1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Sometimes when we feel overwhelmed, we have this gut reaction, no, 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 1: it all needs to happen, but really it doesn't. 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 2: Really. 4 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: When you take a step back and you look at 5 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: the things that you feel that need to get done 6 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: a sap, oftentimes you can identify something that just doesn't 7 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: have as much priority. 8 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 2: Lately, it just feels like a lot. 9 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,160 Speaker 1: I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day 10 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: to do everything that I want to do. As someone 11 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: that is super type A. The uncertainty that surrounds planning 12 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: and scheduling when we don't know what's going on in 13 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: the world with dare I say it, coronavirus, it makes 14 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: me feel the most on edge. I turn on the 15 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: news and I feel instantly overwhelmed, and I email and 16 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: I feel overwhelmed. 17 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 2: It feels as if. 18 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: No matter how many deep breaths I take, it's just 19 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: not going away. 20 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 2: Relatable. 21 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, getting overwhelmed happens, and that's what I'm talking 22 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: about today. For Hurdle Moment, Emily a body here. You 23 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: are listening to Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where I 24 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 1: sit down with inspiring individuals to talk about everything from 25 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: their big wins to how they've gotten through some of 26 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: life's toughest moments. On the show, you can expect vulnerability, motivation, 27 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: and candid discussions with everyone from top athletes to aspiring 28 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and what it really takes to follow your passions. 29 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: My mission is simple to inspire you to be your 30 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: best self, move with intention, and have some fun along 31 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: the way. Now, a lot of things can cause that 32 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: overwhelming feeling. Whether it's relationship stress, a demanding job, big 33 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: life changes, lack of sleep. The list goes on, and 34 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: often it really is just a phase. 35 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 2: The good news is that. 36 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: There are strategies that we can implement to make it 37 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: not feel so debilitating, and by talking about it, well, 38 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: that's the very first step for hurdle moment. Today, I'm 39 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: diving in on how to manage feeling overwhelmed in five steps. 40 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: Before I get into things, quick shout out to my 41 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: sponsor Beam talk about feeling overwhelmed. 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You guys know where to find. 51 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: It's at Emily a Body at Hurdle podcast over on 52 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: Instagram and Twitter. If you have a hurdle moment of 53 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: your own to share, or you just want to say hi, 54 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: you can always reach me over email. It's Emily at 55 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: hurdle dot us. And with that, let's get to hurdling. 56 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: I cried at acupuncture last week. Not because anything hurts surprisingly. Actually, 57 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: I've been really loving getting into an acupuncture routine, despite 58 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: being one of those little girls growing up that cried 59 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: at the sight of needles. 60 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 2: No, I cried because I felt overwhelmed. 61 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: I sat down, and you know that feeling when someone 62 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: asks you how you are and you know you're not okay, 63 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: and you feel the emotions just bubbling up in the 64 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: back of your chest. Yeah, that's pretty much what happened. 65 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: If I'm being honest, I feel overwhelmed a lot. I'm 66 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: also realistic. I know that I need to be able 67 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: to manage this feeling, especially as an entrepreneur. If I 68 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: let the feeling get the best of me, then I 69 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: can't do my work, which means that I won't be 70 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: making any money. And man, if you want to talk 71 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: about overwhelming being a journalist with constant deadlines, it's certainly heavy. 72 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: Deadlines can be so heavy every single morning I open 73 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: up my laptop and I look at my spreadsheet and 74 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:32,720 Speaker 1: it's full of deadlines. But getting to a place where 75 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: I know how to handle all of them it's part 76 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: of my job. So here I am to share with 77 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: you the strategies that help me cope when I feel 78 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,280 Speaker 1: as if my world is closing in on me, when 79 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:48,039 Speaker 1: I feel as though there just isn't enough time. My 80 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 1: first strategy to navigating feeling overwhelmed admitting that you feel 81 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: this way. Fighting off the idea that you may be 82 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: feeling a certain way, it does not help you handle 83 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 1: what's actually going on. Remember, feeling overwhelmed happens to everyone. 84 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 2: It is so normal. 85 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: You don't need to feel guilty that you're not a superhero, 86 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: because let's be honest, none of us really are. By 87 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: admitting to yourself that, okay, this is a thing, then 88 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 1: you're able to take the next step in managing that 89 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: overwhelming feeling. Tip number two identify small wins. There is 90 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: so much power in small wins. We've all heard the 91 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 1: saying before the journey of one thousand miles starts with 92 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: a single step. Oftentimes we set lofty goals with big expectations, 93 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: and of course it is so great to have those goals, 94 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: but if we don't take the time to stop and 95 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: reflect and celebrate the little things that get us to 96 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: the big things, then it's almost guaranteed that feelings of 97 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:59,919 Speaker 1: anxiety and being overwhelmed will creep in. Of note, small 98 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:05,039 Speaker 1: winds can literally be anything. One of my small wins 99 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: this week was when I got to acupuncture the elevator 100 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: was waiting for me on the ground floor of a 101 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 1: twelve story building. A small win can be opening the 102 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: refrigerator and realizing that before you went to bed last night, 103 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: you actually filled up the britta, which means that you've 104 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: cold refreshing water to drink first thing right there, and 105 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: then by taking the time to celebrate the little things, 106 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: you allow yourself to be grateful for what is I loved. 107 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: Yesterday I put out on my Instagram asking you guys 108 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: to tell me what some of your small winds. 109 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 2: Are and they were pretty rad. 110 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 1: A boss telling someone that they handled a situation well, 111 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: signing up for a ten k in October with friends 112 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,679 Speaker 1: that gives you something to look forward to. A hand 113 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: sanitizer order finally shipped. I mean, all of these little wins, 114 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:53,919 Speaker 1: these small celebrations, they're all so different, but all equally 115 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:59,159 Speaker 1: great to recognize. The next tip, make a structured to 116 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: do list. How many times have you sat down at 117 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 1: a desk and made a to do list that just 118 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: feels like there's one too many things on it. The 119 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: first important step to making a structure to do list 120 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: is making sure that your to do list is actually manageable, 121 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: so that means only writing down a realistic number of 122 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: things that you'll be able to get through during any 123 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: given day. Then to make sure you're actually getting through 124 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: your to do list, a strategy that I've started implementing 125 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 1: is giving each item a timeframe, so it's kind of 126 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: like you're making a schedule for yourself. For instance, if 127 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: you have a meeting, a proposal to write, a call 128 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 1: to take a brainstorm to have, think about realistically how 129 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: much time each of those things will take, and then 130 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: identify what time of day you can do them. It 131 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: actually feels so rewarding as the day goes on and 132 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: you're able to check off all the things that you're 133 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: getting done. Remember, when you try to attend to everything 134 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 1: at once, everything you're trying to do will most lightly 135 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: get short changed. You owe it to yourself to give 136 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: your undivided attention to one thing at a time. Tip 137 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: number four. Figure out the things that aren't urgent. I 138 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: was sitting in therapy the other day talking about how 139 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: I cried at acupuncture. My therapist asked me if there 140 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: was actually anything on my to do list on the 141 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: docket that didn't need to be done right then and there. 142 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 1: And it's funny because sometimes when we feel overwhelmed, we 143 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: have this gut reaction, no, it all needs to happen, 144 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: but really it doesn't. 145 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 2: Really. 146 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: When you take a step back and you look at 147 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: the things that you feel that need to get done asap, 148 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 1: oftentimes you can identify something that just doesn't have as 149 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 1: much priority. It can be hard when it comes to 150 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 1: things that you've committed to. I totally understand. You don't 151 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:52,199 Speaker 1: want to skip over a meeting, You don't want to 152 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:55,200 Speaker 1: put off a friend date, you have to get this 153 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:59,079 Speaker 1: proposal submitted by five pm. But really, when you take 154 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,199 Speaker 1: a step back and you look at your to dos, 155 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 1: it's easier to realize that things aren't life and death. 156 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: People will understand when you need to harness the power 157 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: of your no. And the last tip today, breathe fun fact, 158 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:18,079 Speaker 1: we do this without thinking about twenty thousand times a day. 159 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: I've read once it's something we do so naturally, but 160 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: not often is it something that we do with a 161 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: lot of intention. So I'm no breathwork expert, but when 162 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 1: I realize that things feel out of control, I always 163 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: do the same breathing exercise. It's called equal breathing. You 164 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: breathe in for an equal amount of time on the 165 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: inhale as you do for the exl and for me, 166 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: I do that for four seconds. So I'll take air 167 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: in for four seconds through my nose and then I'll 168 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: exhale gently for four seconds through my mouth. When I 169 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:56,199 Speaker 1: do this, I actually count the numbers as well. It 170 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: helps to kick those sometimes detrimental thoughts out from my 171 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:04,560 Speaker 1: mind and focus on the calming task at hand. Like 172 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: I said, getting overwhelmed happens, Anxiety happens. You are not 173 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: alone in that you owe it to yourself to try 174 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: to manage it, to move. 175 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 2: Forward the best way possible. 176 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: Again, let me know how you're handling things at Emily 177 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 1: a Body at Hurdle Podcast and always over email Emily 178 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: at hurdle dot us. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys 179 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: next time