1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: Laura, let me start backwards here your last paragraph. I 2 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:11,479 Speaker 1: feel disconnected and I'm questioning if there's any reason to 3 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: spend the rest of my life with him. Yes, Yes, 4 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: there's a reason. Parker back on the podcast today is 5 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,560 Speaker 1: my guest. I love Evan Parker. You claim to be 6 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: the relationship guy on this podcast. I feel like I 7 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: just want to be I want to be put wherever 8 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: I can help the most. This podcast has evolved so 9 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: much into so many different aspects of life, and I 10 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: was just thinking all of the wise men and women 11 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 1: that you have on this podcast. I always just tend 12 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:00,280 Speaker 1: to get the younger person questions because it's more fresh 13 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: for me. So I was like, I'll hope whatever I can, 14 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: I tend to be used for the young guy who's 15 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: having relationship issues, which is a very common problem. So 16 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: many questions come up on this podcast and so many 17 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: different categories that we talk about. And you, of all 18 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: the guests that I have, you are more quiet, But 19 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: that's how you are in real life. You're a listener. 20 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: You think you listen, but then when you talk, it's 21 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: like this explosion of wisdom will come in these spurts. 22 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 1: That's incredible and you're one of the reasons, although you're 23 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: my little brother, you're one of the reasons that you're 24 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: a consistent guest on this podcast, and you're one of 25 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:45,040 Speaker 1: the reasons that you're on episode one hundred next week. 26 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: So everyone listening, we have pre recorded already episode one hundred. 27 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 1: This is episode ninety nine. We're gonna have episode one 28 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: hundred coming next Monday. You're not gonna want to miss it. 29 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: So if you listen to this, if you're new, or 30 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: if this is your first one, or if you listen 31 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: all the time, mark on your calendars next Monday morning, 32 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: episode one hundred. I have some all star guests that 33 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: we're all here in a panel together. If you don't 34 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: know about this podcast, we answer your questions, you could 35 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: email them to Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Grangersmith 36 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com. Could be any question on 37 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: any topic and any subject, and that's what, like you're saying, 38 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: this podcast has evolved, and that's what it's evolved too, 39 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: to answering your questions. I feel very blessed to have 40 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 1: people surrounding me in my life wise counsel that I 41 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: could talk to about anything, any kind of subject that 42 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: could be in a setting of the cab of a 43 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: truck on a road trip or sitting around a campfire, 44 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, man, could I kind of run 45 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:49,799 Speaker 1: something by you? I got something going on in my life. 46 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: I want to run it by you. I love that 47 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: I have that wise council, and it occurred to me 48 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 1: that I should share that wise counsel with the world 49 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: in a podcast form. So and then I'm kind of 50 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: blown away that this podcast has grown to what it is. 51 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: I mean, we're consistently in the top chart of all 52 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:13,239 Speaker 1: music podcasts in the world, and it's a testament to 53 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: knowing that people genuinely want to talk about life and 54 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: listen about life and listen to listen to other people's questions. 55 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: Because although I'm going to answer several questions on here 56 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:27,399 Speaker 1: from you guys, obviously most of you will not get 57 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 1: your question answered on this episode. But I would like 58 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: to think that everything we talk about in the range 59 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: of subjects, something is going to relate to your life 60 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: or you're gonna be able to take some kind of 61 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: nugget out of it. I know I do from my 62 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: own life. I listen to you guys, and I go 63 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: through this podcast, and I ended up learning so much 64 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: about my own life just because of it. So yeah, 65 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: I was going to say, it's just as beneficial for 66 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: us to come together and be thinking about these topics 67 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: and see what people are dealing with on a day 68 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: to day basis, whether you know it or not, some 69 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: of the different issues, and how thirsty they are for 70 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: for knowledge and guidance for sure. And you know, I 71 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: know you do, and I know Chad and Bernie and 72 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: Christian all of us research so much during the week. 73 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: We research other things, and we read so much, and 74 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: we're constantly learning. And now that now that I when 75 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: I read now and I listen to things, I'm in 76 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: my mind, I'm going, ooh, that's a that's a good 77 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 1: idea to remember. For an answer to a podcast, I 78 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 1: want to start with an easy one here, like a 79 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 1: warm up question, and it says the subject line says 80 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: for Parker, it says, how long has it taken you 81 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: to master the piano? Did you take lessons as a child? 82 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: How many years? I truly think acoustic guitar and piano 83 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: are beautiful together. Hint hint, Granger. This question comes from 84 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: Jen Lindler. Well, I was born with it and that's 85 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: pretty much it. I've just always been great, right. I 86 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 1: once heard a guys say that I may not be 87 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: necessarily gifted in something right off the bat, but I 88 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: have a PhD in persistence, and people are always like, man, 89 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: that's such a gift. That's such a gift. And yes, honestly, 90 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: the gift of persistence is a gift from God. And 91 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 1: to try to hone in on that is the key. 92 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 1: And so I've been playing for about four years consistently, 93 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: and I always tell people you're twenty minutes a day 94 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: from becoming a master of whatever you want to become 95 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: a master of. There's exceptions here and there to you 96 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: want to stay in the ballpark of you know what 97 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:38,120 Speaker 1: you're naturally good at and inclined to do, and what 98 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: you're what you know the desires are that you have. 99 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: And I've always just been interested in piano, and so 100 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: I've been playing about twenty minutes a day for four 101 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: years and that's kind of where I've gotten to where 102 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: I am. So you're you're twenty minutes a day from 103 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: any particular hobby or skill on the side that you 104 00:05:54,720 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 1: want to be good at. In a couple of years, 105 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 1: you'll be you'll be pretty proficient at it. Totally agree 106 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: and the accept your talking about. It's like, for instance, 107 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: an NFL quarterback. You can't practice twenty minutes a day 108 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 1: and then eventually you're going to be an NFL quarterback. 109 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: There's just certain limitations that we have as humans. But 110 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: I think, for the most part, especially musical instruments, that 111 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: twenty minutes a day thing is you're gonna be proficient 112 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: in guitar or piano no matter who you are, no 113 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: matter if you don't have a creative or a musical 114 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: bone in your entire body. You practice for twenty minutes 115 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: a day for and put that together in a course 116 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 1: of so many years, you're gonna be able to sit 117 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: around at Christmas time and play Christmas carols on the 118 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: piano or the guitar. You just are so And that 119 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: goes with anything in life. It's not just piano and guitar. 120 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: It's anything you want to get. You want to get 121 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: pretty decent. I mean, if you practice ping pong for 122 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: twenty minutes a day for five years, you're gonna be 123 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: the best ping pong player in your family and in 124 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: your friend group, hands down. Yeah, it's about getting one 125 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: percent better every day and having the humility to set 126 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: the bar properly low for yourself to where it's like 127 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: learning piano and seeing someone else who's really gets really 128 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 1: easy to compare yourself. You look at Granger and listen 129 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 1: to him saying you're not going to be that good 130 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: when you first try seeing But if you're able to 131 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: set that bar properly low and be like, Okay, I'm 132 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: going to try to hit these two notes today, or 133 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: I just want to figure out what key this piano 134 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: song is in and I'm going to find it on 135 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: the board and then do it, and then over time, 136 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: that's what's gonna That's what's going to get you to 137 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: that level is is taking it one day at a 138 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: time and not getting discouraged by looking at where someone 139 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: else is before that. And then the other thing is 140 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: where are you finding your validation? Are you are your 141 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: what's the motivation for learning it? Is it to be 142 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 1: able to impress people to try to make up for 143 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: some insecurity that you have. Are you trying to find 144 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: that validation from other people? Or are you like, I 145 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: just want to learn this because I genuinely like playing 146 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: piano by myself, and if nobody ever hears it, then 147 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: that's okay, But just question yourself too, before you wake 148 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: up ten years down the road and you're like, I 149 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: did that to prove somebody else wrong out of anger 150 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 1: or spite or pride. And if you can do it 151 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: just because you genuinely enjoy it, you're not trying to 152 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: get validation from it, then that'll help it be longer 153 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: lasting and meaningful. I've heard somebody say before that you 154 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: could always tell in somebody's life how bad somebody wants 155 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: something by the result of what that manifestation is in 156 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: their life. So if someone says, for instance, man, my 157 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 1: number one goal is to be a great dad, But 158 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: then you look at their life and their kids are 159 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: out of control and they like to spend more time 160 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: on the you know, on the bass boat on the 161 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: weekends than they do throwing the ball with their kid. 162 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: Then you go, well, then you don't really want to 163 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: be a great dad. Yeah, your actions are so loud, 164 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: I can't hear what you're saying. Yeah, the result is 165 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: right there, the manifestation of what that is. So like 166 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:57,959 Speaker 1: when someone says, I really really want to learn piano, 167 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:03,839 Speaker 1: do you play piano? No, I just really want to learn. Well, 168 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: then you don't really want to learn because you're not trying. Yeah, 169 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 1: so let's go specific to this question from Jen how 170 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: many years and do you take lessons? We'll start with that, 171 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: like be specific about her question, how many years have 172 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: you been playing? I've been playing off and on since 173 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,959 Speaker 1: I was about seventeen. I didn't play for four years 174 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: when I was in college, and I didn't play for 175 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: the first year out of college. I decided to take 176 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: it seriously and start doing literally twenty minutes a day 177 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:34,599 Speaker 1: is what I started doing about four years ago, a 178 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: little over four years ago. And then I started getting 179 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: to the point where I was like, Okay, I'm getting better. 180 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: I would like some additional guidance to get to the 181 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: next level. And I've been taking lessons once a week, 182 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: which has helped me a lot with accountability and with 183 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: learning the theory and some of the things that I 184 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: don't love doing, like reading sheet music and learning the theory, 185 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: the stuff that's a little bit more boring to me. 186 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: It's helped me be it's helped keep me account and 187 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: I've been taking lessons consistently for a little over one year. Yeah, 188 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 1: So that goes back to also time blocking your day. 189 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:10,679 Speaker 1: So Jen, if you really want to learn piano, then 190 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: you just time block your day and you go, okay, 191 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:16,439 Speaker 1: I need twenty minutes, and you set set your expectations low, 192 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: set the bar low. I think that's a great plan 193 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:22,719 Speaker 1: in terms of don't tell yourself you're gonna practice for 194 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: two hours a day for seven days a week. Yeah, 195 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: you get burned out. You're gonna get burned out. And 196 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:29,559 Speaker 1: when you when you don't meet that expectation of yourself, 197 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 1: you're gonna go, you know what, I was just never 198 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: cut out for it. So I think twenty minutes is 199 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: even ten even if you start with ten, like Jordan 200 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: Peterson would say, set your bar super low, ten minutes 201 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,199 Speaker 1: a day. I'm gonna go ten minutes a day, five 202 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: days a week, Monday through Friday. Ten minutes. And that's 203 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 1: and that's that's something that you could build on because 204 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:51,839 Speaker 1: then you go ten minutes works, I'm gonna bump it 205 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 1: up to fifteen. And you just add all that up 206 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: and you look back one day and you go, wow, 207 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: I play piano. Piano and just any instrument is such 208 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,559 Speaker 1: a such a good analogy for life too, because it's 209 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 1: so easy to just get caught up in how other 210 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: people are where they're at, or focusing on wanting to 211 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: be able to play the whole song perfectly when it's 212 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: like I just need to focus on playing these few 213 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 1: notes today correctly and be content with that totally. Let's 214 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 1: get into some heavy stuff. How about relationship problems? That says, Hey, 215 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 1: this is Caleb from Arkansas. I'm fourteen. I want your 216 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: advice on relationship problems. I just recently met the most 217 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: wonderful and perfect girl. We started dating for about a month, 218 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: but what hurt me most was when I found out 219 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:46,959 Speaker 1: her parents didn't want her to date until she's older, 220 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,360 Speaker 1: which I understand and I'm sure you do too, since 221 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 1: you have a daughter. But we had to break up 222 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,960 Speaker 1: and I fell into a major cloud of depression and 223 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:58,199 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do about making us how 224 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: this is going to work for our future. Do you 225 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,679 Speaker 1: have any suggestions on how to get rid of depression 226 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: and how to convince her parents? Then I'm not a 227 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,200 Speaker 1: bad kid. Thank you for taking the time to read this. 228 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,080 Speaker 1: I love what you do. Keep up the great work. 229 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: God bless thank you. Caleb shout out to Arkansas. It's 230 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: a common question I see this kind of question in 231 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:25,319 Speaker 1: a different form all the time. Coming into this podcast, 232 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:31,960 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figuret where to start. Fourteen. We'll start 233 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: that he's fourteen, Yeah, exactly. It's not Caleb. It's just 234 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: not a big deal. It is a big deal in 235 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 1: your world, I understand, But in the perspective of your life, 236 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,560 Speaker 1: it's not a big deal that you found the most 237 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: wonderful and perfect girl. I think you are. You're needing 238 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:55,439 Speaker 1: something from a wonderful, perfect girl that you are, that's 239 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:58,200 Speaker 1: making up for something else that you're missing as a 240 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 1: fourteen year old because you you shouldn't, you shouldn't crave 241 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: this so bad that you go into a cloud of depression. 242 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 1: I think that's stemming from something else. So let me 243 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 1: go ahead and answer one part of your question. Do 244 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: you have any suggestions on how to get rid of depression? Brother, 245 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: that's a different there's a different question. Those are two 246 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: profoundly different questions here. And so if this, if this 247 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: is causing you depression or a major cloud as you 248 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,720 Speaker 1: put as you put it, then there's something wrong. There's 249 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: something that's like saying I have a headache, Oh my gosh, 250 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:39,439 Speaker 1: I have a headache, and then you go and you 251 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:42,679 Speaker 1: get an MRI and there's like a growth on your brain, 252 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: Like there's a difference between having a headache because you 253 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 1: have allergies and there's actually a growth on your brain. 254 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:51,839 Speaker 1: There's something deeper than allergies going on here with you 255 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: with your headache per se. So then the other part 256 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 1: of the question is that we'll get into, is you 257 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:01,319 Speaker 1: found out her parents don't want her to date till 258 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: she's older, which I think is a really good rule, 259 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 1: And there's something to say for a teenager or young 260 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 1: twenties in respecting the girl's parents' decision. And that's a 261 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 1: major thing, right, Respecting what her parents think about her 262 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:26,840 Speaker 1: age and dating needs to come as a high priority 263 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 1: to you. You have to honor that, You have to 264 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: honor parents, You have to honor your parents, and you 265 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: need to honor this girl if you truly, if you 266 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: truly think she's a wonderful girl that probably has a 267 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: lot to do with she was brought up the right 268 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 1: way with parents that are keeping an eye on her. Yeah, 269 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: the older I get, it would be hard to tell 270 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 1: my fourteen year old self this, But the older I get, 271 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:51,280 Speaker 1: the more I am aware that it's probably not the 272 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: best idea to be dating anybody unless you're in a 273 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 1: place to marry them. To the point of dating is 274 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 1: to be evaluate somebody for marriage. And if you're fourteen 275 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:08,800 Speaker 1: years old, probably not in that season of your life. Yet. 276 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 1: You are becoming a young man. You are making friends, 277 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: you're being a part of sports, You're figuring out the 278 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:19,640 Speaker 1: gifts that God gave you and where you're going to 279 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: be and where He needs you to be. And I 280 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 1: think that every young man has gone through that early 281 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: teen heartbreak and it's going to be part of it. 282 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 1: And this is going to be something that he looks 283 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 1: back on and it's going to be such an awesome 284 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 1: learning opportunity for him to be like, hopefully look back 285 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: and say, man, I remember when I idolize that relationship 286 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: over a lot of things, and it completely crushed me. 287 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 1: And you'll learn to just look at relationships in general 288 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: and women from a new perspective for sure. Caleb. I'm 289 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: saying this to you not because I'm looking down on 290 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 1: you or looking away from the outside looking in. I'm 291 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: saying it because I've lived it. I know Parker's lived it, 292 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: and I know most people listening that have been through 293 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 1: their teen years have lived it. This is not you're 294 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 1: not doing something that's out of the ordinary. I understand 295 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 1: what you're saying, and so that's why I feel like 296 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: I can tell you, buddy, move on, like lean into 297 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 1: your friends, lean into a hobby. Fourteen is the perfect 298 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 1: age to really get into a sport or a hobby. 299 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 1: And I say a hobby because maybe you're just not 300 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 1: athletic at all. So you could lean into the math 301 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 1: theme or the chess team, or art, our, theater, our music. 302 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: We just talked about piano. Piano is a great thing 303 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: to lean into. Guitar is a great thing to lean into. 304 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:46,600 Speaker 1: That's when I learned how to play guitar. It was 305 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: age fourteen. So think of what that did for me. 306 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: Leaning into guitar and pouring that time and energy that 307 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 1: you'd be pouring into relationship. Pour that into your buddies, 308 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: your guy friends, and an instrument or football or baseball, 309 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: wrestling or soccer or track. Lean into that. The time 310 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: is coming when you're gonna find the perfect girl for you, 311 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:16,200 Speaker 1: and it might be this one, just not right now. Yeah, 312 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: and in the long run, that's going to be more 313 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 1: attractive to a girl. Anyway, is when she finds someone 314 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: who is content and is not desperate and is working 315 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 1: on themselves and working on their purpose rather than trying 316 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 1: so so hard to get in a relationship or to 317 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:37,679 Speaker 1: get back with that X. Yep, good advice, Caleb. Move on, 318 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:43,120 Speaker 1: all right? How about this one? This is a subject 319 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:46,360 Speaker 1: on EE Apparel, Parker, you are the CEO of Yue Apparel. 320 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,000 Speaker 1: It comes from Michael Buck and he says, Man, what 321 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 1: an awesome name, Michael Buck. That's good name, Michael Buck. 322 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 1: Uncle Buck, I wish I could be an Uncle Buck says, 323 00:17:57,440 --> 00:17:59,359 Speaker 1: I don't know any other way to reach you, guys, 324 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 1: but I was wondering if you could possibly consider releasing 325 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: a line of fire resistant long sleeve shirts. I work 326 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:09,199 Speaker 1: in the oil and gas industry and resistant clothing is 327 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: a must, and I would love to be able to 328 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:13,760 Speaker 1: promote EE Nation at work. I strongly believe that I 329 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: wouldn't be the only one to purchase a resistant shirt. 330 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: If you could make this happen, that would be amazing. 331 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 1: Michael Buck, ee fan, have you ever thought of that, Parker? 332 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: I have not. I will say that as the first 333 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:29,359 Speaker 1: request we've gotten for that, which is typically not the 334 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 1: best sign as a business if you don't have clientele 335 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:36,920 Speaker 1: that is really needing that. And from our point of view, 336 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,159 Speaker 1: we only have a certain amount of money. We're a 337 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 1: small business that we can spend and it's a big 338 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 1: risk anytime we do a new product. Michael, I'm sorry. 339 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:46,680 Speaker 1: I would love to be able to help you out 340 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 1: if we get some more requests. I'm sure we could 341 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:52,200 Speaker 1: look into doing a limited edition run. Beg. We'll say 342 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 1: this right now because it's live on the podcast, because 343 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 1: this is out there in the universe now, we could 344 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 1: say that. Does anyone agree with Michael in comment below 345 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:05,719 Speaker 1: on if you're on iTunes, give this podcast a rating anyway? 346 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:07,359 Speaker 1: That's kind of that really would help us. Give us 347 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: a rating and give us a comment. Yes to fire 348 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:14,440 Speaker 1: resistant clothing. Why does he need it? Again, I'm sure 349 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:17,200 Speaker 1: he's a firefighter. It's got to be a fire. Don't 350 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: the firefighters have like the protective outer shell they're not 351 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: going to be wearing. Oh no, I'm sorry, he says. 352 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:25,439 Speaker 1: I work in oil and gas gas. He works in 353 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,919 Speaker 1: oil and gas, so's he's around, you know, dangerous stuff 354 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:32,400 Speaker 1: every day and he probably has the opportunity to wear 355 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:36,359 Speaker 1: whatever apparel he wants as long as it's fr so 356 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: comment below. If you're watching on YouTube, comment below say 357 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: yes to fire resistant. If you're on Spotify, I don't 358 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:47,399 Speaker 1: think you can comment so we will get a good 359 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 1: reading on what this means. But Michael, thank you for 360 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:54,159 Speaker 1: being a fan, thank you for supporting YGI apparel, and 361 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 1: thank you for believing in us enough to trust us 362 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 1: if we were to make fire resistant that you would 363 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 1: actually wear it in a danger situation. Yeah. True. Wow, Okay, 364 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: let's go to ooh this is this is a good subjectcline. 365 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: We have time yet, We have time for this one 366 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: and then we'll take a break. The subject line is Christianity, 367 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 1: extremist and marriage. It says this is from Laura from Ontario, Canada. 368 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 1: It says, good morning, guys, thanks for doing what you do. 369 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:33,359 Speaker 1: My husband of sixteen years parenthesis maryan a Catholic church 370 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 1: turned to Christianity approximately eight years ago. We've been together 371 00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 1: for twenty eight years and have a fifteen year old son. 372 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 1: I support his journey and can recognize many upsides to 373 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:51,120 Speaker 1: desire to be with God and follow his word. There 374 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: have been many adjustments along the way, such as Sabbath, 375 00:20:56,400 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: no mainstream TV, no alcohol, no work, women must work 376 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: outside the home. Just to Laura a few I'm just 377 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,959 Speaker 1: reading it the way it says says. The issue I'm 378 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: struggling with is the fact that eight weeks ago he 379 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:14,760 Speaker 1: informed me he will not attend my parents' funeral parentheses 380 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:18,400 Speaker 1: when the time comes, because it will be a Catholic 381 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 1: ceremony and attending would be sinful in his mind. I 382 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: know full well and have told him that he could 383 00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:28,439 Speaker 1: attend as a non participant, no matter the denomination, in 384 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 1: order to support his spouse, but he refuses. Although we 385 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: don't agree on all aspects, I'm a believer and would 386 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: not let this affect my relationship with God. God is good. 387 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:43,479 Speaker 1: I can't help but feel abandoned altogether. I'm really feeling 388 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: completely disconnected from him at this point and questioning if 389 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:49,880 Speaker 1: there's any reason to spend the rest of my life 390 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: with him. Your thoughts, thanks in advance, really looking forward 391 00:21:54,080 --> 00:22:02,120 Speaker 1: to hearing your views on this. Laura from Ontario, Canada, 392 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 1: married sixteen years to recap, been together twenty eight and 393 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:10,439 Speaker 1: have a fifteen year old son. Is there's a lot 394 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 1: to unpack and this, Yeah, there is a lot to unpack, 395 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 1: So let me start backwards. Laura let me start backwards 396 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:25,959 Speaker 1: here your last paragraph. I feel disconnected and I'm questioning 397 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,639 Speaker 1: if there's any reason to spend the rest of my 398 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: life with him. Yes, yes, there's a reason. Let me 399 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 1: The reason is you've been married sixteen years and you 400 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:44,120 Speaker 1: have a fifteen year old son. Yes, that's a reason. Listen, everybody, listen. 401 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 1: Don't look for the back door out of your marriage. 402 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 1: Stop looking for a way out. This is crushing marriage. 403 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 1: This is crushing families, This is crushing children. Think what 404 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 1: this is going to do to a fifteen year old son. 405 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: Think what this is gonna do to his perspective of 406 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: God and country and family and mom and dad and 407 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 1: life and relationships that he's going to be going through. 408 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 1: We just heard from a fourteen year old boy. Think 409 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 1: what's going through these guys' mind, this kid's mind. So 410 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 1: is there any reason to spend the rest of your 411 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 1: life with him? Yes, there's a thousand reasons. So stop, guys, girls, 412 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:28,359 Speaker 1: stop looking for an exit plan of your marriage. You've 413 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: known him for twenty eight years. There's got to be 414 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:34,080 Speaker 1: something there. There's got to be something there that you 415 00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 1: could salvage. You work marriages, work, work through it, prepare 416 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:43,639 Speaker 1: for battle. Put your battlegear on. You're going to war, Laura. 417 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:47,480 Speaker 1: You're going to war against society and the norms and culture, 418 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 1: and you're going to fight for your marriage. And you're 419 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 1: going to fight for your husband and let him know 420 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 1: that no matter what, you're not looking for a way out. 421 00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: Even even if he doesn't attend your parent's funeral, your 422 00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,359 Speaker 1: marriage is more important than your parent's funeral. Your parent's 423 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: funeral is important, it's very important, and your husband's attendants 424 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: should be an important thing, but nothing compared to losing 425 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 1: your marriage, walking out on that, walking out on your 426 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 1: fifteen year old son. I'm let's start with that, then 427 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,119 Speaker 1: we can. You're fired up right now? Yeah? I see 428 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 1: this stuff and I'm just like, really, and I haven't 429 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 1: even begun to unpack how many things are wrong about 430 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:33,119 Speaker 1: either what her husband is believing or her perspective of 431 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:37,000 Speaker 1: what she thinks he's believing. I'm assuming she's getting this 432 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,720 Speaker 1: straight from him, and this is a completely distorted view 433 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:44,399 Speaker 1: of what following Christ means. And it's it's completely against 434 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:48,120 Speaker 1: anything that the that a christ follower would say. Well, 435 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:53,400 Speaker 1: the subject was Christianity extremist, and I don't I don't 436 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,320 Speaker 1: really see any any part of this on either side 437 00:24:56,359 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: being a Christian extremist Ristian. Let me just say, in 438 00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 1: my perspective of what we have blown this word extremist 439 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 1: out of the planet. But man, I hope to God, 440 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:14,480 Speaker 1: I hope to God that it would make sense on 441 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 1: my tombstone to say Christ extremist, Granger Smith Christ extremist. 442 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,479 Speaker 1: I hope to God that that people would think of 443 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 1: me that way, like I should be so blessed if 444 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 1: the culture thought of me as an extreme follower of Christ. 445 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 1: That's amazing. That's what I want to be. In case 446 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 1: in case anyone hasn't figured that out about me, That's 447 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,720 Speaker 1: what I want to be. And we just got through 448 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,720 Speaker 1: saying whatever you want. You could tell how bad you 449 00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: want it by the results of what that is in 450 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:48,720 Speaker 1: your life. So I hope that the fruits of that 451 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 1: in my life are evident that I want to be 452 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 1: passionately pursuing Christ. Guys, that's what Christianity means. It's it's 453 00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: not a culture or a heritage. And I don't even 454 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,440 Speaker 1: like the word religion. I was going to say, that's 455 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: the first thing that people say. And I was actually 456 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: at a buddy's ranch this last weekend and their dad, 457 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 1: or excuse me, his grandfather who owned the ranch. He 458 00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:18,359 Speaker 1: was he was not the biggest proponent of alcohol, and 459 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: he didn't like it when people were drinking on the ranch, 460 00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 1: especially his grandkids. And the guy was like, yeah, he's 461 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:30,199 Speaker 1: just super religious. And I guess that could be a 462 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 1: religious thing to become a legalist. But I do think 463 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 1: it's interesting that a lot of people would view you 464 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: and your spiritual rebirth and becoming a follower of Christ, 465 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 1: a radical follower of Christ, and they would say, grand 466 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: are super religious. Now what are the connotations to that 467 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,840 Speaker 1: versus being a radical follower of Christ? Do you think 468 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,560 Speaker 1: what is the difference between the right religious The right 469 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,439 Speaker 1: word is legalist. That's what we use. A legalist means. 470 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 1: If you're very legalistic, then that means you take you 471 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:09,720 Speaker 1: take pieces of God's commands and you you go overboard 472 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: with that. So, for instance, let's let's dive into this 473 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 1: little bit no mainstream TV. Like you have to have 474 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,520 Speaker 1: a really good reason as a Christian to say no 475 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 1: mainstream TV. Like. Maybe your reason could be I am 476 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:34,119 Speaker 1: extremely addicted to sexual sensuality and if I see it 477 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:37,520 Speaker 1: in a commercial, then I'm in my mind, I'm gone 478 00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,639 Speaker 1: like I'm sinning like crety. Okay, then dude, you probably 479 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 1: shouldn't watch any mainstream TV. But that's rare. No alcohol, 480 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 1: that is not a Christian law. It's not a drunkenness 481 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:55,639 Speaker 1: is but not alcohol like in fact, in fact, the 482 00:27:55,640 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 1: Bible says in many points drink and be merry or 483 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 1: wine brings gladness to the heart. So it's drunkenness that's 484 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:11,120 Speaker 1: that is. That is the sin. Pork. That's an old 485 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 1: Jewish Old Testament thing like Christ came to abolish that right, 486 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:20,240 Speaker 1: And and Peter goes into this whole, this whole thing 487 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:24,880 Speaker 1: where where he he learns that he can eat pork 488 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,040 Speaker 1: now and then you guys could read this for yourself 489 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 1: in the New Testament. But because of this old thing 490 00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 1: where he can't eat, he can't eat pork. And then 491 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 1: he gets around some of his Jewish buddies and they're like, 492 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:35,800 Speaker 1: you can't eat pork, and this he goes back and 493 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:40,400 Speaker 1: he and Paul confronts him, and if you're not eating 494 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 1: pork for a Christian reason, then you that is a 495 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:48,920 Speaker 1: sin because you are completely misunderstanding what Jesus taught being 496 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 1: a Christian is being a follower of Christ. It's not 497 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:56,680 Speaker 1: about being legalistic, or it's not about being super religious, 498 00:28:57,240 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 1: and all of these reasons right here. Like you said, 499 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,280 Speaker 1: there's been many adjustments along the way. What I would 500 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 1: want to see is, here's the many adjustments. He loves more, 501 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:15,280 Speaker 1: he's more patient, he's more forgiving, he's more understanding. He 502 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 1: takes us to church every Sunday. He prays with this 503 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 1: over every meal and before we go to bed, Like, 504 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: those are the things that you would want to see, 505 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: Not here's the reasons. He doesn't eat pork, he doesn't 506 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 1: watch mainstream TV, no alcohol, women must not work outside 507 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 1: the home like guys. This is the distorted view, a 508 00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: completely distorted view of Christianity. And it sounds like it 509 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:45,920 Speaker 1: sounds like he has gotten into some cult or some 510 00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:51,520 Speaker 1: sect of Christianity. If you can't go to if you 511 00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: feel like you can't go to your parents or your 512 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,200 Speaker 1: in law's funeral because they're Catholic and you don't believe 513 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 1: in Catholicism, and you are, you're in a trap. You're 514 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:08,600 Speaker 1: in a dark place. So I guess, to kind of 515 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,440 Speaker 1: sum up this email, I think I think I'm seeing 516 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm seeing some bad stuff on both sides, Laura. On 517 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 1: your side, you're looking for a way out, and and 518 00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,320 Speaker 1: on your husband's side, he's being he's being an extreme legalist. 519 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: And then I want to say one more thing that 520 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:29,280 Speaker 1: this that stood out to me in this email. You said, 521 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,560 Speaker 1: I support his journey. This is the beginning. I support 522 00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 1: his journey, and I could recognize many upsides to his 523 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 1: desire to be with God. That is completely underplaying Christianity. 524 00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 1: I see, I see the upsides. This is gonna save guys, 525 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: non believers. This is how this is how I feel 526 00:30:54,400 --> 00:31:01,560 Speaker 1: about this. This is life saving. Following Christ is life saving. 527 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:05,920 Speaker 1: It's not an upside, there's not It's not a it's 528 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 1: a perk. It's a nice perk, you know what I mean. 529 00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 1: So that's that's in that way, you're completely underplaying what 530 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,960 Speaker 1: this could be doing. But then I hear what he's doing, 531 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 1: and then that's all. This is completely distorted. And and 532 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:23,880 Speaker 1: you guys need to you need to communicate, you need 533 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,720 Speaker 1: to come together, you need to you need to honor 534 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,960 Speaker 1: each other. So you've got to honor him. Sounds like 535 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 1: you are Laura, and he has to honor you. And 536 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: you guys need to compromise on a church. You need 537 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 1: to find your middle ground. You need to go to 538 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:43,080 Speaker 1: a good Bible believing, Bible believing like church, a church 539 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:46,240 Speaker 1: that is preaching the Bible that doesn't say you can't 540 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: eat pork. That's a Jewish thing, guys. Uh. And and 541 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,840 Speaker 1: that could be a different email. I know we have 542 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,400 Speaker 1: Jewish people email this podcast. I love that. So that's 543 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 1: a different a different subject. But if we're not talking 544 00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:03,840 Speaker 1: about that, so I would I would. Here's here's the 545 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 1: order of what you do. Pray, you get into the word, 546 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,800 Speaker 1: You read the Bible, and you seek wise counsel. Repeat, Pray, 547 00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,240 Speaker 1: get into the word, seek wise counsel. Repeat. Whether that 548 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,400 Speaker 1: has to do with jobs or marriage, or are trying 549 00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:20,600 Speaker 1: to find your your path in this world. Pray, get 550 00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:24,480 Speaker 1: into the word, seek wise counsel. The wise counsel being 551 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:29,320 Speaker 1: people that are already praying and in the word. So pray, 552 00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:31,880 Speaker 1: read the Bible, get in the word, and the seq 553 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 1: wise counsel that pray and get into the word. I'm 554 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,920 Speaker 1: convinced that those three options, you do, those three things, 555 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,000 Speaker 1: you could solve every problem as that a human could have. 556 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: Do you agree? Yes? I think it would save every 557 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:49,360 Speaker 1: marriage It would save every every form of depression. It 558 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 1: would save every lost job and any any question you 559 00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 1: guys have on this podcast. If you pray, you get 560 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 1: into the word, which means read the Bible, and you 561 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 1: seek wise counsel of people that praying to the word. 562 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 1: I could go on forever. I'm like in loop right now, 563 00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 1: but yeah, I get fired up. Let's take a break. 564 00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. Podcast has brought to you guys 565 00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:20,080 Speaker 1: today by ritual. 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We have 616 00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:21,680 Speaker 1: custom flannels that you've been wearing. Yeah, and you like them, right. 617 00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 1: I love it. I actually love it. I wore it. 618 00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,920 Speaker 1: We just played a show last night in Boise, Idaho, 619 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,080 Speaker 1: and flew back this morning. But I wore the red 620 00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:38,719 Speaker 1: and black flannel and it fits me great. I'm not 621 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 1: trying to overplay this, you know me, Parker. I will 622 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,279 Speaker 1: not wear it on the stage just let tried. I 623 00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:49,520 Speaker 1: won't randomly wear something on the stage just because I'm 624 00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:52,040 Speaker 1: trying to sell it because I think it's something we 625 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,560 Speaker 1: need to market. I will only wear it if it 626 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:58,600 Speaker 1: fits great and I think it looks cool. Yeah, it's 627 00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:03,399 Speaker 1: really special and amazing just to be to the point 628 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,840 Speaker 1: where this is not just a plug of your usual 629 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,600 Speaker 1: artists or influencers merch where we made some T shirts. 630 00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,959 Speaker 1: This is stuff that we've been working on for over 631 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: a year. Custom soft shell jackets, canvas work jackets, completely, 632 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:22,279 Speaker 1: custom hoodies. We analyzed everything in the fit and constructed 633 00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,040 Speaker 1: them from scratch. So it's gonna be it's gonna be 634 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,560 Speaker 1: really fun on some September seventeenth, and we will actually 635 00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:32,960 Speaker 1: be in Bristol that day watching the EE car race 636 00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,200 Speaker 1: in Bristol, Tennessee, which is going to be amazing too, 637 00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:39,200 Speaker 1: So that'll be a crazy day. Yeah, I love it, man, 638 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:43,799 Speaker 1: It's the best flannel I've ever born. Now, of course, 639 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,560 Speaker 1: I would say that because we have been going through 640 00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:51,680 Speaker 1: prototype after prototype after like just getting this custom made 641 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:56,480 Speaker 1: so that it looks and feels and fits good and 642 00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:58,560 Speaker 1: has all the EEE tags on it. So I'm just 643 00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: like you said, this iss gone so far past artist 644 00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:04,960 Speaker 1: merch of hats and koozies and stickers and T shirts, 645 00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,000 Speaker 1: and now we're truly getting it into an apparel company 646 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:14,960 Speaker 1: now where we're going to have lifestyle clothing that'll fit 647 00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:18,560 Speaker 1: every season and that something you could wear, you know, 648 00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:21,440 Speaker 1: in cool weather, cold weather, hot weather, that you're truly 649 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,440 Speaker 1: proud of, not just because of a printed design on 650 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:28,759 Speaker 1: the front of a shirt. So super excited back on 651 00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:33,280 Speaker 1: these questions. The subject line is advice for a fan 652 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:35,960 Speaker 1: and says, Hey, guys, my name is Josh, I'm nineteen 653 00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:39,680 Speaker 1: years old. I'm from the Sticks in Louisiana. Just needs 654 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 1: some advice on some stuff I've been dealing with and 655 00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 1: would love a second opinion on the matter. I recently 656 00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,279 Speaker 1: had a breakup. It was with this girl for a 657 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,760 Speaker 1: little over four years. I'm about to leave for basic training, 658 00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,440 Speaker 1: but I'm just having a lot of trouble, fighting this 659 00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:58,920 Speaker 1: depression and loads of emotions. I love her and I 660 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,800 Speaker 1: want to make her my wife. But well, I guess 661 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,040 Speaker 1: you could say life guid in the way and I'm 662 00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:08,279 Speaker 1: in a lot of pain. I'd love an outside perspective. 663 00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,440 Speaker 1: I'd love any advice. I appreciate it. I'm a huge fan. 664 00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,000 Speaker 1: Keep up the great work and stay safe. What's up, 665 00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:20,200 Speaker 1: Josh shout out to the sticks in Louisiana nineteen years old. 666 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,840 Speaker 1: Thank you for your service. Thank you for volunteering to 667 00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:28,360 Speaker 1: go to basic training during a crazy time when a 668 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,960 Speaker 1: lot of people are running from the United States Armed Forces. 669 00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:35,160 Speaker 1: They're running like crazy away from it, and you're going 670 00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:38,000 Speaker 1: into the fire, brother, and that says a lot about you, 671 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,520 Speaker 1: says a lot about your integrity and you're resolve and 672 00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:45,000 Speaker 1: what you're wanting to do to keep this country safe, 673 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:51,719 Speaker 1: to support liberty and go against some evil forces out 674 00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:53,480 Speaker 1: there in the world. We all know that they exist 675 00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,400 Speaker 1: if you just watch the news for two seconds. So 676 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:59,080 Speaker 1: thank you, Josh. I appreciate you. Man Parker. Where do 677 00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 1: we go with this? This is another this is another 678 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,759 Speaker 1: love lost and now they're depressed, but it's a little 679 00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,640 Speaker 1: bit different. He's not fourteen, he's nineteen. This is a 680 00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:13,279 Speaker 1: big age difference, and he's going to basic training. Where 681 00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 1: do you start with this? Who broke up with? Who? 682 00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,800 Speaker 1: Did they just say that they broke up? He says 683 00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:23,319 Speaker 1: life got in the way. Recently had a break up. 684 00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:28,000 Speaker 1: Didn't really say what happened, except for the fact that 685 00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,279 Speaker 1: he says, I love her, I want to make her 686 00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:32,520 Speaker 1: my wife, and life got in the way. I'm in 687 00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:36,640 Speaker 1: a lot of pain. I'd love an outside perspective. Well, 688 00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:40,399 Speaker 1: it's interesting now when you hear people go, we either 689 00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,640 Speaker 1: want to break up or we're going to get married. 690 00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:44,400 Speaker 1: It's one of the two, and they just kind of 691 00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:48,120 Speaker 1: use those terms so loosely. Do you love her and 692 00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: you want to get married, or did you break up? 693 00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:54,640 Speaker 1: You're not together? True? So what does that mean that 694 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,759 Speaker 1: life got in the way? I mean, I just think 695 00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,120 Speaker 1: that it's really easy for the world to tell tell 696 00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:04,000 Speaker 1: us that we are incomplete in our singleness, and that 697 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:06,320 Speaker 1: if you don't have a family, and you don't have children, 698 00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:09,000 Speaker 1: and you're not building a legacy for yourself as men, 699 00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,040 Speaker 1: if you're not building an empire with your career as 700 00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:13,480 Speaker 1: a woman, if you're not having a family, right now 701 00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,000 Speaker 1: and you don't have children, it's really easy to think 702 00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,480 Speaker 1: that you're incomplete in that. And that's just that's just 703 00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,560 Speaker 1: coming from that's a cultural thing. It's coming from the 704 00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:24,200 Speaker 1: TV that we're watching, the romantic comedies that we're watching, 705 00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:29,520 Speaker 1: the sitcoms. It's always easier to see the grass being greener. 706 00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,560 Speaker 1: On the other side, fifty percent of marriages end up 707 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:35,160 Speaker 1: in divorce. Way more than that. People are miserable in 708 00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,440 Speaker 1: their marriage and wish that they were single. See last 709 00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,400 Speaker 1: question if you want to know more about this, Yeah, exactly. 710 00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:47,160 Speaker 1: And then married people want to be single in their unhappiness, 711 00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:49,080 Speaker 1: single people want to be married. So it's like, it's 712 00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:52,680 Speaker 1: not about marriage. This is just this is about a 713 00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:58,839 Speaker 1: trend of human beings being discontent where they are. And man, 714 00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:02,960 Speaker 1: I would just say to try to figure out exactly 715 00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:07,160 Speaker 1: what's going on in your heart that you're getting put 716 00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,360 Speaker 1: in this place of depression and how did this relationship 717 00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:12,600 Speaker 1: become such an idol to you And there's probably a 718 00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,920 Speaker 1: pretty good reason that you broke up, and maybe that's enough. 719 00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,879 Speaker 1: I mean, I would probably be extremely upset if someone 720 00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,319 Speaker 1: told me this when I was nineteen, and so I'm 721 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,560 Speaker 1: not trying to pick at you or anything. But maybe 722 00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,040 Speaker 1: it's something that in the long term you'll say, thank 723 00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,880 Speaker 1: God that I went through that so that I could 724 00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,759 Speaker 1: be more prepared for future relationships to know that that 725 00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,200 Speaker 1: wasn't the end. All. You're nineteen years old, you have 726 00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,400 Speaker 1: twenty years to get married. You have thirty years to 727 00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,680 Speaker 1: get married if you want. If you really want to 728 00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,759 Speaker 1: get married, chances are you're going to get married one day. 729 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:46,279 Speaker 1: But to idolize it, there's a lot of things that 730 00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:49,920 Speaker 1: I don't have. I don't have I'm not married, I 731 00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,279 Speaker 1: don't have a twenty twenty one truck. I drive a 732 00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,279 Speaker 1: two thousand and eight Chevy Tahoe. But I'm not going 733 00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:59,520 Speaker 1: to despair that I don't have a brand new car 734 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,120 Speaker 1: right now, a brand new house, or a marriage or kids, 735 00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:06,680 Speaker 1: because that's not ultimate to me, because I know that 736 00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:09,279 Speaker 1: you know, when we die, we're not going to be 737 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,560 Speaker 1: married in heaven, and so there's nothing ultimate about that. 738 00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:16,040 Speaker 1: This is all temporary. So as much as we say this, 739 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:21,600 Speaker 1: it's always be content where you're at, try to figure 740 00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:28,919 Speaker 1: out prayer, reading God's word, seeking lives counsel. Yeah, there's 741 00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,799 Speaker 1: a couple of things that play here. Josh One is 742 00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:38,200 Speaker 1: there is a feeling that every man has of pursuit. 743 00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:42,440 Speaker 1: It's how we're built. Our hearts are built to pursue 744 00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:46,719 Speaker 1: and conquer, and sometimes that gets in the way at 745 00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:51,000 Speaker 1: the beginning of a relationship because whenever you're in pursuit 746 00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:53,279 Speaker 1: and you're in the dating process, you want to go 747 00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:56,279 Speaker 1: ahead and conquer and wrap this up, and you get 748 00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:59,640 Speaker 1: sometimes you get lost in that pursuit and it gets 749 00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:03,400 Speaker 1: destroyed to what this really means in terms of love 750 00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,080 Speaker 1: and if you really love this girl, and you can 751 00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:09,520 Speaker 1: get clouded into thinking, yes I do, but you're really 752 00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,520 Speaker 1: just wanting to win and you're losing right now, you're 753 00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:17,440 Speaker 1: losing your behind three touchdowns and they have the ball, 754 00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,879 Speaker 1: and you just want to win this game. I want 755 00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:21,520 Speaker 1: to marry her. I think that's where it comes in, 756 00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,719 Speaker 1: where it's like, are we broken up or should we 757 00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,000 Speaker 1: get married? I think it's that's I don't want to win. 758 00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,799 Speaker 1: I'm losing, And that's that's a good that's a good 759 00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,080 Speaker 1: trait to have, and so many things in life, except 760 00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,560 Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships, you got to actually use 761 00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:38,759 Speaker 1: your brain and not your heart. And right now your 762 00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:44,120 Speaker 1: heart is speaking loudly over your brain. I would say 763 00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:47,560 Speaker 1: as far as just her, just pump the brakes, Just 764 00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,440 Speaker 1: pump the brakes, Let a little time go by, and 765 00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,840 Speaker 1: let you let this heart stop beating so loudly, and 766 00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:56,680 Speaker 1: let your mind take over a little bit, and maybe 767 00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:58,359 Speaker 1: you'll be able to kind of see, you know what 768 00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,319 Speaker 1: I did, I mess stuff in these areas, or you 769 00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,840 Speaker 1: know what, she wasn't the right one. She was a 770 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:08,239 Speaker 1: little crazy. I just didn't see it. She's actually a 771 00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:12,440 Speaker 1: little crazy. I didn't. So that little time will help you. 772 00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:16,279 Speaker 1: It's nothing has to happen right now. There's no impending 773 00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,200 Speaker 1: finish line that you're nineteen. Like Parker said, you got 774 00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,799 Speaker 1: a lot of time, So pump the brakes, Let a 775 00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:24,759 Speaker 1: little time go by. The Other thing that's in play here, 776 00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:27,239 Speaker 1: I think is you're going into basic training, and so 777 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:31,240 Speaker 1: you're feeling this desperate feeling of taking care of stuff 778 00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:35,680 Speaker 1: at home. So that in the chance that you're going 779 00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:39,600 Speaker 1: to have to be relocated and go to you know, 780 00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:42,120 Speaker 1: Fort Bliss or Fort Hood or Fort Carson, and you're 781 00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:44,600 Speaker 1: going to move around or maybe deployed and you're going 782 00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:47,719 Speaker 1: to be in Germany or Afghanistan if we have to 783 00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:54,000 Speaker 1: go back there next year. You're feeling this thought of Manet, 784 00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:56,200 Speaker 1: what if I get sent off to go to Germany 785 00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:59,839 Speaker 1: and I have to live there for sixteen months and 786 00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,560 Speaker 1: a lot of my buddies are married and I don't 787 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:05,560 Speaker 1: have anything, Then I'm lost, and I just lost all 788 00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,040 Speaker 1: this time. But I got this girl, and she's actually 789 00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:10,080 Speaker 1: pretty good. And I know we're broken up, but if 790 00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,000 Speaker 1: I could just marry her, I could wrap that up, 791 00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,439 Speaker 1: and then she could. I think you're trying to tie 792 00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,399 Speaker 1: the knot just to take care of business at home 793 00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:21,240 Speaker 1: because you've got this impending career thing about to happen. 794 00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:24,920 Speaker 1: There's a lot of uncertainty of going into the military, 795 00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,920 Speaker 1: going into basic. You don't know what your next five 796 00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,960 Speaker 1: years are going to look like. Really, But I'm gonna 797 00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:32,640 Speaker 1: sit here and tell you on this podcast that that's 798 00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,840 Speaker 1: a great thing to go into that as a single 799 00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:42,680 Speaker 1: nineteen year old man. No strings, no commitments, no babies 800 00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,400 Speaker 1: in the cradle at home, no child support, no bills 801 00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:50,000 Speaker 1: you got to pay, no long distance FaceTime. When enter 802 00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,919 Speaker 1: the WiFi is super slow and you're in the middle 803 00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:54,920 Speaker 1: of nowhere, you don't have to worry about any of that. 804 00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:59,080 Speaker 1: It's just you. So this is a time to focus 805 00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,239 Speaker 1: on you to develop, you to learn, like Parker said, 806 00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:06,080 Speaker 1: to be content with you and your singleness and focus 807 00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,320 Speaker 1: on doing what you want to do in a military. 808 00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:12,239 Speaker 1: You didn't say what, Branch, so I can't say what. 809 00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,400 Speaker 1: You can't speculate to what you might be doing. But 810 00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:18,160 Speaker 1: now is the time to really you're going to hone 811 00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:20,920 Speaker 1: in your skills on what the next part of your 812 00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,720 Speaker 1: life is going to look like, and you are free 813 00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,720 Speaker 1: to do that. So here's the difference. The last time, 814 00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:29,960 Speaker 1: the last question, she's wondering for if she could have 815 00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:32,759 Speaker 1: an exit plan to the marriage, and I'm screaming saying no, 816 00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,960 Speaker 1: you can't. But to you, Josh, I'm screaming at you 817 00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:40,840 Speaker 1: saying you're not in it yet, so stay single. You 818 00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,680 Speaker 1: see the difference, like, don't rush into this or I'm 819 00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:45,880 Speaker 1: going to be talking to you in fifteen years and 820 00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:48,520 Speaker 1: saying the same thing back to you. You rushed into 821 00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,080 Speaker 1: this marriage because you thought you liked you thought you 822 00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:54,279 Speaker 1: loved her, and then you got depressed, and then you 823 00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:55,840 Speaker 1: went into basic and then so you're going ahead and 824 00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:57,839 Speaker 1: married her. Then you guys had a kid and now 825 00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,640 Speaker 1: he's eight years old and now you're wife. Don't talk 826 00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:02,239 Speaker 1: to you anymore and you're about to go in your 827 00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:06,120 Speaker 1: third deployment. It's a mess. It's a mess. It's funny 828 00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,719 Speaker 1: because it's not funny, but there's not. So another question 829 00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:12,279 Speaker 1: in here that the subject line is military marriage is hard. 830 00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:17,480 Speaker 1: Look I look at it right now. Literally, the military 831 00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,319 Speaker 1: marriage is hard is one of the questions on here. 832 00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,160 Speaker 1: And so I'm going, I'm going back to you, Josh 833 00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:30,480 Speaker 1: and going don't be one of those statistics. And I 834 00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:35,440 Speaker 1: appreciate you emailing Yeah, it's it's it is hard, and 835 00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:40,080 Speaker 1: it's easy to have a misconstrued idea of It's like, 836 00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:43,080 Speaker 1: what is the gravity of standing up before your friends 837 00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:47,839 Speaker 1: and family and God and making a binding agreement with 838 00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,680 Speaker 1: each other that you will be together till death do 839 00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,040 Speaker 1: you part? That's a big deal. And I think that 840 00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:56,520 Speaker 1: our society gets so caught up in culture telling us, 841 00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:59,600 Speaker 1: like I said, that we're incomplete without it and that 842 00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:00,960 Speaker 1: we have to do it, and then we get caught 843 00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,840 Speaker 1: up in our feelings and don't use our brain instead 844 00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,880 Speaker 1: of asking ourselves from the very beginning, what am I 845 00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,120 Speaker 1: looking for in a wife? Do I understand what marriage 846 00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,960 Speaker 1: is and the amount of work that it takes? Or 847 00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,200 Speaker 1: is it just going to be, you know, dinners and 848 00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:20,560 Speaker 1: cleaning and just easy stuff all the time, Like people 849 00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,440 Speaker 1: just think it's going to be some fantasy. Well, here's 850 00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,760 Speaker 1: how we could help. Let me read this next question. 851 00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,760 Speaker 1: We'll go right from Josh right into the next question. 852 00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:32,080 Speaker 1: And maybe this next question I don't know what it's 853 00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:36,520 Speaker 1: about to say, but maybe it will help Josh answer 854 00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:39,920 Speaker 1: his questions better than I can. It says, Hey, Grangeer, 855 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:44,279 Speaker 1: my name is chargeant Ship Thomas J and I want 856 00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:46,440 Speaker 1: to say, like everyone else, thank you for your music. 857 00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:48,239 Speaker 1: It has saved me a few times, and thank you 858 00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:51,440 Speaker 1: for that. I was so happy to be there for 859 00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:56,160 Speaker 1: your first concert last year in July. The real reason 860 00:49:56,200 --> 00:49:59,759 Speaker 1: I'm messaging you is this. My wife and I are 861 00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:02,839 Speaker 1: both in the United States Army. In the last six 862 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:06,319 Speaker 1: almost seven months, we've been apart, and in mid July 863 00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,920 Speaker 1: we'll be seeing each other for the first time. We 864 00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:12,960 Speaker 1: have been fighting will mostly arguing a lot, and she 865 00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:17,360 Speaker 1: brought up us just being different people and what if 866 00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:20,520 Speaker 1: we're no longer happy with each other. This hurts a 867 00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,920 Speaker 1: lot and I'm not sure how to go about this. 868 00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:27,480 Speaker 1: Any advice from you would be very helpful. Thank you 869 00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:29,880 Speaker 1: for your music and the support of your of the 870 00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:36,480 Speaker 1: Arms Forces. Man, thank you, sergeantship, and thank you for 871 00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:41,920 Speaker 1: your service, just like I said to Josh, thank you 872 00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,279 Speaker 1: for thank you for volunteering in this crazy time, and 873 00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:50,480 Speaker 1: and and then going through this with your wife who 874 00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:58,680 Speaker 1: and hopefully I'm hoping that Thomas, I hope that this 875 00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,239 Speaker 1: this is going to also help Josh. That's my goal 876 00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:06,040 Speaker 1: that you are helping someone else through your email. And 877 00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,280 Speaker 1: my answer would be completely different because now a different situation. 878 00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,839 Speaker 1: You're married. His wife's name is Amber, by the way, 879 00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:16,760 Speaker 1: so we should we have that in common. So Parker Amber, 880 00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:20,880 Speaker 1: his Amber has told him, through a lot of fighting 881 00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:25,680 Speaker 1: and a lot of arguing, she has told him we 882 00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:29,040 Speaker 1: are different people and we are no longer happy with 883 00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,200 Speaker 1: each other. And then Thomas says, this hurts a lot, 884 00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:36,080 Speaker 1: and I'm not sure how to go about it. Yeah, 885 00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:39,480 Speaker 1: I'll answer the best I can as a non married 886 00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:41,120 Speaker 1: twenty eight year old, But I would just say, from 887 00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:43,279 Speaker 1: the experience that I've had with my married friends and 888 00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,719 Speaker 1: some of my divorce friends, I think a lot of 889 00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,400 Speaker 1: people in the world just kind of like I said earlier, 890 00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:52,759 Speaker 1: have a misconstrued idea of what marriage is, and that 891 00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:56,840 Speaker 1: the gravity of bringing two people together for life and 892 00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:58,880 Speaker 1: all of the challenges that come with it, and exactly 893 00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:02,000 Speaker 1: how hard it is. And people always think that I 894 00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:05,319 Speaker 1: just they'll say, and I just don't know how compatible 895 00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:08,440 Speaker 1: we are, or I just feel like we're different. Like 896 00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:11,360 Speaker 1: he said, It's like, yeah, we are. You're two different 897 00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:15,160 Speaker 1: people that live in a sinful world, right that are 898 00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,920 Speaker 1: spending seven months apart. There's always going to be somebody 899 00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:21,640 Speaker 1: out there that's more compatible for you. There's always going 900 00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,400 Speaker 1: to be somebody out there that has more in common 901 00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:27,759 Speaker 1: with you. You're two completely different souls trying to do 902 00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:31,279 Speaker 1: this thing called life together, and there's always going to 903 00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:34,480 Speaker 1: be somebody out there that's more compatible. And so it's 904 00:52:35,200 --> 00:52:37,399 Speaker 1: even when you don't feel like it, even when those 905 00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,360 Speaker 1: feelings fade at the end of the day, think that 906 00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:44,560 Speaker 1: it comes down to making the choice to stay together 907 00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,440 Speaker 1: and make the most of it and do the best 908 00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,440 Speaker 1: you can for the sake of the binding agreement that 909 00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:52,920 Speaker 1: you made. Would you agree, I totally agree. This is 910 00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:57,040 Speaker 1: another mind over heart. I think we tend to think 911 00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:59,880 Speaker 1: with our hearts, and God gave us a brain to 912 00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,480 Speaker 1: think with our brains. In fact, the Bible says so 913 00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:06,680 Speaker 1: many times that the heart is wicked. But today's culture 914 00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:09,640 Speaker 1: wants to say follow your heart, listen to your heart, 915 00:53:10,239 --> 00:53:13,680 Speaker 1: follow it. No, guys, stop listening to your heart. You 916 00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,880 Speaker 1: got to use your brains. And this is a situation 917 00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:21,480 Speaker 1: where exactly what Parker's saying, I totally agree that you're 918 00:53:21,480 --> 00:53:23,400 Speaker 1: going to have to look her in the eye. Communication 919 00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:24,759 Speaker 1: is going to be key here. You look her in 920 00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:29,120 Speaker 1: the eye and say, babe, I think you're right us 921 00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:32,560 Speaker 1: being two different people and no longer happy. But happiness, 922 00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:37,759 Speaker 1: unlike joy, Happiness is a choice that you make. Happiness 923 00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:41,600 Speaker 1: is something that you go. You know what, we're not happy. 924 00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:47,400 Speaker 1: So let's dive into this and let's decide that we 925 00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:49,920 Speaker 1: are going to be happy. Let's find our common ground, 926 00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:56,160 Speaker 1: let's listen more, let's compromise more. And you could also 927 00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:59,680 Speaker 1: say that you guys have been apart for the last 928 00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:03,759 Speaker 1: six seven months. That's a strain on your marriage. So 929 00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,400 Speaker 1: you're going through a rough patch, you're going through a 930 00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:09,040 Speaker 1: valley right now. But it's not always. You're not always 931 00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:11,680 Speaker 1: going to be six or seven months apart. This is 932 00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:13,920 Speaker 1: this is a season and you're gonna make it through. 933 00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:17,520 Speaker 1: So be patient through this season and find contentment and 934 00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:21,640 Speaker 1: find find gratitude and lower your expectations. So it's like 935 00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:23,279 Speaker 1: I was saying with Chad a couple weeks ago on 936 00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:28,640 Speaker 1: this podcast, lower your expectations and raise your gratitude. I 937 00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:31,399 Speaker 1: want everyone to understand that I want you to have 938 00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:34,439 Speaker 1: high expectations for your life and your love, in your 939 00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:37,920 Speaker 1: marriage and your relationships, and your kids and your jobs. 940 00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:40,759 Speaker 1: I want you to have high expectations. So don't get 941 00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:44,719 Speaker 1: me wrong, but I want you to have higher gratitude. 942 00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,479 Speaker 1: And if you have to lower your expectations a little 943 00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:51,480 Speaker 1: bit in order to make that gratitude pass it, then 944 00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:54,120 Speaker 1: you gotta do what you gotta do. And so right 945 00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:56,480 Speaker 1: now you're going to go. You know what, babe, I 946 00:54:56,520 --> 00:55:02,920 Speaker 1: don't expect us to have great little frivolous conversations on 947 00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,200 Speaker 1: the phone or FaceTime or however you guys are talking 948 00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:09,440 Speaker 1: every day. I expect for me personally, I'm speaking for 949 00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:13,239 Speaker 1: myself when I like today, I'm coming off of two 950 00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:16,640 Speaker 1: early morning flights. I flew yesterday. I had an early 951 00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:20,680 Speaker 1: flight to Idaho from Texas. I went hit the ground running. 952 00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:22,520 Speaker 1: We did meet and greets. Chris and I did two 953 00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:24,239 Speaker 1: hundred and ten meet and greets. We went right to 954 00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:26,960 Speaker 1: the stage. I went right to bed, and then I 955 00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:30,160 Speaker 1: had a five o'clock alarm and got an early flight. 956 00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,080 Speaker 1: I'm back here in Texas. I know that when I 957 00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,560 Speaker 1: do something like this that I'm gonna be a little 958 00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:40,759 Speaker 1: short tempered. My fuse is a little short, and I 959 00:55:40,840 --> 00:55:44,160 Speaker 1: have to recognize that I'm not gonna be my best 960 00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:47,479 Speaker 1: version of myself. So if I start arguing right now 961 00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:51,760 Speaker 1: with my wife, I'm gonna have to quickly recognize I'm sorry, babe, 962 00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:55,239 Speaker 1: I just haven't as much sleep. I'm not myself. I 963 00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:57,759 Speaker 1: need some good sleep. So you guys need a good 964 00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:01,680 Speaker 1: sleep in your marriage, per se, going through a tough 965 00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:04,239 Speaker 1: six or seven months that you just got to get 966 00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:07,680 Speaker 1: through the season, and then you reevaluate once you're back home, 967 00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:09,920 Speaker 1: once you're stable again. Maybe a couple of kids are 968 00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:12,080 Speaker 1: in the mix. But you guys are both out of 969 00:56:12,080 --> 00:56:15,080 Speaker 1: the army, and then you're gonna be in a different place. 970 00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,600 Speaker 1: It sounds like you might need a Caribbean vacation. Go 971 00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:19,920 Speaker 1: take a cruise. Now, don't do that. Everyone's saying, don't 972 00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:22,759 Speaker 1: do that. Now. Go to an island somewhere and get 973 00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,680 Speaker 1: on a beach and spend some of that army money 974 00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:30,200 Speaker 1: and relax a little bit and just understand each other. 975 00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,840 Speaker 1: So when she wants to come at you arguing, what 976 00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:35,920 Speaker 1: if you agreed with her? Got to put away the pride, 977 00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:41,319 Speaker 1: put away all this, all the desire to win and 978 00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:43,720 Speaker 1: just to been Like she's like, you know, you're a punk, 979 00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:49,120 Speaker 1: and you just go, yeah, here, you're right, Like instantly, 980 00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:51,520 Speaker 1: that shuts it down. She can't go after you again, 981 00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:55,439 Speaker 1: She can't go I mean, you're really a punk. Yeah, 982 00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:59,959 Speaker 1: you're right. I haven't been the I haven't been there 983 00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:04,319 Speaker 1: like you deserve. You deserve me to be there. You 984 00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:07,640 Speaker 1: deserve the best version of me. And I haven't been that. 985 00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:10,839 Speaker 1: I've been bogged down with work, I've been missing you, 986 00:57:11,239 --> 00:57:14,440 Speaker 1: I've been busy, I've been lacking sleep. This is a 987 00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:17,640 Speaker 1: crazy time, guys, with everything that's been going on with 988 00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:22,640 Speaker 1: the world and everything's going on in the military. This 989 00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:25,560 Speaker 1: it's just a crazy time. You're in a season that 990 00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:29,800 Speaker 1: will pass, and so look at it like that, it's 991 00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:31,800 Speaker 1: a season that's going to pass. In this happiness that 992 00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:35,320 Speaker 1: you're talking about, you don't have. You're acting like we're 993 00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,040 Speaker 1: no longer happy, and then that's final, Like that's the end. 994 00:57:38,400 --> 00:57:41,360 Speaker 1: We're no longer happy. Close the book. No, it's just 995 00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:45,680 Speaker 1: a season. You could regain that happiness when you choose to. 996 00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:49,880 Speaker 1: And you are, like you said, you guys are two 997 00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,439 Speaker 1: different people. Now that's okay, it's not bad. You don't 998 00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:56,439 Speaker 1: expect when you get married at eighteen or nineteen, don't 999 00:57:56,480 --> 00:57:59,680 Speaker 1: expect to be the same person that you married when 1000 00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:03,560 Speaker 1: you're age twenty eight or thirty eight. My wife's not 1001 00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:08,080 Speaker 1: the same. She's not the same girl I'm married, and 1002 00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:09,760 Speaker 1: I thank god that she's not. I don't want to 1003 00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:12,520 Speaker 1: be married to twenty seven year old Amber. I want 1004 00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:14,240 Speaker 1: to be married to the thirty eight year old Amber 1005 00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:17,240 Speaker 1: because I don't have anything in common anymore with the 1006 00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:19,760 Speaker 1: twenty seven year old Amber like I used to. So 1007 00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:22,520 Speaker 1: thank god she's not the same, and thank god i'm not, 1008 00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:26,600 Speaker 1: and thank god we can evolve through that. But you 1009 00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:29,360 Speaker 1: guys are gonna be okay. And you got you, you 1010 00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:32,160 Speaker 1: got your you got your priority straight because you're worried 1011 00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:37,080 Speaker 1: about it, and that's good. So that's my advice. I'm 1012 00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:41,280 Speaker 1: gonna have another one, Parker. Sure. I feel like I've 1013 00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:48,280 Speaker 1: been yelling for three questions. Now here's the one that says, 1014 00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:50,400 Speaker 1: please help my girlfriend broke up with me. I don't 1015 00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:52,200 Speaker 1: think I'm gonna read that one. No, I think we're 1016 00:58:52,240 --> 00:59:01,280 Speaker 1: kind of covered that I'm picking and choosing. Now, Okay, 1017 00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:05,160 Speaker 1: how this seems like it's completely different, says hey grader. 1018 00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:09,840 Speaker 1: My name is Brody. I'm from Kentucky. Shout out to Kentucky. Lately, 1019 00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:11,640 Speaker 1: my parents have been wanting me to go back to 1020 00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:16,840 Speaker 1: high school for the experience. Right now, I'm homeschooled, but 1021 00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:19,320 Speaker 1: they want me to go back and experience all sorts 1022 00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:22,919 Speaker 1: of stuff. I have major anxiety, so I really don't 1023 00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:24,840 Speaker 1: want to know. I really don't want to know how 1024 00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:28,160 Speaker 1: I excuse me. So I really don't know how I 1025 00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:31,520 Speaker 1: feel about it. And I want to go back, and 1026 00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:33,040 Speaker 1: I want to meet all the friends and all that 1027 00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:35,640 Speaker 1: sorts of stuff. But I don't know right now if 1028 00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:40,040 Speaker 1: high school is right for me. Is he saying how 1029 00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:45,880 Speaker 1: old he is? No? So high school age, Brody from Kentucky. 1030 00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:53,120 Speaker 1: He's homeschooled. This is an easy one for me for 1031 00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:56,240 Speaker 1: its parents want him to go back because they want 1032 00:59:56,320 --> 00:59:59,320 Speaker 1: him to experience all sorts of stuff. They're probably seeing 1033 00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Brody the they're probably seeing in you. This goes back 1034 01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:07,200 Speaker 1: to trust your parents, honor your parents. They're probably seeing 1035 01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:10,919 Speaker 1: something in you since they live with you, that they're 1036 01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:18,560 Speaker 1: wanting to expand your vocabulary of the world a little bit. 1037 01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:22,600 Speaker 1: They're probably seeing, Oh, Brody's getting a little too comfortable 1038 01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:27,600 Speaker 1: at home, and that's evident by you having anxiety about 1039 01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:30,360 Speaker 1: going back to high school. So first of all, let 1040 01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:35,480 Speaker 1: me just start by saying, I'm one hundred percent with 1041 01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:37,560 Speaker 1: your parents that you need to go back to high school. 1042 01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:42,640 Speaker 1: Why because of the way you're emailing me saying you 1043 01:00:42,640 --> 01:00:45,480 Speaker 1: have anxiety, Because then I would say to you, Brody, 1044 01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:51,720 Speaker 1: and I'm always speaking this podcast as though we're buddies. Brody, 1045 01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:55,240 Speaker 1: I'm talking as we're buddies sitting around a campfire. I 1046 01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:57,920 Speaker 1: would say, bro what's going to happen if you have 1047 01:00:57,960 --> 01:01:00,800 Speaker 1: anxiety about going to high school? What's going to happen 1048 01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:04,680 Speaker 1: after that? What's going to happen in a job, What's 1049 01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:06,560 Speaker 1: going to happen in a relationship, What's going to happen 1050 01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:10,000 Speaker 1: when you have to do anything else outside of mom 1051 01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:13,360 Speaker 1: and Dad's house. That's what they're seeing in this that's 1052 01:01:13,360 --> 01:01:17,920 Speaker 1: what they're wanting you to experience. So I think this 1053 01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:24,520 Speaker 1: goes back to Parker do hard things. Always Remember, remember 1054 01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:26,400 Speaker 1: we talked about this a lot Parker at one point, 1055 01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:30,800 Speaker 1: like a year ago. Always in life, when you have 1056 01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:38,040 Speaker 1: a fork in the road, choose the harder path, because 1057 01:01:38,080 --> 01:01:41,360 Speaker 1: every time you choose the harder path, and then you 1058 01:01:41,400 --> 01:01:44,920 Speaker 1: choose another harder path and another harder path, you're separating 1059 01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:48,200 Speaker 1: yourself from the rest of the world. If you slowly 1060 01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:52,360 Speaker 1: choose hard things, I'm not saying the most difficult decision 1061 01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:55,439 Speaker 1: of your life. Make that every time. I'm saying, lean 1062 01:01:55,520 --> 01:01:59,040 Speaker 1: into your anxiety and the hard things, and it will 1063 01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:02,640 Speaker 1: come back and pay so much tenfold for you. Yeah, 1064 01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:04,840 Speaker 1: gotta get out of the comfort zone. Do hard things 1065 01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:07,040 Speaker 1: live an easy life? Do easy things live a hard life? 1066 01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:10,960 Speaker 1: That's what Tyler said, right, say that again, slowly, slowly 1067 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:14,920 Speaker 1: for anyone taking notes. Wow, if you're taking notes on this, 1068 01:02:15,040 --> 01:02:17,280 Speaker 1: that'll be a lot of people take notes to your 1069 01:02:17,280 --> 01:02:19,800 Speaker 1: podcast these days. I guess, all right, get your pen out. 1070 01:02:21,160 --> 01:02:25,640 Speaker 1: Do hard things live an easy life? Do easy things 1071 01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:30,360 Speaker 1: live a hard life? That's the play on words. That's it. 1072 01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:34,160 Speaker 1: There doesn't brody. There doesn't need to be anything else 1073 01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:38,360 Speaker 1: said besides that, Do hard things live an easy life? 1074 01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:41,000 Speaker 1: Do easy things live a hard life? You stay at 1075 01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:42,800 Speaker 1: home with mom and dad, you're gonna have a hard life. 1076 01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:47,320 Speaker 1: I promise you that anxiety grows from a little baby 1077 01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:51,800 Speaker 1: to a huge dragon, one step at a time, one 1078 01:02:51,880 --> 01:02:54,080 Speaker 1: day at a time of you staying in your comfort zone, 1079 01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:55,920 Speaker 1: and then one day that anxiety is going to be 1080 01:02:55,960 --> 01:03:00,040 Speaker 1: so big and your social anxiety and your depression and 1081 01:03:01,080 --> 01:03:03,200 Speaker 1: your inability to get out of your comfort zone is 1082 01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,160 Speaker 1: going to be so big that it's going to be 1083 01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:07,720 Speaker 1: really hard to function. So every time you feel that 1084 01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:10,120 Speaker 1: little fear, to see that as a step to boom. 1085 01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:11,520 Speaker 1: I'm going to step into that and I'm going to 1086 01:03:11,600 --> 01:03:13,760 Speaker 1: do it. Yeah, it's a great point. Every time I 1087 01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:15,920 Speaker 1: feel that little twinge of anxiety, that's a sign that's 1088 01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:18,160 Speaker 1: exactly what I need to do. That's a great point. 1089 01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:19,760 Speaker 1: How do you know you're on the right path? If 1090 01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,320 Speaker 1: you have that little butterfly in your stomach, then you're 1091 01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:24,440 Speaker 1: you're on the right path. So let me help your brody. 1092 01:03:24,520 --> 01:03:28,360 Speaker 1: Let me help you with a concrete plan of how 1093 01:03:28,480 --> 01:03:33,200 Speaker 1: to go back to high school. You wake up, brush 1094 01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:38,000 Speaker 1: your teeth, put on your clothes, put on your shoes, 1095 01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:45,240 Speaker 1: get in the car, and go to show up. Show up, 1096 01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:48,040 Speaker 1: lean into it, show up. You don't have to you 1097 01:03:48,080 --> 01:03:50,800 Speaker 1: don't have to have some big elaborate plan. You don't 1098 01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:53,760 Speaker 1: have to join the football team at day one and 1099 01:03:53,960 --> 01:03:58,360 Speaker 1: fill your schedule. You literally show up. I'm sure you 1100 01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:00,840 Speaker 1: can attest to this. Some of the most nerves that 1101 01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:03,400 Speaker 1: you've ever had, from being a seventeen year old getting 1102 01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:05,560 Speaker 1: on a stage for a first time to being where 1103 01:04:05,560 --> 01:04:07,200 Speaker 1: you are now in some of the biggest areas of 1104 01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:09,000 Speaker 1: your life, some of the biggest moments of your life. 1105 01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:13,320 Speaker 1: When that anxiety is so high and you're so nervous, 1106 01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:18,360 Speaker 1: that's usually when you feel the most accomplished afterwards, after 1107 01:04:18,400 --> 01:04:20,760 Speaker 1: you step into it. Absolutely and that's where you see 1108 01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:22,840 Speaker 1: the most growth. And you know what I do when 1109 01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:25,000 Speaker 1: I'm really nervous and I'm going on a stage or 1110 01:04:25,040 --> 01:04:29,040 Speaker 1: I'm doing a TV show and I'm really nervous, really nervous, 1111 01:04:29,440 --> 01:04:31,800 Speaker 1: you know what I always do. The first thing I 1112 01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:35,400 Speaker 1: say to the crowd is I acknowledge that I'm nervous. 1113 01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:38,480 Speaker 1: I did that in that sermon in Indiana. I made 1114 01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:40,560 Speaker 1: sure that I walked up and then one of the 1115 01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:43,280 Speaker 1: first things I said on my first sermon at the 1116 01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:49,600 Speaker 1: church was, Wow, I'm really nervous right now. And Brodie, 1117 01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:51,360 Speaker 1: you could do the same thing. You could go and 1118 01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:54,080 Speaker 1: the teacher could say, hey, how are you doing, Brodie, 1119 01:04:54,080 --> 01:04:56,080 Speaker 1: tell me a little bit about yourself, and you go, well, 1120 01:04:57,160 --> 01:05:01,080 Speaker 1: I'm actually pretty nervous. I'm a homeschool kid. This is 1121 01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:05,640 Speaker 1: new to me and I'm nervous. And opening up that 1122 01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:09,080 Speaker 1: kind of vulnerability just makes people's heart go out to you. 1123 01:05:09,640 --> 01:05:12,760 Speaker 1: They're just like that. That teacher would be like, well, 1124 01:05:12,840 --> 01:05:14,840 Speaker 1: let me help you, let me show you around, let 1125 01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:17,600 Speaker 1: me introduce you to two people. They take you under 1126 01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:20,000 Speaker 1: your wing. It's instead of trying to cover it up, 1127 01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:22,720 Speaker 1: just straight up tell them I'm nervous, and you will 1128 01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:25,760 Speaker 1: do well. Brody email back. I want to I see 1129 01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:27,960 Speaker 1: what happens to you, and I want to hear a 1130 01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:31,040 Speaker 1: report back. But I appreciate you email and shout out 1131 01:05:31,080 --> 01:05:34,880 Speaker 1: to Kentucky. I appreciate all you guys so much. I 1132 01:05:34,920 --> 01:05:37,720 Speaker 1: want to say again, please. This is episode ninety nine. 1133 01:05:37,880 --> 01:05:40,720 Speaker 1: Stay tuned for episode one hundred next Monday. We put 1134 01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:45,240 Speaker 1: these out every single Monday morning, somewhere around six thirty 1135 01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:49,080 Speaker 1: am Central time. We're trying to hit everybody so that 1136 01:05:49,120 --> 01:05:52,040 Speaker 1: you could commute to work with it, or ride with 1137 01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:54,160 Speaker 1: it in the truck or whatever you're doing. Listening to 1138 01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:57,040 Speaker 1: this podcast. I just I appreciate being up in your 1139 01:05:57,120 --> 01:06:00,720 Speaker 1: ear on Mondays, so stay tuned next week episode. If 1140 01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:03,920 Speaker 1: you're listening on Apple, leave a review. It would help 1141 01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:06,360 Speaker 1: them out a lot. Yep. On the charts, yep, leave 1142 01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:07,840 Speaker 1: a review if you're enjoying it. If you want to 1143 01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:12,720 Speaker 1: hear more, Parker EEE podcast launches every Wednesday, and you 1144 01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:14,880 Speaker 1: pretty much are on that every single Wednesday. Yep. Yeah, 1145 01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:18,040 Speaker 1: we got the EEE podcast talking everything outdoors, the office, 1146 01:06:18,760 --> 01:06:21,640 Speaker 1: kind of behind the scenes stuff and don't take ourselves 1147 01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:23,440 Speaker 1: too seriously. You may get a couple of laughs over there. 1148 01:06:23,480 --> 01:06:26,920 Speaker 1: That's Wednesday mornings. Cool. See you guy, Ye thanks for 1149 01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:30,160 Speaker 1: joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of 1150 01:06:30,200 --> 01:06:32,280 Speaker 1: you guys. You could help me out by rating this 1151 01:06:32,360 --> 01:06:36,480 Speaker 1: podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. 1152 01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:39,920 Speaker 1: Hit that little like button and notification spell so that 1153 01:06:40,000 --> 01:06:43,720 Speaker 1: you never miss anytime I upload a video. 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