Speaker 1: It's a normal feeling question that I have felt many
Speaker 1: times in my life. It would be hard to tell
Speaker 1: you that I don't still feel the weight of that question. Brody. Hey, everybody,
Speaker 1: welcome back to the podcast. Thank you for listening wherever
Speaker 1: you're coming from, and however you're listening or watching, which
Speaker 1: by the way, on Spotify. Now on if you're listening
Speaker 1: to the podcast on Spotify, you can now watch these videos.
Speaker 1: So you could not only hear, but you could see
Speaker 1: my ugly face on Spotify. So really cool feature we
Speaker 1: just added and everywhere else. Thank you, guys. I am
Speaker 1: so grateful to have this platform. It just it allows
Speaker 1: me to get super close to you guys in long form.
Speaker 1: And what I do on this podcast if you're new
Speaker 1: to it, is I answer your question and if you
Speaker 1: have anything for me, email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Could be about any subject, and I don't have a
Speaker 1: bunch of notes around me and books and reference guides.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take this as if me and you are
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire and you know it's getting late
Speaker 1: and the fire's burning down to its embers, and you go, hey, man,
Speaker 1: can I ask you a question? There's something I've been
Speaker 1: going through or dealing with, or a question about my
Speaker 1: boss or my career, or a girl or a guy,
Speaker 1: or how to start a business or you know, whatever.
Speaker 1: It might be, how to play guitar, could be anything,
Speaker 1: and we'll just both walk through it as if we're
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire to go, Well, I tell you
Speaker 1: the way I would do it. It might not be right.
Speaker 1: Hopefully it's not absolutely wrong, but either way, it's a conversation.
Speaker 1: And that's what this podcast really is a conversation, and
Speaker 1: I value that. It's a special thing, and all the
Speaker 1: things that I do in my career, it's a special
Speaker 1: thing to be able to talk through this. It's it's
Speaker 1: you know, playing music on stage for me, writing music,
Speaker 1: recording music, selling Gigie apparel or being an ambassad for
Speaker 1: that brand, you know, doing funny Earl Dubbles videos. Those
Speaker 1: are all fun and fulfilling in their own way. But
Speaker 1: this podcast is just it's special. So anyway, thank you.
Speaker 1: I don't have anybody with me today, it's just me
Speaker 1: at the table and I'm gonna get right to the questions.
Speaker 1: The first one it comes from Jake and it says
Speaker 1: subject client says relationship Q and A. It says, So,
Speaker 1: I'm a senior in high school and intern at my
Speaker 1: local church. I'm going into ministry school for college. I
Speaker 1: really like this girl who has a boyfriend, and I
Speaker 1: can't get her off my mind. She loves the Lord.
Speaker 1: She's so beautiful. I just smile thinking of her. She's
Speaker 1: going into the same ministry call just me next year.
Speaker 1: What do I do? Comes from Jake, don't know where
Speaker 1: you're from? You, guys, make sure you tell me where
Speaker 1: you're from and put anonymous. If you don't want me
Speaker 1: to say your name, put anonymous, but tell me where
Speaker 1: you're from. It kind of helps me frame the picture
Speaker 1: in my mind of where Jake, where you are, and
Speaker 1: what you're dealing with here. So so, dude, very very
Speaker 1: normal problem. Not to dismiss it, but very normal. This
Speaker 1: has been happening, your story has been happening for thousands
Speaker 1: of years, literally thousands of years, and so it's good
Speaker 1: to know that you're in good company and that your
Speaker 1: problem is not that crazy. You like a girl, you
Speaker 1: think she's beautiful, she's got a boyfriend, she doesn't know
Speaker 1: you like her. What do you do? From here? Where
Speaker 1: I'm going to start with you at this campfire conversation
Speaker 1: is I'm going to start by saying, you're a senior
Speaker 1: in high school. This email came yesterday, so it's relevant
Speaker 1: to the time. You're senior in high school and you're
Speaker 1: gonna you're gonna have another semester of high school before
Speaker 1: you go off to college. I would in this situation, Jake,
Speaker 1: I would sit tight. And I know that that's tough.
Speaker 1: You know sometimes I sometimes I'll answer this question with
Speaker 1: you by saying, go after it. Go talk to her,
Speaker 1: you know, go and tell her, be honest, be vulnerable,
Speaker 1: tell her what you're what you're going through. But in
Speaker 1: this situation, she's going to college with you next year.
Speaker 1: First question is is this guy is the boyfriend going?
Speaker 1: Don't know, but she's going. You're going, and that's next year.
Speaker 1: That means you have you have January through June at
Speaker 1: school in high school, and then you got the summer,
Speaker 1: and a lot can change, a lot can happen. So
Speaker 1: I would I would hold tight. I would continue to
Speaker 1: be a resource for her as a friend, continue to
Speaker 1: to have her back if she if she needs advice
Speaker 1: or she want something, without stepping over the line of
Speaker 1: what's inappropriate because she's she has a boyfriend, Like, like,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna go on a one on one dinner
Speaker 1: date and you know, get sushi or something. You know,
Speaker 1: that might be drawing, that might be going over the line.
Speaker 1: But I would hang tight, Jake. I would just see
Speaker 1: how this pans out, because you might go to college
Speaker 1: next year and everything changes, and this question is completely
Speaker 1: irrelevant because either you find somebody else and you like
Speaker 1: somebody else because you're still young and that could definitely happen,
Speaker 1: or you guys get closer as you go off to
Speaker 1: college together. You you have more in common because now
Speaker 1: you're isolated, you're out of high school and things could change.
Speaker 1: So hold tight. Email back when the situation changes, and
Speaker 1: we'll we'll walk through the next step. In my opinion,
Speaker 1: Thanks for the Thanks for the email, Buddy. I I
Speaker 1: looked at Jake's question before I started this podcast and
Speaker 1: everything else I'm a about to read you. I have
Speaker 1: no clue where I'm going. I have no idea if
Speaker 1: I'm about to go into Grandpa Died or how to
Speaker 1: play guitar? But well, you're going to join with me, Okay,
Speaker 1: you listeners, you're gonna take this journey with me. Okay,
Speaker 1: subject line Hello sir, Hello mister Smith. That's such a
Speaker 1: great honor to watch your videos on YouTube. I'm sending
Speaker 1: you an email for the first time ever. You are
Speaker 1: a very inspiring person to me, admitting that you're doing
Speaker 1: a very well job. I would like to ask you,
Speaker 1: how can I become a famous rapper? Is knowing that
Speaker 1: I'm doing the best to post all my videos everywhere
Speaker 1: around different platforms such as YouTube, daily Motion, and so forth,
Speaker 1: what do you think I should do? The only name
Speaker 1: I have from this guy is in the in his email,
Speaker 1: it says Victorious. So maybe your name, I'll call you Victorious.
Speaker 1: That's a cool rapper name, right, So you are. You're
Speaker 1: posting videos your different platforms, making a presence on social media. Great,
Speaker 1: great lots of music, be writing lots of music. Be
Speaker 1: be collabing with other people, especially in your genre. Collabing
Speaker 1: is a huge deal. So collab with with singers. If
Speaker 1: you're not a singer, collab with singers. They sing in
Speaker 1: the chorus, you rap the verses. Collab with other rappers.
Speaker 1: I would go to concerts. I would. I would talk
Speaker 1: to people at concerts. I would I would try to
Speaker 1: meet people backstage. There was an option you could. You
Speaker 1: could go the road crew route, right like you could.
Speaker 1: You could work for somebody for cheap on the weekends
Speaker 1: and just to see how the whole environment rolls. Maybe
Speaker 1: you don't. Maybe you already know that, so that's not
Speaker 1: a big deal. I would talk to I would send
Speaker 1: messages to different see if you can get a meeting
Speaker 1: with an A and R crew. And that means you
Speaker 1: go in, you pick your three best songs, your best
Speaker 1: songs that you have, and you try to set up
Speaker 1: a meeting with an A and R team. And sometimes
Speaker 1: those are hard to get. Sometimes you got to go
Speaker 1: to the receptionist, which is cool. Just go to the receptionists, go,
Speaker 1: I have three songs, these three. Don't give them ten,
Speaker 1: don't give them twelve, don't give them one. Three. That's
Speaker 1: your magic number, all right, victorious, give them three songs
Speaker 1: that you're the most proud of. Now. Sometimes people struggle
Speaker 1: with this because sometimes in music people will will correct
Speaker 1: and change and tweak the same three songs for ten years.
Speaker 1: And I know people like this. They're never happy enough
Speaker 1: that they think that I can make this better. This
Speaker 1: is better, this is good. And of course it could
Speaker 1: always be better. And this is probably good advice for
Speaker 1: a lot of different careers, but it could always be better.
Speaker 1: But at some point you got to go, this is
Speaker 1: good enough right now. And it's hard as a perfectionist
Speaker 1: that you probably are, it's hard sometimes to go to
Speaker 1: know that this is good enough right now, but you
Speaker 1: got to go. You gotta move with these three I
Speaker 1: would talk to. Aside from that, I would talk to videographers.
Speaker 1: Try to get an up and coming videographer, someone that's
Speaker 1: wanting to break into the business, that wants to get
Speaker 1: into the music video making business right this. Find these people.
Speaker 1: You could find them on Instagram or YouTube or whatever,
Speaker 1: and find one that lives close to you and go, hey,
Speaker 1: my name is Victorious. I'm an up and coming rapper.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make it in this business. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to get a following. You're trying to make it in
Speaker 1: the music business, in the music video business. You want
Speaker 1: to collab on something. I don't have much to pay
Speaker 1: you right now, but I promise you I could push
Speaker 1: it through all these social platforms and me and you
Speaker 1: could collab together and hopefully come up with something really
Speaker 1: cool for me to show off a song and something
Speaker 1: really cool for you for your your highlight reel that
Speaker 1: you have that you're trying to pitch for other music
Speaker 1: videos because these guys they want more music videos to
Speaker 1: show bigger artists that they could do it right. So
Speaker 1: so find that because that's going to give you a
Speaker 1: good presence on YouTube and good little clips for Instagram
Speaker 1: and TikTok and things like that. So my other piece
Speaker 1: of advice is, as you're as you're diving into social world,
Speaker 1: as you're as you're writing, as you're recording, as you're
Speaker 1: you're tweaking, your recording skills like you're editing skills. They
Speaker 1: have to be great, man. Don't rely on somebody else.
Speaker 1: Learn it yourself. Try to do everything yourself in house.
Speaker 1: In fact, learn how to use a camera yourself too.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting here in this podcast right now, and this
Speaker 1: is a this is an example. I'm in this room,
Speaker 1: in my podcast room. I'm recording on pro tools by myself.
Speaker 1: I'll edit this, you know, and and then and then
Speaker 1: I'll have I have two cameras set up that I'm
Speaker 1: running and I'll send this to my guy, but but
Speaker 1: he's not here. Ian, the guy that edits. This is
Speaker 1: not here, So I have to do all this myself
Speaker 1: in order to get it to him. And before I
Speaker 1: had Ian, I was doing it all myself. So you
Speaker 1: got to learn first to do it yourself. That's good
Speaker 1: advice for any business. Learn it all yourself. Be independent
Speaker 1: in what you're doing. And the last thing I'll say,
Speaker 1: and this is pretty much for any kind of music
Speaker 1: business job, don't leave your hometown, not yet. Leave when
Speaker 1: you absolutely have to. When with the little place that
Speaker 1: you're playing the theater that you're playing music in, is
Speaker 1: so packed with people that you have to grow to
Speaker 1: a bigger venue, then you know it's time to move on.
Speaker 1: But until then, don't pull up your roots and leave
Speaker 1: everything you know, including mama, to go to New York
Speaker 1: or Atlanta or Nashville or LA. Don't don't go to
Speaker 1: those places. Then you're just going to be a small
Speaker 1: fish in a giant ocean. Right now, you have a
Speaker 1: chance to be a small fish in a small puddle
Speaker 1: that appears to make you look like a big fish.
Speaker 1: Thanks for the email, buddy. Next subject line intriguing to me.
Speaker 1: It's called scared, says hey, Grain. Your my name is Casey.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty one years old. I'm from Montana. I recently
Speaker 1: got into a relationship with this girl. I really love her,
Speaker 1: but I'm scared to go through another heartbreak. I had
Speaker 1: a few in the past, and the last one really
Speaker 1: hurts so bad and led me into depression. How do
Speaker 1: I get over the mental blockage of worrying I may
Speaker 1: get hurt again and focus more on the relationship itself, Casey, Casey,
Speaker 1: shout out to your homestate of Montana, Love Montana, Thanks
Speaker 1: for emailing, thanks for listening, and thanks for bringing something
Speaker 1: pretty personal to the podcast. First Glance camp fire setting Conversation.
Speaker 1: I would give you some tough love and say, man,
Speaker 1: you're idolizing your relationships. You're putting relationships on a pedestal,
Speaker 1: and whoever that person is, whoever the next person is
Speaker 1: to fill those shoes, they just fill the spot on
Speaker 1: the pedestal, and you're worshiping the god of relationship, right.
Speaker 1: And I know that that sounds maybe that sounds extreme,
Speaker 1: but I think this is extreme. I think this is
Speaker 1: what you're saying because because you say all you say
Speaker 1: about this girl is you really love her, but you
Speaker 1: also really loved the last one, and there was probably
Speaker 1: one before that that you loved, and I gotta break
Speaker 1: it to you, Casey, there's gonna be another one after
Speaker 1: this one that you love. And it's the great expectation
Speaker 1: that you have of relationship to fulfill your every need
Speaker 1: and to give you this fairy tale feeling of I
Speaker 1: did it. I found the one, The mystical one is
Speaker 1: she's mine and I'm hers, and we're gonna get married
Speaker 1: and we're gonna have ten babies. It's a fairy tale
Speaker 1: that I think you're living, Casey, and you got to
Speaker 1: You gotta pump the brakes at twenty one, great age,
Speaker 1: by the way, way, such a great time to to
Speaker 1: be to to explore, exploring the world and where you
Speaker 1: find a place in it. Such a great time for that.
Speaker 1: And if if you're stuck in this, I gotta find
Speaker 1: a relationship, don't want to get hurt. Then you've never
Speaker 1: listened to the song the Dance by Garth Brooks. Right,
Speaker 1: go listen to the dance. I could have missed the pain.
Speaker 1: I could you can. You could have missed the pain,
Speaker 1: but you'd have to miss the dance. You don't want
Speaker 1: to miss the dance, right like you don't wanna you
Speaker 1: don't wanna walk, you don't wanna tiptoe around relationship to
Speaker 1: relationship going I'm gonna I'm gonna go half in. I
Speaker 1: love this girl, but I'm gonna go a little bit
Speaker 1: in because I don't want to get hurt because the
Speaker 1: last one really hurt and that's always gonna lead to
Speaker 1: another breakup. It's not gonna work that way. Girls are
Speaker 1: gonna see that and you're not gonna feel it. So
Speaker 1: so it's a combination your case, you of these two things,
Speaker 1: take the relationship off the pedestal and bring it back
Speaker 1: to ground level with responsible expectations of what you're gonna
Speaker 1: get out of it. Because every time you date somebody,
Speaker 1: guess what, one hundred percent of the time when you
Speaker 1: date somebody, it's a human. And one hundred percent of
Speaker 1: the time when you date a human, they're gonna let
Speaker 1: you down because they're not perfect. We're all flawed in
Speaker 1: some way. So you're putting this relationship on a pedestal
Speaker 1: and you're expecting perfection, and you're expecting no heartache and
Speaker 1: no heartbreak and no fights, and she's gonna be perfect
Speaker 1: and she's gonna think you're perfect, and it's just not
Speaker 1: that way, so so have reasonable expectations for a relationship.
Speaker 1: Take it off the pedestal. And then once you've done that,
Speaker 1: and if you know that for a fact, then listen
Speaker 1: to Garth Brooks the dance and go, Nah, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go for it because I love the dance. I might
Speaker 1: get hurt, yes I might, but I might have to
Speaker 1: miss the dance if I don't. If I don't go
Speaker 1: for it, That's what life is. That's so many, so
Speaker 1: many things in life or this it's jobs. I don't
Speaker 1: want to apply for that job because what if they
Speaker 1: tell me no, Like, I don't know if I could
Speaker 1: take that kind of rejection. It's in the movie Back
Speaker 1: to the Future, by the way. I just don't think
Speaker 1: I could take that kind of rejection. It's a terrible
Speaker 1: way to live your life. Like I don't want to
Speaker 1: I don't want to go and try to get a
Speaker 1: loan for that farmhouse on the hill because I know
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna walk in the bank and they're just
Speaker 1: gonna look me in the eye and some guy in
Speaker 1: a suit and he's just gonna tell me that you're
Speaker 1: not good enough for this loan. And I don't want
Speaker 1: to hear that. Man, I just don't want to. I
Speaker 1: don't want some guy to tell me that, or I
Speaker 1: don't want I don't want some boss to tell me
Speaker 1: that I can't get the job, or I don't want
Speaker 1: some girl to break my heart. You can't live your
Speaker 1: life like that, Casey. So take it off a pedestal
Speaker 1: and then go for it, right, go all in. But
Speaker 1: you're all is not the pedestal all if that makes sense, right,
Speaker 1: email back let me know what's going on, Casey. Let's
Speaker 1: hit another one subject line here says how to feel
Speaker 1: accomplished as a father and a husband. Hey, Grangeer, my
Speaker 1: name is Brody. I'm twenty three years old. I live
Speaker 1: in Mesa, Arizona. Love your music podcast and Yugi apparel.
Speaker 1: I've listened to all your episodes and loved the advice, buddy,
Speaker 1: Thank you. I always wonder when I get that kind
Speaker 1: of introduction, always wonder if you've listened to all the
Speaker 1: episodes of a podcast, what it feels like now when
Speaker 1: I say your name Brody, like you're like, well, I've
Speaker 1: listened to him. Now he's talking about me. That's not
Speaker 1: lost on me, by the way, that's not lost to me.
Speaker 1: That matters to me. Okay, let's get into this. Lately,
Speaker 1: I've struggled with feeling like I'm doing the best. Lately,
Speaker 1: I have struggled with feeling like I am doing the
Speaker 1: best as a husband and a father. Okay, gotcha. My
Speaker 1: wife and I have two beautiful daughters that I love
Speaker 1: so much. I work in construction and reconstruction, so I
Speaker 1: work a lot. Sometimes I don't see my girls and
Speaker 1: my wife as much as i'd like to, and we
Speaker 1: live with my in laws because housing in Arizona isn't
Speaker 1: great right now. I try to provide this life for
Speaker 1: my family, but I feel like I keep falling short.
Speaker 1: Whether it's giving more time to them, are providing a
Speaker 1: proper house. How do I go about feeling better about
Speaker 1: myself as a father and a husband. Thank you for
Speaker 1: taking time to read this for ye yee, Brody, bro
Speaker 1: my bro Brody. Thank you for emailing, thank you for listening.
Speaker 1: It's a great question. It's a normal feeling question that
Speaker 1: I have felt many times in my life. It would
Speaker 1: be hard to tell you that I don't still feel
Speaker 1: the weight of that question, Brody, and I think a
Speaker 1: lot of a lot of husband's fathers that are listening
Speaker 1: now feel the way to that and they feel that
Speaker 1: kind of pressure, And I think that's a good thing.
Speaker 1: I think if if that kind of pressure is weighing
Speaker 1: on you, then that means you got you got your
Speaker 1: priorities in line, Because if that didn't ever cross your mind,
Speaker 1: if you're just like man, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I got my bass boat, and you know that's all
Speaker 1: I care about. You know, if you're not constantly thinking
Speaker 1: about how to provide the best that you can for
Speaker 1: your family, then then your priorities are out of whack. So,
Speaker 1: first of all, I'll say that, Brody, and then as
Speaker 1: we dig in, secondly, I would say that the things
Speaker 1: that are that will matter to your family and the
Speaker 1: things that will create the longest lasting memories with them
Speaker 1: will be the things that you can't buy with money
Speaker 1: at all. No matter what job you're working, regardless of
Speaker 1: its construction or Wall Street, money will not matter when
Speaker 1: it comes to the things that these kids need and
Speaker 1: that your wife needs. Right time an effort is the
Speaker 1: most valuable combination, not just time, because you could be
Speaker 1: with them but not be present with them, and you
Speaker 1: could put effort into it but not be spending enough time.
Speaker 1: So it takes this combination of time and effort with
Speaker 1: your family at home, and that means you set aside
Speaker 1: and sometimes sometimes that means you leave your cell phone
Speaker 1: in your truck when you come in, when you come
Speaker 1: home from work, for instance, So you say, you drive
Speaker 1: up into the you come into the driveway, it's it's
Speaker 1: six o'clock PM, and you leave your phone in your
Speaker 1: console and you go in with the mentality of being
Speaker 1: totally present with them. And when when you're kids, beautiful daughters,
Speaker 1: love daughters, Your daughters go daddydaddy, daddy, what look look
Speaker 1: at this? Let me show you, let me tell you
Speaker 1: this story, then you realize that you have to be
Speaker 1: present with her in that moment because that matters. And
Speaker 1: when you're listening to that story and you're soaking that
Speaker 1: in and you're looking her in the eye and you're
Speaker 1: not distracted, and you're not flipping through your phone, you're
Speaker 1: not your boss's texting you, and you've got you're dealing
Speaker 1: with that, or you're thinking, man, I'm just tired. I
Speaker 1: just want to hit the couch right now. I don't
Speaker 1: want to talk to anyone. That's where you get in trouble.
Speaker 1: So those present moments with them, and the same with
Speaker 1: your wife. The same with your wife. And I'm speaking
Speaker 1: like I've got this mastered, and I don't write, I don't.
Speaker 1: I have to remind myself of this every day. Like
Speaker 1: the Bible says, we're renewed day by day. Well, our
Speaker 1: relationships with our families are renewed day by day. Sometimes
Speaker 1: we have a bad one, sometimes we just mess up.
Speaker 1: But the good thing is tomorrow we start fresh. We
Speaker 1: have another chance. And you just want to add up
Speaker 1: more of the good ones than you do the bad
Speaker 1: ones because that will matter to these girls and to
Speaker 1: your wife. So forget about the fact that you're living
Speaker 1: with your in laws. Dude, you're saving money. That's not
Speaker 1: a bad thing. No one's gonna look down at you
Speaker 1: for that. You're saving money. That's a smart thing. So
Speaker 1: prioritizing the time combination with the effort being present the TV,
Speaker 1: the screen, any kind of screen is always a bad thing.
Speaker 1: And breaking your presence with your girls. And if they're
Speaker 1: on a screen, sometimes instead of just yanking not away
Speaker 1: from them, sometimes you could just cuddle up with them,
Speaker 1: you know, right there on the couch and just go
Speaker 1: what you're watching, and maybe she's watching like some girl
Speaker 1: and she's messing with these little plastic fidgets or something,
Speaker 1: and just engage with her in that be like, Ooh,
Speaker 1: I like that red one, and your daughter's like I
Speaker 1: like the purple one, and you're like, yeah, but that
Speaker 1: red one. Look how wishy that is. Like then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, you're engaging and you're in, You're present
Speaker 1: with her in her little world, instead of just coming
Speaker 1: in and going y'all, get off damp bones and come
Speaker 1: talk to your daddy, as you said on the couch,
Speaker 1: and wait for them. Just go to them, Go go
Speaker 1: engage to them. These things matter so much, Brodie. I
Speaker 1: wrote a song several years ago called I Almost a Am,
Speaker 1: and your your email sounds like that song if I
Speaker 1: can remember the chorus. It's like, I'm just a blue jean,
Speaker 1: red winged kind of guy, getting better at barely getting by,
Speaker 1: just a good old boy. I don't know why she
Speaker 1: hangs around with me. I don't have much that I
Speaker 1: can give, but so much life I've yet to live,
Speaker 1: and that takes the miracle she is to understand. She
Speaker 1: takes me by the hand and loves me for the man,
Speaker 1: I almost am and and I still feel like I'm
Speaker 1: that guy, Like I'm not the guy that I want
Speaker 1: to be yet, but I'm almost him. I'm almost set guy.
Speaker 1: And as long as I could just keep moving towards that,
Speaker 1: keep working to become that, then that's all I could
Speaker 1: be for them, and that's what they'll remember. Great question, buddy,
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Speaker 1: diving in right into the next question. No subject line
Speaker 1: and no name, so we're anonymous here. It says I'm
Speaker 1: in love with two men, and she says, one of
Speaker 1: them I've been with for a year and the other
Speaker 1: is my best friend. And they're both amazing, and they
Speaker 1: both love me, And I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I don't want to get stuck in a relationship and
Speaker 1: regret what I didn't do. But I also don't want
Speaker 1: to hurt someone or lose anyone. So what should I do?
Speaker 1: All Right, Anonymous, I'll tell you exactly what's going on
Speaker 1: here around this campfire podcast chat. You don't need to
Speaker 1: be in either one of these relationships, Like that's just it.
Speaker 1: Like I could tell you I could be a mirror
Speaker 1: to you. This is not just me. I could be
Speaker 1: a mirror back to you. You say, I'm in love
Speaker 1: with two men. One I've been with for a year
Speaker 1: and the other is my best friend. They're both amazing,
Speaker 1: they both love me. I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I'm stuck in relationship. I don't want to be second
Speaker 1: a relationship and I regret. I don't want to regret
Speaker 1: what I didn't do, but I also don't want to
Speaker 1: hurt anyone or lose anyone. Hey, that that you're you
Speaker 1: don't need either one of these guys. There is something
Speaker 1: else going on underneath all this, and it is I
Speaker 1: believe it is a need for you to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship. You want to be cared for, You want
Speaker 1: to you want to be loved and told that you're beautiful.
Speaker 1: Who doesn't, right at some level? Who doesn't. We all
Speaker 1: have different levels of needing that. But I think you
Speaker 1: really need it because let me tell you why, Because
Speaker 1: this wouldn't be a question if it wasn't for that,
Speaker 1: does it makes sense this? You wouldn't ask the question
Speaker 1: if if if you weren't needing just to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship, you wouldn't ask it because because one of
Speaker 1: these guys would be obviously better than the other. And
Speaker 1: if they're equal in your mind, then you don't need
Speaker 1: either either one of them. Then if they're equal in
Speaker 1: your mind, then you just want a relationship with someone
Speaker 1: that cares for you. Now, you don't want to hurt
Speaker 1: someone that's irrelevant, totally irrelevant. You don't want to hurt
Speaker 1: anyone irrelevant. You're single right now or in terms of
Speaker 1: you're not married, you don't have kids, so you need
Speaker 1: You are required to be selfish at a pretty big level,
Speaker 1: not in an arrogant way, not in an irresponsible, arrogant way,
Speaker 1: but you need to be selfish in terms of finding
Speaker 1: exactly the right man that is going to be your spouse,
Speaker 1: that you're going to marry, and that you are going
Speaker 1: to make babies with God willing one day, and that
Speaker 1: fifty years from now you're going to be on that
Speaker 1: front porch in a rock and chair, hold hands with
Speaker 1: this person with a bunch of a mess of grandkids
Speaker 1: running in the yard, like that's that's where I believe
Speaker 1: you want to be. And so right now, in order
Speaker 1: to preserve that dream, you need to be selfish now,
Speaker 1: because then you can't. You've given it all, all the selfishness.
Speaker 1: You've given it all, you've poured it into your family
Speaker 1: by then. So right now you securely hold this It's precious,
Speaker 1: this precious time that you have to make this decision,
Speaker 1: and that decision will be easy with the right man.
Speaker 1: And you're thinking, but both of these guys are right,
Speaker 1: Well then they're not. But you're looking. You're looking at
Speaker 1: two like you're looking at two pieces of bronze. Right,
Speaker 1: You're like, man, they're so shining, these two pieces of bronze,
Speaker 1: they're shining, and both of them they're equal. And you
Speaker 1: haven't seen what gold looks like yet. And until you
Speaker 1: see the gold, that bronze is always gonna look shiny
Speaker 1: and nice. And that's why they look the same. Just
Speaker 1: wait for the right one to come and you'll recognize
Speaker 1: what true gold is, the true value of your future relationship.
Speaker 1: So the one that you're in the relationship with now
Speaker 1: one hundred percent, the one that you've been with for
Speaker 1: a year, it's time to break up one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: If you hear anything, listen, if you hear anything I've
Speaker 1: been saying, you might not do any of it. But
Speaker 1: if you hear anything, you gotta break up with this guy.
Speaker 1: This poor guy. This poor guy loves you and you
Speaker 1: love your friend and him this is like a soap opera.
Speaker 1: To be fair to him, you got to break up
Speaker 1: with him. And you can't go with the other guy either,
Speaker 1: because you would have already done that by now, right,
Speaker 1: you would have already gone to the second guy by
Speaker 1: now if he was gold, But he's not. He's bronze.
Speaker 1: You hearing me, all right? Email back, Let's see what
Speaker 1: happens next up subject line career advice. Hey Grangeery, my
Speaker 1: name is Lane, Roberts. I'm eighteen years old from Southeast
Speaker 1: Kansas and I'm going to college soon to pursue a
Speaker 1: farm and ranch management degree. I have enjoyed learning about
Speaker 1: agriculture and high school and I'm very passionate about it.
Speaker 1: But I recently I've gotten involved in hunting and I
Speaker 1: found out that this is my true passion and I
Speaker 1: love every bit of it. I'm torn on what to
Speaker 1: do career wise because I do agricultural stuff, but I
Speaker 1: absolutely love of hunting. I'm very unsure on what to
Speaker 1: do and what I'm supposed to do with my life.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just afraid to take the leap
Speaker 1: into hunting industry and for it to not work out.
Speaker 1: If you can give me some advice, i'd really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thanks for your time, Lane Roberts. Shout out Lane, Southeast Kansas.
Speaker 1: I love Southeast Kansas, and thank you for the email. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this one's going to be pretty straightforward, and I feel you, Lane.
Speaker 1: I feel exactly what you're saying. And I've answered actually
Speaker 1: similar questions to this before, and it's sometimes it's the
Speaker 1: same thing. It's about hunting. So let me walk through
Speaker 1: just a little bit of what I think with your situation. First,
Speaker 1: you're eighteen. What a great age, dude, What a great
Speaker 1: age of discovery. There's so many people listening right now
Speaker 1: that are thinking to themselves, Man, I wish I had
Speaker 1: one more shot at eighteen, one more shot at eighteen.
Speaker 1: And guess what if any of us had one more
Speaker 1: shot at eighteen. You know what we would not be
Speaker 1: doing is worrying about a career in the future. No,
Speaker 1: I promise we wouldn't. Nobody if nobody would get in
Speaker 1: a time machine and go back to when they're eighteen
Speaker 1: and once they're there start worrying about a future career,
Speaker 1: isn't that strange? You ever thought about that? So what
Speaker 1: we would do if we went back as we would
Speaker 1: soak up every bit of being eighteen, and soak up
Speaker 1: every bit of life being young and having a blank
Speaker 1: slate ahead of us and having dreams and not knowing
Speaker 1: if we'll ever make them or not. But it's a
Speaker 1: blank slate, So embrace it that way. Instead of looking
Speaker 1: at the blank slate and going, oh, how do I
Speaker 1: feel it? How do I fill off all the stuff
Speaker 1: I don't know? Instead look at it like, wow, I
Speaker 1: can go absolutely anywhere on this blank slate, anything anywhere.
Speaker 1: I'm just ready to write blank page. Right. A blank
Speaker 1: page is a great, incredible thing. It's not a scary,
Speaker 1: confining thing, right. Okay. So all that being said, I'm
Speaker 1: happy to hear that you're gonna go to go to
Speaker 1: college and pursue a farm and ranch management degree. My opinion,
Speaker 1: Lane is that that that farm and ranch management degree
Speaker 1: will not ever hurt you or hinder you from pursuing
Speaker 1: a greater job in the hunting industry. That is great
Speaker 1: to me. That sounds like it sounds like a great
Speaker 1: background for someone that's in a massive some kind of
Speaker 1: guide management, hunting, land development, sporting, good sale apparel like
Speaker 1: all of that sounds like having a farm and ranch
Speaker 1: management degree would be great because so much of hunting,
Speaker 1: proper hunting, is land management and animal management and balancing
Speaker 1: that appropriately, like so much of conservation and preservation and wildlife.
Speaker 1: So much of that funding, like seventy percent of that
Speaker 1: funding worldwide for wildlife preservation comes from the hunting industry,
Speaker 1: and that has to be allocated correctly. And it's always
Speaker 1: been like that hunters love the land, they love the wildlife,
Speaker 1: they will do anything to preserve it. For their grandkids,
Speaker 1: so that their grandkids could go out there and be
Speaker 1: in the woods and experience the same thing that they love,
Speaker 1: just like their granddad taught them. And through license and
Speaker 1: hunting tags and gear and ammunition, all that stuff, through
Speaker 1: the taxes of that and through donors, they will dump
Speaker 1: money back into land management to help preserve that. It's
Speaker 1: a beautiful things, So beautiful how that works together with
Speaker 1: men and women that truly love have a passion for
Speaker 1: the outdoors. So I think ranch and land management having
Speaker 1: that that kind of degree is going to be great.
Speaker 1: And the bottom line, Lane is, dude, you're eighteen. You
Speaker 1: haven't even gone in yet, you haven't even gone to college.
Speaker 1: Just go go your freshman year, Go your sophomore year,
Speaker 1: continue on the path. Go your junior year, continue on
Speaker 1: your path. Now we're talking three years down the road.
Speaker 1: You're telling me that in three years you wouldn't have
Speaker 1: an opportunity to figure some of this stuff out by then,
Speaker 1: because you don't have to today. Today. You just got
Speaker 1: to be eighteen blank page ahead of you. Congrats, dude,
Speaker 1: you have an amazing story to write and it's yours
Speaker 1: to write it. You have the pen, and here's the
Speaker 1: blank page. Don't worry about it, and in the meantime,
Speaker 1: hunt all you want man on the weekends, Friday afternoons,
Speaker 1: go hunt, go with your buddies. Enjoy it. Enjoy it
Speaker 1: from a consumer perspective from someone that's going to participate
Speaker 1: in it. Don't worry about selling it yet, but you might.
Speaker 1: Thanks for the email, buddy. Okay, here's a question, subject
Speaker 1: line military and family issues. Hey Grangeer, I love your
Speaker 1: music and it literally just started listening to your podcast.
Speaker 1: Would like to remain anonymous, and I can't say where
Speaker 1: I'm living, And then he goes on to say why,
Speaker 1: and I understand. I'm originally from Texas and I'm about
Speaker 1: to join the military. My stepfather's been in the military
Speaker 1: for six years and would like me to join the Navy.
Speaker 1: But I would like to join the Army. He's always
Speaker 1: wanted my brothers and I to join the Navy for
Speaker 1: some time now, but I don't know what I could
Speaker 1: do for the Navy. The Army has more stuff I
Speaker 1: could do. I just don't want to let him down,
Speaker 1: nor my mother, because I've lost my faith in God
Speaker 1: and I feel like she is worried if I go
Speaker 1: into the army. Without my faith and God, something bad
Speaker 1: will happen. What do you think I should do? That
Speaker 1: is a lot of information and several questions packed into one,
Speaker 1: So let's dig into this. First of all, thank you
Speaker 1: for your service. Thank you for not only you, but
Speaker 1: your stepfather and the mission that you're willing to partake.
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of bravery to even have this
Speaker 1: decision on your radar, So thank you, dude. I hope
Speaker 1: more and more young people continue to see the benefits
Speaker 1: of being in the service and the just the beautiful
Speaker 1: mirage of what it is, that this is something that
Speaker 1: could could spike a new career or to give me
Speaker 1: the little life skills that I need, and it's just
Speaker 1: so honorable, and I hope that more and more people
Speaker 1: see it as that as a duty, an American duty.
Speaker 1: All that being said, we're called from the Bible to
Speaker 1: honor our mother and father. So I understand your dilemma.
Speaker 1: And the reason you're having this dilemma is because you're
Speaker 1: going against what they want, and so you have this conflict,
Speaker 1: and that's you know, the Bible is for us. It's
Speaker 1: a roadmap for us, breathed out by God. All scriptures
Speaker 1: breathed out by God, and when you go against it,
Speaker 1: whether you have read it or not, or believe it
Speaker 1: or not, when you start going against it, you feel
Speaker 1: a weird pull that feels not right and out of place.
Speaker 1: You feel a little bit out of step. So I
Speaker 1: have to say that first, and I don't necessarily know
Speaker 1: how that aligns with your step father and you, right,
Speaker 1: So there's a little bit of a disconnect. I think
Speaker 1: you could fix that disconnect by some very vulnerable, decisive conversation,
Speaker 1: sit down dinner type conversation with your mother and your
Speaker 1: stepfather and I'm talking. You do your research, and you
Speaker 1: lay out your plan for the army, a step by
Speaker 1: step list of good statistics on what you could do
Speaker 1: and where you could join, and how to apply that
Speaker 1: and what you're going to get out of it and
Speaker 1: what you're going to put into it, and have have
Speaker 1: maybe a same a similar list for the Navy, and
Speaker 1: you can go I could do this and this and
Speaker 1: this in the Navy, but it's not going to get
Speaker 1: me where I really want to go. That the Army
Speaker 1: is gonna get me to, right, So I think you
Speaker 1: could you could lay out a pretty good argument, even
Speaker 1: though personally I think you're gonna you're gonna see big
Speaker 1: benefits from either one for what you want. But I
Speaker 1: understand what you're coming from, where you're coming from, and
Speaker 1: I understand what you're probably wanting to do. You're probably
Speaker 1: wanting to go into more of a grunt world where
Speaker 1: you're just you know, you're packing it in, You're going
Speaker 1: into urban areas, and you know you I think that's
Speaker 1: probably what you're thinking. But the bigger question comes later
Speaker 1: in your email, and you didn't even pose it as
Speaker 1: a question. You just kind of threw it out in passing.
Speaker 1: I don't want to let him down, nor my mother,
Speaker 1: because I've lost faith in God, and I feel like
Speaker 1: she's gonna be worried if I go into the army
Speaker 1: without my faith in God, something bad will happen. A
Speaker 1: couple of things here. This is this is a two
Speaker 1: edged sword. One. You're throwing that out there like it's
Speaker 1: no big deal. You've lost your faith in God. Sounds
Speaker 1: like you mean that you once had it and now
Speaker 1: it's gone. So that's something you got to figure out,
Speaker 1: because that's way bigger than the army or the navy,
Speaker 1: or your mother or your stepdad. That's bigger than all that.
Speaker 1: This is something that you got to wrestle with. You
Speaker 1: know what the word Israel, which is, you know, the
Speaker 1: the chosen people of the background of the Christian Faith,
Speaker 1: the backdrop of the Christian Faith. The word Israel is
Speaker 1: a story about a man named Jacob and God changed
Speaker 1: his name to Israel. Israel literally means to wrestle with God.
Speaker 1: And we're encouraged in a lot of ways to wrestle
Speaker 1: with God. Not with our faith and not with knowing
Speaker 1: who he is and believing in who he is, but
Speaker 1: but more so in where is my standing with you? God?
Speaker 1: Where do I fit in your picture? God? That kind
Speaker 1: of wrestling and I feel like this is what you
Speaker 1: gotta do. I feel like you got to get you
Speaker 1: got to get down and on your knees and your
Speaker 1: your fist clenched, and you got to do some wrestling,
Speaker 1: and you got to start calling out and you got
Speaker 1: to start calling calling him out and saying, God, I
Speaker 1: need to feel you. Don't hide your face from me,
Speaker 1: I need to feel you. This is this is echoing
Speaker 1: what the psalms will walk through. If you go through
Speaker 1: some psalms in your Bible, go through the psalms. There's
Speaker 1: a ton of them you're gonna find over and over again,
Speaker 1: things like it's always built on a foundation of God
Speaker 1: is sovereign, God is all knowing, God is the creator.
Speaker 1: But on top of all that, while you know that,
Speaker 1: on top of that is this feeling of don't hide
Speaker 1: your face from me. How long will you be gone
Speaker 1: from me? How long will you leave me here without
Speaker 1: without feeling you? And that kind of wrestling is what
Speaker 1: you need to do. The second part of this that's
Speaker 1: strange to me is how your mom says she's worried
Speaker 1: that if you go into the army without faith in God,
Speaker 1: something bad will happen. Well, something bad will or won't
Speaker 1: happen regardless of your faith. Your faith and God will
Speaker 1: not protect you from something bad happening. You have to
Speaker 1: understand that, and everyone listening has to understand that Christianity
Speaker 1: never promises that you're going to be free of suffering,
Speaker 1: or free of pain, or free of bad things. That
Speaker 1: is a lie. It has never promised that. The promise
Speaker 1: of the Bible is that God will lead you through
Speaker 1: suffering in the midst of it. As it happens, he
Speaker 1: brings you through it right and so I don't your
Speaker 1: mom or you to start thinking you better hurry up
Speaker 1: and believe in God, because then that'll protect you in
Speaker 1: the army. That is not right now what she might
Speaker 1: have meant, And this would be correct in thinking that
Speaker 1: if you've lost your faith and you die in the army,
Speaker 1: there is no hope for you. That is truth, and
Speaker 1: that's the same for anyone that dies. You lost your faith,
Speaker 1: you're disconnected. You're in rebellion of God in some way.
Speaker 1: You have rejected God openly, and you have in this
Speaker 1: email you said I've lost my faith in God. So
Speaker 1: if you've lost, you've rejected, you're in rebellion. He's going
Speaker 1: to let you stay there, and when you die, you
Speaker 1: will not be with him. He will leave you in
Speaker 1: your rejection because you're a rebel. We all are until
Speaker 1: we come to faith, until Jesus pulls us out of
Speaker 1: out of our lostness. We're all rebels. We're born rebels,
Speaker 1: we're born sinners, dead in our transgressions. This is making
Speaker 1: sense to you because this is a very double edged sword. Heard,
Speaker 1: you gotta figure some stuff out. I would figure this
Speaker 1: out now regardless of army and navy. But having your
Speaker 1: faith will not protect you from bad things happening, but
Speaker 1: it will save your soul. Thanks for the question, brother,
Speaker 1: and thank you for your service. I gotta say it again.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna jump in one more here. I've been rambling
Speaker 1: it says, Hey grangeer. I'm Caleb from New Mexico. I
Speaker 1: started listening not too long ago, and it helps a lot.
Speaker 1: I need help. I just graduated high school this past spring.
Speaker 1: I'm going to college and I've tried having some friends
Speaker 1: to hang out with when available. But everyone I've talked
Speaker 1: to are they already has something going on? Are they
Speaker 1: lie to me and never get back to me. I've
Speaker 1: got to a point where I was once a very
Speaker 1: caring person about my friends, but now I'm turning into
Speaker 1: one who just doesn't care very much. I feel like
Speaker 1: I can't rely on many friends. Thank you, you're the man.
Speaker 1: Thanks for everything you do. This is from Caleb from
Speaker 1: New Mexico. Caleb, we all need friends, right, we all
Speaker 1: need community as humans. We're just not meant to be
Speaker 1: on an island and live alone and exile the rest
Speaker 1: of our lives. We will go crazy like that. We
Speaker 1: need friends, and I'm talking about more than just mama.
Speaker 1: And more than dad, and more than sister, more than
Speaker 1: the boss, the pag your bills. We need friends that
Speaker 1: we could rely on. We need community. It takes effort,
Speaker 1: so a couple of things. One, and I think I've
Speaker 1: said this already on this podcast, need to check your
Speaker 1: expectations for your friends, because I think you're expecting too
Speaker 1: much from them and you're not putting enough effort into
Speaker 1: what you're giving back to them. Not calling you out.
Speaker 1: And I'm not necessarily saying that, I'm just I'm proposing
Speaker 1: an interesting question that you might be expecting. Give me,
Speaker 1: give me, give me, give me, feel me, feel me,
Speaker 1: feel me, But you're not thinking of it in terms
Speaker 1: of I'm gonna give, I'm gonna give, I'm gonna pour in.
Speaker 1: What could I do to help lift my friends up?
Speaker 1: What could I be a resource with with my friends
Speaker 1: in hard times or be an encourager through good times?
Speaker 1: How could I be that guy instead of I need
Speaker 1: I need, I need lifted up, I need encouragement, I
Speaker 1: need I need someone pouring into me. So flip it,
Speaker 1: flip it and go. You know what, I've got a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff to give right now. I've got a
Speaker 1: full heart and I don't have very many friends, so
Speaker 1: i have a lot built up inside me, and I'm
Speaker 1: ready to give. If I'm ready to encourage, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to lift up. I'm ready to hold someone's hand and
Speaker 1: sympathy as they're going through something bad. I'm ready to
Speaker 1: step into the quicksand one foot on the rocks and
Speaker 1: one foot on the quicksand holding their hand. I'm ready
Speaker 1: to pull them out. I want to give, give, give,
Speaker 1: I want to be that guy. And that's going to
Speaker 1: reflect back to who you were attracting as a friend.
Speaker 1: Because if that's what you're putting out, everyone's going to
Speaker 1: come to your house for dinner. But if you're putting
Speaker 1: out in any way, I don't know. Man. I used
Speaker 1: to care. Now I don't. No, I don't really care.
Speaker 1: I just I need friends that are gonna be trustworthy,
Speaker 1: that are gonna call me back, They're gonna hang out
Speaker 1: when I'm available, when i'd let them know. When I
Speaker 1: send them a Christmas card, they're gonna send one back
Speaker 1: instead of the opposite. So there's this component going on.
Speaker 1: And then secondly, I would say, find out what you
Speaker 1: love in your life, what hobbies you love, what you
Speaker 1: love to do what movie, what types of Maybe you're
Speaker 1: a sci fi movie guy, right, Maybe you're a maybe
Speaker 1: you're an Arnold Schwarzenegger movie guy. Whatever. Maybe you're a golfer.
Speaker 1: Maybe you love college football. Maybe you love to hunt
Speaker 1: and fish. Maybe you love the Snowski. You're from New Mexico.
Speaker 1: Maybe you love riding four wheelers, you love it, you
Speaker 1: love going in the desert and riding four wheelers. Well,
Speaker 1: you search out that community, and you find your tribe,
Speaker 1: and your tribe will accept you, especially if you come
Speaker 1: with the mentality of pouring back into the tribe. You're
Speaker 1: going to contribute more to the tribe than you're getting
Speaker 1: from it, and then you become a valuable member of
Speaker 1: it and it just becomes this, this this beautiful, centrifical
Speaker 1: circle of honoring each other. And that's what community is like.
Speaker 1: That's that's what we thrive on. So seek out your passion,
Speaker 1: find your tribe in your passion, and when you find
Speaker 1: your tribe in your passion, come in with the mentality
Speaker 1: of pouring into them with no expectations of getting anything back.
Speaker 1: Stop expecting anything back. Just pour in and guess what
Speaker 1: you will get it back when you're not expecting it
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