WEBVTT - Second Date Update: How Dare You Heart Me

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<v Speaker 1>Second dat day. We've heard of fails happening on first dates,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of them, like forgetting your wallet by accident,

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<v Speaker 1>or hitting a parked car trying to parallel park in

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<v Speaker 1>front of the restaurant. We don't hear a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>stories though, with altercations where punches are thrown. What is

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<v Speaker 1>that what we're doing? Apparently that's what happened with one

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners Aiden. Oh no, so, Aiden, please tell

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<v Speaker 1>me that you were at a UFC fight watching the

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<v Speaker 1>melee in the octagon. Is that what you meant or

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<v Speaker 1>are we talking about your fists? No, man, it was

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<v Speaker 1>It was my fist, but it was all in my head. Wait,

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<v Speaker 1>what what I'll get there? That's oh my god? Well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>wonder anyone is not calling you back. Nobody likes fighting

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<v Speaker 1>on the first date. Yeah. I don't think we should

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<v Speaker 1>rush to judgment here before we hear the story, even

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<v Speaker 1>if it does sound kind of weird at first glance. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but Aiden, I mean take us back to the ginning.

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<v Speaker 1>What's your date's name? Her name is Kim Okay, she

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<v Speaker 1>was cool. Yeah. I met her online and her profile

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<v Speaker 1>said my father used to say, whatever you do, do

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<v Speaker 1>it one hundred percent. When you work, you work hard.

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<v Speaker 1>When you laugh, you laugh hard, you laugh loudly. When

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<v Speaker 1>you eat, eat a ton of food. Right, Dad's like,

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<v Speaker 1>no one's watching. Ye. I was like, hey, your dad

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<v Speaker 1>said that, right, So I was like, me and your dad,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a lot in common. I'd like to feed

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<v Speaker 1>you a lot of food and laugh loudly with you.

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<v Speaker 1>And she she loved it. Okay, okay, Yeah, It's usually

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<v Speaker 1>not a great thing to say, like, hey, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>lot like your dad to a woman that your no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not not no, no. If you follow it, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to feed you a lot of food. Everyone says

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<v Speaker 1>yes to that. Yeah, that's what you want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>So would you guys do? How'd you guys bond? It

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<v Speaker 1>was good. I mean we chatted and then we uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, excited to let do a date and everything

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<v Speaker 1>like that. So we both met up for a few

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<v Speaker 1>drinks and a barment not food. I thought, the whole

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<v Speaker 1>point is you're going to feed her a bunch of food.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm assuming this bar has food. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>still that's not like a choice of food. He drinks

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<v Speaker 1>are edible. But if you if you went to a restaurant,

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<v Speaker 1>you'd be like, what no drinks? He promised food. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought there'd be more thought into what they were going

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<v Speaker 1>to eat. I don't think that that is a bad expectation. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>was was there food at this bar? Can we put

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<v Speaker 1>this to rest? Maybe this is how the fight started. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>there was food. Okay. She was the one that suggested

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<v Speaker 1>she suggested this bar anyway, Okay, all right, So how

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<v Speaker 1>was it like the first meeting? How are you feeling

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<v Speaker 1>when you see her for the first time? Beautiful, fantastic,

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<v Speaker 1>She was hilarious. We joked a lot, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and so like, we had a few drinks and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>pick a guy in a bar and I'll fight them

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<v Speaker 1>for you right now. And she laughed and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want you to fight anybody anymore. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is where it happened. She's like, maybe yourself there. So

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<v Speaker 1>I punched myself in the head and she laughed, and

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<v Speaker 1>we've done like that, and then I thought it got extreme.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, oh my god, I have a nice of

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<v Speaker 1>himself a concussion yourself. Was it like a serious punch

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<v Speaker 1>or joke? No, it was a joke. Okay. Very light

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<v Speaker 1>in the light above my temple. It was perfectly fine, right,

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<v Speaker 1>this is I think we can all rest easy now.

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<v Speaker 1>And she liked the self punch. Yeah, she thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was hilarious. Good, okay, you sound like you have the

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<v Speaker 1>same sense of humor. Absolutely absolutely. But then she got like,

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<v Speaker 1>well we had a humor drinks from ended up going

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<v Speaker 1>back to my place to see a movie. Okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>we made out for a little bit. She like, you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't go any farther than that, but it was nice.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really nice. That goes against her policy of

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<v Speaker 1>when you make out, make out as hard as time.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I can't breathe. Maybe that's why she's acting

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<v Speaker 1>all weird. I don't know what did she say when

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<v Speaker 1>she left. She said she had a good time. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but she's been acting strange over text. What do you

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<v Speaker 1>mean she's acting strange? Yeah? I just I asked her

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<v Speaker 1>if she wanted to hang on Friday. I asked she

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<v Speaker 1>was free, and she said, huh you would like that,

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't you. I roll emoji. Oh kid. Maybe she's trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be sarcastic on text and it's not really out

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<v Speaker 1>a weird response. No, yeah, I mean so, I said,

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<v Speaker 1>l yeah, I would are you up for it, and

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<v Speaker 1>she said whatever did you ask her, like, did I

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<v Speaker 1>do something to make you angry? Women don't like when

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<v Speaker 1>you get at She just at it. She just ended

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<v Speaker 1>with whatever, Okay, I mean and she said whatever in capped.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe she's just mad that you got beat up on

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<v Speaker 1>your date and she doesn't want to date to wuss. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but he also kind of won that fight at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time. True, is there anything she could have found

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<v Speaker 1>out about you, like on a Google search or something,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe inside your apartment because she was over there

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<v Speaker 1>for at least a little bit. Yeah. Oh no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a normal guy. I have got a normal job. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>all good. That's what all the crazies say. I don't know, man,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like the day was really playful, very fun, and

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<v Speaker 1>then back to my place it was very romantic and like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, and then those attitude all the way

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<v Speaker 1>at the end here and I like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on. Oh that is weird. Sounds like you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship already. Let's call Kim here and we'll

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<v Speaker 1>ask her the question that all women love to be asked,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you so mad at me? Yeah? What did

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<v Speaker 1>I do? Yeah, maybe we could tone down that tone.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you so upset with the way that I

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<v Speaker 1>said it? Anyway, we'll do your second date update now.

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<v Speaker 1>Second texting in a new relationship can be so dangerous

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<v Speaker 1>because they can ask you, Hey, what do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to eat tonight? And you respond whatever, okay, and that

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<v Speaker 1>sounds to your ears, but the person on the other

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<v Speaker 1>phone might read it as whatever. So normally we reserve

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<v Speaker 1>judgment in these situations, except for the fact that in

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<v Speaker 1>this case the girl used all caps. I do not

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<v Speaker 1>forget that. That's why when our listener Aiden said, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd really like to see you. Is that okay with you? Whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>I roll emoji. I think we're reading that correctly. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And the only question that we have is why why

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<v Speaker 1>would she respond that way? Because they had a really

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<v Speaker 1>normal date. They went back to his place, made out,

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<v Speaker 1>and he said he just wants to hang out again,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's giving an attitude. I don't get it personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm scared Aiden, Yeah, me too, I don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like to call angry women. It's just you just like

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<v Speaker 1>to be one, Yeah, waiting to happen. Yeah, it really is.

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<v Speaker 1>And you can't think of any reason why should be

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<v Speaker 1>so mad at you? I literally can't think of one thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a great date, laughed a lot, and a

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<v Speaker 1>little romantic at the end, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and with good boundaries like the whole thing. Yeah. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>well we're all confused. Hopefully something we learn and get

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<v Speaker 1>a little clarity. Maybe she's just randomly mad he texted

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<v Speaker 1>her on the wrong day. Maybe whatever, jose Let's just

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<v Speaker 1>call this girl and what she has to say. Here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. Hello, Hey is this Kim? Yeah? Hey, Kim.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 1>in the Morning. Kim, Hey, hope we caught you in

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<v Speaker 1>a good mood today. Okay, I don't expect him though.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't care if you are. I mean, it's fine

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not, that's okay too. How did you guys

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<v Speaker 1>get my number? Good question. We had a listener give

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<v Speaker 1>it to us after telling us a story about a

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<v Speaker 1>date that you two went on. Okay, who is it

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<v Speaker 1>talking about? Aiden? Aiden gave you my number? Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's part of a segment we're doing right now called

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<v Speaker 1>a second Date Update. We're trying to help Aiden figure

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<v Speaker 1>out why date number two hasn't happened. Yet it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>seem like you're that interested. Is that true? Well, well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that interested anymore. I mean I knew it.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you like google search him or something and find

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<v Speaker 1>out something weird? No? Should I No, I didn't mean that.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean like that. I meant like he told

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<v Speaker 1>us about the data. It sounded great, And then now

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you hate him just based on the

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<v Speaker 1>text messages that he was reading to us. Oh, he

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<v Speaker 1>was reading text messages to you because we felt the

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<v Speaker 1>same way that he did. That. It seems like from

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<v Speaker 1>what happened that night, you two had a great time.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's obviously a disconnect happening. We're trying to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out where it is. Well, if you want to know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I mean, I thought Aiden was great. He

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<v Speaker 1>was super sweet, good, he's funny, the date was great.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just started noticing some patterns that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really want in a potential partner. Okay, okay, what is it?

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<v Speaker 1>What type of patterns were you seeing? Well, so when

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<v Speaker 1>we first started talking, we were really flirting over text,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would send him like selfies of me, like

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<v Speaker 1>getting ready to go out with the girls and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just be cute and flirting, and he would comments and

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<v Speaker 1>reply with these long paragraphs about how cuto was just whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>just like making me feel super beautiful and super seen.

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<v Speaker 1>And then after the date, I sent him another picture

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<v Speaker 1>and he just replied with a heart emoji reaction. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah right, I mean not after like what he'd been

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<v Speaker 1>doing the previous week when I've been sending him pictures.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it just feels weird. It feels like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I feel like maybe a little taken

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<v Speaker 1>advantage of taking advantage of what does that mean. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Like he fix he made out, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>like he asked you out again, though he said he

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to hang out with you again, Like his fix

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<v Speaker 1>is just kissing. It just seems like he wasn't that attentive.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it was. And I don't even know why

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you people on the radio, it's like there's

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<v Speaker 1>a you think there was like a vibe shift because

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't write a paragraph, but he just like loved

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<v Speaker 1>your girl. Yeah, he liked you so much he contacted

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<v Speaker 1>a radio station to get a hold of you, to

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<v Speaker 1>get another date with you. Yeah, that's just finding that

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<v Speaker 1>out now. But you were reading it wrong, obviously, is

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Yeah, I don't think I am reading

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<v Speaker 1>it wrong. He was treating me a lot different before.

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<v Speaker 1>You like a hype response and you just get the

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<v Speaker 1>heart still means a lot like. Yeah, maybe he reached

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<v Speaker 1>his text limit and that was all that he could get.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think. It's probably just you don't have time

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<v Speaker 1>always to do that. Yeah, And it feels like you're

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<v Speaker 1>too desperate. You don't want to do it with everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too needy, I mean, and even if you left

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<v Speaker 1>you on red it'd be worse than a horror. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>let us tell you. Let aid and tell you directly,

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<v Speaker 1>because he's been on the other line listening this whole

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<v Speaker 1>time and he wants to say it. Oh hey, how

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<v Speaker 1>you doing a poem ready? Bro? I don't know. I look,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know what I'm supposed to do here,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Sorry, Kim, I I literally don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>you need for me. So you want me to write

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<v Speaker 1>a paragraph every time you send a picture? Is that

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<v Speaker 1>what you want? Because no, I just feels like a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of a red flag for me. Oh um, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a red coast for you there. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>why you call the radio station. Oh yeah, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>like send a message back saying something. You know. It

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<v Speaker 1>just makes me, I like feel embarrassed, and I like,

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<v Speaker 1>I put this effort into taking a picture and sending

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<v Speaker 1>it to you, and yet you like just hearted it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. So a heart isn't isn't enough of

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<v Speaker 1>a show of appreciation selfie? Or was it a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more provocative? You know, because that is a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh well that is selfie just deserves a heart, no offense.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm just saying I'm not sending these pictures to

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<v Speaker 1>every man. I mean I'm sending to him. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're like subjective, but they're not extreme. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't you want to know. I don't even talking

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<v Speaker 1>about these pictures. So you just need more validation in

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<v Speaker 1>your life? Is Yeah, it comes down to a would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to apologize for not validating her? I was

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<v Speaker 1>validating her with the heart. I didn't know she needed

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<v Speaker 1>like words of affirmation. Okay, but think about it, like

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<v Speaker 1>when you write something funny in like a group text

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<v Speaker 1>and people just do a haha to it instead of

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<v Speaker 1>like writing back, Oh my god, that was so funny, like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. That's a half hearted heart that happens

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<v Speaker 1>all the time in my group text So maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I thought we had a great time. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm willing to learn. I'm willing to get coaching here.

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<v Speaker 1>If you need more, I'm happy to give you more.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, that's a good And it's good that you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are having some open communication right now. I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>He sounds pretty remorseful for not being more appreciative because

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't he didn't realize that she needed that. But

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<v Speaker 1>now that he knows, he can change exactly. Yeah. If

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<v Speaker 1>he knows that, now that's different. Okay. Yeah. The thing

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<v Speaker 1>is that I don't know if he's going to do

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<v Speaker 1>it on a consistent basis, Like every time you make God,

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<v Speaker 1>is he just going to give me like a thumbed

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<v Speaker 1>up I don't know. High five after a good makeout

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<v Speaker 1>session is always good? He texts him like good, yeah, God,

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<v Speaker 1>high five your husband? Yeah? Sure, oh god, I'm willing

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<v Speaker 1>to understand that if it was like a pattern, but

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<v Speaker 1>this only happened once, so I'm willing to take the

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<v Speaker 1>note and I'm happy to change, but just start right

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<v Speaker 1>now by saying one really nice thing about the way

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<v Speaker 1>that she looks in her last picture. So ahead, there

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<v Speaker 1>you go. You have amazing legs, like absolutely, guard that's

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit too long. I need just one word

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<v Speaker 1>art legs changed. He's a changed man. He's got to

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<v Speaker 1>work his way up, and he'll do that on the

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<v Speaker 1>next date you guys go out with that will pay

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<v Speaker 1>for if you're up for giving him another shot at that. Kim,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you say? One more date? He'm fine, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>as long as you're willing to learn it. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>did have a good time. Oh yeah, great, that was

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<v Speaker 1>angry sweet same time. Fine, great, the most romantic ending

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<v Speaker 1>to a second date we've ever We did it right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, just say whatever and Jeffrey in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I know our number one goal on these is trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get our listeners a second date. I get that

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<v Speaker 1>thousand percent, and we did that. Brooke has tends to

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<v Speaker 1>be the opposite, but somebody has stuff carry the torch

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<v Speaker 1>and champion love, and that's going to be the me

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<v Speaker 1>We're getting the one. That's so. I'm glad we got

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<v Speaker 1>that second date. But does anybody else think it's a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit weird that she completely stopped talking to him

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<v Speaker 1>and was willing to never see him again because he

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<v Speaker 1>hearted a photo. It sounds like he's destined to have

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<v Speaker 1>one of her like Jose type relationships. How did those

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<v Speaker 1>go a little tumultuous? Yeah, burn hot in the beginning

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<v Speaker 1>and go ice cold within. Yeah, but sometimes that's all

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<v Speaker 1>people are looking for. Jeff Yeah, you know we're not.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not called eighteen date update. We just gotta get

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<v Speaker 1>one more. Yea, that's a victory for us. We want

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<v Speaker 1>to get you some victories in the dating world. You

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<v Speaker 1>can email the show. We'll call that person who isn't

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<v Speaker 1>calling you back. And check out all of our second

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<v Speaker 1>date podcasts. They're up online wherever you get your past

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<v Speaker 1>or you can go to our website Brooke and Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 1>dot com Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning