WEBVTT - Social Media Influencers and their Impact

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<v Speaker 2>through that podcast and clicking on Exactly Amada. Today's topic

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<v Speaker 2>is about social media influencers and the youth. This is

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<v Speaker 2>a very important topic, Okay, as as a mother, as

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<v Speaker 2>an as an artist, as a daughter, as a woman,

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<v Speaker 2>as a human being, as everything you can imagine, I

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<v Speaker 2>have my own perspective and opinion on social media, and

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<v Speaker 2>I have it from both aspects.

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<v Speaker 1>I have it from.

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<v Speaker 2>Being the one that influences others to do things and

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<v Speaker 2>behave a certain way, or you know, the fashion statement

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<v Speaker 2>or the music that they listen to, or their opinions

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<v Speaker 2>of relationships and all these other great things. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I also have my opinion from the other side, the

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<v Speaker 2>other spectrum of being the one influenced by the things

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<v Speaker 2>that I see. Today we're going to talk about a

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<v Speaker 2>very serious topic and is very urgent topic. The truth

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<v Speaker 2>of the matter, it is that throughout the years, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>social media influencers to me to a certain extent, should

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<v Speaker 2>be accountable right for the youth behavior and the way

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<v Speaker 2>that it harms the youth and the generation to come.

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<v Speaker 2>But at the same time, there's another part of me

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<v Speaker 2>that feels like social media shouldn't be your mother and

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<v Speaker 2>your father. Social media shouldn't be the ones teaching you

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<v Speaker 2>how to live your life, how to behave in the.

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<v Speaker 1>Things that you should and shouldn't do better.

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<v Speaker 2>At the same time, we spend most of our time

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<v Speaker 2>even as adults, you know, we're talking about kids.

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<v Speaker 1>The adults we spend a.

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<v Speaker 2>Lot of time, hours of our days stuck on social media.

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<v Speaker 1>What do we expect our kids to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Our kids probably spend probably even more time, especially now

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<v Speaker 2>with the whole TikTok and everything else. I'm not the

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<v Speaker 2>biggest TikToker, which, by the way, you guys can follow

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<v Speaker 2>me at a mad aln on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>But besides TikTok, there's so many new social media apps

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<v Speaker 2>and just websites and all types of stuff snapchats and

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram and Facebook and you know Once upon a time, Twitter,

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<v Speaker 2>now x and you know the Thriller, And there's just

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<v Speaker 2>so many things to keep up. That's how I know

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm feeling old, because like I can't keep up

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<v Speaker 2>with everything else is going on.

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<v Speaker 1>But this topic, I've seen it.

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen parents talk about it, educators, experts concern about

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<v Speaker 2>the negative effect that social media and influencers have on

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<v Speaker 2>mental health, and you know, children and adolescents.

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<v Speaker 1>I personally have mixed emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a part of me that feels like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what if you're an adult and you're over here, you know, motivating, influencing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, teenage kids, or whatever the case may be,

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<v Speaker 2>to do stupid trends or you know, stick your hand

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<v Speaker 2>in boiling water and look and see what happens type

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<v Speaker 2>of thing. Yes, you should be held accountable, but at

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<v Speaker 2>the same time, there's a part of me that feels,

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<v Speaker 2>as a parent, it is my duty to raise my

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<v Speaker 2>children to.

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<v Speaker 1>Know what to do and what not to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't stick your hand and know damn boiling water, because

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<v Speaker 2>you already know what's going to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you listening to this person? I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>The kids spend so much time on social mediu and

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<v Speaker 2>all these other platforms, and they end up becoming friends

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<v Speaker 2>and socializing with other you know, all these other people,

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<v Speaker 2>and now they want to listen and follow to what

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<v Speaker 2>everybody else is saying. Social media influencers are the people

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<v Speaker 2>who have the large just numbers of followers on platforms

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<v Speaker 2>like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, snapchat, all these other things, and

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<v Speaker 2>they promote products and services, lifestyle and their own opinions

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<v Speaker 2>like I do myself. I get paid to promote a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of products just because you see someone on social

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<v Speaker 2>media that you follow rocking a Chanel bag, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a Hermez bag, driving a Ferrari living in a penhuse

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean that you have to go broke trying to

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<v Speaker 2>follow that lifestyle that may not be for you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is life that they are living.

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<v Speaker 2>It is unfair for this person to have to modify

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<v Speaker 2>the way that they live, the things that they've worked for,

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<v Speaker 2>the life that they have, so that these people that

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<v Speaker 2>follow them don't feel a certain type of way about them,

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<v Speaker 2>or that they don't feel, you know, insecure about their

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<v Speaker 2>own lifestyle or their own way of living.

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<v Speaker 1>Be happy with what you have too.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think that that's important because we also we

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<v Speaker 2>always want to blame those that are you know, influencing

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<v Speaker 2>some of those that are influencing them to do you know,

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<v Speaker 2>negative things. But at the same time, why aren't we

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<v Speaker 2>talking about, well, those that do influence them to do good.

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<v Speaker 2>Because there's a lot of people out of here on

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<v Speaker 2>social media that are influencing people to do good with

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<v Speaker 2>your life, to study, to you know, invest in real estate,

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<v Speaker 2>bigcoins that to get an education, to go to church.

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<v Speaker 2>There's so many there's platforms that teach you how to cook,

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<v Speaker 2>there's so many platforms that teach you to do good

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<v Speaker 2>and better for yourself. But we only want to attack

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<v Speaker 2>those that are doing stupid things on social media. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that as adults, as parents, and I know that

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<v Speaker 2>is very hard because at one point I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>have to deal with that as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I have two girls now.

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<v Speaker 2>Eventually, maybe from here to when there are adults, Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>and all these other platforms that we use now may

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<v Speaker 2>not even exist.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe, you know, everything will be virtual. Who knows what

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<v Speaker 1>the world will look like.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think to a certain extent, it's unfair to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, judge these people for what they do. And

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<v Speaker 2>I understand the influence that they have in the culture,

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<v Speaker 2>the influence that they have, but I also think that

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<v Speaker 2>it is important.

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<v Speaker 1>For us to know who we are. We gotta do

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<v Speaker 1>some self work too. I don't think we can just blame.

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard since that was growing up, the same thing

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<v Speaker 2>they used to say back in the days.

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<v Speaker 1>We've heard, you know, hip hop songs.

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<v Speaker 2>We've seen movies, We've seen so many things that have

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<v Speaker 2>so much violence.

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<v Speaker 1>I can hear a song talking about bang bang bang.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'll just say, okay, it's just a song to me.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't mean I have to take it into real life.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think that the work really comes from home.

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<v Speaker 2>The work really comes from your household, from your foundation

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<v Speaker 2>at home is where the work needs to be done.

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<v Speaker 2>You can listen when you go outside, you can listen

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<v Speaker 2>to all those things, but if you're raised properly, if

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<v Speaker 2>you've been taught well, if you want better for yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>Because sometimes I feel like we can't just blame our parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Our parents may teach us right, but we're the hard

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<v Speaker 2>headed ones that want to go in a different route.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, life is going to teach you, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I also don't feel that in many occasions, we see

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people talking.

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<v Speaker 1>About, well, the parents need to do this, and the parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe the parents are doing those things, but unfortunately, to

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<v Speaker 2>a certain extent, parents don't get to be with the

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<v Speaker 2>children twenty four hours, you know, all twenty four hours

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<v Speaker 2>in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>They spend a lot of time in school.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't know who our children are socializing when they're

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<v Speaker 2>in school, what they're listening to, what they're doing in

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<v Speaker 2>that space. So I feel that is unfair to also

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<v Speaker 2>just blame one thousand percent, you know, the parents for

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<v Speaker 2>the children's behavior. There's just so much that goes into

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<v Speaker 2>this because we also have to understand that these platforms

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<v Speaker 2>are made for adults, and yes, certain children have access

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<v Speaker 2>to it after a certain age.

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<v Speaker 1>But who should be held accountable?

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<v Speaker 2>Should it be the platforms that are creating this, Like

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<v Speaker 2>should Instagram, you know, Facebook and all these other platforms

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<v Speaker 2>be held accountable. All they're doing is just giving you

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<v Speaker 2>a platform to showcase whatever it is that you want,

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<v Speaker 2>if you follow the trend that's on you. It is

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<v Speaker 2>a very sensitive space because I've been judged so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been judged for the way that I dance that

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<v Speaker 2>I affect the youth. I've been judged for the way

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<v Speaker 2>that I behave on reality TV because it affects the youth.

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<v Speaker 2>It affects the way that, you know, other women view

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<v Speaker 2>their life or the way that they are being portrayed,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, as a stereotype.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been accused of blackface.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been accused of you know, I've been accused of

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<v Speaker 2>so many things. I've been I've been somewhat based off

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<v Speaker 2>social media. The social media court right held accountable for

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<v Speaker 2>certain things that I'm like, I'm living my life and

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<v Speaker 2>there's no guidebook on how to live your life.

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<v Speaker 1>I've made many mistakes in my life and I'm still learning.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still growing. This is part of life. Like no

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<v Speaker 2>one teaches you how to live. You go through the process,

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<v Speaker 2>You go through the journey on your own. We see

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<v Speaker 2>women like Kim Kardashian and things like this that they promote.

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<v Speaker 2>For example, now the broadwood nipples. You know, now all

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<v Speaker 2>the women want to have hard nipples, and now was

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<v Speaker 2>a trending thing. Now this is becoming like the new trend,

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<v Speaker 2>the new style. When they decided to do you know,

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<v Speaker 2>fillers and the more, you know, like juicy lips. Now

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<v Speaker 2>everyone decided to do that. I understand because the amount

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<v Speaker 2>of millions of followers that they have and the money

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<v Speaker 2>that they have that they are able to influence a culture,

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<v Speaker 2>a whole generation based off what they're saying. But then

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<v Speaker 2>again here comes us, when do we take accountability for

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<v Speaker 2>the things that we decide to do with ourselves. I've

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<v Speaker 2>seen a lot of surgeons talk about, oh, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>have a lot of you know, women coming in here

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<v Speaker 2>trying to have the chin of this person, the nose

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<v Speaker 2>of that person, the mouth of this person.

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<v Speaker 1>Boobs.

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<v Speaker 2>But they try to, you know, like do a puzzle

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<v Speaker 2>of all these different celebrities to become this I also

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<v Speaker 2>see the other point of like, well, these celebrities are influencing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, society. They are the ones putting the quote

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<v Speaker 2>unquote standards of beauty and making women, you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>men feel insecure about their looks and who they are

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<v Speaker 2>as a person.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>It is so hard because, like I said before, I

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<v Speaker 2>can see both sides.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how.

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<v Speaker 2>To pick a side because to a certain extent, I

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<v Speaker 2>work on the other side where I influence. I work

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<v Speaker 2>on the other side, where you know, I have to

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<v Speaker 2>take accountability and say that the things that I do post,

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<v Speaker 2>the things that I do do at a certain tools

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<v Speaker 2>a certain extent.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I get it. It does influence a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>my followers.

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<v Speaker 2>For example, when I first did I song, which is

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<v Speaker 2>like my first hit song, Dominican Republic, I back then

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<v Speaker 2>I felt super comfortable and I still do rocking my

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<v Speaker 2>afro and my afro was questioned in so many ways,

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<v Speaker 2>why is your hair like that? Well, because I'm black,

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<v Speaker 2>why is your hair? Why does your hair stand up?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it just naturally does, just because society has accustomed

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<v Speaker 2>us to seeing, you know, black women with straight hair,

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't mean that that naturally is our nature. So

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<v Speaker 2>when I did it, I had to fight consistently to

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<v Speaker 2>represent and talk about my hair and why I was

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<v Speaker 2>like then it was like, okay, well then now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just gonna wear an afro wig because it was just

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<v Speaker 2>doing a lot of damage to my hair from one

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<v Speaker 2>show to the other. You know, I didn't have enough

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<v Speaker 2>time to treat my hair to make sure it looked perfectly.

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<v Speaker 1>So I rocked the wig afro.

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<v Speaker 2>But even before rocking the wig, afro, me standing with

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<v Speaker 2>the representation of what I wanted to see, of who

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to be, of who I was. Me staying

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<v Speaker 2>true to myself at that moment inspired other women, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of other women, and a lot of children, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of girls and boys to just rock their afro.

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<v Speaker 2>That became a statement, But then it also became a

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<v Speaker 2>statement I had to fight because then now throughout the years,

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<v Speaker 2>I rocked you know, wigs, and I've done all these

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<v Speaker 2>other things, and I understood obviously, it took me a

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<v Speaker 2>long time to understand. You know what, my hair doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>identify me, is just part of who I am. My

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<v Speaker 2>hair doesn't specify who I am as a person. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just part of who I am. And just because I have,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, braids on and then rock different wigs. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't mean I'm less black. It doesn't mean I'm

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<v Speaker 2>less Afro Latina. It doesn't mean I stand my beliefs

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<v Speaker 2>have changed. It just means that I put on a wig.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I am trying different looks. It just means

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<v Speaker 2>that I am an artist and I should be able

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<v Speaker 2>to be flexible with my looks.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm okay with that. But I didn't realize in.

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<v Speaker 2>The moment how a lot of my followers felt with

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<v Speaker 2>these changes, because I influenced them to a certain extent.

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<v Speaker 2>I always like to say that because I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to never feel responsible one hundred percent for people's behavior

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<v Speaker 2>the way that they feel, because that's, you know, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>The way that you feel. I never realized how how impactful.

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<v Speaker 2>It was when I decided to start changing looks for

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<v Speaker 2>me because I needed to do was good, what was

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<v Speaker 2>best for me. But a lot of people felt attached

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<v Speaker 2>to that feeling. So when I started changing, they felt

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<v Speaker 2>very upset. They started judging me, how could you do this?

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<v Speaker 2>You have betrayed us?

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<v Speaker 1>You da da da da. I'm like, I still don't

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<v Speaker 1>purm my hair.

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<v Speaker 2>The AfOR was still there after, you know, fifteen years

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<v Speaker 2>of the same look, I just wanted to change and

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<v Speaker 2>try something differ, and I feel it was the worst

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<v Speaker 2>feeling ever. And that's just one example of many. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I've changed looks throughout the years, different styles of clothes,

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<v Speaker 2>of wardrobe, just I've changed, I've evolved them.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been exploring myself the person.

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<v Speaker 2>But at the same time, people get so caught up

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<v Speaker 2>in these influencers, in these celebrities and these people that

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<v Speaker 2>they look up to, that I think that they forget

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<v Speaker 2>that they're also just human, and they're also learning, and

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<v Speaker 2>they're also exploring, and their life is not perfect. No

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<v Speaker 2>matter how photoshop you see their life on social medium,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not truly what it is. And I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 2>because I stand on the other side of it. I've

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<v Speaker 2>seen it, I'm living it, I'm around them.

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<v Speaker 1>What you see is not always what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. I'm a fan of Beyonce, for example, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure that Beyonce has her bad days. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>she has her days where she's uncomfortable, where she's tired,

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<v Speaker 2>where she's over it, where she still has to be

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<v Speaker 2>a wife, where she still has to be a mother,

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<v Speaker 2>because she's still a regular person. Even though we idle

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<v Speaker 2>these people, it doesn't mean that she may have not

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<v Speaker 2>been you know, maybe she was cramping, maybe her head hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>But she still gets up on stage, she smiles, she

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<v Speaker 2>gives you the best of her. But we can't forget

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<v Speaker 2>that there's still human beings. We can't forget that there's

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<v Speaker 2>still regular people that we have idolized. That we the

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<v Speaker 2>people have given them this platform. We the people have

0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:26.440
<v Speaker 2>given them this power. When we say that these influencers

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<v Speaker 2>have all these millions of followers and now they influence society,

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<v Speaker 2>They influence you know, the next generation to come, They

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<v Speaker 2>influence their children. We the people have given them those followers.

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<v Speaker 2>You follow them, you'll give them that power.

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<v Speaker 1>We see a lot of people doing a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>stupid things on social media. You'll follow them.

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<v Speaker 2>You sit there and you watch them, You give them

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<v Speaker 2>views and likes, You add on to their power. So

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<v Speaker 2>to you know, when we see these people and we're

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<v Speaker 2>over here judging them, you're talking about them. You talk

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<v Speaker 2>about them, you criticize them, You follow them, you give

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<v Speaker 2>them views, you share, you like, like, we've created this

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<v Speaker 2>monster of social media. We've created. These monsters of influencers

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<v Speaker 2>we've created. We give them our money, we make them rich,

0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:28.520
<v Speaker 2>we sacrifice our life, our time to give them this platform,

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<v Speaker 2>but then we are upset when they influence our children.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's important for us to also take accountability.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I said before, you know, life existed before social media,

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<v Speaker 2>and I know that you can't take it away. But

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<v Speaker 2>I also feel that when we're talking about children and

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<v Speaker 2>teenagers and stuff like that, till they're eighteen years old

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<v Speaker 2>and they're in your households, you have that power. You

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<v Speaker 2>have that control the best that you can. The best

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<v Speaker 2>that you can means once you walk up into this house,

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<v Speaker 2>that phone drops right there at the door. Period, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you make the rules and regulations, when you step out

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<v Speaker 2>in case of an emergency, you have your phone. So

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<v Speaker 2>that means that you get to have your phone when

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<v Speaker 2>you're out of here, when you're out of this house,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a phone. So if in that time that

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<v Speaker 2>you're in a home, you watch some stupid stuff and

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<v Speaker 2>you fall for it, that's that right which, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>you should be in school learning something. And as a parent,

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<v Speaker 2>I also think it's important to be you're in school

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<v Speaker 2>after school you have soccer, you have basketball, you have biolin,

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<v Speaker 2>you have you have so many things that by the

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<v Speaker 2>time you get home.

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<v Speaker 1>I need you to be exhausted.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to be too tired that you don't feel

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<v Speaker 2>like doing twenty tiktoks before you go to bed. That's

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<v Speaker 2>my opinion, right as a parent, now that is my opinion.

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<v Speaker 1>You may have a different method.

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<v Speaker 2>You may be so exhausted that you just don't care,

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<v Speaker 2>or you may be like, you know what, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>avoid social media. My kid needs to have it, or

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, I want my kid. Whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 2>it works for you. As a parent, judgment free zone,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what you do. But then again, you also need

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<v Speaker 2>to make yourself responsible for the things that your child does.

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<v Speaker 1>I plan on having my house regulations.

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<v Speaker 2>You have a phone when you get out in case

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<v Speaker 2>of an emergency, when you walk in here phone, drop

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<v Speaker 2>the phone in the lock whiles, I'll give it to

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<v Speaker 2>you in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just what it is. You can use a computer.

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<v Speaker 2>In the computer, you can somewhat let's just say, right,

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<v Speaker 2>iPad computer.

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<v Speaker 1>You put restrictions. You can use this. This is what

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<v Speaker 1>it is.

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<v Speaker 2>You remember back in the days when your mom used

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<v Speaker 2>to look at you or your dad. You know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying the wire, whatever it was, you knew you

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<v Speaker 2>need to follow house rules, rules and regulations. There's no

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<v Speaker 2>more rules and regulations. You know, a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>just do whatever they want right now. I'm just talking

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<v Speaker 2>about when it comes to social media influencers and the youth, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about the control that as parents you have.

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<v Speaker 2>Over your children and the things that they can watch

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<v Speaker 2>and can do once they step out of your household.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that there's a limit of things that you

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<v Speaker 1>can do, but.

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<v Speaker 2>In your household, as a parent, communication should be key.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever it is that you need to be doing, then

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<v Speaker 2>you go ahead and you do that for the protection

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<v Speaker 2>and the safety of your kid. We're supposed to be

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<v Speaker 2>here together as a unit, as a house, as a family.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a difference bit you respect and fearing your parents.

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<v Speaker 2>I need you to respect me. It's not about being scared.

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<v Speaker 2>I need you to be able to be open with

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<v Speaker 2>me and tell me Mommy or Bobby Meda, this is

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<v Speaker 2>happening to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm scared. They're bullying me. I don't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>What should I do?

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<v Speaker 2>There should be a space of yes, I am your parent,

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<v Speaker 2>but I also can be I can be I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>I can be your friend. What is happening if your

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<v Speaker 2>kids are so scared to talk to you, but they

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<v Speaker 2>feel more comfortable to talk to social media, that's a problem.

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<v Speaker 2>If we're exalted from doing three four jobs, come home.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you're exalusted and you.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't feel like you have the time to communicate with

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<v Speaker 2>your kid or you know what, you got it, here's

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<v Speaker 2>your iPad. I don't want to do it if that's

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<v Speaker 2>how you feel, which I respect and I understand because

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<v Speaker 2>each his own judgment free zone. Let me know how

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<v Speaker 2>life was for you growing up. I want to know

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<v Speaker 2>all these things, hobbies, exercise, socializing with friends and family,

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<v Speaker 2>all those things have been modified. Your children spend your

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<v Speaker 2>When I say your children, I mean it could be

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<v Speaker 2>the children of this of this generation of society. They

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<v Speaker 2>spend more time on iPads video games than they do

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<v Speaker 2>spending time with their family.

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<v Speaker 1>You remember those at the house.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes your mom would just put on music and you

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<v Speaker 2>guys would dance. You would sit down on Saturdays to

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<v Speaker 2>watch Don Francisco. Weg up in the morning to watch

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<v Speaker 2>the Pierreto America or whatever it may have been a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of that. The cultural aspect has been you know, gone,

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<v Speaker 2>It is vanished. We can still save it. We can

0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:49.480
<v Speaker 2>still save it, but the savings starts with us. We

0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:52.440
<v Speaker 2>need to make those things happen. For example, sometimes I'm

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<v Speaker 2>at home and I realize I've been stuck on my

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<v Speaker 2>phone so long, answering messages, talking about work, my real estate,

0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:01.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, filming this, that all type of stuff. My

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<v Speaker 2>girls may be at the crib and it's been an

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<v Speaker 2>hour and I've been stuck on my phone, and I

0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:08.600
<v Speaker 2>realized it, and I'm like, oh, no, I dropped the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Turn it off. I don't care who's calling me.

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<v Speaker 2>This is my family time, this is my my mother time,

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<v Speaker 2>this is my me time.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's not just because of.

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<v Speaker 2>My girls, because I spend you know, twenty four hours

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<v Speaker 2>with my girls, but it could even be my mother.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, my mother and my father are elderly people

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<v Speaker 2>at this point in life. You know, they're already past

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<v Speaker 2>your sixties. This is just the way that life is.

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<v Speaker 2>And I realize sometimes I'm spending more time, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>on my phone than really enjoying their presence, enjoying their company,

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<v Speaker 2>because at one point, unfortunately The truth of the matter

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<v Speaker 2>is they no longer will be here, and my phone

0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:48.800
<v Speaker 2>will still be here, but they won't Where do my

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<v Speaker 2>priorities stand at? You know, those things are important. You

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<v Speaker 2>need to realize what exactly is your priority. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know as as much as I blame social media for

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<v Speaker 2>the way that they have influenced our children, the next generation,

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<v Speaker 2>even ourselves, because today's topic is not really as for

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<v Speaker 2>adults per se.

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<v Speaker 1>Right. I remember growing up, my mother Medenia had that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was so over her because I was like, yo,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have no like freedom and you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>my freedom, which I didn't realize it back then, my

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<v Speaker 2>freedom was dancing.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, after school you have.

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<v Speaker 2>Dance classes, and then on Tuesdays you have acting classes.

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<v Speaker 2>And then on was like, hey, yeah, you have modern classes,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you have you get to learn how to

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<v Speaker 2>you know, eat a table. You have to learn you

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<v Speaker 2>have this, and you have that, and then you also

0:21:38.640 --> 0:21:40.399
<v Speaker 2>have you know what, you've never tried an instrument? What

0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:42.040
<v Speaker 2>instrument do you want to try? Okay, well, then now

0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:43.720
<v Speaker 2>you're going to try the piano. You like the piano,

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<v Speaker 2>you can try the guitar. She had me so busy.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't realize that the girls that were like fifteen

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<v Speaker 2>my age knew so much more than I did. Like

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<v Speaker 2>there were a lot of things I didn't even know

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<v Speaker 2>what to do, or I didn't even know about sex,

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<v Speaker 2>for example, or a lot of other things because I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it was regular. I just feel like everybody had

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<v Speaker 2>a busy schedule like me, Like when you go home,

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<v Speaker 2>you must be caught up too, because I know that

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<v Speaker 2>when I go home, I have a thousand other classes,

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<v Speaker 2>and in these classes, there's a thousand other kids, So

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<v Speaker 2>everybody must have the same schedule. So then later on

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<v Speaker 2>I realized, wait, no, that's just me. What do you

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<v Speaker 2>do when you go home? Oh you're just home? Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so you don't have nothing else to do? No, oh

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<v Speaker 2>okay me. I had Spanish classes, I had diction classes

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<v Speaker 2>I had and that was another thing my mom made sure.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm just speaking from my personal experience. I just

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<v Speaker 2>know that my mom was like, what do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to do when you grow up? I always knew exactly

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<v Speaker 2>what I wanted to do, but a lot of kids

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what they want to do. So if they

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what they want to do, then as parents,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to give them the space to do those things.

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<v Speaker 2>And that means how about maybe you were maybe you

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<v Speaker 2>had all the ability of being the best soccer or

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<v Speaker 2>tennis or whatever, or the best painter, but because no

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<v Speaker 2>one ever gave, they expose you to those things, You've

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<v Speaker 2>never explored that side of you. Keep your kids busy.

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<v Speaker 2>Boundaries are important, communication is important.

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<v Speaker 1>You are the parent you choose.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop blaming social media for the way that your children

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<v Speaker 2>are being raised, because if they're stuck on TikTok all.

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<v Speaker 1>Day, who pays for that cell phone bill? Who pays

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<v Speaker 1>for that internet? You do? You'll take control, you take charge.

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<v Speaker 2>You create the schedule, you create the discipline, you'll create

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<v Speaker 2>the family time.

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<v Speaker 1>All I'm saying is find that balance, find that space.

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<v Speaker 2>It's important for us to take responsibility and accountability for

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<v Speaker 2>the way that we raise our kids. For their self esteem,

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<v Speaker 2>their self image, for.

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<v Speaker 1>All those things.

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<v Speaker 2>And yes, we know that the world influences, but no

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<v Speaker 2>one influences more your life than your parents. No one

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<v Speaker 2>has more influence in your life than the things that

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<v Speaker 2>they see in their household when they come home. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if I'm wrong, I don't know if I'm right.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still learning. I'm still trying to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever it is, let me know. Give me your opinion, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>give me your opinion on the YouTube, on the review,

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<v Speaker 2>wherever it may be.

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<v Speaker 1>Trust me, I will be right there to check it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, With that being said, today's topic was about social

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<v Speaker 2>media influencers and youth. And I hope that you guys

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<v Speaker 2>learned something today or that you connected with me in

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<v Speaker 2>any shapeway or form, because I know that I'm passionate

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<v Speaker 2>about this topic, because I am on bold spectrums of

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<v Speaker 2>this conversation, and I always want to be a positive

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<v Speaker 2>influencer society, into the world and to women, and I

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<v Speaker 2>want my daughter to be proud of me. So if

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing it wrong, let me know. If I'm doing

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<v Speaker 2>it right, let me know too.

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