WEBVTT - Namaste Where You Are with Teresa Guidice 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:06.600 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast. Y'all, 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:11.520 I just got back from therapy fresh a me, what 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:16.279 do we want to talk about? Um? Nothing, because that's 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.360 how I feel sometimes when I leave Amy. No, it 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.320 was funny. It was like one of those were UM, 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:24.720 I was going from like getting ready to like audition 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:26.759 and I'm like, Okay, I cannot cry today in therapy. 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:32.239 You know I've done um but y'all, I just I 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.280 feel like I'm just just gonna touch on it and 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:37.200 then we're gonna move on from you want to detach 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:39.000 while you touch on it so you don't cry. No, No, 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.040 I won't cry. I've cried enough. I had a good 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:48.760 cry session therapy. UM. So I posted that photo, which 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:51.720 it was a couple of weeks ago now on October 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.000 one for Domestic Violence War in this month, which is 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:58.640 the month of October, and it was a Facebook memory 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:01.880 that came up. Oh, I did see this one and 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:04.399 it was like and I had like some scrapes on 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:06.399 my shoulder, on the top of my shoulder and like 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:08.640 on the bottom or whatever. And that was the like 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:12.840 a few weeks after the first guy tried to kill me. 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:17.279 I've only spoken about it on Dancing with the Stars 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.280 when we went to the safe Horizon thing, and I 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:23.440 haven't really like I don't really touch on it, and 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:28.080 I I just had so much like emotion when I did, 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.360 and I don't even know like why, Like when I 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:32.040 saw the photo in September and I was just like 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:33.480 I just kind of like stared at it for like 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:37.280 a while. And then I remember October was, you know, 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.400 domestic violenceward of months. I was like, all right, I'm 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:42.520 gonna I think I'm gonna like just share a piece 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:45.040 of it and I hope that it will help someone. 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.000 But like when I pressed send, I like started like 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:51.680 to get really upset because I think it's like the 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:54.360 like the awareness like Amy calls it, like the grief 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.120 like you go through like stages of grief, and that 0:01:56.200 --> 0:02:00.240 was like the stage of like acceptance, which is like 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:04.240 it makes it real, but what made it harder. And 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:07.680 this is what we walked through today in therapy. Okay, shoot, 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:13.480 I haven't seen his face and since I was like 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:19.480 one and they put his mug shot and like yesterday, 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:21.519 like I saw it for the first time and I 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:24.040 was just like, I don't it just like sent like 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:27.840 a wave of like just chills. And then like I 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:30.200 got like scared, even though I know he's not here anymore, 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:33.240 but it was just like it was like I had 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:34.600 to like work through that because I'm like, well, have 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:36.840 I not seen his face? Like why would I? Why 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.120 would I look at photos of him? You know? And 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:40.680 then I started to get sad too because I'm like, 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:44.480 he's got he's got kids out there too, you know, 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:46.520 kids that never even met him, because like when I 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:49.400 met him, I only knew of one daughter. And then 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.480 when I did Dancing with the Stars, there's apparently like 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.560 six daughters that he had that some didn't even meet, 0:02:54.800 --> 0:03:00.160 and he's gone, like not earth side gone. He committed suicide. Okay, Um, 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:03.799 So it was just like I don't know why I'm 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:06.079 bringing that up, but I guess just like to get 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:10.440 it air sometimes it just needs air to breathe. Yeah, 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:13.560 just to say it out loud. I don't know why. 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:15.560 I like, And then like a part of me like 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:17.640 and then I started going to like my purpose of 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:19.480 like life, and so then I started talking about that 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.680 in therapy, and I'm like, what I would love to do, 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:24.920 like if I didn't have to worry about money in 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:28.440 supporting my children, like I would love to open up 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.720 like a shelter and like work with kids. Like I was, 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.239 Amy was like, there was this thirteen year old girl 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:35.480 in therapy today and I don't know, I just had 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:38.280 like a and a pull to like talk to her, 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:40.680 and so I sat there and talked to her for 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:42.520 like five minutes in there, and I was just like 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:47.120 I felt so good selfishly after and like that's what 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:50.960 I would love to help kids, open a shelter for women. 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.400 I also think there's a season for everything. I think 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:55.880 that we're not. It doesn't mean that that won't be 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:58.160 or it hasn't just because it hasn't happened. I just 0:03:58.200 --> 0:03:59.920 think we're all in a season right now. If like 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.520 our kids are tiny, we feel like we're not in 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:04.920 the little little years anymore because they're like almost four 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:09.120 and six and a half, but they still really need 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.200 us in a in a real way. I mean they're 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.120 always going to but they're tiny. So I feel like, 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.000 just don't be hard on yourself and just keep taking 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:16.960 steps towards it. Well, I just feel like I'm like, 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:19.680 what is my purpose right Like what is like light 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:23.200 topics with Janna Creamer, But I don't know, like, do 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:25.200 you guys struggle with that, because I'm like, for me, 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:28.279 I'm like, all right, yes, I know. I'm never like 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:30.160 I'm not like the best singer in the world. I'm 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.440 not the best actress in the world. But I love 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:34.320 doing it and I enjoyed and it supports my family. 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.360 Do I want to be you know, did I ever 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:38.200 think I was going to be an influencer on Instagram? No? 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:42.240 But it supports my family and I so I you know, 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:46.560 I I promote products that I like, and again it's 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:49.839 an efforts to support my family. And but I'm like 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:51.840 when I when I peeled back the layers, I'm like, 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:55.479 I would give anything to almost get off Instagram. Oh 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.440 I feel that to my core and just like like 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.720 what would I like and go to shelters, open a 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:03.560 shelter like and and you know, be with kids every 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.720 day and like help help, like the fourteen fifteen year 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:09.800 old kids where I got lost, you know. And it's 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:11.640 but I'm like, and maybe that's down the road. But 0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:13.279 sometimes I'm like, what is my purpose? And like what 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.679 am I doing? And then I'm like, well, my question 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:22.160 is what's stopping you from starting? Starting? I mean, I 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.160 feel like and by the way, for people that listening 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:26.440 there are in a bad situation and safe horizon, they're 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:30.400 an amazing shelter. So I want to promote that as well. Um, 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.479 it's it's so hard. We've talked about this before and 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:34.960 I'm like, I'm I want to, but I'm like, I 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:38.200 don't have the financial income to just be like here's 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:41.480 a place with fifteen beds and like, but wonder if 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:44.840 you start the networking piece for you now and like 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:47.599 just get it good understanding, Like maybe eventually the shelter 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:50.360 is the end goal for everybody listening. That's Channa blowing 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:52.640 her no because she wasn't going to cry when she 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:57.560 talked about she's all cried out. But I feel like 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:01.000 you can baby step now, Like maybe there's like I 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:03.360 have felt this in my own personal life too, Like 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:05.159 you know, I'm a stay at home mom. I haven't 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:06.800 had a nanny, we don't have help, and I'm a 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:09.560 family here, but I have felt this like call to 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:13.359 help moms and so for me, like, ultimately what I 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:17.680 would like to do is be supportive. We have a 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:19.640 stillborn task force. You and I have talked about that, 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.400 but like that's the dream for me. Which sounds really 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:25.280 like morbid, but like to walk that sacred space with moms. 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.320 But that is a lot of time away from home, 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.040 and not that I I don't want to do that 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:34.120 just in this season. I can't do that every single day. 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:38.080 So I'm just doing what I can and little bite 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:40.359 sized pieces to get towards that, and once in a 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.200 while I'm able to walk those spaces. But in the meantime, 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.479 there's other ways, especially with your influence, I feel like 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:52.360 you help so much the awareness, raising money for I mean, 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:54.080 there's tons of ways. I feel like you can just 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:58.000 start your slow chip away and framer shelter. Yeah, And 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:00.320 I think that if what's overwhelming to you was the 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:05.359 financial part of it, like God will provide that, you 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:06.920 know what I mean, Like, I don't think you should 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.000 worry about that component of it. There are a lot 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:14.200 of components to this, but there's probably plenty of people 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:16.760 out there that would want to invest help in a 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:19.080 situation like this, you know. So it's like, if you 0:07:19.160 --> 0:07:23.880 start taking some steps and start having the conversation, doors 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:26.680 will open. I think you would be surprised. Yeah, I 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:29.440 guess I just didn't even know where to start. You 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.520 just did I bet Yeah, someone is going to let 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:37.760 you know, don't you do? Guys ever, like you know 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:40.000 your purpose and stuff too, like and I don't know. 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.680 I deal with this with Amy all the time. Yeah. Yeah, 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.200 it's I mean, life is short, you know it is. 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.600 It's shorter than you even know. Yeah, and it's like 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:52.000 what is I have no idea? Yeah, it's overwhelming, honestly, 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:55.680 I mean I get it at least, you know. You know, 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.960 I don't necessarily have like a this is what I 0:07:59.000 --> 0:08:01.200 would want to do, you know. I mean I have 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:06.120 like a few things, but not like something I don't know. 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:08.760 I mean, for me, it's more missions and going on 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:10.640 more mission trips. But then of course it's always like, 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:12.080 well that costs this amount of money. You know. The 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:16.280 money is always a thing. You know, it's always about money, 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:20.520 saying it to myself. Do But I mean, I love 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:23.200 I think it's beautiful when you just like, no, like 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:25.720 I would love to do this, you know. I think 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:27.800 that's great because I kind of get lost in that, 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.200 like what would I love to do? I don't know. 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:33.400 I'm so busy with kids and you know whatever. But 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:35.480 he does I feel like God kind of like if 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.840 you look back even where we are now onto our 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:41.000 past lives, we see how he's implemented little pieces that 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:43.400 we've needed to know all along, Like you couldn't You 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.800 couldn't have arrived at wanting to run a children's shelter 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:48.840 ten years ago because you didn't have kids yet. And 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.280 so now having kids and knowing how to like mother 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:55.240 well and what they need and walking that daily also 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.600 gives you insight and education slices to put towards the 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:02.000 end goal. So he's building it all along the way. 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:09.600 You're getting your resume built. Sure every little thing is something. Yeah, yeah, 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:11.880 it's just like I'm like I have It'm like all right, 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.200 I would love to like here's my goal, right, get 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:17.080 on a procedural where like I'm like the fifth lead 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:20.120 and like a doctor show. So I have my study 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:22.200 income to support my kids so I don't have to hustle, 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.760 you know, on with doing fifty other million different things. 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:27.440 So that's like that's my study income. And then I 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.160 released a song here there, we do our Wine Down tour, 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:32.600 we do the podcast, like that's all like the fun stuff, 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:35.520 like I getting united like by doing this is fun, 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:39.680 Like this isn't like this isn't our bread and butter. Yeah, yeah, 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:41.360 this is like how fun is this? Like this is 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.920 like we get to talk and talk to really cool 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.360 people and like have fun, laugh, cry, like do all 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:50.040 that and then like have the true meaning and purpose 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:54.640 of like helping like abused women children like like that's like, oh, 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.400 like what a like what a gift that would be 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.679 like to be able to like have because sometimes I'm 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:03.000 just like what am I doing? M Like, guys, I 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:07.640 just want to be this is the start getting your 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:11.240 name out m M. This is a long it feels 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:14.240 like a long journey. Hey, you know what I read 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.120 something their day where someone's like, oh god, this is 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:18.840 I'm gonna busher the heck out of it. Someone's gonna 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:21.600 make it up, right. He was like I got I 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:24.440 got my first house at fifty or something was like 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:27.320 forty then at fifty, Like he wrote a best selling 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:29.920 author at sixty's. So it's like, you know, sometimes like 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:33.880 never too late? Is it's never too late? Also, speaking 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:37.400 of love, I cannot say who it is. Is it 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:41.640 never too late? So I had a call with this 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:46.000 one woman. He was like, my love and I love 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.160 her so much and we've just kind of been on 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.640 the journey together, and she was just like, I'm never 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:53.360 going to find any when I'm older. She was like 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.680 in her fifties or whatever. And she texted me and 0:10:56.760 --> 0:11:01.160 was like, he asked me to be my boyfriend. I 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:06.240 was like, I tell you tell yourself that, Cramer. Oh, 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:10.079 anything you'd like to update us on that? Now? They 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:12.719 love the hints you want to say anything. Oh my god, 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:15.800 they figured out one girl figured out boring Jewish guy. 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:19.560 I didn't tell you that. It's actually funny. I need 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.960 to go. Can I just go on one last time 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.160 for saying it has nothing to do because Jewish. It 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.840 has everything to him to do with him being boring 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.520 a lot of guesses for that one. Every one was like, 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.240 well I'm doing I'm like, oh, oh, I love Jewish people. 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:35.719 That's not that I don't like boring people Like that 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:39.480 was the point that I don't think I need him 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.280 to I need him to have more personality than the 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.520 bread rules that we should have just kept it boring. Um, 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:51.080 but yes, what friends got attacked for calling him boring? 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:55.520 Friends got tacked wear we're the friends. Oh yeah, we 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:59.000 got I don't read anything because not everybody I have. 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.800 I have completely deleted and blocked myself from ever going 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:07.079 to the credit pages. It's just like you can't um 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:09.240 and there's something to say. Well, and here's the end 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:11.240 of the day. I'm like, you don't actually know, Like 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.800 someone like said something and I was like, that is 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.480 actually not the truth? Whatsoev? And I'm like, why am 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:18.640 I even like? Like I was like, I was like, 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.559 I'm blocking myself from this. So I literally blocked myself 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:23.520 from it. Send it to my accountability person. I said, 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.319 you know, get a password whatever, put it in here, 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.280 and then blocked me from this page. And so now 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:29.880 I can't even go look at it. One girl did 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:32.400 right to me, and she was like, I'm peeing my pants. 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.120 Are born Jewish guy? She was like, I'm Jewish and 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:35.480 I did a lot of born Jewish guys and I 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.679 just wanted to know there's really funny one. Well, this 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:39.280 one girl goes, I have a good guess, and I 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.160 go go for it, and she said the name she 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:43.280 was if I'm right, I'll even take a swing at 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:46.640 the queendom nickname. Um. But I go, I go, oh 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:48.800 my god, how did I go? I cannot confirm nor 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:51.560 denyed curious why you think that person she was just 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.160 several little hints. I actually also matched with him on Riyah. 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.440 He said he was in the and so she was 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:01.600 just like, these were nicknames for him, which I can't say. 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.600 I can't say anything, and I can't say my nickname 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:06.600 for him because it gives it away. Um. But it 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:11.240 was just I was literally dying, like so crazy. But 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:13.720 she asked me, so, we have a really amazing guest 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:17.680 on UM today that I'm excited to talk to her about, UM, 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.200 Teresa from the Real Housewives of New Jersey. And she 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:24.120 said something she goes, UM, if she's willing to go there, 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:27.320 I think you should ask her if she knows. She 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.520 now knows what red flag she ignored with her first marriage, 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.920 because it was only when he went away to prison 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:35.280 that she finally admitted he had probably cheated on her, 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:36.839 even though everyone had been trying to tell her that 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:40.360 all along and she was refusing to admit believe it. Um, 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:42.439 She's like, I'm a shameless Brava Hall like, and I 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.199 I don't I don't watch the show. I mean I 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:45.959 I've seen the episode of her flipping the table and 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.080 all that. I watched her on Dancing with Her with 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.400 the Stars Um, but I mean, I didn't know that. Like, 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:54.280 all I know is like they went to jail. How 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:59.319 long did she actually wasn't she was one of them? 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:01.960 Was three years? You're a die hard, right, Yeah, But 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.600 now I can't remember how long he went first, and 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:07.040 I want to say it was like, no, she went 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:09.360 first and then he went I can't remember it was 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:12.040 a year or three years, which is a very different story. 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.000 But you know what's interesting about that question, though, is 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.120 it's hard to really tell when you're watching the show 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.160 if she really knew or didn't. Now, apparently she was 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:22.720 in for a year and a half, year and a 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:25.040 half and he was three years. If she knew that 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.640 he was cheating, or about the prisons because during the 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.480 show they're still married, you know what I mean. So 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.359 it's like, I don't know that she would have admitted 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:36.720 at the time, Um, you know that she knew or 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:38.840 thought he was having an affair, but then he goes 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:40.920 to prison and it's like all this, so then she 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:42.680 admits it. So I don't know, Like I don't know 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.880 if she knew or had a nice um, maybe she 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:49.480 was trying to protect him or you're I mean, and 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:51.840 there were some there were some episodes where it's like 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:54.520 it's like pretty much right in front of you, but 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.240 well she's in the waiting room along with Melissa Feaster. 0:14:57.480 --> 0:15:00.320 They've they're starting a podcast, UM, so we're going to 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:02.640 talk all things Bravo in her new podcast coming up 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:22.880 after this break. Hello, Hi, hi guy, Hi ladies. What's happening? 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:25.880 How are you good? How are you doing? You know 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.960 what I was jobs telling Teresa, I'm like, you know 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:31.200 what you know? I was telling her that you were 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:35.160 on Dancy When the Stars too. I was, UM, I 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:37.200 was on God, how many seasons ago was that? My 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.160 daughter was four months old she's now six, so I'm 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:44.120 bad at math. About six years ago. It was a 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.160 while ago. Yeah, I was about six years ago. Was 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:50.600 um Gleb's first season UM in the in the United States, 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:52.800 and that was it was It was a fun It 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.320 was it was fun, but it was definitely it's hard. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:16:00.360 Did you enjoy your experience or yes? I did? Yeah, 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.480 you know, I had no dancing? How many How long 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:05.680 were you on for? Well? I made it to the semifinals. 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.720 But let me just I'll say this, though there was 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.240 on your season, there are Because Jesse Decker is a 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:15.200 friend of of ours, and I called her, like, girl, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:19.400 there's like professional dancers in the CELEBT group, and that's tough. 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:21.720 You know. I'm like, it's it's almost like you're like, 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.840 you know, dancing with the celebrities, uh, you know, dancers, 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:29.960 because it's like they're all amazing. So it's like that's 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:36.600 that's a that's a hard cast to like compete with stars. Yeah, yeah, 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.560 I mean, listen, it was a great experience. You know. 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:41.920 It was something that I've always wanted to do, So 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:44.080 I'm glad I get to do it for sure. That's 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.720 at it. You know. It's a good point because I 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.600 was saying the same thing at Teresa, and I was like, 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:53.120 that's like you going and playing against Lebron and kind 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.400 of played basketball before, Like how is that fair? You're 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.640 probably not gonna win. You could be in the competition, 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.640 but it's just like, how are you gonna win against 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:06.080 a trained and then you also have twenty one year 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:11.080 olds against seven. You know, It's just you're a really 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:13.760 good friend though, because you didn't say she wasn't gonna 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:21.440 win against Lebron. You said she probably wouldn't friendship right there. Listen, today, 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:23.359 I really thought I was gonna make it to the 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:26.160 semi father, Like I knew it wasn't gonna win. At 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:29.199 one point, I was like, my partner was Pasha and 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:31.879 his wife one last season, So I was like, you 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:34.679 know what, you can't leave her Mary Ball on the 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:37.760 you know, on the mantel by itself. You need to 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:39.840 you know, you need to have one right next to her. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:43.280 You guys are married. So here I'm thinking, like, you know, listen, 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:45.800 my hopes were high. I'm like, I could probably win 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:48.960 this because like I was putting, I was putting my 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:52.240 all into it, and I really you know, like the 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:56.000 first dance, I felt really confident, so like you know, Janet, 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.720 like there's so many movement parts your head, your foot, 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:02.520 you point your foot, your hands, your neck, like the 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.760 way you look like, there's so many movement parts. Like 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.080 so it's like I was just, you know, like I 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.520 was getting adjusted to that because if they were telling me, 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.160 I looked up at the first the first my first dance, 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:16.400 and I'm like, why I was looking up Because it's 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:20.600 the tango. I'm also looking for Jesus because I need 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.840 all the help I can get. I mean, we're all 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:25.159 looking up. Yeah, You're like dear Lord, please get me 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:27.239 through this. So you guys have a new podcast, it's 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:28.919 out right now. And are you guys, like, are you 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:30.960 podcasting together or is it like this where it's like 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:36.560 literally you know. Okay. Wait questions. She's in l A 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:39.400 and I'm in New Jersey. Okay, Okay, I couldn't tell 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:42.920 you're from New Jersey at all, Teresa. It's like New 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:46.880 Jersey is my freaking favorite. But why do you say 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:50.399 that straight shooters from New Jersey? That accent is everything 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:53.240 to me? My accent? Okay, yeah, yeah, you know, it's 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:55.680 not like I can tell from the your background. Okay. 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.080 Two questions. A, I want to know what's the name 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:02.600 of the podcast? No mistake, bitches? Okay, I want to 0:19:02.600 --> 0:19:04.560 sit on your laps. And then to you, how do 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:09.000 you all know each other? Okay? So I actually I 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:13.280 started a podcast side piece and I was interviewing, well, 0:19:13.359 --> 0:19:17.960 I actually had Teresa's attorney on side piece, and then 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:22.840 he's so awesome and we, you know, became friends and 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:26.800 started a relationship. And then I met Teresa I think 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:30.800 the first time at Ultimate Girls Trip premiere. I became 0:19:30.920 --> 0:19:34.840 friends with Cynthia Bailey, also from the Housewives and she 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:38.479 invited me as her date to the Ultimate Girls Trip premiere. 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:42.399 Teresa was flying in to l A for it, and 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:46.040 I met Teresa and we just had great talk and 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:50.240 conversation and we just started talking and we hit it off. 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:53.560 And UM, I then went back to our attorney and 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:55.960 I said, you know what, I think there's something here. 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:59.320 I've been podcasting. I want to do more than just 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:02.720 me running my mouth. We have great conversations. I think 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:05.680 there's a lot more to Theresa than people see watching 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.960 you know, real Housewives in New Jersey. Um, they don't 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:11.120 know about me. I think this could be a great 0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:14.000 way to kind of open it up so people really 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:16.959 get an inside look. Listen, just like you guys do, right, 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:20.000 It's not everything that you see in the headlines or 0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:22.240 this or that. And I think there's just a lot 0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:25.359 more to to what to who we are than what 0:20:25.480 --> 0:20:28.760 you see. Yeah, I mean I definitely can you know. 0:20:29.600 --> 0:20:32.479