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Speaker 1: our lovely sponsors keeping this ship sailing. My husband sold

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Speaker 1: over three hundred thousand dollars from my family. I can't

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Speaker 2: Maybe you should try it again. Maybe try again.

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Speaker 1: This is a long story, but I'll try to write

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Speaker 1: it as quickly as possible. First I should say I've

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Speaker 1: been married for seven years, together for eleven, and we

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Speaker 1: have three young kids. I'm a small business owner and

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Speaker 1: artist and he has a corporate job. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from No. Dependent sixty ninety nine, and if

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Speaker 1: r slash of Okay Storytime subrut it. So in the

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Speaker 1: summer of twenty twenty two, I was looking on our

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Speaker 1: online banking because I got an overdraft. Noticed then looking

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Speaker 1: at some of the charges, I noticed that there were

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Speaker 1: some weird, larger purges. I asked my husband what the

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Speaker 1: company was and it was Stocks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, jerk Mates Stocks, Babe, I promise Stocks Incorporated.

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Speaker 3: I had no response.

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Speaker 2: Jesus crust greasyfeed dot com. Yeah, those are stuck. Actually,

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Speaker 2: those are mutual funds, so oh, no worry about that.

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Speaker 3: Oh will this YouTube episode stay up? Just barely?

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Speaker 1: So then I started adding it up and freaking out

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Speaker 1: We had a huge blow up conversation about it. He

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Speaker 1: added it up. I was so destroyed because he'd been

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Speaker 1: stealing from our family. Saving is so important to me,

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Speaker 1: and I've been the only one able to get us

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Speaker 1: any savings throughout our relationship. When we got together, I

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Speaker 1: totally financed our whole wedding, put the cash down for

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Speaker 1: our house, et cetera, et cetera. I didn't ask much

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Speaker 1: or want to prod because I didn't want him to

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Speaker 1: feel bad that he didn't come into our relationship with money.

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Speaker 1: So he was stealing from our family, taking money from

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Speaker 1: my biz to put into our checking because he'd been

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Speaker 1: overdrafting our account.

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Speaker 2: Oh dude, here's my question. Please, if he's strategic doing

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Speaker 2: this to his own family? Yeah, what's his day job?

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Speaker 2: I know he works in corporate Yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I was expecting the inverse of her to be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm an artist and you know, make a

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Speaker 1: fine living. But it's nothing crazy and he's corporate. But

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Speaker 1: it seems like it's the inverse. She's like banksy over here,

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Speaker 1: just like rolling in the bank. Yeah, and he's just

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Speaker 1: working at like I don't know, stocks Incorporated. Yeah, as

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Speaker 1: a low level as a male boy or something, his

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Speaker 3: I don't know, Like.

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Speaker 2: Where's he learning these tricks from?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Also, if you're buying stocks, when did you buy them?

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Speaker 2: And when are you planning to sell them? Or you know,

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Speaker 2: I need a game plan there.

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Speaker 1: What's the portfolio looking like right now? We actually haven't

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Speaker 1: seen that yet. Maybe they're multi millionaires, I hope.

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Speaker 2: So you get crypto. I have a lot of questions here.

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Speaker 3: Put it all in Doge.

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Speaker 1: Well, it was a huge blow and I've had trust

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Speaker 1: issues with him before in our relationship, not presenting whole truths,

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Speaker 3: I didn't tell a soul, which was so hard, but

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Speaker 3: it was so private. The money was already gone.

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Speaker 1: So it's not only like the portfolios down, it's like

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Speaker 1: there isn't any money.

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Speaker 2: Oh, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: And I told him to take everything out of stocks

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Speaker 3: But babe, this one's about to go to the moon.

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Speaker 2: Cheese coin. Please invest in cheese coin right now.

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Speaker 1: H com rockets literally going to the moon off of

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: Savings has always been so important to me, living well

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Speaker 2: Bro, if you got laid off, maybe you shouldn't be

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Speaker 3: Mmm you this might be Riley's golden rule.

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Speaker 2: Hot take.

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Speaker 3: What did you say? You said something different?

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Speaker 2: I don't. No, No, there's something there. There's something there.

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Speaker 2: There's something there, Like if you just got laid off,

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Speaker 3: Got it?

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Speaker 1: I work my butt off while I'm pregnant to make more,

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Speaker 2: And his mindset's like, well, baby, basically the power two

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Speaker 2: people in you. So yeah, just keep working harder. Uh,

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Speaker 2: can we get the baby indoor dash to count or

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Speaker 3: Can we like get it on fiver?

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Speaker 2: Hey, we could probably like get them set up on

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Speaker 3: That, teach the baby how to trade stocks.

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Speaker 1: They just like it's like you know those videos where

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that would actually be a great account.

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Speaker 1: You literally just have a baby picking stocks by eating

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Speaker 1: So then we go a whole year remodeling our house,

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Speaker 1: which we took a helock alone for for eighty thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the remodel, I'm thirty seven weeks

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Speaker 1: our bank account. I wonder where this might be coming from.

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Speaker 2: out for certain things. Baby, we gotta buy a new sink,

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Speaker 3: But like, how I go get investing in the stocks.

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Speaker 3: But what is he? Like? Yeah, where's his money going?

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Speaker 1: Uh? So I text him to see what it was for.

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Speaker 1: He tells me that the home loan bank doesn't have

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Speaker 1: my inheritance money. I'd received one hundred and twenty five

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Speaker 1: calls me back and tells me that he actually made

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Speaker 1: then it turned into a twenty five thousand dollars loss.

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Speaker 1: Sam the Caterpillar and Lady Morgan said, gambling and rugs

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Speaker 1: that is not stocks.

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Speaker 3: But it's okay.

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Speaker 2: Are we going to stay together? Are they staying together?

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Speaker 2: Let's say they stay together. It's okay, babe, Just for

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Speaker 2: the next twenty five months, you're gonna have to come

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Speaker 2: up with one thousand dollars and pay me back. Until

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Speaker 2: then you're indebted to me. Yeah, you're mine, cause.

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Speaker 1: Like even going for childcare or not childcare, childcare payments,

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Speaker 1: even if it's a child support payment, child support payments,

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Speaker 1: as we've learned on the show, are super low. Keon,

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Speaker 1: minimum minimum required child support in California is. I want

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Speaker 1: to say, I'm going to say either four hundred and

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Speaker 1: twelve dollars. I'm gonna go with four hundred and twelve dollars.

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Speaker 4: You're really close, Actually four hundred and thirty per month. Yes,

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Speaker 4: we've looked one hundred and thirty per month. But this

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Speaker 4: again California. It could be different in other states.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so in California, I think that's like on the

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Speaker 1: we looked up Alabama, it was like one hundred bucks

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Speaker 1: So even like getting divorced and suing for child supporter,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what is it.

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Speaker 2: It's fifty dollars. It's not even triple digits. Fifty that's

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Speaker 2: illegal that we have to make that illegal. What can

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Speaker 2: you buy with fifty bucks today?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: A month? A month? That's right? Netflix? Great, the baby

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Speaker 3: can watch Coco Mellen. Okay, that's it. Just feed at

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Speaker 3: Coca Melone, get Coda, cocomelon.

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Speaker 4: And twelve dollars. Pause, Kim finds his twelve dollars. That's insane.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that is that's literal, bro said, Sorry, Netflix is

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Speaker 1: more important than my child.

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Speaker 2: Twelve dollars a month, people got priorities is insanity. I

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Speaker 2: gotta catch up on Seinfield.

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Speaker 3: This needs to be fixed. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So anyways, yeah, I feel like the tough part here

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Speaker 1: is Opie's kind of screwed. Either way she goes in

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Speaker 1: terms of like trying to get the money back, I

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Speaker 1: mean she can try, but I'm honestly at this point

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Speaker 1: A lock him ount of all accounts first.

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Speaker 2: Like immediately, and then B where's the money going?

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Speaker 3: Where's the money going? And then C we might have

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Speaker 3: to let this man go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is it's because they already had the big like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: He's already broken my trust before.

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Speaker 1: Now that he does the same thing again, and he's

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Speaker 1: continuing to steal from her. Yeah, yeah, I think so addiction,

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Speaker 1: I think here, but what we're going to see. So

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Speaker 1: then he tells me that the money in the home

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Speaker 1: loan the heelock was gone and he had been pulling

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Speaker 1: from money from there too. He also stole all the

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Speaker 1: money in our young daughter's bank account, six thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: I was beyond hysterical. I basically collapsed, But then I

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Speaker 1: had to give birth, so I had to compartmentalize it.

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Speaker 1: I finally told someone and told my best friend and

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Speaker 1: my sister. He let me do a whole remodel in

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty three and going over budget. Oh, thanks for

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Speaker 1: letting me spend more money that we're like bleeding out. Thanks,

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Speaker 1: thanks for that, knowing that the money in the home

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Speaker 1: loan heelock account wasn't even there to pay for them

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Speaker 1: at the end.

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Speaker 3: Actual psychotic behavior.

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Speaker 1: I don't have access to the home loan, the heelock account.

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Speaker 1: What and we had to use the remaining of my

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Speaker 1: Something is like he is doing some severe stuff under

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Speaker 1: He's just like he's just like stupid. Yeah, this is

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the new title. Yeah, I think it's at.

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Speaker 2: Two hundred k. Now one hundred fifty, one hundred and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is she's just watching her two hundred thousand. Oh,

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Speaker 1: Then yesterday I finally get the time to look through

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Uber Eats and Starbucks doesn't account for two

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Speaker 1: The numbers are that I know about twenty five thousand

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Speaker 2: Stolen from your own kid.

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Speaker 1: It's from your child, bro. Something is so wrong here.

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Speaker 1: took out to bet on stocks, I mean trade. I

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Speaker 1: to explain what op's talking about so margin trading, So

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Speaker 3: Into the account.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I think that's what he's doing.

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Speaker 3: I think that's what he's doing.

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Speaker 2: This is where we're at right now.

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Speaker 1: Eighty one thousand dollars. Eighty one thousand dollars, ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: this is insanity. A lot of our home loan he

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Speaker 2: He's gotta be like trying to start his own business

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Speaker 1: The stocks but a list now, so Devil's let us

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Speaker 2: What do we had? Three hundred and like sixty three

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Speaker 3: Ali said he should be in jail.

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Speaker 2: That is exactly correct because it come from his credit

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Speaker 3: It's all him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, yeah, from the loans he's taking out

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Speaker 3: Gross says, take it. The four thousand dollars.

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Speaker 2: Have divorced him, Let's invest in divorce and also like

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Speaker 3: Let's trade on our divorce.

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Speaker 3: Everything else might be hard to like but depending.

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Speaker 2: Couldn'tess? What? Ah? What?

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Speaker 3: Divorce?

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Speaker 1: Divorce, divorce, divorce, no counseling, know nothing. You know what

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Speaker 1: we usually say on the show Divorce run Away. Sue

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Speaker 2: That's a Lucp's here, take an insurance life insurance policy

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Speaker 3: Sun, lucyp. That is one way to do it, right there, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: here we go. Oh man.

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Speaker 1: So a lot of this was going on in twenty

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Speaker 2: Nah, he had a job. It was us it spending

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Speaker 3: Day possible, and who knows what else.

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Speaker 1: This whole time, I've been saying he needs to lead

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Speaker 1: I feel like he will just let this dissolve into

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Speaker 1: driving the boat. It's exhausting. That is the understatement of

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Speaker 2: She's got three kids, probably just had a kid. While

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Speaker 1: She got a fully baked She's been carrying this baby

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Speaker 3: This is crazy.

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Speaker 1: But then yesterday I had to sign a big letter

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Speaker 1: it said notice like final notice, and I saw that

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Speaker 1: it was the final notice to figure out a plan

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Speaker 1: the twenty five thousand dollars credit card debt or it

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Speaker 2: twenty five?

442
00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:48,240
Speaker 4: It's probably a different card?

443
00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,560
Speaker 2: Sure? Make that all right? Now we're at three hundred

444
00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:54,320
Speaker 2: and eighty eight thousand dollars. It might have been twenty seven,

445
00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 2: twenty five out of the forty seven. Maybe there's a

446
00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:57,800
Speaker 2: lot of numbers being thrown out here.

447
00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,600
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, the notice said ap fools.

448
00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:04,800
Speaker 3: You know, dude, I imagine this was a prank, gotcha.

449
00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:07,240
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, at this point, a prank would be

450
00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:09,840
Speaker 1: way better than the actual scenario they're in, being down

451
00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,040
Speaker 1: three hundred k or so. I'm not a person to

452
00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:14,840
Speaker 1: investigate stuff which is totally proving to be a huge

453
00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,359
Speaker 1: mistake of mine. Yes, Op, you are well within your

454
00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:20,320
Speaker 1: right to investigate all of this. You are Oh my god, Yes,

455
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,199
Speaker 1: it's okay, It's okay investigate. So all in all, he

456
00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:26,359
Speaker 1: is presenting that he is telling me it all now,

457
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:28,800
Speaker 1: but who knows. I don't know, so I feel like

458
00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 1: he's just avoiding it. I finally lost it again on

459
00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:35,120
Speaker 1: him yesterday, like, tell me this info. Don't you think

460
00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:36,879
Speaker 1: i'd want to know that this is going to be

461
00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:40,240
Speaker 1: a lawsuit April first. He finally called them now yesterday

462
00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 1: and got it settled. We have started paying one thousand

463
00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:46,119
Speaker 1: a month to repay his debts, which we currently don't

464
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,520
Speaker 1: have an extra one k a month as it is.

465
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 1: We also have the six hundred dollars heelock bill a month.

466
00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:53,800
Speaker 1: We had to pull our daughter out of for after

467
00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 1: school care because we shouldn't be paying that five hundred

468
00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:58,360
Speaker 1: dollars a month for that. They have to take their

469
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 1: daughter out of after school care because they have to

470
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:03,119
Speaker 1: pay off his debts.

471
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:08,080
Speaker 2: Mike, you're literally affecting your child's trajector rate here.

472
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 1: Dude, Andy stole all her money. We can't forget that too.

473
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 1: One of the kids, one of the kids. Now, I'm

474
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 1: going to have her home all summer A baby and

475
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:18,360
Speaker 1: be expected to work full time from home and somehow

476
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 1: be the breadwinner while caring for two kids at home.

477
00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:25,199
Speaker 1: All our financial stability is gone. We have emergency of

478
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 1: money that's under my business savings, but I'm not letting

479
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,680
Speaker 1: us touch that. Please tell me he does not have

480
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,239
Speaker 1: access to that we need. I don't know what we need.

481
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:34,639
Speaker 1: I think we need to lock him in a cage

482
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 1: at this point and just like feed him slop from

483
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 1: a cant.

484
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, like that's the only way you can survive.

485
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 1: God, it's literally all we have to our names now.

486
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 1: We should have been set after the one hundred and

487
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 1: twenty five thousand dollars gift the inheritance. We could have

488
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 1: used it to get a second residence, to have residual income,

489
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: and finally have savings for our family. Now it's all gone,

490
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 1: along with so much of our other money. I told

491
00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 1: him he needs to get some remote job at night

492
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 1: from home to make extra money because we're not going

493
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 1: to be able to pay for his debt on top

494
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,360
Speaker 1: of all of our normal bills. And I am not

495
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 1: going to dig into our emergency money to pay his debt.

496
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get into the next section, which is

497
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,719
Speaker 1: asking for advice. Let me see a long Yeah, so

498
00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 1: before we get into that, let's give some of our

499
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:18,680
Speaker 1: advice here and break this down.

500
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 3: Divorce, divorce, divorce.

501
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 2: I'm just baffled that three hundred and sixty three thousand

502
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 2: dollars is gone through margin trading stocks, you know, the

503
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 2: devil's lettuce, take out all this miscellaneous things. Three hundred

504
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 2: and sixty three one hundred thousand dollars.

505
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I could see the margin trading with the

506
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 1: stocks being it. But yeah, I'm also too like, is

507
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:46,479
Speaker 1: there not something? Is there like an addiction? Is there

508
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 1: another woman?

509
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 3: Like?

510
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 2: Like it just as adding up? Yeah, he could do it.

511
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 1: He could just be addicted to doing these like kind

512
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,479
Speaker 1: of like what we were talking before, like a Ponzi

513
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 1: scheme almost where he's like he does a margin call,

514
00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:01,440
Speaker 1: loses tens of thousands of dollars, pulls in tens of

515
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 1: thousands of dollars, and does the same thing over and

516
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 1: over and over and over again until he's like almost

517
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 1: four hundred k in the hole. But my god, Yeah,

518
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 1: and chat right now is a sounding off that we need?

519
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 1: Oh could you scroll up a little bit? Legal separation

520
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 1: and all money goes into an account in her name only. Yeah, yeah, absolutely,

521
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: And like again I want to know, can we divorce

522
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: and then sue him so every paycheck he gets is

523
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 1: paying back? Ope, until all the money we can legally

524
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: like like force him to pay basically is paid back

525
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: to OPI twenty years.

526
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 2: I don't even think this guy can come over that

527
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 2: money at all.

528
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,640
Speaker 1: I don't think That's why I'm like garnished the wages

529
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,640
Speaker 1: because I think Opie's literal only hope to get any

530
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:51,160
Speaker 1: money back from this is to have it taken out

531
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 1: of his paycheck and sent directly to her. Otherwise he's

532
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 1: gonna gamble it away basically.

533
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's advice say, because I'm I'm like, I'm trying

534
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:00,440
Speaker 2: to give advice, but I don't even know what the

535
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 2: heck to do in this.

536
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, yeah, the big picture, like we said,

537
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: is divorce, but not just divorce, like how do we

538
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: get away get our money everything, like the kid, honestly

539
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 1: everything we like For Opie's mental health, I think just

540
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,679
Speaker 1: like being completely away from this person, I think.

541
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: Will at least alleviate some of the stress.

542
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 2: I had something like this happened to a family member

543
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 2: where like one of their sons racked up eighty thousand

544
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 2: dollars in credit card debt and then just they had

545
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 2: to cut them off. They were just like, you can't

546
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 2: do it. And then they're like, I think they went

547
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 2: to legally, like in a civil suit or something like that.

548
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 2: I don't know what the outcome of it is. But

549
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 2: the dad completely does not talk to the son. Yeah,

550
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 2: and the son, I haven't really heard much of it.

551
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 2: And then some in that family happened recently where like

552
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:42,919
Speaker 2: now the son and the and the other son have

553
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,639
Speaker 2: to talk and the dad doesn't want anything to do

554
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 2: with it because their mom is badly passed. And it's like, oh,

555
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 2: it's getting.

556
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,880
Speaker 1: Like when you steal from family. Yep, that's what happens.

557
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 1: It's crazy, that's what happens.

558
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 2: It's crazy.

559
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,640
Speaker 1: Oh boy, Okay, so let's get into this advice here.

560
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: So Opie says, I need some advice. Yeah, yes, this

561
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: is so outside my wheelhouse. I know, I need to

562
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: check his credit to see if he's gotten anything else.

563
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 1: And I'm guessing mine and my kids. I come from

564
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: a divorce family at age five and it was so

565
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,359
Speaker 1: painful growing up. That's the last thing I want, but

566
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 1: I feel so numb. I'm so wildly betrayed. Op, it

567
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: is okay, I would get the divorce. I think you

568
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: were so much better off. But anyways, he's been lying

569
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 1: and hiding for years, took our daughter's money, money from

570
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 1: my business. He's obviously apologetic, but in my heart, I

571
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 1: just don't know if I can get feelings for him,

572
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: like romantic feelings back for him. I feel so unsafe,

573
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 1: unsure of what he's done or will do to us.

574
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 1: He's saying he's a new person, that's not him anymore.

575
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's another person in the mix here. I feel

576
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 2: like Op, he's so shocked at what's happened. Once she

577
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 2: looks at the uber eats like, okay, this is enough

578
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 2: for two people. Okay, Devil's let us for two people.

579
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,120
Speaker 2: There's no way someone can consume that much.

580
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 1: There's a new person, all right, or maybe new people

581
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 1: like a secret wife and a kid.

582
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 3: I don't know. Oh, I don't know. I don't know

583
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: secret family.

584
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 2: I don't know the margin Dratings is signing my other

585
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 2: kid up for lacrosse.

586
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is two affair children, Stock and Margins. But

587
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: even a few days ago, he still wasn't presenting the

588
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: full truth. He's not lying, he's avoiding telling me the

589
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: full truth, which is so frustrating, and that is lying.

590
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 3: And a few months ago he only.

591
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 1: Told me the updated truths because I happened to see

592
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: money get taken out that day. Who even knows what

593
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 1: truths he would have told me if I never found

594
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: out all this on my own. He never even told

595
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: me or added up himself how much he lost of

596
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: our money, how much he took from us, et cetera.

597
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 1: We have three small kids. One is a three month

598
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: old baby, and I'm the primary caregiver. I am hustling

599
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 1: and left. I am maternity leave before I wanted. This

600
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: is my last baby, and basically, as soon as I

601
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 1: walk out of the medical phase, I'm back to work again.

602
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 1: I have to provide a divorce for a woman and

603
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: a small business owner without a corporate employer is complicated.

604
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 1: I'm on his insurance. I don't have a set salary,

605
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: et cetera. And obviously we make more as a couple

606
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: to pay for our house. I can't afford the house

607
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: mortgage on my own well with all the other living

608
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 1: costs of it. If I was single, I don't want

609
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: to move find housing et cetera. And with three small kids,

610
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,199
Speaker 1: and we live in a very expensive city. We have

611
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: no family in town, and being a single mom would

612
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: be an enormous struggle for me with no family here.

613
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:12,679
Speaker 1: I don't want to start over it. But I just

614
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,120
Speaker 1: don't know if I'm ever going to feel that connection

615
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 1: to him again. I just feel numb. I know that

616
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: may take time. I don't know what to do. I'm

617
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: not going to decide anything quickly. Yeah, I mean sadly.

618
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 2: It feels like the reset button is being pressed or

619
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 2: without you.

620
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:34,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, like it's gonna it's it's happening, like whether you're

621
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: here for it or not, or like whether whether you

622
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 1: want to press that.

623
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:41,400
Speaker 3: Button or not. Like wild wild man, I.

624
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: Feel like just being partners, living together and raising our

625
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,919
Speaker 1: kids is what's the best option at this point and

626
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 1: just forego the romantic part of the relationship. But that

627
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 1: is so sad to me, and I deserve more than

628
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 1: that divorce with three kids, right, Yes, you do deserve that.

629
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 1: He is a great dad. Incorrect he stole from a child.

630
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: But I feel so numb a roma's in partner wise

631
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: to him. I'm truly scared. I won't have feelings for

632
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: him again. This betrayal is so beyond the worst case

633
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 1: scenario for me. I wish so bad he would have

634
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 1: just cheated on me. At least I wouldn't be thinking

635
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 1: about how much groceries and gasaw Dude, when you wish,

636
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 1: when you wish your partner was just cheating on.

637
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 2: You, which is where it is getting cheated on, or

638
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 2: three hundred and eighty eight thousand dollars being stolen from you.

639
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 4: Uh, you can replace a partner, You can't replace the

640
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 4: three hundred and eighty eight immediately.

641
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah this well, money comes and goes.

642
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you lose three hundred and eighty thousand dollars, you

643
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: get no more dollars.

644
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 3: Fluctuation of life.

645
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: Not only do I have to worry he may do

646
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: something like this again, we just view money and spending

647
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: so differently. I'm afraid I'm going to have to lead

648
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: him on our finances forever, which I never wanted to

649
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 1: do that for my husband. I love being independent and

650
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 1: make my own money, but I wanted a husband to

651
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: lead me.

652
00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 3: Is he really changed? Can we heal? Is it broken forever? Well?

653
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: I ever get feelings back? Will he do something like

654
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 1: this again? I don't want to hurt my kids. Divorce

655
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: is so painful, and I grew up with it let

656
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: alone imagining having fifty percent custody of them or something

657
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: like that would unlive me. I'm so lost, so betrayed,

658
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: and feel so alone in my own marriage. All of

659
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,239
Speaker 1: this stuff is so not my wheelhouse, and I'm not

660
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 1: an investigator. My two friends that I know and one

661
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: sister are helping me, but any actual financial advice is helpful.

662
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 1: I don't even know where to begin, aside from checking

663
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 1: his credit. I have my own money too, with a

664
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 1: financial advisor as my fourrowin K for retirement that he

665
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: doesn't have access to. Thank God, He's ruined our financial stability,

666
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: and I'm so beyond betrayed. Divorce is such a huge undertaking.

667
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: Like we have a life, house, assets, share, group of friends.

668
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: I'll be a single mom to three kids, lawyers and

669
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: all that would probably use all the money I have.

670
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: I'm guessing that's not where I'm at right now, but

671
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: I never considered it so much until this week. It's

672
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 1: truly not even the money, even though that is maddening

673
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 1: to me. It's about it's being able to trust him.

674
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 1: I just wonder, can you get that back. Will I

675
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: always feel this way? I'm so disconnected from him as

676
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: a partner now because of all of this, And am

677
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 1: I dumb for staying? And can I ever get trust

678
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 1: back in a meaningful way in our marriage? This is

679
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 1: not the first thing to chip away at my trust

680
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: in a relationship, but definitely the biggest. This is like

681
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 1: a plot to a movie, except it's my life. I

682
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 1: can't believe I'm in this mess because of who I'm

683
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: tied to and just how royally completely dumb he was

684
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: making bad decision after bad decision, involving so much money,

685
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,960
Speaker 1: and money that wasn't even his. I worked so hard

686
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 1: to have financial freedom, not to mention a one hundred

687
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: and twenty five thousand dollars that could have really set

688
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: us up for stability.

689
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 3: Now gone, and marrying him ended up being the.

690
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: Worst financial decision I've ever made. There's so many more details,

691
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 1: but this is the main story. So we've got more

692
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: and we have Yeah, I'll get to this update real quick.

693
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 5: Hey it's Sam. We're going to get back to the stories.

694
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 5: But here's three minutes bads from our sponsor. I feel

695
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 5: like a lot of my emotion isn't in the post.

696
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 5: It's all the details.

697
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: When I found this all out, I felt like I

698
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: passed away inside.

699
00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 3: I was about to have a baby.

700
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 1: It was honestly so overh I cried so much, so

701
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 1: much that it impacts my life and my kids' lives.

702
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 1: Was done without any regard for our well being. He

703
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 1: is saying this is all of it. I just don't

704
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 1: know if it is or will there be more in

705
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: the future. What I've done so far. Change the banking passwords. Yes,

706
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: we need that. He has no access to that need

707
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: to run all our credit My business money has always

708
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:22,959
Speaker 1: been in a different account.

709
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 3: He now doesn't have access to it.

710
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: But because he doesn't have online access to our bank account,

711
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 1: is lock him out in physical too?

712
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 3: Like we like every single way here.

713
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: We need to do this. Pray to God there isn't

714
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: more ready to be unearthed. And we have an update

715
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: from the comment section.

716
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 2: Actually, but dude, I feel so bad for this woman

717
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 2: because she's trying to restore a relationship that is completely gone.

718
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 2: I mean you can see that too. She wants someone

719
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 2: that can leader. He feels so mad at him for

720
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 2: being dumb, not like I'm totally done and like gone

721
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 2: with this man and the one sentence that just puts

722
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 2: it into the cement permanent. I'm not the person I

723
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 2: used to be. From those words, you can now see

724
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 2: his actions and realize you're not his priority. His kid's

725
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 2: on his priority. Yeah, and he's only worried about himself

726
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 2: and whatever the heck he wants to spend his money on.

727
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 2: You're not one of those things he's trying to protect.

728
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 2: And from what I see, Opie, you want someone that

729
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 2: is a leader and a protector. He's changed, that's not him.

730
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 2: You're gonna have to figure out a way to go

731
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 2: on without him, Like it's a new ball game now.

732
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I completely agree. Like he is one hundred and

733
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: ten million percent untrustworthy. You can't trust literally anything. So

734
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: assume we have to assume everything he says is a lie,

735
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 1: to be conservative.

736
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 3: To be prepared for the worst.

737
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 1: And I do think too obviously feel so much for

738
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: op and chat Chat is kind of saying this right

739
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: now and has been throughout this story. But she had

740
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 1: a divorce. You know, her parents were divorced. Rather growing up,

741
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: there comes a point where you kind of have to

742
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: sit down and say, Okay, I obviously went through a

743
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 1: divorce as a kid, but this scenario and like, yes,

744
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: ideally you don't go through a divorce having children, but

745
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: you don't go through divorce because you have a healthy,

746
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: functioning relationship, Like it's you not divorcing is just the

747
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: byproduct of just having the good relationship. So you kind

748
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: of like Opie, Like again, I'm not trying to bash

749
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 1: on her, but there comes a point where it's like

750
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: you have to kind of get over the fear of

751
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: the divorce and say this just needs to happen.

752
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 2: And Renick, could you go up for a second, I'm

753
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 2: gonna call someone out. RENI No, the leader comment just

754
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 2: gave me such of an eck. Please don't ever say

755
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 2: that again. Riley. She said that that's what she said

756
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: in her relationship, and I'm just referring to because I've

757
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 2: seen this in my life before a lot. That's what

758
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 2: she wanted and expected of the relationship. But she can

759
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 2: no longer rely on that because he's not a reliable

760
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 2: person whatsoever.

761
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 3: Sophia said in the chat, some woman do like to

762
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 3: be led. It's a matter of preferences.

763
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like if someone is basically like, hey, can you

764
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 1: like be in charge of finances? That's what I'm looking

765
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: for and then the other person's like, oh, yeah, that's

766
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 1: actually what I like to do.

767
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 2: Match, And it sucks. They've been together for eleven years

768
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: and now three kids within the last two three years.

769
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:09,319
Speaker 3: This comes up.

770
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 2: What do you do?

771
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 3: What can you do?

772
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,319
Speaker 2: You've just been girl Boston doing your own small business, yeah,

773
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,280
Speaker 2: paying for your wedding, in paying for your own wedding,

774
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,400
Speaker 2: paying for your house. And he's over here. He probably

775
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 2: got bored doing a corporate job. Seeing I probais it.

776
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 2: But I've seen people in the corporate world where they

777
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: just kind of do a little bit of this and

778
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: they just kind of out and they get bored. And dude,

779
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 2: I'm telling you, when I get bored, I'm like the

780
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 2: worst person ever. I need something to like encourage me

781
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 2: to like keep going and doing something crazy.

782
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: You need the Golden Retriever's ball to be constantly like

783
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: running after exactly.

784
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. So, and he's probably bored and he's like

785
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna he's literally, uh, he's addicted, and he's

786
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 2: just spending his money away and he's just wasting his time.

787
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 2: Just that's his life.

788
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 3: Dude's insane.

789
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 1: How little care he has for his wife and his

790
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: children like literally none.

791
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think she's hit with Nile right now.

792
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 2: She still thinks there's a way to get this back together.

793
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 3: M h.

794
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 2: And I know for a fact after this update she's

795
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 2: gonna start going more and more into y also did this.

796
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 2: He also said this to my mom like the red

797
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 2: fox gonna be popping up left and right here.

798
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 3: Well, Riley, we do have said update sitting here on

799
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 3: my lap.

800
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: Oh boy, can I use the bathroom?

801
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 3: Please go?

802
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 2: I'll be right back.

803
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 1: We need to take a little break, ladies and gentlemen,

804
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: because this is this is too much. So Helena Bain

805
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 1: says in all calfs she needs to understand that she

806
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: is and has been leading.

807
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 3: This whole relationship. This is true.

808
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: Dretto for says he sounds like he got into game

809
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 1: stop stocks deal too late and was trying to catch

810
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: the next big boom. Guys, just just wait, just wait

811
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: until it goes back up.

812
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,439
Speaker 3: AMC. I swear like it's coming back.

813
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 4: What do you?

814
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 3: What do you think about all this?

815
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 4: Kon It's a difficult situation. I think someone someone had

816
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 4: a comment earlier, and it's hard for OPI because she

817
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 4: was also just gave birth yeah, and like she's worried

818
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 4: about that and like it's in like shell shock.

819
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 3: That was what they said.

820
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 4: We find the comment, because that was actually a really

821
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 4: good comment that stuck out to me. I don't know

822
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:08,919
Speaker 4: if we can find it. It's a little bit further.

823
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 4: Uh right here, Amy de OPI's in shell shock and

824
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 4: is in a hormonal turmoil after giving birth. She'll come

825
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 4: to her senses, hopefully sooner than later. But yeah, like ope,

826
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,959
Speaker 4: there's like just a thought about this. It doesn't seem

827
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 4: real to me. Yeah, it just doesn't seem real that

828
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 4: it's same. Say, if my partner did this, no, car Yeah,

829
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 4: I don't think she would ever. But if my partner

830
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:33,959
Speaker 4: did this and took that amount of money, I would

831
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 4: be baffled. And like that's not who Carly, So.

832
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 2: Honestly, on you should get ahead of that and go

833
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 2: ahead and check her credit and maybe see any debtors

834
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 2: and see if she's got anything behind closed doors. We

835
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 2: need to figure out what if we need to get

836
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: to the bottom of this guy. Right now.

837
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: We can't let this yeah to anybody else. We can't

838
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 3: let it have it again.

839
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,359
Speaker 2: Oh my god, like happy birthday. Your money's gone, all right?

840
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 2: But ladies and gentlemen, that's faked.

841
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 3: But this is real.

842
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: This next update is staring us in the face. Let's

843
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: get into it. So update from the comment section. I

844
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: don't remember if I had posted stuff on this, but

845
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 1: he had us in deferment from our mortgage from when

846
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 1: he was laid off, and he said we are going

847
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:22,320
Speaker 1: to start paying it again in November, which has always

848
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 1: come from his salary. And then I found it in

849
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 1: March that we actually weren't paying for it since December.

850
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 3: Goda love it.

851
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 1: We paid it once, then he extended the deferment, so

852
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 1: basically he made one payment so he could skip.

853
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 3: All the others.

854
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 2: Oh my god, he.

855
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 1: Had gotten another deferment without even telling me.

856
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 3: I was effing lived.

857
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 1: I found out because we got some notice in the

858
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 1: mail saying we've been trying to get a hold of

859
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: you and if you don't respond, there could be a

860
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: lean on your house. That's right, we could now become homeless. Well,

861
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: he had just got home from work and I was

862
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: in full panic, and he was like, they said that

863
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: by accident.

864
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 3: I just got off the phone with them, et cetera.

865
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 2: It said that by accident. Lies.

866
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 3: Oh my blood is boiling with the lies going on.

867
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: You owe me one hundred and twenty five thousand dollars

868
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 2: or I'm gonna take your apartment in car. Rather, it

869
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 2: was just just said that by accident. It just slipped out.

870
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,760
Speaker 3: It's just, you know, just one of those things.

871
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:22,479
Speaker 2: It's all good.

872
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 1: God, I'm like, this sounds like a perfect excuse. Apparently

873
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: they did send it by mistake. What okay, who's telling

874
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: you this then?

875
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 3: Okay?

876
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 2: Or your husband?

877
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there's one.

878
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 2: You can definitely know it's not right.

879
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: New eviction notice from photoshop dot com. Oh my god,

880
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 1: they hadn't updated that. We were allowed to deferment. I

881
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:49,359
Speaker 1: don't know. It all seems too convenient. If there is

882
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 1: something that gets messed up with our home, I will

883
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: lose my mind. I need to look at our checking

884
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: to see the transactions, because I had thought the money

885
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 1: had come out of our account or I was just

886
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 1: assuming it comes out of the which I don't use.

887
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 1: I use my points card and his salary goes into

888
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,880
Speaker 1: that account. So that's what got me into this mess

889
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: is I haven't tracked his spending.

890
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't know where any of that.

891
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 1: It seems like we don't know where any of the

892
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 1: money is going anyhow?

893
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 2: Wait, what's that one? Like rocket rocket something?

894
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 3: Come rocket?

895
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 2: No? No, no, rocket money, rocket money, so you can track

896
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:22,839
Speaker 2: where everything's going.

897
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 3: What's the cold that I don't know?

898
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 2: Like like it's like rocket mortgage or like that online

899
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 2: thing app where you can like track where you're Yeah,

900
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 2: give one of those apps that track where all the

901
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 2: spinding's going and sign him up for it. Please, You'd

902
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: be like, oh, so, yeah, anything anything anyhow, We're gonna

903
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 2: start therapy soon.

904
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: That to me sounds like they're staying together. I've been

905
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 1: deep in my thoughts about it all. Obviously I have

906
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: love for him, I've been dealing with him my whole

907
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: adult life, but like, I feel nothing. I feel no

908
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 1: attraction or desire for him. I feel passed away about

909
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: us as a couple, Like I honestly don't know if

910
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to be able to get back there with him. Divorce,

911
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:05,239
Speaker 1: even just splitting up our effing home assets sounds impossible.

912
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 3: This is not what I wanted or ever saw for myself.

913
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: But I don't know if I'm going to get it

914
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 1: back for him. I feel so effing heartbroken about my kids.

915
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: I have a five month old baby. Splitting up time

916
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 1: with my kids sounds horrific, But I don't know. At

917
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 1: one point I'm going to be settling. It's at this

918
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: point staying with him is settling. Yes, can I ever

919
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 1: get trust back? And more so, can I ever get

920
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 1: my attraction back to him?

921
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 3: And what's the answer, Riley?

922
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 4: No?

923
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,919
Speaker 2: No, run, run, run, run, run, run run. He doesn't

924
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 2: have attraction for you anymore because he's spending your money

925
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 2: as a couple. He's spent is gone.

926
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: He is busting nuts worth tens of thousands of dollars.

927
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 2: She's in denial because I don't blame her. She's afraid

928
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 2: to start over.

929
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: Every time he clicks that trade button, bro is creaming.

930
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 2: And I feel horrible for this woman because if she

931
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 2: decides to go down the path of separation, no more city,

932
00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 2: no more small business, she's gonna have to go to

933
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 2: a small town with their kids, into her mom's house

934
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 2: or sister's house, and that's gonna be your new life.

935
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,760
Speaker 2: And she has to start over like that that's scary.

936
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: Like yeah, like ah, And I feel like if we

937
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 1: start over and now, I mean, he's already taken so much,

938
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to imagine at least I will say,

939
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: here's one thing we haven't said. At least they aren't well,

940
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, at least they aren't in debt,

941
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: because but they have four thousand dollars cash I think,

942
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 1: not four thousand dollars positive on their network.

943
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 3: There they have to be in debt, Yeah they.

944
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's in heck.

945
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 1: Oh man, it's been months and I've been asking to

946
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: be kept in the loop telling me what's going on.

947
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 3: I've told him he.

948
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,280
Speaker 1: Needs to get a side job to pay for his debt,

949
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: which starts in May. That was a whole other maddening

950
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: convo because he was not upfront about the info either,

951
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: and I had to ask over and over about it

952
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 1: before I finally got the info. By the way, if

953
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: you are angry like everyone sitting in this room, is

954
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,640
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955
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956
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959
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Speaker 3: But Riley, we are almost at the end.

960
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 2: Macer's racer said it I'm really getting mad at op

961
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 2: for not protecting the kids. Yeah, back asking him, be

962
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 2: getting on him for a month. Girl, you do not

963
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 2: have time or space, frankly, or resources to be asking.

964
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 2: It should be demanding or you're gone.

965
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 3: Yeah you can't, baby, you gotta do this.

966
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,280
Speaker 2: He doesn't understand the weight that he's put on his family,

967
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 2: and it seems like you understand it, but you don't

968
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: want to put that weight on him because you know

969
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,240
Speaker 2: he can't handle it, Like you gotta, you gotta make moves.

970
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is no.

971
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,919
Speaker 2: We've reached the point where it's like you're harming your kids.

972
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:50,759
Speaker 2: You're harming yourself because it's like he can, I don't know,

973
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 2: continue stealing from the kid.

974
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 3: He can get like.

975
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 1: He's already destabilized. Like just a fact that you stayed

976
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 1: in a relationship with him and kept act to the

977
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: bank accounts means that he screwed your children's future over

978
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,720
Speaker 1: that much more right, it's it's already done. And guess

979
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 1: what we know he will not stop. No, he will

980
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 1: not stop at all. Kea Terra Rain says he should

981
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 1: get nothing in divorce.

982
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 3: He already got hundreds of thousands.

983
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: Also, in what world does she not get one hundred

984
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 1: percent custody.

985
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 3: I mean like, oh yeah, I mean, look, the courts

986
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 3: can fail us.

987
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,280
Speaker 1: We know this, but like I don't know, like if anything,

988
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: I'm like Lisbee says, she's put up absolutely no boundaries. Yeah,

989
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: like I haven't heard, like like she changed the accounts,

990
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:35,800
Speaker 1: but like where's I don't know. Yeah, it's just not Yeah,

991
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 1: I think Mingming said I don't want a victim blame

992
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 1: my uugh, Like, yes, that's why I'm too, Like I

993
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 1: don't want to bash oh because oh p is the

994
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: victim here, like he did all of this to her,

995
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 1: but like you just need to get out.

996
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 3: I just don't know.

997
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,280
Speaker 2: It's not a hit her yet. She's in this denile face. Yeah,

998
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:54,879
Speaker 2: needs to hit her. Oh all right, well.

999
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 1: Let's let's let's close this out here is this is

1000
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: this a whole episode story right here?

1001
00:43:58,640 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 3: Oh wow, we got more?

1002
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 2: Okay, there we go.

1003
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: So we had a big talk this last weekend about

1004
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 1: it all, and just like what more high stakes does

1005
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 1: he need to step up? Give me info, lead and

1006
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 1: make a plan. He stepped up in other ways around

1007
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 1: the house. He's a great dad. Again incorrect, but it's

1008
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: just like I don't know, I've never been in a

1009
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 1: traumatic situation like this, really deep in my thoughts, like

1010
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: how do I get my feelings back for him?

1011
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:23,320
Speaker 3: You don't.

1012
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: Getting a divorce or dating as a thirty seven year

1013
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: old with three kids sounds horrible and like I'll be

1014
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: alone for a while. Financially being on my own as

1015
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 1: someone who has a new baby is always harder for

1016
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 1: the woman. I own my own biz and make good money,

1017
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,800
Speaker 1: but I have insurance through my husband to have double

1018
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 1: income household, et cetera.

1019
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 3: I just feel so stuck and so sad about this all.

1020
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: I hate to say it, but I don't know if

1021
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:47,760
Speaker 1: we made any progress in this entire ordeal.

1022
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 2: Nah. No, we were putting faith in a man that

1023
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 2: proven not to be faithful or lead worthy. Yeah, it's

1024
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 2: like like, Okay, I've been waiting on him for for

1025
00:44:58,960 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 2: him to do it.

1026
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 1: Should he do it? Should he have done it? Absolutely?

1027
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: Is he going to do it now? No, like we've Yeah, so.

1028
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 2: Probably didn't put us off to it. Some in your

1029
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 2: life has to kind of change once you've noticed your

1030
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 2: partners eating out, more, smoking, more, doing all these things.

1031
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, she had to notice that he was spending and

1032
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 1: doing other things more than he was.

1033
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, because he ordering for like he's getting takeout, but

1034
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 4: like what is he ordering? Like lobster every night? I

1035
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 4: uh to rack? That amount is insane.

1036
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 2: And two she's like, oh, he probably doesn't want to

1037
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 2: like confront it. It sounds like she has to confront it,

1038
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 2: but she also doesn't want to confront.

1039
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,760
Speaker 4: Yes, I just don't think she's coming terms to reality

1040
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 4: right now. She I mean I wouldn't either. I would like,

1041
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 4: this is not reality, this is this is fake. This

1042
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 4: can't be real in this amount, like in that span

1043
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 4: of time.

1044
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:53,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe her brain is just broken.

1045
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 2: And now she just thinks she lives in the matrix

1046
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 2: or something because it's like this is too this is

1047
00:45:57,480 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 2: just too insane.

1048
00:45:58,560 --> 00:45:59,120
Speaker 3: Too crazy.

1049
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 2: Nago Ego says she needs good friends. Yeah, yeah, all right.

1050
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 3: But that's it. That's all.

1051
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 1: That's all we got. That's literally it. But I have

1052
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 1: some potentially good news, something to change the vibe a

1053
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,360
Speaker 1: little bit, but hopefully for the better.

1054
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 2: And that's this next story.

1055
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:20,319
Speaker 3: Hey, it's Sam.

1056
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to these stories.

1057
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1060
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1061
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Speaker 2: to his graduation. Found out today that he did, in

1062
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 2: fact invite his family. Throwaway account because I'm tired of

1063
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1064
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Speaker 2: a duel.

1069
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Speaker 4: We got a double right here.

1070
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:59,760
Speaker 2: It's like we've got two POV's here. Oh, let's freaking

1071
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 2: Oh those are the best to start off. My husband

1072
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,880
Speaker 2: is graduating from Office Candidate School in two weeks.

1073
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: Office Candidate School, you're officially a candidate for office congratulations?

1074
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:14,959
Speaker 2: Okay, Ke, could you look up for that? Is? Is? Yeah,

1075
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 2: like what John just got back from Entrepreneur podcast Academy.

1076
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 2: I mean, at least that makes sense. What is an

1077
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:24,319
Speaker 2: office candidate like?

1078
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 3: Okay?

1079
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:29,440
Speaker 4: Office Candidates School is or OCS is a program for

1080
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 4: civilians and enlisted service members to become commission officers in

1081
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 4: the United States military.

1082
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 2: Oh, civilian to army man, I see Okay, congrats.

1083
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:41,360
Speaker 3: Got it.

1084
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:44,280
Speaker 4: Find out if you're qualified. That's the first thing. All right, crazy,

1085
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 4: let's do it.

1086
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 2: Let's all sign up for it. The stream from the

1087
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:50,800
Speaker 2: Army Oh boy. To start off, my husband is graduating

1088
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 2: from Office Canada School in two weeks, which is where

1089
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 2: a civilian becomes an army man. He's been gone for

1090
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 2: six months. He was home for Christmas for two weeks,

1091
00:47:57,760 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: and I've been a stay at home mama to our

1092
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,360
Speaker 2: almost two year old little one. I've been blessed to

1093
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 2: be able to be at home, but single parenting is

1094
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 2: no joke and have mostly been in it during a pandemic. Anyway,

1095
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: he wasn't able to have guests at his graduation from

1096
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: boot Camp BCT, but he was able to have two

1097
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 2: adult guests at his officer graduation and one minor. I

1098
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,359
Speaker 2: actually didn't hear this from my husband. My mother saw

1099
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 2: it on Facebook. I don't have social media aside from Reddit,

1100
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 2: and it was for a graduation that took place last month.

1101
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 2: At the base where he was at was beginning to

1102
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 2: have in person guests, only two guests and one minor

1103
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,880
Speaker 2: and tons of the VID restrictions. I brought this up

1104
00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 2: to my husband last month and he said that it

1105
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,720
Speaker 2: was likely they would be allowed to guests and one minor,

1106
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,720
Speaker 2: but that they weren't quite sure yet and they wouldn't

1107
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 2: know more until close to graduation. I don't know. It

1108
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,320
Speaker 2: seems like they know if they're posted on first book.

1109
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1110
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 2: I think he just had to save that for the

1111
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,879
Speaker 2: other two people that he had going, his other wife

1112
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 2: and his other kid. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, those Tiger family,

1113
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 2: Ticcer family. We then talked about how it might be

1114
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 2: difficult for me to travel with a little one, that

1115
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 2: the little one wouldn't sit still during the ceremony, the

1116
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 2: vid et cetera. I also had a possible surgery I

1117
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 2: was going to have to have, but ended up pushing

1118
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 2: it back to when my husband returns for training four

1119
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 2: sixteen weeks in July. Okay, fast forward a few weeks ago.

1120
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 2: We talked about graduation again, and he says he invited

1121
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 2: his dad and brother that they were getting a hotel

1122
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 2: and attending his graduation. I didn't ask why his mom

1123
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,920
Speaker 2: was going. I just figured, okay, two people are allowed

1124
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 2: per candidate, so he invited his brother and his dad.

1125
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:35,800
Speaker 2: I tried not to be upset because we were actually

1126
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 2: never formally invited. It was almost like my husband was

1127
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 2: coming up with excuses as to why we shouldn't go. Okay,

1128
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,279
Speaker 2: I am a little confuser because she was kind of

1129
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 2: like being like, well, it'd be hard for me and

1130
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: the baby to make it. I'm not really sure. She

1131
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 2: didn't seem like super on board about coming to the graduation.

1132
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 3: But I mean, I think the correct me if I'm wrong.

1133
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 1: He knew that he had the possibility of being able

1134
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 1: to invite the two of them and then just ever

1135
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 1: said anything.

1136
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 2: Got it.

1137
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 1: And that's where it's like, hey, yeah, maybe I couldn't

1138
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 1: have gone anyways, but it's like, why are you not

1139
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 1: telling me about your graduation or like inviting.

1140
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 3: Me to your graduation?

1141
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,879
Speaker 1: Like it would be like is it possible that he

1142
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 1: was like dumb enough to that's just an oversight.

1143
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 2: Yes, I think it's an I think it's possible, but

1144
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 2: not likely. Yeah, flash forward to today. I asked my

1145
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 2: husband if more than two people were allowed to go

1146
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 2: to the graduation as of now two weeks out, and

1147
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 2: his response was, yeah, only two, but I might be

1148
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 2: able to get tickets. We will see. My friend is

1149
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,840
Speaker 2: only having his wife attend, so he has one ticket available.

1150
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 2: Then I said, okay, that's cool. I told him that

1151
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 2: my neighbor, who was a former army, asked me today

1152
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 2: if we were going to my husband's graduation to wish.

1153
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 2: I explained to him that they were only allowed two

1154
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 2: people and that husband's brother and dad were going. I

1155
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 2: told my husband I was pretty bummed because I kept

1156
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 2: getting asked about his graduation. He instantly got upset at

1157
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 2: me and told me I had no right to be

1158
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 2: upset because I had chosen not to attend. Hello, you

1159
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 2: were never actually invited me. But I can't say that

1160
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 2: because he claims he did ask me. She just was like,

1161
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,360
Speaker 2: it might be hard for me to go. That's the

1162
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 2: only conversation they had about it.

1163
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1164
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 2: Then he goes on to tell me his mom and

1165
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:11,760
Speaker 2: sister are also both going.

1166
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 3: What haven't we used all of our passes except for

1167
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:15,920
Speaker 3: the kid passed the minor path.

1168
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, the kid can probably go, but you can't go

1169
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 2: with pee, dude, not you. I was like, Wow, Okay,

1170
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 2: that's cool, but in my mind I was floored. And

1171
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:25,480
Speaker 2: then he went on about how they just want to

1172
00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:27,719
Speaker 2: support him and that he hopes he can get them

1173
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 2: all tickets. But he was up front with them about that,

1174
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 2: not being one hundred percent sure he would be able to. Nonetheless,

1175
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 2: they were flying out two days before and then staying

1176
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 2: for two days after the graduation to hang out with

1177
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 2: his family. You can imagine how I feel at this point.

1178
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 2: Then my husband tells me if I want to go now,

1179
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 2: to let him know so he can tell his mom

1180
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,799
Speaker 2: and sister to know to cancel. So you're going now,

1181
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:50,840
Speaker 2: so I can tell my mom and sister to cancel,

1182
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 2: because I know how you get around my mom and them. Well, whoa, whoa?

1183
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:57,840
Speaker 2: Just keep shoving the knife in deeper, will you. I know,

1184
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:01,720
Speaker 2: I don't even address this cide because he's hardly ever

1185
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 2: assigned responsibility to his family for our strained relationship, and

1186
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 2: he constantly pins me as a bad person without acknowledging

1187
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 2: all the hurtful things they've done to me, not even

1188
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 2: worth arguing about.

1189
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems this to me is seems to be

1190
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 1: the underlying thing here. It's like, yeah, I think the

1191
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 1: mom and says are like, oh, well.

1192
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 2: You have to invite us.

1193
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:24,800
Speaker 3: You can't invite o be and your.

1194
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 2: Kid to your own graduation. Come on, just to wait.

1195
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: So then a short time later we speak over the phone,

1196
00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 2: and then he tells me just to come and that

1197
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 2: I can hang out with his brother outside and toward

1198
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:38,359
Speaker 2: the museum, which left me to the assumption, if you're

1199
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 2: only allowed two people inside a base for the graduation,

1200
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,839
Speaker 2: you're not picking me, I'm assuming. Then I politely ask

1201
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 2: him if me and the little one can book our

1202
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 2: own hotel room, since I'm still front airbag feeding my

1203
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 2: little one, but also because I often change my tops

1204
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 2: a lot, et cetera. I obviously wouldn't be comfortable sharing

1205
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 2: a room with his family either, but I didn't mention

1206
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 2: that he was upset and said we would all have

1207
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:04,319
Speaker 2: to share a room, same flights, et cetera. Than the

1208
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 2: topic was dropped, and I was a feeling like my

1209
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: husband is a pos I don't even know how to

1210
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 2: express how hurt I feel. Sure he eventually invited me,

1211
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 2: but after I brought it up, I felt bummed out.

1212
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 2: I've never felt more like an afterthought. All of his

1213
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 2: friends wives are going, and his entire immediate family is going.

1214
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 2: Gro you're a part of his immediate family. Yes, you

1215
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 2: are his family like immediate family at that Surely he

1216
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:30,279
Speaker 2: didn't tell his friends that he actually didn't invite me.

1217
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 2: I'm assuming he told them that I did not want

1218
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 2: to go. I sment the entire afternoon crying my eyes out.

1219
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 2: He's going to be home soon and I couldn't be

1220
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 2: dreading it more. Edit fixed my baby's age as to

1221
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:43,759
Speaker 2: not to offend anyone who's bothered by listing months and

1222
00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:47,520
Speaker 2: not years. Okay, that's funny, and we got an update.

1223
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1224
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 3: I don't like this relationship.

1225
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: I mean we got we got the kicker, which was

1226
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: he doesn't defend Oki to his family members, who.

1227
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 2: Especially the mom and sister. It seems like, yeah, so, Alicia,

1228
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. This isn't even an issue about the graduation,

1229
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 2: to be honest, it's an entire relationship issue where they

1230
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,720
Speaker 2: don't communicate and don't even seem to be getting along

1231
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 2: that part.

1232
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's that is what it seems to be.

1233
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 1: And he just like isn't really caring. It seems like,

1234
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 1: you know, it was a month the graduation here when

1235
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:24,400
Speaker 1: it was a month ago. Yeah, and nope, he just

1236
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 1: found out like by accident basically. Yeah, so he wasn't

1237
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 1: gonna tell her, like, dang, update, do we think she

1238
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:34,319
Speaker 1: went or not? Everyone pre your answers in the comments below.

1239
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: Let's see, I could have find the throwaway account, so

1240
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:38,319
Speaker 1: I made a post a couple of weeks ago. So

1241
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 1: this is from her other account, I see. So we

1242
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 1: don't get to see the other pov. Not even sure

1243
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: what it began, but a lot has happened since I

1244
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,359
Speaker 1: posted a couple of weeks ago. My husband is home

1245
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:50,840
Speaker 1: from the military. He was at school and training and

1246
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,439
Speaker 1: his graduation took place last Thursday. His mom and dad,

1247
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 1: brother and sister were all invited in attendance. I was

1248
00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 1: really sad about the entire thing, but I did make

1249
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: the best of the day, and the little one, almost

1250
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 1: a two year old, celebrated.

1251
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: In our own way. We went out to eat and

1252
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:06,400
Speaker 2: enjoyed a nice stay at the beach. My husband was

1253
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:09,400
Speaker 2: still sticking to his version of events that he invited

1254
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 2: me I was supposed to be unable to attend, and

1255
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 2: that his family was going, and that he was getting

1256
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 2: them extra tickets. Each candidate was given two adult tickets

1257
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 2: in one minor ticket. He spent the day of the

1258
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 2: graduation and the day after with his family and came

1259
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:25,759
Speaker 2: home last weekend. We had a good family reunion of

1260
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 2: just the three I picked him up from the airport,

1261
00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 2: and LO and I were happy to see him. Came

1262
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,360
Speaker 2: to a head. On the third day of his arrival,

1263
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 2: I saw tons of pictures online of the graduation, many

1264
00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 2: of his fellow classmates and other spouses and children in attendance.

1265
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 2: Some had their parents, only a few had siblings. I

1266
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 2: brought this up to my husband as I was confused.

1267
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 2: He told me the real reason he did not want

1268
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 2: me there was because he didn't want me to fight

1269
00:55:50,040 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 2: with his mother over who would pin him.

1270
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,839
Speaker 3: Uh, there we go, there it is. Go at least

1271
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 3: we've discovered it.

1272
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:08,279
Speaker 2: Emombo Mama's boy, Mama's boy. Dude, that's crazy like that one.

1273
00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 2: Where'd that come from? Domod f That's a song that

1274
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 2: makes so much more sense. Oh Elo means little one?

1275
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 2: Oh you said l O, and I I was like,

1276
00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 2: what little one?

1277
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 3: It was?

1278
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 2: J Lo Reddy? Can we stop using abbreviations please, it's confusing,

1279
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:27,399
Speaker 2: it's too much soon to b X husband, that one's

1280
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,400
Speaker 2: the worst one. Yeah, Like, come on.

1281
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 3: I always think it's like Starbucks' stv X. Yeah, that's it.

1282
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:35,240
Speaker 3: That's an insane excuse.

1283
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 1: And also to the main the big hidden nugget that

1284
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 1: we got earlier of like, yeah, he doesn't like defend

1285
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 1: me to his family or anything, so like instead of

1286
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:47,719
Speaker 1: having his wife and his child, but you know, like

1287
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 1: basically his wife be there, he would rather appease his mom.

1288
00:56:52,640 --> 00:56:55,520
Speaker 1: So that way they don't have to fight over who's

1289
00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:57,399
Speaker 1: going to pin the pin.

1290
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 2: Yep, exactly, jacket easy. That sounds like a great place

1291
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 2: for a foundation or relationship.

1292
00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:07,840
Speaker 1: I've got another solution, divorce, not yet for this, it's

1293
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:08,879
Speaker 1: not yet, not out.

1294
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:10,239
Speaker 2: But I don't think they should go out together in

1295
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:13,359
Speaker 2: the first place. I mean that should really be we

1296
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 2: have divorce and then we have time machine. Yeah, time gin,

1297
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:18,600
Speaker 2: so you go back in time. You're like, do not

1298
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 2: get a relationship with this person.

1299
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 3: Don't do it.

1300
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 2: For his specific school, he would be pinned on both sides.

1301
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,600
Speaker 2: So again I was confused. So we've been pinned twice,

1302
00:57:27,760 --> 00:57:29,800
Speaker 2: one for his mom, one for his wife.

1303
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: Like I mean, maybe you're only allowed to have one person,

1304
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 1: but it doesn't matter, It doesn't even matter.

1305
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,720
Speaker 2: It's just like, ah God, I asked him why I

1306
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Speaker 2: couldn't pin one side and his mother the other. We

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00:57:38,880 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 2: could have pinned them simultaneously. He then said that his

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00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 2: sister pinned the other side, and that he was afraid

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Speaker 2: I had been in attendance. I would have wanted to

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00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:51,040
Speaker 2: pin both sides. He never communicated this to me, not

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Speaker 2: once I told him that he had communicated this to

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Speaker 2: me back in April. I would have been happy to

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00:57:55,960 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 2: share it in pinning along with his mother. I told

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00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 2: him I was never given the opportunity to talk it

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Speaker 2: through with him. He then went on to say he

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00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:05,440
Speaker 2: didn't communicate it with me because he knew how jealous

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00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:07,400
Speaker 2: that would be, and that there would be no point

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Speaker 2: in bringing it up. Do My favorite part about this

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00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 2: guy is like he already knows what OPI he's about

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00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:14,800
Speaker 2: to say. He already knows what her thoughts are. He

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00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:17,160
Speaker 2: was sort of like in that he's saving time by

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00:58:17,200 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 2: not even asking her. Very efficient man, Listen, Wow, you

1323
00:58:21,440 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 2: know sometimes the fastest way to say something is guess

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00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 2: what schocoletis, gentlemen, by just not saying at all. If

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00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 2: you want pure speed, if you want to be a

1326
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 2: Formula F one racer racing emotions, then don't say anything,

1327
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 2: and it's the quickest way to communicate the nothing that

1328
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:44,600
Speaker 2: you're sharing. Nothing could go wrong there you go, life advices,

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00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 2: I could understand if this had happened before, but I've

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00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 2: never attended any of my husband's ceremonies or graduations before.

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00:58:51,360 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 2: This isn't typical behavior because it's never happened. I do

1332
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 2: not have the best relationship with my in law, specifically

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00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 2: with my mother in law, and that stands for my

1334
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 2: husband's inability to have or establish boundaries with his family.

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Speaker 2: When this conversation was brought up, he stated that he

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Speaker 2: loves us all the same. Although I am his wife

1337
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:09,960
Speaker 2: and we have a baby, it seems like he doesn't

1338
00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:13,280
Speaker 2: view us as our own family unit, but rather as

1339
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 2: an extension of his family. He is fully aware of

1340
00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: things his mother has said to me and now I've

1341
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 2: been treated, and yet he still believes that I'm the

1342
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:22,840
Speaker 2: problem and that I'm the one who needs to make

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Speaker 2: an effort. He went as far to say that even

1344
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 2: if it was his family, isn't making an effort, which

1345
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 2: they did very little of while he was gone, I

1346
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 2: still need to make an effort. And by the way,

1347
00:59:32,400 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 2: you need to make an effort. After the story, go

1348
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 2: to your favorite freaking podcast platform search up Okay Storytime

1349
00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 2: on Apple, iHeartRadio, or Spotify, make an effort and watch

1350
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 2: more stories like this one. Come on, it'll be fun.

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Speaker 3: Do it?

1352
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:48,600
Speaker 2: Do it now equals more effort out? Yes, yes, And John,

1353
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 2: can you find this man's backbone for his family? Is

1354
00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:52,440
Speaker 2: it possible?

1355
00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:53,880
Speaker 3: Oh? I just looked. It doesn't exist.

1356
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 2: Not a thing, it doesn't exist. It's a whisper of air.

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00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean it's Wait. We've said this a million

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00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:00,520
Speaker 3: times the show.

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01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 1: If if a family is stressing out one you know,

1360
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 1: your significant other, If it's your family, it's your job

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01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 1: to go to them and talk to him about it.

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01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 1: So I you know, this is early. We haven't got

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01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 1: accounsel or anything, but it's like, will he ever fix this?

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01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:20,120
Speaker 1: Will he ever actually change his ways? Doesn't seem likely

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01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:22,320
Speaker 1: from where we're sitting and all the information we have

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01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 1: at hand.

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01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 2: I can't help but feel hurt that he has intentionally

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01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 2: excluded us from his graduation and repeatedly deny not inviting me.

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01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 2: He knew what he was doing the entire time. There

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01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:36,040
Speaker 2: was no apology and certainly no remorse of any kind.

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Speaker 2: He feels like he was justified in his actions and

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01:00:38,640 --> 01:00:42,040
Speaker 2: that he had the right not to invite whomever he wanted.

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01:00:42,200 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 2: He expects me to carry on and having a happy

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01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:47,920
Speaker 2: marriage and act like nothing happened. I don't feel like

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01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 2: I'm allowed to have any sort of voice or opinion

1376
01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 2: on how I'm treated, specifically when it comes to his family.

1377
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 2: If I do voice my feelings, they're used against me

1378
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 2: and our users fuel to his agenda that my husband

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01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 2: thanks I have against his family. You hate my family.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:06,160
Speaker 2: I'm seeing that story.

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01:01:06,520 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 1: Iikes, big yikes. This was an episode of big yikes

1383
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 1: across the board. I do have to say, yeah, I

1384
01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 1: do have to say.

1385
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 2: I wish you were I feel like I wish people

1386
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 2: are like able to see a day in the life

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01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:22,600
Speaker 2: of them and their future spouse before they get married.

1388
01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:24,160
Speaker 2: Like there's like a little bit of a glimpse. I

1389
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 2: got fifteen minute video or something, yeah, of like what

1390
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:29,280
Speaker 2: your life's gonna look like. Yeah, and if you hit pause,

1391
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:31,600
Speaker 2: you can like stop and like, you know, I don't know.

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01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 2: There's just has to be something, some kind of technology, yeah,

1393
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:36,200
Speaker 2: out there to predict this kind of thing.

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01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:37,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I so true.

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01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: Ask chat to first create the predicted scenario based on

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01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: everything you got, and then bring it over to have

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01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:46,880
Speaker 1: the video generated and then watch it.

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Speaker 3: That's kind of crazy, kind of crazy.

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01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 2: I feel like you could because humans are people of behavior,

1400
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:55,200
Speaker 2: so you're able to understand every person's behavior beforehand and

1401
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 2: kind of get a glimpse. Yeah, it might work on

1402
01:01:57,760 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 2: something I work on an app. Oh oh coming to

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01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 2: you soon. But you know what's coming to you soon

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01:02:04,640 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 2: is the end of this episode, because it's here right now. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We

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Speaker 2: love you and see you tomorrow.