WEBVTT - Sorry I get frustrated. But you can't question this! 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:07.480 Laura, let me start backwards here your last paragraph. I 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:11.479 feel disconnected and I'm questioning if there's any reason to 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:15.520 spend the rest of my life with him. Yes, Yes, 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:30.120 there's a reason. Parker back on the podcast today is 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:33.560 my guest. I love Evan Parker. You claim to be 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:37.360 the relationship guy on this podcast. I feel like I 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:40.479 just want to be I want to be put wherever 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:45.760 I can help the most. This podcast has evolved so 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:49.640 much into so many different aspects of life, and I 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:52.760 was just thinking all of the wise men and women 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:56.320 that you have on this podcast. I always just tend 0:00:56.360 --> 0:01:00.280 to get the younger person questions because it's more fresh 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.240 for me. So I was like, I'll hope whatever I can, 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:07.360 I tend to be used for the young guy who's 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.520 having relationship issues, which is a very common problem. So 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:13.200 many questions come up on this podcast and so many 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:18.560 different categories that we talk about. And you, of all 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:23.200 the guests that I have, you are more quiet, But 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:25.120 that's how you are in real life. You're a listener. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.800 You think you listen, but then when you talk, it's 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:32.160 like this explosion of wisdom will come in these spurts. 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:37.119 That's incredible and you're one of the reasons, although you're 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:39.280 my little brother, you're one of the reasons that you're 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:42.640 a consistent guest on this podcast, and you're one of 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:45.040 the reasons that you're on episode one hundred next week. 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:50.040 So everyone listening, we have pre recorded already episode one hundred. 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.560 This is episode ninety nine. We're gonna have episode one 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:55.040 hundred coming next Monday. You're not gonna want to miss it. 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:57.120 So if you listen to this, if you're new, or 0:01:57.160 --> 0:01:59.080 if this is your first one, or if you listen 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:03.280 all the time, mark on your calendars next Monday morning, 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.680 episode one hundred. I have some all star guests that 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:09.520 we're all here in a panel together. If you don't 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.760 know about this podcast, we answer your questions, you could 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:18.680 email them to Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Grangersmith 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:22.960 podcast at gmail dot com. Could be any question on 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.880 any topic and any subject, and that's what, like you're saying, 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:29.040 this podcast has evolved, and that's what it's evolved too, 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:33.880 to answering your questions. I feel very blessed to have 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:37.919 people surrounding me in my life wise counsel that I 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:40.400 could talk to about anything, any kind of subject that 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:43.640 could be in a setting of the cab of a 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:45.920 truck on a road trip or sitting around a campfire, 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:47.880 and it's like, hey, man, could I kind of run 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:49.799 something by you? I got something going on in my life. 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:51.760 I want to run it by you. I love that 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:54.240 I have that wise council, and it occurred to me 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:57.760 that I should share that wise counsel with the world 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:00.920 in a podcast form. So and then I'm kind of 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:04.200 blown away that this podcast has grown to what it is. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:08.760 I mean, we're consistently in the top chart of all 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:13.239 music podcasts in the world, and it's a testament to 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:18.720 knowing that people genuinely want to talk about life and 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.560 listen about life and listen to listen to other people's questions. 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:24.320 Because although I'm going to answer several questions on here 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:27.399 from you guys, obviously most of you will not get 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.639 your question answered on this episode. But I would like 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.440 to think that everything we talk about in the range 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:36.400 of subjects, something is going to relate to your life 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:37.760 or you're gonna be able to take some kind of 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:40.120 nugget out of it. I know I do from my 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.480 own life. I listen to you guys, and I go 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:44.880 through this podcast, and I ended up learning so much 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:48.600 about my own life just because of it. So yeah, 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.120 I was going to say, it's just as beneficial for 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.600 us to come together and be thinking about these topics 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.960 and see what people are dealing with on a day 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:57.840 to day basis, whether you know it or not, some 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.200 of the different issues, and how thirsty they are for 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:03.280 for knowledge and guidance for sure. And you know, I 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.400 know you do, and I know Chad and Bernie and 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.720 Christian all of us research so much during the week. 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:12.440 We research other things, and we read so much, and 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.560 we're constantly learning. And now that now that I when 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:19.560 I read now and I listen to things, I'm in 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:21.960 my mind, I'm going, ooh, that's a that's a good 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:25.840 idea to remember. For an answer to a podcast, I 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:29.920 want to start with an easy one here, like a 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:32.159 warm up question, and it says the subject line says 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.200 for Parker, it says, how long has it taken you 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.120 to master the piano? Did you take lessons as a child? 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:41.599 How many years? I truly think acoustic guitar and piano 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:45.800 are beautiful together. Hint hint, Granger. This question comes from 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:51.200 Jen Lindler. Well, I was born with it and that's 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:56.320 pretty much it. I've just always been great, right. I 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:59.640 once heard a guys say that I may not be 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:05.479 necessarily gifted in something right off the bat, but I 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:10.120 have a PhD in persistence, and people are always like, man, 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:12.400 that's such a gift. That's such a gift. And yes, honestly, 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.719 the gift of persistence is a gift from God. And 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:17.680 to try to hone in on that is the key. 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.839 And so I've been playing for about four years consistently, 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.880 and I always tell people you're twenty minutes a day 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.400 from becoming a master of whatever you want to become 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:31.839 a master of. There's exceptions here and there to you 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:34.839 want to stay in the ballpark of you know what 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:38.120 you're naturally good at and inclined to do, and what 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.760 you're what you know the desires are that you have. 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:44.080 And I've always just been interested in piano, and so 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:46.120 I've been playing about twenty minutes a day for four 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.080 years and that's kind of where I've gotten to where 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:50.400 I am. So you're you're twenty minutes a day from 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:54.640 any particular hobby or skill on the side that you 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:56.159 want to be good at. In a couple of years, 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.000 you'll be you'll be pretty proficient at it. Totally agree 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.200 and the accept your talking about. It's like, for instance, 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:04.440 an NFL quarterback. You can't practice twenty minutes a day 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:06.839 and then eventually you're going to be an NFL quarterback. 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:10.000 There's just certain limitations that we have as humans. But 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:13.200 I think, for the most part, especially musical instruments, that 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:17.400 twenty minutes a day thing is you're gonna be proficient 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.680 in guitar or piano no matter who you are, no 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.880 matter if you don't have a creative or a musical 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:26.440 bone in your entire body. You practice for twenty minutes 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.520 a day for and put that together in a course 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:31.840 of so many years, you're gonna be able to sit 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:35.400 around at Christmas time and play Christmas carols on the 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.080 piano or the guitar. You just are so And that 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:40.760 goes with anything in life. It's not just piano and guitar. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.640 It's anything you want to get. You want to get 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:45.680 pretty decent. I mean, if you practice ping pong for 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.400 twenty minutes a day for five years, you're gonna be 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:50.440 the best ping pong player in your family and in 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:54.640 your friend group, hands down. Yeah, it's about getting one 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:58.080 percent better every day and having the humility to set 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:00.440 the bar properly low for yourself to where it's like 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.000 learning piano and seeing someone else who's really gets really 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:05.040 easy to compare yourself. You look at Granger and listen 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.719 to him saying you're not going to be that good 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:08.760 when you first try seeing But if you're able to 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:10.680 set that bar properly low and be like, Okay, I'm 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:12.840 going to try to hit these two notes today, or 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:14.800 I just want to figure out what key this piano 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:16.400 song is in and I'm going to find it on 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:19.280 the board and then do it, and then over time, 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:23.160 that's what's gonna That's what's going to get you to 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:25.920 that level is is taking it one day at a 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:31.040 time and not getting discouraged by looking at where someone 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:32.920 else is before that. And then the other thing is 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:37.360 where are you finding your validation? Are you are your 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:40.680 what's the motivation for learning it? Is it to be 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:44.720 able to impress people to try to make up for 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:46.680 some insecurity that you have. Are you trying to find 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:48.520 that validation from other people? Or are you like, I 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:50.800 just want to learn this because I genuinely like playing 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.240 piano by myself, and if nobody ever hears it, then 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:56.520 that's okay, But just question yourself too, before you wake 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:57.880 up ten years down the road and you're like, I 0:07:57.880 --> 0:08:00.360 did that to prove somebody else wrong out of anger 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.920 or spite or pride. And if you can do it 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.320 just because you genuinely enjoy it, you're not trying to 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:11.080 get validation from it, then that'll help it be longer 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:14.560 lasting and meaningful. I've heard somebody say before that you 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.960 could always tell in somebody's life how bad somebody wants 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:22.640 something by the result of what that manifestation is in 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:27.000 their life. So if someone says, for instance, man, my 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.880 number one goal is to be a great dad, But 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.440 then you look at their life and their kids are 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:33.720 out of control and they like to spend more time 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:35.880 on the you know, on the bass boat on the 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.400 weekends than they do throwing the ball with their kid. 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:42.000 Then you go, well, then you don't really want to 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:45.400 be a great dad. Yeah, your actions are so loud, 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.640 I can't hear what you're saying. Yeah, the result is 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:54.040 right there, the manifestation of what that is. So like 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:57.959 when someone says, I really really want to learn piano, 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.839 do you play piano? No, I just really want to learn. Well, 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:07.760 then you don't really want to learn because you're not trying. Yeah, 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:12.679 so let's go specific to this question from Jen how 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:16.000 many years and do you take lessons? We'll start with that, 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:18.880 like be specific about her question, how many years have 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:21.800 you been playing? I've been playing off and on since 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.959 I was about seventeen. I didn't play for four years 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:26.800 when I was in college, and I didn't play for 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.040 the first year out of college. I decided to take 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.720 it seriously and start doing literally twenty minutes a day 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.599 is what I started doing about four years ago, a 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:40.000 little over four years ago. And then I started getting 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.280 to the point where I was like, Okay, I'm getting better. 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:44.600 I would like some additional guidance to get to the 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.320 next level. And I've been taking lessons once a week, 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.120 which has helped me a lot with accountability and with 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.440 learning the theory and some of the things that I 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.920 don't love doing, like reading sheet music and learning the theory, 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:57.640 the stuff that's a little bit more boring to me. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.400 It's helped me be it's helped keep me account and 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:04.920 I've been taking lessons consistently for a little over one year. Yeah, 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:07.319 So that goes back to also time blocking your day. 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:10.679 So Jen, if you really want to learn piano, then 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:12.280 you just time block your day and you go, okay, 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:16.439 I need twenty minutes, and you set set your expectations low, 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:19.480 set the bar low. I think that's a great plan 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:22.719 in terms of don't tell yourself you're gonna practice for 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.920 two hours a day for seven days a week. Yeah, 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.000 you get burned out. You're gonna get burned out. And 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:29.559 when you when you don't meet that expectation of yourself, 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.120 you're gonna go, you know what, I was just never 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:34.720 cut out for it. So I think twenty minutes is 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:37.600 even ten even if you start with ten, like Jordan 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:41.000 Peterson would say, set your bar super low, ten minutes 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:43.199 a day. I'm gonna go ten minutes a day, five 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:46.600 days a week, Monday through Friday. Ten minutes. And that's 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:50.080 and that's that's something that you could build on because 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:51.839 then you go ten minutes works, I'm gonna bump it 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:55.679 up to fifteen. And you just add all that up 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:58.360 and you look back one day and you go, wow, 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:01.000 I play piano. Piano and just any instrument is such 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.559 a such a good analogy for life too, because it's 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.440 so easy to just get caught up in how other 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:09.280 people are where they're at, or focusing on wanting to 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.120 be able to play the whole song perfectly when it's 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.920 like I just need to focus on playing these few 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:19.600 notes today correctly and be content with that totally. Let's 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:30.240 get into some heavy stuff. How about relationship problems? That says, Hey, 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:33.120 this is Caleb from Arkansas. I'm fourteen. I want your 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:37.280 advice on relationship problems. I just recently met the most 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:41.400 wonderful and perfect girl. We started dating for about a month, 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.200 but what hurt me most was when I found out 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.959 her parents didn't want her to date until she's older, 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.360 which I understand and I'm sure you do too, since 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:52.080 you have a daughter. But we had to break up 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:55.960 and I fell into a major cloud of depression and 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.199 I don't know what to do about making us how 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.520 this is going to work for our future. Do you 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:02.679 have any suggestions on how to get rid of depression 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:04.920 and how to convince her parents? Then I'm not a 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.200 bad kid. Thank you for taking the time to read this. 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.080 I love what you do. Keep up the great work. 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:16.160 God bless thank you. Caleb shout out to Arkansas. It's 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:19.520 a common question I see this kind of question in 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:25.319 a different form all the time. Coming into this podcast, 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:31.960 I'm trying to figuret where to start. Fourteen. We'll start 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:35.600 that he's fourteen, Yeah, exactly. It's not Caleb. It's just 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.920 not a big deal. It is a big deal in 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:41.840 your world, I understand, But in the perspective of your life, 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:44.560 it's not a big deal that you found the most 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:50.120 wonderful and perfect girl. I think you are. You're needing 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:55.439 something from a wonderful, perfect girl that you are, that's 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:58.200 making up for something else that you're missing as a 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:02.320 fourteen year old because you you shouldn't, you shouldn't crave 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:04.600 this so bad that you go into a cloud of depression. 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.360 I think that's stemming from something else. So let me 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.720 go ahead and answer one part of your question. Do 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:15.240 you have any suggestions on how to get rid of depression? Brother, 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.680 that's a different there's a different question. Those are two 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:23.400 profoundly different questions here. And so if this, if this 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:27.920 is causing you depression or a major cloud as you 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:31.720 put as you put it, then there's something wrong. There's 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:35.760 something that's like saying I have a headache, Oh my gosh, 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:39.439 I have a headache, and then you go and you 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.679 get an MRI and there's like a growth on your brain, 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.600 Like there's a difference between having a headache because you 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.000 have allergies and there's actually a growth on your brain. 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:51.839 There's something deeper than allergies going on here with you 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:55.880 with your headache per se. So then the other part 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.080 of the question is that we'll get into, is you 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:01.319 found out her parents don't want her to date till 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.480 she's older, which I think is a really good rule, 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:10.600 And there's something to say for a teenager or young 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:18.160 twenties in respecting the girl's parents' decision. And that's a 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:23.000 major thing, right, Respecting what her parents think about her 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:26.840 age and dating needs to come as a high priority 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:28.960 to you. You have to honor that, You have to 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:31.320 honor parents, You have to honor your parents, and you 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:34.400 need to honor this girl if you truly, if you 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:37.920 truly think she's a wonderful girl that probably has a 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:39.320 lot to do with she was brought up the right 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:42.680 way with parents that are keeping an eye on her. Yeah, 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:44.520 the older I get, it would be hard to tell 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:47.640 my fourteen year old self this, But the older I get, 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:51.280 the more I am aware that it's probably not the 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:54.320 best idea to be dating anybody unless you're in a 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:59.640 place to marry them. To the point of dating is 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:04.320 to be evaluate somebody for marriage. And if you're fourteen 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:08.800 years old, probably not in that season of your life. Yet. 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:13.040 You are becoming a young man. You are making friends, 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.760 you're being a part of sports, You're figuring out the 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:19.640 gifts that God gave you and where you're going to 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:23.080 be and where He needs you to be. And I 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:25.760 think that every young man has gone through that early 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.640 teen heartbreak and it's going to be part of it. 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:29.160 And this is going to be something that he looks 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:30.880 back on and it's going to be such an awesome 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:35.200 learning opportunity for him to be like, hopefully look back 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.760 and say, man, I remember when I idolize that relationship 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.960 over a lot of things, and it completely crushed me. 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:47.240 And you'll learn to just look at relationships in general 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:51.120 and women from a new perspective for sure. Caleb. I'm 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:54.840 saying this to you not because I'm looking down on 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.280 you or looking away from the outside looking in. I'm 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:00.920 saying it because I've lived it. I know Parker's lived it, 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.520 and I know most people listening that have been through 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:09.000 their teen years have lived it. This is not you're 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:12.160 not doing something that's out of the ordinary. I understand 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.600 what you're saying, and so that's why I feel like 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:19.560 I can tell you, buddy, move on, like lean into 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:24.080 your friends, lean into a hobby. Fourteen is the perfect 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:28.640 age to really get into a sport or a hobby. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:32.080 And I say a hobby because maybe you're just not 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.000 athletic at all. So you could lean into the math 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:40.560 theme or the chess team, or art, our, theater, our music. 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:42.680 We just talked about piano. Piano is a great thing 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:44.680 to lean into. Guitar is a great thing to lean into. 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:46.600 That's when I learned how to play guitar. It was 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.280 age fourteen. So think of what that did for me. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:54.320 Leaning into guitar and pouring that time and energy that 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:57.640 you'd be pouring into relationship. Pour that into your buddies, 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:03.160 your guy friends, and an instrument or football or baseball, 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:08.760 wrestling or soccer or track. Lean into that. The time 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:12.040 is coming when you're gonna find the perfect girl for you, 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:16.200 and it might be this one, just not right now. Yeah, 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.440 and in the long run, that's going to be more 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:22.400 attractive to a girl. Anyway, is when she finds someone 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:25.320 who is content and is not desperate and is working 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:30.560 on themselves and working on their purpose rather than trying 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:32.760 so so hard to get in a relationship or to 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:37.679 get back with that X. Yep, good advice, Caleb. Move on, 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.120 all right? How about this one? This is a subject 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.360 on EE Apparel, Parker, you are the CEO of Yue Apparel. 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:50.000 It comes from Michael Buck and he says, Man, what 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:55.000 an awesome name, Michael Buck. That's good name, Michael Buck. 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:57.360 Uncle Buck, I wish I could be an Uncle Buck says, 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.359 I don't know any other way to reach you, guys, 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:01.960 but I was wondering if you could possibly consider releasing 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:05.320 a line of fire resistant long sleeve shirts. I work 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:09.199 in the oil and gas industry and resistant clothing is 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:10.600 a must, and I would love to be able to 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.760 promote EE Nation at work. I strongly believe that I 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.480 wouldn't be the only one to purchase a resistant shirt. 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:18.520 If you could make this happen, that would be amazing. 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:23.679 Michael Buck, ee fan, have you ever thought of that, Parker? 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:26.520 I have not. I will say that as the first 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:29.359 request we've gotten for that, which is typically not the 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:33.400 best sign as a business if you don't have clientele 0:18:33.560 --> 0:18:36.920 that is really needing that. And from our point of view, 0:18:36.920 --> 0:18:39.159 we only have a certain amount of money. We're a 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:41.880 small business that we can spend and it's a big 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:45.119 risk anytime we do a new product. Michael, I'm sorry. 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:46.680 I would love to be able to help you out 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:48.720 if we get some more requests. I'm sure we could 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:52.200 look into doing a limited edition run. Beg. We'll say 0:18:52.240 --> 0:18:54.760 this right now because it's live on the podcast, because 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:57.080 this is out there in the universe now, we could 0:18:57.080 --> 0:19:01.240 say that. Does anyone agree with Michael in comment below 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:05.719 on if you're on iTunes, give this podcast a rating anyway? 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:07.359 That's kind of that really would help us. Give us 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:11.200 a rating and give us a comment. Yes to fire 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:14.440 resistant clothing. Why does he need it? Again, I'm sure 0:19:14.440 --> 0:19:17.200 he's a firefighter. It's got to be a fire. Don't 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:19.520 the firefighters have like the protective outer shell they're not 0:19:19.560 --> 0:19:23.480 going to be wearing. Oh no, I'm sorry, he says. 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:25.439 I work in oil and gas gas. He works in 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:28.919 oil and gas, so's he's around, you know, dangerous stuff 0:19:28.960 --> 0:19:32.400 every day and he probably has the opportunity to wear 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:36.359 whatever apparel he wants as long as it's fr so 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:39.280 comment below. If you're watching on YouTube, comment below say 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:44.000 yes to fire resistant. If you're on Spotify, I don't 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:47.399 think you can comment so we will get a good 0:19:47.720 --> 0:19:51.320 reading on what this means. But Michael, thank you for 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:54.159 being a fan, thank you for supporting YGI apparel, and 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:57.159 thank you for believing in us enough to trust us 0:19:57.200 --> 0:19:58.960 if we were to make fire resistant that you would 0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:02.560 actually wear it in a danger situation. Yeah. True. Wow, Okay, 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:07.040 let's go to ooh this is this is a good subjectcline. 0:20:07.119 --> 0:20:09.760 We have time yet, We have time for this one 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:13.600 and then we'll take a break. The subject line is Christianity, 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:25.280 extremist and marriage. It says this is from Laura from Ontario, Canada. 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.880 It says, good morning, guys, thanks for doing what you do. 0:20:29.320 --> 0:20:33.359 My husband of sixteen years parenthesis maryan a Catholic church 0:20:33.960 --> 0:20:38.320 turned to Christianity approximately eight years ago. We've been together 0:20:38.400 --> 0:20:41.639 for twenty eight years and have a fifteen year old son. 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:46.960 I support his journey and can recognize many upsides to 0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:51.120 desire to be with God and follow his word. There 0:20:51.119 --> 0:20:55.800 have been many adjustments along the way, such as Sabbath, 0:20:56.400 --> 0:21:02.080 no mainstream TV, no alcohol, no work, women must work 0:21:02.160 --> 0:21:05.040 outside the home. Just to Laura a few I'm just 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:07.959 reading it the way it says says. The issue I'm 0:21:07.960 --> 0:21:10.240 struggling with is the fact that eight weeks ago he 0:21:10.320 --> 0:21:14.760 informed me he will not attend my parents' funeral parentheses 0:21:14.800 --> 0:21:18.400 when the time comes, because it will be a Catholic 0:21:18.440 --> 0:21:21.919 ceremony and attending would be sinful in his mind. I 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:25.000 know full well and have told him that he could 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:28.439 attend as a non participant, no matter the denomination, in 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:32.280 order to support his spouse, but he refuses. Although we 0:21:32.280 --> 0:21:35.480 don't agree on all aspects, I'm a believer and would 0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:38.840 not let this affect my relationship with God. God is good. 0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:43.479 I can't help but feel abandoned altogether. I'm really feeling 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:47.280 completely disconnected from him at this point and questioning if 0:21:47.320 --> 0:21:49.880 there's any reason to spend the rest of my life 0:21:49.960 --> 0:21:54.080 with him. Your thoughts, thanks in advance, really looking forward 0:21:54.080 --> 0:22:02.120 to hearing your views on this. Laura from Ontario, Canada, 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:06.240 married sixteen years to recap, been together twenty eight and 0:22:06.280 --> 0:22:10.439 have a fifteen year old son. Is there's a lot 0:22:10.480 --> 0:22:13.200 to unpack and this, Yeah, there is a lot to unpack, 0:22:13.560 --> 0:22:17.760 So let me start backwards. Laura let me start backwards 0:22:17.760 --> 0:22:25.959 here your last paragraph. I feel disconnected and I'm questioning 0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:28.639 if there's any reason to spend the rest of my 0:22:28.680 --> 0:22:34.240 life with him. Yes, yes, there's a reason. Let me 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:37.600 The reason is you've been married sixteen years and you 0:22:37.640 --> 0:22:44.120 have a fifteen year old son. Yes, that's a reason. Listen, everybody, listen. 0:22:44.440 --> 0:22:47.200