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Speaker 1: and no name, so we're anonymous here. It says I'm

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Speaker 1: in love with two men, and she says, one of

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Speaker 1: them I've been with for a year and the other

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Speaker 1: is my best friend. And they're both amazing, and they

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Speaker 1: both love me, And I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get stuck in a relationship and

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Speaker 1: regret what I didn't do. But I also don't want

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Speaker 1: to hurt someone or lose anyone. So what should I do?

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Speaker 1: All Right, Anonymous, I'll tell you exactly what's going on

504
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 1: here around this campfire podcast chat. You don't need to

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Speaker 1: be in either one of these relationships, Like that's just it.

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Speaker 1: Like I could tell you I could be a mirror

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Speaker 1: to you. This is not just me. I could be

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Speaker 1: a mirror back to you. You say, I'm in love

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Speaker 1: with two men. One I've been with for a year

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Speaker 1: and the other is my best friend. They're both amazing,

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00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: they both love me. I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I'm stuck in relationship. I don't want to be second

513
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Speaker 1: a relationship and I regret. I don't want to regret

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Speaker 1: what I didn't do, but I also don't want to

515
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Speaker 1: hurt anyone or lose anyone. Hey, that that you're you

516
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: don't need either one of these guys. There is something

517
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: else going on underneath all this, and it is I

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Speaker 1: believe it is a need for you to be in

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Speaker 1: a relationship. You want to be cared for, You want

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Speaker 1: to you want to be loved and told that you're beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Who doesn't, right at some level? Who doesn't. We all

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Speaker 1: have different levels of needing that. But I think you

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Speaker 1: really need it because let me tell you why, Because

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Speaker 1: this wouldn't be a question if it wasn't for that,

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Speaker 1: does it makes sense this? You wouldn't ask the question

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Speaker 1: if if if you weren't needing just to be in

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Speaker 1: a relationship, you wouldn't ask it because because one of

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00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: these guys would be obviously better than the other. And

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Speaker 1: if they're equal in your mind, then you don't need

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Speaker 1: either either one of them. Then if they're equal in

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Speaker 1: your mind, then you just want a relationship with someone

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Speaker 1: that cares for you. Now, you don't want to hurt

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Speaker 1: someone that's irrelevant, totally irrelevant. You don't want to hurt

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Speaker 1: anyone irrelevant. You're single right now or in terms of

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Speaker 1: you're not married, you don't have kids, so you need

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Speaker 1: You are required to be selfish at a pretty big level,

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Speaker 1: not in an arrogant way, not in an irresponsible, arrogant way,

538
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Speaker 1: but you need to be selfish in terms of finding

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Speaker 1: exactly the right man that is going to be your spouse,

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Speaker 1: that you're going to marry, and that you are going

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Speaker 1: to make babies with God willing one day, and that

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Speaker 1: fifty years from now you're going to be on that

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Speaker 1: front porch in a rock and chair, hold hands with

544
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: this person with a bunch of a mess of grandkids

545
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: running in the yard, like that's that's where I believe

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00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 1: you want to be. And so right now, in order

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00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 1: to preserve that dream, you need to be selfish now,

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00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: because then you can't. You've given it all, all the selfishness.

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00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: You've given it all, you've poured it into your family

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00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 1: by then. So right now you securely hold this It's precious,

551
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: this precious time that you have to make this decision,

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00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 1: and that decision will be easy with the right man.

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00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: And you're thinking, but both of these guys are right,

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00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: Well then they're not. But you're looking. You're looking at

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00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: two like you're looking at two pieces of bronze. Right,

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00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 1: You're like, man, they're so shining, these two pieces of bronze,

557
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: they're shining, and both of them they're equal. And you

558
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 1: haven't seen what gold looks like yet. And until you

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00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: see the gold, that bronze is always gonna look shiny

560
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: and nice. And that's why they look the same. Just

561
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 1: wait for the right one to come and you'll recognize

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00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: what true gold is, the true value of your future relationship.

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00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 1: So the one that you're in the relationship with now

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00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: one hundred percent, the one that you've been with for

565
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:41,479
Speaker 1: a year, it's time to break up one hundred percent.

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00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: If you hear anything, listen, if you hear anything I've

567
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 1: been saying, you might not do any of it. But

568
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: if you hear anything, you gotta break up with this guy.

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00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: This poor guy. This poor guy loves you and you

570
00:32:56,640 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: love your friend and him this is like a soap opera.

571
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: To be fair to him, you got to break up

572
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 1: with him. And you can't go with the other guy either,

573
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 1: because you would have already done that by now, right,

574
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: you would have already gone to the second guy by

575
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: now if he was gold, But he's not. He's bronze.

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00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: You hearing me, all right? Email back, Let's see what

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00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: happens next up subject line career advice. Hey Grangeery, my

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00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 1: name is Lane, Roberts. I'm eighteen years old from Southeast

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Speaker 1: Kansas and I'm going to college soon to pursue a

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Speaker 1: farm and ranch management degree. I have enjoyed learning about

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Speaker 1: agriculture and high school and I'm very passionate about it.

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Speaker 1: But I recently I've gotten involved in hunting and I

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00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: found out that this is my true passion and I

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00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: love every bit of it. I'm torn on what to

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00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 1: do career wise because I do agricultural stuff, but I

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00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: absolutely love of hunting. I'm very unsure on what to

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00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: do and what I'm supposed to do with my life.

588
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just afraid to take the leap

589
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 1: into hunting industry and for it to not work out.

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00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: If you can give me some advice, i'd really appreciate it.

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00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: Thanks for your time, Lane Roberts. Shout out Lane, Southeast Kansas.

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00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 1: I love Southeast Kansas, and thank you for the email. Yeah,

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00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:26,919
Speaker 1: this one's going to be pretty straightforward, and I feel you, Lane.

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00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: I feel exactly what you're saying. And I've answered actually

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00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 1: similar questions to this before, and it's sometimes it's the

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00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 1: same thing. It's about hunting. So let me walk through

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Speaker 1: just a little bit of what I think with your situation. First,

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Speaker 1: you're eighteen. What a great age, dude, What a great

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00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:47,399
Speaker 1: age of discovery. There's so many people listening right now

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00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 1: that are thinking to themselves, Man, I wish I had

601
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 1: one more shot at eighteen, one more shot at eighteen.

602
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 1: And guess what if any of us had one more

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Speaker 1: shot at eighteen. You know what we would not be

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Speaker 1: doing is worrying about a career in the future. No,

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00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: I promise we wouldn't. Nobody if nobody would get in

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00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 1: a time machine and go back to when they're eighteen

607
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 1: and once they're there start worrying about a future career,

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00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 1: isn't that strange? You ever thought about that? So what

609
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: we would do if we went back as we would

610
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: soak up every bit of being eighteen, and soak up

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00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 1: every bit of life being young and having a blank

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00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: slate ahead of us and having dreams and not knowing

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00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 1: if we'll ever make them or not. But it's a

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Speaker 1: blank slate, So embrace it that way. Instead of looking

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Speaker 1: at the blank slate and going, oh, how do I

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Speaker 1: feel it? How do I fill off all the stuff

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00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: I don't know? Instead look at it like, wow, I

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00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: can go absolutely anywhere on this blank slate, anything anywhere.

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00:35:55,200 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: I'm just ready to write blank page. Right. A blank

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00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 1: page is a great, incredible thing. It's not a scary,

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00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 1: confining thing, right. Okay. So all that being said, I'm

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00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,799
Speaker 1: happy to hear that you're gonna go to go to

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Speaker 1: college and pursue a farm and ranch management degree. My opinion,

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00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: Lane is that that that farm and ranch management degree

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00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: will not ever hurt you or hinder you from pursuing

626
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:36,919
Speaker 1: a greater job in the hunting industry. That is great

627
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: to me. That sounds like it sounds like a great

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00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 1: background for someone that's in a massive some kind of

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00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: guide management, hunting, land development, sporting, good sale apparel like

630
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 1: all of that sounds like having a farm and ranch

631
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 1: management degree would be great because so much of hunting,

632
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 1: proper hunting, is land management and animal management and balancing

633
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: that appropriately, like so much of conservation and preservation and wildlife.

634
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:18,359
Speaker 1: So much of that funding, like seventy percent of that

635
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 1: funding worldwide for wildlife preservation comes from the hunting industry,

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00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: and that has to be allocated correctly. And it's always

637
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 1: been like that hunters love the land, they love the wildlife,

638
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 1: they will do anything to preserve it. For their grandkids,

639
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: so that their grandkids could go out there and be

640
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:45,359
Speaker 1: in the woods and experience the same thing that they love,

641
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 1: just like their granddad taught them. And through license and

642
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: hunting tags and gear and ammunition, all that stuff, through

643
00:37:56,120 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: the taxes of that and through donors, they will dump

644
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: money back into land management to help preserve that. It's

645
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: a beautiful things, So beautiful how that works together with

646
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 1: men and women that truly love have a passion for

647
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: the outdoors. So I think ranch and land management having

648
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 1: that that kind of degree is going to be great.

649
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 1: And the bottom line, Lane is, dude, you're eighteen. You

650
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: haven't even gone in yet, you haven't even gone to college.

651
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: Just go go your freshman year, Go your sophomore year,

652
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 1: continue on the path. Go your junior year, continue on

653
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 1: your path. Now we're talking three years down the road.

654
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: You're telling me that in three years you wouldn't have

655
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 1: an opportunity to figure some of this stuff out by then,

656
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: because you don't have to today. Today. You just got

657
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 1: to be eighteen blank page ahead of you. Congrats, dude,

658
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:59,840
Speaker 1: you have an amazing story to write and it's yours

659
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 1: to write it. You have the pen, and here's the

660
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: blank page. Don't worry about it, and in the meantime,

661
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: hunt all you want man on the weekends, Friday afternoons,

662
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 1: go hunt, go with your buddies. Enjoy it. Enjoy it

663
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: from a consumer perspective from someone that's going to participate

664
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:23,919
Speaker 1: in it. Don't worry about selling it yet, but you might.

665
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: Thanks for the email, buddy. Okay, here's a question, subject

666
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 1: line military and family issues. Hey Grangeer, I love your

667
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 1: music and it literally just started listening to your podcast.

668
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 1: Would like to remain anonymous, and I can't say where

669
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: I'm living, And then he goes on to say why,

670
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 1: and I understand. I'm originally from Texas and I'm about

671
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 1: to join the military. My stepfather's been in the military

672
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: for six years and would like me to join the Navy.

673
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: But I would like to join the Army. He's always

674
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: wanted my brothers and I to join the Navy for

675
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: some time now, but I don't know what I could

676
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:05,840
Speaker 1: do for the Navy. The Army has more stuff I

677
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: could do. I just don't want to let him down,

678
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: nor my mother, because I've lost my faith in God

679
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 1: and I feel like she is worried if I go

680
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: into the army. Without my faith and God, something bad

681
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 1: will happen. What do you think I should do? That

682
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: is a lot of information and several questions packed into one,

683
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: So let's dig into this. First of all, thank you

684
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Speaker 1: for your service. Thank you for not only you, but

685
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 1: your stepfather and the mission that you're willing to partake.

686
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of bravery to even have this

687
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:45,879
Speaker 1: decision on your radar, So thank you, dude. I hope

688
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: more and more young people continue to see the benefits

689
00:40:50,960 --> 00:41:01,320
Speaker 1: of being in the service and the just the beautiful

690
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:06,399
Speaker 1: mirage of what it is, that this is something that

691
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 1: could could spike a new career or to give me

692
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 1: the little life skills that I need, and it's just

693
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:15,920
Speaker 1: so honorable, and I hope that more and more people

694
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 1: see it as that as a duty, an American duty.

695
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: All that being said, we're called from the Bible to

696
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: honor our mother and father. So I understand your dilemma.

697
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 1: And the reason you're having this dilemma is because you're

698
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: going against what they want, and so you have this conflict,

699
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: and that's you know, the Bible is for us. It's

700
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: a roadmap for us, breathed out by God. All scriptures

701
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: breathed out by God, and when you go against it,

702
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,319
Speaker 1: whether you have read it or not, or believe it

703
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: or not, when you start going against it, you feel

704
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 1: a weird pull that feels not right and out of place.

705
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 1: You feel a little bit out of step. So I

706
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,359
Speaker 1: have to say that first, and I don't necessarily know

707
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: how that aligns with your step father and you, right,

708
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: So there's a little bit of a disconnect. I think

709
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: you could fix that disconnect by some very vulnerable, decisive conversation,

710
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: sit down dinner type conversation with your mother and your

711
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: stepfather and I'm talking. You do your research, and you

712
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 1: lay out your plan for the army, a step by

713
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: step list of good statistics on what you could do

714
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: and where you could join, and how to apply that

715
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 1: and what you're going to get out of it and

716
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 1: what you're going to put into it, and have have

717
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 1: maybe a same a similar list for the Navy, and

718
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: you can go I could do this and this and

719
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: this in the Navy, but it's not going to get

720
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,439
Speaker 1: me where I really want to go. That the Army

721
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 1: is gonna get me to, right, So I think you

722
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: could you could lay out a pretty good argument, even

723
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 1: though personally I think you're gonna you're gonna see big

724
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: benefits from either one for what you want. But I

725
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: understand what you're coming from, where you're coming from, and

726
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,280
Speaker 1: I understand what you're probably wanting to do. You're probably

727
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 1: wanting to go into more of a grunt world where

728
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: you're just you know, you're packing it in, You're going

729
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:28,839
Speaker 1: into urban areas, and you know you I think that's

730
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 1: probably what you're thinking. But the bigger question comes later

731
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 1: in your email, and you didn't even pose it as

732
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: a question. You just kind of threw it out in passing.

733
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to let him down, nor my mother,

734
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 1: because I've lost faith in God, and I feel like

735
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: she's gonna be worried if I go into the army

736
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 1: without my faith in God, something bad will happen. A

737
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 1: couple of things here. This is this is a two

738
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:56,799
Speaker 1: edged sword. One. You're throwing that out there like it's

739
00:43:56,840 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: no big deal. You've lost your faith in God. Sounds

740
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: like you mean that you once had it and now

741
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: it's gone. So that's something you got to figure out,

742
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: because that's way bigger than the army or the navy,

743
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: or your mother or your stepdad. That's bigger than all that.

744
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: This is something that you got to wrestle with. You

745
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:21,120
Speaker 1: know what the word Israel, which is, you know, the

746
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 1: the chosen people of the background of the Christian Faith,

747
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: the backdrop of the Christian Faith. The word Israel is

748
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 1: a story about a man named Jacob and God changed

749
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:39,720
Speaker 1: his name to Israel. Israel literally means to wrestle with God.

750
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 1: And we're encouraged in a lot of ways to wrestle

751
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 1: with God. Not with our faith and not with knowing

752
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 1: who he is and believing in who he is, but

753
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: but more so in where is my standing with you? God?

754
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,879
Speaker 1: Where do I fit in your picture? God? That kind

755
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: of wrestling and I feel like this is what you

756
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 1: gotta do. I feel like you got to get you

757
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: got to get down and on your knees and your

758
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: your fist clenched, and you got to do some wrestling,

759
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 1: and you got to start calling out and you got

760
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: to start calling calling him out and saying, God, I

761
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 1: need to feel you. Don't hide your face from me,

762
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:28,760
Speaker 1: I need to feel you. This is this is echoing

763
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 1: what the psalms will walk through. If you go through

764
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,439
Speaker 1: some psalms in your Bible, go through the psalms. There's

765
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:36,919
Speaker 1: a ton of them you're gonna find over and over again,

766
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 1: things like it's always built on a foundation of God

767
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: is sovereign, God is all knowing, God is the creator.

768
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 1: But on top of all that, while you know that,

769
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 1: on top of that is this feeling of don't hide

770
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 1: your face from me. How long will you be gone

771
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: from me? How long will you leave me here without

772
00:45:57,760 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 1: without feeling you? And that kind of wrestling is what

773
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: you need to do. The second part of this that's

774
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: strange to me is how your mom says she's worried

775
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 1: that if you go into the army without faith in God,

776
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 1: something bad will happen. Well, something bad will or won't

777
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: happen regardless of your faith. Your faith and God will

778
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: not protect you from something bad happening. You have to

779
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 1: understand that, and everyone listening has to understand that Christianity

780
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 1: never promises that you're going to be free of suffering,

781
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 1: or free of pain, or free of bad things. That

782
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: is a lie. It has never promised that. The promise

783
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: of the Bible is that God will lead you through

784
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 1: suffering in the midst of it. As it happens, he

785
00:46:54,160 --> 00:47:00,399
Speaker 1: brings you through it right and so I don't your

786
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 1: mom or you to start thinking you better hurry up

787
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 1: and believe in God, because then that'll protect you in

788
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 1: the army. That is not right now what she might

789
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 1: have meant, And this would be correct in thinking that

790
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:17,720
Speaker 1: if you've lost your faith and you die in the army,

791
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 1: there is no hope for you. That is truth, and

792
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 1: that's the same for anyone that dies. You lost your faith,

793
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:33,399
Speaker 1: you're disconnected. You're in rebellion of God in some way.

794
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 1: You have rejected God openly, and you have in this

795
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: email you said I've lost my faith in God. So

796
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 1: if you've lost, you've rejected, you're in rebellion. He's going

797
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: to let you stay there, and when you die, you

798
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 1: will not be with him. He will leave you in

799
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:55,720
Speaker 1: your rejection because you're a rebel. We all are until

800
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: we come to faith, until Jesus pulls us out of

801
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: out of our lostness. We're all rebels. We're born rebels,

802
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: we're born sinners, dead in our transgressions. This is making

803
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 1: sense to you because this is a very double edged sword. Heard,

804
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: you gotta figure some stuff out. I would figure this

805
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 1: out now regardless of army and navy. But having your

806
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 1: faith will not protect you from bad things happening, but

807
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: it will save your soul. Thanks for the question, brother,

808
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 1: and thank you for your service. I gotta say it again.

809
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:37,240
Speaker 1: I'm gonna jump in one more here. I've been rambling

810
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 1: it says, Hey grangeer. I'm Caleb from New Mexico. I

811
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: started listening not too long ago, and it helps a lot.

812
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 1: I need help. I just graduated high school this past spring.

813
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 1: I'm going to college and I've tried having some friends

814
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,479
Speaker 1: to hang out with when available. But everyone I've talked

815
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: to are they already has something going on? Are they

816
00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 1: lie to me and never get back to me. I've

817
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: got to a point where I was once a very

818
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 1: caring person about my friends, but now I'm turning into

819
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 1: one who just doesn't care very much. I feel like

820
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: I can't rely on many friends. Thank you, you're the man.

821
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:19,080
Speaker 1: Thanks for everything you do. This is from Caleb from

822
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: New Mexico. Caleb, we all need friends, right, we all

823
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: need community as humans. We're just not meant to be

824
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: on an island and live alone and exile the rest

825
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: of our lives. We will go crazy like that. We

826
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,240
Speaker 1: need friends, and I'm talking about more than just mama.

827
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:42,919
Speaker 1: And more than dad, and more than sister, more than

828
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:48,799
Speaker 1: the boss, the pag your bills. We need friends that

829
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:54,280
Speaker 1: we could rely on. We need community. It takes effort,

830
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 1: so a couple of things. One, and I think I've

831
00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 1: said this already on this podcast, need to check your

832
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: expectations for your friends, because I think you're expecting too

833
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 1: much from them and you're not putting enough effort into

834
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 1: what you're giving back to them. Not calling you out.

835
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 1: And I'm not necessarily saying that, I'm just I'm proposing

836
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 1: an interesting question that you might be expecting. Give me,

837
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,320
Speaker 1: give me, give me, give me, feel me, feel me,

838
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: feel me, But you're not thinking of it in terms

839
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: of I'm gonna give, I'm gonna give, I'm gonna pour in.

840
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 1: What could I do to help lift my friends up?

841
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: What could I be a resource with with my friends

842
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 1: in hard times or be an encourager through good times?

843
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,839
Speaker 1: How could I be that guy instead of I need

844
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: I need, I need lifted up, I need encouragement, I

845
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 1: need I need someone pouring into me. So flip it,

846
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:51,360
Speaker 1: flip it and go. You know what, I've got a

847
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: lot of stuff to give right now. I've got a

848
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 1: full heart and I don't have very many friends, so

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Speaker 1: i have a lot built up inside me, and I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to give. If I'm ready to encourage, I'm ready

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Speaker 1: to lift up. I'm ready to hold someone's hand and

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00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 1: sympathy as they're going through something bad. I'm ready to

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Speaker 1: step into the quicksand one foot on the rocks and

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Speaker 1: one foot on the quicksand holding their hand. I'm ready

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Speaker 1: to pull them out. I want to give, give, give,

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Speaker 1: I want to be that guy. And that's going to

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Speaker 1: reflect back to who you were attracting as a friend.

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Speaker 1: Because if that's what you're putting out, everyone's going to

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Speaker 1: come to your house for dinner. But if you're putting

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Speaker 1: out in any way, I don't know. Man. I used

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Speaker 1: to care. Now I don't. No, I don't really care.

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Speaker 1: I just I need friends that are gonna be trustworthy,

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Speaker 1: that are gonna call me back, They're gonna hang out

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Speaker 1: when I'm available, when i'd let them know. When I

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Speaker 1: send them a Christmas card, they're gonna send one back

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Speaker 1: instead of the opposite. So there's this component going on.

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Speaker 1: And then secondly, I would say, find out what you

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Speaker 1: love in your life, what hobbies you love, what you

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Speaker 1: love to do what movie, what types of Maybe you're

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Speaker 1: a sci fi movie guy, right, Maybe you're a maybe

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Speaker 1: you're an Arnold Schwarzenegger movie guy. Whatever. Maybe you're a golfer.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you love college football. Maybe you love to hunt

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Speaker 1: and fish. Maybe you love the Snowski. You're from New Mexico.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you love riding four wheelers, you love it, you

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Speaker 1: love going in the desert and riding four wheelers. Well,

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Speaker 1: you search out that community, and you find your tribe,

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Speaker 1: and your tribe will accept you, especially if you come

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Speaker 1: with the mentality of pouring back into the tribe. You're

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Speaker 1: going to contribute more to the tribe than you're getting

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Speaker 1: from it, and then you become a valuable member of

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Speaker 1: it and it just becomes this, this this beautiful, centrifical

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Speaker 1: circle of honoring each other. And that's what community is like.

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Speaker 1: That's that's what we thrive on. So seek out your passion,

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Speaker 1: find your tribe in your passion, and when you find

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Speaker 1: your tribe in your passion, come in with the mentality

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00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:04,839
Speaker 1: of pouring into them with no expectations of getting anything back.

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Speaker 1: Stop expecting anything back. Just pour in and guess what

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Speaker 1: you will get it back when you're not expecting it

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Speaker 1: great questions guys. Thank you for emailing, thank you for listening,

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Speaker 1: and I will see you next Monday. Yege, thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all

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