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Speaker 2: Thank you, nephew. Subject What was she doing while I

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Speaker 2: was gone? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty three year

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Speaker 2: old black man married for nine years. When I got married,

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Speaker 2: I was young and still in the streets. Over time,

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Speaker 2: I got an associate's degree and I got a job

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Speaker 2: in a position of leadership, but I was still hanging

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Speaker 2: and ended up in jail. A friend of mine asked

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Speaker 2: me to drive him to the liquor store, so I did.

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Speaker 2: He went in and came out, and we left. I

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Speaker 2: had no idea that he had commit an armed robbery

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Speaker 2: until I was arrested for being a getaway driver. My

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Speaker 2: wife had just had our third son, but she held

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Speaker 2: me down because she knows I'm not a bad guy.

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Speaker 1: I did my time and I got home six months ago.

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Speaker 2: I listened to the radio show while I was locked up,

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Speaker 2: and this is my favorite subject, so I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: see if you could help me. My wife is a

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Speaker 2: lot different since I got home. She dresses differently, and

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Speaker 2: she smokes weed, which is legal in our area. She

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Speaker 2: dictates if and when we have sex, and she rations

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Speaker 2: out money to me. I feel as if I can't

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Speaker 2: say anything because of what I put her through.

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Speaker 1: While I was locked up. We were watching TV.

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Speaker 2: The other night and her phone rang and she left

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Speaker 2: the room to talk. I didn't say a word. The

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Speaker 2: next morning, she got a call and I could hear

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Speaker 2: I told her she has a lot of nerve allowing

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Speaker 2: no way this content this can continue.

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Speaker 1: She told me to hush.

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Speaker 2: And be glad I still have a home because her

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Speaker 2: friends helped her out by doing things in and around

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Speaker 2: the house while I was away. I asked her what

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Speaker 2: in and around the house, meant, and she ignored me.

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Speaker 2: I have to keep cool and not explode on her.

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Speaker 2: What's the best way to approach it? Yes, well you

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Speaker 2: know right now the best thing you can do is

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Speaker 2: get yourself together. Okay, time doesn't stop when you go

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Speaker 2: to prison. Stop expecting things to be the same, and

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Speaker 2: you need to think about the future. What was she

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Speaker 2: doing while you were gone, Well, she was surviving. Obviously,

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Speaker 2: she was taking care of three kids alone. She was

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Speaker 2: probably scared.

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Speaker 1: You said.

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Speaker 2: She held it down while you were in jail, and

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Speaker 2: she did let you come back home. Okay, but the

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Speaker 2: respect and apparently the love are gone out of this relationship.

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Speaker 2: You see and hear what she's doing. She's talking with

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Speaker 2: other men. Of course you don't like it. I mean

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Speaker 2: what man would like that from their wife. So now

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Speaker 2: you need to concentrate on your next move, and that's

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Speaker 2: being your own man. Because your wife is doing her thing.

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Speaker 2: There's nothing you can do about it. Right now, you

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Speaker 2: said it. You have to keep cool and not explode

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Speaker 2: on her. You need to get your dignity, your self

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Speaker 2: respect back. So I suggest you get a job somewhere,

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Speaker 2: you start making your own money so she won't have

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Speaker 2: to ration it out to you. As you say, I mean,

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Speaker 2: you know, no man wants that save it for your apartment.

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Speaker 2: You know, then you know, fix.

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Speaker 1: The situation with your wife and these kids.

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Speaker 2: You might have to arrange visitation rights if you do

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Speaker 2: eventually get your own apartment, and I say, making sure

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Speaker 2: with you. Your youngest son, Harley even knows you. You're

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Speaker 2: You need to do the same now, but with purpose.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Steve, this is gonna be a tough one to

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Speaker 4: answer for your young brother. So I'm gonna just take

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Speaker 4: on the subject what was she doing while I was gone? Now,

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Speaker 4: you're thirty three year old black man, married for nine years.

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Speaker 4: When you got married, you were young and still in

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Speaker 3: But you were still in the streets.

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Speaker 4: Over time, you got an associate degree, and you got

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Speaker 4: So you're realizing that you got to do better for yourself.

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Speaker 4: Here's a mistake you made. But I was still hanging

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Speaker 4: In order to grow, you have to go. I've said

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Speaker 4: it so many different ways. You can't worry about keeping

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Speaker 4: it real. You got to keep it moving. I've said

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Speaker 4: all of these things that tie us to the hood,

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Speaker 4: that ties to our old relationships and friends, But you

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Speaker 4: can't go get an associate degree. Here's another one that

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Speaker 4: I said a long time ago. You can't be a

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Speaker 4: college student and a thug in the same sense it said,

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Speaker 4: don't match. Thugging and college student don't match. Now, you

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Speaker 4: didn't know what was going on, but you dropped your

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Speaker 4: you the getaway car driver. You didn't know this food,

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Speaker 4: went in here and robbed a liquor store. So now

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Speaker 4: you're out and you're an accomplished to committing an armed robbery.

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Speaker 3: Your wife had just had your third son, but she.

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Speaker 4: Held you down because she knows I'm not a bad guy,

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Speaker 4: did my time, and I came home six months ago.

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Speaker 3: Now here's a problem. You're not telling me how long

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Speaker 4: You're not saying that, and you're leaving that out of

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Speaker 4: the letter because it helps you. But Uncle Steve, no

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Speaker 4: better arm robbery. Even with a plea you year and

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Speaker 3: Even if they believed you, they let you plead to

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Speaker 3: this right here?

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Speaker 2: All right, hang on, We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 2: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour

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Speaker 2: subject what was she doing while I was gone? We'll

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Speaker 2: get back into it right after this. You're listening Steve

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Speaker 2: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 2: The subject what was she doing while I was gone?

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Speaker 4: Twell, thirty three year old black man married for nine years,

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Speaker 4: was in the streets when you got married. But you

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Speaker 4: messed around and got self degree congratulations, got you a

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Speaker 4: job of position and leadership. But the mistake you made

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Speaker 4: you were still hanging with the same crew. You got

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Speaker 4: you drop a free and off at the liquor store

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Speaker 4: a little till you know, he goes in and he

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Speaker 4: robs the place.

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Speaker 3: He comes back and gets in the car. You don't

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Speaker 4: You arrested because you were the driving the getaway car.

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Speaker 4: Now, now your wife had just had your third son,

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Speaker 4: but she held you down in prison jail because she

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Speaker 4: knows you're not a bad guy. You did your time

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Speaker 4: and you got home six months ago. You didn't really

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Speaker 4: say how much time you're doing. I'm assuming a couple

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Speaker 4: of years, you know, eighteen months something on the plea

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Speaker 4: there you didn't know. But let's say you were gone

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Speaker 4: a couple of years. All right, You come out and

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Speaker 4: you listen to the radio show why you was locked up?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 4: And Strawberry Letter won your favorite thing. So that got

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Speaker 4: you through. We appreciate y'all, brothers. Since it's it's on lockdown.

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Speaker 4: Hope we do something to get you through. Now you

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Speaker 4: You ain't say nothing. Next morning, she got a call

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Speaker 4: I think it started with shut shut the spine door. Yeah, okay, sure,

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Speaker 4: the best way to approach it? Well, brother, things have changed.

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Speaker 4: She dressing different as she's smoking weed. She's gone through

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Speaker 4: a lot holding this family down while you was gone.

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Speaker 4: But really, though, brother, these is the consequences of your

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Speaker 4: the same crew. Association brings on participation. So now here

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Speaker 4: selfishly didn't tell you. You got caught up. You had

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Speaker 3: She then told you stop hanging with them fools.

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Speaker 4: You wouldn't do it because you was keeping it real

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Speaker 4: instead of keeping it mo. You was not forgetting where

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Speaker 4: you're from. You was getting caught up in all that

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Speaker 4: hood lingo. There ain't got nothing to do with your family.

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Speaker 4: So now here's a deal. Shirley said it right. You've

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Speaker 4: got to get yourself together. But now you have a

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Speaker 4: So you've got everything. All of this you bought on yourself.

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Speaker 4: So now I can't tell you that your marriage will

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Speaker 4: has male friends, now, she has people that has done

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Speaker 4: things for her to help her out. Now, I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: be angry with this sister, because you put this sister

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Speaker 3: You just can't now why she dressing different. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I should have changed.

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Speaker 4: Is she wearing your clothes? I don't know what this

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Speaker 4: your clothes? She wear baseball hats cocked to the side.

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Speaker 4: Is I don't know what the clothes is. But she

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Speaker 4: rational in out sex and money because she don't know

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Speaker 4: how long you gonna be wrong. You might have to

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Speaker 4: go again. I don't know what it is, brother, but

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Speaker 4: with the woman. So she was put in survival mode.

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Speaker 4: I don't think you should explode on her because you

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Speaker 4: third son. Woman got three kids, she got put in

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Speaker 4: survival mode. She had some male friends, it looks like,

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Speaker 4: and they're not your male friends.

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Speaker 3: Good luck.

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Speaker 4: Don't explode on the system. Maybe it's time for you

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Speaker 4: to just go somewhere and get yourself together, like Shirley say,

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Speaker 4: take care of your kids.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, all right?

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