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Speaker 2: Scrubbing in with Beilly An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 3: Hello everybody, it's been so long, too long. It's been

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Speaker 3: a long time because I was out of town and

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Speaker 3: a lot of people didn't think they were getting a

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Speaker 3: podcast this week. But guess what they are and it's

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Speaker 3: tg I T Tani and I are currently wearing our

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Speaker 3: t shirt T shirts that have Meredith and Christina on

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Speaker 3: them and they say you're my person. We're matching shirts on.

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Speaker 4: But I do have to say this was really sweet

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Speaker 4: because last we have.

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Speaker 3: To address your list. Tanya gotten VISI line.

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Speaker 1: I got in visil line.

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Speaker 3: Hasn't quite mastered how to talk with her visil line.

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Speaker 1: They said a week.

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Speaker 4: It's been a week and I still have a list,

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Speaker 4: So I'll just take them off for a haunch.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Oh wow, have you seen Date Night where she's

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Speaker 3: home so much drool?

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Speaker 5: Wow?

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Speaker 1: So I was I texted, think it was last Thursday?

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Speaker 3: It was?

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Speaker 1: It was last Thursday, And I was like, Becka, do

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Speaker 1: you even love me anymore?

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Speaker 3: And this, by the way, this happens every day. Don't

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Speaker 3: act like it was like a one time thing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but then I went over to her house and

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Speaker 4: to watch Grey's Anatomy and guess what she pulls out

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Speaker 4: of her little room for me, this T shirt.

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Speaker 1: It was really sweet because she clearly had thought about

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Speaker 6: I didn't just show up besties.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really sweet.

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Speaker 3: It was just like a reminder of even if I'm

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Speaker 3: not texting you twenty four to seven or wanting to

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Speaker 3: hang out twenty four to seven, I still love you

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Speaker 3: and you're one of my best friends.

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Speaker 6: How about that Gray's Anatomy.

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Speaker 3: Oh, first of all, we didn't talk about the first

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Speaker 3: one either, Like we kind of skipped over for whatever reason,

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Speaker 3: just didn't recap. Yeah, Grey's Anatomy since it's been back

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Speaker 3: has been.

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Speaker 1: On fire fire.

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Speaker 3: I love it, love I was really hoping and make

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Speaker 3: this kind of comeback. I think they wanted to try

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Speaker 3: and see if they could keep it light. At the

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Speaker 3: beginning of the season, that was their plan, and I

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Speaker 3: think they realized it was not not no, not being

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Speaker 3: received very well. What do you think, Mark, are you

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Speaker 3: into it?

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Speaker 6: I'm in do it? I love I love all April storylines.

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Speaker 6: You know it's certain characters, yeah, April I love. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: others I don't love as much, but anything about April

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Speaker 6: is great. Yeah, and this week's Bailey, and I also

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Speaker 6: really like Bailey.

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Speaker 3: I know. Okay, So the whole April thing, a lot

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Speaker 3: of people tweeted us about it because they were like,

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Speaker 3: you know, being that you're you know, or Christian, and

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Speaker 3: like that's kind of her storyline. What do you think

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Speaker 3: I do think there's a lot of times where, like

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Speaker 3: on your faith. You rely on your faith. Where's God?

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Speaker 3: Where's God? And He's right there. But then there's times

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Speaker 3: like where is he? Though? Like why is nothing's going right?

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Speaker 3: Everyone died? Everything bad? Is like as she was recapping

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because I mean, nobody has like a perfect walk

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Speaker 4: You're gonna hit those times in life where it makes

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Speaker 1: I did. I do think it was really real and.

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Speaker 4: I really liked it, Like I really liked the only

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Speaker 4: critique of last week as I wish they hadn't spoiler

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Speaker 4: alert killed Matthew Moose. And so it's like I was

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Speaker 3: They could have played that one out longer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 3: I mean, but I'm wondering if what's the girl from

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Speaker 1: Like now I didn't care about her anymore. Like that's what.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying though, Like they just bring her home for

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Speaker 3: I mean, last week actually tackled a lot of like

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Speaker 3: like we can't even relate to that because it's like, Wow,

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Speaker 4: To have those conversations, conversations with their kids. Yeah, that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was an eye opener.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what happened.

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Speaker 3: I mean there's a lot that's happened that we were

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Speaker 6: Well, let's can we start with Becca nor date? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, So I don't know if he'll listen, so I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, hashtag, hashtag, hope he's not listening.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, hashtag, I hope he's not listening. He was really sweet,

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Speaker 3: really cute. We were gonna go salsa dancing after we

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Speaker 3: do that, which I don't know if I could have

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Speaker 3: We had good conversation or he was I was very

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Speaker 3: attracted to him.

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Speaker 1: He's hot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's hot, but and I would definitely go out

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Speaker 3: with him for a second date. But it wasn't like,

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Speaker 6: And that's putting a lot on a first date though,

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't know a lot of my friends are

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Speaker 6: But I think if you don't feel it, you can't

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Speaker 3: No, Well, that's why I was We've actually had this conversation.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, is this just my personality? Like, am I

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Speaker 1: But like everybody's not you do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: I know you're very unique. I know in the best

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Speaker 6: Don't know you have a lot of I don't know

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Speaker 6: So I'm not sure you will feel that right away.

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Speaker 6: But once he kind of gets through your eggshell, then

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Speaker 6: I think you will feel it, whether it's someone else.

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Speaker 3: But I haven't really like had a huge desire to

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Speaker 4: To Yeah, that's not great. Like if you had to,

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Speaker 6: That's a good And you were attracted to him, which

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Speaker 6: that's big because yeah, it's so many dates that it.

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Speaker 3: Was a little tipsy. And but if he had kissed me,

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Speaker 3: I would have totally been down. But I wasn't into

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Speaker 4: Yeah, But also I think if you're not like really

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Speaker 6: To be honest, I think a second date, though, would

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Speaker 3: Of let's just say I'm not opposed to a second date.

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Speaker 6: It's because it's going to go one way or the other,

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Speaker 6: or it's going to stay the same. Those are three options.

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Speaker 6: If it gets worse or stays the same, Okay, maybe

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Speaker 6: you're right, but it might there might be something there.

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Speaker 6: I feel like there could be something there.

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's very helpful. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 6: The fact that you had been open to kissing him,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I don't know. Maybe I'm just like.

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Speaker 6: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I'd kiss probably anybody right of it.

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Speaker 3: Now, first of all, we had to look at the

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Speaker 3: magician last night on Instagram. Oh yeah, and I happened

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Speaker 1: He takes it really seriously.

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Speaker 4: But I'm just, oh what Sorry, let's just touch the

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Speaker 1: I need to wipe this down, Easter.

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Speaker 6: Do you have a life all over there or something?

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Speaker 4: Sorry, I'm at the point now where I am not

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Speaker 3: I mean he's cute too, Like I feel like you'll

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Speaker 6: Was this ever happening because it's been a few weeks

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like gross out there.

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Speaker 6: Anyway, when is the magician happening?

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Speaker 4: So okay, that's the problem, and you can back me

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Speaker 4: up on this. There's a friend of mine who's like

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Speaker 4: casually mentioned at this birthday party, like I have this friend,

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Speaker 4: you guys would be such a great to set up,

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Speaker 4: you know, blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: He's a magician.

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Speaker 4: So you know, I was like, great, I'm totally down.

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Speaker 4: I followed up with her that next week and she's like, okay,

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Speaker 4: I'll check in on it. I followed up with her again.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to be annoying because like she's offering

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Speaker 3: And it's like do you really want to act like

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Speaker 4: So I'm like I need to like let her kind

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Speaker 3: Keep being like in her hands.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she doesn't realize how many hundreds and thousands of

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Speaker 6: But he's still watching your story.

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Speaker 3: Where did these things just come from? You just hear

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Speaker 3: Kimhi are doing great. Thanks, We're so happy to have

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Speaker 7: Now, lovely to be here.

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Speaker 3: So can you briefly explain what you do for all

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Speaker 7: Sure, So I'm a holistic sex and relationship expert, and

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Speaker 7: I do. It's hashtag things I lift with my visiga.

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Speaker 7: Lifted Furniture like chandeliers, coffee tables, pumpkins, green coconuts.

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Speaker 7: So, just like anything else, relationships need to be worked

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Speaker 7: And it's not that they're not being themselves. They're just

445
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Speaker 7: putting out the best version of themselves. But over time

446
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:18,719
Speaker 7: people stop doing that, and so then the relationship begins

447
00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 7: to wither away. And I look at relationships as a

448
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 7: place where we can bring we're going to be triggered

449
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:27,600
Speaker 7: by past hurts that we've had by wounding that we've had,

450
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Speaker 7: maybe in our family of origin or from previous intimate relationships,

451
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Speaker 7: and the relationship is the place to work that out

452
00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 7: with each other, so long as we're openly talking and communicating.

453
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Speaker 7: And so the precursor to having really phenomenal sex is

454
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Speaker 7: that the couple's emotional communication is really constant and open

455
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Speaker 7: and build trust. So when you have that trust and

456
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Speaker 7: rapport with each other, it's much more easy to keep

457
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Speaker 7: that sexual skimmer going. So for this person, I know

458
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Speaker 7: that her partner isn't engaging with her when she tries

459
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Speaker 7: to talk about it. But at some point you have

460
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Speaker 7: to lay a boundary, like either we talk about this

461
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Speaker 7: or we've got serious issues going on, Like there has

462
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Speaker 7: to be some kind of consequence for refusing to engage

463
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Speaker 7: with contact with the person and perhaps enlisting or suggesting

464
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Speaker 7: that you speak with a counselor a coat to help

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Speaker 7: you work through whatever's blocking you because people don't it's

466
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Speaker 7: not normal that people just don't want to have sex

467
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Speaker 7: or that people don't talk about things. That means that

468
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Speaker 7: there's blockages in the space and it's really important to

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Speaker 7: resolve tho.

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Speaker 5: So pregnancy, could that be weirding him out?

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Speaker 7: Well, we live in a culture that's very has a

472
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Speaker 7: lot of taboo around sex, and because of this Christian archetype,

473
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Speaker 7: this Madonna whore kind of idea, a lot of people

474
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Speaker 7: have this notion that women are either virgins or they're whores.

475
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Speaker 7: And to put your person like somewhere in between, like

476
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Speaker 7: to be pregnant and have a baby and still be

477
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Speaker 7: sexually voracius is a hard thing for some people to

478
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Speaker 7: digest because of this conditioning that we've had in our culture.

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Speaker 7: And so, but if she says that this was happening

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Speaker 7: prior to that, then I think there's other things going on,

481
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Speaker 7: and the pregnancy just becomes an excuse. People who are

482
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Speaker 7: already having issues in their relationship when the pregnancy happens

483
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Speaker 7: and the children happen, they use that as an excuse

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Speaker 7: for why they're not connecting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I feel like if she was pregnant and

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Speaker 3: that was the first time they were having issues, it

487
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Speaker 3: could just be like, oh, there's something, you know, maybe

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Speaker 3: with the pregnancy that's freaking him out or something. But

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Speaker 3: the fact that it was happening before it seems like,

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Speaker 3: like you said, now he can just be like, oh,

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Speaker 3: it's the pregnancy whatever.

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Speaker 5: Right, So I have a brutal question. Yeah, but why

493
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Speaker 5: would a guy not want to mess around with a

494
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Speaker 5: girl like you know what I mean, his wife? Don't

495
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Speaker 5: they want it from anyone kind of I don't know.

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Speaker 7: Hopefully well, and guys can have their own blocks, you know,

497
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Speaker 7: Like we have this mythology in our culture that men

498
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Speaker 7: are more sexual than women. But what's happened is that

499
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Speaker 7: women have been conditioned to think that they're less sexual

500
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Speaker 7: than that women are equally as voracius and libidness as

501
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Speaker 7: men are, but we've been taught that we're not, and

502
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Speaker 7: so most women have a harder time really owning their

503
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Speaker 7: own sexual desires. Men are taught to opposite. They're taught

504
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Speaker 7: that it's really normal for them to have sex with

505
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Speaker 7: anything that moves, and to be a player and all

506
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 7: these things that that's really normal for gods. But you know,

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Speaker 7: men can have their own blocks as well. So if

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Speaker 7: somebody's had a challenging childhood, or even men have us

509
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Speaker 7: of sexual abuse, or people have done things to them

510
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Speaker 7: and violated their space, and so in an intimate relationship,

511
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Speaker 7: these things start to bubble up to the surface, and

512
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Speaker 7: if people don't deal with them, they don't acknowledge them,

513
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Speaker 7: they don't talk about them openly, then the couple just

514
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Speaker 7: grows further and further apart. So the key is to

515
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Speaker 7: try to identify what's going on, Like, is this something

516
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Speaker 7: that's present right now that's making me feel this way?

517
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Speaker 7: Is this something from the past that I'm being triggered

518
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Speaker 7: by and now it's making me feel, you know, reluctant

519
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Speaker 7: to connect with my partner or afraid on some level.

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Speaker 7: But the key is really trying to dig deep and

521
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Speaker 7: figure that out. And often people need an outside source

522
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 7: to help them do that because they're just they don't

523
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Speaker 7: really have the skills to figure it out.

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Speaker 3: So your main thing is just making sure that there's

525
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Speaker 3: an emotional communication before you even focus on the sexual part.

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Speaker 7: Yes, I mean if a couples, if they're just mildly disconnected,

527
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Speaker 7: then sometimes sex can actually jumpstart that emotional openness and

528
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Speaker 7: connection again. But if there's been an ongoing breakdown in

529
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Speaker 7: the emotional connection, then they definitely need to repair that

530
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Speaker 7: before they can be feeling comfortable and vulnerable enough to

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Speaker 7: have sex. Because if they're blocked emotionally, then they're preventing

532
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Speaker 7: themselves from being vulnerable. And you can only really have good, wild, incredible,

533
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 7: life changing, rejuvenating sex when you're feeling vulnerable and open

534
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Speaker 7: to the person, So that part has to be repaired first.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Kim, what advice would you give to our listeners

536
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Speaker 4: that maybe aren't married or not having sex in ways

537
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Speaker 4: that they could be intimate with their partner.

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Speaker 7: You mean being intimate without being having intercourse exactly. Well,

539
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 7: everything leading up to that, like depending on your value

540
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 7: system and how you know, there's lots and lots of space.

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Speaker 7: Like in our world, people minimize foreplay. Like even people

542
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Speaker 7: who are having sex, they tend to spend very little

543
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Speaker 7: time on the whole body, other parts of the body,

544
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Speaker 7: other rodsiniszoons before they dive into penetration and the whole.

545
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Speaker 7: You know, I have a background in Dallist and Tenric

546
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Speaker 7: sexual philosophy, and the whole point is to really expand

547
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Speaker 7: the sexual experience. So there's lots of areas that you

548
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 7: can explore and tech and as you do that, you

549
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 7: build more intimacy, more trust with each other, so that

550
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Speaker 7: when you do go into having intercourse, you're much more

551
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 7: comfortable and at ease than in yourself. We have a

552
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,879
Speaker 7: really big kind of value pattern these days of like

553
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Speaker 7: jumping right into sex, and I don't discourage that from

554
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Speaker 7: a moral point of view. It's more about like learning

555
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 7: to be comfortable with each other, honoring your body, honoring

556
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 7: your desires, creating time to really build an emotional bond

557
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 7: so that when you do go ahead and take that

558
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Speaker 7: sexual plunge, you're very connected and stable with each other already.

559
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Speaker 3: Well, that's kind of always been my thing, is that

560
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,800
Speaker 3: I am waiting for marriage, and there's always the argument

561
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Speaker 3: of how do you know if you have chemistry sexual

562
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Speaker 3: chemistry with someone. But I feel like you can have

563
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Speaker 3: sexual chemistry with someone without having.

564
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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, I agree, Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 7: I thine that chemistry is tangible, like you don't have

566
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Speaker 7: to have intercourse with someone to know if you have chemistry,

567
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 7: Like you feel around, you feel attracted, you feel that

568
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Speaker 7: spark that you know. Intercourse is just like a sort

569
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Speaker 7: of final cumulation of that. But you can feel that.

570
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Speaker 7: Everyone feels that. You know, we feel attracted or we

571
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Speaker 7: feel not attracted. That's chemistry.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, That's what I've always thought too. I'm glad to

573
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Speaker 3: have an expert tell me that my feelings are validated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well cool, Well, thank you so much for coming on.

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Speaker 1: I thank you.

577
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Speaker 3: We really appreciating like we're the opposite of experts. So

578
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Speaker 3: it was nice to have you on the podcast today.

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Speaker 7: Well, it's my pleasure. And these are great questions that

580
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Speaker 7: you're asking.

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Speaker 6: All right, we'll.

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Speaker 3: Definitely keep you. We'll keep you definitely on hold for

583
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Speaker 3: when we have more questions that we cannot answer.

584
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Speaker 7: Awesome too, Thanks for having me, all.

585
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Speaker 3: Right, thanks, m okay, bye bye bye. So I want

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Speaker 3: to talk about man crates because I've actually gotten a

587
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Speaker 3: gifts for their men, and even though it's not just

589
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Speaker 3: for a minute, it can be for the girls too.

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Speaker 1: And they were very happy customers.

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Speaker 3: They're very happy customers. And I feel like, especially on

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Speaker 3: Valentine's Day, the guys kind of get the shaft a

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Speaker 3: little bit because they're making the girls happy. But I

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Speaker 3: think this would be such a great gift to give

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Speaker 3: to your guy that seems like personalized and that you

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Speaker 3: put thought into it. The girls get flowers and chocolate,

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Speaker 3: and the guys should get If they like flowers and chocolate,

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Speaker 3: they should get that. But they can get beer. They

599
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Speaker 3: can get a Moscow mule set, they can get a

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Speaker 3: whiskey set. Man Crates is basically trying to solve that

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Speaker 3: problem that the guys have on Valentine's Day by being

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Speaker 3: the only place that you can really find great gifts

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Speaker 4: you can literally get them a man crate that's like specifically.

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Speaker 3: Made personalized golf balls.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's so cool.

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Speaker 3: They have a whiskey appreciation crate, or they have fresh

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Speaker 3: takes on the traditional Valentine's gifts, like the jerky heart

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Speaker 3: or the salami bouquet. She's so cute, Tanny thinks it's cute.

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Speaker 3: I don't know that I'd be super down with salami bouquet,

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Speaker 3: but a guy would, I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: an included crowbar.

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Speaker 4: Also, I would like to just point out mark space

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Speaker 4: when you said salami, says the man.

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Speaker 4: It's actually really cool too, Like I like that, like

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Speaker 3: Speaking of Valentine's Day, yes, there's mixed reviews on how

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Speaker 3: people feel about this holiday. Some people just thrive. They

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Speaker 3: love it. They love love, they love celebrating love, whether

647
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Speaker 3: they're single, whether they're married, whether they're soulmate is right

648
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Speaker 3: walking beside them.

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Speaker 1: That's me. And then there's love Valentine's Day.

650
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Speaker 3: Who are just kind of indifferent about it or negative

651
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Speaker 3: or negative. I amy's negative and I'm indifferent.

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Speaker 5: I'm totally happy and in love, but I don't like

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Speaker 5: it at all. It's awful.

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Speaker 3: I just have never I don't like I don't know

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Speaker 3: I mean I remember because last year was like the

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Speaker 3: first time I was in a relationship for Valentine's Day,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, maybe this will just change, maybe

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Speaker 3: I'll be so excited about it. But it was kind

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Speaker 3: of like, well, of course, Robert went all out. We

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Speaker 3: went on like a wine takee tour and like a

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Speaker 3: hot air blown ride and it was really cut.

662
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: Like the chest, the like life sized chest. Right was

663
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: that not Chess?

664
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 3: Was it Checkers?

665
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

666
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. It was a great trip, Like we had

667
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 3: a lot of fun. But I would have loved it

668
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 3: whether it was on Valentine's Day or any other day,

669
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 3: you know. So I think we went to this like

670
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 3: super cute air uh not air BMB, but Ben Breakfast,

671
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 3: and it was like all these older couples and we

672
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 3: all woke up and kind of had we were like

673
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 3: separated ourselves because we're like this is weird with strangers.

674
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 3: But I just am like I don't really put a

675
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 3: whole I'm not like, oh, I'm single and I hate

676
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 3: Valentine's Day, but I'm also not there's nothing that great,

677
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 3: but this year it should be fun.

678
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 1: Super fun.

679
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm single and I love Valentine's Day, so

680
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 4: imagine me in a relationship.

681
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: It's like like cookies, just drank.

682
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 5: A bottle of coke, wondering if you scare the guy.

683
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 5: But what are you two doing.

684
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 3: We're actually going down to the children's hospital in Orange

685
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 3: County to do Valentine's stuff with the kids.

686
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're gonna make Valentine Grain.

687
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I'm actually really excited.

688
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: Me too.

689
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 5: I can't even be bitter about that.

690
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 3: But as far as like the night plans, nothing, really,

691
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 3: I'm all about Gallentine's Day too, Like you don't have

692
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 3: a man, that's fine, get your girls.

693
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 4: It's a day of love, Like how do you like?

694
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,719
Speaker 4: I love love, And it's like there's so much just

695
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 4: good energy in the air, and like.

696
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 5: I'm every day like I want it. I don't need

697
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 5: a day Well.

698
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, and I don't.

699
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 5: Need that stress and that, Like what if I don't

700
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 5: do the right thing, what if he doesn't do the

701
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 5: right thing, what if nothing happens, What if this happens,

702
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,239
Speaker 5: what if we forgot? Like I don't need it. I

703
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 5: can't handle it. I can't handle it right now.

704
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 3: So you don't like the pressure of it.

705
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 5: I don't like anything about it because it feels forced.

706
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 4: But then you shouldn't put any expectation because you know,

707
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 4: expectation I'm putting into the roots of all problems.

708
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 5: No way, I need to hear that again. Say that again.

709
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 1: Expectation is the root of all problem.

710
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 5: Where did you learn that? Because it couldn't be more true.

711
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, she just made it up on the spot and

712
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 3: that was good.

713
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 4: Oh, because my whole philosophy in life is to be

714
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 4: open to the possibility, but not not attached, not attached

715
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 4: to the outcome, because it's the expectations that we always

716
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 4: set with every relationship in our lives that really leads

717
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 4: to the downfall.

718
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 6: I think happiness happens when you stop expecting and start accepting.

719
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 3: Yeah wow, it is turning into a quote.

720
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 5: Day here say that one one more time so everyone

721
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 5: can bring it in.

722
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 6: Happiness happens when you stop expecting and start accepting.

723
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 3: Yeah wow, these are some really good quotes. Amy, They're

724
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 3: changing the games.

725
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 5: I stand strong on why I hate birthdays in Valentine's

726
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 5: Day and all of the birthdays.

727
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 6: Who hates birthdays?

728
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 3: Me?

729
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 5: I like that because I have so many expectations and

730
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 5: things in my brain and I get all cuckoo because

731
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 5: of it. So that's sometimes you just let it.

732
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 1: I think that's the thing.

733
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 4: I think a lot of people do put a lot

734
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 4: of expectations on Valentins, and if you just don't have expectations,

735
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 4: like it's like it is just another day, but how

736
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 4: beautiful that like you you might get flowers, or you

737
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 4: might get you know what I mean, you might get another.

738
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 6: Here's why I like it because it kind of forces

739
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 6: you to step up when you get into your routine.

740
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 6: Like a married couple gets into a routine, they're lazy

741
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 6: but scheduling date nights. But Valentine's Day, you're going out.

742
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 6: It's gonna happen. And if you're in a new relationship,

743
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 6: it forces the guy to step up and it actually

744
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 6: tells you a lot about that guy.

745
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 4: And to be honest, I used to be like, I

746
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 4: remember when I was newly single and it was Valentine's Day.

747
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 4: I used to I was so bitter and I was

748
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 4: like and like, getting out of that mindset totally has

749
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 4: changed the game. I think, like just like being like

750
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 4: just it's just another day, but it's a day of love.

751
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 5: I will make no mention of it and will not

752
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 5: care if no mention is made up.

753
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 3: I'm just like sending I'm just gonna send Amy like

754
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 3: balloons and flowers and hearts.

755
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, pink and red.

756
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, just like foul her apartment. Yeah, because I'm I'm

757
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 3: like more, just like, oh, I don't I don't care

758
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 3: if I'm not, if I'm not with someone whatever. But

759
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 3: I also love love. But I'm kind of with Amy

760
00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 3: in the sense that, like, I think it's great to

761
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 3: sell you know it's But I also agree with Mark

762
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 3: that when you get in a rut and you're kind

763
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 3: of like doing the same thing, it kind of you

764
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 3: you're you're expected to step up.

765
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,399
Speaker 4: Like when we're thirty years married, We're gonna really love

766
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:13,439
Speaker 4: Valentine's Day, I think.

767
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,839
Speaker 6: I think I think so too. Yeah, I'm fifteen. Yeah,

768
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 6: and it's fun. This might be a good time to

769
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 6: get to know Amy because we have an email that

770
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 6: said I want to know more about Amy.

771
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 3: Wow does one start?

772
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,839
Speaker 6: Claire says, I love yours and Tanya's banter. I love

773
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 6: it when you guys laugh at each other. I listen

774
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 6: to other podcasts that Amy produces, and I want to

775
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:36,399
Speaker 6: know more about her. I think she's hilarious. I look

776
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 6: for her on social media. But no luck, who is she?

777
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 6: And how do all the Bachelor alumni know her? You know,

778
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:44,320
Speaker 6: I'm curious about that one myself.

779
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 3: This is so amazing and I'm so happy that we

780
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:49,720
Speaker 3: got this email.

781
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 5: I love that she looked on social media because I

782
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 5: literally could be in the CIA, like I don't exist.

783
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you do exist, You're just like you Facebook.

784
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I've never posted anything on it, and I've

785
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 5: I've never done anything on Instagram except I like all

786
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 5: my niece's posts. That's the only one.

787
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 3: Get a cute. But you also watch stories.

788
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:10,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, I watched. I'm a boyer.

789
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: I don't she's slew she's a sil silent stalker.

790
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 6: How do you know all the Bachelor people?

791
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 5: Because I've been Ryan Seacrest producer for over twenty years

792
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,479
Speaker 5: and so we've been working with the show and Chris

793
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 5: Harrison almost that whole time. I can't remember what year

794
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 5: it started.

795
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 6: But you're like friends with all of them.

796
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 5: It's not like that because I started to realize, like, hey,

797
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 5: if we all join up, everybody wins.

798
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 3: Oh, and here we are collaborative, a collaborative effort, but

799
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:44,280
Speaker 3: we're also friends. She's making it sown like strictly business.

800
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 5: We're also Bachelor people. Let's say there's been how many

801
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:51,360
Speaker 5: three hundred I'm I consider seven friends.

802
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 1: I think there's been like three million.

803
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 5: There's not three million. How many people are in Bachelor Nation,

804
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 5: although I hate that name.

805
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,400
Speaker 4: You have to find seasons and how many This is

806
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 4: just on the Bachelor though, so five times three.

807
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: Let's all do the math and see what numbers.

808
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's more than twenty five on something that's.

809
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,280
Speaker 5: Seven hundred and fifty. So let's say a thousand people

810
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 5: have been on the show just to ballpark.

811
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know it used to feel, but now that

812
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 3: we really put now we really put the math together,

813
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: it's not as exclusive as it used to feel.

814
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 5: The club anyone can get into.

815
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 6: All right. This is from the Felle. She has some

816
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 6: rapid fire and I love rapid fire. Me too, love

817
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 6: all right, Beca and Tanya, your relationship is so real

818
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 6: and so easy to relate to. With this podcast, I

819
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 6: feel like I know you more like friends rather than

820
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,800
Speaker 6: just a fan from Afar. And sometimes I'll refer to

821
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 6: things you guys talk about as if I was part

822
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 6: of the conversation.

823
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 3: I love those.

824
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:49,759
Speaker 6: Number one, what is your opinion on moving in with

825
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 6: significant other. When is a good time to officially move

826
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 6: in together?

827
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 3: Ooh, this is I've never looked at the significant other,

828
00:37:55,600 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 3: but I always have said that because when you get married,

829
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 3: you spend the rest of your hopefully the rest of

830
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 3: your life together.

831
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: That's the goal.

832
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 3: I My theory is, obviously you kind of want to

833
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,800
Speaker 3: stay and see how you work together, like on a

834
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 3: you know, maybe stay and see how the morning routine

835
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 3: is and stuff. But I want to embrace that time

836
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 3: where because I want it when we move in together

837
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 3: to be like, all right, this is it, We're ready

838
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 3: and be like that my single life left behind, bye

839
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 3: bye bye bye. And I remember reading this blog about

840
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 3: this girl and she was just saying like this time

841
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:29,840
Speaker 3: is so special, Like I love him and I cannot

842
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 3: wait to move in with him and be with him

843
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 3: every day. But this this is the time now, and

844
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 3: I'm going to embrace it and like really relish these

845
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 3: last few months while I'm like not married. I loved that.

846
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, my I think for me, ideally I would like

847
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 4: to be engaged and then move in and then get married.

848
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 3: Because you're like preparing for matage. Yeah, but I don't know.

849
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of people I know some

850
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 3: couples who have moved in like after a month together.

851
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I mean I know it happens really fast.

852
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 3: I think it's more of your relationship. And how if

853
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 3: you like my personality, I don't. I like my space.

854
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 3: So I say.

855
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 5: If the house is big enough, I'm totally open to it.

856
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that's true.

857
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 5: If you have like room, separate bathrooms, one percent of requirement,

858
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 5: separate closet, and.

859
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,959
Speaker 6: When you're spending the night at each other's places every day,

860
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 6: it seems silly to be paying too it.

861
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 4: I do see the economic advantage of it, but I

862
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:30,720
Speaker 4: don't think that should be the reason.

863
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 5: This just made me think of something I have to

864
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 5: tell you, the guys this, Oh my god, I might

865
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 5: be able to solve all your relationship problems. So I

866
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 5: met this woman and I could probably track her down.

867
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 5: You know your house. Think about your houses right now,

868
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 5: in your closet and in your dresser, do you have

869
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 5: any space for anyone else? Like if you had somebody

870
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,879
Speaker 5: right now, yes, and they came with their suitcase, could

871
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 5: they unpack it at your house? Not a chance that

872
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 5: that is totally your problem. I need to track this

873
00:39:58,040 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 5: woman down.

874
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 6: Well, tiny you actually leave space.

875
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 4: I leave space for my boyfriend. I sleep on one

876
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 4: side of my bed. I have an entire shelf in

877
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 4: my closet ready for him. I have a drawer open

878
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 4: for him, because yeah, I literally made space for for

879
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 4: my future husband. So whenever he's ready, Tim's there's lots

880
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 4: of space for you.

881
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 5: Bracking down this woman who told me about this, and

882
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 5: she will tell you a story and you will go wow.

883
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 5: It might be next week because it's gonna take me

884
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:25,439
Speaker 5: a minute, but continue the family.

885
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 6: Number two, what's your opinion on sharing a bank account.

886
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 6: I've heard of some couples not sharing a bank account.

887
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 6: My parents share one. I plan to have a joint account.

888
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 6: When should you start sharing a bank account?

889
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 1: Oh?

890
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 5: Never, I don't know.

891
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 3: I'm this one is I'll take this one, Yeah, take it.

892
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 3: Let me think on it.

893
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 4: I think I think you should start sharing sharing an

894
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:51,800
Speaker 4: account after you get married. I also think you should

895
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 4: both keep your separate accounts. So I think you have

896
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 4: a shared account and your own separate account.

897
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 5: Totally depends on age, what you come in with, what

898
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 5: you got going on, what the situation is, because that

899
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 5: could turn into a big old confusing mess. Not having

900
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 5: anything to do with, like you're not gonna be together,

901
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 5: it can just be a confusing mess.

902
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I.

903
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 6: Think that's cynical. I think that's only gonna happen if

904
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:15,720
Speaker 6: you break up. Like when Amy and I got married,

905
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:17,360
Speaker 6: we joined bank account and.

906
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I would never break up and we

907
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 5: could still be like, wait, what is that for? What's that?

908
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 5: It's all mixed up in jumbalie.

909
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 6: And law, but it all comes from one pot and

910
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 6: it keeps it as simple as possible. It's when you

911
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 6: have separate accounts that's when it gets confused. And that's

912
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 6: when it's like, oh, I need your half of the

913
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 6: electricity bill. Really, we've been married for twelve years.

914
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 5: We're not gonna like come down to eighteen dollars. What

915
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 5: I'm saying is like, if there's enough money, it all

916
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 5: depends on how much money you have. That's what it

917
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 5: comes down to.

918
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 3: I think if you're new, like my thing is, if

919
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 3: you're if you get married and you're both just like

920
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:55,439
Speaker 3: struggling to make ins me or you know, you're you're like, okay,

921
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 3: I'm paying half and I'm paying half or whatever. I

922
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 3: don't I don't think it's terrible to have a joint account.

923
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 3: I also think if you're in a place where you

924
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 3: can have like have it together account and then each

925
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 3: have your own if you want it, that would be

926
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 3: the most ideal personally.

927
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the.

928
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 6: Move, all right. She would also like to.

929
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 5: Know, right by the way, that's a good answer, because

930
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,240
Speaker 5: it totally depends on the situation.

931
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, if there's anything about your future wedding you've imagined.

932
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 6: For example, the Felli says, the only thing I've really

933
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 6: thought about is the location, because I want to get

934
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 6: married at the same church I was baptized in in Greece. Well,

935
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 6: that's a major plan, I hope, and hopefully your future

936
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:31,919
Speaker 6: fiance is cool with that. But have you pictured anything

937
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 6: about your future wedding.

938
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 3: I've never been someone who like pictured my wedding, but

939
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 3: but this is no one's surprised by that. But I

940
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 3: have always wanted more of like a destination type wedding

941
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 3: where like my closest friends and family come and then

942
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 3: have like a huge party when I get back and

943
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 3: ever like can buy everyone, because I don't I don't

944
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 3: see myself in like a traditional church wedding. I see

945
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 3: it more like a very intimate, like beautiful place with

946
00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 3: my closest friends and family.

947
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: I've definitely envisioned my.

948
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 3: I think Donia bought her dress.

949
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 6: I uh.

950
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 4: But what's interesting is I used to like know every

951
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 4: little detail that I wanted about my wedding, and I

952
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 4: in my new found wisdom and not setting expectations on

953
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 4: anything like now, I like, I try to visualize my

954
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 4: wedding and I just see a blank slate. Because I

955
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 4: wanted to be a collaborative effort because I don't know

956
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 4: who my husband's going to be, and I wanted to

957
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:32,399
Speaker 4: be like a joint thing, you know, something important to him.

958
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:33,719
Speaker 4: I want to be able to do that. So it's

959
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 4: like really crazy because now, like maybe five years ago,

960
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 4: if I would have closed my eyes, I could tell

961
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 4: you exactly like where we were getting married, what it

962
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 4: looked like, what the bridesmaid dresses were like, I literally

963
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 4: couldn't vision the whole thing, And now it's just like

964
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 4: a blank screen.

965
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:48,720
Speaker 1: It's the weirdest thing, Isn't that weird?

966
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 3: Because now you're like, oh, I can It's gonna matter

967
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 3: what he wants. Yeah, I agree with. I mean, if

968
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 3: my husband, if my fiance, or whoever I end up with,

969
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 3: is like I want to church wedding. Then obviously we'll

970
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 3: have to you know, compromise.

971
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:09,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, all right, This is one from Jen. Jen says, Hey, guys,

972
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 6: love y'all so much. It's been great getting to know y'all,

973
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 6: and I love hearing this podcast every week. All right,

974
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 6: She's there's a guy she's been friends with for about

975
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 6: two years that met their mutual friends at an instant connection.

976
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 6: Started seeing each other about two months ago. He ended

977
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 6: things because he was just getting out of a two

978
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 6: year relationship. He said he needed time. We stayed friends

979
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 6: the whole time, saw other people. About two months ago

980
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 6: he came to me, said if I would give him

981
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 6: another chance, he wanted a date, and now he's officially

982
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:36,399
Speaker 6: my boyfriend. Okay, good. Towards the end of our time

983
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 6: off period, I started seeing my best guy friend. It

984
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 6: was nothing serious. Most of my friends don't even know

985
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 6: about it. He's got a new girlfriend. Now I's got

986
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,880
Speaker 6: a new boyfriend. But do I need to tell my

987
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:50,320
Speaker 6: boyfriend that I hooked up with my best guy friend.

988
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 6: They've met. Everything seems fine there, but should I say

989
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 6: something for reference? We're twenty five.

990
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 1: This is.

991
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:03,719
Speaker 3: Oh with Joey. Yeah, no, we were on yeah, oh yeah,

992
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 3: but this is different because there this is more like

993
00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 3: Ross Rachel Joey kind of but reverse.

994
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 5: What if she tried asking the guy how much should

995
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 5: we tell each other about our past or should we

996
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 5: just move forward? And that way he's telling her, yes,

997
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 5: I want to know, or I don't want to know.

998
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 5: I don't know. I just came to me. I don't

999
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:23,760
Speaker 5: know if it might be terrible.

1000
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:30,280
Speaker 4: I think, in my honest opinion, I think that honesty

1001
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 4: will win in this situation. I think you tell him

1002
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 4: if you're going to do with this guy for the

1003
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 4: rest of your life, like it's you know, he's gonna

1004
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 4: know eventually, I think.

1005
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:45,760
Speaker 3: I mean. My thing is, there were things that Robert

1006
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 3: and I discussed that it wasn't that he was lying

1007
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:52,439
Speaker 3: to me, but it was stuff that like I would

1008
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 3: have liked to know, even though I didn't ask him

1009
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 3: about it. And so I personally think you should sit

1010
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:59,279
Speaker 3: down and tell him just so that because every time

1011
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 3: every time he he's going to be around him like

1012
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 3: not knowing, and then if he just happened to find

1013
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,879
Speaker 3: out somehow, that's that is where things get messed.

1014
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:09,919
Speaker 5: I remember, ignorance is bliss. That's why I'm saying, ask

1015
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 5: him what he wants to know, because if someone asked me,

1016
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 5: I'd be like nothing, I want to know nothing. I

1017
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 5: never want to know.

1018
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,399
Speaker 6: But if the boyfriend finds out one day that Jake,

1019
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 6: who's over here at the house all the time, meant

1020
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 6: your best friend that you used to hook up, I'd

1021
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 6: be furious because you're keeping that information from me.

1022
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 4: I also think, like, what a beautiful relationship if you're

1023
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 4: just completely transparent with each other, you know, like, that's

1024
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 4: such a great foundation, and why wouldn't you want to

1025
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:36,320
Speaker 4: have a strong foundation.

1026
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,839
Speaker 3: And no one did anything wrong, Like it was like

1027
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 3: they weren't together. He needed the time and she click.

1028
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 1: And if you think back on your relationship had been just.

1029
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,359
Speaker 3: That's the thing, it wouldn't have even been a big

1030
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 3: deal together.

1031
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 5: He has an argument there, very convincing because it actually

1032
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 5: just made me want to change my mind. So for

1033
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 5: everyone listening, that was pretty solid because now I'm like, oh,

1034
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 5: I could go that rounte and just say give it,

1035
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 5: lay it on me.

1036
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:05,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, was the worst that happens? He says, Okay, then

1037
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 4: I don't want to be with you. Then it wasn't

1038
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 4: meant to be.

1039
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 3: Well, if that's a deal breaker. Then it would have

1040
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 3: been a It would have been a much bigger deal

1041
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 3: if he found out later on.

1042
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 6: Yeah, all right, this one I think Tanya can really

1043
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:17,359
Speaker 6: relate to. So I think you'll be able to give

1044
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 6: some advice to Melissa. I've been in an on and

1045
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 6: off relationship for two years now. We dated for about

1046
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 6: a year, then we decided that we needed to figure

1047
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 6: out where the relationship was going. At that point, we

1048
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 6: were fairly serious, but I hadn't spent much time with

1049
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 6: each other's families. We said it spent some more time

1050
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 6: with them before deciding whether or not to get married.

1051
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 6: A couple of weeks later, after spending the day with

1052
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,439
Speaker 6: his family, he ended things with me, saying that while

1053
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 6: he loved me, he didn't think we were the best

1054
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 6: possible match for each other. I was devastated for the

1055
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,719
Speaker 6: next eight months, though he would talk to me every day,

1056
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:50,359
Speaker 6: tell me he loved me, and we'd uncommittedly see each

1057
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 6: other throughout the week, making it impossible for me to

1058
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 6: actually see anybody else or develop feelings. I had my

1059
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 6: suspicions his family didn't think I was a good fit

1060
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 6: for him, and that he's been torn between his feelings

1061
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 6: for me and feeling like he needs to please his family. Well,

1062
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 6: he recently told me it was in fact his family.

1063
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 6: They have strong reservations against him being with me. He

1064
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 6: understands their points that his family is making with our

1065
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 6: different personalities, and he's always had the same idea in

1066
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:16,799
Speaker 6: his head for a future wife for himself as his

1067
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 6: family does. So now he's trying to decide by ba bas.

1068
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:22,240
Speaker 6: So our question is do I tell him to hurry

1069
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 6: and make a decision. I have self respect, It shouldn't

1070
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 6: be this complicated. Or do I be patient because in

1071
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:30,399
Speaker 6: the meantime, I'm dating, I'm living life. I do want

1072
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 6: to be with him. For reference, we're both twenty four,

1073
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 6: which I know is young, but I'm from Utah and

1074
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:40,400
Speaker 6: it's our culture to marry young. That is Melissa.

1075
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 1: No, Melissa, it's not good.

1076
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 4: I'm just saying right now, this is going to be

1077
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 4: your internal battle for the rest of your life.

1078
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:52,879
Speaker 6: Yeah, because if you marry him, the family always may

1079
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 6: never accept it.

1080
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 3: And like clearly the family's very involved. It's not like

1081
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 3: they're going to back off at any point.

1082
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 4: And then what's your next step? You guys are going

1083
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 4: to maybe buy home together, and his parents want him

1084
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 4: to live in a two bedroom or you want to

1085
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 4: live in a one bedroom whatever, whatever. The big decision is.

1086
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 4: You guys have kids and you don't know whether to

1087
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 4: circumcise them.

1088
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: Or not or whatever.

1089
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,399
Speaker 6: I mean, I went like far, that's a great way.

1090
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:15,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, but the parents are always going to have one

1091
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 4: opinion and he's always going to side with them.

1092
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: Except it's not great.

1093
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:23,240
Speaker 5: So my parents eloped when my mom was like nineteen.

1094
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 5: My dad was in law school and he was moving

1095
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 5: to Washington, DC to work at the Pentagon, and my grandparents,

1096
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 5: my mom's parents disowned her. They like were they didn't

1097
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 5: speak to my mom. They were like so mad, upset.

1098
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Speaker 5: I don't know what all the details. So my dad's

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00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 5: parents really like took my mom. They paid for her college,

1100
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:49,240
Speaker 5: they like completely raised her from nineteen to whatever twenty something.

1101
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 5: And then when my brother was born, my grandparents, my

1102
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 5: mom's parents, fully came back. They were like everybody forgave everybody,

1103
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 5: and they were like the best grandparents you could ever imagine,

1104
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 5: all four of mine. So like, oh wow, I'm just

1105
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 5: saying they're saying I think when my brother was born

1106
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 5: they suddenly realized like, oh my god, what were we thinking?

1107
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:15,280
Speaker 5: And they loved my dad, so it was like really

1108
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,919
Speaker 5: kind of crazy, but like they literally did not speak

1109
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 5: to my mom for years, so I don't know, like

1110
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 5: maybe this person should.

1111
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Speaker 4: But I think also your dad knew from the bat,

1112
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 4: like he was like, I'm gonna take you whether your

1113
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 4: family wants it or not. Like this guy seems very

1114
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 4: wishy washy, and it seems like he's like kind of

1115
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 4: leaning more with like the family and that yeah, he's gonna.

1116
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 3: I was gonna say. I feel like if he was

1117
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 3: more like, well, I want you, and it's gonna be rough,

1118
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,840
Speaker 3: like if they don't agree, but like you're who I want,

1119
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 3: it'd be more like concrete. But it seems like what

1120
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 3: is she always gonna be battling him and the parent

1121
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:52,720
Speaker 3: right without having him on her side.

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Speaker 5: At least my mom and dad were on the same thing,

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00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,600
Speaker 5: and my other grandparents were fully supportive of my mom

1124
00:50:57,600 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 5: and dad. But then my other grandparents, I mean they

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00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 5: were like in my life every day. So they came back, yeah,

1126
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 5: and they completely changed their minds on my desk.

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00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 6: Nus, he's twenty four, Especially these days, you're really still

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00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 6: kind of close, maybe even living with your family. When

1129
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:14,720
Speaker 6: you're twenty four, they're paying for certain bills and stuff.

1130
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:18,280
Speaker 6: Thirty four. He may have cut that cord a little bit. Yeah,

1131
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 6: but my gut is Tanya's. He's They're very clearly, very involved,

1132
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 6: very controlling. He's clearly very affected by them, and that's

1133
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 6: going to be an issue forever.

1134
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1135
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:27,720
Speaker 6: And Tanya may or may not have been through this pore.

1136
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:30,919
Speaker 1: I've lived it.

1137
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 3: The drugs. Tanya is our new relationship expert. I don't

1138
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 3: know why. I just keep seeing this paper in my

1139
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 3: in that hashtag things all the vagina is.

1140
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 1: Like, here's another part of the body.

1141
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, another another organ, the base organ. Yeah, well,

1142
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 3: the skin's an organ. It's the biggest organ.

1143
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:53,720
Speaker 1: On the body.

1144
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:58,399
Speaker 3: Yep. Yeah. So speaking of skin, I want to talk

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1148
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Speaker 3: right now is very dry everything, just my face, Tony's

1149
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 3: looking at my hands. My skin on my face is

1150
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the new year.

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Speaker 3: Though.

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Speaker 1: I like chapter one.

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Speaker 3: don't know if you saw the moon the other night.

1178
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:43,399
Speaker 3: It was pretty great. I know this is all your

1179
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 3: you love that stuff, but I'm always intrigued. I don't know,

1180
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,479
Speaker 3: like the horoscopes and zodiac and all that stuff. I don't.

1181
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 3: You're way more into it than I am.

1182
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 1: But I'm surprised you didn't see it because it was

1183
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: when you landed back. I didn't say it.

1184
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 3: Oh I did see it. Yeah, we landed and it

1185
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:01,839
Speaker 3: was like it was actually really cool because I very

1186
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 3: rarely see these special things because I'm like, could rather sleep,

1187
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 3: but it was cool to see it. I was like,

1188
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 3: this is awesome. And so we have an expert on

1189
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 3: the line, Lisa Vite, who is a psychic, and she's

1190
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 3: gonna kind of tell us what she thinks about the

1191
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 3: moon and what it means for us or how it

1192
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 3: influences our affects us. Lisa, are you on line?

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00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 2: I am how great?

1194
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 3: How are you?

1195
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 2: I'm good? Are you guys experiencing a moon hangover?

1196
00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:31,879
Speaker 3: Yeah? Super moon hangover? But it also could have been

1197
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 3: the cocktails I had at dinner last night. But yeah,

1198
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 3: so Tanya is super into signs and you know, the

1199
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 3: stars aligning and all of that, and I'm kind of

1200
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 3: a little more clueless about it, but I am interested

1201
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,120
Speaker 3: to know how does something like the moon that we

1202
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 3: recently had, like, how does it affect our lives right now?

1203
00:54:56,760 --> 00:55:00,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So the moon we had was just like one

1204
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: of those super rare It was actually a super blue

1205
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:09,440
Speaker 2: blood full moon eclipse, which is just like absolutely ridiculous

1206
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 2: on all levels. There was like a massive energy of

1207
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 2: releasing and letting go of things that don't serve you anymore,

1208
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:21,480
Speaker 2: Like people with feelings of unworthiness and stress about money

1209
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 2: and insecurities and fear and past pain. It's like a

1210
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,239
Speaker 2: time to just stay goodbye to all of that. And

1211
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 2: because of that kind of a release that the moon

1212
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:35,480
Speaker 2: has the ability to do, that it starts to strengthen

1213
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 2: and deepen our current and our future relationships. So it

1214
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,799
Speaker 2: really gives us like this whole new depth and like

1215
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 2: it pulls away the layers. But that can be painful sometimes,

1216
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 2: Like that's intense energy and that opens up a lot

1217
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 2: of you know, rips off the scabs sometimes. Yeah, sometimes

1218
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 2: during these kind of moments. With these really rare moons,

1219
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 2: the energy a lot more intense.

1220
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 1: Have you been feeling any intense energy beca.

1221
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 3: I, Well, I was just gonna say, I mean, I

1222
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 3: feel like my relationship ended a while back, but recently

1223
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:14,399
Speaker 3: I've kind of been feeling like I've had a hard

1224
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:18,840
Speaker 3: time letting go and right, yeah, right.

1225
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 2: But do you see what the difference is that what

1226
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 2: the moon does is that actually makes you aware that

1227
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:29,239
Speaker 2: you're having trouble letting it go, rather than before we're

1228
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:32,759
Speaker 2: just unconscious of it, Like it just sort of you're

1229
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 2: not really as heightened into the awareness of what you know,

1230
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 2: and they're holding onto stuff and there's unconscious reasons too,

1231
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 2: you know, not being fully able to let it go.

1232
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 2: And then the moon kind of comes in and it

1233
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 2: aligns with us and it's able to let it go.

1234
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 2: The thing about the moon that I love for people

1235
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 2: to understand is that every day of the moon matters,

1236
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 2: and if we actually just aligned with it and we

1237
00:56:58,200 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 2: actually just kind of followed the cycle of the moon,

1238
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 2: that's when we maximize, you know, our potential and like

1239
00:57:05,080 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 2: to power to really manifesting our desires and letting go

1240
00:57:08,600 --> 00:57:12,880
Speaker 2: of everything that doesn't serve us, so we are in

1241
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,239
Speaker 2: this time where it's kind of like the heightened awareness

1242
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 2: is actually what's more painful. It's like the awareness of

1243
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 2: why are you still holding on and why can't you

1244
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:23,919
Speaker 2: let go? That's what's louder, you know what I mean?

1245
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:26,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, well, Tanya, what were you saying? You were

1246
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 3: looking at?

1247
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:27,439
Speaker 2: Well?

1248
00:57:27,640 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 4: So I was reading about because I was reading about

1249
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 4: each like specific sign and I know it just depends

1250
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 4: on like where the moon is like in the which

1251
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 4: house and that depends on your sign or whatever. But

1252
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:39,840
Speaker 4: I'm a cancer and I was reading up about the

1253
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 4: effects that has on cancers and it was really weirdly

1254
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 4: spot on because it was talking about my career and

1255
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:47,480
Speaker 4: it was all about how I'm going to have a

1256
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 4: little bit of a shift and more responsibility in my career.

1257
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: Life, which is really happening for me.

1258
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:56,840
Speaker 4: In about like April May, and it was like you

1259
00:57:56,880 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 4: really need to hone in and like get you're you know,

1260
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 4: really get back to your craft and become like a

1261
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 4: student again. You've been doing this for a while, but

1262
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 4: now you're about to have like a whole new layer

1263
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 4: put on. And it's like it was so well that

1264
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 4: it was like.

1265
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 2: Scary Yeah, there's this doorway that opens up right now

1266
00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 2: into the future. So when you're able to be heightened

1267
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 2: awareness of the things that are holding you back, then

1268
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 2: there's this doorway into your future. If you pay attention,

1269
00:58:22,920 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 2: it'll it'll really help you to receive some serious clarity

1270
00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 2: and awareness about what next steps to take. And then

1271
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 2: for you as a cancer as well, you're already ruled

1272
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 2: by the moon. That's your planet, that rules you, so

1273
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 2: you've got to be able to like you're having all

1274
00:58:37,040 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 2: the feels. I'm sure you're just like the emotion of

1275
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 2: always of moving into stuff. And can I just add,

1276
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:46,800
Speaker 2: like if I can just babble about something that I

1277
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 2: always want to throw out there for everybody is you know,

1278
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 2: women especially and if there's men listening, like pay attention

1279
00:58:55,080 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 2: because this is gold like to understanding your girl. But

1280
00:58:58,280 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 2: for women, like we have to underst and that we

1281
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 2: all of us really are. The moon is a feminine energy.

1282
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 2: Like the sun comes up every day and it shines

1283
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 2: all day long and it's always there and it's a

1284
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 2: constant and that cosmically is the energy of masculine energy.

1285
00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 2: And the moon is completely all of this. See, it's

1286
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 2: complete feminine energy. And what that means is if you

1287
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 2: look at our lives as women, we are we're never

1288
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 2: the same every single day. It's a different kind of

1289
00:59:27,680 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 2: a face. We go through cycles our whole life. We

1290
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:32,640
Speaker 2: go through puberty, and then we go through you know,

1291
00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:36,919
Speaker 2: going through a nine months pregnancy process and then giving verse,

1292
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:38,720
Speaker 2: and then we go through menopause, and then we have

1293
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 2: a cycle once a month, we have a monthly cycle,

1294
00:59:41,400 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 2: and the moon is exactly the same. It's the same

1295
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 2: exact energy. It's this cyclical, beautiful one day or this

1296
00:59:49,240 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 2: one day or that, And that's the essence of being

1297
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 2: a girl is that we're never the same. So when

1298
00:59:54,600 --> 00:59:58,400
Speaker 2: my clients come to me who are primarily women, and

1299
00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 2: you know, they say, I'm so mad about the where

1300
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:03,120
Speaker 2: I was or blah blah blah blah blah, this instance

1301
01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 2: happened and I can't hear. I'm focused on this, I

1302
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 2: immediately start aligning them with the cycles of the moon

1303
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:12,560
Speaker 2: and getting them to do these little pay attention to

1304
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 2: you know, how you feel in a full moon. Like

1305
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 2: on a full moon, I always feel lower and darker,

1306
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:23,880
Speaker 2: and like I have to kind of nurture myself and

1307
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 2: really just give myself some love and quiet and keep

1308
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:29,400
Speaker 2: myself away from people. And then when it's a new

1309
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 2: moon and it's all about creating and manifesting and what

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01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 2: is your desire, I'm like sexy dancing all over the

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01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 2: house and like, you know, my whole inner goddess is,

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01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 2: guys were coming out. I'm spraying like I have a

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01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,640
Speaker 2: dragon's blood oil that I make and it spring it

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01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 2: all over my body. And so as we were to

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Speaker 2: use the moon for us, especially as women, it is

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01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:56,800
Speaker 2: like you are guaranteed to maximize the power of manifesting

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01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 2: whatever it is that you're desiring in your life. And

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Speaker 2: then also knowing those times where you're like, don't make decisions,

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01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 2: don't do you know, don't do this right now, don't

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Speaker 2: go out and be in public in this time. It's

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Speaker 2: kind of a really beautiful way of looking at things,

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01:01:14,920 --> 01:01:17,920
Speaker 2: you know, from a higher perspective and from a like

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Speaker 2: an estended and expanded point of view. Yeah, if that makes.

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Speaker 3: Sense, totally very interesting.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, thank you so much, Lisa. I love that

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Speaker 4: so much because I'm a big I love moon stuff.

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Speaker 2: I know, and you know what it is, it's like

1328
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:37,440
Speaker 2: my I have my primarily in my business, what I

1329
01:01:37,480 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 2: do is I have this ability to see and speak

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01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 2: with angels, which is really interesting for people. They always

1331
01:01:43,120 --> 01:01:47,200
Speaker 2: get into it, and so during that hour session, they're

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01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 2: I'm giving them this basically, uh, you know, using my

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01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:54,400
Speaker 2: psychology and my counseling background, but also having this like

1334
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:57,800
Speaker 2: divine presence come in and speak to you. And it's

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01:01:58,120 --> 01:02:00,280
Speaker 2: very bad ass. That's like such a cool thing to do.

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01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 2: But it's not the angels specifically that is helping people.

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01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:06,400
Speaker 2: And it's the same with the moon. It's the fact

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01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 2: that you're seeing your life from above. You're seeing it

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01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:14,560
Speaker 2: from this like ascended and beautiful higher realm where all

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01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 2: is possible. So if you're following the moon like on

1341
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:19,960
Speaker 2: a day to day basis just for fun, you know

1342
01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:21,920
Speaker 2: what I mean, just to play with it, an experiment

1343
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 2: with that that feminine essence that is literally reflecting yourself,

1344
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 2: then you have this ability to you know, you're hot,

1345
01:02:30,480 --> 01:02:33,400
Speaker 2: you're constantly pulled up. The moon is ascended, the moon

1346
01:02:33,480 --> 01:02:37,080
Speaker 2: is powerful, the moon is is still and beautiful and

1347
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 2: shining and perfect, and even when it's a crescent, you

1348
01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 2: know it's still there, it's still present, and that's what

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01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:47,439
Speaker 2: keeps us in that that cosmic space. So you can

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01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 2: tell that I'm highly, highly excited about people understanding the

1351
01:02:53,640 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 2: moon is really it really can get you to see

1352
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 2: them like the magic and your purpose in life, and

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01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 2: you're you know, feel that divine presence and like totally

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01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,880
Speaker 2: immerse yourself in your divine femininity as well.

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Speaker 4: Yes, and we will be doing that tonight while we're

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01:03:07,760 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 4: watching Gray's Anatomie.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for calling in.

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01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:12,800
Speaker 2: All right, you guys have a great one.

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01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:14,040
Speaker 3: Thank you.

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01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:15,520
Speaker 7: Bye.

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Speaker 5: All I have to say is wait till next week

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01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:18,880
Speaker 5: when we cleanse your aura.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh yeah, great she doing it.

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01:03:23,600 --> 01:03:26,560
Speaker 5: No, I've got a different expert to cleanse your aura.

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Speaker 1: Okay, know a lot.

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01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:38,920
Speaker 3: That's a lot we have like vaginal weightlifters and moon

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01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 3: angel talker.

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Speaker 5: You gotta embrace it.

1369
01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:48,800
Speaker 3: I gotta get it together before I can keep going.

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01:03:49,240 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 3: It's so good.

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Speaker 4: But I do find it very interesting what she said

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01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 4: about how the moon is like heightening a little bit

1373
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:59,320
Speaker 4: of your you, like you're feeling you're not. I mean,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna person every single day in my life twenty

1375
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:03,720
Speaker 4: four seven. I cry, wait, you know whatever, but you

1376
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 4: are not.

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Speaker 3: Becca, I don't I mean, yeah, I don't know.

1378
01:04:07,080 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 1: I mean, and you've been more emotional. I know.

1379
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 5: The most interesting is that stuff's coming up for you.

1380
01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:12,120
Speaker 5: That fascinating.

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01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 3: I just feel like I don't know, I'm I've always

1382
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 3: been a little weird about like do I believe in

1383
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:21,920
Speaker 3: all that stuff? But I do. There's certain things that

1384
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:24,760
Speaker 3: I read or like that are so applicable to my life.

1385
01:04:24,960 --> 01:04:26,840
Speaker 1: Such a scorpio. It's like weird, you.

1386
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 3: Said, I'm not. You were like Ellen Pompeo is a

1387
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 3: Scorpio through and through, and you're not.

1388
01:04:32,760 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 4: There are lots of you that are very scorpio esque,

1389
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:37,760
Speaker 4: but I feel like you're a cusp scorpio because there's

1390
01:04:37,800 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 4: a lot of you that's very gentle and sweet kind,

1391
01:04:40,120 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 4: which isn't totally a Scorpio, but there's a lot of

1392
01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 4: you that's Scorpio.

1393
01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,840
Speaker 5: What if a more traditional therapist kind of dug into

1394
01:04:46,960 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 5: why your stuff's coming up? Now?

1395
01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get a traditional therapist. I would like to

1396
01:04:50,960 --> 01:04:53,680
Speaker 3: see that because they have a podcast therapy says, let's

1397
01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 3: do that.

1398
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 5: Because I want to. I'm going to do that next

1399
01:04:55,520 --> 01:04:59,320
Speaker 5: week because I want to have them dig into what

1400
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 5: what's down because there's stuff down there. Because Becca is

1401
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 5: shockingly deep, she just doesn't let it come out. Too much.

1402
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:08,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm a I hold it all in like.

1403
01:05:08,960 --> 01:05:11,480
Speaker 1: A closet full of well, what's been going on?

1404
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:12,400
Speaker 3: Nothing.

1405
01:05:12,440 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 5: I'm just to us a couple of times now that

1406
01:05:16,680 --> 01:05:18,720
Speaker 5: stuff about I don't know if you say his name

1407
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:19,440
Speaker 5: or not her.

1408
01:05:20,200 --> 01:05:22,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like people know.

1409
01:05:22,560 --> 01:05:24,840
Speaker 5: Stuff about Robert is coming up and I can't remember

1410
01:05:24,880 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 5: she told me this in private or on the air,

1411
01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 5: So I forgive me because I'm going to reveal it.

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01:05:29,120 --> 01:05:31,440
Speaker 5: She texted him, I think you said it on the age.

1413
01:05:31,480 --> 01:05:33,040
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, because he didn't respond.

1414
01:05:33,120 --> 01:05:36,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, because that's really your feeling things, so that

1415
01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:38,880
Speaker 5: could be a good sign. I'm not a therapist, but

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01:05:38,920 --> 01:05:41,560
Speaker 5: in my opinion, I think it's good. We'll find out

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01:05:41,600 --> 01:05:42,040
Speaker 5: next week.

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01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:46,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm interested. Right now, we're gonna go have food

1419
01:05:46,160 --> 01:05:49,800
Speaker 3: because CPK dropped off lunch for us today. And you're

1420
01:05:49,800 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 3: getting your new car and I'm getting my new car.

1421
01:05:51,960 --> 01:05:53,240
Speaker 3: I'm getting a new Infinity.

1422
01:05:53,680 --> 01:05:54,320
Speaker 1: That's exciting.

1423
01:05:54,440 --> 01:05:56,800
Speaker 3: I'm so excited. I've been waiting on this.

1424
01:05:57,040 --> 01:05:58,640
Speaker 1: Do you want to drive us to this SNA later?

1425
01:05:59,480 --> 01:06:00,720
Speaker 3: Actually yeah, maybe?

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01:06:00,840 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 1: Okay?

1427
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:01,640
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1428
01:06:02,280 --> 01:06:03,439
Speaker 5: But what color is your car?

1429
01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 3: It's red?

1430
01:06:04,560 --> 01:06:06,480
Speaker 5: And is it what is it?

1431
01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 3: It's the Q sixty and it's red. And it's like

1432
01:06:09,600 --> 01:06:10,640
Speaker 3: the cutest car ever.

1433
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:11,760
Speaker 6: Any going to name it?

1434
01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:14,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like I can't name until I see it.

1435
01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 4: It's like you can't name a baby before it's born.

1436
01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:22,800
Speaker 3: She's naming my car. She's naming my car. Yes, we

1437
01:06:22,880 --> 01:06:28,120
Speaker 3: haven't talked about this, like, yeah, we're gonna have to.

1438
01:06:28,280 --> 01:06:31,520
Speaker 3: We'll discuss this off air. Thank you to sex expert

1439
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:35,800
Speaker 3: Kim and Amy for making us all very uncomfortable. And

1440
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:39,760
Speaker 3: I'm glad that no one could see us blushing. But

1441
01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:43,640
Speaker 3: there's a lot of that happening. Be careful with what

1442
01:06:43,720 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 3: you lift. Thank you. Thank you Lisa Vite for enlightening

1443
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 3: all of us with your knowledge of the moon. And

1444
01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:55,000
Speaker 3: thank you for listening. Everybody let us know what's happening

1445
01:06:55,000 --> 01:06:57,320
Speaker 3: in your life. We will give you the hard hitting

1446
01:06:57,400 --> 01:07:01,520
Speaker 3: advice that we like to share. We love your emails,

1447
01:07:01,520 --> 01:07:03,680
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01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:07,800
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1449
01:07:07,880 --> 01:07:08,560
Speaker 3: you wanna call it.

1450
01:07:08,720 --> 01:07:12,280
Speaker 1: I'm so sad. I'm a dad one oh seven people?

1451
01:07:12,320 --> 01:07:16,440
Speaker 3: No, whoa thirteen o seven?

1452
01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:21,240
Speaker 1: I'm not a doctor?

1453
01:07:21,600 --> 01:07:24,120
Speaker 3: Oh, Like, we gotta be more professional. I know