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Speaker 1: Lydia Lydia is always a person's like, oh, you gotta

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Speaker 1: You don't need to tell him that you're hooking up

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Speaker 1: here we go. Hello is this Kevin? Yeah, Kevin? How

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Speaker 1: the Morning. I'm moving ninety two point five. Okay, how

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Speaker 1: are you doing? I'm fine? Why are you calling me?

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Speaker 1: mighty to me. Actually, I mean I feel like Kevin.

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Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? Slow? But I mean I'm now

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Speaker 1: I don't think they like each other. No, all right,

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Speaker 1: just around and what are you doing? Exactly? Sure, I

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Speaker 1: I'm looking for something a little more serious than that. Kevin,

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