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Speaker 2: is about social media influencers and the youth. This is
Speaker 2: a very important topic, Okay, as as a mother, as
Speaker 2: an as an artist, as a daughter, as a woman,
Speaker 2: as a human being, as everything you can imagine, I
Speaker 2: have my own perspective and opinion on social media, and
Speaker 2: I have it from both aspects.
Speaker 1: I have it from.
Speaker 2: Being the one that influences others to do things and
Speaker 2: behave a certain way, or you know, the fashion statement
Speaker 2: or the music that they listen to, or their opinions
Speaker 2: of relationships and all these other great things. And then
Speaker 2: I also have my opinion from the other side, the
Speaker 2: other spectrum of being the one influenced by the things
Speaker 2: that I see. Today we're going to talk about a
Speaker 2: very serious topic and is very urgent topic. The truth
Speaker 2: of the matter, it is that throughout the years, you know,
Speaker 2: social media influencers to me to a certain extent, should
Speaker 2: be accountable right for the youth behavior and the way
Speaker 2: that it harms the youth and the generation to come.
Speaker 2: But at the same time, there's another part of me
Speaker 2: that feels like social media shouldn't be your mother and
Speaker 2: your father. Social media shouldn't be the ones teaching you
Speaker 2: how to live your life, how to behave in the.
Speaker 1: Things that you should and shouldn't do better.
Speaker 2: At the same time, we spend most of our time
Speaker 2: even as adults, you know, we're talking about kids.
Speaker 1: The adults we spend a.
Speaker 2: Lot of time, hours of our days stuck on social media.
Speaker 1: What do we expect our kids to do?
Speaker 2: Our kids probably spend probably even more time, especially now
Speaker 2: with the whole TikTok and everything else. I'm not the
Speaker 2: biggest TikToker, which, by the way, you guys can follow
Speaker 2: me at a mad aln on TikTok.
Speaker 1: I don't really TikTok.
Speaker 2: But besides TikTok, there's so many new social media apps
Speaker 2: and just websites and all types of stuff snapchats and
Speaker 2: Instagram and Facebook and you know Once upon a time, Twitter,
Speaker 2: now x and you know the Thriller, And there's just
Speaker 2: so many things to keep up. That's how I know
Speaker 2: that I'm feeling old, because like I can't keep up
Speaker 2: with everything else is going on.
Speaker 1: But this topic, I've seen it.
Speaker 2: I've seen parents talk about it, educators, experts concern about
Speaker 2: the negative effect that social media and influencers have on
Speaker 2: mental health, and you know, children and adolescents.
Speaker 1: I personally have mixed emotions.
Speaker 2: There's a part of me that feels like, you know,
Speaker 2: what if you're an adult and you're over here, you know, motivating, influencing,
Speaker 2: you know, teenage kids, or whatever the case may be,
Speaker 2: to do stupid trends or you know, stick your hand
Speaker 2: in boiling water and look and see what happens type
Speaker 2: of thing. Yes, you should be held accountable, but at
Speaker 2: the same time, there's a part of me that feels,
Speaker 2: as a parent, it is my duty to raise my
Speaker 2: children to.
Speaker 1: Know what to do and what not to do.
Speaker 2: Don't stick your hand and know damn boiling water, because
Speaker 2: you already know what's going to happen.
Speaker 1: Why are you listening to this person? I understand.
Speaker 2: The kids spend so much time on social mediu and
Speaker 2: all these other platforms, and they end up becoming friends
Speaker 2: and socializing with other you know, all these other people,
Speaker 2: and now they want to listen and follow to what
Speaker 2: everybody else is saying. Social media influencers are the people
Speaker 2: who have the large just numbers of followers on platforms
Speaker 2: like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, snapchat, all these other things, and
Speaker 2: they promote products and services, lifestyle and their own opinions
Speaker 2: like I do myself. I get paid to promote a
Speaker 2: lot of products just because you see someone on social
Speaker 2: media that you follow rocking a Chanel bag, you know,
Speaker 2: a Hermez bag, driving a Ferrari living in a penhuse
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that you have to go broke trying to
Speaker 2: follow that lifestyle that may not be for you.
Speaker 1: That is life that they are living.
Speaker 2: It is unfair for this person to have to modify
Speaker 2: the way that they live, the things that they've worked for,
Speaker 2: the life that they have, so that these people that
Speaker 2: follow them don't feel a certain type of way about them,
Speaker 2: or that they don't feel, you know, insecure about their
Speaker 2: own lifestyle or their own way of living.
Speaker 1: Be happy with what you have too.
Speaker 2: I also think that that's important because we also we
Speaker 2: always want to blame those that are you know, influencing
Speaker 2: some of those that are influencing them to do you know,
Speaker 2: negative things. But at the same time, why aren't we
Speaker 2: talking about, well, those that do influence them to do good.
Speaker 2: Because there's a lot of people out of here on
Speaker 2: social media that are influencing people to do good with
Speaker 2: your life, to study, to you know, invest in real estate,
Speaker 2: bigcoins that to get an education, to go to church.
Speaker 2: There's so many there's platforms that teach you how to cook,
Speaker 2: there's so many platforms that teach you to do good
Speaker 2: and better for yourself. But we only want to attack
Speaker 2: those that are doing stupid things on social media. I
Speaker 2: think that as adults, as parents, and I know that
Speaker 2: is very hard because at one point I'm going to
Speaker 2: have to deal with that as well.
Speaker 1: I have two girls now.
Speaker 2: Eventually, maybe from here to when there are adults, Instagram
Speaker 2: and all these other platforms that we use now may
Speaker 2: not even exist.
Speaker 1: Maybe, you know, everything will be virtual. Who knows what
Speaker 1: the world will look like.
Speaker 2: But I think to a certain extent, it's unfair to,
Speaker 2: you know, judge these people for what they do. And
Speaker 2: I understand the influence that they have in the culture,
Speaker 2: the influence that they have, but I also think that
Speaker 2: it is important.
Speaker 1: For us to know who we are. We gotta do
Speaker 1: some self work too. I don't think we can just blame.
Speaker 2: I've heard since that was growing up, the same thing
Speaker 2: they used to say back in the days.
Speaker 1: We've heard, you know, hip hop songs.
Speaker 2: We've seen movies, We've seen so many things that have
Speaker 2: so much violence.
Speaker 1: I can hear a song talking about bang bang bang.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll just say, okay, it's just a song to me.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean I have to take it into real life.
Speaker 2: So I think that the work really comes from home.
Speaker 2: The work really comes from your household, from your foundation
Speaker 2: at home is where the work needs to be done.
Speaker 2: You can listen when you go outside, you can listen
Speaker 2: to all those things, but if you're raised properly, if
Speaker 2: you've been taught well, if you want better for yourself,
Speaker 2: Because sometimes I feel like we can't just blame our parents.
Speaker 2: Our parents may teach us right, but we're the hard
Speaker 2: headed ones that want to go in a different route.
Speaker 1: Well, life is going to teach you, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 2: I also don't feel that in many occasions, we see
Speaker 2: a lot of people talking.
Speaker 1: About, well, the parents need to do this, and the parents.
Speaker 2: Maybe the parents are doing those things, but unfortunately, to
Speaker 2: a certain extent, parents don't get to be with the
Speaker 2: children twenty four hours, you know, all twenty four hours
Speaker 2: in the day.
Speaker 1: They spend a lot of time in school.
Speaker 2: We don't know who our children are socializing when they're
Speaker 2: in school, what they're listening to, what they're doing in
Speaker 2: that space. So I feel that is unfair to also
Speaker 2: just blame one thousand percent, you know, the parents for
Speaker 2: the children's behavior. There's just so much that goes into
Speaker 2: this because we also have to understand that these platforms
Speaker 2: are made for adults, and yes, certain children have access
Speaker 2: to it after a certain age.
Speaker 1: But who should be held accountable?
Speaker 2: Should it be the platforms that are creating this, Like
Speaker 2: should Instagram, you know, Facebook and all these other platforms
Speaker 2: be held accountable. All they're doing is just giving you
Speaker 2: a platform to showcase whatever it is that you want,
Speaker 2: if you follow the trend that's on you. It is
Speaker 2: a very sensitive space because I've been judged so much.
Speaker 2: I've been judged for the way that I dance that
Speaker 2: I affect the youth. I've been judged for the way
Speaker 2: that I behave on reality TV because it affects the youth.
Speaker 2: It affects the way that, you know, other women view
Speaker 2: their life or the way that they are being portrayed,
Speaker 2: you know, as a stereotype.
Speaker 1: I've been accused of blackface.
Speaker 2: I've been accused of you know, I've been accused of
Speaker 2: so many things. I've been I've been somewhat based off
Speaker 2: social media. The social media court right held accountable for
Speaker 2: certain things that I'm like, I'm living my life and
Speaker 2: there's no guidebook on how to live your life.
Speaker 1: I've made many mistakes in my life and I'm still learning.
Speaker 2: I'm still growing. This is part of life. Like no
Speaker 2: one teaches you how to live. You go through the process,
Speaker 2: You go through the journey on your own. We see
Speaker 2: women like Kim Kardashian and things like this that they promote.
Speaker 2: For example, now the broadwood nipples. You know, now all
Speaker 2: the women want to have hard nipples, and now was
Speaker 2: a trending thing. Now this is becoming like the new trend,
Speaker 2: the new style. When they decided to do you know,
Speaker 2: fillers and the more, you know, like juicy lips. Now
Speaker 2: everyone decided to do that. I understand because the amount
Speaker 2: of millions of followers that they have and the money
Speaker 2: that they have that they are able to influence a culture,
Speaker 2: a whole generation based off what they're saying. But then
Speaker 2: again here comes us, when do we take accountability for
Speaker 2: the things that we decide to do with ourselves. I've
Speaker 2: seen a lot of surgeons talk about, oh, well, I
Speaker 2: have a lot of you know, women coming in here
Speaker 2: trying to have the chin of this person, the nose
Speaker 2: of that person, the mouth of this person.
Speaker 1: Boobs.
Speaker 2: But they try to, you know, like do a puzzle
Speaker 2: of all these different celebrities to become this I also
Speaker 2: see the other point of like, well, these celebrities are influencing,
Speaker 2: you know, society. They are the ones putting the quote
Speaker 2: unquote standards of beauty and making women, you know, and
Speaker 2: men feel insecure about their looks and who they are
Speaker 2: as a person.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: It is so hard because, like I said before, I
Speaker 2: can see both sides.
Speaker 1: I don't know how.
Speaker 2: To pick a side because to a certain extent, I
Speaker 2: work on the other side where I influence. I work
Speaker 2: on the other side, where you know, I have to
Speaker 2: take accountability and say that the things that I do post,
Speaker 2: the things that I do do at a certain tools
Speaker 2: a certain extent.
Speaker 1: Yes, I get it. It does influence a lot of
Speaker 1: my followers.
Speaker 2: For example, when I first did I song, which is
Speaker 2: like my first hit song, Dominican Republic, I back then
Speaker 2: I felt super comfortable and I still do rocking my
Speaker 2: afro and my afro was questioned in so many ways,
Speaker 2: why is your hair like that? Well, because I'm black,
Speaker 2: why is your hair? Why does your hair stand up?
Speaker 2: Because it just naturally does, just because society has accustomed
Speaker 2: us to seeing, you know, black women with straight hair,
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that that naturally is our nature. So
Speaker 2: when I did it, I had to fight consistently to
Speaker 2: represent and talk about my hair and why I was
Speaker 2: like then it was like, okay, well then now I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna wear an afro wig because it was just
Speaker 2: doing a lot of damage to my hair from one
Speaker 2: show to the other. You know, I didn't have enough
Speaker 2: time to treat my hair to make sure it looked perfectly.
Speaker 1: So I rocked the wig afro.
Speaker 2: But even before rocking the wig, afro, me standing with
Speaker 2: the representation of what I wanted to see, of who
Speaker 2: I wanted to be, of who I was. Me staying
Speaker 2: true to myself at that moment inspired other women, a
Speaker 2: lot of other women, and a lot of children, a
Speaker 2: lot of girls and boys to just rock their afro.
Speaker 2: That became a statement, But then it also became a
Speaker 2: statement I had to fight because then now throughout the years,
Speaker 2: I rocked you know, wigs, and I've done all these
Speaker 2: other things, and I understood obviously, it took me a
Speaker 2: long time to understand. You know what, my hair doesn't
Speaker 2: identify me, is just part of who I am. My
Speaker 2: hair doesn't specify who I am as a person. It's
Speaker 2: just part of who I am. And just because I have,
Speaker 2: you know, braids on and then rock different wigs. Now,
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean I'm less black. It doesn't mean I'm
Speaker 2: less Afro Latina. It doesn't mean I stand my beliefs
Speaker 2: have changed. It just means that I put on a wig.
Speaker 2: You know, I am trying different looks. It just means
Speaker 2: that I am an artist and I should be able
Speaker 2: to be flexible with my looks.
Speaker 1: And I'm okay with that. But I didn't realize in.
Speaker 2: The moment how a lot of my followers felt with
Speaker 2: these changes, because I influenced them to a certain extent.
Speaker 2: I always like to say that because I don't want
Speaker 2: to never feel responsible one hundred percent for people's behavior
Speaker 2: the way that they feel, because that's, you know, that's.
Speaker 1: The way that you feel. I never realized how how impactful.
Speaker 2: It was when I decided to start changing looks for
Speaker 2: me because I needed to do was good, what was
Speaker 2: best for me. But a lot of people felt attached
Speaker 2: to that feeling. So when I started changing, they felt
Speaker 2: very upset. They started judging me, how could you do this?
Speaker 2: You have betrayed us?
Speaker 1: You da da da da. I'm like, I still don't
Speaker 1: purm my hair.
Speaker 2: The AfOR was still there after, you know, fifteen years
Speaker 2: of the same look, I just wanted to change and
Speaker 2: try something differ, and I feel it was the worst
Speaker 2: feeling ever. And that's just one example of many. You know,
Speaker 2: I've changed looks throughout the years, different styles of clothes,
Speaker 2: of wardrobe, just I've changed, I've evolved them.
Speaker 1: I've been exploring myself the person.
Speaker 2: But at the same time, people get so caught up
Speaker 2: in these influencers, in these celebrities and these people that
Speaker 2: they look up to, that I think that they forget
Speaker 2: that they're also just human, and they're also learning, and
Speaker 2: they're also exploring, and their life is not perfect. No
Speaker 2: matter how photoshop you see their life on social medium,
Speaker 2: that's not truly what it is. And I'm telling you
Speaker 2: because I stand on the other side of it. I've
Speaker 2: seen it, I'm living it, I'm around them.
Speaker 1: What you see is not always what it is.
Speaker 2: You know. I'm a fan of Beyonce, for example, and
Speaker 2: I'm sure that Beyonce has her bad days. I'm sure
Speaker 2: she has her days where she's uncomfortable, where she's tired,
Speaker 2: where she's over it, where she still has to be
Speaker 2: a wife, where she still has to be a mother,
Speaker 2: because she's still a regular person. Even though we idle
Speaker 2: these people, it doesn't mean that she may have not
Speaker 2: been you know, maybe she was cramping, maybe her head hurt.
Speaker 2: But she still gets up on stage, she smiles, she
Speaker 2: gives you the best of her. But we can't forget
Speaker 2: that there's still human beings. We can't forget that there's
Speaker 2: still regular people that we have idolized. That we the
Speaker 2: people have given them this platform. We the people have
Speaker 2: given them this power. When we say that these influencers
Speaker 2: have all these millions of followers and now they influence society,
Speaker 2: They influence you know, the next generation to come, They
Speaker 2: influence their children. We the people have given them those followers.
Speaker 2: You follow them, you'll give them that power.
Speaker 1: We see a lot of people doing a lot of
Speaker 1: stupid things on social media. You'll follow them.
Speaker 2: You sit there and you watch them, You give them
Speaker 2: views and likes, You add on to their power. So
Speaker 2: to you know, when we see these people and we're
Speaker 2: over here judging them, you're talking about them. You talk
Speaker 2: about them, you criticize them, You follow them, you give
Speaker 2: them views, you share, you like, like, we've created this
Speaker 2: monster of social media. We've created. These monsters of influencers
Speaker 2: we've created. We give them our money, we make them rich,
Speaker 2: we sacrifice our life, our time to give them this platform,
Speaker 2: but then we are upset when they influence our children.
Speaker 2: I think it's important for us to also take accountability.
Speaker 2: Like I said before, you know, life existed before social media,
Speaker 2: and I know that you can't take it away. But
Speaker 2: I also feel that when we're talking about children and
Speaker 2: teenagers and stuff like that, till they're eighteen years old
Speaker 2: and they're in your households, you have that power. You
Speaker 2: have that control the best that you can. The best
Speaker 2: that you can means once you walk up into this house,
Speaker 2: that phone drops right there at the door. Period, Like
Speaker 2: you make the rules and regulations, when you step out
Speaker 2: in case of an emergency, you have your phone. So
Speaker 2: that means that you get to have your phone when
Speaker 2: you're out of here, when you're out of this house,
Speaker 2: you have a phone. So if in that time that
Speaker 2: you're in a home, you watch some stupid stuff and
Speaker 2: you fall for it, that's that right which, to be honest,
Speaker 2: you should be in school learning something. And as a parent,
Speaker 2: I also think it's important to be you're in school
Speaker 2: after school you have soccer, you have basketball, you have biolin,
Speaker 2: you have you have so many things that by the
Speaker 2: time you get home.
Speaker 1: I need you to be exhausted.
Speaker 2: You need to be too tired that you don't feel
Speaker 2: like doing twenty tiktoks before you go to bed. That's
Speaker 2: my opinion, right as a parent, now that is my opinion.
Speaker 1: You may have a different method.
Speaker 2: You may be so exhausted that you just don't care,
Speaker 2: or you may be like, you know what, I can't
Speaker 2: avoid social media. My kid needs to have it, or
Speaker 2: you know what, I want my kid. Whatever it is,
Speaker 2: it works for you. As a parent, judgment free zone,
Speaker 2: that's what you do. But then again, you also need
Speaker 2: to make yourself responsible for the things that your child does.
Speaker 1: I plan on having my house regulations.
Speaker 2: You have a phone when you get out in case
Speaker 2: of an emergency, when you walk in here phone, drop
Speaker 2: the phone in the lock whiles, I'll give it to
Speaker 2: you in the morning.
Speaker 1: That's just what it is. You can use a computer.
Speaker 2: In the computer, you can somewhat let's just say, right,
Speaker 2: iPad computer.
Speaker 1: You put restrictions. You can use this. This is what
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 2: You remember back in the days when your mom used
Speaker 2: to look at you or your dad. You know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying the wire, whatever it was, you knew you
Speaker 2: need to follow house rules, rules and regulations. There's no
Speaker 2: more rules and regulations. You know, a lot of people
Speaker 2: just do whatever they want right now. I'm just talking
Speaker 2: about when it comes to social media influencers and the youth, right.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about the control that as parents you have.
Speaker 2: Over your children and the things that they can watch
Speaker 2: and can do once they step out of your household.
Speaker 1: I understand that there's a limit of things that you
Speaker 1: can do, but.
Speaker 2: In your household, as a parent, communication should be key.
Speaker 2: Whatever it is that you need to be doing, then
Speaker 2: you go ahead and you do that for the protection
Speaker 2: and the safety of your kid. We're supposed to be
Speaker 2: here together as a unit, as a house, as a family.
Speaker 2: There's a difference bit you respect and fearing your parents.
Speaker 2: I need you to respect me. It's not about being scared.
Speaker 2: I need you to be able to be open with
Speaker 2: me and tell me Mommy or Bobby Meda, this is
Speaker 2: happening to me.
Speaker 1: I'm scared. They're bullying me. I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: What should I do?
Speaker 2: There should be a space of yes, I am your parent,
Speaker 2: but I also can be I can be I'm not
Speaker 2: I can be your friend. What is happening if your
Speaker 2: kids are so scared to talk to you, but they
Speaker 2: feel more comfortable to talk to social media, that's a problem.
Speaker 2: If we're exalted from doing three four jobs, come home.
Speaker 1: Now you're exalusted and you.
Speaker 2: Don't feel like you have the time to communicate with
Speaker 2: your kid or you know what, you got it, here's
Speaker 2: your iPad. I don't want to do it if that's
Speaker 2: how you feel, which I respect and I understand because
Speaker 2: each his own judgment free zone. Let me know how
Speaker 2: life was for you growing up. I want to know
Speaker 2: all these things, hobbies, exercise, socializing with friends and family,
Speaker 2: all those things have been modified. Your children spend your
Speaker 2: When I say your children, I mean it could be
Speaker 2: the children of this of this generation of society. They
Speaker 2: spend more time on iPads video games than they do
Speaker 2: spending time with their family.
Speaker 1: You remember those at the house.
Speaker 2: Sometimes your mom would just put on music and you
Speaker 2: guys would dance. You would sit down on Saturdays to
Speaker 2: watch Don Francisco. Weg up in the morning to watch
Speaker 2: the Pierreto America or whatever it may have been a
Speaker 2: lot of that. The cultural aspect has been you know, gone,
Speaker 2: It is vanished. We can still save it. We can
Speaker 2: still save it, but the savings starts with us. We
Speaker 2: need to make those things happen. For example, sometimes I'm
Speaker 2: at home and I realize I've been stuck on my
Speaker 2: phone so long, answering messages, talking about work, my real estate,
Speaker 2: you know, filming this, that all type of stuff. My
Speaker 2: girls may be at the crib and it's been an
Speaker 2: hour and I've been stuck on my phone, and I
Speaker 2: realized it, and I'm like, oh, no, I dropped the phone.
Speaker 1: Turn it off. I don't care who's calling me.
Speaker 2: This is my family time, this is my my mother time,
Speaker 2: this is my me time.
Speaker 1: And it's not just because of.
Speaker 2: My girls, because I spend you know, twenty four hours
Speaker 2: with my girls, but it could even be my mother.
Speaker 2: You know, my mother and my father are elderly people
Speaker 2: at this point in life. You know, they're already past
Speaker 2: your sixties. This is just the way that life is.
Speaker 2: And I realize sometimes I'm spending more time, you know,
Speaker 2: on my phone than really enjoying their presence, enjoying their company,
Speaker 2: because at one point, unfortunately The truth of the matter
Speaker 2: is they no longer will be here, and my phone
Speaker 2: will still be here, but they won't Where do my
Speaker 2: priorities stand at? You know, those things are important. You
Speaker 2: need to realize what exactly is your priority. I don't
Speaker 2: know as as much as I blame social media for
Speaker 2: the way that they have influenced our children, the next generation,
Speaker 2: even ourselves, because today's topic is not really as for
Speaker 2: adults per se.
Speaker 1: Right. I remember growing up, my mother Medenia had that.
Speaker 2: I was so over her because I was like, yo,
Speaker 2: I don't have no like freedom and you know, like
Speaker 2: my freedom, which I didn't realize it back then, my
Speaker 2: freedom was dancing.
Speaker 1: She's like, after school you have.
Speaker 2: Dance classes, and then on Tuesdays you have acting classes.
Speaker 2: And then on was like, hey, yeah, you have modern classes,
Speaker 2: and then you have you get to learn how to
Speaker 2: you know, eat a table. You have to learn you
Speaker 2: have this, and you have that, and then you also
Speaker 2: have you know what, you've never tried an instrument? What
Speaker 2: instrument do you want to try? Okay, well, then now
Speaker 2: you're going to try the piano. You like the piano,
Speaker 2: you can try the guitar. She had me so busy.
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that the girls that were like fifteen
Speaker 2: my age knew so much more than I did. Like
Speaker 2: there were a lot of things I didn't even know
Speaker 2: what to do, or I didn't even know about sex,
Speaker 2: for example, or a lot of other things because I
Speaker 2: thought it was regular. I just feel like everybody had
Speaker 2: a busy schedule like me, Like when you go home,
Speaker 2: you must be caught up too, because I know that
Speaker 2: when I go home, I have a thousand other classes,
Speaker 2: and in these classes, there's a thousand other kids, So
Speaker 2: everybody must have the same schedule. So then later on
Speaker 2: I realized, wait, no, that's just me. What do you
Speaker 2: do when you go home? Oh you're just home? Oh okay,
Speaker 2: so you don't have nothing else to do? No, oh
Speaker 2: okay me. I had Spanish classes, I had diction classes
Speaker 2: I had and that was another thing my mom made sure.
Speaker 2: And I'm just speaking from my personal experience. I just
Speaker 2: know that my mom was like, what do you want
Speaker 2: to do when you grow up? I always knew exactly
Speaker 2: what I wanted to do, but a lot of kids
Speaker 2: don't know what they want to do. So if they
Speaker 2: don't know what they want to do, then as parents,
Speaker 2: you have to give them the space to do those things.
Speaker 2: And that means how about maybe you were maybe you
Speaker 2: had all the ability of being the best soccer or
Speaker 2: tennis or whatever, or the best painter, but because no
Speaker 2: one ever gave, they expose you to those things, You've
Speaker 2: never explored that side of you. Keep your kids busy.
Speaker 2: Boundaries are important, communication is important.
Speaker 1: You are the parent you choose.
Speaker 2: Stop blaming social media for the way that your children
Speaker 2: are being raised, because if they're stuck on TikTok all.
Speaker 1: Day, who pays for that cell phone bill? Who pays
Speaker 1: for that internet? You do? You'll take control, you take charge.
Speaker 2: You create the schedule, you create the discipline, you'll create
Speaker 2: the family time.
Speaker 1: All I'm saying is find that balance, find that space.
Speaker 2: It's important for us to take responsibility and accountability for
Speaker 2: the way that we raise our kids. For their self esteem,
Speaker 2: their self image, for.
Speaker 1: All those things.
Speaker 2: And yes, we know that the world influences, but no
Speaker 2: one influences more your life than your parents. No one
Speaker 2: has more influence in your life than the things that
Speaker 2: they see in their household when they come home. I
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm wrong, I don't know if I'm right.
Speaker 2: I'm still learning. I'm still trying to figure it out.
Speaker 2: But whatever it is, let me know. Give me your opinion, Okay,
Speaker 2: give me your opinion on the YouTube, on the review,
Speaker 2: wherever it may be.
Speaker 1: Trust me, I will be right there to check it out.
Speaker 2: Anyways, With that being said, today's topic was about social
Speaker 2: media influencers and youth. And I hope that you guys
Speaker 2: learned something today or that you connected with me in
Speaker 2: any shapeway or form, because I know that I'm passionate
Speaker 2: about this topic, because I am on bold spectrums of
Speaker 2: this conversation, and I always want to be a positive
Speaker 2: influencer society, into the world and to women, and I
Speaker 2: want my daughter to be proud of me. So if
Speaker 2: I'm doing it wrong, let me know. If I'm doing
Speaker 2: it right, let me know too.
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