1 00:00:01,280 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: This is my legacy. In this week's bonus Drop, Marie Folio, 2 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: entrepreneur and best selling author, gets real about setting boundaries 3 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: and embracing parts of herself once labeled too much. Together 4 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: with her best friend Chris Carr, they reflect on what 5 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: it means to honor your younger self, speak your truth, 6 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: and surround yourself with only love in the room. Let's 7 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: jump in. 8 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 2: Let's go back a little bit to that little girl. 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,559 Speaker 2: Because one of the things that my best friend and 10 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 2: I do, and I got this from my best friend, 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 2: is that we have pictures of ourselves as little girls. 12 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 2: She calls them our littles. And I have it right 13 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 2: next to my bed and right next to where I 14 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 2: make coffee, and I have it on my phone, just 15 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 2: that reminder of being little and my reminder and my 16 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 2: promise to her. And I know, Marie, that you've said 17 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 2: that when you were little, you were almost seen as 18 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 2: too much, you know, too much, too big, too bright. 19 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,479 Speaker 2: And that's something that so many women, I think, can 20 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 2: I identify with. What would you now go back and 21 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 2: tell your little. 22 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: That she can never be too much, that all of 23 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:22,960 Speaker 3: her quote unquote too muchness, all of the brightness, all 24 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:28,039 Speaker 3: of the creativity and the magic is exactly who she 25 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 3: was meant to be. And I think that's actually one 26 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,119 Speaker 3: of the things that I love about my friendship with Chris. Chris, 27 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 3: I'll just pull you into this for a moment, because 28 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 3: she is the one person in the world where when 29 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:43,119 Speaker 3: I'm having a moment, even as an adult woman, and 30 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 3: I'm like, am I asking for too much? You know, 31 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: I'm kind of going through something as it relates to 32 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 3: a relationship or a business or an idea, and I 33 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 3: feel like perhaps my expectations are too high. This woman 34 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 3: right here, Miss Chris Carr, is the one that reminds 35 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 3: me to ask myself and to remember that all of 36 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 3: my quote unquote too muchness is what makes me so special. 37 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 3: And she regrounds me in the fact that I don't 38 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 3: have to dial down my light, and I don't have 39 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 3: to dial down my heart, and I don't have to 40 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 3: dial down any part of me to fit into this world. 41 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:25,679 Speaker 2: So Chris, beautiful, beautiful Chris, what would you tell your 42 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 2: little Oh? 43 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 4: I feel like I talked to my little a lot. 44 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 4: So I love this and I love that you have 45 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 4: this picture where you But I have a frame picture 46 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 4: of myself at around eight years old and I'm at 47 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 4: Rye Playland and it's my birthday and this I mean, 48 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:49,679 Speaker 4: you know, braces are coming right, she's got a jaw 49 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 4: on her. But this picture, I don't think there's a 50 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 4: picture in my life that I've seen of such unbridled joy. 51 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 4: And so much of the work I think that we 52 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 4: as humans is staying connected to that joy, especially when 53 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 4: we're going through really difficult times. And so I would 54 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:13,359 Speaker 4: just encourage her to follow her joy and to never 55 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 4: feel like her joy isn't enough, or her joy is frivolous, 56 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 4: or her joy should look a certain way. And I think, 57 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 4: really that's what I've been trying to get back to, 58 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 4: is that sense of the joy that she had at 59 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 4: Rye Playland. And one of the things that I know 60 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 4: about my relationship with Marie is that we stand for 61 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 4: each other's littles so a lot of time. I mean, 62 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 4: we were on the phone this morning, you know, gabbing 63 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 4: for an hour as we often do. Multiple times. I 64 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 4: came on, I was like, why do your eyelashes look 65 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 4: so good? 66 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 5: She's like, I curled them with heat. I was like, 67 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 5: how do I do that? Before the podcast? 68 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 4: You know, these are the things you know, we talk 69 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 4: about all the things, including the most practical things so 70 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 4: hot eyelashes, but I think standing for each other's littles 71 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 4: is such an important part of our friendships, especially when, 72 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 4: as Marie said, things come up. You know, I had 73 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 4: this great therapist once who said to me, if it's hysterical, 74 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 4: it's historical. And oftentimes the work we do when we're 75 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 4: in these really deep spiritual friendships is when somebody is suffering, 76 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 4: is to go back underneath the moment and sort of 77 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 4: lead us back to the place where your heart was 78 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 4: broken or the place where the pain started, and to 79 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 4: actually just be of comfort and to hold space for 80 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 4: one another. And I think we can all do that, 81 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 4: and the more we bring that into our relationships, into 82 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 4: our lives, I think the deep bar our lives get. 83 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:45,679 Speaker 6: Maria, I wanted to ask you, You've taught the world 84 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 6: so many amazing things. You've taught me so many amazing things, 85 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 6: and I want you to share with us what are 86 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 6: the coolest things that you've taught me that I love, 87 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 6: and just explain this to our viewers in the way 88 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 6: that you do. Because you're such a great storyteller. This 89 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 6: is something that I use it's the thing that you've 90 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 6: taught me, which is observe, don't absorb. 91 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, first of all, this is really really helpful, 92 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 3: especially for those of us who are empaths, those of 93 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 3: us who are really also sensitive to energy, those of 94 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 3: us who tend to also have people in our lives that, 95 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 3: let's say, have different kind of energy that is not 96 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 3: necessarily a good chemistry match for you. So the notion 97 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 3: of observing and not absorbing, and I'll just say this, 98 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 3: you know, for especially what my life has been like 99 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 3: these past couple years. You know, family, we love them, 100 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 3: and then sometimes same thing like. 101 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 5: Josh and I you need to shake each other because 102 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 5: you're like God, gotta get away. 103 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 3: Same thing can happen in our work environments and with 104 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 3: our friendships. So I think observing someone it's like observing 105 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 3: what they're going through, having ultimate compassion for what they're experiencing, 106 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 3: being there in terms of listening, mirroring what they're going through, 107 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:03,919 Speaker 3: without absorbing it into your own energetic field, taking it on, 108 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:10,039 Speaker 3: becoming responsible for fixing it, for figuring it out, or 109 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 3: thinking that you are necessarily the cause of this other 110 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 3: person's distress or upset or stress, even if they tell 111 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 3: you that you are so, you know, I have been 112 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 3: through this most recently and again my mom, God bless her. 113 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,559 Speaker 3: She's still with us. She's struggling a lot right now. 114 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 3: And you know she said some things in the past 115 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 3: little stretch of time that were extremely hurtful and some 116 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 3: might say cruel. I've shared some things with Christians. She 117 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:41,479 Speaker 3: was like, WHOA, that's a lot. And so it comes 118 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 3: back to this notion of me going like and I 119 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 3: can observe her in her pain. I can observe her 120 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 3: what she's experiencing, which is a lot of terror and 121 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 3: a lot of fear and a lot of loss of control. 122 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 3: And I can empathize with the notion of what she's 123 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,279 Speaker 3: experiencing and how those lash outs might be directed me 124 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,359 Speaker 3: if I'm in her presence. But I don't have to 125 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 3: absorb it and take it on. I don't need to 126 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 3: be a sponge and I don't need to as painful 127 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 3: as this is. As the daughter of the woman who 128 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 3: taught me that everything is figure outable, I don't have 129 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 3: to figure it out for her, nor is that my role. 130 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 3: I can trust at a very deep level that there 131 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 3: is for me, and this is my own belief system, 132 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 3: there is a higher power watching over her. She is 133 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 3: on her own soulful and spiritual journey, and the greatest 134 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 3: gift I can give both her and myself is to 135 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 3: show up. And Chris taught me this one only love 136 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 3: in the room, meaning bringing only love in the room. 137 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 3: Can I observe her and not absorb that negativity? Can 138 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 3: I observe her and not absorb her pain and her 139 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 3: fear as my own to. 140 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 7: Observe without absorbing? I love that, Marie. Chris. Can I 141 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 7: turn to you because you've sat with some of the 142 00:07:55,680 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 7: most extraordinary teachers in particularly physical well being. But we 143 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 7: know how connected physical and mental is, and so what 144 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 7: is a practice that you can share with our listeners 145 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 7: that's been deeply profound on a physical practice, but that's 146 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 7: similar to what Marie shared with us has helped helped 147 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,880 Speaker 7: you on mental self care. 148 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 4: Well, I want to go back to what Marie said, 149 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 4: which is choosing love and having love be in the room. 150 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 4: I learned that as my chosen father was dying, and 151 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 4: I was so scared to have difficult conversations about death 152 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 4: and dying, and yet I knew that these were the 153 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 4: conversations he wanted to have, and so I had to 154 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 4: do a lot of like homework on how to do that. 155 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 4: I remember my therapist telling me, why don't you start 156 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 4: by having talk about talking about it? So have a 157 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 4: conversation about talking about death and dying, like, hey, would 158 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 4: you like to have this? And if the answer is yes, 159 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 4: here's how I'm going to have to prepare for that. 160 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:01,160 Speaker 4: And this is what might happen. And I may break down, 161 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 4: I may cry, and I don't want to make you 162 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 4: feel guilty in any way, shape or form. Is that 163 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 4: going to be okay? And so we had this blessed 164 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 4: opportunity to have those deep conversations. And because I live 165 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 4: with stage four cancer, so death is something I have 166 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 4: thought about quite often. 167 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 5: For twenty years. 168 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 4: In some ways, he wanted to have the conversation with me, right, 169 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 4: And so when we were able to have that, it 170 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 4: showed me what the capacity what love actually looks like, 171 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 4: because I think before this experience, love had a different 172 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:42,959 Speaker 4: flavor to me, and love became something so much bigger. 173 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 4: And when I talk about only love in the room, 174 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 4: it was you know, those end those last few days 175 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,719 Speaker 4: or the last three years, but really the last few 176 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 4: days when your person the person that you love, a 177 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 4: cherished person in your family is getting ready to leave. 178 00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:59,480 Speaker 5: His or her body. 179 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 4: And if you ever have that opportunity to be in 180 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:07,199 Speaker 4: the room, you get to know humanity at such an 181 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 4: energetic level. And there's no time for talking, there's no 182 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 4: time for fixing. All of that is behind us. The 183 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 4: only thing that can be present is will I show 184 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 4: up with love? And even if you don't know what 185 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 4: to say and you don't know how to behave and 186 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 4: things don't go the way you want it to go, 187 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 4: as long as that intention of love is there and 188 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 4: what's guiding you, I feel like there's a lot less 189 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 4: of a chance for regret. 190 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 5: And so. 191 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 4: I just wanted to hop on what Marie said because 192 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 4: I thought it was so powerful, and it becomes this 193 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 4: practice for each and every one of us. What does 194 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 4: it look like to only have love in the room. 195 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 4: It doesn't mean things are always going to be loving, 196 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 4: but it's like, how well, how are you going to 197 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 4: show up? How are you keeping your side of the 198 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 4: street clean and intact. 199 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 2: One of the things I've been reciting lately is that 200 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 2: I walk in love so literally, having the intention of 201 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 2: every place that you are showing up and in every conversation, 202 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:17,560 Speaker 2: even when even the conversations or the truths may be 203 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 2: very challenging. But to start and root in that intention 204 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 2: of being walking, standing surrounded in love. 205 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 8: We're building something real here, one episode at a time. 206 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 8: If you want to be part of it, subscribe, It's free, 207 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 8: it matters, and we're just getting started. 208 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:47,960 Speaker 2: Now back to my legacy. 209 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:48,720 Speaker 6: Chris, you've talked about your loving role as an ant 210 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 6: and living a full connection without being a parent. What 211 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 6: have you learned about building a family on your own terms? 212 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:59,840 Speaker 4: Well, you know, it's interesting because we think that we're 213 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 4: h I guess we're domesticated to believe, especially as women, 214 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 4: that we're going to settle down and find a good 215 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 4: partner and raise kids, and you know, and then you know, 216 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,920 Speaker 4: the rest of the fantasy story that I think in 217 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 4: a lot of ways strangles many of us. And I 218 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 4: mean that respectfully, but I think especially as young women, 219 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 4: when we are we're steep in the stories of what 220 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 4: our lives are supposed to look like, as opposed to 221 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 4: the stories that may come from within about what we 222 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 4: want our lives to look like. It can be this 223 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:32,839 Speaker 4: big unlearning that needs to happen. I thought, I would 224 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 4: have kids. I thought I would do all the traditional 225 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 4: things that I saw people do or I saw portrayed 226 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 4: in the media. And then when I got diagnosed, it 227 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 4: was really clear to me that to choose to have 228 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 4: children would mean that I would have to choose to 229 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 4: put my health in a lot of danger. And so 230 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 4: thankfully being in a partnership with somebody who was also like, no, 231 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 4: I love you, I want you to stick around. This 232 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 4: is more important to me than the two of us 233 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 4: having our own kids, we were able to say, Okay, 234 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 4: well what do we want life to look like? And 235 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 4: it's supposed to be thinking like, oh, this is sad, 236 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 4: and in some ways it was. There were times where 237 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,839 Speaker 4: we were both very sad, but we never said, well, 238 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 4: we're childless. We always said we're child free. And if 239 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 4: we're child free, that means we have all these other opportunities, 240 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 4: opportunities to have to be wonderful. Aunties and uncles were like, 241 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 4: the he's the favorite funkal and we take our nieces 242 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 4: and nephews to Disney World. We get to do all 243 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 4: the things. I think I'm built to be a grandmother, 244 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,640 Speaker 4: not a mother, if that makes sense, because grandmothers can 245 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 4: say grandmothers are the most exciting people to come and visit. 246 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:43,320 Speaker 4: And I have a lot of young people in my 247 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 4: life who love to come and visit. But when the 248 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:50,480 Speaker 4: meltdowns happen and they do, I get to have my 249 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:55,640 Speaker 4: exit music, right. 250 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 9: And so we've been able to build a really great 251 00:13:59,880 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 9: life life with kids that we love, and dear friends 252 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 9: that we love, and a lot of you know, rescue animals, 253 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:10,840 Speaker 9: as Marie said, that we love and and get to 254 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 9: nurture and recall me the other day and she's like, 255 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 9: what are you doing? 256 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 5: I said, I'm on a pigeon rescue. What are you 257 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 5: talking about. 258 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 4: I'm like, I'll call you later, but I got to 259 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 4: handle this pigeon situation right now. 260 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 2: Chris. What what animals do you have now right now 261 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 2: that you that are in your rescue unit. 262 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I would have a lot more if my 263 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 4: husband would allow me. So this is one thing against him. 264 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 5: This can't be all glowy about Brian. 265 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 9: Actually he gave. 266 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 5: Me metal farm animals that I have outside. Yeah, he's good. 267 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 5: I have a metal goat, I have a metal pig. 268 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:51,920 Speaker 5: I have a metal chicken. 269 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:55,520 Speaker 4: Because I actually wanted to rescue all of those creatures 270 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 4: and he was like, no, here, happy birthday, Chris. 271 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 6: When you have that dinner talking about you know, dating 272 00:15:00,560 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 6: advice from this fine gentleman, this son of doctor King. 273 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 6: You could also say that the Kings suggested you bring 274 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 6: in more animals that need love and support, like you cannot. 275 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 5: You can't argue that. 276 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 6: You can't argue with that. I mean, this is being 277 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 6: channeled from doctor King all the way down right. 278 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 5: I was gonna say, I support this methodge I. 279 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us. If you enjoyed today's conversation, subscribe, share, 280 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: and follow us on at my Legacy Movement on social 281 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 1: media and YouTube. New episodes drop every Tuesday, with bonus 282 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: content every Thursday. At its core, this podcast honors doctor 283 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: King's vision of the Beloved Community and the power of connection. 284 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: A Legacy Plus Studio production distributed by iHeartMedia creator and 285 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 1: executive producer Suzanne Hayward come executive producer Lisa Lyle. 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