3>she was in her wifey era.

0:32:45.040 --> 0:32:46.960
<v Speaker 2>What's wifey energy? Can you tell me what that is?

0:32:47.320 --> 0:32:50.120
<v Speaker 3>You have to read the book. I mean wifey energy.

0:32:50.160 --> 0:32:53.560
<v Speaker 3>It's so many different things. It's it's a lot. It's

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:55.760
<v Speaker 3>like you really have your you have your life together.

0:32:55.920 --> 0:32:59.640
<v Speaker 3>You're showing up in you know, you're dressing differently. You know,

0:32:59.760 --> 0:33:03.959
<v Speaker 3>like there are times when you're going out with your

0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:05.760
<v Speaker 3>girlfriends and you look like a ho chi mama and

0:33:05.760 --> 0:33:07.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, you're not in your white fie air right now,

0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:09.479
<v Speaker 3>like you're just going on having fun and you're not

0:33:10.120 --> 0:33:12.480
<v Speaker 3>you know, he he's meeting you, and he's not thinking, Oh,

0:33:12.520 --> 0:33:13.520
<v Speaker 3>this is the girl I'm going to take home with

0:33:13.560 --> 0:33:13.840
<v Speaker 3>my parents.

0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:16.320
<v Speaker 2>So it's almost like you're you know, you've got a

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:18.880
<v Speaker 2>job interview. You know you want that job, and you're

0:33:19.000 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 2>dressed the part, and you present yourself in the best

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.720
<v Speaker 2>way possible, but you definitely don't want to, like I

0:33:24.840 --> 0:33:27.959
<v Speaker 2>worry about what happens when he sees it all, you know,

0:33:28.080 --> 0:33:31.280
<v Speaker 2>like to hide you're crazy, or to hide some of

0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:34.560
<v Speaker 2>the other parts of you that aren't as attractive or

0:33:35.200 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 2>wifey or however you want to call it feminine. At

0:33:38.960 --> 0:33:41.880
<v Speaker 2>what point is it okay to show those things, because

0:33:41.880 --> 0:33:43.800
<v Speaker 2>eventually they're going to come out right you want them

0:33:43.840 --> 0:33:46.200
<v Speaker 2>to know. I would think at some point earlier rather

0:33:46.240 --> 0:33:49.160
<v Speaker 2>than later, perhaps that all of this is you, not

0:33:49.280 --> 0:33:50.360
<v Speaker 2>just the best version of you.

0:33:51.160 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, let me ask you this, for whoever you were

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:56.520
<v Speaker 3>speaking about, is that person working on their shadow side,

0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:59.000
<v Speaker 3>because that's that's another part of it where it's like,

0:34:00.000 --> 0:34:02.280
<v Speaker 3>if you're not working on that crazy side of you,

0:34:02.400 --> 0:34:04.800
<v Speaker 3>like if you're not doing the therapy, the shadow work,

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:08.360
<v Speaker 3>you're not healing those parts of you. Because anytime someone

0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:11.319
<v Speaker 3>gets really triggered and annoyed and they get they start

0:34:11.360 --> 0:34:13.319
<v Speaker 3>yelling all these things, all the not so good parts

0:34:13.320 --> 0:34:16.680
<v Speaker 3>are called the shadow side. And I think that it's

0:34:16.719 --> 0:34:19.320
<v Speaker 3>really important to definitely share that with that person because

0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 3>because that it's just way too much work to always

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:22.359
<v Speaker 3>be on your A game and.

0:34:22.280 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 2>Like it's impossible.

0:34:24.360 --> 0:34:27.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, someone, of course you show them that side. But

0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:29.200
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't do that on a first.

0:34:29.040 --> 0:34:32.480
<v Speaker 2>Date, you know. And by the way, also if you

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:34.719
<v Speaker 2>say this, forget it. No, I get that. I don't

0:34:34.760 --> 0:34:38.160
<v Speaker 2>get it, Like, you know, don't tell me to calm down.

0:34:40.120 --> 0:34:41.560
<v Speaker 2>Triggered shadows.

0:34:41.640 --> 0:34:45.440
<v Speaker 1>Ye, but you were going you had a story about it.

0:34:45.440 --> 0:34:47.720
<v Speaker 1>You said there was somebody you saw wasn't going to commit,

0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:49.319
<v Speaker 1>but you were back to how to get a guy

0:34:49.360 --> 0:34:49.680
<v Speaker 1>to commit.

0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:53.960
<v Speaker 3>Oh, and I was just saying that, you know, eligible, bachelor,

0:34:54.320 --> 0:34:56.640
<v Speaker 3>super good looking, successful, all the things. I never thought

0:34:56.680 --> 0:34:58.799
<v Speaker 3>he'd settle down. And he met that right girl and

0:34:58.840 --> 0:35:01.359
<v Speaker 3>it was just the right time, the right energy, and

0:35:01.560 --> 0:35:04.040
<v Speaker 3>she had done she healed herself and she was like

0:35:04.400 --> 0:35:07.160
<v Speaker 3>in that feminine era and they just ended up together

0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:09.839
<v Speaker 3>and so I do think that plays into it too.

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:13.279
<v Speaker 3>So you, yeah, you can get meant to commit.

0:35:14.120 --> 0:35:19.400
<v Speaker 1>Right, No, the right woman, it's always I'm always struggling

0:35:19.400 --> 0:35:23.600
<v Speaker 1>with that, the right woman, the right man, and then

0:35:23.640 --> 0:35:28.319
<v Speaker 1>there's the right time, and so how does one know?

0:35:28.840 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 1>And a lot of your vice is obviously for people

0:35:30.680 --> 0:35:33.319
<v Speaker 1>who are single, but for people who are out there

0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:36.880
<v Speaker 1>who are married or in relationships right now, what is

0:35:36.880 --> 0:35:40.160
<v Speaker 1>in the book that could help them maybe evaluate or

0:35:40.200 --> 0:35:44.000
<v Speaker 1>reevaluate or you're making a face like it's not for them,

0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:45.879
<v Speaker 1>We're not going down the road. That's fine, I'll come out.

0:35:46.040 --> 0:35:48.080
<v Speaker 3>So I'm writing five books. The fifth one will be

0:35:48.640 --> 0:35:51.239
<v Speaker 3>for the married couples, but we're not there yet.

0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:54.080
<v Speaker 2>This is book number one, and Tell You is really

0:35:54.120 --> 0:35:54.520
<v Speaker 2>for those.

0:35:54.360 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 3>Singles who are struggling, because loneliness is a huge problem

0:35:58.040 --> 0:36:00.480
<v Speaker 3>right now. People have never been more lonely. People have

0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:03.560
<v Speaker 3>given up on dating at Fatigue is real. And so

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:06.000
<v Speaker 3>this book is something that I was so excited to

0:36:06.040 --> 0:36:08.239
<v Speaker 3>share with the world. And it's digestible, it's sure. It's

0:36:08.239 --> 0:36:11.600
<v Speaker 3>a thirty minute read and each chapter has an exercise,

0:36:11.960 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 3>so you digest it and then there's a little exercise

0:36:14.480 --> 0:36:17.239
<v Speaker 3>and you get to journal in the book, and I

0:36:17.239 --> 0:36:19.000
<v Speaker 3>think it's a gift of the world to help the

0:36:19.040 --> 0:36:20.360
<v Speaker 3>singles out there right now.

0:36:20.560 --> 0:36:26.239
<v Speaker 2>And tell you tell me a economics major so irrelevant? Yeah, no,

0:36:26.320 --> 0:36:28.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm no, And I'm so, how did you get into

0:36:28.320 --> 0:36:29.120
<v Speaker 2>this business?

0:36:29.640 --> 0:36:34.160
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh. I was matchmaking everyone in high school, college,

0:36:34.760 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Speaker 3>you know, post college, and then I just you know,

0:36:37.080 --> 0:36:38.640
<v Speaker 3>I got into finance and whatever, and I was like,

0:36:38.640 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 3>this isn't my calling. And my last name is we Met.

0:36:41.080 --> 0:36:43.160
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I meant to be a matchmaker we Met,

0:36:43.239 --> 0:36:46.400
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, So I ended up I worked for the

0:36:46.480 --> 0:36:51.000
<v Speaker 3>largest matchmaking agency in Atlanta and loved it. And then

0:36:51.040 --> 0:36:53.279
<v Speaker 3>that's when I said to myself, hold on, I could

0:36:53.280 --> 0:36:57.319
<v Speaker 3>do this at a different level, and I could do

0:36:57.320 --> 0:37:00.279
<v Speaker 3>it better. I'm gonna own that. So I'm moved to

0:37:00.280 --> 0:37:02.120
<v Speaker 3>New York. I booked a one way ticket, was like

0:37:02.200 --> 0:37:03.799
<v Speaker 3>couch serving on my best friend's couch for a couple

0:37:03.840 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 3>of weeks building this company. And I said, okay, we're

0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:08.440
<v Speaker 3>going to launch on Valentine's Day, and sure enough, it

0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:10.560
<v Speaker 3>went viral and everyone's like, oh my god, you know,

0:37:10.760 --> 0:37:12.719
<v Speaker 3>Talia wee Met's got our own company now, and like

0:37:13.000 --> 0:37:15.040
<v Speaker 3>it took off and I've had it now for half

0:37:15.080 --> 0:37:15.719
<v Speaker 3>a decade.

0:37:16.120 --> 0:37:21.360
<v Speaker 2>Oh that's incredible. And do you have your forever person?

0:37:22.560 --> 0:37:24.759
<v Speaker 3>I have someone in my life. Yes, is he my

0:37:24.920 --> 0:37:26.879
<v Speaker 3>forever TVD Oh my.

0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:29.839
<v Speaker 1>Goodness, Grace, we'll see. We don't know if he's mister Wright.

0:37:30.200 --> 0:37:32.799
<v Speaker 3>We're so new, We're so new. Okay, I'm following my

0:37:32.840 --> 0:37:35.239
<v Speaker 3>own rules. You know, you really have to make sure

0:37:35.280 --> 0:37:38.439
<v Speaker 3>and take your time. How new we're like a month deep?

0:37:38.640 --> 0:37:41.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh wow? And how does he feel about dating someone

0:37:42.000 --> 0:37:44.320
<v Speaker 2>who is maybe analyzing him all the time.

0:37:44.480 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 3>Oh no, that's the best part of him. He is

0:37:47.200 --> 0:37:49.719
<v Speaker 3>so confident, he is so in his masculine that he

0:37:49.760 --> 0:37:52.200
<v Speaker 3>allows me to be in my feminine. Wow, I don't

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:55.600
<v Speaker 3>talk about work stuff. I get to finally be fully

0:37:55.600 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 3>in my feminine. And actually, I think this relationship happened

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:01.240
<v Speaker 3>for a reason. It's going to be in my next book.

0:38:03.000 --> 0:38:03.440
<v Speaker 2>I love it.

0:38:04.920 --> 0:38:08.240
<v Speaker 1>At the next book because we're now we are looking

0:38:08.280 --> 0:38:14.760
<v Speaker 1>for another relationship to publicly scrutinize. So so everybody followed

0:38:15.040 --> 0:38:19.839
<v Speaker 1>Talia and her one month and guy, can I ask,

0:38:19.920 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 1>there's so much.

0:38:20.520 --> 0:38:22.200
<v Speaker 3>Relationship for two years?

0:38:22.320 --> 0:38:26.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's cool, that's right. Cool. We like that.

0:38:26.360 --> 0:38:29.440
<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to point to anyone in particular,

0:38:30.000 --> 0:38:32.000
<v Speaker 1>can you And I don't run the room, but in

0:38:32.800 --> 0:38:36.440
<v Speaker 1>news lately, do you ever look at celebrity couples or

0:38:36.560 --> 0:38:39.400
<v Speaker 1>things that are being followed in the media and you

0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:43.279
<v Speaker 1>have a sense of they are they are a good

0:38:43.280 --> 0:38:44.960
<v Speaker 1>match or not a good match? These are people you

0:38:45.040 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 1>do not know. But is there any feeling or guide

0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:51.720
<v Speaker 1>in what you're able to see from a distance about couple? Really?

0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:53.480
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I just got down with Access Hollywood. We

0:38:53.480 --> 0:38:56.360
<v Speaker 3>were talking about matches celebrity couples, and I'll tell you

0:38:56.480 --> 0:38:59.480
<v Speaker 3>there's a couple of celebrity couples that I just love

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.480
<v Speaker 3>an adore. I don't personally know them. I might be

0:39:01.480 --> 0:39:04.279
<v Speaker 3>one degree separation from them, but I know in my

0:39:04.320 --> 0:39:06.239
<v Speaker 3>heart they're a good fit for each other. And they

0:39:06.360 --> 0:39:10.880
<v Speaker 3>just have so much value alignment. Their foundation is so

0:39:10.880 --> 0:39:13.200
<v Speaker 3>solid because they see the world the same way, they

0:39:13.200 --> 0:39:15.959
<v Speaker 3>were raised a very similar light, and I think they'll

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:18.320
<v Speaker 3>make it. And there's some couples where I'm like, oof,

0:39:18.840 --> 0:39:21.680
<v Speaker 3>god bless you know they'll figure it out eventually, But

0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:22.239
<v Speaker 3>it's not.

0:39:22.680 --> 0:39:31.040
<v Speaker 2>You're talking about. But I could.

0:39:31.239 --> 0:39:34.000
<v Speaker 3>I could absolutely, It's a hunch. It's like an intuitive knowing.

0:39:34.480 --> 0:39:37.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I only have one last question, and this was

0:39:37.560 --> 0:39:41.040
<v Speaker 1>for every I'm asking on behalf of women is there?

0:39:41.320 --> 0:39:44.760
<v Speaker 1>How do they know he's mister wrong?

0:39:46.000 --> 0:39:48.680
<v Speaker 3>Ooh, I love this question. Okay, how do you know

0:39:48.760 --> 0:39:51.319
<v Speaker 3>if it's mister wrong? Your entire and you know what

0:39:51.400 --> 0:39:53.319
<v Speaker 3>this is for men and women, this is both. This

0:39:53.480 --> 0:39:56.719
<v Speaker 3>is for anyone who's listening, who's single. You will know

0:39:56.960 --> 0:40:01.120
<v Speaker 3>because your nervous system, your gut feeling will tell you,

0:40:01.880 --> 0:40:04.680
<v Speaker 3>like your anxiety will start to get cranked up. You'll

0:40:04.680 --> 0:40:08.640
<v Speaker 3>start to feel stressed around that person. When when you

0:40:08.640 --> 0:40:11.800
<v Speaker 3>are with the right person, it will feel like home.

0:40:12.360 --> 0:40:15.560
<v Speaker 3>You will feel peace, you will feel serenity, and when

0:40:15.560 --> 0:40:18.759
<v Speaker 3>you're with the wrong person, you will have just this

0:40:18.920 --> 0:40:21.879
<v Speaker 3>like your I call it the nervous system test. Your

0:40:21.880 --> 0:40:24.600
<v Speaker 3>nervous system will just be off. And so it's about

0:40:24.640 --> 0:40:27.319
<v Speaker 3>being very self aware because your body will always tell

0:40:27.360 --> 0:40:27.600
<v Speaker 3>you if.

0:40:27.520 --> 0:40:32.640
<v Speaker 2>It's mister right, and apparently if it's mister wrong. And apparently.

0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Your experience what.

0:40:38.560 --> 0:40:40.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it depends on the day. Sometimes how's your

0:40:40.880 --> 0:40:44.759
<v Speaker 2>good today feelings on a minute, I mean, and like

0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:46.799
<v Speaker 2>to that point though it changes, I mean, you can

0:40:46.840 --> 0:40:49.120
<v Speaker 2>still be in a loving relationship and have moments of

0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:50.920
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, what have I done. I mean that's

0:40:50.920 --> 0:40:52.440
<v Speaker 2>the part of any relationship.

0:40:52.680 --> 0:40:54.360
<v Speaker 3>Of course, you have your highs and your lows, and

0:40:54.400 --> 0:40:57.719
<v Speaker 3>every marriage nothing's perfect. But I'm saying, especially in those

0:40:57.719 --> 0:41:01.359
<v Speaker 3>early phases, when something feels off, listen to that.

0:41:01.440 --> 0:41:03.800
<v Speaker 2>In the early phases, yes, because later on, there's always

0:41:03.840 --> 0:41:07.640
<v Speaker 2>going to be something that's off in any given day

0:41:08.440 --> 0:41:11.319
<v Speaker 2>because we've we've been through the trenches. But I get

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:14.000
<v Speaker 2>it now. In the beginning, it should be butterflies and

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:16.759
<v Speaker 2>unicorns and rainbows, like there's enough that's gonna come later.

0:41:16.880 --> 0:41:21.280
<v Speaker 3>It should just feel warm and safe. It shouldn't feel

0:41:21.280 --> 0:41:26.080
<v Speaker 3>like that firecracker love. No, those burned fast Yes, you

0:41:26.239 --> 0:41:29.799
<v Speaker 3>want the like at home fireplace feeling.

0:41:30.040 --> 0:41:31.680
<v Speaker 2>Like who do you want a Netflix and chill with?

0:41:31.920 --> 0:41:32.399
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:35.480
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't go that far, but I would say, like

0:41:35.360 --> 0:41:39.640
<v Speaker 3>like Iday, just wow, I shouldn't chill Like okay, you

0:41:39.640 --> 0:41:41.319
<v Speaker 3>can Neflix and chill with someone who still have that

0:41:41.360 --> 0:41:44.520
<v Speaker 3>firecracker energy with It's just like a gut feeling. It's

0:41:44.560 --> 0:41:46.640
<v Speaker 3>annoying where you just feel so safe with that person.

0:41:46.880 --> 0:41:48.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, safety you.

0:41:48.360 --> 0:41:52.560
<v Speaker 1>Really need, like not relationship advice, but like dating advice.

0:41:52.640 --> 0:41:55.280
<v Speaker 1>You're asking No, you're looking.

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:57.239
<v Speaker 2>For someone, No, I'm thinking about all the friends in

0:41:57.280 --> 0:41:59.799
<v Speaker 2>my life too. All right, tell you we met. Thank

0:41:59.840 --> 0:42:01.640
<v Speaker 2>you so much for being with us. This has been

0:42:01.640 --> 0:42:04.919
<v Speaker 2>super fun. Congratulations on the book and the second book,

0:42:04.920 --> 0:42:06.440
<v Speaker 2>and the third book, and four and the one.

0:42:07.000 --> 0:42:09.480
<v Speaker 1>Right, what's the schedule in all the books? How soon

0:42:09.520 --> 0:42:10.839
<v Speaker 1>you can we expect them?

0:42:11.000 --> 0:42:12.800
<v Speaker 3>Probably went a year the year.

0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:16.200
<v Speaker 1>I'll be dang, well, CONGRATU. Really this is cool to

0:42:16.239 --> 0:42:17.960
<v Speaker 1>be and this is fun stuff for us. But there's

0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:20.359
<v Speaker 1>we hope everybody can take a nugget or two out

0:42:20.400 --> 0:42:21.920
<v Speaker 1>of it, no matter what. But the book is on

0:42:22.000 --> 0:42:25.400
<v Speaker 1>sale everywhere Amazon. You can find it there. Again, it's

0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:28.080
<v Speaker 1>how to attract the right guy. Tell you we met.

0:42:28.600 --> 0:42:30.799
<v Speaker 1>It's a fantastic thing, it really is. Do you want

0:42:30.840 --> 0:42:31.759
<v Speaker 1>me to tell you about the shirt?

0:42:31.800 --> 0:42:33.359
<v Speaker 2>Because you oh, yes, you know what. That's a good

0:42:33.360 --> 0:42:36.279
<v Speaker 2>way to end it. Mister right now. You haven't worn

0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:36.680
<v Speaker 2>it again?

0:42:38.400 --> 0:42:39.560
<v Speaker 1>Wow, everybody's perks.

0:42:40.040 --> 0:42:42.759
<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know you used to come into the

0:42:42.800 --> 0:42:43.440
<v Speaker 2>studio with it.

0:42:43.480 --> 0:42:45.799
<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, hello, well it's okay. I do

0:42:45.920 --> 0:42:48.839
<v Speaker 1>own a T shirt that says mister right now on it.

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 1>Let me explain. I went out to LA and the

0:42:54.440 --> 0:42:58.439
<v Speaker 1>hell with it now. I interviewed at entertainment tonight right

0:42:59.200 --> 0:43:01.200
<v Speaker 1>I went out there and I was just supposed to

0:43:01.280 --> 0:43:04.600
<v Speaker 1>go interview and then fly right back. The same day,

0:43:05.000 --> 0:43:09.520
<v Speaker 1>I went out in my suit and interviewed and did

0:43:09.520 --> 0:43:12.920
<v Speaker 1>an on camera test and then went back to the airport.

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:17.160
<v Speaker 1>They called me as I'm bored. The flight is boarding,

0:43:17.760 --> 0:43:20.399
<v Speaker 1>and they called and say TJ. It went so, well,

0:43:20.440 --> 0:43:22.759
<v Speaker 1>can you come back and we want you to record

0:43:23.360 --> 0:43:26.080
<v Speaker 1>for a show that's actually going to air tomorrow. But

0:43:26.200 --> 0:43:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't prepared. I didn't have clothes supposed to be

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:31.760
<v Speaker 1>in and out, so they send me to a hotel.

0:43:32.200 --> 0:43:33.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't get there until ten to eleven at night.

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<v Speaker 1>The only store opened. I don't have clothes. The only

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<v Speaker 1>store open at that time was Hustler. So I go

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<v Speaker 1>in the Hustler at about midnight. I have never heard

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<v Speaker 1>this story before.

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<v Speaker 2>I was with EPIC.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure if I was with CNN at the time.

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<v Speaker 1>Who was I with it that, I don't know, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>even ABC, I don't know. But I go and I

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<v Speaker 1>go into the store and I promise you the kindest

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<v Speaker 1>T shirt in there was the one that said mister

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<v Speaker 1>right now. So I had to buy that shirt. And

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<v Speaker 1>the next day I went into the Entertainment Tonight offices

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning meeting with the shirt on that said,

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<v Speaker 1>mister right now, and I just haven't been able to

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<v Speaker 1>throw the shirt away. But but we're photographed by Papa

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<v Speaker 1>Rozzi too much. I cannot wear it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm never so it's funny, I said, you come into

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<v Speaker 2>the studio with it. But ever since we've been together,

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<v Speaker 2>thank god, you've never worn it. A smart man, smart.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, tell you should I toss that shirt?

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? He should. He should never wear that ever again.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, Tellia, thank you much.

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<v Speaker 1>You know where to find us. We're on Instagram, Amy

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<v Speaker 1>and DJ podcast. We'll see it.