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Speaker 1: little song? Maybe? Maybe? What depends on how much you

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Speaker 1: Chicken fifty nine seventeen says, my older brother is getting

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Speaker 1: July twenty first is our grandma's eightieth birthday. She comes

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Speaker 1: one to react with kindness, considering he forgot all about

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Speaker 2: Age have a big old party.

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Speaker 3: At what age does she have to turn for you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, with the brick many didn't your Grandma. They had

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Speaker 3: Of course, but wrong sadly, there is a lot to

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Speaker 1: Hard to the story. That is, he loved it until

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Speaker 1: he did what is that supposed to mean? Meaning until

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Speaker 1: he spoke with his fiance. He called to say that

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Speaker 1: and special for meddling with her special day. Yes, her

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Speaker 3: Well, wow, chat is on grandma's side.

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Speaker 1: It's annoying because the grandma did send out those dates

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Speaker 3: Come on, yeah, I'm like, yet, it's not taken away

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Speaker 1: We know that the wedding was supposed to happen in July.

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Speaker 3: I believe the first update was May twelfth, and this

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Speaker 1: My go whoa, what a twist?

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Speaker 1: No, I think that I think that you should be

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Speaker 3: Good people do that because it's unless only one exception,

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Speaker 1: It on a round, then you can keep it in

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Speaker 3: Some people are saying seven thousand dollars for hours.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe this is a ice statue.

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Speaker 3: Come on, come on, come on. These are the consequences

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Speaker 1: You lose your wife, you.

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Speaker 3: Lose you lose him a ton of money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, Sam says, I feel no sympathy for the brother.

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Speaker 1: He was prepared to exploit his grandma and toss her

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Speaker 3: Serve dang Okay Sam. He was blinded by love, yeah,

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Speaker 3: what you're saying. He was just probably not himself. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I know what that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like love or away from that manipulative family.

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Speaker 1: True. Rara King says too many women are trying to

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Speaker 1: Opie's brother dodged a bullet. F Yeah, happy beat day, Geema. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so true, is so true? Yeah, I've always like I

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Speaker 3: I my dream wedding like would be I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I could see a Renaissance thing happening with you the

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Speaker 3: No way to make that up, no matter what excuses are.

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Speaker 3: Even now, he expresses no remorse whatsoever. That is why

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Speaker 3: Yeah he still doesn't. He's just he's got his headspace

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's got a lot going on. He just lost

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Speaker 3: All right, Katie, we're getting you on the phone.

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Speaker 1: Tell us about your twenty two thousand dollars wedding flowers.

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Speaker 1: Well maybe not yours, but someone else's Katie Kate, Kitty Kate.

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Speaker 3: I think they're here. Hello, Hello, Hello.

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Speaker 1: Hey, tell us about this twenty two thousand dollars flower wedding.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was my friend's little brother's wedding. He got

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Speaker 5: like it was insane. And yeah, somebody his dad actually

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Speaker 1: It sounds like a gorgeous wedding.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what was it? You like, what kind of food

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Speaker 4: Whoa, And the wedding was outside.

438
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Speaker 5: But the reception took place in door.

439
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Speaker 1: Yeah okay, wow, yeah.

440
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Speaker 5: So the the wedding was outside under the arch in

441
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Speaker 5: the sun pass Oh. It was like June, okay, July beautiful. Yeah,

442
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:14,000
Speaker 5: so it was a big wedding. I can drop some

443
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Speaker 5: pictures on these.

444
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Speaker 1: Please please, I was. I was gonna ask you, do

445
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Speaker 1: you have any pictures of this wedding? Because crazy, crazy

446
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 1: to spend that much money on flowers. But that does

447
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Speaker 1: sound gorgeous, dude.

448
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Speaker 5: They had somebody literally live paint their ceremony.

449
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Speaker 1: Oh I've seen those tiktoks.

450
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Speaker 5: Yeah.

451
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Speaker 3: I had a friend do that. It was so not

452
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Speaker 3: not for me, but for someone else. And it was

453
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Speaker 3: so cool.

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Speaker 5: That is so freaking impressive, like painting an entire painting

455
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Speaker 5: in like a couple hours.

456
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Speaker 1: Yeah, wild wow.

457
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Speaker 5: But yeah, it was really pretty. There was like the

458
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Speaker 5: big arch. They did the ceremony outside and then everyone

459
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Speaker 5: moved up the stairs and into the building. How many

460
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Speaker 5: people and oh, I don't know a lot it was.

461
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Speaker 5: It was a pretty big wedding, but not like a

462
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Speaker 5: stadium or anything. It was a really big, pretty gorgeous wedding.

463
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Speaker 5: And I can't even imagine how much, like everything else

464
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Speaker 5: cost hours alone plus twenty two thousand dollars. I have

465
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Speaker 5: no idea. It wasn't like a pay bar where you

466
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Speaker 5: have to like, you know, pay for your drink. All

467
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 5: the alcohol was free, All the catering was paid for.

468
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Speaker 5: And we got gift bags to take home at the

469
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Speaker 5: end as well that had like candles and chopsick and

470
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Speaker 5: little pencils and bubbles.

471
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Speaker 1: It was very fun. What a nice wedding.

472
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Speaker 3: Wow, let we go.

473
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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was really fun. I actually I was helping

474
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Speaker 5: them do the send off for the bride and groom,

475
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Speaker 5: my friend's little brother and his wife, and we had

476
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Speaker 5: all these bubble guns. There was like four or five

477
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Speaker 5: bubble guns that we were going to be, you know,

478
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Speaker 5: shooting bubbles as they walk out. And so I sat

479
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,080
Speaker 5: down my purse to set up all the bubbles, and

480
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 5: somebody packed up my purse into the bride's parents car

481
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 5: and it had all my stuff in it, including my

482
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 5: phone and my party's Oh I got stranded. I got stranded,

483
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 5: unable to drive my car home at the ceremony, and

484
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 5: my friend had to drop me off at home. So

485
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Speaker 5: he recently moved like five minutes away from me. So

486
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 5: luckily it wasn't like a big imposition, but it was

487
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Speaker 5: kind of embarrassing the bride parents.

488
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Speaker 3: So Katie, Kate, thank you so much.

489
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Speaker 5: And it's Keat, it's a real last name.

490
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Speaker 1: Thank you.

491
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 5: This was the friend that I mentioned before whose little

492
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 5: brother said that my name sounds like a bird callet.

493
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Speaker 1: Oh that's cute. Thank you so much for thank you

494
00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 1: your name. Yeah, I'm telling us how to pronounce your

495
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 1: name because I definitely haven't mispronouncing it this whole time.

496
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Speaker 3: So we'll see you the chat.

497
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Speaker 5: You were the one I was pronouncing it. Well, I

498
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 5: think I think other people started saying Kate and you

499
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Speaker 5: like adopted. Dam No.

500
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Speaker 1: I was fooled.

501
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 5: Yeah, because the first time you pronounced it, I was like,

502
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 5: holy crap, you got that right on the first try.

503
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 1: Ah, damn. I should have gone with my.

504
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 5: Gut riley riley through you all.

505
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a southern.

506
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Speaker 2: All right.

507
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 3: Well, we're seeing in the chat by.

508
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Speaker 1: That sounds like such a nice wedding.

509
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I just can only imagine. I can only

510
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: imagine how much it actually costs.

511
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just the flowers. Twenty two thousand. I had

512
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Speaker 1: a friend actually just go to a wedding in Utah also,

513
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Speaker 1: and I think she said it was pretty nice. Throw

514
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Speaker 1: nice weddings in.

515
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Speaker 3: Utah, Utah. I want a nice wedding, go to Utah.

516
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Speaker 1: But that is the end of this episode, and thank

517
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Speaker 1: you for stopping by. If you love us, make sure

518
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 1: to subscribe.

519
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Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow.

520
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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

521
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Speaker 4: Time for okop RelA.

522
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Speaker 2: I held my brother in law cheat on his wife,

523
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 2: but then I did something worse. Why this is Game

524
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: of Thrones level betrayal. Dude, It's like siblings stabbing siblings

525
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 2: in the back or doing other things or yell or

526
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 2: using something else to stab. I mean, oh, you know,

527
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 2: all right. My sister, Gwen thirty eight female, has been

528
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 2: married to Jacob thirty nine male for ten years. I've

529
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 2: had a best friend Ellie twenty one female since middle school.

530
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 2: She's always been around, but in twenty twenty I started

531
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 2: inviting her more because her mom died of COVID, so

532
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 2: she didn't have any family around. Sad damn, it's rough.

533
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:34,440
Speaker 4: It sucks.

534
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 2: So I invited her to holiday parties, family get togethers,

535
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 2: et cetera. I wanted her to feel part of the family.

536
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 2: But then last night we found out from text my

537
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 2: sister found on Jacob's phone that he's been sleeping with

538
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 2: Ellie and she might be pregnant. No, pregnant, pregnant? Oh

539
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 2: my god, what is pro people? Dude, I feel like

540
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: that is terrible on like two fronts. Yeah, one, the

541
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 2: cheating terrible obviously obviously, But to wrap that ship, bro, Like,

542
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 2: are you kidding me? You're gonna cheat on your wife

543
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 2: and dog, has some freaking decency before you cheat and

544
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 2: either get a vasectomy momentarily or you know, you know,

545
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 2: use use Trojan brand condoms.

546
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 4: It's it's the the Sopranos thing.

547
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: It's like you kiss your your mother with that mouth

548
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 2: or yeah, thing like that to your side piece to

549
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 2: get a little dome. Yeah. Hey, I'm not saying don't

550
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,920
Speaker 2: go to your side piece. Obviously you are a depraved

551
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 2: individual that needs, uh that kind of thing. But at

552
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:43,919
Speaker 2: least at least I only have the common decency and

553
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: just like peace of mind, to just wrap that Willie

554
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 2: God piece of trash, honestly garbage rolling around in the wind,

555
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 2: grabbing sdds and depositing babies wherever you see shit. My

556
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 2: sister is devastated, obviously yep, and took their kids to

557
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: come live with our parents. I feel so guilty. I'm

558
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 2: the one that brought her around and invited her to stuff.

559
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: I feel like it's all my fault. My sister's life

560
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,479
Speaker 2: is ruined, the kids are really upset, and I have

561
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 2: no idea what to do.

562
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Speaker 4: I mean, I think we should put all the blame

563
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Speaker 4: on Opie.

564
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Speaker 2: I think it is if you you literally set you

565
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: set it all up. You set your brother in law

566
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Speaker 2: with your super hot, frisky, dead dad friend. You know,

567
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 2: now she has daddy. That was bad. Maybe that's too deep,

568
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 2: too deep, too deep, too me. I'm sorry that it does.

569
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Speaker 2: It does suck that maybe maybe she's you know, maybe

570
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 2: like the friend is kind of acting out. You know,

571
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Speaker 2: you lose your dad at twenty one. Literally, And I'm

572
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 2: not saying like to excuse her behavior, yeah, by any means,

573
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Speaker 2: but just to empathize a little, like.

574
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Speaker 4: You're in a low emotional place.

575
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Speaker 2: Emotional place, and try to get validation from another father figure.

576
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 2: So tripple screw that guy for like, I mean, he's

577
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 2: basically like taking advantage of this like emotional low point.

578
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Speaker 4: Almost certainly, almost almost certainly.

579
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, God, it's thirty eight. Bro. Man's old as fuck. Geez,

580
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 2: man's old as fuck. And here's this girl dad recently

581
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 2: died looking for a father figure, probably because of that

582
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 2: dating older and then decides, Oh, these older other I'm

583
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 2: assuming a lot these other older guys on dating apps

584
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 2: aren't doing it for me. I want someone who's married.

585
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 2: I want someone who is closer to family. There's there's

586
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 2: there's some shit brewing beneath the surface.

587
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Speaker 4: Not good.

588
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 2: But John, what it? I thought that wasn't bad enough.

589
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god, there's an update.

590
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 4: It cannot get worse, bro, But show me, but show

591
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 4: me what do you got? What do you have?

592
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: My sister is still really upset. Get over it. Come on,

593
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: it's been a whole posting cycle since since Jacob cheata.

594
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:02,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Also, she's not doing well at all.

595
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 2: The kids all have a really good relationship with Jacob,

596
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 2: so that didn't make it easier. Seems like he's good

597
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 2: with young people. We were asking about constantly and crying

598
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 2: for him. She went back home two days ago. She's

599
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 2: living in the main part of the house and he's

600
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 2: living in the garage apartment. Okay, so they're kind of

601
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 2: like living separately a little bit.

602
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 5: Damn.

603
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 2: My sister asked me to talk to Ellie, which holy shit,

604
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 2: terrible friends, terrible friend.

605
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 5: Bro.

606
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 2: If I found out one of my girlfriends fucked my dad,

607
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 2: I would be mad. God, you'd be a little peeve. Yeah,

608
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,719
Speaker 2: I'd be at I'd be a little peeved. And that

609
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 2: goes to all the okop fam, I consider you my

610
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: extended friend group. Oh God, please stop fucking my dad.

611
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 2: Our live show, our first live show, is just women

612
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 2: lining to just get at mister my dad. I've heard

613
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 2: the talk around town is my dad is a good

614
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 2: looking dude.

615
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 4: Broh he looks great.

616
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he's fifty seven, still freaking got abs.

617
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 4: Bro gravy. Yeah, he's signed me up.

618
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 2: Everyone's trying to please God. No, So my sister asked

619
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 2: me to talk to Ellie to find out as much

620
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 2: of her side as we can. She's pregnant and apparently

621
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 2: her and Jacob have been dating a while. Yikes. He

622
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 2: told her. My sister had a drinking problem and it

623
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 2: was emotionally abusive to him the kids. I told her

624
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 2: that was a lie, and if she really thought that

625
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 2: was true, why wouldn't she talk to me about it?

626
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 2: Good point, She said, she thought I'd lie for my sister.

627
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 2: I know you all think I'm crazy because I'm so emotional.

628
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 2: I'm not usually, but I'm so sad for my sister.

629
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 2: But I also feel guilty because I basically set them up.

630
00:29:57,840 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 2: I sat down and sobbed the other day because like,

631
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 2: she was my best friend for so many years, and

632
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: she must have just completely lied and misled me and

633
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 2: made up stories to keep her dating him a secret.

634
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: She wasn't really my friend at all, and I had

635
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 2: no idea. And I know this about my sister and

636
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: her kids, and I know that they are good people.

637
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 2: Everything just really sucks now. The only one who doesn't

638
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 2: seem affected by any of this is Jacob. Jacob, who's

639
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 2: just playing with his kids, is normal. My sister said,

640
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 2: he almost seems cheerful about all of this. Jacob, You die, bro?

641
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 4: What is you know what? Sam? I'm not team Jacob.

642
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 2: I'm not team Jacob fricking Edward all the way. Yes, dude,

643
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 2: Jacob is a sociopath. He's a trifle and piece of trash. Yeah, dude,

644
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess I get hey won redeeming quality

645
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: and I'm serious about this one one redeeming quality at

646
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 2: least it seems like he's a good father to his kid.

647
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 2: But he's playing with his kids. He's not letting his

648
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 2: personal life getting away of his with his children. God,

649
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: that's a professional broh.

650
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 4: He is. He is a professional god.

651
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: But wow, so many people suck in this story, specifically

652
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 2: Eli and Jacob, specifically Ellie and Jacob. But you know

653
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 2: what isn't trash, John, What is not trash them our

654
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 2: suburn in our sasho Kop Show.

655
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 4: It's the opposite of trash.

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Speaker 2: It's the opposite of trash. It's gold. And if you

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Speaker 2: want to submit some story gold so we can read

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Speaker 2: it and react to it, please go to our sasial

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Speaker 2: Kop show and read it, and then we'll pick the

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Speaker 2: best stories and read those shit out of those things.

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Speaker 2: But you know what else, if you like this story,

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Speaker 2: you're probably like this other one where oh P's children

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Speaker 2: seven of them don't look like him. Suspicious, suspicious,