Speaker 1: Second, what do you match with someone online and it's
Speaker 1: going really well? You feel like, you know, it's clicking.
Speaker 1: There's chemistry here. Maybe you start talking on the phone
Speaker 1: with them, Maybe you learn each other's birthdays, your safe words,
Speaker 1: your previous felonies, okay, yeah, personal. You start to have
Speaker 1: all these expectations building up, and you wonder, could this
Speaker 1: be the one? I'll tell you this. I don't know
Speaker 1: a lot about the story here, but I do know Robert,
Speaker 1: our caller, was feeling that and it may have caused
Speaker 1: him to say something that he now regrets. It banana?
Speaker 1: Is that what they chose? Is it that what he said?
Speaker 1: Let's find Robert. What was your safe word? Is it? Umi? Answer? Sorry,
Speaker 1: if this gets too weird, we'll SHOTMI. But welcome to
Speaker 1: the show man. Thanks. Sounds like you're catching feelings pretty
Speaker 1: hard for this girl that you met. What's her name? Yeah,
Speaker 1: her name is Grace. Grace. Okay, okay, tell us about Grace.
Speaker 1: So we met online? Um so, like, what's an online
Speaker 1: dating stuccion? I was recently single. I've been single like
Speaker 1: maybe a year. Okay, so I got back out there,
Speaker 1: but on I guess the real dating site, like not
Speaker 1: the little little ones like what does that mean? Well,
Speaker 1: it's just like the actual website, not the application. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: you're not I don't even know you go on websites. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so you're like dot com match dot com right right,
Speaker 1: right right, and you can get like ultraspecific about the
Speaker 1: things that you like, just like et cetera. Okay, and
Speaker 1: you can set your distance parameters to close by, or
Speaker 1: you can. Grace got us through all the different settings
Speaker 1: that are available on this dating at is really blown away.
Speaker 1: Now I really wanted I really wanted someone that had convertible. Wow.
Speaker 1: He's a funny guy too. I guess what you're saying
Speaker 1: is Grace checked all your boxes right, exactly. Nice. So
Speaker 1: we met and she lets across the country, and so
Speaker 1: we started. Oh man, that's not a box. You didn't
Speaker 1: put distance as a box there. I'm a romantic and
Speaker 1: I love sleepless in Seattle. Okay, I forget, honestly, I
Speaker 1: forget the premise of that. Hence the radio show call. Okay,
Speaker 1: you ran out of options locally and had to expand
Speaker 1: your net broader. I guess yeah. Yeah, So we met
Speaker 1: and we started talking, you know, on the app, and
Speaker 1: then we exchanged phone numbers and all right, this all
Speaker 1: sounds really really nice. Well let's fast forward to like,
Speaker 1: did you guys ever actually meet up and go on
Speaker 1: a date? Yeah? Okay, wait in person? In person? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, they're across country day dang? Did you who flu? Where?
Speaker 1: She flew with me? And it was great, Like you
Speaker 1: had flowers for me at the airport. Believe it or not,
Speaker 1: she brought flowers. Wow? Yeah? Were you so nervous because
Speaker 1: this is a whole weekend you're going to spend, I
Speaker 1: assume with this person? Of course? I mean I haven't
Speaker 1: done anything like this in a very I've never done
Speaker 1: anything like this. Okay, wow, how did that go? Was it?
Speaker 1: Was it? Oh? Yeah, it was great. It was awesome
Speaker 1: and we got some awesome meals. We walked a lot, obviously,
Speaker 1: and we learned about each other's families, and you know,
Speaker 1: it was extremely romantic. Oh my god, I'm happy for you.
Speaker 1: Did you guys share a bedroom a weekend? Or answer?
Speaker 1: You don't have to answer. Of course we did. I
Speaker 1: mean so she felt comfortable enough with that, right exactly? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So I mean, gosh, that is like whirlwind romance type
Speaker 1: of situation. What was it? Like like the last day.
Speaker 1: I mean, to be honest with you, it ended on
Speaker 1: like a pretty perfect note, like we said goodbye the airport.
Speaker 1: We believe it or not exchanged. I love yous? What okay, Jumanji,
Speaker 1: I'm calling Jumanji. It's way too early. Walk us through
Speaker 1: that moment. I mean, at least both of you said it, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we've she said it back to me. I mean like
Speaker 1: it was it was involuntary. Okay, so you said it first.
Speaker 1: It sounds like yeah, it was like I did not
Speaker 1: have control, okay, and now and so then she flew
Speaker 1: back to her hometown on her plane. How long has
Speaker 1: it been since that happened? Um? It has been about
Speaker 1: a week? Okay, okay a week? And wait and like,
Speaker 1: what's going on in your relationship? Are you still talking?
Speaker 1: I asked her when she got home. She got home safe? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and she said in her response, I'm reading it against
Speaker 1: you right now, homesafe dot dot dot not in interested anymore?
Speaker 1: Oh wait, in like a couple hours time, you went
Speaker 1: from I love you kissing to not interested? And I
Speaker 1: was like, what are you're joking? And then literally no response.
Speaker 1: This is okay, this is your problem. You should not
Speaker 1: let her get on the plane. Every movie will tell you, no,
Speaker 1: you live here now, Yeah, why don't you run out
Speaker 1: on the tarmac? Oh that is that is heartbreaking? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Oh God, is there anything that you think
Speaker 1: you might have done wrong? I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: claim to be a perfect human. Yeah. Like I I
Speaker 1: was just going with my gut and so that's what
Speaker 1: I did. And if I had done something, I would
Speaker 1: I would expect you to be honest with me about it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean it might not even be something
Speaker 1: that you did. It might be on her. Maybe she
Speaker 1: has another guy in her hometown. I think maybe she
Speaker 1: met a guy on the plane. Or I love you now, yeah,
Speaker 1: he said, whoever, I see what we do when I
Speaker 1: talk to all my friends and they're like, maybe this
Speaker 1: is just a blessing. Dude, you dodged a bullet. Maybe
Speaker 1: she's not that you loved her and now you like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I said, I've been
Speaker 1: single for a year. I've been like doing the work
Speaker 1: on myself. Like oh that's set. But here's a thing,
Speaker 1: like you take risks and you never know what's gonna happen,
Speaker 1: you know, all do you know what we're gonna get
Speaker 1: to pay off right now. We're gonna take a risk
Speaker 1: and call her on the phone in a few minutes here,
Speaker 1: and we'll see if she answers and hopefully get some
Speaker 1: answers out of her when we do your second date update.
Speaker 1: Next second, let's do a quick recap on one of
Speaker 1: the more romantic stories that we've actually had on our
Speaker 1: show in a while. I am so excited for this
Speaker 1: because Robert met a woman named Grace long distance over
Speaker 1: a website. They connected, had chemistry, and the other weekend
Speaker 1: she flew out to come meet him. I R L Yes.
Speaker 1: And normally when these things happen, you think the meetup
Speaker 1: couldn't possibly match the idea in your mind about how
Speaker 1: it's gonna go, right, Robert said, it absolutely did, and more. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it surpassed the build up, which is crazy. He even
Speaker 1: said I love you when he dropped Grace off at
Speaker 1: the airport, and she said it back to him, Yeah,
Speaker 1: which is very important to the story. But it got
Speaker 1: weird from there because since then he's only gotten one
Speaker 1: text from her saying home safe, not interested anymore. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've had bad flights before, but that must have been
Speaker 1: a really terrible, terrible flight, like well, like the turbulence
Speaker 1: in between us. It could be it could be that
Speaker 1: she just got scared, Robert. I mean like, you're you're
Speaker 1: in this love and then you fly all the way
Speaker 1: home and you're like, what am I doing? This is
Speaker 1: going to see them again? Yeah, exactly. All I'm going
Speaker 1: to end up doing is breaking my own heart. I
Speaker 1: can't do it, you know, Like, do you think that
Speaker 1: could be? It? My mind right right now? I have
Speaker 1: literally no idea. Okay, Well, hopefully we can give you
Speaker 1: a little bit of peace of mind. I'm just I'm
Speaker 1: praying more than any call that we've ever done before,
Speaker 1: that she actually picks up and tells us some things,
Speaker 1: because well, we can call back if she doesn't move,
Speaker 1: I'm setting a one call limit to this. If she
Speaker 1: doesn't answer, I'm giving up forever. That's how love works.
Speaker 1: One chance. Okay, here we go for some people. I
Speaker 1: hope she answers. Let's call Grace. Hello. Hi is this Grace? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Grace. Um, my name is Jeff from
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. You're on a radio
Speaker 1: show right now and we're really excited to talk to you.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Wait, what's going on, Grace? Today is gonna
Speaker 1: be a day that you will remember for the rest
Speaker 1: of your life, and the question is is it going
Speaker 1: to be a happy memory or a sad memory? That
Speaker 1: really depends on what you say next year, because no
Speaker 1: pressure or anything. Sorry about him, Okay, it's sorry. It's
Speaker 1: just it's just a regular day in your normal life.
Speaker 1: Why are you calling me? I don't I don't guess.
Speaker 1: We're doing a segment called a Second Date Update, and
Speaker 1: we're trying to help one of our listeners get back
Speaker 1: in touch with you after you met up with him
Speaker 1: the other weekend. Are you who are you talking about? Oh?
Speaker 1: You know, you're just about to say it. I'll spell
Speaker 1: it out for you. Are Yeah, Oh okay, trying to
Speaker 1: keep going. Yeah, that's okay. I've already contact with him.
Speaker 1: I've been in contact with him. So this is what
Speaker 1: do you all mean with Robert? Yeah, I texted him
Speaker 1: and told him I'm not interested anymore. So yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he got that text. We heard about that, but he's
Speaker 1: a little bit infused about why he felt like that
Speaker 1: came out of the blue. I mean it literally happened.
Speaker 1: I mean, you texted that hours after you had just
Speaker 1: said I love you. Uh huh, you could understand why
Speaker 1: he would be a little confused. Okay, let me say this,
Speaker 1: since you seem to know the whole story. When he
Speaker 1: dropped me off of the airport, it was completely in
Speaker 1: my consciousness that we were probably going to have a
Speaker 1: long term relationship, like possibly leading to marriage. Like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, oh my god. So you were feeling the
Speaker 1: exact same way he was at the airport exists? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was. I was so wait, what what changed between
Speaker 1: saying goodbye to him at the airport and you sending
Speaker 1: him the text saying you're not interested? Well, I'll tell
Speaker 1: you what change. So my flight ended up getting delayed,
Speaker 1: so I'm in the sport for a couple hours waiting
Speaker 1: for us to board. He was so frustrated. Then I'm
Speaker 1: getting a phone call and it's him. It's Robert calling me,
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking, well, why is he calling me, because
Speaker 1: as far as he knows, I'm in the air right now.
Speaker 1: You know, he didn't say that he called you. He
Speaker 1: just said that he got that text message from you
Speaker 1: where he texted you. So I pick it up and
Speaker 1: it was obviously a buck dial. Oh Okay, so he's
Speaker 1: just like driving home from the airporter that happens. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what did you hear it? I heard him talking to
Speaker 1: a woman that obviously was not his mom, not his sister,
Speaker 1: somebody that he knows, maybe in a romantic way. Why,
Speaker 1: because that's how I could tell that, that's how he
Speaker 1: was talking to her, and it was very upsetting to
Speaker 1: me because I love you. There has to be an
Speaker 1: explanation for this. Maybe he was watching a romantic comedy
Speaker 1: and that's what you heard in the background. You there
Speaker 1: has to be something else going on here. Oh, I
Speaker 1: just oh my god, we're getting a butt dial to
Speaker 1: the radio station right now. Oh my god, it's Robert
Speaker 1: Robberty Grace. Hello, I'm here. Oh I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: need this. Sorry, I'm sorry, Sorry, I'm sorry. Sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I know this is really uncomfortable, but we need to
Speaker 1: get some answers here, just so that everybody gets a
Speaker 1: little bit of peace of mind. Robert, do you know
Speaker 1: what was going on with the butt dial? Yes? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're cheating. That was what was going on. What was happening.
Speaker 1: I was ending things with a previous situation. That's a
Speaker 1: good thing. He was ending it. He was cheating. You're cheating.
Speaker 1: It's not yes. If if you have a woman fly
Speaker 1: from across the country while you're still in a relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody else and haven't ended it, that is cheating.
Speaker 1: Was it wasn't a relationship, It was a situation ship.
Speaker 1: You had overlap between your husband when you met him
Speaker 1: in the previous relationship that you were in. I never
Speaker 1: overlapped the relationships Jeffrey. Never. I met him while I
Speaker 1: was still seeing someone else. But then I broke up
Speaker 1: with that person and then breaking it up, broke it
Speaker 1: up after the weekend. You should have broke it up before, Grace. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, this is your chance to talk to Robert
Speaker 1: and set things straight once and for all. We can
Speaker 1: get some answers, hopefully what other answers did, Grace me.
Speaker 1: Just calm down, Brook, This isn't your relationship. Were Robert
Speaker 1: yet mad? That makes me mad? Robbie, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: really upset about this, and knowing that there was somebody
Speaker 1: else you're involved, It doesn't help. It doesn't help, But
Speaker 1: it's over and I'm here for you. Why did you wait?
Speaker 1: Why did you wait? Robbie? You broke up with her no,
Speaker 1: I'll text her right now. What what a cheating? Oh
Speaker 1: my god? Yuh was you breaking up? Well? That was me?
Speaker 1: That was me and this eating. So why didn't you
Speaker 1: initiate the breakup before you got on the dating website
Speaker 1: where you met Grace? Because we never officially said that
Speaker 1: we were each other's boyfriend and girlfriend. It just kind
Speaker 1: of was like a thing. So if it was just
Speaker 1: a thing, then you don't need to even have a
Speaker 1: breakup relationship talk like right, you just ghost them. You
Speaker 1: just ghostem out of respect for the other ladies feelings.
Speaker 1: I just wanted a clean break, Okay, I think that's
Speaker 1: there's nothing clean about this. This is so messy. Let's
Speaker 1: just get it messy and I'm willing to dive into
Speaker 1: this next thing with a full, honest heart. That's good now,
Speaker 1: now you got an honest heart. See, let's just get
Speaker 1: it out in the open. How many people do you
Speaker 1: currently love? Robert? Actually, in all seriousness, I meant everything
Speaker 1: that I said. I apologize for what you heard, and
Speaker 1: I if I can do anything to help us out,
Speaker 1: you let me know. I'll fly there, I'll fly you
Speaker 1: here and we can work it out. And if we can't,
Speaker 1: I understand where you're coming from. I'm not a bad guy.
Speaker 1: I'm just had like I had been single for a year.
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm doing, but I do know
Speaker 1: that I do know how I feel. I mean, he
Speaker 1: sounds pretty sincere to me. And look, sometimes they don't
Speaker 1: turn off books, microphone, off microphone. We're done with this, Okay, Look, Grace,
Speaker 1: he sounds sincere, even if he was in the relationship
Speaker 1: at the time when he met you. Sometimes you don't
Speaker 1: know who you really love until you meet like that.
Speaker 1: One situation ship different, yes, exactly according to him, enormous
Speaker 1: enormous lengths to reach you and tell you that he
Speaker 1: really wants to see you again, and if you're willing
Speaker 1: to give him another shot, we'll pay for that date.
Speaker 1: If anything. Get in a room with him so he
Speaker 1: can bug his phone. You realize we live across the
Speaker 1: country from each other. I know. That's why we're gonna
Speaker 1: pay for the cheapest airline available. Yeah, yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: you know, honestly, I would just rather cut my losses.
Speaker 1: There you go, Grace, set some value so hard to
Speaker 1: find people out there. You might regret this said he
Speaker 1: loved you that Yeah, at the same time he was
Speaker 1: telling another woman the same thing, Jeffrey, he was telling
Speaker 1: the other one, I don't love you. No, he was different.
Speaker 1: He hasn't even fully broken up with that woman yet.
Speaker 1: All right, well I just did it over text. It's done. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Now that he's officially broken up, would you like to
Speaker 1: go out on another date with him? No? Thank you?
Speaker 1: All right? Text her back and say back on again, Robert,
Speaker 1: because you're dumb broken Jeffrey in the morning. Well, the
Speaker 1: text board at seventy five nine two is pretty split
Speaker 1: on what he did was considered cheating. Seventy l seventy
Speaker 1: eight percent said they think it is. Twenty two percent
Speaker 1: said maybe I don't yeh Is that how it works
Speaker 1: for you? I feel yeah, I'm gonna give him the
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt and say he wasn't. Those other
Speaker 1: twenty two percent are also in a relationship while simultaneously
Speaker 1: on a dating website. I mean, come on, well, you
Speaker 1: know what, he needed to be honest from the beginning.
Speaker 1: If he was like talking, oh god, all of it.
Speaker 1: If he was honest from the beginning, he never would
Speaker 1: have had her come out. It never would have happened
Speaker 1: because it's a problem. See. Yes, you know what the
Speaker 1: good thing that came out of that was is that
Speaker 1: we've never ever before had anybody break up with the
Speaker 1: other person that they were seeing via text mid phone call.
Speaker 1: Oh you believe that that text message went out? That's cute, Like,
Speaker 1: there's no way he really texts. Yeah. I'm still gonna
Speaker 1: believe that true love is possible. And if you want
Speaker 1: to believe in true love then you can always find
Speaker 1: it by going onto our podcast and listening to a
Speaker 1: Second Date Update whenever you want, wherever you get your
Speaker 1: podcast at Brooke and Jeffreys Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning,