WEBVTT - This is Dramatic: How I Met Your Mother 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.000 This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.719 Happy Mother's Day, Chris Harrison Lauren Zema coming to you 0:00:12.760 --> 0:00:16.320 from the home office in Austin, Texas on this Mother's Day, 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:21.760 a day to take pause and think about and think 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:26.480 the incredible women in our lives who have gotten us 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.440 from there to hear and meant the world to us. 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:31.600 You know, I got to say I love Mother's Day 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:34.640 as a holiday. I do too like some holidays, Like 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:37.040 I'm not the biggest Valentine's Day person in the world 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:39.040 because I kind of feel like if you're in a relationship, 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.160 you probably have an anniversary you do once a year, 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:43.400 and you know you should be showing each other love 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:43.880 every day. 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.800 So what is Valentine's Day for? But Mother's Day? 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:49.959 I love because while kids should be showing their mom 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:52.720 love and appreciation day and day out as they're growing up, 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:56.080 once you leave your home, your mom has still given 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:58.640 you so much that you've taken. 0:00:58.400 --> 0:00:59.280 With you your whole life. 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:01.480 That I do love that there's a day now as 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:04.120 an adult to be able to just really take a 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:06.160 moment and say thank you to my. 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.560 Mom, or think about them and think about what they've 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.600 imparted upon you and given you. And so this is 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:14.000 just a day that we wanted to step back because 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:17.080 we have two incredible moms that we love and adore 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.920 and cherish and so Mary Beth Harrison Donna Zema are 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:23.640 going to join us today on the show. 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:25.560 I'm nervous. 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:30.160 I'm nervous. I don't know what they're gonna say. I 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:31.320 don't know what they're gonna. 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.760 This seemed like a good idea, I know, I'm regretting. 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:35.560 I'm literally like kind of I know. 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.600 Our producer said, hey, you know, you know it would 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.000 be cute. Let's get let's get your moms on. Let's 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:42.200 put this up Mother's Day Sunday. This is going to 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:45.240 be great. So we are doing this Mother's Day edition. 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:48.240 And yeah, as we are on the precipice of bringing 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:50.680 our moms on the air, this doesn't seem like a 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:51.560 great idea anymore. 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:53.040 Who's more honest than a mom? 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:54.640 You know, That's what I'm afraid of. 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.560 I mean, my mom, I'm hanging out with her. I 0:01:57.560 --> 0:01:59.360 walked out the door and she says, what are you wearing? 0:01:59.480 --> 0:01:59.960 That's horrible. 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.120 You know, she's very honest, So what's she going to say? 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:03.320 When she's been given the mic. 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:04.920 That's a question. 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:08.840 You you're The dynamic with your mom is incredible And 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:11.440 before she comes on, when you think about your mom, 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:12.600 what do you think about? 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:19.240 I think about how she gave me confidence, strength, independence. 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:21.320 That's the first thing I always go to with my 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:25.519 mom because though I might like I laugh about the criticism, right, 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:29.600 but the thing is the criticism over the years prepared 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:33.240 me for the world. And while she might give her 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:37.000 opinion on things, my mom also always applauded me on everything, 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.440 told me I'd done a great job, told me I 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:42.880 was smart. And at the end of the day, what 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:45.240 do you want more from a parent other than to 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:48.960 feel loved and for them to make you feel like 0:02:49.120 --> 0:02:51.240 you can go out into the world and succeed. Those 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:52.880 to me are the two biggest things, and I got 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:54.040 both of those from my mom. 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.720 So I'm so blessed and grateful. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:59.040 When I think of being a parent now that I've 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:02.680 had my turn at this and still going, but loving 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.640 them as much as you can and being present in 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:08.519 their lives to me or the other two main columns 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:10.720 of being a parent. And when I think of my mom, 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:14.360 she was that she was present and loved me. I 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:17.280 never didn't feel that love for my family and that 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.240 support from her, and that I could just go out 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.720 and try stuff and push myself and no matter what 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.680 it was, even getting into the crazy world of television, 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:30.040 she supported that and probably shouldn't have. That's a crazy idea. 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:34.640 Some kid from Texas who has no links to this 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.840 business is going to go be a sportscaster or newscaster like, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:38.440 that's nuts. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.840 What's interesting is that my mom did not support me 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:45.000 getting into this at all. So it's kind of amazing 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:47.720 actually that we're both sitting here that we've had careers 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:48.760 and we should ask our moms. 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:51.880 No, No, two roads are the same, and they both worked. 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:53.760 But I think at the end of it, we both 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.680 felt loved and we both felt that they were present 0:03:56.720 --> 0:03:59.560 in our lives, knew who our friends were, knew what 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:05.280 we were up to. They were strict yet loving. 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.280 Well should we bring them on? 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:23.440 Should we do it? Let's push go. So we're going 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:24.880 to start this with my mom. 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.159 The Queen, the Icon, the Legend, Mary. 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:32.640 Beth Harrison, the Queen, the Icon, the Legend. Happy Mother's Day, Well, 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:38.680 thank you, Happy Mother's Day. Well you started it. Two 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.240 and a half years before me, and you did such 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.520 a bang up job with my brother Glenn. You said, 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:44.600 you know, let's do this again. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:48.240 Let's beat at the flag pole and see what happens. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.200 All the chances I've already got a launch into interview mode. 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:53.360 I don't know the answer to this, Mary Beth. How 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:56.320 did you guys decide to have Chris? Was it that 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.719 you wanted to give Glenn a little brother? 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:00.600 Were you hoping would be. 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:04.080 We were very specific about it. We wanted them to 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.880 be no more than two and a half years apart. 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:09.520 And the funny thing is they share a half birthday. 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.840 We celebrate half birthdays in my family. You know, when 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:13.240 you were one, then you were one and a half, 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:15.800 and then you were two. Yeah, so we celebrate half birthday. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:19.920 So Chris's birthday is Glenn's his brother's half birthday. So 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.680 they are legitimately two and a half years apart. 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:23.599 Six months to the day. 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:26.240 There's got to be a parenting award for birth order. 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:28.760 He crashed it. They're really I mean, I don't want 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.760 to think about how precise my parents were, but they 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:34.360 were really precise. That's an image you don't want in 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:34.800 your head. 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.920 No, and it wasn't planned that way. It just so 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.960 happened that way. But anyway that it worked out perfectly. 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.560 And one thing before I kind of turned it over 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:49.120 to l Z. You guys were so young, you were babies, 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:49.880 having babies. 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:51.960 That's gonna say, children raising children. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.880 When I think about having gone through what I've gone 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:58.120 through as a dad, it helped to have years of experience, 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:01.919 a little money in my pocket, you know, just having 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.800 you guys, you know, a mom and a dad and 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.120 a brother to help support. What was it like for 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:09.400 you guys, because when you had me, you were twenty 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:09.960 years old. 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:14.839 I honestly, if I had to do it over again, 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.760 I'd do it the same way because I know me 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.880 well enough to know that I am a it's all 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.240 or nothing, and so if I had ever started in 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:26.880 the workforce, I would have been so focused on that 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:29.400 that I don't know that I would have been as 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.599 focused as a mother as it was. I didn't go 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:35.480 to work until you boys were older. I might have 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:37.720 done some part time stuff. I mean I taught dance 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.120 and exercise for years, but I always did it when 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:42.200 you were in school. So I was home when you 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.440 were home, and that was really important to me. I 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:46.560 didn't want someone else raising my children and teaching them 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:50.040 to say please and thank you. So that was really 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:54.159 that was important to me. And I had older parents. 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.440 I was the youngest of four, as you know, and 0:06:56.480 --> 0:06:58.880 so my parents were older, and I was always so 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:02.800 envious of those my friends that had younger parents. And 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:05.440 so I look back on it, and you know, I 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:07.960 could keep up with you all like it, and there 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:09.160 was nothing that we didn't go. 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:11.000 Do, keep up with us. You lapped us. 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:14.440 Oh, Mary Beth, I started crying. 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.200 It's funny when you hear her words today sound kind 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:21.080 of familiar, like I only do things one way. I'm 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:21.360 all in. 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.720 Oh someone named Chris Harrison. 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.880 Yes, Oh my gosh, Marybeth, I really just started crying. 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.480 I've never heard you say that. That's so to say. 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:33.040 There's something so powerful about because you know, part of 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:37.120 your story is okay, I became a mom young. 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:38.920 And it didn't we didn't plan it that way exactly. 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:40.640 But to hear you say you would do it all 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:44.000 over again, the exact same way. What a beautiful perspective 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:46.000 to look back and think. But I was all in 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:47.320 and I had all this focus. 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:51.760 When you raise two boys that came out as great. 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:54.480 And you know, I always say they survived to spite me. 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:56.360 I mean, it wasn't it one like I had a 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.600 book or anything. But I had great role models as 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:03.120 you your dad, and I. I had my parents to 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.120 look up to, which was a house full of love. 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:09.120 I mean, honestly, I was raised. I laughingly said this 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:12.200 to someone yesterday. I was raised somewhere between Leave It 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.560 to Beaver and Ozzie and Harriet. If you remember those 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:19.760 old shows, it was, you know that quote unquote perfect childhood. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.600 It wasn't until I got to college that I realized people, 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:25.920 everyone doesn't live like that. Everyone doesn't have that kind 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:30.200 of life. And so I had a phenomenal example. And 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:32.600 you know, sadly, we only know what we know. I mean, 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.720 we're raised how we're raised, and we only know what 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.760 we know. And so if we know love, then we 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.360 show love. If we don't, we aren't raised that way, 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:43.280 then that's not how we're raised. So thankfully I had 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:45.559 a great role model, which I hopefully passed on to 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:47.640 them as a great role model. And as I watched you, 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:51.640 Chris as a father, I clearly see we did one 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:53.640 bang up job on that one. Because you are a 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:58.120 phenomenal father, loyal brother, incredible friend. I mean, what a. 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.800 Yeah, I know, thank you for making him for me, 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:04.240 by the way, you handed me a perfect package. 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:06.160 I don't think. Let's not go perfect. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:09.680 Well, I got to sing his yeah. 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:13.079 By the way a week, we have four questions we're 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:14.880 going to ask you, and the tone of that might 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:16.360 apply to one of them. So we'll get to that, 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:18.320 but real quick, I just have to sing his praises. 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:20.240 And he doesn't even know this yet, but we just 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.760 moved the kids out of their dorm Taylor and his 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:29.840 house Josh for the summer yesterday, and my friend Lindsey 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.760 stopped by to see us because she lives really she 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:36.240 lives two minutes from where Josh is now. And she 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.640 texted me last night and said, and she's a mom 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:40.320 of a baby girl. And she texted me last night 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:44.000 and said, I just keep thinking about how great Chris's 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.320 kids are, and I keep thinking about what a great 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:46.960 father he is. 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:48.880 And I'm not joking. 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:50.559 The next time I see him, I have to have 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:53.199 a conversation with him and learn all I can from 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:54.040 him about parenting. 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:55.719 I was just like, that's. 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:59.160 So sweeten this podcast. 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.000 Yeah, laugh about that when people would say, oh, your 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:04.360 boys are so good, and I would go, yeah, let's 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.720 wait till they're thirty and they haven't you know, stolen 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:10.000 and whatever kids will do these days. Then come back 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.000 and tell me what difference. 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:12.840 Oh, I like that we made it. 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.760 We tell their adults to see how they are. 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:16.920 Okay, exactly? You know. 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:20.240 Well, we've got four questions here that we wrote down, 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:25.960 so this transitions perfectly. Number one, we need a mama 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:30.240 pro tip. What would be your best piece of advice 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.120 on parenting if you could only give one? 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:37.040 Oh, that's easy and it's really two. One is love 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:40.040 them with everything you have in you show them love. 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:42.760 Don't just I mean, don't just don't just tell me 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:44.760 I'm one of those. Don't don't give me words, show 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:46.440 me with your actions. You can tell me you love 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.120 me all day long, but if your actions don't go 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.400 with it, it doesn't. It doesn't matter whether you're in 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:53.520 a relationship as an adult or any other time. But 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:57.640 more importantly to me is self confidence. I taught preschool 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:00.320 for what nine years, Chris, I guess, and my whole 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.520 thing was your kids may not know how to spell 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:05.040 their name, but they're gonna feel so good about themselves 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:08.600 that they don't care. And that's my whole I was 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:11.760 raised that way with my dad. If you want to 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.120 be president, honey, you go be president. If you want 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.160 to be the best trans collector in the world, go 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:18.840 be the best track. But whatever you do, do it well. 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:22.000 But you can do it well. And so self confidence 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:23.679 is everything for children. 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:27.280 Everything that makes so much sense because every time, I mean, 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:29.400 when I describe you to other people, Mary Beth, probably 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.480 the words I use the quickest are like, she is 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.200 a force. She is so strong, she gets it done. 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:37.440 She is a business woman, she is like. That is 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.000 how I describe you right off the bat. All right, Chris, 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:40.880 do you want to take one? 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:47.840 Yeah, greatest joy of being a mom doesn't Obviously this 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.120 doesn't have to be a specific me story. This could 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:54.080 be I know I have a brother, so maybe no. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.160 Is there is there a moment where as a parent, 0:11:56.200 --> 0:12:01.000 you just had this overwhelming feeling of joy or accomplishments. 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:07.040 For me, it's watching you and your brother, because from 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:09.199 the time I brought you home from the hospital, your 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:14.280 brother adopted you as his best friend. And for me 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.000 to watch that my entire life with you all but 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:20.520 to see it apply now as adults. You guys going 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:24.240 to Mexico together to go fish last week is it's 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:29.160 everything to me. So my greatest joy is watching YouTube 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:33.240 and as children, you two trying to make each other 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:38.000 laugh was just joyful. So I yeah, that's my joy 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:41.080 is watching YouTube. Be best friends as children, but to 0:12:41.160 --> 0:12:43.600 continue to be best friends, that's everything to me. 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:44.440 And he's definitely that. 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:45.360 Yeah. 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.240 I mean, it was so cute. It's so cute to 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.960 see them together, mary Bet, because you really like they 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.920 have the same laugh. They laugh the same way, and 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.560 if something makes them both laugh, it's like watching twins. 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.520 It's so we were on a group trip and some 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:00.840 of these people did not know us, and they were like, 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:02.840 oh my god when we started talking, like, you guys 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.839 sound identical. Your mom's your mom said that she was 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.360 here the night we left, and she's like, oh my gosh, 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:09.400 you guys sound identical. 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:11.959 I don't know if you remember, Chris, but you and 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.880 Glenn used to answer the phone for each other. So 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:16.719 a day we call, or a girl would call it 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.920 and you would answer and it was Glenn's and your 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.280 grandmother couldn't tell you too. She started talking thinking it 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:24.760 was one of you and it was another. So you 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:27.000 all sound very very much alike on the phone. Not 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.640 as much now as adults, I don't think, but you 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:30.520 did as children. 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:33.640 Yeah, I had more games, so I handled the relationship situation. 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:34.360 That's what I was. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:37.320 You flirted a bit for him, You warmed the whole 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:37.880 moment up. 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:39.920 I had it at an early age. 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:43.640 You'd have a whole conversation with Glenn's girlfriends and they 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.679 never know was Glenn. That's true, terrible. 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:49.000 Yeah, that's at the age when boys are like messing 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:50.400 with girls trying to get them to like them. 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:52.600 They think that they think that tactic works. 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:58.160 Mary Beth piggybacking off that, how did you foster that friendship? 0:13:58.160 --> 0:13:58.360 Though? 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:00.280 Because you hear from a lot of pe But like, 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:02.480 I feel like my kids hate each other and they 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.520 beat each other up and they bully each other. How 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:07.560 did you foster two best friends as kids? 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.440 You know, Lauren, if I thought I could clone that, 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:14.800 I'd write a book about it. But I Glenn knew 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:18.240 that Chris was coming from day one. He used to 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:20.440 talk to my stomach. I mean, I remember being in 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.520 the grocery store, and you know, I didn't allow him 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:24.640 to have Captain crunch and those kind of cereals, and 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.680 he's we're in the grocery store. And I talked all 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:28.320 the way through it with them, you know, we need this, 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.440 we need that, and he said we need some Captain crunch. 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:31.960 I said, no, no, we're not going to We're not going 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:34.400 to have that. He kept going and going and I said, 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:36.960 I told you no, and he reached down and he 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:41.360 started yelling, don't you want some Graptaic crunch? And I said, Glenn, 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:43.560 we're not talking about that. He said, I'm not talking 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:49.040 to you, I'm talking to the baby. But I started it. 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:51.440 I would jump in and say this because you've said 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.520 this before and it's actually true, and I did it 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:57.840 to a certain degree. My mom would make us so 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.240 mad at her that my my brother and I would 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:03.200 band together so my brother and I beat the crap 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:05.560 out of each other. We would go at it, I mean, 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:08.920 just you know, typical brother stuff, wrestling, fighting, hitting, We 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.120 would beat the tar out of each other until usually 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.320 I ended up crying, and my mom and dad it 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:17.160 drove them crazy, and so my mom would come in 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:21.240 and do whatever to us. At one time she actually 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:25.160 made us kiss. That's a true story. And we were 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:28.920 so mad at her we forgot we were what even 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:30.960 what we were fighting about. And so that was actually 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.640 a great tactic that I've employed. I have never made 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:37.200 my kids kiss, but hey, it was the seventies, but 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.960 that was funny that I remember that vividly, that we 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:42.560 would be beating the tar out of each other and 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:45.720 five minutes later we would forget and we were like, mom, sucks, 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:48.200 that's terrible. Come on, yeah exactly. 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.120 It's like, if you're going to be mad, then be 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.320 mad at me and get for each other. Yeah. I 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:55.080 hate fighting. I absolutely hate it this day. I'm not 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.040 an antigony. I'm not an antagonist. 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:58.000 Wow. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:02.160 Well, but that's kind of a psycho logically brilliant ploy, 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:05.560 is to unite against you. 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.680 I took that into coaching when I started coaching the 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:10.880 kids in Little League and soccer and all that. If 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:14.200 the kids were mad at me, then they couldn't be divisive, 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:16.320 they couldn't worry about themselves. It was like they were 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:17.200 a united front. 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:19.680 All right, Mary Beth, we have one more question on 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.840 our Big four list, and it has to come for 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:27.560 me because well, I am marrying your son man. 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:28.480 Welcome to the family. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:29.720 Oh, thank you. 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:31.560 You guys have been so welcoming from the start. I 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:34.000 and still remember that first passover where I kind of 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.760 met the whole crew and I was just like overjoyed 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:38.480 with how loving of a family. 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.920 This overwhelmed and overjoyed. That's a lot. 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:45.240 Overwhelmed in a good ways. We got to drink wine. 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:49.040 But so, what piece of advice would you have for 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.080 me about being married to Chris? What would be a 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:54.800 tip you'd have for me about being married to him 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:57.800 for many years and making it a happy relationship? 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:04.560 Oh my goodness, we threw that at you love him. 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:08.440 And as someone wisely said to me, if two givers 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:12.160 get married, then a marriage will work. If a giver 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:14.760 and a taker get married, they probably will work. But 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:16.679 one's always going to feel kind of abused. And if 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:19.639 two takers get married, there's no chance that a marriage 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:22.120 is going to work. So very wise words that were 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:25.479 said to me a long time ago before I got married. 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:32.040 And it's true. But Chris is a giver. He enjoys giving, 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:37.080 and so be a gracious receiver because that's his that's 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:41.720 something that brings him joy is to give and to share, 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:46.000 and so to not be as gracious and I used 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:48.600 to say this to your grandmother, to Chris, be as 0:17:48.640 --> 0:17:52.240 gracious a receiver as you are a giver, because you 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:55.240 are also a giver, Lauren, and I've watched that with you, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:18:00.600 but you need to be equally as gracious a receiver. 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:01.960 Wow. 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:03.320 I'm going to soak that in today. 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:07.160 That's so because I'm sitting here, I was processing your words, 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:08.960 Mary Beth, as you were saying them and thinking, God, 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:12.280 you're so right. Because one thing I have said that 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:13.840 has made me fall in love with Chris from the 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.600 beginning is we take care of each other like he's 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.359 a great partner. And you know, I didn't have that 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:23.119 in past relationships. I was I was the giver and 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:27.800 I was, you know, with takers sometimes. But that's I 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:31.040 actually think both of us could work on like the 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.359 way that we receive and we and I have. 0:18:33.320 --> 0:18:35.960 To yeah, wow, okay, sorry, I was that was really good. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:37.359 I'm going to go back and re listen to our 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.879 own podcast so I make sure you're every word of that. 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:42.760 Is there any doubt where I came from? 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:45.000 Oh my gosh, And as you're sitting here saying things, 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:47.879 Mary Beth, like he's a loyal person and love and 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.760