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Speaker 1: Yeah, and sometimes people are ship Sometimes that's also the case.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes More Better, more Better, More.

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Speaker 3: Better, More.

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Speaker 4: Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending

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Speaker 4: to have it all together and embrace the journey of

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Speaker 4: becoming a little more better every day.

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Speaker 3: I mean we're trying to.

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Speaker 1: That's Stephanie Beatrice. That's most of a marrow, and this

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Speaker 1: is more Better.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back. How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm on my second cup of coffee and I haven't

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Speaker 1: had any water. Don't be like me, kids, but wow,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you as somebody that hasn't had alcohol for

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Speaker 3: Whoo whoo wow. Rolling in the deep baby, Yeah, she's cranking.

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Speaker 3: How are you? I'm good. I'm just like baseline basic

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Speaker 3: level good. Okay, I like that. Baseline's pretty good base.

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Speaker 1: I mean, depending on where your baseline is, that's pretty good.

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Speaker 1: It's a good baseline. It's a pretty good baseline.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Have you done anything lately that's a

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Speaker 3: little more better? I have my more better. Yes. I

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Speaker 3: bought new suitcases. That's I sprang for them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I've been using the same suitcases for going

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Speaker 1: on I think almost ten years, and they were good.

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Speaker 3: They I feel like suitcases are an investment. Ten years

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Speaker 3: is a good run.

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Speaker 1: Ten years was a good run. It was a good run,

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Speaker 1: you know. I was I was thinking to myself, I

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Speaker 1: don't deserve this. I shouldn't get these. They're expensive, you know,

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Speaker 1: Like I don't want to, you know, I don't want to,

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Speaker 1: Like why am I doing this? My other ones work

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Speaker 1: just fine, and like they do, they actually do work fine.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to keep them for ras great as

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Speaker 1: her suitcases because like she doesn't care, you know, But

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Speaker 1: this way, I have stuff that, like when I'm traveling

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm traveling. So yeah, I did that for myself.

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Speaker 3: I love that. Thanks. What about you? What have you

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Speaker 3: done lately? That's more better? Nothing? Not a thing putting

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Speaker 3: everyone ahead of me as for usual? Yeah, a little

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Speaker 1: No, Yeah, I got nothing, I got nothing. Yeah, Well,

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Speaker 1: you took care of yourself.

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Speaker 2: The other night.

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Speaker 1: I invited you to an in bed and you were like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go, And then you were like, I have

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Speaker 3: You took care of yourself.

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Speaker 4: I really like I, Oh, I went back and forth

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Speaker 3: Just just like put on an outfit and just.

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Speaker 4: Like get there, and I bet when you get there,

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Speaker 3: In my head that was like, no, big this is

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this could really backfire on you and put you

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Speaker 1: And yeah, it was just you wouldn't have done that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe five years ago you had been like I have

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Speaker 1: to go to this event. So that's that's true of yourself.

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Speaker 1: That's true, thank you. So, yes, that was my more

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Speaker 1: better this week. Yes, you're right, I listen to myself,

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Speaker 1: What are we talking about today, Steph? This was your idea,

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Speaker 3: I don't know why this is, that's my idea.

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Speaker 4: But we are talking about some kind of spicy not

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Speaker 3: Drama. We're bringing the drama this week, you guys. We're

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Speaker 1: Uh, we've had them. We have them, we have to

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Speaker 3: Going to list them.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: to listen to me. No, we're not doing that. We're

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Speaker 3: just kidding. We're not doing that, or no, we're not maying.

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Speaker 1: That, but it is I mean, like enemies for enemies.

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Speaker 1: That's sort of more where I'm going to talk about.

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Speaker 1: But like it is, Ah, not everybody's your people.

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Speaker 1: Some people are fucking gnarly motherfuckers, and how do we

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Speaker 4: They are an enemy shitless, they are on my shitless

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Speaker 3: It's real, It's just real. I like mostly everyone.

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Speaker 3: I think in that scenario, I have felt more like.

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Speaker 1: That I am their enemy first, right, right? I mean,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I find that healthy because, like I mean, at

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Speaker 3: The things that I want, It's like, Okay, that's good.

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Speaker 3: That's motivation for me.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is, like to me, sometimes that is the

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Speaker 3: Me sometimes I'm like, oh, they're not even that good.

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Speaker 3: You know. There's this I love this movie called Shag.

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Speaker 3: Mean, let's be real, she's fucking Bridget Vondo. She's gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: But like I remember thinking as a kid, like oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Like, and sometimes I'm like I think, I'm I'm, I'm,

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Speaker 4: But I have also, you know, I spent more so

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Speaker 4: And then it created such a weird vibe and then

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Speaker 1: Well, that's also why I loved like when all the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and sometimes people are shit. Sometimes sometimes that's also

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Speaker 1: I know this is wrong.

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00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 3: You know, I'm gonna tell, but I know this is wrong.

440
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I looked at her and she looked at

441
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:38,160
Speaker 1: me and then she made this face like she looked

442
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 1: at the girl, and then she looked at me and

443
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 1: she made this face like ew right, and then she

444
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:45,960
Speaker 1: went back and like after.

445
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 3: The girl had finish writing her the answer, she was like,

446
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 3: thank you so much.

447
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 1: You're the best, you know, Like it was just so disgusting.

448
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:55,439
Speaker 1: It was so disgusting that I felt like really sad

449
00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 1: about it.

450
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:58,240
Speaker 3: Like she was like a Regina George. See her make

451
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 3: that face. She was like like, oh my god, You're

452
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 3: school's so cute. Actually, where is it from. That's the

453
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 3: ugliest epping skirt that I've ever seen. Yeah. It was mean.

454
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,920
Speaker 1: It was straight up mean. And she kept being mean

455
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 1: like that all of middle school. She was mean all

456
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 1: of high school, but like she was never nobody ever

457
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:21,439
Speaker 1: caught her being mean. She was just mean, sneaky mean

458
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,959
Speaker 1: and sneaky mean. Yeah, And anyway, I saw her at

459
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,879
Speaker 1: our twenty year reunion, and she was not excited that

460
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 1: I was on a very good TV show.

461
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 3: She was not pumped about it.

462
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:37,119
Speaker 1: She ignored me the entire time, and then at the

463
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 1: very end, after she had had multiple drinks, she was like,

464
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:42,479
Speaker 1: aren't you on TV now? And I was like, I am,

465
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 1: And then I you on TV now TV now. It's like,

466
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:48,879
Speaker 1: I don't need to explain myself to you, babe.

467
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

468
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was my first enemy. Also, she I think

469
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 1: to the eighth grade dance. She was asked to the

470
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,679
Speaker 1: eighth grade dance by the boy that I had a Oh,

471
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: that really cemented it for me. It's hard to be

472
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 1: awkward in junior high. You know, it's tough.

473
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 3: It's a tough it's a tough one. It's tough, it's scarring.

474
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 4: You'd like to say it builds character, but a character

475
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 4: probably would have been without it.

476
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 3: You know, maybe he wasn't. That's true. How do you

477
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 3: like deal with people that you find I'm cereal in

478
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:36,640
Speaker 3: real life?

479
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 1: Now?

480
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 3: Like, how do you deal with it? Now?

481
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: There are a couple of people that I have to

482
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 1: deal with on somewhat regular basis that I do not enjoy.

483
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 1: And then you know, occasionally at work it happens.

484
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 4: I feel like at work there is uh a uber

485
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:59,440
Speaker 4: professional mode you can go into.

486
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 3: And like I kill them with kindness kind of thing,

487
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: you know, totally. Yeah, I don't have that.

488
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 4: I save that energy for work because to me, that's

489
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 4: a more important setting that I don't want to you know,

490
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 4: disparage anyone or create anything like in a workplace.

491
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I feel like I can get through it

492
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 3: pretty easily, especially with like what with what we do.

493
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 4: You know, it's like in the downtime in between, you

494
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 4: can always like not sit at your chair, like go

495
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 4: somewhere else, Like there's plenty of places on set to

496
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 4: hang out and or you can just like be in

497
00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 4: a book or be on your phone so that you

498
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:40,680
Speaker 4: don't have to like engage in conversation. For non Hollywood people,

499
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 4: when things are when they're setting up lights and stuff,

500
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 4: and we have a bit of downtime a lot of

501
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 4: times if you get along with the people that you're

502
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 4: working with, there's like hang out time, you know, at

503
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:56,159
Speaker 4: your past chair time to check time. But yeah, and

504
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 4: then in real life I have less energy for real

505
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 4: life people I don't like, So I still, you know,

506
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 4: I stick with my killing with kindness. That's what I

507
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 4: try to teach my kids too, when they have to

508
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 4: deal with people they don't like, I say, you can't

509
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,880
Speaker 4: be mean, like you just you have to be nice

510
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,639
Speaker 4: and you just you know, give yourself space. And so

511
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 4: I feel like I give myself the same advice of

512
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 4: like space, I do not that's good.

513
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 3: Get trapped in any conversation. I try not to get

514
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 3: trapped in any conversations.

515
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 4: If there's a group hang, I just try to find

516
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 4: my people in the group, paying and stick with those people.

517
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 3: Keep keep it moving, keep it cute. But yeah, how

518
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 3: do you deal with with thine enemies?

519
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, in in situations like what you're

520
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: talking about, like in a work environment, or like in

521
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: a social environment where I'm confronted with someone that I

522
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:59,400
Speaker 1: know I'm not particularly a fan of, I often I'll

523
00:25:59,480 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: keep it moving.

524
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 3: I will often try to use like humor to kind

525
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 3: of diffuse the situation.

526
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: So, like, you know, if somebody says something that's straight

527
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: up rude to me, a lot of times I'll just

528
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: like bust out laughing, yeah, and say, like you know,

529
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: one of my favorite things to do is bust out

530
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: laughing and be like, I can't.

531
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: Believe you said that out loud.

532
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so good, you know, because that's it's really

533
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 1: disarming to people to be like, oh my god, I've

534
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: just been kind of caught, and then they go like

535
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 1: they either try to cover or they just stand there,

536
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: and either way, you've let them know that, like I

537
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 1: got your number, buddy, Like I see what you're doing,

538
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna let it bother me because this

539
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 1: is not about me, it's about you.

540
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 2: No.

541
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 4: I'm able to do that sometimes, but I wish I

542
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 4: could do it more. It's like I often do that

543
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 4: thing where you know, I freeze, and then later that

544
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 4: night I'm.

545
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 3: Like, oh I could have said this. I should have

546
00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 3: said I think.

547
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 4: Good comebacks, all the good burns, and I'm like, damn it,

548
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 4: where was my comedy brain at that moment.

549
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 3: But I love the idea of just That's why I

550
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 3: don't try to do that.

551
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, because like then you know that, like you've

552
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: got to I've got a canned response for it.

553
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 5: Is.

554
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: So if you're ever at a party three and I

555
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: just bust up laughing and say, I can't believe you

556
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 1: just said that I.

557
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 3: Got your number. But like, that'sn' easy for me. It's

558
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 3: like a canned response to your absolute bullshit.

559
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 1: And then I try to walk away after that because

560
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: I know, like this is a waste of my time

561
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 1: being here with this person or whatever. You know, Like

562
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: like if I could go back in time to that

563
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: dinner where that girl said that, I would laugh in

564
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: her face and be like, I can't believe you just

565
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,159
Speaker 1: said that out loud. That's wild that you felt like

566
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 1: you could say that to me and that's all and

567
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: then say that because I think most of the time

568
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: when people say that a lot of her own bullshit,

569
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 1: they don't expect you to confront it. They're like they

570
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: know it's going to put you down, they know it's

571
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: gonna like give them some sense of like power power,

572
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 1: and they don't ever expect to be called out about it. No, no,

573
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 1: because like most of the time people are just so

574
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: shocked that somebody said something that fucked up anyway. Yeah,

575
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: have you do you remember the in the I think

576
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: it's in the Bridget Jones movies where she goes, oh,

577
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 1: I was just jellyfish.

578
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 3: She jellyfished me.

579
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: Jellyfishing is essentially when you know you don't know that

580
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: you're being sung by a jellyfish until it's already happened.

581
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 3: Where you're like, fuck, my leg hurts.

582
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: You know, it's like you feel something kind of like

583
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: slide past you and then like oh shit, right, god,

584
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: yeah that that is those slidy snide comments that are

585
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: like those you know, aggressions your hair like that, you know,

586
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: it's so yucky, it's so yucky, and like, yeah, those

587
00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: are the ones that I hate because you try to

588
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: be on the line that like they say it like

589
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: they're confused, like, but I didn't know you were that funny.

590
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 3: I didn't know that you were you were that funny.

591
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you really like you really shine up

592
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 3: when like you get a dress and makeup on. You're

593
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 3: a monster. I wish I could straight up to say that,

594
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: oh you're a monster. Oh I didn't know. I should

595
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 3: try that sometimes.

596
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good thing. That's got to be for

597
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 1: someone that you're not afraid of though, Yeah, that's it.

598
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: That's the other thing is like sometimes enemies have power,

599
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: so you gotta be real careful.

600
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean they're intimidating, Yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

601
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: In the movies, you can just say whatever you want, right,

602
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: but like in real life, sometimes the enemy has like

603
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: a powerful position at your job or like can control

604
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: some kind of like aspect of something that's gonna have

605
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: an effect on your life and you can't maybe like

606
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 1: say all the things that you wish you could say,

607
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 1: so you just have to kind of.

608
00:29:57,840 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 3: I mean, keep it moving, I guess.

609
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: Like also sometimes I think about the other thing I

610
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: think about a lot is like they that's about them,

611
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: that's not about you, right, Like that's helped me more

612
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 1: than once like not burst into tears because sometimes it

613
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: really is like that is something about them that has

614
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: nothing to do with you.

615
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 3: You just have to like that.

616
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: You got to just let that one go, Like let

617
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 1: it go. That's not about you, that's about them, that's

618
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: not about you, that's about them.

619
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's.

620
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: Hard to do that, but it's so much of the

621
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: time when somebody is being mean, it's because of they're

622
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: projecting something that they're dealing with.

623
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's real. That is so real and such a

624
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 4: good reminder totally. There was a little stupid independent movie

625
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 4: I did that ended up being terrible and the director

626
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 4: was basically a con man and he was awful, and I.

627
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 3: Worked with a slightly older actress.

628
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 4: I'm not even going to make it that hard for

629
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 4: people to figure out if they want to figure it out,

630
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 4: who has worked a ton. And I was really excited

631
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 4: to work with her, and I ended up learning so

632
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 4: much from her about how to deal with someone like

633
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 4: that because she held so many boundaries and she would

634
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 4: get in his face, but never in a disrespectful manner.

635
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 4: She would just be like, what is your plan? Just

636
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 4: admit that you don't know what you're doing, and let

637
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 4: us black the scene and let us can you just

638
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 4: what are we doing here?

639
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 3: What are you even saying? That doesn't make any sense?

640
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 3: Like she just called him out and attempted to keep

641
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 3: him honest, which was impossible because I think this person

642
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 3: was like a sociopath. I don't know, but I just

643
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 3: kind of read.

644
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 4: I feel like I got so much power from that

645
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 4: experience because I was like watching in real time, like, oh,

646
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 4: it's okay to speak up. It's okay to speak up

647
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 4: and defend yourself and have boundaries and be like this

648
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 4: this is what should be worth my time, and this

649
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 4: is like a certain level I expect and should all

650
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 4: expect while we're here in this professional setting but she

651
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 4: also didn't take any of this fucking shit either.

652
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 2: You know.

653
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 3: And it was awesome and it was so badass.

654
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say who it was, because it was

655
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: Bonnie Badelia and she's amazing and incredible and I love

656
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 1: her dearly, and she was just so bad ass in

657
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: that experience, and it was awful.

658
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 3: It was awful, awful, awful.

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Speaker 1: I was so angry with this man and I hated

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Speaker 1: him so much, but I did get that out of it,

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Speaker 1: and I feel like since then, I've been less shaken

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Speaker 1: by terrible people, do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and able to be like I have like a.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I have like a way of being to kind

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Speaker 4: of like fall back on, I guess And I love

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Speaker 4: your ideas saw me do it because I saw her

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Speaker 4: do it. And I love your idea of having like

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Speaker 4: a canned response that I'm totally going to think of

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Speaker 4: something for myself because I love that. Yeah, because I

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Speaker 4: will freeze in moments where someone says some shit to

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Speaker 4: me that's like wild.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But I also just think watching someone be so in

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Speaker 3: their power like that is just I don't know it,

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Speaker 3: it's something about it minimized, Like I just felt less

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Speaker 3: intimidated by shitty people after that. Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 4: It was just like oh, some totally it just see

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Speaker 4: and I yes, and I don't have to let it

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Speaker 4: like affect me so deeply.

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Speaker 1: I can just be like, oh, like you were saying,

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Speaker 1: you're not my people, and I think you're kind of shitty,

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Speaker 1: and so yeah, it's hard.

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Speaker 3: It's hard. It's hard dealing with people that you don't like.

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Speaker 3: It's really hard.

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Speaker 5: It is.

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Speaker 1: But I think that there's a way to do it gracefully. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I hope me like just step away and don't engage.

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's a difference between enemies and bullying, you know,

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Speaker 1: like if we're not talking about bullies, Like bullies is

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Speaker 1: a different subject, right, but like enemies people that like

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Speaker 1: you know, that don't have your best interest at her,

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Speaker 1: and like just try to give space to it because

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think, oh, I'm so excited to think

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Speaker 1: of my canned response. It's gonna be very close to yours.

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Speaker 1: Maybe something like.

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Speaker 3: Wow, you are so confident to say something like that,

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Speaker 3: I really admire your confidence. Ah, I admire your confidence.

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Speaker 1: Or like another one I think I read this in

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Speaker 1: a magazine once was like make them repeat it, be like,

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Speaker 1: could you say that again?

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, yeah, say insult me, insult me, really do

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Speaker 3: an insult? Oh? Wow, I haven't been insulted in so long.

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Speaker 3: Can you do it again? That was that was crazy?

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Speaker 3: That was so wild. Yes, that's good.

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Speaker 1: You repeat it, or like uh, or even just like

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Speaker 1: making her say it again, right, like what did you say?

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Speaker 1: I said, I went in for that job, but I

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Speaker 1: heard they went ethnic.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't gill you one more time. And then when

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Speaker 1: they say it again, be like, yeah, I thought that's

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Speaker 1: what you said.

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Speaker 3: Wow, it's interesting, more better. How do you feel about

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Speaker 3: this today? How do you feel about talking about this?

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Speaker 3: Made me mad? It did make me mad.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I felt myself getting a little like hmm, riled

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Speaker 4: up talking about yeah, all these unfortunate people we've had

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Speaker 4: to deal with and encounter.

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Speaker 1: I don't you know, I don't like when people are mean.

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Speaker 1: I like when people are mean books. I don't like

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Speaker 1: when people are rude. I don't like when people are mean,

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Speaker 1: says the woman who played Rosa Diaz. Free excuse me.

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Speaker 1: I don't think Rosa was mean. I think Rosa she

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Speaker 1: does mean.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes she was mean.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say she was really confident and a

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Speaker 4: little aggressive, which is different, Yeah, different energy. She never

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Speaker 4: told a lie, she never lied in her meanness. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but I do feel empowered with this canned response thing and.

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Speaker 3: Some of these good some of these. Yeah that's your takeaway. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's my takeaway. How about you?

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Speaker 5: I think my takeaway is like, there's always gonna be

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Speaker 5: ship Like, there's always gonna be ship people, you know, like.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna we're gonna encounter that again and again in

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Speaker 3: our lives.

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Speaker 1: Like there's gonna be people like in the nursing home

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Speaker 1: that are ships. Like there's just no in the nursing home.

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Speaker 1: That one bitch in the nursing home that's up in

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Speaker 1: up in your ship, like fucking with your man, you know,

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Speaker 1: like fucking with your lunch, like stealing your apple sauce.

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Speaker 3: But like, what can you do that?

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Speaker 1: There's not a lot, There's there's not a lot you

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Speaker 1: can do other than like make it boring for them

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Speaker 1: to be so involved in your life, just like be

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Speaker 1: bored by them and move on.

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Speaker 3: I guess you you bor me. Do you feel more better?

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Speaker 3: I think I do feel more better. How do you feel?

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Speaker 1: Do you feel more better I feel I don't. I

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Speaker 1: don't feel more better about it. I feel like I

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Speaker 1: know what it is, Yeah, but I don't. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: don't like thinking about these people.

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Speaker 3: That's the other thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't really think about these people very much because

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Speaker 1: and we just thought about them. My life is pretty good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 4: Same, Yeah, as a Southerners say, which I love. Bless them,

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Speaker 4: Bless their heart, Bless their heart, Bless their hearts. Anyway,

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Speaker 4: we'll see you next week when we talk more shit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, see you next week.

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Speaker 1: to be more better at that you want us to

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Speaker 1: talk about in a future episode.

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