Speaker 1: It's time to catch a cheater.
Speaker 2: May is on the phone today for to Catch a Cheater,
Speaker 2: and she thinks that her husband of eighteen years, well
Speaker 2: a long time name Jack, might be cheating on her.
Speaker 2: May thank you very much for coming on the show.
Speaker 2: Hopefully we can help you out and either give you
Speaker 2: the proof that you need to move on or set
Speaker 2: your mind at ease. But tell us a little bit more.
Speaker 2: You've been married then for eighteen years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been a long time.
Speaker 2: Have you suspected him cheating before?
Speaker 3: No? I don't know if I think he would cheat.
Speaker 3: It's just that there is someone else involved who is
Speaker 3: trying really hard to get him too.
Speaker 4: So is he aware that this person is trying to
Speaker 4: come after him or is it kind of one of
Speaker 4: those things or he's not really aware of it.
Speaker 3: He's not aware of it, but I keep trying to
Speaker 3: explain it to him and he's not getting it.
Speaker 2: So who is this person?
Speaker 3: This is one of his work partners?
Speaker 2: Okay, what's going on with them?
Speaker 3: She does this thing where like she's constantly talking about
Speaker 3: what a proper wife and partner should be doing. You know,
Speaker 3: she's got all these like rules and criticisms and hints,
Speaker 3: and she should be making you dinner. She should have
Speaker 3: dinner waiting for you at home. The house should always
Speaker 3: be clean. You know, she's got all these rules and
Speaker 3: regulations for how a proper partner should behave And then
Speaker 3: she'll never specifically say that stuff about me, But what
Speaker 3: she will say about me is she's told him things like, oh,
Speaker 3: I would never choose to be friends with your wife
Speaker 3: because she's really not my kind of person. Like I've
Speaker 3: seen her reading those gossip magazines and stuff, and I
Speaker 3: would just never That's not the kind of person that
Speaker 3: I would choose to have in my life, that I
Speaker 3: would choose to spend time with. Oh, because he tells me,
Speaker 3: he goes, he goes, Yes, they asked this thing today,
Speaker 3: and it's like, whoa, whoa, this is not okay for
Speaker 3: your work partner to talk about your spouse, your partner,
Speaker 3: your person that you well with in that way. And
Speaker 3: he just he thinks he thinks that. I'm not even
Speaker 3: sure what he thinks. I've tried to explain it to
Speaker 3: him over and over again, and he just he's like, Oh,
Speaker 3: she doesn't mean it that way.
Speaker 4: Has she done anything else, like kind of more outwardly
Speaker 4: flirtatious well.
Speaker 3: She asked him to help her with things like, Hey,
Speaker 3: can you come over to my house and help me
Speaker 3: move this thing? Hey?
Speaker 1: That you?
Speaker 3: And this is what this is? Where the big thing is?
Speaker 3: That is really I don't know how to process this.
Speaker 3: I don't know how to like work it out in
Speaker 3: my mind. But she needed to move some stuff across
Speaker 3: the state to her parents' house. She needed to pack
Speaker 3: it up in a moving van and drive it over there.
Speaker 3: It's an overnight. They would drive down and then stay
Speaker 3: overnight and then drive back. And he agreed to this.
Speaker 1: What I'm going to stir up some drama, make this
Speaker 1: past of you.
Speaker 4: I'm already thrown off a little bit, like because I'm single, right,
Speaker 4: but the last thing I'm going to do is ask
Speaker 4: a married man to help me, unless it's my best
Speaker 4: friend's husband or like Victoria, your boyfriend or something, if
Speaker 4: you had one, you know. Okay, So that's already off.
Speaker 4: And for him to agree to that, did you tell
Speaker 4: him no?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I told him this is not okay. This is
Speaker 3: a person who has repeatedly said that they don't like me,
Speaker 3: that I'm not the kind of person they would choose
Speaker 3: to associate with So for him to be going off
Speaker 3: alone with her is not okay, Like, that's not I'm
Speaker 3: not okay with it. He should not be okay with it.
Speaker 3: And that's the thing is like he can't seem to
Speaker 3: understand why he shouldn't be okay with this.
Speaker 2: He sounds completely clueless to me. But also, how could
Speaker 2: you be that clueless? So maybe he's playing clueless, you know.
Speaker 1: What I mean?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like he doesn't get it. I don't know what
Speaker 2: you're talking about. I could definitely see that being a
Speaker 2: more viable option than just completely like you would have
Speaker 2: to know if you're a woman just.
Speaker 4: Asked you to help her move across the country or
Speaker 4: whatever you just said, I'm sorry, a couple of states.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: But either way, Yeah, spending the night.
Speaker 2: With him, it does seem like he's like it's a
Speaker 2: setup to do something. It does yeah to me, Well,
Speaker 2: we'll try to figure it out for you already told
Speaker 2: us what grocery store he's a rewards card remember, at
Speaker 2: So we'll do the usual and we'll call and pretend
Speaker 2: to be from that grocery store and say that every
Speaker 2: single month, we choose one rewards card member at random
Speaker 2: who gets free flowers delivered from our floral department, and
Speaker 2: we'll see if he delivers those to you or someone else. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: all right, well play a song, come back, and you'll
Speaker 2: get your to Catch a Teater next. If you're just
Speaker 2: joining us for today's To Catch a Teater. May is
Speaker 2: on the phone and she thinks that her husband of
Speaker 2: eighteen years his name is Jack, might be cheating on
Speaker 2: her and it's just kind of a crazy story. We're
Speaker 2: about to call him and seef he is or isn't,
Speaker 2: and May, why don't you refresh everybody's memory on what
Speaker 2: the situation is before we call him.
Speaker 3: Jack has a work partner who bad mops me to
Speaker 3: him repeatedly and then invites him to help her move
Speaker 3: across the state on an overnight trip, just two of
Speaker 3: them together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, ridiculous, And so he just plays like he doesn't
Speaker 2: get it, like what's the big deal?
Speaker 3: Kind of a yeah, no, No, she's just my worst partner.
Speaker 3: There's nothing, there's nothing there. I don't see her that way.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well we'll try to figure its off. For you're
Speaker 2: about to call him right now and pretend to be
Speaker 2: from the grocery store where he's a Rewards Card member
Speaker 2: and tell him that. Every single month, we choose one
Speaker 2: Awards Card member at random who gets free flowers delivered
Speaker 2: from our floral department. We'll see if he sends those
Speaker 2: flowers to you or to what's her name by the way,
Speaker 2: the work person, Crystal Crystal. Okay, well we'll we'll see
Speaker 2: what happens. I'm gonna call him right now. You ready,
Speaker 2: mm hmm Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, this is
Speaker 2: Jordan calling from I was looking for Jack.
Speaker 1: This is him, Jack.
Speaker 2: How are you? Please? Don't hang up. This is not
Speaker 2: a marketing phone call. I'm calling to actually give you
Speaker 2: the good news that congratulations, you're this month's big winner.
Speaker 1: What's I'm confused.
Speaker 2: Every single month, we choose one Rewards card member at
Speaker 2: random who gets free flowers delivered from our floral department.
Speaker 2: We do delivery.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: We're trying to get the word out, but also we
Speaker 2: want to say thank you very much for shopping with us.
Speaker 2: So thank you for shopping. You have won thirty six
Speaker 2: long stem red roses, a box of chocolates, and a
Speaker 2: card that can be delivered anywhere within the fifty United
Speaker 2: States absolutely free.
Speaker 1: Oh beautiful, I get so many random calls it I
Speaker 1: didn't know if that's thanks.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you know who you want to send them to,
Speaker 2: I can take the information in just a minute or
Speaker 2: so over the phone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do it right now.
Speaker 2: Great, Who would you like to send the flowers to us?
Speaker 2: So we'll start with the name, first and.
Speaker 1: Last name, my beautiful wife Mary.
Speaker 2: Okay, and is there anything you'd like to put on
Speaker 2: a card?
Speaker 1: The beautiful wife May eighteen beautiful years with my sweetheart.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, baby, I love.
Speaker 2: You eighteen years. Whoa, that's a long time.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we've been together forever.
Speaker 2: All right. Well, then I'll just tell you that this
Speaker 2: is not the grocery store at all. My name is
Speaker 2: jubal Ho's a radio show called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: Yay, Hi Jack, I'm Nina also on that show listening
Speaker 4: to everything that just happened, And I'm Victoria.
Speaker 1: What's going on here?
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show called to Catch
Speaker 2: a Cheater? And your wife May is actually also on
Speaker 2: the phone and has been listening because she suspected you
Speaker 2: might be messing around.
Speaker 3: May.
Speaker 1: Hey, Jack, what's going on here?
Speaker 3: I'm trying to make a point because you don't seem
Speaker 3: to understand that what Crystal is asking you and her
Speaker 3: trying to undermine our relationship is not okay. And ninety
Speaker 3: nine point five percent of other people also see that
Speaker 3: it's not okay and it's not normal to be asking
Speaker 3: the husband of someone you dislike to go away with you.
Speaker 4: You can also probably celebrate the fact that that name
Speaker 4: didn't even cross his mind when he was offered three flowers.
Speaker 3: Yes, Yes, absolutely, sab I love you, I love you.
Speaker 1: Nothing is going on with Crystal, nothing she needs to.
Speaker 3: Be Yes, but we need boundaries with Crystal.
Speaker 2: Can I ask why you went on an overnight trip
Speaker 2: with Crystal?
Speaker 1: She just needed help and I'm a nice guy, so
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna help. But she's also my work partner.
Speaker 1: I've worked with her for several years.
Speaker 2: That hasn't stopped me before.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it doesn't really stop most people. Yeah, So what
Speaker 4: do you do then, Jack? If let's say your wife
Speaker 4: May's concerns are true and Crystal just rolls up and
Speaker 4: is like, well, I'd like to escalate our relationship.
Speaker 2: Like, what do you do if she does try to
Speaker 2: make a move, Well, there's.
Speaker 1: No way that's gonna happen. I put my foot down,
Speaker 1: and she knows how much I love about one.
Speaker 3: Doesn't she else talk bad?
Speaker 1: You're right, I mean she has her own way of things.
Speaker 1: And I do fill my wife in about this. It's
Speaker 1: no secret.
Speaker 3: I just think that there needs to be some serious
Speaker 3: boundaries in place with Crystal, like, hey, you know what,
Speaker 3: don't talk about my wife. I don't feel like this
Speaker 3: is a subject we should talk about. Hey, oh you
Speaker 3: need help moving. I know a great moving company that
Speaker 3: will do all the work for you. There are ways
Speaker 3: to keep work and outside of work separate, and I
Speaker 3: feel like that's what Crystal needs is she needs to
Speaker 3: understand that you guys can be totally cordial and friendly
Speaker 3: at work, but she used to stay the hell out
Speaker 3: of her life. She needs to just keep her notes
Speaker 3: out of it. It's not her business. It's not her concern.
Speaker 3: Whether or not she thinks I'm appropriate for you or
Speaker 3: I'm doing a good job as a wife is not
Speaker 3: appropriate workplace conversation.
Speaker 1: It's just not Yes, I understand, and look, if anything else,
Speaker 1: she's further away from us now, look at that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because she moved across the states. But I don't
Speaker 3: want her try to insert herself herself into our lives.
Speaker 4: Well, maybe that's why she's thinking this is a good
Speaker 4: time to shoot her shot, because she's like, well, I'm moving, so.
Speaker 3: And take him with her.
Speaker 1: You don't need to worry about Crystal at all. She seriously,
Speaker 1: this is not no.
Speaker 2: You haven't helped her move yet, or you already helped
Speaker 2: her move.
Speaker 1: She's already moved, She's already across the state. I already went.
Speaker 1: I stayed there, I had a hotel, I locked my door.
Speaker 1: We weren't in the same hotel. It's it's may. I
Speaker 1: was talking with you the whole time, we were communicating
Speaker 1: the whole trip. It's not like I was like hiding
Speaker 1: and being secretive. You knew about the whole thing.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: And the point is, the point is whether I know
Speaker 3: about it or not. It's not about you. It's about
Speaker 3: her and her complete lack of boundaries and how she
Speaker 3: keeps crossing lines that are not okay to cross, and
Speaker 3: you need to push back on that. I need you
Speaker 3: to have those boundaries and to say, hey, this is
Speaker 3: not really okay with me.
Speaker 2: Do you still work with her?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, So it needs to be it needs to
Speaker 3: be said Okay.
Speaker 1: Man, I feel what you're saying and where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: You know, I love you. And let's talk more about
Speaker 1: this later and I will set those boundaries, but let's
Speaker 1: let's just enjoy some time together and we'll put this
Speaker 1: aside and behind us.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, all right, okay, I.
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Speaker 2: a cheater