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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to untraditionally, Laala, Hello, gorgeous,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to untraditionally, Lala. If you guys recall, I did

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Speaker 1: an episode I want to say last week about the

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Speaker 1: drama with Taylor Frankie Paul. And you know, I like

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Speaker 1: to think that I'm a compassionate person. I like to

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Speaker 1: think that I've lived some life so I can speak

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Speaker 1: from experience. But I also like to think that I'm

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Speaker 1: not soft. And with my upbringing, you know, my mom

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Speaker 1: babied us, but she was always the person who said,

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Speaker 1: you may have gone through a lot of stuff, but

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Speaker 1: you better rise to the occasion. You cannot fault anybody

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Speaker 1: or anything because you are responsible for your emotions, you

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Speaker 1: are responsible for your actions. And so I lead with that,

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Speaker 1: and I lead with that in the conversation about Taylor

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Speaker 1: Frankie Paul and her hurling furniture, I was shocked to

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Speaker 1: my very core when I looked in the comments section.

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Speaker 1: You guys were going in on me for basically saying,

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Speaker 1: this woman needs the help. And I didn't condone her

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Speaker 1: throwing steel fucking barstools in the direction of another person

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Speaker 1: while her child was present. I was defending this tiny,

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Speaker 1: little five year old, which I have. I have a

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Speaker 1: five year old, like I can literally think of a

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Speaker 1: five year old and go, oh, I have that. So

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Speaker 1: I know exactly like the type of little human and

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Speaker 1: little personality that a five year old is. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: I'm defending this five year old, which should be a

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Speaker 1: no brainer. I truly could not believe what I was reading.

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Speaker 1: Y'all want to talk about the trauma and then bring

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Speaker 1: me into it. That was the greatest part was I

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Speaker 1: don't want to say. I was in a spiral over

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Speaker 1: the comments. Shocked over the fucking comments. These are some

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Speaker 1: of them. These are some of them. Okay, Lala, you

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Speaker 1: have no position to talk? Why, bitch? Why do I

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Speaker 1: have no position to talk? Because I was a drunk

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Speaker 1: and have been sober for seven and a half years

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Speaker 1: and not once hurled furniture, but have definitely gotten physical

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Speaker 1: in my past when I was intoxicated, which led me

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Speaker 1: to get sober. I think I'm the perfect candidate to

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Speaker 1: fucking talk, bitch. That's right, I'm fucking heated. Wow. I

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Speaker 1: used to love you, but you got this all wrong,

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Speaker 1: and you're the least wholesome person in the world, even

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Speaker 1: as a mother. This is my favorite.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I used to love you. You you never loved me

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Speaker 1: because you don't know me. You watch me on television.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you thinking you know what love is. But

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Speaker 1: the fact that you could love me watch a thirty

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Speaker 1: second clip and not love me, that's not love. Also,

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Speaker 1: I never claimed to be wholesome. I'm on a podcast

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Speaker 1: talking about blow jobs and eating ass like duh, no shit,

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Speaker 1: I'm not wholesome. Also, Wow, I used to love you.

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Speaker 1: But you've got this all wrong. You guys, some of

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Speaker 1: you saying you don't know the facts. You don't know

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Speaker 1: the whole story. Neither do you. You weren't in the room,

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Speaker 1: you weren't taking the police report. Y'all are watching and

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Speaker 1: reading the news just like I am. How much more

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Speaker 1: informed could you be than me? We're all reading the

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Speaker 1: same shit. So drunk, La La was an angel, no bitch,

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Speaker 1: That's why I'm sober seven and a half years. So

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Speaker 1: I am sober seven and a half years. That's why

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Speaker 1: I'm sober for seven and a half years. I don't

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Speaker 1: know how much more clear I could make this. I

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Speaker 1: was not proud of my actions when I drank so

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Speaker 1: I got sober. I'm gonna lose all my listeners after this,

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Speaker 1: but truly I was angry. I'm like, these are the comments,

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Speaker 1: These are the comments Laala on her high horse, acting

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Speaker 1: like she's never acted that way. Yes, that's why I'm

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Speaker 1: seven and a half years sober. Fuck Anyway, I called

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Speaker 1: to the haters. I was like, you know what you

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Speaker 1: guys want to talk about it, Let's talk about it.

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Speaker 1: And again we posted the haters i Instagram story to

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Speaker 1: call all of you to the forefront. And it was

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Speaker 1: like crickets again. Some of you are very click happy,

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Speaker 1: but then when it comes to facing off with me,

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Speaker 1: you run scared. We even reached out to some of

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Speaker 1: the haters like, hey, we saw your comment, would love

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Speaker 1: to have you on the episode Crickets. But then a

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Speaker 1: wonderful hater came through. All right, I'm so excited to

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Speaker 1: have you. Hi, Meredith, I'm Lala. I'm so did you

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Speaker 1: write in or did we reach out to you?

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Speaker 2: Did?

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Speaker 1: I did write in?

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Speaker 2: I wrote in as a former hater, current Lala lover.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well let's talk about the hate because it's the

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Speaker 1: Hater Podcast. What made you not dig me?

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Speaker 2: Honestly, when you first came on in season four, I

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Speaker 2: thought you were kind of airheaded and vapid and just

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Speaker 2: like this holier than that personality. That's how they portray

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Speaker 2: trade you on the show, not saying that's how you were,

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Speaker 2: but that's how it kind of came off that you

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Speaker 2: were just angsty, my shit don't stink kind of.

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Speaker 1: Kind of I don't even watch season four, so I

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Speaker 1: can't watch it so much since then, so I'm so embarrassed.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, who is this person? Anyway? Keep going.

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Speaker 2: And while and it's just kind of like hit me

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Speaker 1: There's something, there's something off about this.

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Speaker 2: And then just like as you progressed, you kind of

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Speaker 2: were very combative and like anytime you had issues with people,

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Speaker 2: it was just like punch it, base on, like take it.

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Speaker 1: And I know you were super young and.

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Speaker 2: Naive and just went through this new experience, but right

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Speaker 2: out the gate, I was like, well, I don't like

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Speaker 2: La La. And then I used to be a Katie fan,

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Speaker 2: and when you had issues with Katie, I was like,

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Speaker 2: pump the.

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Speaker 1: Brakes, right, I love this.

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Speaker 2: But then the first time that I was like fan

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Speaker 2: Laala was when Jax was trying to pull bullshit with

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Speaker 2: you and trying to lie about things that were being

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Speaker 2: said with and try and tell Brittany that, oh no,

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Speaker 2: it was all you, that you were the bad person,

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Speaker 2: not him, And I was like, wait a minute, no,

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's bullshit. Balas got the papers to prove that,

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Speaker 1: and you did.

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Speaker 2: And eventually Brittany saw the season and was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you were telling the truth.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what? I always wonder because I feel

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Speaker 1: like he had been doing What season was that was

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Speaker 1: that four? I think that was four? It was like

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Speaker 1: right out the gate. Yeah, when he was like saying

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Speaker 2: Ok, that was like right when she was coming around

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Speaker 2: and he was between him trying to hang out with

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Speaker 1: And by the way, people still think to this day

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Speaker 1: so wild that he had been doing it for so

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Speaker 1: see the behavior. I don't understand people like that.

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Speaker 2: He wasn't in the mindset of, oh, this is what's

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Speaker 2: going to be shown. He's just playing on his lies.

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Speaker 2: Like what he does is hold down the lies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and like I think people like him think I'll

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Speaker 1: deal with this later. Yes, Oh, I'll just handle it

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Speaker 2: On in the moment and put it to the back

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Speaker 2: something else.

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Speaker 1: Right, and we'll go down the line of you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm not perfect. I got a lot of work to do.

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Speaker 1: And then Andy calling him out saying, I feel like

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Speaker 1: every season you're talking about how you're a work in progress.

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Speaker 1: they don't change, Like you still are who you are,

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Speaker 1: then side is still there. Yeah, And I think do

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Speaker 1: you watch the Valley at all? Yes? I think this

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Speaker 1: is the first season. Because I came on to vander

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Speaker 1: Pump Rules season four, I was not a confident person.

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Speaker 1: I think when people watched me. I seemed very much

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Speaker 1: think it was a defense mechanism.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think it was a combination of drinking and also

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Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, because they were established and you were the

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Speaker 1: So I just guard myself. Yeah. I was not a

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Speaker 2: Which is the season that I loved you on. That

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know, every single person on the planet

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Speaker 1: those moments who shift, they shift who you are, right

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Speaker 1: And I try to remember that when I'm dealing with

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Speaker 1: a differing opinion or our perspectives are different because we've

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Speaker 1: don't let anyone in, and then I was almost too soft.

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Speaker 1: It was very confusing. And I feel like this season

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Speaker 1: it was comfortable. Now I'm in a new group and

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Speaker 1: I don't really know my place, but for the first time,

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Speaker 1: we'll see how it plays out. Right, But from my perspective,

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Speaker 1: You're welcome by babe. Hi gorgeous. By this lighting is

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Speaker 1: You know what. It was so iconic. Do you watch

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear what you guys think. I'm

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Speaker 1: they were not a fan from the jump season four

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Speaker 1: and just talking about my drinking and my I still

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Speaker 1: have a foul mouth, I'm like a fucking sailor. But

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Speaker 1: just the way that I would talk to people and

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Speaker 1: approach people, it was just like so off putting, and

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Speaker 1: like I'm aware of that. I don't look back at

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Speaker 1: those moments and go, actually, there are times where I'm like,

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Speaker 1: she was fucking cool because she didn't care about anything,

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Speaker 1: But that was the booze. You know, I didn't care

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Speaker 1: because I was drunk. My point being is these haters

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Speaker 1: that we had on when I lost them was when

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Speaker 1: I was, you know, pretty deep in my alcoholism and

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Speaker 1: just not a kind person and unhinged and unmanageable, and

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Speaker 1: there was no telling when that turning point would hit

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Speaker 1: where I would be in a rage cut to when

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Speaker 1: these haters say that they started digging me. It was

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Speaker 1: the point in time where I had to look within

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Speaker 1: and get sober. And I know I've stated this a

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Speaker 1: million times. I'm seven and a half years sober, and

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Speaker 1: it's something that I'm very proud of. And for anybody

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Speaker 1: in the comments section, especially when I posted that Taylor, Frankie,

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Speaker 1: Paul clip of Eesa and I talking about our thoughts,

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Speaker 1: for anyone to sit back and try to discredit the

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Speaker 1: work that I have put in to my own life,

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Speaker 1: my own self had to sit back and not place

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Speaker 1: blame on anybody and then walk into a room and

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Speaker 1: identify as an alcoholic. That is a humbling experience that

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Speaker 1: not many people experience. And that's why when you walk

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Speaker 1: into those rooms, those are your people, because we all

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Speaker 1: see each other. You're defeated, you're disgusted in yourself, you're ashamed.

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Speaker 1: So for anybody to sit here and say, like your past,

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Speaker 1: what was good, It's like, I'm aware, which is why

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Speaker 1: I am where I am right now. We can talk.

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Speaker 1: Take Taylor, Frankie Paul out of it. Put anybody in

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Speaker 1: this situation. I understand that there are traumas that happen

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Speaker 1: that lead you down a path. I will never condone.

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Speaker 1: I don't give one fuck about anything that you've been through,

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Speaker 1: your trauma. If you're under the influence when there is

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Speaker 1: a child involved, you have lost me. And for those

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Speaker 1: of you who want to defend her behavior, I want

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Speaker 1: you to take her kid out of the equation and

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Speaker 1: replace that child with your own kid. And let's say

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Speaker 1: that she was huck in a chair with your child present,

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Speaker 1: what would your reaction be? Then it's not okay. If

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Speaker 1: you are so traumatized by what you have been through

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Speaker 1: that you are capable of hucking furniture with your child there.

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Speaker 1: You need to be in a fucking padded room by yourself, solo.

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Speaker 1: And I can't believe I have to like sit here

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Speaker 1: and defend this child because you guys want to defend

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Speaker 1: this grown woman. And I understand the like everyone that

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Speaker 1: I've seen in the top comments, it's like, you don't

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Speaker 1: know what it's like with the domestic violence situation. I

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Speaker 1: don't not to that level. I mean, I've never experienced

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Speaker 1: what you guys are saying, that level of just toxicity

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Speaker 1: where people are going toes, and granted I've gone toes,

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Speaker 1: I have been a human that I'm not proud of

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Speaker 1: the moment a child's brought into the mix. You better

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Speaker 1: pull your shit together, check yourself in, find a therapist

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Speaker 1: to get sober if you need to. You no longer

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Speaker 1: get to be the victim of your circumstances because the

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Speaker 1: moment that you feed into the victim mentality, you have

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Speaker 1: now traumatized your child. And guess what, the cycle continues.

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Speaker 1: Break the fucking cycle. We've all been through. Shit. I

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Speaker 1: love you, guys, Thank you so much to my haters

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Speaker 1: who have written in called in faced off, I absolutely

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Speaker 1: adore the set of ovaries that you guys possess. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna catch you guys on Wednesday for a regular old episode.

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Speaker 1: Remember Thursday nights at nine pm An Unlikely Affair with

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Speaker 1: Yours Truly and Amber Childers drops and again on Monday

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Speaker 1: for a bonus episode, Love y'all, Bye,