1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys 2 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com. 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 2: Really is on the phone today for our first date 4 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:11,879 Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas. 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:13,400 Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him see 6 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe 7 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 2: get her on another date. But first, literally, how long 8 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Lucas? 9 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:21,799 Speaker 3: Yea, so it's been two weeks exactly. 10 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 4: Okay, have you reached out to him? 11 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 5: No? 12 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 3: I kind of feel like the guy she reached out first. 13 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 4: Okay, why do you want to get hold of him? Likeause, 14 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 4: if it's been two weeks? Like, was the date just 15 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 4: like that good? 16 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 3: Well? 17 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 5: I said it was okay, Like it wasn't that great, 18 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,959 Speaker 5: But I thought I did everything right, and he made 19 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 5: it a point to tell me that he really want 20 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 5: to see me again. So I'm just kind of wondering 21 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 5: why he hasn't reached out. 22 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 4: Right, Well, tell us and tell us about the date, Lily, 23 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 4: what happened? 24 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, well, I haven't been on a date in a while. 25 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 5: I'm kind of like a homebody. So my friends were 26 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 5: saying that they needed to get me out. They met 27 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 5: this school guy at a neighborhood bar named Lucas. So 28 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 5: I met up with him for a songria and app 29 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 5: a QBR. 30 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 4: And it was fun. 31 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 3: But you know, he talked about himself a lot. 32 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 5: And I don't think I did anything wrong because I 33 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 5: didn't have time to say anything inappropriate because he was 34 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:18,000 Speaker 5: talking about him the whole time kind of and you want. 35 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 6: To see him again. 36 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 4: Well, I think that sometimes when people start talking about 37 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 4: themselves incessantly, it's almost a defense mechanism, right, like you 38 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 4: get kind of right. Yeah, So we had two different 39 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 4: options that he was nervous or he's extremely arrogant. I'm 40 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 4: not sure what was your take on that, Lily. 41 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 5: No, maybe I thought maybe he was nervous, and maybe 42 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 5: I didn't react to him, like maybe I should have 43 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 5: been like ooh in ah about his whatever he was 44 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 5: saying a little bit more. I could have been more engaging. 45 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 4: So you think that would be the that's the problem. 46 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, I really would like to know. 47 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 3: That's kind of why I'm going in. 48 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 2: Well, tell us a little bit more about the date, 49 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 2: like was there any awkward moments or anything like that. 50 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 5: Well, he wanted to split the bill, which I'm always 51 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 5: kind of like, I don't know how I feel about that. 52 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 5: I feel like the guy should usually pay. But it 53 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 5: was kind of a casual thing, so I was like, okay. 54 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 5: But I also think that when guys want split the bill, 55 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 5: it's kind of like, oh, do you not want to. 56 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 3: See me again? So that was one signe but I 57 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 3: didn't read too much into it. 58 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:25,679 Speaker 5: I mean, we had, you know, pretty good conversations. M h. 59 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 3: It was like a fixed out of him. 60 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 6: Date six out of him? You still want to call 61 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 6: him back? 62 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess my ego's a little bit hurt. 63 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 7: Maybe I don't know. 64 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 4: So this is about the principle, not the date. It's like, Okay, 65 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 4: you're the buddy that had the nerve that goes to me, 66 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 4: and you want to know why. 67 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, that's why. 68 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 6: How did your date end? 69 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 3: You know, he just hugged. 70 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 5: He didn't try to go in for like an awkward kiss, 71 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 5: which I think is very respectful on a first date. 72 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 5: And again he said that he really wanted to see 73 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 5: me again, which I was, you know, flattered, And then 74 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 5: he walks me to my car. 75 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: Okay, and you said that you haven't reached out to 76 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 2: him because you think that he should reach out, right. 77 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, And he also said that he was going to 78 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 3: reach out if he wanted to see it. 79 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 4: Had he reached out, Lily, would you have gone on 80 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 4: that second date? 81 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:16,239 Speaker 3: Yeah? 82 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 5: I always wanted to give people a second because you know, 83 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 5: people get nervous. 84 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 3: I was a little nervous. 85 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 4: They do say you should go on a date with 86 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 4: somebody three times before you make a decision about how 87 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 4: you feel about them. Science and my mother both say them. 88 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 4: I agree. I'm just saying that's what i've heard. 89 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll play a song come back, and then 90 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 2: call him and see if you tell us why he's 91 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 2: ghosting you, and maybe. 92 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 6: Get you another date. 93 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 2: Okay, thank you, if you even want one. Maybe they 94 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 2: just be able to find out why you're getting ghosted. 95 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 2: All right, Well, play a song, come back, get your 96 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 2: first date follow. 97 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: Up, Next first date follow Up powered by the Advocates 98 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: Injury Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. 99 00:03:58,040 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first date follow up, 100 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Lily is on the phone 101 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas that 102 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 2: she is okay with. 103 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 6: I was normally I say that. 104 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 2: Really likes But Lily doesn't really really really like Lucas. 105 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 2: She just wanted to date with him. She's getting ghosted 106 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: for two weeks now, so we're about to call him 107 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and 108 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 2: maybe get her another date if she wants one. But Lily, 109 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your situation? 110 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 5: Yeah? Sure, So I met up with this guy Lucas 111 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 5: for like a cute date, and he talked about himself 112 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 5: a lot, but at the end he said he really 113 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:33,159 Speaker 5: wanted to see me again and he was going to 114 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 5: reach out. 115 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 3: And it's been two weeks. 116 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 2: Okay, you ready for us to call him? Yeah, here 117 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:54,040 Speaker 2: we go. Hi masspeak to Lucas please. Yeah, Hey Lucas, 118 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 2: how are you. My name is Jewbell and I'm calling 119 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 2: from a radio show. 120 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 6: It's called the Jubil Show. 121 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:59,239 Speaker 4: Hi, Lucas, I'm mean als on the show. 122 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 7: Hi, I'm Ria Things. What's gone? 123 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 6: Have you heard the show before? 124 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 5: No? 125 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 6: Well, let me tell you a little bit about it. 126 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 6: It's a radio show. 127 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 2: And then also we just a segment on it called 128 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 2: the First Aid follow Up, where if you go out 129 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and ghost them. That person 130 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and 131 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email 132 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 2: about you from somebody you want to know who? 133 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 7: Sure? 134 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 6: Okay, her name is Lily. 135 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:26,719 Speaker 4: Do you remember Lily? 136 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:28,719 Speaker 7: Yeah? Yeah, of course? 137 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 6: Thoughts on Lily. 138 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 7: Uh she thinks I'm ghosting her? Mm hmm are you 139 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 7: I don't know? I don't. I don't call girls after 140 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 7: a date. I wait for them to call me. 141 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 4: Can I ask why? 142 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 7: Yeah? Because I don't like to play games. I like, 143 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 7: I don't want to girl plays games, So like, I 144 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 7: don't want to like how many days you're supposed to wait? Not, 145 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:51,840 Speaker 7: It's just a stupid game. I don't need that. So 146 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 7: I want somebody who wants to hang out with me. So, 147 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 7: I mean, if anybody's getting ghosted, it's me here, right Huh? 148 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 6: Okay, did did you like your date with her? 149 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 3: Yeah? 150 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 7: It was fine. She didn't seem like that. You know, 151 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 7: I'm like, I'm an open book. Asked me questions. You know, 152 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 7: she didn't to have much to say. 153 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 6: Okay, did it seemed like she wasn't into you? 154 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:12,119 Speaker 3: Really? 155 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 7: I mean it was fine, it was you know, it wasn't. 156 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 7: It wasn't like a big spark, but it was fine, 157 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:18,559 Speaker 7: like I would go with her again. 158 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 4: Okay, that's what I was gonna ask if you call 159 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 4: me if she did. Okay, interesting, okay, cool, Well, Lucas, 160 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 4: Lily is actually on the phone listing and wants to 161 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 4: talk to you. 162 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 7: Hi. Oh oh hey, hi, Lucas. This yeah. 163 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 4: Hey, look, Lucas, she didn't more than call you. We 164 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 4: can't do too. 165 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 3: Hey. 166 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 7: Okay, well, I mean this, this feels like the game 167 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 7: to end all games. Man, I don't I don't think 168 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 7: this is for me. We're doing a radio show after 169 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 7: one date. I don't know. 170 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 3: I'm not a game player at all. 171 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 5: I was just really curious why you didn't text me 172 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 5: after you then you really wanted to see me again 173 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 5: and you were going to reach out. 174 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 7: You didn't text me either. I mean, it feels like 175 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 7: it goes both ways. 176 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 5: Well, Lucas, actually you're the one that's playing games because 177 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 5: you're waiting to see if I'm going to text you. 178 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 7: I mean, you could just have texted. This feels like 179 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 7: you're doing games right back. I feel like this is 180 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 7: these are your. 181 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 4: Games to get clarity and communication. 182 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 7: Look, I don't know what you want? Like, you didn't text, 183 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 7: You didn't say anything, So seems like you know want. 184 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 7: I want to be with someone who really wants to 185 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 7: talk to me. That's enough, That's what I'm looking for. 186 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 2: Don't you see it kind of as a game because 187 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 2: you didn't text either? 188 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying? 189 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 7: What it feels like now, you're trying to do mine games. 190 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 7: I'm just not interested in this. 191 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 6: Yeah. No, I'm not trying. 192 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 4: You're playing games. 193 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, now, I think we're all playing games. But if 194 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 2: you want someone to like you, shouldn't you also like 195 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 2: them show them interest as well. 196 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 7: I mean, I'm interested in everybody, So I'm looking for 197 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 7: people who are interested in me. 198 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 5: Oh okay, How am I supposed to know that you're 199 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 5: interested if you don't text or call me? 200 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 7: Am I supposed to know you're interested? If you don't 201 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 7: text your call me? 202 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 3: Wow? 203 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 2: Hey, would you guys? I'd like to go on a 204 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 2: second date. We'll pay for it? 205 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, actually I would? 206 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 6: Oh what you would? 207 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 3: Yeah? 208 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 6: Ye, Lucas, you want to go on a date too? 209 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 210 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 7: Sure, it sounds good. You're gonna pay for them? 211 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 6: Yeah? 212 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 4: So, now do we both feel confident that the other 213 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 4: person is interested in the other person or do we 214 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 4: need to text again after this call to say I'm interested, 215 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 4: I want to see you. We can go on the 216 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 4: counter three you can text each other at the same time. 217 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it sounds like she's interested. That's what 218 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 7: I was looking for. So I think he solved it. 219 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 2: All right, And now Lily, you know that he was 220 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 2: interested too, and you'm glad to find that out. Okay, well, well, 221 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 2: enjoy your date and you guys have a lot to 222 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:51,079 Speaker 2: talk about. 223 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 6: I'm sure, yeah, good luck on that. 224 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 7: We should appreciate this out now. Then I guess you 225 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 7: want to text me. 226 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 3: Only you know what. Sure, but you have to text 227 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 3: me back after. 228 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 4: Isn't that what you do when? 229 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,839 Speaker 2: Okay, well, deal, we got a deal and another day 230 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 2: your congratulations guys. 231 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: Jubile's first date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury 232 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,559 Speaker 1: Attorney Online at ADVOCATESLA dot com.