1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:00,640 Speaker 1: All right. 2 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 2: See this is from Trey and Steve HARVEFM. Trey says, 3 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 2: I've been working long hours trying to land a promotion 4 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 2: that would really help us financially and lead to better 5 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 2: school options, more family vacations, less stress overall. But in 6 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 2: chasing that goal, I've barely seen my kids the last 7 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 2: few months. My son just turned eleven, and when I 8 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 2: asked what he wanted to do for his birthday, he 9 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 2: said nothing. Maybe we can go to dinner. I know 10 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 2: you're busy. It gutted me. I want to give them everything, 11 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 2: but not at the cost of actually knowing them. How 12 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 2: do I find the balance between being a good provider 13 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 2: and being a present father when it feels like doing 14 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 2: both well is impossible? 15 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:47,480 Speaker 1: Perfect It is impossible because listen to me, Bishop Jake's 16 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: put it best. If you are trying to be a 17 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 1: good father and a good husband, it is impossible because 18 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: guess what. In in order to provide for them, you 19 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: have to go and be about the business. You have 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: to miss recitals, you have to be away from them, 21 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: you have to go to grind and the hustle is real. 22 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: It will call on you many times when you don't 23 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: feel like going if you spend all your time with them, 24 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: now you can't get out there and provide them to 25 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: things that they want, need, deserve and love to have. 26 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: So all that better education you're talking about providing for them, 27 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: all those wonderful vacations, you're talking about providing for them, 28 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:32,320 Speaker 1: that will not happen. It will not happen. And that 29 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 1: and that you're trying to do it without stress, that's 30 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 1: not gonna happen. So brother, welcome to manhood. If you 31 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: are trying to be a father and a husband, you 32 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: will never get at one hundred. That's why it is 33 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: one of the most thankless jobs in the world. Being 34 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: a real dad and being a real husband is a 35 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: very thankless position because it is going to cost you 36 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: so many moments to be able to do one thing 37 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: that is required of you in the art of provision. 38 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: So welcome to the club. Brother, questions, Now you can 39 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:08,359 Speaker 1: go to the questions. 40 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 2: I have a question because you know women do that too. 41 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 2: They they they're not considered the providers. But if they 42 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: have to go to work, have children, you know, do 43 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 2: it all. They want it all and everything. But many 44 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 2: women are but wait, wait, wait, this is my question. 45 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 2: Women suffer from guilt because of their mothers. Do men 46 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 2: have guilt? 47 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: Do men? Yeah? 48 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:30,119 Speaker 2: That guilt all the time. 49 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 1: I mean he just said he gutted it. Man Winchon 50 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: often tells his story about the time they daddy. They 51 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: had painted this big chair of gold because I was 52 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: supposed to come that day and they was finally gonna 53 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: Wintam was gonna finally be able to prove to him 54 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: that Steve Harvey my daddy. I couldn't go. I got 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: called and to this day he brings that up, you know. 56 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 2: And it makes you feel. 57 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was another six months before they believe was 58 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: my daddy till you came up there. 59 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 2: Wow, you know, gilt written. Yeah, great advice though, we 60 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 2: have time for another one. This is from Herb on 61 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 2: Steve Harvey FM. Herb says, my wife's been on a 62 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 2: serious health kick the last six months, working out every day, 63 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 2: eating clean and looking better than ever. I'm proud of her, 64 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 2: and she's tried to get me involved too, but I 65 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 2: haven't managed to stick with it. I've actually gained a 66 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 2: little weight lately. I've started to wonder if she's doing 67 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 2: all this just for herself, or if there's someone else 68 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 2: she wants to look good for I hate that my 69 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 2: brain goes there, but I can't shake the feeling. Am 70 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 2: I just being insecure? Or is it possible my instincts 71 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 2: are right? Fair? No, yeah, that's what it is. 72 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: No, one more time, Tommy. It's your fan and the 73 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 1: gym a quick complace. Yeah. No, man, now, because you 74 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: weak in the discipline department. Now you won't dump it 75 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: on her. No, I ain't got none to do with 76 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: her dog. This year's she looks better than she's ever looked, 77 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: and you're gaining weight. Well, fat boy, let's look at 78 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: it this way. 79 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 2: We've told you about fat shaming on this show, sir, 80 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 2: and he need to get shamed. 81 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: He need to get shamed. 82 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 2: Doing a movie role like bow Wow. 83 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: Fat shaming is for women. Men can't get fast shamed. 84 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: Get your big chubby down in that gym before somebody 85 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: she at the gym. Boy, I'm gonna tell you right now, 86 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: I hate that my mind goes there. She probably gonna 87 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: hate the fact that you're weak. See this is the 88 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:36,359 Speaker 1: conversations men have. 89 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 2: All right, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show