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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 2: She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and

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Speaker 2: the man of the house, and of course she.

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Speaker 3: Didn't talk back.

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Speaker 4: She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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Speaker 5: She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 4: We're Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 6: Who single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all

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Speaker 6: their bad choices and.

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Speaker 4: Sound out they were so bad.

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Speaker 6: After all, we're experts, Overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 4: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 6: I can.

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Speaker 2: Hello, guys, welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm

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Speaker 2: Erica and I'm Nila, and this is the Tribe Chat.

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Speaker 2: This is our bonus Monday episodes. I'm so happy that

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Speaker 2: you've joined us. We actually have a really special guest,

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Speaker 2: a former guest of the show. You might have heard

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Speaker 2: our episode with Aaron Claire Jones, a human design expert,

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Speaker 2: but we're bringing her back because she has a new

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Speaker 2: book out. It's called How Do You Choose? A Human

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Speaker 2: Designs Guide.

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Speaker 4: To What's best? Are you at work and love and life?

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Speaker 4: Welcome back to the show.

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Speaker 3: Erin, Thank you so much. I'm so happy to be here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been a while, A lot of change since

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Speaker 2: the last time we spoke.

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Speaker 3: A lot of babies.

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Speaker 4: You got babies and with an s.

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Speaker 5: I know, I just I can't believe that. I really

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Speaker 5: looked at the date this morning. I was like, did

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Speaker 5: I have babies when I talked to them, and I

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Speaker 5: was like, no, babies, And now I have two little girls.

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Speaker 6: It's so crazy how and then a book baby and

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Speaker 6: three babies. It's so crazy how life can change so quickly, so.

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Speaker 5: Fast, and obviously becoming a parent is like changes so much.

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Speaker 5: So I'm like, who was the version of me that

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Speaker 5: was talking to you many years ago?

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Speaker 4: One one that was more rested.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely long, longer term memory.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're rested, and perhaps I don't know, just like

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Speaker 2: just like adamal say.

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Speaker 3: Independent, but like a little more free.

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Speaker 2: A little more free, could just get up and do

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Speaker 2: it needed to be done.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I remember our episode we did want It

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Speaker 2: was called Deco Your Human Design. If you guys haven't

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Speaker 2: had a chance to go listen to it, it was

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Speaker 2: really good. We dived into human design and aern I'm

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Speaker 2: going to have you because there's a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: We have a lot of new listeners now that probably

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Speaker 2: have no idea what human design is, So can you

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Speaker 2: give our people, our tribe kind of an insight into

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Speaker 2: what exactly is human design because I feel like we

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Speaker 2: hear a lot about about it on the internet on Instagram,

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Speaker 2: but I would love to hear your definition of course.

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Speaker 5: So, human design is a system based on your time,

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Speaker 5: date and place of birth that reveals how you are

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Speaker 5: wired to operate in every part of your life, from

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Speaker 5: you know, mothering and as a parent, to relationships to career.

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Speaker 5: It basically gives us own our own very kind of personalized,

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Speaker 5: unique roadmap that finding our flow. And I think what

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Speaker 5: I love about human design is that it is very mystical,

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Speaker 5: it is based on our birth information, but I also

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Speaker 5: feel like it's equally practical because it gives us so

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Speaker 5: many practical tools to find more flow in our day

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Speaker 5: for us to make better decisions. So it really and

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Speaker 5: I think the book specifically is really oriented towards how

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Speaker 2: I love that, I think can I think when we

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Speaker 4: What are the categories?

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Speaker 3: I know there's like projector, there are five types high level?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, what are manifesting generator, generator, projector, reflector, and.

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Speaker 4: Manifestor manifesting generator. That was the one I couldn't remember today.

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Speaker 2: I'm a projector based off for our last reading and

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Speaker 2: then Miela, you were a manifestor.

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Speaker 6: That's right, Oh, just not the generator, just the manifestor.

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Speaker 3: Just the manifestor.

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Speaker 6: You told me some things that episode that I literally

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, it really I can't wait to revisit it.

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Speaker 5: What do you what do you remember.

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Speaker 6: I like, I'm good at creating the idea and then

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Speaker 6: giving it to someone else to follow up. That I

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Speaker 6: need a separate apartment from my man. I literally told

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Speaker 6: him that, like Aaron told me, anybody need a separate apartment.

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Speaker 6: She's right, Yeah, those are the things that stuck out most.

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Speaker 5: Those are big ones. It's so funny because one of

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Speaker 5: the stories I tell in my book is about a

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Speaker 5: I love that you're actually integrating that it makes such

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm not integrating it right now. We only

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Speaker 6: a lady to tell him that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I just wanted to keep him, you know, up

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Speaker 6: to date about what's to come when my money gets long.

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Speaker 6: Do and your daughters, Do you guys remember No, Actually

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Speaker 6: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I feel like they were this. I don't either, but

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Speaker 5: And if I'm remember correctly, I feel like they were

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Speaker 6: I remember someone being a manifestor generator.

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Speaker 2: I also remember you telling us we needed a manifestor

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Speaker 3: And how has that been going?

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Speaker 2: You know, we know how to create a lot of things,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not our favorite part. No, that's that's the thing,

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Speaker 2: I think as a projector, I'm good at delegating, Like

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Speaker 2: like checking things off lists like makes me really happy

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Speaker 4: I actually just got in.

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Speaker 2: Trouble for checking something off a list, and like I

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Speaker 2: I have to go on a call and I've checked

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Speaker 6: Speaking a list, I have a list right here of

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Speaker 6: all the shit I need to do.

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Speaker 7: It's called bitch, get shit done.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I love that.

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Speaker 6: Shout out to Courts and Rainbows who sent this to me,

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Speaker 6: because this has been lasting me and honestly, if I

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Speaker 6: don't write it down, it doesn't exist.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a fact.

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Speaker 6: I'm curious why you were crying to get your checklist.

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Speaker 2: It's a long story, okay, but yeah, it's just me

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Speaker 2: and my checklist became an a sorry, I just unplugged

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Speaker 2: didn't consider human emotion, Okay. My list was just I

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited to actually have this conversation with you

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Speaker 2: because I know that your book kind of dives into

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Speaker 2: just like the dynamics of how you know your human

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Speaker 2: because yeah, I think sometimes I think I've just been

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Speaker 2: I think there's been like this training of my own

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Speaker 4: So yeah, that's where that's where I'm at today. I'm

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Speaker 3: No, I'm excited.

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Speaker 5: I'm excited to revisit it because I feel like every

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Speaker 5: time we like rehear our human design, it lands differently

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Speaker 5: because you're just in a different place. You know, your

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it is, it's very new. And I still have

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Speaker 6: a problem sweeping up. I told I remember the last

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Speaker 7: And you like blew my mind.

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Speaker 6: And You're like you can't finish it, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: Get the piles together? Totally.

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Speaker 2: I know in your book you talk about just the

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Speaker 2: different things that you'll learn when reading, which is I'm

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Speaker 2: looking and it's the proft roles you designed to pursue

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Speaker 4: I think that's a big one.

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Speaker 2: I think, like with with me, and I think our

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Speaker 2: But if you are, communication strategies is a thing, because

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Speaker 4: Needed to express herself.

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Speaker 2: I think that's I think that's just a rule of

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Speaker 5: The difference for you is that you could just get

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Speaker 3: Does that make sense?

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Speaker 7: Basically you're both some sensitive ass bitches.

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Speaker 6: I've been told that I think in my like my

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Speaker 6: I've been heard that, like I've heard that that I'm

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Speaker 3: They're not ready for.

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Speaker 6: Do I need to start my TED talk totally? You

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Speaker 5: So let me tell you one kind of communication thing

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Speaker 5: manifestors they often don't love to kind of be pestered

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Speaker 5: And I think so what often is really good for

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Speaker 6: At first it is unnatural for me, it's particularly in

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Speaker 5: It's so funny you say that, because I feel like

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Speaker 6: Do you feel that way with me Erica, then I'm sneaky.

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Speaker 2: I haven't at times, Yeah, I would say, well, maybe

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Speaker 6: I mean no, I was very much being sneaky. I

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Speaker 2: I think me and me La talk every day, so

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Speaker 2: there's not like I don't really ever feel like you're

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Speaker 6: No, there's not a lot of space for us to

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Speaker 6: be sneaky away because i'd be like, bitch, where'd you

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Speaker 6: go for two hours? Where you're going?

443
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Speaker 2: I mean, I know sometimes you'll tell me things like

444
00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:24,639
Speaker 2: three months later, like I didn't want to say I

445
00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:25,919
Speaker 2: had to, like I didn't want to tell you this,

446
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,400
Speaker 2: but like this is what really happened.

447
00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:30,400
Speaker 6: That's only stuff that I know I shouldn't be doing.

448
00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:32,520
Speaker 6: That I know better that I shouldn't be doing anyway,

449
00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:35,600
Speaker 6: and I'm embarrassed or like ashamed, but I can't keep

450
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Speaker 6: it in either.

451
00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 2: Way.

452
00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:37,520
Speaker 7: I still have to tell you.

453
00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:41,159
Speaker 4: Do you think that I was?

454
00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:43,119
Speaker 2: Because we so we have this guest on recently and

455
00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:47,520
Speaker 2: she's like a polyamorous woman, and I'm just wondering, is

456
00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:51,640
Speaker 2: there like a is there like a specific Like I'm sorry.

457
00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:52,760
Speaker 4: What do they call these different things?

458
00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:53,399
Speaker 3: Like the types?

459
00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:54,040
Speaker 4: The type?

460
00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,639
Speaker 2: There's specific type that is like best suited for that

461
00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:00,680
Speaker 2: type of dynamic, like a like a relation ship where

462
00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 2: like you're very open and sharing and love in that way.

463
00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:05,800
Speaker 5: You know, I haven't really seen it related to types

464
00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:07,879
Speaker 5: where I've seen it. There's a part of our design

465
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:11,120
Speaker 5: called definition, which speaks to how we best process information.

466
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Speaker 5: And there's one definition. Neither of you are this, but

467
00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 5: it's called triple split. These are weird names, but it

468
00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:18,960
Speaker 5: basically needs you means you need a lot of different

469
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,880
Speaker 5: stimulation throughout the day, like you need different people and places,

470
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,879
Speaker 5: and sometimes that can mean partners, Like obviously I know

471
00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,800
Speaker 5: so many people with this definition that are not polyamorous,

472
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Speaker 5: that are not in multiple relationships, but I've also seen

473
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Speaker 5: a number that are, you know, so they just kind

474
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,879
Speaker 5: of need lots of different simulation, which can show up

475
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,159
Speaker 5: as partners or clients or whatever. So that's where I've

476
00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:38,919
Speaker 5: seen it show up the most. I think, you know,

477
00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 5: my belief around human design is that it doesn't really

478
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 5: limit like what we can do, Like it doesn't tell

479
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:45,639
Speaker 5: us that we can't be in a polyamous relationship, but

480
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,320
Speaker 5: it tells us like how we can do that thing best,

481
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:50,680
Speaker 5: you know, like in a way that will actually feel

482
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Speaker 5: sustainable for us.

483
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 6: Nice interesting question. I feel like I can be stimulated

484
00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:02,159
Speaker 6: by like people all day, Like, I mean, sometimes it

485
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 6: gets overwhelming, but sometimes I'm like it's interesting for me

486
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,639
Speaker 6: to be in different energies. I was going to ask you,

487
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Speaker 6: I know we touched on this the last time you

488
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:12,960
Speaker 6: were here, just because I know most people are when

489
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 6: they're thinking about, you know, different ways that they are.

490
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Speaker 6: We're always immediately thinking about astrology, right like what are

491
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Speaker 6: your top three? And I know that this does have

492
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:23,440
Speaker 6: something to do a bit with astrology?

493
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Speaker 7: Is this is human designed?

494
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Speaker 6: The Indian man who was walking down the street one

495
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Speaker 6: night and got a download and then went home and

496
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 6: wrote it all.

497
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Speaker 3: Out, Yes, but he wasn't Indian. Oh okay, I.

498
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Speaker 6: Don't know where. I just totally made that up in

499
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 6: like nineteen eighty seven or yes, amazing, but yeah, strange

500
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Speaker 6: things that I remember, and then add on that I

501
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Speaker 6: was not.

502
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Speaker 5: Yeah yet, No, that is that is the origin story.

503
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,440
Speaker 5: So astrology plays a role and it kind of pulls

504
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Speaker 5: from lots of different systems beyond that too.

505
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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I'm.

506
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Speaker 2: Over here trying to find our blueprint. I'm like, where

507
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 2: is the blueprint in my email?

508
00:21:57,960 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 3: I think you have a pifference?

509
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,200
Speaker 7: She has it? She has it?

510
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 4: Are you looking at them right now?

511
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:02,919
Speaker 3: Right now?

512
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:04,800
Speaker 4: I have your Oh shit, I'm like forwarded.

513
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Speaker 6: To me because I look, can't I downloaded mine because

514
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 6: I was like trying to read it a lot of times.

515
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Speaker 2: I know, I've found it a few different I've gone

516
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 2: back to it a few different times, and then every

517
00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 2: time I'm like.

518
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 4: Wait, where is it?

519
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll re send it.

520
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Speaker 2: So like, for example, when it comes to uh, like relationships,

521
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: are there any like human are there any types that

522
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,880
Speaker 2: are just not compatible or like as every type can

523
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:36,639
Speaker 2: work and work with what they got as long as

524
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Speaker 2: they're clear about their needs, wants and desires.

525
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Speaker 5: I think and to believe the latter, you know that,

526
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Speaker 5: I think that human design again like shouldn't restrict who

527
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Speaker 5: we can be with. I do think there are some

528
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 5: relationships that can feel easier. You know, if you're with

529
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Speaker 5: somebody of a similar type or you share a similar profile,

530
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 5: which is another element of the human design chart, there

531
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Speaker 5: might be like a natural sense of harmony where it's like, oh,

532
00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 5: we just get each other. But I also find that

533
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 5: we're off attracted a difference. You know, I'm married to

534
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 5: somebody who's got a totally opposite design than mine. You

535
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 5: guys have very different designs in many ways, and so

536
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:08,679
Speaker 5: I think, you know, to your point, as long as

537
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 5: we understand our differences, I think anything's possible.

538
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 4: You know.

539
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 5: There are a number of different stories I tell in

540
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 5: the book of couples that came to me who were

541
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 5: really struggling for various reasons, you know, and often when

542
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 5: we went into their design and they're like, oh, nothing's

543
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 5: wrong with us, we're just different. Like in one case,

544
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Speaker 5: it was a manifesting generator and a projector, and she

545
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Speaker 5: was like, my husband like is a go go goer.

546
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Speaker 5: He's like doing so much. I can't keep up with him,

547
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Speaker 5: Like I don't think this is sustainable, and like it

548
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,159
Speaker 5: was because she was trying to keep up when she

549
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:37,639
Speaker 5: wasn't meant to be like he was meant to be

550
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Speaker 5: a constant doer.

551
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Speaker 3: That was not her gift.

552
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Speaker 5: She needed a lot more rest and like once that

553
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:44,399
Speaker 5: difference was understood, things really felt began to flow. And

554
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Speaker 5: then I tell another story of two people that came

555
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 5: to me, and one of them was meant to make

556
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Speaker 5: decisions instantaneously and in the moment.

557
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Speaker 4: And the other kind of design is that design is that.

558
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Speaker 3: That person had what we call a sacral authority.

559
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Speaker 5: That's another part of your chart around authority, which we

560
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,879
Speaker 5: can talk about for you two. And then her partner

561
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,120
Speaker 5: had what we call a way to lunar cycle authority,

562
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 5: and he was meant to take it a month before

563
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:07,920
Speaker 5: making big decisions. And so when they came together to me,

564
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:09,679
Speaker 5: they were like, we're trying to decide whether or not

565
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 5: to move to the East coast. And she was so

566
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 5: frustrated by him because she felt like he was waffling,

567
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 5: but he was just like going through his process of

568
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 5: like finding his answers. So I think in relationships we

569
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,679
Speaker 5: often can struggle because we just don't understand, you know,

570
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 5: how different somebody is. And same with parenting, like I

571
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 5: have now a manifesting generator daughter and a manifestor daughter.

572
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Speaker 5: These are two daughters that are like so different than

573
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Speaker 5: me in every possible way, and I think human design

574
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 5: has been such an amazing tool to be Like, I

575
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 5: have no expectation that will be anything like me, what

576
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 5: are you?

577
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Speaker 3: I'm a projector, Like you're your projector.

578
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 4: Oh okay, yeah that's downfall.

579
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Speaker 2: Help me projector and not tell my boyfriend I'm checking

580
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Speaker 2: off things off my list of that talking to my man.

581
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 5: Well, one thing I'll say about projectors, and I'm curious

582
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 5: if this resonates with you, Like, as projectors, we are

583
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 5: not meant to be these constant doers, you know, and

584
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,479
Speaker 5: like we're meant to work in these like intense and

585
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 5: we're much more efficient, I would say, even especially in

586
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 5: your design, Like you are so fast when the energy's there,

587
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 5: but you're meant to kind of follow that up with

588
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 5: a lot of rest. But as projectors, one of our

589
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 5: biggest shadows is being over zealous and not knowing when

590
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:13,640
Speaker 5: to stop and so just.

591
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 3: Go and go and going.

592
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Speaker 5: So like there might be some version this maybe is

593
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 5: not what happened where you were Like I'm just like

594
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 5: really feeling accomplished by getting things done that you like

595
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 5: didn't quite know when to like walk away and be

596
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 5: like this is maybe not the most important thing right now,

597
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 5: you know, or I can like take a break. I

598
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 5: think as projectors we often have a hard time at first.

599
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 5: And maybe you're good at this now, I know I'm

600
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,479
Speaker 5: still learning of like really allowing a lot more space

601
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 5: and rest and pause in our days. That's often when

602
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 5: we're at our best. Like how do you feel like

603
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 5: you relate to rest? Do you feel like you are

604
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 5: good at taking it?

605
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 2: I think I've had to learn and I'm still learning now,

606
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:49,120
Speaker 2: but I will. I will work myself until I crash out.

607
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 2: And so yeah, and it's because I'm doing.

608
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Speaker 4: Work that I love and I enjoy.

609
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Speaker 2: And I also it's again it's the crossing shit off

610
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Speaker 2: my list thing. It's like I just let's just get

611
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,119
Speaker 2: it done so that I can can get to the rest.

612
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 2: But then I realize that I don't get to the

613
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 2: rest still, like or in the past, I don't always

614
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 2: get to the rest. Then I'm like, okay, well, now

615
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 2: that that's done, what else you know? And so it's

616
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: been it's been challenging because I think people look at

617
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Speaker 2: me as very ambitious and it's.

618
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Speaker 4: And I am. I am very ambitious.

619
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 2: I have a lot of big dreams, and I've accomplished

620
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 2: a lot of things because of that drive, because of

621
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 2: that exact quality. And I've and I've seen it. It's

622
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 2: interesting because I've seen it in my mom in ways,

623
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: but my mom actually rests a lot.

624
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 4: I'm wonder curious what my mom is.

625
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 2: She's like, she works really hard, but she's always like

626
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 2: taking time for herself.

627
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 4: She has her.

628
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 2: Morning walks, that's non negotiable, Like you know, she goes

629
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 2: to the spa. She's always done that, like prioritize like

630
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 2: just little simple pleasures that like she knows help, just

631
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:55,400
Speaker 2: help overall. Whereas for me, I think in the past,

632
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 2: I've i haven't always prioritized those things. I've just been

633
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 2: like all right, whatever, like I'll get to that eventually,

634
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 2: or and then and then and then fortunately then like

635
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 2: everyone pays, because then my attitude's fucked up, and I'm

636
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 2: tired and I'm annoyed, and I'm not even annoyed at

637
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 2: the person that thinks I'm annoyed at them, but now

638
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 2: they think I'm mad at them, and I'm not even

639
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 2: mad at them. I'm just fucking tired, and I'm annoyed

640
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 2: by someone else that did some other shit. But now

641
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 2: I don't know how to compartmentalize my annoyance. So now

642
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 2: everyone's like, oh my god, Eric is mad again, and

643
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not even mad at you bitches.

644
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm just tired, right, WHOA, I get it. So, yeah, projector,

645
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 5: but I have one more piece to add on this

646
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,400
Speaker 5: for you. I'm curious if this one lands. I think

647
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,400
Speaker 5: that Yeah, I think just know that as a projector,

648
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 5: like you, are very susceptible to overdoing and not knowing

649
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,200
Speaker 5: when to stop. And so, like you said, I think

650
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 5: it does take a little bit more effort for us

651
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 5: to just create space where it's like the intention for

652
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 5: this moment is to be unproductive, because I know my

653
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 5: temptation when I have rest, which is I'm gonna be honest,

654
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 5: not so often right now at this moment with two

655
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 5: young girls, but I think that, like I'm tempted to

656
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 5: make my rest forductive. It's like what can I clean?

657
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 5: What can I organize? What podcasts can I listen to?

658
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 5: What course can I catch up on? And it's just like,

659
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 5: literally what if I just like the goal is not

660
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 5: being productive, And so I think that's been really helpful

661
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 5: of like, and fiction is so good for me for that,

662
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,959
Speaker 5: but finding ways to just like not try to produce

663
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 5: more in those down periods, but to really find the

664
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 5: kind of mental rest or physical rest or creative rest

665
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 5: that you need. The other piece that comes up for

666
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 5: you around the lists, and this is actually true for

667
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 5: both of you, is around the fact that you guys

668
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 5: are both meant to be so easily inspired by so

669
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 5: many things, which is obviously the coolest gift, but also

670
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 5: very easily.

671
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 7: Scattered, like so many ideas, so.

672
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 5: Many ideas, like way more ideas than you can ever

673
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 5: make manifest Like just that you can get pulled in

674
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 5: so many different directions and according to your designs, Like

675
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 5: you guys are not people that do well without much structure.

676
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 5: Like if you wake up in the morning and you're like, Okay.

677
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: What am I gonna do?

678
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 5: You can like just like ping pong between different things

679
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 5: and end the day and you're like, I don't even

680
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 5: know what happened?

681
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 4: Did we do anything? Shit? Get done?

682
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 7: I just ran around in circles screaming.

683
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 3: Totally right.

684
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 5: So the recommendation is to yes, use to do lists,

685
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 5: but very intentionally and like a very focused way. What

686
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 5: I would say is like using lists of like two

687
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 5: to three things each day, like what are the most

688
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 5: important things that I can do?

689
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 3: So it's not just like.

690
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 5: Going going going without an intention of like, but these

691
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 5: are the things that would like allow me to end

692
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 5: the day and feel really successful, feel really peaceful.

693
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 3: With what I accomplished. And so I think that's.

694
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 5: Another way to look at your to do list of

695
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 5: like was everything on there worth it?

696
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 2: I love I love that idea about like having like

697
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 2: the last thing on your list feel really good, Like

698
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 2: that makes you feel like you've been successful, That makes

699
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 2: you feel like you've accomplished, so that when you're finally

700
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 2: put that list down, you don't feel like what the

701
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 2: fuck happened? And for me, that last thing and when

702
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 2: I realized, well I've known this, but like I always

703
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 2: work out in the morning, but the other day I

704
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 2: worked out or a few days ago, was it yesterday?

705
00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 4: Two days ago?

706
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 2: I worked out in the afternoon after we had recorded

707
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: like a bunch of we'd recording, we've been recording all week,

708
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 2: and like I ended up working out at the end

709
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: of the day and that was like a thing on

710
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 2: my to do list, Like I got to work out,

711
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 2: and I was like when I got there, I was like,

712
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:12,239
Speaker 2: oh God, I don't want to be here, But then

713
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 2: when I left, I was like, oh, I'm so happy

714
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 2: that I did that, even though it was a thing

715
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 2: on my to do list. And yes, working out is

716
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: supposed to be great for your body, great for i'm

717
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 2: mental health, but like sometimes it's just like it's just

718
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 2: a doing, and I was I think that that for me,

719
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 2: as putting it in that kind of in that way,

720
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: that is what that would be like for me.

721
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 3: I love that.

722
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 5: I feel like it does reframe the to do list

723
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 5: where it's like, often like what is the thing that

724
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 5: will feel good to have done? And maybe like the

725
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 5: doing of it will not always be enjoyable, but on

726
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 5: the other side, it will feel worth it. And I

727
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 5: feel like that can help us prioritize the things because,

728
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 5: for instance, in human design, there's a lot of talk

729
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 5: for generators and manifesting generators, which are two different types,

730
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 5: to like follow it lights them up, which is so true,

731
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,959
Speaker 5: they're meant to do that, but also it's like follow up,

732
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 5: the follow the things that will make them feel so satisfied,

733
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 5: so satisfied to have done. On the other side, they're like, oh,

734
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 5: I'm so glad I did that, and it might have

735
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 5: been hard, and it might have been like strenuous, and

736
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 5: yet like I'm just I feel so good. I feel

737
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 5: like I use my energy and it really will in

738
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 5: a really good way. Right, yeah, what about you, Mila,

739
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 5: I do feel the scattered energy.

740
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 3: Sometimes they're trying to pursue everything all at once.

741
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 7: Girl, I literally am psycho.

742
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 6: I'd be like, must finish full do paint the whole room,

743
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 6: put up the curtains, put up the shelves, like, and

744
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 6: then it will bother me if it's not done. Then

745
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 6: I'll go get all the paint and then they'll just

746
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 6: sit there and I haven't repotted the plants. But I'm like,

747
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 6: I get like super energized, and then I like fall

748
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 6: back and I get super ocd about it, and then

749
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 6: I fall back and then true like what you said

750
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 6: about when I'm resting or you know, I get so

751
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 6: caught up on fuck. I could be doing this, I

752
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 6: could be doing that, I could be doing this.

753
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 7: Should I do this?

754
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 6: I literally yeah, like all the time, like, well I

755
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 6: have to do this. Well, maybe I could do two

756
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 6: things at once. I'm like, no, bitch, you only get

757
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 6: two hands, you know, So it's a constant thing, And

758
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 6: I'm like, I don't know how me and Erica manifested

759
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 6: each other with two scattered brained bitches in one business.

760
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 6: It's just sometimes we conful, like we have so many

761
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 6: ideas and we execute them, but sometimes they're both like

762
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 6: you know, but I mean, I think as we evolve

763
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 6: and get older, it's it's we're i mean, trying to

764
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:24,959
Speaker 6: get more reins on it. But I'm just thinking about

765
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 6: adults in general, and like, I'm wondering how many, like

766
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 6: are you coaching people in a regular basis, like couples,

767
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 6: business partners because I'm just considering like marriages, business partnerships,

768
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 6: they all really need intentional, like can consistent help on

769
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 6: how to communicate. I'm realizing, like with communication as an adult,

770
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 6: like we are so lacking in the training of how

771
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 6: to utilize our language and how to know ourselves.

772
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 4: You know.

773
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 6: It's like so often we're giving we're seeking to, like

774
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 6: the Bible or to some religious structure that goes outside

775
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 6: of yourself, when in fact, we really need to understand

776
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 6: our fucking selves and how we communicate, and how we

777
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 6: receive information, and how our partners and our children receive information,

778
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 6: and how they communicate so that we can like create

779
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 6: things together. And even Erica and I like as best

780
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 6: friends as business partners, there's it's been a learning curve.

781
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 6: And you know, and we're both sensitive ass bitches, we're

782
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 6: both water signs, so there's always like there's been a

783
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 6: learning curve of just I think in general, there's humans.

784
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 6: We're in a space where we're so like on the

785
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 6: computer that we forget that there's a way that you know,

786
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 6: different people communicate, and it's like if we can really

787
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 6: dive into that, like this spiritual technology of how to

788
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 6: use language and how we actually operate, we could get

789
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 6: so much further.

790
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 7: We could probably like have world peace.

791
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 6: But we're so busy speaking different languages but the same

792
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 6: language but different that it's just we're just not we're

793
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:52,719
Speaker 6: not communicating effectively.

794
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, I think to your question, I work with

795
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 5: a lot of teams and couples and families because exactly

796
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 5: what you've said, I feel like there's all this conflict

797
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 5: because people just don't understand each other. And so like,

798
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 5: even my hope for this book is like I hope

799
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 5: people will like read the chapters about themselves, because obviously,

800
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 5: like people will be like oh, I want to know

801
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 5: what this means for me and my career and my relationships.

802
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 5: But even more than that, I hope they then could

803
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 5: have read the chapters about their partners and their kids,

804
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 5: and their colleagues and their parents, because I know, for me,

805
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 5: even writing the chapter on generators, my husband's a generator.

806
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,360
Speaker 5: Every single time I read it, which as authors, you

807
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 5: guys know, is like one bajillion times, I would be like,

808
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 5: oh my God, like I like could do this better

809
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 5: to support him, or I can't believe I haven't done this,

810
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 5: you know. So it's like it's just so wild that

811
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 5: every time I'm like, oh, there's I see how I

812
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 5: have been not supporting him according to his design, and

813
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 5: I've been expecting him to be like me. So I

814
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 5: think there's something so powerful about human design offering us

815
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 5: a framework and offering us the language, like you said,

816
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 5: to be able to articulate our needs very clearly and

817
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 5: also really understand people very specifically. You know, I talked

818
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 5: about communication for the two of you, but you might

819
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 5: be somebody who's a generator or manifesting generator, and you

820
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 5: might find that when making decisions, you like to be

821
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 5: communicated to by being asked very specific questions, like let

822
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 5: me take my husband, for example, if I ask him

823
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 5: what do you want to see for dinner, it's like

824
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 5: a blank stare or endless possibilities. But if I'm like,

825
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 5: do you want to go out or cook at home?

826
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 5: Do you want to eat this or this? If I

827
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 5: give him two options, yes, no, He's like absolutely that,

828
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 5: absolutely not, you know, And so I know that for me,

829
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 5: when I pose specific yes no questions, I'm basically bypassing

830
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 5: his mind and speaking straight to his gut. And so

831
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 5: this is so helpful in interacting with people, Like I

832
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 5: sit in sessions with generators all the time. Well We'll

833
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 5: talk around a possibility of something, and then I'll be like,

834
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 5: but do you want to do it? And they're like no,

835
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 5: and I'm like, God, it's as simple as that sometimes,

836
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 5: you know. So I do think when we really take

837
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 5: the time to understand ourselves and others, like, things become

838
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 5: a lot easier.

839
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 4: Now. I want to know what my boyfriend's.

840
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 3: Human, You got to look it up.

841
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 6: And I think Orlando's a projector and I.

842
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 2: Don't know his time of birth and he's mad at

843
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 2: me right now, so I can't ask.

844
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 6: It's not the time Texas Mama, I just text Orlando's Momay.

845
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,800
Speaker 5: But doesn't it make you so curious to understand the

846
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 5: other people in your life?

847
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:05,399
Speaker 4: For sure?

848
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 2: Because I know that there's ways, there's the miscommunications and

849
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 2: the ways I'm not watering someone or giving them space

850
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,280
Speaker 2: or or you know, being there for them in ways

851
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 2: that I'm probably not. And even with my daughter, because

852
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,799
Speaker 2: have I checked back in now that she is no

853
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 2: longer I don't know. Maybe she was like five when

854
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 2: we had this interview, she says, yea, and now she's ten,

855
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 2: so her needs have also changed as well. And so like,

856
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 2: how as a ten year old do I support her

857
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 2: as a manifest generator?

858
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 3: Is that what we said she was manifesting.

859
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 4: Manifesting generator versus now? And actually yeah?

860
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 2: How do like what as me as a generator and

861
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 2: our daughter and our daughters being manifesting generators? What is

862
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 2: how does a projector support a manifesting generator?

863
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 3: Great question?

864
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 5: So I think like manifesting generators. For those that are

865
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 5: listening that are new to this concept, I imagine many

866
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 5: of you manifesting generators, and we're hoping that we remember

867
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 5: correctly with your daughters. You guys, don't tell me if

868
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 5: this doesn't sound like them, but they're I'm very multi passionate.

869
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 5: They have a lot of charisma, a lot of energy,

870
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 5: a lot of zest. They're kind of meant to like

871
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 5: wake up, use up all their energy in ways that

872
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 5: feel satisfying, and kind of drop in a bed like

873
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:13,240
Speaker 5: delightfully spent. What makes manifesting generators distinct is they often

874
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 5: don't like to be boxed into one thing, and they

875
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 5: tend to not be super linear. They're like, I'm gonna

876
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 5: try this, and I'm gonna try this, and as adults,

877
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 5: that can manifest as somebody who's like an athlete and

878
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 5: also starting a podcast and also a coach and like

879
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 5: opening a bakery, you know, and they just kind of

880
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 5: need that variety in freshness in their lives. So I

881
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 5: think one of the best ways to support manifesting generator

882
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 5: children is really one like just never tempering their enthusiasm

883
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 5: because they're meant to be big and passionate in all

884
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 5: the ways, but also not really requiring them to choose

885
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 5: just one thing, knowing that for them like trying things

886
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 5: on and letting things go as part of their process.

887
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 3: One story that I share in the book is.

888
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 5: I had a client who was a generator and his

889
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 5: daughter was a manifesting generator. And he came to me

890
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 5: and he's like, Aaron, like, my daughter is so on focus.

891
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 5: She's like playing lacrosse and sotoftball and volleyball and soccer.

892
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 5: Like she won't choose a thing. And I was like,

893
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 5: she's not meant to. She's like doing it perfectly according

894
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 5: to her design, Like you're somebody who's designed for mastery,

895
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 5: but she's meant to explore the variety. So I mean,

896
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 5: do you guys see that need for variety with the

897
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 5: two of your kiddos, I would say, yeah, I.

898
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 4: Would say that. Actually, my daughter's a projector. What I

899
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 4: just put her in. I just went onto human design blueprint.

900
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:26,439
Speaker 2: Dot com, Like you choose to do perfect and I think,

901
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,720
Speaker 2: says Irie Gibbs is a natural connector with overflowing wisdom

902
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 2: and insight to share. And then the type that's that's

903
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 2: what you'd be, right, projector projector. Yeah, she's a projector.

904
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 2: We're two projectors. And I wonder, so such bossy bitches.

905
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 3: Over here, Oh my gosh. Okay, so the question it's

906
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 3: a different question now.

907
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, as a projector to a projector.

908
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 2: I mean, is there a lot of work for me

909
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 2: to do or do this because I'm I am who

910
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 2: I am. I'm just supposed to know exactly how to

911
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 2: support her.

912
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 5: Well, I think that you the more embodied you are

913
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 5: in your projectorness, the more helpful it will be for her.

914
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 5: So I think, based in our conversation, it feels like

915
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 5: the more you allow and rest, the more permission that

916
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 5: will give her too, because I think as projector, I

917
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 5: grew up with a projector dad, so like, I think

918
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 5: it's such an amazing thing to share. But I think

919
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 5: wherever you can give her rate rest and space and

920
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 5: time alone. Did you feel like she needs that more

921
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 5: than others?

922
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 3: Does she take it?

923
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 2: She doesn't like? She well, I guess she'll go be

924
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 2: a little. The only reason she'll be alone because she

925
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:26,359
Speaker 2: wants to be on her iPad. But I guess that's

926
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 2: being alone. But she she was.

927
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 4: Very social, Yeah, she's very social.

928
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, but I guess yeah, I mean, I guess

929
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:37,800
Speaker 2: she does like to rest.

930
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 4: She definitely is like, I'm tired, I need to take

931
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 4: a nap. I want to take a nap. I'm like,

932
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:44,879
Speaker 4: what the fuck you're ten? Get out?

933
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 3: Well, the other I want to take a nap too, totally.

934
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:51,319
Speaker 5: The other piece I would share as a projector, and

935
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 5: that speaks to kind of your guys is the first

936
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 5: question is that projectors do really well when they're invited

937
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 5: in and so.

938
00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 4: Also but yes, yes, I said, I see that with.

939
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 5: Her, so really inviting her in. And often projectors do

940
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 5: really well with specific acknowledgment. And so, Mila, this is

941
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 5: actually another thing just to know about Erica, Like it

942
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 5: can be really good to like let projectors know like

943
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,919
Speaker 5: exactly what you see, and then we often love words

944
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 5: of affirmation, so not just like you're great, but like, God,

945
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 5: I love the way that you like responded to this thing,

946
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 5: Like I love your perspective on this. Like when projectors

947
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 5: feel really authentically and specifically recognize, it gives us so

948
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 5: much energy to show up. And so one that's like

949
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 5: a need that Erica you might have sometimes. But also

950
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,280
Speaker 5: that's something you can give your daughter, because when projectors

951
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 5: don't feel recognized, we can like fight for recognition and

952
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 5: then it just becomes like this really bitter cycle that

953
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 5: doesn't really make us feel very good.

954
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 2: No, I feel like I think I think part of

955
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 2: that the lack of that which I've experienced.

956
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 4: It becomes like you start to question your confidence.

957
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 2: You start to become unconfident in ways in spaces that

958
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 2: you actually are are gifted in totally, and you're like

959
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 2: questioning yourself because no one has said anything about it.

960
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: And yeah, so I think that that's actually a really

961
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: good tip for a projector and from me to also

962
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:02,359
Speaker 2: make sure that I'm doing that with my daughter, which

963
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 2: I think I'm pretty I'm pretty good at, but now

964
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 2: that I know that that's something that she needs, I'll

965
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 2: do I'll try even harder.

966
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's I think that's such a beautiful quality

967
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 3: to share. But now you see to look up your.

968
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 6: Boyfriend, I see that, I see like it's interesting.

969
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 7: I see that.

970
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 6: I know that I'm not conscious about affirming people because

971
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 6: I just I have I wasn't affirmed a lot growing up,

972
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 6: So it's not my language, you know, it's not like

973
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,479
Speaker 6: my go to. But I find this with my man,

974
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 6: and I'm you know, trying to incorporate with my daughter.

975
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 6: And like even with Erica, I noticed like there's so

976
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 6: many things I admire about her and she does really

977
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 6: really well and I just assume that she knows and

978
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 6: then I also see her sometimes struggling like I could

979
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 6: be I could sound smarter. I could, and I'm like,

980
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 6: what are you talking about. You're just fucking.

981
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 7: Brilliant, you know what I mean.

982
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 6: And I see like that, I see where she probably

983
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 6: could benefit for me telling her the things that I

984
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 6: think she does really well, like in motherhood and at

985
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 6: work or whatever, even though like I know and I

986
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 6: just assume she knows it, and I think I'm just

987
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 6: not good. I haven't been good at like affirming people

988
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 6: because it's just not my my my default. So I

989
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,760
Speaker 6: can see that too, like even in you know, my friend,

990
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 6: and even also like what you were saying about getting

991
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 6: like getting manic, like I'm so like so deep into

992
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 6: something that you're just like you crash out being productive.

993
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 6: I'm like, girl, you gotta take a break. We're not

994
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 6: even making any sense right now.

995
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 7: We gotta take it.

996
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 6: We gotta take a take, we gotta take a step break,

997
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:28,799
Speaker 6: we gotta take a break. This is not making any sense.

998
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 6: And even particularly just considering that where you're at, like

999
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 6: about to launch this book, I can only imagine where

1000
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 6: you're at, because particularly when we were publishing our book,

1001
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 6: it was just such an intense time, and it felt

1002
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 6: like there was so much pressure and we were just like,

1003
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 6: you know, there was so much pressure on us. So

1004
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 6: I'm just I'm happy that we're revisiting this and you know,

1005
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 6: having this conversation with you to kind of like refresh

1006
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 6: on the things that you know, how we show up

1007
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 6: in the world and the things that we need and

1008
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 6: how we need to communicate. I looked it up on

1009
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 6: Human Design Blueprint and Luna is the manifesting generator.

1010
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 5: Okay, so we do have a manifesting generator. I was like,

1011
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 5: I'm sorry for totally misremembering that. Do you recognize that

1012
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 5: in her kind of that like charisma and zest and

1013
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 5: multi passionate nature.

1014
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1015
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, she's just like wants to dance and she wants

1016
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 6: to sing, but she's also very self assured, like, no, mom,

1017
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 6: I'm good, I don't want to do that. I'm resting.

1018
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:24,920
Speaker 6: I'm like, yeah, what are you resting from your date?

1019
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 6: Your full time job? But yeah, I see she's charismatic

1020
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 6: and likes to do different things, and so like, I

1021
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 6: do resonate with that in her.

1022
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I think, you know, manifesting generators what I

1023
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 5: often see as they grow older is they feel like

1024
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 5: they have to like choose one path or do just

1025
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 5: one thing, and so often it can feel like so

1026
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 5: much for mission to be like I don't have to

1027
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 5: choose just one thing. I could be so many things,

1028
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 5: because often that variety is the thing that actually brings

1029
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 5: them the most satisfaction.

1030
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 6: And then I know you were talking about like lipstime,

1031
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 6: we talked like our human design. Like for instance, I'm

1032
00:43:56,800 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 6: a manifestor the manifestors in the driver's seat, right, and

1033
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 6: then there's there's also something that's right in your passenger seat,

1034
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 6: and then there's something that's in your back seat. So

1035
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 6: there could you could be one thing specifically, but you

1036
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 6: can also have you know a little bit of these

1037
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 6: other three things. I guess kind of like like big three,

1038
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 6: you know, like there might be something that you also

1039
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:20,360
Speaker 6: resonate with that's right here next to you and vice versa.

1040
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, and there are like the type is such an

1041
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 5: important part of our chart, and it's just the first piece,

1042
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 5: like the blueprints that you guys have and these are

1043
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 5: just kind of hyper personalized guides to your design.

1044
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 3: There are four hundred.

1045
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 5: Thousand possible versions of that blueprint, you know, So it's

1046
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 5: like isn't that crazy? So it's like it's not just

1047
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,919
Speaker 5: like again, your type is amazing and there's so much

1048
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 5: more underneath it. So your type kind of speaks to

1049
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 5: how you best use your energy. But then it's around

1050
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,760
Speaker 5: like how do you best create opportunities for yourself?

1051
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 3: How do you best make decisions?

1052
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 5: You know, what are your biggest challenges like getting distracted

1053
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 5: and things like that. So it gives us so much

1054
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 5: more nuance. I'm actually curious to revisit your guys's decision

1055
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 5: making strategies. Are you guys open to doing that?

1056
00:44:58,680 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1057
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 2: I'm also looking at the blueprint and I'm so you

1058
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: found it.

1059
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 7: I just amailed it to you. I emailed to yours.

1060
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was looking at that the definite. My definition

1061
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 2: definition is as collaborative. Yeah, the definition like how I

1062
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 2: work best? Is that what that means?

1063
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,959
Speaker 4: Like? Yeah, it's so funny.

1064
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 2: Because I had this conversation the other day or with

1065
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 2: myself and then I think on the podcast with Mila,

1066
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 2: and I was saying, how like, you know, me and

1067
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 2: Mila have been doing the show for seven years, and

1068
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 2: like you know, in our journey now we've like started

1069
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 2: to like hone our own skills as individuals. We've done

1070
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 2: everything together and now like kind of going off on

1071
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 2: our own and like seeing what there is in the

1072
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 2: world to do as individuals in this space, and I

1073
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 2: felt like I needed to figure out something to do

1074
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 2: on my own, and I was like really like stressing

1075
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 2: out about.

1076
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:48,320
Speaker 4: It, like what is my path alone?

1077
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,439
Speaker 2: And I really that I had this deep realization where

1078
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 2: it's like I actually really like working with people, like

1079
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to do it alone. I actually didn't

1080
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 2: succeed alone before I met Jamila that and I always

1081
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 2: felt like a failure because of it. And so then

1082
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 2: me trying to go back and fit a circle into

1083
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 2: a square because now I feel like I've acquired all

1084
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 2: these tools, all this knowledge, I'm supposed to now go

1085
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 2: and like do something alone. And I was like no,

1086
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 2: And I feel like I finally realized that this is

1087
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 2: very recent, so seeing this on here is very affirming

1088
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 2: for me. I'm like, Okay, yes, I.

1089
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 6: Knew that, which is interesting because mine sets independent and

1090
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 6: I feel like I'm a collaborative person, like I prefer

1091
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 6: to work with people. But then also I started a

1092
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 6: podcast with my boyfriend last year, and sometimes we're working

1093
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 6: together and I'm like shut the fuck up. And I'm like, no,

1094
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 6: I don't like that idea. So it's so I'm like

1095
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 6: I think that I like collaborative because I'm a people

1096
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:47,040
Speaker 6: person and I want to collaborate, and I work so

1097
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 6: well with Erica and we've had so much success together.

1098
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 6: But now I'm just like looking at I'm like independent.

1099
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 6: I'm like, well, maybe I am a bitch. Maybe i I'm.

1100
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 5: Okay, let me explain it a little bit more, because

1101
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:01,359
Speaker 5: I think that you It's like these things always have

1102
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 5: some nuance. Like you and your design, Jamila, you like

1103
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 5: have a real need for community and people and friendships,

1104
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 5: so like that's just like part of who you are.

1105
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 5: Like it's not having a massive community, but having like

1106
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 5: a really good community and being around friends, so.

1107
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 3: Like that's integral.

1108
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 5: But you do have this this very independent nature which

1109
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 5: is not about being alone all the time, but it

1110
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,319
Speaker 5: does mean that like you really need space in your

1111
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 5: days to just work and be in your own flow.

1112
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 5: Like these are people that are often like do not

1113
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 5: like a ton of meetings. Like it's like, let me

1114
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 5: just like keep their like necessary meetings and be really

1115
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 5: efficient in those. So it's more that like your independence

1116
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 5: is honored and that's when you can really kind of

1117
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 5: be at your best. So it's not about not being

1118
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 5: around people, but I think it's about not feeling like

1119
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 5: you're like needed by people all the time and that

1120
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 5: you can go do your own thing and be free

1121
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 5: to do that. And sometimes people are threatened by that independence.

1122
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 5: You know, often in partnership it's like I want you

1123
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 5: to need me more, and it's like for you, it's

1124
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 5: not about partnering with people that like complete you, but

1125
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 5: it's partnering with people that like just amplify everything in

1126
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 5: your life and make things better and like you love it.

1127
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 3: But it's not.

1128
00:47:56,880 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 5: Because like you need them. It's because like you choose

1129
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 5: them and you want them.

1130
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, sometimes as a mom and a fiance, I'm like

1131
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 6: I've said this like before, I'm like, everybody needs me

1132
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 6: and I'm overwhelmed. Stop needing me. I'm like, bitch, it's

1133
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 6: you're her parents, like you know, so it's you know,

1134
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 6: like sometimes I feel like I say this, like everyone's

1135
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:21,320
Speaker 6: taking for me and like energetically, and I feel terrible

1136
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 6: saying that, but I think it's because I haven't honored

1137
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 6: the part of me that needs to be like take

1138
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 6: time away sometimes because I've just I do really get

1139
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 6: energized by my community. I do have really good friends

1140
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 6: and friendships, and I love that. But sometimes I realize,

1141
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 6: like when I, you know, go to the gym alone,

1142
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 6: I'm like, oh my god, I need four fucking hours,

1143
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 6: you know, just to be in my own thoughts with

1144
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 6: nothing and no one, no distractions, because my mind is

1145
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 6: so one tracked. So that makes that makes more sense.

1146
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 5: Yes, okay, And I think and I love what you

1147
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 5: said Eric around the collaborative because I had the same

1148
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 5: thing of my design and I'm the same It's just

1149
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 5: like it's so different doing it all with other people.

1150
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,720
Speaker 5: And again, this is not about you not having time alone.

1151
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 5: You also need time alone as a projector especially. But

1152
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 5: I would say one tool for you with that definition

1153
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 5: is that whenever you feel stuck or if things are

1154
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 5: not flowing or you can't really kind of like make

1155
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 5: something happen, being around others is like the most supportive

1156
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 5: thing you can do. And being around others could be

1157
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 5: like having a phone call together. It could be working

1158
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:17,799
Speaker 5: from a coffee shop or going for a walk. It

1159
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,480
Speaker 5: could be like having headphones on and not talking to anybody,

1160
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 5: but just being around other people's energy.

1161
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 4: So it's like me at the gym.

1162
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 3: It's so good for you, you know.

1163
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 5: So it's like just know that, like when you're stuck,

1164
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:30,920
Speaker 5: being around others in that way is often very activating

1165
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 5: for you and can kind of help you move through that.

1166
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,320
Speaker 4: Awesome. Awesome. I didn't mean to interrupt you. I know

1167
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 4: you were going to go into.

1168
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: Something community making a decision.

1169
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 5: Now I want to go through another can I okay,

1170
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 5: I'm going to go through another thing and then I'll

1171
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 5: return to that because I love this and I'm reminded

1172
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 5: of this. There's a part of our design called profile,

1173
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 5: which I'm not going to get into all the technical

1174
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 5: things because I know the names can be a little

1175
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 5: bit weird. But you guys both have a six in

1176
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,319
Speaker 5: your profile. So if you guys are looking at your

1177
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 5: chart at Human Design Blueprint and you see that you're

1178
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 5: three six or four six or six two or six three,

1179
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 5: this also lies to you. But I just love that

1180
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 5: you guys share it because it also makes sense why

1181
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 5: you guys are such good partners. I find that when

1182
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:08,800
Speaker 5: you share a profile, like it's just like you just

1183
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 5: get each other in a really cool way. But it

1184
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 5: means that you guys are both like such natural role models,

1185
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 5: like people that are really meant to just you know

1186
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 5: embody like your authenticity so deeply and just inspire others

1187
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 5: because like you guys are just being yourselves, Like that's kind.

1188
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 3: Of your job.

1189
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 5: But the part that I actually wanted to share is

1190
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,919
Speaker 5: that you guys are meantit your prime when you turn

1191
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 5: fifty and up. So like you guys are really I

1192
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 5: don't know if I mentioned this before, So like basically

1193
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 5: the first thirty years of your life is meant to

1194
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:36,759
Speaker 5: be like trou and Eric Galore throwing things against the wall.

1195
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 5: See what happens thirty to fifty is really a time

1196
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 5: to kind of integrate all the lessons that you've learned.

1197
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 5: It's a time for a little bit more observation. You

1198
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 5: might find that more and where people are coming before

1199
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 5: your wisdom. But you're really meant to kind of be

1200
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 5: at your prime of sharing your gifts fifty and beyond

1201
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 5: when like you really have like integrated it all so

1202
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 5: deeply that like, again, like you inspire others because you're

1203
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 5: just being yourself so fully. So I have a six

1204
00:50:57,880 --> 00:50:59,279
Speaker 5: to two, so I'm like kind of obsessed with this

1205
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 5: part of the chart. But I just think it's really

1206
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 5: beautiful that you guys share.

1207
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:03,320
Speaker 4: That it's getting started.

1208
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 6: Baby, I know when you said it almost maybe when

1209
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:08,959
Speaker 6: to cry, like I you know, we started Good Moms

1210
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 6: when we were thirty. Wow, like literally I had just

1211
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:15,240
Speaker 6: like we she I think, yeah, we had just started

1212
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 6: the thirties, like it was very the beginning. And yeah,

1213
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 6: we've been doing this for seven years and there was

1214
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 6: a like prior to that, it was a lot of

1215
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:25,240
Speaker 6: I don't know what the fuck I was doing. But this,

1216
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 6: this this last you know, decade, has been so life

1217
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 6: changing just because like China start to sort things out,

1218
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 6: and I resonate with that so deeply because I'm like, oh, fifty, shit,

1219
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 6: that's when it's gonna start making sense, because it's it's

1220
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:39,319
Speaker 6: slowly starting to make sense.

1221
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 5: But yeah, okay, yeah, And I will say that I

1222
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 5: sit with a lot of people in their forties that

1223
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:47,319
Speaker 5: have this six in the profile, and I just like

1224
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 5: I love observing it because it becomes this like crazy

1225
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 5: period of transformation because it feels like people become like

1226
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 5: allergic to anything that's like not fully aligned, and so

1227
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 5: they're just kind of like letting them all these things

1228
00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 5: because they're just intolerant of it, and they just become

1229
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:03,439
Speaker 5: so much clearer on like these are the things because

1230
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 5: I feel like in some ways they're like preparing to

1231
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 5: be a role model. They're like preparing to lead others

1232
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:09,919
Speaker 5: in that way. So it's fun to sit within them

1233
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 5: in that journey. Okay, do you resonate with that, Erica?

1234
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 4: I do. I do.

1235
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 2: I think I'm already. I've already. I don't want to

1236
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 2: say I mastered that at all, but I've started that.

1237
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 2: I would say around thirty. Yeah, around the thirties is

1238
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 2: when I really started doing that or I was like no more, nope, nope, nope.

1239
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 2: And I've resisted at sometimes in relationships specifically typically with work. No,

1240
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:38,919
Speaker 2: like very much like me and Mila and I think

1241
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 2: individually too, like my intuition, if it's like not aligned,

1242
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, we're pretty much like, Okay, well it's not aligned.

1243
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 2: I mean know something else is on the way. There's

1244
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 2: not like forcing anything or anyone or any situation to

1245
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 2: try to stay and figure it out if it's not

1246
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 2: doesn't feel good.

1247
00:52:56,480 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, Okay, vision making piece. I just wanted to

1248
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 5: mention only because the book a big part of it

1249
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 5: is around decisions, because we're all making decisions every day

1250
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 5: and every day so many and you guys are meant

1251
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 5: to make decisions very differently. And I don't remember whether

1252
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 5: we touched on this the first time, but Erica, for you,

1253
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:17,359
Speaker 5: you're meant to be actually a very spontaneous and fast

1254
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 5: decision maker. Like it's this kind of quiet whisper of

1255
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 5: your intuition that speaks to you and then you're meant

1256
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:24,879
Speaker 5: to just take action. But I will say, of all

1257
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 5: the possible ways of making decisions and human design, yours

1258
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:31,240
Speaker 5: is the absolute quietest. And so it can take effort

1259
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 5: and time and space for other people to really access it,

1260
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 5: because if you're around others that have really strong feelings

1261
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 5: about something, you might kind of get swept away with

1262
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,600
Speaker 5: their feelings and disconnect from your own feelings. So I

1263
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 5: would say for you, it's about making very fast, spontaneous

1264
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 5: decisions that come without a reason, and that come from

1265
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:49,920
Speaker 5: kind of a quiet whisper or residence that you feel.

1266
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 3: How does that sound to you?

1267
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 4: I haven't say I resonate with that.

1268
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 2: I think that i've I'm I think that I am

1269
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:01,799
Speaker 2: spontaneous in way that in that regard, I think even

1270
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,440
Speaker 2: like looking a trip, I'm very much like if I'm

1271
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 2: gonna go Like, if I don't do it now, I'm

1272
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:07,839
Speaker 2: not gonna do it, go do it figure it out later.

1273
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 2: I think even in our business, there's been times where

1274
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 2: like we've been like interviewing people and I'm like, we're

1275
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 2: hiring her. I know, it just is it? And me

1276
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,759
Speaker 2: I was like, bitch, we just like wait, hold.

1277
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 6: On, I'm like, I don't know, her face seems not trustworthy.

1278
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 2: You know, and like you know, and but granted, like,

1279
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 2: even even with those choices, those quick decisions, even if

1280
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 2: they don't work out, I always feel like there was

1281
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 2: a reason why we like we moved forward in that

1282
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 2: in that quick decision, and it benefited us to get

1283
00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:36,960
Speaker 2: to the next person or the next thing. But I

1284
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:41,480
Speaker 2: generally know pretty quickly whether or not like this is

1285
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 2: gonna work or feel it out. Although I have been wrong,

1286
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 2: I've been wrong, you know, And that's probably layered into

1287
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 2: just some other shit, just like like.

1288
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:52,399
Speaker 4: Being judgmental or.

1289
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 2: Allowing someone or something to mirror another situation and it's

1290
00:54:58,200 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 2: not the same situation.

1291
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:03,280
Speaker 6: We're not gonna always be right, We're not We're gonna

1292
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,399
Speaker 6: we have to be wrong sometimes to learn right.

1293
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.

1294
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 2: But I definitely say like I'm very much usually very

1295
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 2: quick to know. And that's also hasn't always been great

1296
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 2: for other people because they think, like what the fuck,

1297
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 2: like she's leaving, Yeah, I don't want to.

1298
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:22,759
Speaker 5: Be right right, and other people can like interpret it

1299
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 5: as like too fast or too rast or like not thoughtful,

1300
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 5: and it's just like you're meant to be fast that way.

1301
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 5: You know, a lot of people don't arrive at clarity

1302
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 5: that quickly, but you do.

1303
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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna telling people it's my human design.

1304
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 3: I don't know authority.

1305
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:37,879
Speaker 6: My human design says I've got to get out of here.

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00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 4: My projector is telling me now.

1307
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can be like talk to erin, I'm out

1308
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 3: human design. Yeah.

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00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 5: And then for you, Mila, you are what we call

1310
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 5: an emotional authority, so you're kind of the opposite here,

1311
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:53,479
Speaker 5: Like you know, for the small decisions in your life,

1312
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 5: like if you want to make fast decisions, that makes

1313
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 5: a lot of sense and is recommended, but for the

1314
00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:00,240
Speaker 5: bigger decisions, like you're actually really meant to give yourself

1315
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,719
Speaker 5: a moment and it's not about like giving yourself a

1316
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 5: month or creating a pro commnce, but it's just giving

1317
00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 5: yourself like a day or two or three and seeing

1318
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:10,720
Speaker 5: if your excitement sustains, because you're somebody who might experience

1319
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:12,160
Speaker 5: a lot of emotion or at a thing, like you

1320
00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 5: might be on an emotional high and you're like, yes,

1321
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 5: I'm into it, and then you might wake up the

1322
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 5: next day and you're like, I don't want to do that,

1323
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 5: And so like just giving yourself a little bit of

1324
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 5: a buffer time to just see what stays true and

1325
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 5: what remains consistent is the best thing for you. And

1326
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 5: as somebody that also has this, I find it very annoying,

1327
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 5: and yet I've just often found it so worth it

1328
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 5: because I tend to really regret the decisions I rush

1329
00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 5: into because I change.

1330
00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:37,680
Speaker 6: My mind yeah yeah, I think I've had a history

1331
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 6: of like okay, yeah, sure whatever, and then later like

1332
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 6: I didn't think that through. I didn't like that, I

1333
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 6: don't like how that feel. I don't like how that felt,

1334
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:48,399
Speaker 6: and also like beating myself up over it about like

1335
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 6: I think, because I'm such a sensitive person, I feel

1336
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 6: things for a long time. So like my go to

1337
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 6: if I've made a decision that I don't love, I've

1338
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 6: often felt like shame and guilt about it, and then

1339
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,799
Speaker 6: I shut it away, like I don't even look at

1340
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:04,879
Speaker 6: it because I don't want to feel the thing. And

1341
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:06,759
Speaker 6: that also, you know, we all know that that only

1342
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:09,719
Speaker 6: lasts for so long. It's going to re emerge some way, somehow.

1343
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 6: So yeah, I think in this iteration of my life,

1344
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 6: I've learned that just like processing things taking a little

1345
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 6: bit of time. And I know I thought it was

1346
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 6: because I'm like a Libra moon that like I'm like,

1347
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 6: how does this person feel?

1348
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 7: How does this feel? Like I'm always my boyfriend.

1349
00:57:24,760 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 6: It's really irritated with me because I'm constantly like, I

1350
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 6: don't know, how do you think this will hurt this person?

1351
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 6: Like how do you think they're going to take it?

1352
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:35,440
Speaker 6: What about Like I'm looking from everybody's perspective before I'm

1353
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 6: making a decision, and he's like, bitch, if you do,

1354
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 6: just don't make a decision.

1355
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 4: Girl.

1356
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:41,080
Speaker 7: So it's like, you know, I resonate with that.

1357
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, But it's really helpful to know that around the

1358
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 5: people that we love, because it's just like, oh, like

1359
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 5: they might need more time, they might need to talk

1360
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 5: things out, they might need to sleep on things, and

1361
00:57:50,240 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 5: they're often pretty different than we are.

1362
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 7: Well, I have a question.

1363
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 6: I'm looking at this very interesting like can you see it?

1364
00:57:56,160 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 4: This?

1365
00:57:56,480 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 2: Oh?

1366
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 3: I can see it? Yeah, yeah, I.

1367
00:57:58,440 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 6: Mean it's yours. You know, you may, but I'm like,

1368
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:05,400
Speaker 6: this is crazy. It looks like very robotic. It's a level. Yeah,

1369
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 6: it's a robot boom. But at the bottom here it says,

1370
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 6: it says, right angle Cross of the Vessel of Love

1371
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 6: fifteen ten, twenty five forty six, what's incarnation cross?

1372
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 5: The Incarnation Cross basically speaks to kind of like your

1373
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 5: greater your greater purpose and kind of like what you're

1374
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 5: here to do?

1375
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 3: Can you guys hear me? Okay?

1376
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, And so it doesn't really give you all these

1377
00:58:35,080 --> 00:58:36,840
Speaker 5: like tools to walk into it, but it just speaks

1378
00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 5: to kind of like what you're here to do in

1379
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 5: your life. And so for you specifically, you're somebody who

1380
00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 5: really learns from the extremes. You're kind of meant to

1381
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 5: go to the extremes of life and kind of gather

1382
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 5: all the wisdom and bring up back and share it

1383
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 5: with us.

1384
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 6: Do you feel that I'm pretty extreme? I feel I

1385
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 6: feel that for her. I feel it for her. I'm like,

1386
00:58:56,800 --> 00:59:02,320
Speaker 6: but did you really have to do all that. Yeah,

1387
00:59:02,480 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 6: had to go all the way, had to go all

1388
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:06,200
Speaker 6: the way, all the way.

1389
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Speaker 3: It's part of who you are.

1390
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 5: And then I would say another part of your purpose

1391
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 5: is like you're somebody who you might go through these

1392
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 5: really intense periods in your life, but you've got this

1393
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 5: real resilience and ability to kind of bounce back and

1394
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 5: learn from them and grow. You know, this kind of

1395
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:20,280
Speaker 5: just like even this innocence that allows you to just

1396
00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 5: kind of grow from everything regardless of how hard. So

1397
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 5: that's part of the journey. But the kind of extremes

1398
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 5: piece is really important.

1399
00:59:26,560 --> 00:59:29,360
Speaker 6: And yeah, okay, thank you.

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00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, Erica, you want to know about yours?

1401
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 2: Sure, a cross of wishes left angle, cross of wishes.

1402
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:41,000
Speaker 5: I think for you, like you're somebody who's a very

1403
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 5: has a very influential voice. It's unsurprising that you do

1404
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 5: what you do, but you also are somebody who's like

1405
00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:49,800
Speaker 5: a very natural caretaker and nurture in many ways. But

1406
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:51,440
Speaker 5: I think for you, it's all about having a lot

1407
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 5: of discernment about what who you take care of, what

1408
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 5: responsibility you take on, and like what you can actually

1409
00:59:57,040 --> 01:00:00,160
Speaker 5: be genuinely responsible for in your life, Like obviously not

1410
01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:03,000
Speaker 5: somebody else's happiness, but like your day to day or

1411
01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 5: your daughter or things like that. So you do this

1412
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,360
Speaker 5: very nurturing energy, but you're meant to kind of wield

1413
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 5: that really intentionally and not you know, sacrifice your own

1414
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:12,120
Speaker 5: well being in the process.

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01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:13,200
Speaker 6: Hmm.

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01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, Hey, I feel that. What about the notes not

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01:00:19,240 --> 01:00:22,880
Speaker 2: Self theme bitterness? Because I was reading that, my My,

1418
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 2: this a little bit about that, and I definitely was like, yeah,

1419
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 2: that it's and part of that is the inviting in

1420
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:31,800
Speaker 2: piece and how if I'm not invited in, there's a

1421
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 2: bitterness that can take place. Yeah, and I resonate with

1422
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 2: that a lot, actually, now that I see it written out.

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01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 5: Well, I think it's So this is a part of

1424
01:00:43,400 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 5: our design called not Self and signature, and they are

1425
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 5: these very simple sign posts that basically reveal whether we're

1426
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 5: on or off track, and they go by type and

1427
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:54,000
Speaker 5: so for example, as a projector Erica, the signal that

1428
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 5: you're on track in your life is a feeling of success,

1429
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 5: and of course that can manifest its financial success, but

1430
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 5: it's often just a feeling of like I feel so

1431
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:03,440
Speaker 5: recognized and appreciated for like who I am and what

1432
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,439
Speaker 5: I can bring to the table and like I feel

1433
01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 5: really energized because of it. On the other side of

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01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:10,560
Speaker 5: it is the bitterness, and that's often rooted like you said,

1435
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 5: and like not feeling recognized, not feeling appreciated, not feeling

1436
01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 5: invited in, feeling you have so much to share but

1437
01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 5: nobody's asking you, feeling like you're kind of like burning out,

1438
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 5: trying to do everything, and like not really seeing much

1439
01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 5: result from it. And so for you and your life,

1440
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 5: when bitterness starts to show up in a really consistent way,

1441
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 5: it basically is an invitation to step back and ask yourself,

1442
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 5: is this really still the right use of my energy?

1443
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 5: Like do I need a course correct here? Do you

1444
01:01:34,280 --> 01:01:36,080
Speaker 5: feel those kind of pillars?

1445
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:39,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, definitely I feel that in a lot

1446
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 2: of different ways within my family dynamic. I mean I

1447
01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 2: think maybe I've even felt that with me and Jamila

1448
01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 2: as dynamic in ways as we've like like I said,

1449
01:01:48,280 --> 01:01:51,200
Speaker 2: like as we've like explored going off on our own

1450
01:01:51,360 --> 01:01:53,800
Speaker 2: things of like me wanting to feel invited in me

1451
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 2: wanting to feel like a part of it because we've

1452
01:01:56,200 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 2: been so like emmeshed together. Yeah, and so there's like

1453
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:04,640
Speaker 2: I guess for me, like I thought, maybe it was

1454
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 2: like possessiveness or maybe it is layered with that and fear.

1455
01:02:07,960 --> 01:02:11,920
Speaker 2: There's like fear being left behind or fear of like

1456
01:02:12,680 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 2: I guess.

1457
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 4: I don't know. I think it's being left behind.

1458
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 2: And then also like the not being invited in thing

1459
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:21,160
Speaker 2: or like why are you being sneaky?

1460
01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:22,040
Speaker 4: Are you being secretive?

1461
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 2: What?

1462
01:02:22,200 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 4: What the fuck are you doing? Whereas Mila is like.

1463
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 2: I'm off to a moutain thing. I told you something

1464
01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:27,800
Speaker 2: and that was it. I thought that was the end

1465
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,680
Speaker 2: of the conversation, and I'm like, bitch, I need more conversations.

1466
01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, I didn't sound like you wanted to hear the

1467
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:34,760
Speaker 6: rest of the conversation.

1468
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 7: It seemed like you didn't want to know, So I

1469
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:37,160
Speaker 7: just went and did it.

1470
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 6: What do you mean, I'm I told you I went

1471
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 6: to Croatia.

1472
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I definitely resonate with that and knowing that now,

1473
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:52,080
Speaker 2: I guess maybe I can like express that to other people,

1474
01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:54,040
Speaker 2: like this is what I need in order to feel

1475
01:02:54,080 --> 01:02:55,960
Speaker 2: like safe, This is what I need in order to

1476
01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:59,640
Speaker 2: feel like, yeah, I missed, I guess like safe and

1477
01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:02,080
Speaker 2: like that that we're still connected, that we're still here with.

1478
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:03,280
Speaker 3: One another totally.

1479
01:03:03,760 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, And this is I think also goes back to

1480
01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 5: that part that we talked about for Mela of informing

1481
01:03:08,840 --> 01:03:11,520
Speaker 5: and keeping people in the loop, because you know, she

1482
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:13,320
Speaker 5: is so naturally independent, where's like I'm just gonna go

1483
01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 5: off and do my own thing, but like kind of

1484
01:03:15,160 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 5: just like keeping the people that matter informed and like

1485
01:03:17,200 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 5: they're kind of respected in the process and included can

1486
01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:20,760
Speaker 5: be really important.

1487
01:03:21,440 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 6: It's so crazy because like I feel independent, but I

1488
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 6: also feel like I don't know same thing with Erica.

1489
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 6: Like we've done this for a very long time together.

1490
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 6: We've gotten a lot of success together, a lot of

1491
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 6: our highs highs have been through this business together, and

1492
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 6: like I mean, obviously there's fear of being left behind,

1493
01:03:40,440 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 6: fear of being left fear, you know, there's just fear

1494
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:45,080
Speaker 6: of doing things alone because we've done so much together.

1495
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 6: But also like, bitch, we're not Siamese twins, you know,

1496
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:49,520
Speaker 6: like your adults.

1497
01:03:49,680 --> 01:03:52,880
Speaker 7: You know, like are you sure? So I feel like I.

1498
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:55,480
Speaker 6: Do feel independent, but in ways I do also feel

1499
01:03:55,600 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 6: very like attached, you know, like so attached to partnership,

1500
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 6: so attached to collaboration, so attached to Erica, you know,

1501
01:04:03,280 --> 01:04:07,560
Speaker 6: just specifically, if I'm being honest, so I just like

1502
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:10,840
Speaker 6: I feel like I'm being like I think I feel independent,

1503
01:04:10,880 --> 01:04:13,439
Speaker 6: but a lot of times I feel codependent. So I'm

1504
01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:17,640
Speaker 6: just like I feel codependent to it sometimes where it's debilitating,

1505
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 6: like should I do this?

1506
01:04:19,160 --> 01:04:20,720
Speaker 7: A lot like should I do this? She gonna be

1507
01:04:20,720 --> 01:04:21,080
Speaker 7: mad at me?

1508
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:25,600
Speaker 6: Like and it's interesting because like as we're talking about this,

1509
01:04:25,720 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 6: like basically shadowness, you know, the shadow side of us.

1510
01:04:30,400 --> 01:04:34,800
Speaker 6: I think when we have this perspective and I'm not

1511
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:38,040
Speaker 6: sure mine means yet, it gives us the opportunity to

1512
01:04:38,040 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 6: ai to be like, this is what I need and

1513
01:04:40,480 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 6: then be once you can recognize the thing that you need,

1514
01:04:43,640 --> 01:04:46,680
Speaker 6: you can say like am I leaving space for someone

1515
01:04:46,720 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 6: to do that?

1516
01:04:47,960 --> 01:04:48,360
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

1517
01:04:48,520 --> 01:04:50,280
Speaker 6: I think there's been times like me and Erica have had.

1518
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:52,400
Speaker 6: You know, we've been friends for a long time, ten years,

1519
01:04:52,440 --> 01:04:55,320
Speaker 6: and there's been more difficult times than others. We're generally

1520
01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:58,160
Speaker 6: we've gotten you know, we have a great relationship, we're

1521
01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 6: best fucking friends, we're sisters. But then times where I'm like, well,

1522
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 6: did you want me to tell you? Because you didn't

1523
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:04,960
Speaker 6: seem like you were really open to hearing this conversation.

1524
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:06,640
Speaker 6: You didn't seem like you were receiving it, and I'm

1525
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:08,920
Speaker 6: so sensitive. So I'm like, if you're not smiling and

1526
01:05:09,000 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 6: keep king with me, then I'm just gonna shut the

1527
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:12,360
Speaker 6: fuck up, you know, Like it didn't seem like you

1528
01:05:12,360 --> 01:05:14,200
Speaker 6: wanted to know, it didn't seem like you cared, and

1529
01:05:14,280 --> 01:05:16,320
Speaker 6: so like I'm going off of like her energy and

1530
01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:18,200
Speaker 6: she's like, bitch, why didn't you tell me? And so

1531
01:05:18,240 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 6: there's all these like these components you know here. But

1532
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 6: also like once we can understand what we need, we

1533
01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 6: can also be like am I being am I being

1534
01:05:29,240 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 6: open to the things that I actually need to you

1535
01:05:31,240 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 6: know what I mean? Like am I am I showing

1536
01:05:33,440 --> 01:05:34,960
Speaker 6: up in a way that I you know, like I

1537
01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:36,600
Speaker 6: could be like, hey, Mila, this is what I need

1538
01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 6: from you to feel safe. And also like language, because

1539
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 6: like we often go with the defense the most defense,

1540
01:05:42,440 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 6: like you're leaving me out, like fuck you, Like I'm

1541
01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:45,440
Speaker 6: gonna you know, like, well I'm gonna go do this

1542
01:05:45,480 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 6: over here when not.

1543
01:05:46,160 --> 01:05:47,240
Speaker 7: Say shit or whatever.

1544
01:05:47,280 --> 01:05:50,800
Speaker 6: Like our first I think as humans is to defend ourselves.

1545
01:05:51,320 --> 01:05:53,440
Speaker 6: And so instead of just being like, actually my feelings

1546
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:56,560
Speaker 6: were hurt because I'm feeling unsafe in our friendship, I'm

1547
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 6: feeling unsafe in our business. I'm feeling scared. You know,

1548
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 6: those are not words that we generate go to first,

1549
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:01,640
Speaker 6: to be go to.

1550
01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 2: Like she had an attitude. She didn't ask me like questions,

1551
01:06:05,800 --> 01:06:08,080
Speaker 2: so now she doesn't want to know shit. It's actually no,

1552
01:06:08,160 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 2: I'm processing because this is new information and like I

1553
01:06:11,880 --> 01:06:13,760
Speaker 2: need a second and I'm not like, you know, there's

1554
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:15,360
Speaker 2: just like there's layers to it. But I think because

1555
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:18,360
Speaker 2: because we are both so sensitive and so I think

1556
01:06:18,440 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 2: I think we're trying to consider each other all the time,

1557
01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:24,440
Speaker 2: and also like maybe misreading each other sometimes too, Like

1558
01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:26,960
Speaker 2: there becomes like then this wall that goes up that's

1559
01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 2: actually unnecessary if.

1560
01:06:29,280 --> 01:06:31,479
Speaker 4: We were able to communicate or.

1561
01:06:31,760 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 2: Or even have this kind of information and knowing like, oh,

1562
01:06:34,480 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 2: Erica needs to be brought into the conversation. Oh, Mela

1563
01:06:37,560 --> 01:06:41,000
Speaker 2: actually really does need independence, but she does enjoy being

1564
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:43,600
Speaker 2: amongst people, Like even though she does like to be

1565
01:06:43,680 --> 01:06:45,760
Speaker 2: amongst people, because I always say, like Mela like always

1566
01:06:45,760 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 2: needs to be around people. She likes to be outside.

1567
01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:51,640
Speaker 2: She's like she loves conversating with people. But then I

1568
01:06:51,680 --> 01:06:53,280
Speaker 2: also know that there is the piece of her that

1569
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 2: night like needs to be alone. But sometimes I forget

1570
01:06:55,880 --> 01:06:58,960
Speaker 2: about that piece because I always see her being immersed

1571
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:03,120
Speaker 2: amongst the people and engaging with people. So I think

1572
01:07:03,160 --> 01:07:06,440
Speaker 2: like knowing that, remembering that because you were you did

1573
01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 2: do this for us, but like so we.

1574
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:11,439
Speaker 4: Were like I feel like we were like also very

1575
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:12,720
Speaker 4: early in our business too.

1576
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:14,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I think you know, we were still

1577
01:07:14,760 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 2: figuring it out. We've evolved so much as friends, We've

1578
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 2: evolved so much as as women in relationships now as moms,

1579
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 2: all these things, Like there's a lot of things that

1580
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:27,320
Speaker 2: have happened that it's actually really beneficial to if you've

1581
01:07:27,360 --> 01:07:29,080
Speaker 2: ever if you're listening right now, you've ever done a

1582
01:07:29,120 --> 01:07:30,840
Speaker 2: human design maybe you did it a while ago, to

1583
01:07:30,840 --> 01:07:33,520
Speaker 2: come back and revisit it and see how do these

1584
01:07:33,520 --> 01:07:35,840
Speaker 2: things relate to who you are? How are you practicing

1585
01:07:35,840 --> 01:07:38,959
Speaker 2: these things in your relationship dynamics right now? How can

1586
01:07:39,000 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 2: you and and see how your life might transform in

1587
01:07:42,600 --> 01:07:42,960
Speaker 2: that way?

1588
01:07:43,040 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 4: I know I'm excited to do it.

1589
01:07:44,640 --> 01:07:46,840
Speaker 6: This might I feel like this might be something that

1590
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:52,080
Speaker 6: like relationships, close relationships need like refreshing every year, you

1591
01:07:52,160 --> 01:07:53,520
Speaker 6: know what I mean, Like if we.

1592
01:07:53,440 --> 01:07:56,680
Speaker 7: Like decided to like deeply like every year.

1593
01:07:56,720 --> 01:07:59,920
Speaker 6: I think any partnership romantic or others should be like,

1594
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:02,120
Speaker 6: let's go get our charts read, let's go to our

1595
01:08:02,160 --> 01:08:04,680
Speaker 6: human design again. Let's go revisit these things so that

1596
01:08:04,720 --> 01:08:06,760
Speaker 6: we know at the beginning of the year or whatever

1597
01:08:06,800 --> 01:08:08,479
Speaker 6: part of the year, halfway through the year, that we're

1598
01:08:08,560 --> 01:08:10,840
Speaker 6: still on the same page. And if there are things

1599
01:08:10,840 --> 01:08:13,320
Speaker 6: that have erupted, which you know, we're humans, there's there's

1600
01:08:13,360 --> 01:08:17,920
Speaker 6: other lenses of trauma and experiences that could you know

1601
01:08:17,960 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 6: that also influence how we show up. But like I

1602
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:23,720
Speaker 6: think if you're keeping that on the top of your

1603
01:08:24,080 --> 01:08:26,519
Speaker 6: your friendless or your partnership list, it's like going to

1604
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:29,800
Speaker 6: always keep you like in mind of where you're at

1605
01:08:29,840 --> 01:08:31,760
Speaker 6: and where the person that you're close with is too.

1606
01:08:32,640 --> 01:08:33,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent.

1607
01:08:34,320 --> 01:08:36,280
Speaker 5: And I do you know, I think when you guys

1608
01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:38,439
Speaker 5: get the finished copies of the book, I would recommend

1609
01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:39,840
Speaker 5: that you guys read the chapters in each other.

1610
01:08:40,439 --> 01:08:43,200
Speaker 3: I think it's going to be so interesting to be like, oh,

1611
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:44,719
Speaker 3: you know, I see why.

1612
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:47,240
Speaker 5: And one thing I wanted to say to you, Mila,

1613
01:08:47,280 --> 01:08:49,519
Speaker 5: and then we'll talk about your signature not self, is

1614
01:08:50,280 --> 01:08:52,080
Speaker 5: you are meant to inform people, like we talked about

1615
01:08:52,120 --> 01:08:54,320
Speaker 5: like letting people know what's up, but you're also meant

1616
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,120
Speaker 5: to let people know what's up once you come to

1617
01:08:56,120 --> 01:08:59,000
Speaker 5: clarity on your own. Like I find where manifestors can

1618
01:08:59,040 --> 01:09:01,120
Speaker 5: struggle is when they actually let people into their process

1619
01:09:01,160 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 5: a little bit too early and kind of like open

1620
01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:06,040
Speaker 5: themselves up to this external feedback and then kind of

1621
01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 5: get unnecessarily swayed. And so like in an ideal world,

1622
01:09:09,360 --> 01:09:11,360
Speaker 5: you kind of like reach your own point of like

1623
01:09:11,439 --> 01:09:12,680
Speaker 5: this is what I know I want to do, and

1624
01:09:12,720 --> 01:09:14,240
Speaker 5: then you kind of bring people in the loop.

1625
01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 6: Yeah, I can get confused.

1626
01:09:16,360 --> 01:09:17,320
Speaker 7: I get confused easily.

1627
01:09:18,479 --> 01:09:19,080
Speaker 3: I imagine.

1628
01:09:19,120 --> 01:09:21,000
Speaker 5: You know you're really sensitive, like you said, and so

1629
01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:22,960
Speaker 5: that's also just part of your processes like let me

1630
01:09:23,000 --> 01:09:24,519
Speaker 5: come to this and then like let me bring the

1631
01:09:24,520 --> 01:09:28,000
Speaker 5: people in and convey that respect. That way the peace

1632
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:30,040
Speaker 5: around the bitterness and success.

1633
01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:33,160
Speaker 3: So that was true for Erica. For you, when you're

1634
01:09:33,160 --> 01:09:34,160
Speaker 3: on track.

1635
01:09:33,960 --> 01:09:35,639
Speaker 5: It's meant to show up as a feeling of peace,

1636
01:09:36,800 --> 01:09:38,479
Speaker 5: and peace is off in a sense of like you

1637
01:09:38,479 --> 01:09:41,599
Speaker 5: feel empowered, you feel free, you can do what you want,

1638
01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:43,800
Speaker 5: when you want, how you want, nobody's telling you what

1639
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:45,880
Speaker 5: to do. You can initiate new ideas as they come,

1640
01:09:46,240 --> 01:09:47,840
Speaker 5: So that kind of piece is off and rooted in

1641
01:09:47,880 --> 01:09:50,519
Speaker 5: a sense of just like inherent freedom, relationships that make

1642
01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 5: you feel free, you know, like a work structure that

1643
01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:55,920
Speaker 5: makes you feel free. When you're off track, it can

1644
01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 5: manifest as anger. What anger tends to be rooted in

1645
01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,559
Speaker 5: is a feeling of empowerment. It's like, I don't feel

1646
01:10:01,560 --> 01:10:02,960
Speaker 5: empowered to do what I want when I want. I

1647
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:05,040
Speaker 5: feel constricted, I feel confined. I don't feel like I

1648
01:10:05,040 --> 01:10:07,640
Speaker 5: can like really do things my way. And so I

1649
01:10:07,680 --> 01:10:10,120
Speaker 5: think someonear what we're talking about with Erica. When that

1650
01:10:10,280 --> 01:10:12,960
Speaker 5: anger kind of disempowered feeling starts to kind of rear

1651
01:10:13,000 --> 01:10:15,320
Speaker 5: its head in a more consistent way, it's just a

1652
01:10:15,320 --> 01:10:17,519
Speaker 5: signal that like either something needs to be changed or

1653
01:10:17,520 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 5: a conversation needs to be had, you know, Like for Erica,

1654
01:10:20,479 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 5: I feel better, it's like, let's have a conversation. I'm

1655
01:10:22,200 --> 01:10:25,280
Speaker 5: not really feeling super recognized here, so I'm curious you

1656
01:10:25,320 --> 01:10:28,920
Speaker 5: recognize those two pillars for you, I.

1657
01:10:28,840 --> 01:10:31,280
Speaker 6: Think, so I know, I am very clear when I'm

1658
01:10:31,280 --> 01:10:33,240
Speaker 6: feeling at peace and things feel good and I'm in

1659
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:36,400
Speaker 6: a good space, and then I'm also like I think

1660
01:10:36,479 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 6: that for me, anger can come up as like resentment

1661
01:10:39,600 --> 01:10:43,840
Speaker 6: and like irritation, like a constant little like totally and

1662
01:10:43,920 --> 01:10:45,760
Speaker 6: it's like, well, what the fuck is wrong with you, bitch?

1663
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:51,000
Speaker 6: You know, but it's like I can I can recognize that,

1664
01:10:51,120 --> 01:10:54,360
Speaker 6: Like if if work doesn't feel like in flow, there

1665
01:10:54,400 --> 01:10:56,800
Speaker 6: feels like there's like constantly a wall, like it just

1666
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:59,040
Speaker 6: it doesn't feel good for me, and I can I

1667
01:10:59,320 --> 01:11:02,000
Speaker 6: can feel it imediately like a cancer, you know, like

1668
01:11:02,040 --> 01:11:05,280
Speaker 6: it's just it could take over how I'm feeling all

1669
01:11:05,280 --> 01:11:08,439
Speaker 6: the time because I'm pretty like easy going. I feel

1670
01:11:08,439 --> 01:11:11,960
Speaker 6: like and flow, So when things are not feeling there's

1671
01:11:11,960 --> 01:11:14,920
Speaker 6: like something in my stomach, then I'm like, hmm, this

1672
01:11:15,000 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 6: is something doesn't feel right.

1673
01:11:17,160 --> 01:11:20,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's something we didn't really talk about, but it's

1674
01:11:20,760 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 5: so true for manifestors. Is your energy similar to air

1675
01:11:24,200 --> 01:11:26,559
Speaker 5: co but a little bit different, is very birsty, Like

1676
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:28,479
Speaker 5: you're meant to have these periods, whether it's like a

1677
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:30,720
Speaker 5: couple of days, hours, or weeks, where you're super on

1678
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:33,200
Speaker 5: fire and really inspired, and then that's followed by periods

1679
01:11:33,240 --> 01:11:35,519
Speaker 5: where like you're not, like you're meant to kind of

1680
01:11:35,560 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 5: pull back and be in your own space and rest.

1681
01:11:37,680 --> 01:11:39,880
Speaker 5: And it's so important to kind of follow up those

1682
01:11:39,920 --> 01:11:43,599
Speaker 5: periods of creation with moments of seclusion in some way

1683
01:11:43,680 --> 01:11:45,400
Speaker 5: or kind of rest, because that's when like new ideas

1684
01:11:45,439 --> 01:11:48,320
Speaker 5: will bubble up. And so you know, just allowing that,

1685
01:11:48,400 --> 01:11:50,160
Speaker 5: do you feel that kind of natural flow in your

1686
01:11:50,160 --> 01:11:50,639
Speaker 5: own life?

1687
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:53,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think we've actually created that natural flow in

1688
01:11:53,760 --> 01:11:56,560
Speaker 6: our own life by having work that requires us to

1689
01:11:56,600 --> 01:11:58,679
Speaker 6: be in America and be in our computers, and then

1690
01:11:58,800 --> 01:12:00,880
Speaker 6: every couple of months we're like, Okay, we gotta go.

1691
01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:02,800
Speaker 6: We go do work that it requires us to be

1692
01:12:02,840 --> 01:12:06,320
Speaker 6: in person and be at the beach with our titties out,

1693
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:08,000
Speaker 6: you know what I mean. Like that is like it's

1694
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:10,320
Speaker 6: still work, but it shows up differently and every time,

1695
01:12:10,400 --> 01:12:12,880
Speaker 6: like we're about to leave on Monday to retreat, and

1696
01:12:12,920 --> 01:12:15,760
Speaker 6: I'm like this has like this is what needs to

1697
01:12:15,800 --> 01:12:18,479
Speaker 6: happen right now. Like I'm feeling that energy of like, yeah,

1698
01:12:18,520 --> 01:12:21,400
Speaker 6: we're still working, but it's at a different level of work.

1699
01:12:21,479 --> 01:12:22,920
Speaker 7: And like we just you know, we did that in.

1700
01:12:23,479 --> 01:12:25,920
Speaker 6: February, so like it's about that time in April, and

1701
01:12:25,920 --> 01:12:27,879
Speaker 6: then it'll be about that time in June in August,

1702
01:12:27,920 --> 01:12:29,840
Speaker 6: and so like I think we kind of have built

1703
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:32,840
Speaker 6: this life where we kind of get to ride that

1704
01:12:32,920 --> 01:12:35,360
Speaker 6: wave of rest in some ways, even though like we're

1705
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:38,240
Speaker 6: still working, it's still like a different type of work.

1706
01:12:38,560 --> 01:12:41,720
Speaker 6: And I think like in subconsciously we have built a

1707
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:45,240
Speaker 6: life where that has kind of honored how we work together,

1708
01:12:45,280 --> 01:12:47,080
Speaker 6: because I think sometimes when we do finally go out

1709
01:12:47,120 --> 01:12:50,880
Speaker 6: of town and we're alone and we're like settled to

1710
01:12:50,920 --> 01:12:52,680
Speaker 6: be like I got a good idea, you know what

1711
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:54,240
Speaker 6: I mean, and then we can kind of like let

1712
01:12:54,280 --> 01:12:56,479
Speaker 6: it be burst and like talk about it and like

1713
01:12:56,560 --> 01:12:57,720
Speaker 6: you know what I mean, it just gives us a

1714
01:12:57,760 --> 01:12:59,760
Speaker 6: little bit of period of rest, which I think is

1715
01:12:59,760 --> 01:13:00,559
Speaker 6: really important.

1716
01:13:01,320 --> 01:13:03,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, well, I love that because you guys both have

1717
01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:05,559
Speaker 5: that need for the ebb and flow. So it feels

1718
01:13:05,560 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 5: like that's the thing that you guys can build together,

1719
01:13:07,160 --> 01:13:08,760
Speaker 5: whereas a lot of people don't have that ebb and flow.

1720
01:13:08,800 --> 01:13:11,400
Speaker 5: It's a more kind of consistent, steady stream of energy.

1721
01:13:13,720 --> 01:13:16,240
Speaker 2: Well, this has been so insightful. Again, again, Erin, thank

1722
01:13:16,280 --> 01:13:18,439
Speaker 2: you so much. This is I'm really excited for your

1723
01:13:18,479 --> 01:13:21,360
Speaker 2: book because I can't wait to get it and actually

1724
01:13:21,400 --> 01:13:23,600
Speaker 2: dive in and read Jamilaz read my daughter, Well, I

1725
01:13:23,600 --> 01:13:23,880
Speaker 2: guess my.

1726
01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:26,160
Speaker 4: Daughter's me my boyfriend.

1727
01:13:26,720 --> 01:13:28,439
Speaker 2: Find out what my boyfriend is so that I can

1728
01:13:28,439 --> 01:13:33,120
Speaker 2: be better, And Yeah, I just think that this is such,

1729
01:13:33,280 --> 01:13:36,680
Speaker 2: this is such important, important work and important perspective to

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Speaker 2: just add to your toolkit. You just like add these

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Speaker 2: little things to your toolbox of ways that you can

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Speaker 2: support yourself and the people that you love. And then

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Speaker 2: also like in your business and build your business and

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Speaker 2: your team, like when you're working with teams and understanding

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Speaker 2: why two team members on your team are not getting

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Speaker 2: along and how to better support them. Like, there's so much,

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Speaker 2: there's so much here that really can help with that.

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Speaker 2: So thank you for the work that you do, and

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Speaker 2: thank you for coming back on our show. Aerin Make

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Speaker 2: sure you guys get Aaron's book, How do You Choose

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Speaker 2: a Human Design Guide to What's best for You at work,

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Speaker 2: in love, and in life. It comes out on May thirteenth.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything where where else can people find you?

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Speaker 5: Well, if you guys want to get the guides that

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Speaker 5: we've been talking about, the blueprint that's on human design

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Speaker 5: blueprint dot com. We still have the discount code GMBC

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Speaker 5: And I'm on Instagram at Aaron Clara Jones and at

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Speaker 5: human Design Blueprint.

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Speaker 6: And also congratulations on your babies and on your success

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Speaker 6: and on your new book. I'm really proud of you,

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Speaker 6: you know, as a woman putting a birthing workout into

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Speaker 6: the world that's going to live forever is you know,

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Speaker 6: I know, it's so special and beautiful. And just the

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Speaker 6: fact that you're helping your community, you're helping us, You're

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Speaker 6: helping people like recenter themselves and understand how they relate

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Speaker 6: to the world. And I really truly appreciate that. And

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Speaker 6: I'm you know, I'm inspired by you.

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Speaker 5: Thank you, guys for saying that. So nice to see

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Speaker 5: you than thanks for having me.

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Speaker 2: All right, try well, make sure you go subscribe and

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Speaker 2: leave a review on this episode if you haven't already,

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Speaker 2: make sure you follow us at Good Mom's Underscore, Bad Choices,

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Speaker 2: follow the retreat. At the Good Via Retreat, we have

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Speaker 2: a beautiful summer retreat with the ladies happening to summer retreats.

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Speaker 2: We always do their our annual summer retreats, and we

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Speaker 2: do have a few more spots up for a couple's

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Speaker 2: retreat in June. And yeah, take care of yourself, okay,

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Speaker 2: bye please, Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I'm living so good. Can't you tell?

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Speaker 1: I went through a drought that's until I found a

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Speaker 1: well made mine have been known earth. I used to

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Speaker 1: be broken tail, now got the Blues Dans and might

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Speaker 1: Beyonce Jill throat shots with popping this cow. We're in

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Speaker 1: our voices, Patriarch get catched in the bus to what's bois?

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Speaker 6: Women put the pee and powers? So what's point? Misty

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Speaker 6: want me to be good? So I make bad choices.

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Speaker 1: Bad mom not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

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Speaker 1: Gitters in on put cannabis in their bath, bomb walk

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Speaker 1: in in bloss. This is cap and I blew his

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Speaker 1: cat bolls hot dog. Now I'm immune to the cat

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Speaker 1: called Herbie and no waisted straight to it like a

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Speaker 1: dollar sign. Mother, rent the lover when too. It's like

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Speaker 1: a water sign where you're rent the winter resential will

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Speaker 1: when the summertime.

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Speaker 6: I do what doll ain't no one that needs to

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Speaker 6: run it by