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Speaker 1: My grandparents are trying to steal my hotel suite on

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Speaker 2: I want to kick them to the streets. Am I

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Speaker 2: the ahole? Where's opis? Post? A bone?

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Speaker 1: My family is Asian, my husband's side is white. My

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Speaker 1: all expense paid vacation to Bora Bora as a pre

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Speaker 3: Holy, that is a nice familial gift. Goddamn.

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Speaker 1: The bungalows are a one thousand square foot one bedroom

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Speaker 1: option of either one king bed or two queens, one

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Speaker 1: sure everyone was accommodated for and everyone had a comfortable

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Speaker 1: living situation. Our villa is a four thousand square foot

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Speaker 1: one bedroom, one bath including a sauna, a living room,

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Speaker 1: a grand outdoor space with an outdoor bathtub, pool.

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Speaker 2: And slide into the free ocean. How rich are these people? Holy,

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Speaker 2: show it to the ocean, to the ocean.

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Speaker 1: What we have not even made it a whole twenty

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Speaker 1: out during dinner. My cousin mentioned wanting to come over

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Speaker 1: and use our slide. My grandparents asked what we were

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Speaker 1: talking about, and then they asked to uh see.

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Speaker 2: Some pictures of the room. Well, uh, they saw my

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Speaker 1: Demanded that we trade rooms with them, as no elders

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Speaker 1: their grandchildren get a nicer room. This is Bora Bora

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Speaker 1: we're talking about here. No one is living as a peasant.

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Speaker 2: Correct.

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Speaker 1: There was only one villa available in our section. Had

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Speaker 1: I given it to my grandparents, I think it would

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Speaker 1: have been offensive to my husband's grandparents. If there was three,

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Speaker 1: we would have given it to both grandparents and one

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Speaker 1: for our but unfortunately there wasn't. I mentioned this and

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Speaker 1: they still demanded our villa.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I obviously objected and said I felt as though my

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Speaker 2: LUs we paid for the entire trip.

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't one just sit back and be grateful they're on

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Speaker 1: freaked out, saying I'm holding money above their head and

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Speaker 1: that I'm being disrespectful and not following their orders. They

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Speaker 2: Do it, do it? Please? Please? I beg you. I

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Speaker 2: don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: My side of the family is telling me to just

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Speaker 1: are back crazy, and I agree they are so ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: All I wanted was for both sides of the family

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Speaker 2: And now it's falling apart.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I'm the a hole at all, but

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Speaker 1: I've been up all night thinking about whether I should

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Speaker 1: another part of me just wants to tell them to

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Speaker 1: go f themselves for making my honeymoon about themselves, just

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Speaker 1: like they do with everything else. So Reddit, what do

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Speaker 1: I do? Would I be the A hole if I

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Speaker 2: There is an update? But Sam, I think you've you've

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Speaker 2: got some I can see it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, yeah, So I don't think OP is the

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Speaker 3: A hole. If they were like, no, I'm not going

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Speaker 3: to do that because it is their wedding. Again, I

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Speaker 3: feel like, if it's your wedding and you are paying

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Speaker 1: Let me throw one one more little curveball at you.

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Speaker 1: It seems like Ops saying that her grandparents are always

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Speaker 1: like this, So imagine you have like these, like very

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Speaker 3: That would probably pass. Maybe I would be like nah,

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Speaker 3: just nah the update.

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Speaker 2: What did OP do?

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Speaker 1: Even though I really wanted to be petty and tell

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Speaker 1: They said they hadn't looked yet and that should be

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, the entitlement is crazy.

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Speaker 1: I made sure they knew I was not kicking them out,

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Speaker 1: that comes with all the bungalow. They stopped eating and

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Speaker 1: looked at each other in shock. Every time they threatened

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Speaker 1: doing that. I'll pay for their flight back home, but

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Speaker 1: I've already done enough accommodating on my honeymoon vacation. So

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Speaker 1: there you have it. My grandparents weren't even planning to

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Speaker 1: and I called their bluff.

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Speaker 3: Wooh, love o Pee, I'm glad that you didn't take it.

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Speaker 3: That sounds like you've been taking it a long time.

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Speaker 1: After breakfast, I found a flight leaving around five pm

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Speaker 2: Nice.

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Speaker 1: They also didn't get their complimentary massage because the resort

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Speaker 1: tired of the entitlement my grandparents have had since day one,

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Speaker 2: In their words, they killed the vibe. I agree, that's

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Speaker 2: kind of what we're saying.

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Speaker 3: It's like, you know, if it might be better for

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Speaker 3: a better honeymoon trip.

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Speaker 1: So everyone's happy right now and is using my slide

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Speaker 2: Love it.

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Speaker 1: I'm happy I was able to stand up to my

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Speaker 1: messages and comments that I can't get back to. However,

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Speaker 1: the main question is what my profession is. I did

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Speaker 1: not go the usual Asian route. I actually dropped out

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Speaker 2: My dad is also an entrepreneur.

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Speaker 1: I looked up to him, and I'm so glad I

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Speaker 2: That's kind of sick.

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Speaker 3: Wow, What I'm really glad op didn't give into the grandparents' terribleness.

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Speaker 3: I totally would have understand if he tried to accommodate them,

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Speaker 2: Get just get him out of here, you know, get

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Speaker 3: But I actually have a story from one of our

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Speaker 2: So Tony p. Two nine three five says.

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Speaker 3: I was kicked out for five minutes after my grandpa

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Speaker 3: jokingly said he was going to kick me out and

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Speaker 3: I told him I was going to kick him out,

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Speaker 3: and I ended up on the deck in the rain

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Speaker 3: Today, I affd up by accidentally facetiming my boss while

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Speaker 3: I was deep into my wife's cheeks at one am.

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Speaker 2: You know, sometimes you just in those cheeks and you're

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Speaker 2: like fuck, I got a FaceTime my boss, show him

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Speaker 3: Ass throw away. Obviously, but this happened last night. Got

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, So we start going at it, and then

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Speaker 3: I hear a sound next to us, and thinking back

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Speaker 3: mix we're making a FaceTime call. But at the time,

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Speaker 3: I forgot to shut off. So my dumb ass pauses,

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Speaker 3: the alarm.

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Speaker 2: Quote unquote.

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Speaker 3: I'm on my knees in bed with the phone and

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Speaker 3: answers the phone and I hear, oh, what the hell

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Speaker 3: the funk? The front facey camera gave my boss full

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Speaker 3: view of my gorge python HD. The only thing I

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Speaker 3: could muster to say, Holy shit, I'm so sorry. This

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Oh my god. I have absolutely no

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Speaker 3: looking at my recent calls, just staring at the screen,

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Speaker 3: going through the steps of my head that had created

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Speaker 3: the perfect storm events. All I know is the fund

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Speaker 3: I spoke with my boss right before the end of

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Speaker 3: small business on a large corporate entity, so I don't

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Speaker 3: be filled with awkward silence with my boss. So I

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Speaker 3: was up front and luckily he wasn't defended, and he

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Speaker 3: evenly jokingly talked about how he was going to call

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Speaker 3: me back to make sure everything was still going well.

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Speaker 3: This will never be let down, but at least I

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Speaker 3: think at some point we can move beyond it and

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Speaker 3: return to some kind of normalcy. Boss of the Year Award,

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Speaker 3: Boss of the Year Award. He could be the boss

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Speaker 3: of his ass Ooh baby,