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Speaker 2: No, it's next level good. Like you can't walk into

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Speaker 1: either way.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: He was like, this is what happens when you think

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Speaker 2: And I was like, right, god right yeah. He was

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Speaker 2: like you can get hot out there, because baby, it

447
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Speaker 2: was hot. Yeah. I was like, hm hmm, you're right, Lord,

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Speaker 2: I trust you. I trust you, you know.

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Speaker 1: But we flash so every now and then because sometimes

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Speaker 2: Yeah right, you get to thinking that it's you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm so good at I'm doing so good right now.

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Speaker 1: Baby, I noticed GPS is hooked to all the satellites,

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Speaker 1: but I know better.

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Speaker 2: No you don't. Yeah, you know that there's a source

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Speaker 2: You really are gifted, my dear. How does that operate

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Speaker 2: in your family? How do people like.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, just I would imagine that it's it's

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Speaker 2: But sometimes in your house, like your child might be like, oh, mom.

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Speaker 1: You know, I think when it comes to my kids

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Speaker 1: and I and I do believe my daughter is gifted

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Speaker 1: as well. She dreams sometime we cold dream. We've done

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Speaker 1: that over the years. Wow, being the same dream. It's

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Speaker 1: the most craziest thing. We don't know while we're in it,

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Speaker 1: but when we wake up and we're like, did you

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Speaker 1: and we can finish the sentence, it was like we

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Speaker 1: were in the same dream. And she'll, you know, she'll

511
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Speaker 1: dream something like we both can know when somebody's pregnant, right,

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Speaker 1: it'll go dream Like one of my friends she sent

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Speaker 1: me a text and she was like, Mommy, I think

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Speaker 1: John Till might be pregnant.

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Speaker 2: She was like, and I think it's a girl.

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Speaker 1: And so I text a screenshot of it to my

517
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Speaker 1: girlfriend John Till and she text me back the picture

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Speaker 1: of the pregnancy test and a video where they were

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Speaker 1: just going to tell their family that they're pregnant.

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Speaker 2: With a little girl.

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Speaker 1: Oh and so she calls at her baby. And then

522
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Speaker 1: when I text her back, I said, I told you

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Speaker 1: got mommy's gift.

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Speaker 2: She sends, like the crying of motors. No, I don't

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Speaker 2: want it. I don't want it.

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Speaker 3: Bobby.

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Speaker 1: She was like, that's that's much because she's been you know,

528
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Speaker 1: she's my daughter, so she knows what I've gone through

529
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Speaker 1: over the years.

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Speaker 2: But you know, my husband, who is my best friend.

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Speaker 1: Right. I grew up in the church, but that doesn't

532
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Speaker 1: mean I grew up knowing the Lord.

533
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Speaker 2: Right. I was taught, but.

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Speaker 1: Then really like letting God deposit in me, my whole

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Speaker 1: relationship change. So my husband did not grow up in

536
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Speaker 1: the church. He grew up with no knowledge of who

537
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Speaker 1: God was, who Jesus is, none of that stuff until

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Speaker 1: we got together. The best part about being gifted and

539
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Speaker 1: having this walk with the Lord is that my husband,

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Speaker 1: when he is asked about my gift, he'll say, this

541
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Speaker 1: is how I know God is real.

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Speaker 2: That's the best part. That's pretty great. Yep, come on, now.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's the best part. I said, Well, Lord, if

544
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Speaker 1: I don't have to do nothing else I've done enough.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting too because when we've had people, we've had

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Speaker 3: a lot of people, it's in real life, right, So

547
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Speaker 3: the podcast is actually meant to learn things about people's

548
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Speaker 3: real life that we can then yeah, deposit into our.

549
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Speaker 2: Own when we're in moments of confusion or whatever.

550
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Speaker 3: But anytime relationships come up, and some of the best

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Speaker 3: conversations about marriages and relationships.

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Speaker 2: The core is always their.

553
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Speaker 3: Their connection to God, that they have a shared you know,

554
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Speaker 3: equally yoked, right, they had Adrian in Israel. Even Sierra

555
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Speaker 3: was just here earlier today and she that's what she

556
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Speaker 3: credits her her.

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Speaker 2: Marriage to I just it's so obvious.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I mean you got He's so intentional, Like how

559
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Speaker 3: could you even have a healthy relationship without.

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Speaker 2: But also like look at the big picture.

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Speaker 1: God used me to introduce my husband to him. Oh yes,

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Speaker 1: do you understand how I do like it? Like he

563
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Speaker 1: used his wife to show himself how many years married?

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Speaker 1: Now we are twenty two years married, twenty seven.

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Speaker 3: What has been the toughest not toughest part of that,

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Speaker 3: what's been the most challenging thing that you've had to

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Speaker 3: face to be.

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Speaker 2: A good wife For.

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Speaker 1: The most challenging thing was saying yes to myself right.

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Speaker 1: Because I'm from the South, right, so I grew up

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Speaker 1: seeing women serve right when it comes to their husbands.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: My grandparents were married fifty two years. My mom and

574
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Speaker 1: daddy were married for twenty five before they separated. But

575
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Speaker 1: I've always seen it, like my uncle's aunts, everybody's married.

576
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Speaker 1: I've always seen it, and so I always did everything.

577
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Speaker 1: Every my children and my husband always came first, until

578
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Speaker 1: I got to the place of like, Okay, I'm sick.

579
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Speaker 2: I haven't been really good to myself.

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Speaker 1: I've put myself last for many years, and I enjoy

581
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Speaker 1: serving my husband right.

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Speaker 2: It was very hard.

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Speaker 1: For me to say no. It was so that I

584
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Speaker 1: could have my own yes. It was hard for me

585
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Speaker 1: to say I'm tired.

586
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Speaker 2: It is. It's still a challenge for me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, because you even like saying it, just I

588
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 1: didn't like saying it. It's tough because and my mama

589
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Speaker 1: told me this before I got married. She told me,

590
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Speaker 1: she said, don't start nothing you don't want to maintain.

591
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Speaker 2: She told me that.

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Speaker 1: I said, girl, what you're talking about. She said, I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you don't start nothing, you don't want to maintain

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Speaker 1: and I have always, but I do enjoy it, right,

595
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Speaker 1: I enjoy like cooking for my family and I always

596
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Speaker 1: six to my husband's plate first.

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Speaker 2: Everybody know that.

598
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Speaker 1: And now I have my son, so my husband get

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Speaker 1: his plate, my son gets his plate. And so it was.

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Speaker 1: It was was it last Thanksgiving? It is either last

601
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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving or Thanksgiving before last. I had a whole moment.

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Speaker 1: You don't go with tough pairmenopause. Yeah, I told my husband.

603
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Speaker 1: I said, you know what, you don't never fix my plate.

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Speaker 1: I had a whole attitude, girl, I had a whole attitude.

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Speaker 1: He said, well, by you you did you want me

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Speaker 1: to fix?

607
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Speaker 2: I didn't.

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Speaker 1: Do you want me to pick your plate? I said,

609
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Speaker 1: why shouldn't have to ask you? He said, well, I

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Speaker 1: I didn't.

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Speaker 2: Know that you was upset about. I didn't even know

612
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Speaker 2: what the thing.

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Speaker 1: And I had to walk myself back and I was like, girl,

614
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: you created a routine that he is used to and

615
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: now you mad at what you created. And all I

616
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Speaker 1: heard was my mama said, don't start nothing you don't

617
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Speaker 1: want to maintain, because what could have been more like simplified,

618
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Speaker 1: or I could have started a difference between me like

619
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Speaker 1: on this day, I want you to cook for me,

620
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Speaker 1: or like less agreet it like you cooked this day,

621
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Speaker 1: or you serve me or whatever little things. But I

622
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: never did. I just continued on because I did enjoy it.

623
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Speaker 1: But now, girl, I got fifty leven jobs and then

624
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Speaker 1: you have kids and all the things. But your needs change,

625
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 1: you need you change. Right, He's changed, We both changed.

626
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: That's the thing about marriage. You have to know that

627
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 1: you're both going to change. Some of them seasons you're

628
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: gonna love it. Some of them seasons not so much. Right,

629
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Speaker 1: you just both have to agree and understand that. Baby,

630
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Speaker 1: when we in this change, we won't have to respect

631
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: each other. Right, We got to change into whoever it

632
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: is the next season that we're going to become or be.

633
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: But that's been the toughest part.

634
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Speaker 2: Right has he adapted to that?

635
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Speaker 1: Listen, it's tough for him too, But he's also like

636
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Speaker 1: me and are are simple. You just got to communicate

637
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Speaker 1: with him. And that's the thing as a woman I

638
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Speaker 1: had to. I literally had to realize, girl, he can't

639
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Speaker 1: read your mind. Even if I think he should know,

640
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Speaker 1: I can never assume that. Also, how would I feel

641
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Speaker 1: if I just think, I mean, if you know if

642
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 1: he thought the same of me and doesn't tell me,

643
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Speaker 1: like you got a issue with me, but you ain't

644
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Speaker 1: telling me, And I think I'm doing everything right, it

645
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Speaker 1: ain't fair.

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Speaker 2: Right, it's the same thing, but it's some for whatever reason.

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Speaker 1: Women, Because I think we are natural nurturers, we just

648
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Speaker 1: assume other people feel the same way.

649
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Speaker 2: We don't want to ask.

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Speaker 3: I also think asking for you what you want sometimes

651
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Speaker 3: requires you to be vulnerable.

652
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Speaker 2: And Nope, if people want somebody to just know what

653
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Speaker 2: they want to do they want, it's not really fair.

654
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Speaker 1: But also because I have I spent almost twenty years

655
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Speaker 1: learning everything.

656
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Speaker 2: About him, what.

657
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: He likes, what he doesn't like, how he wants his food,

658
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: what he wants to eat, his clothes, like, his hobbies,

659
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: like all the things I know my husband ruin through.

660
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Speaker 2: And if somebody come and try to tell me something

661
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 2: about my husband, I.

662
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 1: Be like, you use a lie, okay, I know that

663
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: means okay. And then I realized I knew more about

664
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: him than I did about me. But when you spend

665
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: that much time getting to know someone, because I wanted

666
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: to be a good wife, right, and nothing is wrong

667
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 1: with that. It's great that I did that, but I

668
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: also got to give myself that same energy. Yeah, you know,

669
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: because what happens is when you learned that, you expect

670
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 1: them to do the same for you. But the best

671
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: way to show somebody who you are is to live

672
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: your life out loud. So I got to treat myself

673
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: the way I want him to treat me, and then

674
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: he'll know how to do things without me having to ask.

675
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: So I couldn't.

676
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 1: I had to stop trying to be in control of

677
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: everything like I do it. No, I got it, Oh, no,

678
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 1: I do because you know I want to do them right.

679
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 2: The holidays season is upon us. I know it came

680
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 2: so fast, right, So.

681
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 3: One thing I am working on in my home is

682
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,479
Speaker 3: trying to make my home feel festive. And also I

683
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 3: have a lot of people over for the holidays, so

684
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 3: sometimes that means any extra chairs and things. And I

685
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 3: started thinking about my grandmother, my grandmother. I come from

686
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 3: a family where my grandmother would host every year with

687
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 3: second cousins, third cousins, and she had a very small home,

688
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 3: but she hosted a big party and everything in the

689
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 3: house would be dripping in holiday things.

690
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 2: I mean everything.

691
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 3: The toilet had like a Santa Claus on the toilet

692
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 3: the napkins in the house were Christmas napkins.

693
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: I mean, if there was an inch of her.

694
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 3: House, it was dripped in holiday And I don't want

695
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 3: to do that, but I do like the idea of

696
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 3: recreating that much joy and that much festiveness in my home.

697
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 3: And there's so many things at Wayfair that you can

698
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: get for that, and they don't have to be like

699
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 3: the Santa Claus on the toilet, whether it's candles or

700
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 3: tablecloths or just extra seeding because I do have extra

701
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 3: people come in the house. Folding chairs, you can get

702
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 3: great folding chairs at Wayfair. And the good thing too

703
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 3: is you can order that stuff and it comes right

704
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 3: to your house without having to pay for delivery, which

705
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 3: is super helpful or out lugging it having to run

706
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 3: to the store and get all that stuff and packing

707
00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 3: in the car and.

708
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: Then pack it out it know who wants to deal

709
00:32:59,680 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 2: with that.

710
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,959
Speaker 3: So for the holidays, really it is a great It

711
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 3: is my go to place for just like judging up

712
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 3: the house to feel festive around the holiday season and

713
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: also setting up to host to invite people over and

714
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 3: the more people that are normally in my house and

715
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 3: to accommodate for that, which usually means extra chairs. Maybe

716
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 3: you wanted to get some new you know, plates or tableware,

717
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 3: and of course Wayfair has all that great stuff and

718
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 3: all the things to make you feel really festive.

719
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna be spending a lot of.

720
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 3: Time with Wayfair over the next month getting my home

721
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 3: ready for there. So you can take advantage of some

722
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Speaker 3: of these Wayfair deals that are going on right now.

723
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Speaker 3: Don't miss out on early Black Friday deals. Those are

724
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Speaker 3: happening and they're big. Head to wayfair dot com now

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Speaker 3: to shop Wayfair Black Friday deals for up to seventy

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Speaker 3: percent off. That's Wayfair w A y fai r dot

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Speaker 3: com and the sale ends December seventh.

728
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so sometimes we do that right. Sometimes let them

729
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: just wrong. Sometimes let them do it wrong.

730
00:33:58,440 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes let them do it wrong.

731
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes let him do it wrong and then say, you

732
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: know what back, thank you for doing it, but next time,

733
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 1: can you do it like this?

734
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 2: That's so funny.

735
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 3: One of my girlfriends we were talking to other friends

736
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 3: who just had a baby, and she was complaining her

737
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 3: man wasn't doing this, he wasn't changing the diaper and

738
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 3: he wasn't And my other friend was like, he's not

739
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 3: going to do it the way you want to do

740
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 3: it anyway.

741
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, so just do it yourself, don't complain. I'm like,

742
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,720
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's healthy, but I totally get it. Yeah,

743
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 2: Or we like be okay with not being in control

744
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: all the time. Yeah, all the time. They take you

745
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,399
Speaker 2: a nap and let him go ahead, let them tear

746
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 2: it up. If they tear it up, either do it

747
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 2: yourself or be okay with it. Not be and the

748
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 2: way you won't. Yeah, absolutely, that is really good. Yeah. Well,

749
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 2: first of all, on another note, I am so happy

750
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 2: for you to see because now that I we we've

751
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 2: watched this career of yours blossom and where it started

752
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 2: and what you've been through, and to now know you're

753
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: like in this movie. I'm so excited and doing this movie.

754
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 2: It's like, so you've really worked for this moments, Yes, right,

755
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 2: like you really have.

756
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 1: This was my childhood dream to you know, being a movie,

757
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 1: being a big screen, like all the things. I've been

758
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: acting for a really long time and people did not

759
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:11,320
Speaker 1: know me from acting.

760
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 2: So I'm so grateful.

761
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: Like Unexpected Christmas is a film that not only is

762
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: great for the entire family, but for relationships like mothers

763
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 1: and daughters and family. Yeah, it's so good. It's conversations.

764
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 1: This is some drama in there, but it's healthy drama, right,

765
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: But it's comedy.

766
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 2: It just feels good.

767
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: It's one of those ones. It's like for the culture.

768
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: We will watch this for years to come.

769
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 2: Oh, I love that for you. I'm excited and I

770
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 2: get to cut up in there, get it cuts up.

771
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 2: I wear a little red wig on Donna. Hut I

772
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 2: could have.

773
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 3: Now.

774
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 2: I feel like this is going to be like every

775
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 2: year you'll do one of the house. Yes, come on

776
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 2: and speak it.

777
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 3: Yeah. I feel like this could be like a reoccurring,

778
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 3: like a series of these could happen because it's so.

779
00:35:56,960 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 2: You know, sometimes things just make sense exactly. This just

780
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 2: makes sense, right, See you just said it. That's confirmation.

781
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

782
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 2: I love to take you. You deserve that.

783
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789
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Speaker 3: are in control.

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798
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Speaker 2: Can we go into it with the life boat? These

799
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:54,080
Speaker 2: are just some questions to start up. You're so lovely?

800
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 2: Oh okay, just pick one and see. Yeah, just pick

801
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 2: a question, all right? Do I read it? Yeah? What's

802
00:36:58,719 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: your question?

803
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 1: It says, what's one thing you hope never changes about you?

804
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 2: You have to answer or I have to answer. It's

805
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:08,720
Speaker 2: you about you? Oh girl, I hope my freedom never changes.

806
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 2: You know. I will never sell it again.

807
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 3: You will never sell it again. And it was in

808
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 3: that moment that you found your freedom. But it took

809
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 3: it took a long time, It took the steps to it.

810
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 3: You know.

811
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 1: The thing about it is you can still get triggered

812
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 1: by your old habits. Right, that's like healing.

813
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think we're ever like completely like healed.

814
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 1: You're you're always healing because you can be triggered by

815
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: something that the great thing is like, wait minute, let

816
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: me check it right?

817
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: Yeah so but.

818
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, so what just just take me back to the

819
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 3: freedom for a second.

820
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 2: What does that feel like? And what does that mean

821
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 2: for you to be in the moment of it? Like,

822
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,280
Speaker 2: what does it mean to be free? Oh?

823
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 1: It means honey, I can walk in any room. Maybe

824
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: you see Donna, you know, normally have a big afro act.

825
00:37:58,640 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 2: This is pretty.

826
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: I don't code switch, I don't conform. I never walk

827
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:10,239
Speaker 1: into any space with the intention to make other people

828
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:14,040
Speaker 1: feel comfortable. I walk in making sure I feel well,

829
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: that I can show up exactly who I am and

830
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: feel so good about it and just like make my

831
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 1: own choices right, choose joy every day and just continue

832
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 1: to just show up as who I am.

833
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 2: It feels heavenly. It's a very good girl.

834
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 3: How does it affect you when somebody, uh doesn't respond

835
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,720
Speaker 3: well to that? Now? Now, in this new free version

836
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 3: of yourself, because the old you want to people please them.

837
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 2: Probably, So what happens now.

838
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 3: If you walk into a room and you come in

839
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 3: with this bright, beautiful energy and somebody doesn't give you

840
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 3: that back or somebody responds poorly or receives you like,

841
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 3: how do you respond to that?

842
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:56,439
Speaker 2: Now?

843
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: Well, I still give them love and grace, right, because

844
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: their response is not to me. Their response is that

845
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,799
Speaker 1: I become a mirror. And so when people are not

846
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 1: in their own freedom work, my freedom makes them uncomfortable. Right,

847
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: So maybe what I'm gonna do, Okay, Well, honey, I

848
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: wish the best for you, right, So it's not about me.

849
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: It's like, that's that's your stuff that you're dealing with.

850
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna still give you love and peace and all

851
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:26,719
Speaker 1: the things, but I just don't you know, you don't

852
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 1: feel the need to. Yeah, yeah, but listen, I also

853
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: still have the ability to shift.

854
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 3: Right.

855
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: So I've had moments where people are a little you know,

856
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 1: a little cold, I still give them tab By the

857
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: end of whatever we're doing, they're like, you know what,

858
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 1: I was having a terrible day because somebody always going

859
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: through something they don't know nothing about. So you don't

860
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:52,439
Speaker 1: ever personalize it, don't ever make it about you, right,

861
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: I don't ever go into anything making it about me.

862
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 1: I just like just show up and if it's a

863
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: little cold or off putt, and I'm like, you know,

864
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: what they might be having a little something. Now if

865
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,839
Speaker 1: you just flat out being rude, you know, I ain't

866
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 1: gonna take that. You know, I also know how to

867
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: remove myself from a situation. People sometimes think when you extyin.

868
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 2: Grace that you're okay with being disrespected. Yeah, that ain't

869
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 2: what I'm saying.

870
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, that is a line line right, You ain't.

871
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 2: Got to listen and you have that boundary.

872
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, because Benita be trying to creep out. That's you know,

873
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: will come get you as I believe that.

874
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:48,319
Speaker 3: Okay, they probably deserve it, and they deserve it. I'm

875
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 3: sure in real life? What are you most proud of?

876
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 3: Let's talk about your career for one second, because I

877
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 3: know your connection of God and your family is important,

878
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 3: but just in your career, what you've been able to accomplish, Like,

879
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Speaker 3: what are you most proud of about? That?

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Speaker 2: It's so much.

881
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the thing that makes me most

882
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 1: proud in everything that I've done is that I've been

883
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 1: able to do it just being tailed right, that makes

884
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 1: me so proud. Like me and my dadd if we

885
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 1: talk about that all the time, He's like, you know,

886
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:20,320
Speaker 1: I just be so proud that that's my daughter. That's

887
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: my daughter from Eden, North Carolina. Like he says it

888
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: every week. He'd be like, I tell you every time

889
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 1: I see you do something like y'all know where she

890
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,919
Speaker 1: came from right here, you know. And to have made

891
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:36,799
Speaker 1: him proud and to be able to keep showing up,

892
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: you know, and all the things. Also, I mean, I'm

893
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:44,239
Speaker 1: so very proud of my children's show tap time for

894
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 1: people to trust me with their children.

895
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 2: You know.

896
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: The show was such a success. That means you have

897
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: people have trusted me with allowing their children to watch.

898
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 1: That says a lot, you know, And I want to

899
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: end me for my children.

900
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Speaker 2: Trying to do so I'm the good in the world.

901
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 1: I never imagine that show I could even win an

902
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: Emmy because I was like, it's a YouTube show. It's

903
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 1: YouTube original, but it's YouTube. I remember the first year

904
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Speaker 1: I got nominated.

905
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:15,280
Speaker 2: I was like how how but real like my mind.

906
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: Was blown right, look at God, Look at God. But

907
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 1: God said, you're gonna put limitations on me. I can

908
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: do anything. I said, you show Lord right now, honey,

909
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: it is sitting in my have a bar area that

910
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: you got to walk through to get to the kitchen.

911
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: So when you come into the house because whenever you

912
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:36,879
Speaker 1: know people come, then I want.

913
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Speaker 2: To to see it. I get to walk by and see it.

914
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Speaker 2: I got my it hits up on like I got.

915
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Speaker 1: Like a little record player thing. And then I have

916
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Speaker 1: my four Image Awards beside it.

917
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 2: Come on for Image Awards. It's like, I'm so proud

918
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 2: I put you'all to see it. I was to put

919
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:50,439
Speaker 2: it in my office.

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00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 1: I was like, everybody, don't go into office. Let me

921
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: just leave it.

922
00:42:55,520 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 2: I love it. I love that proud as you.

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Speaker 3: We have some We have a new feature with boost Mobile.

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Speaker 3: It's a voice note. Oh boost Mobile voice note. And

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Speaker 3: so this is usually somebody from our comment section or

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Speaker 3: from our Instagram. Somebody sent you a note today or

927
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 3: a question. I'm not really sure what it is, but

928
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 3: let's let's hear it.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Tabitha, you're the Auntie inside my head. You've trained

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00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 5: my life in so many ways. I recently watched your

931
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 5: video Are you living the life you were born to

932
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 5: live or the life you.

933
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 2: Were influenced to live?

934
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 5: And I've gone from feeling stuck and waking up miserable

935
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 5: every morning before work. But now I still have the

936
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 5: same job, but I've made a lot of changes that

937
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,800
Speaker 5: are making me feel happier, but I am going through

938
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 5: some discomfort. How do you personally tell the difference between

939
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 5: discomfort that is growing pains versus discomfort that's actually your

940
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 5: spirit saying this isn't aligned for you.

941
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:55,720
Speaker 2: That's a great question.

942
00:43:56,200 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 1: Yeah it is, so, she said, I'm still in the

943
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 1: job that she don't like, but I made some changes

944
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: and she's still uncomfortable. So she's gonna be if she

945
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: continues to be uncomfortable even after the changes, it's time

946
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: to go right. And the other thing that you know,

947
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 1: God would make you so uncomfortable sometimes and if you

948
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:24,319
Speaker 1: choose not to, he'll push you out of there.

949
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Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

950
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 2: And she also said you was like auntie her auntie

951
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 2: the word auntie. Mary J.

952
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:38,320
Speaker 3: Blige does not enjoy people calling her auntie, and I understand.

953
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes demands will be like how old are you call

954
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 2: me auntie? But you know what I'm saying, how do you?

955
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 2: But people do refer and feel that about you? How

956
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 2: does that land for you? I love it.

957
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 1: It's a term of endearment for me. But in real life,

958
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,400
Speaker 1: I've been an auntie since I was ten. My nephew

959
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 1: was born when I was in fifth grade and really

960
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,800
Speaker 1: the best auntie listen I have and.

961
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 2: Other people's kids. My friend's kid is like, I love it.

962
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 2: But I'm also I'm from the cell.

963
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I'm forty six, but my spirit probably two

964
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 1: hundred years old, you know, because I have had an

965
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 1: old spirit my whole life. That's why people are like,

966
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: I thought you were like sixty years old, but then

967
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: I look at you.

968
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Speaker 2: You don't look sixty, but you you have a whole friend.

969
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 2: I'm like, I have an old spirit. I know that

970
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 2: about myself.

971
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 1: And I also been mothering and with my husband for

972
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 1: twenty seven years. My bonus daughter is thirty.

973
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 2: Wait how old were you when you got married? I

974
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 2: was twenty three. Wow, that's you knew a difference. Four Yeah, girl,

975
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 2: I was still a girl.

976
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Speaker 3: The fact that the two of you have made it

977
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 3: through all those phases in life, it's really a blessing

978
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 3: and lovely because that usually when people grow, sometimes they

979
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 3: grow in different directions. Where you guys have managed to

980
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 3: have that experience together.

981
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,799
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful. Yeah, I love them and I like them.

982
00:45:57,200 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's what does you know? Because we all

983
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: love by the fault like naturally we love because we

984
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:03,959
Speaker 1: all have a heart.

985
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 2: We were designed to do so, but we were not

986
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:09,879
Speaker 2: designed to like and you both but I like them.

987
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 2: Good for you this week. I like them a lot

988
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 2: this week maybe next one. You never know, you next week,

989
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 2: you never know. What do you think about your legacy?

990
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 2: Do you think about that ever? And what do you

991
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 2: think that will be? I am often uh asked that question?

992
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 1: And I hope that my legacy was that you know,

993
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:38,360
Speaker 1: she lived her life freely, but her intention was always

994
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: to to bring love and joy, to make people feel

995
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 1: seen and heard, but to always make people feel like

996
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: they had a friend in me.

997
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, what are you doing? Do you ever have these

998
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 3: moments still? I mean, I guess we all do, even

999
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 3: when you're in as much as clear as your purpose

1000
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 3: as you are, just a day, bad day, or day

1001
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 3: of doubt or yeah, well you.

1002
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 2: Question, am I who I think I am? You know

1003
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,280
Speaker 2: what I'm saying? Like, do you still have those moments

1004
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,799
Speaker 2: in your life? Sometimes it's not the am I who

1005
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 2: I think I am? Like?

1006
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 1: I know who I am? But I definitely have bad days.

1007
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 1: Gradually got hit in the bag trying to be in control.

1008
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 1: But I absolutely have bad days. I have days where

1009
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: I question, like, God.

1010
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 2: Was I supposed to do that? I prayed about it.

1011
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 2: You told me, but it feels uncomfortable. But he still.

1012
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 1: Says, like you I didn't say you could have everything

1013
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: without discomfort.

1014
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 2: I said, Oh, you didn't say that, did you. I

1015
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 2: said that.

1016
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:42,280
Speaker 1: I thought, Oh, that was tab saying that this should

1017
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: be comfortable because the Lord gave it to me. That

1018
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 1: ain't what he said. You know, he said weapons before them,

1019
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: but they wouldn't prosper. Okay, so sometimes the weapons might

1020
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 1: hurt a little bit, but they won't prosper.

1021
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Speaker 3: quick What about your connection to food? And this is

1042
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Speaker 3: more than food right for you, especially in your career

1043
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 3: and what you've built, But like even how you've chosen

1044
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 3: chose to eat and be in lifestyle and health, I

1045
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 3: just I don't know what have you learned about it is?

1046
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 2: What is its role in your life?

1047
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 1: When I decided to go be and I did it

1048
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: after watching the documentary because.

1049
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 2: I was sick, what the hell?

1050
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So my daughter came home from school, she

1051
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 1: was fifteen at the time, and she said, Mommy, we

1052
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: saw this documentary at school.

1053
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 2: I think you should watch it. And it was what

1054
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 2: the hell? So me and my husband was like it

1055
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 2: was on net place.

1056
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: We was like, okay, let's watch it as a family,

1057
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 1: and they started talking about not all diseases are hereditary, right,

1058
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: Sometimes things run in the bloodline and it reacts to

1059
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 1: the food because everybody's eating the same food. So I

1060
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,280
Speaker 1: started to think, like, Okay, my mama died at fifty

1061
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 1: one of a rare disease. Als there's no cause or cure.

1062
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 1: At the time I did it was sixty five. He's

1063
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: now seventy three or just curting seventy four. He's the

1064
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 1: oldest man to ever live in our family at seventy

1065
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 1: three years old.

1066
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:56,880
Speaker 2: Wow, right, And I thought it was similar reasons. Similar license.

1067
00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: They have massive heart attacks, strokes, all these you know

1068
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:01,760
Speaker 1: things are just happening.

1069
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 2: They die young.

1070
00:50:03,840 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 1: And so I just thought, well, I've tried every drug

1071
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 1: the doctor has offered I. I I even was getting

1072
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 1: like shots in my head. I was getting all kinds

1073
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 1: of stuff. I was a guinea pig, but I had

1074
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:16,959
Speaker 1: not tried that. And so I was like, well, maybe

1075
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 1: I do a thirty day Beacon challenge. And I asked

1076
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 1: my husband, like, can.

1077
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 2: We do it together? And he was like, y'all do

1078
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 2: it with you. I was like, cause what I have

1079
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 2: to lose.

1080
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: In the first ten days of doing this challenge, that

1081
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: headache I had every day for a year and seven

1082
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 1: months disappeared Wow, and I was like, okay, I'm onto something, right,

1083
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: So I continued. Even after thirty days, I decided this

1084
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: is going to be my life. I don't know how

1085
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 1: it happened, but people started to see me different. They

1086
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 1: would be like, you seem like you just have this

1087
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:52,080
Speaker 1: light and I'd be like I do. They were like,

1088
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: I don't know your skin is going. I was like,

1089
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,280
Speaker 1: maybe it's I'm even gland.

1090
00:50:56,360 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 2: I'm drinking water, you know.

1091
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:01,400
Speaker 1: And I wasn't a bad eater before. I haven't had

1092
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 1: read meat a pork in over thirty years. I'm allergic

1093
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 1: to dairy like most of us. And I was a

1094
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 1: very mindful eater, but I was never eating to feel well.

1095
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 2: I used to eat to look.

1096
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 1: A certain way, which is also a sickness, right, because

1097
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: now that's like like I don't care if it's hurting

1098
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: me as long as I look good. That's not good, right.

1099
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 1: What I found in being vegan after healing myself, you

1100
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,279
Speaker 1: start to read more, and you start to you know,

1101
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 1: do different events that are begging events, and you get

1102
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:40,880
Speaker 1: invited all these things, and then you start realizing, like, oh,

1103
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 1: I started connecting the animal to the food. And I

1104
00:51:44,160 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 1: was like, I'll never be the you know, a person

1105
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,240
Speaker 1: that make anybody feel bad for what they're doing, because

1106
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 1: I will be hypocrite, Like I'm the only vegan in

1107
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:51,840
Speaker 1: my house.

1108
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 2: Right.

1109
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: But I started to do this research about chickens. Right,

1110
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 1: chickens because of the high demand for them, they're doing

1111
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 1: this mass producing of them. They're always in a constant

1112
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 1: state of panic. They're having panic attack after panic attack. Now,

1113
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: when I was sick and I had manic panic attacks,

1114
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: I eat chicken every day. And so I just started

1115
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 1: in prayer and writing down and research, and God was like,

1116
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: there's a sand You are what you eat. And I

1117
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: was like, I was eating manic, panic, fear, all the

1118
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: things that I had been feeling. This is my own

1119
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: journey for myself, my own feelings inside. And then I

1120
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 1: just was like, I also kept doing like I'm going

1121
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: to die. I was eating death every day. Then I

1122
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: started to eat things that were alive plants, and I

1123
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 1: started to feel more alive, and I just, I don't know,

1124
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: I just my mind got more clear, right, But then

1125
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 1: I had more compassion. I always loved animals, but I

1126
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 1: never connect them to the plate.

1127
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 2: It's just because you go to the store, they ain't

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00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:03,439
Speaker 2: gonna show you.

1129
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 1: You go, you don't you know, chicken ain't gonna be

1130
00:53:06,360 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 1: no chicken sitting there looking at you like, it's just

1131
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: gonna be the meat, you know.

1132
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 2: But I started to see it differently. Yeah, And I

1133
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 2: would go.

1134
00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:17,680
Speaker 1: To sanctuaries and spend time with them. Even with the pigs.

1135
00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 1: You know, everybody says, you know, pigs are these like

1136
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 1: builthy animals, right, They're so smart. They're the smartest animal.

1137
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: They will not use the bathroom where they eat. If

1138
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 1: they're the dirtiest animal. Why do they do that? They

1139
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:36,280
Speaker 1: say that because they roll in the mud to cool off.

1140
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:39,359
Speaker 1: That's how they get their skin from getting burned. Right,

1141
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,800
Speaker 1: But they're also so amazing. You can take a farm

1142
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 1: pig right and put it into the wild and it

1143
00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 1: will grow hair and tusk to blend in, to become wild.

1144
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 2: I said, say what now, I couldn't believe it. I said,

1145
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:03,359
Speaker 2: how you do that? Talk about God's creation? God said,

1146
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,439
Speaker 2: I'm gonna protect you so you can blend in over here.

1147
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:07,320
Speaker 2: It just blew my mind.

1148
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: Cows are like big dogs, you were like, right, Like,

1149
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 1: I mean, I won't eat it no way. But I

1150
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 1: just like, as I was learning, they're just I mean,

1151
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:19,920
Speaker 1: my dream is to, you know, move back to the.

1152
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 2: South, get me a whole bunch of land and get animals.

1153
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:25,239
Speaker 1: But I really want a cow so I can raise

1154
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 1: it like a dog, so I can just show people, like,

1155
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 1: look at this right. They are so smart. They they're playful,

1156
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 1: like you see a young Oh my god, girl, look

1157
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:39,240
Speaker 1: up cows playing.

1158
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 2: You can do that. They'll go get the ball, bring

1159
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: it back with that. It is the it's mind blowing.

1160
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:45,960
Speaker 1: I'll be telling my husband all the time, I'm gonna

1161
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 1: you're gonna come home one there's gonna be a cow

1162
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 1: right here, and I'm.

1163
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 2: Raising just like a dog. There can't come in the house.

1164
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: And I got to draw the line somewhere because I

1165
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 1: don't know if you can train when you use the

1166
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: bathroom and stuff and.

1167
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:55,720
Speaker 2: They get big.

1168
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:58,720
Speaker 1: But you have those little miniature ones in like other countries.

1169
00:54:58,719 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 1: I might get me one of them.

1170
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely do it. That's my dream. One day I'm

1171
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:07,400
Speaker 2: gonna have them. And so how many years now have

1172
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,280
Speaker 2: you been eating like that? Eight years? Eight years? Wow? Yeah,

1173
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 2: eight years? Whole life changed. It saved my life and

1174
00:55:15,719 --> 00:55:20,240
Speaker 2: changed my life. Yeah, I'm just so grateful your parents.

1175
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: Ever, my daddy went began him and my stepmam for

1176
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 1: two years, and I'm so grateful for the two years

1177
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: that when he did go right in the beginning, it

1178
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 1: was about it was March yet March twenty eighteen, he

1179
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 1: was like, we're gonna try it, and I you know,

1180
00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 1: it was still new for me. And in October he

1181
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: had a stroke and I had to fly home because

1182
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:49,040
Speaker 1: they were like, oh, they found like this, you know,

1183
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 1: leak on the brain, all the stuff, they're gonna have

1184
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:53,360
Speaker 1: to do brain surgery, like it was bad. Had the

1185
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 1: airlift hi because I'm from a small town, so they

1186
00:55:55,239 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 1: had a airlift him from on a helicopter to the

1187
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: next biggest city to the hospital. So I get there.

1188
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: He's in intensive care. Now, mind you, I was talking

1189
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 1: to my daddy on the phone. I'm daddiest girl. So

1190
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 1: me and my dad, you know, we talk every day.

1191
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 1: He was at work. This is before he retired. He's

1192
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 1: worked at the meal in the factory and me and

1193
00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:16,320
Speaker 1: my daddy we have a thing that you know, we

1194
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 1: we call each other every day. So when we answered

1195
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 1: the phone, if I s if I call him and

1196
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:24,399
Speaker 1: he'll say, uh, you know, I'll say.

1197
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:26,800
Speaker 2: Bruce Thomas, what's going on? Man? And he'd be like,

1198
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 2: ain't nothing going on? What's going on? Tap? Like we

1199
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 2: just do that.

1200
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:33,359
Speaker 1: And so I called him and when he answered the phone,

1201
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 1: I said, Bruce Thomas, what's going on with you?

1202
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 2: Man?

1203
00:56:35,640 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: And he said, well, I don't know. I'm sitting here

1204
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 1: at my desk and I'm trying to write my name.

1205
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: I can't write it. I said, there are you having

1206
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,800
Speaker 1: a stroke. There are you having a stroke? Cause the

1207
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: strokes also are in my family.

1208
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:50,400
Speaker 2: You caught him in that.

1209
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:52,800
Speaker 1: In that moment, I called my sister. I said, go

1210
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: go to the meal. Daddy having a stroke.

1211
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 2: He said, well, I can't have a stroke. I got too.

1212
00:56:56,280 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 1: He's also a barber the barber shop right by the

1213
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 1: meal and so I can stroke cause I got two

1214
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:04,000
Speaker 1: heads to cut. The dass it, diddy, you you got

1215
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:06,760
Speaker 1: to go to the hospital. You are having a stroke.

1216
00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 1: So my sister I call her. She's about fifteen minutes away.

1217
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:11,600
Speaker 1: She head down.

1218
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 2: He then left the hen left the mill, drove his

1219
00:57:14,920 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 2: truck to the barber shop and he cutting hair. This

1220
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 2: is like you on the highway, baby, You know what

1221
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 2: you right? I'm with you when you're right. Now, you're right.

1222
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:28,520
Speaker 2: It's just like you that highway, my sister. He would

1223
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 2: not leave the barber shop. Now. I don't know what

1224
00:57:30,320 --> 00:57:32,000
Speaker 2: them heads looked like when he finished cutting.

1225
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:34,440
Speaker 1: Man, you just had there having a whole stroke, and

1226
00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 1: youn gave two people a haircut.

1227
00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:37,600
Speaker 2: Then he went to the hospital.

1228
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 1: Within an hour from him getting there and them scanning,

1229
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 1: is when they put him in that helicopter to fly

1230
00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: him to say, so anyway I get there, I had

1231
00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 1: to fly in. So the doctors come. He's in intensive

1232
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,920
Speaker 1: care unit. Everybody on this floor has had a stroke

1233
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 1: similar or less than the one that his chart was shown.

1234
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:01,760
Speaker 1: They were paralyzed, some of them had went blind, like

1235
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:03,920
Speaker 1: literally couldn't talk everything.

1236
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 2: Wow.

1237
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 1: He had a slight slur, very slight. You could barely

1238
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 1: tell he was walking. His hand was like a little

1239
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:14,440
Speaker 1: bit weak. When they came in, they were like, well,

1240
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 1: we were going to do the surgery. But when we

1241
00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: checked it, the blockage like it just like it dissolved

1242
00:58:20,680 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 1: and went back into the blood stream. And I asked,

1243
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 1: and it was a team of doctors. They were so perplexed.

1244
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:29,520
Speaker 1: I said, tell me this, if you're seeing everybody on

1245
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 1: this floor has had a similar stroke or less than

1246
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: what my daddy's chart is saying. And they're all in

1247
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:37,920
Speaker 1: the condition they're in and my daddy is literally sitting

1248
00:58:38,000 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 1: up talking and can walk. Is anybody on this floor vegan?

1249
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 1: And they said no. I said, my dad had been

1250
00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:49,680
Speaker 1: eating vegan for like six months. And there was one doctor.

1251
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: He was Indian.

1252
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 2: He came back in after he said that is what

1253
00:58:53,280 --> 00:58:53,800
Speaker 2: Savior did.

1254
00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:56,920
Speaker 1: Is like, wow, he said, because it didn't there was

1255
00:58:57,120 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 1: no the blood didn't thicken like it was literally just

1256
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 1: it just dissolved back into the stream whatever the medical

1257
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 1: term is. And I said, oh, he said, I believe

1258
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:12,640
Speaker 1: that that is He said, that's the only difference he's

1259
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: eating differently than anybody else on this little Wow.

1260
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1261
00:59:15,920 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: I was like, well, Daddy, you see that. But then

1262
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:21,920
Speaker 1: a couple years later, what he do? That chicken had

1263
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:24,920
Speaker 1: a hold on it, and maybe that's his business. He

1264
00:59:24,960 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 1: eat that chicken in that fish, but he don't do

1265
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:28,080
Speaker 1: no red meat, no fork of that.

1266
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 2: Maybe it was just that season that was meant to

1267
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 2: save him. Listeners.

1268
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 1: It was also you know, he probably thought he was

1269
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 1: in control because he'd been you know, he's supposed to

1270
00:59:36,640 --> 00:59:38,960
Speaker 1: had been retired. He was working forty eight years and

1271
00:59:39,160 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 1: was like, I believe I can do another two years, Daddy.

1272
00:59:41,840 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 2: The meal is shutting down.

1273
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody been in there working no more? They had

1274
00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:46,640
Speaker 1: laid off almost everybody except my daddy.

1275
00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god. So but yeah, yeah, he sounds amazing.

1276
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 2: He is. He is. He must be very proud of

1277
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:56,720
Speaker 2: you in this moment. He is, and I'm grateful that

1278
00:59:56,760 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 2: I made him proud.

1279
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:57,919
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1280
00:59:58,040 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1281
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 2: Has he seen the movie? He had not yet, and

1282
01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 2: I was trying to everything.

1283
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 3: I was.

1284
01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm here, of course, and then I got to go

1285
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:07,880
Speaker 1: to Alabama this weekend, so I wanted to go home

1286
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:09,640
Speaker 1: in North Carolina and watch it with him.

1287
01:00:09,680 --> 01:00:12,040
Speaker 2: But he's gonna watch it. They're gonna watch it this weekend.

1288
01:00:12,160 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 2: I'm so happy. Congratulations, my love. You work for it,

1289
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 2: and it's here, and it's gonna happen every year. You're

1290
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 2: gonna have it every year. Okay, Christmas? Okay, there it

1291
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:27,760
Speaker 2: is in real life. Thank you, I love you, Thank you.

1292
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 2: Hello there this tap of the Brown in real life.

1293
01:00:34,040 --> 01:00:35,120
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1294
01:00:35,200 --> 01:00:38,600
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1295
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:40,280
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