Speaker 1: Second dat day. We've heard of fails happening on first dates,
Speaker 1: a lot of them, like forgetting your wallet by accident,
Speaker 1: or hitting a parked car trying to parallel park in
Speaker 1: front of the restaurant. We don't hear a lot of
Speaker 1: stories though, with altercations where punches are thrown. What is
Speaker 1: that what we're doing? Apparently that's what happened with one
Speaker 1: of our listeners Aiden. Oh no, so, Aiden, please tell
Speaker 1: me that you were at a UFC fight watching the
Speaker 1: melee in the octagon. Is that what you meant or
Speaker 1: are we talking about your fists? No, man, it was
Speaker 1: It was my fist, but it was all in my head. Wait,
Speaker 1: what what I'll get there? That's oh my god? Well, no,
Speaker 1: wonder anyone is not calling you back. Nobody likes fighting
Speaker 1: on the first date. Yeah. I don't think we should
Speaker 1: rush to judgment here before we hear the story, even
Speaker 1: if it does sound kind of weird at first glance. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but Aiden, I mean take us back to the ginning.
Speaker 1: What's your date's name? Her name is Kim Okay, she
Speaker 1: was cool. Yeah. I met her online and her profile
Speaker 1: said my father used to say, whatever you do, do
Speaker 1: it one hundred percent. When you work, you work hard.
Speaker 1: When you laugh, you laugh hard, you laugh loudly. When
Speaker 1: you eat, eat a ton of food. Right, Dad's like,
Speaker 1: no one's watching. Ye. I was like, hey, your dad
Speaker 1: said that, right, So I was like, me and your dad,
Speaker 1: we have a lot in common. I'd like to feed
Speaker 1: you a lot of food and laugh loudly with you.
Speaker 1: And she she loved it. Okay, okay, Yeah, It's usually
Speaker 1: not a great thing to say, like, hey, I'm a
Speaker 1: lot like your dad to a woman that your no,
Speaker 1: I'm not not no, no. If you follow it, I'm
Speaker 1: going to feed you a lot of food. Everyone says
Speaker 1: yes to that. Yeah, that's what you want to do.
Speaker 1: So would you guys do? How'd you guys bond? It
Speaker 1: was good. I mean we chatted and then we uh,
Speaker 1: you know, excited to let do a date and everything
Speaker 1: like that. So we both met up for a few
Speaker 1: drinks and a barment not food. I thought, the whole
Speaker 1: point is you're going to feed her a bunch of food.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm assuming this bar has food. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: still that's not like a choice of food. He drinks
Speaker 1: are edible. But if you if you went to a restaurant,
Speaker 1: you'd be like, what no drinks? He promised food. I
Speaker 1: thought there'd be more thought into what they were going
Speaker 1: to eat. I don't think that that is a bad expectation. Okay,
Speaker 1: was was there food at this bar? Can we put
Speaker 1: this to rest? Maybe this is how the fight started. Yes,
Speaker 1: there was food. Okay. She was the one that suggested
Speaker 1: she suggested this bar anyway, Okay, all right, So how
Speaker 1: was it like the first meeting? How are you feeling
Speaker 1: when you see her for the first time? Beautiful, fantastic,
Speaker 1: She was hilarious. We joked a lot, and you know,
Speaker 1: and so like, we had a few drinks and I said,
Speaker 1: pick a guy in a bar and I'll fight them
Speaker 1: for you right now. And she laughed and she was like,
Speaker 1: I don't want you to fight anybody anymore. So this
Speaker 1: is where it happened. She's like, maybe yourself there. So
Speaker 1: I punched myself in the head and she laughed, and
Speaker 1: we've done like that, and then I thought it got extreme.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh my god, I have a nice of
Speaker 1: himself a concussion yourself. Was it like a serious punch
Speaker 1: or joke? No, it was a joke. Okay. Very light
Speaker 1: in the light above my temple. It was perfectly fine, right,
Speaker 1: this is I think we can all rest easy now.
Speaker 1: And she liked the self punch. Yeah, she thought it
Speaker 1: was hilarious. Good, okay, you sound like you have the
Speaker 1: same sense of humor. Absolutely absolutely. But then she got like,
Speaker 1: well we had a humor drinks from ended up going
Speaker 1: back to my place to see a movie. Okay, and
Speaker 1: we made out for a little bit. She like, you
Speaker 1: didn't go any farther than that, but it was nice.
Speaker 1: It was really nice. That goes against her policy of
Speaker 1: when you make out, make out as hard as time.
Speaker 1: It's like I can't breathe. Maybe that's why she's acting
Speaker 1: all weird. I don't know what did she say when
Speaker 1: she left. She said she had a good time. Um,
Speaker 1: but she's been acting strange over text. What do you
Speaker 1: mean she's acting strange? Yeah? I just I asked her
Speaker 1: if she wanted to hang on Friday. I asked she
Speaker 1: was free, and she said, huh you would like that,
Speaker 1: wouldn't you. I roll emoji. Oh kid. Maybe she's trying
Speaker 1: to be sarcastic on text and it's not really out
Speaker 1: a weird response. No, yeah, I mean so, I said,
Speaker 1: l yeah, I would are you up for it, and
Speaker 1: she said whatever did you ask her, like, did I
Speaker 1: do something to make you angry? Women don't like when
Speaker 1: you get at She just at it. She just ended
Speaker 1: with whatever, Okay, I mean and she said whatever in capped.
Speaker 1: Maybe she's just mad that you got beat up on
Speaker 1: your date and she doesn't want to date to wuss. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he also kind of won that fight at the
Speaker 1: same time. True, is there anything she could have found
Speaker 1: out about you, like on a Google search or something,
Speaker 1: or maybe inside your apartment because she was over there
Speaker 1: for at least a little bit. Yeah. Oh no, I'm
Speaker 1: a normal guy. I have got a normal job. I'm
Speaker 1: all good. That's what all the crazies say. I don't know, man,
Speaker 1: It's like the day was really playful, very fun, and
Speaker 1: then back to my place it was very romantic and like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, and then those attitude all the way
Speaker 1: at the end here and I like, I don't know
Speaker 1: what's going on. Oh that is weird. Sounds like you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship already. Let's call Kim here and we'll
Speaker 1: ask her the question that all women love to be asked,
Speaker 1: why are you so mad at me? Yeah? What did
Speaker 1: I do? Yeah, maybe we could tone down that tone.
Speaker 1: Why are you so upset with the way that I
Speaker 1: said it? Anyway, we'll do your second date update now.
Speaker 1: Second texting in a new relationship can be so dangerous
Speaker 1: because they can ask you, Hey, what do you want
Speaker 1: to eat tonight? And you respond whatever, okay, and that
Speaker 1: sounds to your ears, but the person on the other
Speaker 1: phone might read it as whatever. So normally we reserve
Speaker 1: judgment in these situations, except for the fact that in
Speaker 1: this case the girl used all caps. I do not
Speaker 1: forget that. That's why when our listener Aiden said, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'd really like to see you. Is that okay with you? Whatever?
Speaker 1: I roll emoji. I think we're reading that correctly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And the only question that we have is why why
Speaker 1: would she respond that way? Because they had a really
Speaker 1: normal date. They went back to his place, made out,
Speaker 1: and he said he just wants to hang out again,
Speaker 1: and she's giving an attitude. I don't get it personally,
Speaker 1: I'm scared Aiden, Yeah, me too, I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: like to call angry women. It's just you just like
Speaker 1: to be one, Yeah, waiting to happen. Yeah, it really is.
Speaker 1: And you can't think of any reason why should be
Speaker 1: so mad at you? I literally can't think of one thing.
Speaker 1: We had a great date, laughed a lot, and a
Speaker 1: little romantic at the end, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and with good boundaries like the whole thing. Yeah. Well,
Speaker 1: well we're all confused. Hopefully something we learn and get
Speaker 1: a little clarity. Maybe she's just randomly mad he texted
Speaker 1: her on the wrong day. Maybe whatever, jose Let's just
Speaker 1: call this girl and what she has to say. Here
Speaker 1: we go. Hello, Hey is this Kim? Yeah? Hey, Kim.
Speaker 1: My name is jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Kim, Hey, hope we caught you in
Speaker 1: a good mood today. Okay, I don't expect him though.
Speaker 1: We don't care if you are. I mean, it's fine
Speaker 1: if you're not, that's okay too. How did you guys
Speaker 1: get my number? Good question. We had a listener give
Speaker 1: it to us after telling us a story about a
Speaker 1: date that you two went on. Okay, who is it
Speaker 1: talking about? Aiden? Aiden gave you my number? Yeah, because
Speaker 1: it's part of a segment we're doing right now called
Speaker 1: a second Date Update. We're trying to help Aiden figure
Speaker 1: out why date number two hasn't happened. Yet it doesn't
Speaker 1: seem like you're that interested. Is that true? Well, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not that interested anymore. I mean I knew it.
Speaker 1: Did you like google search him or something and find
Speaker 1: out something weird? No? Should I No, I didn't mean that.
Speaker 1: I didn't mean like that. I meant like he told
Speaker 1: us about the data. It sounded great, And then now
Speaker 1: it sounds like you hate him just based on the
Speaker 1: text messages that he was reading to us. Oh, he
Speaker 1: was reading text messages to you because we felt the
Speaker 1: same way that he did. That. It seems like from
Speaker 1: what happened that night, you two had a great time.
Speaker 1: So there's obviously a disconnect happening. We're trying to figure
Speaker 1: out where it is. Well, if you want to know,
Speaker 1: I just I mean, I thought Aiden was great. He
Speaker 1: was super sweet, good, he's funny, the date was great.
Speaker 1: But I just started noticing some patterns that I don't
Speaker 1: really want in a potential partner. Okay, okay, what is it?
Speaker 1: What type of patterns were you seeing? Well, so when
Speaker 1: we first started talking, we were really flirting over text,
Speaker 1: and I would send him like selfies of me, like
Speaker 1: getting ready to go out with the girls and you know,
Speaker 1: just be cute and flirting, and he would comments and
Speaker 1: reply with these long paragraphs about how cuto was just whatever,
Speaker 1: just like making me feel super beautiful and super seen.
Speaker 1: And then after the date, I sent him another picture
Speaker 1: and he just replied with a heart emoji reaction. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: yeah right, I mean not after like what he'd been
Speaker 1: doing the previous week when I've been sending him pictures.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it just feels weird. It feels like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like maybe a little taken
Speaker 1: advantage of taking advantage of what does that mean. I
Speaker 1: don't know, Like he fix he made out, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like he asked you out again, though he said he
Speaker 1: wanted to hang out with you again, Like his fix
Speaker 1: is just kissing. It just seems like he wasn't that attentive.
Speaker 1: That's what it was. And I don't even know why
Speaker 1: I'm telling you people on the radio, it's like there's
Speaker 1: a you think there was like a vibe shift because
Speaker 1: he didn't write a paragraph, but he just like loved
Speaker 1: your girl. Yeah, he liked you so much he contacted
Speaker 1: a radio station to get a hold of you, to
Speaker 1: get another date with you. Yeah, that's just finding that
Speaker 1: out now. But you were reading it wrong, obviously, is
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yeah, I don't think I am reading
Speaker 1: it wrong. He was treating me a lot different before.
Speaker 1: You like a hype response and you just get the
Speaker 1: heart still means a lot like. Yeah, maybe he reached
Speaker 1: his text limit and that was all that he could get.
Speaker 1: I don't think. It's probably just you don't have time
Speaker 1: always to do that. Yeah, And it feels like you're
Speaker 1: too desperate. You don't want to do it with everyone.
Speaker 1: It's too needy, I mean, and even if you left
Speaker 1: you on red it'd be worse than a horror. Don't
Speaker 1: let us tell you. Let aid and tell you directly,
Speaker 1: because he's been on the other line listening this whole
Speaker 1: time and he wants to say it. Oh hey, how
Speaker 1: you doing a poem ready? Bro? I don't know. I look,
Speaker 1: I don't even know what I'm supposed to do here,
Speaker 1: you know, Sorry, Kim, I I literally don't know what
Speaker 1: you need for me. So you want me to write
Speaker 1: a paragraph every time you send a picture? Is that
Speaker 1: what you want? Because no, I just feels like a
Speaker 1: little bit of a red flag for me. Oh um, Well,
Speaker 1: that's a red coast for you there. I don't know
Speaker 1: why you call the radio station. Oh yeah, it's just
Speaker 1: like send a message back saying something. You know. It
Speaker 1: just makes me, I like feel embarrassed, and I like,
Speaker 1: I put this effort into taking a picture and sending
Speaker 1: it to you, and yet you like just hearted it.
Speaker 1: I don't know. So a heart isn't isn't enough of
Speaker 1: a show of appreciation selfie? Or was it a little
Speaker 1: bit more provocative? You know, because that is a difference.
Speaker 1: Oh well that is selfie just deserves a heart, no offense.
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying I'm not sending these pictures to
Speaker 1: every man. I mean I'm sending to him. I mean
Speaker 1: they're they're like subjective, but they're not extreme. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't you want to know. I don't even talking
Speaker 1: about these pictures. So you just need more validation in
Speaker 1: your life? Is Yeah, it comes down to a would
Speaker 1: you like to apologize for not validating her? I was
Speaker 1: validating her with the heart. I didn't know she needed
Speaker 1: like words of affirmation. Okay, but think about it, like
Speaker 1: when you write something funny in like a group text
Speaker 1: and people just do a haha to it instead of
Speaker 1: like writing back, Oh my god, that was so funny, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's a half hearted heart that happens
Speaker 1: all the time in my group text So maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know. I thought we had a great time. Look,
Speaker 1: I'm willing to learn. I'm willing to get coaching here.
Speaker 1: If you need more, I'm happy to give you more.
Speaker 1: All right, that's a good And it's good that you
Speaker 1: guys are having some open communication right now. I agree.
Speaker 1: He sounds pretty remorseful for not being more appreciative because
Speaker 1: he didn't he didn't realize that she needed that. But
Speaker 1: now that he knows, he can change exactly. Yeah. If
Speaker 1: he knows that, now that's different. Okay. Yeah. The thing
Speaker 1: is that I don't know if he's going to do
Speaker 1: it on a consistent basis, Like every time you make God,
Speaker 1: is he just going to give me like a thumbed
Speaker 1: up I don't know. High five after a good makeout
Speaker 1: session is always good? He texts him like good, yeah, God,
Speaker 1: high five your husband? Yeah? Sure, oh god, I'm willing
Speaker 1: to understand that if it was like a pattern, but
Speaker 1: this only happened once, so I'm willing to take the
Speaker 1: note and I'm happy to change, but just start right
Speaker 1: now by saying one really nice thing about the way
Speaker 1: that she looks in her last picture. So ahead, there
Speaker 1: you go. You have amazing legs, like absolutely, guard that's
Speaker 1: a little bit too long. I need just one word
Speaker 1: art legs changed. He's a changed man. He's got to
Speaker 1: work his way up, and he'll do that on the
Speaker 1: next date you guys go out with that will pay
Speaker 1: for if you're up for giving him another shot at that. Kim,
Speaker 1: what do you say? One more date? He'm fine, fine,
Speaker 1: as long as you're willing to learn it. Like I
Speaker 1: did have a good time. Oh yeah, great, that was
Speaker 1: angry sweet same time. Fine, great, the most romantic ending
Speaker 1: to a second date we've ever We did it right, well,
Speaker 1: thank you, just say whatever and Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 1: I know our number one goal on these is trying
Speaker 1: to get our listeners a second date. I get that
Speaker 1: thousand percent, and we did that. Brooke has tends to
Speaker 1: be the opposite, but somebody has stuff carry the torch
Speaker 1: and champion love, and that's going to be the me
Speaker 1: We're getting the one. That's so. I'm glad we got
Speaker 1: that second date. But does anybody else think it's a
Speaker 1: little bit weird that she completely stopped talking to him
Speaker 1: and was willing to never see him again because he
Speaker 1: hearted a photo. It sounds like he's destined to have
Speaker 1: one of her like Jose type relationships. How did those
Speaker 1: go a little tumultuous? Yeah, burn hot in the beginning
Speaker 1: and go ice cold within. Yeah, but sometimes that's all
Speaker 1: people are looking for. Jeff Yeah, you know we're not.
Speaker 1: It's not called eighteen date update. We just gotta get
Speaker 1: one more. Yea, that's a victory for us. We want
Speaker 1: to get you some victories in the dating world. You
Speaker 1: can email the show. We'll call that person who isn't
Speaker 1: calling you back. And check out all of our second
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