1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you. 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 1: Here it is thank you nephew subject six feet tall, 3 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: a six pack, and a six figure income. Okay, we'll 4 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: see now as we get into the letter if this 5 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: is actually about j Anthony Brown. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm 6 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 1: a forty year old man and my wife and I 7 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: have a strong marriage and a great life together. We 8 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: just have one little problem in our home. It's my 9 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: wife's sister. My wife's sister has been living with us 10 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: for the past seven years since she got a very 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: nasty divorce. She said it would be temporary until she 12 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 1: got on her feet, but she's still here. I do 13 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: love my sister in law and she contributes to the 14 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: household as much as possible, but she should have moved 15 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: out years ago. My wife and I have one child 16 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: that's in college and the other child is graduating this year, 17 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: so we're close to being empty nesters. My wife has 18 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: told her sister that she can't stay with us forever, 19 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: and every time she has a talk with her, my 20 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: sister in law says she's waiting for mister Wright and 21 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: he must be at least six feet tall with a 22 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: six pack, abs and a six figure income. Now, the 23 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: problem is my sister in law is five feet one, 24 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: two hundred and fifty pounds right, and she isn't able 25 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: to support herself. My wife has introduced her to some 26 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 1: of the guys that she works with, but her sister 27 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: says they're not handsome enough for her, they don't make 28 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: enough money, or they are too short for her. My 29 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: sister in law has told everyone about her stupid requirement 30 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: and now it's a joke behind her back because she 31 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: believes that she is as fine as Beyonce. That and 32 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: she has told us on many occasions that if the 33 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: man isn't equivalent to Idris Elba or Brad Pitt, then 34 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: she's not interested. I don't want to be mean, but 35 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: she's not going to ever pull that type of man, 36 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: and she can't stay in our house forever with her 37 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: crazy fantasies. How can we nicely explain to her that 38 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: her expectations are not realistic. We want her to move out, 39 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: but we want to We don't want to be mean. 40 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:23,959 Speaker 1: What should we do? Please help? Seven years is way 41 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: way too long, okay, And I'm very surprised you guys 42 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: have allowed her to stay all these years. I really 43 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: am what about your privacy, you know, what about your marriage? 44 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: You just want some alone time, you know, to be 45 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: together as husband and wife, for date nights, for intimacy, 46 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,399 Speaker 1: for everything. You want your own house, want to walk 47 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: around naked, whatever you do at your own house, that's 48 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: what you want to do, and you can't do that 49 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: with your sister in law in the house. I think 50 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 1: your sister in law is taking advantage of you, your wife, 51 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: your hospitality, your patients, and definitely your kindness. It's not 52 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: like your wife hasn't talked to her sister. I mean 53 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: she talked to her. But my problem with that is 54 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: is that your wife didn't give her any specifics. You know, 55 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 1: she just said, girl, you can't stay here forever, but 56 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 1: you gotta give her a date. You gotta help her 57 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: start packing. She needs a clear message that her time 58 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,839 Speaker 1: at your house is over now. As far as her 59 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: wanting six feet tall, six pack and six figure income, 60 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: and I mean you can want that, you can definitely 61 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: want that. We all have a right to want whatever 62 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:35,119 Speaker 1: it is we want, but don't use that as an 63 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 1: excuse to stay in your sister's house. Because so called 64 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: mister Wright hasn't come along, Okay, I know you want that, Steve. 65 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: She's five one, she's two hundred and fifty. She can't 66 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: support herself, but she does need to get out, get 67 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 1: her own apartment and move on. Maybe mister Wright will 68 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 1: come then when she's on her own. Steve Harvey take 69 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: it away, sir. Well, you know appreciate you, Shirley. Yeah, 70 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: I love the attitude an approach. You always try to 71 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: find a Christian way to do this hill. But let 72 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: me just start down at the bottom of this letter. 73 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 1: How can we nicely explain to her that her expectations 74 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: are not realistic. We want her to move out, but 75 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 1: we don't want to be mean. What should we do? 76 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 1: You can't be nice? No, damn mo, you got to 77 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: be mean from here on nowt because she's not leaving 78 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: This woman right hill, six feet tall and six pack 79 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 1: and a six figure income. Now hear you? Hear you? 80 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: And your wife put y'all's life together. You got a 81 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: great marriage, you say, got kid in college and one 82 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:51,039 Speaker 1: about to graduate. You almost got everybody at the house, 83 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: but your wife's sister been living with y'all for the 84 00:04:54,200 --> 00:05:02,840 Speaker 1: past seven years after a very nast divorce. Nah, this 85 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: nasty divorce has led to a complication. What do people 86 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: do sometimes when they get divorced to kind of fight 87 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: through the anguish of a nasty divorce? They what eat? 88 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 1: Said again? They eat well this divorce and pushed five 89 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 1: foot one ass up to two fifty. Who she's still 90 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 1: living in her head at the pre divorce weight. This 91 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: is in this damn letter of Shelley. She is living 92 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 1: in the pre divorce weight in her head, which I 93 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: bet you wasn't five foot one, two fifty. That's in 94 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: the letter, isn't it, Shell, No, it isn't, Shirley. It's 95 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: in the letter. The problem is my sister in laws 96 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: five foot one, two fifty and she isn't able to 97 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: support herself. But you don't know how. You don't know 98 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: if she wasn't that while she was married. You don't 99 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: know that. You want to bet you don't know. There's 100 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: no way to prove it. I'm just in the letter. 101 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:25,839 Speaker 1: I'm gonna prove it when I come back. Yeah. I 102 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: need all this time because I have to prove something 103 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: to share. Okay, come on for the old man his wife. 104 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: They had strong marriage life together, got a couple of kids, 105 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: one in college, one about to move out, about to 106 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:38,720 Speaker 1: be empty. Nesta's only problem is his wife's sisters been 107 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 1: lived with him for the past seven years because she 108 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: got a nasty divorce. She said it would be temporary toil. 109 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: She got on her feet for seven years later, she's 110 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: still there. She would have moved out years ago, but 111 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: my wife and anyway and whole like, she's still here now. 112 00:06:53,320 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: She not leaving until she finds one that's six feet 113 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: tall with a six pack and a six figure income. 114 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: That's who she's waiting on. Mister Wrighton, he got to 115 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: be at least six feet tall, six packs and the 116 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: six figures. Here's the problem, he says in his letter. 117 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: The sister in law is five foot one, two hundred 118 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: and fifty pounds and isn't able to support herself now. 119 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: I said, the reason she's stuck in this house is 120 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 1: because she's operating in her mind wanting this six foot 121 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: tall man with the six pack apps and six figure income. 122 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 1: Because in her mind she's talking in pre divorce weight 123 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: what she weighed before the divorce. Because I asked the 124 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 1: question before we went on break and Tommy and Jay answered, 125 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: I said, what happened when people go through a nasty divorce. 126 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: How did they get through it? And they said eat 127 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: now she that ain't a asked to five foot one 128 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: to fifty. But in her mind she's still the fine 129 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: chick that was mad before. She was still on six 130 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: feet six abbs six figure income. Now, how do I know? 131 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: Shirley said, that's not in the letter that it was 132 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: it is, Shirley, you didn't read it, She said, My 133 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: sisters has been living with us for seven years since 134 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: she got a very nasty divorce. Listened to this line. 135 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: She said it would be temporary until she got on 136 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: her feet, right, but she's still here. That's the line. 137 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 1: It was gonna be temporary until she got on her 138 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 1: feet because she knew then. Back then she had a 139 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: chance of getting up on her feet because she was light. 140 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: She can't get up on her feet now because her 141 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 1: big answer is two fifty bass. What this letter is 142 00:08:56,720 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: about now? Not? Here's the other thing. She believes on 143 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: many occasions that the demand isn't equivalent to Indreess Elbow 144 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: or brad Pitt. She's not interested. Here's what y'all need 145 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 1: to do. Let's stop all this being nice. We got 146 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: to get ugly right now, show her a picture or 147 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: who Brad Pitt and Indurss Elbows is dating and who 148 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: they married? Show this picture because this is who they date, 149 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: this is who they married, This is what they look like. 150 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: It's iness birthday too. Your ass ain't getting injurss or 151 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: no damn body else? Let me explain something to show 152 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:47,680 Speaker 1: a picture? Who Eddie Murphy guy? That? Ain't you? Show 153 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: a picture? Who Chris Rock got that? Ain't you? Who 154 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: Will Smith got dad? Ain't you you need a wake 155 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: up call? Get some pictures? Talking about you want some 156 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: damn six foot talk all no ambs, how about this? 157 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: You need somebody five five two hundred pounds and a 158 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: truck that a movie? Your ass out that house, that's 159 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:19,839 Speaker 1: what you need. Now. His numbers is six feet tall, 160 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: six pack and a six figure income. Your numbers five 161 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:29,199 Speaker 1: one two fifty no income. Your numbers don't add up 162 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 1: to his numbers. Now, what you're not gonna do with 163 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: me on this letter? Right here? It's started telling me 164 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 1: that I'm fat shaming. It's in the letter five one 165 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: two Fifty's unrealistic of her to want Brad Pitt. Do 166 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: Brad Pitt wont huh. We're just gonna We're just look 167 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,640 Speaker 1: at numbers. Do you want somebody with seventy more pounds 168 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: than you and nine inches shoulder? He used to love it. Girls. 169 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: Now listen to me. I'm six two, I'm six two, 170 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: about two thirty eight? She heavier than me? How can 171 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: you shell she's thirteen and to shout him? And she 172 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: heavier than me? How can you don't ask Jake because 173 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 1: he stick? You know, Jay probably down, Jay damn near 174 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: Somalian waiting, all right, Jay down? Hum something low right now? 175 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:35,079 Speaker 1: I'm still there. He might say, nay, damn, Jimmy, I 176 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: knew it right now. Jay's way. I can't let weight, 177 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:43,559 Speaker 1: There's no way I can't. And Jay's wait right now 178 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: he could be debating something. He could date Simons Bile. 179 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:53,319 Speaker 1: You gotta go, Thank you, Steve Harvey. You can post 180 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 1: your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook 181 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: and Steve Harvey at them. Don't forget to check out 182 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming. Yes, Steve. 183 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 1: She on her feet right now, walking to the damn refrigerator. 184 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Dave Harvey Morning Show.