1 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: All right, dating, let's talk about competition in relationships. It's 2 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,240 Speaker 1: a real thing, and it doesn't have to be so overt. 3 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: But competition in relationships is a real, real thing for 4 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: many reasons. It's often about insecurity and one person feeling 5 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:38,160 Speaker 1: either inferior or marginalized. And it could go both ways, 6 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: because someone could be good in one way and the 7 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: other person could be good in another way. But and 8 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be so overt. It could be subtle. 9 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: But I have definitely experienced it, and I've also experienced 10 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: someone having something to prove in a relationship where you 11 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: have something going on and then the other person feels 12 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: inferior and they have to have as much going on 13 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 1: for them. They have to justify their value in themselves 14 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 1: within the relationship, and it's a recipe for disaster. The 15 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: ideal situation is two people are going in the same direction, 16 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: but they each have different skill sets, different arenas that 17 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: they operate in, and each your complimentary to the other. 18 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,039 Speaker 1: You could talk to each other about what you're doing, 19 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: but you're not in some sort of like ancillary adjacent 20 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: industry where you're going to feel self conscious if you're 21 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: not doing as well as the other person. I think 22 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,960 Speaker 1: actually that guy, Craig Conover, if that's the one who's 23 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: the one who was dating the girl page, I think 24 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: it was Craig Conover. 25 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 2: I think they. 26 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: Alluded to that, like she alluded to basically, when something 27 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: happened for her, he would either make it about him 28 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: or she would feel self conscious about it because they're 29 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: in similar businesses and they started out at the same place. 30 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: So it's like two housewives starting out at the same 31 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: place is going to be different than one persons working 32 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: in a restaurant. 33 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 2: The other person's a housewife, and they're both succeeding. 34 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: I have friends that are in completely different worlds than 35 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: I am, so there's no discussion about us starting at 36 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:08,359 Speaker 1: the same place. And it happens in relationships. They both 37 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: started in reality TV in that example, and so it 38 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 1: is probably awkward if one person is getting more opportunities 39 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: or more vacations, or more money, or more fame or 40 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: more whatever, and then their gender roles maybe a man's 41 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: getting more than a woman or a woman getting more 42 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: than a man in a career like modeling or something. 43 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,839 Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean it has to be that they're 44 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: bad people. Like let's just pretend that the guy Craig 45 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: could be triggered by how much was going on for her. 46 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 2: First of all, it's a long road, it's a marathon. 47 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: He's apparently now dating some gorgeous girl, Jimmy Buffett's daughter, 48 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 1: and they have to live that publicly, and that's got 49 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:44,920 Speaker 1: to be hard for her, even if she's not still 50 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: into him. It's just a whole mixed bag. But the 51 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: point is it's no one's fault. It's just a dynamic 52 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: that you really do want to avoid. And if you 53 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: find yourself dumbing yourself down and dimming your own light 54 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: because you're worried about what the other person doesn't have, 55 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: or I've historically done this, tried to get the person 56 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: i'm with the job, or get them some part of 57 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: something that I'm doing because I want them to feel 58 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: valued and part of it because I feel self conscious 59 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 1: about all the things happening for me. So it's like, no, 60 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: you would totally add value. Maybe you should get involved, 61 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: Maybe you should invest. I could call them and ask, 62 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: maybe I could get you a job, like I've done that, 63 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 1: and it's a recipe for disaster. 64 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 2: It's really a bad scene. 65 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: I mean, there have been exceptions where opportunities have come 66 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: to me and someone I've been in a relationship can 67 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: add value because it's not my core skill set. It 68 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: can be negotiating a deal or contracts or something. And 69 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: then I mean, what has happened is opportunities have come 70 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: to me. I've known conceptually what I want to do 71 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: with them, and the person that I've with, I've asked 72 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: if they can add value or negotiate. 73 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: And make something happen. 74 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: And then one situation they put up the money because 75 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: the opportunity came for me, but I added the sort 76 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: of marketing value and that was a good partnership. But 77 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: even still I always end up with more equity than 78 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: the other person, and they up feeling marginalized because they 79 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: know that they're a secondary character in it. And it 80 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: comes in many shapes and forms. It can come in 81 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: real estate, it can come in the man's home watching 82 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: the kids. 83 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 2: It can come. 84 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: But I just you gotta really be mindful of it 85 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 1: because in the beginning, it may seem like it's going 86 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 1: to be fine, and a man may seem like he 87 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: doesn't care, but or it may not even be a man. 88 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: It could be two women in a lesbian relationship, it 89 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: will come up. If it's coming up at all, cracks 90 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: become creators. It's a real thing. Competition and relationships is 91 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: a real thing, just like it's a real thing with friendships. 92 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: It could happen with sports. It could happen with pickleball, 93 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: It could happened with tennis, it could happen with weight. 94 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: I've heard situations where a couple is both overweight and 95 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: one of them decides to lose weight, and the other 96 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 1: one feels super self conscious, like they feel they used 97 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: to eat together, they used to self deprecate together, they 98 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: used to self loath together, they used to binge together, 99 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: they used. 100 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 2: To you know, review food together. 101 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: Then one decides to get in shape and the other doesn't, 102 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: and it's awkward and it's weird, and one person could 103 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 1: be jealous, they could be competitive. You could hide that 104 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: you're losing weight. I mean, it happens in so many 105 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 1: different ways. You know, one person decides to just glow up, 106 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: get into health and fitness and become a vegetarian or 107 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 1: a vegan, and the other person wants to lead fried chicken. 108 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: Like it happens, so be mindful of it. Let's talk 109 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 1: about something my therapist said the other day about dating 110 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: someone different than you. So in my dating adventure, I've 111 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,679 Speaker 1: met so many different types, and depending upon who's setting 112 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: me up, there are different types that I meet, and 113 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:40,359 Speaker 1: you know, I always I'm sort of attracted to a 114 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: similar type. And I don't even mean physically, yes, physically, 115 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: I like boys, charm, I like smarter, like conservative, I 116 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: like has no social media opposite of me. I don't 117 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: like a hot shot. I don't like a bragger. But 118 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 1: I like a very successful person, a wealthy person, a 119 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: person who I'm not going to have to hide what 120 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm buying and doing or feel self conscious about money 121 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: as a character relationship. And I have met so many 122 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,279 Speaker 1: people that have like this sort of that East Coast 123 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,239 Speaker 1: you know, flight ball or has an edge, that person. 124 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:13,160 Speaker 1: And more recently I've been introduced to people that are 125 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: a little more conservative in maybe like they're not New Yorkers, 126 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: they're from you know, the South or the Midwest. They're 127 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 1: more conservative, they're more kind, they might be religious, like 128 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: just a different type of person. 129 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 2: And we're usually if you listen, if you're Jewish. 130 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,720 Speaker 1: And your parents want you to marry someone Jewish, and 131 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: that's something that's important to you, or you're Catholic, that's 132 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: you know, that's one thing. 133 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 2: But if if it's really just because of it's what 134 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 2: you know. 135 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: It means like you've only ever you've never tried eggplants, 136 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: so you'll never try eggblup. But then if you start 137 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: making egg plan in different ways, you might actually love it. 138 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: And I mean by this that like, why not try 139 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: to date people that are very different and be open 140 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 1: because you might grow, you might learn something, you might change, 141 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:02,919 Speaker 1: you might become a better person. This person could have 142 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: a good influence on you, could be a good influence 143 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 1: on you. And particularly if you're like me and you've 144 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:09,679 Speaker 1: failed so many times and you've had the worst picker 145 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:14,440 Speaker 1: and you've made the wrong choices, why not try something 146 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: new from a different place, from a different culture, from 147 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 1: a different industry. And that's what I'm finding really fascinating, 148 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: Like it's a nature versus nurture thing. What if two 149 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 1: people are fundamentally similar, meaning they're both good people, they're 150 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: both moral people, they both like to have fun, but 151 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: one grew up one way and another grow up the 152 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: other way. That's just really that's nurture. That means that's 153 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: like society making who each person is versus nature, which 154 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: is who we fundamentally are, you know, And yes, of 155 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: course nurture creates a good person or a bad person. 156 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: But I just mean I have met people that are 157 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: from such different planets than myself. But I've found that 158 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: maybe I'm super braggy, or maybe I, you know, am 159 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: irreverent and outspoken and brash, and maybe someone's a little 160 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 1: more conservative and controlled and quiet, but like we could 161 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: fundamentally be the same. They may not have loud humor, 162 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: they may have a quieter humor, but they get my 163 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: sense of humor. I may be attracted to them because 164 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: they're quiet and conservative. They may be attracted to me 165 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: because I'm wild, and we would seem like an unlikely couple. 166 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: So I've been more open, and I suggest that you 167 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: are too, in the same way that you are with 168 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:23,000 Speaker 1: cuisine or visiting different cultures, or being open to different 169 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: types of people, maybe body types, maybe different sports. 170 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 2: So I am open. 171 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:32,680 Speaker 1: It happens too with people that are like I won't 172 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: date someone bald, I won't date someone short, I won't 173 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: date someone white, I won't date someone black. Like people 174 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: have these things where I won't date someone Jewish, I 175 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: won't date someone Catholic like And I think being just 176 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: open minded about everyone is a great policy because, as 177 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: my therapist says, you're dating an other, that means it's 178 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: an other, a person they're not supposed to be you. 179 00:08:55,480 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: You're not dating yourself or marrying yourself. You're trying to 180 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,439 Speaker 1: create a situation where you have a partner. The sum 181 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: is greater than its parts. In work, in business, a 182 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: good partner is someone who's good at very different things. 183 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: They compliment your skill set. You're like a puzzle that 184 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: fits together. They're not a mirror image of you. You 185 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: don't need two people Bernie Topp and Ellen John they have. 186 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:20,719 Speaker 1: There are on two different sides of this thing. It 187 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: used to be Calvin Klein and Barry Schwartz, the business 188 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: and the creative, Like those are the best marriages. So 189 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: the best marriages are probably opposite sides of the coin. 190 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: I actually don't know why, but I just thought of 191 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: like Lisa and Harry Hamlin. They're going in the same direction, 192 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: but they're very different. He's sort of more cerebral and 193 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 1: you know, quiet, and she's been out there and outspoken. 194 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: He appreciates her for who she is. He's not dumbing 195 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,439 Speaker 1: her down, and they celebrate each other. So I would 196 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: just say for me, I am trying to be very 197 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: open minded in this next chapter and learn and grow. 198 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: Real estate brokers are scumbags. Let's talk about real estate. 199 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: I've been going through a real estate transaction recently, and 200 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: I am a trusting person, which is shocking because I've 201 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: been so fucked over my whole life. It's shocking. But 202 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: I met with some real estate brokers recently. One person 203 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: showed me something that I really liked and did not disclose, 204 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:13,840 Speaker 1: which in my brief time trying to study for the 205 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,959 Speaker 1: real estate exam, which I failed every single quiz. I 206 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 1: Paul and I were both failing the quiz he's in 207 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 1: real estate. 208 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 2: It was pserahical but not that funny. But I don't 209 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:23,079 Speaker 2: think it's that easy. And I didn't pass the test. 210 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:25,199 Speaker 1: I didn't even take the test, but I went ahead 211 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: that course, paid one hundred something dollars for like fifteen hours. 212 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: And but one of the things I remember is that 213 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: you have to like disclose certain things, like if there's 214 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 1: a dead body in the basement that you know about, 215 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: you need to tell people if it's on a train track. 216 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: You need to tell people things that they might not 217 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: know blind spots, and one would be this thing is 218 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 1: that the back of the house is on a cemetery. 219 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 1: So I was about to offer something on this property, 220 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: and the guy did not tell me that, and someone 221 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 1: else in the neighborhood did, and that there was I 222 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 1: guess a Starbucks right near, which didn't bother me because 223 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,840 Speaker 1: that would be convenient coffee. But it wasn't the best 224 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: street in this particular neighborhood because of the Starbucks and 225 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 1: a cemetery. For whatever reason, neither of that really bothered me. 226 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 1: But the truth is, I want wanted to know it. 227 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: That's frightening for but the price was disproportionately low for 228 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:06,959 Speaker 1: such an amazing house. And I came into the guy 229 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: and I go, Hi, you didn't disclose it there was 230 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,839 Speaker 1: a cemetery. We were about to sign the contract. He's like, yeah, 231 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:13,680 Speaker 1: would have told you. I'm like, when when I fucking 232 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 1: live in there on top of a caffeinated dead body. 233 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: So I've had They just just go into every real 234 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: estate transaction discussion contract showing hiring fire. 235 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 2: They're all scumbags. 236 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:28,959 Speaker 1: Okay, just go into it with that now there may 237 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:31,680 Speaker 1: be some exceptions like anything else, but really go into 238 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: buying a car and real estate with the understanding that 239 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 1: they are mostly many real estate professionals are scamming scumbags. 240 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 2: And because of. 241 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 1: The market right now and because of people's financial fears, 242 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: real estate brokers are more like there's blood in the 243 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 1: water than ever. And they are shady creatures. They are 244 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: just shady creeps, and they find a way in the 245 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 1: contract to put in some shady language where they can 246 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 1: get more And I'm not my friend just caught something 247 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:12,120 Speaker 1: in a contract where there's only supposed to be one 248 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: broker's fee, but they tried to slip in another. Or 249 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: who's paying the closing costs, Like you have to be savvy, 250 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: you have to have someone really good looking at every angle. 251 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: You have to take your time, you have to be 252 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 1: patient because they will screw you over