Speaker 1: I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but i
Speaker 1: was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 1: and a worker being. This is life in Spanglish. Carolina, Hi,
Speaker 1: Honey German, how's my baby? I'm doing okay? You know,
Speaker 1: dealing with mom. Dealing with parents is weird. My mom
Speaker 1: just calls me NonStop, Caroline, and she's and then when
Speaker 1: she calls me, she keeps repeating things over and she said, well,
Speaker 1: you have to forgive me. I'm seventy and when people
Speaker 1: get old and I'm like, mom, you told me this
Speaker 1: ten times. I love how honey comes out with. My
Speaker 1: mom keeps calling me, how dare she love you? And
Speaker 1: want to know what you're up to? I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's like and then she'll text me so mean that
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, my fault, my fault. I'll call you later.
Speaker 1: My mom will call, or I'll call my mother. My
Speaker 1: mother never calls me very rarely. Will my mom call anymore.
Speaker 1: She's got six kids, And have you ever seen that thing?
Speaker 1: On social media on Instagram, where the guy goes, what's up, Mom?
Speaker 1: Your phone works to mom? Like we all of my
Speaker 1: brothers and sisters feel that, like that because we always
Speaker 1: have to call our mother. It's the opposite of you, honey.
Speaker 1: I always call my mom and my mom will say
Speaker 1: I theensemen, and I'm like, no, girlfriend, you were not
Speaker 1: going to call me because you never call my ass
Speaker 1: she'd be up to in her old age. So my
Speaker 1: parents moved to Miami. I think I told you guys this.
Speaker 1: They have their forever home and they are living their life.
Speaker 1: They form their little community. I don't say they do
Speaker 1: get lit. They're partying with my cousins, my Anna and Veronica,
Speaker 1: having to HeLa and and things like that. I mean,
Speaker 1: my parents are really really fun, but I find that
Speaker 1: it's so challenging. As the youngest of six, I'm always
Speaker 1: worried about them. I'm constantly worried about them. You know,
Speaker 1: my mom had COVID a couple of weeks ago, and
Speaker 1: the minute I got the text message, I called her.
Speaker 1: She didn't answer. I called my dad, Daddy, what's going on,
Speaker 1: how's mommy feeling? Oh, she's sleeping, she's you know, but
Speaker 1: it's just when your parents get older, I feel like
Speaker 1: there's this little switch that gets flipped. At least for me,
Speaker 1: it has. And I see them they're moving a little
Speaker 1: bit slower, They're not as fast as they used to
Speaker 1: do their repeating stories. Maybe they're asking you the same questions.
Speaker 1: And I always think to myself, how would I want
Speaker 1: my kids to treat me in that moment? How do
Speaker 1: I want my kids to receive me at seventy eight
Speaker 1: years old, if God blesses me with that to live
Speaker 1: that long? You know, so aging parents it's a reality
Speaker 1: for somebody in their forties. My mom had me when
Speaker 1: she was twenty nine, so now she's getting so much older,
Speaker 1: and it's like, I think it's challenging. It's it's it's
Speaker 1: one of the things that I don't like talking about.
Speaker 1: Don't they say that, you know? It's like a cycle,
Speaker 1: like they first parent you and then in the end
Speaker 1: you parent them, like they end up becoming your child. Yes,
Speaker 1: And I saw my mother do it with her own mother.
Speaker 1: It's like and then it's like you have to take
Speaker 1: care of your mother or your father, and it's a
Speaker 1: it's a really difficult thing to discuss because not a
Speaker 1: lot of people like to talk about it, whether your
Speaker 1: relationship with your parents is strained, whether it's not, even
Speaker 1: if you're close. I think it might be harder for some.
Speaker 1: I saw my mother fly out to San Francisco every
Speaker 1: other month to go and take care of her mother
Speaker 1: because they didn't want to put her in a home.
Speaker 1: She lived with my aunt. But these are discussions and
Speaker 1: conversations that families really don't have, Like have you spoken
Speaker 1: about this with your sisters? Like where is your mom? Honey?
Speaker 1: Is your mom? And well, my mom lives in Orlando
Speaker 1: but she travels to do here in public all the time. Yes,
Speaker 1: I know, she's always there, has like business is um,
Speaker 1: she has like properties, she has cows. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: but I think that makes her feel like she's still
Speaker 1: young and she's still alive. But yeah, there's a lot
Speaker 1: to be thought about. And I do have five siblings,
Speaker 1: and I think about it sometimes because you know, with
Speaker 1: us Latinos, it's like where is mom gonna live? You
Speaker 1: don't want to put you know, but we haven't really
Speaker 1: talked about it. But there are certain things that must
Speaker 1: be discussed, you know, as your parents get older, to
Speaker 1: make sure you know everything is properly aligned so that
Speaker 1: you don't end up with a big old mess. Let's
Speaker 1: say you lose your dad and now mom is alone, Like,
Speaker 1: where do we go from there? While I love that
Speaker 1: we're having this discussion right now, because as uncomfortable as
Speaker 1: it is for me, I know that it will be
Speaker 1: helpful to other people, or it'll at least spark the
Speaker 1: conversation and other people's homes. So when my parents started
Speaker 1: building their forever home, I was piste. I was so
Speaker 1: mad because I said, how dare they? What are they
Speaker 1: thinking They're building this big house? Oh? I was the
Speaker 1: most vocal what are they going to do there? Well,
Speaker 1: who's going to take care of them? And we had
Speaker 1: to have the conversation where my father and my mother said, look,
Speaker 1: we've already thought this through. We never want to end
Speaker 1: up in a home We've saved up. We know that
Speaker 1: should the situation arise, we have money set aside for
Speaker 1: an aid or a person to come and help if
Speaker 1: we need it in the future. So they were the
Speaker 1: ones that really plotted this out, and I think it
Speaker 1: was because of my mother's experience. I think it was
Speaker 1: because my mom again, you know, one of six um
Speaker 1: saw how difficult it was for everybody to take care
Speaker 1: of her mother. Like I said, she moved into my
Speaker 1: aunt's house. And then it was like one sister wasn't
Speaker 1: as helpful her. You know, she had a job, she
Speaker 1: had this, she had that, and then the brothers were
Speaker 1: all living their lives and they were doing their thing,
Speaker 1: and that was just you know, that was her story,
Speaker 1: you know. But um, I think that that motivated her
Speaker 1: and my father to think about what their future would
Speaker 1: look like. And they're in their late seventies, so you know,
Speaker 1: this is the time where you really need to buckle
Speaker 1: down and get an idea. What do your parents want
Speaker 1: for their future? Would they be okay living in an
Speaker 1: over fifty five community or one of those high rise
Speaker 1: buildings where they have activities and and lifestyle choices and
Speaker 1: things like that for them, or do your parents want
Speaker 1: to live in your home? Is your partner okay with that?
Speaker 1: My brothers and sisters and I would fight for my
Speaker 1: mom and dad literally fight. I would say, no, I'm
Speaker 1: taking her, No, I want her know I love that,
Speaker 1: But you know that's not every family care Carolina. You know,
Speaker 1: some people I know are like, I don't have the
Speaker 1: room let's say you Let's say you live right here
Speaker 1: in New York City. Maybe you live in the projects
Speaker 1: and it's a very small apartment, and you have a
Speaker 1: couple of kids. You gotta figure out, you know, well,
Speaker 1: where will mom live, you know, making living arrangements. I
Speaker 1: think that would be like a great first step if
Speaker 1: you have siblings, you know, it's a great conversation to
Speaker 1: be had, get all together, especially if maybe your parents
Speaker 1: are suffering from health illnesses or something like that, like
Speaker 1: some type of issue, and you know, God forbid they
Speaker 1: passed and then another parent is left alone or they
Speaker 1: need care. That's another thing. You know, if a parent
Speaker 1: falls ill, who's going to take them in? Who's going
Speaker 1: to be responsible for their for taking care of them. Well,
Speaker 1: I think that those are all things, yes, that need
Speaker 1: to be on the list of topics to discuss. But
Speaker 1: then I think that there's one overwhelming, just fact, and
Speaker 1: that's that it always falls on la And my mom
Speaker 1: always said to me seriously, it really really does, because
Speaker 1: I think just with her experience, her brothers were out,
Speaker 1: they were living their lives, they have their families, they
Speaker 1: have their careers, and it's challenging for them, know I
Speaker 1: want to say this just you know, out of respect
Speaker 1: for my family. Um, I'm not throwing dirt on anyone.
Speaker 1: I'm saying that was the reality of it, you know, Uh,
Speaker 1: I know the cousins, and yeah, yeah, I know that
Speaker 1: people listen, and I would never ever disrespect my family
Speaker 1: or my uncles or anyone like that, or my aunt's
Speaker 1: But I just think the reality was it came down
Speaker 1: to two sisters to really buckle down and take on
Speaker 1: the brunt of the work. My mother has six kids
Speaker 1: of her own, so she would have to leave her
Speaker 1: kids to go out and do things for my grandfather
Speaker 1: or my grandmother. So that's where I think that My
Speaker 1: mom always says ia ths barons and I say mom,
Speaker 1: She's like I am but and I'm like, Mommy, because
Speaker 1: we were done having babies, She's like a yang. So
Speaker 1: you know what I do now, it's a little secret.
Speaker 1: I have. I have two little I have two little boys,
Speaker 1: I would saying, and I go like a little voice
Speaker 1: of a yahita and I say, ah, sure, will you
Speaker 1: always take care of your mama? And he's like, yes, Mommy,
Speaker 1: I love you, of course. And then I say I
Speaker 1: say that, Noah, Noah, will you always take care of
Speaker 1: your mama. So either way, one of them is going
Speaker 1: to do it. I'm I'm telling them both the same
Speaker 1: story that I need them to feel sorry for me
Speaker 1: when I'm a little old lady's and I said, don't
Speaker 1: put me in a home. Don't. It's so crazy because
Speaker 1: it's like just a few days ago I told my husband,
Speaker 1: I said, I don't have no kids. Who's gonna take
Speaker 1: care of me. He's like, I'm gonna take care of you.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what, you will get old too, man, I said,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to adopt me a couple of kids.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to go to d R adopt me
Speaker 1: a couple of kids, give him a great life, be
Speaker 1: the most amazing mom in the world, so I can
Speaker 1: make sure I have somebody to take care of me
Speaker 1: and my old age. Well, but the thing is, it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: so we're sitting here and we're talking a lot, and
Speaker 1: we're saying all of these things right, and we're saying, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go in a home or um.
Speaker 1: The reality of life is just that people have their
Speaker 1: own families and if they can't, like you mentioned New
Speaker 1: York City, plus the rent is high, mortgages are high.
Speaker 1: You know, it's very challenging for people to just move
Speaker 1: someone into their house. Or you might have a husband
Speaker 1: or a wife, or a partner or a boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever,
Speaker 1: that's not down to have your aging parents in the home.
Speaker 1: These are all discussions that need to be had, but
Speaker 1: it's when do you have them. I feel like the
Speaker 1: sooner the better, if you haven't a parent that is
Speaker 1: ill or a parent that is aging, have the conversation
Speaker 1: with your spouse and your siblings, because that's really going
Speaker 1: to be your support system and those are gonna be
Speaker 1: the your little circle that's gonna help your parents navigate
Speaker 1: their old age. Because I don't I feel like some
Speaker 1: spouses might be like not Like, let's say me, I
Speaker 1: have five brothers and sisters. Who's to say that I
Speaker 1: that I told my husband, Oh my mom is six,
Speaker 1: she's gonna live with us. Who's to say my husband's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, nah, she needs to live with your sisters,
Speaker 1: she got the big house, or now she needs to
Speaker 1: live with your brother. His wife is a stay at
Speaker 1: home mom. You know. So it's like, I have the conversation. Now,
Speaker 1: put everything out in the open with everyone that you
Speaker 1: love and everyone that loves your parents. I also look
Speaker 1: at it as a benefit. There are so many things
Speaker 1: that my parents could teach my kids that I would
Speaker 1: love for them, to keep their culture alive, to tell
Speaker 1: the stories, to relive those moments in their childhood that
Speaker 1: they could share with my kids. And I always say this,
Speaker 1: my kids are the youngest in our entire family. There's
Speaker 1: fourteen grandchildren that my parents have been blessed with, fourteen,
Speaker 1: and my babies are the babies. And it's the reason
Speaker 1: why I make it a priority to go to Miami
Speaker 1: a lot. Everybody's always asking me, why are you always
Speaker 1: in Miami. Those are memories that my babies are going
Speaker 1: to have because they've had the least amount of time
Speaker 1: with my mom and dad. And it's crazy how I think.
Speaker 1: My sister is like, You're so morbid, and I said, no,
Speaker 1: I'm a realist. This is the reality that we have
Speaker 1: a Mommy and daddy have been here, They've they've seen
Speaker 1: one grandson get married, they're about to be great grandparents.
Speaker 1: But they haven't had those moments and those memories with
Speaker 1: my children personally. And so that's the reason why it's
Speaker 1: so important for me to be around them and to
Speaker 1: have them share that time with my kids. May Abulita
Speaker 1: lived to be years old, Carolina, so your boys might
Speaker 1: just have They might have another twenty years. So I
Speaker 1: pray your parents live a long life and that your
Speaker 1: boys you don't get to build great memories, let's say
Speaker 1: in the next twenty years. Absolutely, And it must be something.
Speaker 1: It must be something in the water. Because my grandmother
Speaker 1: lived until four I think my great grandmother lived until
Speaker 1: a hundred. So it's in the jeans baby. And I
Speaker 1: keep saying to my mom. I call her, I say, girlfriend,
Speaker 1: did you take your vitamins today? I mom. She's like like,
Speaker 1: come on, Mom, and then she's watching her carbs. She's like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm watching my carbs. And I said, a woman, take
Speaker 1: your vitamins. I bought her liquid I V I had
Speaker 1: Amazon send it to her house because she wasn't hydrating,
Speaker 1: she wasn't drinking enough water. And I said, Mommy, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna send you something in the in the mail. I
Speaker 1: go on the Amazon Amazon okay boy, and I sent
Speaker 1: it to her. She goes and I said, Mom, you
Speaker 1: drink it. You need to drink more water. You're not
Speaker 1: drinking enough. You know and so, and I told you
Speaker 1: they still go out their party, they drink tequila, she
Speaker 1: has hangovers, and I'm like, at this age, you need
Speaker 1: to take better care of yourself. So I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm more of the parent now than she is. Listen,
Speaker 1: you didn't need to tell me anything else than they
Speaker 1: built it forever home in Miami. That's all you needed
Speaker 1: to tell me. I love it now. As far as
Speaker 1: let's let's talk about medicare and medical insurance. That's that's
Speaker 1: super important for older people because you know they're gonna
Speaker 1: start going to a million different doctor appointments as soon
Speaker 1: as they're eligible, get that paperwork rolling. But health care
Speaker 1: in this country is so wild, man. I mean, I
Speaker 1: gotta be honest with you. It is just it's a tragedy.
Speaker 1: It is a tragedy that it in this country. When
Speaker 1: you go and see a doctor, if you get any
Speaker 1: kind of treatment, that it will put you behind. And
Speaker 1: as we've spoken about another episodes, most people don't have
Speaker 1: a whole lot of discretionary income at their disposal. So
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do if, for example, my uncle
Speaker 1: who is diabetic needs insulin and it's not covered. He's
Speaker 1: paying so much to get something that is literally essential
Speaker 1: to his life. It's essential, and that's what's so wild
Speaker 1: to me. Nobody cares. Our country is out of control.
Speaker 1: That's all I can say about that. Well, you know what,
Speaker 1: don't know. I did see recently and I would have
Speaker 1: to go back and look at it. But recently there
Speaker 1: was news that Mark Cuban has been doing something with
Speaker 1: um and if you have a parent, or maybe if
Speaker 1: you have some medical issues, I would definitely google Mark
Speaker 1: Cuban pharmaceutical or UM or medicine because he has been
Speaker 1: changing the way that people get their prescriptions. So Mark
Speaker 1: Cuban is doing the damn thing, and I feel like
Speaker 1: that is any time that you can do something to
Speaker 1: better humanity, that you can help other people because he
Speaker 1: basically is cutting out the pharmaceutical companies and he's making
Speaker 1: medicine that would be super expensive for people very affordable.
Speaker 1: So these are all things, and like I know, this
Speaker 1: isn't a sexy, fun conversation because, like I mean, talking
Speaker 1: about your aging parents, it's not something that people look
Speaker 1: forward to. But these are the types of things that
Speaker 1: you really need to start looking into, especially if you're
Speaker 1: the one that's going to be targeted as the one
Speaker 1: to take care of them. I'm looking here. You know,
Speaker 1: I couldn't even wait once you said Mark Cuban is helping.
Speaker 1: And what you guys want to look for is the
Speaker 1: Mark Cuban cost plus drug company. That's what it is.
Speaker 1: And you know he's offering like these generic drugs. You know, yes,
Speaker 1: I love it. We need that. We definitely any type
Speaker 1: of help that we need, specially for elderly people they
Speaker 1: needed the most. But with Medicare, you know, there's also
Speaker 1: a Medicare supplemental plan. It's like Medicare, let's say we'll
Speaker 1: cover up to and then that supplemental plan can cover
Speaker 1: once your parents get to that age. Make sure you
Speaker 1: do both for them so that they don't have, you know,
Speaker 1: medical bills causing them stress coming to the house, and
Speaker 1: they can also seek all the medical help that they
Speaker 1: need without worrying about having to come out of their
Speaker 1: pocket because income will most likely be limited, especially if
Speaker 1: your parents are not parents that have a pension. Not
Speaker 1: every parent work, let's say, their entire life in the
Speaker 1: United States, especially if you have parents that were immigrants.
Speaker 1: Well that was that you brought up a really great
Speaker 1: point right now, How many times in our lives. Have
Speaker 1: we been the people to translate for mom and dad?
Speaker 1: Or have we been the people who have to call
Speaker 1: and make airline tickets or what have you? Whatever it is.
Speaker 1: If you think that's hard for your mom and dad,
Speaker 1: imagine tackling healthcare and medicaid, medicare, all of these other things,
Speaker 1: or submitting their explanation of benefits and trying to get
Speaker 1: money back for f s A, you're you're flexible spending account.
Speaker 1: All of these like f s A, c B, like
Speaker 1: all of this stuff, at least for most people, is
Speaker 1: very confusing. So if you just sit down and ask
Speaker 1: your parents what their wishes are, what they see for
Speaker 1: themselves in their future, and have the conversation of what
Speaker 1: do you want me to do in a situation where
Speaker 1: you know you you might not be well enough to
Speaker 1: make your own decisions, what do you want us to do?
Speaker 1: All of these things these are just grown folk things
Speaker 1: that I never wanted to encounter. But it's like it's
Speaker 1: right here and it's in my face. And if you know,
Speaker 1: if you have siblings, I think again, sit down, talk
Speaker 1: about it. You know, there's different siblings that are good
Speaker 1: at certain things. You know, like you'll be in charge
Speaker 1: of taking mom to our doctor disappointments. You're in charge
Speaker 1: of legal paperwork. You know, you're in charge of making
Speaker 1: sure the house is cleaned, you do the grocery, like
Speaker 1: if you have siblings, start putting together a plan because
Speaker 1: you never know when that plan has to be executed
Speaker 1: at the drop of a dime, Yeah, definitely. And like
Speaker 1: I said, we are here to help you guys as
Speaker 1: a resource. I know that there are some people who
Speaker 1: are really really just uncomfortable about having this kind of
Speaker 1: a conversation. Maybe we can help you with something that
Speaker 1: could spark that conversation with your family or your your
Speaker 1: loved ones so that you can begin to plan for it,
Speaker 1: because I'm telling you, life is crazy. You make a
Speaker 1: plan and God laughs, and you just at least have
Speaker 1: to try to prepare the best way that you can.
Speaker 1: I know an older couple, right, I see them as
Speaker 1: like grandparents, And guess what they did, Carolina. They went
Speaker 1: into the funeral home. They already made all their arrangements.
Speaker 1: They said, we don't want to bother our family. They
Speaker 1: already picked up their casket. They were and they're like, well,
Speaker 1: like maybe like in their eighties, and this is a
Speaker 1: little set already. They're like, you guys don't have to
Speaker 1: do nothing but show up. They paid for the everything.
Speaker 1: I'm talking the plots like everything, you know, maybe your
Speaker 1: parents to maybe your parents. They're not financially straight to
Speaker 1: do something like that, but you can also, you know,
Speaker 1: look at the funerals, ask them what their wishes are,
Speaker 1: where they would want to be buried or whether they
Speaker 1: want to be cremated, and have all that, you know,
Speaker 1: just set up because you just never know. I just
Speaker 1: have to add some comic relief because you know that
Speaker 1: I'm just saying this, like because I know my mom
Speaker 1: will want somebody singing. You know, my mom is gonna
Speaker 1: need violins, okay, because that's pretty much the story of
Speaker 1: her life. They're gonna want a party, They're gonna want
Speaker 1: a total blowout. So definitely, at least we can, you know,
Speaker 1: end that conversation with a smile. Now, you said you
Speaker 1: wanted to step into the salon because somebody wrote to us,
Speaker 1: and I want to make sure that we hit this
Speaker 1: before we have to get off and jump off of
Speaker 1: this episode. Today's Jenny, she broke up with her boyfriend
Speaker 1: of two years, was somewhat, but two years and they
Speaker 1: broke up somewhat amicably. I don't know what that means.
Speaker 1: I don't even think breakups can happen that much like friends.
Speaker 1: He said, Well, he wanted a family right away, and
Speaker 1: she wanted to focus more on her career. But they
Speaker 1: had a trip to Greece that was already planned together
Speaker 1: and it's non refundable. She wants to know she should.
Speaker 1: She wants to know she should just thug it out
Speaker 1: and just do the trip. I guess you don want
Speaker 1: to lose the money. They're broken up, they're cool, would
Speaker 1: you What would you say, Carolina? I love the use
Speaker 1: of the phrase thug it out to me? What were
Speaker 1: you thinking? Girl? If your relationship was shaky, you always
Speaker 1: get the insurance, like pay the extra hunter bugs. Um,
Speaker 1: so here's the thing, a trip to Greece. I can't
Speaker 1: think of a better opportunity for somebody to go and
Speaker 1: explore something on their own, just because you're not with
Speaker 1: that person. Oh wait, but no, I'm trying to think
Speaker 1: though they might have the same room. I so you
Speaker 1: could switch the plan. C you don't have to fly
Speaker 1: with this person, but you would probably be sharing cars, hotels,
Speaker 1: you're not down for it. I don't know. First thing
Speaker 1: is find out if you could switch the name of
Speaker 1: the person. Yeah, it's not refundable, but I'd be like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'll give you what you paid. You don't lose all
Speaker 1: your money. But let me bring somebody else's I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Carolyn and I want to go to Greece, but I
Speaker 1: don't want to go with my ex. Even if we're amicable,
Speaker 1: I still don't want to be there with you. Who
Speaker 1: knows I might have a new little size situation. He
Speaker 1: might have one, so again, talk see what you guys
Speaker 1: can do. But I wouldn't go just to go a
Speaker 1: situation I love it. I gotta agree with you. I
Speaker 1: would not want to be uncomfortable. You know it's over.
Speaker 1: You know they know what's over. There are some people
Speaker 1: who potentially are better than you and I, honey, that
Speaker 1: could put their relationship aside and say, oh, we're just friends.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna but then you're gonna have those pictures after
Speaker 1: the breakup. You can't be like talking to anybody, you know,
Speaker 1: you can't be bringing anybody back to the room. If
Speaker 1: you're gonna go on a trip with your ex boyfriend
Speaker 1: and you're out at the club and you guys are
Speaker 1: hanging out and some guy tries to like roll up
Speaker 1: and you cannot take him back to the hotel. Now
Speaker 1: what could happen, is Carolina, maybe maybe he's the homeie.
Speaker 1: Now maybe he could be a photograph for all of agrees.
Speaker 1: You gotta have Instagram timeline popping. You know, it's got
Speaker 1: to be a point. Your reel's gotta be nice and
Speaker 1: tight and just, I guess, enjoy it. Don't lose the money.
Speaker 1: I changed my mind, Carolina, fucking listen, if he don't,
Speaker 1: if he doesn't want to give me his his ticket
Speaker 1: at discount, and he's like, I'm going I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: swallow the pill. And a pill is all I will swallow,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go him. Oh my god, I'm dead.
Speaker 1: I am dead right now, That's all she will swallow. See,
Speaker 1: I want to be a bigger person. I want to
Speaker 1: pretend like I could put the relationship aside, that I
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like looking at him, breathing like at night
Speaker 1: and having him annoy me all of those things that
Speaker 1: annoyed you in the relationship. But now you're gonna be
Speaker 1: in this beautiful location and you're gonna have this big
Speaker 1: Harry Gorilla in your room because you hated that he
Speaker 1: didn't shave his back. You know, like all of these
Speaker 1: things are gonna start coming up, and I feel like
Speaker 1: it would ruin the time for me. It would ruin Greece,
Speaker 1: and I don't want anybody ruining Greece. Athina really don't
Speaker 1: like exes. She said, he Harry Gorilla, that's gonna ruin Greece.
Speaker 1: File He's done, he's done, he's canceled, goodbye. I'm not,
Speaker 1: I really am, And there was no ex boyfriend that
Speaker 1: I would ever allow back in. But I do think
Speaker 1: it's like it's that's a tough one because number one,
Speaker 1: you've already spent your money. That's a load of cash
Speaker 1: they are. I looked into Grease me Bella, and I
Speaker 1: was like, girl, we gotta wake till we have an
Speaker 1: extra fours hanging out for no asked reason. Then we're
Speaker 1: going to go to Greece, don't don't. We took the
Speaker 1: boys to Grease before the pandemic. Astropeted his pants on
Speaker 1: the plane. I had his little baby pajama pants up
Speaker 1: to that air event like an animal, because I was
Speaker 1: like I don't even know. I only packed one extra
Speaker 1: outfit for him. He peeed through the next outfit. He
Speaker 1: wasn't potty trained. I was. That was, like, honestly, for me,
Speaker 1: the most mortifying mom moment. But Greece is spectacular, it's breathtaking.
Speaker 1: You want to do it with people who will enhance
Speaker 1: your experience. And I don't know even if you did
Speaker 1: end it amicably, I want to say to go ahead
Speaker 1: and do it, but my heart is telling me for
Speaker 1: some reason, I don't know, Girl, don't do it, Jenny.
Speaker 1: Try to hustle him, Try to get him to sell
Speaker 1: you all his stuff and change it to somebody else's name,
Speaker 1: your sister, your best friend, your new joint that you
Speaker 1: let and take it down that he don't know about yet.
Speaker 1: You know, we tried to change my son's flight. I
Speaker 1: had a flight to Miami. Actually, um, we were flying
Speaker 1: to Miami over Easter. The boys got the flu and
Speaker 1: we had to cancel, so we canceled all of our flights. Great, whatever,
Speaker 1: you have a credit, so we had the credit. Now
Speaker 1: my son left for summer camp and we had to
Speaker 1: go to North Carolina to visit my brother. Well, they
Speaker 1: would not change my son Noah's name on the ticket,
Speaker 1: and I said, but his father wants to use the ticket.
Speaker 1: It is his biological father, it's within the same family,
Speaker 1: so what So then I'm gonna I'm gonna be stuck
Speaker 1: with this credit for one child, and now I have
Speaker 1: to fly your airline again for this whole situation. It
Speaker 1: was so messy. So I would just say, Jenny, do
Speaker 1: the research, see what you can do, because the airlines
Speaker 1: aren't really gonna, like bend a whole lot for you.
Speaker 1: But maybe you could call, like if you got it
Speaker 1: through Travelocity or Expedia. I don't know. I'm just like,
Speaker 1: this is a really tough one. I know. I feel
Speaker 1: bad for her because I wouldn't want to lose three,
Speaker 1: four or five dollars. I don't know how much money
Speaker 1: she spent. Oh Carolina, why don't they go and just
Speaker 1: get separate hotel rooms and then he could do him
Speaker 1: and she could do her. Sound some eat, pray love
Speaker 1: type of ship. I actually really like that idea. I
Speaker 1: don't think I think that's a really good solution. You're
Speaker 1: gonna spend a little more money, but you'r you would
Speaker 1: have lost a lot more if you didn't go on
Speaker 1: the trip. So Honey with the solutions today, I love it. Yes, Look,
Speaker 1: you know what, you can rent a car together. You
Speaker 1: can tolerate him for a couple of hours when you're
Speaker 1: driving here to there. Because everything in Greece you gotta
Speaker 1: drive two hours here, you gotta drive it. You know,
Speaker 1: you gotta take a small little charter plane. You gotta
Speaker 1: do all this bullshit, right, But it's so worth it.
Speaker 1: Trust me. It's one of the most beautiful countries I've
Speaker 1: ever been to. So I would say take Honey's suggestion,
Speaker 1: spend a little more money to have the experience you
Speaker 1: have the companionship. Look, I mean it's three were women. Yes,
Speaker 1: we're going out. Is the world safe still? I don't know. Necessarily.
Speaker 1: I think I might like having a man or a
Speaker 1: male figure. Not that I'm some little woman that needs
Speaker 1: to be saved or anything, but it's just smart to
Speaker 1: always have somebody who knows where you are. All right, So, Jenny,
Speaker 1: we just solved your life problem. Um, come back to
Speaker 1: us for more if you need a If Jenny, don't
Speaker 1: dm me a picture of her time in Greece, we
Speaker 1: don't have a problem. That's it. We are going to now. Well,
Speaker 1: you guys can always right into the salon. We're at
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Speaker 1: We love you, Andrew, so yes, we are looking forward
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Speaker 1: issues or anything that you want us to help you with,
Speaker 1: we are always here for you. But have the conversation
Speaker 1: from the beginning of the show. Think about what you
Speaker 1: want to do with your parents. You know, as Latinos
Speaker 1: we always take care of each other, and I think
Speaker 1: it's something that might pop up before you even know it,
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