WEBVTT - Go by yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that you can go by yourself if

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<v Speaker 1>there is something you want to do, from trying a

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<v Speaker 1>new restaurant to traveling, you don't need to have a companion.

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<v Speaker 1>It's usually better to have the experience than not have

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<v Speaker 1>the experience, even if you generally do prefer to have company.

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<v Speaker 1>A few weeks ago, I was quoted in a Baron's

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<v Speaker 1>article about how COVID had stolen time from retirees. The

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<v Speaker 1>article made the point that many folks were realizing that

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<v Speaker 1>they had lost almost two years from their total quantity

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<v Speaker 1>of healthy retired years. Now of us lives forever, and

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<v Speaker 1>many of us will face increasing health challenges in the

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<v Speaker 1>last years of our lives. So if you retire at

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<v Speaker 1>sixty and we'll have a decade to travel and do

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<v Speaker 1>hobbies before those things become harder, losing two years of

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<v Speaker 1>that is a pretty big chunk. So many of the

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<v Speaker 1>affluent readers of Barons are trying to make up for

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<v Speaker 1>lost time. I had some suggestions about accelerating the pace

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<v Speaker 1>of travel and get to gathers. If you would normally

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<v Speaker 1>take two big trips a year, try to take three

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<v Speaker 1>or four. Go visit people over long weekends. Yes, life

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<v Speaker 1>might feel a little busier, but that is balanced by

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<v Speaker 1>the past few years when it was a lot less busy.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be okay. But more importantly, for this episode,

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<v Speaker 1>I also suggested that if these retirees wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>something but their partner or friends did not, they might

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<v Speaker 1>not want to wait for them to come around. In

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<v Speaker 1>other words, you can go by yourself. That goes for

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<v Speaker 1>all of us. Now, some people listening to this are

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<v Speaker 1>probably thinking, well, of course, you can go places by yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>But I think a lot of folks are a wee

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<v Speaker 1>bit more cautious about solo adventures. I have posted a

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<v Speaker 1>few photos on social media of me eating solo at

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<v Speaker 1>some fancy restaurants, and a few folks have told me

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<v Speaker 1>they would feel really weird doing that. But it isn't

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<v Speaker 1>really that weird because no one cares what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Bring a book or just scroll around on your phone.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be fine. Really, other people aren't paying attention

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<v Speaker 1>or judging you. I've made some solo trips to gardens

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<v Speaker 1>and farms and such that many people go with their

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<v Speaker 1>kids too, And yes, I've taken my kids there many times,

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<v Speaker 1>but sometimes it's fun to go and just do what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do. So yes, you can be the

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<v Speaker 1>one solo grown up lady at the pick your own farm.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you like doing it and your kids are

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<v Speaker 1>whining about going, well, why not you can buy a

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<v Speaker 1>single ticket to a concert that you would like to see.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually think this is a great approach if you

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<v Speaker 1>are in a relationship where one person is far more

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<v Speaker 1>of a homebody than the other. If you always lean

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<v Speaker 1>towards one person's interest or the others, someone is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be unhappy. But if you recognize that you can

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<v Speaker 1>love each other and can do separate things, sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>will probably have a happier home life. Now, solo travel

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<v Speaker 1>can be a bit more complicated. If you have never

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<v Speaker 1>traveled solo before, you might want to start small. All

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<v Speaker 1>take a weekend trip to somewhere familiar, book tickets for

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<v Speaker 1>things ahead of time so everything feels straightforward. But if

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<v Speaker 1>it goes well and you have fun, you can try

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<v Speaker 1>something more ambitious. I agree that it might be more

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<v Speaker 1>fun to travel somewhere with a companion. Retired spouses in

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<v Speaker 1>particular probably do want to spend time with each other.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you are trying to make up for lost

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<v Speaker 1>time and you have certain things you want to do

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<v Speaker 1>in your life and your partner or friends don't necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>want to do these things, then eventually you have to

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<v Speaker 1>make a calculation. We only have so much time. The

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<v Speaker 1>older we are, the smaller this number most likely is

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<v Speaker 1>which sounds worse potentially never going to let's say Paris,

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<v Speaker 1>are going Paris on your own. We all have to

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<v Speaker 1>ask what type of life we would like to live. Personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I would rather buy a solo ticket for a show

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<v Speaker 1>and get to see it, then worry about whether I

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<v Speaker 1>can find anyone to go with me. If there are

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<v Speaker 1>things you'd like to do, but coordinating with others becomes complicated,

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<v Speaker 1>then consider just going on your own. My guess is

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<v Speaker 1>that you will have fun and you'll get to share

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<v Speaker 1>the story with others afterwards. That could be fun too.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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