WEBVTT - Decide when you'll decide

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if there is a decision you need

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<v Speaker 1>to make but you can't make it at this moment,

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<v Speaker 1>commit to a specific time in the future when you

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<v Speaker 1>will make the decision. In other words, decide when you'll decide.

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<v Speaker 1>This means you won't forget and you can hopefully stop

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<v Speaker 1>ruminating about it until then. So sometimes there are plans

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<v Speaker 1>or decisions that have to be made, but something else

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<v Speaker 1>has to happen first before you can make your plans.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, maybe you would like to renovate your kitchen,

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<v Speaker 1>but you want to know for sure that you are

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<v Speaker 1>getting that raise before you sign a contract. You know

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<v Speaker 1>you'll need to rework your childcare schedule well once the

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<v Speaker 1>school year starts, but you don't know when all your kids'

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<v Speaker 1>activities will be, so you don't know the exact hours

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<v Speaker 1>you will need help. You need to know whether your

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<v Speaker 1>whole family will be traveling for all of Thanksgiving or

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<v Speaker 1>whether your spouse will be home for some of the

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<v Speaker 1>time to know what days you're going to need pet care.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if you are ready to make plans other people

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<v Speaker 1>may not be inexplicably. Some medical practices and specialties where

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<v Speaker 1>you are supposed to go annually don't let you make

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<v Speaker 1>appointments more than six months in advance, so you need

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<v Speaker 1>to remember to call and decide on an appointment in

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<v Speaker 1>six months. Or maybe you would be fine scheduling dinner

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<v Speaker 1>with a friend a month in advance, but your friend

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<v Speaker 1>operates on more of a three days out sort of

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<v Speaker 1>planning cadence. There is not a lot of upside to

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<v Speaker 1>spending a lot of time thinking about these exact logistics

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<v Speaker 1>in these scenarios because you don't have enough information to

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<v Speaker 1>move forward. I mean, you can do prep work. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>if you are thinking of doing a major kitchen renovation,

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<v Speaker 1>you can start getting recommendations on contractors and talking with

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<v Speaker 1>a few of them to get a sense of what

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<v Speaker 1>this would all cost and what the timeline would be.

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<v Speaker 1>You can figure out which doggy daycares tend to have

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<v Speaker 1>space over Thanksgiving. But you probably won't make exact locked

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<v Speaker 1>in plans right now, so decide when you will decide.

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<v Speaker 1>You will know on that raise one way or another

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<v Speaker 1>by October first, and so that is when you will

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<v Speaker 1>decide on your kitchen. You will have a conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>your babysitter the first week of September about what the

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<v Speaker 1>school schedule is looking like. You can estimate when you

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<v Speaker 1>are likely to have the facts you need to make

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<v Speaker 1>the decision, and then set a reminder to revisit the

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<v Speaker 1>decision on that day, put a note on your calendar,

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<v Speaker 1>or create some other way to make sure that this

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<v Speaker 1>is front of mind. Then then once you have decided

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<v Speaker 1>when you will decide and set a reminder, you can

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<v Speaker 1>put the unsettled plans aside for the moment. Now. I

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<v Speaker 1>know this is hard. Personally, I like to close all

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<v Speaker 1>open loops, so I might have gone ahead and just

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<v Speaker 1>booked the doggy day care for all of Thanksgiving and

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<v Speaker 1>figured I could always use fewer days. But in many cases,

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<v Speaker 1>decisions don't have to be made right away. You can

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<v Speaker 1>decide to decide in the future when the appointed time

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<v Speaker 1>for making decisions or plans arrives. If you still can't

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<v Speaker 1>make a decision for some reason, well no worries. Just

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<v Speaker 1>reschedule the decision point and set a new reminder. When

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<v Speaker 1>you decide when you will decide, and set a reminder.

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<v Speaker 1>You avoid stewing over things that you can't do anything about.

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<v Speaker 1>And because of the reminder, you also avoid worrying that

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<v Speaker 1>you will forget to make plans when the time comes.

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<v Speaker 1>Scheduling your decision ensure as you will make the plans

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<v Speaker 1>when you need to and freeze you up for focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on other things in the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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