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Speaker 1: everybody to another episode of the Sissy Yalls decizy Yoons.
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Speaker 1: at that motherfucker live tour with three books in your hand.
Speaker 1: We're gonna say, bitch, and you didn't get four. Also,
Speaker 1: if you haven't known yet, we are the host of
Speaker 1: I think it's the third or four third, I don't know.
Speaker 1: We've been to all lack Effect festival. I think third.
Speaker 1: It's the third. Right, we are the host this year.
Speaker 1: So whether you come at twelve o'clock, bitch or leave
Speaker 1: it eight baby, we are they have the whole motherfucking time.
Speaker 1: Were gonna have to Are we gonna do alpha changes? Oh?
Speaker 1: I want to like how many bitch beyonces because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be tired. No outfit changes the whole day and.
Speaker 2: We have let's see we can go thro run down theirs,
Speaker 2: trap nerds, good Mom's bad.
Speaker 1: Choices, Naked sports with is it car your carry? Harry Champion,
Speaker 1: Harry Champion, we are r and b money with Tank
Speaker 1: and then y'all the good It's sister, what is it
Speaker 1: Sarah Jakes Roberts. I was about to say Lebarbiver. I
Speaker 1: know I love Sarah Jake Roberts, but you know there's
Speaker 1: such a great lineup. I know, Trapped for her Nerds
Speaker 1: has never hit the stage. Good Mom's Bad Choices never
Speaker 1: hit the stage. They're ready to see R and B Money.
Speaker 1: I think every single person is not pop. We just
Speaker 1: only all hold they said we love them, Let's just
Speaker 1: let them. I'm really excited to see who R and
Speaker 1: B Money interviews.
Speaker 2: I say we do the ccoverer game for all times sake.
Speaker 2: Right before Sarah Jakes comes out.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say, Tank, you're in Atlanta. I need
Speaker 1: Usher on that stage. Okay, I think he gives great interviews.
Speaker 1: He just sat with the good sis Kiki Palmer, and
Speaker 1: I am here for Usher being on more like long platform. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I really like to seeing that Kiki interview. And it's
Speaker 1: crazy because like when I was watching that clip, I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, that that moment, you know, the moment
Speaker 1: about the kiss, his first kiss not being consus. I
Speaker 1: was like, yo, that was such a like someone that
Speaker 1: doesn't have social Like what's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 1: It was like awkwardness. Yeah, like to say that, like
Speaker 1: what I didn't want it or whatever he said. I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, I would have skipped around that. But
Speaker 1: Usher mean Usher media trained all this, he must I
Speaker 1: was like, do you think he wanted that to be?
Speaker 2: Yeah, he either really felt comfortable, he wanted people to know,
Speaker 2: or just hasn't done long form with someone that he.
Speaker 1: Vibes with like it's comfortable with think. I think for me,
Speaker 1: that's something I'm looking forward to seeing more. And here
Speaker 1: I go about to sound oh bit like my generation
Speaker 1: of the artists that I grew up watching, so like
Speaker 1: the jaw Rules, the Ashantis, the Ushers, Like, I'm really
Speaker 1: excited to see them in long form content because when
Speaker 1: we were growing up, it was like radio interviews, magazine
Speaker 1: interviews and then bitch MTV cribs and him niggas was
Speaker 1: just showing rooms from a rented house. Now now we know,
Speaker 1: but like, I'm excited to see them like talk about
Speaker 1: that shit like and I feel like, oh bitch, because
Speaker 1: bitch All Star Weekend. I'm at Kenny Smith's party and
Speaker 1: I'm like, there's Shawn Marion. There's like all these old No,
Speaker 1: Shan Mayn is a light bright ass niggas Who got
Speaker 1: the dress? Who got the dress? Who you talking about
Speaker 1: dress from old school days? Wait sew a podcast? Are
Speaker 1: you talking about Latrelle's free Well, that's the only nigga
Speaker 1: with dress that I know from my era of growing
Speaker 1: up niggas they have dress like that, San Marion, Sorry, no,
Speaker 1: I'm really lost. Yeah, you're he's old school, like old school,
Speaker 1: old school. Who is his sister's names? I'm just on
Speaker 1: Google and that shows these are his siblings. Oh. I
Speaker 1: love niggas.
Speaker 2: Tremain Marion, Shawnette and Quinetia Marion and let me tell
Speaker 2: you something.
Speaker 1: You don't know it when you see the motherfuckers. And
Speaker 1: I would love to see h Quinnette, what was it, Shawnett, Quinetia.
Speaker 1: I would love to see all of them being like
Speaker 1: court side. Yeah, I'm my brother on the seat. It's
Speaker 1: crazy because also weekend was so much fun, like watching
Speaker 1: like all the old heads. Who cares, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend. Damn it was we got like sports, Yeah,
Speaker 1: yellow team first solving. This is why I will never
Speaker 1: get Can I try to get us a price pigs
Speaker 1: deal here, don't care, God, damn it, prize pigs draft kings.
Speaker 1: A bitch wants some more money. So I'm gonna be like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I went to the All Star Game. Slam dunk contest
Speaker 1: was so cool. You know, it's crazy. I realized how
Speaker 1: much I don't know. The first off, they all look
Speaker 1: like children, and I'm like, oh my god, everyone looks
Speaker 1: so fucking young, like all the I don't want to
Speaker 1: call them the kids on the court, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: these players look so fucking young. When they brought out
Speaker 1: like kg A, Tracey mcgreen, oh my god, fits Carter,
Speaker 1: I was like, my middle school self is loving this bitch.
Speaker 1: You know this, I know, but they loved all bro.
Speaker 1: They look young. I almost want to quote you was
Speaker 1: about the draft. Don't do this. They look young. Since
Speaker 1: when did you turn into an auntie? We need to
Speaker 1: get this. We're not gonna do this. They look young.
Speaker 1: I want her here to get these fingerways taking you
Speaker 1: up in there. You don't want a nigga to look young. Okay,
Speaker 1: like they look young. They look like they balls just dropped.
Speaker 1: I don't want like someone that looks young. I don't
Speaker 1: mind you being young. I just need you to look
Speaker 1: a little older. Speaking of young, there's an eight year
Speaker 1: difference between me and my boyfriend. Yes, my me and
Speaker 1: my me and my man. So I am now a
Speaker 1: taken woman.
Speaker 2: Now you gave us some good tea on Patreon sheep.
Speaker 1: So yeah, if you guys want to hear like how
Speaker 1: this kind of came about, go to our patreon. It's
Speaker 1: patreon dot com backslash horrible decisions. Basically, I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: you like a quick summary on what happened. So quick
Speaker 1: summary is, y'all know I was entertaining multiple men, because bitch,
Speaker 1: that's what you do when you date. So it was
Speaker 1: entertaining multiple men. And of course let all these niggas
Speaker 1: know I'm into hating multiple men. So because duh, here
Speaker 1: we go.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm so sorry, man, you want to support Palestine?
Speaker 1: They need to figure out what Starbucks had in that
Speaker 1: goddamn matcha. This is terrible. That is crazy. Sorry, fuck
Speaker 1: you wantant to be a Zionist, but the coffee sucks.
Speaker 1: What the hell? That's what you get for going to
Speaker 1: a little I don't know something? I got my got
Speaker 1: my Starbucks? Oh shit, ambit. You know they they got
Speaker 1: the little deal with Delta. Shout out to Delta because
Speaker 1: they keep no, no, no, not only miles you ready, bitch.
Speaker 1: One of the things that you could get in your
Speaker 1: benefits is six thousand Starbucks stars. Bitch, I won't be
Speaker 1: paying for coffee for this stop. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Well I don't pay for it. I have stars. So
Speaker 1: she goes that much. Okay, I want to know how
Speaker 1: he asked you. Sorry, I'm brandy here. Okay, see what
Speaker 1: we can't drink coffee on it? Novis. You don't come
Speaker 1: me off because it's it was discussing. You asked me
Speaker 1: what was wrong, but you shouldn't have been checking off me.
Speaker 1: I mad, I won't. I won't care no more. Die
Speaker 1: bit choke ho shit, yeah, keep choking any so let
Speaker 1: me let me like run down the really quick like synopsis. Basically,
Speaker 1: he came and saw me in Vegas on our last night.
Speaker 1: One of my other niggas face signed me. He saw
Speaker 1: the nigga FaceTime, asked if I had talked to that nigga.
Speaker 1: I said and did, and he got out his feelings
Speaker 1: and I ran down like, well, you shouldn't be in
Speaker 1: your feelings. Take that up with God and then pretty
Speaker 1: much let him know this is what I'm doing, and
Speaker 1: he said fair gave him a homework. He came to
Speaker 1: me with homework. He booked his flight immediately after I
Speaker 1: gave him my answers. This whole story is elongated on
Speaker 1: the Patreoch. Now you question for you, you had plans
Speaker 1: for that nigga at FaceTime you to come to Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Did you a say fuck you this other nigga coming through,
Speaker 1: say be sorry I made plans or see cut him off?
Speaker 1: Oh you weren't listening on town Hall girl. So the universe,
Speaker 1: the stars and moons put me in this relationship because
Speaker 1: the nigga who was supposed to be coming to Atlanta
Speaker 1: had to work so he can't do on his flight,
Speaker 1: and then this nigga was coming. So it worked out perfect.
Speaker 1: I didn't have to like there was no Chris Cross
Speaker 1: of the Niggles. Okay. So he's on the phone with me.
Speaker 1: At the very end of the call, he sends his flight.
Speaker 1: He's coming to spend the week of Valentine's Day with me,
Speaker 1: mind you. I let him know in Vegas how I
Speaker 1: how I want to be treated. I said, I like flowers.
Speaker 1: I like a man who's supportive of me and my
Speaker 1: career and everything I do with my entrepreneurial ventures. Because
Speaker 1: I felt like that was a little lacking in my
Speaker 1: last relationship. I said, I want intimacy, I want time
Speaker 1: with my partner, and I need them to be intentional.
Speaker 1: And if you feel as though you can't show up
Speaker 1: in any of this capacity, feel free to not show
Speaker 1: up at all. So he booked this fight. So he's
Speaker 1: leaving from Burbank to Atlanta. We're on the phone, as
Speaker 1: he said it, to the airport and he's like, have
Speaker 1: you left your house today? And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: not yet, Like I'm just gonna be waiting for you today.
Speaker 1: So he was like, well, you should check your door.
Speaker 1: So I go to my door and he sends me
Speaker 1: two dozen roses, oh waiting at my door, mind you,
Speaker 1: while he's on his way there. So he scheduled it perfectly.
Speaker 1: So two dozen roses are at my door, and literally
Speaker 1: on it says I can't wait to see you tonight.
Speaker 1: So tho, so very intentional. And then he even signed
Speaker 1: it actor Bay because he's like, I know you like
Speaker 1: to post things on social media and I'm not going
Speaker 1: to put my name so that you don't post it.
Speaker 1: So I like, he said you he literally bitch in
Speaker 1: is so mind you? I look at the weather. I
Speaker 1: thought we were gonna end up doing the park. It's
Speaker 1: fucking pouring rain. So we end up planning to go
Speaker 1: to the aquarium. So he gets in that night. We
Speaker 1: end up just bringing dinner. His flight was delayed four hours,
Speaker 1: and I felt so bad because he was in the
Speaker 1: airport all day. So anyways, he gets to Atlanta, we
Speaker 1: cut over, we have a great night. Next day, we
Speaker 1: have plans to go to the aquarium where a doorable
Speaker 1: look aquarium. When did you have sex with versus the
Speaker 1: last night, bitch? Because he came in all was on
Speaker 1: my period. So I already let him know that I
Speaker 1: don't do the period at all. So I let him
Speaker 1: know you're gonna have to wait till it's off. Like
Speaker 1: I told him when he booked it. Hey, I literally
Speaker 1: send him the flow up. I said, I will do
Speaker 1: mad nasty other ship, but I do not fuck on
Speaker 1: my period. Did you see his dick before you fuck? No,
Speaker 1: we've been seen. I saw it the first week we
Speaker 1: was in each other's DM Like been seen the dick, understood,
Speaker 1: laid with him and so anyways, so we go to
Speaker 1: the aquarium and when we come back, mind you, he
Speaker 1: had already made reservations two at my favorite restaurant in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: So before he even came, he was like, what's your
Speaker 1: favorite restaurant in Atlanta? He made the reservation for Valentine's
Speaker 1: Day night, So, oh, you spent Valentine d Atlanta? Okay
Speaker 1: for some no I love, No I did. I left.
Speaker 1: I left Atlanta all Star Day. But we brought in
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day together. So we go to the aquarium. We're
Speaker 1: walking around or looking at the fucking fish, the whales,
Speaker 1: the all the things. It's cute. Actually, this is where
Speaker 1: I'd like to talk about white people if you don't
Speaker 1: fucking mind, because something happened where I said, don't let
Speaker 1: that shit happen again. Oh, because you went to an aquarium, y'all.
Speaker 1: What the fuck happened at this motherfucking aquarium before I
Speaker 1: get back and be cute. So we had the motherfucking
Speaker 1: aquarium and he already telling me to calm down with
Speaker 1: my cursing because it's kids, and I'm like, bitch, I
Speaker 1: have no kids. I'm a curse because I'm a curse
Speaker 1: whatever y'all know how I am. I'm like okay. So anyways,
Speaker 1: so we're walking through the kroyium and there's there's the
Speaker 1: part where you know the the fucking glass is over you,
Speaker 1: so it's light. Bitch, you in the water. We on
Speaker 1: this moving sidewalk. You ready, We're on this moving sidewalk.
Speaker 1: He's behind me, arm wrapped around my waist. So cute.
Speaker 1: We're getting towards the end of the sidewalk. Bitch, this
Speaker 1: white woman, no lie, you ready? This my head? This
Speaker 1: him behind me. She almost sideswipes the fuck out of
Speaker 1: my head. It's like, can you take a picture of us? Please?
Speaker 1: First off, who the fuck even asks niggas for pictures
Speaker 1: from the back. Bitch went over me because he's fucking taller.
Speaker 1: Bitch went over my head to hand her phone to him,
Speaker 1: and it was like, can you take a picture of
Speaker 1: us please? And bitch, when I tell you, I'll look
Speaker 1: like this. He took the picture and I said, at
Speaker 1: that bitch even thinks she beIN Oh, bitch. I went
Speaker 1: off because I said, first off, she almost took my
Speaker 1: motherfucking head off. Secondly, bitches don't even ask men to
Speaker 1: take pictures of them. She was trying to hit on
Speaker 1: you in front of me, like I wasn't right, motherfucking there.
Speaker 1: So I said, if we see her again, and she
Speaker 1: even thinks she's gonna come up to you. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be a motherfucking problem. And you don't know what a
Speaker 1: Florida bitch is. But I'm gonna tell you right now
Speaker 1: because bitch, this much closer, she would have hit me
Speaker 1: in the motherfucking head. Quartney, let me ask you something.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. I was so mad. I hold on
Speaker 1: because then I was like, and then you took the picture.
Speaker 1: And normally I don't act like this, but I was like,
Speaker 1: you should have said no. Did you know that she
Speaker 1: in her hand was so long? No, no, no, no, because it
Speaker 1: happened so quickly. We literally he was like, did she
Speaker 1: hit you? Like it was like, bro, she she went
Speaker 1: above my head? What she went above my No? No, no,
Speaker 1: this is as we walked away, and I looked at
Speaker 1: him like, you know she did shit on purpose, right,
Speaker 1: you know that?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Like if we see her again, let her know you're
Speaker 1: not taking no more picture you see her again, if
Speaker 1: we see her again, because I'm gonna tell you right now.
Speaker 1: By the time we get to the clown fish, it's
Speaker 1: no bitch over there. I was so mad and I
Speaker 1: was like, don't let that shit happen again. He was
Speaker 1: like it just hop and say fas. I still don't
Speaker 1: know the fucking accent. And we talk every day. I'm
Speaker 1: terrible anyways, So like what you want me to do?
Speaker 1: Say no, I just want to take pictures that know.
Speaker 1: The bitch played in my face like she ain't see
Speaker 1: my motherfucking ass white bitch. Mind you eat the only
Speaker 1: black guy too. Surprisingly, it's Atlanta. We like the only
Speaker 1: black couple aquarium. I mean black people go see aquarium. Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe it was a Wednesday afternoon. No, no, no, no, I
Speaker 1: mean we like eat catfish. We don't want to go
Speaker 1: see them niggas. You feel me, But it's cute. It's Atlanta.
Speaker 1: I just expected more of us there, but no, and
Speaker 1: his bitch had kids. Bitch, you walking around bitches, that's
Speaker 1: a field trip. You got kids that you want? You
Speaker 1: want to have my nigga, take a picture of you.
Speaker 1: Where's the other chperone? Where's that? Well? Maybe she wanted
Speaker 1: to kids.
Speaker 3: She should have had.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know if it was at her kids.
Speaker 1: It was too much. And if you pushed all them
Speaker 1: bitches at your kouchie, you really got to get away
Speaker 1: from Maybe it was a field trip because it was
Speaker 1: it was in the afternoon. No, we could have been
Speaker 1: a daycare field trip, which I used to be in
Speaker 1: daycare trip. That's what I think of the field trip.
Speaker 3: She should have had you do it because like the
Speaker 3: height and the kids and you and like right, she.
Speaker 1: Should have had a woman take a picture, because we
Speaker 1: know men even know how to take pictures. Bro, you
Speaker 1: mean men do not know how to say okay, okay.
Speaker 1: I know David is male I'm talking about. I had
Speaker 1: a very uncomfortable moment on his island. You know.
Speaker 2: I would say certain Asians, like Chinese people, they be loud.
Speaker 2: Here we go Southeast Asian. They there's certain Asian I'm
Speaker 2: not lying Korean that I've noticed. They kind of like
Speaker 2: unless you're in La maybe a little oh yeah, know,
Speaker 2: they do be Like I saw Korean couple at this
Speaker 2: resort we were ad in Thailand. The boyfriend was taking
Speaker 2: a picture and they were bad.
Speaker 1: So I came over. I was like, girl, let me
Speaker 1: get it. She's looking at me. So I'm like, maybe
Speaker 1: they don't speak English, but I was like whatever, So
Speaker 1: I took her no, no, no.
Speaker 2: Because there's a lot of Chinese tourists and I don't
Speaker 2: know wh where they're from, if they speak English or
Speaker 2: I'm telling her way, friend, give me the phone.
Speaker 1: I got it.
Speaker 2: So they look as super scared. We're on a remote
Speaker 2: island many you can only take a boat to get here.
Speaker 1: I said, Hey, I'm not gonna rob you guys. Why
Speaker 1: would you say why would you say that they were
Speaker 1: acting scared? The fuck? Are you acting scared for a bitch? Yep, bro,
Speaker 1: look at you. It's your face.
Speaker 3: Look you just twisted it.
Speaker 1: Calm down, No, but same shit happened. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: it's different. Do you know the bitch when you felt
Speaker 1: they were being racist, This bitch was trying to flirt
Speaker 1: with my nigga in front of me. Way different?
Speaker 3: Are we sure about that too? Like I feel like
Speaker 3: that's I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: If you be willing to share your nigga, No you're racist,
Speaker 1: is worse. I'm not sharing my nigga. What that's worse
Speaker 1: sharing it with a white woman right after Black History
Speaker 1: Month leading into women forgot it?
Speaker 3: Okay, so you made it loud and clear that you're
Speaker 3: not gonna rob them, and then and.
Speaker 1: Then what it was just like this right? She was pertending.
Speaker 2: I said, I'm just trying to help you because for
Speaker 2: the picture. So then he said something to her. She
Speaker 2: was like, okay, whatever, I take the picture. I'm like, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: It was a language barrier, right, get to breakfast. The
Speaker 1: next day, my niggas sitting there by himself, who's having
Speaker 1: a full on conversation saying, yeah, we lived mid city
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles.
Speaker 2: Yes, they're American, they're Korean by descent. Them bitches that
Speaker 2: whole knew exactly what.
Speaker 1: I was saying. And you wanted to be funny. And
Speaker 1: you know why because she probably thought I was trying
Speaker 1: to flirt with her, nigga, because I said, let me
Speaker 1: get it, let me help you girl, because it's women
Speaker 1: get weird. Okay, I see the tie. I see the time.
Speaker 1: I didn't get weird. I let him take the picture
Speaker 1: and then cusses this.
Speaker 3: And you know, when you were the white woman with
Speaker 3: the kids in this story, I was you weren't.
Speaker 2: I was the fine grass woman that had her fro
Speaker 2: out and a little bitty bikini and a little tong.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's crazy. Going ahead, going ahead, anyway, back to
Speaker 1: the story. So to go to the quarium. It's cute.
Speaker 1: He brings me a gift to Atlanta, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: just wait till our Valentine's dy dinner for the gifts
Speaker 1: d D. He's like, no, I really want to give
Speaker 1: it to you. Now. I was like, okay, I'll take
Speaker 1: the gift, but I really wanted it for Valentine's But
Speaker 1: it makes sense why you wanted to give it to me.
Speaker 1: So he dresses very simple. He dresses like an La
Speaker 1: West Coast nigga Dickies pay essentials, but essentials, but not
Speaker 1: the like fear of God or whatever it is. Essentials.
Speaker 1: That's what he wears, like unique love essentials, basics, no logos,
Speaker 1: all like solids and Chucks. So he pulls out a box.
Speaker 1: He's like, because you don't have a pair, so that
Speaker 1: when we go out we can look cute together. I
Speaker 1: got you these pairs. He bought me a pair of
Speaker 1: check Tailor. Not only did he give me a pair
Speaker 1: of check Tailors. So I opened the box. He embroidered
Speaker 1: selective ignorance on them in his handwriting and then did
Speaker 1: like a little scribble and was like, and I want
Speaker 1: to read all the message. This message came so it
Speaker 1: was no nigga, just selective ignorance.
Speaker 3: Was on the shoes, but.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. So it was like the week that I
Speaker 1: dropped my trailer. So before he had even come, he said,
Speaker 1: selective ignorance dictionary phrase the practice of intentionally choosing not
Speaker 1: to know about certain topics or things. He said, quote
Speaker 1: Mandy is using her selective ignorance to justify why she
Speaker 1: can't name five Meek records because that came out. That
Speaker 1: came out the week that we kind of started talking.
Speaker 1: So he said, it's release day. It makes me smile
Speaker 1: that I've been in your life long enough to see
Speaker 1: this idea go from inception to execution. I'm happy because
Speaker 1: this will let people see you the you. I know,
Speaker 1: the you that keeps me on the phone for five
Speaker 1: the you that makes me giddy enough to laugh and
Speaker 1: safe enough to cry. The you that took me, that
Speaker 1: took the two minutes I gave you and somehow managed
Speaker 1: to captivate me enough to spin me into a whole
Speaker 1: ass relationship. It's the starring vehicle you deserve. Good morning,
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. Call me after your appointment.
Speaker 1: Oh what else? And I'm like, oh my god, oh
Speaker 1: I just melt. So anyways, he gives me those shoes.
Speaker 1: We decide because I'm like, fuck, plus he's still kind
Speaker 1: of bleed, and I was like, let's shower tonight. So
Speaker 1: we get in the shower that night, and I'm so
Speaker 1: excited because I was like, ooh, my shower. This is
Speaker 1: nice at fuck. So I'm like, ooh, we about the shower,
Speaker 1: wipe each other down. This is gonna be so sexy.
Speaker 1: So I go to hand him my Men's body wash
Speaker 1: that's in my shower because I like oods, I like
Speaker 1: musky scents, I like menshit. And I hand him it
Speaker 1: and I'm like, here you go, mind you this much left.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, here you go. This is the men's
Speaker 1: body wash. I'll use the since we're both in here.
Speaker 1: And he looks at me and he's like okay. So
Speaker 1: we get out the shower. We get out the shower,
Speaker 1: and I realize he's acting weird, and I'm like, you
Speaker 1: know what, just come here. I bring him to the
Speaker 1: laundry room and I show him that I have six
Speaker 1: bottles of this man wash and he's like, oh, you
Speaker 1: picked up on that, didn't you. I he was like
Speaker 1: in my head, he was like I done flew all
Speaker 1: the way to fucking Atlanta to be with this bitch,
Speaker 1: and she handed me another nigga body wash. That's what
Speaker 1: I would have thought. And I'm like, you would have
Speaker 1: thought that too.
Speaker 3: Yes, if this is like I mean, this is our
Speaker 3: first time showering together, and we showered.
Speaker 1: We showered around each other.
Speaker 3: In Vegas establishment.
Speaker 1: So he comes and and he's like, this, lowdown, dirty bitch.
Speaker 1: Mind you. This was the second thing that happened because
Speaker 1: before he traveled, I'm showing him me reorganizing my closet.
Speaker 1: Guess what's in the frame? Condoms? Okay, So he was like,
Speaker 1: are those condoms just on your dresser in your closet?
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, I'm my cleaner, like must
Speaker 1: So he just this nigga must have came here thinking
Speaker 1: I had a nigga fucking me, a nigga taking a
Speaker 1: motherfucking shower, And I'm like, so we had to talk
Speaker 1: to this. So then he comes and I was like, no, let.
Speaker 4: Me show you.
Speaker 1: There's condoms in my kitchen. There's condoms in all of
Speaker 1: my luggage, said I, oh, I stay with condoms everywhere.
Speaker 1: Your kitchen there were my kitchen, your what if I'm
Speaker 1: on the couch by what the knives you just moved
Speaker 1: in there. I don't give a fuck. Condoms will be everywhere. Listen,
Speaker 1: stay ready, so you ain't gotta get ready. So it
Speaker 1: was a part of me setting up my house. Condoms here,
Speaker 1: condoms there, condoms everywhere. No, don't do that, don't do that.
Speaker 1: I like, oh, I have condoms about the bar. So
Speaker 1: I had to show him.
Speaker 3: That makes more sense to.
Speaker 1: Me, because what if we drinking at the dining room
Speaker 1: table or eating eggs? Ask you a question, what in
Speaker 1: all of my fucking which I would say the last
Speaker 1: sixteen years of fucking shit, maybe eighteen?
Speaker 2: I just never never was it too far of a
Speaker 2: stretch to get up and grab it from a drawer?
Speaker 2: You ready, never have two stories now, curl, I'm about.
Speaker 1: To get a refrigerator. Listen, I'm about to get a refrigerator.
Speaker 1: It's a point because I'll be thirsty at night. But
Speaker 1: a b shul be lazy and don't want to go downstairs.
Speaker 1: To be honest with you, I feel that, bro, bro.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'm gonna make sure the whole part
Speaker 1: of my house is comfortable for me to do what
Speaker 1: the fuck I want to do.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to do you if it's not just water,
Speaker 2: that's a fat bit shit, mait you beare to get
Speaker 2: your airs downstairs, get their food.
Speaker 1: It's just water. It's just I'm not bringing food upstairs.
Speaker 1: Like nah, So okay, how did he get to the Anyways,
Speaker 1: we go to dinner, We have sex. It's great, y'all.
Speaker 1: Aren't gonna get many details of that, I'll tell you
Speaker 1: now because he's a public person, so I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: be minimal here. But he adores me. I cooked for
Speaker 1: him breakfast and it just felt good. I was like,
Speaker 1: this is our second time spending like three days around
Speaker 1: each other where we didn't annoy each other, Like we
Speaker 1: like couldn't keep each other off of each other. So
Speaker 1: after we got done fucking, I go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: He comes out and meets me in the hallway and
Speaker 1: we pretty much are just like this makes sense and
Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense not too so here we are
Speaker 1: we're in a relationship just to get like this literally
Speaker 1: and we do this fault. He's like hugging me in
Speaker 1: the hallway or kissing. He gives me another forehead kissed bitches,
Speaker 1: and we just looked up and it literally goes to
Speaker 1: where it's like, yeah, so I think this like solidifies
Speaker 1: that we're in a relationship, right, I was like, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: because it doesn't make sense not to me. And then
Speaker 1: here we are so over the next like I mean,
Speaker 1: now we're just working on our boundaries, seeing each other,
Speaker 1: being intentional of making time for each other. So like
Speaker 1: he's gonna be be in Denver. Nice. So he's meeting
Speaker 1: me Denver Sunday, and then as of right now the
Speaker 1: end of the month, I'm supposed to be joining him
Speaker 1: in San Diego. So have you been I've never been
Speaker 1: a Sandy. I just went for my first time for
Speaker 1: that wedding. After we shot Won't We All Together? Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: we were shooting the promo reel for Decision Decisions. Yes.
Speaker 1: I was in shock. Nigga, that shit is not fire.
Speaker 1: It's just like it's not La, but it's just as
Speaker 1: beautiful as La, but more chill. You know what, I
Speaker 1: just realized, San Francisco, shout out to everyone that listens
Speaker 1: to us in the Bay is now my favorite fucking
Speaker 1: city in America. I just went for All Star weekend.
Speaker 1: It is New York. I didn't even know that it
Speaker 1: would make me feel so it's New York, it's Malibu,
Speaker 1: it's la and then it looks like parts of Europe,
Speaker 1: and I was like, yo. We went to some pier
Speaker 1: across the Golden Gate Bridge and I was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I fucking love it here. Mind you didn't even get
Speaker 1: to go to oak k didn't get to go to Sonoma,
Speaker 1: didn't get to go to now And I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: going back. So literally, there's a part where they don't
Speaker 1: even call it downtown. You're in this area, mind you.
Speaker 1: They have Japantown, Chinatown, all this stuff. The building the
Speaker 1: buildings are high, the streets are narrow. You feel like
Speaker 1: you're in fucking New York. And Wolf is like shaking
Speaker 1: his head. I said, I had no idea that there
Speaker 1: was a part of San Francisco that made me feel
Speaker 1: like New York. Mind you. I'm gonna be honest with you.
Speaker 2: I was born in New York. My mom lived there
Speaker 2: fifteen years. I never heard her say that. I've never
Speaker 2: heard anybody in my life say San Francisco.
Speaker 1: I was there with my friend Keith. We went and
Speaker 1: we were like, Yo, this feels like New York. All
Speaker 1: the parties that we were going to, like the hotels. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you're talking about a city during All Star. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about the buildings and how all the parties
Speaker 1: I met. No, I'm not talking about the parties at all.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about where we were, Like where we were driving,
Speaker 1: and Wolf is at least shaking his head, and the
Speaker 1: five people that I was with agreed, had no clue
Speaker 1: that it would remind me of New York City, And
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, I fucking love it. Here was
Speaker 1: just as expensive. I said, who, yeah, mind you mind?
Speaker 1: You did my white people ship and got into one
Speaker 1: of them cars with no driver?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: Do you know what's crazy?
Speaker 2: The other day, literally, I was saying what happened to Jaguars?
Speaker 2: And I realized they're way more way Mom, it was crazy.
Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't like it. Oh, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I'm so shocked that they have it in Atlanta, I said,
Speaker 1: they do. All they do is still cars out here.
Speaker 1: I'm like, the way Mo's about to be getting robbed
Speaker 1: or something. They about to take the goddamn satellite ships
Speaker 1: off and take them jags.
Speaker 2: I'm so shocked that they How did you feel when Okay,
Speaker 2: when I got in and it made a turn and
Speaker 2: then even when like someone else crossed over, I was like.
Speaker 1: What the I didn't I didn't like it. I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. That thing drove better. There's some humans
Speaker 1: it I scared. I was like scared, but also like
Speaker 1: it wouldn't even move until all of us put our
Speaker 1: seat belts on, and if you take your seatbelt off,
Speaker 1: your account will be gone. So wow, yeah, you're very
Speaker 1: serious with buckling up. But I was like, Okay, this
Speaker 1: is kind of cool. Shout out to my friend Keith.
Speaker 1: He booked it. He said, you gotta try this before.
Speaker 1: I think it's around an uber costs.
Speaker 3: Okay with the driver.
Speaker 1: Was about to say we did take it when we
Speaker 1: were only eight minutes. We went from Japantown, UH to Chinatown.
Speaker 1: So I didn't want to take it for a long drive.
Speaker 1: Like for some reason, I was like, yeah, I'm good
Speaker 1: on the air.
Speaker 3: It didn't go on the highway.
Speaker 1: We didn't get on the highway. And it will take
Speaker 1: you to airports maybe because that is so much that
Speaker 1: may have you know, but they won't take you to airports.
Speaker 1: But they're inner city so they're in La San Francisco, Atlanta,
Speaker 1: and I think they're introducing it to I think Arizona
Speaker 1: this year or something, and they'll be rolling it out
Speaker 1: in Atlanta more in June. And I was like, they'd
Speaker 1: already don't know how to drive in Atlanta. It's so
Speaker 1: crazy that people like you think Uber is a commodity
Speaker 1: that gave people jobs. Fucked, no, bro, Like these fucking
Speaker 1: corporations don't give off no that about you. They don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck about how the economy. Corporate greed is insane.
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Speaker 2: Where to Get It. So I was gonna say the
Speaker 2: main thing that I could think about that happened during
Speaker 2: this trip, I'm gonna do an episode about the history
Speaker 2: of brothels because I really want to talk about prostitution
Speaker 2: in Thailand and cost and how it went and how
Speaker 2: we went to the spot and got to see them
Speaker 2: literally on a rotator.
Speaker 1: It was crazy. But my nigga said to me one
Speaker 1: night actually it was now Times day. He's like, I know,
Speaker 1: we like it just didn't vibe because he'd be like,
Speaker 1: I kind of just do miss just organic three. So
Speaker 1: I was like, We've got a fuck a tourist, bitch.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I was thinking about it too, and he
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, let's let's just have fun tonight, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, let's get fucked up. We're in the
Speaker 2: Peep Islands, which is so fucking romantic for around time
Speaker 2: day but at nighttime it's wild and it's a full
Speaker 2: moon party, which is every month obviously, but it's a
Speaker 2: big deal for Bali, Thailand, whatever.
Speaker 1: We're off the island. We're in like the little parties, nigga.
Speaker 2: He's going underneath a fucking fire limbo thing like blade,
Speaker 2: I'm on a fucking bull ride.
Speaker 1: Bruh. We're wilding out. And finally this girl comes up.
Speaker 2: Well a lot of people were staring at him becausere
Speaker 2: weren't a lot of black people there, and this girl
Speaker 2: is just like, he's barely got his shirt on.
Speaker 1: Fult niggle, and she was like, can I take a
Speaker 1: picture with him?
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, sure, I have a video of her,
Speaker 2: I think, because I just thought it was so funny
Speaker 2: that she's just like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: She had like a Mediterranean look. Oh this was her way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is her. So she's just like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I want to take a picture please. But she was cute,
Speaker 1: kuchi out and everything, little tiny bro. I'm like, great, well,
Speaker 1: fuck this bitch. Oh so on the back of my
Speaker 1: arm I have black in Hebrew because my father's from Israel.
Speaker 1: My mom is why she sees it and starts talking
Speaker 1: to me in Hebrew. This is about after twenty minutes
Speaker 1: of flirting us talking about oh my god, I don't
Speaker 1: want to kiss you first, and nasty shit getting drink
Speaker 1: shot and I was like, oh no, He's like, what's wrong.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yo, I really thought I wasn't eat this
Speaker 2: girl pussy tonight. I ain't gonna eat this fucking it's
Speaker 2: on Palestine, pussy.
Speaker 1: I can't do it. You telling me? The girl notices
Speaker 1: I'm Israeli. Now she thinks we're on the same team.
Speaker 2: Did she start speaking Hebrew to all other friend now?
Speaker 2: Getting real excited, I'm like, oh no, bitch, wait did
Speaker 2: you ask her?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: So he goes, baby, it's fucking four o'clock in the morning, like,
Speaker 1: why are you thinking about that right now? I'm like
Speaker 1: He's like, don't you can worry about it. I'm all right,
Speaker 1: all right, are you? But also you're Israeli in free Palestine?
Speaker 1: So maybe she was did you ask her? Well, I'm brown.
Speaker 2: From my experience, most Israeli's, especially the ones living there
Speaker 2: and the ones that I'm just being honest, it is
Speaker 2: a small amount of people that live in Israel that
Speaker 2: are pro Palestine.
Speaker 1: So I'm just like, fuck fuck. So we have for fun,
Speaker 1: were dancing on each other, and shit, she wandered on me,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh God, this girls like the enemy.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, let me just s and he looking
Speaker 1: at me like, yo, just chill because beyond the fucking.
Speaker 1: He's like, that's gonna get you upset, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, after fucking, I smell like tequila's
Speaker 2: dripping on my tits. I'm glowing the dark thing over
Speaker 2: my titties that says I love you.
Speaker 1: We were wild.
Speaker 2: I'm like, so, what do you think about what's going on?
Speaker 2: And hears her say to her friend and then I
Speaker 2: knew it. I said, ah, we gotta go.
Speaker 1: He looking at me like, yo, what did she say?
Speaker 2: She just started talking to her friend once I said that,
Speaker 2: and they kind of gave me a side look, and
Speaker 2: I knew then that bitch was like what that ho?
Speaker 1: And let me tell you something. The entire trip, Mandy,
Speaker 1: I haven't really had my clothes off in a minute.
Speaker 1: There are a lot of Israeli tourists in Thailand. My
Speaker 1: dad told me this too. I did not know that. Bro.
Speaker 1: Almost every other day somebody was like trying to talk
Speaker 1: to me, and I was like, yo, I thought I
Speaker 1: left this Social Justice warriorshit in America. Bitch, the only
Speaker 1: threeesme we almost had well a girl. Then I couldn't
Speaker 1: fuck rightfully, so I can't get this bitch.
Speaker 2: My nigga got good ass thing. I'm gonna give you
Speaker 2: that and echo pussy. Meanwhile, you're online talking about Hamas
Speaker 2: did this. Now I was fucked up all night.
Speaker 1: It really almost ruined my night.
Speaker 2: And I swear to god, it took me back to
Speaker 2: when I was first dating and Trump was getting elected
Speaker 2: and I was on the apps and I felt like
Speaker 2: everything was an interview. And I remember when I was
Speaker 2: listening to Jesus and Marriw back in the day Bo
Speaker 2: Daca Boys around that time when they were on and
Speaker 2: Jesus was like, Nigga, I don't give a fuck about
Speaker 2: not asking, but who the fuck did you vote for?
Speaker 2: And like, it really put me in this place of like,
Speaker 2: have I spent enough time actually putting into motion the
Speaker 2: way I feel like this stopped me from fucking a bitch?
Speaker 2: But am I taking the steps every day? Because it
Speaker 2: didn't really stop me from getting match lemonade Starbucks? Like
Speaker 2: how much of my life is.
Speaker 1: Hypocritical so to speak? And yeah, it fucked me up, bro,
Speaker 1: like a lot. We're all hypocrites It really ruined my
Speaker 1: night because we was really that close. I mean, I
Speaker 1: think you would drive yourself crazy though figuring out how
Speaker 1: you're a hypocrite like me and Antonet just had this
Speaker 1: conversation on my other potter. It's just like, bro, you
Speaker 1: will drive yourself crazy trying to move in the most moral,
Speaker 1: best way possible. Like I think even like with all
Speaker 1: the DEI things and the boycotting of stuff like if
Speaker 1: you if you choose not to eat like what it's
Speaker 1: Goya Starbucks, like all the things that you know, not
Speaker 1: shop a way for it, not shop at H and M,
Speaker 1: not do this, not do that. You drive yourself fucking crazy.
Speaker 2: But then at the same time, don't we need to
Speaker 2: stand for something like how can I fucking watch the
Speaker 2: H and M shit and walk in the door and
Speaker 2: then at the same time be someone that's like I
Speaker 2: don't know, I just I really don't think you can
Speaker 2: do both. So like I actually like after that moment,
Speaker 2: and it's crazy because it's literally about having a threesome,
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, no, I'm actually gonna really try
Speaker 2: to make an effort, like I really want to, and
Speaker 2: mind you, kalistarn is not a life.
Speaker 1: I'm living every day. I live black shit every.
Speaker 2: Day, woman shit every day, gay shit every day, like
Speaker 2: the queerness, the anti LGBTQ, I need to stop Chick
Speaker 2: fil A like that should be number one, the anti
Speaker 2: revisionist camps. Like there's a lot of shit in my
Speaker 2: life that I've just kind of been like whatever to
Speaker 2: And that really kind of showed me like, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: I'm really not about it. I know we're taking a
Speaker 2: long time and Mandy has a boyfriend. That's the episode.
Speaker 1: Well I talk about fucking pussy. Okay, so clearly this
Speaker 1: episode sorry, I'm drinking. Sorry after you just went on
Speaker 1: the goddamn rant on that sport of you, I don't
Speaker 1: think you're gonna stop. I'm not. I'm a hypocrite. I
Speaker 1: stand for a lot of things, and I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: stress myself about the things I can purchase and buying,
Speaker 1: where I can go, and how I can live my
Speaker 1: fucking life in the world that I think is actually
Speaker 1: ran by the government on some bullshit, like I think
Speaker 1: the aliens are up in the clouds are in the
Speaker 1: ocean laughing at us. Anyways, and we're currently on an
Speaker 1: episode where eggs are very expensive and all the planes
Speaker 1: are falling out of the sky. So this is like
Speaker 1: a new season that just started, and it's about eggs
Speaker 1: and planes. So wherever we're at in life, it's fucking
Speaker 1: laughable to me, and I just want to be peaceful.
Speaker 1: Atlanta has allowed me to slow down. Atlanta has allowed
Speaker 1: me to just who like I realized, like New York
Speaker 1: is such a busy fast I always gotta be. I
Speaker 1: always gotta do stub City. Like yesterday I met Eden.
Speaker 1: What time I met you? At like ten am? I
Speaker 1: got back home at one. I was lucky. I had
Speaker 1: we recorded, I had a lunch, I met my friend,
Speaker 1: got drunk with her and her husband.
Speaker 3: By away.
Speaker 1: I told him I was gonna do this shout out
Speaker 1: to you, Rob. I go to see my friend Britt.
Speaker 1: I'm t T Mandy, and they were so happy to
Speaker 1: see me. I'm one of the aunties that as soon
Speaker 1: as I go, I'm gonna bring you candy. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: bring you ice cream. I'm gonna be the best friend
Speaker 1: so that you could go watch your cartoons when me
Speaker 1: and your parents are talking. So I go over there
Speaker 1: and I said, Rob, first off, twins we have the
Speaker 1: same hair. Because he's blinding short I say, Rob, I
Speaker 1: never ask you for anything, and I need a huge favor.
Speaker 1: Mind you. Britt is sitting on the couch like, now, bitch,
Speaker 1: what you need for my husband? I said, I would
Speaker 1: never ask you any other time for this, but I
Speaker 1: really need your help. He looks at me. He said,
Speaker 1: you need a do rag, don't you That's cute? I said,
Speaker 1: oh my god, how did you know? Bitch? My homegirl
Speaker 1: fell to the floor and was like, not my nigga,
Speaker 1: know you about to ask for a do rag. I said, bitch,
Speaker 1: I gotta make this shit last the ways I can't
Speaker 1: do it, And I said, I slept like this all night.
Speaker 1: I was sleeping on my motherfucking hand, cheek the hand.
Speaker 1: I said, I can't mess this up. So I just said, well,
Speaker 1: I go into the studio. I'm gonna shout you out.
Speaker 1: So shout out to Rob for giving me a do rag.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna judge you at the fact that.
Speaker 3: It was.
Speaker 1: Give us this reactionary bitch where we're reacting to. So
Speaker 1: this is clearly a fucking catch up episode Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 1: We went completely off outline, but I do still have
Speaker 1: this and I wanted to play it because in the
Speaker 1: realm that we both have boyfriends. I thought that this
Speaker 1: was an interesting conversation. So Beyonce is not jay Z's
Speaker 1: dream girl, but Beyonce fits the image of.
Speaker 4: Who She goes on to say that she does not
Speaker 4: think Beyonce is jay Z's dream girl, but instead he
Speaker 4: recognizes that she is a dream girl for the majority
Speaker 4: of the population, and because of that, she has a
Speaker 4: suitable partner to have for someone of his level of
Speaker 4: stature in the music industry. Okay, we're not gonna talk
Speaker 4: about Beyonce and jay Z. This is a Beyonce standpage,
Speaker 4: but we can learn a lot from the message in
Speaker 4: this video. If you are a woman who is beautiful, smart,
Speaker 4: well put together, charismatic, no how to carry herself, can
Speaker 4: navigate any room full of people. Okay, dating is going
Speaker 4: to be very very hard for you, not because you're
Speaker 4: gonna have a shortage of that obviously, it's going to
Speaker 4: be a plethora of men that want to date you,
Speaker 4: but because you're gonna have to do an extra level
Speaker 4: of evaluation to make sure that these men actually like you.
Speaker 4: None recognize women who other men like.
Speaker 2: So I don't used the R word in a long time,
Speaker 2: but to imply that Beyonce is not jay Z's type
Speaker 2: from a Oh, I really don't want to say this.
Speaker 1: That white bitch was not in shape. They're saying that shit,
Speaker 1: and you talking about Beyonce. Beyonce, bitch, you look like
Speaker 1: Luther Vandross. That's what I was thinking of.
Speaker 2: You really had the audacity to get on the internet
Speaker 2: and say one of the most beautiful women in the world.
Speaker 2: And mind you, if you google the most beautifulmen in
Speaker 2: the world, I think Jennifer Aniston pops up, which is
Speaker 2: a gag. Bitch Beyonce isn't jay Z's type because she's
Speaker 2: that big.
Speaker 1: This is what she represents.
Speaker 2: I could understand that if Beyonce had no looks, nobody,
Speaker 2: nothing else, what, no talent, that bitch is godly.
Speaker 1: I want to ask you about what we said in
Speaker 1: the video, though not Beyonce, because she literally said that's all.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna make this about Beyonce. I want to
Speaker 1: know your thoughts on men picking women based on how
Speaker 1: society viewed women do it too, No, I know, so
Speaker 1: I wanted to know your thoughts on that because I
Speaker 1: do actually think that this is why and this is
Speaker 1: gonna be a hot take. I believe this is why
Speaker 1: a lot of married men cheat on their wives. I
Speaker 1: think that they get with women, especially rich, successful, powerful men.
Speaker 1: I do feel like those men get with women who
Speaker 1: tick off the boxes, but not who make them happy.
Speaker 1: I think this is why they cheat with the funhoores,
Speaker 1: the fun girls, the bitches that maybe people deem are
Speaker 1: not wifey material, because those are actually the women they
Speaker 1: would like to see themselves with. However, because they're so
Speaker 1: pressed on how society views them and how they view
Speaker 1: whoever's standing next to them, they go for the safe woman.
Speaker 1: They go for the woman that inevitably they end up
Speaker 1: maybe resenting a bit, and it leads them to step out.
Speaker 1: So I do feel like this is true. I feel
Speaker 1: like this is the reason why. Here's my take on that.
Speaker 2: I think that the fun girl theory goes two ways.
Speaker 2: Issue with fun girl have a lot of hot homegirls,
Speaker 2: a lot of ig batty, which is a lot of
Speaker 2: them lack a lot of depth that is required beyond
Speaker 2: the night when you're just sitting at home alone. A
Speaker 2: lot of my friends that haven't really had quote unquote
Speaker 2: real jobs or a certain educational background don't really have
Speaker 2: a lot more to offer and have had issues with
Speaker 2: men in relationships because they feel that energy too. Niggas
Speaker 2: don't want to fucking turn up and smoke Google all
Speaker 2: the time. So what happens when all of that's gone?
Speaker 2: What happens when the vacation life stops? Much like a
Speaker 2: long distance relationship, spending time at home just like you
Speaker 2: and your boyfriend did is really important. Not always going
Speaker 2: on vacation, but being in each other's home shit like that.
Speaker 2: That's something that people always recommend. I really do think
Speaker 2: when you just have the fun girl and you're always out,
Speaker 2: you really don't know what that day to day life
Speaker 2: is like. How do these women motivate you? Are they
Speaker 2: even motivating themselves?
Speaker 1: So I don't think it's that men are choosing partners
Speaker 1: that society thinks is better.
Speaker 2: I think they're just not choosing well rounded women. We
Speaker 2: can't sit here and think one's boring and the other
Speaker 2: one's fun. I know a baby, it's just fun and
Speaker 2: can turn up that works at the fucking desk. They listening,
Speaker 2: But it's not always looking like that. So I think
Speaker 2: people women too, choose people that are good on paper.
Speaker 2: But I think to say that men aren't choosing the
Speaker 2: fun Girl actually is wrong. I think nowadays beauty is
Speaker 2: more what we're seeing online. Like you never really hear
Speaker 2: men gassing about how their girl does X y Z
Speaker 2: or how they're proud of them online. You just see
Speaker 2: the photos of them. Like when we see rich and
Speaker 2: wealthy men, they're just with beautiful women. That's why Beyonce
Speaker 2: is such an anomally in.
Speaker 1: The NFL players mid whites do they They don't be
Speaker 1: with no let bitches because Jalen Hurts. Look no, I'm
Speaker 1: talking about the majority of NFL players. We talked about
Speaker 1: this on Patreon. Ain't talking about Jayleen Hurts. He's an
Speaker 1: anomaly and that's why everybody wanted the Eagles to win
Speaker 1: because he's actually a black quarterback with a black woman.
Speaker 1: So love that friend, Chicken Fried state the majority. That
Speaker 1: was a great clip And just don't know. I do
Speaker 1: think that the woman that society sees though for me,
Speaker 1: society doesn't have a good perception of the fun girl.
Speaker 1: Doesn't have a good perception of a woman who enjoys
Speaker 1: a good night out, doesn't have a good perception of
Speaker 1: a woman who wants to stand on like you know
Speaker 1: what that girl is, It's a bitch that go on
Speaker 1: solo vacations and trips were you could want to stand
Speaker 1: on couches and then go home and read a book.
Speaker 1: There's duality there. I really do think though, that girl today,
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty five, in the last five years, even
Speaker 1: since COVID, I see a lot of girls moving around
Speaker 1: that is that corporate girly or maybe small business independent girly.
Speaker 1: That is our her friends turning a fuck up on
Speaker 1: vacation and come home and get into business. That is
Speaker 1: what a fun girl is to me today. I believe
Speaker 1: I'm that girl, which I got shit to do.
Speaker 2: But if I'm on my Instagram story, I'm not the
Speaker 2: fucking vlogger who's showing you about all the contracts I
Speaker 2: gotta do.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna probably show you the club.
Speaker 2: So I think sometimes from what I feel like I'm seeing,
Speaker 2: I am seeing men with more of the fun girl
Speaker 2: or beautiful girl that doesn't have much else.
Speaker 1: You know, I just watched Just Right on the plane.
Speaker 1: Do you remember that movie with Queen Latifah and Coming
Speaker 1: Right and Paula Patten and so her friend or her
Speaker 1: godsister in the movie didn't do anything, but she was
Speaker 1: gorgeous and Queen Latifah worked in medical and it's like,
Speaker 1: I feel like that's the shit we see.
Speaker 2: We see women get looked over that have great jobs
Speaker 2: or that quote unquote normal girls for the fun girl.
Speaker 1: I feel the opposite of what that girl says. Interesting,
Speaker 1: I really do, Okay, I just seldom and meeting the
Speaker 1: jay Z's of the world, and no one, no, I'm
Speaker 1: not talking about a jay Z but rich men, famous
Speaker 1: men that are with dope women that got their own
Speaker 1: shit going. I really feel like they could just be
Speaker 1: bad and boring, not even bad in bujie because I
Speaker 1: know boogie bitch like a viral shit. That's why I think, yeah, maybe,
Speaker 1: I mean we're we definitely run in different worlds, different circles,
Speaker 1: A lot of them. We run in the same circles too.
Speaker 1: A lot of the married men I know different experience.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of the married men that
Speaker 1: I know that I'm friends with, their wives are safe.
Speaker 1: They're at home with the kids, and when they're outside,
Speaker 1: they're with the fun girls. I ever, considering that I've
Speaker 1: seen being at home with their wives no matter what circle.
Speaker 1: The ones that we know men and are not those
Speaker 1: wives have probably been in longer term relationships, or maybe
Speaker 1: they have older kids. My younger friends that are married,
Speaker 1: and by younger, I mean under forty, I've seen them
Speaker 1: with these types of girls or in relationships.
Speaker 2: My friends that kind of have wives at home have
Speaker 2: older kids. Maybe their wives ain't trying to be out
Speaker 2: with them at every event, like, which is understandable, cause like, yeah,
Speaker 2: sure it's fun the first few years, but we gotta
Speaker 2: all be honest with ourselves. Like if you have to
Speaker 2: keep up with your man that needs to keep up
Speaker 2: with appearances, like that's not sustainable either. Okay, if you
Speaker 2: are let's just say illegal, your man is in the
Speaker 2: sports or industry and always gotta be out, You're not
Speaker 2: about to chase behind this nigga every fucking event.
Speaker 1: You got your own shit going, Like, I'm not running
Speaker 1: behind a nigga. I got too much to do.
Speaker 2: So if my man is at every conference and networking
Speaker 2: and doing shit, is gonna make it look like, you know,
Speaker 2: like I'm not doing enough, or I'm not fun or
Speaker 2: I'm not out there. Like I think just having women
Speaker 2: around in the club really doesn't mean anything. I think
Speaker 2: women flock to money and status, and I don't think
Speaker 2: a girl being next to you around really shows any value.
Speaker 1: I would love to note from our monogamous list nurse
Speaker 1: if their man goes on work trips, if they're fine
Speaker 1: and comfortable with their man being out with friends and
Speaker 1: bitches being around, being at the table, because think about
Speaker 1: it from the table back to no, no, no, but
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, No, that's where you see it.
Speaker 1: I want to know for our monogamous listeners what they
Speaker 1: like if they're fine with their man just hanging out
Speaker 1: with the fun girls just hanging out. You're talking about monogamous.
Speaker 1: I don't know their man fun rich, but that's when
Speaker 1: they famous and rich men. No, I'm talking that they
Speaker 1: don't have to be famous or rich. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: women who, like you just said, the lawyer dating the
Speaker 1: sports agent. These are corporate people who have to travel
Speaker 1: for work. When you're not around, Are you fine with
Speaker 1: your man being outside with the fun girls that you
Speaker 1: know probably want to have some fun. And when I
Speaker 1: say fun, we've been there. We've been those girls that
Speaker 1: go from drinking at the fucking table to go into
Speaker 1: the after party, to go into the hotel room. Like
Speaker 1: fun girls like to have fun. They down with the
Speaker 1: casual sex. We were the fun girls. We've been those
Speaker 1: girls twenty six to thirty two, whatever the case. We
Speaker 1: weren't just always hanging out with guys. If your guys attractive,
Speaker 1: your guy got money, ain't hanging with the fun girls.
Speaker 1: Chances are, But.
Speaker 2: The initial thing was do men really want to be
Speaker 2: with the women they're choosing or would they rather be
Speaker 2: with the fun girl?
Speaker 1: No? And my thing is they like the fun girl
Speaker 1: and would probably be with them if they weren't so
Speaker 1: hell bent on how society views them and the woman
Speaker 1: next to them. And so I believed it, which is
Speaker 1: why there's one of the guys like we talked like
Speaker 1: even me and activeate, it's like, okay, does what I
Speaker 1: do in a career aligned with your image? There's been
Speaker 1: men I talked about I have a little government nigga
Speaker 1: who said he had his PR team looked me up
Speaker 1: cause I was like, oh my god, like, are you
Speaker 1: even allowed to be around me? Because you know, like
Speaker 1: you do a lot of things high up in government.
Speaker 1: And he was like, oh, I have my PR team,
Speaker 1: look you up. And you know periods this women empowerment
Speaker 1: for women's rights, abortion rights. He was like, so you
Speaker 1: aligned it's cool, like because of your messaging, But I
Speaker 1: got athletes who are very hell bent on their brand image.
Speaker 1: We're just friends and we don't let it be known
Speaker 1: that it's anything more, because you know, it's.
Speaker 2: So crazy to me because it's like they could Dateavich
Speaker 2: that got three rapper baby daddies, that fucking got someone
Speaker 2: that exposed them.
Speaker 1: When I'm talking about the men who care about their
Speaker 1: brand image, I'm.
Speaker 2: Saying, you're talking about those men maybe the same that
Speaker 2: would date that girl that's been passed around because she
Speaker 2: just has pictures up and isn't talking on her platform
Speaker 2: right Like, it's kind of crazy because the picking and
Speaker 2: choosing of who you're gonna be with.
Speaker 1: I think niggas really be acting like we know, there's
Speaker 1: a difference between a man fucking you and a man
Speaker 1: wifing you. Men are always gonna fuck those women, but
Speaker 1: being publicly claimed by them, being brought around the family,
Speaker 1: being an item to the public, bringing you to my
Speaker 1: work events, that is different. And I think that men
Speaker 1: who actually care about how they look to society, to
Speaker 1: their jobs in their careers, they want a clean, safe
Speaker 1: woman next to them, and it kind of, you know,
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