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Speaker 2: Yeah, send her to one to like gay people.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I must send you to the conversion camp where

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Speaker 3: you get divorced, lady, what's up? Divorced conversion? So so

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Speaker 3: this is a pretty heavy situation, and I'm really confused

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Speaker 3: and disgusted. Not gonna lie because I never thought my

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Speaker 3: wife was like this. My wife, forty four female, and

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Speaker 3: I forty five male, have been married for fourteen years.

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Speaker 3: We have two kids, a sixteen year old son, Noah,

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Speaker 3: and a twelve year old daughter. We've had our fair

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Speaker 3: share of disagreements over the years, of course, but things

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Speaker 3: have generally been smooth between us. By the way, this

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Speaker 3: comes from user stunning Mud ninety two to twenty seven

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Speaker 3: on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So now for

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Speaker 3: the context. Noah came out as gay about a year ago.

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Speaker 3: It was a surprise and as hard as it was

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Speaker 3: to accept, I love my kids more than anything and

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Speaker 3: I just want their happiness. My wife visibly didn't take

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Speaker 3: it too well, though, Oh no. She was upset and

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Speaker 3: seemed to go through a grieving period where she didn't

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Speaker 3: really talk about it. I tried to support Noah in

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Speaker 3: every way I could, telling him that I loved him

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Speaker 3: no matter what, etc.

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Speaker 1: Which is the.

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Speaker 3: Right thing to do in that situation. My wife, though,

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Speaker 3: I could tell, she wasn't on the same page. She

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Speaker 3: would say things like, quote, this is just a phase,

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Speaker 3: her just needing time. Fast forward to last week and

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Speaker 3: we were having a conversation about Noah's future. Out of nowhere,

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Speaker 3: my wife casually mentions that she's been looking into conversion

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Speaker 3: therapy camps and thinks it might be the right solution.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, no.

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Speaker 1: She said that Noah isn't truly gay and that he

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Speaker 1: just quote hasn't been shown the right path and this

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Speaker 1: could fix him. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's force him to a new sexuality. That'll definitely help.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's for sure, because you was gonna totally know,

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Speaker 3: you're totally tapped into exactly what he wants and needs.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I would love to see the conversion therapy camps

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Speaker 2: conversion rates after light ten years.

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Speaker 1: Oh, they're they're like basically useless.

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Speaker 3: I mean they're they're they're exploitive and abusive. They're terrible

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Speaker 3: they're terrible organizations. You should never send anybody to a

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Speaker 3: conversion therapy camp. My blood ran cold. Obviously, I was

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Speaker 2: Duh.

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Speaker 3: She got upset and said I was enabling Noah's confusion

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Speaker 3: help him get better. What is wrong with her? She

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Speaker 3: was persistent, and no matter how much I tried to

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Speaker 3: explain that conversion therapy is harmful, like I know kids

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Speaker 3: that get abused and often end up either traumatized or

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Speaker 3: you know, or worse what, and that I would never

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Speaker 3: send our son to something like that, she wouldn't back down.

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Speaker 3: If I'm being one hundred percent honest, I don't even

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Speaker 3: think that I love her anymore. The fact that she

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Speaker 3: could be so heartless disgusts me. I know being gay

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Speaker 3: even harder. I'm considering staying only for our daughter's sake, okay,

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Speaker 3: but would it be okay if that meant hurting my son.

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Speaker 1: It feels like a betrayal to Noah.

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Speaker 3: I just don't think I can keep living with someone

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Speaker 1: Dang.

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Speaker 2: The daughter literally took away my conspiracy theory because I thought,

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Speaker 2: oh maybe the mom just one of the daughter in

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Speaker 2: her life surely has one, so yeah, she's just officially

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Speaker 2: that person. How does not come up?

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Speaker 1: What do you mean? How does not come up before? Well,

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Speaker 1: he came out a year ago? And how do you

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Speaker 2: Your thoughts of your partner and how they feel about

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I guess, I mean, like, how does

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Speaker 3: how many of my own partners I've ever talked about

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Speaker 3: conversion therapy with. I don't think that's something you could

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Speaker 3: you where it's like I want to send our gay

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Speaker 3: who is this person I'm married to?

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Speaker 2: But like, but like, how do they not know that

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Speaker 3: Like I guess just like yeah, they just yeah, I

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Speaker 2: The gays.

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Speaker 4: I just like the excuses that the mom key's making like, no, no, uh,

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Speaker 5: This is just a phase.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so condescending.

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Speaker 2: No, legos are a phase until you're one hundred.

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Speaker 2: An astronaut at four is a phase, that's true.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well it's also a very illustrious career path. Email

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Speaker 3: music was never a phase, mom, Yeah, that's more. That's

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Speaker 3: really doing a bad job here at labeling phases. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: we have some relevant comments here. Op needs to get

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Speaker 3: of course I really want to divorce her. We don't

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Speaker 1: Comment are one not the ahole.

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Speaker 3: Please do not send your son to conversion therapy because

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Speaker 3: to worry about that, Opie's yeah, Op says, you do

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Speaker 3: not have to worry about this. I will not do that.

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Speaker 3: I love my son just the way he is. I

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Speaker 3: don't even know how to tell him his mom wants

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Speaker 3: tension between us, but I haven't said anything yet. Comment

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Speaker 3: her two staying for your daughter's sake? WTF? What about

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Speaker 3: your son? Not the a hole divorcer and get full

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Speaker 3: custody immediately of both kids. Tell the judge you fear

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Speaker 3: raise her to be a bigot like her. Also, if

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Speaker 3: you get any of her nonsense in writing, get it

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Speaker 3: in text or a text, save it. Don't tell her

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Speaker 3: you're going to use it in court. Conversion camps should

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Speaker 1: It's so disgusting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just be like Siri. Any homophobic things you hear

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Speaker 1: Uh Op says, you're absolutely right.

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Speaker 3: I'll start looking for a good lawyer and cut her

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Speaker 3: He is no longer on the Should I stay for

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Speaker 2: Got hush?

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Speaker 3: I guess yeah, you don't want your daughter being raised

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Speaker 2: Because that makes great people in this world.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she clearly has. She's got to work through something.

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Speaker 1: Who knows what.

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Speaker 4: We do?

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Speaker 1: Have an update? We have an update here.

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Speaker 2: Oh gosh, So.

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Speaker 1: Let's dig into this update.

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Speaker 3: So, first of all, I'd like to thank everyone here

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Speaker 3: for all the help and advice I've gotten under my

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Speaker 3: post and in DMS. Sorry if I couldn't answer to everyone,

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Speaker 3: there was just so many effing people.

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Speaker 1: So I posted something about my wife wanting to send

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Speaker 3: Really bad update, if I can be honest. So let's

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Speaker 1: But after what happened, I'm one hundred percent sure I

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Speaker 3: Yesterday I went to pick Noah up at his school,

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Speaker 3: At that moment, he started crying because he was so

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Speaker 1: How do you still think this way? Don't I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this this is mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: I don't even feel like the black hole is appropriate.

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Speaker 2: Like Judi Persas CPS is actually a great idea. Another

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Speaker 2: paper trail can't hurt. That's true that you have like

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Speaker 3: But I can understand him being concerned, like because I've

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Speaker 6: That makes sense, makes sense, But it is true that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like this is uh sorry, if anything, you know,

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Speaker 3: For future Yeah, when we put this out there, this

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Speaker 3: there's never an acceptable excuse for anybody, even if this

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Speaker 1: And to your earlier point, to your earlier point, when

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 3: How could you never sense that she was so just

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Speaker 3: this story ends with you know, she gets lipped out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, agreed, agreed, agreed.

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Speaker 3: So I cannot understand how you can grow so resentful

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Speaker 3: very much. I'm very proud of her for doing this

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Speaker 3: You know, if you're gonna you're about to be in

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Speaker 3: a fight for custody, most likely, don't do anything that

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Speaker 1: You look bad on paper.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so yeah, definitely don't just like kick her

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Speaker 3: but of course she deserves it. I would totally agree

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Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. Seeing that

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Speaker 2: what new thing, new thing? If we hit five hundred likes,

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Speaker 2: a sweet deal to me. Five hundred likes. I take

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Speaker 5: Will you take that deal?

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Speaker 1: Five hundred likes, thirty minutes. I take that deal.

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Speaker 2: I take that deal.

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Speaker 5: That's a good deal.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So we're gonna read the story, and you

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Speaker 2: We're gonna read some donuts real quick before I get

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Speaker 2: into this story. Bug. Actually, you should read it Okay,

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Speaker 2: my Facebook numbers are down really bad.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I saw my numbers. My numbers actually pretty big.

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Speaker 1: Good for you, Yeah, I pump those numbers.

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Speaker 1: Bug? That's amazing. I like the smell of beach.

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Speaker 5: That got me off guard. Why did they get me a.

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Speaker 2: Beach?

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Speaker 1: I smell like beef?

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Speaker 4: So you like beach, Dakota, I am a man of

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Speaker 5: I used to work at bathroom body works.

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Speaker 5: What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: assume because of the story, not because of Yeah, uh honey,

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Speaker 3: B eighty five. Thank you for the five pounds.

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Speaker 2: I have a.

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Speaker 3: I'm female to man right, okay, I'm just trying to

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Speaker 3: figure out how to I have a female to male son.

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Speaker 3: And my mom always MISSGENDERSIM so this story hurts my heart.

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Speaker 3: Just support your kid, woman, exactly, support your child, Support

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Speaker 3: your children.

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Speaker 2: Dash start us. Thanks for being an eye and Eva,

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Speaker 2: I'll have my friends Hello and Josephine hold on gonna

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Speaker 2: learn to speak take over for Keon.

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Speaker 1: You're so sweet.

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Speaker 2: And then we have someone else.

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Speaker 5: That is a member in Miss Miss romey A.

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Speaker 2: And then we got two more donos on the bottom

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 3: Uh Sassey Sen LPC. Thank you've really fourteen Canadian dollars.

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Speaker 3: Hello from Canada. First time in the chats. You fellas

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Speaker 3: are awesome to watch and Riley love your hat.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, nice hat, Riley.

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Speaker 2: It is Ke has one like it too, dump them

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Speaker 2: dump up.

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Speaker 3: And Kirsten Dedieu, thank you for the twenty eight Canadian dollars. Wow,

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Speaker 3: Opie's wife needs to control her hate Dakota. If you

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Speaker 3: don't like me commenting, I'll stop. Want to respect you,

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Speaker 3: just like to see you blush.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Actually want you to stop. No, please keep going.

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Speaker 3: No, it's the thing where people goes stop but don't stop.

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Speaker 1: Stop but don't keep going.

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Speaker 5: Hope you guys for stop.

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys have a fun night at the

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Speaker 1: Spotify event tonight.

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Speaker 3: And Wingles, thank you for the five gifted Okay Storytime memberships.

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Speaker 3: That's five more Bibist Family, Yes we have more. And

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Speaker 3: Fluffy Savvy, thank you for being a member for seven months.

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Speaker 3: Lurkers represent also like the stream, like it, like it,

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Speaker 3: like it Okay, I was doing that for all of

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Speaker 3: the listeners.

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Speaker 1: Riley was just matching my He was lip syncing with.

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Speaker 3: Whatever I was saying, Visu, because I'm he's just too

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Speaker 3: funny to not do digital human there, let's read another one.

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Speaker 2: Guys, you have three minutes. Once that timer goes off, you, guys,

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Speaker 2: the the likes will go away. So you guys have

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Speaker 2: three minutes and forty seconds to get it.

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Speaker 1: Well, we'll see about that.

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Speaker 5: It depends what cold hit first.

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Speaker 1: We'll see about that. Yeah, you're sure about that?

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Speaker 2: If you guys, are you sure about it? If you

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Speaker 2: guys hit it before this goal, before we get to

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Speaker 2: two fifty bucks, we'll do the thirty minutes, and then

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Speaker 2: if you get two fifty, we'll do another thirty. So

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Speaker 2: like the stream.

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Speaker 1: First, it's a thirty for thirty, thirty for thirty.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll do it. We'll do it.

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Speaker 1: I'll talk, okay.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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Speaker 3: I want to divorce my wife, but I don't want

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Speaker 3: to destabilize my children's lives.

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Speaker 2: You gotta pick and choose.

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Speaker 1: Man, it's a classic crossroad, right, no wife, no life.

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Speaker 3: What we just possessed you don't know?

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Speaker 5: Oh dang, we're no wife?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, alright minutes.

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Speaker 4: Whoa, let's freaking go, guys love to do this.

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Speaker 5: Wow at the same.

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Speaker 2: Time, Wow, wow, wow, we are here thirty All right,

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Speaker 2: here we go. Let's go.

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Speaker 3: My ex wife and I were married for over twenty

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Speaker 3: years and have two children together, twenty two male and

516
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Speaker 3: twenty female. For most of my marriage, things were pretty balanced.

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Speaker 3: We both shared housework. Oh that was a you know, ew,

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Speaker 3: that was an experience. You break that sneeze.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I never hold my sneeze in and I

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Speaker 2: decided to not hold it.

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Speaker 1: Sounded like you were angry about that sneeze.

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Speaker 4: Go ahead, Sorry, Okay, since you before any of this,

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Speaker 4: let's let's let's say thank you to everyone who is gifted.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys for donating. Thank you the dons after

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Speaker 2: the story. Should we just reading this?

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Speaker 5: Sub reading much?

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Speaker 2: Elly Jin, thank you for gifting five members. Tristan full

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Speaker 2: Hat with the ten m Jay grow, thank you for five.

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Speaker 2: Jen Thomas, thank you for five. And I'm.

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Speaker 5: He's really going to.

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Speaker 2: And then and then uh, Lily.

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Speaker 1: Le Bon, you're a new member, say thank you and

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Speaker 1: welcome to the family. Yeah, new members, sound off the

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Speaker 1: chat Riley you're you're uh, you're on.

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Speaker 4: One today he sneez his brain out. Look where he goes.

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Speaker 4: He gets a little crazy, rattled your brain lose all right,

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Speaker 4: Cody starts right.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So so Jesus Christ, what good?

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Speaker 5: Okay? Are we composed?

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Speaker 4: Gentlemen?

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Speaker 1: All right? We're ninety likes away from that extra wheelspin.

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Speaker 4: By the way, anyway, started from the top, So started

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Speaker 4: from the top.

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Speaker 5: Just just started from the top.

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Speaker 1: From the very top. Just it.

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Speaker 3: I want to divorce my wife, but I don't want

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Speaker 3: to stabilize my children's lives.

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Speaker 1: Happy wife, happy life. Anyway.

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Speaker 3: My ex wife and I were married for over twenty

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Speaker 3: years and have two children together, twenty two male and

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Speaker 3: twenty female. For most of my marriage, things were pretty balanced,

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Speaker 3: excuse me, everybody. We both shared housework and child's care responsibilities.

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Speaker 3: We were each stay at home parents for over a

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Speaker 3: year after each child, her with our son and me

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Speaker 3: with our son and daughter. We always had agreements on

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Speaker 3: how we wanted to divide work and generally had decent communication.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this.

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Speaker 3: Comes from user prudent Composer thirty five hundred on the

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Speaker 3: r slash okay story time subreddit. So this changed when

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Speaker 3: my oldest went to high school. My wife got a

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Speaker 3: new job that was both very demanding on her time

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Speaker 3: and was fifty percent travel. This meant that I had

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Speaker 3: to handle everything about two weeks out of the month,

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Speaker 3: and when she was home, she wasn't holding up her

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Speaker 3: side of the world work with agreements.

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah.

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Speaker 3: I did my best to be accommodating, and we worked

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Speaker 3: through redistributing chores and housework a few times to make

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Speaker 3: it fit her schedule better.

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Speaker 1: But a lot of the work just kept falling.

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Speaker 2: To me, sounds like you should get a part time

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Speaker 2: job from your wife. What part time job from your wife?

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Speaker 1: From your wife?

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Speaker 2: Hey, if you're not gonna do what you said you're

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Speaker 2: gonna do, hey me and I'll do it for you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think I think the responsibility of children transcends

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Speaker 3: agreements you make with your partner. Hey, Dakota, so far

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Speaker 3: I have not seen this the wife do anything wrong. Yes,

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Speaker 3: she works a lot, she's making good money.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, but she said she's traveling for two weeks

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Speaker 2: out of the out of the month. She said the

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Speaker 2: other two weeks, hey, i'll help clean, help, I'll do that.

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Speaker 2: She's not doing it.

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Speaker 3: Suck it up me a dad bro that's what I'm at.

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Speaker 3: That's where I'm at right now. You gotta suck it up, Dad,

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Speaker 3: all right, Paul, Paul that we're way.

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Speaker 2: Too early for Dakota because you know you're wrong.

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Speaker 5: Riley, how much? How much caffeine have you had?

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Speaker 2: Actually haven't had any.

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Speaker 5: I don't believe you one bit.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's an inverse effect. He's had none,

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Speaker 3: so his brain is screaming.

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Speaker 2: It wants it's just g no on, like, please feed me.

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Speaker 1: So when the pandemic happened.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, when the pandemic happened, things got worse, but I

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Speaker 3: tried to just suck it up because I knew the

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Speaker 3: lockdowns were temporary. Finally, when things opened back up, things

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Speaker 3: continued to decline, and I asked to go to counseling.

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Speaker 3: She missed a lot of our meetings and just didn't

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Speaker 3: commit to it. Now that I don't like. I don't

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Speaker 3: like committing to counseling and then not showing up.

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Speaker 2: Called it.

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Speaker 1: That's not cool.

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Speaker 2: I always agree with me.

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Speaker 3: So at this point I decided that I wanted a divorce. Ultimately,

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Speaker 3: it was a really tough time for the family. My

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Speaker 3: son was getting ready for college. In person, at through

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Speaker 3: his freshman year, being remote, which was both financially and

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Speaker 3: logistically challenging at the time. At the same time, my

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Speaker 3: daughter was also having some issues with depression and I

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Speaker 3: had become her main support person. With my wife gone

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Speaker 3: half the time, I made a decision to wait until

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Speaker 3: my daughter was in a better mental state and our

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Speaker 3: family was in a financially stable place.

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Speaker 1: Before I filed for divorce. I did my best to

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Speaker 1: continue to contribute and was essentially a single parent for

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Speaker 1: three years. On a few a Kate, wait, but.

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Speaker 2: Because she's leaving every two weeks out of the month

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Speaker 2: and not helping out, I'm doing this.

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Speaker 3: Oh, but I thought both of the kids had gone

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Speaker 3: to no not yet college at this point.

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Speaker 1: Yet I say so.

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Speaker 3: On a few occasions I brought up counseling again, but

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Speaker 3: my wife said things were good and wouldn't go. We

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Speaker 3: pretty much did not have any spice to sleep for

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Speaker 3: that period of type, and there was one summer where

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Speaker 3: she essentially moved to North Carolina for six weeks for work.

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Speaker 2: She came home on some weekends. Oh. Conspiracy theory.

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Speaker 3: Conspiracy theory, your wife's cheating on you, bro, North Carolina

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Speaker 3: conspiracy theory.

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Speaker 2: Conspiracy theory, Riley conspiracy theory.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, you know you're really like you guys, what

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Speaker 5: you're saying.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, conspiracy theory. Your wife's cheating on you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. Your wife's big cheating.

636
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Speaker 2: And I know what goes down in North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: He's he's tapped in.

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Speaker 2: No one goes to North Carolina, No one does.

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Speaker 1: No one works in North Carolina unless.

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Speaker 2: You're a banker in Charlotte. But that's it.

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Speaker 3: Just one banker in Charlotte, he handled all the money, golfer.

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Speaker 2: No, no one even goes off in North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: Maybe she eight guys, Maybe she just really loves her work. Anyways.

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Speaker 3: Uh, last year, after my daughter started her sophomore year

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Speaker 3: of college and she was in a better place mentally

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Speaker 3: and emotionally, I sold off some of my stock investments

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Speaker 3: to create a trust for my kids to ensure college

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Speaker 3: was covered.

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Speaker 1: Then I filed for divorce.

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Speaker 3: At first, my wife was really pissed, and then she

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Speaker 3: left to live in North Carolina.

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Speaker 2: Again called, well, that's not suspicious. Yeah, there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of handsome fellows in North Carolina. That's where I'm from. Dude,

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Speaker 2: they just manufacture us over there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just they're just pumping out carbon.

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Speaker 3: Copies of yeah, you know, I'm gonna lie was just

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Speaker 3: a couple of variations.

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Speaker 5: There are some pretty good looking people from North Carolina.

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Speaker 2: I have dated Michael Jordan.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I was gonna say I did a couple of

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Speaker 4: people from North Carolina too, So.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, chat is Michael Jordan hot?

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Speaker 2: Let us know.

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Speaker 5: Anyway, don't do that chat.

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Speaker 3: When she came back four weeks later, she said she

666
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Speaker 3: wanted to work through it, but I told her that

667
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 3: I had made the decision to leave years ago and

668
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 3: wasn't interested.

669
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 2: We eventually worked through.

670
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 3: Mediation and got to an amicable divorce. My kids live

671
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 3: with me now and support me, but all my in

672
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 3: laws and even most of my family outside of my sister,

673
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 3: think I'm the a hole. They believe I should have

674
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 3: forced the issue more when we started counseling and either

675
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 3: divorced or made it clearer to my wife how important

676
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,959
Speaker 3: counseling was to me. They've called me selfish, and some

677
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 3: of my in laws are refusing to interact with my

678
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 3: kids when they're at my house. For example, my daughter

679
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:23,959
Speaker 3: facetimed her grandmother once this summer, and she hung up

680
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 3: once she saw that my daughter was at my house.

681
00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 3: They also created a bit of a scene at my

682
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 3: son's graduation in the spring, refusing to acknowledge me and

683
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 3: demanding that my son choose to celebrate with them or

684
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 3: me rather than having dinner together as a group.

685
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: Buddy, I'm not gonna lie.

686
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,960
Speaker 3: I see exactly where they're coming from, because I know

687
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 3: that we're having the the fun joke about how the

688
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 3: wife is going to North Carolina to get with a

689
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 3: carbon copy of Riley. However, we have no words in

690
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 3: this story or evidence in the story that that is

691
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 3: at all what's happening.

692
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 2: Well, who knows where they live? The camp So you know,

693
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 2: one time, have a story. I'm gonna do a small okay, storytelling.

694
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 2: If you can't hit that button? Okay, mine, could you

695
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 2: hit that button? He needs the button? Okay, storyteme button,

696
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 2: thank you, I can continue now. So my pastor had

697
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,479
Speaker 2: had a nephew that the nephew suspected that his wife

698
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 2: was cheating on him. He hired me to be the photographer.

699
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 2: So me, him and the nephew went to North Carolina

700
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 2: because it was happening in North Carolina, and waited on

701
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 2: the wife we didn't get pictures that day. They went

702
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 2: the next week without me and got pictures. But yeah, yeah,

703
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 2: I think you need to like go maybe do some

704
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,600
Speaker 2: spy work and to figure it out. How can you

705
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 2: how could he be okay, how could he be in

706
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 2: a marriage for three years or not do the deed.

707
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: That is actually yeah, that's that's coming.

708
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 2: From three young horny men. How can you do that?

709
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:46,879
Speaker 1: Uh?

710
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 5: They're better than you.

711
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

712
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:51,879
Speaker 5: What do you mean?

713
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 2: What do you mean? Look?

714
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 1: Sometimes uh, sometimes love can transcend physical intimacy. However that's

715
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: usually But if that was further down the.

716
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:04,879
Speaker 2: Line that was true, why did he mention that then?

717
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 3: But see, okay, so the problem I saw some people

718
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 3: pop off in the chat that I'm like, not on

719
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 3: the husband's side because his wife was a wall. But

720
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 3: it's like he did this for like, it's what the

721
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 3: step or the I understand the perspective of the in

722
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 3: laws being not on his side at all, because from

723
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 3: their perspective, this guy just checked out of their marriage

724
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,400
Speaker 3: three years ago and was like I already decided to

725
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 3: divorce you, so I don't even care. And it's like

726
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 3: you should have really pressed and made sure your wife understood. Hey,

727
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 3: this means a lot to me, Like to the point

728
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 3: where if you're completely unwilling to show up to these

729
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 3: counseling sessions, I don't know if I'm willing to stay

730
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 3: in this relationship.

731
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: I don't think Ope ever did anything close to that.

732
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

733
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 3: So that being said, OP is trying to play like

734
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 3: the oh woe is me card, But at the same time,

735
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 3: you never communicated properly to your partner that this is

736
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 3: what you were going through. You made a decision alone

737
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 3: and then decided that you were gonna wait patiently to

738
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 3: execute it.

739
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 4: Ye.

740
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 2: And it's like, I.

741
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: Understand the in laws hating your guts for that.

742
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 2: And he probably didn't even talk to them at all.

743
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 2: If he's not gonna talk to his wife, he's definitely

744
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 2: not talk to them.

745
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: They don't know anything.

746
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 3: But anyway, I really want to find out if the

747
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 3: wife is cheating, because that would change everything.

748
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: I got my money's on a all on cheating so

749
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 2: life savings to pick it back up.

750
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 3: They were demanding that my son either choose to celebrate

751
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 3: with them their the in laws, or me, rather than

752
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 3: having dinner together as a group. I encouraged my son

753
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 3: to go with them and we had our own celebration later,

754
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 3: but something happened at the dinner, and my son has

755
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 3: lived with me and been almost no contact with them since.

756
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 3: I honestly feel like I did what was best for

757
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 3: my kids, but I know it feels like their mom's

758
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 3: family is punishing them, and I feel like a terrible father.

759
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 3: I admit that it might have been more mature to

760
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:05,720
Speaker 3: address the issue head on with my relationship with my ex.

761
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 3: It's not a mite, dear, that's a definitely would be,

762
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 3: but I felt that it was about more than just

763
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 3: the two of us. Frankly, I feel like my lack

764
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 3: of backbone years ago has made this divorce worse for

765
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 3: my kids. But I also believe that if I had

766
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 3: to do it again, I would still prioritize my kids

767
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 3: over my own feelings and make the same choice. No,

768
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 3: but see, that's you're doing a tricky thing there where

769
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 3: you're saying that you did it for the kids, but

770
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 3: you never ever fully communicated with your wife. That has

771
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 3: nothing to do with your kids. You could have had

772
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 3: that conversation with your wife, yeah, and you're you guys

773
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 3: could have figured out how to make it work for

774
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 3: your kids.

775
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 1: If it wasn't gonna work anymore.

776
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 3: How do we go about separating without destroying our kids?

777
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:58,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? I am a huge, huge proponent in couples therapy.

778
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,439
Speaker 2: I talked to Angie actually last night. I like, hey,

779
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 2: and so is op. Whenever we're two years in, let's

780
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 2: go to couples of counseling.

781
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, just to get just not even because anything's wrong,

782
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:09,399
Speaker 3: just because it's like it would be nice pre work.

783
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: It's preparing for whenever something does go wrong. You already

784
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 2: know how to communicate, You know how to fight with

785
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 2: one another, so then you can get into it and

786
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 2: still be able to leave with both of your heads

787
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 2: attached to your bodies. Yeah, it's that.

788
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 3: That's some golden golden egg type advice right there. Look

789
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 3: at him from Riley, everybody look.

790
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 2: At you, look at that. Yeah, but I I I'm yeah, dude,

791
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 2: you you dropped the ball. That you both dropped the ball,

792
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 2: and no one's picking it up. Well there is.

793
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,240
Speaker 3: Lady Jade Master just did make a comment saying trying

794
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 3: to have counseling is communication.

795
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 1: That is true.

796
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 3: However, the lack of communication is that I don't think

797
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 3: he ever made it clear to his wife how important

798
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 3: that was to him, and he made that decision after

799
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 3: she stopped, after she was doing you know, she was

800
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:55,479
Speaker 3: being absent at these counseling sessions. He said, he made

801
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 3: the decision internally that he was going to divorce her. Okay,

802
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 3: and that and mist and.

803
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: That there was no going back.

804
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,919
Speaker 3: But it's like you should have first had the hard

805
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: talk with your wife. Even said like, I feel like

806
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 3: not having the backbone years ago to have this conversation

807
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 3: is now making the divorce worse. And you're right about that.

808
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 3: Ob Anyway, there's an update here, though, so let's get

809
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 3: into it. Oh gosh at it, Holy crap, this blew up.

810
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,840
Speaker 3: First off, thanks for the folks who provided feedback and comments.

811
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 3: I really felt like crap, and both the positive and

812
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 3: negative comments helped me get a little perspective on things.

813
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 3: I've seen a few comments come up multiple times, so

814
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 3: I figured it's worth answering them here before I move on.

815
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 3: This is an account I created to ask an embarrassing

816
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 3: dating question earlier this year. I created it because my

817
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:45,439
Speaker 3: main user excuse me, because my main username is recognizable,

818
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 3: and I reused it now because I don't really want

819
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 3: to air my issues associated with a known username. When

820
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 3: my wife took the job, we were doing well financially,

821
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 3: but the job still came with a big raise. I

822
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 3: was making about two hundred K, and the job she

823
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 3: took gave her a raise from eighty K to one

824
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 3: hundred and forty K, which again is what I said,

825
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 3: is like, wifey is not just doing this because she's like,

826
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: I hate my life.

827
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:07,439
Speaker 1: I want to be out of the house.

828
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 2: Wife.

829
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 1: He's making her bread.

830
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, wife's getting the bank.

831
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: You know, and you can't. How are you going to

832
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 1: stop somebody from making their.

833
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 2: Money generational wealth?

834
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 3: Come on, especially if you know anyway and you can,

835
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 3: let's continue. That was enough that we could go from

836
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 3: saving enough to have an emergency fund to having enough

837
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 3: to pay for our kids college. Outright, we both work

838
00:40:29,239 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 3: in tech, but she works for a defense contractor.

839
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:35,280
Speaker 2: Ooh, that's why she's moving. Oh yeah, North, that's moving

840
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 2: for tech. I forgot about that well.

841
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 3: And yeah, and if you're a if you work for

842
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 3: like the if you're a defense contractor, it's like, especially

843
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 3: if you work in tech, you might just have to

844
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 3: like up and leave in the middle of the night,

845
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 3: like you never know, depending on what you're doing.

846
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 2: That's kind of cool but yet not.

847
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:52,240
Speaker 3: But it's it's very hard to maintain a solid family

848
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 3: dynamic when you have to up and leave at the

849
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 3: drop of a hat for your job, which is fair anyway,

850
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 3: some of the work needs to be done on site

851
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 3: and the only and so she works for a defense contractor,

852
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 3: and some of the work needs to be done on site,

853
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 3: and only one of the offices related to her work

854
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 3: is near where we live. When we originally discussed the job,

855
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 3: her plan was to work in the high travel role

856
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 3: for some time and then try to transfer to a

857
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 3: lower travel role based near us.

858
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: She got promoted a.

859
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 3: Few times and staying near our home wasn't an option

860
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 3: unless she took a bit of a pay and title cut.

861
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 3: When we divorced, I was making about two hundred and

862
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 3: eighty K and she made a little over three hundred K.

863
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 3: Some folks were also confused by my stock comment. I'm

864
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 3: a software engineer for a big tech company in about

865
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 3: twenty to thirty percent of my salary comes from RSUs,

866
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 3: which are restricted stock units. I'm not an investor by

867
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 3: any means, and I was just selling off stock mostly

868
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:57,879
Speaker 3: to cover my daughter's college and pay off what debt

869
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 3: my sons had. I know a lot of people are

870
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:03,839
Speaker 3: jumping right to an affair, but I really doubt it

871
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 3: that's coming from op Okay, in school, my wife and

872
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 3: I were the obnoxious kids who reminded the teacher about homework.

873
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 3: And she's a massive introvert. Her working late in a

874
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 3: hotel room is much more likely than her sleeping around

875
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 3: or keeping some secret family. There is a chance I'm

876
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 3: wrong here, but I think this is more of a

877
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:27,800
Speaker 3: situation where Reddit sometimes thinks all divorces end within fidelity. Sorry,

878
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 3: but you know what never ends the party that we

879
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 3: have here every weekday at three PMPST when we go

880
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:38,720
Speaker 3: live on Facebook, on YouTube, on TikTok on Twitch.

881
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: What all you gotta do is tap our profile and

882
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: you're in.

883
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 3: And if you're watching this in the future, we might

884
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 3: even be live right now.

885
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 2: Dude, that's crazy.

886
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 3: So maybe go check right after this because we're about

887
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:51,320
Speaker 3: to finish this story.

888
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 2: Okay, even if she didn't she and she is an introvert.

889
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 2: North Carolina is a beautiful place to move to, and

890
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 2: if you work from home, I would I will move

891
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 2: back to North Carolina when I get older. So that

892
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 2: checks out. That checks out.

893
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 1: Check out that like it's north it checks out that North.

894
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 2: Carolina or in North Carolina, right know you know what, Yeah, yeah,

895
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 2: all of your belongings to move to North Carolina tour.

896
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 1: For the tours in board at North Carolina.

897
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 2: I'll invite you to my Thanksgiving.

898
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 1: So on a real level, though.

899
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 3: Like this is actually one of the most like I

900
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 3: feel like balanced sort of divorce stories we've had in

901
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 3: terms of like he the op is very.

902
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: Dissatisfied with his marriage.

903
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and a lot of it has to do with

904
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:40,919
Speaker 3: her absence, and you know that she's traveling a lot

905
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 3: for her work, which would be you know I And

906
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 3: it's it's also fair because they had conversations, and they

907
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 3: had discussions where they were like, all right, here's the

908
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 3: game plan, here's the agreement, here's what's going to happen.

909
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 3: And they didn't end up happening that way. And of course,

910
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 3: sometimes life is going to get in the way. You

911
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:58,800
Speaker 3: know what, what's the thing that the best laid plans

912
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 3: of mice and men, they offen and go awry, So

913
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 3: you can make a great, great plan. But at the

914
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 3: end of the day, yeah, she got a raise that

915
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:06,959
Speaker 3: what he said at the end, her pay got bumped

916
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 3: up to three hundred thousand dollars a year.

917
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: That is a lot of money.

918
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 3: So yeah, you know that's money that in the context

919
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: of a family, it's like you're using that.

920
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 1: For like for the college fund, for for everything.

921
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 3: It's it's you're doing this work because you love your family.

922
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 3: From her sense, right, Yeah, so from her perspective, she

923
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 3: might even be sacrificing. She's like, I wish I could

924
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,839
Speaker 3: be home more, but I'm out here making this money

925
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 3: for my family. I think the big, the main problem

926
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 3: is that Op never had the hard conversation about this.

927
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta have those hard conversations.

928
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, Op really like it seemed like he was like

929
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 3: once Op decided on divorce, it was over for him

930
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 3: and there was no more need to even have the conversation.

931
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 2: I wish we could call his brother or like his

932
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 2: mom or someone else just to be like, hey, what

933
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 2: kind of person is he? Has he ever had a

934
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: card conversation with you, so we know if.

935
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 3: That's the right Well, he did say at the end

936
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 3: there that they're both pretty introverted. Okay, so maybe they're

937
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 3: not confrontational by nature. But it's like, I think the

938
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:08,760
Speaker 3: route here was not just I'm divorcing you because I'm

939
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 3: where are you? I think there needed to be more

940
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,439
Speaker 3: work done, Like it's not always going to be easy

941
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 3: being married. Oh no, marriage is not always gonna be easy.

942
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 1: And I need that.

943
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 3: From my perspective, I feel like divorce. Really the decision

944
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 3: was hastily made here, So let's see how the story ends.

945
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 2: Okay.

946
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 3: When I say we had an amicable divorce, I mean

947
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 3: that more in the legal sense than the emotional sense.

948
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 1: Uncontested might be a better term.

949
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 3: The only significant asset we had that wasn't easily split

950
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 3: was our home. My wife loves the house and I

951
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,760
Speaker 3: frankly wanted something different, so she bought out my portion

952
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 3: of it. Our kids are adults, so there is no custody.

953
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 3: Our assets are mostly divisible, so no issues there. Our

954
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 3: salaries were comparable, so there was no alimony. We each

955
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 3: had a car. Overall, it was a pretty straightforward process

956
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 3: to divide things evenly, and neither of us wanted to

957
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 3: draw things out. We didn't end the marriage as friends

958
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 3: by any means, but from a legal standpoint, it was

959
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 3: amicable because we decided on arrangement with a mediator and

960
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 3: only involved lawyers. Briefly to actually draft the final paperwork

961
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 3: for the judge to.

962
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 1: Sign off on. And that is the end of that story.

963
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, hopefully you can move on. That's that's

964
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 2: that I can see.

965
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I don't know. I think I feel

966
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 3: for I feel more for the wife's side than I

967
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 3: feel for I mean, and I get it, dude, this

968
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 3: is not like an unbalanced I don't think that anybody

969
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 3: is like a complete evil villain here. I just think

970
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 3: that you could have had a completely different outcome, probably

971
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 3: a more positive and better one if you had just

972
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:56,360
Speaker 3: like communicated, tried to express to your wife how hurt

973
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 3: you were.

974
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 2: I don't think he ever did. I don't think so either.

975
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:00,840
Speaker 3: I don't think she ever knew, which is why she

976
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 3: was like super surprised when this came down.

977
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 2: But nothing, a little coding can't help them both, you know, like, ah,

978
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 2: I'll just go code now, let us go work on this.

979
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 3: And nothing a little work can't help. I mean a

980
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 3: lot of people do that too. It so when you

981
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 3: got emotional stuff going down your life, you get lost

982
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 3: in your work, which.

983
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 2: And just a lot of stream like five times, not.

984
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 3: A good thing to do, don't get getting lost in

985
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 3: work is not it's not great. No, no, it's unless

986
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 3: you love your work. But still there's more to life

987
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 3: than work.

988
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 2: Is there? Some what Sam John told me, So this

989
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 2: is your life.

990
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 3: Sorry, I didn't mean to tell you that your life.

991
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 3: Your life is exclusively work for you. It's all worked.

992
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 3: I'm kind of blown away that I'm seeing people in

993
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 3: chat saying that you know that this is a bad take.

994
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 2: I got whatever it is what it.

995
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 5: Is for me.

996
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 4: If divorce is already on the mindset, and it's like

997
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 4: it's like like one of the seeds that you just

998
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 4: like murder.

999
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 2: When you got murder on your mind, go ahead, go ahead.

1000
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 1: Oh so you get to say it, but I can't

1001
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: because murder.

1002
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:10,279
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to save you. Go ahead, go ahead.

1003
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 4: Talking when like breaking up or divorces on your mindset,

1004
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 4: it's like a seed that's already planned and it will

1005
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 4: just keep growing and growing unless if you like actually.

1006
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:21,840
Speaker 2: Have an emotional Catharsis to confront.

1007
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 5: It like immediately, you have to do it immediately.

1008
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 4: But once divorce like starts like spreading, it's just like

1009
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 4: it's a toxic thought. As someone who experienced this pretty recently, Yes,

1010
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 4: where my parents wanted to get a divorce back in I.

1011
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 5: Know, twenty fifteen.

1012
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 4: Wow, but they're like, we'll wait for the kids until

1013
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 4: they go out to college. It was one of the

1014
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 4: worst experiences of my life. They just finished. They're still

1015
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 4: pretty much. They just finish the divorce. It is really crappy.

1016
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 4: I don't recommend it for the kids.

1017
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

1018
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:51,880
Speaker 5: I was one of those kids.

1019
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't know.

1020
00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying chat is that at.

1021
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 4: Some point you gotta start thinking like for yourself, but

1022
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 4: you also got to think what's the reality for your

1023
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 4: entire family and what's best and boy oh boy.

1024
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 3: We're also only getting one perspective here. And honestly, the

1025
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:12,440
Speaker 3: way that was written, it really didn't involve we know

1026
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 3: absolutely nothing about his wife. He he he literally just

1027
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:20,720
Speaker 3: was like there and she was introverted in high school.

1028
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 3: So they've been together for a long time. They have

1029
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 3: kids that are like in their twenties. I don't know

1030
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:24,919
Speaker 3: what's your favorite color?

1031
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:29,839
Speaker 2: Huh? What wasn't what? Where's the last place she got

1032
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 2: ice cream from the wife? We don't know anything about.

1033
00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: Her, dude, your brain is on high octane mode today.

1034
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 2: I'm just so happy to be here. Yeah, we're happy

1035
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 2: and always happy. Sam was like, we also have to

1036
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:45,359
Speaker 2: do something. I'm like, I can hop on stream now.

1037
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 2: I really want to be on stream for a while.

1038
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 2: I've been doing other stuff. I've been working.

1039
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,399
Speaker 3: There's a lot of work to be being done all

1040
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 3: the time around here.

1041
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 1: Lots of work. One, yeah, that is, but that is

1042
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 1: the end. Someone give Riley some caffeine please, Yes, that's

1043
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:04,400
Speaker 1: what He's.

1044
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 5: Already caffeinated when he doesn't have caffeine in him.

1045
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll make I put enough in me to make

1046
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:11,920
Speaker 2: sure that happens. Let's read some donuts to Tomlet thank

1047
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 2: you for five dollars. I need some love today.

1048
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 5: We need to do a close out. Are we still

1049
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 5: doing the close out?

1050
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:16,879
Speaker 4: No?

1051
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:20,360
Speaker 2: Okay, no close out the tom, but thank you for

1052
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 2: five bucks. I need some love today. My mother's health

1053
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 2: is bailing and she continues to choose my abusive X

1054
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 2: over family. It's as bad as it sounds, and it's worse.

1055
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 2: I am so sorry. Hearts in the chat for the Tomlet.

1056
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 2: Hopefully things get better and we are here chat as

1057
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 2: much as just an astraction.

1058
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,320
Speaker 3: I'm trying to put as much thought into the universe

1059
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 3: that this one that that will stop.

1060
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 2: I'll be praying for you. Boo batchered. Thank you for

1061
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 2: the five bucks. Don't let it in too early. Okay, Well,

1062
00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 2: well I did to do a thing where you guys

1063
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 2: would good to five hundred thirty minutes ago when nobody's

1064
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 2: hit it. That was thirty minutes ago. How about where

1065
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:07,919
Speaker 2: Tom was running out, we already had another thirty minutes.

1066
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 2: How about we do twenty minutes. How about if we

1067
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 2: can okay, you know what, five five hundred four, five minutes,

1068
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 2: five hundred I know you, next minute and a half.

1069
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:21,879
Speaker 2: We'll add ten minutes twenty No they I was given

1070
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,439
Speaker 2: to give him thirty and they didn't do it. Fifteen.

1071
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 2: That's already what's on the wheel calling the shots anyway, Ziggy,

1072
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 2: thanks for beeating.

1073
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:30,640
Speaker 1: He's in the red chair.

1074
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:34,280
Speaker 2: Love you guys, tons my best. He calls you guys

1075
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 2: my cult time. I'm just with okay stories.

1076
00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're welcome.

1077
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: Welcome to the cult of okay time.

1078
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:42,439
Speaker 5: Bring him over to the cult.

1079
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:46,000
Speaker 2: Key on. Add ten minutes, okay or spin the will.

1080
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 5: Ten minutes. What do you want your it's your call, will?

1081
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 2: Or ten minutes a guarantar ten minutes or spin the

1082
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:58,720
Speaker 2: will or twenty minutes.

1083
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:05,359
Speaker 3: Uh, soup, you can just say shiz oh that such

1084
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 3: I mean it says she's a soup.

1085
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 2: Go ahead.

1086
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 3: I love thank you for being a member for six months.

1087
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 3: I love listening to you all while I groomed dogs.

1088
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 3: And they seem to love y'all too. We got dog fans.

1089
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 3: We got dog fans.

1090
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 2: That's what are you doing to those dogs?

1091
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 3: Thanks for being awesome and keeping us all entertained. She's

1092
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,240
Speaker 3: grooming the dogs so that they look beautiful.

1093
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 2: And you can't do that to dogs.

1094
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 1: Actually dogs are you can do that to dogs?

1095
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 5: You can confusing that again. One is for we. I mean,

1096
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 5: why do I put poll?

1097
00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 2: God, that's how it feels every time someone makes fun

1098
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 2: of me for a mispronouncing word.

1099
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:50,720
Speaker 1: That's how it feels.

1100
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: That's how it feels. Oh that's what that's what we're doing.

1101
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 2: Is ten more minutes anyways, Uh Claire, thank you for

1102
00:52:57,640 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 2: five bucks. Y'all make my depression go away? Much love? Yes, also,

1103
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Speaker 2: re'll know if you do have depression. I'm sorry. They

1104
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:08,839
Speaker 2: give there you go.

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00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:11,840
Speaker 5: One is not ten minutes?

1106
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 2: Are okay? All right? Look at him? Go all right?

1107
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 2: Do it? Do it? No one can compare to Riley. Yeah,

1108
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 2: that's right. No one could compare to you either anyone else.

1109
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 3: There are people who can compare to you because you

1110
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:24,760
Speaker 3: have selings that almost look identical.

1111
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 2: To but they can't match my energy. They can't match

1112
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 2: no tits. Seems pretty cool.

1113
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,920
Speaker 1: We met, you know, but I saw some posts he

1114
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 1: made and they were really funny.

1115
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you already liked it. He really wants

1116
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 2: to meet you. You guys are just a matchmate and.

1117
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 5: Half do we We got wingles, we mentioned wingles. Yeah,

1118
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 5: I think we did mingos.

1119
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:45,719
Speaker 2: Yeah we did. Wait did we did? We?

1120
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:46,399
Speaker 5: I don't know if we did.

1121
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 2: We did? We did? We didn't Wingles? We love you

1122
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 2: Wingles thinking for five five fifty, I think that we did.

1123
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Speaker 6: But Jim Thomas, let's go back through the the Membership wave,

1124
00:53:56,840 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 6: Jen Thompson, Ellie, Chris Tinfoil had MJ grow Jen Thompson

1125
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Speaker 6: again and Leli been toned b mona damn one day.

1126
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 2: We'll get your name smooth.

1127
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 3: Thank you for doing the the Membership Tsunami before we

1128
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:13,800
Speaker 3: started that episode.

1129
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:16,120
Speaker 2: Fun fact, there's a tsunami five hours north of US.

1130
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: Oh, I mean there wasn't, though there was, Oh it was,

1131
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:19,280
Speaker 1: there was a warning.

1132
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 5: They canceled it. They canceled, They.

1133
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,320
Speaker 1: Canceled the tsunami. The tsunami got canceled.

1134
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:25,560
Speaker 5: How okay, I don't know.

1135
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 2: It didn't it would. It just wasn't the right wave.

1136
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:29,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, it wasn't the right wave at the right time.

1137
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 5: There wasn't a big earthquake though, right.

1138
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:33,439
Speaker 1: There was a seven in the like nor kaal. Yeah,

1139
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: it was off. It was off the coast though.

1140
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 2: I did. I did say thirty and it was if

1141
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 2: you guys did it in the nine minutes that was left.

1142
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was their Well yeah, Riley's you know he's

1143
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 3: in charge right now. Claire, thank you for the five

1144
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 3: dollars through the tip link y'all make my depression go

1145
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 3: away much love.

1146
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:54,319
Speaker 2: You just said that, yeah, and I said, get hope

1147
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 2: you do okay, and give a homeless man five bucks

1148
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 2: and I will.

1149
00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,360
Speaker 1: Oh. You know why I didn't hear that I was

1150
00:54:59,400 --> 00:54:59,839
Speaker 1: going through.

1151
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:04,879
Speaker 2: I was doing. Bug, give ten bucks, go ahead, bug, bug, Hey,

1152
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 2: thanks Bug for the ten bucks.

1153
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:11,360
Speaker 1: I just wanted to hear Dakota say my name again. Bug.

1154
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 2: Whoa whoa wow, whoa whoa whoa. You get ten minutes

1155
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 2: and another thirty because of Thank you. Too.

1156
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 1: Who just did who just who just gave? Who just gave?

1157
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 2: I had vix mixed vix makes. Thank you for the

1158
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 2: five gifted memberships. And Tina M.

1159
00:55:31,480 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: Thank you for the twenty gifted Okay storytype memberships, and

1160
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:39,359
Speaker 1: La La thank you for the five ten Let's go,

1161
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: let's go, let's go.

1162
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 2: I'm not being you, guys just didn't add give me

1163
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 2: enough like some time? Yeah, not being me?

1164
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:53,360
Speaker 5: He's Riley's too cute. Eight nine, ten boom, there's ten minutes.

1165
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:55,719
Speaker 2: All right there it is, ladies and gentlemen. Read me

1166
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 2: another one? Or do you want me? I'll read I'll read,

1167
00:55:58,320 --> 00:55:59,319
Speaker 2: read me another? Wait?

1168
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 1: How many moks to say it in a fancy accent?

1169
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:07,720
Speaker 2: Read me another one? So thank you for the sticker.

1170
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 1: It's like this, Oh yes, the lemon high five? Yeah,

1171
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm the lemon.

1172
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 2: Because okay, but how many words? Is it's so I

1173
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 2: can read it?

1174
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 5: Thank Look at that pole, Look at that pole, option.

1175
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:31,319
Speaker 1: In one that and look at my worm with a

1176
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 1: hat read Thank you you have the right one, my girl.

1177
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 2: Thank you for ten bucks. Hi, Hi Mariah if you're here,

1178
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:44,760
Speaker 2: you're polar Bear is right behind me. Actually were yesterday?

1179
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,319
Speaker 5: All right, you got the story. We moved in.

1180
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:48,319
Speaker 1: Are you good?

1181
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 5: We're good? Did you you have yes?

1182
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 1: Okay.

1183
00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:54,720
Speaker 3: We moved in with my mother in law and things

1184
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:58,399
Speaker 3: are going great, but my brother in law has been

1185
00:56:58,640 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 3: hard to deal with.

1186
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 2: Sorry, there was a big dono. I'm just gonna ignore

1187
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:06,400
Speaker 2: what you just said. Holy cal Hannah. Thank you for

1188
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:08,720
Speaker 2: the fifty freaking Bukker roudies.

1189
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 1: Moment of silence for Hannah. We all know what to

1190
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:13,960
Speaker 1: do in the chat.

1191
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 2: All right, thank you, Hannah read it again.

1192
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 5: Sorry from the top.

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Speaker 1: One mos sa dykochy and well and you know what

1194
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna do it right now. Thank you for

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00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 1: thank you for the ten dollars mount abs. Girl, you've

1196
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 1: already said that to I did. I'm I don't know

1197
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 1: what's going on. Stop stopping street, Adhd. My brain is

1198
00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 1: I'm locking in only yeah wait, I'm locking in. All right,

1199
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Speaker 1: I'm locked. My brain is locked.

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Speaker 5: I give them two minutes.

1201
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 1: We moved in with my mother in law and things

1202
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 1: are going great, but my brother in law has been

1203
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: hard to deal with. Get rid of them like a wart.

1204
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 1: You heard them, folks.

1205
00:57:57,120 --> 00:58:01,120
Speaker 3: For context, My twenty six mal why life twenty six

1206
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 3: female and I moved in with her mother earlier this year.

1207
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 3: We have been married for four years now and used

1208
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 3: to live in a big city. We bounced around from

1209
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 3: rental to rental due to my job being at a

1210
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 3: college campus and us being allowed to live in staff housing.

1211
00:58:17,240 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 3: In twenty twenty two, we were no longer able to

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00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 3: live on campus, so we lived in a rental home

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00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty two and then a small apartment in

1214
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 3: twenty twenty three. I left that job at the college

1215
00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 3: in mid twenty three and found a temporary job.

1216
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:34,360
Speaker 1: In the city. We both agreed that we were paying

1217
00:58:34,520 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 1: way too much in rent for jobs that were no

1218
00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: longer paying the bills and moving us closer to our

1219
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 1: goals of paying off our debts and starting a family,

1220
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 1: So that's what made us move in with her mom

1221
00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 1: to save money, kind of save that money, get rid

1222
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: of debt okay reasonable By the way, This comes from

1223
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 1: user pretty fly Guy five on the r slash okay

1224
00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:56,840
Speaker 1: storytime subreddit.

1225
00:58:57,320 --> 00:59:02,080
Speaker 3: So the goal was to agree aggressively put money towards

1226
00:59:02,080 --> 00:59:04,800
Speaker 3: our debt and begin to save money for our next

1227
00:59:04,920 --> 00:59:06,200
Speaker 3: living situation.

1228
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Speaker 2: Which we hope would be owning a home.

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00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:10,840
Speaker 3: So far, we've done great, paying off all of my

1230
00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 3: wife's student loans and cutting my student loans in half.

1231
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:17,120
Speaker 3: We've now been living there for ten months and it's

1232
00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 3: been good for the most part. Her mom is very

1233
00:59:19,320 --> 00:59:21,560
Speaker 3: nice and we have come to mutually benefit from us

1234
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 3: moving in with her. We pay her rent, we buy groceries.

1235
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 3: I do a lot of cooking and yard work. My

1236
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 3: wife cleans the house, et cetera. Like a little family

1237
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 3: like a little like a little family unit.

1238
00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:33,040
Speaker 4: Wow.

1239
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Speaker 2: Hopefully no one takes us for granted or starts misusing it.

1240
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I highly doubt that.

1241
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:42,560
Speaker 3: I say all that to set the stage for how

1242
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:45,440
Speaker 3: different it has been so far. With my brother in

1243
00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 3: law now living with us. I will refer to him

1244
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:50,919
Speaker 3: as c throughout the rest of the post.

1245
00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 1: What's his name, Sakoda? Let's call him Cicada. No, no,

1246
00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:57,919
Speaker 1: let's call him Carter.

1247
00:59:59,080 --> 01:00:03,000
Speaker 2: See sends in this. Well, then what do we call him? Zakota?

1248
01:00:03,440 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 5: Charlie call him? We'll call him Charlie.

1249
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:17,640
Speaker 1: Charlie originally living don't Charlie originally was living with his dad.

1250
01:00:17,840 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 3: My wife's parents divorced in twenty twenty and didn't have

1251
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 3: a good relationship with him. Charlie is not a bad person,

1252
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 3: but he is definitely bipolar. You have to walk on

1253
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 3: eggshells around him because at the slightest hint that you

1254
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 3: are upset with him, he will completely shut down, degrade himself,

1255
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 3: and say we would be better off if he left

1256
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:45,040
Speaker 3: us alone. He is very different to talk to, as

1257
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 3: he will make Joseph, he is very difficult to talk to,

1258
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:51,760
Speaker 3: as he will make jokes or references that you may

1259
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 3: not understand and then degrade himself if you don't get it.

1260
01:00:55,600 --> 01:00:56,160
Speaker 1: To give you a.

1261
01:00:56,080 --> 01:00:58,439
Speaker 3: Picture of how difficult it can be to be around him,

1262
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 3: one time he and I went all things together. I

1263
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 3: don't take the game too seriously when I play, which

1264
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 3: what's wrong with you?

1265
01:01:06,240 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 1: Golf is a serious game. I understand I'm not very

1266
01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:13,040
Speaker 1: good at it. Get better. Sorry, I'm just messing around.

1267
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:16,720
Speaker 3: But on the other hand, my brother in law is

1268
01:01:16,760 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 3: a pretty good golfer. About five or six holes in,

1269
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,680
Speaker 3: Charlie is not playing super well. On one hole, he

1270
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:27,600
Speaker 3: gets so frustrated that he took his clubs off the

1271
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 3: golf off the golf cart and said he was going

1272
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 3: to walk the rest of the round while I rode

1273
01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 3: because he didn't want to bring me down.

1274
01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:35,920
Speaker 2: Oh that's thoughtful.

1275
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 3: That's thoughtful and the exact opposite of how that works.

1276
01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 3: I told him that he's being ridiculous and would actually

1277
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:46,400
Speaker 3: be bringing me down more if he decided to walk

1278
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 3: while I rode in the cart. Fast forward to about

1279
01:01:49,720 --> 01:01:53,400
Speaker 3: a month ago, and he has been kicked out of

1280
01:01:53,480 --> 01:01:57,200
Speaker 3: his dad's house. I say kicked out in quotes because

1281
01:01:57,240 --> 01:01:59,600
Speaker 3: the story he tells about how it went down seems

1282
01:01:59,640 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 3: more like he was literally.

1283
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:03,360
Speaker 1: Asking to be kicked out. What.

1284
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's confusing. Let's see how that works. His dad

1285
01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 3: asked him to help move some plywood into storage. Charlie

1286
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:16,240
Speaker 3: complained and questioned why they would need to keep old plywood,

1287
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 3: a foolish question. They argued back and forth for a

1288
01:02:21,240 --> 01:02:24,080
Speaker 3: little bit, and his dad eventually told him not to

1289
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:27,600
Speaker 3: help and to just go. Charlie asked him if he

1290
01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:30,040
Speaker 3: was meaning for him to take all of his stuff

1291
01:02:30,080 --> 01:02:34,560
Speaker 3: and dog and move out. His dad kept telling him

1292
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:40,440
Speaker 3: to quote, just go. Charlie kept pressing and asking if

1293
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 3: he wanted him to move out or not. Charlie, Charlie,

1294
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:48,000
Speaker 3: I think he just likes to take a little mole

1295
01:02:48,080 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 3: hill and make it a mountain. It's come on, Charlie.

1296
01:02:52,440 --> 01:02:56,520
Speaker 3: He loves doing that's that's like wine victim. That's victim

1297
01:02:56,560 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 3: mentality right there, Charlie.

1298
01:02:59,320 --> 01:03:00,120
Speaker 2: That's straight up.

1299
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:01,400
Speaker 5: Up, Charlie.

1300
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:03,960
Speaker 1: Just he's like, why do we need to keep us

1301
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 1: all plywood?

1302
01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 2: It's all but and beat Tom and Jankie time out.

1303
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,760
Speaker 2: I have an emotional Uh, I have a I have

1304
01:03:09,840 --> 01:03:12,960
Speaker 2: a wall of emotions, like a like a poster of emotions,

1305
01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 2: and one of them comes from insecurities. I'm gonna look

1306
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 2: at it and see what emotion that roots from.

1307
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:19,680
Speaker 1: Talk to Koder. I'll be right, okay.

1308
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 2: Yes.

1309
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:22,920
Speaker 3: First of all, plywood is one of the most versatile

1310
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 3: building materials for a variety of different constructs, which is

1311
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 3: why you don't throw out plywood.

1312
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 1: You keep it because you never know when it comes

1313
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:33,919
Speaker 1: in handy. Also, this guy's just being like, we don't

1314
01:03:33,960 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: wait wait, he's complaining, complaining, complaining. So the dad's like, okay,

1315
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 1: this is more annoying than handling the plywood by myself,

1316
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 1: so just go it's fine. And then he goes, just go,

1317
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:46,880
Speaker 1: So what you just want me to move out and

1318
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:48,640
Speaker 1: take the dog and take all my stuff and leave

1319
01:03:49,680 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 1: And he just goes, I'm not even gonna I'm not

1320
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:56,280
Speaker 1: even going to entertain that just go, just go get

1321
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 1: just go go away from me right now, is what

1322
01:03:59,840 --> 01:04:05,520
Speaker 1: the is? And here comes here comes Riley.

1323
01:04:05,200 --> 01:04:08,640
Speaker 3: With the is what this is the newest character from

1324
01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 3: inside Out three at Riley's about to show us right now.

1325
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:18,720
Speaker 2: Insecurity comes from feeling threatened, which comes from fear. Ah,

1326
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:21,520
Speaker 2: So he needs to find out in a way with

1327
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 2: the therapist what he is afraid of so we can

1328
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:27,320
Speaker 2: then stop feeling threatened all the time, so he won't

1329
01:04:27,360 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 2: be insecure and wanting to feel like he needs to

1330
01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:33,640
Speaker 2: leave anytime he upsets someone or if his dad like

1331
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:34,800
Speaker 2: just go. That's coming from.

1332
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:38,840
Speaker 3: Insecurity, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, where it's like, oh,

1333
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 3: you secretly don't want me here, so just tell me,

1334
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:41,880
Speaker 3: just tell me now, tell me, tell me, tell me,

1335
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:42,360
Speaker 3: because I.

1336
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:44,080
Speaker 1: Know I'm afraid that you don't. So I'm gonna press it.

1337
01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make him say that you do so I

1338
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 1: can confirm my own fear.

1339
01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:47,760
Speaker 5: Wow.

1340
01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 3: That's that's deep. That's super deep. We should have that

1341
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 3: hanging up in here. Where's that? We need another one

1342
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:53,720
Speaker 3: of those. We need to make a copy of that.

1343
01:04:54,480 --> 01:05:00,440
Speaker 3: Good job, Riley. So Charlie continued to press the issue,

1344
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:03,600
Speaker 3: asking if he wanted him to move out or not.

1345
01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:08,520
Speaker 3: The dad eventually says, yes, just take your stuff and

1346
01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 3: go Okay.

1347
01:05:09,680 --> 01:05:11,920
Speaker 2: The dad was probably like, just get out of my face,

1348
01:05:11,960 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 2: and he's like, whatever I can say to get him

1349
01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:14,600
Speaker 2: out of my face, we're gonna say it.

1350
01:05:14,640 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 1: I mean at that point, after you've like repeatedly me like,

1351
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 1: are you sure you don't want me to leave?

1352
01:05:18,120 --> 01:05:19,400
Speaker 3: Are you sure you don't want me to leave? If

1353
01:05:19,400 --> 01:05:21,240
Speaker 3: I'm the dad, I'm like, does he want to leave?

1354
01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:21,640
Speaker 2: Please?

1355
01:05:21,760 --> 01:05:24,000
Speaker 1: I guess you can leave. Yeah, whatever, do whatever you're

1356
01:05:24,040 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 1: gonna do.

1357
01:05:24,640 --> 01:05:24,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1358
01:05:26,040 --> 01:05:30,439
Speaker 3: Anyway, him living with us has been very difficult so far.

1359
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 3: There is a psychology term called the self fulfilling prophecy,

1360
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 3: and I think he accurately fits the description, which is

1361
01:05:37,280 --> 01:05:39,120
Speaker 3: crazy that they just said that, because that is I

1362
01:05:39,200 --> 01:05:41,240
Speaker 3: was about to say that, and I felt like it

1363
01:05:41,280 --> 01:05:44,080
Speaker 3: was the wrong thing to say. Turns out I was wrong.

1364
01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 3: He thinks that he is a burden to us and

1365
01:05:47,680 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 3: that we resent him for being in our space, so

1366
01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:53,000
Speaker 3: he treats us and talks to us as if we

1367
01:05:53,080 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 3: believe that. After a while, it starts to get annoying

1368
01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 3: for Charlie to treat us this way and to degrade

1369
01:05:58,640 --> 01:06:01,200
Speaker 3: himself every chance he gets, so whenever we show any

1370
01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:04,440
Speaker 3: signs of us being upset with him, his belief is

1371
01:06:04,480 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 3: now confirmed and reinforced. Not only is he tough to

1372
01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 3: be around socially, he doesn't chip in in the same

1373
01:06:10,720 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 3: way that we do, or at all for that matter.

1374
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:16,200
Speaker 3: If someone has made dinner, he will eat with us,

1375
01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 3: but if not, he goes out and gets fast food

1376
01:06:18,640 --> 01:06:21,880
Speaker 3: for himself. He will eat our snacks and drink what's

1377
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:25,160
Speaker 3: in the fridge, but doesn't contribute to the groceries.

1378
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:25,920
Speaker 1: That come on.

1379
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:29,080
Speaker 2: Dude, that's what that's basic. Because he was asked to

1380
01:06:29,120 --> 01:06:32,400
Speaker 2: help out with the chore plywood, he argued and then

1381
01:06:32,480 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 2: got into that mindset and did that. So I guess

1382
01:06:34,880 --> 01:06:36,720
Speaker 2: anytime anyone ever asked him to do that, that's the

1383
01:06:36,760 --> 01:06:37,720
Speaker 2: cycle he goes into.

1384
01:06:37,760 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, he just can't ask ask him a thing.

1385
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 2: That is so hard.

1386
01:06:44,720 --> 01:06:47,720
Speaker 3: He has a large dog that we have all chipped

1387
01:06:47,720 --> 01:06:49,960
Speaker 3: in to help take care of. At this point, we

1388
01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:52,919
Speaker 3: have taken care of his dog significantly more than he has,

1389
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:58,200
Speaker 3: buying it food, bathing it because it smelled disgusting, brushing

1390
01:06:58,280 --> 01:07:02,240
Speaker 3: it pretty much every His dog is much bigger than

1391
01:07:02,280 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 3: our little dog, and when they play, our little dog

1392
01:07:04,840 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 3: ends up getting hurt. Oh, we now keep our dog

1393
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 3: upstairs in our room when we leave to go to

1394
01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:13,400
Speaker 3: work out of fear that he may get hurt even more.

1395
01:07:14,040 --> 01:07:17,040
Speaker 3: This past week, we are all having dinner together that

1396
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:20,160
Speaker 3: my mother in law has made. As we're eating, Charlie

1397
01:07:20,200 --> 01:07:24,680
Speaker 3: complains about the food, saying that he can make it

1398
01:07:24,880 --> 01:07:29,040
Speaker 3: way better. Hey, Charlie, you say that at the dinner table,

1399
01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:31,440
Speaker 3: I'll kick you out of the house myself. Even if

1400
01:07:31,480 --> 01:07:34,880
Speaker 3: I didn't make it. Mother in law's making that food,

1401
01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:37,440
Speaker 3: and you have the gall to be like, I'd make

1402
01:07:37,480 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 3: it better, dude.

1403
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:43,000
Speaker 2: We that's like where I'm from, you monck someone's food.

1404
01:07:43,640 --> 01:07:47,680
Speaker 3: Oh no, don't are you from planet Earth, because that's

1405
01:07:47,880 --> 01:07:49,760
Speaker 3: pretty much I feel like a universal thing.

1406
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:52,040
Speaker 5: You don't do that to the chef.

1407
01:07:52,200 --> 01:07:54,600
Speaker 2: I said something to my mom about I brought like

1408
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 2: some something some like dish to a thing, and I

1409
01:07:57,840 --> 01:08:00,920
Speaker 2: made one comment about it, like, hey, like two dowe

1410
01:08:00,920 --> 01:08:03,720
Speaker 2: on the edges. Never made me that dish again. I've

1411
01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:05,120
Speaker 2: never seen that dish again in my life.

1412
01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:07,760
Speaker 1: The thing about food critiques is you don't give him

1413
01:08:07,800 --> 01:08:10,800
Speaker 1: until you're asked for it, until they ask you about it,

1414
01:08:11,280 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 1: and they're like, don't hold back, then you can do it.

1415
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1416
01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:16,879
Speaker 4: A lot of people are saying, like, oh, the depression

1417
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:20,679
Speaker 4: and anxiety, maybe he maybe on the maybe's on the spectrum.

1418
01:08:20,200 --> 01:08:21,680
Speaker 2: The spectrum undiagnosed.

1419
01:08:23,240 --> 01:08:26,600
Speaker 3: It's it's possible he needs there's no perform diagnosis. I

1420
01:08:26,640 --> 01:08:29,080
Speaker 3: think Op said that he's definitely bipolar, but I don't

1421
01:08:29,080 --> 01:08:36,800
Speaker 3: think Ope is in any position to make that diagnosis.

1422
01:08:37,280 --> 01:08:39,720
Speaker 2: But still he just thinks to see professional help, either

1423
01:08:39,880 --> 01:08:42,960
Speaker 2: be a therapist or someone in that field. Needs help

1424
01:08:43,640 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 2: figure out.

1425
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, needs help, he needs your emotion board.

1426
01:08:46,120 --> 01:08:49,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, Dutchess says weaponized self deprecation slash depression.

1427
01:08:49,360 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, he is.

1428
01:08:51,360 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 3: Yes, he's weaponized self deprecation is like the perfect description

1429
01:08:56,800 --> 01:08:57,719
Speaker 3: of this guy's behavior.

1430
01:08:57,760 --> 01:08:59,400
Speaker 5: How old is he? A lot of people are asking

1431
01:08:59,400 --> 01:09:01,840
Speaker 5: how what is I don't think we got one.

1432
01:09:01,840 --> 01:09:03,680
Speaker 2: Okay, but he's around their age. He was probably like

1433
01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:06,040
Speaker 2: in his twenties. Yeah, I would see he's definitely young.

1434
01:09:05,960 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 3: Like I would say young, I know, his early twenties,

1435
01:09:08,439 --> 01:09:13,519
Speaker 3: early twenties, yeah, early twenties, maybe mid twenties, young twenties.

1436
01:09:13,600 --> 01:09:16,639
Speaker 5: Yeah, hey, hey, hey, respect your elders.

1437
01:09:16,680 --> 01:09:19,120
Speaker 2: Old third old twenties. Okay, we'll do old twenties.

1438
01:09:19,120 --> 01:09:21,120
Speaker 1: How many times we got to teach you this lesson,

1439
01:09:21,160 --> 01:09:21,719
Speaker 1: old man?

1440
01:09:22,400 --> 01:09:23,880
Speaker 5: Anyway, we're the old men.

1441
01:09:24,160 --> 01:09:26,000
Speaker 1: I know. I was just making a quote because my

1442
01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:30,280
Speaker 1: brain works in memes and references, because I'm rotten.

1443
01:09:31,439 --> 01:09:31,879
Speaker 2: Anyway.

1444
01:09:33,160 --> 01:09:35,760
Speaker 3: Okay, So Charlie complained about the food, saying that he

1445
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 3: can make it way better. My wife chimes in and

1446
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:42,519
Speaker 3: says that we would love to try any of his cooking.

1447
01:09:43,160 --> 01:09:44,760
Speaker 3: I tell my mother in law that I think her

1448
01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:46,919
Speaker 3: food is good, trying to make light of the situation,

1449
01:09:47,280 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 3: and he tells me that because I have already been

1450
01:09:49,520 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 3: married to my wife for four years, I don't need

1451
01:09:52,520 --> 01:09:57,040
Speaker 3: to kiss my mother in law's butt anymore. I said

1452
01:09:57,040 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 3: that I wasn't butt kissing, but I genuinely thought her

1453
01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:03,160
Speaker 3: cooking was fine, and said that food tastes even better

1454
01:10:03,439 --> 01:10:05,760
Speaker 3: when you don't have to cook it. He told me

1455
01:10:05,800 --> 01:10:09,200
Speaker 3: that I was being shady and proceeded to degrade himself more.

1456
01:10:10,840 --> 01:10:11,080
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1457
01:10:12,080 --> 01:10:17,559
Speaker 1: Uh, but you know where you can degrade us. If

1458
01:10:17,600 --> 01:10:21,599
Speaker 1: you want to degrade us, you can do so every

1459
01:10:21,800 --> 01:10:27,320
Speaker 1: weekday at three PMPST when we go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

1460
01:10:27,400 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 1: and Twitch.

1461
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:34,400
Speaker 3: Just tap our profile and you're in. We might even

1462
01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:38,320
Speaker 3: be live right now if you're watching this in the future,

1463
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:41,519
Speaker 3: but before you go check hold on because we got

1464
01:10:41,520 --> 01:10:46,519
Speaker 3: a little bit of story left. Like do I feel

1465
01:10:46,560 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 3: bad for Charlie, Yes, But like, would I feel bad

1466
01:10:53,160 --> 01:10:56,639
Speaker 3: for Charlie if I was Ope and I'd been around

1467
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:58,040
Speaker 3: this with so long?

1468
01:10:58,479 --> 01:10:59,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think so.

1469
01:10:59,840 --> 01:11:02,800
Speaker 1: I think I would have been equally as worn down

1470
01:11:02,960 --> 01:11:06,920
Speaker 1: as Ope. However, clearly Charlie is in need of some

1471
01:11:07,000 --> 01:11:07,599
Speaker 1: kind of help.

1472
01:11:08,120 --> 01:11:10,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like that's and that's the problem I have here

1473
01:11:11,000 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 3: is Op doesn't seem to be moving with any level.

1474
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:16,799
Speaker 1: Of empathy for Charlie, which is not cool.

1475
01:11:17,439 --> 01:11:22,840
Speaker 2: Like, Charlie clearly needs help, Yeah, good guidance to fix himself. Yeah,

1476
01:11:23,200 --> 01:11:25,879
Speaker 2: this isn't sustainable to live with. No, it's with yourself

1477
01:11:26,000 --> 01:11:28,479
Speaker 2: or in the house. And it's and it sucks too

1478
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:30,800
Speaker 2: that they can't. They have no other options. They do,

1479
01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:33,760
Speaker 2: but it's very pricey right now for them to move

1480
01:11:33,760 --> 01:11:37,280
Speaker 2: out right be somewhere else. They've tried that it's really tough.

1481
01:11:37,320 --> 01:11:41,000
Speaker 2: Maybe could you talk to the dad that them with him? Well,

1482
01:11:41,040 --> 01:11:43,280
Speaker 2: I think you want to talk to your wife too, right,

1483
01:11:43,439 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 2: But like, if you want to move, could you move

1484
01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:48,680
Speaker 2: in with her dad? Because that's where the brother in

1485
01:11:48,760 --> 01:11:49,280
Speaker 2: law came from.

1486
01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:52,240
Speaker 3: They they got enough plywood over there to do to

1487
01:11:52,280 --> 01:11:55,720
Speaker 3: do projects as well, which that could be fun. But yeah,

1488
01:11:55,720 --> 01:11:58,720
Speaker 3: I think I think the main takeaway here is I'm

1489
01:11:58,840 --> 01:12:02,800
Speaker 3: I'm kind of surprised that the lack of at the

1490
01:12:02,880 --> 01:12:07,240
Speaker 3: lack of empathy, like there's it just seems to be like, oh,

1491
01:12:07,280 --> 01:12:09,680
Speaker 3: look how much it sucks for me to have to

1492
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:12,599
Speaker 3: live with this guy. But it's like, hey, maybe you

1493
01:12:12,640 --> 01:12:16,599
Speaker 3: can help him instead of just complaining about him.

1494
01:12:16,680 --> 01:12:16,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1495
01:12:17,240 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 3: Mirka Weiss says, his behavior is very clearly a cry

1496
01:12:20,520 --> 01:12:20,840
Speaker 3: for help.

1497
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:24,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Uh, he's he's he's.

1498
01:12:24,520 --> 01:12:28,000
Speaker 3: Looking for help hopefully the end of this story, could

1499
01:12:28,040 --> 01:12:29,280
Speaker 3: you pause, get some help.

1500
01:12:29,520 --> 01:12:32,120
Speaker 2: Christinfle Hat says some people don't want help. They may

1501
01:12:32,240 --> 01:12:35,240
Speaker 2: want to wallow their own self made misery.

1502
01:12:35,479 --> 01:12:36,280
Speaker 5: Those type of people.

1503
01:12:36,320 --> 01:12:37,920
Speaker 4: I know some people like that where it's just it's

1504
01:12:37,960 --> 01:12:40,360
Speaker 4: kind of like not pick me vibes, but it's just like, oh,

1505
01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:43,679
Speaker 4: feel bad for me, to feel bad for me again, dude,

1506
01:12:43,680 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 4: you're so draining.

1507
01:12:44,800 --> 01:12:48,200
Speaker 3: Well it's somebody said it earlier. It's it's like you're

1508
01:12:48,240 --> 01:12:50,760
Speaker 3: weaponizing your you know.

1509
01:12:51,000 --> 01:12:55,160
Speaker 4: Your depression or whatever, yeah, you know, bipolar whatever, whatever,

1510
01:12:55,200 --> 01:12:56,960
Speaker 4: it is. You're weaponizing it, and you're making it a

1511
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:59,680
Speaker 4: weapon towards yourself rectivity.

1512
01:12:59,760 --> 01:13:00,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1513
01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:02,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's just it's a big negative cloud. It's

1514
01:13:02,160 --> 01:13:04,439
Speaker 4: a big negative cloud where it's like, I, at what

1515
01:13:04,479 --> 01:13:06,439
Speaker 4: point do I just stop feeling for you?

1516
01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1517
01:13:07,320 --> 01:13:11,560
Speaker 4: Agreed, But before we start getting to read the story, Uh,

1518
01:13:11,880 --> 01:13:13,639
Speaker 4: everyone was doing it. It was a moment of silence.

1519
01:13:13,720 --> 01:13:16,639
Speaker 1: I did I saw it in there, he guys.

1520
01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:19,960
Speaker 2: Silence in the chat, guys, no words in the chat, guys,

1521
01:13:20,439 --> 01:13:23,840
Speaker 2: nothing in the chat, guys. Pin drops in the chat, guys.

1522
01:13:24,040 --> 01:13:26,439
Speaker 2: We don't want to hear anything in the chat, guys.

1523
01:13:26,439 --> 01:13:30,719
Speaker 2: Silence in the chat, silence, shut up, right.

1524
01:13:31,400 --> 01:13:33,880
Speaker 4: And then another moment of silence, but not really. Vix

1525
01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:36,240
Speaker 4: Mix just foot donated forty more dollars.

1526
01:13:36,280 --> 01:13:39,439
Speaker 1: Wow, vix Mix says, sorry, nephews, I was late to

1527
01:13:39,479 --> 01:13:40,960
Speaker 1: the stream. You weren't late, vix makes.

1528
01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:43,320
Speaker 2: We were just early. We were just waiting on you.

1529
01:13:43,360 --> 01:13:44,439
Speaker 5: See, we did it so early.

1530
01:13:44,520 --> 01:13:47,400
Speaker 4: So when you guys came up three, you guys were

1531
01:13:47,439 --> 01:13:48,639
Speaker 4: we started at twelve thirty?

1532
01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:50,960
Speaker 2: Yeah? When did we start? Were we actually start.

1533
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:54,480
Speaker 5: Killing like one twenty ish? One twenty Yeah?

1534
01:13:55,200 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 4: Come on, man, step go on, Okay, we I called it.

1535
01:13:57,960 --> 01:13:59,439
Speaker 4: As I sees it, I was like, well, yeah, it's

1536
01:13:59,439 --> 01:13:59,920
Speaker 4: gonna start.

1537
01:14:00,920 --> 01:14:04,160
Speaker 3: We've got a little bit left of the story. Let's

1538
01:14:04,240 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 3: let's hope it ends with Charlie getting some help.

1539
01:14:10,040 --> 01:14:10,519
Speaker 2: Here we go.

1540
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,439
Speaker 1: I really don't know what to do at this point.

1541
01:14:13,920 --> 01:14:15,040
Speaker 1: My wife is very.

1542
01:14:14,880 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 3: Distraught about the whole situation and feels crazy for feeling

1543
01:14:18,400 --> 01:14:22,879
Speaker 3: like Charlie has been Wait, my wife is very distraught

1544
01:14:22,920 --> 01:14:26,400
Speaker 3: about the whole situation and feels crazy for feeling like

1545
01:14:26,520 --> 01:14:30,800
Speaker 3: Charlie has been acting ridiculous lately. They've tried talking it

1546
01:14:30,840 --> 01:14:33,600
Speaker 3: out before, but it doesn't go well. She talked with

1547
01:14:33,640 --> 01:14:36,360
Speaker 3: her mom about it, and her mom has decided to

1548
01:14:36,560 --> 01:14:40,960
Speaker 3: not try to take sides. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Yeah,

1549
01:14:41,200 --> 01:14:43,519
Speaker 3: it's it's hard to have that conversation with somebody, but

1550
01:14:44,360 --> 01:14:47,320
Speaker 3: you gotta do exal help and you gotta keep doing it.

1551
01:14:47,640 --> 01:14:47,880
Speaker 2: Yep.

1552
01:14:48,200 --> 01:14:49,560
Speaker 3: And if the mom is like, I don't want to

1553
01:14:49,560 --> 01:14:51,000
Speaker 3: pick sides, this isn't about sides.

1554
01:14:51,040 --> 01:14:53,519
Speaker 1: This is about helping. It's about who's about helping your son?

1555
01:14:54,840 --> 01:14:56,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, helping your son? Yeah?

1556
01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:03,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. Also you know, now, in my own head, I

1557
01:15:03,040 --> 01:15:06,719
Speaker 1: just realized that his comment about his mom's food because

1558
01:15:06,720 --> 01:15:09,559
Speaker 1: it's his mom, it's Charlie's mom, being like.

1559
01:15:09,840 --> 01:15:12,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have to it's not that good. Like

1560
01:15:12,439 --> 01:15:14,120
Speaker 3: it could have been a little more exad. I got

1561
01:15:14,120 --> 01:15:16,200
Speaker 3: actually really mad at that. I was like, how dare

1562
01:15:16,240 --> 01:15:18,400
Speaker 3: you disparat your cooking? But I'm like, okay, that might

1563
01:15:18,439 --> 01:15:21,120
Speaker 3: have actually been kind of like a lighthearted.

1564
01:15:21,479 --> 01:15:24,360
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes families they they they.

1565
01:15:24,960 --> 01:15:26,439
Speaker 2: Do little jebs for fun.

1566
01:15:26,479 --> 01:15:27,679
Speaker 1: It's just a fun little thing.

1567
01:15:28,800 --> 01:15:30,600
Speaker 3: My family doesn't do that. You can't joke around with

1568
01:15:30,600 --> 01:15:32,920
Speaker 3: my family. You say something like that, they'd be.

1569
01:15:32,920 --> 01:15:37,880
Speaker 1: Like, what are you talking about your forehead? Can you

1570
01:15:37,920 --> 01:15:38,799
Speaker 1: touch my forehead?

1571
01:15:39,439 --> 01:15:39,839
Speaker 2: Please?

1572
01:15:40,080 --> 01:15:43,320
Speaker 1: Yeah? It's bumpy, you still want to touch it?

1573
01:15:43,640 --> 01:15:46,280
Speaker 2: Yeah? Dude? Why all right? Get over here?

1574
01:15:53,360 --> 01:15:55,960
Speaker 1: What is I feel smarter?

1575
01:15:57,520 --> 01:15:57,720
Speaker 2: What?

1576
01:15:57,920 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 5: No, what are you doing?

1577
01:15:59,560 --> 01:16:03,240
Speaker 1: I feel Okay, I feel I don't know, I don't

1578
01:16:03,280 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 1: know what I feel right now, But to circle back, yeah,

1579
01:16:08,840 --> 01:16:10,840
Speaker 1: I want I feel like I want Charlie to be

1580
01:16:10,880 --> 01:16:11,360
Speaker 1: in therapy.

1581
01:16:12,680 --> 01:16:14,280
Speaker 5: I'm kind of at a loss for words. What just

1582
01:16:14,280 --> 01:16:14,800
Speaker 5: happened there?

1583
01:16:14,880 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 1: I think I need therapy.

1584
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:18,799
Speaker 2: After Riley touched my forehead,