Speaker 1: Oh, I suck a Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared
Speaker 1: and I heart radio podcast. Hey everyone, thank you for
Speaker 1: listening to another episode of Help I Second Dating. I'm
Speaker 1: actually all alone in studio right now with Easton. I
Speaker 1: flew in from Montreal and I made it in time
Speaker 1: into the studio. Dean, you're late. Jared is not in today?
Speaker 1: Thank you. I was early, I was told. Um, so
Speaker 1: I like being on time. I feel like if you're late,
Speaker 1: it's a sign of disrespect. Dean, right, yes, absolutely, So
Speaker 1: today we have another amazing episode. Um, we have a
Speaker 1: guest in studio, Madison Houseburg. I hope I'm pronouncing her
Speaker 1: name correctly. UM from the reality show C S Ticky.
Speaker 1: So this is the first I've hear of it. Um,
Speaker 1: there's so many reality shows now coming out. We just
Speaker 1: interviewed Mark L. Wahlberg, not Mark Wahlberg. Um from Paradise Island?
Speaker 1: Is that no Temptation from Temptation Island? Um? So, cis
Speaker 1: ta Key is a TV show that talks about like
Speaker 1: love and basically kind of like Laguna Beach or what's
Speaker 1: that other TV show that's filmed out here? Um that
Speaker 1: has like people from is a Laguna Beach, the hills,
Speaker 1: the hill is the hill? Are the Hills and Laguna
Speaker 1: Beach the same? The same people? Yeah? Okay, so to
Speaker 1: move north? Right, So I feel like this is similar
Speaker 1: to um what Laguna Beaches? Oh? There he is? We
Speaker 1: started without Hey, yeah, we already started. I'll just like
Speaker 1: introduce that Dean. I said, you know, when someone is late,
Speaker 1: it's a sign of disrespect. What you're late? Yeah, but
Speaker 1: we literally wait around half an hour before every single episodes.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go, We've got some time. Yeah, Well I don't,
Speaker 1: are you kidding? I was waiting for you. Well I'm here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know you're you guys. Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: having me in studio today. It's an honor. It's a pleasure.
Speaker 1: A full house today, and I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: we're you guys are not outnumbered as three to three.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always the only woman in studio.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's right. So I brought with me, um
Speaker 1: Camille past who is going to be there with us?
Speaker 1: I have like I have a new girl BFF and
Speaker 1: l A now pump. Oh no, I'm going back to Montreal.
Speaker 1: I don't live here, but like you'll come back I'll
Speaker 1: come back and we'll hang and I'll just stare at you,
Speaker 1: but more importantly stare I'll have a nice candle, a
Speaker 1: more importantly than Camille. As I was walking in, Madison
Speaker 1: came in as well. Madison's the last name Houisburg. What's
Speaker 1: your background? Is that German? Yeah, I mean from a
Speaker 1: fellow German. Of course, I'm going to pronounce you last name.
Speaker 1: But wouldn't it be like Ausberg or House? Right? Well,
Speaker 1: that not new our second season? Okay, were you in
Speaker 1: season one? So you're in season one season two? Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's like you're recurring thing like Laguna Beach and yes, exactly, Okay,
Speaker 1: to compare ourselves to Laguna Beach to the Hills, although
Speaker 1: I don't think they're like attainable anymore. Like what do
Speaker 1: you mean you're so good? Well, but he's really good
Speaker 1: to You're like the two nineteen Laguna Beach. We'll give
Speaker 1: you that, like that ten year challenge. Stephanie Pratt has
Speaker 1: the podcast with Um Wells that's Orange Laguna Beach. I
Speaker 1: don't know one of the two anyway, so I don't know.
Speaker 1: So it's still got like that beach vibe, but it's
Speaker 1: in Florida. It's in Florida. Oh and if there's one
Speaker 1: thing we know about, you seem so like anti Florida. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I love Florida. No, no, I thought because
Speaker 1: you hear of all these reality TV shows, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: for sure, it's like in Santa Monica. It's definitely a
Speaker 1: proven fact that Florida breeds the craziest because yeah, like
Speaker 1: spring Break in the Keys, So what is the key
Speaker 1: about them? Exactly? Do you guys living your life in
Speaker 1: this key? Yeah, it's young adults just coming into our
Speaker 1: our adulthood and trying to like figure it out. I
Speaker 1: am twenty four, okay, so yeah, I'm still young adult
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, I try to keep it young a doll.
Speaker 1: I guess I'm like an adult now and I should probably.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty seven and I'm still clinging onto my childhood
Speaker 1: as long as I possibly already one. I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm twenty. I am like the queen of saying ages
Speaker 1: just a number. We're all doing the same thing. Does
Speaker 1: it even matter? YEA life is when I almost forgot
Speaker 1: because I never talked about I just I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, I just turned white. I turned thirty
Speaker 1: one this year, and I'm like, I forgot how old
Speaker 1: I was. I thought I was twenty nine for the
Speaker 1: longest time, like and I'm like, oh no, I got
Speaker 1: to add two years to that. I totally forgotten. What
Speaker 1: It kind of reminds me of, like when people are like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I went in the store and I
Speaker 1: just tried on the size six, right, and it was
Speaker 1: too small and I'm usually a size four, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: no one knows, no one cares that you will. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was just having this conversation with someone. Now nowadays
Speaker 1: it's all about like quantifying yourself, like how much do
Speaker 1: you wait? How many Instagram followers, how many legs, how
Speaker 1: many comments do you get? At the stage you need
Speaker 1: to be married and have kids. And I'm like, right, well,
Speaker 1: I do want kids now, so can me A last
Speaker 1: week on the on the podcast, we talked about Vanessa
Speaker 1: potentially freezing her eggs zap zap, zap. Sure, how do
Speaker 1: you guys feel about that? I want to do that
Speaker 1: now right, and had expert on the podcast and they
Speaker 1: said the prime time to do it is mid to
Speaker 1: late twenties. Yeah, you're in your prime time, you know.
Speaker 1: Why well, I mean, just listen to last episode, but
Speaker 1: let's get into siest you guys are. That's like one
Speaker 1: of my biggest just like what if I'm in a hurdle, no,
Speaker 1: you know, like or what if I feel like I
Speaker 1: should think about these things now? I think I shared
Speaker 1: the story on the podcast before. I had the same
Speaker 1: fear when I was twenty three, moved to Los Angeles
Speaker 1: and went to a fertility clinic and got my sperm
Speaker 1: tested to make sure I was able to impregnant a woman.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I was terrified. I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna Why did you have Why
Speaker 1: did you feel that? I don't know. I just I
Speaker 1: figured as a numbers game, like my girlfriend and I
Speaker 1: were made enough mistakes at like a young age to
Speaker 1: where there should have been a scared I've been there total. Well,
Speaker 1: after last week's information, I mean, it's really it's a
Speaker 1: miracle that babies are you're able to conceive because it
Speaker 1: only one egg that's fertilt, that's mature drops, which is
Speaker 1: crazy if you think about it, like it's a miracle. Anyway. Okay,
Speaker 1: so are you so a bunch of single people or
Speaker 1: you were actually in a relationship with so many Oh
Speaker 1: well here says you're in a relationship with Benny and
Speaker 1: it was an LDR or you were entertaining the idea
Speaker 1: of a long distance Yes, so we start the season out, Um,
Speaker 1: we're kind of I'm kind of trying to manage that
Speaker 1: we have. We haven't really like DTR determined the relationship.
Speaker 1: I feel so old now. But so it was kind
Speaker 1: of weird, like starting long distance before we had even
Speaker 1: established like what we are, you know, So it's kind
Speaker 1: of uneasy, but you know, we worked through it and
Speaker 1: so you how long was how long distance was the relationship?
Speaker 1: Where did he live? He lived in Houston. Oh that's
Speaker 1: pretty far. Yeah, so it's not like you can just
Speaker 1: drive right. It's definitely like a flight and it's like
Speaker 1: an ordeal, like we have to planet, you know. It's
Speaker 1: not like Orleandaro Miami, which is still pretty far. No,
Speaker 1: it's not like that. Okay, yeah, that's where is the
Speaker 1: SQ that's near Miami, right, Sara Soda, it's four hours north. Wait,
Speaker 1: you guys have to understand, I don't know what's going
Speaker 1: on here. Who has been did you meet him on
Speaker 1: the show your boyfriend before you went on the show.
Speaker 1: People listening who don't know either, you know, you're right,
Speaker 1: You're right, You're right, So back it up. Ben. Ben
Speaker 1: was a friend from college. He was like a hook
Speaker 1: up for five years, and so I decided I kind
Speaker 1: of wanted to, you know, settle down with him or
Speaker 1: like figure that out, which I don't know is always
Speaker 1: a good idea, Like he's a hook up for a
Speaker 1: reason and maybe not feelings are attached that we all
Speaker 1: seen exact friends with benefits. Yeah, but you'll see how
Speaker 1: that plays out. I mean, it might have been better
Speaker 1: just leaving it. I got it. Wait, so do you
Speaker 1: would bet go on skis together? Yeah? Well, I so
Speaker 1: I was on it the first season. I'm more interested.
Speaker 1: How does this thing come about? Who are you guys all? Friend?
Speaker 1: How do they cast people? So there. I have an
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend from high school named Alex, and he his
Speaker 1: dad decided to start this show sis and I was
Speaker 1: in college at the time, and he called me up
Speaker 1: and was like, you know, we're a bunch of Alex's
Speaker 1: friends and you're his ex girlfriend. Do you want to
Speaker 1: be on the show? So I really didn't know I
Speaker 1: was signing up for. And this is your father, or
Speaker 1: this is Ben's father, this is Alex is another he's
Speaker 1: like the king of all the prince. I guess Alex
Speaker 1: to be the prince, and then his father would be
Speaker 1: the king. Okay, And so he called you shows like
Speaker 1: the ex girlfriend. It was just a bunch of people
Speaker 1: who knew each other before. Yeah, it's actually like it
Speaker 1: wasn't cast at all by casting director. Was all just
Speaker 1: Alex And so it legitimately is like Luguna beach. Oh
Speaker 1: totally okay. Cool? Oh, I understand well, and then so
Speaker 1: I feel so much better over here. Yeah, I guess
Speaker 1: you don't have the one. Well, so then tell us
Speaker 1: about Ben a little bit more, because what I'm reading
Speaker 1: here it says Ben's secret, what's been secret? Come on,
Speaker 1: give us some it's it's not good. Well, well he's cheating?
Speaker 1: Is he cheating? No? Does you have an illegitimate child?
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, it sounds like now whatever his secret is? Okay?
Speaker 1: Because I think we put the worst ones out there,
Speaker 1: I will say that Ben is still a good No
Speaker 1: Ben um, by the way, Camel Dean is really good
Speaker 1: at getting on too. I still respect then, I still
Speaker 1: I think then it's a great guy. I just maybe
Speaker 1: not relationship material. Okay, okay, and so and so in
Speaker 1: this season of CS tke do we get to see
Speaker 1: that bold? Yes? Okay? Cool? And then Alex comes into
Speaker 1: the picture. No, Alex, Alex is the reason why she's
Speaker 1: on the show. Alex was ex boyfriend number one and
Speaker 1: then Dean Dean, whoops, well maybe he never go to
Speaker 1: hear my boyfriend's that go on? Then then now her
Speaker 1: we don't know if he's her boyfriend or ex boyfriends.
Speaker 1: So I kind of feel like it's paradise. Have you
Speaker 1: ever watched Bachelor in Paradise? Oh? Not that kind of
Speaker 1: paradi It's not like fue Paradise like everyone is briefly yeah,
Speaker 1: because it says like basically every anything goes right, like
Speaker 1: you guys are drinking and partying, and but you're not
Speaker 1: are you stuck? You know? And it's not like camera Okay,
Speaker 1: we're not all living in a house. Yeah. I'm so intrigued.
Speaker 1: I feel like I definitely have to watch the season
Speaker 1: of So I have question you do for people? January
Speaker 1: twenty second? Where can we watch this January on MTV Central?
Speaker 1: What is good? Old MTV Love the MTV nine. This
Speaker 1: is like there's that show floora Bama shore. I was
Speaker 1: gonna ask if you ever do a crossover with them,
Speaker 1: I will tell you it's very different than it is.
Speaker 1: Just it's you know, it has that like the Hills five.
Speaker 1: It's very like and shot a bunch of affluent white
Speaker 1: Now my ex boyfriend Brandon another one. Oh, there's about
Speaker 1: Jared yet not our Jared, of course, Jared in Mexico.
Speaker 1: We ex girlfriends on the podcast. No, but my ex
Speaker 1: boyfriend is Brandon. He's black and he is so she's
Speaker 1: so hot. But it's not all white people. Excell, No,
Speaker 1: it on you with a girl on the show. On
Speaker 1: the show, Like, I watched it on the show. Did
Speaker 1: you know while you guys were filming? What did you
Speaker 1: know while you were filming? No? See, that's that's so okay.
Speaker 1: So I found out like later on and then three
Speaker 1: months later you got to watch it back. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: then I get to actually watch it on cameras. So
Speaker 1: for me, for people listening, what do you Because I
Speaker 1: always get people asking me like, oh, should I go
Speaker 1: on The Bachelor? Or oh, you know, can I find
Speaker 1: love on reality TV? What's your take on that? Curious?
Speaker 1: Should people go on reality TV to find love. She's
Speaker 1: season two, so obviously season one. I feel like, not
Speaker 1: specifically to find I think it definitely makes it harder
Speaker 1: anything like, I would not say it's like a good
Speaker 1: place to find love. I don't know right now, I
Speaker 1: cannot come on, cannot say I think to give a
Speaker 1: little bit of a hint before that, no one caught on,
Speaker 1: But I did you sho, Yeah, come on, Madison, give
Speaker 1: us a little give us the give the guy listeners,
Speaker 1: give the three guy listeners of this podcast. You are listening,
Speaker 1: you would have yeah, Okay, well maybe I need to
Speaker 1: do a better job of yes, Okay, so we need
Speaker 1: to do a better job of listening. Period. I'm so
Speaker 1: excited for this episode. Okay, well, Madison, so it tell
Speaker 1: us more about the show then you're going to be
Speaker 1: in this season? Is it going to be more or
Speaker 1: less dramatic than the first one? Way more more more violent,
Speaker 1: not like just like the words that are like people
Speaker 1: get like way more dramatically, like they forget the cameras
Speaker 1: are there. Do you think people are like they've done it?
Speaker 1: Do you think you're friends because you've you've now been
Speaker 1: friends with these people on and off camera? Do you
Speaker 1: think that they're more dramatic on camera. They turned it
Speaker 1: on for the cameras. Whatever. No, I feel like they
Speaker 1: just become more of themselves, like now that it's like
Speaker 1: they've gotten used to the cameras being there. They're just like,
Speaker 1: all right, whatever, we don't care that the cameras. And
Speaker 1: plus you get some alcohol like that just alcohol the situation.
Speaker 1: There's even more parties this season. So how long do
Speaker 1: you film for um, a couple of months. But do
Speaker 1: you have so when we filmed The Bachelor, we have
Speaker 1: no cell phone, no TV. Yeah I know, I don't.
Speaker 1: She was, I wasn't. Dean was on Rachel but they
Speaker 1: both got engaged. Oh yeah, yeah, but that would happen.
Speaker 1: We broke up doing your Instagram right now, that's funny.
Speaker 1: Won The Bachelor, Nick Vile. She was a champion. She
Speaker 1: walked away with the gold medal ring or enter five
Speaker 1: months until they broke up. So do you feel like
Speaker 1: you can find love on reality TV? I think if
Speaker 1: you're going in and it sounds so cliche, like with
Speaker 1: the right intentions, right, you know, if you're going in
Speaker 1: with like actually wanting to find a relationship and wanting
Speaker 1: to find love, absolutely, like I, well, I went with
Speaker 1: the intention. I had no idea what I was getting
Speaker 1: myself into because I didn't watched a full season of
Speaker 1: the show, so I didn't really know, and I know,
Speaker 1: like what to expect um, and then I did fall
Speaker 1: in love. Um. But of course there's I think the
Speaker 1: idea that's attached to like getting your Instagram followers and
Speaker 1: like being able to make some form of money and
Speaker 1: like having like all these like cool contacts and connections,
Speaker 1: and it's like that's great, but that dies out, and
Speaker 1: so like I think if you're going in to actually
Speaker 1: find that true connection, it could It can work, and
Speaker 1: it can work. It has worked for a bunch of people.
Speaker 1: And there are zero divorce rates. The divorce rates in
Speaker 1: the Batchel world is zero. Have a kid? And doesn't
Speaker 1: one of the Kardashians have a kid? Rob has a
Speaker 1: kid or something. I'm just saying, these things can bread
Speaker 1: children in a positive way. Why Rob Kardashian, Because because
Speaker 1: all you're talking about, like show the Kardashians, like the Pratts,
Speaker 1: doesn't spend Yeah yeah, is that the big drama in
Speaker 1: this season? The cs t keys some as a kid.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I wish I tried to pitch. That's like
Speaker 1: someone get pregnant. Okay, I'm gonna watch regardless of whether
Speaker 1: there's a pregnancy or not. I'm still gonna be watching
Speaker 1: ses SO on MTV Tuesdays at nine eight Central. We
Speaker 1: got C. S. T Key. It premiered on January twenty two,
Speaker 1: so we're already couple episodes in and I'm I'm hooked.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna finish out every single episode. And you're
Speaker 1: my favorite character quote unquote, I wouldn't call our character
Speaker 1: person thank you personality on the season. I hate something
Speaker 1: Ben so much. He's absolutely the worst. He's absolutely the
Speaker 1: word together something well, I think I think they might.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. You could do better,
Speaker 1: but that's as much Alright, Yeah, I'm jealous. Even studio
Speaker 1: with the three most beautiful women in the world and
Speaker 1: they're all in a relationship. Go back in time and
Speaker 1: how many times you said that when the women come
Speaker 1: in here? But right now, Madison, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for coming in, Thank you, thank you. Watching C. S
Speaker 1: Key on MTV one more time at nine Central. Right,
Speaker 1: and where can people find you on Instagram? At Madison
Speaker 1: House Madison House. H A U S. Yes, oh h
Speaker 1: a U s s Madison with to us is okay,
Speaker 1: because I should be looking. I had nothing to eat today. Anyways, Madison,
Speaker 1: thank you for coming in. I will go watch your season.
Speaker 1: That actually, well that was Madison Housberg Dean You're on
Speaker 1: the Bachelor. Um, yeah, I guess so that's pretty funny.
Speaker 1: I mean I respect that a lot, to be honest,
Speaker 1: sous she just thought you guys were a professional podcast host.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean I wonder if she would have
Speaker 1: we should have played along with with lack of information.
Speaker 1: I could see why she would think that we're professional
Speaker 1: podcast though. It's because we're pretty damn good. I got
Speaker 1: this if I mean, if I say so myself, you
Speaker 1: messed up like all of her boyfriends. I like, are
Speaker 1: you kidding? You have one job, your professional podcast. You're
Speaker 1: supposed to know your talent a professional liar? Okay, but
Speaker 1: what about what did I miss? What was the physical?
Speaker 1: KO didn't pick up on? She said she's a present tense.
Speaker 1: She's this is what she said. She said, I'll leave
Speaker 1: you with this. He I still respect him like I
Speaker 1: wish him. Well, that is your way of saying like
Speaker 1: we're no longer together. Have a nice life. Sure, that's
Speaker 1: like what one of my ex girlfriends would say about
Speaker 1: me if they were if we were still on the
Speaker 1: show and it was airing and they were talking about
Speaker 1: so if I'm if I'm a critic on the show,
Speaker 1: it sounds like from I've never watched this before, or
Speaker 1: I have an idea, but it sounds like they were
Speaker 1: together on the show. They left, and now people are
Speaker 1: wondering if they're still together right right? And what kind
Speaker 1: of got the answer? I'm gonna say that they're together.
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Speaker 1: on the show, Tom, Tom, and Jacks and we were
Speaker 1: all working at the restaurant except wait, who was dating Jack's?
Speaker 1: Stacy was with Jack's. I was dating Tom Santoval and
Speaker 1: who is now with Ariana Maddox and the show there's
Speaker 1: another Tom. That's Tom Schwartz is married to Katie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's married. He's really sweet. Yeah, and they got married
Speaker 1: on the show two seasons ago. Jackson Brittany. Brittany, they've
Speaker 1: been dating three years and now they're engaged. They're getting
Speaker 1: married this summer. So you can't find love on TVs? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Have you found love? Um? Not on that show? I have.
Speaker 1: I have ex boyfriends on set show, but I know
Speaker 1: I'm not. How awkward is that to be on a
Speaker 1: TV show with your ex boyfriends? Season season so many,
Speaker 1: For many seasons, it was like the worst thing ever,
Speaker 1: especially when my now ex boyfriend, like we dated almost
Speaker 1: six years and then we broke up and he started
Speaker 1: dating another girl who's on the show. But now they've
Speaker 1: been together five years. Well it's kind of like now
Speaker 1: we're friends, which is you could yeah, five years they've
Speaker 1: been together, but with it now because now they're my friends.
Speaker 1: It's weird about vander Pump because everyone is like you
Speaker 1: see pictures of like even when you guys aren't filming.
Speaker 1: I went to sir one night and you guys weren't filming.
Speaker 1: Oh were you there that night? Everyone was there. It
Speaker 1: might have been. Yeah, there was like an entire table
Speaker 1: of you guys just like hanging out, and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: you guys are friends outside of the show. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: why we had a show though, because it was we've
Speaker 1: known each other for so many years before the show
Speaker 1: ever started. You know. I feel like it's one of
Speaker 1: those things when I've done it so many times my
Speaker 1: own girlfriends are in the workplace, I'm like, we need
Speaker 1: a show, but that's how it starts because it's he's
Speaker 1: so entertaining it. Yeah. Yeah, let me tell you. I've
Speaker 1: been offered to do a couple of shows and I'm
Speaker 1: always like, they always want to make someone be a hero.
Speaker 1: So I've learned that from I just like to watch
Speaker 1: on the outside. Keep my personal life personal. Yeah, not
Speaker 1: a bad idea. So tell us more about vander Pump
Speaker 1: Season seven. What is it airing right now? It is? Okay,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't even know, like I because
Speaker 1: you know, I see the episodes have to yea, we
Speaker 1: have I mean we can just drink from the bottle,
Speaker 1: but Dean has that Dean has that rush and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, and you guys are the second because
Speaker 1: it's not even out yet, I'm just gonna start pulling
Speaker 1: from the bottle. Okay, sorry, okay, it's exclusive to right now.
Speaker 1: Do you understand this? Dean basic which you know, Grigio
Speaker 1: I love. Yeah, you're literally like the second people other
Speaker 1: than Katie Stacey Night. Oh it's delicious. I'm not even
Speaker 1: a why guy. And it's which is of? So it's
Speaker 1: called Witches of we Hoo potion? Yeah, which is which
Speaker 1: is a weho? And well knocking point wine one. This
Speaker 1: is potion number one. How have you been dealing with
Speaker 1: a love that? We're ambitious for Potion number two three
Speaker 1: for one million? So is this your brand? Myself and
Speaker 1: Katie and Saucy on the show. So the three women
Speaker 1: that you're called, I'm sure it's Katie's husband calls us
Speaker 1: the witches of weh, so you're not really which so
Speaker 1: we're like, let's brand this. I mean, how have you
Speaker 1: guys been doing all this rain? Thank you? Oh it sucks. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, as a witch, it must be even more. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me take it. Okay, tells more about please. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So season seven, um, Jackson, Brittany got hold on. I
Speaker 1: taste them? Can we do the taste test? Dry? Some acidity? No,
Speaker 1: like goes down very nice? Okay, yeah, I know there's
Speaker 1: like what does that at all? There's impruit, there's like
Speaker 1: barrels peach, peach. I know, my one, you taste that peach?
Speaker 1: It's great? Yeah, because ever drink ever so me having
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm already drunk. To let's calm down everyone.
Speaker 1: So season seven started off with a bang. Jackson Burney
Speaker 1: got engaged, which I thought was really fun because typically
Speaker 1: I feel like all the big moments happened like midway
Speaker 1: through the summer on the show. So it was really
Speaker 1: cool that it happened sort of right off the bat um,
Speaker 1: like at the beginning of the season. Yeah, so that
Speaker 1: was really cool. So we basically will spend like the
Speaker 1: whole season kind of preparing for their wedding that will
Speaker 1: happen fingers crossed next season. But next year next I mean, sorry,
Speaker 1: this summer is when they're getting get married. Because we
Speaker 1: film over the summers, they air in the following winter,
Speaker 1: so you just film in the summer. So I thought
Speaker 1: it was like, oh year, like, you guys don't get
Speaker 1: a break if I guess I couldn't here because it's
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that they should because they miss
Speaker 1: a whole lot. When we wrap, it never ever stops. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's really exciting. Um La La who's also on
Speaker 1: the show. She and her fiance now Randall, get engaged
Speaker 1: at the end of the season, but everyone already knows
Speaker 1: because they are engaged. So that's awesome and it's just
Speaker 1: going to be a giant show Roller Coast. How is
Speaker 1: it for you personally? How does it compare to the
Speaker 1: other seasons? It is. It is nice to not have
Speaker 1: to work at sir and still be part of with
Speaker 1: my songer. So that's what the show is. It follows
Speaker 1: the employees. That's how it started. Yeah, but not all
Speaker 1: of us work there now and now it follows your
Speaker 1: life outside of that because and then Tom and Tom,
Speaker 1: who was talking about earlier, they just opened another restaurant
Speaker 1: with Lisa, So now it's a fourth restaurant called Tom Tom.
Speaker 1: So basically, Lisa vander Pump just owns like Robertson Row
Speaker 1: Like Robertson, She's just like slowly just taking every space
Speaker 1: that she can have. And none of you work there.
Speaker 1: You're just part of the reality TV show At Tom
Speaker 1: Tom or any of any of some of the girls,
Speaker 1: the girls, some of the girls and guys work at sir.
Speaker 1: Still really just not not Sassy and I. And now
Speaker 1: that Tom and Tom are Lisa's business partners, luckily Santa
Speaker 1: Bal doesn't have to keep slinging drinks behind the bar, sir.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's so interesting. Business partners with the wine.
Speaker 1: What else you have going on? Tom and Tom are
Speaker 1: business partners with Lisa, the restaurant owners creator creator at.
Speaker 1: Lisa Vanderpump is the creator of the show. Okay, that
Speaker 1: makes sense. Yeah, she's a housewife of Beverly. I worked
Speaker 1: with the dogs a little bit, tiny bit. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's on third R. Yeah. Okay, Well so now I'm
Speaker 1: processing the sense that doesn't make sense, but I'm slowly
Speaker 1: digesting everything. So, so you were saying, not everyone that
Speaker 1: was working at Sir or any of the vander Pump
Speaker 1: restaurants is like everyone that started there, right, But I mean,
Speaker 1: like Brittany wasn't right, didn't you Guys? Like meet Brittany
Speaker 1: on Jack's won Over the in Vegas. She's from Kentucky. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she moved to l A to be with him, and
Speaker 1: Jack's got her job at SIR, so she still waitresses it, sir. Okay,
Speaker 1: if I got a job at STIR, would I be
Speaker 1: on vander Pumph My god you would? Yeah, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you would. I cannot even imagine like you would. Just
Speaker 1: I would pray for you in my application tonight. Girls
Speaker 1: would just come a flocking. Sure, but I would be
Speaker 1: a primary by your second season. I don't know what
Speaker 1: that means, like you'd be a lead. Like I haven't
Speaker 1: had a job for like two years, so it's been
Speaker 1: nice to have like some structure and some Actually it's
Speaker 1: crazy and I don't know if it was the seasons
Speaker 1: you guys were on. But we have producers that have
Speaker 1: worked on your show. So if you just we know
Speaker 1: each other's worlds. When I because I'm very good friends
Speaker 1: with Jade, Oh Jade and dinner. Yeah, Like I've known
Speaker 1: Jade since I remember when she first was getting ready
Speaker 1: to go on The Bachelor, super crazy. Yeah, so but
Speaker 1: I know some Bachelor people and it's it's always nice
Speaker 1: to be friendly with friends with people that understand the
Speaker 1: world that we literally, Yeah, so i'd be he was.
Speaker 1: It's a weird world. I became really good friends with
Speaker 1: um Justin Cody off of Big Brother, like really good
Speaker 1: friends with them, and people are like, well, how like
Speaker 1: how did you guys? Like you guys weren't on the
Speaker 1: same show, but we understand what we went through season
Speaker 1: and like what happens on Instagram and what happens like
Speaker 1: mentally in our head and like when you're filming and
Speaker 1: staring and then everyone has opinions, there's the trolls and yeah,
Speaker 1: I have no friends, so I don't know. So if
Speaker 1: this is the seventh season a new film every summer,
Speaker 1: is this the seventh year that you've been doing this?
Speaker 1: Our pilot we shot in two thousand eleven. Oh, my god,
Speaker 1: that's like, you know, one of those shows like Seventh
Speaker 1: Heaven and all that, you like. I was trying to
Speaker 1: think it was something where you like, there's in my twenties,
Speaker 1: like we're just worse. It's crazy if I mean, I
Speaker 1: try not to go back and watch like season one,
Speaker 1: but it is kind of funny. I'm like, God, we
Speaker 1: were so skin Stacy was like twenty two years old,
Speaker 1: Like this is crazy. Yeah, So how many the Kardashians are?
Speaker 1: How many years they've been going, like a little over ten?
Speaker 1: I think yeah, and there they shoot. I know that
Speaker 1: they shoot more than one season a year. I think
Speaker 1: they're like this season. But either way you want you
Speaker 1: I don't know people on season right, so weird and
Speaker 1: you feel like you knew them all the way. Like
Speaker 1: I'm sure you get it all the time, like people
Speaker 1: coming up to and feeling like they already know you
Speaker 1: and they've been through your life and your relationships and
Speaker 1: you're like you have to remember you just see what
Speaker 1: you see TV. Yeah, I have a question aout season
Speaker 1: seven Eastern do you watch up? Oh he's right now?
Speaker 1: Is la N's brother joining the cast? Because her brother's
Speaker 1: name is Eastern? Yeah, And that's my name. I keep
Speaker 1: I love if he would. He doesn't live in California.
Speaker 1: I heard a rumor that he was gonna be on it,
Speaker 1: and because Kim Kardashian keeps teasing she's going to name
Speaker 1: her child at Easton and it never happened. I'm like,
Speaker 1: if we can get on Vanderpunt baby, it's oh my god.
Speaker 1: I would love if Easton were to be on the show.
Speaker 1: He's so cool, is the best? So what's in store
Speaker 1: for you? Then? For season seven? Are you going to
Speaker 1: outdating anyone? I have a boyfriend I've been with and
Speaker 1: he is on the show a bit because yeah, because
Speaker 1: it's really like my journey that they follow. And you know,
Speaker 1: he never worked at Sir, he didn't work at any
Speaker 1: of Lisa's restaurants. I met him on Bumble Nice was
Speaker 1: like a like first thing whenever when I was single. Um, so, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's on the show a bit. We definitely have like
Speaker 1: a bumpy road at the end of the summer, which
Speaker 1: is a little odd for him. I think it's really
Speaker 1: it's going to I think be hard for him. For me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I've been through it all. I'm an open book.
Speaker 1: Like there's nothing that I hired or and try to.
Speaker 1: So it's a little bit weird dating stuff because my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriends on the show have all been part of it,
Speaker 1: so it was like here we are. So that can
Speaker 1: be a little bit tricky. So it's a transition for
Speaker 1: him hard to understand. Well, he's friends with all of
Speaker 1: my friends anyway, even before I knew him, he knew them,
Speaker 1: but once you're part of it is different too, you know.
Speaker 1: And he's not like it's not that he's like camera shy.
Speaker 1: He understands the whole production value and like how that works,
Speaker 1: but it's not his job, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like like on vander Pump there's there's always someone confronting
Speaker 1: someone else, and I'm like, i'd be so timid and
Speaker 1: be like, no, we're all good piece love everybody. That's boring,
Speaker 1: I mean because our friends like we you know, like
Speaker 1: Kayden Saucy, they're my sisters. They're not my business partners,
Speaker 1: but like sisters, we fight and we take things out
Speaker 1: on each other that it's not necessarily any of our faults.
Speaker 1: But that's what you do with the people you love
Speaker 1: the most, like your significant other, your best friend, your family.
Speaker 1: You take it out on each other and so that's
Speaker 1: we're just one giant family. Do you ever watch back
Speaker 1: and think, like, wow, that conversation was taken out of context?
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Yes, okay all the time. Absolutely. And
Speaker 1: do you feel like you have to defend yourself umd
Speaker 1: out or sometimes I do. I try not to fall
Speaker 1: into those cracks because once I started it too, Like
Speaker 1: maybe at the beginning, you're like, Okay, I'm gonna respond
Speaker 1: to every single person, and I like and it's like, okay,
Speaker 1: pull your back home in Arkansas, like hiding behind your
Speaker 1: computer with like your egg as your photo and you're
Speaker 1: telling me you know that I'm ugly and or or something.
Speaker 1: And then they're like profile says like live left love God,
Speaker 1: Like I'm like you just called. I'm like, what the hell? Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1: So I don't know this season. I had a lot
Speaker 1: of fun at the end. I'm a little nervous about
Speaker 1: kind I haven't seen it. So when does it air?
Speaker 1: It's it's already air, it's airing now. Yeah. We just
Speaker 1: I think episode five just aired and it was my
Speaker 1: I have no idea. I don't even know. Really. Last
Speaker 1: year we had like what yeah, wow, there's a lot
Speaker 1: that goes on in four months of filming. But this
Speaker 1: past episode that just aired was my favorite because it
Speaker 1: was my re launch party of my clothing line. Oh
Speaker 1: what's that? So hold on, tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: more about the clothing line, and I want to know
Speaker 1: more about the wine too, thanks, guys. Um. I have
Speaker 1: a T shirt line called James May. Oh yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: and that's your named after my niece, and I love that.
Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with my nephew. Look, I have a necklace
Speaker 1: with my nephew's name on it, Like, I can't wait
Speaker 1: to have one of my own. Okay, Yeah, So it's
Speaker 1: it's men and women graphic T shirt line. It's we
Speaker 1: have three collections. There's the James May Collection, which is
Speaker 1: like classic rock like seventies inspired like banties. And then
Speaker 1: we have a Reality Bites collection, which is kind of
Speaker 1: uses like some of our sayings and taglines and things
Speaker 1: like it's like a famous one which is a weiho okay,
Speaker 1: and now the one and then where you drink it.
Speaker 1: You guys will appreciate. Hey, can I talk to you
Speaker 1: for a sec? Hey? Can I talk to you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Can I sell you for a second to talk to
Speaker 1: you for a sec um, and then there's a vegetolic
Speaker 1: collection for based off my food blog. Are you vegetarian? Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm I mean what did I have yet? I'm a
Speaker 1: selective vegetarian. No, I don't eat fish. Um, I like
Speaker 1: harbor the same. Really, Yes, I'm a vegetarian until like
Speaker 1: the chicken dish looks good. Girls at the wedding same,
Speaker 1: I'm like if it's breaded dull, it's like deep fried dull.
Speaker 1: I'm having that. Um, but so can you give us
Speaker 1: like what's I feel like I've been either like losing
Speaker 1: weight because I haven't been eating a lot of like protein.
Speaker 1: What's like the highest This is like random question, but
Speaker 1: what's like the highest vegetable that has like the most
Speaker 1: amount of highest form of proach exact? Yeah, you want
Speaker 1: to go to all your dark greens and then like
Speaker 1: beans and lagoons and things like that, lentils, Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: love chicken for breakfast, lunch and dinner breakfasts. Yeah, which
Speaker 1: is basically just yeah smashed up. Okay exactly. Um, can
Speaker 1: you do us a favor? Yeah, you have a shirt
Speaker 1: that says relationships are hard? Can we take that shirt
Speaker 1: and have it be the sponsor of this podcast and
Speaker 1: just just coat cross pawl and ate somewhere. That'd be amazing.
Speaker 1: That's one of that. That's actually one of our producers.
Speaker 1: That's what it was like. She came up with that
Speaker 1: because she would always say whenever we're filming, she's doesn't
Speaker 1: it on the showing or where She was like one
Speaker 1: of our best producers, and she would always just be like,
Speaker 1: you guys. It took like we're having a hard day.
Speaker 1: I'm crying about my boyfriend. She's like, relationships are hard.
Speaker 1: I was like, thanks, son, and you're right. And then
Speaker 1: on the front of it, it's like over the that's
Speaker 1: actually it looks super cozy. So we just took my tattoo,
Speaker 1: which is hate my best friend Katie's handwriting. We were
Speaker 1: drunk in San Francisco and I was like brand me
Speaker 1: was that, I'm going to have a shirt now. There's
Speaker 1: so much called on post filming. It on a shirt
Speaker 1: now exactly, So where can we find your wine? Um?
Speaker 1: So the wine is available? Everybody really finished mine? Okay,
Speaker 1: well let's not wasted over remember. So it literally is
Speaker 1: very first at knocking point dot com and O C
Speaker 1: K I N g p O I knock Point. That's
Speaker 1: the winery that we're working with Washington, so they're producing
Speaker 1: all of our bottles. So you just go there. We're
Speaker 1: on the home page. I love what it says in
Speaker 1: the back. I'm not really sure what I've done to you,
Speaker 1: but I'll take a peanut grigo. So pinot grigio is
Speaker 1: east feel like that. I love that it's it's a
Speaker 1: line from season two. Oh, I love that. It's so
Speaker 1: basically I'm sure you have like a massive fan base.
Speaker 1: So if you guys want to go and buy which
Speaker 1: is of we ho potion number one and that's like
Speaker 1: not that you can you can have like potion two
Speaker 1: like one. That's yeah, we're ambitious that that we will
Speaker 1: come out with more as time passes. But yeah, you
Speaker 1: just go to knocking Point dot com and you sign
Speaker 1: up and you get the wine and that's what's up
Speaker 1: perfect And you can check out the Veggie Hollick blog,
Speaker 1: Yes blog, and then also my t shirt line is
Speaker 1: James may m a e dot CEO. And be on
Speaker 1: the lookout for co sponsors of help Are Hard and
Speaker 1: where can we find you on Instagram at Kristin Doughty
Speaker 1: do ut and if you have anyone from Banderpump Rules
Speaker 1: that might think they might be a good fit for me.
Speaker 1: By all means, I'm single and available. Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Are you ready today? Are you ready to day? I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding. I'm just trying to play Devil's advocate over
Speaker 1: here to your single Are you single? No? Good for you?
Speaker 1: Good for you? Good for you? You got your like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: i know I'm dating someone. Kristin, Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for coming in. We're excited for all of the stuff
Speaker 1: that you're working on too, and we'll hope to talk
Speaker 1: to you soon on what do you think? What do
Speaker 1: you think of Kristin? She was awesome. I don't I'm
Speaker 1: another one who doesn't watch vander pump rolls. But I
Speaker 1: know I have so many friends who are going to
Speaker 1: freak out and fan girl, and they're actually going to
Speaker 1: yell at me for not taking a picture with her.
Speaker 1: So I just messed up. I'm really bad at doing that.
Speaker 1: I get. I gave her pictures, yeah, because I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know, there's just a time and a place, and
Speaker 1: this would have been the time and place, but she
Speaker 1: seemed like she had to run, so yeah, and I
Speaker 1: couldn't get her last year to talk to you, like,
Speaker 1: to be here to speak to us now was a
Speaker 1: better time than anything back. But no, listen, I'm a
Speaker 1: fan girl of you. I'm a than girl of you.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to get my picture. I love um.
Speaker 1: So for people who don't know, because I don't think
Speaker 1: we gave you like a formal introduction, well, I mean
Speaker 1: I literally I like walked in and I was like,
Speaker 1: this was so last minute to be like the central
Speaker 1: focus of an entire episode because I feel and I
Speaker 1: feel like people are super interested in that. But it
Speaker 1: was very last minute. Camille, we texted last night and
Speaker 1: she was like, oh, I had to shoot cancel today. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I had the morning open and I was like,
Speaker 1: let's do something I love. Yeah. I love being a
Speaker 1: convenience and not a priority. It really makes me feel special.
Speaker 1: In no, I made you a priority. I could have
Speaker 1: been a lot of other I'm just kidding. Obviously, I'm
Speaker 1: superful that you're here. But how did you, guys become friends?
Speaker 1: Did you like see her on the front cover of Sports?
Speaker 1: Illustiated that for a second because I'm not on the cover,
Speaker 1: but oh wait, I thought you were on the cover. No,
Speaker 1: but I hope. So this year I thought you were
Speaker 1: on the cover, but you did win something on Sports Illustrate.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm pretty good. Well you should be on
Speaker 1: the cup. Oh my gosh, sorry, I just keep it,
Speaker 1: keep it, keep it cover. Honestly, you use it in
Speaker 1: a good way. You're very passionate about it, and so
Speaker 1: I love it. Wasn't it wasn't a bad way of
Speaker 1: saying that you're very similar. It' funny whenmil and I
Speaker 1: were coming say that again. You guys are very say that.
Speaker 1: I can see it for sure. Wait, when's your birthday?
Speaker 1: Se'm a Libra. I always think that like everyone that
Speaker 1: I get along with right away, and it has like
Speaker 1: a very bubbly personality as a Pisces or like a
Speaker 1: cup or your cusp. Yes, no, I am, but my
Speaker 1: best friends Pisces are you? Are you hold on? Pisces?
Speaker 1: Is March? Are you in Marchebuary? Okay, in the February. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm a Pisces, a queers okay, Cusp Okay, but I
Speaker 1: am like super super connected with all people were on
Speaker 1: the Oh my god, I'm not lying. I've known you
Speaker 1: are I've heard about you, I've met Nick before whatever else.
Speaker 1: No one's ever had a bad thing to say about you,
Speaker 1: but I like, legit, like love you. So when you
Speaker 1: were supposed to come in, like when we was, she
Speaker 1: supposed to come in last week or in October, sometime
Speaker 1: in December, and I was so sad, like yeah, because
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not going to slide into her d
Speaker 1: MS now because that's just weird. So now I'm happy
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Speaker 1: Hey guys, good, I'm Vanessa, I'm Kelsey, I'm Zach Kelsey
Speaker 1: and Zach and Zach. So you guys are here to
Speaker 1: help us dissect some texts? Right? Oh? Sure, I'm here
Speaker 1: for whatever you need. We'll do whatever. We have some wine.
Speaker 1: Have some wine. It's really good at the breakfast one.
Speaker 1: It's everything. One depends on what exactly. No, yeah, you guys,
Speaker 1: why peanut? No, we're alcoholic. What does what peenot mean?
Speaker 1: Then peanut means tasty? Oh my god, you could say
Speaker 1: hold on? So can you just give us give me
Speaker 1: your names again? Kelsey and Kelsey, Yeah, yeah enough, I'm
Speaker 1: pronounced spelling it right? Whatever? Zachy h like you know what? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Like Zachary Hanson from the Hanson Brothers, who I'm obsessed with.
Speaker 1: First that name in a long time. And so you
Speaker 1: are on a new unscripted comedy series on is that right, filter? Pashhag,
Speaker 1: no filter. I know that it's on Monday at ten thirty.
Speaker 1: You know about it because dating show where we set
Speaker 1: people up on first dates and then we are comedians
Speaker 1: on the show watching the dates like we're watching like
Speaker 1: a comedians. Yeah technically, yeah, tell me whatever you want
Speaker 1: you guys already we watched the show along with the
Speaker 1: audience and we're kind of that no filter perspective watching
Speaker 1: the dates. Oh god, I want to watch The Bachelor
Speaker 1: with you guys. Oh it would be it's I feel
Speaker 1: like that's comedian my dream, so that you can like
Speaker 1: get some form of material for your stand up dumb
Speaker 1: opinion and getting paid for it. Yeah, so you don't
Speaker 1: set any you do you set people up on a
Speaker 1: date or you just want no we watched the finished product.
Speaker 1: We watch like the first dates as they're like happening, okay,
Speaker 1: live live and commenting, predicting, and these people know, like
Speaker 1: the people going on a date and know that you're
Speaker 1: watching or that they're being watched. They're being filmed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I know they're being reviewed in some form. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: little did they know it was by two queers with
Speaker 1: angry lookout on dating single You're always I love that,
Speaker 1: Zack and I gonna get along. So wait, so are
Speaker 1: these dates that you guys are critiquing quote unquote? Are
Speaker 1: they same sex? Are they everything? Everything? It's very twenty
Speaker 1: nineteen of them. It's actually I think like their first
Speaker 1: right first dating show first like lgbt Q, I A,
Speaker 1: let's say it is, don't google that you heard it
Speaker 1: here first? The very first same sex. Well, it's just
Speaker 1: very it's all inclusive, very it was very fun for
Speaker 1: us to try and judge people on their sexuality. Yeah,
Speaker 1: seconds into the date, like they say something and we're like, gayly,
Speaker 1: we know, do you think that there's do you think
Speaker 1: that gay people have more of a gayor than a
Speaker 1: straight person would? Definitely? Why because I agree with that.
Speaker 1: I think I think it's almost definite, Like you can
Speaker 1: you know it if you know? Too many straight women
Speaker 1: have tried to marry gay met For us to think
Speaker 1: that you have any sort of gayar fair, that's not
Speaker 1: not a bad point. How many straight men have tried
Speaker 1: to marry gay women? Very up private and streatement. Also
Speaker 1: know when they're being hit on then by a guy.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Straight? I love to
Speaker 1: be hit on by game. I want to be I
Speaker 1: want to be hit on by a female. I do
Speaker 1: have everybody. Yeah, I got hit on once. I was
Speaker 1: walking down the street and our girls like, damn nice booty,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I felt like complimenting another woman.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I feel good about myself today. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, not a cat call. It's just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just like each other out exactly. Okay, So what
Speaker 1: it's not a cat call when it's a girl calling
Speaker 1: another girl thing, but a guy called. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: want to get into one of these texts then that
Speaker 1: we have. So this is from Chloe. We're just gonna
Speaker 1: have in text Yeah, okay. So from Chloe, she says,
Speaker 1: we're both junior in college. We're both juniors in college.
Speaker 1: And after sorry, I've had some wine. We're both juniors
Speaker 1: in college. And after sending this, he said he still
Speaker 1: wanted to talk. But I haven't heard from him. And
Speaker 1: this is a text, um, and I wish we could.
Speaker 1: Can we pass them out to them? Yeah, because I
Speaker 1: want I think being able to see it is a
Speaker 1: big importance you want to is the training ground? So nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing severe. Did you guys go to college? I dropped
Speaker 1: out of three three colleges, completed one. Great, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so we have still here. You know you were fine? Okay.
Speaker 1: So this is the text. Chloe says. I'm sorry. I'm
Speaker 1: just at an insane at an insane point in my
Speaker 1: life right now. I just started working, I found out
Speaker 1: I'm going to England for an internship. Plus I'm trying
Speaker 1: to finish school with a three point On top of that,
Speaker 1: I just joined a fraternity, so I'm busy with that.
Speaker 1: I like you, but it wouldn't be fair to anyone
Speaker 1: to go any further because someone will just end up her.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if you wanted something more, I'm just at
Speaker 1: an important junction in my life and it wouldn't be
Speaker 1: fair to anyone. Excuses, That's what I say. But even
Speaker 1: if this is all BS, it's more than most people
Speaker 1: are getting these days, and I commend him for that.
Speaker 1: I think he's bragging a little bit. I got a
Speaker 1: three point g p A. I'm voting, Yeah, what's hey?
Speaker 1: I think it's out of three point eight. Does he
Speaker 1: know he can get a four point out that had
Speaker 1: that opportunity for the perfect score. He just joined a
Speaker 1: fraternity like that would turn me off no thing. But
Speaker 1: so here's the Chloe said. In addition to him sending
Speaker 1: her this, he also said he still wanted to hot,
Speaker 1: so he just wants to bang. Yeah, he wants the
Speaker 1: non commitment. This is smart though, He's if she gets
Speaker 1: attached after they bone from here or now he goes Listen,
Speaker 1: I told you point that priority, it goes priority, it
Speaker 1: goes to England, those Point fraternity and then you So
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, what we just don't
Speaker 1: like this guy or is he being I think if
Speaker 1: she can handle it, if she can like her and
Speaker 1: take the emotion out, cut that emotional tie, she can
Speaker 1: do what girls do that? Straight girls can they do that?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, It's like their specialty's when they go
Speaker 1: right right I like bit yeah, yeah, bitch, they can.
Speaker 1: They cannot even felie like that. They can hate a
Speaker 1: lot of people say whatever you want, I'm filtered here,
Speaker 1: especially like that interrace. Okay is going to read this one? Okay,
Speaker 1: Well should I just chill that? Okay? From Rachel? How
Speaker 1: should I respond to this? We've been texting for months
Speaker 1: and have never met in person like that, Like really,
Speaker 1: I'm like, so what if it's long distance? Hold on?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm judging on the grammar. So I'm like, so, hey, Comma,
Speaker 1: I like that I asked about a date that I
Speaker 1: asked about a date this summer once you got back,
Speaker 1: and I kind of just left it at that, And
Speaker 1: that doesn't seem quite fair to you, especially if you
Speaker 1: were interested. So I want to let you know what's
Speaker 1: been going on with me. Basically, I've had feelings for
Speaker 1: this girl for a long time, for a long while
Speaker 1: and fell for her, but this summer she just started
Speaker 1: ignoring me, and I don't know what was going on
Speaker 1: until I finally got to talk to her last week
Speaker 1: and she basically just led me on. And I guess
Speaker 1: I knew this was going to happen, but she cleared up.
Speaker 1: But she cleared up. She doesn't feel anything for me,
Speaker 1: et cetera. So I've been dealing with that, but now
Speaker 1: I at least finally know. It's a long story to
Speaker 1: explain over texts and this in the great the greatest summary. Um,
Speaker 1: this is sad is he talking to I'm so confused
Speaker 1: right now. Also, I never want to hear about the
Speaker 1: other person you're going like. He said, this is what
Speaker 1: I would you listen to this, Rachel like? And she
Speaker 1: just ate traper Rachel. She called you, sir, whoever you
Speaker 1: want chewing it up right now. She's giving the finger
Speaker 1: to the sky when it's too First of all, if
Speaker 1: it's too lengthy of a text message, dude, call me.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'll take a text over calling to think. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like I call this too much pressure and
Speaker 1: I'm not good at improv so I feel like I
Speaker 1: need to in order send me to my friends. Second,
Speaker 1: this was just like word vomit whoever this person? This
Speaker 1: is like him saying like you are my second place trophy.
Speaker 1: Do you accept you know, yeah, except well we've seen
Speaker 1: that on Bachelor a few times. Not you, that's second
Speaker 1: place at all. No, I'm just sucking more recently, oh
Speaker 1: with like, okay, we're not gonna get into pacifics and
Speaker 1: don't just don't respond. Months and then this, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: would leave him on red and I feel like that's
Speaker 1: the big Do you guys sometimes turn on your is
Speaker 1: it rep receipts or red receipt? Do you turn them on?
Speaker 1: So that way people can read them out oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's aggressives pro and lave them off, read receipts off. Know.
Speaker 1: I turned them on for specific people, like yeah, bitch,
Speaker 1: I saw I'm choosing to are You's a god. I
Speaker 1: go through like weird patterns of life where like six
Speaker 1: months out of the year I'll have them on and
Speaker 1: the other six months I've them off. Because you want
Speaker 1: people to know you on your toes or is it
Speaker 1: truly to hurt their feelings? I think when things are
Speaker 1: going well for me, when things are going really well
Speaker 1: for me, I turned them on so that way people
Speaker 1: know like, okay, boy. But here's the thing. Instagram did
Speaker 1: it right. Instagram did it so now you can un
Speaker 1: read or a message. Yes I know that I'm not
Speaker 1: on Instagram. You can un send a message. You could
Speaker 1: unsend this recently, here's one from Zuri, right, that's my
Speaker 1: friend Zuri. No, I went this is Instagram unread No
Speaker 1: no no, no, no, no no no. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: right now, I love Zuri. Can I message her? I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dy still has the scene at the bottom of it.
Speaker 1: And you want to how I know this is because
Speaker 1: I have three separate Instagram accounts. Okay, myself a d
Speaker 1: M from one of them, and I did. I read it,
Speaker 1: and then I read it and I went back to
Speaker 1: the other one and I went back and I still
Speaker 1: said scene at the bottom, because I had to know
Speaker 1: whether that was true or not. Also, I have my
Speaker 1: public because I have this podcast account help I second dating.
Speaker 1: And then I have my private Instagram that's just like
Speaker 1: solely just friends life. Do you have me on that? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: no his friends. It's a friend for his pride. No
Speaker 1: one that I met is on that Instagram. So that's
Speaker 1: not not anything with you. The timing restriction. I'm definitely
Speaker 1: putting my red messages whenever Dean messages me. Now, yeah, half,
Speaker 1: you have another text that I want to get to.
Speaker 1: It's kind of long, though, Okay, I'm coming next to you.
Speaker 1: So okay, So we're gonna do it in two parts. Actually,
Speaker 1: I would love for you guys to do in two parts.
Speaker 1: Do you have in front of you? Ye want me?
Speaker 1: So tells me if you want to be gray, and
Speaker 1: then Zack if you want to be blue. Okay, and
Speaker 1: I'll do the So this is from Adria. Adria says
Speaker 1: literally talks to this guy for about a month hadn't
Speaker 1: met him yet. He seemed normal, but would sometimes say
Speaker 1: inappropriate random things out of the blue, which I so.
Speaker 1: I told him I wasn't interested in just hooking up,
Speaker 1: and he kept trying to reassure me that they wanted more,
Speaker 1: that he wanted more. Yes, still kept saying really inappropriate things.
Speaker 1: Finally I told him it wouldn't work, and this was
Speaker 1: his response, I'll be the guy. You're great. Who's Adria?
Speaker 1: Does that matter? So Kelsey's great and you're Adria exactly Adria. Okay,
Speaker 1: I hate small talk. I literally was just keeping in
Speaker 1: contact act. I know you're busy and might have sipped
Speaker 1: your mind that I want to hang with you dot
Speaker 1: dot dot. It's super whacked me that you won't hang
Speaker 1: out with me, Like, what the give it a shot?
Speaker 1: I get that, but I'm just not interested anymore. Thanks one,
Speaker 1: Thanks for once again we see my time and energy,
Speaker 1: and just for leading me on. Hope you got what
Speaker 1: you wanted out of that, and you missed out a
Speaker 1: great sex and a bless hold on and even give up. Okay,
Speaker 1: like seriously, let me kiss on you and make you
Speaker 1: squirm Adria. That's okay, But thanks I'm just Bible somewhere
Speaker 1: asked the Old Testament and actually you got that out
Speaker 1: a world. This is weird. This is one of those
Speaker 1: shock jocks who kind of gets off on insulting women.
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot to pick apart with that grammar.
Speaker 1: Natzie over here, Jos without a t I sipped your mind?
Speaker 1: Was that slipped? Yea? I will say Adria was a
Speaker 1: stand up champion in this case. Okay, okay, yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: or okay with the dot like okay, yeah, she finishes
Speaker 1: it with that's okay, but thanks still kind. Yeah, by that,
Speaker 1: he says, let me make you squirm, Like, come on,
Speaker 1: he's trying, he's coming at it. It's crazy. I want.
Speaker 1: The thing about the situation that we've seen to see
Speaker 1: on this podcast too, is that this has to have
Speaker 1: worked for this guy in the past, and that's why
Speaker 1: he's doing it now to a weaker woman. Or maybe
Speaker 1: it hasn't worked. She's not. She's just giving him what
Speaker 1: he wants, which makes him want to do it more.
Speaker 1: Like if she would react to be like up, oh
Speaker 1: my god, you're so gross, you'd be like this isn't
Speaker 1: fun anymore. But because she's cool, together. Yeah, men want
Speaker 1: the chase something. Yeah, yeah, nothing, I'm like squirming now,
Speaker 1: like yeah, I got like a sworming swirming. Okay, So
Speaker 1: how would you guys approach a situation? Then there's a
Speaker 1: person you want to hook up with. Either be in relationships.
Speaker 1: I guess first and foremlas. I am in one that
Speaker 1: is an open relationship, love that it's wonderful, okay, fantastic, zactly,
Speaker 1: and I'm still perpetuation single. Okay. So say someone that
Speaker 1: you were interested in we're saying these things to you.
Speaker 1: How would you react? I mean, I don't want to, Adria,
Speaker 1: how sorry, sorry, I don't want to. But what if
Speaker 1: what if a guy you're talking to you said, I
Speaker 1: want to make you squirm or take this blessed? Okay,
Speaker 1: Like yeah, no, there's no nothing. If it's feel like
Speaker 1: we need t shirts say that. Yeah, I mean, if
Speaker 1: it's the right you can say anything. Nothing's inappropriate if
Speaker 1: it's from the right person. You know, I wouldn't engage
Speaker 1: with this person because you don't know how they're going
Speaker 1: to take it, and any ounce of attention is going
Speaker 1: to like it's just going to be an ongoing text.
Speaker 1: Ward's like no, yeah, it's just make putting myself in
Speaker 1: a situation where I would ever say blessed to someone.
Speaker 1: It's going to do. It's going to be in a
Speaker 1: group to my seven best friends and talking. That is
Speaker 1: your Instagram account, your friends blessed. Yeah, there's a World
Speaker 1: Games record setting egg. That was me, Kelse. What do
Speaker 1: you think now? Yeah, this guy's trash and two isn't
Speaker 1: that like New York? Of course it is New York.
Speaker 1: And I don't know. We plenty unread eye messages. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's sped her off without him. Okay, well I think
Speaker 1: that we can all agree. Okay, so guys, tell us
Speaker 1: more about your show on ethen We had fun. Yeah, people,
Speaker 1: it's for everyone. It's a really great group of comedians
Speaker 1: with really funny perspectives on dating. And yeah, it's it's last,
Speaker 1: very modern, very it's just fun. It's like you're fun, Like,
Speaker 1: put it on while you're hanging out with your friends,
Speaker 1: put it on while you're like getting ready to go out,
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I'll asleep to it. What's the
Speaker 1: TV show watching me? I will say I appreciate the
Speaker 1: thirty minute TV show? Yes, right, those are rare. If
Speaker 1: you get like an hour long. It's like that's a commitment.
Speaker 1: I'm already commitment phobic. So it's like it's it's too
Speaker 1: much from no. I mean it is like there's it's
Speaker 1: a riot the whole way through, from the moment you
Speaker 1: meet them. You never know what putting these two people
Speaker 1: together is going to be like. And there has been
Speaker 1: some outrageous things happened. I can't wait to watch. So
Speaker 1: this is on Monday's Monday, Thursday PM. That's fun. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for five weeks and it's called dating hashtag no Filter
Speaker 1: Dating No Filter d n F as we like to
Speaker 1: call our be in the group chat. Now, come on
Speaker 1: only if you bring strategy. Okay, So a couple of
Speaker 1: questions for you guys before we let you go. What
Speaker 1: do you think dating is like nowadays? Especially for for
Speaker 1: you guys right, Like, it's it's all been a big
Speaker 1: progression in l A. It's the hardest into it. Like honestly,
Speaker 1: when I go on a date and I leave that date,
Speaker 1: I assume that person has died and just lucky from
Speaker 1: them again, awesome, you know? Is that is that you
Speaker 1: setting the bar low? And yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: And I managed to low standard. So you're always surprising yourself.
Speaker 1: That's right. We have a whole list of words that
Speaker 1: I want you guys to help us define. I forgot
Speaker 1: all about this. This is a whole another sign you
Speaker 1: were trying to get us off. They were trying to.
Speaker 1: They were like, well, I know, I ye, Eaton's gonna
Speaker 1: have a lot of work to do on this episode.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about dating apps? Okay, so love,
Speaker 1: are you on any dating apps now? Lsey? So for Kelsey,
Speaker 1: who's in a relationship and open relationship, you're on app? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And it says that on my do you guys have
Speaker 1: a couple of photos and you do share an account? Now,
Speaker 1: someone do his thing and I do mine and if
Speaker 1: it meets up in the middle, great, So when you're
Speaker 1: in an open relationship, are you openly telling each other
Speaker 1: when you're going on another date? Like what only works
Speaker 1: if you are transplaining about we already know we're going
Speaker 1: to be together forever and ever. So we're like why
Speaker 1: not why? I'm also bisexual, So I'm like why if
Speaker 1: he likes women and I like women, why wouldn't this work?
Speaker 1: So the honestly, because people have relationship, Yes, they asked
Speaker 1: me all the time, even like, how do I do
Speaker 1: this with my boyfriend? And I'm like, if you're doing
Speaker 1: it because you're trying to spice up the relationship, or
Speaker 1: you're doing it because only one person wants to not
Speaker 1: gonna have to want it both of you. Have you
Speaker 1: been with another guy? Yeah, so I could see as
Speaker 1: a guy being in an open relationship. Why are you laughing?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't understand the question. How do
Speaker 1: you bear with another guy? Personally? As a guy. If
Speaker 1: I was dating someone and they're like, hey, I want
Speaker 1: to date other girls, I'd be like, you have to
Speaker 1: be fine, but if you want to be the other
Speaker 1: guys be much more hesitanting. Here's no, here's no worries
Speaker 1: about it. He's fine, he pulls on his outside interesting.
Speaker 1: You gotta be, you gotta be. Girls are just got
Speaker 1: You're just girls for him. He's only attracted to women,
Speaker 1: just women. I guess the fool your eyes are like,
Speaker 1: I don't understand the words coming out of your mouth
Speaker 1: because I don't want to like be no, because I
Speaker 1: don't want to give like no. I mean, listen, I've
Speaker 1: I've never had a threesome. Um, of course I'm attracted
Speaker 1: to women. Just like just like, and I've never experienced
Speaker 1: with women before. I'm not against it. I think I'm
Speaker 1: just afraid to like invite another person into the bedroom
Speaker 1: with my significant other. Would I be open to it? Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: in my like fantasy. Yeah, that's a good point. What
Speaker 1: advice would you have for Vanessa? Mean, set boundaries, what
Speaker 1: you're comfortable with. You have to be honest about, Like
Speaker 1: if you prefer things to happen or not happen, you
Speaker 1: have to be able to know what your limit boundaries
Speaker 1: are made to be crossed. Sure, it's like part of
Speaker 1: the fun is when it's a bit like that is
Speaker 1: you're right, You're right, Like it is a little scandalous,
Speaker 1: but it's the same way as like if you can
Speaker 1: have beer before your twenty one, it's not that enjoyable.
Speaker 1: So it's one of those things where like if you
Speaker 1: know you can write date other people, it's not like
Speaker 1: as secretive and sexy and right, I think I'm so
Speaker 1: much in my head, I'm an overthinker, so be like,
Speaker 1: but why did you do that? And like, like why
Speaker 1: I would advise, in my professional bisexual opinion to not
Speaker 1: have I have in my dreams though, and let me
Speaker 1: tell you should like you should make out with a
Speaker 1: girl on a dance floor. I'm out with Winch. I'm
Speaker 1: like turf, like say the same. This is super interesting
Speaker 1: for me because I have I have yes, I feel
Speaker 1: that every monogamous relationship I've been in, and so I've
Speaker 1: been open to the idea of considering an open relationship, right,
Speaker 1: and so it's surprised, like I never in a million
Speaker 1: trillion years thought I would find someone that would be
Speaker 1: into the same weird like lifestyle. You know, I still
Speaker 1: think it's weird. It's not a normal thing, but it's weird.
Speaker 1: It's weird because we think that being in just a
Speaker 1: monogamous relationship begins to see how many straight tiles are like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm interested, tell me more. Yeah, I'd be curious about him.
Speaker 1: Not against it. Let's straight guys, but more straight girls.
Speaker 1: It's a funny, weird dynamic. But it's like it's not
Speaker 1: very equal. Well, let's just toxic blah blah blah. But
Speaker 1: that about the podcast, right, that's gonna be next week's
Speaker 1: when we get when we bring in Okay, so challenge
Speaker 1: for you guys in one word, some updating culture nowadays
Speaker 1: one word, Yet I know it's hard for both of
Speaker 1: you because you like to talk about a lot. But
Speaker 1: and he means I enough, egg eggs, eggs, saying no, um,
Speaker 1: unpredictable trash. Nowadays, I think they're both. That's both kind
Speaker 1: of him. Yeah, that's actually addictable me. Well, right now,
Speaker 1: actually i'm dating someone. I'm happily, happily in a relationship. Um, sorry, Kamale,
Speaker 1: and I'm so curious around I would say dating right now? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would say it's it's unpredictable. That's what I'm like leading, Yeah,
Speaker 1: unpredictable and trashy and just um, I guess how can
Speaker 1: I like? Kind of one word is hard? Yeah, like
Speaker 1: people aren't as honest, so yeah, deceiving, Yeah, deceiving. We're
Speaker 1: going to play a game. But what's your word? Well,
Speaker 1: I was planning on actually skipping that part of you
Speaker 1: don't get okay. One word to define dating nowadays, I
Speaker 1: would say tiresome. That's good, we're exhausting. One of those
Speaker 1: words real costeck or define dating? More word um, challenging. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: one's like no, one's like every single people in here
Speaker 1: right now. So when everyone thinks of trash, well, I
Speaker 1: mean like I'm I'm talking about like when I was
Speaker 1: single and like now that I'm happily dating someone, it's
Speaker 1: just like, um, it's uh fresh, It's it's just it's
Speaker 1: I've never experienced like this, this type of like dating before.
Speaker 1: You know, it's like a refreshel type of like I
Speaker 1: feel light good. Okay, So here's here's the thing. We've
Speaker 1: defined these words on this podcast before, but we're not funny,
Speaker 1: and you guys obviously are, So take your pressure. Lots
Speaker 1: of pressure here. No no, no, Jean, you have to
Speaker 1: says lots of press here, be fabulous, fabulous help us
Speaker 1: defining these dating terms. So first's ghosting. Well, we've talked
Speaker 1: about this before. I think ghosting is like gets a
Speaker 1: bad rap that it's so negative, But I think it's fine.
Speaker 1: I think in the day and age we live in
Speaker 1: with social media and like no one has any time
Speaker 1: if you're not interested in someone just I don't care.
Speaker 1: I guess it's like an indication, an indicator of like
Speaker 1: I'm I don't like you, not into you? Who cares? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it's disappearing without a trace. There's no really
Speaker 1: funny way to put it. I mean, it's what I
Speaker 1: assume guys are going to do I'm gonna okay, So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna paint the picture for you guys out of
Speaker 1: my personal experience, recent ex personal experience. I was talking
Speaker 1: to this girl for a while. We went on one day,
Speaker 1: maybe like a month or two ago, went fantastic. Holidays happen.
Speaker 1: Obviously when holidays come, like you go your separate ways
Speaker 1: whatever wherever you go. We kept in touch during those holidays, Christmas,
Speaker 1: and not only that, but she also would check in
Speaker 1: with me and was like, hey, how was your years?
Speaker 1: How is like this is something more? And it was
Speaker 1: really well, and she was like, I can't not can't
Speaker 1: wait till you get back to Los Angeles we can
Speaker 1: hang out. But it was like very much along the
Speaker 1: lines of interested in seeing you again. And so now
Speaker 1: if I go back to my text messages, which I
Speaker 1: will not pull up, but there's a lot of blue
Speaker 1: and there's not a lot of gray, and especially most recently,
Speaker 1: it was like, oh my gosh, yeah, I can't wait
Speaker 1: to hang out again. And like we didn't like obviously
Speaker 1: the first date went well, we didn't hook up or
Speaker 1: anything like that. Um, but there's now I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm being ghosted, well, have you asked her back out? Yes,
Speaker 1: I said, I can't wait to plan our second days?
Speaker 1: Not ask does she listen to this podcast? She actually,
Speaker 1: funny enough, said she listened to one of the most
Speaker 1: recent episodes. I always the girl, which is why I'm
Speaker 1: being very ambiguous with you have to make a concrete plant,
Speaker 1: say drink seven pm tomorrow night texting her. Now, I'll
Speaker 1: tell you the very last message that I sent her.
Speaker 1: I said, hey, we still need to plan our second date?
Speaker 1: How is that not? And she didn't respond, no response,
Speaker 1: and that was that's a bad that's a bad sign.
Speaker 1: That's a bad time. I mean, I think it was
Speaker 1: also kind of ambiguous, like you didn't actually plan something.
Speaker 1: I feel I think that's enough to any message her
Speaker 1: like three times before to what for us? I'm sorry, no,
Speaker 1: And this is the thing, like you Walker, that's how
Speaker 1: I Instagram. That's actually gonna you know how many women
Speaker 1: want to date you, Dean, and you're like chasing a
Speaker 1: girl who's not messling back. She's mysterious thing to do.
Speaker 1: But that's so frustrating. She still follows me on Instagram,
Speaker 1: so there's there's still so but I think you got
Speaker 1: end not up and ask her out of like a
Speaker 1: comcrete plant. How I wait, I texted her yesterday, so
Speaker 1: twenty four hours ago, so things, No, don't message her again,
Speaker 1: don't I'm not going to text her in her right
Speaker 1: now on air. Don't you want to go like I
Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to sleep now I would just want
Speaker 1: to Yeah, okay, define this term thing. Oh that's where
Speaker 1: like someone agrees back up, Yeah, visits you, watches your
Speaker 1: Instagram story like the phone but ghosted you. But if
Speaker 1: you ghost me, I think leave, Yeah, exactly, by leave,
Speaker 1: I go to heaven. I want it started to you
Speaker 1: when like we're popping up on social media, these dudes
Speaker 1: are coming out of the woodwork, I'm like, oh there
Speaker 1: you now you're seeing right nice. Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 1: Patar does that was actually changed by your handle to
Speaker 1: whodini instead of being baby all funds on being but
Speaker 1: I feel like, no, you're a Danie baby. Anyways, you
Speaker 1: guys now now we leave? Ye Now it's dating no filter? Yeah,
Speaker 1: dating no filter Onthday, every game Monday, Tuesday. I didn't
Speaker 1: know that four a week episode is in the first
Speaker 1: Amazing You guys at thirty minutes long, that's yeah, you
Speaker 1: guys are television stars. Oh my god, we know. That's
Speaker 1: pretty amazing. How often it was a bachelor on once
Speaker 1: week for like an hour or two. Yeah, but they
Speaker 1: wanted more, you guys kept it was only one went
Speaker 1: out on two extra seasons with the Bachelor's too. I
Speaker 1: was gonna get enough. So I envy your guys ability
Speaker 1: to stay on TV more than one the end of
Speaker 1: a week. Thank you so much. Dating hashtag no filter
Speaker 1: at thirty pm Monday Thursday, whether on the East Coast
Speaker 1: or the West Coast, Zac and Kelsey, you both are
Speaker 1: hilarious coming Oh we get a plus out. That's not
Speaker 1: even everyone was listening. Okay, so that was the two
Speaker 1: of the most hilarious community. That was so much fun.
Speaker 1: Dating hashtag unfiltered. Um, as we mentioned a million times,
Speaker 1: checked them out on e Monday night at ten thirty Monday, Tuesday,
Speaker 1: Wednesday and Thursday Thursday. Yeah, they were hilarious. That was
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. Um. Anyways, we want to talk
Speaker 1: to Camille now because we haven't really talked to her
Speaker 1: much and crush on her. I have a crush on her.
Speaker 1: So it's just like, yeah, has a crush on your boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Yes he does, so we I just found out that
Speaker 1: she's dating Well I knew you were dating a football player. Um,
Speaker 1: but I just I'm like a fan of you because
Speaker 1: I feel I love that's a big deal. Not the
Speaker 1: fact that you're dating a football player. Well, I love
Speaker 1: that so much. Honestly. Some of my favorite dm s
Speaker 1: to ever read are like the girls who are just
Speaker 1: so excited about me and my life and like or
Speaker 1: they'll be like, oh my god, Rob's so lucky to
Speaker 1: have you, because I get it. So many people are like,
Speaker 1: do you know how lucky you are? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: why does it have to be one more the other?
Speaker 1: Why can't relationship because that's what it is. How did
Speaker 1: I hate this question? Can you ask me like a
Speaker 1: couple of from now? No, Dean, We I mean I
Speaker 1: always I always knew who Rob was. Um. I think
Speaker 1: it was one of those things like when the roster
Speaker 1: came out for who the rookies were in two thousand
Speaker 1: and thirteen, you know the guys. See I think Rob
Speaker 1: had his eye. Mean well I know that because he
Speaker 1: told me. But um, my first time that I really
Speaker 1: took a second look at him was, um, I did
Speaker 1: that We did this good will event um November two thirteen,
Speaker 1: right before Thanksgiving, and it was one of those things
Speaker 1: where you know, there's so many preconceived ideas of who
Speaker 1: somebody is, and you know, it was like, Rob is
Speaker 1: this party boy who's always like probably has a girl
Speaker 1: on his arm, and and it was he was never
Speaker 1: of interest of me. I thought he was cute, didn't
Speaker 1: think he was a hunk um, And I just got
Speaker 1: stopped before I went into the changing room to get
Speaker 1: into my uniform, and I got to listen. I was
Speaker 1: kind of forced to listen to him to this interview
Speaker 1: about this charity event, and it was like the side
Speaker 1: of him I had never seen, and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I kind of like feel some type
Speaker 1: of way, this guy seems really sweet and this this
Speaker 1: to him that I don't think a lot of people see,
Speaker 1: and I was just really attracted to it, and I
Speaker 1: was just like I would fancy a date with him.
Speaker 1: But it was just a thought in my mind, you know.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, yes, I wasn't like this is my
Speaker 1: next boyfriend. It was just like the first time that
Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, yeah, it's really cute. And then
Speaker 1: we dated after I resigned two years later from the
Speaker 1: Chilaney team. Perfect yeah, um yeah, I guess, but now
Speaker 1: you're doing a lot of big things too. Obviously your
Speaker 1: your SI maxim. Um well, I'm not a maxim model,
Speaker 1: but I do a lot of corresponding format. Yes, yes, um,
Speaker 1: but um yea sports illustrated has been a dream job
Speaker 1: of mine. It was kind of it was the first time.
Speaker 1: I mean, you could probably attest to this, like, I mean,
Speaker 1: you look like a supermodel, Vanessa, so maybe you don't.
Speaker 1: But I didn't. Like, no, I it was really hard
Speaker 1: for me to see women's bodies advertised in on TV
Speaker 1: or in billboards and magazines and be like, oh, she
Speaker 1: has freckled, she has hips, she has thighed, she has
Speaker 1: you know, but that's what I love about you. I
Speaker 1: feel like when I look at women, like you're my
Speaker 1: ideal body type, like women with curves and like who
Speaker 1: are just authentically like these wasn't always the cool. It's
Speaker 1: starting to become correct for me. It always was, though
Speaker 1: I guess like it might because of like my cultural background,
Speaker 1: Like I'm like ten pounds lighter than what I should
Speaker 1: be in my you know, like so interesting if you're
Speaker 1: not eating I'm like I am, I'm just dressed out,
Speaker 1: so I'm losing weight. And I think when people tell me, like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're skinny, like yeah, that might be a good thing
Speaker 1: for some other women, but for me, it's one of
Speaker 1: my biggest insecurities. And I don't talk about it a
Speaker 1: lot um. I do love how one of the things
Speaker 1: you can consistently say is I'm trying to gain more weight,
Speaker 1: and I right, but I am trying. And like my
Speaker 1: people might be like, oh, like, we don't want to
Speaker 1: hear that, you know, but like that's my body type.
Speaker 1: And I just like I look at you and you're
Speaker 1: just like you just radiate sunshine because you're just you're
Speaker 1: just so like proud to like be you. And I
Speaker 1: love that and I love that about it. And it
Speaker 1: took me. It took me a long time to get there.
Speaker 1: But and I'm not even just saying this, the best
Speaker 1: part about being a part of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit is
Speaker 1: I was hoping that this day would come to that,
Speaker 1: you know, I could come and sit on there and
Speaker 1: kind of talk about my journey, my story because it
Speaker 1: was something that I knew I always wanted to be
Speaker 1: a part of simply because it made me except who
Speaker 1: I was and without even being in the issue, simply
Speaker 1: looking at it and at such a young age. So
Speaker 1: it was just something I would always talk about. People
Speaker 1: be like, what do you want to do when you
Speaker 1: grow up? And that was that was always one of them.
Speaker 1: And they would be like okay, but like what else?
Speaker 1: And I was like, no, I'll let you know after that,
Speaker 1: because I want, I really want to be a swimsy model,
Speaker 1: not to be another face in the magazine, but because
Speaker 1: these women take these platforms and they get to capitalize it.
Speaker 1: Look at Ashley Graham, look at you. You have to
Speaker 1: look at Christy Teak, and these women are more than
Speaker 1: just these supermodels that there's a person exactly and you
Speaker 1: don't you really see that with with models. A lot
Speaker 1: of time I go into castings and I won't just
Speaker 1: do you know my front side back, do a little
Speaker 1: slate like I'm talking, how are you? What are you doing?
Speaker 1: I would love to represent your brands, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm all about that's what models are. So I like
Speaker 1: to like dive deep into it and really find the
Speaker 1: essence of what's behind the brand and presented. And that's
Speaker 1: exactly why I wanted to be a part of Sports Illustrated,
Speaker 1: but long story short, agencies weren't signing me. And you
Speaker 1: can't go knocking on the headquarters and say Hi, can
Speaker 1: you sit down with me to interview me. I want
Speaker 1: to be a Sports Illustrated sim suit models. So theyre
Speaker 1: the first ever Hope and Call. I moved out to
Speaker 1: Los Angeles in February. I wasn't getting signed. Needed to
Speaker 1: drop weight, um, needed to change things about my body.
Speaker 1: And I was like, this is contradicting because I want
Speaker 1: to be in a side because I know I can
Speaker 1: be accepted in the skin that I'm in, And so
Speaker 1: I was like, why would I lose weight to go
Speaker 1: and be something like that didn't make sense to me.
Speaker 1: I mean, everything happens for a reason, um, And I'm
Speaker 1: so happy that I got it at twenty five years old,
Speaker 1: that I first got into modeling at this stage, which
Speaker 1: was also another contradicting but that gives women who are
Speaker 1: battling with their internal insecurities of either their body weight
Speaker 1: or whatever it may be, gives them the courage and like,
Speaker 1: you know, the hope be like yeah, well, like I'm
Speaker 1: going to be accepted for like having my curves or not,
Speaker 1: you know, like sometimes like I dated this one. I
Speaker 1: don't even want to talk about it. But anyway, so
Speaker 1: I mean like I was body shamed at one point
Speaker 1: and like and it really like affected my self esteem.
Speaker 1: Um and and I think it's it's so important to
Speaker 1: have people like you out there and like you're saying,
Speaker 1: Christy Tiguan and um actually Graham and just so like
Speaker 1: be you. There's nothing more beautiful and more authentic than
Speaker 1: like having someone that's just loving who they are as
Speaker 1: a person. Like it's so much easier said, like you know,
Speaker 1: it's whenever I go and I do these talks and
Speaker 1: I do panels and stuff, like it's every time I
Speaker 1: say it, I mean it. But it took me a
Speaker 1: while to really understand it. So now when I talk
Speaker 1: about it, I'm so passionate about it. And some people
Speaker 1: will look at me like you're crazy, But for those
Speaker 1: people that it resonates with them, Like this is why
Speaker 1: I do because once you feel that you fork feeling
Speaker 1: of being truly truly comfortable in your body, it's insane,
Speaker 1: it's right. And people listening might be like, oh, has
Speaker 1: to shut up, like you have nothing about I do
Speaker 1: you know, like I wear a padded bra and I
Speaker 1: call it my bulletproof vest because I want bigger boobs.
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna get like implants, not against it,
Speaker 1: but I'm like, I have small boobs. There's so many
Speaker 1: things people battle with, even if it's like so small
Speaker 1: or so sillier, you know, it's yeah, I love I
Speaker 1: love you. So anyway, I had to get into Sports
Speaker 1: Illustrated without an agent and it was done, so now
Speaker 1: now I'm signed. It's so interesting. Um, you know, Lady
Speaker 1: Gaga says it all the time. You can walk into
Speaker 1: a room with a hundred people, you know, ninety and
Speaker 1: I don't believe anyone does. It's so freaking true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so true. So it was actually one of her lyrics.
Speaker 1: I went into an audition once for to host a
Speaker 1: TV show in Montreal, and it was what I forgot
Speaker 1: what lyric it was, I should be well anyways, it
Speaker 1: was one like basically like being you, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like there's no other version of you, and
Speaker 1: I'm like yeah, And I walked into that audition and
Speaker 1: I was like this is me. And I ended up
Speaker 1: booking it because I was like, I'm just gonna be me.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna pretend to be anyone else. Yes. Um,
Speaker 1: But on that note, I'm going to give you another hug. Goodbyefully,
Speaker 1: we got a good picture and there I feel like
Speaker 1: we took fifty pictures, but there's like you are both
Speaker 1: too beautiful to take any bad pictures. Um, I love
Speaker 1: you so much. Love you. Keep doing what you're doing.
Speaker 1: Keep doing what you're doing, giving like women, all women
Speaker 1: a platform to like have the power to just express
Speaker 1: themselves and like be who they are and like appreciate
Speaker 1: their bodies. You're you guys are both really good at
Speaker 1: doing this. I've had the honor of kind of sitting
Speaker 1: and watching. I felt like I was like your manager,
Speaker 1: like another good one, I have a great one. Guy's congrats.
Speaker 1: It was really cool because I'm usually one like up
Speaker 1: on the mic, and I was just sitting over there
Speaker 1: doing emails and listening, like my people are doing great,
Speaker 1: great job. You guys are really really good at there. Um, Camille,
Speaker 1: I would love to answer. She's so sweet. Yeah, she's lovely.
Speaker 1: I would love to answer an email with you. So
Speaker 1: people email you and Vanessa and Jared yes, and then
Speaker 1: you answer on the air. Yes, okay, because obviously there's
Speaker 1: no one more better students to give advice than me.
Speaker 1: Vanessa and Jared got it because you're all married and happy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: in your relationships, I'm happier. Are you being sarcastic or serious? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm happy I've ever been in my entire life.
Speaker 1: But I'm justice. I found so much happiness when I
Speaker 1: was alone, honestly, and then once that happens, my career,
Speaker 1: my love life everything changed, right, which is great, right,
Speaker 1: So it's it's fantastic because I'm I've never been happier,
Speaker 1: but I'm also never been more single, so it's just
Speaker 1: like one of those things, you know. Anyways, this email
Speaker 1: is from anonymous, which I always find is the most juicy.
Speaker 1: So uh, It's titled dating a non Texter. They say,
Speaker 1: I'm twenty four years old and just started dating this guy.
Speaker 1: He isn't my type on paper, doesn't have a degree,
Speaker 1: he's younger, but I'm totally smitten. We've been on a
Speaker 1: few dates so far, and although there's a lot of
Speaker 1: great stuff, I'm worried about one thing. He doesn't text.
Speaker 1: We have a mutual friend and she says that it's
Speaker 1: typical of him. I believe him when he says he
Speaker 1: likes me, and he's been very honest about how he's
Speaker 1: not ready for a relationship right now. This is fine
Speaker 1: with me as the only we only just started dating
Speaker 1: around the holidays. I don't know what to do. Would
Speaker 1: he be texting me more if he actually liked me?
Speaker 1: Should I give it time or should I bring it up?
Speaker 1: And if so? How? Oh? I already have the best
Speaker 1: answer ever? Perfect? That is my type of guy. I
Speaker 1: hate texting him so bad at texting face time and
Speaker 1: call me when you can. I literally with my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: he's busy all day when he's out in the field
Speaker 1: and meetings or whatever, or even if he's not in
Speaker 1: his day off. We don't like to have our faces
Speaker 1: in the phone, and I look forward to that FaceTime
Speaker 1: tostic a night, every night, every night. So this girl
Speaker 1: doesn't specify whether or not she's receiving face times from
Speaker 1: him or not, though, But maybe it just sounds like
Speaker 1: he doesn't like to text. But here's the thing. There's
Speaker 1: so many people that you know they feel like until
Speaker 1: you're in a I don't know, truly serious relationship, like
Speaker 1: you don't make phone calls like communication is key. Pick
Speaker 1: up the phone. If you want to go on a date,
Speaker 1: I'll pick you up at seven. You have not you
Speaker 1: don't really need anything to talk about. So you're saying
Speaker 1: up until or you're saying it doesn't matter how far
Speaker 1: into a realiship you are. You should always be calling
Speaker 1: text I'm sorry always calling all the time, but like
Speaker 1: if yeah, I think that should start to be the chain,
Speaker 1: like the shift. I feel like there's so many like
Speaker 1: that left on red or Um. He took two hours
Speaker 1: of texting back. Just call somebody. You know what's gonna
Speaker 1: go on, you know when you're gonna see chu her again?
Speaker 1: And texting between if you want to say, like can
Speaker 1: I miss you? Or something there is On Becca Antonia's podcast,
Speaker 1: I remember Tanya said something about how she met a
Speaker 1: guy who decided to say on their first day, he's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna text you anymore. If we're gonna talk,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be on the phone or it's gonna be
Speaker 1: really I love that. I hate it, Like like Rob
Speaker 1: just texted me during this and it's like hi baby
Speaker 1: on break for thirty minutes and I literally wrote back, high,
Speaker 1: what are we going to talk? I said, I'm on
Speaker 1: the air right now, I'll talk to you tonight. Well,
Speaker 1: what if you just hate phone calls? Like even my
Speaker 1: best friends will call me and I'll just screen their
Speaker 1: phone calls and text and be like, what's up. I
Speaker 1: just don't like I don't like phone calls. That's it's
Speaker 1: and it's just like it's just you don't need to
Speaker 1: stay on the phone for two hours like high school days.
Speaker 1: That's the thing too. Every time I get a phone
Speaker 1: call with someone, I have the impression that it's gonna
Speaker 1: last for two hours every single time. Oh well, that's
Speaker 1: a problem. It's just I think it's my charisma carries
Speaker 1: a conversation. I'm gonna call you tom I'm gonna call
Speaker 1: you tomorrow, and it's gonna be for one minute, and
Speaker 1: it's literally gonna be like, Yo, I really like this podcast.
Speaker 1: Are you hungry? Do you want to get food? Yesterday?
Speaker 1: We're talking aboon a few times. Every time we talk,
Speaker 1: it's a minute or less, and I appreciate that. So
Speaker 1: there you go. That's why I don't screen too your
Speaker 1: phone calls because I know it's not going to be
Speaker 1: for two hours at a time. You know, it's a
Speaker 1: it's a very real when when he came to pick
Speaker 1: me before this, he faced time me and I was
Speaker 1: so confused with like what's going on? And then I answered,
Speaker 1: and You're like, I'm outside. I was like perfect, coming out,
Speaker 1: so much better than texting. What if my my ring
Speaker 1: sound isn't hon or something? Wait, that's literally me. I'm somebody. Well,
Speaker 1: I face time all the time, all the time, all
Speaker 1: the time. I don't care if I'm at my worst whatever,
Speaker 1: But I'm like I'll be picking somebody up and I'll
Speaker 1: face time like, hey, I'm outside. Yeah, yeah, Like why
Speaker 1: is just text maracy me? But it just means more.
Speaker 1: It's like, hey, I took time to like see your
Speaker 1: face a little interaction. I'm here. You don't want it
Speaker 1: to mean anything. What if it's like you're it's just
Speaker 1: like here. It's called being like a good person, like
Speaker 1: a good human. It's like face to face interaction. Like,
Speaker 1: face to face interaction is so crucial. Absolutely. I can't
Speaker 1: even tell you how many times I've heard people say, come,
Speaker 1: this is my first face time ever, And I like,
Speaker 1: is it the weirdest feeling when face I'm happen. It's
Speaker 1: got a long time years ago. Yeah, because we also
Speaker 1: still had shoot, what was the other one? It wasn't
Speaker 1: face It's like skype Skype. Yeah, I was a skyper
Speaker 1: in high school. Like I was like in my dad's office.
Speaker 1: Like and then when you got the Mac, you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's built in you like set up
Speaker 1: your little clamp on the top back in the old
Speaker 1: few days. Oh my gosh. The record. I don't know
Speaker 1: where I got before. I was thinking of like an
Speaker 1: old rap song and I just remember like, oh four,
Speaker 1: Like for some reason I thought it was can I
Speaker 1: say one thing that I would beg to differ with
Speaker 1: the face playing Devil's Advocate? Yeah? Sorry, Hi Tori. So
Speaker 1: I met a guy in New York and like he's awesome,
Speaker 1: he's pre med. So you're like, I get it. You
Speaker 1: don't have a life. I barely have a life over
Speaker 1: here too, especially having a l A. You're in traffic
Speaker 1: time and the other half you're doing work. Um but
Speaker 1: um he doesn't text, And it's like it's fine, But
Speaker 1: then it's like if you're not a texter and then
Speaker 1: you're not a face timer and you're not a caller,
Speaker 1: that's just like people people, well, and like I actually
Speaker 1: don't know if he does that because he's so like
Speaker 1: he's at Columbia, Like I get it, like you know,
Speaker 1: like there is no other world really for you, and
Speaker 1: I know that like he really like is in it.
Speaker 1: But for me, I'm like, if you're not gonna if
Speaker 1: you're not gonna have any interaction, like I would settle
Speaker 1: for texting. So I kind of feel like for her,
Speaker 1: if he's not covering the basis on any level, then
Speaker 1: it just doesn't seem like it's just not practical. It
Speaker 1: just does it sound like she didn't cover the base
Speaker 1: of like making phone calls. But a lot of people
Speaker 1: just resort to texting because they're like scared of like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't want them to think this is so that
Speaker 1: I think that texting could lead to looking more clean
Speaker 1: than a phone call a day. Also, if texting is
Speaker 1: so confusing, I'm so sick of like interpreting something, so
Speaker 1: like let's just keep it clear and here it voice
Speaker 1: her dialogue, here a little up and down town. I
Speaker 1: do voice notes on my phone too. I feel like
Speaker 1: that's what it does. So yeah, I don't do very
Speaker 1: Vanessa does that not often, but I do them like
Speaker 1: when I don't want to explain. Like a lot of
Speaker 1: times I'll call my agent. I'll be like, can you
Speaker 1: please answer, Like I don't feel like typing email, I
Speaker 1: don't feel like typing a text, and they'll be like,
Speaker 1: I'm busy in meeting, and then I just do a
Speaker 1: voice note easy. I'm not gonna like sweet like you
Speaker 1: travel so much. Imagine if you had a good girl
Speaker 1: and she was just like, hey, Deane, I'm going to bed.
Speaker 1: I'm like, on the other side of the country. You
Speaker 1: probably liked it. You would love that, would not I
Speaker 1: would listen to the first five seconds of it and
Speaker 1: then just close. Then I've never that way about exactly
Speaker 1: you the help I suck at dating. Anyways, that this episode,
Speaker 1: we had a lot of guests. It kind of was
Speaker 1: a long one. We've had a couple of long ones
Speaker 1: in a row. Now I'm sorry for well, actually no,
Speaker 1: I'm not sorry. You know what. You're welcome for giving
Speaker 1: you this much of time. Sorry, sorry, not sorry. Um,
Speaker 1: big thank you to all of our guests this week.
Speaker 1: We had Madison, who was fantastic be sure to watch
Speaker 1: c S t Q. We also had Kristen from vander
Speaker 1: Pump Rules, and of course big thank you to Kelsey
Speaker 1: and Zach from Dating hashtag not filter on E. Big
Speaker 1: thank you to all of our sponsors of course, and Camille,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming in. Thank you for
Speaker 1: having me. This was a long time in the making.
Speaker 1: I'm glad we're finally able to figure it out. I'm
Speaker 1: a little upset because I didn't get to talk to
Speaker 1: you as much as I wanted to save that for
Speaker 1: later on. That's absolutely fine. UM, big thank you of
Speaker 1: course to Vanessa, Jared what Jared was in Mexico and
Speaker 1: we recorded this. Big thank you to Tor and Easton.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Um. Anyways,
Speaker 1: that'll do it for this week's episode of Help I
Speaker 1: Suck At Dating. Next week is the Super Bowl. UM,
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Speaker 1: so incredible. Thank you so much to everyone for listening.
Speaker 1: Obviously without the listeners on this would be possible. To
Speaker 1: thank you so much one more time. This has been
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