1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 1: Welcome. You are now listening to the Professional profession. Hey, 2 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 1: Professional home Girls is the kid of a name from 3 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: the PSD podcast, the only place where you would hear 4 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: interviews from black women an honestly on stories that will 5 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: enlighten and expand on taboo topics. Now, if you hear 6 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:49,920 Speaker 1: someone that sounds familiar, mind the business that pays you child. 7 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 1: If you like the PhD podcast, please rate, review and 8 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: subscribe on Apple Podcasts. Please five star reviews only. Hold 9 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: me down, don't hold me up. 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Please keep in mind that 19 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: all of my guests are nonnes So let's again this 20 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 1: week's episode. Y'all. I cannot believe this is my first 21 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: solo episode since like, Wow, however that means your girl, 22 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: then give me, y'all nothing but fire. Okay. I am 23 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: so thankful and I am so blessed, y'all. Like seriously, 24 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: this has been one of the best years of my 25 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 1: life and I really manifested a lot of ship for myself. 26 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: I'm so glad that guy watched over a ratchet like me, 27 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: because baby, I was holding on by the thinnest thread 28 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: you can imagine. Now, for those of y'all who are 29 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,640 Speaker 1: there here, hello, let me do a brief recap. I 30 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: started the Professional Homegirl podcast almost four years ago. I 31 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: know right to the day ones like it would literally 32 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: be four years next year, January eight, and I thought 33 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: I created this platform for women of color to not 34 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: have to look far to see themselves. But looking back, 35 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: I create this platform because I needed the Professional Homegirl 36 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: more than I needed anything else. To hear. These stories 37 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 1: from women black women all around the world gave me 38 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: the reminder that there is beauty and brokenness. I have 39 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: interview over two women, and most of them I wouldn't 40 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: have never thought I would be having an intimate conversation with. 41 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: I have spoken to doctors, survivors, orders of legendary people, 42 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:20,920 Speaker 1: sex workers, teachers, creators around the way, girls, mothers of celebrities, 43 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: women from religious lifestyles. I mean, I can go on 44 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: and on with the list of women I've spoken to, 45 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: but my main goal for you to take away is 46 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: that there is a professional home girl and all of us. 47 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: I remember when I first wanted to start podcasting, and 48 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: so many people were like, everybody has a podcast. What's 49 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: gonna make yours different? How you gonna stand out? Blaza, Like, 50 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: I really believe in myself so much that I kept 51 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: my head down and I kept going. And there is 52 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: really a power y'all and knowing and staying true to yourself. 53 00:03:56,640 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: And I sacrificed so much. I sacrificed my time, I 54 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: sacrificed money, sometimes my health, sleep food. Like this dream 55 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: was driving me crazy, but I knew God would not 56 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 1: have put this on my heart if it wasn't worth it. 57 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: There was a time, and I really haven't spoken about 58 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:19,719 Speaker 1: this story because I'm saving it for my New York's 59 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: Times bestseller, but there was a situation a couple of 60 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: years ago when I was planning the best retreat that 61 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: never happened. With three influences. I had a business partner. 62 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:33,119 Speaker 1: She ghoest me, y'all, And to make a long story short, 63 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 1: this was the worst business decision I have ever made, 64 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: and it really fucked me up, not only mentally but financially. 65 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: I was so depressed. I was sad and embarrassed that 66 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: I went to the roof of my apartment and I 67 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: really contemplated and jumping off the roof. It was that 68 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: bad I started. I stood there crying and disbelief because 69 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 1: at that moment, not only did I lose everything, but 70 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: I had to start back over. My credit was shitty, 71 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: and because the only family I had was my friends, 72 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:09,919 Speaker 1: I wasn't able to get my own apartment, so I 73 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 1: had to rent a room out in this lady's house. 74 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: And I just I just got to work and start 75 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: rebuilding my life. Hey, that's the story within itself, y'all. 76 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: That I'm a saved for the book. But when I 77 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: tell y'all, it was not easy. Like I really believe 78 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: that's saying when they say God give his strong, strongest 79 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: soldiers his toughest battles. When I tell y'all, I was 80 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:36,159 Speaker 1: about to tap out. But you know, one thing for certain, 81 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: and two things for sure, I am a hell of 82 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: a leader because I was a hell of a soldier, 83 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:44,799 Speaker 1: and that's a fact. Ever since I was a little girl, 84 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 1: I always knew that I would be a successful entrepreneur. 85 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: I've always been infatuated with business and entrepreneurship, and I 86 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: knew when I created the Professional home Girl, I knew 87 00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: that this would be it for me. I remember one 88 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:01,920 Speaker 1: night in my room and I was crying, y'all. I 89 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: was begging God to give me a sign or something 90 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: to let me know that I was on the right 91 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: track because I was exhausted. I may have promised to 92 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: him that night into myself and I am still keeping 93 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: that promise. And because of that, the rewards that I 94 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 1: have received have been amazing. I have created interactive coloring 95 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: books that are now located and take bookstores, including a 96 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: Barns and fucking Noble location, and my AMMI, y'all, when 97 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: I tell you, when I received that news, I cried. 98 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: I cried. I cried because if anybody know how bad 99 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: I wanted Barnes to know, but I just couldn't believe 100 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: that I finally fucking got it. I have been futured 101 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: in my Nano's favorite magazine, Essence along with some other 102 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:59,039 Speaker 1: amazing publications. I had the privilege of attending a private 103 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 1: screen and a floor risk Griffins Griffins Joiners documentary, which 104 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: was created by her daughter. And the reason why I 105 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,479 Speaker 1: bring this up is because life is really full of circle. 106 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: When I was a kid, I used to be obsessed 107 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: with flow Joe obsessed she was. She was and she 108 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: still is my hero and I loved her ever since 109 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: I was a little girl. So so be at a 110 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: private screening where her family was wow. I now have 111 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 1: the apartment of my dreams, and I literally go to 112 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: bed Friday night because I can't believe I fucking did it, y'all. 113 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: You know, I can't believe it. I just sometimes you 114 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: know it is, I believe it. I just don't know 115 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: when it's gonna happen. So the fact that I'm finally 116 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 1: here within this part of my journey, I'm just like wow, 117 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: like like it's just unbelievable. God's grace is really amazing. 118 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: My credit score is now in the mid seven fifties, y'all. Okay, 119 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: I worked my ass off, I paid off. I don't 120 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 1: even think some of y'all knew this, But I was 121 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: not only as a dropping episodes every fucking Tuesday. I 122 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: was working two jobs, y'all. Okay, when I tell you, 123 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: I did not sleep because I was going so hard 124 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: because I knew I was close to the finish line. 125 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: Like I was not playing no games. I have created 126 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: relationships with publications or publishers to a point that I 127 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: now receive advanced copies of books for those guests who 128 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: are a good match for the show. And y'all know 129 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: how much I love to read. So if it's a 130 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: good book and it's free, and if I feel like 131 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: it's going to be an amazing conversation, sign me up. Okay, 132 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: Like I really created the life I always wanted, and 133 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:43,200 Speaker 1: I know that the little girl Nay name, it's so 134 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 1: proud of me. And to make things to put the 135 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: ice and on the cake. I did this ship by myself. 136 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: Next year just to give y'all a little taste of 137 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 1: what I've been working on, I would be teaching the 138 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 1: class on the Professional home Girl at a university. More 139 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: details to come for that. In addition, I am working 140 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: on an app. I'm working on the curriculum for PhD. 141 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: I plan on doing more speaking engagements and sharing my 142 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: story because, like I always say you never know how 143 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: your storyline could be someone's else's lifeline. I plan on 144 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: doing more events. I can meet you all in person 145 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 1: so we can have a vibe because we are back 146 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 1: outside chow, so don't be surprised me y'all see me 147 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 1: in y'all city. Just pull up and let's have a 148 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: great time. Like when I tell y'all the professional home 149 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: Girl is about to be every fucking world like I'm 150 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: not letting my foot off the gas, okay. And most importantly, 151 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: the stories y'all with her next year would be so inspirational, 152 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: like I'm so excited to share these conversations with y'all. 153 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 1: So I hope and I pray that I am an 154 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: example that dreams really do come true if you just believe. Plus, 155 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 1: I used to really struggle with loneliness and abandonment issues 156 00:09:57,600 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: because of the lack of family. I did not have 157 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,959 Speaker 1: app and God has blessed me with so much by 158 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: giving me y'all my professional home girls, and we can't 159 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: forget about the niggas. I cannot thank y'all enough for 160 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 1: y'all support, the encouragement, the love, and the sisterhood that 161 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: y'all gave me. I never met my father, only had 162 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: conversations with him via phone, and he is a drug addict. 163 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: My mother was an alcoholic. I am a child abest survivor. 164 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: I did not have a blueprint to this ship. I 165 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 1: am just thankful to have the wits to figure this 166 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: ship out. But if there is one thing that I 167 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: am proud of the most, that is being a professional 168 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: home girl. There is only This is only the beginning, 169 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: and the professional home girl will be a household name. Y'all. 170 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: Remember I said it, I said every day on my 171 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 1: Instagram page. So get ready, y'all, because it's only up 172 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: from here. If y'all want to see me some love 173 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: letters and congratulations, please email me and hello at the 174 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 1: PhD podcast dot com. Um. If you want to show 175 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: your love to the show, because this is a one 176 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: woman's show for now, you can buy me a coffee 177 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:09,599 Speaker 1: using the link below or sign up for the Patreon. 178 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,080 Speaker 1: I love y'all so much and may God continue to 179 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,319 Speaker 1: bless y'all. And if it's one thing I want you 180 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 1: all to take away from this episode, it is to 181 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: stay and courage until next time. Everyone in Happy New 182 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 1: Year's Later.