WEBVTT - Reminding isn't nagging

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that reminding isn't nagging. It is okay to

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<v Speaker 1>let people know a second time about something, and indeed

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<v Speaker 1>doing so often increases the chances that people actually do

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<v Speaker 1>what both you and they intend. These days, most doctors

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<v Speaker 1>and dentist offices text or email you a few days

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<v Speaker 1>before your appointment to remind you about it. Yes, you

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<v Speaker 1>made the appointment, so theoretically you'd have that written down somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>But these offices know that people are busy and sometimes distracted.

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<v Speaker 1>No shows can mean lost revenue or delayed healthcare, hence

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<v Speaker 1>the texts. My guess is that you don't mind these texts.

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<v Speaker 1>When your dentist office texts you about thursday's appointment, you

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<v Speaker 1>just think, oh, yes, I have a dentists appointment on Thursday.

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<v Speaker 1>It helps nudge something you vaguely remembered back into the

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<v Speaker 1>forefront of your brain. The reminders are helpful. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>complain about your dentist's office nagging you when all you

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<v Speaker 1>want is some peace and quiet. So probably we should

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<v Speaker 1>adopt the same mindset with the rest of life. If

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<v Speaker 1>you scheduled a meeting a while ago, you should send

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<v Speaker 1>an email the friday before confirming that the other attendees

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<v Speaker 1>are still planning on it. This would also be a

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<v Speaker 1>good time to send a new about what you're planning

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<v Speaker 1>to discuss and ask if there is anything they would

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<v Speaker 1>like you to do to prepare. Why Friday, Well, if

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<v Speaker 1>you are listening to this show, there is a good

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<v Speaker 1>chance you do your weekly planning on Friday, so this

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<v Speaker 1>is when you would see the upcoming meeting on your schedule,

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<v Speaker 1>and if someone does wind up canceling, you know enough

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<v Speaker 1>ahead of time that you can make other plans. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are waiting on something from somebody, you can absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>follow up nicely to inquire about a timeline. If emails

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<v Speaker 1>seem to get buried, you can pick up the phone

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<v Speaker 1>and call in a business context. I'll get to it.

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<v Speaker 1>When I get to it usually doesn't fly, and so

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<v Speaker 1>most likely the person will follow up with an answer.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you will have an answer, and you will have

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<v Speaker 1>nudged your request higher up the list. This isn't nagging.

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<v Speaker 1>This is just project management. Even in our home lives,

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<v Speaker 1>reminding isn't nagging. You might think that the other members

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<v Speaker 1>of your household should remember their responsibilities without you saying anything,

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<v Speaker 1>and perhaps they should, probably for many things they do.

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<v Speaker 1>But if there are certain tasks that keep falling through

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<v Speaker 1>the cracks, you have a couple of choices. First, you

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<v Speaker 1>can do it yourself and be mad about it, or

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<v Speaker 1>you can remind the other person and most likely they

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<v Speaker 1>will do it. The latter sounds like less agitation and

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<v Speaker 1>less work, even if in the abstract it doesn't seem right.

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<v Speaker 1>The key to a helpful reminder is to keep it

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<v Speaker 1>like the text from your dentist office. The dentist office

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<v Speaker 1>text doesn't mention that you canceled your last appointment and

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<v Speaker 1>it's been over a year since you've last been there,

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<v Speaker 1>and clearly you are not taking your dental health seriously.

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<v Speaker 1>It just says the time and maybe the location, and

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<v Speaker 1>a way to confirm or cancel. Similarly, reminding isn't nagging

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<v Speaker 1>if you take the emotion out of it. No need

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<v Speaker 1>to mention how the last project was also delayed, or

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<v Speaker 1>ponder how a child can memorize every lyric in Taylor

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<v Speaker 1>Swift's last album. But keep forgetting to take out the trash.

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<v Speaker 1>Just state the request a timeline if there is one,

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<v Speaker 1>and be done with it. Most likely you will get

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<v Speaker 1>what you want. In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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