WEBVTT - Embrace temporary habits

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to embrace temporary habits. If there is

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<v Speaker 1>a habit that would work well for you for a season,

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<v Speaker 1>go for it. You can enjoy a new rhythm for

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<v Speaker 1>a while, even if it doesn't work forever. We are

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<v Speaker 1>headed toward January and a lot of folks are pondering

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<v Speaker 1>their goals for the new year. Many times we want

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<v Speaker 1>to develop new habits, and the unspoken assumption is that

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<v Speaker 1>these habits are supposed to be permanent. We want to

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<v Speaker 1>get in shape for good, we want to stop smoking forever,

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<v Speaker 1>and both of those are likely wise aspirations. But many

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<v Speaker 1>habits won't be permanent for a variety of reasons. Life changes,

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<v Speaker 1>the weather changes, and that is okay. When we accept

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<v Speaker 1>that sometimes habits are most appropriate for a particular season,

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<v Speaker 1>then we free ourselves to go all in on them

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<v Speaker 1>now without worrying about whether we can always do them.

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<v Speaker 1>So what if we can't do them forever, We can

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<v Speaker 1>do them and reap the benefits from them now. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for instance, if you live in Florida, where the weather

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<v Speaker 1>is delightful, this time of year, you can develop the

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<v Speaker 1>habit of biking to work, knowing full well that you

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<v Speaker 1>will not continue this when it is ninety degrees by

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<v Speaker 1>eight thirty a m. In August. That don't mean that

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<v Speaker 1>come August your biking habit failed, or that you failed.

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<v Speaker 1>It means that you pursued this healthy habit when it

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<v Speaker 1>made sense, you stopped when it didn't make sense. Or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe some new neighbors move in and they have a

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<v Speaker 1>child at the same elementary school as yours. Even if

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<v Speaker 1>your daughter is in the last year of elementary school,

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<v Speaker 1>there is no reason not to carpool now. It may

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<v Speaker 1>only last another semester, but until then you can save

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<v Speaker 1>yourself driving to and from school a couple of times

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<v Speaker 1>a week and reinforce the relationship with your new neighbors.

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<v Speaker 1>When we accept that we can go all in on things,

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<v Speaker 1>even if they are not permanent, we can make wiser

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<v Speaker 1>choices with life in general. I am reminded of Cheryl

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<v Speaker 1>Sandberg's admonition to young women who would like to have

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<v Speaker 1>children some day that they don't need to undercut their

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<v Speaker 1>own careers before kids even enter the picture. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to take a less intense job out of school

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<v Speaker 1>because you don't think you'll be able to work an

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<v Speaker 1>intense job once you're managing babies. Go ahead and take

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<v Speaker 1>the intense job for now and learn from it. Lean in,

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<v Speaker 1>She wrote, until the day you have to make a choice,

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<v Speaker 1>you will be in a better position to negotiate flexibility,

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<v Speaker 1>or take a different job, or even have the financial

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<v Speaker 1>resources to take a few years out of the workforce

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<v Speaker 1>if you've got great things on your resume already. Just

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<v Speaker 1>because you don't want to keep your foot on the

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<v Speaker 1>gas forever doesn't mean you shouldn't put it there now.

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<v Speaker 1>We sometimes resist investing in routines or activities because we

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<v Speaker 1>see a time when they behave your won't be feasible.

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<v Speaker 1>And I am all in favor of sustainable goals, but

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<v Speaker 1>given that almost everything in life ends at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>there is no reason not to do something you truly

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<v Speaker 1>want to do. Even if you won't be able to

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<v Speaker 1>do it forever, you can do it for a while,

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<v Speaker 1>and in many cases that will be long enough to

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<v Speaker 1>see some wonderful outcomes in the meantime. This is Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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