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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramos and this is a street

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Speaker 1: stoic podcast, bring you your daily dose of timeless stoic

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Speaker 1: philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. We are combining

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Speaker 1: ancient philosophy with lyrics and quotes from some of the

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Speaker 1: greatest who ever grace a microphone.

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Speaker 2: Now, with that in mind, let's get things started with.

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Speaker 1: Your daily shot of inspiration. Now today, we're gonna be

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Speaker 1: focusing all around the stoke idea of gratitude and living

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Speaker 1: in gratitude.

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Speaker 2: And we're gonna get a little warm.

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Speaker 1: And fuzzy here and talk about love right, romantic love

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Speaker 1: and all that should be appreciated about it if you're

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Speaker 1: lucky enough to find it right. And a record that

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Speaker 1: came to my mind recently. I was djaing and usually

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Speaker 1: as I like end out the night, as we're getting

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Speaker 1: ready to kick people out, you know, as it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, ten minutes before we close or whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: I love to do like just an old school R

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Speaker 1: and B set, you know, feel good vibes, something to

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Speaker 1: get people, you know, feeling nice before they leave, leaving

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Speaker 1: on a high note. Maybe if you met somebody special,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm playing a little Wingman for you. But

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Speaker 1: you know, just those those nice little classic R and

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Speaker 1: B singalongs from when I was growing up, and one

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Speaker 1: of them I had dug up recently was Alicia Keys

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Speaker 1: no One, and I thought the lyrics and that were

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Speaker 1: really appropriate for this idea of gratitude, specifically, we talk

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Speaker 1: about having gratitude for, you know, finding love in your life, right,

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Speaker 1: And in this record, Alicia says, I know some people

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Speaker 1: search the world to find something like what we have.

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Speaker 1: I know people will try try to divide something so real,

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Speaker 1: so till the end of time, I'm telling you there

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Speaker 1: ain't no And that's obviously beautiful words to hear from

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Speaker 1: somebody who you care about and is obviously expressing and

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Speaker 1: they care about you. And I think the sort of

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Speaker 1: underlying emphasis of that entire song is her appreciating what

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Speaker 1: that they're having on her life, and she's vowing that

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Speaker 1: come between them, right. She is grateful for the relationship

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Speaker 1: that she has, and she's going to do everything in

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Speaker 1: her power to make sure that it lasts.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: And this leads to a quote from one of the Stokes, right,

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Speaker 1: because I think we sort of overcomplicate.

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Speaker 2: What love is or what it looks like. Right.

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Speaker 1: And I love this quote from Seneca talking about gratitude

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Speaker 1: in general. But he says, true happiness is to enjoy

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Speaker 1: the present without anxious dependence upon the future, not to

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Speaker 1: amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears, but to rest

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Speaker 1: satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient for he

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Speaker 1: that so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are

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Speaker 1: within us and within our reach. A wise man is

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Speaker 1: content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing

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Speaker 1: for what he has not. He's saying a lot here,

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Speaker 1: but I think more than anything else, he's talking about

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Speaker 1: the idea of presence, being present to what you have

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Speaker 1: and not wasting time worrying about other options, worrying about

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Speaker 1: worst case scenario or some potential abstract best case scenario,

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Speaker 1: but instead being hyper present to what you have and

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Speaker 1: being grateful for it.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: And I think that is a lot of what is

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Speaker 1: missing for us in modern dating culture. And not to

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Speaker 1: say that you have to stay in situations that you're

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Speaker 1: not happy and just because you have to be grateful

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Speaker 1: that you found somebody, right, I'm not saying that, but

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Speaker 1: when you find somebody that you truly love, that loves

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Speaker 1: you and treats you well, it's important to recognize how

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Speaker 1: special that is and to not get caught up in

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Speaker 1: the noise or temptation of the outside world.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: And I think we live in a time that's incredibly

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Speaker 1: complicated to date, and it's incredibly easy to get knocked

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Speaker 1: out of the present moment and start fantasizing about the

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Speaker 1: best case scenario based upon what you see on social media,

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Speaker 1: you know, based upon what you see in social media, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: social media has has this distinct ability to make us

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Speaker 2: And you know, for me, I am somebody who enjoys.

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Speaker 2: That I am better when I've had a good woman

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Speaker 1: Right, I am more disciplined, I am more focused, right,

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Speaker 1: And I think in the past I haven't valued that

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Speaker 1: especially younger, wondered what other options might be out there

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Speaker 1: for me, and again social media only exacerbates that. But

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Speaker 1: makes you so much better than if you were just

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Speaker 1: sort of collecting girls' numbers or not just on your belt,

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Speaker 1: if you will, right, And I think what is unfortunately

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Speaker 1: for just how special that relationship is and how much

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Speaker 1: better it makes you, right, And when you make it

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Speaker 1: a constant effort to practice gratitude, it makes it far

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Speaker 1: easier to remain in that healthy mindset.

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Speaker 2: Right, And we'll kind of expand upon.

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Speaker 1: That as we we talk about how to make it

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Speaker 1: your mantra for today. But first we're going to take

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Speaker 1: a quick break and then we'll be right back. All right,

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Speaker 1: So today we've been talking all about the stoic idea

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Speaker 1: of gratitude, and you have heard the beautiful words of

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Speaker 1: Alicia keys. You have heard words from one of the stoics, Seneca.

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Speaker 1: I've also given you a bit of my own insight,

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Speaker 1: as a more mature version of myself who has enjoyed

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Speaker 1: his time in the streets and is ready to leave

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Speaker 1: that life behind him. Vallet's talk about how you can

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Speaker 1: make it your vontra for today. I don't when we

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Speaker 1: talk about gratitude in the sense of your relationship, right

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Speaker 1: or your future relationship when you get into it. I

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Speaker 1: being able to just enjoy life and not live in

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Speaker 1: the yearning for something else. It is finding ways to

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Speaker 1: as present as humanly possible, right.

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 1: Even a quote I had seen recently. It was like

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Speaker 1: a TikTok video and I think it was from the

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Speaker 1: Last Dance the Bulls Michael Jordan doc on ESPN. But

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Speaker 1: saying it wasn't Mike's ability to shoot. It wasn't how

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Speaker 1: he always was, and how Michael always talked about why

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Speaker 1: you know, other players will get in their own head

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Speaker 1: and even if they're talented, they will second guess themselves.

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Speaker 1: We'll be nervous about taking the big shot because they're

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Speaker 1: scared to miss it, and they end up getting ahead

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Speaker 1: of themselves, taking themselves out of the present moment, and

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Speaker 1: then they're not using their fundamentals and their talent. Whereas

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Speaker 1: in the biggest moments, and it allowed him to be successful. Right.

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Speaker 1: And I think that's an analogy for life. But as

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Speaker 1: we're talking about relationships today, I think what ends up

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Speaker 1: happening to a lot of us when we are in

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship or we are getting nervous about

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Speaker 1: the idea of commitment and we're looking around at all

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Speaker 1: the hypothetical options that are out there on dating apps

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Speaker 1: and social media, it knocks us out of being present.

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Speaker 1: And again, not that you shouldn't question everything. You shouldn't

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Speaker 1: ask yourself is this really what I want? But do

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Speaker 1: it from a moment of recognizing all that that relationship

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Speaker 1: is and all that it provides you with. Right, Like

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Speaker 1: Seneca talks about here to recap all we've been talking about.

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Speaker 1: True happiness is to enjoy the present. That's true happiness, right,

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Speaker 1: enjoying the present. And Alicia Keys, you know, talking about

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Speaker 1: this sort of declaration that she is so in love

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Speaker 1: with this person that she's declaring she's not going to

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Speaker 1: allow anyone else, regardless of what they do or try

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Speaker 1: to say, to divide them. She's not going to allow

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Speaker 1: that to happen. Right, She's going to till the end

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Speaker 1: of time say that there is no one else that

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Speaker 1: she wants. Right, She's incredibly present to the love that

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Speaker 1: she's feeling, and incredibly grateful for finding that person, and

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Speaker 1: as a result, is able to be in a healthy

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Speaker 1: mindset that will hopefully allow her to have the discipline

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Speaker 1: needed to continue nurturing that relationship for the long run.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what we're all hoping for and should

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Speaker 1: be striving for at the end of the day. Now,

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Speaker 1: with that said, thank you so much for taking the

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Speaker 1: time to check out The Street Stoke Podcast. Do your

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Speaker 1: best to apply these concepts we discussed into you everyday life.

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Speaker 2: And I will catch you next time.

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