1 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:23,119 Speaker 1: tip is that reminding isn't nagging. It is okay to 4 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: let people know a second time about something, and indeed 5 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 1: doing so often increases the chances that people actually do 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: what both you and they intend. These days, most doctors 7 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:44,560 Speaker 1: and dentist offices text or email you a few days 8 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: before your appointment to remind you about it. Yes, you 9 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: made the appointment, so theoretically you'd have that written down somewhere. 10 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: But these offices know that people are busy and sometimes distracted. 11 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:06,400 Speaker 1: No shows can mean lost revenue or delayed healthcare, hence 12 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: the texts. My guess is that you don't mind these texts. 13 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: When your dentist office texts you about thursday's appointment, you 14 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: just think, oh, yes, I have a dentists appointment on Thursday. 15 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: It helps nudge something you vaguely remembered back into the 16 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: forefront of your brain. The reminders are helpful. You don't 17 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: complain about your dentist's office nagging you when all you 18 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: want is some peace and quiet. So probably we should 19 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: adopt the same mindset with the rest of life. If 20 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: you scheduled a meeting a while ago, you should send 21 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: an email the friday before confirming that the other attendees 22 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: are still planning on it. This would also be a 23 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,279 Speaker 1: good time to send a new about what you're planning 24 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: to discuss and ask if there is anything they would 25 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:11,119 Speaker 1: like you to do to prepare. Why Friday, Well, if 26 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:14,119 Speaker 1: you are listening to this show, there is a good 27 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 1: chance you do your weekly planning on Friday, so this 28 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: is when you would see the upcoming meeting on your schedule, 29 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: and if someone does wind up canceling, you know enough 30 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: ahead of time that you can make other plans. If 31 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: you are waiting on something from somebody, you can absolutely 32 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 1: follow up nicely to inquire about a timeline. If emails 33 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: seem to get buried, you can pick up the phone 34 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: and call in a business context. I'll get to it. 35 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 1: When I get to it usually doesn't fly, and so 36 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: most likely the person will follow up with an answer. 37 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: Then you will have an answer, and you will have 38 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 1: nudged your request higher up the list. This isn't nagging. 39 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: This is just project management. Even in our home lives, 40 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: reminding isn't nagging. You might think that the other members 41 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: of your household should remember their responsibilities without you saying anything, 42 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 1: and perhaps they should, probably for many things they do. 43 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,639 Speaker 1: But if there are certain tasks that keep falling through 44 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: the cracks, you have a couple of choices. First, you 45 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: can do it yourself and be mad about it, or 46 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: you can remind the other person and most likely they 47 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 1: will do it. The latter sounds like less agitation and 48 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: less work, even if in the abstract it doesn't seem right. 49 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: The key to a helpful reminder is to keep it 50 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: like the text from your dentist office. The dentist office 51 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: text doesn't mention that you canceled your last appointment and 52 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: it's been over a year since you've last been there, 53 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 1: and clearly you are not taking your dental health seriously. 54 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: It just says the time and maybe the location, and 55 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: a way to confirm or cancel. Similarly, reminding isn't nagging 56 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: if you take the emotion out of it. No need 57 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: to mention how the last project was also delayed, or 58 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 1: ponder how a child can memorize every lyric in Taylor 59 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: Swift's last album. But keep forgetting to take out the trash. 60 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: Just state the request a timeline if there is one, 61 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: and be done with it. Most likely you will get 62 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 1: what you want. In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks 63 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: for listening and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 64 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 65 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:25,159 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. 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