Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for
Speaker 1: joining us. How are you doing, Susan?
Speaker 2: Hi? I am so happy to be back, and today
Speaker 2: we are going to be answering more of your questions.
Speaker 2: We absolutely love these episodes, don't we, Kathy?
Speaker 1: Oh so fun?
Speaker 2: So keep those questions coming, and you know what to do,
Speaker 2: Bachelor nation dot com slash Golden Hour and submit them
Speaker 2: so we can talk about it.
Speaker 1: No question is too big or too small, right Susan.
Speaker 1: We love answering them, but today we're really excited to
Speaker 1: get into our questions. But for Susan, what do you
Speaker 1: think of last night's episode of The Golden Bachelor? Direct?
Speaker 2: God, where do I start? First of all, my favorite
Speaker 2: dress was her in the green at the Rose ceremony.
Speaker 2: I was texting Carrie, going good job.
Speaker 1: Okay, I just I want if you don't if you
Speaker 1: and I do not say this at the same time
Speaker 1: pasco where it's too high maintenance. But I love them.
Speaker 1: I absolutely Well. You know what, Susan Pascal, if you're listening,
Speaker 1: if Jenny hasn't chosen you, you're all.
Speaker 2: Susans, yes, because a run for your money.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I'm sorry. I haven't done laundry in forty years.
Speaker 2: I love that. Okay, I would love to be such
Speaker 2: a queen.
Speaker 1: I mean really, but you won't be a queen, sweetheart,
Speaker 1: You'll be doing his laundry.
Speaker 2: No, I will not. I would be easy. Well, I think, well,
Speaker 2: if you're going to reach out for me, just no,
Speaker 2: I'm just as queen as you can be. How about
Speaker 2: Taylor Dane being there?
Speaker 1: Unbelievable? Who was it that dated? I can't remember? Okay,
Speaker 1: but wait, I loved Greg doing Pascal's laundry. I mean there,
Speaker 1: he was.
Speaker 2: Giving him one hundred bucks a load.
Speaker 1: I know because you hear what he said, goes his cloes.
Speaker 1: His underwear is more valuable. Love and the USA untreated
Speaker 1: sleep apnea. That was who the guy is? Great?
Speaker 2: Because they were all complaining about his snoring. They were
Speaker 2: mocking his.
Speaker 1: I don't care. I want to meet him. I don't
Speaker 1: care if he snores. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think you should wait. How about the pink tuxedo
Speaker 2: on Jonathan at the prom and he was prom king it.
Speaker 1: Was you can you imagine the girl canceling him right
Speaker 1: before the prom?
Speaker 2: Do you know how many times that must happen to people?
Speaker 2: A lot, but he held on to it for forty
Speaker 2: plus years.
Speaker 1: And he's king of the problem. Last night, I was
Speaker 1: so sweet, Okay, what about guy was break dancing on
Speaker 1: the floor.
Speaker 2: Oh, that was hysterical. And then the other one came
Speaker 2: and spun him around the help.
Speaker 1: Did you seeing? Somebody had to come and lift him up, like,
Speaker 1: come on, guy, but he gets wait for the.
Speaker 2: First one on and one, Kathy, I've got vibes. Okay,
Speaker 2: if you don't, I don't know. I think I think
Speaker 2: my guy here is gonna go.
Speaker 1: Really, I'm sorry. He wasn't your guy. If you go
Speaker 1: back and listen.
Speaker 2: No, no, not my guy. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I think they Chuck and her have a lot of chemistry.
Speaker 1: Then Charles talking about losing his wife to an aneurysm.
Speaker 1: I just oh, so sad. And and then I'll tell
Speaker 1: the one that got me aside from you know about
Speaker 1: the photo booth.
Speaker 2: And then she gave him the picture of.
Speaker 1: Like, I know, it's so sweet, but Dan, okay, Dan,
Speaker 1: so that my sister has that a couple of people
Speaker 1: in my family have that. It's called a benign non
Speaker 1: essential tremor. It's not Parkinson's or anything. It's just a
Speaker 1: lot of people get it, and he has it in
Speaker 1: both of his hands.
Speaker 2: Did you hear when he told the story that the
Speaker 2: doctor hold him like your life was pretty much over?
Speaker 2: I guess it was a mistake. Is that a mistake.
Speaker 1: Well, since he's still with us, I'm going to go
Speaker 1: with the obviously, But I'm just saying to be able
Speaker 1: to be that vulnerable on National TV, clearly, I have
Speaker 1: a guy I dated has it. It's really hard. You know,
Speaker 1: they can't hold glasses, they have to do things with
Speaker 1: two hands. It's it. Just my hat is off to
Speaker 1: Dan for sharing that on National TV.
Speaker 2: It took a lot, and you know what, I also
Speaker 2: think it helped him come out of his comfort zone,
Speaker 2: you know, like it made him deal with what he
Speaker 2: has and nationally of course, and I think maybe he'll
Speaker 2: be better for it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think, you know, it doesn't kill you,
Speaker 1: makes you stronger. And then I have to say Kim
Speaker 1: singing that romantic song to Joan about finding his person
Speaker 1: over the rainbow. Remember, my husband was a naval officer,
Speaker 1: he was not a captain.
Speaker 2: I always think of him, Kathy every time.
Speaker 1: I mean, but I saw I saw in one of
Speaker 1: the promos. I saw him on the floor cleaning up.
Speaker 1: I thought, oh boy, that is a captain of the
Speaker 1: Navy everything.
Speaker 2: What I wish about him that he laugh a little bit,
Speaker 2: Like I don't see his humorous side yet. I think
Speaker 2: he's very serious.
Speaker 1: Not everybody is a laugh a minute. And I think
Speaker 1: he's a genuinely nice guy. And I may say he
Speaker 1: certainly is not. What did you think about Jack going home?
Speaker 1: I know, I mean, I love the song at the end.
Speaker 1: He's my kind of guy. That guy.
Speaker 2: Wait, I did the cannon balls.
Speaker 1: In the pool, Susan, you and he. I mean, I
Speaker 1: was diving at the end of the pool. But this guy,
Speaker 1: you can tell he genuinely left nothing on the table.
Speaker 1: He had a I mean, I didn't really see Joan
Speaker 1: and him together. But what a great fun guy. Wouldn't
Speaker 1: you love to go out on the town.
Speaker 2: All the guys are going to miss him. I'm telling you,
Speaker 2: he was your entertainment.
Speaker 1: They were like, hi Jack, cha, but what what a
Speaker 1: cool guy. And some of the other guys that went home,
Speaker 1: Joe was so sad to set them home. We all
Speaker 1: would be I mean that, I know, I just I
Speaker 1: feel like she is really caring for their hearts. She
Speaker 1: really she kept.
Speaker 2: That high maintenance man.
Speaker 1: Well, okay, I mean he's a good looking guy. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, you know, I think that that's who he is.
Speaker 1: You got to hand it to him. He's vest is
Speaker 1: who I am. I don't do my laundry. I you know, I.
Speaker 2: Make his bill in the closet. To see his closet.
Speaker 1: Did you see his Gucci his I mean, I can't
Speaker 1: even I don't even know the names. You know, my Louistan,
Speaker 1: my Gucci, my, this my bad. You know what I
Speaker 1: was thinking, Susan.
Speaker 2: Then he's.
Speaker 1: We have to sneak into the mansion. We're going into
Speaker 1: his closet and we are ripping everything out of there.
Speaker 1: With the cellar on the black market, I don't know that.
Speaker 1: I think he's tall, but he looks a little bit.
Speaker 2: I don't know if things would fit me, But it.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter if you're selling them. It's called we're gonna
Speaker 1: make money on the stale, Suasan.
Speaker 2: But but he did an awesome haircut for his talent.
Speaker 2: I'm going to ask you about that. Yes, it was
Speaker 2: a great haircut. It was one hundred and seventy five
Speaker 2: dollars haircut.
Speaker 1: But did he do it in thirty seconds or do
Speaker 1: you think that was time lapse?
Speaker 2: No, he did it in thirty didn't you see him
Speaker 2: take one chunk off the bat hair?
Speaker 1: I hate to tell you just lost me as a client.
Speaker 1: A client. I'm going to Pascal because I know I could.
Speaker 2: Do it in thirty seconds. You want that blunt clipper cut,
Speaker 2: you want it sharp? That takes more time.
Speaker 1: Okay, And and let's be clear, I'm not paying one
Speaker 1: hundred and seventy five dollars here obviously. Well, maybe you
Speaker 1: know what if I sell Pascal's shoes and belts for
Speaker 1: not money, I'll have me. Then.
Speaker 2: I loved Also when Mark was talking in German and
Speaker 2: the end he wanted a kiss, and then she said,
Speaker 2: you should have asked me sooner.
Speaker 1: I know. And Joe did a great job. My son
Speaker 1: is fluent in German, so I had a little cheat there.
Speaker 1: I knew what he was saying, I knew what exactly.
Speaker 1: But how great was she? She really was pretty able
Speaker 1: to she did good. I don't know. I think I
Speaker 1: think this is a great season. I think Joan is
Speaker 1: making us proud, She's making the Golden People proud. She
Speaker 1: is handling herself with such dignity and grace and being
Speaker 1: so kind all the men and Joan, if you're listening,
Speaker 1: so proud of you and all you guys. Susan and
Speaker 1: I will put our numbers up. Very simple.
Speaker 2: Just stay tuned to our podcast.
Speaker 1: That's right.
Speaker 2: No, I absolutely love the whole evening, and as you said,
Speaker 2: she did a fabulous, fabulous job. I did feel for
Speaker 2: some of the people that went home. They weren't really
Speaker 2: ready but can stay. Yeah, I mean, I remember in
Speaker 2: our season when we said goodbye to the first batch.
Speaker 2: But however, Kat, if you remember that first week when
Speaker 2: they left, we had three less people in our bedroom.
Speaker 1: I know, but don't you think don't you think that
Speaker 1: just like when we left, we left stronger and more confident.
Speaker 1: I feel like those guys did too. I think it
Speaker 1: helped get to the show. It's one you have that experience.
Speaker 1: You definitely gained something. Yes, yes, I can't wait till I.
Speaker 2: Can't wait for next week, I know, and I can't
Speaker 2: wait for more one on ones. That's when you really
Speaker 2: see people and they tell their story.
Speaker 1: But don't you wait a minute. But Susan, don't you
Speaker 1: feel like last night's episode lest I can't tell time,
Speaker 1: which is always a possibility. It was two hours and
Speaker 1: I thought it was two hours. Maybe it wasn't our
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be an hour. Name I know, but
Speaker 1: I again, I have trouble, you know, if it's not digital,
Speaker 1: and I remember, I'm struggling here. But I think one
Speaker 1: of the great things about Jones season, on top of
Speaker 1: all these handsome, wonderful guys and and watching Joan, is
Speaker 1: that we're getting to know all the guys much faster
Speaker 1: and better, right because there's more time.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, what we see more, That's what I'm saying. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we see more. I don't know that they have longer
Speaker 2: time than we did as they sit for those few
Speaker 2: minutes when they get to chat. I don't know if
Speaker 2: that's long.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I'm just saying exactly what you said the
Speaker 1: first time. We're getting to see more Jones interactions with
Speaker 1: the guys, and so I feel like I'm getting to
Speaker 1: know them better.
Speaker 2: Did you also notice who's coming on next show?
Speaker 1: Gary?
Speaker 2: Are Gary?
Speaker 1: Okay? So there's been a lot of stuff on social
Speaker 1: you know, do you think he's going to try to
Speaker 1: rip Joan back? Or I think absolutely not. I think
Speaker 1: he's just going to support her.
Speaker 2: I mean, he's our buddy. You know, we made friends
Speaker 2: instantly and we still are.
Speaker 1: Okay, but still I want the Gucci loafers, belts and sneakers.
Speaker 1: But it's been it's been a great two weeks. You
Speaker 1: can't wait for the next one.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, I'm excited. And I loved her fashion. You know,
Speaker 2: how about her coming out of the Limma with the
Speaker 2: d white with the tool on both sides for prom night,
Speaker 2: and then she did her Disney blue you know in
Speaker 2: Disney World.
Speaker 1: That was so she looks she did look like a prince.
Speaker 2: She can wear anything. Hello, she can wear any.
Speaker 1: She can do anything. We hate you, Joan, No, we don't.
Speaker 1: We love you.
Speaker 2: We love you unbelievably so. But we wish you all
Speaker 2: the very best and we look forward to next week.
Speaker 1: All right, Susan, it's time for a question of the day.
Speaker 1: Are you ready? Boy? Are you ready? No?
Speaker 2: Oh wait, it's not the game. Yes, sure, I'm ready
Speaker 2: for the question.
Speaker 1: There we go.
Speaker 2: Okay, The question is what does being a good parent
Speaker 2: mean to you?
Speaker 1: You know, for me being a good parent, you'd have
Speaker 1: to say, now, you have to put a time limit
Speaker 1: on it, because being a good parent for me when
Speaker 1: my children were young was making sure they were well fed,
Speaker 1: got enough sleep, kept safe, exposed them to lots of
Speaker 1: cultural things, books, making sure they were learning things in school,
Speaker 1: all those things that you do for young children. But
Speaker 1: I will tell you now, and I have adult children
Speaker 1: and I have two grandchildren, I think being a good
Speaker 1: parent to me now means listening to my kids and
Speaker 1: just being there for them and not solving their problems
Speaker 1: for them as we do. You know, we have to
Speaker 1: evolve as parents. We solve all their problems when they're young.
Speaker 1: When they get older, our job is to listen and
Speaker 1: just be a support system for them. What about you.
Speaker 2: I agree with everything you say, and I also feel
Speaker 2: good parenting is loving your kids and like you said,
Speaker 2: keeping them safe, getting them an education, just healthy, clean teaching,
Speaker 2: teaching them what they're going to pass on so they
Speaker 2: could be good parents. What we instill in our kids.
Speaker 2: Although I was in eat freak always and not all
Speaker 2: of them are in eat freak, so you know I
Speaker 2: still do.
Speaker 1: I still do love to remind you of the time
Speaker 1: you were sweeping up the table while I was still eating.
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny when you talk about that when
Speaker 1: I am, I think if I could do it over,
Speaker 1: like most things, I would be. I have great, three
Speaker 1: great kids, but I think I would be a better
Speaker 1: parent now because they.
Speaker 2: Didn't come with instructions. I know.
Speaker 1: Well, it's just that you and I. I know you
Speaker 1: and I've talked about this. We both have three kids.
Speaker 1: We have great kids, but we have learned what's important
Speaker 1: and what isn't. And so all the things that I
Speaker 1: was so or were important with my kids, they just aren't.
Speaker 1: I mean, I laugh when I think I'm also a
Speaker 1: neat freak. I used to make my kids clean up
Speaker 1: their rooms. And I walked in Kyle's room one time,
Speaker 1: and uh, I told them all to clean the room,
Speaker 1: and Kyle came out. I was said, you know, uh,
Speaker 1: be a smart be smart Kyle. He would come out
Speaker 1: after five minutes and tell me the room was clean,
Speaker 1: and I would go in him it was, well, it
Speaker 1: was clean, Susan, it was spotless until you looked under
Speaker 1: the bed and open the closet doors. It just all
Speaker 1: came floating. So then I would, you know, throw everything
Speaker 1: out in the hallway and make them start over. So,
Speaker 1: you know, do I care? Would I care now so much? Nah,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't care.
Speaker 2: I know, I hope I was a good parent. I
Speaker 2: think I was. I know we all love each other.
Speaker 1: Would you well, I love my children, I do agree
Speaker 1: with Would I do some things different, yes, definitely, But
Speaker 1: you know what I think of our kids. I never
Speaker 1: really felt that loved as a child. I know my
Speaker 1: three kids are totally love and would feel would say
Speaker 1: that that they.
Speaker 2: Were absolutely absolutely all.
Speaker 1: Right, let's get into these fan questions. You want to
Speaker 1: take the first one?
Speaker 2: Sure, Okay, this is an anonymous Hello, golden ladies. I've
Speaker 2: got what I believe is a pretty unique question for you.
Speaker 2: At the start of this year, I was laid off
Speaker 2: from a company i'd worked at for over seven years,
Speaker 2: and have since launched a metaphysical podcast and more recently
Speaker 2: started my own psychic reading business. It's been a major
Speaker 2: period of growth and self exploration. Hold on the questions
Speaker 2: I have stems from a longtime friend who has not
Speaker 2: been supportive of this journey. For context, we met sophomore
Speaker 2: year of college through a sorority and have been friends
Speaker 2: for eleven years. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding
Speaker 2: as well. We've always had different beliefs, but it's never
Speaker 2: gotten in the way of our friendship until now. Back
Speaker 2: in April, a few weeks after my pod launched, we
Speaker 2: got lunch and she told me she hadn't listened. Her
Speaker 2: conflicting beliefs have made her afraid of my content. I
Speaker 2: calmly explained that psychic readings aren't like that, and the
Speaker 2: first few episodes of our show focused on intuitive experiences
Speaker 2: we've had, mostly predating our friendships, astrology, and human design.
Speaker 2: I kept it together as we changed the subject, but
Speaker 2: my heart completely sank. I knew this friendship was or
Speaker 2: soon twould be, at a fork in the road where
Speaker 2: either she accepted me or I had to end our relationship.
Speaker 2: Needless to say, I cried on the drive home and
Speaker 2: felt devastated. Fast forward till now. My podcast has continued
Speaker 2: and I launched my business in June. We haven't spoken
Speaker 2: at all. Normally, one or the other of us would
Speaker 2: reach out to meet in person or do a FaceTime
Speaker 2: to catch up. I've been reevaluating all of my friendships
Speaker 2: and how I approach dating to set better boundaries where
Speaker 2: I'm not always the person to reach out. That shift,
Speaker 2: in tandem with being busy, has resulted in the months
Speaker 2: absolutely flying by. My question is should I A reach
Speaker 2: out to her and act normal and just see if
Speaker 2: she says anything about what I'm up to and go
Speaker 2: from there, or B reach out and directly bring up
Speaker 2: my concerns, or see continue doing my own thing and
Speaker 2: see if she eventually comes to me in her own time.
Speaker 2: I so appreciate getting your perspectives on this.
Speaker 1: Also.
Speaker 2: I'm from Massachusetts and love hearing Kathy represent much love
Speaker 2: to you both. I really enjoy your show. Oh thank you, Anonymous.
Speaker 2: That was a lot of information.
Speaker 1: That was a lot of information, Anonymous. I love that
Speaker 1: you're from Massachusetts. Yeah. I always love to hear from
Speaker 1: a fellow Massachuset. I don't even know what the noun
Speaker 1: is anyway. I don't know a Massachusetts site. I don't
Speaker 1: know what that is. Anyway. Let me say, Anonymous, you
Speaker 1: gave me three choices, gave us three choices. Here's what
Speaker 1: I would say to you. The months are flying by
Speaker 1: for you, so you're clearly happy in what you're doing,
Speaker 1: and sometimes in life, we all make choices. In your case,
Speaker 1: it's your podcast and your business, and you seem completely
Speaker 1: involved and thoroughly happy with your decision. So I would
Speaker 1: say to you, you can wait, or you can reach
Speaker 1: out to your friend, or you can do nothing. Here's
Speaker 1: the point. Your friend is entitled to believe and feel
Speaker 1: the way she does, just as you are. And sometimes,
Speaker 1: as Susan likes to say, people come into our lives
Speaker 1: for a reason, and I say, people come into our
Speaker 1: lives for a reason and a season. So maybe this
Speaker 1: time is up for you. We're involving this friendship. But
Speaker 1: just accept that not everyone's going to agree with you,
Speaker 1: and you sometimes have to go on your own journey
Speaker 1: in your own road.
Speaker 2: What do you think, Susan, It sounds to me like
Speaker 2: she has moved on and doing her own thing and
Speaker 2: she's healthy for it. But you, like, just like in relationships,
Speaker 2: you have to agree to disagree. Not everybody believes what
Speaker 2: you believe or shares the likeness for what you're doing.
Speaker 2: And that's okay. I know it probably stung because she
Speaker 2: was your friend and you wanted everybody to be happy
Speaker 2: for you and so on. I get it, but like
Speaker 2: Kathy said, the three things, at the end, that's only
Speaker 2: your choice. Me personally, I would probably think about it
Speaker 2: from time to time, but I would keep moving forward.
Speaker 1: Yeah, at the end of the day, your life is
Speaker 1: your life and it's your journey, and we both wish
Speaker 1: you the best in your business and your podcast as
Speaker 1: fellow podcasters. Congratulations to you and hope only to do.
Speaker 2: A reading for us.
Speaker 1: Okay, so good lucking out? Question all right? Question number two,
Speaker 1: Casey writes, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I am really enjoying
Speaker 1: your episodes and advice on the podcast and could really
Speaker 1: use your perspective. I am twenty three years old and
Speaker 1: I recently got into a relationship with someone five years
Speaker 1: older than I. We met on a dating app and
Speaker 1: I am his first relationship and sexual partner. I have
Speaker 1: been in relationships previously and had a self proclaimed hoe
Speaker 1: phase while I was in college. Whoa that I've been
Speaker 1: with other men, But early on in dating I didn't
Speaker 1: share just how many partners I have had. Now that
Speaker 1: we're in a relationship and are hooking up with each other,
Speaker 1: I'm scared to bring it up. Do I have to
Speaker 1: tell him the exact number? Or is this something we
Speaker 1: can gloss over? Thank you so much and I can't
Speaker 1: wait to hear your.
Speaker 2: Thoughts, Casey, darling. Unless he's putting pressure on you, yeah,
Speaker 2: keep your mouth shut.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry, Susan. Even if he's putting pressure on her.
Speaker 2: This was her past. Yes, he don't tell, Yeah, you don't.
Speaker 2: That's going to make him overthink things and think. And
Speaker 2: he doesn't have to know you had your hoe face either.
Speaker 1: Yeah. See, I'm stuck, Casey on maybe this is my
Speaker 1: age and I don't know where you'll go with Susan.
Speaker 1: But I don't like the fact, Casey, that you called
Speaker 1: it your hoe face. I don't like that that tells
Speaker 1: me that you tell it. I could be wrong, but
Speaker 1: I said that you're not respectful of yourself. You don't
Speaker 1: respect yourself or you didn't back then. And that's a
Speaker 1: much greater concern to me than whether or not you
Speaker 1: tell your boyfriend if it was eight, ten or one
Speaker 1: hundred sexual partners you've had. It's none of his business.
Speaker 1: A it's only his business if you're having sexual partners
Speaker 1: with other men besides the guy you're dating.
Speaker 2: And she says, I'm scared to bring it up. So
Speaker 2: he's obviously not even questioning it, so leave well enough alone. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And I've been because gloss Over, I've had these conversations
Speaker 2: with my girlfriends and like you, know how many partners,
Speaker 2: and I was blown away by some of my friends, like, ah, what,
Speaker 2: you know what, I didn't judge them for that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, well she's judging herself soon like that.
Speaker 1: So Casey, if you found a great guy, stick with that, meaning, relish,
Speaker 1: revel in the fact that you found a really great guy.
Speaker 1: He's five years older, he's got a little more experience.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's the guy for you, Maybe he isn't. I
Speaker 1: would say, you got a lot of life left to
Speaker 1: live before you settle down with one guy. But don't
Speaker 1: worry about your past.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but the.
Speaker 1: Past is what teaches you how to live your future.
Speaker 2: That's right, and we wish you luck, all right. Question
Speaker 2: number three, Alicia writes, Hi, first of all, I love
Speaker 2: listening to your podcast. My husband and I are planning
Speaker 2: a trip to Italy to celebrate our ten year wedding anniversary.
Speaker 2: We have three children, ages three, five, and seven. It's
Speaker 2: been two years since my husband and I have had
Speaker 2: a trip away alone. I know it will be good
Speaker 2: for our marriage, but I am feeling very anxious and
Speaker 2: guilty about leaving our kids for eight nights and going
Speaker 2: that far away. Is going on this trip a bad idea.
Speaker 2: Please give me any advice. Thank you. Oh my gush,
Speaker 2: it's so good. You need to do this for the
Speaker 2: kids as well.
Speaker 1: So, Alicia, I would say to you, Uh, you know
Speaker 1: my kids. My daughter doesn't like to leave her daughter
Speaker 1: at all, but she'll leave it with me. I guess
Speaker 1: I would ask you, Alicia, who are you leaving your
Speaker 1: kids with? If you're going to living with your mom
Speaker 1: or a sister, a family member, that's great. I will
Speaker 1: say to the first trip my husband and I took away.
Speaker 1: We were living in Texas and we went to Hawaii
Speaker 1: and some friends kept our We only had one child
Speaker 1: at the time. I cried pulling away from the curb
Speaker 1: for about thirty seconds. Uh, it was the best thing
Speaker 1: we ever did. You'll have a blast. Are you going
Speaker 1: to miss your kids? Yes, you'll be fine.
Speaker 2: And you'll go buying them things over there, and you'll
Speaker 2: be thinking, and then you're both going to look at
Speaker 2: each other as you sleep in and go, oh my god,
Speaker 2: this is nice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna you have a great time. And you
Speaker 1: know what brings up something that we've talked about before.
Speaker 1: You have three young kids and they take a ton
Speaker 1: of time and energy, but you know what needs time
Speaker 1: and energy. Your marriage and relationships take time and energy,
Speaker 1: So give yourself the gift of this time to spend
Speaker 1: with your husband. Go, relax, enjoy yourself. You'll come back
Speaker 1: being in a better place in your marriage, and if
Speaker 1: it's good now, it'll be even better when you come back,
Speaker 1: and you'll also come back a better parent. It's a
Speaker 1: win win, Alicia.
Speaker 2: To answer your question, No, this trip is not a
Speaker 2: bad idea at all.
Speaker 1: And have a great time and let us right but
Speaker 1: send us supposed card. Yeah really, I just got back
Speaker 1: from Italy. You're going to have great time. All right.
Speaker 1: Let's move on to question for Hi, Kathy and Susan.
Speaker 1: I've been really stressed out about this situation and I
Speaker 1: really think you guys could give me some sound advice.
Speaker 1: My friend started seeing someone new a few months ago,
Speaker 1: and I really like them together. She had a tough
Speaker 1: past with dating, so I'm really glad she's with someone
Speaker 1: that's really kind and respectful. But I'm starting to worry
Speaker 1: that she's about to ruin this relationship. Sorry if I'm
Speaker 1: being too vague trying to stay anonymous. Basically, he'll do
Speaker 1: things like forget to text her or we'll show up
Speaker 1: to parties late, all because he has a really stressful job.
Speaker 1: Even though she's able to talk herself out of assuming
Speaker 1: the worst like cheating, she still gets really upset because
Speaker 1: it brings her back to when her exes were cheating,
Speaker 1: but blame things on work. I want to give her advice,
Speaker 1: but here's my question, since it's so early on in
Speaker 1: their relationship, is it worth me telling her to work
Speaker 1: on it or is this just a circumstantial incompatibility. She
Speaker 1: definitely still needs to heal, but she's working so hard
Speaker 1: at it and her emotions just need to catch up.
Speaker 1: She really likes him, but his job won't stop being
Speaker 1: demanding anytime soon. He's in finance, so it's honestly, she
Speaker 1: either learns to deal with it or she deals with
Speaker 1: these feelings single. What do you think makes more sense?
Speaker 1: He's patient and understanding, but I know it adds stress
Speaker 1: to his plate as well when he gets tied up
Speaker 1: at work and can't immediately communicate with her. Oh boy,
Speaker 1: that's a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I think if you really love your girlfriend,
Speaker 2: you pull her aside and tell her exactly what you
Speaker 2: see that she's doing and she needs to get some
Speaker 2: help by herself not share it with him, because she
Speaker 2: could very well ruin this relationship and she's hurting herself
Speaker 2: because I get not trusting and you got to be
Speaker 2: careful and all that. You got to take chances in life,
Speaker 2: and you don't want to be the one to blow
Speaker 2: it because you had a pass that somebody did wrong
Speaker 2: to you. That doesn't mean this man's going to do wrong.
Speaker 2: So I would go see a therapist or talk to
Speaker 2: your girlfriends or whatever you need to do.
Speaker 1: And well, this is her, Susan, this is her friend.
Speaker 2: That's going to but I want her to tell her thish, gotcha.
Speaker 1: So I think that's really sound advice. I totally agree.
Speaker 1: I think though that Anonymous, you have to be careful.
Speaker 1: It's a fine line between inserting your will and your
Speaker 1: ideas on what you think she should be doing and
Speaker 1: making suggestions of you know, I was looking at your
Speaker 1: da da da, and I think, why don't you think
Speaker 1: about this, think about that. You have to be careful,
Speaker 1: not to be too judgy, and not too pushy if
Speaker 1: you will, about what you want to do. But I
Speaker 1: think your heart is absolutely in the right place, and
Speaker 1: I agree with Susan, she needs to go on, that's
Speaker 1: your girlfriend. Yeah, and she does need to learn how
Speaker 1: to trust. And I agree with Susan, she probably needs
Speaker 1: some therapy, some professional help to do that, because you
Speaker 1: know what, a relationship without trust is going absolutely nowherewhere
Speaker 1: and you're smart a relationship.
Speaker 2: Yes, thanks for writing into us, and we wish your
Speaker 2: girlfriend lots of lots.
Speaker 1: Let us know. Hopefully she'll get the help she needs.
Speaker 2: Oh no, Kathy, do you see what's noting?
Speaker 1: I'm so excited. Everybody do it. We are going to
Speaker 1: play Kathy's favorite game and Susan's least favorite game. It's
Speaker 1: called moral Quandary. We set it up where one of
Speaker 1: us reads a prompt and then we have to guess
Speaker 1: what the other one would do. Susan loves to say
Speaker 1: what she would do, so I'm going to remind her
Speaker 1: once again. You're going to guess what I would do.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to start us off and you are
Speaker 1: going to guess what I I would say or do.
Speaker 1: Two of your friends are getting married. On the day
Speaker 1: of the wedding, the groom goes m Ia for hours,
Speaker 1: but after a lot of talking inventing, his nerves calm
Speaker 1: down and he returns before the ceremony begins, the bride
Speaker 1: is clueless the entire time and asks you why you
Speaker 1: seem so stressed out? Do you ever tell her about
Speaker 1: this or keep it a secret? What would I do?
Speaker 2: Susan, You wouldn't say anything.
Speaker 1: Ever.
Speaker 2: They're not asking me ever. They're asking me the day
Speaker 2: of the wedding.
Speaker 1: No, it says, do you ever tell her about this?
Speaker 1: Or do I keep it a secret? Do you think
Speaker 1: I might tell her? Or you don't think I ever would?
Speaker 2: No? I don't think she needs to know that.
Speaker 1: You know what I would do probably sit what's the
Speaker 1: movie where the girl's in love with the same guy
Speaker 1: and and she runs away to the bus station. I'd
Speaker 1: probably take my friend and sit down and watch that
Speaker 1: movie and see what a reaction was. Then I would
Speaker 1: decide if I was gonna tell her?
Speaker 2: What about me? You don't answer that one yet.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna no I am. I'm going to say I.
Speaker 1: I don't think you would tell her. I think you
Speaker 1: would let it lie. Yeah, I think you already said that.
Speaker 2: I don't think good could come out of that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean they're already married. That's just going to
Speaker 1: stress up for the wedding. Yeah, he's there. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm sure.
Speaker 2: She's gonna hear it, like, oh my god, he wasn't
Speaker 2: he was late, and then she's going to ask him.
Speaker 2: It's just going to start.
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. Would it have changed it, would
Speaker 1: she not have married him? So you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They're already married. So uh, you know, like I said,
Speaker 1: I would take a humorous approach, and humorous approach and
Speaker 1: all right, all right.
Speaker 2: The next one, you get out of your car after
Speaker 2: arriving at work, and as you walk to your office,
Speaker 2: you see someone pull out of a parking spot and
Speaker 2: hit a parked car, leaving a huge debt. Before speeding off,
Speaker 2: the driver makes eye contact with you and shrugs. You
Speaker 2: then notice they're leaving a reserved parking spot with their
Speaker 2: name on it. You discover it's your boss's boss. There's
Speaker 2: no cameras, and you have no idea who the damaged
Speaker 2: car belongs to.
Speaker 1: What do you do? I think you would probably write
Speaker 1: down the license number and put it on their windshield,
Speaker 1: but not put your name on it.
Speaker 2: I'd have to tell somebody.
Speaker 1: But the question is you wait, we haven't. Don't guess
Speaker 1: about me yet? Finish with you? I gave you. I
Speaker 1: So you're saying you would not let the person know.
Speaker 2: No, I would, but indiscreetly.
Speaker 1: Well, how are you gonna let him know? Indiscreetly?
Speaker 2: I'd tell somebody else that would tell.
Speaker 1: Oh, so you'd pass the buck? What what do you
Speaker 1: think I would do.
Speaker 2: What you said, take the license plate and leave it.
Speaker 1: On the I want to believe I would do that.
Speaker 2: I would probably even think of that.
Speaker 1: It's but when you know it's your boss's boss. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I you know. I want to believe that I am
Speaker 1: ethical and that I would just write the license number
Speaker 1: down and leave it at that. Yeah, all right, let's
Speaker 1: do the next one. You meet a really great guy
Speaker 1: and begin dating. Oh. I like to start of this,
Speaker 1: don't you. You quickly learned that he is a widower
Speaker 1: and has two children in their twenties. After almost eight months,
Speaker 1: you realize his kids have no idea you exist. You
Speaker 1: talk about it with your boyfriend, and he reveals that
Speaker 1: his last relationship ended because she wasn't kind to his kids,
Speaker 1: and his relationship with his kids took a hard hit
Speaker 1: from it. He says he'll tell them about you quote
Speaker 1: when he's ready unquote.
Speaker 2: How do you proceed eight months. I would have dealt
Speaker 2: with that. Oh what would you do?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Susan, I caught myself.
Speaker 2: You didn't even catch it. I did see that.
Speaker 1: Oh no I did. I was waiting for you to
Speaker 1: do it. You go ahead, What would I do?
Speaker 2: You would have a conversation about it. You would say,
Speaker 2: it's been eight months. I would think he would meet
Speaker 2: the children be probably by six months.
Speaker 1: So this actually happened to me with the guy I
Speaker 1: did and you know who we're talking about, and he
Speaker 1: was exactly the opposite. He wanted me to meet his
Speaker 1: kids right away, and I was like, nope, nope. I
Speaker 1: think in this case, knowing me and the kind of
Speaker 1: person I am, I would have already if it were
Speaker 1: if this relationship were going anywhere, I'd have already met
Speaker 1: his kids before it once. And I think that's exactly
Speaker 1: what you would do. You would have already met the
Speaker 1: kids or that's right, definitely.
Speaker 2: Okay. You're hosting a brunch at your house with homemade
Speaker 2: bloody Mary's. Someone accidentally spilled a ton of the bloody
Speaker 2: mary mix, so you're very low on the most popular
Speaker 2: drink at the party. You bring one over to a
Speaker 2: guest of yours that you didn't realize was vegetarian, and
Speaker 2: there's bacon on the garnish. After taking a sip, they
Speaker 2: apologize and ask if they could have a brand new
Speaker 2: one without the bacon. With little despair, a friend recommends
Speaker 2: just taking the bacon out and giving it back to them.
Speaker 1: What do you do? What you would do? Yeah? You
Speaker 1: take them give it right back to him. Am I right?
Speaker 1: What would I do?
Speaker 2: You don't have to have the bacon? Well, what you
Speaker 2: would say? I have none left? I'll take the bacon out.
Speaker 1: No, I would say, if there's enough for another drink?
Speaker 1: I would say, who wants this drink with the bacon?
Speaker 1: And I got to make one without the bacon right now?
Speaker 1: That's also no brighter? Like you know all right? You're
Speaker 1: redecorating your home. When a friend with a very successful
Speaker 1: handmade furniture business offered to make you a custom coffee table,
Speaker 1: you only declined due to the price, despite getting a
Speaker 1: hefty discount, and your friend completely understood. Later that week,
Speaker 1: you passed by a big competitor of your friend's business
Speaker 1: and fell in love with the coffee table in the window.
Speaker 1: Priced a little higher than your friend's offer. You really
Speaker 1: want to buy it, but you worry your friend will
Speaker 1: ask about it the next time they are over. What
Speaker 1: do you do? Susan buys the coffee table and says,
Speaker 1: stuff it if you don't like it.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say that, but I would buy the one
Speaker 2: I wanted.
Speaker 1: Of course you would. What would I do? So we
Speaker 1: do absolutely absolutely, And you know what people need to
Speaker 1: learn that your friend's business. You wish them well. You
Speaker 1: hope that they, you know, make a great business and
Speaker 1: sell lots of furniture. That doesn't mean you have to
Speaker 1: buy their furniture.
Speaker 2: It doesn't. It doesn't. And I probably like feel odd
Speaker 2: when they came over, But why because I didn't buy
Speaker 2: it from them.
Speaker 1: It's a different coffee table. It's a different coffee table.
Speaker 1: It is it is anyway, that's a new brainer too.
Speaker 1: They were easy ones today. I passed everybody out there.
Speaker 1: You hear that, Susan, You are really you are marketing
Speaker 1: it up here. I am impressed. And that is going
Speaker 1: to do it. We're going to end it on that
Speaker 1: happy note, Susan. That ends this episode of Bachelor Happy
Speaker 1: Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us.
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