1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 1: Hey, guys, and welcome to Tommy Talk. Today's a really 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: special edition because I have some amazing friends joining me, 3 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: some of my amazing team here at iHeart, and we 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: are talking about text message etiquettes. This is a hot 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,599 Speaker 1: topic button because I feel like all of us respond 6 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: to how people communicate via text in different ways. So 7 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,959 Speaker 1: for me, the number one thing that drives me crazy 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: is a rogue FaceTime. I don't know about you, guys. 9 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 1: I hate when somebody facetimes me and I'm not ready 10 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: for it. It's I don't know what if I'm out of 11 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: the shower, or on the subway, or just not wanting 12 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: to be on camera, and then I have a FaceTime 13 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: and I feel obligated to answer the call, and I 14 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: get stressed and I don't know what to do, and 15 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: then I don't pick up, and then you get annoyed 16 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: I don't pick up, and then you won't answer my 17 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: regular call because you want to FaceTime. Why does it 18 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 1: always have to be a FaceTime? Why? I don't understand that. 19 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: There are probably two people that I'll allow rogue facetimes 20 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: from and I will gladly accept them. But it was 21 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: a process to get me. There's a process. I can't 22 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: say I willingly hit, except I would call them back 23 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 1: regularly and then they would really get not so happy 24 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: with me about that. So we made it work and 25 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: now I accept rogue face times from two people. But 26 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: other than that, I don't love it, and I still 27 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 1: don't love it. To be honest, I still don't love it. 28 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: I much rather put the phone on, have speakerphone on, 29 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: and have a conversation. I don't get why we have 30 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: to always see each other. I think even in long 31 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: distance friendships, you can plan a FaceTime like, Hey, Saturday, 32 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: three pm, let's have a FaceTime. Great, I know what 33 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm doing, I'll be there, I'll be properly ready for 34 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: it and let's rock and roll. But to just blindly 35 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: call me on FaceTime, I don't like it. I don't 36 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: like it at all. So I highly recommend if you're 37 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: going to FaceTime with your friends, you plan it out. Controversial, 38 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: I know, very controversial, but I like to know when 39 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: and where rather than being caught off guard. So rogue 40 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: facetimes are something that I feel like, do not give 41 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: you great text message etiquettes. I also love of voice note, 42 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: so I discovered voice notes. Maybe a year ago, and 43 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 1: now I'm obsessed. Some people who know me very well 44 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: probably know that I don't like a four minute voice note, though, 45 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: So the etiquette about that is, if you're sending me 46 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 1: a voice note, please don't make it a novel like 47 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: I love you, I love your voice. I love hearing 48 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: from you. But let's like cut to the facts, and 49 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: if we need a longer phone call, let's have an 50 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: actual phone call. Voice notes are quick to the point, 51 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: where are we meeting? What time? Give me the highlights 52 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: of your conversation with someone that you can't wait to 53 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: fill me in on. Give me the highlights of why 54 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: you're pissed off, Like it's a highlight reel. That's what 55 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: a voice tech should be, a highlight reel. My friend Joey, 56 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,959 Speaker 1: my best friend Joey always leaves like five and a 57 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: half minute ones, and he starts every time with I'm 58 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: so sorry, this is five and a half minutes, or 59 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: he'll end it with, oh my god, it's five and 60 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: a half minutes. I can't believe I'm still going on, 61 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: And I'll write back and be like, then, why did 62 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: you like what? I can't listen to? Five my phone 63 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: turns off suddenly it's gone. I have to restart because 64 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: the episode pause or someone called and I have to 65 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 1: start from the beginning again, and I don't know what 66 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: to do. So please, for the love of God, if 67 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: you're doing a voice note, I would say the sweet 68 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: spot is like a minute. I'm gonna go with a 69 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:15,360 Speaker 1: minute on that a minute. That's my other etiquette. So 70 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,399 Speaker 1: a lot of people have hot takes on on their 71 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: phone etiquette in this room, and I want to bring 72 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: people in and see what I think about their hot 73 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 1: take and if I am going to deem it acceptable 74 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:30,079 Speaker 1: or unacceptable. So first up, Celia, let's bring you in. 75 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: Celia is an amazing producer on the show. I feel 76 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 1: like you're gen Z right, Yes you're gen Z, Yes 77 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: you do Okay, I'm a millennial, so maybe we see 78 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: things differently. So what is a phone etiquette deal breaker 79 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: for you? Mine would be I have two. 80 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 2: I think one leaving me a voicemail because I'm never 81 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 2: going to listen to it, and honestly, I'd rather you 82 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 2: just text me what you have to say if you're 83 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 2: calling me. My second one would be if you're not 84 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 2: answering my text. But I see you like posting on 85 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 2: Instagram or like dming me on Instagram. That's absolutely unacceptable 86 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 2: to me because I need you over text. That means 87 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 2: it's really significant. But if you're dming me and you're 88 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 2: posting stuff on your story, that's insignificant to our friendship. 89 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: Now yeah, interesting, Okay. Regarding the voicemail, I feel two 90 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 1: ways about this. Sometimes I like a voicemail on my 91 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: phone because I want to go back and listen to 92 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: it for whatever reason, like if it's a sweet message 93 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: or a monumental moment in my life, I'm like, oh, 94 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: that was cute, Like I want to go hear that again, 95 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: Or if someone's no longer with us, like to have 96 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: that on your voicemail I think is really cool. But 97 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: day to day, if I get left to voicemail, you 98 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: know how it does the audio transcription, Yes, like I 99 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: won't listen to it. I'll just read what the person 100 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: is saying and then respond via text. 101 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 2: But do you do that with your voice notes too? 102 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 2: Do you read the transcript before you listen or no? 103 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: Sometimes if they're really long, yeah, I won't like play 104 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: it all. I'll read it. Okay, I'll read it, but 105 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: it's not always perfect. And then they sometimes mess up 106 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: the words you know in the transcript, so sometimes you 107 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:02,719 Speaker 1: have to listen to it. Yeah, but I kind of 108 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: I do agree with you. I think on the voicemail thing, 109 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: on the texting back, if someone's using social media or 110 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 1: posting thing, what if their phone's on do not disturb 111 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,360 Speaker 1: and they didn't see the text and they're on their Instagram. 112 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,159 Speaker 2: One thing about me is I'm going to press that 113 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 2: Notify anyway button no matter what. Okay, I don't care 114 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 2: if I'm texting you like, oh just got on the 115 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:27,039 Speaker 2: subway notify anyway mm hmm. I like you need to 116 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 2: hear from me. If I'm trying to get in touch 117 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 2: with you, then you have to listen interesting like I 118 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 2: should be prioritized more overscrolling. 119 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: Yes, okay, absolutely, I can't say I don't disagree with 120 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: you on that. I have seen like that's happened to 121 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 1: me for sure. I reached out to friends and then 122 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, why are they posting a story when 123 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 1: they haven't gotten back to me yet about something. But 124 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 1: I don't get as trigged by that as I do 125 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: by like a rogue face time. So for me, the 126 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: level of like rudeness on that is not as high 127 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: as a rogue face time. 128 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:56,479 Speaker 2: I love a rogue face time. 129 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: Oh God, why I. 130 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:01,920 Speaker 2: Love it because I feel like it's really like sentimental. 131 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 2: It's like, oh, I want to see your face and 132 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 2: I also want to hear you, and I think it's 133 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,799 Speaker 2: really sweet, especially when like a lot of my friends 134 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 2: are long distance, when they just randomly will call me 135 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 2: like you're thinking of me and like you want to FaceTime, 136 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 2: like see what I'm doing? 137 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,799 Speaker 1: Okay, fine, fair enough long distance, I get for sure. 138 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: The thing I really don't appreciate what the rogue FaceTime 139 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,279 Speaker 1: is when there's someone else on the FaceTime that I 140 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: don't know and I'm like, wait, why who is this 141 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: saying hi? Or you wanted me? I don't like that. 142 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 2: A group FaceTime is no. I would rather do a 143 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 2: zoom with all my friends. Honestly, I love doing that. 144 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 2: But I love a good face time like being like, hey, 145 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 2: look at my new outfit, or like do you think 146 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 2: this looks cute? Because then it also means like they 147 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 2: care about my opinion or I don't know. I just 148 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:41,359 Speaker 2: think it's really sweet and I like to see my 149 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 2: friend's faces. 150 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: All right, fair enough, thank you. I would have to say, 151 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: I agree with you on all of you above. All right, 152 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: we love it, we. 153 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 2: Love it, all right, Tommy talks. 154 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: Sorry you're Tommy talk. That's right, Tommy talk. You better 155 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: say it all right. Thank you, Celia, thanks all right. 156 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: Coming up next is Steph who's also a badass producer 157 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 1: on the show. Steph is Jens as well. Right, Yes, 158 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: I am okay, gen Z. So what's your hot take 159 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: about phone etiquette text etiquette? 160 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 3: Well, I love texting and that could be a me problem. 161 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 3: But for this next part, I think hopefully you'll understand 162 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 3: with me. I have a friend who I will text 163 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 3: her to hang out and she's good about reaching out too, 164 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 3: and then we plan something great, perfect, We're gonna do 165 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 3: this for Thursday. On Wednesday, I haven't heard from her, 166 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 3: so I'm like, all right, like are we still good? 167 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 3: And then Thursday rolls around in the morning, Oh no, 168 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 3: I can't. Okay, yeah, but because you didn't text me this, 169 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 3: like you should have texted me this when the new 170 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 3: plan came about that you couldn't come to mind for 171 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 3: And then a week later she'll text me and be like, oh, 172 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:40,559 Speaker 3: can you hang out today? 173 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: Like in an hour? No, I can't I'm busy. 174 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 3: If you let me know, like two days before, at 175 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:48,600 Speaker 3: least maybe the answer would have been different. 176 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: So how would you wrap that all up? Like what 177 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: bothers you about that? 178 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 3: People who wait till very last minute to solidify a 179 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 3: plan or tell you that the plan isn't gonna work. 180 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 3: It's like you knew days ago that this plan wasn't 181 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 3: gonna work, you shouldn't let me know. 182 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: Well, And I think sometimes that's because people now we're 183 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: so connected to phones and we we almost don't think 184 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: about like our real lives anymore. It's like, oh, I 185 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: can just text them this or you know, it's not 186 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: a big deal, it's whatever. It's how we communicate now. 187 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: Wheres maybe they should have actually picked up the phone 188 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: and called you when they knew they couldn't make a 189 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: certain plan right right, Like sometimes you do have to 190 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: pick up the phone. I do like a phone call. 191 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: I really do. Like one thing I won't do over 192 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: texting is fight like or disagree or get spicy because 193 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: so much guests gets misconstrued. So like, if there's a problem, 194 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: pick up the phone, right. That's one of my gripes too, 195 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: Like I don't believe in solving issues via text. You 196 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,680 Speaker 1: can't hear me, you can't feel me, you can't see 197 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: my tone. So like, I guess it feels old school, 198 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: but sometimes you should pick up the phone. No, I agree, 199 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:52,480 Speaker 1: You're not against picking up the phone. 200 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 3: It depends, okay, Like my friends know, like what my 201 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 3: hours are at work? Do not call me at work? Yeah, 202 00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 3: especially face time, Like I'm not picking up the face 203 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 3: time at work, No after like five pm or whatever? 204 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: Sure? Yeah? 205 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. And also do not disturb is like an excuse please, 206 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 3: nobody should be using do not disturb. I don't care, 207 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 3: And like maybe I'm hypocritical because I only use it 208 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 3: when I'm in a recording like right now. Yeah, but 209 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,839 Speaker 3: other than that, my phone is ever on do not disturb? 210 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 3: Like figure out how to use a silent button? 211 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:22,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, what about at night when you go to bed? No, 212 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:24,959 Speaker 1: why do you need that because people will call you. 213 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 3: Well, I don't have my phone like making noise. 214 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 1: So what's the difference between do not disturb in silence like. 215 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:33,599 Speaker 3: Mine is silence and no vibrations? I think people do 216 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 3: because like the vibration thing. 217 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, like just turn it off. 218 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 3: Interesting, Yeah, like I don't get awaken up. Also, I'm 219 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 3: a deep sleeper even if we're on, like I want 220 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 3: to be hearing it. 221 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,679 Speaker 1: Well, I sleep with two sound machines, two fans air conditioning, 222 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: so I can't hear anything like ever. But I do 223 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: put you not disturb on at night, Okay, I do. 224 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: I do, because I do have people from all over 225 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: the world who will start like calling me at your 226 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: times or texting me, Like I don't want to be reached. 227 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: I want to sleep. I need my seven hours. Yeah, 228 00:09:58,600 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: I need my seven hours. 229 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 3: Also, I like to be mysterious, like if I have 230 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 3: do not disturb on, then people know like, oh, she's sleeping. 231 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 3: I don't want them to know what I'm doing. 232 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, fair enough, well I would, I would say, 233 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:09,559 Speaker 1: I also agree with you, So I agree with both 234 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 1: of you. I think we've solved a lot of phone 235 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 1: etiquette issues today, and I think the bottom line is 236 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: no matter like who your friends are, who your family is, like, 237 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,839 Speaker 1: you have to communicate with them about what works for you. 238 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,479 Speaker 1: Like I have some friends where I'm like, don't FaceTime 239 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: me randomly, like, don't schedule it, and they'll listen. I 240 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,559 Speaker 1: have other friends who won't listen. And whether I pick 241 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,199 Speaker 1: up or not, that's up to me, but there are 242 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 1: people like you. Got to figure out what you want, 243 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: especially in this day and age where using these phones 244 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: is so second nature and it's so easy for us, 245 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: and we don't really communicate in ways that we used to. 246 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: So you have to set either boundaries or guidelines to 247 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,080 Speaker 1: figure out what works for you, right, So do what 248 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: works for you. Don't be an asshole when you're texting 249 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: or calling people. Be a good, normal person, right, and 250 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 1: respect boundaries and we all have feelings, respect them, amen, 251 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: all right, be good to the people. 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