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Speaker 1: Hi, Catherine.

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Speaker 2: Oh hello, Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: Say you're at the end of November, which means it's

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Speaker 3: almost December.

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Speaker 2: Has this your gone so fast for you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: When I'm touring, things go by pretty quickly.

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Speaker 5: I'm sure. Do you just like blinking you are home

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Speaker 5: again after months?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean it's just been so crazy. Vanessa, the woman

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Speaker 3: who opens for me, I mean, I say woman, but

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Speaker 3: she's more of a baby.

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Speaker 1: I consider her to be my baby.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she's she says she's thirty eight, but whatever,

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Speaker 3: I don't believe it. That means I had her when

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Speaker 3: I was twelve. No, thirty eight, I had her when

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Speaker 3: I was ten. It must have been rough.

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Speaker 1: Anyway.

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Speaker 3: She's become ridiculous on tour and her behavior is astonishing.

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Speaker 1: So I mean, I just don't even.

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Speaker 2: Do you have Do you have receipts? Do you have examples?

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Speaker 3: I have a lot of video footage of her shoplifting

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Speaker 3: and out of the green room.

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Speaker 1: She takes stuff from the green room. She goes grocery shopping.

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Speaker 3: I mean it's not really shoplifting, but it's just helping herself.

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Speaker 3: She goes through the green room and literally does her

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Speaker 3: grocery shopping through the green room, Like she's like, oh,

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Speaker 3: here's an orange and apple.

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Speaker 1: There's like a brick of cheddar and.

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Speaker 3: Then she just puts it in her purse and then

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Speaker 3: like I'll be like, hey, do you have an edible?

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Speaker 3: And she's like takes out an orange, an apple, a banana,

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Speaker 3: she had like bags and nuts. I'm like, are you

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Speaker 3: are you treating this like a United flight? Like ridiculous?

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Speaker 3: And I mean we have had a really ridiculous time.

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Speaker 3: And she's very hard not to like cuddle and tickle,

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Speaker 3: you know that, because she's just so adorable. But I

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Speaker 3: she's going to claim allegations against workplace.

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Speaker 2: Workplace.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I know. I'm not good at that stuff.

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Speaker 1: I'm just too affectionate.

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Speaker 5: So our guest today does stand up, but she didn't

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Speaker 5: always do stand up, and she talked about like the

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Speaker 5: first time she did stand up, she was like, oh wait,

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Speaker 5: this is totally for me. Did you feel that way

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Speaker 3: So I was just like, oh my god, this is

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Speaker 3: nerve wrecking and just I just couldn't. Yeah, stand up

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Speaker 3: is scary Yeah, I mean, I'm so grateful I'm at

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Speaker 3: are just like, you know, I'm not like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm not like I have to.

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Speaker 3: Be on stage for two hours or I have to

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Speaker 1: I feel nothing like that. Yeah, but when I am

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Speaker 3: I love it and I love, you know, telling a

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Speaker 3: stand up is storytelling. Yeah, I mean I loved it,

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Speaker 3: but I was it was so scary that the scary

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 5: I feel like, especially for people who are starting out,

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Speaker 5: like daring you to fail, you know, in small rooms

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Speaker 3: I feel like it must be so difficult to start

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Speaker 3: it is, But a good thing for everyone to remember

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Speaker 3: is if you're if you're doing that. And this applies

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Speaker 3: to anything, like when you have a fucking great attitude

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Speaker 3: and you get on stage and you're beaming, it is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Chelsea. Should we get to our guest.

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Speaker 3: You can find our guest today on her podcast, Burner

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Speaker 3: Phone and Giggly Squad. Tickets for her comedy tour are

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Speaker 3: available at Hannahburner dot com. Please welcome comedian, podcast host

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Speaker 3: and digital creator Hannah Burner. Okay, Hannah, we both have

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Speaker 3: the same publicists, so we have like three publicists that

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Speaker 4: Don't say anything, so we're not allowed to say anything today.

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Speaker 3: And I told them, like, I mean, they must just

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Speaker 1: Hour, because well they do, they do.

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Speaker 3: I love this is my first of all my pr

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Speaker 3: team and your PR team are the best PR teams.

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Speaker 4: No, they're for the girls.

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Speaker 1: I have never been.

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Speaker 3: I've been through so many publicists in this town, and

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Speaker 3: you know, I do have a difficult personality, but this

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Speaker 3: is the best publicity team I've ever worked.

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Speaker 4: You're a self aware of queen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: They said good things about you because I wanted the tea.

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Speaker 4: I was like, Chelsea, is she a monster? They were like,

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Speaker 4: we're obsessed with her. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm a good girl.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I take care of my people, and my people

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Speaker 4: So I also have to tell you we've met before.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, no, all the time.

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Speaker 4: No, but it's not an embarrassing thing, like you missed

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Speaker 4: me right after college years ago.

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Speaker 4: I'm thirty two, So ten years ago. So I was

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Speaker 4: on the tennis teams. Yeah, they didn't let you take

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Speaker 4: too many classes. So after college I was teaching tennis

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Speaker 1: Oh, oh my god, I took a tennis class with you.

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Speaker 4: We played doubles together, babe, Andre, So he wasn't there,

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Speaker 4: your ex boy toy. I was getting paid by my

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Speaker 4: sugar grandpa to play doubles with these older men.

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Speaker 1: Sugar Grandpa to Sugar Grandpa. Does that mean you were

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Speaker 4: No? But he was giving me too much money to

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Speaker 4: play tennis, like for a young twenty two year old.

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Speaker 4: It was like two hundred dollars for an hour. Oh

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Speaker 4: that was like lawyer money. No, I know, because they

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Speaker 4: And I didn't know who you who Chelsea was, and

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Speaker 4: Lately fan, I was like, this is an awesome morning

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Speaker 4: so nervous. I like double faulted and you were like, no,

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Speaker 1: So good. Right now, I.

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Speaker 4: Know tennis is like cool now. It wasn't cool when

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Speaker 1: No, tennis is cool now, you know.

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Speaker 3: Well, pickleball is trying to be cool, but I wish

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Speaker 3: pick a ball would just shut the fuck up for

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Speaker 4: A cult.

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Speaker 3: Everyone wants to talk about pickleball all the time. It

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Speaker 3: is it's cult, Like.

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Speaker 4: It's cult that you stop talking to your family. You

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Speaker 4: only talk, you only dress in pick a ball outfits.

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Speaker 3: And any talk of sports right now, guys, you have

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Speaker 3: so excited. No, I got my fixed so that I

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Speaker 3: so polluted. Yeah, you just bloated, like from all of

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Speaker 4: No, you're like an Olympic athlete that needs to be

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Speaker 3: So I had to limp in here like limp biscuits

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Speaker 3: and to meet with you.

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Speaker 1: But I'm happy that you're here in person, in New

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Speaker 4: Oh, thank you, This is like such an honor. But

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Speaker 4: He's an older Like.

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Speaker 3: Don't strike me as someone who would be married when

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Speaker 3: I watch your videos online, which are very funny. By

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Speaker 4: I think you paved the way for me. But yeah,

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Speaker 4: getting married was not a plan. It happened during the pandemic.

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Speaker 4: I'm at an older man. He's very tired, forty seven. Oh,

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Speaker 4: and he likes to golf, he likes to ski, he

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Speaker 4: He dm me because I was in Shelter Island and

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Speaker 1: How did he know you?

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Speaker 4: Through the comedy world? But he lived in Ireland. He

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Speaker 4: actually small world. He's friends with Ursula Carlson and they

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I know last so she's hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Oh she's from New Zealand, right.

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Speaker 4: She's anyone from New Zealand makes me laugh, but she's

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Speaker 4: ridiculous next level. Yeah, yeah, I can't wait till the

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Speaker 1: I know we tried to do a show with her.

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Speaker 1: I think I don't.

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Speaker 4: Remember what he was on the show with. He was

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Speaker 1: Oh that's funny. Wow.

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Speaker 4: Probably so you dated my husband before? Oh okay, so yeah.

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Speaker 4: We we got engaged in like six months and it

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Speaker 4: was kind of like, I decenter men from my life.

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Speaker 1: You want decenter men, decenterment because in like.

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Speaker 4: You don't make any decisions based on men, right, I.

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Speaker 3: See, Well, I like that phrasing. I've never heard that before.

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Speaker 3: Decenter men.

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Speaker 4: I think the gen Z girlies are saying it, but

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Speaker 4: I think you really live by that, Like you do.

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Speaker 4: But you're not gonna force or change things.

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Speaker 4: I like being on the road because my apartment's a mess.

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Speaker 4: Well, I was telling our PR team, I was like,

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Speaker 4: But I'm saying back in the day, like girls starting

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Speaker 1: It's unsafe. It is unsafe. It is unsafe. I never drew.

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Speaker 3: I bet we didn't even have ubers when I started.

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Speaker 4: So I'm from New York City, so I don't even

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Speaker 4: No, the amount of planes and hotels and you mess

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Speaker 4: So it's a miracle. We made it here today.

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Speaker 3: It is a miracle, thank God, especially with her small miracles.

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Speaker 1: Once. Yeah, my JANKI need that. I'm rapping right now.

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Speaker 3: It looks like I'm masturbating under the table, but I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm self soothing.

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Speaker 4: But I want to stay with this. I love that

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Speaker 4: But I never skied before.

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Speaker 4: I never. I wasn't allowed to gouse a tennis.

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Speaker 4: My parents would be like, God forbid you get injured.

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Speaker 4: You can't whatever it is.

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Speaker 3: I'm Renee Stubs you mentioned when they came in. Okay,

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Speaker 3: let's talk about Renee Stubs because she's a friend of mine.

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Speaker 3: Is she a friend of your? She makes her way

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Speaker 3: I'm friends with Chelsea?

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Speaker 4: Remember, Renee Stubbs is part of I call it the

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Speaker 4: I was like any advice, and she's like, you know,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what that means thank you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that means. I'm seeing that.

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Speaker 3: I'm seeing Renee that big lesbian tomorrow night for dinner.

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Speaker 4: There's drama in the lesbian world time.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, there's listen. The lesbians are taking me.

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Speaker 3: They are trying to capture me in TikTok?

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Speaker 4: Are you on it now?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Lesbian TikTok?

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Speaker 4: Sorts of drama?

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Speaker 3: I can't go online right now, it's too upsetting. I

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Speaker 4: I know I'm pretending the lesbian dramas like your world episthetic.

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Speaker 4: That's the only thing that's going on, right. You have

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Speaker 3: So you how long into dating your husband did you

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Speaker 1: You were like, I'm in love with you.

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Speaker 4: Good question.

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Speaker 4: Great question? All valid questions, Yeah questions. He should be

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Speaker 4: Or he grew up in Queens and then he lived

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Speaker 1: Uncle Gary. That's every creepy uncle is Gary.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you change it to Gary even if it's not.

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Speaker 3: Gary's not a hot name. I named a dog Gary

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Speaker 4: And I was like that's a dream. Well yeah, like yeah,

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Speaker 4: We do? That's good because I think we're not we're

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Speaker 1: I have to.

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Speaker 3: I just had to inject myself in my thigh this

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Speaker 1: And I've been keeping going.

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Speaker 3: I keep going on these kind of quasi dates or

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Speaker 3: And I can't take testosterone because my hair thinned the

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Speaker 4: So I was like, forget me.

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Speaker 3: So I went to my yeah and get back me.

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Speaker 3: sex drive because I don't think I have it. I'm like,

444
00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:28,640
Speaker 3: I've tried to have sex like three times.

445
00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:30,640
Speaker 4: Because you were really horny when you were younger.

446
00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:33,360
Speaker 3: Well, no, not horny, but like I could get excited.

447
00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:33,640
Speaker 1: I'm not.

448
00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:36,720
Speaker 3: I've never been boy crazy. That's not my personality. But

449
00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:39,360
Speaker 3: I do love that about you. But also it's like, wait,

450
00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:41,200
Speaker 3: why do we have so much pressure? Like you know,

451
00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:43,240
Speaker 3: if I go a few months without having sex, I'm like,

452
00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,400
Speaker 3: oh shit, I better have sex. And it's like why

453
00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:48,120
Speaker 3: why do I need to have sex? But apparently I

454
00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:50,600
Speaker 3: think I do. So anyway, I injected myself this morning

455
00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:52,520
Speaker 3: with some thiga emocin or I don't know what the

456
00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:54,480
Speaker 3: fuck it's called, and we'll see if that drums up

457
00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,720
Speaker 3: any sexual feelings for me, because.

458
00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:58,920
Speaker 4: Well, people don't talk about how sex is oftentimes a

459
00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:01,880
Speaker 4: bad experience, especial when it's like a new guy or something.

460
00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:04,639
Speaker 4: It's weird, and I'm like, I my night would have

461
00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:08,000
Speaker 4: been better without it. I think it's for us. And

462
00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:09,280
Speaker 4: I always said I didn't want to be with a

463
00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,160
Speaker 4: comic because I've moved with a comic before and it

464
00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:14,919
Speaker 4: wasn't great. But with him, I was. We really like

465
00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:18,920
Speaker 4: he I respect him mentally, which is crazy to think,

466
00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:20,760
Speaker 4: but like it's like you need to find someone that

467
00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,600
Speaker 4: their love language is laughter with you and you feel

468
00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:27,359
Speaker 4: excited about like riffing with them, and that's like your foreplay.

469
00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,520
Speaker 4: That's the hotness. Like we talk on the phone a lot,

470
00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,800
Speaker 4: that's like our thing. Yeah, it's not like, oh I

471
00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:35,639
Speaker 4: need a fuck you now, it's like right talking, we

472
00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,520
Speaker 4: just talk. We don't we don't shut up.

473
00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:39,080
Speaker 1: And does he work now at all?

474
00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:41,040
Speaker 4: He's working. He's still doing comedy and stuff. We have

475
00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:42,480
Speaker 4: podcasts together burner phone.

476
00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:43,480
Speaker 1: Oh that's together with you.

477
00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:45,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, so he's good. But I just I just want

478
00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,000
Speaker 4: him to like be confident enough to like let me

479
00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,159
Speaker 4: do my thing and support me. And he's he is.

480
00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:50,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

481
00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:52,680
Speaker 3: That's important because a lot of men come across as

482
00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,600
Speaker 3: like they are confident or they see are seemingly confident,

483
00:17:55,640 --> 00:17:57,879
Speaker 3: and then when it comes down to it, they're fucking paranoid.

484
00:17:57,920 --> 00:17:59,800
Speaker 1: They're jealous. They're not confident.

485
00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:01,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you're like, I just want to love you,

486
00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:03,840
Speaker 4: and they're acting weird towards you, and then you realize

487
00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:05,159
Speaker 4: you have to baby them and be like, I'm so

488
00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:06,159
Speaker 4: proud of you.

489
00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

490
00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:10,040
Speaker 3: The distance is very important for any independent woman because

491
00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:12,680
Speaker 3: it is so annoying to have to spend every single

492
00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:16,480
Speaker 3: second with somebody. And I also don't appreciate having to

493
00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,960
Speaker 3: FaceTime with people on ohime when you're in a relationship,

494
00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:22,440
Speaker 3: because holding up the fucking phone while you're talking, it's like,

495
00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,639
Speaker 3: wait a second, this is like two exercise you're going to.

496
00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:27,200
Speaker 3: I could talk to you, but I need the lights

497
00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:28,720
Speaker 3: off and I want to be in bedlining down, you know,

498
00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:29,920
Speaker 3: with my AirPods in or whatever.

499
00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:31,159
Speaker 1: I don't need to be looking at you.

500
00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:33,440
Speaker 4: Also, I'm staring at myself the whole time.

501
00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:33,840
Speaker 1: Exactly.

502
00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:35,640
Speaker 4: I want to be able to scroll Instagram while.

503
00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,119
Speaker 1: Talking, exactly Exactly.

504
00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:39,040
Speaker 3: I had a friend once, not a boyfriend, this is

505
00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:41,680
Speaker 3: a friend friend, And anytime I would be on the phone,

506
00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:44,240
Speaker 3: reading an email or on social media or anything while

507
00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:46,119
Speaker 3: I was on the phone, he could be talking and

508
00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:47,200
Speaker 3: he'd go, what are you reading?

509
00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:48,600
Speaker 4: And on my business?

510
00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:50,480
Speaker 3: Why do you know that I'm reading something? Like, how

511
00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:51,840
Speaker 3: can you tell? He's like, I can tell by the

512
00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:52,800
Speaker 3: way you're breathing.

513
00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:55,000
Speaker 4: Like your eyes are going left right, Like, well, that

514
00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:55,359
Speaker 4: would be.

515
00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:57,240
Speaker 3: Really annoying if we were fucking face timing, because then

516
00:18:57,280 --> 00:18:58,280
Speaker 3: you fucking know for sure?

517
00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:00,479
Speaker 4: Do you want to know something wild? He had an

518
00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,680
Speaker 4: apartment and the person, older woman passed away next door,

519
00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:06,359
Speaker 4: and I bought the apartment next door, so I have

520
00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:07,520
Speaker 4: my own apartment next to his.

521
00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:09,240
Speaker 1: Oh god, that's solid.

522
00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:10,120
Speaker 4: Yeah.

523
00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:11,880
Speaker 1: Where do you guys live in Brooklyn?

524
00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:12,920
Speaker 4: We live in the Lower east Side.

525
00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,000
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thinking about moving to New York. I'm going

526
00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:16,280
Speaker 3: to look at a bunch of apartments tomorrow.

527
00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:17,399
Speaker 4: And you're such a New Yorker.

528
00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:18,200
Speaker 1: I know it's.

529
00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,160
Speaker 3: Articulous that I've never lived here. I'm like almost I'm

530
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:21,800
Speaker 3: forty eight years old, so I've never lived.

531
00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:22,120
Speaker 1: In your city.

532
00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:25,399
Speaker 3: Jewish, I know, with open arms, I know, I know,

533
00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:27,200
Speaker 3: I know. Well, you'd have to accept me because I'm

534
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,560
Speaker 3: New Jersey. Yeah, I'm from New Jersey.

535
00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,119
Speaker 4: But sorry, I mean to call you out.

536
00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:35,840
Speaker 3: It's a tri state area, yes, yes, the Tri state area.

537
00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:38,000
Speaker 4: As long as you're not from like upstate, you know.

538
00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,120
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm not from upstate. Okay, what else

539
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:42,320
Speaker 3: do you want to tell me about yourself?

540
00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,520
Speaker 4: Oh? But I did want to talk about skiing with you, okay,

541
00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:46,399
Speaker 4: because that's our biggest issue. That's big.

542
00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:46,679
Speaker 6: Oh.

543
00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:47,920
Speaker 1: I like your little furry arms.

544
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:49,919
Speaker 4: You're cute, very sweaty. Right now, I'm sorry.

545
00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:51,280
Speaker 1: Look how much I like your harry.

546
00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:52,280
Speaker 4: I'm half Italian.

547
00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:53,840
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I can see it. It's cute.

548
00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,520
Speaker 4: Are we flirting? No? Okay, so I think that I

549
00:19:58,600 --> 00:19:59,480
Speaker 4: want to like skiing.

550
00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,480
Speaker 1: But what did you say? You had a ski accident?

551
00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:05,639
Speaker 4: I had a ski accident because I really wanted to

552
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,959
Speaker 4: be good at skiing, and it's it's a weird thing

553
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,639
Speaker 4: because I'm competitive, but like, you just get to the

554
00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 4: bond of the mountain. So I'm like bored and scared

555
00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:14,640
Speaker 4: and then I cry all the time. Why well, I'm

556
00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:16,520
Speaker 4: like new to it, so I'm like in a buchry,

557
00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,679
Speaker 4: I will always find find a bush. I'm crying, but

558
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:20,199
Speaker 4: then I'll be like, oh no, it's really cold, I'm

559
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 4: not crying, which I think is like I want to

560
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:26,159
Speaker 4: know why you love skiing because I I want to

561
00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:27,879
Speaker 4: get the bug because all he wants to do is ski,

562
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:31,640
Speaker 4: but I can't. We can't change ourselves. For men. Why

563
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 4: do you love it?

564
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 1: Because it's freeing, Like I love well, you are topless too.

565
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 3: I do it, yeah, but not all the time. I

566
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 3: even love it when I'm wearing clothes. I love it

567
00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:41,719
Speaker 3: even more when I'm fucking naked, because there's just something

568
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:43,200
Speaker 3: so freeing about skiing down.

569
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:44,600
Speaker 4: I'm not taking it's so good.

570
00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 7: I know.

571
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,160
Speaker 3: They're the best, my best feature. I can't believe I've did.

572
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 3: I just I'm like, oh my god. Anytime anyone sees

573
00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:50,680
Speaker 3: them for the first time, they're like, oh my god,

574
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:52,840
Speaker 3: are those real. I'm like, yeah, they're real.

575
00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 4: Bounce up, and then they're like athletic tits too, like

576
00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 4: I can do stuff with them.

577
00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:00,040
Speaker 3: I'm not against plastic surgery because I'll do that, but

578
00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 3: I wouldn't get fake boobs, you know what I mean.

579
00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 3: If anything, I would prefer smaller boobs because I've had

580
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 3: my whole life, so I'm used to them, so they're

581
00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,880
Speaker 3: not that fun for me anymore. Yeah, but it feels

582
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 3: That's the other reason why I want to up my

583
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:11,399
Speaker 3: sex drive, because it feels shmeful to waste this body.

584
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 3: My body is so smoking that it's like I feels

585
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:14,399
Speaker 3: like I need to share it.

586
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:16,119
Speaker 4: You know, do you feel like the best part of

587
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:18,920
Speaker 4: sex is like the foreplay before of like the teasing

588
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:20,679
Speaker 4: like will we will we not? Then once you do it,

589
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:23,120
Speaker 4: you're always just like okay.

590
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:24,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, well it's always good when you do it. Yeah,

591
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:28,320
Speaker 3: But back to skiing, always a freedom. There's a freedom

592
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 3: in skiing down a mountain and being just like and

593
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,359
Speaker 3: just ripping down a mountain, like.

594
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 1: I love it.

595
00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 3: I love the sense of like strength, the strength of

596
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 3: like the sense of freedom. I love being outside in

597
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 3: that cold weather, Like it's very invigorating to me, that feeling.

598
00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 3: It's not for everybody because a lot of people don't

599
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:47,640
Speaker 3: like the cold.

600
00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 4: You definitely get out of your own head when you're

601
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,119
Speaker 4: there because you have to be in the moment to focus.

602
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 4: What do you think about the douchey snowboarders though, like

603
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 4: they're like.

604
00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:55,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, sleigh boarders aren't my favorite.

605
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:57,719
Speaker 3: The only time I've ever been hit was a has

606
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:00,680
Speaker 3: been by a snowboarder, right, I almost no boarded into

607
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:02,359
Speaker 3: me several times at my friends.

608
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 4: The only boards I want is a Charcuteri board, Like

609
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 4: that's all I want.

610
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 3: I don't even like charcouterie anymore. I've decided I'm over sharkcuterie.

611
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 3: I take, yeah, hot take is right, I'm Charcuterie feels

612
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 3: passe to me.

613
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:13,920
Speaker 4: Well, I've never finished one, and then I always feel

614
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:14,920
Speaker 4: guilty because I had, Like.

615
00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,960
Speaker 3: I'm back on the cheese, cheese and harmone because harmone

616
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,440
Speaker 3: is what they have in Spain, and I spend a

617
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 3: lot of time in Spain, and I fucking love hormone.

618
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,159
Speaker 3: But that's the only kind of like meat dish I

619
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 3: want at that. I'm over charcuterie.

620
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 4: I do like the food associated with skiing, though, because

621
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 4: hot chocolate you could drink at any time, and no

622
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 4: one does.

623
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,000
Speaker 1: I drink margarita's.

624
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 3: I go in for eleven o'clock margarita break at eleven am,

625
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 3: I go in for my first margarita. Then I go

626
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,360
Speaker 3: back at one, and that actually gives me a more

627
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 3: sense of like. I even am more fearless once I

628
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 3: have a little alcohol in my system, you know, for skiing.

629
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 3: Because my ski buddies in Canada where I ski, are hardcore.

630
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 1: They are not fucking around.

631
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,159
Speaker 3: They're doing black So that's why I have to get

632
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 3: knee surgery to get so I can ski and keep

633
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:57,439
Speaker 3: up with my friends.

634
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,119
Speaker 4: I love how your ski season like everything revolves on.

635
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,440
Speaker 1: Your ski oh everything everything having.

636
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 4: A like you have a legit hobby, and I feel

637
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 4: like so many people don't have hobbies and it's so

638
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 4: beautiful that you love anything as much as you love skiing.

639
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 1: Well, thank you.

640
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 3: I was dating the Sky a few years ago, right

641
00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 3: before I went away to Whistler for like three months. Yes,

642
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,160
Speaker 3: I go, now I'm going to Whistler and he's like, okay,

643
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 3: so how long are you to be there? And I

644
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 3: was like three months and he was like, am I

645
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 3: going to visit you there?

646
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:21,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, do you ski?

647
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:22,439
Speaker 4: Can you keep up?

648
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 3: And he's like, well, I mean I haven't skied. I

649
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:26,560
Speaker 3: was like, no, then you're not visiting me, Like it's over.

650
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 4: I'm not babysitting you on This relationship is over. Now

651
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 4: we're not doing pizza skis together. That's not hot. It

652
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 4: gives you the egg A guy doing pizza skiing.

653
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 3: No, So I just don't even like that's how committed

654
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 3: to skiing I am that even if I'm in the

655
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 3: throes of a romance, I'll will prefer to go and

656
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 3: leave that person to go skiing.

657
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 4: I love that, but I was actually Whistler when.

658
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 1: I got injured, but what was your injury?

659
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:47,880
Speaker 4: So I was on a green and it was called

660
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 4: like easy out.

661
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: Or I know exactly what you're talking about, Yeah, easy out.

662
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,399
Speaker 4: And it was like early in the morning, so it

663
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 4: was very choppy, and I was a little cocky, like

664
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 4: does my husband would make me do three hour lessons,

665
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,679
Speaker 4: get lunch, then show him what I learned. Like it

666
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 4: was very very intense, but I want to be like loved.

667
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,159
Speaker 4: And my dad was my tennis coach, so it's like

668
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 4: some deep the everything, and I'm just like, I will

669
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 4: be great for this man. So I'm showing off. I'm

670
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 4: like I'm getting my you know, rhythm, and I hid

671
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 4: an edge and I fell onto my hand, like my

672
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 4: whole body fell on my hand, and then like my

673
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 4: hand kind of got crushed and I had to call

674
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 4: the the was it called Sheboygan.

675
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 1: With the Sheboygan a place in Wisconsin, part of board.

676
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 4: The Toboggan.

677
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: It's the Pagan Tobogganaboygan.

678
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 4: So New York. I have no idea anything outside New York.

679
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 4: The Toboggan came so dramatic because it's just.

680
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:43,679
Speaker 1: My pinky And so when you broke your pinky.

681
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 4: I basically crushed like all my knuckles. It was bad,

682
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 4: and I'm getting frostbite because it's like our a and

683
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 4: I'm just lying there and there's a video of me

684
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 4: going down the sheboygan and it was so dramasaically.

685
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 3: And how did your boyfriend react to that? He's sympathetic

686
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 3: to your injury.

687
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,200
Speaker 4: He was, but he thinks that I manifested it, which

688
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 4: I think I did because I didn't really want to

689
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 4: go skiing that day. You know, when you're just like

690
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 4: what if I just you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, chucked

691
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:12,479
Speaker 4: myself down the mount because I was tired. I was

692
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 4: doing like tons of shows and I was like, I

693
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 4: don't want to go skiing this morning, and he's really good.

694
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: Have you been skiing since then?

695
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,959
Speaker 4: So I have some shows coming up in like Denver

696
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 4: and Aspen and we're seeing he bought me the like pass,

697
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 4: so he's trying to get me back by compass. Yeah yeah, yeah,

698
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 4: so he's pressuring me.

699
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had a boyfriend once who didn't care. I

700
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 3: had a torn ACL from skiing. Again, this is years ago.

701
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 3: All I do is hurt myself. So I had a

702
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 3: torn acl years ago in Switzerland and Zermatt. I was

703
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 3: also on ecstasy when I went to that accident, so

704
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 3: I just want to be very honest about that, and

705
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,960
Speaker 3: they manafact me. I'm too a helicopter off the mountain.

706
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 3: My friends were all like, you're a fucking loser. And

707
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 3: then I went to Rome and like Florence and some parts.

708
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 4: Of Italy, on the half of your leg is like

709
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 4: hanging out, and.

710
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: I'm just well, basically, I was like, iowa win to

711
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 3: get the surgery because I was already on vacation, and

712
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I'll just tape it every day

713
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 3: or wrap it, wrap it, and but my boyfriend just

714
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 3: had no regard for my health, like at all. Like

715
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 3: I'd get home every night, my knee would be like

716
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 3: the size of a water balloon and I'd have to

717
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 3: elevate it ice it for like three hours and he

718
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 3: was just like, all right, tomorrow we're going to the coliseum.

719
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck off. And so that so it's very

720
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,159
Speaker 1: important when people care about your well being.

721
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 4: You learned about it well.

722
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 3: I ly right hand, but I also look, so what

723
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 3: does that mean? So like, oh, because you're right it

724
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 3: so I.

725
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,719
Speaker 4: Couldn't jerk my husband. You know when you put your

726
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,360
Speaker 4: in a ponytail. Yes, you knew how important that was.

727
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 4: I couldn't do it, and he was trying to do it,

728
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 4: and I'm like, that's the ugly ponytail, babe. And then

729
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 4: I couldn't text fast because I couldn't use my hand.

730
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 4: So that was a nightmare. Oh so do voice messages?

731
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 4: All my friends were annoyed at me.

732
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never ever once recorded a voice message, but

733
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 3: I receive them. You know, they disappeared too, they vanish, sketchy.

734
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,120
Speaker 4: Why is that it's so unnecessary?

735
00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.

736
00:26:58,640 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: It's like, what do you think I'm gonna do for

737
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 3: your message to someone else? Meanwhile, that's how I found

738
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 3: out advantaged because I was trying to.

739
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: Do that very thing.

740
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 3: Okay, we have to take a break and we'll be

741
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 3: right back, Catherine. We're taking a break.

742
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 2: Amazing, and we're back. We're back.

743
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 3: It's so fast, Okay, Catherine, what do we what's going

744
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 3: on today?

745
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,479
Speaker 1: Catherine? We've barely heard a peep out of here.

746
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 5: So we've got a bunch of very fun questions for Hannah.

747
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 5: But I think let's start with a little wedding question,

748
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 5: a little a marriage question.

749
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 1: It's like your wheel hill.

750
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 5: Bianca says, Dear Chelsea, my best friend of thirteen years

751
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 5: is getting married. She's my sister and my lifelong soulmate.

752
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 5: I'm her maid of honor and will of course have

753
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 5: to give a speech at the wedding.

754
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 2: The speech will most likely.

755
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 5: Be during the ceremony, and I believe the best man

756
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 5: will go the funny route, so I want to keep

757
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 5: it classy, sentimental and sweet. However, I don't see the

758
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:02,400
Speaker 5: spark with her fiance, and I'm feeling he's so uninspired.

759
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: In writing this speech.

760
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 4: Break up the wedding.

761
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 5: She loves him dearly and they're building a life together,

762
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 5: and I trust her decision and choosing him as a

763
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 5: partner for her life. But sometimes I'm like, really, this guy,

764
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 5: nothing is wrong with him necessarily other than having the

765
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 5: personality of a rock.

766
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: How do I find inspiration?

767
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 5: Sincerely, Bianca, I think that's your speech right there.

768
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 3: Well, I would focus your speech on your friend and

769
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 3: just make it about all of the incredible things you

770
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 3: can say about her and how lucky he is to

771
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 3: be marrying her, and you don't have to vouch for

772
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 3: him necessarily or talk about their connection obviously at the end,

773
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 3: you want to say, like, I'm so glad that you

774
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 3: found someone who appreciates all these things, you know, to

775
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 3: really drive it home, but you not getting the spark

776
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 3: between them is really not important information for your speech. Yeah,

777
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 3: you have to be a good friend right now, and

778
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: she loves him and she's getting married and he's not

779
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,959
Speaker 3: an asshole or abusive or anything like that that you've mentioned,

780
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 3: So there's no reason to take a stand other than

781
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: just try to make a great speech about what an

782
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 3: incredible person she is and list just some of your

783
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 3: favorite memories of her.

784
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 4: That's good. I mean you don't have to put together

785
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 4: like a whole thesis statement essay. I like, I love

786
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 4: a quick speech. I'll have a three four minute solid

787
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 4: to the point. And also I don't know her personality,

788
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 4: but like you can be funny too, girl. Yeah, we

789
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 4: did speeches and my husband was like killing in his speech,

790
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 4: like last per minute.

791
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 3: You guys were making speeches. That's funny.

792
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 4: I think it's an Irish tradition.

793
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 3: Oh that's funny. Well, good for him, since he's not

794
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 3: fucking Irish. I mean it's Irish tradition, I guess because.

795
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 4: He's lived there the last like thirty years. So he's like,

796
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 4: this is what we do. And I was like, okay,

797
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 4: now I have to perform my own fucking wedding and

798
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 4: he's killing and then I'm realizing I have to follow him,

799
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 4: so I'm not listening to his speech. I'm going through

800
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 4: my notes in my set, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

801
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 4: So I slowed, like, slow it down after the best

802
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 4: man crushes, slow it down, you know, get the audience

803
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 4: calm again. Yeah, and I was like sweet, and then

804
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 4: I made a joke like I wish I met you earlier,

805
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 4: like when you were in your twenty but I would

806
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 4: have been in kindergarten. And then we got like a

807
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 4: little laplause break and I was like fuck you, I win,

808
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 4: and then I danced the night away. So don't be

809
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 4: afraid to be funny just because the best man's gonna

810
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 4: be funny. Yeah, like you can crush a two.

811
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree with that too.

812
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 5: I've been in this situation before too, where like one

813
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 5: of my best girlfriends, like she dated this really fun

814
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 5: guy and he was awesome. They traveled, they did all

815
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 5: this stuff, and then the guy she wound up marrying

816
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 5: was just like this very kind of boring guy playing vanilla,

817
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 5: and you know what they are now, like fifteen years later,

818
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 5: like so happy, three kids living in the suburbs, and

819
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 5: I'm like, who knew.

820
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 2: She's like thrilled with her life.

821
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 5: They're deeply in love even though he's like still very boring,

822
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 5: but that's what she wanted.

823
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: So yeah, you know a lot of people want boring man.

824
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.

825
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 5: I remember talking to my dad about this exact friend

826
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 5: and I'm like, you know this guy, he's just like

827
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 5: so vanilla, and my dad goes, you know what, a

828
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 5: lot of people love vanilla ice cream. It's not exciting,

829
00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 5: it's not Rocky Road, but vanilla ice cream.

830
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 2: I still have an Ali scream.

831
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 1: What kind of wedding did you have?

832
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 4: So we honestly, if I'm being open with people, Elope

833
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 4: like just alope. We had a beautiful We had a

834
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 4: beautiful wedding in West Hampton. It was great. We brought

835
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 4: the families together, but it adds up. It gets so expensive.

836
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 4: And also, as a comedian, like I always make everything

837
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,719
Speaker 4: about me, so the day was I don't like wedding attention.

838
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 4: It's like happy birthday attention where you're like, oh, these

839
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 4: people are forced to like clap for me because it's

840
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 4: my birthday or my wedding day. I like to earn

841
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 4: people's affection, so it was very I didn't love that

842
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 4: attention on wedding day. But I think for someone who

843
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 4: like never makes things about themselves, the wedding day is

844
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 4: the most beautiful day.

845
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, really, last thing I would ever want for myself

846
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 1: a wedding.

847
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 4: I was like. And also the whole like your dad

848
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 4: giving you away. I'm like, my dad's like.

849
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: My dad's dead, so he's not giving me away.

850
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 3: Shout out to shout out to my dad if you're

851
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 3: listening to this podcast.

852
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 4: Actually both of does his parents our dead, which is

853
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 4: quite nice.

854
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 2: With that, Let's go to grinder.

855
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 5: Tyler lives in the South and he is in a

856
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 5: bit of a predicament. I just want to preface too,

857
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 5: So this is a bit of a two part question.

858
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 5: I would love for us to sort of answer the

859
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 5: question in the email a little bit, and then he's

860
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 5: going to join us and give us a little bit

861
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 5: of an update.

862
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 2: So Tyler says, Dear.

863
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 5: Chelsea, I find myself in a rather delicate situation and

864
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 5: I would greatly appreciate your insight and guidance The other night,

865
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 5: during a sleepless bout at three am, I found myself

866
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 5: mindlessly scrolling through Grinder. I have two different accounts, one

867
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 5: with my face that I used regularly and another anonymous

868
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 5: account for mere curiosity. To my surprise, I received a

869
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 5: message from a nearby anonymous profile expressing interest in the

870
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 5: late night encounter and including explicit photos. Curiosity got the

871
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 5: better of me and I asked this person for a

872
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 5: face picture, thinking they wouldn't comply since I don't share

873
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 5: face pictures on that account. However, they did send a

874
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 5: poo and to my astonishment, it turned out to be

875
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 5: my aunt's husband.

876
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 2: Oh. I was taken aback, to say the least.

877
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 5: Now, I find myself at a crossroads, unsure of how

878
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 5: to proceed. Should I inform my aunt about my discovery.

879
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 5: Should I confront her husband directly? I understand that staying

880
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 5: silent is an option, but it goes against my nature

881
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 5: and my personal values.

882
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 2: My intention is to handle.

883
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 5: The situation with care and thoughtfulness, taking into consideration my

884
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 5: aunt's feelings are family dynamics and the potential impact on

885
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 5: their relationship. I don't know whether they have a specific

886
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 5: open arrangement or an understanding within their marriage, and I

887
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 5: don't want to make assumptions or create unnecessary discomfort for

888
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 5: anyone involved. But I also don't want my aunt to

889
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 5: be in a position without informed consent if she's unaware

890
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 5: of his actions.

891
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 2: Tyler, Hi, Tyler, Hi, Hi Tyler.

892
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 3: By the way, this is Hannah Bernard Me yesterday, Hianna.

893
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 6: So about a week after I read, my aunt went

894
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 6: on a two week vacation to Florida with her husband

895
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:13,720
Speaker 6: and boyfriend. Yeah and yeah no, And so I was like, Okay,

896
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 6: I'm not going to rude their vacation, Like this is

897
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 6: not a time to like blow it up.

898
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 8: So I decided to like hold off. Well, what do

899
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 8: you know.

900
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 6: When they're in Florida, my aunt finds out on her

901
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 6: own about this. She found grinder on his phone, and

902
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 6: so my sister messages me and she's like, our aunt

903
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 6: found out about this. They're going to get a divorce,

904
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 6: and she wants you to block his number. I'm like me,

905
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 6: like what, okay, So of course I just played. I'm

906
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 6: like I was like, okay, well, I guess this is

907
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 6: kind of off of my chest now without me having

908
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 6: to do or say anything or implicate myself but now

909
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 6: there's no separation. I think they've kind of swept it

910
00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 6: under the rug, and I feel still a little yucky

911
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 6: about it. And so I think my question now is, well,

912
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 6: do I share with her what I know? I mean,

913
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 6: I receive pictures.

914
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you do. I think you do. That's

915
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 3: your aunt and your loyalty should be to your family.

916
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 3: And she should know because now they're not getting divorced.

917
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 3: Now they're staying together while he's grinding on other men

918
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 3: and like trying to hook up. I mean, it's shocking

919
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 3: and which if she's fine with it, then fine, but

920
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 3: he probably convinced her that it was like a one

921
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 3: time thing or blah blah blah, and I think you

922
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 3: should tell her the truth.

923
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

924
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 4: Also, Yeah, I feel like it's the kind of thing

925
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 4: that after like four drinks at a family function, you're

926
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 4: gonna spill anyway, So you might as well do it

927
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 4: in like an organized, correct fashion, because I know myself

928
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 4: and I would it would be like on the tip

929
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 4: of my tongue all the time, and I'd drop it

930
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 4: at the worst point, and that would be real drama.

931
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 8: Yeah.

932
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 6: So luckily we don't have that sort of family dynamic

933
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 6: where we're all been noodling together. But yeah, I just

934
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 6: you know, I hesitated because I'm like, well, do I

935
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 6: reopen this wound, maybe cashed it out?

936
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 8: Does she know the depth of it? And do I

937
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 8: get involved?

938
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know it's probably.

939
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I always err on the side of

940
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 3: telling people the truth, even if it's inconvenient and it's

941
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,840
Speaker 3: hard to hear, like, I do it out of respect

942
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 3: for people, like I think people deserve to know the

943
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 3: full truth. And it actually seems like it's present. This

944
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 3: opportunity has presented itself to you in a way that

945
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 3: you should You should be telling the truth, you know,

946
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 3: like it came up and you can easily say liaseless.

947
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 3: And I know you guys, I heard from my sister

948
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 3: that you guys were separating and then you were getting divorced,

949
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,399
Speaker 3: or if you had, did you spoken to your aunt

950
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 3: directly about it?

951
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:36,439
Speaker 4: Yet?

952
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: I mean, has she mentioned that the divorce to you

953
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: or No.

954
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 8: She's not mentioned anything to me.

955
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 6: The only thing I've heard was from my sister and

956
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 6: then that was it.

957
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 8: It's almost as if it never happened.

958
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,879
Speaker 5: Well, And can I also clarify, do any of them

959
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 5: know that you got these pictures from him because or

960
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 5: was it.

961
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: Just like you know and they don't know?

962
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 4: You know, they know now though they all listen to

963
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 4: Chelsea thank everyone.

964
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,720
Speaker 8: No they haven't.

965
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 6: And I you know what, five years ago, I probably

966
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 6: would have been like, oh my god, guess what everyone?

967
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 8: I have like learned empathy and learned.

968
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 4: But if you were her, what would you want?

969
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 8: That's a really great question.

970
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 6: I feel like I would want someone to tell me,

971
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:26,959
Speaker 6: and without knowing what she knows now or how much

972
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 6: she knows, I think I would still want it. But

973
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 6: it also I feel bad for her. It is an

974
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 6: uncomfortable situation, and I don't want to embarrass her. I

975
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 6: don't want to make her feel any worse about it.

976
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,839
Speaker 4: And yeah, maybe they're having fun threesomes now, like maybe

977
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 4: it's enhanced their relationship.

978
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, and that's what At first I was like, Well,

979
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 6: I don't know their situation. Maybe they're open and it's

980
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 6: totally cool. But then I'm like, that's not I live

981
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 6: in Kentucky. That's not probably what I know.

982
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 3: Because if she was going to divorce him right away,

983
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 3: she obviously convinced that it wasn't a thing, or that

984
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 3: he didn't do it, or that it was a one

985
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 3: time thing. I think you should tell her. I think

986
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 3: you should just say listen, in light of everything that's happened.

987
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 3: I know you and I haven't spoken directly, but I

988
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 3: have to be honest with you because my loyalty is

989
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 3: to you. This happened. This happened a couple weeks before

990
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 3: you went on your vacation. I wrestled with telling you

991
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 3: or not, and then I heard you were getting a divorce,

992
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 3: and I figured, okay, that's there's no reason to tell you.

993
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,840
Speaker 3: And I no judgment whatsoever if you know about it

994
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 3: and you're okay with it, but I wanted you to

995
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 3: know from me, this is what happened.

996
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, no judgment. I love you. He probably was like grinder.

997
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 4: I thought it was like a core appliance.

998
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 1: App Yeah, I know.

999
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 3: I mean, any woman can be convinced of anything when

1000
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 3: they want to be, you know, like powerful.

1001
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 6: You know, and part of me too, like I get

1002
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 6: I get the piece where you know, however old he is,

1003
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 6: having those feelings or being gay or being bisexual is

1004
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 6: just like out of the norm, I guess, or not

1005
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 6: right for people of his age, and so I get

1006
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 6: his perspective of like being trying to be secretive and

1007
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 6: not share, and that part's wrong.

1008
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 8: The lying part is wrong.

1009
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 6: But I wanted to protect almost like the person, you know,

1010
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 6: prevent outing him and creating a situation where he can't

1011
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 6: be his authentic self.

1012
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 8: And that's work he has to do, I know.

1013
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 6: But I've also been on the side of where someone's

1014
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 6: outing me or talking bad about me, or calling me names,

1015
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 6: and so I'm trying to, you know, proceed with caution.

1016
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 6: I guess, I just don't want anyone to be in

1017
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 6: a situation, my aunt or him in terms of like

1018
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 6: his sexuality, if that's what it is, if it was experimenting,

1019
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 6: I don't know.

1020
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: I get it. It's a sensitive issue.

1021
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 3: And listen, you're not outing him because she first of all,

1022
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 3: now she already knows something's up. And I respect what

1023
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 3: you're saying. You don't want to out somebody, but this

1024
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 3: is a family member. The reason to do it is

1025
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: to be honest with her, you know what I mean.

1026
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 3: You don't want to keep a secret on behalf of

1027
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 3: this guy when it's your aunt. You know, It's not

1028
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: like you're outing someone into the world and saying, oh,

1029
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:07,839
Speaker 3: this person's a homosexual.

1030
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 1: You're saying to your aunt, this is what happened. This

1031
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: is what I know.

1032
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 3: I don't know that he's a homosexual, but I mean

1033
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 3: clearly he sent me pictures. This happened. Like, you deserve

1034
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 3: to know this, and that's it. And if she doesn't,

1035
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,280
Speaker 3: you know, and if she's fine with it, then fine,

1036
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 3: then great, then they can carry on. But I think

1037
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 3: the truth is important.

1038
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, it is hard to be the catalyst though, of drama,

1039
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,840
Speaker 4: like feeling like it's your fault. But like, what if

1040
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 4: she ends up finding the love of her life after this,

1041
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 4: and he ends up finding the love of his life

1042
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 4: and they live more authentic lives and then you're the

1043
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 4: savior and then you go to heaven.

1044
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: And then Hannah. Yeah, and then Hannah comes and makes

1045
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: a speech at your wedding.

1046
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, I've been thinking about heaven a lot lately.

1047
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 4: So that's like I changed the rules. Yeah, I agree,

1048
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 4: I feel like heaven's kind of gay. But anyway, that's

1049
00:40:58,760 --> 00:40:59,360
Speaker 4: another point.

1050
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have does seem like it's definitely like there's

1051
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:04,839
Speaker 3: a lot of gay people there after everything they've after

1052
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 3: everything they've gone through on Earth.

1053
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 4: I mean, aesthetic is like sparkly and like it looks Yeah.

1054
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 8: I agree.

1055
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 6: I think the right thing to do is to share

1056
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 6: and and say, like you said, no judgment.

1057
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 8: I just want you to know the whole story and

1058
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 8: do what you want.

1059
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1060
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,439
Speaker 5: I think you know you have to prioritize like her

1061
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 5: bodily autonomy and being able to make choices for herself.

1062
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 5: Over you know, as Chelsea said, you're not outing him

1063
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,800
Speaker 5: to the world, but over like basically outing him is

1064
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 5: like no, he is actively seeking hookups in person to

1065
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 5: your aunt. But also like, I think maybe that conversation

1066
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 5: is not like showing her what he sent you, but

1067
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 5: like just maybe verbal and saying like, hey he did

1068
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:56,720
Speaker 5: send explicit photos, et cetera.

1069
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 4: Yeah he us posted.

1070
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:00,359
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1071
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely want to.

1072
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 3: I want to hear about this one after this is all,

1073
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:06,280
Speaker 3: after the dust settles.

1074
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'll keep you updated. I will be very patient

1075
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 6: with her because I know it's a lot.

1076
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, Chelsea, do you think this is like a letter?

1077
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 5: Do you think this is a phone call? In person?

1078
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 2: What do you think?

1079
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 1: Where does she live? And can you see her in person?

1080
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 8: I can? I can see her in person just about

1081
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 8: any time.

1082
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you should do it in person. Not

1083
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 3: a voice note, not a voice memo. No, definitely not,

1084
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 3: definitely not, or you could just DM her on Instagram.

1085
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 8: That's intimate, just me.

1086
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 3: Both together and just resend the pictures that he sent

1087
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 3: you on Grinder?

1088
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: Does this look familiar? Does this dick look familiar?

1089
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 3: And she's so he didn't know he was sending it

1090
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 3: to you though, right, he didn't see your picture.

1091
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 1: He only oh, I see.

1092
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 4: No sloppy, very sloppy, sloppy behavior.

1093
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 8: Yeah, he has a lot to learn.

1094
00:42:58,360 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 3: But how can you hook up with someone on Grinder

1095
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 3: without seeing their photo of their face?

1096
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 1: You just send dick pics back and forth and that's it.

1097
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 4: Not me.

1098
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 8: I have to have a face, like I want to

1099
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,399
Speaker 8: see teeth I see. But other people that.

1100
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:12,760
Speaker 1: You said you don't send your face, right.

1101
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 6: I don't send my face on that. So I have

1102
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 6: two grinders. One's just for me being nosy, that's just

1103
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 6: a blank profile, and.

1104
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 4: The other I know it like a finta, like a finsta.

1105
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but what's the point of a fake grinder?

1106
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 6: Like for me, it's just like who's around? I don't

1107
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,359
Speaker 6: like actively really message well, just.

1108
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 4: To know who finds me out. If your aunt's husbands

1109
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 4: are on it, that's that's a good enough reason.

1110
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 3: I wonder how many ants. I wonder how many of

1111
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 3: your aunt's husbands are on it one? So for how

1112
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 3: many ants do you have? Every ant is shaking right now.

1113
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:48,879
Speaker 8: I will call in another episode and we'll go through

1114
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 8: my whole family.

1115
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 4: If you want Kentuck, he's crazy.

1116
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 8: Oh my god.

1117
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 6: Grinder by the way, it's like the wild West, So

1118
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 6: you don't know the half of what happens there.

1119
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: No, I don't.

1120
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 4: I'd a little bit of the sex of Grinder, like

1121
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:07,319
Speaker 4: a little bit of a stosterone.

1122
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I do. It sounds like I do.

1123
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: Maybe I can get it from your uncle.

1124
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:12,919
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1125
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 4: It's funny though, because I feel like a lesbian dating

1126
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 4: app would not just be sending like laby ALIPs, No,

1127
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 4: that would. It would be like poetry cat photos.

1128
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 8: Like nesting.

1129
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:25,240
Speaker 6: I don't know if you've ever heard of the term nesting,

1130
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 6: but when a bunch of gays get together, it's I mean,

1131
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 6: it's it's fine and interesting.

1132
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:30,879
Speaker 8: I'm not going to say I hate it.

1133
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 5: But I think Chelsea needs like a fake Grinder account

1134
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 5: so she can explore.

1135
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:36,720
Speaker 8: I think you should.

1136
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: That actually would amuse me. I think I'm not sure.

1137
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 1: I don't really like dick pics, though.

1138
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 4: Out of context they're aggressive.

1139
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:46,000
Speaker 3: I don't really like to see pictures of penises, you

1140
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 3: know what I mean? Like I I would rather just yeah,

1141
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 3: not to see that.

1142
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 4: She goes, I'd love it minus all the dicks. You're like,

1143
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 4: that's not gonna.

1144
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 2: Work, It's not gonnas.

1145
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 5: Well, Tyler, a lot of I know what happens. I

1146
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 5: know you've got a couple of tough conversations out of you.

1147
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I will.

1148
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:07,919
Speaker 6: I'll keep you posted and I'm sure all will go

1149
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 6: just as smoothly as we hope.

1150
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 1: Thank you, Tyler, Bye.

1151
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 8: Tyler, Tyler, thank you bye, good to see you.

1152
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 1: Bye.

1153
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 4: Oh I'm stressed.

1154
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 2: That real A lot of layers, A lot of layers.

1155
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 4: How cute. Well.

1156
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:32,399
Speaker 5: Our next caller is Cecilia Dear Chelsea. I'm twenty five

1157
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 5: years old, and I would say I'm a late bloomer

1158
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 5: in the romantic realm. I've never had a boyfriend. I

1159
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 5: went to a small high school where none of my

1160
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 5: friends really dated. Then for college, I majored in theater,

1161
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 5: so no straight men there. Then COVID hit my senior year.

1162
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 5: And I also have a life full of loving friends

1163
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 5: and family, so I think that's This has also caused

1164
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 5: me to not seek a romantic partner. I moved to

1165
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 5: a new city two years ago for a fabulous job

1166
00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,879
Speaker 5: and haven't quite found a circle of friends that give

1167
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:00,879
Speaker 5: me the support I need. I started online dating about

1168
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,439
Speaker 5: a year ago, and after maybe half a dozen first dates,

1169
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 5: I decided it wasn't for me. I have had two

1170
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 5: other situationships, as the gen z would say, in recent months,

1171
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 5: and they both happened similarly. Both were guys at work

1172
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 5: who I had a foundation with of sorts, and they

1173
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 5: pursued me. We'd go on fun dates and they were

1174
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 5: obsessed with me, as they should be, and then once

1175
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 5: I really liked them and tried to define the relationship,

1176
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 5: they'd get all distant. It's frustrating that both of these

1177
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 5: guys pursued me and then let things fizzle once I

1178
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 5: had strong feelings for them. Needless to say, I need

1179
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 5: to stop dating men in the workplace. But it's also

1180
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 5: teaching me that being upfront with my feelings scares men away,

1181
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,719
Speaker 5: which feels like the wrong takeaway. My therapist said I

1182
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 5: should let them initiate how they're feeling, but that feels

1183
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 5: like a cop out. I feel like I have no

1184
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,919
Speaker 5: skills in dating or handling a breakup, and I feel

1185
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 5: like I'm so late to the game. I don't even

1186
00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 5: know where to start.

1187
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: Cecilia, she's twenty five.

1188
00:46:54,560 --> 00:47:00,320
Speaker 3: Hi, Cecilia, by no, you're only twenty five years old.

1189
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 3: You me mean light to the game. Some people don't

1190
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,960
Speaker 3: even have sex and so they're thirty.

1191
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,439
Speaker 4: Okay, I mean, I guess that's fair.

1192
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 8: I guess.

1193
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1194
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 7: It's something that I feel like I've done other parts

1195
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 7: of my life that I'm like, Oh, let's delve into

1196
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 7: finding a partner, especially like in the city I live in.

1197
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 7: I feel like I don't have a base, so like

1198
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 7: I feel like having a partner would be nice.

1199
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:23,320
Speaker 1: What city do you live in?

1200
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 7: Orlando? Oh?

1201
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: Okay, m water Parks.

1202
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 4: I like to say, as an elder, your early twenties

1203
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 4: is all. It's researching. It's not even dating. Call it researching.

1204
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 4: You're figuring out what you like, which you don't like,

1205
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 4: what makes you un comfy, because there's no you're not getting.

1206
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 4: You're not trying to find a husband. You know, you're

1207
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 4: just learning about yourself, and you don't really know that

1208
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 4: much about yourself. In your early twenties either.

1209
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself.

1210
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 3: Why do you put so much pressure on yourself to

1211
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 3: be in a relationship.

1212
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 7: I guess maybe like a part of me puts pressure

1213
00:47:54,640 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 7: on myself, Like when I was writing in I was

1214
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 7: putting pressure on myself, But like it's not like I'm

1215
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 7: actively focusing on that all the time. I think just

1216
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 7: a part of me like puts pressure on myself. But

1217
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:04,959
Speaker 7: I put pressure on myself career wise in like other

1218
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 7: parts of my life for sure, But it's not like

1219
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 7: every day I'm waking up like how do I solve

1220
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 7: this problem? I'm single, Like I'm It's like not an

1221
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 7: intense problem. It's just like I don't want to like

1222
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 7: be dirty and be like, oh I forgot again to

1223
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 7: ever pursue any one romantically. Like I just feel like

1224
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 7: I have to make that a part of my life

1225
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 7: if I ever want that.

1226
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 4: I mean, relationships are hard, and it could seem with

1227
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 4: social media that like everyone's in a loving relationship, but

1228
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 4: I think it's like the hardest thing. And you know

1229
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:34,240
Speaker 4: how when you make a friend it's so easy and quick.

1230
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 4: That's kind of like what you're looking for in a

1231
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 4: guy where it's like we're not forcing it. I mess

1232
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 4: with you. There's not like oh I have to It's

1233
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 4: not like homework, like I have to study to be

1234
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 4: good at this. It's kind of like what we're talking

1235
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 4: about is don't worry about the men. Worry about you,

1236
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 4: and then you'll be doing something you love, like skiing

1237
00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 4: or something, and they'll find you. But you don't have

1238
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:55,760
Speaker 4: to force it or research or like try too hard.

1239
00:48:56,480 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, I've picked up bouldering recently. That's been cool, but like,

1240
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 7: I don't know. I guess I feel like I should

1241
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 7: be actively trying at least a little bit.

1242
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,399
Speaker 3: But I think an oversight that many of us make

1243
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 3: is we are a miscalculation is like, don't underestimate the

1244
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 3: value of your relationship with yourself when you are a

1245
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 3: whole person and you really invest in getting to know yourself,

1246
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 3: in being with yourself, in finding out what you do enjoy,

1247
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 3: Like Okay, bouldering great, you like that, right, All of

1248
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 3: those things are good, Like it's very natural. Not everybody

1249
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:32,439
Speaker 3: has boyfriends in their twenties, you know, Like I had

1250
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:35,359
Speaker 3: two boyfriends in my twenties and in the span in

1251
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 3: a decade.

1252
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:37,760
Speaker 1: I'm not a relationship person.

1253
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 3: I have relationships, and then I have to take long

1254
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 3: breaks in between those relationships because they fucking wear.

1255
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 1: The shit out of me.

1256
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 3: And then in those times when I'm single are the

1257
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 3: best times in my life. So like, honestly, like you

1258
00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:52,319
Speaker 3: have to really build that relationship with yourself and get

1259
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 3: to know who you are and what because sometimes in

1260
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 3: our twenties, like there's a lot of us looking around

1261
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 3: and not sometimes this is like a society. We're always

1262
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 3: looking at what other people are doing. We're looking at

1263
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 3: social media, we're looking at other people there in relationships.

1264
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: I should do that, I should do that? Why who?

1265
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

1266
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 3: Like, it's you can make an effort, and you know

1267
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 3: you can make an effort. You're going to meet people

1268
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:16,479
Speaker 3: naturally in your life, as you go through your job,

1269
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,760
Speaker 3: as you go through your social stuff and your hobbies,

1270
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 3: you are naturally going to meet people. If you want

1271
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 3: to put an effort in beyond that, then absolutely then

1272
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:27,520
Speaker 3: you do kind of have to do that dating thing

1273
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:29,800
Speaker 3: or you have to put yourself in situations where you're.

1274
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:31,320
Speaker 1: Going to constantly be meeting new people.

1275
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 3: And there are other ways to do that without dating sites,

1276
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 3: and you can join you know, like a bouldering club,

1277
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:38,319
Speaker 3: or you can join a tennis club, or you can

1278
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 3: join a pickleball club or whatever the fuck you're into,

1279
00:50:41,520 --> 00:50:44,319
Speaker 3: you know, and you can meet people that way and

1280
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 3: use that as like, Okay, at least I'm putting actively

1281
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,400
Speaker 3: putting myself out there. But I have to tell you

1282
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 3: when I actively put myself out there is when it

1283
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 3: yields the least results. That is, so I meet people

1284
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 3: when I'm not looking. That's always what has happened to me.

1285
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:01,439
Speaker 3: And I don't consider any of my relationships unsuccessful because

1286
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 3: they didn't work out. They were just parts of the

1287
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 3: things that built me up into who I am today

1288
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 3: and makes me understand myself even more now.

1289
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: I know, like I have zero tolerance for any bullshit.

1290
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 3: I have to be completely attracted or into someone to

1291
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 3: give you the time of day, Like you know, I

1292
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 3: just don't have that kind of like young attitude about

1293
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 3: it anymore because my time to with myself is so valuable.

1294
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: Anthropocy or that was a word of the day. It

1295
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: was called the.

1296
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 3: Pleasure of being alone, the pleasure of enjoying your solitude anthropony. Anthropony,

1297
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:35,080
Speaker 3: I think is what it was. Anyway, I was like Oh,

1298
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 3: that's how I feel like. I love I love my

1299
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: alone time, So listen, it doesn't really I'm we're not

1300
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 3: giving you like a concrete answer here, but I would

1301
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 3: say just lay off of it for a little bit,

1302
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 3: don't even think about it for a couple months, and

1303
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 3: revisit it so you can just kind of get refocused

1304
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 3: and recalibrate on yourself and then come out and with

1305
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 3: a fresher perspective. If you're done with the dating sites

1306
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 3: for now, then give it a break and come back

1307
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 3: to it in a couple of months or whatever you

1308
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 3: feel like it. You know, I wouldn't put so much

1309
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 3: pressure on yourself to meet somebody.

1310
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 4: Ooh, that was amazing. Take fucking notes. That was heavy.

1311
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 4: But it also I feel like we're trying to say,

1312
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:11,280
Speaker 4: like we're kind of proud of you that you've invested

1313
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 4: in yourself, because sometimes you'll only try to date people

1314
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 4: and you're just like doing whatever they like, and yeah,

1315
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:20,759
Speaker 4: do some apps, throw yourself in some dates. But we're honest,

1316
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,240
Speaker 4: you're not missing that much. Early twenties guys are confused.

1317
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 4: They don't even know how to finger you like you're confused.

1318
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 4: You so like you're not missing anything crazy and by

1319
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 4: the time you're like thirty and you're that bitch, then

1320
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 4: you're gonna level up and meet someone at that level

1321
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 4: with you. But that comes in investing in yourself.

1322
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, then you really have something to offer somebody up.

1323
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:41,400
Speaker 3: When you really have put the work into yourself and

1324
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:43,839
Speaker 3: you are comfortable in your own skin and know who

1325
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 3: you are, then you really are a catch. You know,

1326
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 3: not to say you're not one now, but it's only

1327
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 3: going to get better for you. So the more time

1328
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 3: you can spend by yourself getting to realize who you are,

1329
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 3: becoming a self actualized person, is going to yield much

1330
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 3: better results and much better people that are complimentary to

1331
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 3: you and that are that are well suited for you.

1332
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 3: Because sometimes when we come from a place of like, oh, well,

1333
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 3: I guess I should be doing this, you're not really

1334
00:53:09,640 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 3: looking for the right things in a person.

1335
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 4: And if you get married one day, you have the

1336
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 4: whole rest of your life that you're gonna be like, oh,

1337
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 4: I missed when I was early twenties and I could

1338
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 4: just hang out with the girls.

1339
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:22,360
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, and I would say too, like you moved

1340
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 5: to this new city two years ago. You know you're

1341
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 5: kind of established there, but you haven't developed that friend group.

1342
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:29,319
Speaker 5: And that's one of the best ways to like meet

1343
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,319
Speaker 5: a romantic interest is through friends. So if you're gonna

1344
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 5: pour effort into anything, maybe pour your effort into like

1345
00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 5: building a base of friendships and dating to find a

1346
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 5: group of friends.

1347
00:53:40,200 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 4: You know, And I love bouldering. That's cool. I mean

1348
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 4: I've never done it, but I want it sounds fun.

1349
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 7: It's just easy to pick up if that's something you're

1350
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:48,479
Speaker 7: interested in.

1351
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:50,800
Speaker 1: Like, what do you do? What is bouldering? Rock climbing?

1352
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, but it's like rock climbing, but it's strategic, so

1353
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 7: there's like different colors and like you're not like stropped

1354
00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:58,840
Speaker 7: into anything. It's not that kind of rock climbing.

1355
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 4: It's only like ten like a spider monkey. Yeah.

1356
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: Sure, I'm going to google spider Monkey later.

1357
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 3: It sounds like some sort of semen applicant that's something

1358
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 3: to do with semen.

1359
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 1: Was that helpful to you at all?

1360
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 8: Yeah?

1361
00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 7: I guess I just kinda have spent the past couple

1362
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 7: of years building on myself and working on myself and

1363
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 7: not being invested in finding a romantic partner. So I

1364
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 7: kind of thought maybe now that I like I'm so

1365
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 7: established here in my career and my friends here are

1366
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:30,560
Speaker 7: like okay, but like my friends and family back home,

1367
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 7: like I'm so secure in that that like I thought

1368
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 7: this would be like a good time in my life

1369
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 7: to kind.

1370
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:35,439
Speaker 2: Of like branch out.

1371
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 7: But we're saying, like, no, keep focusing on like myself

1372
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 7: and like kind.

1373
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:39,959
Speaker 8: Of go from there.

1374
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 4: No.

1375
00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 1: I mean, you can branch out. You can do both things.

1376
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:45,360
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying in the interim time where like,

1377
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:46,840
Speaker 3: if you don't want to put the effort into the

1378
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 3: dating sites, then don't then that you don't have to

1379
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:52,319
Speaker 3: do that. There's no limit or time frame where you

1380
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:56,040
Speaker 3: have to be with somebody. I understand the desire, but

1381
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 3: nothing bad is going to come from you spending time

1382
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 3: alone and get to know yourself even more. You know,

1383
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:04,800
Speaker 3: two years is great, So maybe it's another six months.

1384
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 3: You'll know when you have like a real hankering, and

1385
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 3: you'll definitely know when you meet someone and there's a

1386
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:10,600
Speaker 3: spark and that could happen.

1387
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 1: Also just a rando.

1388
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 4: Second, Yeah, it takes one person. Yeah, are you on

1389
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 4: the apps now?

1390
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 1: So she's over them?

1391
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 4: Oh you're over.

1392
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:23,319
Speaker 7: That's what I'm saying is I'm not really trying. So

1393
00:55:23,600 --> 00:55:25,319
Speaker 7: that's like kind of where I'm at right now.

1394
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:27,399
Speaker 4: We're kind of saying, don't feel bad about where you are.

1395
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:29,840
Speaker 4: It's great. And I would redownload apps so you like

1396
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:31,719
Speaker 4: doing your own thing and force yourself to go on

1397
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 4: like a date every couple of weeks and see what happens.

1398
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 7: So I don't really go on the apps because I like,

1399
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 7: I've done that before and I've never had a dating

1400
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:41,439
Speaker 7: app where I've been like that was so fun, even

1401
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:42,560
Speaker 7: though we didn't have a connection.

1402
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 4: That was great. So like.

1403
00:55:46,360 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 7: Go to the movies by myself, like take myself out

1404
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:50,200
Speaker 7: to dinner, Like I'd rather do that than do that

1405
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 7: with somebody.

1406
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:54,000
Speaker 5: Also, like let the friends that you do have know, like, hey,

1407
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 5: do you know anybody put it out there that you're

1408
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 5: interested in meeting someone, and like people will start, things

1409
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 5: will purkle, people will start thinking about who they know

1410
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 5: and who they might hook you up with. Well, Cecilia,

1411
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:09,319
Speaker 5: keep us posted on what you do decide to do.

1412
00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 5: If you decide to like work on friendships, if you

1413
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:14,280
Speaker 5: decide to try out the apps again, yeah for sure.

1414
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 3: And who knows, maybe we'll run into somebody on this

1415
00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:18,400
Speaker 3: podcast and we can set you up with them. We

1416
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 3: just have to find someone who lives in Orlando.

1417
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:23,320
Speaker 7: Perfect, yes, Kiwi post.

1418
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 1: Have you heard of Ron DeSantis? Would you like to

1419
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: quantitate with him?

1420
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 4: Oh?

1421
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:27,960
Speaker 8: Else you? No?

1422
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 7: Please?

1423
00:56:29,640 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 4: Zudi?

1424
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: Too soon? All right, Cecilia, good.

1425
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 2: Luck, thank you, thank bye.

1426
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 1: We don't really help Cecilia.

1427
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:39,800
Speaker 4: I know she's fine.

1428
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she didn't but she didn't really want

1429
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:44,359
Speaker 1: to do anything about it.

1430
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 3: So it's like, I don't know, what are we supposed

1431
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:48,240
Speaker 3: to just bring someone out of thin air and place

1432
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 3: her in his custody.

1433
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:52,920
Speaker 5: Finding a friend group and like solidifying those relationships I

1434
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:54,719
Speaker 5: think is number one for her because she's been there

1435
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:56,719
Speaker 5: for two years. Like, she hasn't been there for two months.

1436
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 5: It doesn't have friends, she's been there for two years.

1437
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 5: Don't you feel like that's that's the next move?

1438
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 4: Making friends as an adult could be so hard.

1439
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 3: Though, But she did say she in her letter, she

1440
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:06,719
Speaker 3: said she didn't have a friend group.

1441
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 1: But then when we were talking, she said she had

1442
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:08,760
Speaker 1: some friends.

1443
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 3: Foam, okay, yeah, yeah yeah, Orlando.

1444
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 1: It just sounds so bleak.

1445
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:16,840
Speaker 3: As soon as she said Orlando, it's like, well, the

1446
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,320
Speaker 3: first you have to leave Florida and then we can

1447
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 3: talk about what's going to happen, you know, Orlando, Like, I.

1448
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 2: Know, it's tricky.

1449
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:28,520
Speaker 4: That's why I said water Parks.

1450
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 1: I was trying to be positive, I know, but are

1451
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: those positive?

1452
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:31,480
Speaker 4: No?

1453
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 3: Everyone, what's that word that you guys just said?

1454
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:35,760
Speaker 4: The monkey?

1455
00:57:36,200 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 3: Spider monkey? Sounds like you would find that out a

1456
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 3: word once he comes.

1457
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:40,800
Speaker 4: That's what it looks like my body.

1458
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:43,439
Speaker 1: Oh No.

1459
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 3: Vanessa Gonzales who opens for me on my tour, and

1460
00:57:46,720 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 3: she talks about men coming and it's it's so disenchanting.

1461
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's always embarrassing.

1462
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, faces when they come is embarrassing. You have

1463
00:57:57,880 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 3: to look away or just shut your eyes.

1464
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 4: How do we get here?

1465
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1466
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 3: Spider monkeys. Okay, we're going to take a quick break.

1467
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: We're back. We are, We're back with Hannah Burner.

1468
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:17,080
Speaker 2: We're back. I do have a little quickie. This is

1469
00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 2: from Caitlin. Dear Chelsea.

1470
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 5: I think I seriously need my ass kicked, ladies, and

1471
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 5: I've figured you'd be the best ones to do it.

1472
00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:26,000
Speaker 5: I've been with my boyfriend for about fifteen months and

1473
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 5: we're absolutely in love. He's amazing everything I've always wanted.

1474
00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:33,040
Speaker 2: I've waited a long time for him. She's fifty five.

1475
00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 5: Oh, However, I find myself being hung up on the

1476
00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 5: fact that I make more money than him, like substantially more.

1477
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 5: I've never been in this situation before, but I'm not

1478
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:45,120
Speaker 5: so sure how to handle what I'm feeling. When we

1479
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 5: go out, he drives and pays, et cetera. But when

1480
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 5: we take it to the next level and live together,

1481
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:51,720
Speaker 5: I fear there will be resentment on my part because

1482
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 5: I'll surely be covering more of our living expenses. Chelsea,

1483
00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 5: I'm sure you've been in relationships with men that make

1484
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:57,880
Speaker 5: less money than you.

1485
00:58:58,160 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 2: How did you handle it? Please help me get over myself, Caitlin.

1486
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:03,440
Speaker 3: First of all, men have been paying for us for

1487
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 3: fucking years, So get over yourself, Caitlyn, who gives a

1488
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 3: shit about money?

1489
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:10,680
Speaker 1: Be happy that you're in a happy relationship.

1490
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 3: With somebody that you're attracted to then you want to fuck,

1491
00:59:12,880 --> 00:59:15,280
Speaker 3: and that you want to live with Who cares about

1492
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:16,240
Speaker 3: who makes more money that?

1493
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't have any resentment.

1494
00:59:18,440 --> 00:59:21,400
Speaker 3: It's sometimes not hot if someone's broke, But as long

1495
00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:23,960
Speaker 3: as someone can like pay their fair share of something,

1496
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,080
Speaker 3: and you make more money than you help out a

1497
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:26,640
Speaker 3: little bit more.

1498
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:28,080
Speaker 1: That's what a relationship is.

1499
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 4: Which guys sometimes are the worst.

1500
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 1: Oh god, yeah, you don't want it. First of all.

1501
00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:36,000
Speaker 3: No, this is very sexist, you know, to think that

1502
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 3: the protect I know I would never I hardly ever.

1503
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 1: I know I hardly ever defend men.

1504
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 3: But I have to say in defense of men in

1505
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:46,040
Speaker 3: this one, like, you have everything you want and you're

1506
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 3: hung up on how much money you make.

1507
00:59:47,680 --> 00:59:49,600
Speaker 1: What if every man who supported every.

1508
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 3: Woman said that that's just silly, that's silliness, and that's

1509
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 3: old thinking.

1510
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:55,240
Speaker 1: And you've been shaped by your society.

1511
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 4: And if he I'd rather be with a guy who

1512
00:59:57,160 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 4: loves his job and loves life. It makes me feel

1513
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 4: good about myself than a guy who's what you want him,

1514
01:00:03,560 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 4: a stockbroker that's like gone all the time.

1515
01:00:06,040 --> 01:00:07,880
Speaker 3: My friend sits on the couch, she doesn't even want

1516
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:09,439
Speaker 3: to work anymore, and she loves him.

1517
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 1: She married him.

1518
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,240
Speaker 4: Because I want to create a good life for us.

1519
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 4: And if that involves like me living my dream and

1520
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:17,840
Speaker 4: me making money, yeah, we're all happy. You don't need

1521
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,600
Speaker 4: finances from him, that's where you work, and he can

1522
01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:22,080
Speaker 4: never control you with finances.

1523
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, Thank your lucky stars, Thank you You're welcome.

1524
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 1: Problem solved, Good night, kicked your ass, Hannah. This was

1525
01:00:30,360 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 1: a delight, your Adela.

1526
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 4: This was so much fun.

1527
01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 3: You guys want to go see Hannah on tour, you

1528
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 3: can go to her website Hannah Burner dot com.

1529
01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:39,440
Speaker 1: She's touring all over the country. Is that correct?

1530
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you can listen to her podcast, burn her

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Speaker 3: phone and Giggly Squad.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Hannah Burner, Thank you, Chelsea Hm, thank you

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Speaker 1: for being here.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Chelsea, do you have some new dates for us?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 4: You know, I do?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: I do?

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of We added lots.

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Speaker 3: Of Canadian cities, Canadians, I'm coming.

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Speaker 1: We added about fifteen new tour dates.

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Speaker 3: I'm coming to Denver again, Salt Lake City, Vancouver, Richmond, Virginia,

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Speaker 3: Santa Rosa, California, Gary and Diana, Baltimore, Rowna, New York

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Speaker 3: and about seven dates in Canada. So go to Chelsea

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Speaker 3: Handler dot com. I am performing everywhere. I will be

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Speaker 3: on tour all for the rest of the year and

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Speaker 3: through December, and then next year I'm going to be

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Speaker 3: touring all year.

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Speaker 1: So come and get it, you guys. It's good times and.

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Speaker 3: It's a very much needed reprieve from all the fucking

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Speaker 3: madness that's going on in this world.

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Speaker 1: So I'm here to bring joy and sunshine.

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Speaker 2: Do you have a holiday themed question for Chelsea? Please

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Speaker 2: send us.

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Speaker 5: All the questions that you need answered about crazy family

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Speaker 5: get togethers, arguing over which cranberry sauce recipe to us,

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Speaker 5: and all your holiday drama. Just send your questions to

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Speaker 5: Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea is

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Speaker 5: Edited and engineered by Brad Dickard executive producer Katherine Law

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Speaker 5: and be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler

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Speaker 5: dot com